Carrie and Big are both selfish, quite shallow people who thrive on the (sexual) chemistry they undenieably share rather than a deep trusting, loving connection. They are pretty good for each other tbh.
Couldn't agree more, I know a lot of people wanted her to be with Aiden but honestly, Aiden did not deserve her level of bullshit. Carrie and Big were made for each other.
Carrie and Big are exactly the same. Men never buy a correct gift for their women. He took her to a party with mature, intelligent people and she behaved like a 30-something brat and went to the club instead. Big tells Carrie church was a thing for he and his mom. She invades that privacy to make it about her. And frankly her friends are enablers of that behavior.
@@ChildrensRightsFirst947 I felt so sorry for Carrie during the original run of the series 20 years ago. But being older and wiser now, I see they were both sides of the same coin.
That made them like a lot of other TV couples. Ross and Rachel from Friends were each other's bad karma and so were Raymond and Debra from Everybody Loves Raymond.
What made me cry wasn't Big leaving Carrie at the oltar, but when Charlotte shouted "NO" to him. She was always his fan, you could see the disappointment in her eyes.
yes, when you hear her say this line after this video has lined up all the painful things he has put her through, it sounds so insane. And then I have to look at myself... oh no!
TheGoddess AmongYou so you leave her at the altar? He didn’t voice his dismay about a big wedding until at least a week or so before. Big always looked for the smallest reason to run from her when she’s ready to fully commit.
I think they deserved each other. They also had such great chemistry. People say they wish Carrie ended up with Aiden, but she was always horrible to him. They were both completely different and he was too good for her. In the second movie, where they kiss, I thought that was ridiculous. Aiden isn't the type of guy to cheat with another guy's wife/partner, even if that same guy did it to him. Just my thoughts.
Aiden was such a sweet guy. He needed a sweet non-drama girl. They weren't a good fit. Mr Big and Carrie are perfect to me. They both have huge flaws, but they match.
I didn’t think they were equally yoked, Carrie liked to be out on the town and he liked to eat kfc and watch TV. They had a sweetness between them but she was often bored with him. Big was the glitz and glamour that she craved, he was just the bad boy type that most women love.
Caramel Spice yup look at on love and hip hop New York when the guy Peter married his side chick after knowing her for a year but not marry his baby mama who been with him for twelve years and had three kids with him.
Mr.Big is the toxic man who makes you forget yourself and become more invested in him. Ofcourse, Carrie had major flaws of going back to an emotionally abusive relationship that wasn't right for her, but she never learned, and fed Big's ego when he needed it. Big took it gladly, and knew how to twist Carrie's vulnerable states and emotions. This is what I call falling in love with the wrong person entirely. It's toxic not only for you in emotion, but at times destructive and violent. Definitely watch out for these signals, just because a man is broken and cold does not mean YOU have to fix him or put up with his irrational behaviour. There's a difference between sympathizing and caring for someone who genuinely needs it and someone who takes it for granted. Never destroy yourself for a person EVER. As for the show, the lessons learnt were pretty accurate in reality. I've seen people who have been in these relationships and who are still in this loop.
I disagree. Big does a lot wrong but I don’t think he ever tries to manipulate her into anything. He is not deliberately trying to do these things that upset her, they are just different in many ways and he is not good at opening up. And like with leaving the wedding, he was more intimidated by the big thing the wedding had become. Carrie didn’t include him at all in the planning and ignored how uncomfortable he was. He changed his mind too and returned. It is was still bad but the point is that he didn’t try to manipulate and hurt her but they were on a different page and in the moment he felt he just could not sincerely go through it.
While you do open up this perspective, I still feel that Big made more mistakes. Especially with Carrie she tries so hard, at times too hard which causes Big to back out sometimes. But, nobody else does that for him and it feels like Carrie is being taken granted for. About the wedding, I agree. Carrie let it get bigger than themselves, not taking in Big's side of the plate. In addition, it always seems that they have major communication gap and are barely on the same pages. Well, Big may not have tried to manipulate her but his actions came off as pure manipulation to me. Then again it's all about perspective, to each their own.
Sara Samaletdin He IS manipulating Carrie all the time. His major attitude is "Do as it suits me or you are out". This is one the most horrible things to say to a person who is in love. Of course it was up to Carrie to figure out that he had no real feelings for her. And she never had. But the point is that he is not trying to meet her half way, he does not care about her needs. It is a huge manipulation scheme of serving him. No he does not force her to be with him in words. But he manipulates her with giving and taking away some affection which hooks another person in emotionally and is a real cold-blooded abuse.
While Mr. Big is definitely the worst, I found myself actually dating the poor man's Mr. Big. I can tell you, he is even more frustrating because at least the real Mr. Big could afford dinner.
The thing I hated most about Carrie/Big was that the relationship was never really portrayed as toxic. It was a picture book perfect toxic relationship. He knew how to play her and she ranback and back. But still it all ends with a happy ending. They wasted the chance to really show a toxic relationship for what it is
Candace Bushnell was not for Carrie and Bug ending up together. They didn't in the book, and they didn't in real life (she did not end up with the guy Big was based on) She further didn't like the way Carrie got rich by marrying Big
Man, I’m 39 (M) and married and it’s my first time watching this show in 2024 because my wife has it on before bed. By season 1 you can already tell Big is a walking red flag. Dude has commitment issues. 50yr old man acting like a 27 yr old who can’t quit dating.
I have always felt that Mr. Big was very upfront and honest about his limitations and what he wanted and what he didn't want. I blame Carrie for not being able to read his signs and listen to his real words.
That's exactly what I was thinking. People keep bashing big, but in reality he never made false commitments or promises to gain something for her. He was always clear about the things that he wants. Carrie on the other side got insecure and needy when he didn't follow the script she had in her mind.
I loved Big and Carrie together, no matter how crazy Carrie got Big was always very mindful and gentle with her. She loved him and no other man would do. Aiden tried to control her too much, she couldn't be herself with him, if she wanted to smoke, she should have been able to do so without Aiden preaching. Carried lived her truth and after it all she got her prince. Love Big and Carrie
Mr. Big was a walking bag of garbage- true- but out of all the things you included, the duck purse really shouldn't have been one of them. Carrie had a pretty "out there" sense of style so I can honestly see why Big thought that Carrie might like a duck purse.
Aiden and Natasha were both too good for Carrie and Big. Big and Carrie deserved each other because they were both shallow and self-absorbed, their toxic dependency towards each other was well matched. He never changed and she never learned...a perfect mess!
Gosh! That Samantha's line "What exactly do you think you're doing?" proves once again that she is the best of the best. She cares of her friends. Also she sent Miranda away to facials or something instead of herself, staying with her baby , she never ditсhes her friends for the guys and so on....
IL B she gave Miranda her hair appointment. Samantha had been a bit tone deaf about how much Miranda was struggling, but she definitely came through that time.
I love Samantha, but she was always prioritizing sex and men over her friends. Also, she was not supportive at all of their life changing events, like marriage and having children.
"It wasn't logic, it was love" left me with no friends, humiliated, devastated, and moving back in with my parents at 30 years old. But, it's a fine thing to teach women.
Don’t ever believe that love is about struggling and always being there for the other person because eventually they’ll change. This is what happens when you believe that you should put everything into the other person. I hope that you’re doing better and I’m glad you didn’t stay and waste the rest of your life.
I hated Big with Carrie, but I loved the way the actor played him. I almost feel like I would've liked Big better if he and Carrie were just friends because he was so entertaining to watch. But, I hated the way Big and Carrie's relationship went a lot of the time. I kind of wish she had ended up alone and happy with herself because part of her character was the "eternal single girl" thing and I really didn't love any of her boyfriends. However, I think in the end him and Carrie were always going to end up together because she was comfortable in that relationship. Anyways, the romantic in me wants to believe that the marriage worked out, and he managed to get over his bad boyfriend tendencies despite six seasons and two movies showing us otherwise.
I had a Mr Big in my life. I was younger. I wasn't strong enough. Too scared to lose him, too insecure at times and I dealt with certain behaviors. After years and years with him, once he realized other hot guys wanted me he changed and ultimately our last year or so together he just kept pressing marriage on me. Of course it's a long story. And at that point of course that was everything I always wanted with him but I was too hurt for so long over the years at the way I was treated and also mad at myself for allowing myself to be treated that way. We had a huge fight and 3 months later he proposed to someone else. Needless to say a slap in the face after 8 years together. Much therapy needed. Although this was over 10 years ago, it can still sting sometimes just with everything that all happened. But I've learned so much during that time in my life and of course after. As our mutual friends say...I DODGED A BULLET!!!
The only real parting gift from any bad relationship is the lessons you learn. (Especially if all the gifts he gave you smashed with a hammer and left at his doorstep.. But I digress..) You learn the behavior you will absolutely Not tolerate from anyone who claims to Love you.. ..and God willing, you learn to spot the warning signs early enough to lessen the hurt and not waste your time. But one thing I wish women would learn is that there is no such thing as "investing in a relationship". No Matter how long you've been together, if you are miserable..the only thing you're investing in... is your own misery.
U shoulded awarn the bride who was going to marry him. I mean marry after just only 3months is a mistake but also with a man who was 8years with another such a huge one. U didnt have shut up. I mean sorority? I always hated and didnt get in fact that kind of selfish beetwen women.
LARA R I get what you're saying, but when this was all going down, this chic was a piece of work. They both were being unreasonable and ridiculous. It was like 'well maybe since you're both being so blind maybe you deserve each other'... She would try to call my dad to speak to him. Accused me of stuff that never happened. They were living in LaLa Land. And apparently I was the bad guy.
Think most women have that one mr. Big type. Luckily for me I woke up and when he tried to come back while I engaged to my version of Aidan. I ignored him like he was dead.
Carrie was really annoying and bad written as a character. I know she's the main one but the reason I watched and still watch re-runs are the other three girls. They made the show for me.
How interesting. The perspective changes so well. Ten years ago women luuurved Carry/Big affair. These days people start to wake up to the fact that toxic relationship is not love. Big does not care about Carry. And she is a real co-dependant on emotions thay Big provides her with. They are both very shallow. Only very shallow people carry on living like this for decades. This is not love at all.
Naomi Malone I am a grown up woman. ☺ What I mean is that almost everything that started right was politically perverted afterwards. These days feminism is seen as some disgusting show with naked body parts.
Angela Aidan and Carrie are two completely different people. He likes to live outside the city, to stay in and have a meal at home. He likes nature and a good family life. But Carrie can't stand all of this. She needs rather shallow things like new shoes, drinks, sexing around, partying, etc. And she needs it all the time. Aidan and Carrie as a couple would have had a really bad life.
I been there as well. I never dated the guy and he clearly expressed I was a physical object to him when he needed a boost to his ego. I was sick of his shit. With every new relationship I started i found it weird when he popped up. It was a pattern but once I got back with my highschool sweetheart he kept bothering me, calling, texting, dropping in unannounced. It felt good to kick him to the curb, I let him know he was a waste of time and he wasn't all as great as he thought of himself and that he was never going to experience true happiness and love
Carrie is a woman who doesn't value herself as a person and returns back over and over again with a jerk who doesn't deserve her love. To be honest. Unfortunately in real life there are women like Carrie who thinks that her life is not complete with a man by their side even though they behave like total assholes and jerks during their whole relationship if Mr Big really loves Carrie he would respect her and care for her but no he always mess up again and again and still Carrie got back together with him how sad is that when there are plenty of men who would make her happy and treat her better than Mr Big.
Mr. Big was always the most selfish emotionally abusive man to Carrie. Carrie was always his punching bag and emotional support ONLY when he was feeling weak and vulnerable. Carrie had healthy true love with Aiden but she was too addicted to the pain and back and forth BS Big dealt her and couldn't appreciate the relationship she had with Aiden. AND ONLY when Big found himself OLD and ALONE did he finally decide to get real with Carrie- but his true nature reared its ugly head when he humiliated her in the most disgusting act of all- leaving her at the altar on her wedding day. She went out on a limb to trust him again and believe he had changed his commitment-phobia towards her. He had no trouble committing to his THREE OTHER BRIDES. Carrie couldn't see past the fantasy she had of Mr. Big, always failing to believe him when he showed who he truly was. They should NOT have ended up together- their sick relationship sets a BAD example for women everywhere. Do not accept this kind of treatment ladies. It may be painful to let go- but let go you MUST!!!
It seemed that Big didn't want Carrie but he didn't want anyone else having her or her being happy with someone else. He wanted her stay available just for him to fall back on when he needed to.
What kind of stupid person gets back together with someone who cheats, and blows you off so many times? And what stupid person says "forget you know my name! I don't live here anymore!"and then takes him back the very next time she sees him? She is obviously more than willing to take abuse
Rio Brasil Samba Shows sambistabeauty someone with low sense of self worth unfortunately. It's not really about stupidity but a complete lack of identity and self esteem.
the producers wanted the actor every season, I don´t know why. They had to make excuses for his coming back, and that put Carrie in a codependant character. He should have dissapeared after season one. But there are contracts, you know.
Mr. Big is a perfect representation of an attractive, successful, and commitment-phobic guy in his late 30s. He didn't give false hopes or commitments and he was pretty sure about what he wanted. Was manipulative at times but Carrie was equally at fault for compromising on self-respect, not being able to face the reality and constantly trying to make it work with him.
I never hated - hated Big. yeah, he does piss you off at times, but he was always practically clear about everything he wanted, which may I say, he never really expected anything from Carrie. it was just about the timing, Carrie was so desperate to find "love" and "the guy" for her, that everything big did was insufficient and that led to their fights. And although i absolutely adore the other girls, its hard for me to believe that they never saw this.
He didnt even want to introduce her to his mother. She and Miranda sneaked to the church so she could see her. And then when he introduced them he didnt say this is the woman that I have been dating. Could never understand why she was so enamored with him. Maybe because he was so emotionally unavailable it was a challenge to her.
The purse thing is so stupid. what if he has no idea what women like to wear and he sees all those ugly purses in his circle and thinks "oh ok i'll buy her that one, i guess it's trendy" but i still liked him more than Aidan, they were all touchy and always kissing and holding hands like teenagers ew
While Aidan treated Carrie better than Big did, he wasn't right for her. He and Carrie had different priorities, so a breakup was warranted. Big certainly did a lot of shady and thoughtless things, but some on this list, like expecting Big to be monogamous when he and Carrie never actually discussed monogamy, are unfair to Big and paint Carrie like she's almost always the victim. I love SATC, but I think this list could use some rethinking.
Kirahvi karahvi I think you can expect that if you explicitly decide to start an exclusive relationship, but in that episode Carrie acknowledges that they’ve only gone out a few times. Two or three dates is not a relationship. I’m very Team Big on this issue, lol!
I think they do match. Both of them thrive on drama, and Carrie even discusses this in a few episodes throughout the series. They also both desire a glamorized, high-profile, big-city lifestyle, whereas Aidan is more low key. Big definitely exhibits annoying, careless behavior, but Carrie also does throughout the series, like when she ditches Charlotte at the opera and refuses to go on vacation with Big at the last minute because he can't say right that second that she's "the one." I like Carrie for a lot of things, but her behavior can be just as neurotic as Big's.
If the series had ended with Carrie telling Big to go to hell just she left for Paris, it would have been so much better. People here are saying they deserved each other, but it makes for a toxic relationship, and I didn't feel sorry for Carrie when she was dumped at the altar. Aiden was a much better boyfriend.
itsjemmabond I actually read the writers intended it for her to end up alone and say that the girls were her soulmates, but apparently HBO didn’t like insisted on a happier ended. I honestly would have prefer her to end up alone, I thought it would have been truly revolutionary at the time. To have a woman who appears to have it all to decide that her worth isn’t tied to any man, ang that embracing being alone is also a solid option. I think it would’ve honestly made a lot more sense as well.
That first one... Really. I didn't expect my husband to know my style when we had been together for less than two years. Gosh, it's just a bag. They had an on/off-relationship, not close friendship.
The duck purse wasn’t that bad. I always saw it as him seeing wives of his coworkers/friends etc. carrying them and assuming it was a fashionable trend.
...which it was. It was a Swarovski embellished Judith Leiber Purse, which is still expensive today, if you like the style. Back then they were all the rage and really popular. I wonder why Carrie, with her extravagant and mixed wardrobe, didn't like the purse. It would have worked well with some of her outfits!
«Even if you're team Big...», is there any Big fan? He's the absolute worst and never learns anything, nor becomes a better person throughout the series
Christopher Brown That was a political context to make Russians look bad. ) There was no slap. Alexandr was definately wrong for her. But he never slapped her.
This worst thing about this is how many time i have heard women refer to their toxic relationship and say that he's her "Big" . This isn't a good relationship in any way .
He only wanted Carrie when she was involved with someone else ~ as if the game was to see if he could get her back & how long it would take for him to do it 😂
Listen this why in the second movie I couldn’t stand Carrie. After allllllll that she went thro with this fool she was mad he wanted to sit on the couch and be with her!! Girl, if you don’t sit down somewhere . But anyways he was a Jackass. And when you lay it out like this WOW, can’t believe she married him. SMDH
Big was a terrible person. While I love the actor I never understood his character's appeal on the show. I'd like to point out the Judith Leiber duck purse was probably thousands of dollars and Carrie had a JL cupcake purse in the first movie when she was about to get married. So I disagree with that one (and that episodes's storyline)... but it was probably just the writers not paying attention lol
I had a Mr. Big in college. He was emotionally stunted and withdrawn and would have emotional breakdowns to play on my caring empathetic nature, but the minute I needed any kind of affirmation, "wtf, why would you think I love you and want to be in a relationship with you, what made you think that" but then the next day he'd have another crisis and I'd be right back at his side. Even when I was breaking up with him because he had told two exes that he still loved them while in my house drinking my liquor, he still managed to get the last word and say "well I don't take breaks so I guess you're ending things, so bye" the conversation lasted literally 30 seconds and he immediately went and knocked up another girl. After once last meeting to exchange stuff two months later, I vowed to never speak to him again and I kept true to my word. BULLET DODGED, but that's something that takes a while to get over lol
I think the relationship of Carrie and Big was just toxic and honestly women who love and respect themselves don't stick around with the Mr. Bigs in the world they love themselves enough and let go of that knowing it's no loss to them
The “cry” she did after she found out he was getting heart surgery was the most fake thing I’ve ever seen! I didn’t know if she was supposed to be serious or not! I laughed so hard!
I had a quasi-relationship of a push-pull variety. If he was at all emotionally unavailable or in a relationship, he was interested in me and came in all hot and heavy. When he was sorta vulnerable in being free to date/be involved with me, he'd be afraid and push me away. I cried so much over him (college years). The inconsistency and what I now see as fear tore me up. I tried so hard to make a relationship (a real one) work but over time I saw that he made it impossible. It wasn't my fault. He didn't "get away" because I made mistakes. Regardless of what I did, right or wrong, it'd never work out owing to his fear. I lamented for a long time, too, that I "didn't know what to do" to "fix" it, but then I finally realized I couldn't change that part of him and it meant a relationship would never work, even if he ever gave me or it a chance.
I honestly never minded Mr. Big. It was pretty clear that Carrie was way too clingy for him. He was this independent, businessman. He needed a woman that was independent too (Natasha). Carrie kept pushing him further away but needing him constantly. I feel like he made what he wanted pretty clear to Carrie.
That picture in the drawer super cute because it’s not a nude , her dressed up to look sexy, nor is it of them being intimidate. It’s just them smiling and he perseveres that memory by keeping the photo in a drawer that he uses everyday, he must see her everyday every morning at the start of his day. Awesome
neither characters were perfect , I think the show centered so much around this couple because it showed us how blind we can be to love. I've had moments were I've scoffed at myself for being so blind in a relationship but I have been in carrie moments
im heartbroken right now cause my fiancee with who i spend 2 years of my life is cheating on me and we broke up , thanks for upload this video no matter how much im on pain , carrie suffer more.
I love them too! Impossible to find such an old school charming men anymore. I don’t care about good guys like Aiden was if a man can’t make my heart pins 1000 miles per hour I don’t care at all.
I really really love sex and the city but one thing I always hated about it was that they made it seem okay for a man to treat a woman like this. Carry barely stood up for herself being so blinded by Mr. Big.
I remember my mom telling me that Big leaving Carrie at the Altar was Miranda's fault because she scared him, and I said: "It's true that Miranda planted a seed of doubt, but if he loved Carrie enough or believed in himself enough he would have done it despite that, and actually change for the better for himself. But no, he got cold feet and then tried to excuse himself like it was nothing, Big is the worst." I don't think what Miranda did was ok, but the decision to leave Carrie at the altar was Big's, that only proved to me , YET ONCE AGAIN, that he can't handle a relationship, let alone another marriage. That day I found out my mom was more likely to be part of Team Big...
For their affair, Big gets additional points knocked down because, yes he was married, and he started! In the beginning Carrie did try to shoo him away. But he kept on calling her, showing up at her house, and stalked her to the hotel where she was working, followed her into the elevator, then force kissed her. Yes she finally accepted and reciprocated, which was bad… I guess she should’ve kneed him in the groin.
I know this is dumb because he is a fictional character, but I will always hate Mr. Big! The fact that Carrie ends up with him breaks my heart. And yes, Carrie was also such an annoying person, and she became even worst when she was around him, but that is because his lack of attention, support, and care made her in turn even more needy and naggy. I feel like we've all been there one way or another, even the most independent person can become needy around someone they love but is not loving them back.
I LOVED this show when I watched it back in the day. Now it makes me cringe it’s so unhealthy. Big showed Carrie exactly who he was and she ignored it/tried to change him. Aiden did everything right and she treated him like garbage. She likes men who treat her badly. That’s her thing. Miranda was a basket case too - pretending like she doesn’t want a man then being upset when other people find happiness in a relationship. Samantha lived her life. Even Charlotte lived her life - she had goals and standards - disagree with them if you will but she had them. I get it it’s a tv show the characters are flawed but I didn’t feel like that’s what the show was TRYING to show. The episode where Carrie goes to therapy could have been a huge turn in her character development but of course it was a one off and a chance to have Bon Jovi cameo 🥰. 18 year old me was obsessed with this show but 30 something (don’t worry about it) me just shakes my head. 😣
I love Carrie and Big together. I honestly think they’re soulmates especially since they both suck 😂 But I always felt like they had this amazing connection which explains why they never could stay away from each other. I know people wanted her to end up with Aiden but that wasn’t her. Aiden is a sweet country boy Carrie is a modern city girl it never would’ve worked in the long run
I loved Carrie but how can a woman that is such an independent feminist let a guy walk over her so many times? I still don’t get how they ended up together, it was so unrealistic. Never liked them together, I always thought Aidan was the right one for her
regardless of the situation, they ended up together at the end. All you guys who are commenting on their toxic relationship obviously have no idea as to how hard it is to find people you have a connection with. Aiden deserved someone who was just like him, as Carrie deserves big. Even though he was emotionally unavailable and had many bad and toxic traits they worked them out and it even turned out well. Both had personal issues which they solved together, that's what a relationship is all about. Instead of hating on the relationship and characters, understand their relevance in the show and how they actually make it much more exciting and entertaining to watch. Thanks for coming to my ted talk.
Yes. They should show a progressive, real, loving relationship. They work on themselves and each other, they evolve and put each other and Brady first. I love them so much!
Numbers 9 and 1 I disagree. 9.) He just had surgery on his heart and shortly after he realized that Carrie was the one and asked Charlotte, Samantha, and Miranda for their blessing to rescue Carrie from the insensitive Alexander in Paris. 1.) Was a three way blame: Big's cold feet after being married twice before, Carrie never being married and experiencing all of the things that go with planning a wedding, and Miranda's snide comment about marriage to Big. The rest I agree he did some awful things.
They are perfect for eachother. Both perfectly flawed. It isn't until they both admit to themselves that they are both incredibly self-centred, narcissistic and needy that they realise that what they have is also worthwhile-no matter how unconventional and dysfunctional they are to other people.
There were so many times where I thought that Big had every right to be a "dick". Carrie spends so much time complaining about how Big doesn't know who she is and how he always tries to change her. Yet...she spends the whole series trying to push him into something he doesn't want and to change him to be more how she likes him.
Tbh I don't think theres a problem with Big not wanting commitment with Carrie. He was pretty consistent about wanting to be together but not wanting to move in or being married... she kept pushing it when he was drawing line and enforcing it.
Actually, it's a tie between them and Ross & Rachel."I got off the plane,,,so I could spend the rest of my life with a jealous, overbearing, narcissistic nerd."
When I was younger, I liked Carrie the most, and always liked to believe that I am like her. But as I got older, I realised she was the worst character.
To me he bought her the duck purse because he's been to these parties before. For some reason every women carries these bejeweled purses. So he bought one for Carrie like "Here, you're going to need one of these." It wasn't that deep.
Oh, give me a break. Some men are clueless about fashion. It doesn't mean he's inconsiderate if he buys you something outside your style. He may have noticed all these women with this type of purse and figured "Oh, this might be the in style-I bet Carrie would like that". Anyway, Big is a dipstick but not for this reason.
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Carrie and Big are both selfish, quite shallow people who thrive on the (sexual) chemistry they undenieably share rather than a deep trusting, loving connection. They are pretty good for each other tbh.
No, Carrie was willing to FULLY commit for him. He was not willing to do the same for her.
How was Carrie seflish when it came to big? She was with Aiden when she cheated with him, but even she told Miranda she's different with him.
Couldn't agree more, I know a lot of people wanted her to be with Aiden but honestly, Aiden did not deserve her level of bullshit. Carrie and Big were made for each other.
So true. I love the show but damn Carrie is shallow as hell.
Carrie and Big are exactly the same. Men never buy a correct gift for their women. He took her to a party with mature, intelligent people and she behaved like a 30-something brat and went to the club instead. Big tells Carrie church was a thing for he and his mom. She invades that privacy to make it about her. And frankly her friends are enablers of that behavior.
“It wasn’t logic, it was love”
No honey, that is toxic co-dependence.
7R Raya Elsa amen👏🏾👏🏾
And trauma bonding.
FACTS!!!!
What Zama said.
If that is love. I don´t wanna be in love. "I could love a man, but I love me more". att: Samantha Jones, the boss
To be fair, Carrie agreeing for him to come to Aidan’s country house was just as bad
actually it was way worse, because Big does not care about Aiden, but Carrie is supposed to care!
Right?! :)
Aiden was such a good guy, I hated how Carrie treated him
worse actually
YES!
Carrie was just as bad. She broke Aidan’s heart twice. Big and Carrie are two commitment-phobes who deserved one another.
Yes, that's true. I need to stop feeling sorry for her.
@@ChildrensRightsFirst947 I felt so sorry for Carrie during the original run of the series 20 years ago. But being older and wiser now, I see they were both sides of the same coin.
@@pam0626 honestly same it’s insane. Watching it as a young adult and teenager is way different then watching it when your their age now.
@@ChildrensRightsFirst947yeah, you should. She is a ritch widow now, who got both Big and Aidan and ended up with Big's money😂😂😂
That made them like a lot of other TV couples. Ross and Rachel from Friends were each other's bad karma and so were Raymond and Debra from Everybody Loves Raymond.
What made me cry wasn't Big leaving Carrie at the oltar, but when Charlotte shouted "NO" to him. She was always his fan, you could see the disappointment in her eyes.
Yes! That was a memorable moment.
@@mishthemaverick8607 Charlotte is out here acting like this is real life. She was acting like how a person really behaves in that situation.
Big drove Charlotte to deliver Rose.
I felt that NO in my heart!!!!
They are all pathetic.
'It wasn't logic- it was love' - me: it sure as hell wasn't a sense of self-respect
Lol
OcarinaSapph1r3 -24 😂😂😂😂
yes, when you hear her say this line after this video has lined up all the painful things he has put her through, it sounds so insane. And then I have to look at myself... oh no!
preach
Lol. Preach!
Leaving her at the altar was by far the worst but there are so many more
Noel Luna I mean her not listening to his wanting a small wedding just because she got a dress from Vera Wang is shitty too.
TheGoddess AmongYou so you leave her at the altar? He didn’t voice his dismay about a big wedding until at least a week or so before. Big always looked for the smallest reason to run from her when she’s ready to fully commit.
Noel Luna He got cold feet but he came back and HONESTLY would she have listened to him considering she ignored his wishes to begin with???
Ummm she didn't get a dress from vera....it was Vivienne westwood....
No, when he sexually assaulted her in the elevator was the worst
I think they deserved each other. They also had such great chemistry. People say they wish Carrie ended up with Aiden, but she was always horrible to him. They were both completely different and he was too good for her. In the second movie, where they kiss, I thought that was ridiculous. Aiden isn't the type of guy to cheat with another guy's wife/partner, even if that same guy did it to him. Just my thoughts.
Aiden was such a sweet guy. He needed a sweet non-drama girl. They weren't a good fit. Mr Big and Carrie are perfect to me. They both have huge flaws, but they match.
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Good one.
True! Aidsn was always too good for her. Maybe he kissed her in the movie, to kind of giving it back to Big. Like revenge. I don’t no.
I didn’t think they were equally yoked, Carrie liked to be out on the town and he liked to eat kfc and watch TV. They had a sweetness between them but she was often bored with him. Big was the glitz and glamour that she craved, he was just the bad boy type that most women love.
Carrie is the definition of a side chick 🤦🏾♀️
...except she married him in the end.
Then kissed Aidan in the second movie when things got boring for her. Home girl thrives on drama.
@@sunnyangiebeenestork1899 They marry side chicks these days...It's a brave new world.
Caramel Spice yup look at on love and hip hop New York when the guy Peter married his side chick after knowing her for a year but not marry his baby mama who been with him for twelve years and had three kids with him.
@@sunnyangiebeenestork1899 marriage is not the end lol. He also married Natasha
Mr.Big is the toxic man who makes you forget yourself and become more invested in him. Ofcourse, Carrie had major flaws of going back to an emotionally abusive relationship that wasn't right for her, but she never learned, and fed Big's ego when he needed it. Big took it gladly, and knew how to twist Carrie's vulnerable states and emotions. This is what I call falling in love with the wrong person entirely. It's toxic not only for you in emotion, but at times destructive and violent. Definitely watch out for these signals, just because a man is broken and cold does not mean YOU have to fix him or put up with his irrational behaviour. There's a difference between sympathizing and caring for someone who genuinely needs it and someone who takes it for granted. Never destroy yourself for a person EVER.
As for the show, the lessons learnt were pretty accurate in reality. I've seen people who have been in these relationships and who are still in this loop.
Farhat Amin facts
Beautifully written! 👏👌✨
I disagree. Big does a lot wrong but I don’t think he ever tries to manipulate her into anything. He is not deliberately trying to do these things that upset her, they are just different in many ways and he is not good at opening up. And like with leaving the wedding, he was more intimidated by the big thing the wedding had become. Carrie didn’t include him at all in the planning and ignored how uncomfortable he was. He changed his mind too and returned. It is was still bad but the point is that he didn’t try to manipulate and hurt her but they were on a different page and in the moment he felt he just could not sincerely go through it.
While you do open up this perspective, I still feel that Big made more mistakes. Especially with Carrie she tries so hard, at times too hard which causes Big to back out sometimes. But, nobody else does that for him and it feels like Carrie is being taken granted for. About the wedding, I agree. Carrie let it get bigger than themselves, not taking in Big's side of the plate. In addition, it always seems that they have major communication gap and are barely on the same pages. Well, Big may not have tried to manipulate her but his actions came off as pure manipulation to me. Then again it's all about perspective, to each their own.
Sara Samaletdin
He IS manipulating Carrie all the time. His major attitude is "Do as it suits me or you are out".
This is one the most horrible things to say to a person who is in love.
Of course it was up to Carrie to figure out that he had no real feelings for her. And she never had.
But the point is that he is not trying to meet her half way, he does not care about her needs. It is a huge manipulation scheme of serving him. No he does not force her to be with him in words. But he manipulates her with giving and taking away some affection which hooks another person in emotionally and is a real cold-blooded abuse.
While Mr. Big is definitely the worst, I found myself actually dating the poor man's Mr. Big. I can tell you, he is even more frustrating because at least the real Mr. Big could afford dinner.
Stephanie Katherine i hope by now you have left and wait for someone who is good for your health - love keeps you warm it doesn’t burn you out
You better be speaking in past tense at this point.
Dump that loser!!!
Stephanie Katherine give us an update ( I’m just being nosy lol)
Lmao
Sorry-hope you are not still with the guy.
The thing I hated most about Carrie/Big was that the relationship was never really portrayed as toxic. It was a picture book perfect toxic relationship. He knew how to play her and she ranback and back. But still it all ends with a happy ending. They wasted the chance to really show a toxic relationship for what it is
Candace Bushnell was not for Carrie and Bug ending up together. They didn't in the book, and they didn't in real life (she did not end up with the guy Big was based on) She further didn't like the way Carrie got rich by marrying Big
Man, I’m 39 (M) and married and it’s my first time watching this show in 2024 because my wife has it on before bed.
By season 1 you can already tell Big is a walking red flag.
Dude has commitment issues.
50yr old man acting like a 27 yr old who can’t quit dating.
I have always felt that Mr. Big was very upfront and honest about his limitations and what he wanted and what he didn't want. I blame Carrie for not being able to read his signs and listen to his real words.
That's exactly what I was thinking. People keep bashing big, but in reality he never made false commitments or promises to gain something for her. He was always clear about the things that he wants. Carrie on the other side got insecure and needy when he didn't follow the script she had in her mind.
And also I think she didn't understand the concept of space in a relationship.
You are right, but sometimes you can noticed when the other person is in love with you, and if you don't feel the same you should stop it.
Then he should've broken up with her and left it at that
He's an emotionally manipulative asshole
I loved Big and Carrie together, no matter how crazy Carrie got Big was always very mindful and gentle with her. She loved him and no other man would do. Aiden tried to control her too much, she couldn't be herself with him, if she wanted to smoke, she should have been able to do so without Aiden preaching. Carried lived her truth and after it all she got her prince. Love Big and Carrie
Mr. Big was a walking bag of garbage- true- but out of all the things you included, the duck purse really shouldn't have been one of them. Carrie had a pretty "out there" sense of style so I can honestly see why Big thought that Carrie might like a duck purse.
If she doesn't want that duck purse, then I want it. What an idiot she is.
I feel like he bought the duck purse so she’d fit in with the other women at the party.
Carrie is not from the bling bling family. She doesn’t know Judith Leiber. Only old moneyed families and very rich new money know. Haha
I agree
I HATED MR. BIG!! Aidan always gonna be #1 DON’T EVEN try and fight me on it
He was the best, but not for Carrie. He deserved better than her.
Aiden deserved someone better than Carrie!
idiot she is but good tv entertainment 😣
Here here sister
Kiersten Slater I so agree
Aiden and Natasha were both too good for Carrie and Big. Big and Carrie deserved each other because they were both shallow and self-absorbed, their toxic dependency towards each other was well matched. He never changed and she never learned...a perfect mess!
Gosh! That Samantha's line "What exactly do you think you're doing?" proves once again that she is the best of the best. She cares of her friends. Also she sent Miranda away to facials or something instead of herself, staying with her baby , she never ditсhes her friends for the guys and so on....
IL B she gave Miranda her hair appointment. Samantha had been a bit tone deaf about how much Miranda was struggling, but she definitely came through that time.
I love Samantha, but she was always prioritizing sex and men over her friends. Also, she was not supportive at all of their life changing events, like marriage and having children.
Both Carrie and Mr. Big were selfish and awful.
If he wasn’t rich and handsome, did Carrie still love him?
Thomas Ebert nope
No and I’ve said that all along. He was rich and about town. Aiden was a homebody and didn’t care about that life.
I didn’t
No way.....
He was out of her reach and mysterious, and girls like this shit😁😁
Well they’re both people impressed by wealth and power, they’re very shallow people.
"It wasn't logic, it was love" left me with no friends, humiliated, devastated, and moving back in with my parents at 30 years old. But, it's a fine thing to teach women.
You’re still young and have your whole life ahead of you. Thank Jesus he brought you out of a dark place many don’t make it out of.
Now THIS is a story worth hearing!
Don’t ever believe that love is about struggling and always being there for the other person because eventually they’ll change. This is what happens when you believe that you should put everything into the other person.
I hope that you’re doing better and I’m glad you didn’t stay and waste the rest of your life.
Ditto
I hated Big with Carrie, but I loved the way the actor played him. I almost feel like I would've liked Big better if he and Carrie were just friends because he was so entertaining to watch. But, I hated the way Big and Carrie's relationship went a lot of the time. I kind of wish she had ended up alone and happy with herself because part of her character was the "eternal single girl" thing and I really didn't love any of her boyfriends. However, I think in the end him and Carrie were always going to end up together because she was comfortable in that relationship. Anyways, the romantic in me wants to believe that the marriage worked out, and he managed to get over his bad boyfriend tendencies despite six seasons and two movies showing us otherwise.
You’re right...he was entertaining as hell and the actor was PERFECT
That’s how Candace bushnell wanted it to end but the producers insisted on the fairy tail ending
Well, you got what you wanted... And some more
Carrie deserved him..They were both the worst... I mean SHE CHEATED ON AIDAN!! GOD!!! THE MAN WAS AN ANGEL!
Right!! She should have let him go
You know, I always felt that Big had his faults but when you see them all grouped together like this ... he really was a douchebag.
Please do 'Top 10 Times Carrie was the WORST!'
She is a blondier version of rachel green.
True.
Radical feminist blame ALL MEN, and not criticize shallow materialistic manipulative women.
Jewbag998 yup. She is just the worst character in tv series except the susan from desperate housewives
I can’t stand Carrie. She drives me crazy. I watched the show but I just hated her character.
More like 100 times
I had a Mr Big in my life. I was younger. I wasn't strong enough. Too scared to lose him, too insecure at times and I dealt with certain behaviors. After years and years with him, once he realized other hot guys wanted me he changed and ultimately our last year or so together he just kept pressing marriage on me. Of course it's a long story. And at that point of course that was everything I always wanted with him but I was too hurt for so long over the years at the way I was treated and also mad at myself for allowing myself to be treated that way. We had a huge fight and 3 months later he proposed to someone else. Needless to say a slap in the face after 8 years together. Much therapy needed. Although this was over 10 years ago, it can still sting sometimes just with everything that all happened. But I've learned so much during that time in my life and of course after. As our mutual friends say...I DODGED A BULLET!!!
The only real parting gift from any bad relationship is the lessons you learn. (Especially if all the gifts he gave you smashed with a hammer and left at his doorstep.. But I digress..) You learn the behavior you will absolutely Not tolerate from anyone who claims to Love you.. ..and God willing, you learn to spot the warning signs early enough to lessen the hurt and not waste your time. But one thing I wish women would learn is that there is no such thing as "investing in a relationship". No Matter how long you've been together, if you are miserable..the only thing you're investing in... is your own misery.
U shoulded awarn the bride who was going to marry him. I mean marry after just only 3months is a mistake but also with a man who was 8years with another such a huge one. U didnt have shut up. I mean sorority? I always hated and didnt get in fact that kind of selfish beetwen women.
LARA R I get what you're saying, but when this was all going down, this chic was a piece of work. They both were being unreasonable and ridiculous. It was like 'well maybe since you're both being so blind maybe you deserve each other'... She would try to call my dad to speak to him. Accused me of stuff that never happened. They were living in LaLa Land. And apparently I was the bad guy.
Think most women have that one mr. Big type. Luckily for me I woke up and when he tried to come back while I engaged to my version of Aidan. I ignored him like he was dead.
I too stayed in an emitionally abusive relationship
Carrie was really annoying and bad written as a character. I know she's the main one but the reason I watched and still watch re-runs are the other three girls. They made the show for me.
Miranda and Samantha were the best characters
I love Samantha ^^
Denko same!!!
Denko Same.
Samantha was my favorite!
“It wasn’t logic, it was love” lol, no, it was narcissism.
Absolutely!!!!!
I think they deserved each other.
and not in a nice way.... I never liked Carrie or Big. I watched it for the other three girls
How interesting.
The perspective changes so well.
Ten years ago women luuurved Carry/Big affair.
These days people start to wake up to the fact that toxic relationship is not love.
Big does not care about Carry.
And she is a real co-dependant on emotions thay Big provides her with.
They are both very shallow.
Only very shallow people carry on living like this for decades.
This is not love at all.
nnnnnnnnnnn Carrie* lol
Amanda Falcone well I never liked Big and Carrie when I watched the series 10 years ago
Naomi Malone
I am a grown up woman. ☺
What I mean is that almost everything that started right was politically perverted afterwards.
These days feminism is seen as some disgusting show with naked body parts.
Angela
Aidan and Carrie are two completely different people.
He likes to live outside the city, to stay in and have a meal at home. He likes nature and a good family life.
But Carrie can't stand all of this. She needs rather shallow things like new shoes, drinks, sexing around, partying, etc. And she needs it all the time.
Aidan and Carrie as a couple would have had a really bad life.
Alexandra Kimbink Ok lol I understand that, I was just correcting your spelling of Carrie’s name bc you spelt it “Carry” in your original comment.
I had one of those ex’s with a radar. Every time I moved forward in a relationship, he popped up. Cut him out of my life 2 years ago
Laura Fitzpatrick it's such a mindfuck when they pop up again too.
I been there as well. I never dated the guy and he clearly expressed I was a physical object to him when he needed a boost to his ego. I was sick of his shit. With every new relationship I started i found it weird when he popped up. It was a pattern but once I got back with my highschool sweetheart he kept bothering me, calling, texting, dropping in unannounced. It felt good to kick him to the curb, I let him know he was a waste of time and he wasn't all as great as he thought of himself and that he was never going to experience true happiness and love
Carrie is a woman who doesn't value herself as a person and returns back over and over again with a jerk who doesn't deserve her love. To be honest. Unfortunately in real life there are women like Carrie who thinks that her life is not complete with a man by their side even though they behave like total assholes and jerks during their whole relationship if Mr Big really loves Carrie he would respect her and care for her but no he always mess up again and again and still Carrie got back together with him how sad is that when there are plenty of men who would make her happy and treat her better than Mr Big.
Blanca Rosales somewhere in the show carrie says to her friends that she can be friends with her exes ...as if there's nothing wrong with that
Mr. Big was always the most selfish emotionally abusive man to Carrie. Carrie was always his punching bag and emotional support ONLY when he was feeling weak and vulnerable. Carrie had healthy true love with Aiden but she was too addicted to the pain and back and forth BS Big dealt her and couldn't appreciate the relationship she had with Aiden. AND ONLY when Big found himself OLD and ALONE did he finally decide to get real with Carrie- but his true nature reared its ugly head when he humiliated her in the most disgusting act of all- leaving her at the altar on her wedding day. She went out on a limb to trust him again and believe he had changed his commitment-phobia towards her. He had no trouble committing to his THREE OTHER BRIDES. Carrie couldn't see past the fantasy she had of Mr. Big, always failing to believe him when he showed who he truly was. They should NOT have ended up together- their sick relationship sets a BAD example for women everywhere. Do not accept this kind of treatment ladies. It may be painful to let go- but let go you MUST!!!
It seemed that Big didn't want Carrie but he didn't want anyone else having her or her being happy with someone else. He wanted her stay available just for him to fall back on when he needed to.
Typical narcissist. They don’t want you but don’t want anyone else to have you
One word Narcsissist
Two words, two narcissists...
marianna 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
The only one right word for him
Christ... When you see all of his toxic behaviours at the same time... 😱😱😱
Ik right, the ultimate jerk 🤦🏾♀️
What kind of stupid person gets back together with someone who cheats, and blows you off so many times? And what stupid person says "forget you know my name! I don't live here anymore!"and then takes him back the very next time she sees him? She is obviously more than willing to take abuse
Rio Brasil Samba Shows sambistabeauty someone with low sense of self worth unfortunately. It's not really about stupidity but a complete lack of identity and self esteem.
But they're in looooooove😒😒😒😓😓😕😕
Don't spit in the air.
the producers wanted the actor every season, I don´t know why. They had to make excuses for his coming back, and that put Carrie in a codependant character. He should have dissapeared after season one. But there are contracts, you know.
happens every day. dr phil has done tons of shows on dysfunctional relationships
Both were selfish to each other..... But ends up fighting and be together....
bichukichu there're perfect for each other.
I was always happy Carrie didn't end up with Aiden, but it was because Aiden deserved better than the way she treated him.
Mr. Big is a perfect representation of an attractive, successful, and commitment-phobic guy in his late 30s. He didn't give false hopes or commitments and he was pretty sure about what he wanted. Was manipulative at times but Carrie was equally at fault for compromising on self-respect, not being able to face the reality and constantly trying to make it work with him.
More like late 50s, I’m in my thirties and he seem soooo old too me.
@@itzelcampos6316 lol I was thinking early 40s
I'd say he is a representation of a player.
Only ten? this could be your first top 100
Very funny.
Chile
Exactly
I never hated - hated Big. yeah, he does piss you off at times, but he was always practically clear about everything he wanted, which may I say, he never really expected anything from Carrie. it was just about the timing, Carrie was so desperate to find "love" and "the guy" for her, that everything big did was insufficient and that led to their fights. And although i absolutely adore the other girls, its hard for me to believe that they never saw this.
Yeah exactly
They did see it. Carrie and Miranda had a huge fight in a thrift shop when Carrie told her she was seeing Big again.
I'm sorry but the Duck Purse shouldn't be on here. Its a gift, no one should ever criticizes gifts, that's just being petty!
They were trying to say he had no idea what she liked
Sophistikatieb right? How could he have possibly thought that a fashion obsessed city girl would want a freaking JUDITH LEIBER PURSE??? 🤔
My favorite scene in this whole series was when she tells him off then bounces to Paris. Wish they had ended there.
Yeah
Carrie was just as bad as big
You misspelled "worse"
Wawa M how
is called love.
I had a Mr Big in my life, I glad to say I’ve blocked him from my life and seeing this... I’m not going back. 😌
He didnt even want to introduce her to his mother. She and Miranda sneaked to the church so she could see her. And then when he introduced them he didnt say this is the woman that I have been dating. Could never understand why she was so enamored with him. Maybe because he was so emotionally unavailable it was a challenge to her.
The purse thing is so stupid. what if he has no idea what women like to wear and he sees all those ugly purses in his circle and thinks "oh ok i'll buy her that one, i guess it's trendy" but i still liked him more than Aidan, they were all touchy and always kissing and holding hands like teenagers ew
While Aidan treated Carrie better than Big did, he wasn't right for her. He and Carrie had different priorities, so a breakup was warranted. Big certainly did a lot of shady and thoughtless things, but some on this list, like expecting Big to be monogamous when he and Carrie never actually discussed monogamy, are unfair to Big and paint Carrie like she's almost always the victim. I love SATC, but I think this list could use some rethinking.
I don't agree with the part where you should discuss monogamy. I think it's obvious if you start a relationship, you don't see other women/men.
Kirahvi karahvi I think you can expect that if you explicitly decide to start an exclusive relationship, but in that episode Carrie acknowledges that they’ve only gone out a few times. Two or three dates is not a relationship. I’m very Team Big on this issue, lol!
Uhh. Like her and Big had the same priorities? That's not a reason to break up with someone who's great for you.
@notthefather how are they great if you don't match?
I think they do match. Both of them thrive on drama, and Carrie even discusses this in a few episodes throughout the series. They also both desire a glamorized, high-profile, big-city lifestyle, whereas Aidan is more low key. Big definitely exhibits annoying, careless behavior, but Carrie also does throughout the series, like when she ditches Charlotte at the opera and refuses to go on vacation with Big at the last minute because he can't say right that second that she's "the one." I like Carrie for a lot of things, but her behavior can be just as neurotic as Big's.
There is also when he was constantly trying to come inbetween Carrie and her boyfriends, when he couldn’t leave her alone.
They mention that in the video! Pay attention.
If the series had ended with Carrie telling Big to go to hell just she left for Paris, it would have been so much better. People here are saying they deserved each other, but it makes for a toxic relationship, and I didn't feel sorry for Carrie when she was dumped at the altar. Aiden was a much better boyfriend.
itsjemmabond I always pictured my ending as Carrie walking away from Paris and being over with men
itsjemmabond I actually read the writers intended it for her to end up alone and say that the girls were her soulmates, but apparently HBO didn’t like insisted on a happier ended. I honestly would have prefer her to end up alone, I thought it would have been truly revolutionary at the time. To have a woman who appears to have it all to decide that her worth isn’t tied to any man, ang that embracing being alone is also a solid option. I think it would’ve honestly made a lot more sense as well.
+jay dee Then HBO were idiots. And let's not forget the film, she should have left him for good when he dumped her at the altar.
I don't see carrie being able to survive being alone but it would have been interesting.
10 times Samantha was the fucking best!!!!!
I met Mr. Big in a starbucks in Budapest!!! Best celeb encounter ever!
That first one... Really. I didn't expect my husband to know my style when we had been together for less than two years. Gosh, it's just a bag. They had an on/off-relationship, not close friendship.
Yeah seriously
I will be always team Aidan, but they're impossible to find in real life :(
Men like Aidan exist but they get snapped up damn FAST by women who know how rare they are.
Well I tried to date an Aidan but he turned out the be as terrible as Jack "the pot it" Berger
I married an Aden type... kinda a bit of Red Forman too 😂
I married him.
@@anitafrieda who cares
The duck purse wasn’t that bad. I always saw it as him seeing wives of his coworkers/friends etc. carrying them and assuming it was a fashionable trend.
...which it was. It was a Swarovski embellished Judith Leiber Purse, which is still expensive today, if you like the style. Back then they were all the rage and really popular. I wonder why Carrie, with her extravagant and mixed wardrobe, didn't like the purse. It would have worked well with some of her outfits!
«Even if you're team Big...», is there any Big fan? He's the absolute worst and never learns anything, nor becomes a better person throughout the series
Carrie and Big deserved each other because they were both awful people.
I like him but he always cares about himself and Carrie is addicted to pain. They are always hurt each other but then get back together.
Réka Roób "they" hurt "each other"? How does Carrie hurt Big?
mr big wasnt too bad the cf alexandro was worse he slapped her aiden hm nice but too nice 😣
amy clarke that slap was so accidental, so scripted, and so overblown.....
Christopher Brown
That was a political context to make Russians look bad. )
There was no slap.
Alexandr was definately wrong for her. But he never slapped her.
This worst thing about this is how many time i have heard women refer to their toxic relationship and say that he's her "Big" . This isn't a good relationship in any way .
He only wanted Carrie when she was involved with someone else ~ as if the game was to see if he could get her back & how long it would take for him to do it 😂
When I was younger I was all for Carrie and Big but now that I am older and seasoned, I cannot stand their characters or relationship.
Listen this why in the second movie I couldn’t stand Carrie. After allllllll that she went thro with this fool she was mad he wanted to sit on the couch and be with her!! Girl, if you don’t sit down somewhere . But anyways he was a Jackass. And when you lay it out like this WOW, can’t believe she married him. SMDH
Big was a terrible person. While I love the actor I never understood his character's appeal on the show.
I'd like to point out the Judith Leiber duck purse was probably thousands of dollars and Carrie had a JL cupcake purse in the first movie when she was about to get married. So I disagree with that one (and that episodes's storyline)... but it was probably just the writers not paying attention lol
I had a Mr. Big in college. He was emotionally stunted and withdrawn and would have emotional breakdowns to play on my caring empathetic nature, but the minute I needed any kind of affirmation, "wtf, why would you think I love you and want to be in a relationship with you, what made you think that" but then the next day he'd have another crisis and I'd be right back at his side. Even when I was breaking up with him because he had told two exes that he still loved them while in my house drinking my liquor, he still managed to get the last word and say "well I don't take breaks so I guess you're ending things, so bye" the conversation lasted literally 30 seconds and he immediately went and knocked up another girl. After once last meeting to exchange stuff two months later, I vowed to never speak to him again and I kept true to my word. BULLET DODGED, but that's something that takes a while to get over lol
I think the relationship of Carrie and Big was just toxic and honestly women who love and respect themselves don't stick around with the Mr. Bigs in the world they love themselves enough and let go of that knowing it's no loss to them
Genna Babulal you’re spot on
Wow, classic examples of a relationship experience with a narcissist.
The “cry” she did after she found out he was getting heart surgery was the most fake thing I’ve ever seen! I didn’t know if she was supposed to be serious or not! I laughed so hard!
I never got the duck purse outrage - the broad used to run around in circus costumes
I had a quasi-relationship of a push-pull variety. If he was at all emotionally unavailable or in a relationship, he was interested in me and came in all hot and heavy. When he was sorta vulnerable in being free to date/be involved with me, he'd be afraid and push me away. I cried so much over him (college years). The inconsistency and what I now see as fear tore me up. I tried so hard to make a relationship (a real one) work but over time I saw that he made it impossible. It wasn't my fault. He didn't "get away" because I made mistakes. Regardless of what I did, right or wrong, it'd never work out owing to his fear. I lamented for a long time, too, that I "didn't know what to do" to "fix" it, but then I finally realized I couldn't change that part of him and it meant a relationship would never work, even if he ever gave me or it a chance.
"We're looking at all the times that Mr. Big was inconsiderate, disrespectful, or downright awful". So his entire role in the series.
I honestly never minded Mr. Big. It was pretty clear that Carrie was way too clingy for him. He was this independent, businessman. He needed a woman that was independent too (Natasha). Carrie kept pushing him further away but needing him constantly. I feel like he made what he wanted pretty clear to Carrie.
That picture in the drawer super cute because it’s not a nude , her dressed up to look sexy, nor is it of them being intimidate. It’s just them smiling and he perseveres that memory by keeping the photo in a drawer that he uses everyday, he must see her everyday every morning at the start of his day. Awesome
neither characters were perfect , I think the show centered so much around this couple because it showed us how blind we can be to love. I've had moments were I've scoffed at myself for being so blind in a relationship but I have been in carrie moments
Big was actually toxic AF and we should all be worried about what is so broken in Carrie that she took it for so long.
im heartbroken right now cause my fiancee with who i spend 2 years of my life is cheating on me and we broke up , thanks for upload this video no matter how much im on pain , carrie suffer more.
Jesus Christ can heal your brokenness.
Ugh. I actually find men like Big attractive.
Which is exactly why I'm not dating right now.
I love them too! Impossible to find such an old school charming men anymore. I don’t care about good guys like Aiden was if a man can’t make my heart pins 1000 miles per hour I don’t care at all.
I really really love sex and the city but one thing I always hated about it was that they made it seem okay for a man to treat a woman like this. Carry barely stood up for herself being so blinded by Mr. Big.
Blinded? Or after his cash......?
I remember my mom telling me that Big leaving Carrie at the Altar was Miranda's fault because she scared him, and I said: "It's true that Miranda planted a seed of doubt, but if he loved Carrie enough or believed in himself enough he would have done it despite that, and actually change for the better for himself. But no, he got cold feet and then tried to excuse himself like it was nothing, Big is the worst."
I don't think what Miranda did was ok, but the decision to leave Carrie at the altar was Big's, that only proved to me , YET ONCE AGAIN, that he can't handle a relationship, let alone another marriage.
That day I found out my mom was more likely to be part of Team Big...
For their affair, Big gets additional points knocked down because, yes he was married, and he started!
In the beginning Carrie did try to shoo him away. But he kept on calling her, showing up at her house, and stalked her to the hotel where she was working, followed her into the elevator, then force kissed her. Yes she finally accepted and reciprocated, which was bad… I guess she should’ve kneed him in the groin.
I second you
Mr. Big: every self-centered, cocky, egoistic, narcissistic, wannabe prince - male "villain" in every Disney movie.
I know this is dumb because he is a fictional character, but I will always hate Mr. Big! The fact that Carrie ends up with him breaks my heart.
And yes, Carrie was also such an annoying person, and she became even worst when she was around him, but that is because his lack of attention, support, and care made her in turn even more needy and naggy. I feel like we've all been there one way or another, even the most independent person can become needy around someone they love but is not loving them back.
I LOVED this show when I watched it back in the day. Now it makes me cringe it’s so unhealthy. Big showed Carrie exactly who he was and she ignored it/tried to change him. Aiden did everything right and she treated him like garbage. She likes men who treat her badly. That’s her thing. Miranda was a basket case too - pretending like she doesn’t want a man then being upset when other people find happiness in a relationship. Samantha lived her life. Even Charlotte lived her life - she had goals and standards - disagree with them if you will but she had them. I get it it’s a tv show the characters are flawed but I didn’t feel like that’s what the show was TRYING to show. The episode where Carrie goes to therapy could have been a huge turn in her character development but of course it was a one off and a chance to have Bon Jovi cameo 🥰.
18 year old me was obsessed with this show but 30 something (don’t worry about it) me just shakes my head. 😣
I love Carrie and Big together. I honestly think they’re soulmates especially since they both suck 😂 But I always felt like they had this amazing connection which explains why they never could stay away from each other. I know people wanted her to end up with Aiden but that wasn’t her. Aiden is a sweet country boy Carrie is a modern city girl it never would’ve worked in the long run
I loved Carrie but how can a woman that is such an independent feminist let a guy walk over her so many times? I still don’t get how they ended up together, it was so unrealistic. Never liked them together, I always thought Aidan was the right one for her
She is independent but only halfway feminist. She is always the girl in the relationship, hardly acts as a friend or an equal.
Trust me. Emotional abuse is very serious.. I was attached to mine for 10 years. Still trying to get over him for good..
regardless of the situation, they ended up together at the end. All you guys who are commenting on their toxic relationship obviously have no idea as to how hard it is to find people you have a connection with. Aiden deserved someone who was just like him, as Carrie deserves big. Even though he was emotionally unavailable and had many bad and toxic traits they worked them out and it even turned out well. Both had personal issues which they solved together, that's what a relationship is all about. Instead of hating on the relationship and characters, understand their relevance in the show and how they actually make it much more exciting and entertaining to watch. Thanks for coming to my ted talk.
Loved this! Now please please please make a Top ten Miranda and Steve moments 💜💜💜💜
Yes. They should show a progressive, real, loving relationship. They work on themselves and each other, they evolve and put each other and Brady first. I love them so much!
rockabillymuffin same omg I love them together because most importantly they are truly best friends unlike carrie and big.
To think that Big leaving Carrie at the altar would be unforgivable.. but she, eventually, took him back.. ughhhh.
She shouldn't have settled.
Numbers 9 and 1 I disagree. 9.) He just had surgery on his heart and shortly after he realized that Carrie was the one and asked Charlotte, Samantha, and Miranda for their blessing to rescue Carrie from the insensitive Alexander in Paris. 1.) Was a three way blame: Big's cold feet after being married twice before, Carrie never being married and experiencing all of the things that go with planning a wedding, and Miranda's snide comment about marriage to Big. The rest I agree he did some awful things.
sweetpeachrista12 I agree.
Miranda's snide comment shouldnt have deterred Big at all if he was sure about his decision
They are perfect for eachother. Both perfectly flawed. It isn't until they both admit to themselves that they are both incredibly self-centred, narcissistic and needy that they realise that what they have is also worthwhile-no matter how unconventional and dysfunctional they are to other people.
Big was always the worst and remained the worst, hate that he and Carrie end up together in the finale
I always think that he didn't want to be with her because she was not rich and upper class
There were so many times where I thought that Big had every right to be a "dick". Carrie spends so much time complaining about how Big doesn't know who she is and how he always tries to change her. Yet...she spends the whole series trying to push him into something he doesn't want and to change him to be more how she likes him.
They deserved each other they were both shallow, selfish and weirdly codependent to each other
Tbh I don't think theres a problem with Big not wanting commitment with Carrie. He was pretty consistent about wanting to be together but not wanting to move in or being married... she kept pushing it when he was drawing line and enforcing it.
Worst television couple EVER!!!
Actually, it's a tie between them and Ross & Rachel."I got off the plane,,,so I could spend the rest of my life with a jealous, overbearing, narcissistic nerd."
Yet, tons of these couples in real life...
When I was younger, I liked Carrie the most, and always liked to believe that I am like her. But as I got older, I realised she was the worst character.
Fairy Fellers Master Stroke exactly! 😂
How can u miss when he walks out to take a call while Carrie was reciting her poem at a wedding?
To me he bought her the duck purse because he's been to these parties before. For some reason every women carries these bejeweled purses. So he bought one for Carrie like "Here, you're going to need one of these." It wasn't that deep.
I loved: "would she ever learn?"
Oh, give me a break. Some men are clueless about fashion. It doesn't mean he's inconsiderate if he buys you something outside your style. He may have noticed all these women with this type of purse and figured "Oh, this might be the in style-I bet Carrie would like that". Anyway, Big is a dipstick but not for this reason.