Soft life is my FAVOURITE topic! I’m literally in my anti struggle era and that doesn’t mean life is perfect but going through life in a soft way even during bad days, knowing that it will pass. Romanticising my everyday life has also been a game changer for me and finding my IKIGAI helped me to navigate life with purpose and peace✨
I love a good balance between discipline and softness, discipline actually built my confidence and rewired my brain, I'll never regret being a little tougher on myself when i needed to ✨ but also it's through THAT in which I already learned to go at my own pace, slow but CONSISTENT and finding pleasure in what I do, I believe it's the most beautiful balance between feminine and masculine energies within us ✨✨
I grew up with parents who would hustle all the time and now I really see how it impacted the way I live my life. I'm usually in my masculine energy but I learn how to "slow down" by giving myself a moment of self-care every day because I love it and also when I'm with my man, I allow myself to receive instead of being the one in "control mode" (aka masculine energy). 🥰💕
YES! I love how you emphasise that living a soft life is about what's happening INTERNALLY. & about discipline to give yourself time tor rest - I struggle with that & just want to keep working, instead of having a chill evening, & watching a show like you say!! Also agree about the power of music. Love this, thank you!!🧡
Recently I've noticed that I have tendency to rush without even realizing it. I could be in the kitchen preparing food and I can be rushing as if someone else is trying to come in there, I can be in the shower and find it hard to relax and thinking I need to hurry bc someone may need to use the bathroom soon etc. After realizing and analyzing this pattern I see that it came from childhood anxiety and adults in my family always rushing themselves and everyone over the simplest of things even when not necessary. I see that this has even shown up in other parts of my life like money. It used to go as fast as it came bc I would begin spending the second i received my check and in the long run I would actually end of spending much less if I had just waited. However to change this pattern I have begun to do the opposite of my previous patterns. I no longer rush with anything and I actually enjoy taking my time and taking forever in the shower (bc no one actually be needing to go in there at that time) and making food etc. I put my Etsy shop on deposit for every 2weeks when before I had every 1week but would often manually deposit ealier. I have a savings structure and a rule to never spend it the day I get it and am doing a slow spending routine. I no longer rush to get things bc they're on sale. If I miss out then it's not the end of the world (I make exceptions for Kpop items tho).I am still continuously working on this as it has only been a month since my realization but I'm liking the new structure and it marks a big positive change in my life.
I’ve noticed my self critic is very strong in the morning as I’m getting ready . I’ve been told by a past co worker that that is the devil trying to take over . But I digress! Whatever your faith may be , it’s so nice once you start to live for yourself & once you take care of yourself 💜💖
I’m really trying to live a softer life because I feel like I create more stress than necessary. I’ve been listening to my body and I feel like slowly but surely I’ll get there. I just hate that this world pressures us to think we need to be doing something productive 24/7. Rest is productive. I need to learn this.
im a chronic self improver and i know that i am anal over certain things that i could work on and be better. i need to let myself rest, think about what i need and how to be more present because i find myself overanalyzing and thinking too hard about the next thing im gonna do or the next task. i need to learn to tell myself to be okay with not being "on" all the time. i need to connect with myself and my healthy state.
Love this video! I’ve seen many other people present similar points- but the way you have explained the whole topic and the why behind really made it click and reduce the talkback that my inner critic usually offers. Thankyou so much 💜😇
This is one of your most caring videos, definitely feminine energy, so much intuition. It borders on hedonism, but it’s self preservation in the best way You love your people sm, it shows, I hope everybody glows from participating in this one❤❤❤😊 I feel like calling you GAIA 😁
when elicia posts it’s a good day!! i needed this today, i was all go go go this week and i ended up exhausting myself and getting a surprise period. i’ve been thinking about syncing with my cycle, so i am excited to finally get off of birth control and try it out! healing my feminine energy has been one of the most difficult journeys i’ve started, but we are all in this journey of femininity and self love together!! sending love ❤️
Omg yes! We are all on this journey babe. It’s taken me years to even understand myself as a woman. To take care of myself as a woman. To learn my body, my cycle, EVERYTHING! And I’m still on it 🥹 we are sooooo in this together and I’m so excited to hear that you’re on this journey as well. ❤️
thank you sm for this video! I think for us perfectionists it's important to talk about how it's OK to just watch a show or relax. Sometimes it's even more healing than reading a personal growth book lol im currently on summer break and i needed to hear this thx
I love what you shared about your nervous system being in flight or flight then leading into burnout. I totally felt this way throughout pilot training and even now it’s hard to find some rest in between work because I “should” be studying. It’s looking like the 2nd quarter of this year will look quite differently from 1st quarter. Thanks for your inspiring and beautiful messages. ❤❤❤
Is this channel's videos are meant for women? I have enjoyed so many videos of yours recently, I think they're both relevant for men and women. I think I cannot change, I'm perfectionist and I decided so I stick to it. I don't want regret my decisions tomorrow, but what I do today feels like the right thing to do. I don't enjoy conversations with my 'so-called friends', they're quite toxic. For the last 4 years, I ended up having no friends, and now I don't have any friends at all, but I'm much happier as I can devote myself to studies, I'm becoming a better person as a whole and so on... We must be very careful making decisions in life. I remember a year ago making a lot of money, but I became lazy and got addicted to video games and spent so much time playing games because I thought that making good amount of money I didn't have to worry about anything. But if you look at it, this is my life, it doesn't matter how much money you make, TIME is what you never get back. Now my income is much lower than a year ago, but I'm more disciplined, focus on studies, and so on... I'm sure I'll do better in terms of income later, but now I got back what I threw away for no reason. DON'T DO ANYTHING YOU THINK YOU REGRET DOING TOMORROW! Thanks for your videos, they make me think about important things! Glad that found your channel.
OMG this is so ON POINT w my thoughts recently. Like, literally yesterday I was thinking about the fact that the hardest part of slowing down/savoring life is turning off that 'need to do more'/worrying part of myself. And the cyclical things too!! giiirl 👀👀 we on the same wavelength & I'm here for it 🤗
Why do I feel like I’m gonna cry?😭 I’ve seen your videos pop up a bit on my home page and finally decided to click on this one and omg!! You’re like the big sister I never had telling me exactly what I need to hear (I actually do have a big sister but I’ve taken that role on most of my life. Taking care of my parents, older and younger siblings so constantly in a state of masculinity). I got teary eyed from everything you said and I’m definitely not the type to cry haha but thank you thank you thank you💗💗 new subscriber and I’ll be binging your videos for the next few days xxxx
That opening is definitely what I am facing with myself. I chose to do a soft life for this year, and the amount of inner backlash I have with myself came all out. So now I'm a mess lol.
I be emotional on my period. I realized that just how I am. So on my period I just be lazy asf. For 5 days. And I use to feel bad for it but not anymore idc. Also I realized this on my own. I just had to stop planning everything and if I do I make sure I put realistic things on my to do list like sleep, take a shower, do my hair. Just being gentle with myself
Hi Elicia, my names Priscilla. I wanted you to know you’re a huge expander for me! I wonder if it would be okay if I can email you and pick your brain a bit about your journey. We have so much in common in terms of age, interest and backgrounds this is why you’re such an expander for me, because I want to start a UA-cam channel too or have some presence on social media all with the purpose of helping other people like you but my beliefs are holding me back …
This video is not denying that there might be hard things happening in life, but in my opinion it’s the way you respond to these “hard” things in your life that really counts. The soft life is a healthier response, in my opinion, to every day life stressors.
Soft life is my FAVOURITE topic! I’m literally in my anti struggle era and that doesn’t mean life is perfect but going through life in a soft way even during bad days, knowing that it will pass. Romanticising my everyday life has also been a game changer for me and finding my IKIGAI helped me to navigate life with purpose and peace✨
Omg GIRRRRRRL THIS 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I love it I love it I love it! 🦋
Amen!❤ 🙌🏽
I love a good balance between discipline and softness, discipline actually built my confidence and rewired my brain, I'll never regret being a little tougher on myself when i needed to ✨ but also it's through THAT in which I already learned to go at my own pace, slow but CONSISTENT and finding pleasure in what I do, I believe it's the most beautiful balance between feminine and masculine energies within us ✨✨
Omg this! Is sooo good. 😍❤️
I grew up with parents who would hustle all the time and now I really see how it impacted the way I live my life. I'm usually in my masculine energy but I learn how to "slow down" by giving myself a moment of self-care every day because I love it and also when I'm with my man, I allow myself to receive instead of being the one in "control mode" (aka masculine energy). 🥰💕
I love this for you 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
YES! I love how you emphasise that living a soft life is about what's happening INTERNALLY. & about discipline to give yourself time tor rest - I struggle with that & just want to keep working, instead of having a chill evening, & watching a show like you say!! Also agree about the power of music. Love this, thank you!!🧡
I love this!!! 🥰❤️❤️
Recently I've noticed that I have tendency to rush without even realizing it. I could be in the kitchen preparing food and I can be rushing as if someone else is trying to come in there, I can be in the shower and find it hard to relax and thinking I need to hurry bc someone may need to use the bathroom soon etc. After realizing and analyzing this pattern I see that it came from childhood anxiety and adults in my family always rushing themselves and everyone over the simplest of things even when not necessary. I see that this has even shown up in other parts of my life like money. It used to go as fast as it came bc I would begin spending the second i received my check and in the long run I would actually end of spending much less if I had just waited. However to change this pattern I have begun to do the opposite of my previous patterns. I no longer rush with anything and I actually enjoy taking my time and taking forever in the shower (bc no one actually be needing to go in there at that time) and making food etc. I put my Etsy shop on deposit for every 2weeks when before I had every 1week but would often manually deposit ealier. I have a savings structure and a rule to never spend it the day I get it and am doing a slow spending routine. I no longer rush to get things bc they're on sale. If I miss out then it's not the end of the world (I make exceptions for Kpop items tho).I am still continuously working on this as it has only been a month since my realization but I'm liking the new structure and it marks a big positive change in my life.
I’ve noticed my self critic is very strong in the morning as I’m getting ready . I’ve been told by a past co worker that that is the devil trying to take over . But I digress! Whatever your faith may be , it’s so nice once you start to live for yourself & once you take care of yourself 💜💖
Living life for yourself… YES 🥹❤️
I’m really trying to live a softer life because I feel like I create more stress than necessary. I’ve been listening to my body and I feel like slowly but surely I’ll get there. I just hate that this world pressures us to think we need to be doing something productive 24/7. Rest is productive. I need to learn this.
im a chronic self improver and i know that i am anal over certain things that i could work on and be better. i need to let myself rest, think about what i need and how to be more present because i find myself overanalyzing and thinking too hard about the next thing im gonna do or the next task. i need to learn to tell myself to be okay with not being "on" all the time. i need to connect with myself and my healthy state.
THIS👏🏼👏🏼
Love this video! I’ve seen many other people present similar points- but the way you have explained the whole topic and the why behind really made it click and reduce the talkback that my inner critic usually offers. Thankyou so much 💜😇
This was the soft life video I was looking for, thank you!
Few people care enough to give somebody advice to calm down and relax as a way to refuel
❤ a softer life isn’t so bad. Sometime during a persons lifetime, we also often up. Great video! It shows that you have heart.❤
This is one of your most caring videos, definitely feminine energy, so much intuition. It borders on hedonism, but it’s self preservation in the best way
You love your people sm, it shows, I hope everybody glows from participating in this one❤❤❤😊
I feel like calling you GAIA 😁
Respect and gratefull for this ..illuminating😊not a women but can gleam much wisdom from this 😇🙏
when elicia posts it’s a good day!! i needed this today, i was all go go go this week and i ended up exhausting myself and getting a surprise period. i’ve been thinking about syncing with my cycle, so i am excited to finally get off of birth control and try it out! healing my feminine energy has been one of the most difficult journeys i’ve started, but we are all in this journey of femininity and self love together!! sending love ❤️
Omg yes! We are all on this journey babe. It’s taken me years to even understand myself as a woman. To take care of myself as a woman. To learn my body, my cycle, EVERYTHING! And I’m still on it 🥹 we are sooooo in this together and I’m so excited to hear that you’re on this journey as well. ❤️
Thank you for all your advice 🤍
Blue looks stunning on you!
aww thank you so much ! blue is my favourite colour forsure 🦋
thank you sm for this video! I think for us perfectionists it's important to talk about how it's OK to just watch a show or relax. Sometimes it's even more healing than reading a personal growth book lol
im currently on summer break and i needed to hear this thx
Yes omg ❤️
I'd LOVE to see a video on "how to work smarter, not harder". love your videos babe, they give me such a good vibe!
I love what you shared about your nervous system being in flight or flight then leading into burnout. I totally felt this way throughout pilot training and even now it’s hard to find some rest in between work because I “should” be studying. It’s looking like the 2nd quarter of this year will look quite differently from 1st quarter. Thanks for your inspiring and beautiful messages. ❤❤❤
Is this channel's videos are meant for women?
I have enjoyed so many videos of yours recently, I think they're both relevant for men and women.
I think I cannot change, I'm perfectionist and I decided so I stick to it. I don't want regret my decisions tomorrow, but what I do today feels like the right thing to do. I don't enjoy conversations with my 'so-called friends', they're quite toxic. For the last 4 years, I ended up having no friends, and now I don't have any friends at all, but I'm much happier as I can devote myself to studies, I'm becoming a better person as a whole and so on...
We must be very careful making decisions in life. I remember a year ago making a lot of money, but I became lazy and got addicted to video games and spent so much time playing games because I thought that making good amount of money I didn't have to worry about anything. But if you look at it, this is my life, it doesn't matter how much money you make, TIME is what you never get back.
Now my income is much lower than a year ago, but I'm more disciplined, focus on studies, and so on... I'm sure I'll do better in terms of income later, but now I got back what I threw away for no reason. DON'T DO ANYTHING YOU THINK YOU REGRET DOING TOMORROW!
Thanks for your videos, they make me think about important things! Glad that found your channel.
Thank you Elicia, you always have perfect timing
Aww you’re welcome 🥰
IM SO GLAD YOU POST🎉❤😍😩
OMG this is so ON POINT w my thoughts recently. Like, literally yesterday I was thinking about the fact that the hardest part of slowing down/savoring life is turning off that 'need to do more'/worrying part of myself. And the cyclical things too!! giiirl 👀👀 we on the same wavelength & I'm here for it 🤗
*omg also the stopping to dance to a song! and settling back with yourself instead of consuming a million media at once!! yesss
The way that we are aligned >>>>> 😍
@@eliciagoguen 🥰
So we’ll articulated! You are a very intelligent woman ❤
Thank you so much 🥰
Excellent excellent video. More valuable than my therapist!
🙊🥰🥰🥰
EVERYTIME you post about exactly what I be struggling with!!! Gotta love the universal alignments!!
YES ALIGNMENT, YESSSS 😍
This was exactly what I needed and I didn't even know it. Thanks mami💜
Why do I feel like I’m gonna cry?😭 I’ve seen your videos pop up a bit on my home page and finally decided to click on this one and omg!! You’re like the big sister I never had telling me exactly what I need to hear (I actually do have a big sister but I’ve taken that role on most of my life. Taking care of my parents, older and younger siblings so constantly in a state of masculinity). I got teary eyed from everything you said and I’m definitely not the type to cry haha but thank you thank you thank you💗💗 new subscriber and I’ll be binging your videos for the next few days xxxx
Omg ily 🥺🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️
I've never been so early I love it!
I'm glad you're here!!!!
Thank You for Everything 💙😇
Of COURSE ❤️
That opening is definitely what I am facing with myself. I chose to do a soft life for this year, and the amount of inner backlash I have with myself came all out. So now I'm a mess lol.
It’s a journey 🥺❤️
I needed this, I've been thinking ab this lately and your video was just what I needed to give that step
I’m so glad 🥰
Yesss ! Let’s go for a new video
(Can you do a podcast or a video about “pride”, and how to start being humble ?)
I be emotional on my period. I realized that just how I am. So on my period I just be lazy asf. For 5 days. And I use to feel bad for it but not anymore idc. Also I realized this on my own. I just had to stop planning everything and if I do I make sure I put realistic things on my to do list like sleep, take a shower, do my hair. Just being gentle with myself
I love how your advice speaks to both genders! Keep it up 🔥
❤️❤️❤️
This color looks so beautiful on you. And you remind me of Aubrey Plaza ❤️
Thank you lovely 🥹❤️
Live the life. Way you want😜✌️
You’re so beautiful 😍 and So missable 😢, I find myself missing you sm❤
My mom it’s like this and I’m the same and I’m trying to change my self to be more soft and present. But I want to help my mom as well 🥺
Be the change you want to see in others, 🥰
Do you have a playlist with music to dance ? I drive a lot everyday and I want something like with rhythm haha
Nice conversation 🎉
Too bad im ain't women.
I'm whole Queen😩💅🏻
Hi Elicia, my names Priscilla. I wanted you to know you’re a huge expander for me! I wonder if it would be okay if I can email you and pick your brain a bit about your journey. We have so much in common in terms of age, interest and backgrounds this is why you’re such an expander for me, because I want to start a UA-cam channel too or have some presence on social media all with the purpose of helping other people like you but my beliefs are holding me back …
Yes girl
You are gorgeous
I agree, she is gorgeous 🥰
awww thank you !!🥺
Maybe life is just supposed to be hard. In its own way though. Not in the way it’s perceived to be by the world we live in today
This video is not denying that there might be hard things happening in life, but in my opinion it’s the way you respond to these “hard” things in your life that really counts. The soft life is a healthier response, in my opinion, to every day life stressors.
Learn to be logical and also just focus on a disciplined response alot of the time.
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