I Collect Out-Of-Date Food | The Hoarder Next Door S3 Ep3 | Only Human

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  • @absolutelyridiculous6743
    @absolutelyridiculous6743 3 роки тому +267

    Could you imagine being the husband and doing a Zoom meeting with all that Disney stuff in the background?! 🤣😆

  • @GrimFemme
    @GrimFemme 3 роки тому +432

    When the woman was crying, and talking about the horrid things her dad would tell her, it was like she was a little girl again. I could see the hurt little girl still in her, not ready to let go. I feel so bad.

    • @janelle009
      @janelle009 3 роки тому +18

      Relatable to many but the sad part is many like this have children on purpose.

    • @absolutelyridiculous6743
      @absolutelyridiculous6743 3 роки тому +32

      She's such a precious, tender hearted woman. Poor dear

    • @Aussie565
      @Aussie565 3 роки тому +11

      So sad

    • @enykristof4837
      @enykristof4837 2 роки тому +5

      @The mysterious Miss X right, but some people don't have that power, so they need help

    • @terminat1
      @terminat1 2 роки тому

      Unless you're a licensed psychiatrist (and perhaps not even then), I doubt you could see the hurt little girl in her.

  • @monikazendek2430
    @monikazendek2430 3 роки тому +379

    Stelios Kiossis is an absolute angel of a man. Just the kindest soul ever

    • @dbentleyto95
      @dbentleyto95 3 роки тому +14

      I love him so.

    • @buzzweebee8685
      @buzzweebee8685 3 роки тому +18

      He is lovely. I can't imagine what it must be like for him as a prof.. the ladies will be lining up at his office all the time.. I would be anyway

    • @EvLovesYou
      @EvLovesYou 3 роки тому +6

      Couldn't agree more ❤

    • @burly636
      @burly636 3 роки тому +5

      He is one TV and must be perceived as so. I hope in real life he is, but you can't know. These people create the drama or you would not be interested.

    • @burly636
      @burly636 3 роки тому +2

      @Catherine Meeeeoooowww! LOL

  • @Demureli
    @Demureli 3 роки тому +175

    Stelios seems like he truly cares for his clients and I appreciate that in professionals.

  • @jacolienyouknow
    @jacolienyouknow 3 роки тому +161

    I can't help as a non-English speaker I just like the word 'clutter ' 😂
    Professional de-clutterers 😆

    • @sunnysunny9966
      @sunnysunny9966 3 роки тому +25

      Me too😄 in german it's Gerümpel and professionelle Entrümpler😂

    • @marta_czarnecka_art
      @marta_czarnecka_art Рік тому +2

      @@sunnysunny9966 that's even better 😂😂😂

    • @dunjabakic4012
      @dunjabakic4012 11 місяців тому +1

      We say HRČCI in Serbian. 😂

  • @vegodaher1312
    @vegodaher1312 3 роки тому +297

    Can we take a moment to appreciate how gentel the expert was n professional towards Margaret 😍

    • @veran.8661
      @veran.8661 3 роки тому +20

      He's a gem, isn't he? :)

    • @sakaya9878
      @sakaya9878 3 роки тому +20

      He is so full of compassion instead of judgment. Really inspiring.

    • @sarahwoodward4094
      @sarahwoodward4094 2 роки тому +4

      He’s a great therapist, I’ve heard of some bad ones in my work as a clinical therapist and he’s fantastic

    • @getmoneydrinkicedcapps2627
      @getmoneydrinkicedcapps2627 Рік тому +1

      Yeah he’s a nice man

    • @evy1624
      @evy1624 Рік тому +3

      It is the major difference between the American and British versions. The US just seems to inflict more pressure and trauma in unrealistic time frame pressures.

  • @katiethomas5889
    @katiethomas5889 3 роки тому +82

    Stelios is such a gem and he speaks to clients with such a gentle manner and explains things to them in such an educated and accurate way...wish them the best of luck.

  • @marialiyubman
    @marialiyubman 2 роки тому +67

    “The bedroom is the room Graham dislikes the most”
    She says with a straight face…
    This os her husband.. this is where they’re being intimate with each other… and she’s making him sleep in “the little mermaid” sheets… even I feel emasculated..

    • @TheEmbrio
      @TheEmbrio 2 роки тому +16

      Yes, even my ovaries shrivel at the thought. That man has been patient.

    • @getmoneydrinkicedcapps2627
      @getmoneydrinkicedcapps2627 Рік тому +6

      Yeah, it’s probably mad uncomfortable for a man to sleep in what looks exactly like a kids room

    • @carolannpacificadam1944
      @carolannpacificadam1944 Рік тому +3

      Lmfao. Mermaid sheets

    • @DemJonesDemJones
      @DemJonesDemJones 7 місяців тому +3

      "Darling, it's better down where it's wetter, take it from me"

  • @staynyourlane422
    @staynyourlane422 3 роки тому +100

    Margaret's appearance was changing along with her transformation of the hoard. She was beautiful and smiling in the end. I do hope she can manage to continue and get her whole house back for that beautiful grandbaby!

    • @D-me-dream-smp
      @D-me-dream-smp 3 роки тому +12

      The thing is they need ongoing intensive support- a lifetime of trauma takes a huge effort to overcome.

  • @Vianeyregina
    @Vianeyregina 3 роки тому +83

    We had a hoarder down the street. The windows had no blinds or curtains and you could see the trash up to the ceiling. When they cleaned that place they took so many huge containers of trash out it was amazing how much trash fit in that tiny house. I cannot imagine ever living like that. These people need so much help.

    • @peggypeggy4137
      @peggypeggy4137 3 роки тому +9

      You can always tell a hoarder right from the street, without even knowing who they are. Their windows are always blocked and the tell tale spill out on to the porch, front yard, back yard and parts of the driveway and it looks like it's going to keep growing...they do need help

    • @sarahlyon157
      @sarahlyon157 3 роки тому +2

      I think my parents are hoarders.

    • @balisandra94
      @balisandra94 3 роки тому +1

      Yeah, we’ve got one near us. Not sure who lives there, but the windows are dirty and completely blocked with all the stuff, and a LOT of cats come back and forth through a tiny window

  • @fabienneclavier5984
    @fabienneclavier5984 3 роки тому +45

    Margaret looks so miserable. Can’t even look at Stelios in the eyes, always looking down like a scared little child. So much suffering.

    • @Sinsteel
      @Sinsteel Рік тому

      Eh? People have gone through the holocaust and gone on to have big, happy families and lead productive lives.
      Stop projecting and being so neurotic.

  • @DonaldDuck-n3w
    @DonaldDuck-n3w 3 роки тому +180

    The funniest part was when the Guy fixed his Office space , he changed it from dolls to his toys 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 only me?

    • @sarahjaneraquel426
      @sarahjaneraquel426 3 роки тому +17

      I was expecting no single toys on his office... minimal as he said. And it will be only books and picture frame.

    • @DonaldDuck-n3w
      @DonaldDuck-n3w 3 роки тому +30

      @@sarahjaneraquel426 me too 😂😂😂😂😂 now i get why they are together

    • @sophiegolden
      @sophiegolden 3 роки тому +4

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @monikamazur9000
      @monikamazur9000 3 роки тому +3

      Exactly!!

    • @burly636
      @burly636 3 роки тому +1

      No, me too.

  • @D-me-dream-smp
    @D-me-dream-smp 3 роки тому +54

    The emotional and psychological scars parents inflict on children last a lifetime.
    Wonder if Claire could made her collection more specialised and sell certain lots. Poor Graham deserves at least a few areas for himself. I shudder to think how much money she has invested into it.

    • @viewandchew
      @viewandchew 8 місяців тому

      It is extremely validating to see someone else write this. My mother-in-law insists parents have no bearing on how their kids turn out😂 its Infuriating having a conversation with an 80-year-old immigrant.

  • @SeraphimWhyt
    @SeraphimWhyt 3 роки тому +75

    When she realized what she saw in the photo of her father?? That was heartbreaking...

    • @susietube1
      @susietube1 2 роки тому +3

      She's definitely not "stupid" as her father called her. She's a a public health administrator, but because of what he did to her, she can't do for herself what she does for others

  • @MarianneMcVeigh-xz2yv
    @MarianneMcVeigh-xz2yv Рік тому +4

    Stelios is amazing. He helps the hoarders in such a gentle, understanding way. I am glad Margaret has some reclaimed space to share with her family and friends. Childhood trauma can have a lasting impact - if you haven't the tools to deal with it. Now Stelios has given her that insight and ability to process and deal with the trauma.

  • @dorothychartrand496
    @dorothychartrand496 Рік тому +13

    Can't believe how rude Margaret was to the Diva's!!! My hat is off to them for calmly leaving. I would never let someone scream at me like that...especially if I'm there to help save their life.

  • @carolynlong9148
    @carolynlong9148 3 роки тому +130

    Expired food that's a serious health risk. You absolutely cannot keep expired food. That kitchen should have been the first thing to be declutterd.

    • @andreabrava6899
      @andreabrava6899 3 роки тому +26

      There is the extreme people thou, that throw away everything thats just a day or 2 paßt expiry date. 😂
      People forget to use their sences.

    • @leece_6702
      @leece_6702 3 роки тому +16

      @Kat Gai yes this is true. Its more to cover themselves (the manufacturer) legally, and generally food can last much longer and still be totally fine. And even if its not fine, that's what we have immune systems for. Its not a guarantee of instant illness.

    • @TheZoeBird
      @TheZoeBird 3 роки тому +18

      It really depends on the food and how out of date it is and how it was stored. Some items can be kept considerably longer than what is indicated as the expiry or best before date, and most will show it in some way when they've gone bad. You'll know if an egg or dairy has gone bad; also bread, cheese, fruits and vegetables. I personally pay no attention to expiry dates and use my sense of sight/smell to alert me if the food has gone off.
      You do have to be careful with: meat, as it can go off before it looks or smells bad; and canned food, which is a risk for botulism. However, canned foods can last much longer than the expiry date, but you have to look for denting, bowing etc in even newer cans.

    • @Haylla2008
      @Haylla2008 3 роки тому +11

      @Kat Gai Although I agree with your point, much of the food they mentioned was almost a decade out of date and was certainly *not* looking/smelling/tasting good. Also, I wouldn't say dairy can keep several months longer. It's usually more like a couple of weeks. I also think it's worth mentioning that the best-before date isn't arbitrary. Food can start going bad before being noticeable by your other senses. You probably won't get sick from whatever spoilage has happened but a company doesn't want to chance a lawsuit.

    • @amylee3531
      @amylee3531 3 роки тому +8

      I eat expired food all the time. I just check it. If it's questionable then I toss it though. Sour cream, yogurts, eggs, go much further then expiration dates.
      If canned items go bad the can puffs up after too long. I have things in my cupboard that are 5 years expired lol. But NEVER canned dairy or meat stuff. I already have stomach/health issues. Not risking that
      Reminds me of those UA-cam channels that eat 60 year old MRE kits or tinned meat or fruits. Bleck!

  • @kayp2617
    @kayp2617 3 роки тому +130

    I understand why people wants pets with them, especially when they’re feeling low. But in houses like hers (Margaret) it’s dangerous and so sad for the poor things. No room to move and what if a pile of stuff fell on the poor little thing! 😞

    • @amylee3531
      @amylee3531 3 роки тому +19

      Yeah I kept thinking that teeny little pup looks so confused

    • @kam0406
      @kam0406 3 роки тому +7

      I agree! She should not have a pet.

    • @islanddweller3674
      @islanddweller3674 3 роки тому +4

      @@kam0406 RUBBISH. Dogs love YOU and we all need that . And she walked it and took care of it;

    • @HumanimalChannel
      @HumanimalChannel Рік тому

      Yes, poor dennis, he was a dear wee thing and it must really have felt overwhelming for him!

  • @eaakerman8829
    @eaakerman8829 3 роки тому +110

    Out of date chocolate ? Not in my home😊😂never will happen

    • @skeptigal2785
      @skeptigal2785 3 роки тому +1

      Was that chocolate? It was white. :( I could only make out "Lindt."

    • @tindrabeam5922
      @tindrabeam5922 3 роки тому +7

      @@skeptigal2785 There is white chocolate.

    • @happyhorse1028
      @happyhorse1028 3 роки тому +1

      Chocolate typically has a best before date not used by.

    • @SideShowAli
      @SideShowAli 3 роки тому +3

      😂same in my house lol!

    • @eaakerman8829
      @eaakerman8829 3 роки тому +2

      😀😀@@SideShowAli

  • @carinasilva519
    @carinasilva519 3 роки тому +33

    The dog's Margaret was so happy in the end. I'm happy for her too. ❤️

  • @momof2momof2
    @momof2momof2 3 роки тому +96

    Stelios is wonderful. I would never allow my children in a home like Margaret's. Hoarding is a terrible disease. The psychology is so interesting.

    • @kam0406
      @kam0406 3 роки тому +7

      It is very interesting and there is so much we have yet to discover about this. Right now, science seems to point to genetic reasons for this. It may be sparked by trauma, but a lot of people experience trauma and will never hoard.
      This disease is not as simple as just cleaning up. A lot of people clean out their homes and within a year, the home will look just as bad as it did before the clean out. This disease is persistent and chronic and often a lifelong struggle.
      I dated a good hoarder. I've never seen anything like it before in my entire life. I tried cleaning and organizing, to no avail. It was stomach turning to see expired food that he would often smell before consuming that would be rancid. His refrigerators and freezers (he had multiple!)were crammed so full there was no way to open them without item falling out. It was beyond my understanding. I had to break up with him because it was not something I could live with. I still love him, but between this and his other issues (gambling and alcohol abuse) it was not going to be healthy for me long term. I wish I could have helped him but it only led to more frustration on both sides.

    • @ladyofthecreek279
      @ladyofthecreek279 2 роки тому +1

      @@kam0406 glad you were wise and strong enough to leave the relationship.

  • @lizlee6290
    @lizlee6290 3 роки тому +25

    The psychotherapist, Dr. Kiosses, is such a nice, non judgmental man! I bet he has seen it all. As someone who is a semi-hoarder, it's very difficult to let someone in your house, unless they're family. You feel a ton of shame.

  • @donnadurant4000
    @donnadurant4000 3 роки тому +80

    What a brave woman to go through that process, especially for the world to see. Congratulations.

  • @catladylifts6931
    @catladylifts6931 2 роки тому +11

    Dr. Kiosses is so kind and his techniques are so helpful. I wish everyone could have the level of care he provides.

  • @SeraphimWhyt
    @SeraphimWhyt 3 роки тому +57

    I kinda admire Claire's collection even though its WAY out of control...The zoom in on the "Grumpy" Seven Dwarfs doll cracked me up lolol

    • @ultraboombean
      @ultraboombean 3 роки тому +4

      Some of the stuffed animals I want lol

  • @quartz14girl
    @quartz14girl 2 роки тому +5

    I imagine this Stellios fellow gives the best hugs. All the best to these struggling folks.

  • @katarina1852
    @katarina1852 2 роки тому +8

    Margaret holding onto and eating expired food was almost like a form of self harm by repeatedly risking food poisoning. But I was so proud of her when she finally started letting go of her clutter and cleaned out her living room. I think even her little dog Dennis was happy! 😊

  • @leashy1204
    @leashy1204 3 роки тому +21

    *Disney* *House* she should set up like a little shop and either 1) sell items or 2) charge an entrance fee and to allow people to view her collection. Like a museum.

    • @pats.4253
      @pats.4253 3 роки тому

      Good idea.

    • @linhaton4957
      @linhaton4957 3 роки тому +4

      What a huge waste of money collecting that Disney junk. Sell it and invest the money in mutual funds. Foolish woman.

  • @MrMemeGamingYT
    @MrMemeGamingYT 3 роки тому +42

    Poor Margaret, a child hood lasts a life time, I'm only half way through and I hope by the end she has achieved what needs to be done. Bless her, I will pray for her.

  • @rainepanda
    @rainepanda 3 роки тому +39

    i really like how he started off small with Margaret by just cleaning off the couch. Definitely think that's less emotionally shocking than bringing in a team and a truck right away.

    • @sandradee1579
      @sandradee1579 2 роки тому

      I agree but I expected both the living room and kitchen to be organized. Disappointing only one room was decluttered. It'll take Margaret a long time to take the initiative in the kitchen.

  • @gillianbrookwell1678
    @gillianbrookwell1678 3 роки тому +76

    It's a wonder Margaret hasn't contacted food poisoning by eating stale out of date food.

    • @brody2k
      @brody2k 3 роки тому +18

      @Kat Gai actually, and I mean no offense here, that's almost entirely wrong. Largely, the government doesn't care when your bread goes off.
      For one thing, no salt doesn't go bad. But the container it's in does. Water doesn't go bad either, but if you leave it in a plastic bottle for a decade the plastic leeches into the water making it unsafe to drink.
      People, I would've thought this goes without saying, but please don't eat bad food. It *is* marked that way for a reason.

    • @gillianbrookwell1678
      @gillianbrookwell1678 3 роки тому +10

      @Kat Gai There's a limit of what is edible; a few days out of date is okay but her fridge is stacked with rotting food that even a dog wouldn't eat.

    • @amylee3531
      @amylee3531 3 роки тому +15

      Oh I'm sure she's gotten sick at some point. Although the denial that she had for some of those foods, I think she probably convinced herself it was a flu or something.
      FtR I eat plenty of expired food lol. But when food is running around your fridge chasing other slower moving food..it's time to stop

    • @becibabe7364
      @becibabe7364 3 роки тому +1

      @Kat Gai you just cured my insomnia

    • @batterbury4477
      @batterbury4477 3 роки тому +5

      She has gotten sick without a doubt - and probably often. Being 'sick to her stomach' most of the time as become the normal everyday state for her. Just part of the subconscious dealing with and expressing unhealed trauma through the body.

  • @vickiburgess3344
    @vickiburgess3344 3 роки тому +18

    Stelios is awesome! He is so good at his profession and is practically saving people's lives. His two lady hoarder organisers are champions with amazing skills which could never be found in most people - you women are fantastic beautiful compassionate human beings! Stelios, you should be so proud of yourself and the team/s you have surrounded yourself with amazing people and should be so proud of yourself. Much Respect to you all! Vicki, Melbourne, Australia Ps It also doesn't hurt that Stelious is very easy on the eyes too :)

    • @martinasikk6162
      @martinasikk6162 2 роки тому +2

      Claire could have museum, and a museum shop where she could sell items as souvenirs or toys. She could get some of her money back.

  • @SundaysChild1966
    @SundaysChild1966 3 роки тому +19

    Oh that poor little dog of Margaret's! It could get crushed and she would never find it .. uggg ..

  • @CatTigress1
    @CatTigress1 3 роки тому +21

    Well done to Margaret! I have watched many Hoarder series before and many of those hoarders resisted so badly against change that they couldn't get rehabilitated and their stuff was just moved into boxes at the end and they continued living in their hoard and filth. Margaret was helpful and so grateful 🤗.

  • @melodyswann4527
    @melodyswann4527 11 місяців тому +2

    The way Stelios approaches the people he helps is absolutely amazing and a god send. He is so different from the way the American Therapists approach.

  • @juliefromgeorgia
    @juliefromgeorgia 3 роки тому +24

    Margaret is great. So proud of her.

  • @lynnegulbrand2298
    @lynnegulbrand2298 3 роки тому +5

    Omg the lady from Lancashire reminds me of my mom who was from Manchester. Her accent is just the same, I love it. Mom passed away in 2008 and my brother in 2009 and I'll never stop missing them as long as I live. We all moved here to the US in the early 70s when I was young. I did move back in the 90s for 3 years but hated how bad things were over there. People especially my cousins were so distant. We were once a very close family. I guess people change as they age. To all my British family members that are still around on this earth, I miss you terribly and love you all so much. God Bless you from the sunny and very hot Mississippi Gulf Coast.

  • @brendajones9377
    @brendajones9377 2 роки тому +5

    Margaret should be so proud of herself! And especially because that beautiful little grandson is young enough that he probably won't remember the hoard! I wish I could give her a hug!🥰

  • @samanthaabreu782
    @samanthaabreu782 3 роки тому +87

    That woman should have heard her entire childhood that she is stupid, that's so sad. :(

    • @datchaanimalsheltermoldova1980
      @datchaanimalsheltermoldova1980 3 роки тому +3

      Imagine being beaten as well

    • @skeptigal2785
      @skeptigal2785 3 роки тому +13

      Something is off with her. A "breakthrough" revealing the cause of the cluttering in the first two minutes? Okay! At first I thought she was playing it up for sympathy and almost flirting with Stelios. Then when she turned on the cleaners like a viper, I knew she had a personality disorder.

    • @ferociousgumby
      @ferociousgumby 3 роки тому +15

      @@skeptigal2785 Hoarding is only a symptom of MUCH deeper problems. It's building a huge barricade to keep people out, and to imprison family members in the hoard. It also creates an atmosphere of secrecy and shame.

    • @skeptigal2785
      @skeptigal2785 3 роки тому

      Well, I'd say she was keen on letting Stelios in!

    • @amylee3531
      @amylee3531 3 роки тому +6

      Yeah it sucks. I've been through it and worse(luckily my mom is awesome). I wonder though, at what point does one accept and let go of all that though?. It's one thing when you are young and it's all fresh or happening in the moment... But I realized in my teens that none of the things I was told(etc) was any of my fault. I'm now almost 45.
      There must be some chemical/neurological difference in people that some hold onto it and others can't let go.

  • @simonehunter2509
    @simonehunter2509 3 роки тому +35

    I fill sorry for that dude with his wife with all the Disney stuff lol 😂 in there bed room.

  • @mjrussell414
    @mjrussell414 Рік тому +5

    I’m not a hoarder and every spring I do purge items to give to charity that I no longer use, but sometimes I do feel there is just too much “stuff” in my house. It’s amazing how much you accumulate over the years and it really doesn’t take long to fill up even a big house. My husband likes to buy things - I think it gives him a high. Then search for bargains and the excitement of the chase. He buys things on online auctions and kijiji. We have more couches and chairs than 2 people can sit on. One time he drunk bought a couch in Boston, MA and we live near Ottawa in Canada. Speakers and stereo gear all over the place. Sometimes he does resell it. I always think that I could have had my 70’s kitchen and bathroom done professionally instead of me repainting things to spruce them up. Or we wouldn’t be in debt, and have some savings if it wasn’t for his insanity. We’ve driven to Atlanta to pick up 7 ft tall speakers before that stayed dominating my living room for years until a new pair became the new obsession. We’ve been on crazy adventures to get stuff. He just had to buy a 16 ft sea kayak “for me” (I’ll never use it) this summer for a bargain price of $200, and our truck broke down in Quebec because he ignored bad noises and refused my plea to turn around when we weren’t far from home. Cost us a tow charge, an expensive repair (we would have had to to it anyway - wheel bearings can go and it’s not pretty), and a hotel room for the night. Plus we had our dog and I had to worry about him. Sometimes I just want to strangle my husband…

    • @iliveinthewind3519
      @iliveinthewind3519 11 місяців тому

      Why are you still with him? You'll just wake up, one day, old & full of resentment, regretting not leaving when you still had some good years.

  • @iadorenewyork1
    @iadorenewyork1 2 роки тому +11

    Did Margaret, who is very self absorbed, ever apologize to the two organizers who were only there to assist her?

  • @wioi
    @wioi 2 роки тому +8

    I think that the Disney woman was the first hoarder that I've seen to clean up at least. Because usually they live in the dirtiest homes.

  • @barbarahenninger6642
    @barbarahenninger6642 3 роки тому +12

    Dr. Stelios is very kind.

  • @sophiajoyceferry7150
    @sophiajoyceferry7150 3 роки тому +9

    When Margaret was looking at the photo of her father I also had a bit of a flash back, not to the extent of Margarets but a flash back nonetheless.
    The pic reminded me of my father who served in the New Zealand Armed Forces for all my life, My dad wore exactly the same uniform berets and all,
    Her dad even looked like my dad, the same ears the same smile it's quite uncanny.
    Only my dad left his army life at the door when he came home, my two brothers and me had weren't brought up Army Styles like Margaret obviously was.
    I understand what she's saying about her dad, I had friends that suffered a military run household, along with strict military rules and regulations, it was upsetting to me when I witnessed the dad's of my friends making them stand to attention while being disciplined.

  • @virginiasoskin9082
    @virginiasoskin9082 3 роки тому +10

    OMG,the Disney lady -- imagine the wonderful trips or cruises they could have taken with the money she has wasted on Disneybilia. Very sad. She should at least allow their bedroom and her husband's study to be Disney free. And once those are cleared she can begin selling off the rest of the collection. It is horrible to be trapped by belongings. The hoarder lady should just tackle a small portion of a room each day -- the discomfort of going through items is causing her to be so tired and exhausted -- I think less because of the physical work of clearing items, but the psychological pain of doing so.

  • @alicelaybourne1620
    @alicelaybourne1620 2 роки тому +8

    I'd like to correct their math. Over 30,000 Disney items is not 10's of thousands. At a minimum those figurines are 10 dollars/pounds each. So at a minimum it is hundreds of thousands of pounds/dollars. Truly ridiculous waste of money.

  • @lisajuska243
    @lisajuska243 3 роки тому +70

    Claire's collection is 😳. I don't like Disney and even if I did I couldn't imagine having 30,000 pieces of anything. How can you make proper love in a bedroom like that? Not only is it too childlike plus having all those eyes on you fake or not, creepy.

    • @burly636
      @burly636 3 роки тому +14

      I don't like Disney at all. I think it makes some spoiled little girls grow up thinking they are entitled princess. So much wrong with Disney.

    • @handledotcom
      @handledotcom 3 роки тому +4

      @@burly636 Bingo!!

    • @melissahoneybee8493
      @melissahoneybee8493 3 роки тому +11

      And the MONEY!!! Just imagine how much money she has sunk into all that garbage.

    • @DrFeelGoood
      @DrFeelGoood 3 роки тому +8

      @@burly636 most disney films teach good morals and definitely not to be spoiled. idk if you are misinformed or just a sourpuss

    • @ultraboombean
      @ultraboombean 3 роки тому +9

      @@DrFeelGoood yeah the Disney princesses are far from entitled. Cinderella and Tatiana are particularly potent examples.

  • @KEM85
    @KEM85 3 роки тому +19

    That purple paisley print dress looks lovely on her ❤️

  • @ingeborg-anne
    @ingeborg-anne 3 роки тому +10

    "I've just noticed I've got another pile of knickers here." Not something you hear every day.

  • @kubemsingson7402
    @kubemsingson7402 3 роки тому +9

    I'M SO SORRY FOR THE MOTHER. I CAN UNDERSTAND HER FEELING, IT HAPPEN TO ME IN 2001. I USED TO KEEP THINGS AS MEMORIES AND DON'T WANT TO THROW THINGS AWAY.

    • @catslove3884
      @catslove3884 3 роки тому +2

      What good is the memorabilia if you can't see it as it is buried?

  • @kimt8162
    @kimt8162 2 роки тому +5

    Yes, I promised myself I wasn't going to be a big collector of things. I sent off about 300 pieces of clothing that we've outgrown and it feels great. I'm realizing that things take up not just space, but they also create dust and they take up too much time.

  • @heidih3070
    @heidih3070 3 роки тому +20

    The Disney woman should respect her partner enought to keep her obsession in control. Otherwise she'd be better off marrying a damn Mickey Mouse body pillow. Few grown people want to have a thousand pairs of animated eyes boring into them while they sleep in Little Mermaid sheets. Poor dude must be at his wits' end.

    • @linhaton4957
      @linhaton4957 3 роки тому +6

      Little Mermaid sheets for a grown adult. Lots to unravel here.

  • @happinesscomesinwaves5534
    @happinesscomesinwaves5534 2 роки тому +6

    It is great to see when people make progress. Thank you Stelios Kiosses

  • @ophelian4646
    @ophelian4646 2 роки тому +14

    I really admire people who have the courage to show others their bad habits and trying to change!

  • @zoeymichael3966
    @zoeymichael3966 2 роки тому +15

    It is such a pleasure to see how people are working on themselves and succeed. I wish them all the best! 🤗
    Well done, everyone! 🥳

  • @Jane5720
    @Jane5720 3 роки тому +15

    I think those two ladies went too fast with Margaret that was overwhelming for her and really even for me if they were doing that to me asking asking asking asking

  • @_S-O-S_
    @_S-O-S_ 3 роки тому +24

    I hope she succeeded in getting a bit of a handle on her hoarding… I know firsthand how tough it is to fight it…

    • @janelle009
      @janelle009 3 роки тому +2

      Me too. My Dad seems to be struggling with it. To the point I just found out his pipes busted and he has been without water but refuses to have it fixed. I am guessing due to his shame over the trash in the livingroom. He was always what one would call a "pack rat" but it was benign compared to what's shown on TV and documentaries. He was cool with me cleaning it as long as he didn't have to help and he wanted all of it bagged and stacked in the kitchen. I told him no unless I can remove it from the house 😏

  • @RobbieStacks90
    @RobbieStacks90 3 роки тому +39

    The reason so many older women are hoarders is because a lot of them were brought up to find value in everything, so they believe it is a "sin" or "wrong" to get rid of something or not make good use of it in some way, even though they could easily donate it to a church or an organization for the needy.

    • @agneslaufer9579
      @agneslaufer9579 3 роки тому +6

      And they are alone with no hobby .

    • @drfreud65
      @drfreud65 3 роки тому +2

      That's not the only reason. The love of money is the root of all evil. That's the root of all hoarding

    • @drfreud65
      @drfreud65 3 роки тому +1

      @@SpicyGelato98 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @dorothy9618
      @dorothy9618 3 роки тому +3

      @@drfreud65 I think it would be a mistake to try to guilt someone who is struggling with hoarding disorder.

    • @drfreud65
      @drfreud65 3 роки тому +2

      @@dorothy9618 because I'm a child of a hoarder, so I have no clue as a child of a hoarder....

  • @sushilover40
    @sushilover40 3 роки тому +15

    It probably doesn't hurt that Stelios the Therapist is drop dead gorgeous. Motivation, to be sure!

  • @ingeborg-anne
    @ingeborg-anne 3 роки тому +3

    Stelios Kiosses is such a comfortable person to listen to. I want him to narrate my life.

  • @kam0406
    @kam0406 3 роки тому +12

    I think that science points to some brain differences in hoarders. There are a lot of people who experience trauma but do not hoard. Also, there seems to be a strong hereditary component. This disease is not just about cleaning up and it isn't just about not accumulating more things. People frequently will just require a mess that is worse than before. It is a frustrating disease for others to see their loved ones suffer with because it doesn't make sense.
    I love my boyfriend who is a hoarder, but I knew I could not live that way. It was only getting worse. I had to leave.

  • @minaha2721
    @minaha2721 3 роки тому +5

    I don't think including an exercise program with the decluttering efforts would be a bad idea; the mind is interconnected with the body. Exercise helps release cortisol and allows the mind to think clearly.

  • @jensjohansson4243
    @jensjohansson4243 3 роки тому +31

    I'm gonna start hoarding free space

  • @jellybeanbear7017
    @jellybeanbear7017 3 роки тому +4

    i like the expert who helps her clean the house. He understands the cause of her hoarding situation and helps her with detach slowly. One show i watch from New Zealand (or Australia? I cant remember) similar to this show but they just throw all of the owner's stuffs out and dont let time have time to say goodbye to it, and even choose what to keep. And people who watch the show actually agree with that method, which comes as a shock to me. Who does that? I mean the owner has already broken down and they didn't help at all. So i like this show a lot and i even like it more when the cleaning expert is orginally a psychotherapist

  • @arosencrantz18
    @arosencrantz18 3 роки тому +49

    I'm amazed that he can actually be "romantic" with his wife looking at all that stuff!!!

    • @yz4043
      @yz4043 3 роки тому +5

      Same! They probably do it with the lights off

    • @malyunjama7750
      @malyunjama7750 3 роки тому

      The reason why he's so romantic of his wife is because she was not like that or he appreciated the way she is that's called true love why you jealous leave the woman alone and hope for the best for her how about that

    • @balisandra94
      @balisandra94 3 роки тому +10

      @@malyunjama7750 no one here is jealous, just bewildered.

    • @theirmom4723
      @theirmom4723 2 роки тому +5

      Maybe, just maybe, this is how she keeps him off her...

    • @suzymarshall4898
      @suzymarshall4898 Рік тому

      @@theirmom4723 Yes!!! That is what I thought as well!

  • @vonlipi
    @vonlipi 3 роки тому +26

    At one point you just need to realize that nobody needs it. Every time I want to get rid of a good item, I ask a friend and if he doesn’t want it I bring it to a charity shop.

    • @amylee3531
      @amylee3531 3 роки тому +3

      I admit, I have the issue "someone can/might use it"
      I know why I do it. I have zero issue giving it to people. I just do not like tossing good things out. But I actually started to realize over the past year, I could become a hoarder easily enough if I don't get on it. Not one of those ones that have 5 feet of actual trash, food, mold etc.. but closets started to over flow with things I didn't know what to do with anymore. I also have alot of guilt for throwing good items in landfills when so many need clothes etc.
      I don't even go shopping! Lol luckily I don't like to shop!
      I'm disabled and no vehicle so things just built up because I cannot get it to a donation place. 3 days ago I bought a 100 giant black garbage bags and tossing the stuff.
      I actually found watching these types of shows gives me motivation to chuck stuff away!

    • @Ingrid922
      @Ingrid922 3 роки тому +2

      @@amylee3531 Some places will drive to your house to pick up stuff to be donated to them.

    • @D-me-dream-smp
      @D-me-dream-smp 3 роки тому

      Indeed but unfortunately there’s a deeper psychological reason why this kind of extreme hoarding occurs.

  • @gweniverehauf7485
    @gweniverehauf7485 3 роки тому +9

    They all look so happy I'm honestly tearing up

  • @maryturkmen1264
    @maryturkmen1264 3 роки тому +29

    Graham is so handsome, he's an angel for sticking around in that house for so long

    • @louloulalee
      @louloulalee 3 роки тому +9

      I wouldn't of blamed him if he ditched her 😂

    • @maryturkmen1264
      @maryturkmen1264 3 роки тому +3

      @@louloulalee same lol

    • @burly636
      @burly636 3 роки тому +2

      I agree.

    • @namehere4954
      @namehere4954 3 роки тому +9

      If my partner prioritized objects over me, I'd be gone. She's still trying to fill an emotional void with objects and the show glossed over that.

    • @peggypeggy4137
      @peggypeggy4137 3 роки тому +8

      He is a grown man. He should not have to fight for a modest office space with a bunch of Disney characters. She is selfish. I'd ditch her too.

  • @LinMacadilly-vp9nm
    @LinMacadilly-vp9nm 3 роки тому +11

    Wow!! You have become a great person. This is the real you, I can tell because you smile, you are jovial, and you seem honestly happy. You are a great inspiration!! If you can do it, so can I.

  • @marialiyubman
    @marialiyubman 2 роки тому +6

    I’m pretty sure she experienced hunger, or some food deprivation or controls at some point of her life..
    Either the parents made her eat out of date food, or they locked the fridge…

  • @bjmajor
    @bjmajor 3 роки тому +9

    This was an amazing episode. I could relate to the Disney collector, though my own items come nowhere near the amount she had.

  • @mysterylovescompany2657
    @mysterylovescompany2657 2 роки тому +4

    And the real shame, it's such a beautiful home. You can see from how much personality there is in her choice of furniture (like those oversized leather armchairs that are shaped like traditional wingbacks) & in how lovingly she's decorated the walls just how house-proud she used to be. It's such a tragic illness; it destroys ppl's identities.

  • @lindamon5101
    @lindamon5101 3 роки тому +43

    I woulda JUMPED AT THE CHANCE TO DANCE WITH STELLIOS!

  • @yz4043
    @yz4043 3 роки тому +34

    If someone like Claire has found love... There's hope for all of us

  • @michellec2899
    @michellec2899 3 роки тому +14

    This was very interesting, so sad to see these folks going through this mental illness.
    I believe that much continued therapy is the key ( maybe a lifetime). Much success to all!
    Cuddles from Canada 🙏🧘‍♀️🌼🌺🌸🇬🇧🇨🇦M

    • @lynettep9309
      @lynettep9309 3 роки тому +2

      Awww "cuddles from Canada" is the most wholesome Canadian thing ever♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @cheryledelman4457
    @cheryledelman4457 3 роки тому +16

    very very sad. This has to be a true illness for those hoarders!

  • @Mercury-Wells
    @Mercury-Wells 3 роки тому +39

    Hoarders are such fascinating people.

    •  3 роки тому +1

      thanks

    • @D-me-dream-smp
      @D-me-dream-smp 3 роки тому +8

      Unless you live with them.

    • @dddddd211
      @dddddd211 10 місяців тому

      They are rather selfish and ignorant people...

  • @itsjustme.7059
    @itsjustme.7059 3 роки тому +65

    If I was Graham, I’d start selling a few pieces a day online.

    • @biancab212
      @biancab212 3 роки тому +32

      Except that his wife would probably be the one buying it, and they would be back in the house by the next week lol 😅

    • @ultraboombean
      @ultraboombean 3 роки тому +8

      Dude if she noticed one day something was missing it would all be over

    • @jb6712
      @jb6712 3 роки тому +10

      Such dishonesty would destroy their marriage.

    • @emilyjeffords5907
      @emilyjeffords5907 3 роки тому +2

      No. You need a dumpster. Throw it all out.

    • @lauraleich5741
      @lauraleich5741 2 роки тому

      Now that he has a lock on his door… she will never know and he can make some money back

  • @laurie9377
    @laurie9377 3 роки тому +8

    Very proud of you Margaret ♥️♥️♥️

  • @lorettacarroll6015
    @lorettacarroll6015 2 роки тому +4

    I feel for these people. I have a niece this way and I just want to jump in and clear everything. It won't work because it doesn't solve the problem. I am the opposite. I don't like keeping things around. I go through every few months and just get rid of stuff and reorganize.

  • @drfreud65
    @drfreud65 3 роки тому +4

    12:55-- that's a Baby Tender Love. A doll young girls took care of in the 70's.

  • @thebithebi9895
    @thebithebi9895 5 місяців тому +2

    margaret was abused, she was forced to grow up beyond her age... I pray she can release herself from all the hurt

  • @itsjustme.7059
    @itsjustme.7059 3 роки тому +8

    Her sweet friend. She said I’m not here to judge you, I’m here to help you. She tried to help, but Margaret wasn’t letting her.

    • @amylee3531
      @amylee3531 3 роки тому +1

      It's that loss of control, the shame and embarrassment and how overwhelmingly difficult it is for her. It isn't anything to do against her friend.
      Remember her friend only saw it once briefly before so she's embarrassed.
      Her friend is a sweetheart

  • @kathleenkitcher852
    @kathleenkitcher852 2 роки тому +1

    I love that Olivia Coleman is narrating.

  • @pagonabarbata1364
    @pagonabarbata1364 3 роки тому +51

    I wonder if all the clutter comes back a few months after filming?

    • @frognipp9015
      @frognipp9015 3 роки тому +17

      Yeah probably, many of them need long term therapy

    • @weikean8990
      @weikean8990 3 роки тому +4

      @GODofFUCK that's sad....

    • @bethkovacs6249
      @bethkovacs6249 3 роки тому +5

      @GODofFUCK as have I
      The second there’s a clean bench space they just think oh that will be perfect to fill
      I’ll just go shopping
      Buying the exact same things every time and there’s no room for it
      No one will ever go hungry in the house but it saddens me that before i eat at my friends house I always have to check the date.. :(

    • @earnold1896
      @earnold1896 3 роки тому +2

      @GODofFUCK... I wonder if pride got into them afterwards too and they got angry they had exposed their problem. I bet many would, so they would deliberately clutter again.
      That's so disheartening to hear they go back to their old ways. Their poor families.

    • @Suki-Tawdry
      @Suki-Tawdry 3 роки тому +6

      Unfortunately it does. Almost all of them do. UNLESS they get serious with their compulsions and receive aggressive therapy. Lots of times they can’t be bothered because therapy interrupts their lives. It’s a horrible cycle.

  • @MKEditsxx
    @MKEditsxx 3 роки тому +4

    My mom is a hoarder
    Piles of dishes, detergents, clothes, antiques, rubbish everywhere
    We've recently gave away our old fridge and got a new one
    But she took the inside compartments of the old fridge and they are laying there on the floor
    She cannot let go of rubbish, she is attatched to objects, she recently lost a little storage box and she has spent 2 whole days looking for it ruining her mood and day and ours
    I am exhausted getting blame for all the clutter, I did not sign up to this, I am exhausted trying to organize things find storage space for things, I am exhausted seeing her depressed demotivated to do some cleaning and decluttering, I am exhausted of her rageful tantrums blaming us all for all the mess and clutter while she is the one who bought all the things we didn't need and struggling to throw away rubbish
    I'm the only one in the house who bothers to clean the fridge now and then, everytime finding lots of expired food that need to be thrown in the trash
    She needs help but I do not know how to help her anymore, as I am exhausted myself, it is affecting all of us
    We rarely get anyone over, without some comments of the way we live and I have to do some defending to not let it affect my mom's feelings

    • @4knewt505
      @4knewt505 3 роки тому +2

      Mercy. I really felt your frustration and I'm sorry for your experience. I suggest getting a bit of counseling to learn how to live with her and cope. It may not solve her but it will strengthen you. I started counseling last year and at first I talked all about the person I felt needed to get help but now I'm learning how much that person affected my emotions and how to cope with them not changing as I move on with my own life stronger. Be well, friend. 💚

    • @MKEditsxx
      @MKEditsxx 3 роки тому +3

      @@4knewt505 thank you for your kind words 🙏🏻💙
      I do need counseling me and my mom both, she keeps saying no that she doesn't need any nor do I
      But as soon as I am hopefully financially independent I do want to talk to a specialist, let it out to someone who would help me and guide me to cope with all this and how I can change my habits and manage negative emotions and stress

    • @4knewt505
      @4knewt505 3 роки тому +1

      @@MKEditsxx My partner refused counseling so I had to keep at it for myself. I did not realize how codependent and how I much I wasn't actually dealing with it. If you need counseling, start with a church because it's free, even if you are not religious. They listen and then they can tell you where to go for free counseling. She may never accept help. That's the horrid cycle of it all.

    • @MKEditsxx
      @MKEditsxx 3 роки тому +1

      @@4knewt505 I already go to church at a youth organization
      I can ask our spiritual advisor for some help didn't think about this thank you so much for your advice 🙏🏻💙

    • @MKEditsxx
      @MKEditsxx 3 роки тому +1

      @@4knewt505 I also wish you good luck overcoming your own struggles hope it's already gotten easier for you sending you support :)

  • @Propfaqs
    @Propfaqs 2 роки тому +2

    The organizers, I’m sure, are accustomed to meltdowns but this one in particular drove them away. I’m wondering if Margaret could her her father’s ferocity in her reaction to the organizers very reasonable requests.

  • @ammelr
    @ammelr 3 роки тому +2

    So, that can of tinned food was most likely fine! When the episode aired in April 2014, it was a year and four months past "best before." USDA says that canned goods are typically still good 1 1/2 to 5 years past the date, depending on the food.

    • @leannewoodward4404
      @leannewoodward4404 2 роки тому

      That would specifically apply to US tinned food, which might be higher in salt, sugar, or other preservatives than other countries. Often guidelines differ between countries for a good reason

  • @vivianchao9421
    @vivianchao9421 3 роки тому +5

    loneliness is another major problem here too.l wish she could come to Africa and start a new life full of love and people around.

  • @safetyspecialist4660
    @safetyspecialist4660 3 роки тому +26

    when was this filmed? and she ate the 2006 expired cake to make sure that it was off?

    • @robynhayward
      @robynhayward 3 роки тому +12

      I think 2014!! The series started in 2012 😬😬😬😬 some people have iron stomachs, I'll never understand

    • @suredeydo
      @suredeydo 3 роки тому +6

      Yes, it's several years after the 2011 expiration on that canned salmon! 🤢🤢🤢

    • @lisajoyce6803
      @lisajoyce6803 3 роки тому +2

      Frugal crazy? They deserve to get sick eating the expired food people know when they eat expired food that they are going to be sick and they can possibly die.If you can’t stand any sick days than they throw that deadly expired food away

    • @MeganWhamGMfan
      @MeganWhamGMfan 3 роки тому

      @@robynhayward I know right

    • @skeptigal2785
      @skeptigal2785 2 роки тому

      @@lisajoyce6803 , you're much more likely to get "sick" (food poisoning) from FRESH food from a restaurant or drive-thru where it's been handled in an unsanitary manner. That happens to thousands every year.

  • @sherryyarger3753
    @sherryyarger3753 2 роки тому +1

    Margaret is a hospital administrator. She's obviously not stupid! She's overwhelmed!

  • @andreabrava6899
    @andreabrava6899 3 роки тому +35

    If I was Grahan, I would have divorsed a long time ago.

    • @chellesy02
      @chellesy02 3 роки тому +8

      Same thought. He must have loved her that much. Now, this is true love. LOL

    • @yz4043
      @yz4043 3 роки тому

      *Graham
      *divorced

  • @ferociousgumby
    @ferociousgumby 3 роки тому +48

    These things usually have very artificially-happy endings, where the house is cleared out, looks beautiful, orderly, etc. - and, end of story. Except that it's barely a beginning. Come back in a few months/years, and it will be as bad or worse than before. These documentaries are NEVER honest about the problem.

    • @413smr
      @413smr 3 роки тому

      You know this for a fact?

    • @ferociousgumby
      @ferociousgumby 3 роки тому +19

      @@413smr Not statistically, but I have personally known two hoarders whose families REPEATEDLY cleaned up their houses, but the hoarding process started again immediately.

    • @_tardigrade
      @_tardigrade 3 роки тому +17

      @@ferociousgumby You are completely right. It doesn't benefit them to get rid of the symptoms (hoarding) as long as the cause for the hoarding is not treated properly.

    • @ferociousgumby
      @ferociousgumby 3 роки тому +9

      @@_tardigrade Basically, they are building a wall to keep people away, and even imprisoning their family members who often only have one TINY area of the house that is theirs. I also noted with the two hoarders I know, the very heavy denial going on. One woman just said, "My home is my castle", and the other obsessively watched Hoarders on A & E and exclaimed about how awful THEIR houses were. Just oblivious!

    • @remytherat5983
      @remytherat5983 3 роки тому +10

      @@ferociousgumby in most of these shows, they dont just clean it out, they also make them see a therapist

  • @MrJacobrabbit
    @MrJacobrabbit 2 роки тому +1

    Tragedy brings on Hoarding for many reasons I have been there and must continue after the clean out and maybe for a lifetime

  • @natalya5525
    @natalya5525 3 роки тому +6

    Such a nice lady, I’m so happy for her. Her house looks so beautiful

  • @steelezenobia9007
    @steelezenobia9007 2 роки тому +6

    Margets story is so sad. Damn father ruined a beautiful soul

  • @ophiuchusoversoul1785
    @ophiuchusoversoul1785 2 роки тому +1

    cool how the first hoarders stuff was so dust free including the picture of her dad. crazy how stuff in the uk can sit for 30 years and not collect a speck of dust lol.

  • @faukerconsulting835
    @faukerconsulting835 3 роки тому +9

    🤩DANG...I'd take the LEGO's off her hands...I never pass on them!!!🤗

    • @LinMacadilly-vp9nm
      @LinMacadilly-vp9nm 3 роки тому +1

      Funny how you zoom right in on the …..I did too. She can keep those for her grandbabies, like 7+ years from now. How fun it will be for them to go to grandmas house to play with her Legos.

    • @tashainjena
      @tashainjena 3 роки тому

      Right??? I want to find a big tub and pour them all in it and then just play... LOL.

  • @batterbury4477
    @batterbury4477 3 роки тому +6

    Writing from San Diego- One of my dear friends is a hoarder and his apt building is being sold. I really gained alot of insight from Margaret's story. And I really like Margaret and think she she is amazing for letting all these strangers into her life, house and trust. When she blew-up at the de-clutters- BOY SO WOULD I !! - just too much BUSYBODY pushed on her too fast. She has a lot of strength and spirit- I wish the best for her

    • @wioi
      @wioi 2 роки тому +1

      I agree I wouldn't want other people to tell me what of my own belongings I should throw away, or them to throw away my things.