Hello, I have death anxiety | Death Land #3
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- A lot of people are scared of death. But some people, including Leah, think about it an unhealthy amount. Thanatophobia is an irrational fear of death or the dying process. When we asked for your views, a lot of you said suffer from this too. So this week's episode of Death Land is dedicated to an open conversation about the issue
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#DeathLand #Thanatophobia #FearOfDeath #DeathAnxiety
what scares me the most is that it’s permanent, after you die it’s over forever and i can’t get over that
To solve this, you can embrace any religion which talks about afterlife or rebirth
I watch near death experiences and I am convinced there is another realm for us beyond. The more I watch, the more I am at peace.
@@nomadiavan6560 I really REALLY hope you're right! I obsess over it 24/7! Thinking there is something afterward, would make it so much easier in my mind!
@@ZekeThePlumber86 but what if that life sucks? punishment and stuff
it's so scary
I'm more afraid of afterlife than not having any consciousness
@@muniaisworthit Oh not me. I can certainly understand your outlook though. Just the idea of not existing forever, life being without meaning, utterly pointless. It's terrifying for me. I also can't stand the thought of truly evil people sharing the same fate as decent people.
My concern is that one day I'll die and all my memories would fade to oblivion. It gives me crippling anxiety. I cry. Get panic attacks. I don't want to stop existing!
I feel this very same thing and I just wanna live forever
Yeah sometimes I wish I never knew I was gonna die
Same, it Hurst to know that I just, stop.
Are u bangali?
@@jhonabraham8325 yes
I have total death anxiety. I worry about my own death and the death of my loved ones. I am a total hypochondriac. I worry about gong for tests, being sick, the moment of death itself and what happens after you die. I also have a phobia of car accidents and earthquakes. All of this worrying takes away from my enjoyment of life and I know this but still can’t stop the worrying/obsessing.
Is this a disease?.. I get the same thoughts like you
Me too
@@randomwhitedude9227 i have seen your comment on another video about death, we are the same, you are not alone, i just want to be normal and enjoy life, but somthing thats for sure is that this ANIXITY and depression is lying to you and me, it makes it look like its real and that there is no hope to be normal again, but there is belive me
@@randomwhitedude9227 i hope that you are over it
@@hosseinrahimi1051 it is comforting to know that we really are all in this together. I'm still struggling but keeping the faith that it wont always feel like this. I appreciate you and hope that all is well for your mental health as well. Thank you for taking the time to reply, truly means a lot to me.
Every time I deeply think about death, I cry. Talking about it upsets me and recently something has triggered my thoughts and I stay up late at night crying and almost being haunted by these thoughts. Everyday. All day. I want to stop worrying but so many different scenarios go through my head and I cant imagine. I dont want to imagine
Same
Kendal H I used to be like that a year ago, but then it suddenly stopped. I don’t know how or why. Now I’m not that scared I just want to live the most while I can and I still have a lot of time (probably)
@@kybet_2469 Do you have any clue as to how that may have happened? Some small clue?
how are you now ?
@@mism847 so listen, if there isn't an afterlife then it won't matter you will be dead. Everyone will die eventually and you just have to live life to the fullest. Have fun in your life, its not always about person wealth or blah blah blah, its about living life and enjoying it. If you dont enjoy it then change up your lifestyle
I too have this anxiety, and it is a large change from a few years ago when I was so depressed I did not want to live. All of a sudden now living is everything and my anxiety is triple what it used to be.
That's exactly what happened to me. I went from suicidal to wanting to live forever and fearing death. I wonder why?
Oh Lord, that’s exactly my case as well. What happened to us?
@@annapires991 wish i knew :/
This is so me
I'm also facing the exact same problem. I've been thinking non stop about the inevitability of death for the past three months and the anxiety has yet to even decrease
I have found my people
Yes. People who don’t want to die sure are rare. Also, I get hungry when I haven’t eaten for a certain period of time, but idk if that’s too weird.
You are definitely not alone.
Same!!
You are not alone 😭😭 , man ....
I felt so alone before. I’m glad that there are others out there that are like me.
I want to thank everyone in the comments, I always felt alone in my anxiety for death. i'm not sure what triggered it but for as long as i can remember its been a fear of mine.
Thank you as well. Knowing there are other people who feel somewhat similar makes me feel less lonely
My dad's death triggered my death anxiety. He passed from colon cancer and just seeing him go through the process of knowing he was dying and actually dying was traumatizing. It made me really think that we are all headed that route one day and I haven't been able to get over that ever since. It's been 3 years.
It’s not death itself, it’s the permanency of it all I guess. Death anxiety has caused me to research endlessly to figure out answers that no one truly knows. Ever since I had my first anxiety attack, it comes in waves. I worry about my health consistently and I know that doesn’t help. It’s horrible to deal with because I spend a lot of time worried about the what ifs instead of just enjoying life. Whoever is here, you’re not alone. I hope you live a long and prosperous life.
You WILL be okay!
I've started like this for a couple of days now. I hope it gets better but it just makes me cry. Thank you. You too. You're not alone either😃.
I don't fear death happening all the time, but I fear the looming presence of death. I fear the knowledge that we only have a set amount of time. I fear running out of time I guess. The idea of death itself isn't exactly scary, but being away from all that I know and love is. The idea that I don't know for certain if I will ever feel their love again is terrifying. I don't see death everywhere, I just know it's coming at some point and I am scared I won't be ready when it does.
Same here! Have you gotten past that anxiety now or still suffer?
this is the perfect way to describe how i've been feeling
It's part of life.... It's going to happen to all of us. Although the most upsetting thing to me was losing my pet dog.
This is EXACTLY how I feel
This is exactly the same thing with me. Do you have any techniques that could help you?
This is a serious epidemic that no one wants to discuss because it brings worries and doubt to regularly strong minded people . I thought about death every other minute for a time until I decided to live and be happy now if I die it's my time and I accept that.
I'd never seen a corpse until I traveled Asia.Death is always hidden away in our culture,which can't be a help in our acceptance of the fact.
Chris Jones interesting. Where did you see bodies in Asia?
@@chrisjones3587 How is death hidden in our culture? Never went to a funeral? Never been to a hospital? Never watched a movie?
@@maythesciencebewithyou i don't think that's what he meant
Same can be said about anti natalism
I'm not a psychiatrist, so take this as you will. My personal belief is that the fear of death is caused by the fear of the unknown. No fear greater than unknowing the inevitable. Thoughts?
Adam Magnusson You have to accept that and choose to be grateful for what you do know and what you can control. If you die you will be going wherever every loved one and person has gone before you, find peace in that even if that place is not an afterlife
@@bharper9422 you may not go anywhere!! No proof of anything.
Adam M I totally agree with you. My fear is caused by worrying about the unknown. What will happen? Is there an afterlife?
Barbara Hope omg. I’m crying right now, I can’t believe that someone else is as confused as me. That’s my same thought every night. Is there an afterlife? And the only thing I do to get overbthis anxiety is to listen to music or maybe talk to my parents and friends, I also sleep with my mother even though I’m a teen ager now. It just helps. Try it, I hope it works on you too and I hope we all get over this anxiety:)
Oreo Cookies Thank you for your kind words. I am 64 and this is a fear I have had most of my life. Some days I am able to accept that it is something I have no control over and I can be quite calm over it, and others I worry. Take care.
I can't even fall asleep because I'm scared I'll die in my sleep, I'm so scared of not existing anymore and I just dont know why.
you are gonna die from stress if you keep this up
@@talkingtomkingerwow so nice I'm sure you're a great person irl
Death is the price you pay for life.
I say this, trying to be all cool with it but I suffer with death anxiety.
Me too honestly and it’s very very bad
I know people die, but then I look at my parents and have the constant thought that I am going to be there when they die. Gives me so much anxiety when I'm inside my head. I guess watching these is giving me some strength
I understand this. I can’t imagine living without mine.
I understand you I looked at my mom laughing and smiling and I thought about this and it made me feel bad
Don’t worry . Please go through Cognitive behavioural therapy .
@attentioniswhatiwant Me too. My mother isn’t perfect but I truly do love her. I don’t want her to die 🥲😭.
I am glad I have seen this, I was beginning to think there was something wrong with me , it is a common thing
Me too. I didn't realize this was common.
I also thought I was the only that thought about death as much as I do.
@@neurodivergentbecca I realize its common but it still hits me when Im alone it dont stop
Me too
@neurodivergentbecca Likewise
If there's one thing that I've learned from this video is that, it is normal to fear death. But you don't have to keep living in that fear. This thought just gave me instant relief right now, I hope it helps you too. We can get through this together. Inshallah
I'll try to follow your advice
I'm tired of it consuming my life. All of my life.
@muniaisworthit Me too
@ellzedd4113 Same here
Literally currently crying atm. Found this video and i feel less alone
Me too ❤
literally me right now.
same :(
Same here
I have feared death since I was a child and my mother asked an elderly woman how she was doing and she responded with “ya know, I’m just waiting for the lights to turn off” and ever since then, that’s how I imagine death and it’s terrifying. I feel it mostly at night because I feel like my day escaped me and I didn’t make it special enough. I have terrible anxiety and panic attacks and I hit myself in order to feel something. I worry that my constant spiral about it will turn my partner away from me and and I can’t turn it off even if I start therapy.
I hope things get better for you, I'm also struggling with something similar. It's really hard to stay calm and sane
This is me! But I get the anxiety out of a fear of losing my loved ones and not knowing how I'd cope with that when it happens.
This is exactly what I have been going through since a year now.
I feel the same way
You are not alone.This happens with me too and its the worst kind of feeling.
Same here. I fear my death but also the death of my loved ones. I can’t fathom it every happening and knowing I’ll have to deal with it someday.
@@colleencolleen4425 I lost my little brother , boyfriend and my grandfather. It's not something easy to lose your loved ones. Its the hardest thing ever .. and till this day I fear death and i get panic attacks like everyday. It was hard for me to see the death of my little brother , I just can't explain it .
It's the lonleness aspect of death that scares me ,it's knowing that u will be suffering alone and no one would be able to help u ,it's the thought of leaving your loved ones in pain
Oh yes, I also feel this.
I’m not afraid of death or dying, I’m just afraid of how much time I have left.
its just so stressful to think about it. and i just don't want to think about it.
Honestly though the thought of an afterlife is peaceful, if it doesn't exist it won't matter because u will be dead and you won't know it. And honestly sometimes you just have to realize that your time is limited and that you should not waste it and be generous. We are all humans and we will all die sometime randomly and you can't stop it so just live.
I’m worried I won’t have lived enough with the time I do have, whenever that is
@@candyman6905 what? I'm 18
@@premursemike9774 that’s made me less worried just reading that you need to appreciate the little things in life 🙏
I have terrible death anxiety which makes me have second thoughts about going out at night because I feel like I will die.
Same here Jasmin. By the way, you have the exact same name as my cousin except that she has an e at the end lol.
My fear of death spiralled out of control after watching my grandpa die. It was very peaceful with all the family including me was there with him but just watching him go from alive one minute to completely lifeless the next shocked me and to this day a couple months on I’m still in shock. After he passed my mental health has just hit rock bottom with the fact that all I think about is the day I saw my grandpa die. The worst part was after he took his last breath I went to kiss him on his head and his eyes were slightly open, completely lifeless. I am now damaging my own health staying up all night worrying and deeping life and how completely useless I think it is. How do I stop it??!! It’s gradually getting worse and worse and I’m getting to the point now where I’m just not sleeping unless I get to the point I pass out from sleep deprivation. A lot of people may think I’m being over dramatic and I try not be but I’m scared to tell family, friends and I’m scared to even go see a therapist.
if you haven't gone to see a therapist i definitely recommend that you do. they're not there to judge or make you feel crazy, they're there cause they know people struggle and they'd like to help find solutions. definitely take advantage of your resources if it's still holding you in such a tight hold
Omg same! My grandpa passed away 2.5 months back. I've been getting panic attacks ever since. I am so scared of being lifeless.
How are you doing?
Have things gotten better for you?? im scared too
i feared death alot a year ago and still do sometimes now, but at some point in my life i just found it rather pointless to go thru my whole life being scared of death. id rather go thru my whole life happy and appreciate that ive been gifted the opportunity to have a life.
S crt i too
Thank you. I needed to hear that. I hope it helps me with my fear and anxiety because it hurts to think about.
I'm in therapy for health anxiety.
My therapist: I mean, you are going to die someday.
Me: How dare you lol
My therapist said the same thing in August while I was crying to her and after that session I never went back.
thats legit the exact same thing mine said to me lol
But its the truth:)
@@lukaskubik969 yea but you think we don’t know that already?
@@yourdaddysthickasf8770 I'm having the same fear..How are you now?
I have a massive fear of dying in my sleep. I have less of a fear of being killed by objects and far more of a fear of being failed by my own body.
Same
Have you overcome it
same here.
me too, i thought it was only me.
legit same, i dont avoid dangerous situations unlike most with death anxiety, i just am horrified of laying in my death bed and knowing i am doomed.
My dog was put to sleep last month too. I miss him everyday
Very sorry for your loss.
Mine was last year she was 14
My dog suddenly stopped eating completely from the last 5 days. He was having heart problems from last year and was on medication. Now, kidneys are also not functioning. He has very few days. I don't know how he will just vanish from this house. He won't ever come even if I call him. He won't come near me to have a bit of my food. All this is forcing me to think about the reality of life. One by one we're all gonna die.
I just had a panic attack about death and was scrolling and saw this video, weird and also wow
I feel so normal after watching this. God bless us all!
How do you stop thinking about it. It always happens at night before I go to sleep. It has happened since I was young and amplified recently when a death happened in the family. I think my brain almost malfunctions because it can’t find away of avoiding it.
SAME, it's so bad that i get scared to sleep
Regina Williams SAME!!
Me too, any tips?
Exactly, I realized the more stressed I am the more these thoughts come and like I CANT control it. It’s like I know I am going to die and I had feel the uncertainty of not knowing what will happen when we die. So unsettling and makes me paranoid
Hate^
It’s the unknown that gets me. Like where I’m i going and what happens with my mind, thoughts existence and will i see my family and my son again. If we knew the unknown i think it would give us less anxiety.
Don't be scared, death is part of our lives as hard as it is to accept it we all have to go through this step ... unfortunately....BUT til then we have to be happy about the fact that we are living ☺️
@@lomaxbozo thank you ❤️
I can't really say whether I'm afraid, but I might be thinking too much about it
Same here! To me, I interpret the fact of thinking about it, to maybe just being curious to how death is also just a natural part of life; this said worth thinking about.
Same and knowing that one day everything I know will disappear
Patryk Wieczorek im here if u need to talk man, if your overthinking like me you can talk about it and when u do it should help
@@TheControlledOpposition me too, its been severe the last 4 days, shaking, crying, unable to eat or sleep... :(
There was a time when I and my little brother saw a show in tv and it was talking about how everyone dies. We both realised that we will also die and we literally cried for hours. Ever since then I have been obsessed with things like cancer and terminal illness. I think about it all the time and when my aunt died of terminal cancer the anxiety got much worse.
I don't fear death but I fear where I am going after death inshallah in the paradise
Fa Al Ameen ya Rab
Amen habeebty
Ameen
Ameen
Amin
seriously thankyou for this video. i think about dying/death every hour. i have had near death experiences & lost loved ones. watching this video is this first time ive not felt alone or crazy having this intense fear. thankyou for everyone in this video who spoke so openly. this helped SO much.
If it helps, I go through the same. And all my thought process right now is centered around me going to sleep and not waking up.
This thought triggers panic attacks and it escalates.
So you're not alone and I hope you get out of it and live your life the fullest.
@@WAanik that’s exactly how it is for me too. the panic attacks are horrible , i hope they go away for you 💟 this made me feel less alone. thankyou , i seriously appreciate that , i hope you get out of it & live your life to the fullest too
@@lucymusic307 try religion
@@Aimed6 im spiritual not religious
@@lucymusic307 isn't both connected?
Were've been dead before we even existed so we're just going back to where we came from and are free of everthing and become one with the universe
Our selfish awareness cant take this
@chokispokis That’s true. Our self awareness is both a blessing and a curse at the same time.
I really am not particularly scared of my own death, I remember getting really freaked out about it when I was about 8, but my dad had a chat to me about death and ever since then I've been ok with the fact that I exist as a drop in the ocean of time. What does however terrify me, and really is the theme of all of my nightmares, is the fact that everyone I love is gonna die sooner or later, and the prospect of someone I love dying prematurely scares me more than anything else.
I have worked in palliative care in both the east and west. I gotta say in the east/ india people were a lot more relaxed and at peace near the end, almost smiling and joyous often (mother teresa, home for the dying, calcutta).
Whenever i think about death i just can believe anything is real
I've been suffering from death anxiety since 2008. It started when I was 17. Now I'm turning 32 and I still I think of death every second. I'm scared that I exist and the moment I die, I turn to nothing forever. These thoughts are killing me. 💔
I lost my dad to suicide, my stepdad to an aggressive brain tumor and then my little brother to a terrible crash. They all happened within a few years and I've had death anxiety ever since. I think about it every single day.
Gosh it helps to hear others talk about it though.
I lost my Dad and brother to suicide and I've never gotten over it.
I understand how you feel & I'm very sorry for the emotional pain you've had to endure.
It's scary that I can somehow imagine what not being conscious feels like, just nothing, forever. It terrifies me almost to the point where I actually want to die
I’m 24, Ive felt weird since a kid. Overthinking and this horrible feeling towards death. I can do anything for it all to be taken away . I don’t know how too deal with this
The thing that does relieve me sometimes is the fact that while nobody can prove there is an afterlife after death, nobody can also prove that there is nothing after death.
Science can say whatever it can about death but science just explains death from a living/physical standpoint. Science coming from a race which has only existed for 250,000 years in a universe which has existed for billions of years. We probably haven't even touched the iceberg of secrets to the universe and reality so how would people be so sure that there is nothing after death?
What are the circumstances of us even existing in the right place at the right time when the universe is at the right moment of existence. Living in a perfect time with access to technology, food, water, breathable air, etc. Something which can very easily not exist or be very rare to find.
I myself personally believe that there is a greater force watching over/taking care of our existence or the universe as a whole and once we pass death, we shall meet that force again, whether it be an entity or a whole different realm.
Also on a final note, there seems to be more proof of there being something after death than there being nothing after death.
Hope that alleviates your fears.
I am almost 47- have two children, one 19 other 17. I don’t remember exactly when death began to frighten me but I do know that having children changed my thoughts on mortality in general. There are times when I get such anxiety over the thought of dying and what happens when we die that it causes me to almost have an anxiety attack. The unknown is scary
I don’t know if anyone else feels relief knowing that others think about this as much as I do 😂? I’m actually feeling much better knowing I’m not the only one who lives with these constant thoughts.. Whenever I feel anxious about it I think I will come here and watch this clip.. thank you so much..
I feel a lot better reading all these responses. I have death anxiety quite badly, at times I just stay up at night researching what disease I probably have, how fast or slowly I will die and it's awful. I've lost days to this awful thing. It's a struggle and I really wish I could rip my brain out, shut it off, just have peace for 1 second without constantly thinking of ways to die. Weirdly comforted seeing all these responses. I don't feel so alone anymore.
it’s oddly comforting how everybody has this fear at one point or another. seriously if anyone would like to chat about it, i really believe i need it, and if you do too i would love to help as well. the best we can do is not avoid it but also enjoy our lives and each and every moment while they’re here
i’d like to say tho that energy can’t be created or destroyed. the physical body is not the main source of life otherwise every single person would be the same i feel. we’d all just be like a standard human if that makes sense. it’s our souls, our energy that is uniquely crafted for us. that energy will be transferred somewhere
human life seems like the only thing and like it’s just one straight line. but it’s honestly magic in itself. yes there’s science behind being born, but the mother has no way of creating the soul or energy in that body because it cannot be created or destroyed. it was transferred from somewhere whether that be someone who just passed on, or an energy waiting for a vessel. it’s weird to think about, but this entire existence of EVERYTHING is just pure magic. the earth, space, humans, other species, etc. all life is honestly just magic. it’s completely valid but also a little silly to believe that human life and death is all there is. there is some otherworldly force or plane of existence at play that we just do not see or understand
all i know is stressing about the afterlife and overly thinking about what could be is unhealthy for present you. everytime you feel a fear of death coming along. accept it, but don’t give into it. don’t egg it on. replace it with the fact that there is nothing other than this moment that you are in now
I’d be willing to chat if you want. I’ve had this anxiety and all of these fears throughout the years that come and go so is e very willing to chat.
Living is dying and dying is living. There is no life without death and no death without life. Life is but a journey to death and Death is the KEY to life: Death reminds us that life is but a fleeting moment and it ought to be lived to the fullest.
LIVE LIFE AND DIE WITH NO REGRETS.
Someone once said we are moving closer to death every day and that really haunted me
The trouble is we all think we are immortal and to talk about death means facing our own mortality.
I get panic attacks from thinking about death. The idea that ur gone forever, everything you’ve ever known and felt and smelt and tasted and thought and done never happened because no one will ever remember. There’s no possibility of experiencing life ever again, your just a thing in darkness forever and ever as the world moves on without you.
Funny, I fell asleep looking at my medical records from when I died 7 yrs ago, and when I awoke, this discussion was happening on my phone, in my hand. I have died. I absolutely do not fear death at all. Although I will not precipitate the event, I do not dread it, not anymore, it's just what's next, and frankly, at the time, it was an improvement. My sense of humour was not improved. My records absolutely prove that I died, and though I was most annoyed at having been revived, I accept that, not much choice, as I accept eventual death, only the word is scary, not the event, because it is just an event, not an end.
How do you know it's not the end?? I seriously doubt you'll be sitting on a cloud playing the harp for an eternity
@@BlackRose-vi2yg You can end if that's all your imagination can accommodate.
@@evermoreart Not true.
idk why but i randomly think about dying and i’m only 13. i get so scared knowing after i die i won’t live anymore for the rest of eternity and i won’t even know it. after i die everything i know will be gone and i’ll be nothing. i’ll be rotting in the ground. i won’t be able to think or realize or anything. i won’t BE anything. what WILL i be? i’m my own brain and body and if it stops working what happens? last time i thought this was in the bathroom and i shrink down on the floor and started crying realizing that after i die i will have nothing and won’t know i’m nothing until the end of time.
If you're 13, you are definitely advanced for your age. Try not to think about it much, but speaking as someone in their 20's I sometimes still have intense anxiety about it like you. I want to tell you it gets better, but I really don't know.
I'm 13 and having this too! Like bro I never thought about it until a month ago
It's 2:40 and I can't fall asleep.. I can't stop crying.. I'm shivering.. I try not to think about it but it haunts me..I think deeply about it, what after death?, I'll lose everyone, my parents loved ones, my family, what happens after that? Will the world continue? If it does, till when?, If it doesn't, when will it end? Will I have another life?, All these things and many more, I started getting death anxiety since 12, I'm 15 now...I didn't used to get it since few 1-2 years but now it has started to haunt me All over again...
Same here I wish I can just hug you I’m having these same thoughts don’t worry you’re not alone I always stay up thinking about this I had several panic attacks thinking about this btw how are you doing now?
This happend to me last night. I hope your nights are better now after 3 months.
I know this was a while ago but I felt this. It's 4:33AM for me lol. I had a really bad death anxiety episode at thirteen where it consumed me for like a month. I'm seventeen now and it's recently gotten bad again, but I can say that there was a lot of time in between where I was happy, or at least not actively panicking, and it's comforting to know that I've made it through worse younger.
I've had death anxiety since I was a kid I'm now 37
Has it improved for you at all? I'm looking to get into philosophy to try to help, but I still experience intense anxiety at times. I am 23.
@@Midnight_Metro no I find the older you get the worse it gets coz you think of loved ones dying constantly it's awful especially at night but I just try to keep as busy as possible, take care
I have the same fear at 21 1/2 years old. I’m right there with y’all. I don’t know if I’ll live to be in my 70’s or 80’s or if I’ll die sooner than later it’s horrifying to think about.
I too have death anxiety,my anxiety comes from understanding and fearing of eternity,not so much the death itself or danger Infront of me but,the fear of whatever death is and in my opinion that is nothingness then it's eternal,it's not experiencing this plain of existence again for eternity.
I'm actually having the start of an anxiety attack writing this.
Peace and love to you all
Exactly the same thing here.
@@makniflheim8959 have a look at the thanatophobia death anxiety Facebook pages
@@Psychobillysi32 Did they help you?
I have come to the conclusion, that I do not know what happens afther we die. Is there a heaven or not, nothing have ever really been proven. I do hope I will see my family again. Nights are hard, I am afraid of pain and suffering and I am afraid of being alone. I wish somebody would hold my hand all the time and tell me everything will be allright. Maybe I will start going to church even if I don't believe fully, just to be around people.
awe you aren't alone.
Dear stranger, everything will be alright
Well tbh if someone lives in constant fear of death and they worry about it everyday and not do anything with your life they basically are in a prison of the mind and are already dead their entire life figuratively.
@Gordan Ramsay same :(
@Gordan Ramsay okay so I used to lay in bed for hours and worry and even got depressed for like months but then I came to a conclusion. Death is unavoidable and random so you just have to live life to its fullest. So what if there isn't an afterlife, you will be dead so you won't know. Also if your not having fun with your life change it up, it isn't always about the money, have fun sometimes
Going to sleep and never waking up would be the nicest way, like my mam did x
That death is what i want so badly before i turn 70-75
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I am someone who suffers with this , i suffer with the fear that i am dying and also irrational thoughts that something will happen to someone i love , i think about death or dying constantly its debilitating i feel i no longer live life, i just fear death.i fear im sick or all the thing that can cause demise, this channel has helped me not to feel so alone.
how are you now ?!
I think about death around 20 times a day, I don’t think something bad is going to happen I just have the fear of what is next and if there is a afterlife and if there is am I stuck there forever? My whole family believes in something after but I find myself constantly stuck between believing and not believing.
Same😪
We all do. Believe. You will be surrounded with love. Forever. Do not be afraid.
@@kellyberry4173 how do u know that? we don’t know that…
truely thankful for you making these for not only yourself but for us who also struggle. i love that you talked to those who are dying to get their viewpoints.
This is so real...this happens to me all the time. I fear about death of my loved ones so much, it gives me so much anxiety, i have panic attacks so much when they don't pick up calls, i think the worst possible thing and it cripples me to death. I cannot function, i cannot eat, i cannot sleep. Until i get their call i am a wreck. My bowel alters. My sleep disappears. It's the worst thing that happens. Today i understood what it is.
I genuinely did not think anyone else had this. This is my reality. Only difference is if I allow myself to...I will have a full blown panic attack. I cant breathe it gets bad.
Why though? Why so scared?
@@leeleeb7413 The thought of leaving all this behind, this life, family, friends, colours, and going into absolute darkness and nothingness
me too
Health and death anxiety seem to go hand in hand in some ways, do you ever worry about your health to the extent that it's "unhealthy"? I also totally agree with the idea people should talk more about death, especially in the context of grief
Sitting here in tears. My death anxiety has skyrocketed over the past few years and I feel like every second of everyday with everything I do that I am just going to fall over dead. So nice to know I am not alone.
I have been having this fear for a week now after having watched the final episode of Bojack Horseman...
While I still contemplate it every day and feel like throwing up/lost appetite, it does help a bit to know that I am not the only person having their mind occupied by this gruesome truth.
Back in 2016 a roommate (she was a really nice 24 year-old from my social circle) died suddenly in our apartment. It traumatized me badly in ways I didn't understand at the time. By late spring of 2017 a severe death anxiety took hold. I was constantly pondering-and fretting-over my mortality. It got so rough that I could barely focus on anything else, my appetite severely declined, and I had to start both therapy and medication. I suddenly made the shift from fairly uninterested agnostic deist to fixating on big existential questions.
All of that is to say that I eventually triumphed over that fear. May read as trite to some, but Socrates got this right about 2500 years ago: death is either the peaceful quieting of our existence or the passing of our soul to another realm. Either way, nothing we should be particularly afraid of. Personally, I'm a naturalist who rejects anything supernatural. I believe death is the end--though I hope to be wrong. We can take comfort in knowing that we're all in this together and most of us share the same shivers wondering about these matters late at night. I'd argue we can also take comfort in the knowledge that nothing is permanent and even our own bodies and minds are constantly in shift. In a very real sense, by the time we officially terminate we've lived and died numerous times already.
I LOVE this comment.
This guy has given me anxiety about my old dog now.
I'm glad it's not just me!
Life is so short, and life goes by so quick, everything you do makes time go by so quick, I feel like life is to short to do everything you want in life and I'm only 26 and haven't even done 95% of what I wanna do! I'm afraid of dying period, I don't know what caused it or started it but it's a big problem in my life! I hide it inside and don't talk to no one about my problem.
I worry more about the death of my loved ones. I already lost my grandma, and no I worry about my mom everyday😭
I think that’s normal. No one wants to spend the rest of their life without the person they love most in it.
Well now I know its okay to feel the way I have done for years. My Mum died exactly a week before my 17th birthday, and I've always been absolutely terrified of death.. I'm 50 in 2 weeks and still beside myself with anxiety. Seeing someone go like that (pancreatic cancer) and not understanding why has been a real problem for me throughout my life. (We werent allowed to talk to her about it, so we all pretended it wasnt happening).So I I really thank you for this program and for making me aware I am not alone, and for you all you guys commenting too.
I'm not really afraid of death I'm just afraid of dying before my time specifically being murdered being afraid that I could die at any second
I'm anxious right now. Actually, the past few days, There was never an hour that I thought about these: "What if i die today? Are these things that I am doing gonna lead to my death? I don't want to die". I don't know what's going on with me that's why i searched for some answer and i suddenly saw the thumbnail and watched this video.
I watched the final eleven hours of my father's life as he lay dying in a hospice. I also viewed my estranged mother's body about a week after her death. It's made me philosophical about death and, I think, more accepting of it than most people.
hi can you explain this more? cause i fear death so much it pains me
I felt this way when my friend died from cancer but it went away eventually, I also did therapy to understand since it was keeping me up at night
that’s the hardest thing for a human to go through, especially c*****
Did therapy work
Aw, I found myself hoping for MORE in this episode.
That being said;
How do you cope with the existential parts of your death?
As a Journalist, knowing the posibility of being remembered in "Popular History," or as a tangential voice in "Referential," history, how do you deal with knowing future voices may twist, deride, or even villify, all the work you have created?
[To clairify *Referential History, is history only referenced in an Academic and Political context, whereas "Popular" History is history referenced to in a casual setting]
Sorry for the lengthy question.
Read my reply to Sarah
5 of my family members died 😢and now here I am having this fear😢😢😢
Are you still alive?
I'd probably recommend a solid dose of LSD or mushrooms to experience an ego death, becoming actually one with the fabric of the universe, then you realise death isn't so bad and actually consciousness just goes on forever. Really eye opening and crazy stuff. I have no fear of death now as it's just all part of the whole. it's fine.
Did you have death-anxiety before trying LSD/mushrooms?
This is exactly what I've been thinking now that I'm immersed in one of my crises... I'd thought about trying LSD and / or mushrooms a while ago. Lately I've been thinking that it must be quite useful for this fear of death/aging. Many people report it being an amazing experience that really changes you. Could you please tell us more about your experience with these substances? x
I feel like i've looked at lots of these videos and never seen anything i feel represents what i'm feeling. The looming idea of inescapable nothing is what scares me. The idea of not existing for infinite time, my mind imagines it as just black but obviously there is zero sensory experience there is nothing forever with no return. I know it WILL happen and it is extremely anxiety inducing. I wish there was a thought or reasoning that would make me more comfortable or less scared by said anxiety.
This is exactly what I feel omg
@@takeshi6341 at this point i just try not to think about it
The fear of death is worse at night when it's the early hours and on your own
I found my people
I think about death about .......12 hours a day, every day, for about 40 years now. I stay in a pretty constant state of fear and worry that people close to me are going to die, or that I am going to suddenly die. Sometimes I will do specific "rituals" to help ensure nothing "bad" is going to happen. It's exhausting.😢
I'm only scared of how will family cope, when I die, and the transition from life through to death because the body wants to fight. the struggle is all I am scared of... the transition. I'm not afraid to die.
So, I found a group on Facebook about this. I had been struggling for the past few years. It was a combination of a few things that triggered it for me. But it got to the point where the movie The Lovely Bones made it worse, and thinking of the inevitability of my mom not being here one day. I did choose to go to a therapist that was more expensive because it went through a church. I did this because I’d rather have some kind of comfort, than not at all. A year ago it came back because I felt like a was losing a lot. My best friend actually bailed on me only 3 months into our lease bc she got engaged, and the way she told me was horrendous. I was devastated. My sister was moving out of state to go to college in another state. And my dog died. I watched her take her last breath and it was hard. I’ve been doing a lot better since then. Which Im glad because Covid had the potential to really jack up my brain. It hasn’t, but when Naya Rivera passed away... it triggered it again, and now I’m thinking about it a lot. But that Facebook group lets me know I’m not alone. It’s definitely a weight lifted off my shoulders knowing I’m not alone
What's the name of the Facebook group
I just saw this video and read the comments, and it changed my life. Since I was about 6 or 7 and I learned about death, every day I have thought about and dreaded the day either of my parents dies. Even when I'm not actively thinking about it, I don't think I've lived a single second of my life from that point as a kid where it's not at least on the back of my mind. I get scared to be alone because I'm afraid the thought of my parents dying will enter my brain and I'll start thinking about it and have to try to shrug it off. There are times where I just randomly cry thinking about it. This summer, my dad was diagnosed with stomach cancer and I cried for a month. It felt like the nightmare that I had been dreaded since childhood was one step closer to reality. Thankfully after surgery my dad is now cancer free. Hopefully his cancer doesn't come back but sadly, cancer or not, I know that there will be a day where either of my parents are gone. This just feels so unfair. Why do we as human have to deal with something so terrible?
I feel you my man, i feel scared that eventually, our parents will die, and for me, thats the worst part, but im afraid, eventually we will die, either peacefully or not peacefully, like a desase.
Cannot stop thinking about death and the thought of losing my consciousness forever.
To think there is just a void, just nothing at all. Even though many say that, well, at that point you cannot feel anything or think anything so you don’t even know that you are dead-that still terrifies me.
If someone is reading this that also experiences this, please tell me how you deal with this feeling.
I've had this on and off for years, but thankfully have had a lot of space in between the really bad episodes. In the short term, listening to audiobooks or podcasts (I recommend Sleep With Me) to deal with the nighttime part of the anxiety has really helped me. Talking about it, or writing if there's no one to talk to, has also helped me. A friend of mine with the same fears uses stretching to get out of his head and into his body. In the long term, I've found that at least for me, it's cyclical. You may go back to feeling normal, or at least better, for some time. This can happen without therapy, BUT if you can access therapy then I would highly recommend it.
@@a.a.7437I have it too and also listen to sleep with me every night. I love Scooter for helping me get to sleep ❤
This lady/journalist is describing my EXACT thoughts it’s crazy. I have always noticed how in any given situation I am in, I have vivid visions of possible danger, falling down stairs, cutting things with a knife, it definitely makes me over cautious than others but it doesn’t seem to prohibit my confidence. I am terrified of death, it constantly stops me from sleeping and troubles me at least every day, unless I am distracted with friends or fun things to do. How can I stop these thoughts? X
I don't think I'm scared of dying, I think I'm just afraid of being alone. The idea of one day I die and I'm alone for the rest of eternity hurts a lot. I have been raised religious, and my greatest fear is that there isn't actually a place where I can be with everyone I've ever loved, that my soul will just drift forever.
What if you just stop existing and you’re nothing? Like no soul or anything like that? That seems more of the science possibility.
@@leeleeb7413 this isn’t about “a scientific possibility”, this is about an unknown, inevitable process that no one can truly prepare for. My fear is of being alone in an endless universe, not ceasing to exist. I certainly don’t want that either, but it’s a lot better than being alone forever.
I suddenly developed my death anxiety and about everyone around me
I just think like why are they celebrating don’t they know that we’re gonna die
I just became a mom and I don’t wanna die but I also think that my kid’s gonna die one day too
And that makes me feel horrible
I hate getting old
This anxiety is giving me major health problems
I have fear or developing cancer
I miss my old self who was happy and without this fear
Plz somebody help me
Hey, I also feel the same but in my past , but time heals everything.. I know 1000 questions , fear , revolves in ur mind but .. after a time it will be gone .. I m sure ❤.... Stay with ur friends and your loved ones .. please do not live alone ... I m sure one day u will say " death yes you are true but , I m not afraid of u ❤...
If technology allowed us to live until we chose to die (maybe even live beyond what's expected), what would be your option?
I thought about this sometime..but i dunno what age to choose..
Jas, if I could live for one billion years, on my last day I'd want to live for another billion. Wanting to live is natural but recognising our mortality is important and learning to live without anxiety of things to come, is overwhelmingly necessary.
I'm happy to physically die, however as a athiest no spiritual believer, I believe my only chance of life after death is if future technology allows my conscious to be uploaded into a computer game or holographic world.
Thank you for this series! It's such an important topic yet taboos prevent us from talking about it and as a result we dont know how to deal with it!
i think whats worse than wanting to die is wanting to live
My sister died suddenly at 26 when i was 25, then i lost a baby and my mom died all this happened between February 2021 to December 2022, and now i have an intense fear of dying everyday
I'm never really scared of the idea of death honestly. It just gives me peace as I feel like death maybe would resemble a long everlasting sleep. But what scares me are two things:
first is the cause of death. I dont want cause of my death to be painful and long. So I would just love to die peacefully maybe in sleep with out bearing any pain.
Second is how much pain my loved ones would be undergoing becoz of my death.
Also, what makes me extremely anxious is the thought of my loved ones dying!
Watching or listening to NDE stories has helped my anxiety quite a bit. I hope this comment helps at least one person. ✌️❤️
What’s NDE
I'm not scared of dying I'm scared of how I'm going to die,is it going to be suffering
I think about death every single moment that I’m awake
I just don't want there to be absolutely nothing forever, I really wanna believe you go somewhere I get really scared 24/7 everyday of the week I just want a sign and i don’t want to be forgotten
Same, but the realistic part of me believes that's just wishful thinking