It's good advice, I just don't want to date someone, like a guy, attracted to me because I'm someone who is/has, transitioned. Like.... I don't want someone attracted to me because of one aspect of sex traits, like my she'nis. However, there's some who do. There's some who want to top their boyfriend or whatever, all the power to them. Just as valid. Tbh, if I was into some gay'ish sex, where I use my genitalia, I would date a gay dude. I would date a gay dude over a straight guy almost any day, because they'd also be like my friend. I wouldn't have to cater to them as because I'm female. It probably won't change until after bottom surgery.
Mathilda I am transwomen like you, I am from Saudi Arabia, you cant imagine how much I loved you and I loved watch your video, as for dating, I thing I shouldn't tell him/her, first I should talk with him/her on cam video, then met him/her in public place, after that try to ask him/her opinion about trans people, if he/she said no way to met trans people then try to avoid him/her, if said ok that's fine to tell him/her that you are trans, because if you told him/her right away they may became aggressive to you.
@@Mir1f it may be, they will simply become aggressive towards you, regardless of when you tell them. Or, they might want to date someone who's easy to control or manipulate, who'll take abuse and come crawling back, because you're an outcast.
I have never been a big dater. I wasn't big on dating before I started transitioning and I'm still not a big dater now. If I get myself out there, I plan to tell women of my trans status early on. That'll help me weed out the crap to get to the good women. As for chasers, I don't know how many lesbian, bi, and pan girls are chasers vs. the ladies who really want to get to know a trans girl. Everything I've heard about chasers has always been about men who want to hook up with a trans girl for the experience.
@@hawkeyemihawkgettingmoneylord So you want me to not date cis women? I don't give a shit whether a woman is cis or also trans. I'd date her either way.
@@DarDarBinks1986 I mean if you date a regular women you would kinda be stopping her from having her own kids wouldn't you? Wouldn't dating someone of your own. Life style makes things easier?
@@hawkeyemihawkgettingmoneylord Don't say "regular" when you really mean "cis". We trans women are as regular as cis women, just misidentified at birth. And not all cis women can have kids of their own. Infertility was still a thing last time I checked. There are cis women who've had to have their wombs/ovaries removed due to cancer. And what about mothers who foster or adopt? Are they not "regular" women?
Hello Mathilda I am also a trans woman and I am 37 years old. I came out about a year and a half ago and I am going through the legal process to find my true identity, which unfortunately is a very long and difficult process in Iran. Anyway, I wanted to thank you for helping me not waste my time anymore. I hope you are always happy and smiling. with love from Iran.
Mathilda, you are an amazing person and a true inspiration ❤ your videos have helped me solidify how I feel about my own gender identity and they've taken away a lot of my anxieties about the subject of surgeries and becoming the woman I was supposed to be. Thank you so much for being you 💗
Number 3: be in public setting. Do not go to the stranger's (guy's) house. Women(cis and trans) must follow this. I made this mistake. It was a bad idea.
Your parents raised you just perfectly they raised you to be very loving compassionate and caring for others and you should show it and I love that about you you are a terrific online friend and would love to meet you one day if ever in person sincerely happy to meet you Danielle Pitmon
@@jvo1464 no you’ll never be like me I was born with a female brain and I would’ve been having gender dysphoria ever since I was a young child so officially under psychiatric and medical I am female and you’ll never get a chance to go out with a girl like me either because most trans women don’t mess with transforms like you tell by one more comment and I will be blocking you it was supposed to say trans phobic but this case I change it to trans phobic people like you and I invite you to research about trans gender individuals especially trans females and you will find a lot of information that actually is true and factual about how our lives are and what we go through all the time then if you do want to send a reply let it be an apology for being an asshole
Absolutely correct. Be honest and straightforward about being trans as early as possible. Because, as you said, you don't want to waste your or other people's time.
If the context is romantic / sexual pursuit (IE: not casual social interactions) - During the very first conversation and no longer than three minutes in. The longer you lead the man on, the probability of violence or retaliation goes up exponentially.
Absolutely correct! I have so much respect for you, so many people make videos on tiktok especially about how their date doesn't know they're trans like it's funny or something. Absolutley be safe when you yell somebody but informed consent applies here as well. Just because a man or woman isn't interested in dating somebody who is trans doesn't mean they're transphobic its called preference and they deserve the respect to being fully informed. 👏 I'm glad you see that and tell this information to people because it really bothers me how many people I see joke about it. If you tell somebody you're trans and they aren't interested, nothing will change that and they're not the one for you. On to the next one. Better than lying and having it come out, which is will and causing damage to them or risking getting hurt yourself.
Hey mathilda hope your well? Loved the live cast from the other day and it was lovely talking to you on there, again thankyou for answering my questions 😊 just about to sit and watch this one, love from the uk xxx
Many will say you're beautiful and that enables you to get away with it from the start, but this is the way to go. I've seen other beautiful transgender women (UA-cam video) who wait till the very end. IMO, as a straight male, I would appreciate hearing it from the start. I've never dated a transgender woman, but if I'm attracted to a woman, biology wouldn't stop me from dating her.
Your safety tips are valid for anyone meeting face to face with someone they met online. Being trans gender simply adds another factor to an already risky activity. It's too bad that there are predators out there at all.
Normally men can tell the difference between a biological woman and a fake woman. However I had seen trans who look very feminine and attractive but once I find out they are trans then that totally put me off as a straight guy. Basically sometimes men can really confuse a man for a real woman, so to avoid a very bad experience if a guy ask a trans woman out, he should always let the guy know that he is trans first rather than later.
Umm… tell immediately, it should be an ice breaker. Not doing so is selfish. It’s like buying a box of lucky charms, bring it home and then finding out that it’s full of Frosted Flakes.
Hello. I'm a cis male who prefer trans women over cis women. I admire and adore trans women. But no success with dating sites. Is there a website exclusively for trans women and men attracted to them? Thanks
I would say tell from early to very early. If you met that person in real life and got invited to a date you should say it I would say after date, not more. (Especially If you are not sure that reaction would be super crazy and violent). If you know person and know for a long time and you speak before than I would suggest to at least drop the hint before the date. Like do you know that I am trans or something like that. In dating apps, I would suggest to say it sooner, before you met. It could be first 10-20 minutes of talking or at max to the second day if first interaction was super short. I would suggest to not inform people you have no intention of meeting and going to a date, especially if you are not in safe a country and you are not completely came up and you afraid information getting spread too much before you are comfortable with it. But do not keep the their hope alive and say that you are not interested in that case. It would be my advice. What do you think? The longer you wait the more potential of outburst if particular person is not into it.
Another tip: If you are trans and still not sure about what to do with your external/internal life while in your forties, just say what you are going through anyways and careful with dating women in their thirties (most of us are looking for a long-term partner and don't want to waste any time). A couple of years ago, I met this 40-year-old man that I really liked who told me he wanted a long-term relationship. After a couple of dates, we fell madly in love. While we were talking about his ex, it comes up that they broke up because he told her that he felt gender fluid back then. We talked about it a lot, and he told me that he haven't had disforia, he just felt 50-50 female/male. I was quite surprised but I hate the simplistic binary categorization, so we just went on okay. After a few months, surprise surprise: he tells me that his feminine part is becoming stronger and stronger. Aaand here we are today, he is starting his hormones and changes, and I moved out, because a) I was in love with the same person that he wants to change, and I am not happy about it b) I don't love girls and don't want a life relationship with them and c) sex was very important between us and he is basically telling me that it's secondary in his life now. Cool. So.... I am pretty angry, incredibly disappointed, and I feel let down right now because he didn't take care of me, my feelings and our age context at all. I really thought we were the real deal, I honestly thought we may have gotten married one day (never felt like that before and I am in my mid thirties). What a naive c*nt I was! We met two years ago on T., so he was actively looking for a new relationship. Consideration for others = zero if you want to date women in their thirties and you are not sure about your fuc*ing identity. I honestly don't know what to say or do, and I can't even get angry at him because the poor thing needs to figure out how to make these many changes and he's going through a lot already. I just packed my stuff and said goodbye. The lesson I learned from this? Men, trans men, trans women, other women, etc...it doesn't matter. Nobody cares about you, and they will take everything you are able to give them and then trash you no matter what. Fu*k sensitivity, fu*k empathy. That's the world we live in right now. So, bloody learn to treat yourself well enough, do it all by yourself, because nobody will take care of you. They will tell you that they will, they will look at you so intensely and authentically, but... They will be lying. Happy to see that everyone has the freedom to find themselves and be who they truly are, I am honestly pleased, but please don't lie and respect women in their thirties, don't come out to the same people that want your kids. Everyone has the right to feel happy, just don't be 100% egoistic and egocentric. Thanks.
this comment was in response to your "i hate being transgender" video: i'm a cis hetero man and i haven't visited your channel in sometime. it worries me to hear about your intermittent struggles with dysphoria. it worries me for you and it worries me that it seems to affect lots of trans women. objectively speaking, you were lucky among ALL PEOPLE that you were born and grew into a physically attractive PERSON... i can't pretend that isn't a thing - a thing that transcends the genitals we are born with. yes you are pretty but what is more attractive to me about you is your unmistakable womanhood - not something that can be conveyed by simply a pretty face... and it's not something one can fake. you have all the little tell-tale signs (that register largely in my SUBCONSCIOUS) that show me (even in just a random youtube video) who you are. and i gotta tell you - those little signals that flow from you so EFFORTLESSLY - they absolutely delight me. i'm a man, so what else should i expect! :D you are being who you are and that makes the real difference. physical beauty will not last forever but the essence of a woman is and will ALWAYS be there. in you, that essence is so completely obvious - and to me, so completely lovely. oh and by the way - YOU ARE AN INTELLIGENT, WELL SPOKEN (in a 2nd language!) WOMAN. now what's not to love about that! take care Mathilda
Im so glad I have a boyfriend who loves me for who I am although it kinda grinds my gears when people call us gay but i can understand why they think that cuz im not on HRT yet also they harass him because i dont have bottom surgery yet
@@nilimachakraborty2883 the genitals do not define your identity. sex and gender are different. you are very ignorant.I love how you put biology to prove your point. too bad most gays don't want to be with trans women unfortunately. she definitely didn't ask your opinion of a trans woman who judges another trans person. trans women are women. accept it and move on. bisexuality also exists 💕💕🤷♂️💁♀️
@@alyalenox2129 thank you sis to open my eyes, I's literally so mean and was being bi-exclutionary trans feminist, your comment will definitely help me out❤️ Infenity numbers of Blessings ❤️❤️❤️
well you both are gay since you are both biologically males. nothing wrong with being gay. im sorry that people harass him thats sad him being gay doesnt concern anyone so they shouldnt be doing that.
You asked when should trans person tell they are trans, especially when dating someone. Here is my take. When meeting someone you should casually ask what they think about "those LGTB people"? Or like ask what they think about trans people. Well, just pretend you are just casually curiois about the topic.
the problem with transfable is if the only people who go there are looking for a trans person/trans it kinda creates either a trans/trans only app (which is honestly good for many) but the issue is I bet it'll be full of chasers
First ...I love your name Mathilda and I have a soft spot for females from Sweden. Appears I have a soft spot for beautiful trans women too. I have seen many of your vids and can tell you're very special. BTW ...I have a soft spot for Volvo's too (the only car I will own)
No. Lots of people are on HRT for quite some time before surgery. That’s standard treatment. Some folks choose to never have surgery and HRT is all they want. It depends. If you have any other questions, just ask.
@Mira F. If you see yourself as a trans woman and do not want to have the irreversible impacts that testosterone has on the body which are neigh impossible to correct later, then it is a good idea. It is the current standard of care. WPATH SOC 7. Certainly there are negative side effects in some cases. You can look them up. Lupron is what is normally prescribed. I would talk to a doctor about this immediately. At 16 you don’t have a lot of time to sort this out while It still matters. Ideally this is done earlier at 13 when the first signs of puberty occur, which I realize is only really possible if your family is trans positive and in a position to help.
@Mira F. I can empathize with the situation. My wife is a trans woman. My father disowned me for being bisexual. We never spoke again. I get it. It isn’t easy, but it’s also not easy to go through life as a woman with a fully masculinized body. Parents are much more receptive to a Doctor telling them this, rather than you. That’s your best route. Thankfully insurance will generally pick up the costs of the medication like any other prescription. I would advise not trying to self medicate with things you find over the internet. Happy to answer any questions you have and hang in there.
I think any app that allows ‘women looking for women’ will be fine. My one trans friend is attracted to women in general and has had some luck on good ol’ POF or Facebook dating. OkCupid is pretty welcoming to all as well. She has met cis and trans. It’s way easier to find other women as a trans women cause they are more open minded in general. Especially if they are LGBT too.
I think if it’s not something you’re hiding you should tell someone right away instead of waiting. People end up feeling tricked if they aren’t told initially. They might play along but it sets up everyone for crushing disappointment and builds anti-trans sentiment with people who might not have any otherwise.
Greetings; may I ask, about what's your take on dating trans guys? Or is it a specific kind of person trans women feel more attracted to? Hope yu don't mind me asking. Thanx in advance
Do you have any trans plumbers or electricians or general contractors that you've used? I really find a hard time finding non cismale workers to help with a Reno and if you can point me in a more inclusive direction I think this will really help other first time home owners.
I am so happy for you that everything is well for you. The good lord has made up for his mistake and made you a beautiful woman that your originally was meant to be. I t's awesome that you face all the adversity that you have been through and that you educate others what to expect. Mathilda you are a very special person and never forget that.
You look lovely as usual. I mostly interesting in women, so do not have useful tips be for me, some of tips were good tho, especially 7 and 8, got so many rejections. I dated another trans woman that just wanted to be friends, which was probably hurt the most since she and I were flirting a lot at the start of dating. A guy has to be really amazing to attract me. I say it right away too. I am pansexual tho. It is really difficult to find other people that are either pansexual or bi. I see no reason ´writing to straight men. So it is not easy to find dates. I do criticize this video for being very straight normative, not all trans woman are straight, would love that you at least would link to a trans woman with other dating tips or other dating apps for trans women. Sadly this a little bit like other trans woman videos, it sets the standard that trans woman has to pass perfectly, would love makeup and would all be straight. You can change who you are Matilda, but I would love it if you co-op trans women are different from yourself. I hesitate to transition since I am not the typical trans woman, I do not really do that much makeup, or pass that well. The main thing was that I was miserable in my old male body, and want to be authentic to me as a trans woman. I am so much happier today. I do not want to make you sad or angry and could direct this criticism to many other trans women UA-camrs. Just like every other group, we are not a homogenous group, we are all different. Just some thoughts from a fellow Swedish trans woman. Kind Regards // Jackie
Not to be mean or harsh but have you ever thought about putting up your own videos on the subject I always pays to have someone that can put up their own opinions and thoughts on this particular issue even though I think there may be others out there that have been posting on this topic and I hope you have a great day and I would love to visit or move to Sweden myself but there are situations that prevent that at this time
Do you ahve any tips to stop being scared? I dint pass that much and its really obvious I was born a guy and th e one time I went out looking liek myself I was instantly called names and threatened so I know I dont pass
@ကŕķľငမစ ညŕôခဘိ listen , whatever u are saying is ur opinion okay , ur thought , let me clear u one thing she is woman and I'm really proud of her . If u dont know somebody's pain then be quite okay . Be happy in ur own world ,respect ur ownself and as well as others also
@ကŕķľငမစ ညŕôခဘိ ooo hello , be take care of urself , dont worry about me, I will pray to god for u ,he will give u brain,and some human feelings also . By ur statement u proved that how narrow minded u are . Dude this is 20 century😏 in which world u are living ,people are broading their intellect and acceptance also . live ur life happily & dont interfere on others .
You should ADVERTISE that you are a trans in your profile. That's when you should tell them. You would EXPECT the person YOU are looking to date to disclose anything that might be "weird" right away right? So, why would you not convey the same respect?
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It's good advice, I just don't want to date someone, like a guy, attracted to me because I'm someone who is/has, transitioned. Like.... I don't want someone attracted to me because of one aspect of sex traits, like my she'nis.
However, there's some who do. There's some who want to top their boyfriend or whatever, all the power to them. Just as valid.
Tbh, if I was into some gay'ish sex, where I use my genitalia, I would date a gay dude. I would date a gay dude over a straight guy almost any day, because they'd also be like my friend. I wouldn't have to cater to them as because I'm female.
It probably won't change until after bottom surgery.
You look fab girl! Your lucky to have transitioned early on in life, and to have met your boyfriend, who seems like a fantastic guy. Great vlog!
Mathilda I am transwomen like you, I am from Saudi Arabia, you cant imagine how much I loved you and I loved watch your video, as for dating, I thing I shouldn't tell him/her, first I should talk with him/her on cam video, then met him/her in public place, after that try to ask him/her opinion about trans people, if he/she said no way to met trans people then try to avoid him/her, if said ok that's fine to tell him/her that you are trans, because if you told him/her right away they may became aggressive to you.
@@Mir1f it may be, they will simply become aggressive towards you, regardless of when you tell them. Or, they might want to date someone who's easy to control or manipulate, who'll take abuse and come crawling back, because you're an outcast.
Gonna check this app out. Thanks for posting it. I hope it's not full of fake profiles just like all the other dating apps
Mathilda, you are such a genuinely kind person. I love how you build people up. You look especially pretty today too!
I have never been a big dater. I wasn't big on dating before I started transitioning and I'm still not a big dater now. If I get myself out there, I plan to tell women of my trans status early on. That'll help me weed out the crap to get to the good women. As for chasers, I don't know how many lesbian, bi, and pan girls are chasers vs. the ladies who really want to get to know a trans girl. Everything I've heard about chasers has always been about men who want to hook up with a trans girl for the experience.
Shouldn't you be dating others trans people
@@hawkeyemihawkgettingmoneylord So you want me to not date cis women? I don't give a shit whether a woman is cis or also trans. I'd date her either way.
@@DarDarBinks1986 I mean if you date a regular women you would kinda be stopping her from having her own kids wouldn't you? Wouldn't dating someone of your own. Life style makes things easier?
@@hawkeyemihawkgettingmoneylord Don't say "regular" when you really mean "cis". We trans women are as regular as cis women, just misidentified at birth. And not all cis women can have kids of their own. Infertility was still a thing last time I checked. There are cis women who've had to have their wombs/ovaries removed due to cancer. And what about mothers who foster or adopt? Are they not "regular" women?
@@DarDarBinks1986 regular means normal right? And 80% of of people are straight so yea I will say normal because you guys are in the minority.
Tell it before the first date!! Thais disgusting to waste someone's time and money
That don’t happen too often
Hello Mathilda
I am also a trans woman and I am 37 years old. I came out about a year and a half ago and I am going through the legal process to find my true identity, which unfortunately is a very long and difficult process in Iran. Anyway, I wanted to thank you for helping me not waste my time anymore.
I hope you are always happy and smiling. with love from Iran.
Wow, I can’t even imagine how difficult that must be there in Iran. Can you elaborate?
So are you a woman or not?
@@jessiejade5616 He's not a woman
@@jessiejade5616 She is a woman.
@@2345mat She is a woman.
Mathilda, you are an amazing person and a true inspiration ❤ your videos have helped me solidify how I feel about my own gender identity and they've taken away a lot of my anxieties about the subject of surgeries and becoming the woman I was supposed to be. Thank you so much for being you 💗
He should not be a role model for you
Incredible
The fact that it can be dangerous to tell your date that you are trans is one of the most upsetting things I've ever heard.
yeah it's scary :(
@@graceykinz
Scary and lowers my faith in humanity a little bit.
@@AndrewD8Red well my faith in humanity is raised a little bit by seeing people like you!
@@graceykinz
D'aww, shucks 😊
Trans should always reveal that before meeting in person
Number 3: be in public setting.
Do not go to the stranger's (guy's) house.
Women(cis and trans) must follow this. I made this mistake. It was a bad idea.
I've got a 4 year old daughter and knowing how goddamned awful guys can be makes me worried about what she'll have to put up with in the future.
Debolina, are U Transwoman too?
Do U think, that i as a Transgirl now, should be more careful with Guys now?
@@AriaPlejadiana What does your comment mean?
@@seductiveraven4895 I was curious If this advice from Debolina counts for me AS a "New Girl" to... I never was scared from Man...
@@AriaPlejadiana Oh ok
Your parents raised you just perfectly they raised you to be very loving compassionate and caring for others and you should show it and I love that about you you are a terrific online friend and would love to meet you one day if ever in person sincerely happy to meet you Danielle Pitmon
@@jvo1464 are you human are you animal are you male I don’t know I would sure like to know but I don’t care you don’t exist to me
@@jvo1464 no you’ll never be like me I was born with a female brain and I would’ve been having gender dysphoria ever since I was a young child so officially under psychiatric and medical I am female and you’ll never get a chance to go out with a girl like me either because most trans women don’t mess with transforms like you tell by one more comment and I will be blocking you it was supposed to say trans phobic but this case I change it to trans phobic people like you and I invite you to research about trans gender individuals especially trans females and you will find a lot of information that actually is true and factual about how our lives are and what we go through all the time then if you do want to send a reply let it be an apology for being an asshole
@@jvo1464 that wasn't necessary
Absolutely correct. Be honest and straightforward about being trans as early as possible. Because, as you said, you don't want to waste your or other people's time.
When should you tell? How about right from the beginning
It so unfortunate that trans women have to go through so much but I think telling them over a text or a phone call is just the best way
Very wise.
Nahh tell them first sentence foh.
If the context is romantic / sexual pursuit (IE: not casual social interactions) - During the very first conversation and no longer than three minutes in. The longer you lead the man on, the probability of violence or retaliation goes up exponentially.
Hi Mathilda. I just wanted to say that you are literally saving lives by posting these kinds of videos. Thank you for everything.
How is that saving?
First and I love your hair and makeup girl looking cutie as always 😘😘😘😘😘
Absolutely correct! I have so much respect for you, so many people make videos on tiktok especially about how their date doesn't know they're trans like it's funny or something. Absolutley be safe when you yell somebody but informed consent applies here as well. Just because a man or woman isn't interested in dating somebody who is trans doesn't mean they're transphobic its called preference and they deserve the respect to being fully informed. 👏 I'm glad you see that and tell this information to people because it really bothers me how many people I see joke about it. If you tell somebody you're trans and they aren't interested, nothing will change that and they're not the one for you. On to the next one. Better than lying and having it come out, which is will and causing damage to them or risking getting hurt yourself.
Love your curls!😊 you look happy and I'm glad^^ stay safe girl
rocking that natural light
, lovely sun dress. kudos on the sponsorship
We’re did you go. ???? I HAD TO LOOK YOU UP. FACEBOOK STOPED SHOWINGS YOU FOR THE LAST THREE MONTHS AT LEAST. LOVE YOU
Hey mathilda hope your well? Loved the live cast from the other day and it was lovely talking to you on there, again thankyou for answering my questions 😊 just about to sit and watch this one, love from the uk xxx
I love your hair in this video keep it up girl 👍
I like on the video tips for the dating a transwomen with the experience, you're so pretty and wonderful advice and return the videos😍🥰💜💖👏✨
Many will say you're beautiful and that enables you to get away with it from the start, but this is the way to go. I've seen other beautiful transgender women (UA-cam video) who wait till the very end. IMO, as a straight male, I would appreciate hearing it from the start. I've never dated a transgender woman, but if I'm attracted to a woman, biology wouldn't stop me from dating her.
YOU ARE SO BRAVE. YOU AMDE ME ADMIT TO MYSELF THAT I'M TRANS BUT MY PARENTS SAY I SHOULD BE AT LEAT 10 TO MAKE THIS CHANGE. THEY SUCK
Your safety tips are valid for anyone meeting face to face with someone they met online. Being trans gender simply adds another factor to an already risky activity. It's too bad that there are predators out there at all.
Normally men can tell the difference between a biological woman and a fake woman. However I had seen trans who look very feminine and attractive but once I find out they are trans then that totally put me off as a straight guy. Basically sometimes men can really confuse a man for a real woman, so to avoid a very bad experience if a guy ask a trans woman out, he should always let the guy know that he is trans first rather than later.
i don't even have or want a relationship WHY AM I WATCHING THIS
Umm… tell immediately, it should be an ice breaker. Not doing so is selfish. It’s like buying a box of lucky charms, bring it home and then finding out that it’s full of Frosted Flakes.
Hello. I'm a cis male who prefer trans women over cis women. I admire and adore trans women. But no success with dating sites. Is there a website exclusively for trans women and men attracted to them? Thanks
I would say tell from early to very early.
If you met that person in real life and got invited to a date you should say it I would say after date, not more. (Especially If you are not sure that reaction would be super crazy and violent).
If you know person and know for a long time and you speak before than I would suggest to at least drop the hint before the date.
Like do you know that I am trans or something like that.
In dating apps, I would suggest to say it sooner, before you met. It could be first 10-20 minutes of talking or at max to the second day if first interaction was super short.
I would suggest to not inform people you have no intention of meeting and going to a date, especially if you are not in safe a country and you are not completely came up and you afraid information getting spread too much before you are comfortable with it.
But do not keep the their hope alive and say that you are not interested in that case.
It would be my advice. What do you think?
The longer you wait the more potential of outburst if particular person is not into it.
Right ... As a straight man , if u surprise me on the bed
There will be consequences
Another tip: If you are trans and still not sure about what to do with your external/internal life while in your forties, just say what you are going through anyways and careful with dating women in their thirties (most of us are looking for a long-term partner and don't want to waste any time).
A couple of years ago, I met this 40-year-old man that I really liked who told me he wanted a long-term relationship. After a couple of dates, we fell madly in love.
While we were talking about his ex, it comes up that they broke up because he told her that he felt gender fluid back then. We talked about it a lot, and he told me that he haven't had disforia, he just felt 50-50 female/male. I was quite surprised but I hate the simplistic binary categorization, so we just went on okay.
After a few months, surprise surprise: he tells me that his feminine part is becoming stronger and stronger. Aaand here we are today, he is starting his hormones and changes, and I moved out, because a) I was in love with the same person that he wants to change, and I am not happy about it b) I don't love girls and don't want a life relationship with them and c) sex was very important between us and he is basically telling me that it's secondary in his life now. Cool.
So.... I am pretty angry, incredibly disappointed, and I feel let down right now because he didn't take care of me, my feelings and our age context at all.
I really thought we were the real deal, I honestly thought we may have gotten married one day (never felt like that before and I am in my mid thirties). What a naive c*nt I was!
We met two years ago on T., so he was actively looking for a new relationship. Consideration for others = zero if you want to date women in their thirties and you are not sure about your fuc*ing identity.
I honestly don't know what to say or do, and I can't even get angry at him because the poor thing needs to figure out how to make these many changes and he's going through a lot already. I just packed my stuff and said goodbye.
The lesson I learned from this? Men, trans men, trans women, other women, etc...it doesn't matter. Nobody cares about you, and they will take everything you are able to give them and then trash you no matter what. Fu*k sensitivity, fu*k empathy. That's the world we live in right now.
So, bloody learn to treat yourself well enough, do it all by yourself, because nobody will take care of you. They will tell you that they will, they will look at you so intensely and authentically, but... They will be lying.
Happy to see that everyone has the freedom to find themselves and be who they truly are, I am honestly pleased, but please don't lie and respect women in their thirties, don't come out to the same people that want your kids. Everyone has the right to feel happy, just don't be 100% egoistic and egocentric.
Thanks.
We all deserve to be loved no matter if you are trans or not, male or female it does not matter We alll deserve and need love.
You are so pretty and feminine. I would love to look like this.
Your hair looks amazing! 🥰 Take care.. ☺️
this comment was in response to your "i hate being transgender" video: i'm a cis hetero man and i haven't visited your channel in sometime. it worries me to hear about your intermittent struggles with dysphoria. it worries me for you and it worries me that it seems to affect lots of trans women. objectively speaking, you were lucky among ALL PEOPLE that you were born and grew into a physically attractive PERSON... i can't pretend that isn't a thing - a thing that transcends the genitals we are born with. yes you are pretty but what is more attractive to me about you is your unmistakable womanhood - not something that can be conveyed by simply a pretty face... and it's not something one can fake. you have all the little tell-tale signs (that register largely in my SUBCONSCIOUS) that show me (even in just a random youtube video) who you are. and i gotta tell you - those little signals that flow from you so EFFORTLESSLY - they absolutely delight me. i'm a man, so what else should i expect! :D you are being who you are and that makes the real difference. physical beauty will not last forever but the essence of a woman is and will ALWAYS be there. in you, that essence is so completely obvious - and to me, so completely lovely. oh and by the way - YOU ARE AN INTELLIGENT, WELL SPOKEN (in a 2nd language!) WOMAN. now what's not to love about that! take care Mathilda
Im so glad I have a boyfriend who loves me for who I am although it kinda grinds my gears when people call us gay but i can understand why they think that cuz im not on HRT yet also they harass him because i dont have bottom surgery yet
@@nilimachakraborty2883 the genitals do not define your identity. sex and gender are different. you are very ignorant.I love how you put biology to prove your point. too bad most gays don't want to be with trans women unfortunately. she definitely didn't ask your opinion of a trans woman who judges another trans person. trans women are women. accept it and move on. bisexuality also exists 💕💕🤷♂️💁♀️
@@alyalenox2129 thank you sis to open my eyes, I's literally so mean and was being bi-exclutionary trans feminist, your comment will definitely help me out❤️
Infenity numbers of Blessings ❤️❤️❤️
@@nilimachakraborty2883 ...........ok
well you both are gay since you are both biologically males. nothing wrong with being gay. im sorry that people harass him thats sad him being gay doesnt concern anyone so they shouldnt be doing that.
@Kali Evelynn they said they are trans though. a trans woman is still a biological male hence its gay.
Hi Mathilda!
Thanks for the uplifting tips! Love your dress,... very cute! Love and Hugs, Jackie 🌺💃
You asked when should trans person tell they are trans, especially when dating someone. Here is my take. When meeting someone you should casually ask what they think about "those LGTB people"? Or like ask what they think about trans people. Well, just pretend you are just casually curiois about the topic.
No tf, tell them n stop playing games
i wouldnt mind dating a lovely trans lady. love is love.
I watch these videos and feel even better about myself. I’m stupid but god I’m not this stupid
the problem with transfable is if the only people who go there are looking for a trans person/trans it kinda creates either a trans/trans only app (which is honestly good for many) but the issue is I bet it'll be full of chasers
Great video!
You should tell immediately. Before going on the first date. So that you can find a gay dude.
First ...I love your name Mathilda and I have a soft spot for females from Sweden. Appears I have a soft spot for beautiful trans women too. I have seen many of your vids and can tell you're very special. BTW ...I have a soft spot for Volvo's too (the only car I will own)
💘STUNNING💘
I love the hair color it's like you're a fantasy character.
Hi Matilda your boyfriend is a lucky person to have you as a partner if I dated I would to love to date a sweetheart like you love you Matilda
I have a question do you have to have gender reassignment surgery to take hrt? Sorry I’m just starting my transition
No. Lots of people are on HRT for quite some time before surgery. That’s standard treatment. Some folks choose to never have surgery and HRT is all they want. It depends. If you have any other questions, just ask.
@Mira F. If you see yourself as a trans woman and do not want to have the irreversible impacts that testosterone has on the body which are neigh impossible to correct later, then it is a good idea. It is the current standard of care. WPATH SOC 7. Certainly there are negative side effects in some cases. You can look them up. Lupron is what is normally prescribed. I would talk to a doctor about this immediately. At 16 you don’t have a lot of time to sort this out while It still matters. Ideally this is done earlier at 13 when the first signs of puberty occur, which I realize is only really possible if your family is trans positive and in a position to help.
@Mira F. I can empathize with the situation. My wife is a trans woman. My father disowned me for being bisexual. We never spoke again. I get it. It isn’t easy, but it’s also not easy to go through life as a woman with a fully masculinized body. Parents are much more receptive to a Doctor telling them this, rather than you. That’s your best route. Thankfully insurance will generally pick up the costs of the medication like any other prescription. I would advise not trying to self medicate with things you find over the internet. Happy to answer any questions you have and hang in there.
@Mira F. This is why it needs to be banned for children to get on this bandwagon
You tell me either right way or whenever you feel it is right to
Ew
Right away foh
Is there any app for trans women trying to date cis women/nonbinary people? Not men specifically like transfable?
I think any app that allows ‘women looking for women’ will be fine. My one trans friend is attracted to women in general and has had some luck on good ol’ POF or Facebook dating. OkCupid is pretty welcoming to all as well. She has met cis and trans. It’s way easier to find other women as a trans women cause they are more open minded in general. Especially if they are LGBT too.
Ah here is the reason why the trap slur exists
I think if it’s not something you’re hiding you should tell someone right away instead of waiting. People end up feeling tricked if they aren’t told initially. They might play along but it sets up everyone for crushing disappointment and builds anti-trans sentiment with people who might not have any otherwise.
You look stunning
I love your accent! I'd love a to have a trans gf.
Gay
awesome video
Tip number one: tell him you're trans by text or in a very public place.
Tip number two: proceed from there.
Greetings; may I ask, about what's your take on dating trans guys? Or is it a specific kind of person trans women feel more attracted to? Hope yu don't mind me asking. Thanx in advance
Do you have any trans plumbers or electricians or general contractors that you've used? I really find a hard time finding non cismale workers to help with a Reno and if you can point me in a more inclusive direction I think this will really help other first time home owners.
Why does it matter the sexuality of someone coming to fix your property 😂😂😂
If the guy feelin you doesn’t know within the first words you speak then ya guy is a dunce.
I am so happy for you that everything is well for you. The good lord has made up for his mistake and made you a beautiful woman that your originally was meant to be. I t's awesome that you face all the adversity that you have been through and that you educate others what to expect. Mathilda you are a very special person and never forget that.
MATHILDA!! How have you been?
That's sounds like me, you helped me understand what it means to be transgender.thank you 💖
You look lovely as usual. I mostly interesting in women, so do not have useful tips be for me, some of tips were good tho, especially 7 and 8, got so many rejections. I dated another trans woman that just wanted to be friends, which was probably hurt the most since she and I were flirting a lot at the start of dating.
A guy has to be really amazing to attract me. I say it right away too. I am pansexual tho. It is really difficult to find other people that are either pansexual or bi. I see no reason ´writing to straight men. So it is not easy to find dates. I do criticize this video for being very straight normative, not all trans woman are straight, would love that you at least would link to a trans woman with other dating tips or other dating apps for trans women. Sadly this a little bit like other trans woman videos, it sets the standard that trans woman has to pass perfectly, would love makeup and would all be straight. You can change who you are Matilda, but I would love it if you co-op trans women are different from yourself.
I hesitate to transition since I am not the typical trans woman, I do not really do that much makeup, or pass that well. The main thing was that I was miserable in my old male body, and want to be authentic to me as a trans woman. I am so much happier today. I do not want to make you sad or angry and could direct this criticism to many other trans women UA-camrs. Just like every other group, we are not a homogenous group, we are all different. Just some thoughts from a fellow Swedish trans woman. Kind Regards // Jackie
Not to be mean or harsh but have you ever thought about putting up your own videos on the subject I always pays to have someone that can put up their own opinions and thoughts on this particular issue even though I think there may be others out there that have been posting on this topic and I hope you have a great day and I would love to visit or move to Sweden myself but there are situations that prevent that at this time
Looks like a deepfake of a woman
TransFable work for pre trans mtf?
Yes!
Thx
Thank you, love the tips 😎 👍. chEErs!!!
Wow this hair color looks so good on you! 💖
I love the color, I'm a guy who loves trans women. I'm just not open about it
I meet people always in a public place,
So transfable isn’t for trans women who wants to date a girl? ;~;
No offense to anyone but there are so many girls out there who knows when they ask for a date what their past is.
Love your hair , is it close to your natural hair color🙌
Ashleigh 💖
How does the trans app compare to regular dating apps. Are trans men allowed to sign up for that app or is it restricted to trans women only.
Do you ahve any tips to stop being scared? I dint pass that much and its really obvious I was born a guy and th e one time I went out looking liek myself I was instantly called names and threatened so I know I dont pass
Great video M. I'll pass this on to a friends son. 👌
I want a girlfriend of trans experience or cis experience.
Girl, you look fabulous!
vous êtes vraiment quelqu'un de bien❤
Hey mathilda , omg u are looking gorgeous
@ကŕķľငမစ ညŕôခဘိ no
@ကŕķľငမစ ညŕôခဘိ listen , whatever u are saying is ur opinion okay , ur thought , let me clear u one thing she is woman and I'm really proud of her .
If u dont know somebody's pain then be quite okay . Be happy in ur own world ,respect ur ownself and as well as others also
@ကŕķľငမစ ညŕôခဘိ ooo hello , be take care of urself , dont worry about me, I will pray to god for u ,he will give u brain,and some human feelings also .
By ur statement u proved that how narrow minded u are . Dude this is 20 century😏 in which world u are living ,people are broading their intellect and acceptance also . live ur life happily & dont interfere on others .
@ကŕķľငမစ ညŕôခဘိ If u have problem then stay away ,simple , why are u taking to much strain bro by take care .
Right away
ive dated a couple of men and i have told no one im trans. im scared that they might act violently and hurt me. do you have any tips?
if your dating a dude and he doesn't know that is pretty messed up you need to let a GUY know that right off the bat
Find a good doctor because u r done for
The two sides of intercourse: You can't get pregnant (good) and you can't get pregnant (bad).
Thanks, Mathilda. :)
I mean... I know that, but where am I? WHERE AM I???
You be my fave frog, love you
I wish I could go out on a date
You are absolutely beautiful, stunning, and informative. Once I buy new car, I plan on buying the sticker. It's cute af!
Your beautiful and lively today.
You should ADVERTISE that you are a trans in your profile. That's when you should tell them.
You would EXPECT the person YOU are looking to date to disclose anything that might be "weird" right away right?
So, why would you not convey the same respect?
Hello Mathilda! Miss ya.
What you should change or fix is you speech impediment.
You tell them on day one. You can't start a relationship with a lie.
Day one is hardly a relationship! Trans has the right to tell when she feels comfortable to do so!
@@jan_2022
Are you saying you're okay with deception?
Hello Mathilda,good see you my dear,beautiful as always babe,Love ya 💐😘❤
Omg youre so pretty
Just commenting on the ads.Does no body know of ELECTROLOSYS.
YOU KNOW PERMANENT HAIR REMOVAL
ITS NOT reapply in 6 weeks.
Would be perfect if I wanted to or could. You can't get pregnant and I wouldn't get a disease or aids as likely.
Hmmm...maybe not!
Next time maybe! ❤️
Will there ever be something on the gaming channel?
Will you please suggest Some doctor because in India I don't think there is any good doctor is there
Trans fable is no more.The link goes no where.
First words on your BIO.
it sounds like you call yourself 'Mathildum'. I hope not 'cause you seem somewhat bright, if not helpful.
@Sienna Mobbs neato. thanks :)