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I love how he's trying to say men are more logical and fix problems... Meanwhile he couldn't handle being challenged and had to walk away until his girlfriend (??) came to calm him down and offer the solution to switch topics. Okay dude.
Kay IKR? Has he ever even tried to build a shelf unit with a woman?😂😂😂😂😂. He’d still be sitting there.
@@mangot589 And she would move the finished shelf to the place she wanted it because it was her idea to get it in the first place, then move onto the rest of her day of working, cooking and cleaning while he still sits there trying to figure out how to flip the book properly so it isn't in French
Yeeees when I saw it on tv, and he said that his mind is going a bit crazy right now I instantly went "HUH so what you're saying is that your mind is a bit "feminine" right now 😂😂😂
Jess Pavlichenko Exactly 😂
Yes but he is right. Instead of getting scared of the truth people should listen and learn. Instead of acting they know it all. Especially that woman who talked back the whole time no surprise he relationship didn't work out. Tlc just petty and ya'll acting on it as if he not saying the truth.
i'm so sorry did you just say he's better looking than you??????.... NO SIR THAT IS INCORRECT
Amen.
Yup!!
I mean yeah...that's total fake news man 😅 you're 🙌
simp lol
Agreeeed
He really said that women have too much in their brains buzzing around while guys can actually focus literally 2 minutes before saying too much was going on in his brain and he needed a break...
Lolll
He just couldn’t find his way to his “nothing box” lol
This bothers me everytime I watch it. Every negative trait he attributes to women he ends up himself exemplifying
@@22HelloKittyKat I love this comment.
Oh the irony, lmao
"Question...um wtf are you talking about?" 😂😂😂 I died
I love how Ash was trying to justify himself and Recenello was like, "-now what this is, is a panic attack." 😂😂 Total blowout.
The best part of the video:
"Ash is a sexist piece of crap" I loved it so freaking much lol
This kind of guy was the reason why I thought that all "Relationship Coaches" were a fraud, fooling naive people before finding your channel. Your videos were the first thing to convince me that there is such a thing as a real relationship coach that has real knowledge to teach to others
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Agreed!
Really.. Oh boy..
PLZ DONT COMMENT ON THE CRAP AUDIO OR ILL CRY 😤
Don’t worry. If it’s your vid then the quality of audio doesn’t matter. The content is to good
The audio is perfect. What are you talking about?
You left us with the shity shourtney vid and no update 😑😧
might help the drought tho
@@antimonyrocks3939 I'm guessing he recorded the video with his camera microphone, which is not as good as his usual mic. you can clearly hear it's not the same microphone.
The 1950s called Ash and they want their ideas back.
Nah, they called again and said that it was too poorly structured
@@orking4837 Even they would be embarrassed by his caveman thinking
😁
I liked your part on the masculinity vs femininity. I've literally had people on youtube tell me to "be a man" because I have long hair haha
LOL
call me crazy but you are much more attractive than him. but that’s the beauty of preference i guess? great video!
Same gurl!!!
J Le idk! He was making it seem like he wasn’t! Hahah. I know now that it’s not just me. He is very attractive 💙 thanks for like Anthony!
Same.I don't think you're crazy haahha Anthony has this "soft, kind, sensitive guy" vibe while Ash has that "I'm a womanizer" looks. I tend to prefer the soft/sensitive look and personality
Ash has crazy eyes.
Yes agreed! also, personality.
Who is here after Dr. Honda? I mean... if you aren’t you should check him out!
Lmao you got me
Susanna Särkkä I love Dr. Honda💕
Same here 😂 They're both so damn CUTE 😍😍 We know how much TLC loves spinoffs, so need a spinoff of them giving the couples therapy!!!
Love dr honda, just subscribed here too.
Me!
It is a good thing all the problem solving was not just by my husband or we would now be 50 homeless with a collection of muscle cars that will "some day" be worth a fortune 🤣
I laughed OUT LOUD at this
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The "men are this, women are that" type of speech is even worse than the "manisfest / energy / vibration" bs. It's so, so, so, so, so dated! And it's really ironic that everything he said about women seems to fit him quite well. A sad episode of "do you even hear yourself?"
No wonder it is a dated message. As other have mentioned, Ash did a poor job plagiarizing this segment from Mark Gungor, a Christian pastor deemed "relationship expert". Except, Gungor has no qualifications, and so, his 'teachings' are in direct contravention of the current literature/scientific findings (AKA: sexist and wrong).
Manifestation can be legit, but people use it is a marketing ploy for their tapes and crap. It's also just used by, usually, rich white people to say "you're poor because you didn't imagine and journal hard enough", which is stupid and inaccurate. Really sad that the community is seen as crap because of some stupid people.
Ash just seems like a tool and takes those things too literally, but men and women having different natural tendencies is never a dated concept, because although the society has evolved in recent centuries and decades, humans are biologically the same as they were 2000 years ago.
Male brains are usually better at systematizing and female brains better at empathizing, and men usually rely more on rational thinking in their life and women more on how they feel about things. You can also see that in the MBTI personality type distributions of the sexes. 70% of women are F (Feeling) types and 60% of men are T (Thinking) types. But we also see that 30% of women are T types and 40% men F types, so it's not like all men are logic driven and all women feeling driven. You should note, though, that even men who are F types are usually more aggressive and competitive than most women because they have more testosterone than women, including the women who are T types.
In occult or esoteric teachings they do talk about masculine and feminine energy, and there are masculine and feminine traits. You could say that some man has a lot of feminine traits and some woman a lot of masculine traits, and I wouldn't mean it as an insult if I said so. I myself am a man who has much more feminine traits than an average man, and my MBTI personality type is INFP.
@@wilhelmneovius indeed, I am woman and I am clearly T type, I don't use the feeling that much that lead some people thinking that I have no empathy
The terms feminine and masculine are socially made to put people into boxes. But all it does it create insecurity. Like I literally know a lot of men that manifest these “feminine qualities” more than women.
The amount of cringe in this video is unreal. That being said I enjoyed it lol
Hello, Am Austin, what's your name
@@austinomehn7603 lol wtf, this isn't tinder my dude
Eva Boots If you haven’t seen his one on Rose and “big” Ed, check that one out. I couldn’t even finish WATCHING that one.
@@mangot589 that one is definitely a hard one to get through lol
Eva Boots 🤢
You are way cuter than Ash. Your personality is adorable too. A personality he is lacking.
I bet it's because he's white
I totally agree, I hate the use of feminine and masculine terms. Humans are fluid and change easily, it doesn't need to mixed up with being more like a man or a woman. Because all genders share the same traits. All genders can be assertive, all genders can be emotional.
Thank you for finally saying it!
To me it's not about what words you use but what your intensions are. As a hermeneutic I often find the postmodern fixation on language troubling, because it cuts down and reduces the human beings behind it all (Foucault called it "the death of the subject"). You are not changing anything by constantly changing the language because structural changes will just form new dominant structures and new groups that are being stigmatized. It's an endless loop. The real change comes from trying to understand people around you and breaking down stereotypes by trying to get access to the subject *behind* the language. This also means not trying to knee jerk react to certain words or sentences being used by people around you.
Obviously I disagree with Ash's intentions here. But I would be open to a Jungian psychoanalytic breaking down masculinity/femininity in the terms of anima/animus for example.
Coaches like Ash are the very reason why I don't go and see male therapists/psychologists/coaches. I'm so scared of hearing this kind of bullsh*t and feeling bad about myself
You should collab with 'psychology in Seattle'
I should!
Anthony Recenello oh you replied! thanks for the interesting, down to earth, genuine, honest and insightful content! you're great at what you do
Omg yes! You two as a duo would provide a great blend of commentary!
oh God yes
That would be soooo amazing!
Finally a reaction from a REAL dating coach
lol :-)
That Seminar literally felt like a reality horror show and it is brutal!
It is sooo disgustingly cringe, and i even feel the anxiety
AND I'M NOT EVEN THERE!
I don't know which one is the worst. Ash or Big Neck Ed?
Closed minds are the worst...
Ed, hands down.
He's an awful person yet thinks he deserves the world.
He treats women like sex toys with no regard for anything else about them.
I absolutely hate when a man takes care of himself and people say that its "girly"??
Ikr! Some People dont realize that self-care is evolving over time with the technology we have to produce no products and stuff to help us with self-care. And they generalize it as a girl thing when everyone should do self-care!
Apparently, hygiene is a girls' thing. Wow, surprise surprise 🤦♀️
Finally I've found someone on UA-cam with the same opinion about masculine and feminine. I think that it's just fancy words for saying "you are manly/grily" which is sexist indeed. Some people tries to sugarcoat it by the terms masculine and feminine but what they really are saying is that there are personality traits which are not result of individuality but they are specific for man and woman. And that is BS in my opinion.
Exxxxxactly
Ash is good looking? That's news to me. I find him to be unattractive, especially because of his creepy eyes. You sir are way more attractive than he is, in my opinion lol
berrybecca EWWW me too! I agree 💯%. And he’s so swarmy.
imagine you're sleeping and you open your eyes just to see those asheyes staring you back...
I did find him good looking until he opened his mouth
Anthony talking about “masculine” and “feminine” traits have actually really helped me. I always thought i had to fit into this mold of a female but him talking about it has really helped me understand that i don’t have to use or stick to those words if I don’t want too. So thanks Anthony :)
This comment is why i made this video.
Also im just gonna comment real quick but they put together this seminar and there are no finger foods? Oofff
LOLLLL
They were treated to a free comedy though!
Dangggg you guys are hard 😂👏
I'm a woman and I love fishing!! It is so peaceful and something my dad used to do with me all the time growing up.... oh shit, am I a man?!? Haha
i loved the long talk about how dumb masculine and feminine concepts are. i’m a very emotional straight male myself! i’m pretty soft, sometimes easily hurt-i’ve never called myself feminine, or scared that i might not be straight (nothing wrong with not being straight ofc, but some people WOULD be afraid of even slightly having these qualities that may impact their... masculine/feminine pride or whatever...) it’s fine to be a guy and be sensitive, its fine for a girl to not be as sensitive, it is the individual themselves who decide their own feelings and how they handle them.
We need more people thinking like you
“Passion manifests into sMaShiNg” hahaha that’s too good. you’re great 😂
“Get em with a nice little jokey joke” 😂😂
Who doesn’t like a jokey joke ya know?
You know what? You're right about the terms being "masculine" and "feminine" being useless, nobody truly feels more fulfilled being called EITHER of them, I think I'll just drop them out of my vocabulary.
You fricking blew my mind so many times in this video. I was trapped in believing the masculine-feminine binary. In two minutes you shattered it. Thanks!!
Re-watching this part of Ash/Avery on your channel is bringing back all the mental trauma from the first time I watched it. It's so painfully awkward.
I barely made it thru the first time and having to rewatch it is traumatizing at least I have the comments to go thru haha
I’ve read the exact same things that Ash was talking about on random websites - pretty much word for word!
I enjoyed what you said about masculinity and femininity, and I think that’s a much healthier and balanced mindset to have. Thanks for another great video, Anthony!
Wow. Never thought of these labels. I think we should remove these. Masculine & feminine should only be used to describe the sex organs. You are so right x
Let's be honest, Anthony's videos makes life much more fun in quarantine
23:50 Anthony: WooOOOW
Me: *Toy Story toy aliens' saying "wooOOOooOOw" flashback*
Bro the mens lifestyle channels talk so much about how men should be masculine, but I trust you way more.
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I really love the message that you sent on being masculine and femine, and what it means to our society 👏❤👏
... "Now what this is is a panic attack"
Love the intro man
I just wanted to say- everything you said about masculinity and femininity... I had an extremely disheartening conversation with a sexist man the other day who was very rude and condescending to me. He told me I had to be drawn to manly men because I needed a real man with me to have babies. He told me I had ridiculous beliefs, that I was a political idealist, and I must be living on a different planet, and he told me that the emotional health of men didn't matter and it wasn't normal behavior for men to cry. Some of this was in response to me bringing out the statistics about suicide being more common in men despite more recorded mental illness in women, as well as simply trying to explain that women aren't just running on instincts about having babies, we do have brains that can think. I didn't enjoy him trying to telling me what I want. I didn't think it would, but hearing you echo my own thoughts, it started to really touch my heart after such a horribly saddening conversation the other day. Thank you.
Dude I’m so glad I found your channel, you never fail to lift my mood, u funny odd guy
hehehehe
Oh dear God I would NOT be able to watch this without your commentary. This was such a train wreck... I couldn't look away. Empathy for the anxiety but SUCH satisfaction from the poetic justice XD
I suspect this man only has a "nothing box."
😂😂he really told her “no” she wasn’t in a balanced relationship 😭
Absolutely loveeeee your breakdown of the terms feminine and masculine. I’ve always thought this but wasn’t sure how to put it into words. Completely agree with you!!
Great video! I really liked how you broke down the vague terms of masculine and feminine. Honestly, that's the first time I've heard anyone take on those terms in a relationship context, and I have to say that I came away feeling good about not needing to apply those terms on the different areas of my life.
I also echo what you said about Ash and that there's sadness behind the facade he's presenting to everyone .I feel for him, because it's highly likely he has not walked on the path toward that sadness/pain. If he did, I think he would come through the other side emotionally stronger. I think he would also get to know what he really values as well as be compassionate toward it rather than shaming it.
Im so glad I'm not the only one who thinks about the meaning of "masculine" and "feminine". Because what makes a girl act like a girl which makes her feminine? What makes a boy act like a boy which then makes him masculine? i dunno nevermind 😂😪
Wow! as I was watching the video I recognized some of Ash’s seminar and then I realized at least the first few minutes of it are basically a direct rip off of a video that blew up a few years ago called a tale of two brains or men’s brains vs women’s brains. Like there identical, that’s why it was sooo awkward because he was trying to retell a comedy skit in a serious seminar
Wasnt that a parody skit tho
Decorate a man's nothing box with pictures of sailboats so that when he tries to relax all he can think about are pictures of sailboats
i literally waved at my laptop when you said, that you remind yourself that there is an actual person "behind" your camera
hehehe
Thank you for that eye opener! I would say I'm more emotional, not too assertive, and such, so I have struggled with this masculine feminine thing for a while. I have been told that leading and dominance is attractive to women on average. But thank you for clearing up with with purpose. This was a huge sticking point for me for a long time since I was young. I totally agree that we should get rid of these words.
Wow im gonna start watching your videos. I always thought i was attracted to more dominate men or "masculine" men but you are so right its the purpose that people are attracted to, a man who has purpose or a woman. This was mindblowing for me, thank you!
Yo Anthony how about a class, on swagger, you’re always lookin fresh bro
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my patience in the nothing box has paid off!
anyway, even if he's never done a seminar before. WHYYYYY would you not have something prepared?! Everyone could follow your bullshit a little better if it's organized and concise.
@@jeeither Right? If you don't know what you're talking about then at least be capable of bullshitting convincingly lol
Yes! I’ve had issues in my past relationships with not being “feminine” enough. My current boyfriend and I have (what we feel) is a nice balance because we can just be ourselves with each other, rather than having to fall into the masculine and feminine categories in our relationship
react to jenna and julien (cooking or them making the hand mold) PLEASEEE
I would love to see a video about Jenna and Julien
Or them doing jujitsu
This video randomly popped for me and I gotta be honest my hopes werent high. I have yet to see or meet a dating/relationship/life coach that I didnt hate and strongly disagreed with everything they said, until now. Im not sure what your work really is, or what you really do YET, but you mostly mention all the things that most of the time make me really upset about coaches. I annoys me to hell when they make sweeping ''it is known'' statements, as a psychologist and a psychotherapist in training the first thing you learn is you know very little and everyone is a unique person, and you need to let them guide you where they need to go, have as many hypothesis as you can so you keep your mind open, etc.
Honestly you gave me a lot of hope that maybe someday therapists and coaches can work together and be able to help people together. I havent found or met one in my town yet but you gave me hope.
Thank you. All the best.
Thanks. Yeah I mostly dislike dating coaches. So I’m on you’re side here. I know I have an upward battle as basically all of them are kinda yucko so people usually assume the worst-as would I.
More people need to watch this video :') Thanks Anthony, I resonated with the messages you shared with us !!
i watch this this show with my parents and it's very amusing
i love LOVE your commentary always, esp on being who you want and throwing out terms that don't serve you. you're awesome, Anthony! subscribed!!
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*The way you talked about masculinity and femininity was amazing.* I've always wanted to study psychology when I get to college and I was so amazed and enlightened at the way you approached the subject. I also agree with what you said about masculinity not having any effect on women and that it's only often used by families or societies because of tradition or peer pressure. Thank you for educating people (including me) through your channel ! 🥺✊💓💓💓
Anthony's extra sassy in this video, I'm loving it 👌🏻
I could argue about his point of there being an equal mix feminine and masculine traits across the genders since there are differences in our biological structure that tend to make a difference in how maybe of these traits each gender will have on average but I don't see the point in arguing over that since I agree with his main point which is to Ignore prejudice, no matter what it's based on, and just see yourself and others as who they are and not what they are
I still think Ash is a gigolo and this is just his cover!
Oh my gosh!! Maybe you're just joking but when I read your comment, it was like finding a missing piece of a puzzle. I was like "that's it!" I think this may be partially or fully the truth.
🤔u cud be right
Literally 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Love your reactions! And it's very informative too
amazing content it was really good
Yo his expo marker was absolutely invisible, I feel bad if people payed for the seminar cause they wouldn’t even be able to see the whiteboard 😂😂
Your commentary in this video was hilarious but also reassuring 😂🤍
How do you only have 88.8K subs?? You're GREAT. Thank you for making these videos, you are so insightful!
The "Live Laugh Love" comment made me subscribe. I love the way you express your thoughts haha! :D
His sound effects/reaction at 21:20 had me DYING!!!! 😂😂😂😂
I’m so glad this was in my feed. I could watch critiques of this seminar 24/7. Schadenfreude.
I find it funny when people talk about female and masculine traits because a lot of the time all the traits are the same thing just worded differently.
Great video! Much more entertaining than fishing
This is HONESTLY what I need in my life. 🙌🏼♥️
In psychology, the term masculine and feminine are traits shared between both sexes. It's just that "typically" men exhibit stronger masculine traits. That's why masculinity is often associated with men. But by itself, it does not mean "male". It's just a trait. One that can be measured similarly to intoversion and extraversion. If you take certain personality tests, you might find the strength of those traits measured.
I love your overalls this video. Great look!
Hey!
New subscriber here. I was not expecting this topic of conversation to come up but I’m glad you did. I constantly have battled with myself re. my identity and what it means for me to be a woman. I have actually hated being a woman because of growing up with males and seeing early on, how they were treated differently to me. I’ve had to compete in male dominated environments in science in the past but left. I am however vulnerable and emotional as well as straight talking when I’m passionate, logical (when not emotional), a leader, a carer, teacher, “mother”... I’m so many things I’m even confused.
I’ve always felt so bad for being who I am. I haven’t even discovered who I really am yet and what deeper qualities I hold. I haven’t dated in years because I’ve been trying to figure myself out whilst being under a lifetime of differing pressures from religion, males, females to be a certain way. Ive isolated mostly but feel I’ve had to be someone I’m not to be accepted but it makes me so unhappy.
As you talked it did make me think...masculinity and femininity are qualities. I carry qualities that the Wild has defined as masculine or feminine but I carry those qualities in a female body, and because of that, I am treated differently.
I really wish I could get more help with this but I thank you for your ability and passion to genuinely discuss this.
I don’t want to feel shame for wanting to be successful. I have held myself back because of expectations from others or even, little expectation of me. Very destructive forces working to shame people on their identity.
*world
Thank you for going so in depth with the masculine and feminine labels. They're such social constructs, and a lot of people still subscribe to them as absolute truth.
U just gained my respect and following
Why did Anthony’s decorations in the nothing box description describe what I’ve done to my husbands house to the T lol 😂 I looked at my live laugh love stuff like “how did he know!”
You're so amazing! Lol love your videos
Love the Anthony ! You funny but intuitive and i personnaly agree :) Also yes for the overalls!!! so cool!
yooooooo anthony's reaction to fishing and the nothing box... im dead, absolutely dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
*breaths in gender fluid*
You just need to do a whole separate video about the masculine and feminine thing. I love the points you brought up!
I lovvveed this video.
Important point-
Words are just signposts to indescribable experiences/feelings. Like the popular Bruce Lee quote, “It’s like the finger pointing to the moon. Don’t focus on the finger or you will miss all of the heavenly glory.”
We all tend to get lost in words thrown around by society and our perceptions of it. Worse is grouping lots of beautiful unique personality traits into blanket words of masculinity and femininity. Creating for us, unnecessary forced standards to measure ourselves against. It’s just another ‘label’. Truth is we are all our own unique combination of traits that we must preserve.
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For me there is nothing sexier than a guy with a quick wit and a sense of humor with a dash of incite.
Anthony, if Ash comes to you. I believe that you are the perfect guy to coach him. He may be a difficult client or would take a long time, but it would be worth it. Like you said, he needs guidance. You already know what he’s like so you would prepared on what steps you need to coach him on for his next relationship.
I would love to help him.
Hi there Anthony, maybe you could have a look at a show called "Love is Blind" it's really good and would love to hear your thoughts on it.
So funny first off! Love the part about how Ash just uses buzz words to sound like he knows what he's doing. That is so true.
He sounded kinda like my ex-best friend
Your reactions & expressions are priceless along with the knowledge you give us 😁😁😁
I’m so happy I’ve discovered this channel
I’m so happy you did too!
Your reactions are GOLD!
Would love to watch you reacting to more cringy things like this!
You are my new favorite 90 day fiance reactor.
Yayyyyzees
Loved your take on the use of masculine and feminine as adjectives!
sooo happy i found your channel ❤️
Thank uuuuuuuuuuuu
@GeminiGirl1234 lol she commented yesterday. And commenting is fun dude
Oh God... nine minutes in and I am laughing so hard I'm crying!!! I really LOVE this channel!
awwwwww thankssssss;fks;fjsd;kj
omg yess! iv ben waiting for this episode ever since i first saw it xD