yeah, it is extremely common. in my understanding a lot of the time rocd is an expression of trauma, a fear of abandonment, a fear of intimacy, etc. so it's possible that some part of you is trying to push the relationship away to protect you from being hurt again. it's that way for me, anyways. of course, the usual suggestions are to work on your beliefs (maybe you have a belief like, I have to be attracted to my partner all the time, our conversations have to be interesting all the time, it's not possible for me to be happy, etc.) as well as try to expose yourself to the things that trigger your rumination, and avoid doing whatever compulsive behaviors you do to ease your anxiety when you ruminate. so if something that triggers you is your partner's appearance, stare at them, if something that triggers you is the possibility of them cheating or leaving, write what they would say if they were breaking up with you, and if not talking to them triggers you, don't talk to them for a few hours. and if your self soothing compulsive behavior is to text them, hold their hand, internally check how you feel about them, etc. don't text them, don't touch them, and don't check. fundamentally you want to ease into the anxiety and allow your brain to exist without having an answer to THE question. that question being, should I be with this person, will they leave, etc. because you can't know the answer. I hope this helped you, good luck :)
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Thank you. I was losing myself and this video helped a lot and helped me remember what im going through is normal.
Same here. I had a really bad day and the tips helped me regain compassion for myself
Great video. Thank you Kirstie
This is such awesome advice. Thank you so much!
This helped me so much today. Thank You!
This is so excellent and helpful thank you!
Kirsty, this video was so helpful for me. Thank you.
This was really helpful. Thank you
Really great and helpful video Kirsty! Thank you again!
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This helped me a lot today!
Great points.
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I choose to stay & want to but still have OCD screaming in my brain I don’t actually want to - is that quite a common OCD tactic?
yeah, it is extremely common. in my understanding a lot of the time rocd is an expression of trauma, a fear of abandonment, a fear of intimacy, etc. so it's possible that some part of you is trying to push the relationship away to protect you from being hurt again. it's that way for me, anyways. of course, the usual suggestions are to work on your beliefs (maybe you have a belief like, I have to be attracted to my partner all the time, our conversations have to be interesting all the time, it's not possible for me to be happy, etc.) as well as try to expose yourself to the things that trigger your rumination, and avoid doing whatever compulsive behaviors you do to ease your anxiety when you ruminate. so if something that triggers you is your partner's appearance, stare at them, if something that triggers you is the possibility of them cheating or leaving, write what they would say if they were breaking up with you, and if not talking to them triggers you, don't talk to them for a few hours. and if your self soothing compulsive behavior is to text them, hold their hand, internally check how you feel about them, etc. don't text them, don't touch them, and don't check. fundamentally you want to ease into the anxiety and allow your brain to exist without having an answer to THE question. that question being, should I be with this person, will they leave, etc. because you can't know the answer. I hope this helped you, good luck :)