This vid answers a question someone left in the comments about how I could be 47 years old and had never experienced Gender Dysphoria at any point before that.
I'm 57,I'm 3 yes into my transition, an having been a child of the 60s,,70s,I know what you mean about having to learn how to hide an blend in,,I grew up in a very strict Baptist home.an back then,you always heard," what would the Neighbors say", so I can very much so relate to how things went in your life,so happy for you,that you were able to find your true self,an have the courage to transition as I have,later in life,,hold on sister,we'll get there!!
I understand how you feel, I did 22 years with the US Army, I was a police officer, a detective, and a master in my trade. did all those things that society asked of me. Now I'm doing what God wants me to do!
Thank you Donna and absolutely. I've had people tell me they'll never see me as anything other than male - the way God made me. LOL, I say, they're right. I'm Transgender - EXACTLY how God made me! I just was catching up and realized I haven't replied to a few comments that I missed. I just realized we follow each other on Twitter (@ecobodycare) ❤️
I know how you feel I spent much the same amount of time pushing it underground.As one old hen in my church said to me god loves you who ever you are.God bless Karen.
That is so awesome Lanae! It looks like we're at about the same timeline for transitioning too. Congrats! I'm definitely following your channel. It's a beautiful walk and I'm excited to be starting to connect with more people a little closer to my age :)
I'm trans , and 60 years old , I had my Srs 8 months ago ! So I know what you're talking about , I knew when I was 3 years old that I was different , and 13 when I found out what transsexual was , that's what they called it back in the 70s !
Thanks Paula. Congrats on having SRS. I just heard that my appointment for meeting with the only psychiatrist in SK that has the ability to sign off for SRS is a year away. I'm hoping that by the time everything is done, my SRS will be before I'm 50.
I look at it this way, if someone's way makes them happy and it doesn't effect others then what dose it matter if others like it or not. Perhaps if the world would realize the pain it causes to force people to conform to a certin idea of self. The problem is that most humans are selfish, its like you said about your first wife, "if she had a problem we had a problem but if I had a problem then it was not a problem." That's how most people are and if your different your punished for it. PS congrats for finally becoming the true you. I hope the world gives you nothing but good from here on out.
Thank you Veronica. We're finding so much support from people who have the same view as you...I only wish family members could have the same view and not see our relationship as an embarrassment to what people would think of them. (There's that selfishness) It's unfortunate that family are sometimes the least supportive...but I'm so happy that I have another 40 or more years to actually live the way I've always felt inside. I'm so much more content now. :)
Yes my church is very good with anyone who is different in anyway and will except you whoever you are.Had my latest decapaptyl injection today bloody hell does my butt and leg hurt.
So kelly, I was wondering have you had laser hair removal on your face? If so thoughts? What are your plans for surgery if any? How have your friends taken this? Gained / lost ? With all the changes you are seeing and being in to this point has your wife's support changed? Tks
Hey Brittany, I looked into the cost and it was $2000 so I bought a Silkn Flash n Go instead about 8 months ago. I've been using it (definitely not as intended) for about 8 months and my facial hair is about 50-60% gone. It's a slower but much cheaper approach...and you can control your own pain level. Surgery - can't happen soon enough. Here in Canada, there is only 1 location that does vaginoplasty and its about a 2 year wait list with many hoops to jump through in order for it to be covered by medi-care. Other than bottom surgery, I don't think I'll look at any others. Friends? Yeah, lost a few, but gained the respect of many others for always being authentic...and still being authentic - even through this change. As far as my wife, I really need to get her onto a video. She still continues to be my biggest fan and through the changes, I've become much more of a talker and emotional which makes it much easier to explain what I'm feeling and to listen - really listen to her. It's actually strengthened our relationship.
@@MrBhofff I set it on 5 and flash the same spot 2 and sometimes 3 times till you actually feel pain like a quick burn. I do my beard area in 1 direction then redo it at 90 degrees. I found that if you don't feel a bit of pain and actually get some bumps on your skin about 5 minutes after, it's not a strong enough zap to do anything. That's why Silkn' says "Not for use on men's faces". The laser intensity is so much lower than what gets done at a professional laser place to be sold for home use. I haven't had any side effects other than tender skin, bumps where the follicle got burned and a little redness. All of that goes away within a day or two and it sounds exactly like the side effects you get from an esthetician's laser.
Thanks Kelly! I'm 65 and discovered that I was transgender only 10 months ago and I started HRT about 4 months ago. So much of what you say resonates so strongly with my experience, albeit with many differences. I was raised by a single mother who was keen to ensure that I had positive male role models, including by sending me to an all-boys' school, and as a consequence I ended up not having any significant peer-aged contact with girls/women in order to recognise that gender might be an issue in my difficulties fitting in anywhere comfortably until I reached university, but by then I was so well indoctrinated in being male that I just kept trying to continue to play the role as well as I could while focusing on marriage, family, work, divorce, more work, and caring for my elderly mother until I eventually started to have time for myself and made the discovery while casually browsing UA-cam videos. My children, who all live interstate, are supportive but are worried that it might be a "phase" and are nervous about me progressing too quickly; they're not yet convinced its real. I may point them to this video as you express our trans identity so well. Thanks! (BTW, While I still haven't publicly "come out", the minister and a small group at my church are hugely supportive.)
Thank you Kenna for the wonderful and in-depth reply about your story. I have to laugh because according to society - and let me just define that: Healthy, spoon fed, cis heterosexuals without kids - Autism, LGBTQ+, and everything else you can think of is becoming rampant now and ALL of it isn't real - it's just a phase or a cry for attention. Sorry but the truth is, the world is more connected and open, and wonderful people like you and I have the opportunity to realize we're not alone in our thoughts. And other people's stories start to resemble our own. We're not crazy. It's not just a phase. The truth is, we live in a very diverse and wonderful world full of incredible, beautiful people who just want their live their lives authentically. I wish you all the best in your transition. I'm now at 15 months HRT and are so much more at peace than I've ever been in my entire life.
@@changinggender5293 Yes Kelly, once we recognise our true gender its startlingly clear and obvious to us, but it can take a bit longer for those around us to reach that point. I can understand my kids' position as I have had "phases" in the past, but in hindsight they have merely been futile attempts to find my true self. Coming out in my hugely complex work environment is not really feasible but I'm thinking of retiring in a year or so, and that may give them the time they need to adjust. The HRT induced changes should be fairly well progressed by then and some top surgeries may be appropriate, along with full-time life as a woman, as opposed to the very part-time presentation now. Thanks again!
I'm 57,I'm 3 yes into my transition, an having been a child of the 60s,,70s,I know what you mean about having to learn how to hide an blend in,,I grew up in a very strict Baptist home.an back then,you always heard," what would the Neighbors say", so I can very much so relate to how things went in your life,so happy for you,that you were able to find your true self,an have the courage to transition as I have,later in life,,hold on sister,we'll get there!!
Thank you. I wish you all the best in your journey as well. ❤️
I started at 56. I can relate to almost everything you've talked about. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you Kim. Wishing you all the best in your journey :)
Thank you so much for sharing this video. I am 75 years old and struggled with this since I was 6 years old.
I understand how you feel, I did 22 years with the US Army, I was a police officer, a detective, and a master in my trade. did all those things that society asked of me. Now I'm doing what God wants me to do!
Thank you Donna and absolutely. I've had people tell me they'll never see me as anything other than male - the way God made me. LOL, I say, they're right. I'm Transgender - EXACTLY how God made me! I just was catching up and realized I haven't replied to a few comments that I missed. I just realized we follow each other on Twitter (@ecobodycare) ❤️
@@changinggender5293 Yes we do sister!!
God bless you for your courage and determination to reach out to others that are considering transition, no matter what age.
Thank you
I know how you feel I spent much the same amount of time pushing it underground.As one old hen in my church said to me god loves you who ever you are.God bless Karen.
You've got an awesome church family Karen :)
I'm 67 and I's six years in to my transition!
I loved your story. I started my journey last year at age 37.
That is so awesome Lanae! It looks like we're at about the same timeline for transitioning too. Congrats! I'm definitely following your channel. It's a beautiful walk and I'm excited to be starting to connect with more people a little closer to my age :)
Thank you so much for this video it so resonates with my experience
I'm trans , and 60 years old , I had my Srs 8 months ago ! So I know what you're talking about , I knew when I was 3 years old that I was different , and 13 when I found out what transsexual was , that's what they called it back in the 70s !
Thanks Paula. Congrats on having SRS. I just heard that my appointment for meeting with the only psychiatrist in SK that has the ability to sign off for SRS is a year away. I'm hoping that by the time everything is done, my SRS will be before I'm 50.
omg i am the same age and so can relate. You are beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you :)
Very informative having a slightly more mature person describing their experience of being trans.
God bless and prayers
I look at it this way, if someone's way makes
them happy and it doesn't effect others then what dose it matter if others like
it or not. Perhaps if the world would realize the pain it causes to force people
to conform to a certin idea of self. The problem is that most humans are
selfish, its like you said about your first wife, "if she had a problem we had a
problem but if I had a problem then it was not a problem." That's how most
people are and if your different your punished for it. PS congrats for finally becoming the true you. I hope the world gives you nothing but good from here on out.
Thank you Veronica. We're finding so much support from people who have the same view as you...I only wish family members could have the same view and not see our relationship as an embarrassment to what people would think of them. (There's that selfishness) It's unfortunate that family are sometimes the least supportive...but I'm so happy that I have another 40 or more years to actually live the way I've always felt inside. I'm so much more content now. :)
Yes my church is very good with anyone who is different in anyway and will except you whoever you are.Had my latest decapaptyl injection today bloody hell does my butt and leg hurt.
So kelly, I was wondering have you had laser hair removal on your face? If so thoughts? What are your plans for surgery if any?
How have your friends taken this?
Gained / lost ?
With all the changes you are seeing and being in to this point has your wife's support changed?
Tks
Hey Brittany, I looked into the cost and it was $2000 so I bought a Silkn Flash n Go instead about 8 months ago. I've been using it (definitely not as intended) for about 8 months and my facial hair is about 50-60% gone. It's a slower but much cheaper approach...and you can control your own pain level. Surgery - can't happen soon enough. Here in Canada, there is only 1 location that does vaginoplasty and its about a 2 year wait list with many hoops to jump through in order for it to be covered by medi-care. Other than bottom surgery, I don't think I'll look at any others. Friends? Yeah, lost a few, but gained the respect of many others for always being authentic...and still being authentic - even through this change. As far as my wife, I really need to get her onto a video. She still continues to be my biggest fan and through the changes, I've become much more of a talker and emotional which makes it much easier to explain what I'm feeling and to listen - really listen to her. It's actually strengthened our relationship.
@@changinggender5293 so I have the flash and go and been using once a week on face little to no results, what is not as intended and any side effects?
@@MrBhofff I set it on 5 and flash the same spot 2 and sometimes 3 times till you actually feel pain like a quick burn. I do my beard area in 1 direction then redo it at 90 degrees. I found that if you don't feel a bit of pain and actually get some bumps on your skin about 5 minutes after, it's not a strong enough zap to do anything. That's why Silkn' says "Not for use on men's faces". The laser intensity is so much lower than what gets done at a professional laser place to be sold for home use. I haven't had any side effects other than tender skin, bumps where the follicle got burned and a little redness. All of that goes away within a day or two and it sounds exactly like the side effects you get from an esthetician's laser.
@@changinggender5293 Thank you for your answers. And I am so happy for you and your support that you have.
Thanks Kelly! I'm 65 and discovered that I was transgender only 10 months ago and I started HRT about 4 months ago. So much of what you say resonates so strongly with my experience, albeit with many differences. I was raised by a single mother who was keen to ensure that I had positive male role models, including by sending me to an all-boys' school, and as a consequence I ended up not having any significant peer-aged contact with girls/women in order to recognise that gender might be an issue in my difficulties fitting in anywhere comfortably until I reached university, but by then I was so well indoctrinated in being male that I just kept trying to continue to play the role as well as I could while focusing on marriage, family, work, divorce, more work, and caring for my elderly mother until I eventually started to have time for myself and made the discovery while casually browsing UA-cam videos. My children, who all live interstate, are supportive but are worried that it might be a "phase" and are nervous about me progressing too quickly; they're not yet convinced its real. I may point them to this video as you express our trans identity so well. Thanks!
(BTW, While I still haven't publicly "come out", the minister and a small group at my church are hugely supportive.)
Thank you Kenna for the wonderful and in-depth reply about your story. I have to laugh because according to society - and let me just define that: Healthy, spoon fed, cis heterosexuals without kids - Autism, LGBTQ+, and everything else you can think of is becoming rampant now and ALL of it isn't real - it's just a phase or a cry for attention. Sorry but the truth is, the world is more connected and open, and wonderful people like you and I have the opportunity to realize we're not alone in our thoughts. And other people's stories start to resemble our own. We're not crazy. It's not just a phase. The truth is, we live in a very diverse and wonderful world full of incredible, beautiful people who just want their live their lives authentically. I wish you all the best in your transition. I'm now at 15 months HRT and are so much more at peace than I've ever been in my entire life.
@@changinggender5293 Yes Kelly, once we recognise our true gender its startlingly clear and obvious to us, but it can take a bit longer for those around us to reach that point. I can understand my kids' position as I have had "phases" in the past, but in hindsight they have merely been futile attempts to find my true self. Coming out in my hugely complex work environment is not really feasible but I'm thinking of retiring in a year or so, and that may give them the time they need to adjust. The HRT induced changes should be fairly well progressed by then and some top surgeries may be appropriate, along with full-time life as a woman, as opposed to the very part-time presentation now. Thanks again!