I love how Stelios works with people. He is so gentle and compassionate. Alex was in a really bad way here and his family doesn't seem to realize that, especially the blonde daughter. But the wife seems to have learned a bit. Alex needs more real friends and more cooking lessons!
If it would be considered a crime, you know how it would go, just like every other law... Only attractive and wealthy who are born in country of this law would benefit from it, while poor, sick and/or foreign would be accused of lies, outcast further and thrown around heartless mental health care and pushed to any of the [...]cides.
Lawrence needs counselling too. You can't just change him by getting rid of his stuff. Alex is deeply entrenched in his own thoughts of the past . I think they both need to be taken away from their surroundings and do other things for awhile. Get out of their own heads
Yes me too. Kiosses's explation about hoarders and their mental issues made me understand my mom now. She is a hoarder. After years of resentment, arguement, yelling and hurting each other etc, I feel sorry for my mom and now starting to embrace her for better mother-daugther relationship 😊
After seeing the Disney collector, it is difficult for me to see much difference between the collector and the hoarder. The collector can fall off that slippery slope of keeping the collection clean and the living space livable.
It’s really quite sad when you think of it. This is a man who feels like his life has no purpose. That’s why I think even if you’re well to do and you have the money to leave your children and support your children there needs to be a cut off point. They need to find their own way. Because if you’ve achieved nothing externally on your own then it’s like you’re a ghost in your own life.
Collecting is when you have them nicely displayed and/or organized. Everything has a place and is in place 🙂 Hoarding is unorganized and it effects your well-being. It becomes to much to manage and you need help to clean it.
Collecting also involves selling some of your items and knowing when the collection getting too big. If you realize you have too much and can sell some of the items knowing they are just material objects, then that is more of collecting and not hoarding. One should also value people and experiences more than their collection.
I don’t understand how collectors can still exist after everything is made in China and sold online. I’d buy as much as I can afford off the internet, and keep it in my house… I’d be drowning in a mountain of hoard in one month or two.
I know someone has sllot stuff cristmass decorations and Halloween allots vintage is all organized in big storage unit not brother's anyone dis man has very beautiful vintage birds that is can be sold and make money not trow it away is not siting in anybody head is siting in his house that about garage is need be clean and organized and sold him work for everything is has all coast money
Poor alex their parents replace love with toys, they have all the money but couldnt give him the attention and love he needed, instead of that he recive material things
I think my favorite part of this episode was that despite the "churning" of items to another space, Stelios did not bring it up while he was congratulating Alex on his steps forward. I kept expecting it to come up, but it was entirely positive and that was a nice feeling!
Perfect choice of words: “ professional declutterers have chosen to take Birdman Lawrence under their wing. This show , dealing with difficult and painful issues is still able to inject a little bit of humor. Well done.
See, there’s such a big difference between what this show does, and what the American show “Hoarders” does. This show actually takes the time to give the person therapy and doesn’t rush them to throw everything out in 3 days. Those shows are chaotic and stressful, these are not.
The American show usually features people who have been given eviction notices and will literally be kicked out if they don't clear things out right away. It also adds to the drama (which gives the show more views and therefore makes more money). I wish that all hoarders had the opportunity to have a therapist like Stelios to help guide them through the process and heal mentally.
This is the better way but the American show only focus on the people who have a deadline do to police or family and that adds to it as a hoarder myself the American show is so stressful and I get mad at how they are doing things
My thoughts exactly! The American shows claim to take a psychological approach, but really often end up attacking, harassing and shaming the hoarder and making them into the villain. The American shows lose sight of the mental illness to focus on cleaning out the hoard in record time. I understand that the situations being dealt with are usually extremely unsafe and unhealthy but these people have serious disorders. I sometimes wonder if removing them from their homes is preferred so they can be treated apart from their hoard.
I wonder if Stelios considered that Alex may be autistic. The fixation to a routine is a very classic autistic trait, as is the pursuit of a very niche sort of hobby (called a special interest). Alex could very well be autistic, and his special interest could be recording TV programs. That could also be why he got to be so shut off from his family-- a lot of autistic people withdraw when they're not in the best mental state rather than seeking the comfort of others. I only say this because I myself am autistic and I do see myself in Alex. And, you know, the same could maybe be said of Lawrence as well, with his special interests being birds and thimbles. I'm getting autistic vibes from him too. And I generally do have a good radar about finding my fellow autistics. :)
They are both truly precious people but I get the impression that they both may have ASD. Lack of emotional affect, detachment from people, hyper focused on special interest… all symptoms of ASD
I really enjoy these episodes over the American version because it really attempts to tackle the underlying cause and address maladaptive behaviour plus they do it over an extended time frame. I realise the US version usually deals with more severe cases with a time frame but for someone with a severe psychological disorder that kind of pressure is often counterproductive, especially as a long term solution.
You can love and sympathize with the hoarder but it doesn't mean that you you can live in that environment. I know from personal experience that if you are overwhelmed by clutter and stuff and your married to a person that hoards or has loads of clutter...you yourself will go mad.
@@froggy9191 Family members who are frustrated, concerned, at their wits end should have a support group where they can learn how to get through to those with a hoarding disorder to help them, or stage an intervention.
@@eileenworth7862 So sorry to learn of the circumstances around your brother’s passing. He is free of his mental and physical prison now so I hope that you have been able to come to terms with it all. I would love to help people with hoarder issues, but I am deathly afraid of insects so I can’t see myself ever doing that sort of thing.
When the parents say “it’s beginning to be a problem”, shows that they don’t see how bad it is either. It began to be a problem probably 10 yrs ago. It’s now well into being a problem. Far far into being a problem. Crazy. The viewers can likely clearly see that the problem began a very long time ago. I understand how fantastic the doctor is, and that makes this show such a good one, but man, these calls for help should have happened many years ago. But, it is a very good show, and I completely agree with the other comment or who compared this one to the American one. The Brit’s are far more compassionate in all regards - in my opinion.
Hoarding disorder is actually a type of OCD, believe it or not! That's why it's called compulsive hoarding-- it is indeed an obsessive compulsion. I'm also getting big autistic vibes from these gentlemen. I'm autistic myself, and I usually have a pretty good radar about it.
My parents were “ANTIQUE DEALERS”. hoarders, I had to clean out the house by my self because my sister was in a wheel chair. She needed the money from the sale of the house to care for herself. Truly she did. But that left me with m parents hoard of antiques in my home. We lost 2 rooms and the entire basement to my parents hoard. That was AFTER I sold off 2 , 1 ton trucks of the furniture. Thank god, but it took me 4 more years to sell off my parents antique hoard.
I thought Stelios’ insight into the origins of Alex’s hoarding… that Alex was trying to keep the positive feelings alive of his older, doting parents was spot on. Have you met others with collecting impulses? Comic books? Sports Memorabilia? Collecting began in childhood with a parent, grandparents, maybe older siblings or extended family. The happy time when life stretched out it seemed forever. Today it is The Farm. Or the storage locker. The hoarded house and property. If you are lucky, you can get good therapy. If not, you continue to hoard in vain, perhaps, like Alex, ignoring the love around you. Bravo, Stelios!
If Alex's parents had truly been doting -- if they had formed real and deep emotional connections to Alex, if they had made him feel cherished and safe -- then he wouldn't have become a hoarder. Tremendous emotional pain from childhood creates the hoarding impulse (there wasn't enough love, there wasn't enough stability). Listen again, and you'll hear that Alex said his father took him to the toyshop weekly perhaps to compensate for all the things that he (an older father) couldn't do for his son. I'd bet $1000 that his father was unable -- not bc of age but bc of his own psych. issues -- to be a truly reassuring, loving figure for his son.
@@dw999 we can’t know that! And why do you assume there was emotional pain? And a lack of emotional connection? That he was not cherished? That is going waaay too far. We’re not talking about a serial killer. We’re talking about a guy who fell in love with stuff because that’s what parents his age could engage in with him. Had they been younger, they might have been sports enthusiasts. I thought Alex fit the nerd profile. Distracted by too many independent interests. Not practically suited for family life. But no trauma legacy to pass on.
@@Propfaqs I studied to become a therapist (chose not to practice, but did the coursework), plus I know a fair amount about hoarding. I can understand your being resistant to seeing beneath the surface of this -- a lot of people are in a lot of pain (that's why the world is a mess), and to face someone else's pain is to come uncomfortably close to one's own. But if we don't face the complexity of our emotions and our lives, then those feelings express themselves through destructive actions (such as hoarding). Just something to think about as you decide whether to start looking beneath the surface. Not to mention that Stelios himself makes clear, in every episode, that hoarding arises from a traumatic loss. That's some serious denial you're stuck in ...
@@Propfaqs you do not necessarily become serial killer bec. lack of parents love - but certainly you will lack the ability to connect with your family. And depressed.
@@dw999 right. The traumatic loss of a happy childhood! Nothing more! Take the man on his word instead of projecting onto him trauma that did not exist.
Alex’s wife also needs therapy as she is just as emotionally distant as he was. She didn’t connect with him emotionally anytime during this video, I thought she would have at least given him a hug at the end. Even during the meal she seemed to be bringing him down.
It's not her fault, he's pushed her away for so many years, how do you expect her to act? She's always been rebuffed, so she's gotten used to keeping her distance.
She looked hurt to find out that an used yogurt container can be more valuable to her husband rather than her, she understood it's his illness but you can still see the hurt in her eyes
Alex may have developed bad thoughts if he doesn’t record everything. Like if he doesn’t do it, something bad will happen to him or the family. I’ve seen this in other OCD
He also speaks in a drone-like cadence. Its like listening to Eeyore. He seems not all there. The man is obviously in decline, I hope the best outcome for him and his family.
Just started watching 2 minutes in and I can say good for Jackie for keeping that garbage out of the main house, because if she didn't he surely would of taken it over. Alex is not a bad person he just needs help. I do feel that he is extremely depressed 😔 I hope that he and his family can get the help that they all need. May God bless them all.
Weren't Alex and Jackie the most beautiful young people?? Shows how no one has any idea what they are walking into when they're young, what life is going to dish out.
I like birds are beautiful not like garage bird room not looking bad at all him must sell all birds on ebayy or esty online not give all free away is coast money is not get free
I see Lawrence does not live in earthquake country!!! I'd love to see his collection in a public museum. I'm another Lawrence...and I collect frog figurines, and some turtles and owls...I see many nice pieces in his collection...but my home has functional space...and I do thin out my collection as time goes on. I have a one in...one out slant on collecting, as I get on in years. I've sent to one of my ebay sellers many of my pieces I no longer want...she has gotten fair prices for them, glad to help her out, as ebay selling is her income.
You're joking, right? She has zero insight -- zero. Instead of realizing that her hub was seriously depressed -- which is apparent to anyone with one iota of insight -- and realizing that he needed help decades ago, she felt sort of irritated about his hoarding until Stelios gave her a little insight. They're *profoundly* mismatched -- he's bright, melancholic, and inclined to see the complexity/depths of life, whereas she relies on cliches when speaking and has a superficial approach to the intricacy of human relationships, of being human. I suspect that part of his depression stems from realizing that he married the wrong person -- and that her refusal to look at the complexity of life is a dedicated attempt to keep pain at bay (she also married the wrong person -- she needed a nice, not-too-complicated, not-too-educated man).
It's lovely to see her constant support for him over the years paying off by him getting better. I hope the family has healed, they really deserve a quality family life.
For press I think it may be connected to staying in touch with the world when you feel trapped yourself. Or just the urge to collect all of papers available. As for books, the stories can be used as a form of escapism and even tho they no longer read them or never did it's the possibility of escape or the sentiments that makes them buy it. Of course this are just my opinions but I thought I share 🤪
This was an amazing episode! Getting to the heart of things, facing them, addressing them, and working through them…it applies to so many issues in life! Thanks from small town Tennessee! 😊
Great show! The only thing I would have liked more would be if there were some focus on the compulsive acquiring that both hoarders and collectors have. The thrill of habitually hunting for their treasures is a major part of both ends of this spectrum. How does Dr. Kiosses treat this aspect of their condition?
Alex is the first horder i have seen where there are actually things i would buy if he made a sale. I collect old English china and Faience. Think i saw some i wanted in his garage 🤣 I could be a horder too if i did not keep a strict grip on myself, and had more money to buy with. I got that possibility in mind all the time when thinking about buying something. I have to.
The stuff belongs to the hoarder and no one else, professional declutterer, has the right to take anything away without the hoarder's consent. It's an emotional tug of war, but you can't just come in an carry things off and expect the problem to be solved.
Lawrence has such a natural sense for composition. He could be a designer.
Lawrence has the cleanest hoard ive ever seen!
Some hoarders are organized one
I love how Stelios works with people. He is so gentle and compassionate. Alex was in a really bad way here and his family doesn't seem to realize that, especially the blonde daughter. But the wife seems to have learned a bit. Alex needs more real friends and more cooking lessons!
Bullying can damage decent, humble people. I wish society would handle bullying as a serious crime.
If it would be considered a crime, you know how it would go, just like every other law... Only attractive and wealthy who are born in country of this law would benefit from it, while poor, sick and/or foreign would be accused of lies, outcast further and thrown around heartless mental health care and pushed to any of the [...]cides.
It's a moral issue & should be taught by parents.
Those birds ornaments are gorgeous to be honest.
I’m ready to become a hoarder just to get this doctor to my house!😂
Lawrence needs counselling too. You can't just change him by getting rid of his stuff. Alex is deeply entrenched in his own thoughts of the past . I think they both need to be taken away from their surroundings and do other things for awhile. Get out of their own heads
Stelios pleeeeeeeeeease write a book on this topic.
I really like Stelios Kiosses' approach to helping hoarders. I hope Alex and his family are continuing on.
Their dinner is so sweet.
Yes me too. Kiosses's explation about hoarders and their mental issues made me understand my mom now. She is a hoarder. After years of resentment, arguement, yelling and hurting each other etc, I feel sorry for my mom and now starting to embrace her for better mother-daugther relationship 😊
Alex has the best storage boxes of any of the hoarders I've seen. I keep my yarn in that kind. But only three of them... it's a stash, not a hoard.
I love this family. I hope they are doing well together!
How the heck can anyone afford the kind of professional help this show demonstrates?
Awe, that was so touching when they sat down to dinner that Alex cooked.
When a hoarder started too tears and to laugh, he or she is headed to get well!
Thank you for sharing! 🥰🌈🌹
I feel the family left him on his own - abandoned.
After seeing the Disney collector, it is difficult for me to see much difference between the collector and the hoarder. The collector can fall off that slippery slope of keeping the collection clean and the living space livable.
It’s really quite sad when you think of it. This is a man who feels like his life has no purpose. That’s why I think even if you’re well to do and you have the money to leave your children and support your children there needs to be a cut off point. They need to find their own way. Because if you’ve achieved nothing externally on your own then it’s like you’re a ghost in your own life.
Lawrence might be the man do me.
I collect thimbles and love birds! Hahah 🤣
I also hoard Pokemon cards. What's the difference between "collecting" and "hoarding"?
Collecting is when you have them nicely displayed and/or organized. Everything has a place and is in place 🙂
Hoarding is unorganized and it effects your well-being. It becomes to much to manage and you need help to clean it.
@@raggy369 and...its generally dirty...take it from a hoarder!...
Collecting also involves selling some of your items and knowing when the collection getting too big. If you realize you have too much and can sell some of the items knowing they are just material objects, then that is more of collecting and not hoarding. One should also value people and experiences more than their collection.
Collecting items has some value - hoarding has mostly no value mixed with some value.
also collector can discard without stress hoarder can not discard without stressed out.
Overall i like birds room looks beautiful but not that many maine 3 or 5
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I don’t understand how collectors can still exist after everything is made in China and sold online. I’d buy as much as I can afford off the internet, and keep it in my house… I’d be drowning in a mountain of hoard in one month or two.
I feel that Alex's wife belittles him.
All hoarders that I've known had two things in common : Stubbornness and egoism
Stelios is a Greek god.
I know someone has sllot stuff cristmass decorations and Halloween allots vintage is all organized in big storage unit not brother's anyone dis man has very beautiful vintage birds that is can be sold and make money not trow it away is not siting in anybody head is siting in his house that about garage is need be clean and organized and sold him work for everything is has all coast money
Is can open vintage store
Poor alex their parents replace love with toys, they have all the money but couldnt give him the attention and love he needed, instead of that he recive material things
AH-
Not antiques.
Lawrence collects so many beautiful things, only problem was he had so many! I also appreciated how nicely and neatly everything was displayed.
I think my favorite part of this episode was that despite the "churning" of items to another space, Stelios did not bring it up while he was congratulating Alex on his steps forward. I kept expecting it to come up, but it was entirely positive and that was a nice feeling!
I hope Alex is getting happier each day. He had been in a deep depression. You can do it!
he is very depressed.
Yes, and obviously his family love him very much and want to spend time with him desperately!
Perfect choice of words: “ professional declutterers have chosen to take Birdman Lawrence under their wing. This show , dealing with difficult and painful issues is still able to inject a little bit of humor. Well done.
See, there’s such a big difference between what this show does, and what the American show “Hoarders” does. This show actually takes the time to give the person therapy and doesn’t rush them to throw everything out in 3 days. Those shows are chaotic and stressful, these are not.
Yes, but there’s other hoarder shows that are different than just these two.
OMG! Stelios is dressed CASUAL! No tie?
The American show usually features people who have been given eviction notices and will literally be kicked out if they don't clear things out right away. It also adds to the drama (which gives the show more views and therefore makes more money). I wish that all hoarders had the opportunity to have a therapist like Stelios to help guide them through the process and heal mentally.
This is the better way but the American show only focus on the people who have a deadline do to police or family and that adds to it as a hoarder myself the American show is so stressful and I get mad at how they are doing things
My thoughts exactly! The American shows claim to take a psychological approach, but really often end up attacking, harassing and shaming the hoarder and making them into the villain. The American shows lose sight of the mental illness to focus on cleaning out the hoard in record time. I understand that the situations being dealt with are usually extremely unsafe and unhealthy but these people have serious disorders. I sometimes wonder if removing them from their homes is preferred so they can be treated apart from their hoard.
Agreed
There's something very sweet about Alex. He's eyes are sad. Hope Alex can do it.
Alex is such a sweetheart. He has struggled a lot.
I wonder if Stelios considered that Alex may be autistic. The fixation to a routine is a very classic autistic trait, as is the pursuit of a very niche sort of hobby (called a special interest). Alex could very well be autistic, and his special interest could be recording TV programs. That could also be why he got to be so shut off from his family-- a lot of autistic people withdraw when they're not in the best mental state rather than seeking the comfort of others. I only say this because I myself am autistic and I do see myself in Alex.
And, you know, the same could maybe be said of Lawrence as well, with his special interests being birds and thimbles. I'm getting autistic vibes from him too. And I generally do have a good radar about finding my fellow autistics. :)
Alex isnt on the spectrum, he looks more like depressed. Because of his childhood. Laurens is .
That scene with Dad and daughter, powerful! Hopefully they are in a better place 💖✨
What two beautiful, gentle souls🙏hope 2021 finds them well and happy.
I hope that to 🙏🙏
They are both truly precious people but I get the impression that they both may have ASD. Lack of emotional affect, detachment from people, hyper focused on special interest… all symptoms of ASD
Came here to say the same thing. A pity the opportunity was missed.
I really enjoy these episodes over the American version because it really attempts to tackle the underlying cause and address maladaptive behaviour plus they do it over an extended time frame. I realise the US version usually deals with more severe cases with a time frame but for someone with a severe psychological disorder that kind of pressure is often counterproductive, especially as a long term solution.
Alex needs more than therapy, I think. He's really struggling and you can actually see it physically in him.
You can love and sympathize with the hoarder but it doesn't mean that you you can live in that environment. I know from personal experience that if you are overwhelmed by clutter and stuff and your married to a person that hoards or has loads of clutter...you yourself will go mad.
I wish my brother had been able to get this kind of compassionate help before he died of health issues caused by his hoarding.
Sorry to hear 😞 it's such a widespread problem but there doesn't seem to be much help or any services that specialise in it.
@@froggy9191 Family members who are frustrated, concerned, at their wits end should have a support group where they can learn how to get through to those with a hoarding disorder to help them, or stage an intervention.
@@eileenworth7862 So sorry to learn of the circumstances around your brother’s passing. He is free of his mental and physical prison now
so I hope that you have been able to come to terms with it all. I would love to help people with hoarder issues, but I am deathly afraid of insects so I can’t see myself ever doing that sort of thing.
When the parents say “it’s beginning to be a problem”, shows that they don’t see how bad it is either. It began to be a problem probably 10 yrs ago. It’s now well into being a problem. Far far into being a problem. Crazy. The viewers can likely clearly see that the problem began a very long time ago. I understand how fantastic the doctor is, and that makes this show such a good one, but man, these calls for help should have happened many years ago. But, it is a very good show, and I completely agree with the other comment or who compared this one to the American one. The Brit’s are far more compassionate in all regards - in my opinion.
Is no one else thinking both of these gentlemen are in the spectrum along with the OCD?
I think you may be correct, because to have such a focus and extreme interest in something often means one of the two. But we will see.
Lawrence definitely is
It is not ocd - Alex is depressed.
Hoarding disorder is actually a type of OCD, believe it or not! That's why it's called compulsive hoarding-- it is indeed an obsessive compulsion.
I'm also getting big autistic vibes from these gentlemen. I'm autistic myself, and I usually have a pretty good radar about it.
As for a Lawrence maybe open a bird museum and aviary. Leave all the bird figures there and keep your home a home.
Does anyone else start cleaning and organizing things while watching this?
Alex making dinner for his wife♥️♥️♥️
The cooking class was so sweet. Made me cry a little.
OMG. This is such an emotional episode. I really feel for Alexa and his beautiful family. They have been so patient.
My parents were “ANTIQUE DEALERS”. hoarders, I had to clean out the house by my self because my sister was in a wheel chair.
She needed the money from the sale of the house to care for herself.
Truly she did.
But that left me with m parents hoard of antiques in my home. We lost 2 rooms and the entire basement to my parents hoard. That was AFTER I sold off 2 , 1 ton trucks of the furniture.
Thank god, but it took me 4 more years to sell off my parents antique hoard.
Wowww and i am here complaining abt my passed mum's 2 beds to empty... Look after yourself 💜
Thank goodness it is all gone now!
I love this doctor.
I thought Stelios’ insight into the origins of Alex’s hoarding… that Alex was trying to keep the positive feelings alive of his older, doting parents was spot on. Have you met others with collecting impulses? Comic books? Sports Memorabilia? Collecting began in childhood with a parent, grandparents, maybe older siblings or extended family. The happy time when life stretched out it seemed forever. Today it is The Farm. Or the storage locker. The hoarded house and property. If you are lucky, you can get good therapy. If not, you continue to hoard in vain, perhaps, like Alex, ignoring the love around you. Bravo, Stelios!
If Alex's parents had truly been doting -- if they had formed real and deep emotional connections to Alex, if they had made him feel cherished and safe -- then he wouldn't have become a hoarder. Tremendous emotional pain from childhood creates the hoarding impulse (there wasn't enough love, there wasn't enough stability).
Listen again, and you'll hear that Alex said his father took him to the toyshop weekly perhaps to compensate for all the things that he (an older father) couldn't do for his son. I'd bet $1000 that his father was unable -- not bc of age but bc of his own psych. issues -- to be a truly reassuring, loving figure for his son.
@@dw999 we can’t know that! And why do you assume there was emotional pain? And a lack of emotional connection? That he was not cherished? That is going waaay too far. We’re not talking about a serial killer. We’re talking about a guy who fell in love with stuff because that’s what parents his age could engage in with him. Had they been younger, they might have been sports enthusiasts. I thought Alex fit the nerd profile. Distracted by too many independent interests. Not practically suited for family life. But no trauma legacy to pass on.
@@Propfaqs I studied to become a therapist (chose not to practice, but did the coursework), plus I know a fair amount about hoarding. I can understand your being resistant to seeing beneath the surface of this -- a lot of people are in a lot of pain (that's why the world is a mess), and to face someone else's pain is to come uncomfortably close to one's own. But if we don't face the complexity of our emotions and our lives, then those feelings express themselves through destructive actions (such as hoarding). Just something to think about as you decide whether to start looking beneath the surface.
Not to mention that Stelios himself makes clear, in every episode, that hoarding arises from a traumatic loss. That's some serious denial you're stuck in ...
@@Propfaqs you do not necessarily become serial killer bec. lack of parents love - but certainly you will lack the ability to connect with your family. And depressed.
@@dw999 right. The traumatic loss of a happy childhood! Nothing more! Take the man on his word instead of projecting onto him trauma that did not exist.
Alex’s wife also needs therapy as she is just as emotionally distant as he was. She didn’t connect with him emotionally anytime during this video, I thought she would have at least given him a hug at the end. Even during the meal she seemed to be bringing him down.
She did hug him at the very end.
On the one hand it is understandable, since she feels so undervalued, but I agree. She talks at him or about him, not to him.
It's not her fault, he's pushed her away for so many years, how do you expect her to act? She's always been rebuffed, so she's gotten used to keeping her distance.
She looked hurt to find out that an used yogurt container can be more valuable to her husband rather than her, she understood it's his illness but you can still see the hurt in her eyes
It will be quite a long proces to all of them. It is not that easy as it seams
Alex may have developed bad thoughts if he doesn’t record everything. Like if he doesn’t do it, something bad will happen to him or the family. I’ve seen this in other OCD
alex has eyes that are unfocused and glazed over. something more is wrong.
I agree, there’s definitely something off. This was painfully sad to watch him struggle. I hope he is doing better.
He also speaks in a drone-like cadence. Its like listening to Eeyore. He seems not all there. The man is obviously in decline, I hope the best outcome for him and his family.
I agree. He should be properly assessed - physically and mentally.
Alex is the most soft spoken person I ever watched in hoarding series...hope he can be progressive more and more.Go Sir you can do it 💪
Alex has a beautiful house. A shame what he gives up for junk. Nobody uses tapes anymore.
and who has the time to watch again....
had to laugh that alex threw away an energy bar wrapper! Hes like a very low energy guy,the one piece of trash he actually needs lpl
Good on her for keeping it ou of the house
Lawrence’s collection is beautiful.
Just started watching 2 minutes in and I can say good for Jackie for keeping that garbage out of the main house, because if she didn't he surely would of taken it over. Alex is not a bad person he just needs help. I do feel that he is extremely depressed 😔 I hope that he and his family can get the help that they all need. May God bless them all.
Weren't Alex and Jackie the most beautiful young people?? Shows how no one has any idea what they are walking into when they're young, what life is going to dish out.
How does Alex's wife keep her part of the house so neat? Is he not allowed near her?
The guy with the birds, Hitchcock would be proud!
Imagine having to dust all of those birds.
I like birds are beautiful not like garage bird room not looking bad at all him must sell all birds on ebayy or esty online not give all free away is coast money is not get free
I imagine it would be extra dangerous to roll a HOARDED car. You might end up upside down AND buried 😬😬😬
I see Lawrence does not live in earthquake country!!! I'd love to see his collection in a public museum. I'm another Lawrence...and I collect frog figurines, and some turtles and owls...I see many nice pieces in his collection...but my home has functional space...and I do thin out my collection as time goes on. I have a one in...one out slant on collecting, as I get on in years. I've sent to one of my ebay sellers many of my pieces I no longer want...she has gotten fair prices for them, glad to help her out, as ebay selling is her income.
Lawrence’s home wasn’t nasty or dirty he just had lots of collectibles
hoarding triggers my anxiety idk why im here
Alex’s wife is lovely.
You're joking, right? She has zero insight -- zero. Instead of realizing that her hub was seriously depressed -- which is apparent to anyone with one iota of insight -- and realizing that he needed help decades ago, she felt sort of irritated about his hoarding until Stelios gave her a little insight.
They're *profoundly* mismatched -- he's bright, melancholic, and inclined to see the complexity/depths of life, whereas she relies on cliches when speaking and has a superficial approach to the intricacy of human relationships, of being human. I suspect that part of his depression stems from realizing that he married the wrong person -- and that her refusal to look at the complexity of life is a dedicated attempt to keep pain at bay (she also married the wrong person -- she needed a nice, not-too-complicated, not-too-educated man).
@@dw999 That's love for you - blind!
It's lovely to see her constant support for him over the years paying off by him getting better. I hope the family has healed, they really deserve a quality family life.
Alex is so touching. I feel how fragile he is. ❤
Alex's wife is very sweet. Nice that she never left him but she should had gotten him help a long-time ago.
8 never will understand hoarders and print material, my hoarder friend buys books by the box full, he claims he reads them but I highly doubt it.
I think there's something about the smell and feel that many people find comforting
For press I think it may be connected to staying in touch with the world when you feel trapped yourself. Or just the urge to collect all of papers available. As for books, the stories can be used as a form of escapism and even tho they no longer read them or never did it's the possibility of escape or the sentiments that makes them buy it. Of course this are just my opinions but I thought I share 🤪
"I'm a bit sub-conscious" . Ah. "Bless 'im".
I have never felt so claustrophobic as when they show Laurence's house. It makes me really uncomfortable to even see it.
If these collectors could put together their precious things, they could fill the great British museum. Wouldn’t that be a wonderful idea.
Alex seems catatonic...poor thing
This was an amazing episode! Getting to the heart of things, facing them, addressing them, and working through them…it applies to so many issues in life! Thanks from small town Tennessee! 😊
Someone needs to show Alex how to use USB drives to record TV shows instead of using VHS tapes. That would save a lot of space. 😂
Great show! The only thing I would have liked more would be if there were some focus on the compulsive acquiring that both hoarders and collectors have. The thrill of habitually hunting for their treasures is a major part of both ends of this spectrum. How does Dr. Kiosses treat this aspect of their condition?
The Nursing Home Chronicles will always remember the day they got 40 puzzles donated. Greatest event of the decade.
Don't be a collector.
The older hoarder's wife was a saint. I have to say the younger man was very neat and organised with his collection.
It would be absolutely hilarious if it turned
out that Steilos? was a hoarder .
When your own family says 'snap out of it' it means they are helping a person to become sicker and sicker.
How so?
@@mj44190by discounting the pain that is behind a mental illness.
@@laurafulop2486 that makes sense. I wasn't sure how to interpret
So brave of these men! 👍 Inspirational
I can’t even imagine. What if all those things are as precious to them as only very few things are to me. 🙄 that must me really stressful to them
Alex is the first horder i have seen where there are actually things i would buy if he made a sale.
I collect old English china and Faience. Think i saw some i wanted in his garage 🤣
I could be a horder too if i did not keep a strict grip on myself, and had more money to buy with. I got that possibility in mind all the time when thinking about buying something. I have to.
I really liked this one.
The stuff belongs to the hoarder and no one else, professional declutterer, has the right to take anything away without the hoarder's consent. It's an emotional tug of war, but you can't just come in an carry things off and expect the problem to be solved.
Lawrence is so handsome...omg
Alex really showed his love for his wife and daughter.
Γεια σου Στέλιο!!!! Να μου ζήσεις!!!!
Stelios, Allyson and Zoe are absolutely a wonderful team🤗👍💗
This seems like a better culture than here in the U S
I hate staff🤮🤮only collection gold👑
I love this episode.