How to Overcome Fear - SHAOLIN MASTER | Shi Heng Yi 2023

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  • @MulliganBrothersInterviews
    @MulliganBrothersInterviews  5 місяців тому +22

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    • @purkyshop513
      @purkyshop513 5 місяців тому

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  • @justprey411
    @justprey411 5 місяців тому +385

    "Fear is your friend don't try to overcome it, learn to live with it, listen to it, acknowledge it but don't let it be your master".

    • @synapsia
      @synapsia 5 місяців тому +13

      Exactly, deep dive into your fear do what you are most afraid of!

    • @iceman168
      @iceman168 4 місяці тому +7

      Fear is a primal instinct, however we must learn how to overcome it. Because if we fear from everything, then we have no right to live.

    • @jeetkunedoseries521
      @jeetkunedoseries521 4 місяці тому +5

      ABSOLUTELY 💯... face your Fears and Embrace the fact that you have the courage to face them!!!😊

    • @CannibalenFrankie
      @CannibalenFrankie 4 місяці тому

      Better advice, thanks 😊

    • @SpeakNewLiFe
      @SpeakNewLiFe 4 місяці тому

      Your greatest friend & enemy

  • @eltontheander7431
    @eltontheander7431 3 місяці тому +36

    As a psychologist, this is exactly the method I encourage my clients to practice. Thanks for sharing this essential knowledge- nothing else will heal our lives and world than people taking complete responsibly for themselves.

    • @ailidhlalala1592
      @ailidhlalala1592 3 місяці тому

      The world needs more psychologists like you seem to be ❤
      Thanks for your work :😊

    • @Kapojos
      @Kapojos 2 місяці тому

      Well first of all you need God to truly live to your full potential. And you need to accept that you are a weak sinner.

  • @Fra1405
    @Fra1405 4 місяці тому +42

    You aren't your thoughts,emotions...no identification is the key❤

    • @everready800
      @everready800 3 місяці тому

      We're always told We're not our physical bodies. Now we're not our thoughts?

    • @kbased10
      @kbased10 3 місяці тому +7

      ​​@@everready800we are not our thoughts, we are the result of our reaction to those thoughts.
      Someone who thinks of stealing but doesn't steal is not a theif.

  • @Wilson632
    @Wilson632 3 місяці тому +30

    If fear is one of the emotions you face don't face it alone ask the Lord for his holy spirit he gives us strength beyond our own🙌

    • @michaelperkins3003
      @michaelperkins3003 3 місяці тому +3

      You must still deal with the now in person, not just in spirit. Prayer alone will not bring success, your belief that then turns into action will bring success in whatever quest you have.

    • @TheVulvarine
      @TheVulvarine 2 дні тому

      if you don't believe in god just say that​@@michaelperkins3003

  • @kennygold217
    @kennygold217 Місяць тому +3

    Bless you shi heng yi. Love you brother

  • @namrataroy2322
    @namrataroy2322 3 місяці тому +20

    "If they can be perceived then it means they are not you"❤🙏That's it.

  • @Badkhela
    @Badkhela 3 місяці тому +20

    Guys, if you are fearful of something, it just means you arent prepared to face it, whatever "it" is. Preparation is the key to overcoming fear. Many are afraid or too lazy to get into the trenches but its in the trenches where it prepares you, gives you wisdom and knowledge. Embrace the trenches and you will have no fear.

  • @dr.vandanajerin9864
    @dr.vandanajerin9864 5 місяців тому +40

    I am really an admirer of master,his teaching is just so impressive.
    Love and prayers from India.

  • @Patriotx-gx4ce
    @Patriotx-gx4ce 5 місяців тому +17

    Fear serves to that make you realize your weakness so you can replace it with confidence and bravery as you age.
    It's a an emotion that when we are young keeps us in line and out of harm's way.
    Its part of growing up, but once you reach adulthood it serves the opposite purpose and many forget to not let it overshadow their true potential and it's result of waisted energy usually pondering on what future hold while they forget to live in the only moment we have to shine-NOW IN THE PRESENT.

  • @nancystaquet5039
    @nancystaquet5039 5 місяців тому +15

    Many thanks ...fear is the big enemy...when it's too big ...the mind should prevent ...with wisdom ...

  • @Thyranel
    @Thyranel 5 місяців тому +17

    Thank you for this amazing video. My thought about fear is Face Everything And Rise!!!! I wish my brothers and sister that reads this that I belive in you and I love you all.

  • @MindfulExplorations-op7bg
    @MindfulExplorations-op7bg 5 місяців тому +12

    Just what I needed today, "Thank You" 🙏☮ 😊

  • @jerrypasion1343
    @jerrypasion1343 Місяць тому +1

    THANK YOU! I've been watching almost a hundred videos about anxiety and magical thinking but this struck me the most!

  • @trinitywave
    @trinitywave 5 місяців тому +9

    Thank you Shi Heng yi. Grateful for your teachings. Love and Light.

  • @stuartsmith7738
    @stuartsmith7738 3 місяці тому +5

    We all have the same emotion of fear you can’t conquer it but you can make it work for you and harness it

  • @Cloppa2000
    @Cloppa2000 Місяць тому +1

    Clear as mud! Thank you!

  • @questtaken
    @questtaken 5 місяців тому +6

    Thank you Master Shi Heng Yi and Mulligan Brothers

  • @nickhopkins5918
    @nickhopkins5918 3 місяці тому +3

    Intuitive fear is our innermost guidance system & should NOT be removed. We can however learn to process & heal learned fear.

  • @QuotesS7
    @QuotesS7 3 місяці тому +3

    Profoundly inspiring! Shi Heng Yi's insights on overcoming fear blend Shaolin wisdom with practicality. A must-watch for anyone seeking to conquer their fears and embrace inner strength. Truly transformative!

  • @Red23165
    @Red23165 5 місяців тому +7

    Thanks always look forward to your videos so inspiring ❤❤❤

  • @stuart4rd700
    @stuart4rd700 3 місяці тому +8

    N = Non-identify. What he is saying is, if you can "percieve" your own emotion (point it out and identify it) that means it is not "you" ("You" are the one pointing at it). So there is no need to identify with the emotion because it is not "you."

    • @operationblackbishop4785
      @operationblackbishop4785 Місяць тому

      I would put it another way.
      Everything can be perceived in the certain context. No context, no perception.
      So as Jung said, if something making you nervous it is something in you that resonates with it. So you have some internal context which makes you perceive.

    • @tresmegetit369
      @tresmegetit369 9 днів тому +2

      ​@@operationblackbishop4785 I agree. Very good here. Then, instead of saying, "I am This Anger" you can instead say, " I FEEL this anger but the anger is NOT WHO I AM it is what I feel about some circumstance going on in my life". And, this monk has said, " you investigate as if you were an investigator and ask where it comes from, why is it there and any other important questions but without judgement. Then simply accept that you are feeling hurt, anger, envy or whatever it is one is currently feeling.
      These emotions are the waves on an ocean but not the ocean itself but somehow is resonate with the under currents of the ocean. The rise and they fall and can do so without an injury to one's true self.

  • @dergelenkspreizer5272
    @dergelenkspreizer5272 Місяць тому +3

    Hmm. I was told this: You are a barkeeper. Through the front door emotions get in. You investigate them. The good ones get a beer and a little chat. The bad ones cross the room and leave through the backdoor. I think what he's saying just by using other words.

  • @erikkdraven
    @erikkdraven 4 місяці тому +3

    fear is a good thing it warns us of possible danger so listen to your fear.
    when you say something you do recognize it but from your own perspective this is also the same as what we see or hear we all have a different perspective .

  • @coffeetalk924
    @coffeetalk924 3 місяці тому +4

    There certainly is substance to fear, and the fact that you're alive demonstrates it quite effectively. It isn't fear itself that has no substance. It is disproportionate fear that lacks substance. Hyper-exaggerated fear, irrational fear, or even a lack of fear, which can alter good judgement.

  • @OptimusAwakening
    @OptimusAwakening 5 місяців тому +12

    Thank you so much for this video. I am extremely grateful for this insight into something i have experienced a lot recently. Letting of family is hard even though they're toxic/narc, i have been incredibly used to the cycles, which i am starting to break. Now im stepping into the unknown but starting to find and learn about my true self, bit of a rollercoaster but feels amazing at the same time.
    Peace

  • @mileysong1117
    @mileysong1117 5 місяців тому +1

    love this , world needs more of this...!!!

  • @queenrefiloe7287
    @queenrefiloe7287 5 місяців тому +4

    WOW, that is powerful,I needed to hear that today.thank you Master 🙏 ❤

  • @sgracem2863
    @sgracem2863 29 днів тому +2

    Fear is a very difficult emotion for me because when it comes up it’s very insistent on an immediate reaction. I don’t feel I have the time in social situations to do all of this before I act and end up doing something I’m not proud of.

  • @joemay2640
    @joemay2640 3 місяці тому +1

    I love your teachings ❤

  • @nishriva
    @nishriva 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for this wonderful video. These Shaolin teachings have been life-changing for me and the credit goes to you guys for filming and sharing this wisdom with us. Kudos to your team for this amazing project!

  • @vanquishtheodds
    @vanquishtheodds 2 місяці тому +2

    Fear is the door and pathway to inner power.

  • @Craig285
    @Craig285 3 місяці тому

    Thank you

  • @beingisthebestjoy
    @beingisthebestjoy 4 місяці тому

    Thnk you for your wisdom master ❤

  • @johnnyshinto
    @johnnyshinto 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you luv this guy

  • @hafeezullahkhan4680
    @hafeezullahkhan4680 4 місяці тому

    Beautifully explained, great wisdom

  • @graphicworks4u
    @graphicworks4u 5 місяців тому +10

    Fear is not an illusion. It's a feeling. Since the human being is the only animal that thinks he is not an animal, he denies fear. Rationally, the human being retreats in fear, instinctively, the animals advance for fear of losing their lives.

    • @aiofg7545
      @aiofg7545 4 місяці тому +2

      so basically an illusion

    • @Spiror
      @Spiror 4 місяці тому +2

      I can make you fear without harm you cause you dont know the result…..only imagine 😂😂 is an illusion. If a human jump from a cliff he will die no need for fear if you know the result, if you don’t know the result you fear….dont fear for uncertain things just do what you must without fear. Also some emotions are depend from hormones like testo or cortisol…..more testo and you dont fear anything cause you know you are strong 💪 😅😅

    • @everready800
      @everready800 3 місяці тому

      Many animals run, swim or fly away in fear.

    • @graphicworks4u
      @graphicworks4u 2 місяці тому

      Eu sou um animal e não sinto medo de nada.

  • @daltondammthebabe
    @daltondammthebabe 3 місяці тому

    absolutely loved it !!!

  • @eddierobles2137
    @eddierobles2137 2 місяці тому +1

    Great insights . The Bible teaches not to fear because the more we fight it the bigger it gets . Don t run away from it either . Instead acknowledge it and go thru it . Thanks for this video

  • @AwakeningAscendancy
    @AwakeningAscendancy 5 місяців тому +4

    *The teachings of non-attachment in Buddhism are liberating! 🌈 It's about finding freedom in detachment. 🕊*

  •  5 місяців тому +10

    Thank you for the video ☀️🙏
    Yes, fear is the serious enemy. Fear can overtake the body and mind. And then here helps breathing and mindfulness.🙏

  • @RaymondCoutu-wn5sw
    @RaymondCoutu-wn5sw 2 місяці тому

    He got me saying everything ive felt in the past, and will in the future.

  • @xafter828
    @xafter828 2 місяці тому

    I needed this so much rn. Respect to him.

  • @lorettarode571
    @lorettarode571 4 місяці тому +1

    I already saw many of Shi Heng Yis videos and there is still something new. Wow, so great . His personality is so inspiring. Thank you very much 💕 Ganz herzlichen Dank. Viele Grüße aus der Nähe Hannovers 🌺

  • @coldflu
    @coldflu 5 місяців тому +1

    Fear is energy, like all emotions.

  • @Polarstern1901
    @Polarstern1901 5 місяців тому +5

    Thank You SHAOLIN MASTER SHI HENG YI ❤❤❤ Wish You a blessed and happy new year 2024.
    Lydia Sarah von Löffelholz (de la Blanche)
    My favourised Animals in wildlife are Elephants. People have to save them and protect them. ❤❤❤

  • @Bringiton513
    @Bringiton513 2 місяці тому

    Although hard as I try I am not able to use his teachings to bring about desired changes in my life, I have deep respect for this man. He really believes what he say and for me that is being genuine. Whether I agree or not, whether I find value or not, this man is a joy to watch simply because he is genuine. Maybe one day I would also be able to put his teachings into practice. Thank you for these videos.

  • @jennymcgowin9140
    @jennymcgowin9140 3 місяці тому

    That is a mind blowing thought…that last bit. Wow!

  • @user-qn4eb8pw8i
    @user-qn4eb8pw8i 2 місяці тому +1

    I like the cinema analogy. In terms of seeking your true self I think of it as: If you can see it, you can change it, and if you can change it, it is not you.

  • @dendriller
    @dendriller 4 місяці тому

    Amen 🙏!

  • @fullas3087
    @fullas3087 20 днів тому

    Říká to dobře...tak to je...

  • @CUNDUNDO
    @CUNDUNDO 4 місяці тому +4

    Fear can be your best friend, or it can be your worst enemy it can save you or it can kill you , the way you deal with it is key.

    • @johng2779
      @johng2779 3 місяці тому

      Luck also plays a part in it. Like say in a war or battlefield.

  • @pinakisingh206
    @pinakisingh206 4 місяці тому

    May Lord Budhha give you more wisdom for more n more precious teachings like this. Long Live for Your earthly existence from the core of my heart.🙏

  • @1997mita
    @1997mita 4 місяці тому

    Wow!

  • @cesarlabastida1392
    @cesarlabastida1392 5 місяців тому

    Master Shi is calm wisdom in person

  • @flappospammo
    @flappospammo 3 місяці тому

    Wise words from a wise man

  • @christopherellis2663
    @christopherellis2663 4 місяці тому +3

    《Who fears suffering has already suffers what he fears 》 Montaigne

  • @mozhodzhodzho
    @mozhodzhodzho Місяць тому +1

    It's crazy how I instinctively knew what he meant by N in the R.A.I.N. because that's what I've learned (not too long) (and bear with me here) during a pretty strong PMS 😂 Usually you can find the "reasons" for feeling so overwhelmed by emotions. But that time I didn't. There was nothing wrong. Nothing to complain about. Yet hormonal emotional storm still came and shook me to the core. And I was just lying there thinking "yes, I feel these emotions. Yes, they're extremely intense. But I don't have any ground for them. They're just hormones acting up. They're real, they're important, I need to feel them and understand they belong to me. But they're not me, they will pass. It's an important emotion, but it's just an emotion".
    That day for the first time in my life I've felt grateful for periods.... because to learn that "an emotion is just an emotion" felt so powerful ❤and natural...

  • @jasonhazard6664
    @jasonhazard6664 4 місяці тому

    Respect 🙏 I'm.nice and shy good light train 😊so happy

  • @spaideman440
    @spaideman440 2 місяці тому

    my interpretation is 'its all from your perception, if you see things differently ie. from compassion point of view, it will no longer affect you.

  • @quartytypo
    @quartytypo 2 місяці тому

    Get Saved and fear goes away.

  • @jeaniechampagne8831
    @jeaniechampagne8831 3 місяці тому

    Fear is a gift.

  • @tedvandell
    @tedvandell 4 місяці тому +1

    Embrace your fears. Become very familiar with them. Familiarity is the best way to manage fear.

  • @Stanley-xc4yc
    @Stanley-xc4yc 4 місяці тому +1

    00:02:11 wisdom 💯🔥🌈

  • @Oldman525
    @Oldman525 3 місяці тому

    Knowledge expels fear.

  • @Cosmicsurfpro
    @Cosmicsurfpro 5 місяців тому

    LOVE>fear... In everything we choose Love or fear. Anger sadness jealousy hate envy are all from fear and come from thinking in the past or future... Love is joy bliss gratefulness and contentment and connection that comes from the present moment...🙏🏻❤️

  • @marcolozano1524
    @marcolozano1524 2 місяці тому

    I would add one step ..transfor the emotions into something possitive like love ,trust ,gratefulness,..find the meaning the sense for that emotion and transform it that is Alquimia ..thanks Brother Shao Lynn

  • @goober685
    @goober685 3 місяці тому

    I am not my pain. Gods that's huge! I am the sky on which the clouds of my emotions pass.

  • @jasonhazard6664
    @jasonhazard6664 4 місяці тому

    Good 🍎

  • @harryiman7093
    @harryiman7093 5 місяців тому +2

    The whole Life is an Illusion

  • @Mecagothits
    @Mecagothits 5 місяців тому

    more of master she hung pls !!!!!

  • @redbirdsaraceno
    @redbirdsaraceno 3 місяці тому

    if fear os an illusion than so is love.

  • @parahelionqigong
    @parahelionqigong 5 місяців тому +1

    Being a master is an illusion as well

  • @VASHU2004
    @VASHU2004 5 місяців тому

    🙏🙏❤❤️shifu master

  • @subratabikashbarua3263
    @subratabikashbarua3263 3 місяці тому

    I'm new here😍

  • @jasonhazard6664
    @jasonhazard6664 4 місяці тому

    Free

  • @user-gg2zw3mc2l
    @user-gg2zw3mc2l 3 місяці тому

    Fear is an illusion, but the most powerful kind; because of this it should never be discussed. Dwelling on fear disables. Courage is all that matters. Talk of fear is like looking into a black hole and failing to see the light within it, literally or figuratively.

  • @monkeymanonfire
    @monkeymanonfire 5 місяців тому +1

    Great wisdom!👍

  • @sohailgani35
    @sohailgani35 3 місяці тому

    Fear only lord. Never fear even death because that’s our departure to a new beautiful peaceful for ever new life

  • @pavelpetre5159
    @pavelpetre5159 3 місяці тому

    If traumas leads to forgetfullness and worse, how there cannot be fear ?! But doing what is right in the presence of fear is true courage.

  • @protectorfitness1981
    @protectorfitness1981 2 місяці тому

    I hope y’all put your profits to the master ! He is the real deal

  • @ChristoMac
    @ChristoMac 5 місяців тому +3

    I Love Master Shi Heng Yi but fear is certainly not an "illusion". Fear is what stops you from running in front of a moving train, it's a survival mechanism. However, some people's fears are illusions. Much Love and Respect.

    • @vokay-ft6hh
      @vokay-ft6hh 4 місяці тому

      That does not mean it isn't a construct of the mind. It is definitely helpful, as we would not be here without. Exactly as youre describing, fear is important and integral to our survival. In modern days, however, our mind tends to overcompensate for what it is we are fearing. Like writing a paper, or making your bed, just to give a couple examples. This is when it is no longer labeled as fear, but as anxiety. When researching anxiety and the martial arts, this is what came up. I realized that labeling as anxiety is what gives it so much power. It is fear that I do not need, because there is no material value to it, exactly as Master Shi is describing. It is different when there is material value to it, like when there is a train that could hurt you, in your example. You simply want to know when it is genuine. I hope I am not received in aggression, I simply wish to provide my own context. I am no expert. I also hope you have a wonderful day.

  • @azucenadorantes2338
    @azucenadorantes2338 3 місяці тому

    🙏❤❤❤❤!

  • @banerankovic4688
    @banerankovic4688 2 місяці тому

    Damage is reality.
    Fear has its purpose.

  • @inspired2bwholewellnesscha559
    @inspired2bwholewellnesscha559 5 місяців тому +1

    Thanks 🎉so much 💓 for your videos with Master Yi.They are the best. I noticed people stealing them....I don't watch those 😮

  • @JRJones333
    @JRJones333 3 місяці тому

    Having courage is not about never being afraid. You might be scared to do something but you do it anyway is the definition of courage. Courageous people are not without fear. Overcome a fear only if it is necessary in your job or brings you happiness in life. For example, if public speaking is occasionally part of your job and you are uncomfortable with it, overcome your fear with proper training, practice and preparation. And then do it even if you have fear. The more you do it the less fearful you will be. But if for example you have a fear of heights and bungee cording off a tall bridge brings you neither happiness or is part of you job, there is no need to overcome that fear.

  • @desdayoungin760
    @desdayoungin760 3 місяці тому +1

    Rain 🌧️

  • @detropeRR
    @detropeRR 4 місяці тому

    Just meditate and be mindful

  • @johnd3301
    @johnd3301 5 місяців тому

    I get it.

  • @Shuaigede
    @Shuaigede 2 місяці тому

    I’ve been doing this naturally for many years now

  • @user-gi9ft8lb5y
    @user-gi9ft8lb5y 2 місяці тому

    In the Army I learned that everyone has fear and the way to overcome this fear is to do your job and your thoughts will turn to your job and the fear will be set aside until the battle it over. Then you can loose your lunch. If you die it will be fast and you will not even know it happens. When wounded you use your mind to settle you pain and think good thoughts.

  • @michaelglendinning1738
    @michaelglendinning1738 3 місяці тому +1

    Here is a trinity to keep in mind: 1) laughter 2) crying 3) orgasm. They all usually don't have words attached to them. We cry and laugh when people die. We laugh and cry when people are born. It is all made possible by an orgasm. Smile.....this place has a sense of humor.

  • @RushavMohanty
    @RushavMohanty 4 місяці тому

    Thought is a train. Nobody, gets on a train not knowing where they started and not knowing where they need to get off. But some of us choose the sensation of moving forward even when our stop has passed us by. Or some of us fall asleep at the most inopportune time, right before our stop. And our train of thought carries us to places we never intended to go.

  • @heinmolenaar6750
    @heinmolenaar6750 2 місяці тому

    Fear is not a illusion

  • @markhyde1970
    @markhyde1970 3 місяці тому

    Fear is like fire. You can let it burn you and be hurt by it. Or , you can use it to heat you , to cook for you , to warm you. Fear can be your friend, if you master it.

  • @aureo3008
    @aureo3008 4 місяці тому

    Is the sentence "they can be perceived it means they are not you" feasable for our thoughts ?
    Thank you for this deep meaning lesson

  • @user-dl2ct9ms2t
    @user-dl2ct9ms2t 2 місяці тому +1

    My libgs are getting worse. I am afraid of my impending heart attack. And I want to be peaceful. But when your lungs give out and your heart gives out , who wouldn't be scared of that?
    Not knowing what the paramedics or ER will do scares me. A heart attack is no peaceful way to pass. Pass. Pray for me people.

  • @Avegeania
    @Avegeania 3 місяці тому

    How i approach fear is something that I call a "Fear Tree".
    Investigate the trail of fear to the root and attack that with all you got. The rest of the tree will fall. Fear of Financial issues? You need a job/extra job, put all your effort towards it.
    Identify the root where you can convert fear to effort, you can't just remove fear but you can trade it off for effort which is in your control and a choice.

  • @shivakumarv301
    @shivakumarv301 2 місяці тому

    If life is maya then you are right. If you believe in material world and world full of desires then you cannot be understood.

  • @c.d1685
    @c.d1685 2 місяці тому

    Fear is also there for good reason. The key is to understand risk factors linked to the fear. 2 people who are about to jump off a cliff. Both will have a element of fear. To dismiss this fear though is stupid unless you have taken into account the risk factors involved.