I was freed of my fear of death after being at the bedside of 3 beloved family members. All 3 having gone through different types of cancer. I took care of my Mother and my husband at home until their deaths in my arms. There was nothing scary about it. Total peace and even smiles upon there faces as they passed. No more pain and suffering. It was so amazingly quiet and peaceful as they left this world. I no longer fear my death. In fact I want to give my time to Hospice care to sit with families and their dying loved ones.
You were learning something unique Kristy. Your love and care toward your loving ones rewarded you with a power to defeat the fear of death. Love always defeats fear in every sense. Keep this direction, there is another big reward waiting for you.
@@gustavhands7227 I have already been rewarded Gustav ! With peace ! With a chance to give comfort to others as they or their family member are traveling the road of death . I'm giving back what was given to me during all 3 of my loved ones passings from other Hospice care workers !!
Great series and much appreciated for those who've experienced death anxiety. What helped me the most was learning that it's possible NOT to be afraid. If it's possible for others, it must be possible for me.
Alex G I had an extreme fear of death until I faced it. The funny thing is I Learned my Life wasn’t Really Life at all, more like death, robotic living in a world filled to the brim with fear.
It is so strange he says conveyer belt. The last conversation I had with my grandma, she told me, "Heather, I can't tell if I'm dreaming. I see my mother and father and everyone I ever knew passing in front of me like they're on a conveyer belt. Isn't that the strangest thing?"
@@emmavaccova8695 I don't know either (same as you, not my first language and there's always a new word! haha). I'd say they're referring to the one in the airport, when you go to baggage claim?
I wish death doula was something that existed in Canada. I’ve worked palliative care off and on for many of 13 years and I am like this woman I find most of the experiences as beautiful. I have provided death care for many working in hospital. But there’s something so much more special about being out of hospital and sage and a peaceful passing without machines and all that! This would be my career passion if I could find it locally! Love and sunshine to all ❤️☀️
@@theGuardian oh wow I live in New York and would definitely go if they have one, there is not even one day that I dont think about death its always in my mind
It's rather strange that this should pop up as I have been anxiously thinking recently about my own death (for no apparent reason). My wife died some years ago from cancer and although her death was peaceful in the end mainly thanks to her nurses and medical staff, it was none the less slow, painful and emotionally traumatic for her. I guess that is my fear not the actual dying part but how lead up to death will play out. I know I should try and forget about it and deal with it when it happens, if only my mind would let me.
@@mmmk1616 Some English Psychologist said years ago (his name as slipped my mind) 'people fear only 3 things, other people, their own minds and death, I will watch the other episodes at some stage at the moment just overwhelmed with work. Tnx
My aunt (my mum’s cousin) was in hospital and she was laying on her bed when we noticed her sheets were wet. We asked her if she wet herself, and she said no and looked slightly confused. At that moment we knew her body was shutting down (she had been battling cancer for a while), so the nurse came in and changed her and she peacefully passed away that same evening. But before she passed away, there was a brief moment where she told us her dad was there (her father died many years ago). I remember her mum telling her to tell her dad to go away, but she passed away not long after that. So her dad came to pick her up one last time.
You should improve her health though... Being so overweight is quite painful for cats and they get diabetes and arthritis very easily. But talk to a vet because it needs to be slow.
“Being dead in my bed... the thought of a dead body in my house even if it was just me is just icky to me.” That made me laugh. It’s comforting to know that there are people out there who share the same thoughts about death as you do. I’m absolutely terrified of dying, and I also think about it multiple times a day. I’ll be doing my dishes and my mind will wonder off to that “place.” I don’t want to live forever; I just want to be able to say to myself that I’m going to die one day and that’s okay.
What struck me is how the younger man had approached death several times on his "conveyor belt", and that in each case his fear became greater upon returning. I am wondering about how to mitigate the fear response of the amygdala so that experiencing the approach of death is not terrifying. I suppose that imagining that and reinforcing the fear response is part of what makes this worse, and that perhaps something such as mindfulness meditation could be of assistance. There is also the work that has been done in recent years with classic hallucinogens in a controlled environment which seems to have been valuable for many. One of the great pities is that this form of treatment is only legal in a few places in the world, (e.g. The Netherlands), as a treatment that helps people approach trauma - death, PTSD, et cetera - from a better frame is something almost all of us could benefit from.
"these are things you want to think about because if you don't, something is going to happen regardless and it may not be the thing that you want. And so, I'm definitely getting into the mindset of death as something to think about, death as something to plan for and death as something to be open to "
Having seen both my mum and sister die in front of me, I can tell that there is something afterwards. If you stop still in that room, you can feel it. The visions of relatives before death have further gave me evidence to that. Another perspective is... most of us eat death every day. Don't we ever stop to think of the dead animal we consume? Are we afraid of that? Once you are gone, your body is a shell. It might twitch a bit but you aren't there anymore
I walked behind my bed from ICU to HDU , I saw myself lying in the bed hooked up to life support. Out of body experience. Something I will never forget .
Same. I have EDS and Cervical Cancer and I'm terrified of dying. I'm terrified of leaving my son and family. I'm terrified of it all. I've seen death a few times. Not once was it a calm, nice, painless, or non traumatizing death. So ya I'm scared to death of... death
You are amazing, thank you for doing this series. I've been struggling with death anxiety probably since my early teens but I've always pushed it away. In the last few months it got basically unavoidable without any real reason and I was trying to find the courage to watch these videos for weeks and weeks before I could finally bring myself to do so. With what you're doing you've made me feel not alone with this fear. Thank you for your work and your bravery to face all these situations.
i think maybe, as you are close to dying, you see and hear and experience things, that might be peaceful or scary, BUT, if they HAD died, i truly think, that's it, there is no more thinking, feeling, anything else. So what you feel in the last few seconds is almost irrelevant, if after that, you will never remember or think of it ever again, for eternity. In other words, whatever your last moments are like, its not like you will be stuck in that feeling forever - i think that's the fear people have.
British humor is so different. '' Makes me want to go out and get ice-cream '' don't think of death as a lonely thing. Most people come in this world alone and leave it alone.
@@analogkid4957 English is a nationality. British is a term used to describe a union between 3 countries England Scotland and Wales. United Kingdom is a Kingdom of countries
Ive been in surgery (one several hours) and I dont remember anything except the longer one. I just keep thinking over and over that would be the best way to die -- to just essentially get euthenised. There is a quiet, calm nothing that you never wake up from. Our time on earth is to live; our time after life is to not. That is why we should appreciate every day we have.
I wish could forget about death. It's always on my mind. I know it's morbid, but I can't help it. It's not healthy. I have a real phobia of death, it absolutely terrifies me.
I wouldn't say that "we are all busy with living", we are just busy with plans and existing. If we were more conscious about the "expiration date" instead of running from it, we would live with more intensity, you know, less of "we have to meet one day" and more of "can I step by later today?" thingy. We'd be more careful when we say goodbye, when we argue, when we love. Maybe.
We've had many family and friends die recently and due to the Covid shutdown, we haven't been allowed to attend funerals or church services. It is cruel and has made our grief processing overwhelming!!!!
I would love to be so lucky to die laying on a deck chair in my back yard under a deep blue clear sky, just after a rainstorm, with the sun on my skin and the smell of rain and fresh wildflowers around me, listening to Beethoven's 6th Symphony, with a well-packed pipe of burley and bright and a glass of sherry. My family surrounds me and sits with me listening to the Pastoral, punctuated only by distant thunder, birdsong, and words of love and comfort, holding my hands and touching my chest and face as I slip away. Can't go out any more pleasantly than that!
We need a Dying with Dignity plan normalized everywhere in the world so people with terminal illness can plan how they want to die and have that control, and of course, most importantly. not suffer. What I wanted for my dad at 59 from cancer was this option. He died in a hospice and it was a nice hospice, but he didn't have the chance to decide what he wanted before his faculties failed him. I watched him waste away into nothing and by the end, he didn't know who I was or who he was, couldn't speak, he was a skeleton... no one should go through that. Sorry, this is just very personal to me.
Regarding Rufus's experience, I believe that is the place you see when it is not yet your time. It can be jarring to experience, but you won't be experiencing the true "after" until you're really truly meant to.
I work at a will writing firm and its weird how acclimated I am to death, because I'm around and talking about it every day - remember when I talk to people who don't work in the death industry!
Alex, I think it's talking about death is what we all need to do, there is no escaping it so why not speak of it, our want and wishes our fears, I think you have something we could all take something away from.
Your firm only writes wills? I need to know more. I could fancy that. How does one become a will writer? Oh wait, I'm thinking of an obituary. Someone has to be a lawyer to write a will or some training like that?
I felt bad for the guy who talked about coming near death and how it was traumatic. I've heard of similar NDE's where people describe their bodies being separated from their souls and they fall into a dark void but they describe it as extreme peacefulness and freedom. I guess it depends on a person's perspective whether they interpret it as a positive feeling or a traumatic one. Needing to hold on to control would probably make it miserable but surrendering and accepting it would probably make it less scary.
Not afraid of death, only the pain and process, but after I'm gone either I'll be in a better place or not. Not much I can do about it, but I do think that we have a soul or something that goes on, but won't know for sure til I'm gone :)
@@alexg8537 It can be controlled pretty well if you are OK with losing some mental clarity. You can choose to take strong opiates and go off in a pleasant foggy cloud.
On my last day, I'll be able to say that I have loved and been loved by, wonderful people. Nothing compares with that; no achievement, no possession, no status... It's the only thing that matters
people scared of death: would you rather know how or when you will die? would that make your anxiety worse or would it help you accept it and live your life to its fullest?
If I had a terminal disease I would want to know how long so I could prepare. Theres nothing worse than seeing ppl grieving but having to figure how they will pay for a funeral. It is cruel and I would like to relieve my family by making the process stress free.
She reminds me much like myself. I am thinking I would be really nurturing and caring in this. I am clairaudiance, clairsentience, and clairvoyance. Pure love and a gentle nature. I could help many pass over with no fear. With my last child birth, I had placenta previa attached anterior. I started hemorrhaging at 28 weeks pregnant. I left roughly 10 minutes into my ambulance ride. I was gone for 15 minutes! Everything that I was sure previously was true. The golden room, and the feeling of pure love. I wanted to continue and go further. I was reminded by an unknown figure that I had a baby that needed me "I am a mother of 6 children under 12yo". I came back.
8.08 sounds a lot like what I experienced when I had very low blood pressure in hospital and passed out. It's not the same as dying so fear not. It was a horrible experience for me also and seemed to last a long time and it felt like I was aware the whole time. Again this was fainting and not a near death experience.
8:23 I do think that people's perspective on death can shape near death experiences, as well as other psychological factors. I'm sure there's a lot more to be understood about what goes on in the brain in those moments.
I realize this is an older video. One thing that I decided years ago is that when I am ready, I will say goodbye to people I love and go to sleep and quietly pass. Native Americans recognized that we have the right to decide when we are done with this life, and sing our "Death Song". I will pass on my terms, when I am ready, and in my own home. It won't be a surprise to my family or a burden. If we talked about death as a natural part of life, I think it would help people. We have a choice if we are willing to decide we do. Blessings.
Hebrews 2:14-15 14 Since the children have flesh and blood,he too shared in their humanity so that by his death he might break the power of him who holds the power of death-that is, the devil- 15 and free those who all their lives were held in slavery by their fear of death.
No, we're not ALL scared of death. You console yourself and normalise your anxiety with these words. It's common but not ubiquitous. I've planned and made clear what I want around my end, I just continue to work towards the legalisation of assisted dying in my state.
@MegglesEST1983, Aly won't die alone. It won't matter if living humans are with her in the end because she is going to be surrounded by so many angels and loving spirits. No one is ever truly alone. Our loved ones help us pass and guide us along the way. Even our pets are waiting for us when we pass. I think that society misses a lot by not wanting to discuss death and the process when people are alive and healthy. Blessings.
I don't see the point of planning one's death: On the one hand no one certainly know when they're gonna die, and on the other hand once you die you are not there anymore so why would you like to specifically set what's next?
Death is not an event in life: we do not live to experience death. If we take eternity to mean not infinite temporal duration but timelessness, then eternal life belongs to those who live in the present. Our life has no end in just the way in which our visual field has no limits. Wittgenstein had it right, no need to think about our own death, it's not something we go through Leah.
I plan on cremation. The cemetery s are filling up to fast. Besides where I reside is not my home. My father was military so we moved around alot. If I had to say what place I lived would claim as home it would be Germany. Bettigen.the village we lived in twice. I want my friends to have a bbq and just celebrate my life.
At 10:25 Geoff says something important, that he's probably going to make sure he's got a little stash of pills on hand, mainly just so he knows he's got some control over dying. I'm no better informed on what it's going to be like when the time comes but my plan is to accept that I have no control, to surrender all control to the loving power that for the last 17 years I've believed is taking care of me. At least that's how I feel now. But there's a diversity of views on this and I'm not wanting to preach my beliefs to anyone with opposite ones. Respect!
Help me understand why the diagnosis of a terminal illness should make such an impact when you have been dying since the moment you were conceived. When every step you make takes you one step closer to the inevitable. Why does a terminal diagnosis somehow seem to be extra confirmation of the inevitability of something you already know is going to happen?
I personally don't want to die in a hospital. It seems so cold and clinical to me. I'd rather die at home with loved ones around me. Seems more peaceful that way but i know everyone has their own ideas about death and dying. No judgement!
I have EDS (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome), Congestive Heart Failure, and Cervical Cancer and I'm terrified of dying. I'm terrified of leaving my son and family. I'm terrified of it all. I've seen death a few times. Not once was it a calm, nice, painless, or non traumatizing death. So ya I'm scared to death of... death
Hi.... Don't be afraid at all.... You will cross over into spirit and you will see the family members that you incarnated with.... You will have the opportunity to review your life, and evaluate it..... It is a time of rest, of recuperation.... It is simply another phase of our existence.... Enjoy the journey.
Wow my severe anxiety has a name. Death anxiety. I think about dying all the time I'm talking many times an hour. It's very crippling. I'm so glad to know that this has a name and that other people suffer from Death anxiety I had no idea. Thank you so much for making these videos I am the kind of person that feels death should be out in the open. there should be loved ones around us when we die I am for physician-assisted dying. And I think having a death doula is an amazing gift to give oneself. Again thank you for making this video it really was incredibly meaningful for me
@@petitehippie7064 thanks for leaving a reply. I'm so sorry to hear that you're struggling with this type of anxiety. And I hope that you find relief and peace. Have a great day
Hi Kavita, I am so sorry you're going through this. I had a very tough time with death anxiety a couple of years ago. I read studies that said older people are actually less afraid of death, and that reassured me - perhaps once we've lived a LOT, we're not so scared of letting go. And hopefully once we are in our fading years, we will be given the option to have assisted dying, which is a very peaceful process.
the guy talking about being on a conveyor belt seriously freaked me out because that is literally what happens in the movie soul. They're on a conveyor belt,
I don't think that I would like the idea of an American style funeral they seem way to formal.I prefer something more of a celebration like an Irish Catholic pub wake or Buddhist street parade or even the dramatics of Asian funerals where loved ones are screaming and tearing out their hair..It's an emotional time afterall
I personally donot think we will care what happens after we pass with our bodies. This is basically something we do for the sake of our loved ones to ease the pressure of funeral preparations. I personally hope to get the chance to make my arrangements before I go. That way it will ease the pressure of my loved ones so they can celebrate how funny I was. ❤️ 😁
There is not really a 'death', just a change of "clothing" (of energies) going back in chakra 4 meters abov our head (I lived young a NDE / near death experiment with bronchopneumonia), annd returned in my body safe, cured with compassion for me, for I AM... all the time MY CHOICES of perfection..., or not !§!) !!! Repeat you the best you need !!! I cured myself tree times like that. Do it simple with deep breathes !
It’s strange how we are frightened of death when death doesn’t actually exist. And we can actually prove to ourselves that there is no death if we only take the time to look ...but most of us are to busy to be bothered to look ..
rhianne ... most of us are to busy to investigate if there is a spiritual realm . We just live our life’s year after year and don’t even think about the spiritual world. Some people even say there is no spiritual realm and yet have never bothered to look into the many proofs of life after death..
Chris Jones thank you ... I am just like every other person and I admit I’m frightened of death but I decided to look into it and have seen many proofs that there is life after death .
I love this woman’s personality, she’s lovely.
Me too!! She really is!! I literally just commented the same thing
She seems like such a lovely person. It's like you know her even though we are complete strangers.
I would want her to accompany my death! She’s cool and fun.
I was freed of my fear of death after being at the bedside of 3 beloved family members. All 3 having gone through different types of cancer. I took care of my Mother and my husband at home until their deaths in my arms. There was nothing scary about it. Total peace and even smiles upon there faces as they passed. No more pain and suffering. It was so amazingly quiet and peaceful as they left this world. I no longer fear my death. In fact I want to give my time to Hospice care to sit with families and their dying loved ones.
You were learning something unique Kristy. Your love and care toward your loving ones rewarded you with a power to defeat the fear of death. Love always defeats fear in every sense. Keep this direction, there is another big reward waiting for you.
@@gustavhands7227 I have already been rewarded Gustav ! With peace ! With a chance to give comfort to others as they or their family member are traveling the road of death . I'm giving back what was given to me during all 3 of my loved ones passings from other Hospice care workers !!
The same thing happened to me. My husband died of cancer in my arms, too, and the look of peace on his face took all of my fear of death away.
@@alicat7281 Exactly! So sorry for your loss!
I was with both my parents seventeen yrs apart. Both of cancer
Great series and much appreciated for those who've experienced death anxiety. What helped me the most was learning that it's possible NOT to be afraid. If it's possible for others, it must be possible for me.
How do you deal with death anxiety.?
Alex G I had an extreme fear of death until I faced it. The funny thing is I Learned my Life wasn’t Really Life at all, more like death, robotic living in a world filled to the brim with fear.
Nothingness for Eternity . Impenetrable darkness without End. Millions of years will pass ,
then millions more then millions
more .....
@@2msvalkyrie529 that's pure bliss actually
It is so strange he says conveyer belt. The last conversation I had with my grandma, she told me, "Heather, I can't tell if I'm dreaming. I see my mother and father and everyone I ever knew passing in front of me like they're on a conveyer belt. Isn't that the strangest thing?"
What is a conveyer belt? (English is not my 1st language 😊)
@@emmavaccova8695 ...google it?
@@irisastrom already did cuz ppl like you offer absolutely no help 🤷♀️
@@emmavaccova8695 I don't know either (same as you, not my first language and there's always a new word! haha). I'd say they're referring to the one in the airport, when you go to baggage claim?
A conveyer belt is a wide belt used in a factory to carry packages from one place in the factory to another
Geoff is so lovely, I wish I could help him have his cottage and his pets.
RIP Jeff, thanks for your contributions :)
I wish death doula was something that existed in Canada. I’ve worked palliative care off and on for many of 13 years and I am like this woman I find most of the experiences as beautiful. I have provided death care for many working in hospital. But there’s something so much more special about being out of hospital and sage and a peaceful passing without machines and all that! This would be my career passion if I could find it locally! Love and sunshine to all ❤️☀️
Hey Ronnie-Lynn. They have end-of-life doulas in Canada! In fact all over the world. Thanks for commenting :)
@@theGuardian oh wow I live in New York and would definitely go if they have one, there is not even one day that I dont think about death its always in my mind
Do it
There are .....I studied it prior to Covid.
Death is the least lonely thing in the world. It's the one thing that we all have in common.
It's rather strange that this should pop up as I have been anxiously thinking recently about my own death (for no apparent reason). My wife died some years ago from cancer and although her death was peaceful in the end mainly thanks to her nurses and medical staff, it was none the less slow, painful and emotionally traumatic for her. I guess that is my fear not the actual dying part but how lead up to death will play out. I know I should try and forget about it and deal with it when it happens, if only my mind would let me.
You might want to watch the other episodes in the series, I have found it quite interesting. I hope you are able to lessen your anxiety soon!
@@mmmk1616 Some English Psychologist said years ago (his name as slipped my mind) 'people fear only 3 things, other people, their own minds and death, I will watch the other episodes at some stage at the moment just overwhelmed with work. Tnx
My aunt (my mum’s cousin) was in hospital and she was laying on her bed when we noticed her sheets were wet. We asked her if she wet herself, and she said no and looked slightly confused. At that moment we knew her body was shutting down (she had been battling cancer for a while), so the nurse came in and changed her and she peacefully passed away that same evening. But before she passed away, there was a brief moment where she told us her dad was there (her father died many years ago). I remember her mum telling her to tell her dad to go away, but she passed away not long after that. So her dad came to pick her up one last time.
“I shouldn’t fat shame her should I..” 😹😹
You should improve her health though... Being so overweight is quite painful for cats and they get diabetes and arthritis very easily. But talk to a vet because it needs to be slow.
I liked her immediately when she said that 😹😹
junbh2 I’m pretty sure she already knows that
That's not funny. That's animal abuse
“Being dead in my bed... the thought of a dead body in my house even if it was just me is just icky to me.” That made me laugh. It’s comforting to know that there are people out there who share the same thoughts about death as you do. I’m absolutely terrified of dying, and I also think about it multiple times a day. I’ll be doing my dishes and my mind will wonder off to that “place.” I don’t want to live forever; I just want to be able to say to myself that I’m going to die one day and that’s okay.
What struck me is how the younger man had approached death several times on his "conveyor belt", and that in each case his fear became greater upon returning. I am wondering about how to mitigate the fear response of the amygdala so that experiencing the approach of death is not terrifying. I suppose that imagining that and reinforcing the fear response is part of what makes this worse, and that perhaps something such as mindfulness meditation could be of assistance. There is also the work that has been done in recent years with classic hallucinogens in a controlled environment which seems to have been valuable for many. One of the great pities is that this form of treatment is only legal in a few places in the world, (e.g. The Netherlands), as a treatment that helps people approach trauma - death, PTSD, et cetera - from a better frame is something almost all of us could benefit from.
Hallucinogens have helped me a lot with coming to terms with my own mortality... I now believe in reincarnation as a possibility...
"these are things you want to think about because if you don't, something is going to happen regardless and it may not be the thing that you want. And so, I'm definitely getting into the mindset of death as something to think about, death as something to plan for and death as something to be open to "
Peace to you, Jeff.
Having seen both my mum and sister die in front of me, I can tell that there is something afterwards. If you stop still in that room, you can feel it. The visions of relatives before death have further gave me evidence to that. Another perspective is... most of us eat death every day. Don't we ever stop to think of the dead animal we consume? Are we afraid of that? Once you are gone, your body is a shell. It might twitch a bit but you aren't there anymore
I walked behind my bed from ICU to HDU , I saw myself lying in the bed hooked up to life support.
Out of body experience. Something I will never forget .
I would love this woman by my side when I'm dying, she seems awesome
Same. I have EDS and Cervical Cancer and I'm terrified of dying. I'm terrified of leaving my son and family. I'm terrified of it all. I've seen death a few times. Not once was it a calm, nice, painless, or non traumatizing death. So ya I'm scared to death of... death
What a LOVELY lady Aly is! Wish this world had more people like her!! ❤️
You are amazing, thank you for doing this series. I've been struggling with death anxiety probably since my early teens but I've always pushed it away. In the last few months it got basically unavoidable without any real reason and I was trying to find the courage to watch these videos for weeks and weeks before I could finally bring myself to do so. With what you're doing you've made me feel not alone with this fear. Thank you for your work and your bravery to face all these situations.
i think maybe, as you are close to dying, you see and hear and experience things, that might be peaceful or scary, BUT, if they HAD died, i truly think, that's it, there is no more thinking, feeling, anything else. So what you feel in the last few seconds is almost irrelevant, if after that, you will never remember or think of it ever again, for eternity. In other words, whatever your last moments are like, its not like you will be stuck in that feeling forever - i think that's the fear people have.
British humor is so different. '' Makes me want to go out and get ice-cream '' don't think of death as a lonely thing. Most people come in this world alone and leave it alone.
English
@@andrewjoyce9038 I’m curious as an American man the difference between The terms British vs English
@@analogkid4957 English is a nationality. British is a term used to describe a union between 3 countries England Scotland and Wales. United Kingdom is a Kingdom of countries
@@andrewjoyce9038 how about Ireland? Is it part of the UK?
@@analogkid4957 northern Ireland is part of the UK, the rest of Ireland is a separate country called the Republic of Ireland
Great to see this series back.
Thanks Christian
Ive been in surgery (one several hours) and I dont remember anything except the longer one. I just keep thinking over and over that would be the best way to die -- to just essentially get euthenised. There is a quiet, calm nothing that you never wake up from. Our time on earth is to live; our time after life is to not. That is why we should appreciate every day we have.
Such an incredible series.
Interesting subject, we are all busy with living that we forgot (pretend at last) about death.
I wish could forget about death. It's always on my mind. I know it's morbid, but I can't help it. It's not healthy. I have a real phobia of death, it absolutely terrifies me.
I wouldn't say that "we are all busy with living", we are just busy with plans and existing. If we were more conscious about the "expiration date" instead of running from it, we would live with more intensity, you know, less of "we have to meet one day" and more of "can I step by later today?" thingy. We'd be more careful when we say goodbye, when we argue, when we love. Maybe.
angeluzfun luv u all
We've had many family and friends die recently and due to the Covid shutdown, we haven't been allowed to attend funerals or church services. It is cruel and has made our grief processing overwhelming!!!!
I would love to be so lucky to die laying on a deck chair in my back yard under a deep blue clear sky, just after a rainstorm, with the sun on my skin and the smell of rain and fresh wildflowers around me, listening to Beethoven's 6th Symphony, with a well-packed pipe of burley and bright and a glass of sherry. My family surrounds me and sits with me listening to the Pastoral, punctuated only by distant thunder, birdsong, and words of love and comfort, holding my hands and touching my chest and face as I slip away. Can't go out any more pleasantly than that!
Can't help but say so, as a violinist -- _excellent_ music choice :)
We need a Dying with Dignity plan normalized everywhere in the world so people with terminal illness can plan how they want to die and have that control, and of course, most importantly. not suffer. What I wanted for my dad at 59 from cancer was this option. He died in a hospice and it was a nice hospice, but he didn't have the chance to decide what he wanted before his faculties failed him. I watched him waste away into nothing and by the end, he didn't know who I was or who he was, couldn't speak, he was a skeleton... no one should go through that. Sorry, this is just very personal to me.
What an amazing title graphic. Sand is running out
Regarding Rufus's experience, I believe that is the place you see when it is not yet your time. It can be jarring to experience, but you won't be experiencing the true "after" until you're really truly meant to.
What makes you say that?
I work at a will writing firm and its weird how acclimated I am to death, because I'm around and talking about it every day - remember when I talk to people who don't work in the death industry!
Alex, I think it's talking about death is what we all need to do, there is no escaping it so why not speak of it, our want and wishes our fears, I think you have something we could all take something away from.
Your firm only writes wills? I need to know more. I could fancy that. How does one become a will writer? Oh wait, I'm thinking of an obituary. Someone has to be a lawyer to write a will or some training like that?
this is such a wonderful series
I felt bad for the guy who talked about coming near death and how it was traumatic. I've heard of similar NDE's where people describe their bodies being separated from their souls and they fall into a dark void but they describe it as extreme peacefulness and freedom. I guess it depends on a person's perspective whether they interpret it as a positive feeling or a traumatic one. Needing to hold on to control would probably make it miserable but surrendering and accepting it would probably make it less scary.
Not afraid of death, only the pain and process, but after I'm gone either I'll be in a better place or not. Not much I can do about it, but I do think that we have a soul or something that goes on, but won't know for sure til I'm gone :)
@麻姑の垢無 Not every type of pain can be controlled unfortunately. Advanced stage cancer for example.
@@alexg8537 It can be controlled pretty well if you are OK with losing some mental clarity. You can choose to take strong opiates and go off in a pleasant foggy cloud.
My son passed away in 2013 and he’s come to me several times to tell me that he was dead before he knew it and it didn’t hurt and it’s great
scientists say natural death isn't painful, in fact you don't know that you're dying.
@@dakotab7147 like those that pass in their sleep. That's how I wanna go.
What a lovely woman!
I am loving this series. I found it so reassuring knowing that I am not alone in this anxiety over death that I can't get rid of.
Thanks for this.
'She's very obese. I shouldn't fat shame her should I' LOL Hilarious
Your last name is Eaton......Are you Eating
@@koffinkat666 Eaton deez nuts
gives me a whole new perspective ...not to wish for it or hope some loved one comes to get me . i have to appreciate everything i have including life
On my last day, I'll be able to say that I have loved and been loved by, wonderful people. Nothing compares with that; no achievement, no possession, no status... It's the only thing that matters
people scared of death: would you rather know how or when you will die? would that make your anxiety worse or would it help you accept it and live your life to its fullest?
For me I think it would make it worse, because the closer it came the more I would think about it.
I'd rather know.
If I had a terminal disease I would want to know how long so I could prepare. Theres nothing worse than seeing ppl grieving but having to figure how they will pay for a funeral. It is cruel and I would like to relieve my family by making the process stress free.
LOVE this series! I' not afraid of dying but I'm learning that Imustprepare more for other's sake.
Thank you Jeff I hope he went peacefully
Rest in peace, Geoff.
I want a ice cream now
I hope I can come to thinking "death is like another adventure" before death arrives💗
She reminds me much like myself. I am thinking I would be really nurturing and caring in this. I am clairaudiance, clairsentience, and clairvoyance. Pure love and a gentle nature. I could help many pass over with no fear. With my last child birth, I had placenta previa attached anterior. I started hemorrhaging at 28 weeks pregnant. I left roughly 10 minutes into my ambulance ride. I was gone for 15 minutes! Everything that I was sure previously was true. The golden room, and the feeling of pure love. I wanted to continue and go further. I was reminded by an unknown figure that I had a baby that needed me "I am a mother of 6 children under 12yo". I came back.
8.08 sounds a lot like what I experienced when I had very low blood pressure in hospital and passed out. It's not the same as dying so fear not. It was a horrible experience for me also and seemed to last a long time and it felt like I was aware the whole time. Again this was fainting and not a near death experience.
How so? You mean the first time he described it?
most people I’ve seen that have embraced death like her are so lovely and happy . interesting
8:23 I do think that people's perspective on death can shape near death experiences, as well as other psychological factors. I'm sure there's a lot more to be understood about what goes on in the brain in those moments.
Multi-coloured darkness absolutely makes sense. It’s like a glimmering, shining void.
This is amazing. Thank you❤
I realize this is an older video. One thing that I decided years ago is that when I am ready, I will say goodbye to people I love and go to sleep and quietly pass. Native Americans recognized that we have the right to decide when we are done with this life, and sing our "Death Song". I will pass on my terms, when I am ready, and in my own home. It won't be a surprise to my family or a burden. If we talked about death as a natural part of life, I think it would help people. We have a choice if we are willing to decide we do. Blessings.
What a beautiful woman.
Comforting to know it’s not as bad as you think . A terminal cancer diagnosis absolutely terrified me.
Hebrews 2:14-15
14 Since the children have flesh and blood,he too shared in their humanity so that by his death he might break the power of him who holds the power of death-that is, the devil- 15 and free those who all their lives were held in slavery by their fear of death.
Love this lady! Chocolates and box sets are great coping mechanisms. 😁😂💖
i want to hug a kitten
I love how she takes her zoom calls from the floor 😅 same!!
Chocolate and box sets... awww me too.
8:56: That is where faith is helpful. ❤✝️
No, we're not ALL scared of death. You console yourself and normalise your anxiety with these words. It's common but not ubiquitous. I've planned and made clear what I want around my end, I just continue to work towards the legalisation of assisted dying in my state.
grateful to have heard from Jeff, glad he’s a rest.
Poor lady helps people pass and she will probably end up dying alone 💔
@MegglesEST1983, Aly won't die alone. It won't matter if living humans are with her in the end because she is going to be surrounded by so many angels and loving spirits. No one is ever truly alone. Our loved ones help us pass and guide us along the way. Even our pets are waiting for us when we pass. I think that society misses a lot by not wanting to discuss death and the process when people are alive and healthy. Blessings.
Interesting and scary 🙏🙏🏾
I don't see the point of planning one's death: On the one hand no one certainly know when they're gonna die, and on the other hand once you die you are not there anymore so why would you like to specifically set what's next?
So you dont have to burden your family with arrangements and funeral expenses. That is why most plan.
Really excellent series
Death is not an event in life: we do not live to experience death. If we take eternity to mean not infinite temporal duration but timelessness, then eternal life belongs to those who live in the present. Our life has no end in just the way in which our visual field has no limits.
Wittgenstein had it right, no need to think about our own death, it's not something we go through Leah.
People that have had NDEs say that the after life is more real than this life
Life as it is!
That's so interesting 🤔. I would never think anybody would want to die in the hospital. The way Leah explained it I kind of get ...
the guy talking about conveyor belt and oblivion is enough to make me want to end it all lol
Going to bed is almost a form of death and Resurrection , if that helps you all.
This is the only time our souls literally leave the body to allow it to rest. And it makes sense since our souls donot sleep. 🤷♀️
"All my cats belong to dead people" freaked me out.
8:39 - I wish I could be in as much denial about death as that guy, it's bizarre to me when people can just dissociate into their own little idea's.
I don’t think he’s in denial at all, he never said he wasn’t going to die. The way he views death is just different from the host and your views.
That first lady is like a look into the future of Mel Giedroyc! Not only the mannerisms but they even look alike aha!
"All My Cats Belong To Dead People"...I want that on a T-Shirt. It's my new life affirming mantra.
R.I.P.
rest easy Geoff
I plan on cremation. The cemetery s are filling up to fast. Besides where I reside is not my home. My father was military so we moved around alot. If I had to say what place I lived would claim as home it would be Germany. Bettigen.the village we lived in twice. I want my friends to have a bbq and just celebrate my life.
"some oatcakes for me!" i love this woman
At 10:25 Geoff says something important, that he's probably going to make sure he's got a little stash of pills on hand, mainly just so he knows he's got some control over dying.
I'm no better informed on what it's going to be like when the time comes but my plan is to accept that I have no control, to surrender all control to the loving power that for the last 17 years I've believed is taking care of me. At least that's how I feel now.
But there's a diversity of views on this and I'm not wanting to preach my beliefs to anyone with opposite ones. Respect!
I’m not afraid of death. I’m so curious and I can’t wait! Seriously.
Help me understand why the diagnosis of a terminal illness should make such an impact when you have been dying since the moment you were conceived. When every step you make takes you one step closer to the inevitable. Why does a terminal diagnosis somehow seem to be extra confirmation of the inevitability of something you already know is going to happen?
Sometimes we don't have a choose were we die
I personally don't want to die in a hospital. It seems so cold and clinical to me. I'd rather die at home with loved ones around me. Seems more peaceful that way but i know everyone has their own ideas about death and dying. No judgement!
What a beautiful thing to do, I've never heard of an end-of-life doula before.
I have EDS (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome), Congestive Heart Failure, and Cervical Cancer and I'm terrified of dying. I'm terrified of leaving my son and family. I'm terrified of it all. I've seen death a few times. Not once was it a calm, nice, painless, or non traumatizing death. So ya I'm scared to death of... death
There are countless NDE stories
in UA-cam which might help ?
Please believe that Death is NOT
the end .
Hi.... Don't be afraid at all.... You will cross over into spirit and you will see the family members that you incarnated with.... You will have the opportunity to review your life, and evaluate it..... It is a time of rest, of recuperation....
It is simply another phase of our existence.... Enjoy the journey.
Sending you love
the death dealee's mark ryden pillow made me scream omg
mark ryden is my favorite artist :)
Rest In Peace sir
Wow my severe anxiety has a name. Death anxiety. I think about dying all the time I'm talking many times an hour. It's very crippling. I'm so glad to know that this has a name and that other people suffer from Death anxiety I had no idea. Thank you so much for making these videos I am the kind of person that feels death should be out in the open. there should be loved ones around us when we die I am for physician-assisted dying. And I think having a death doula is an amazing gift to give oneself. Again thank you for making this video it really was incredibly meaningful for me
I know how you feel. It takes over your mind. I am exactly the same. It's very distressing. I hope you can overcome your fear.
@@petitehippie7064 thanks for leaving a reply. I'm so sorry to hear that you're struggling with this type of anxiety. And I hope that you find relief and peace. Have a great day
Thanks for your comment, Kavita. Glad you are enjoying the videos. LG
Hi Kavita, I am so sorry you're going through this. I had a very tough time with death anxiety a couple of years ago. I read studies that said older people are actually less afraid of death, and that reassured me - perhaps once we've lived a LOT, we're not so scared of letting go. And hopefully once we are in our fading years, we will be given the option to have assisted dying, which is a very peaceful process.
@@alexg8537 thank you so much for replying to my comment. I really appreciate it.
Lovely 🌹🌹
Though...what is a box set? Hmm
the guy talking about being on a conveyor belt seriously freaked me out because that is literally what happens in the movie soul. They're on a conveyor belt,
I wouldn't join the fire service if I were you
It is Geoff not Jeff.
I don't think that I would like the idea of an American style funeral they seem way to formal.I prefer something more of a celebration like an Irish Catholic pub wake or Buddhist street parade or even the dramatics of Asian funerals where loved ones are screaming and tearing out their hair..It's an emotional time afterall
American funerals are very formal get togetherness of families that haven’t spoke in years .. it’s awful
I personally donot think we will care what happens after we pass with our bodies. This is basically something we do for the sake of our loved ones to ease the pressure of funeral preparations. I personally hope to get the chance to make my arrangements before I go. That way it will ease the pressure of my loved ones so they can celebrate how funny I was. ❤️ 😁
If you know where you're going after death, you'll have no fear
Even if you could know absolutely certainly, you might still be afraid. Change is frightening, and big changes are very frightening.
There is not really a 'death', just a change of "clothing" (of energies) going back in chakra 4 meters abov our head (I lived young a NDE / near death experiment with bronchopneumonia), annd returned in my body safe, cured with compassion for me, for I AM... all the time MY CHOICES of perfection..., or not !§!) !!! Repeat you the best you need !!!
I cured myself tree times like that. Do it simple with deep breathes !
It’s strange how we are frightened of death when death doesn’t actually exist. And we can actually prove to ourselves that there is no death if we only take the time to look ...but most of us are to busy to be bothered to look ..
What does this mean
rhianne ... most of us are to busy to investigate if there is a spiritual realm . We just live our life’s year after year and don’t even think about the spiritual world. Some people even say there is no spiritual realm and yet have never bothered to look into the many proofs of life after death..
Whooa like this comment, worth some consideration
Chris Jones thank you ... I am just like every other person and I admit I’m frightened of death but I decided to look into it and have seen many proofs that there is life after death .
I am not afraid of death. I am afraid of suffering before I transition.
Terrifying to me as well