Developing emotional control Don’t just react Fear: step back, analyze where the fear comes from and why Death: (source of all fear) we must confront death and think about our mortality in physical terms to give yourself urgency and deepen your appreciation for life Depression: body and mind effect each other. Unhealthy body equals unhealthy mind. Move as much as possible, walk, run, work out, be active! Anxiety’s: think longer term, where do I want to be in 3-5 years? Assess where you are heading. Asses your patterns and where they’re leading. Boredom: use it constructively! Develop a rich mind, don’t use external distractions. Become okay with alone time, and try to read a wide variety of books. Especially books on philosophy.
@@pessimistkai5569 yes you can. You build it into a habit. Throw yourself into embarrassing / humiliating / dangerous situations often and you become desensitized. HouseFromSmartCity lives and talks about this often. You just got to get your reps in.
@@maseratimitch2024 perhaps you are right but I am a sensitive fuck and would cry for hours if someone hurts me. I think this fearless mindset will also increase your apathy I am happy being sensitive for the people around me
@@pessimistkai5569 I get what you mean but listen. When you fear, other people will fear. If you got a strong mindset and glow with strength and faith then other people will adapt. so fear will be gone. use fear as motivator to work on the areas you are struggling. remember it doesn't mean that you are a cold hearted jerk. it means that you can handle situations that are uncomfortable and that will only benefit you instead of fearing and worrying all the time which destroys you and others around. I give you a tip: start with cold showers and you will strengthen your mind/body/soul. google Wim Hof method. give it a try
Its funny that I haven't felt bored in over 3 years since I discovered how much work I had to do on myself in every aspect of life. Being bored comes from not being aware of the things you should be doing and the path you should be walking...
It depends on the group you're talking to or around otherwise seeing there's quite a lot of videos on it with ample amount of views and comments, it's anything but underrated but shift the attention to live conversations, it's infact underrated.
Dividing "intelligence" into many types of it is bullshit... there is GENERAL intelligence or IQ and then there is all the things people want to divide GENERAL intelligence into, but a person who is truly intelligent in GENERAL INTELLIGENCE is good in all other aspects of it. Has the capacity for it. It may be that what you're referring to is "socialisation", where it is important to have emotional control and empathy or just no the a sociopath.
Yes.. unfortunately I think it’s designed this way to keep people in their lower brains and spend, indulge, react instead of respond, drama, etc etc .. I’m so glad I’m finally aware ugh life was so hard for so long and I’m finally starting to feel some internal peace
True darkness is not the absence of light, but the fear that the light may never return. Hope is what begins in the dark. Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. Hope is the only thing stronger than fear 🖖
I don't agree, hope is rather blind, it is an inactive state. The way out of darkness is understanding, understanding that we are as bad as we are good. It is understanding, noticing and feeling that will make you resistant to terrible truths. To me hope is the state of an infantile, the thought that there is no direct line of action to instigate succes
@King David I understand why you would view it as cynical but that's not the perspective I'm trying to bring forth. Hope is an aim into the future which could potentially blind you from the opportunities brought fourth by the present
omg reading books is the most cliche advice, but its SOOOOOOO important. It just helps in more ways I can express. You have to become a prolific reader to understand what ppl mean when they say you should read books often. Writing is another incredibly useful personal life skill and can help you learn to express your ideas and can aid you on the path to actualize yourself
I’ve seen a variety of mental health professionals, from social workers as a child to the Chief of Psychiatry. The only one that ever gave me any relief and made the difference in alleviating my complex and chronic PTSD... a Chiropractor: An advanced, learned healer that understands the mind, body connection and actively promotes non-invasive, non-pharmaceutical therapeutic interventions that have been shown to be effective in healing all levels of trauma through regulating the nervous system. Exercise, Flexibility, Mobility, Meditation, Deep Breathing, Journaling. My Chiropractor brought it all together with compassion and care. Like Therapy with a Doctor. But for some reason, the field seems ridiculed and downplayed by our Western Health Care System. Why? I hope it’s not related to money. I just wish more people with trauma of any form knew the power of the nervous system. And the golden nugget that is Chiro. Talk therapy and medication are available BUT there are other options available.
@King David It's really just Sun Tzu's Art of War mixed with Machiavelli's Prince "translated" into 21st century language and situations. Nothing really new, but definitely a must know for everyone to defend yourself against deception. It basically turned me from a staunch progressive liberal into an originalist conservative after being able to see through the lies and power grabs of those who promise Utopia and exploit your emotions for political power.
@@tomjones8293 been inhaling a lot lately but I feel like it’s only holding me back from taking action .. although it does give me relief from reality momentarily in which I see the light at the tunnel
I couldn't agree more meditation has got me through so much I shattered my arm in a motorcycle accident and spent 2 years of doctors telling me not to lift more than 2 kg . I'm a very physical person , engineering is my living.hobbies , snowboarding , kayaking, motorcycling, mountain biking . Whilst I wasn't meant to be doing anything I broke a collar bone mountain biking ,since then I had an artery in my leg block then a heart attack . All the way through I have meditated sometimes shamanic meditations which I learnt traveling in Peru sometimes breathe work. I am just thankful I am still here gratitude is the way forward
I would like to show a different side of desert. I live in Mojave desert, and there’s lots of variety of life. It’s just not in the usually form, most is underground. Or it comes out at night. But what ever I plant in this open desert grows amazingly well. I grow sticky cannabis. But a rain forest or something like it; has so much life that it’s crowded. Nothing can be planted in crowded wet places. Sometimes having a mind like a desert is a good thing; something new can be planted and it will grow.
I’m very much so emotional. Which had always been there - before healing - the negative emotion stemmed from rejection, emotional manipulation (for financial agendas or for my affections which I would withhold from my parental figures because I was often mad or disappointed in them for the emotional irresponsibility I recognized and so early on I knew they couldn’t give me what I needed in the gentle way I had desired and I’d have to get it on my own or hard way - at nearly 7 I had this understanding - but they were kids at 16 with a kid - me - it was kids raising kids- I was immure and saw them as unfit or unworthy at that age) lies, no stability (emotional/home/uprooted often) and suppression of self (when I already felt different) and early understanding of the concept of death during childhood. - frustrated, disgusted and angry for 75% of my current life - up until recently (the last couple years). I learned early that nothing happens the way we want it to but we will attain what we need - nothing is ever ideal - I couldn’t accept that imperfection and lack of control for the longest time. The internal alchemical process of emotional - to convert them to a usable form for whatever one is trying to achieve ex: mold square to put square in square hole - difficult to explain when you’re one who understands the world by feeling. I’ve never felt like I wasn’t whole. I’ve felt alone - learning to be alone and okay alone is something that’s always been there - which is nice. Anything beyond that is just a nice want - or bonus. It’s just a cool trinket of human experience for experience. The events that occur me in my life and only affect me - give people around me stress - seeing how I handle those events gives them anxiety. Just understanding. All is okay understanding why’s and how’s. How can one even be upset? My mother, just yesterday, stated at me “I didn’t raise you like this” in regards to not being ever worried. Me : “No my lass you didn’t.” - theres a beyond concept to it all. She’s so cute though when she’s like that. 😭
This is the most profound and practical therapeutic information I have managed to find and trust me, I have read books, videos, speakers, therapists. This is the best.
So my rationalizing and understanding my own mortality by confronting it has only made me more anxious in moments that I'm not able to do the positive things that I need to do. It makes me more jaded that so many years were stolen from me thru abuse and systemic unnecessary restriction/oppression/confinement.. which also stole from my children.. When I get returns on my massive effort(s) to overcome the hardships, abuses, vicissitudes, challenges, straight up evils done to myself and my children in this life is the only time I don't feel the horrendous anxiety and lower self worth. Which I know is a problem... that is why I am searching w/any spare second I have to improve myself/outlook... I know other people have suffered unjustly and greatly... I want to overcome it, not commiserate or compare. I just want better from myself and returns on my efforts (making my affect/feeling of my existence an increment better while doing so). I just don't have enough time to make up for what has been stolen 4xs over. Starting over yet again in my 40s is a difficult enough task.. I'd like to not make it any harder than it has been or worse, absolute hell.
It's so weird. I did exactly what you said in the course of a year and a half before I saw this video! not saying I'm cured but the work in progress is enough for me.
What to read: History, biographies, ancient history, ancient greece, ancient rome . Stoic philosophers , Michel de Montaigne, Victor Frankl (man's search for meaning)
I like to just make space for what I'm feeling, get to know it in a sense, come to terms with it, and let it be. I always come out the other side a little stronger, and better able to cope more easily with such emotions in the future. I think this is what it means to integrate the uncomfortable aspects of your own personality, and the things we typically don't want to experience but must if we want to become whole.
Super awesome . I’ve been teaching myself skills since I was a kid, as a cure for boredom. And all these years later I’m so happy I did. So either listening to audiobooks on whatever I’m into and trying to learn at the moment , or philosophy / esoteric lectures . I feel like as long as the distraction is constructive it’s not really a distraction, it’s just dynamic attention. But I also fall into those traps of constantly looking for something outside myself for contentment instead of finding contentment first and then looking for something outside myself to spend my time.
Dear mr Greene, I really really needed to hear this. and already created a list at leasr mentaly of how I will put this into practice. Thanks again kind sir
..being an immigrant- living in NYC- an actor- being able to spend time alone and not needing that thing or this person, has been liberating. Still a work in progress!
@Joe Johnson DO you know what communism is? I'm an Albanian, I've lived communism. NYC is just the opposite. Stop listening to the media, explore on your own a little..
Most of these are things I have been introduced to by my life experiences and have been working on already. It's great to hear an explanation so close to my personal ideas to reinforce that I'm doing things well
So true, even after telling myself I understood. I stil messed up over this pandemic emotionally and messed up a school opportunity. This is an important part of the book.
I went into a deep well of despair after a couple of incidents in my life, went way too far in to those thoughts to where one night I could feel the damage it was causing my body, specifically my heart, my blood pressure.. For the first time I could touch the hurt, and pain I was causing myself, let alone others.. I went into psychosis once I noticed that physical damage, it struck a certain fear in me, mortal fear, you realize this isn't just a ride, and it'll just work out, no matter how irresponsible you are with yourself, you're not immortal and a self destructive lifestyle is much more terrifying than any of us are willing to fulfill.. as much as we think we want the end.. it actually kinda sucks.. lol.. I spiraled into madness shortly after. The fear of death is ultimately the basis of all your fears, if you weren't afraid of its impact you would just live life.. as it is.. Luckily it ended, mostly, after a month.. The scary thing was going day to day thinking it would never end.. Imo, Psychosis is worse than death.. It is Hell, let me ensure you, Hell isn't waiting for you after death, it's right there, in the back of mind, if just you let door open a bit. I try not to bother with those emotions anymore, the negative ones, literally wave them away.. Its okay to feel negativity tho, if its still there, it just means you're being realistic about things.. just don't be obsessive. Those thoughts can and will kill you. One way or the other. If that's where that frame of mind ultimately leads you, Hell unto Death, then I'll do my best to keep them out of my life.
I am in tears right now because I needed to read this more than you know. Keep that balance, that temperance, because people need to know and notice. Thank you for the motivation, and showing me that there's hope beyond this existential terror.
I related everything to my environment. In college in 1992-1993 I use the nature as my instrument and it reminds me how I am bent on reality which the in fly in the window that brothers me but I see through it.
"Now I understand myself when I'm down." The Whispers, And The Beat Goes On The first few minutes of this video called to my memory those beautifully sung words. I wonder if those talented men may have been referencing the importance of emotional intelligence with that line. I'm certain they were.
I think this is what I was trying to say when I wrote the track “fear” on my channel. I couldn’t understand why I was trying to create that emotion in the music so the listener could feel how fear feels in me. Confronting your mortality was common practice of the samurai
Thank you for this. I needed to be reminded of these things that you break down in a very simple way. I feel many can benefit from these teachings & reminders to help at this time and moving forward. I will refer to this video as I need to. 🙏
Talk about this subject quite a bit (great book by Robert Greene, by the way), but the simple way to look at it, is to: 1) break free of all desires. Best way to do that is removing yourself from stimuli 2) You’ll start to grow agitated from the lack of stimulation (which is building up rudeboy energy) 3) pick 1 task or central goal you’d like to attack / conquer 4) block all possibility of interruptions (phone, people drawing on you with their idle chatter / white noise, tv etc.) 5) walk those demons on a leash by tapping into your badmind ting mood and not thinking twice or hesitating This will give you 10,000 volts of pure power and put you into god mode (which dark spirits are unable to penetrate because goodmind spirit is daddy to demons) 💯
Emotions are not positive or negative. Emotions are a guidance mechanism. Ignore them at your peril. Overwhelming emotions are trying to cause you to change your circumstances.
Your point regarding the environment (desert vs. jungle) added a layer of depth for the bible's migration of the Israelites from Egypt to the Promised Land. Physically, it provided an environment that was self-sustainable - rather than relying upon external, imported goods that was easily perishable over long distances via trade routes. Mentally, a jungle (and it's ecosystem) provided a variety of stimuli to be observed, and spark curiosity - which ultimately sparks the desire to question, experiment and understand in order to occupy the boredom.
When I have been wronged severely, and if it has happened quite a bit with the same person or persons....I can't help but to wish them ....Nothing Good. I feel a tiny bit of guilt over that. But...when I have Had It! I've had it. And by that time, I've already suffered because of them. I usually will not speak up, due to either real or perceived inequality in the relationship. And also...by this time, my anger is so pent up, that for me to speak up....and tell them how I Really Feel...might come off as diabolical. LOL I am not passive-aggressive. At times...when I have spoken up....I have witnessed that my setting boundaries, or expressing discomfort.... will fall on deaf ears, and either they will pay your feelings no mind, or....they will Relish...in your discomfort. Bastards!
U just described being passive aggressive just to say you're not passive aggressive.... anyways...set your boundaries n create consequences n reinforce those consequences
I used to be the same exact way . My grandma swore I was eventually gonna kill someone from bottling stuff up all the time . Now I’m older and if someone does something I don’t like I tell them nicely right their on the spot. It’s just so much easier than having to build a resentment, make a revenge plan , etc. lol . Your gonna be ok, your way more stronger than you think you are.
@@twiznizzlenore7822and Elijah Castello.... If your response to the infraction will weigh heavily on the status of your employment, your livelihood, and therefore the climate of your day to day? You keep it hid as much as humanly possible, and plan for an exit!
one of my best quotes is" don't let opinions dictate the facts" like if i lost money (fact) i shouldn't react by being angry just because my body is telling me now is the time to get angry (opinion)
Excellent video. Content is dead-accurate and valuable advice. My only concern is that people may not take this advice as seriously as they should. All the research I've done has pointed to all these valid points. I hope people heed this advice. Nice summary.
Great video. These are key points of Stoicism. It is shameful that such information is not taught in education. Some people develop this way but most do not, as social media is proof of.
I noticed once I was stressing and getting growly with a bitchy tone when i was rushing to go out, and i thought for a moment, and realised it wasn't an obstacle making me late that was making me anxious, it was how my brain jumped to being late, then having a reputation of unreliable, thus missing opportunities and down the rabbit hole went until i felt my entire life was falling apart with everything i've worked for. But because I stepped back, I realised all that is silly paranoia from subconscious intelligence (all happened in about 2 seconds, from healthy pressure to 'aargh!', when in reality i just needed to load the washing machine before i left. My life wasn't falling apart at all. It still gets me sometimes, but i'm getting better and talking myself through it. As far as i can tell, you have to basically parent yourself. To push yourself beyond fear and excuses, yet be loving to yourself without judgement. excuse the 'i's, typing one-handed..
9:19 That does exactly the opposite of solving the problem of anxiety. I have no goals that I want, I don't have anything that I want actually. There is no direction in which to point my life. For someone like me, someone who will never have a girlfriend, someone who will never have a good job and be successful. Thinking about the future only brings the realization that the only thing to come is more, and more suffering. I wish I had never born, this life is the true hell
Agreed except for the point about "It'll give you a sense of urgency." I've found, at 63 years of age and confronting mortality many times, letting go of any sense of urgency to do anything has been the greatest benefit. Urgency comes from the perpetual feeling that one must be productive. There is no reason to think that the life well led is completing a list of goals; the insistent to accomplish something. I find it better to operate as if there is no time, no goals, and to realize accomplishment is not actually fulfilling (i.e. doing is different than accomplishment. Doing is a process, accomplishment is a set endpoint of a process. The process is rewarding when it has no anticipated endpoint.). That's what I learned from facing mortality: quit watching the clock, and as Charles Bukowski admonished us, stop trying.
There is a big difference between emotional intelligence and emotional control. You might be aware of all the little things, yet doesn't mean that you are certainly going to control your inner emotions.and how you react to the situation.
I can sort of hold it inside without breaking through but not for long and it gets stuck and I feel like baloon that is ready to blow up trying to hold it back. Doesn'tsimply disappear.
thank you greatly for the empowering ideas and thoughts. I thought they were especially pertinent to the times and on the nose at pointing out the weakness of our generation! :)
I’m dealing with numbness, or like no emotions at all. I feel like it helped me recover from a bad situation where I was always acting off emotions and feelings but now I feel like I’m stuck in a position and that this is actually hindering my progress. Is there a video about what to do if you lost emotions?
The 6 basic emotions are: sadness, anger, happiness, suprise, disgust and fear... Depression is a disorder that involves high levels of sadness and internalisation but also anger and irritability... So, depression is not an emotion but a pattern of emotional responses and regulations
When I was a child. I had to learn to focus my fear. Because we were haunted. Yes, I know, it’s crazy. But we did have ghosts in our home tormenting me because I was so young.
Developing emotional control
Don’t just react
Fear: step back, analyze where the fear comes from and why
Death: (source of all fear) we must confront death and think about our mortality in physical terms to give yourself urgency and deepen your appreciation for life
Depression: body and mind effect each other. Unhealthy body equals unhealthy mind. Move as much as possible, walk, run, work out, be active!
Anxiety’s: think longer term, where do I want to be in 3-5 years? Assess where you are heading. Asses your patterns and where they’re leading.
Boredom: use it constructively! Develop a rich mind, don’t use external distractions. Become okay with alone time, and try to read a wide variety of books. Especially books on philosophy.
Cheers bro fr
Nice
Assess and asses. 2 very different words.
What kind of philosophy books
@@Jay_Khalil I would recommend books by the stoics or about stoicism.
"You are facing death and danger and competition, but at any moment, you can decide to have a fearless mindset"
- Robert Greene
okay, but you can't have it all the time.
@@pessimistkai5569 yes you can. You build it into a habit. Throw yourself into embarrassing / humiliating / dangerous situations often and you become desensitized. HouseFromSmartCity lives and talks about this often. You just got to get your reps in.
@@maseratimitch2024 perhaps you are right but I am a sensitive fuck and would cry for hours if someone hurts me.
I think this fearless mindset will also increase your apathy I am happy being sensitive for the people around me
Fear is impossible to master.. You are wired to survive..
@@pessimistkai5569 I get what you mean but listen. When you fear, other people will fear. If you got a strong mindset and glow with strength and faith then other people will adapt. so fear will be gone. use fear as motivator to work on the areas you are struggling. remember it doesn't mean that you are a cold hearted jerk. it means that you can handle situations that are uncomfortable and that will only benefit you instead of fearing and worrying all the time which destroys you and others around. I give you a tip: start with cold showers and you will strengthen your mind/body/soul. google Wim Hof method. give it a try
Its funny that I haven't felt bored in over 3 years since I discovered how much work I had to do on myself in every aspect of life.
Being bored comes from not being aware of the things you should be doing and the path you should be walking...
@Robotbill true
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Facts 💯
Very good!
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Emotional Intelligence is Underrated.
It depends on the group you're talking to or around otherwise seeing there's quite a lot of videos on it with ample amount of views and comments, it's anything but underrated but shift the attention to live conversations, it's infact underrated.
Robert Greene is the best writer on earth !! Love him and eagerly look for his new releases
Dividing "intelligence" into many types of it is bullshit... there is GENERAL intelligence or IQ and then there is all the things people want to divide GENERAL intelligence into, but a person who is truly intelligent in GENERAL INTELLIGENCE is good in all other aspects of it. Has the capacity for it.
It may be that what you're referring to is "socialisation", where it is important to have emotional control and empathy or just no the a sociopath.
you mean JUST intelligence?
Yes.. unfortunately I think it’s designed this way to keep people in their lower brains and spend, indulge, react instead of respond, drama, etc etc .. I’m so glad I’m finally aware ugh life was so hard for so long and I’m finally starting to feel some internal peace
True darkness is not the absence of light, but the fear that the light may never return. Hope is what begins in the dark. Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. Hope is the only thing stronger than fear 🖖
And love...... 🤟🏼
I don't agree, hope is rather blind, it is an inactive state. The way out of darkness is understanding, understanding that we are as bad as we are good. It is understanding, noticing and feeling that will make you resistant to terrible truths.
To me hope is the state of an infantile, the thought that there is no direct line of action to instigate succes
@King David I understand why you would view it as cynical but that's not the perspective I'm trying to bring forth.
Hope is an aim into the future which could potentially blind you from the opportunities brought fourth by the present
@@bobbykirl7894 youre correct its love, the highest frequency which defeats fear
You should watch "Midnight Gospel episode 5", it's on Netflix.
Learning how to control negative emotions is an excellent skill. Thank you
I can’t believe you have never had this idea before.
Especially in the face of someone who is trying to be off top extra negative in person.
Indeed it is
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omg reading books is the most cliche advice, but its SOOOOOOO important. It just helps in more ways I can express. You have to become a prolific reader to understand what ppl mean when they say you should read books often. Writing is another incredibly useful personal life skill and can help you learn to express your ideas and can aid you on the path to actualize yourself
I’ve seen a variety of mental health professionals, from social workers as a child to the Chief of Psychiatry. The only one that ever gave me any relief and made the difference in alleviating my complex and chronic PTSD... a Chiropractor: An advanced, learned healer that understands the mind, body connection and actively promotes non-invasive, non-pharmaceutical therapeutic interventions that have been shown to be effective in healing all levels of trauma through regulating the nervous system.
Exercise, Flexibility, Mobility, Meditation, Deep Breathing, Journaling. My Chiropractor brought it all together with compassion and care. Like Therapy with a Doctor. But for some reason, the field seems ridiculed and downplayed by our Western Health Care System. Why? I hope it’s not related to money. I just wish more people with trauma of any form knew the power of the nervous system. And the golden nugget that is Chiro. Talk therapy and medication are available BUT there are other options available.
Chiro is ridiculed because of the “cracking” that some of them employ as a cure all.
Robert Greene is so underrated. I think he caught a bit of a bad PR because of the book Laws of Power, but the value he provides is amazing.
What was the bad PR about?
@King David because it can be used for evil also and it’s effective
@King David It's really just Sun Tzu's Art of War mixed with Machiavelli's Prince "translated" into 21st century language and situations. Nothing really new, but definitely a must know for everyone to defend yourself against deception. It basically turned me from a staunch progressive liberal into an originalist conservative after being able to see through the lies and power grabs of those who promise Utopia and exploit your emotions for political power.
@King David he's dope af guys
Good PR is not necessarily a good thing.
We cannot make the emotions go away; but we can change the way we look at them, for example via meditation!
exhale away!
@@Shaddyraddy92 yes and breathing exercises are helping to calm my anxiety down A LOT. Awareness and yoga are my go to activities as well
Via meditation or medication aka weed
@@tomjones8293 been inhaling a lot lately but I feel like it’s only holding me back from taking action .. although it does give me relief from reality momentarily in which I see the light at the tunnel
I couldn't agree more meditation has got me through so much I shattered my arm in a motorcycle accident and spent 2 years of doctors telling me not to lift more than 2 kg . I'm a very physical person , engineering is my living.hobbies , snowboarding , kayaking, motorcycling, mountain biking . Whilst I wasn't meant to be doing anything I broke a collar bone mountain biking ,since then I had an artery in my leg block then a heart attack . All the way through I have meditated sometimes shamanic meditations which I learnt traveling in Peru sometimes breathe work. I am just thankful I am still here gratitude is the way forward
“Emotion, which is suffering, ceases to be suffering as soon as we form a clear and precise picture of it.” ~Viktor Frankl
That is Spinoza.
I ordered his book, Mans Search for Meaning yesterday. Can't wait to start reading it.
@@charlesthedeadlifter4376 will probably do the same
The Man’s Search for Meaning Changed my life.
Crazy innet
Same 🌿
Put these principle in to Actions Everyday NOW! Nothing WORKS unless YOU WORK!!
7:55 if If I'm not moving and exercising daily I don't feel as good emotionally. Very true
I asked for a way to control and beat occasional fear yesterday during meditation. Today, this video was recommended to me. Thats crazy.
It’s not crazy. You skill of law of attraction is growing 💜
I would like to show a different side of desert. I live in Mojave desert, and there’s lots of variety of life. It’s just not in the usually form, most is underground. Or it comes out at night. But what ever I plant in this open desert grows amazingly well. I grow sticky cannabis.
But a rain forest or something like it; has so much life that it’s crowded. Nothing can be planted in crowded wet places.
Sometimes having a mind like a desert is a good thing; something new can be planted and it will grow.
Thanks Mr Robert Green
I was suffering with social anxiety depression and frustration for almost 27
"When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you'll be successful" -Eric Thomas
Gay quote
I found this channel like a week ago and just finished watching all of its videos thanks for great work . really grateful for your amazing work
Robert, I can't thank you enough for the sharing of your vast wisdom! You have enriched my life immeasurably! God bless you always!
I’m very much so emotional.
Which had always been there - before healing - the negative emotion stemmed from rejection, emotional manipulation (for financial agendas or for my affections which I would withhold from my parental figures because I was often mad or disappointed in them for the emotional irresponsibility I recognized and so early on I knew they couldn’t give me what I needed in the gentle way I had desired and I’d have to get it on my own or hard way - at nearly 7 I had this understanding - but they were kids at 16 with a kid - me - it was kids raising kids- I was immure and saw them as unfit or unworthy at that age) lies, no stability (emotional/home/uprooted often) and suppression of self (when I already felt different) and early understanding of the concept of death during childhood. - frustrated, disgusted and angry for 75% of my current life - up until recently (the last couple years). I learned early that nothing happens the way we want it to but we will attain what we need - nothing is ever ideal - I couldn’t accept that imperfection and lack of control for the longest time.
The internal alchemical process of emotional - to convert them to a usable form for whatever one is trying to achieve ex: mold square to put square in square hole - difficult to explain when you’re one who understands the world by feeling. I’ve never felt like I wasn’t whole. I’ve felt alone - learning to be alone and okay alone is something that’s always been there - which is nice. Anything beyond that is just a nice want - or bonus. It’s just a cool trinket of human experience for experience.
The events that occur me in my life and only affect me - give people around me stress - seeing how I handle those events gives them anxiety.
Just understanding. All is okay understanding why’s and how’s. How can one even be upset?
My mother, just yesterday, stated at me “I didn’t raise you like this” in regards to not being ever worried.
Me : “No my lass you didn’t.” - theres a beyond concept to it all.
She’s so cute though when she’s like that. 😭
This is the most profound and practical therapeutic information I have managed to find and trust me, I have read books, videos, speakers, therapists. This is the best.
I learned in a movie” it best to face your mortality with humor” -Berlin
La Casa De Papel, I presume?
@@skipperofschool8325 you got it
LEARNING TO CONTROL POSITIVE EMOTIONS IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS LEARNING TO CONTROL NEGATIVE EMOTIONS. TOO MUCH OF ANYTHING ISN'T GOOD.
This is probably the most useful video on UA-cam
Adaptibility is key in our minds of the future. I wish I had a quarter everytime I've had to take someone, outside to clear their minds & energy!
So my rationalizing and understanding my own mortality by confronting it has only made me more anxious in moments that I'm not able to do the positive things that I need to do. It makes me more jaded that so many years were stolen from me thru abuse and systemic unnecessary restriction/oppression/confinement.. which also stole from my children.. When I get returns on my massive effort(s) to overcome the hardships, abuses, vicissitudes, challenges, straight up evils done to myself and my children in this life is the only time I don't feel the horrendous anxiety and lower self worth. Which I know is a problem... that is why I am searching w/any spare second I have to improve myself/outlook... I know other people have suffered unjustly and greatly... I want to overcome it, not commiserate or compare. I just want better from myself and returns on my efforts (making my affect/feeling of my existence an increment better while doing so). I just don't have enough time to make up for what has been stolen 4xs over. Starting over yet again in my 40s is a difficult enough task.. I'd like to not make it any harder than it has been or worse, absolute hell.
It's so weird. I did exactly what you said in the course of a year and a half before I saw this video! not saying I'm cured but the work in progress is enough for me.
This is exactly spot on and a message that we must hear over and over. Very important.
What to read:
History, biographies, ancient history, ancient greece, ancient rome . Stoic philosophers , Michel de Montaigne, Victor Frankl (man's search for meaning)
Give yourself a purpose. Connect with others. Share the wealth of being grateful.
I like to just make space for what I'm feeling, get to know it in a sense, come to terms with it, and let it be. I always come out the other side a little stronger, and better able to cope more easily with such emotions in the future. I think this is what it means to integrate the uncomfortable aspects of your own personality, and the things we typically don't want to experience but must if we want to become whole.
Super awesome . I’ve been teaching myself skills since I was a kid, as a cure for boredom. And all these years later I’m so happy I did. So either listening to audiobooks on whatever I’m into and trying to learn at the moment , or philosophy / esoteric lectures . I feel like as long as the distraction is constructive it’s not really a distraction, it’s just dynamic attention. But I also fall into those traps of constantly looking for something outside myself for contentment instead of finding contentment first and then looking for something outside myself to spend my time.
Dear mr Greene,
I really really needed to hear this.
and already created a list at leasr mentaly of how I will put this into practice. Thanks again kind sir
Robert Greene: I want you to read varieties of books, man.
Me: Your books are the only ones that matter, bro.
To be fair, all of his books cover a lot of subjects like Human Psychology, Self-Develpment, Social Skills etc etc
Yeah 🙌
His books have a lot of information from other books so you're not far off
..being an immigrant- living in NYC- an actor- being able to spend time alone and not needing that thing or this person, has been liberating. Still a work in progress!
@Joe Johnson DO you know what communism is? I'm an Albanian, I've lived communism. NYC is just the opposite. Stop listening to the media, explore on your own a little..
Listen to a podcast? No. What do I do with my eyes?
Put audio over nice pictures and text? YES! Feed my eyes.
Why am I like this?
Most of these are things I have been introduced to by my life experiences and have been working on already. It's great to hear an explanation so close to my personal ideas to reinforce that I'm doing things well
So true, even after telling myself I understood. I stil messed up over this pandemic emotionally and messed up a school opportunity. This is an important part of the book.
I went into a deep well of despair after a couple of incidents in my life, went way too far in to those thoughts to where one night I could feel the damage it was causing my body, specifically my heart, my blood pressure.. For the first time I could touch the hurt, and pain I was causing myself, let alone others.. I went into psychosis once I noticed that physical damage, it struck a certain fear in me, mortal fear, you realize this isn't just a ride, and it'll just work out, no matter how irresponsible you are with yourself, you're not immortal and a self destructive lifestyle is much more terrifying than any of us are willing to fulfill.. as much as we think we want the end.. it actually kinda sucks.. lol..
I spiraled into madness shortly after.
The fear of death is ultimately the basis of all your fears, if you weren't afraid of its impact you would just live life.. as it is..
Luckily it ended, mostly, after a month.. The scary thing was going day to day thinking it would never end..
Imo, Psychosis is worse than death.. It is Hell, let me ensure you, Hell isn't waiting for you after death, it's right there, in the back of mind, if just you let door open a bit.
I try not to bother with those emotions anymore, the negative ones, literally wave them away.. Its okay to feel negativity tho, if its still there, it just means you're being realistic about things.. just don't be obsessive.
Those thoughts can and will kill you. One way or the other.
If that's where that frame of mind ultimately leads you, Hell unto Death, then I'll do my best to keep them out of my life.
I am in tears right now because I needed to read this more than you know. Keep that balance, that temperance, because people need to know and notice. Thank you for the motivation, and showing me that there's hope beyond this existential terror.
Oh my god this channel is a gem.
Robert Greene is a Father figure to many who are desperately looking for a way out of the mental struggles
I related everything to my environment. In college in 1992-1993 I use the nature as my instrument and it reminds me how I am bent on reality which the in fly in the window that brothers me but I see through it.
Im sitting here actually jotting notes down. You opened my eyes a lot wider
Searched far and wide for 7 years for this.
Alot of relationships are emotionally conductive, so yes!! You have to know how to master your emotions.
"Now I understand myself when I'm down."
The Whispers, And The Beat Goes On
The first few minutes of this video called to my memory those beautifully sung words. I wonder if those talented men may have been referencing the importance of emotional intelligence with that line. I'm certain they were.
Beautiful Quote from a Magical song
You are on the path and not clouding it woe to your power for you have gained my subscription.
I think this is what I was trying to say when I wrote the track “fear” on my channel. I couldn’t understand why I was trying to create that emotion in the music so the listener could feel how fear feels in me. Confronting your mortality was common practice of the samurai
This is some underrated content
Thank you for this. I needed to be reminded of these things that you break down in a very simple way. I feel many can benefit from these teachings & reminders to help at this time and moving forward. I will refer to this video as I need to. 🙏
Talk about this subject quite a bit (great book by Robert Greene, by the way), but the simple way to look at it, is to:
1) break free of all desires. Best way to do that is removing yourself from stimuli
2) You’ll start to grow agitated from the lack of stimulation (which is building up rudeboy energy)
3) pick 1 task or central goal you’d like to attack / conquer
4) block all possibility of interruptions (phone, people drawing on you with their idle chatter / white noise, tv etc.)
5) walk those demons on a leash by tapping into your badmind ting mood and not thinking twice or hesitating
This will give you 10,000 volts of pure power and put you into god mode (which dark spirits are unable to penetrate because goodmind spirit is daddy to demons)
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Emotions are not positive or negative. Emotions are a guidance mechanism. Ignore them at your peril. Overwhelming emotions are trying to cause you to change your circumstances.
Steer the ship, don’t let the ship steer you.
We can make some terrible decisions if we base them on emotions.
Wow! Mind-blowing! Love your books Robert!
I am so glad i took the time to watch the whole thing, very informative and helpful.
“Today I will be the master of my emotions” ~ Og Mandino
I tried this before and it does tranquilise me a lot. The view of the world is so much different later than at that second. Great work you do here!
Your point regarding the environment (desert vs. jungle) added a layer of depth for the bible's migration of the Israelites from Egypt to the Promised Land.
Physically, it provided an environment that was self-sustainable - rather than relying upon external, imported goods that was easily perishable over long distances via trade routes.
Mentally, a jungle (and it's ecosystem) provided a variety of stimuli to be observed, and spark curiosity - which ultimately sparks the desire to question, experiment and understand in order to occupy the boredom.
I would hear his voice all day long
Long walks reduces high levels of cortisol hormone in our body...drinking green/macha tea helps with mental focus and stability ...
The Dark Side of the force is a pathway to many abilities some considered to be unnatural. - Darth Sidious
Wow thank you for this Robert Greene. I needed this, it will help me. Amazing video
Robert Greene reminds me of Machiavelli.
Well he was a contemporary.
@@alecmisra4964 W H A T
Robert greene learned from Machiavelli
This video was groundbreaking for me, thank you.... I can build on this
When I have been wronged severely, and if it has happened quite a bit with the same person or persons....I can't help but to wish them ....Nothing Good. I feel a tiny bit of guilt over that. But...when I have Had It! I've had it. And by that time, I've already suffered because of them. I usually will not speak up, due to either real or perceived inequality in the relationship. And also...by this time, my anger is so pent up, that for me to speak up....and tell them how I Really Feel...might come off as diabolical. LOL I am not passive-aggressive.
At times...when I have spoken up....I have witnessed that my setting boundaries, or expressing discomfort.... will fall on deaf ears, and either they will pay your feelings no mind, or....they will Relish...in your discomfort. Bastards!
U just described being passive aggressive just to say you're not passive aggressive.... anyways...set your boundaries n create consequences n reinforce those consequences
I used to be the same exact way . My grandma swore I was eventually gonna kill someone from bottling stuff up all the time . Now I’m older and if someone does something I don’t like I tell them nicely right their on the spot. It’s just so much easier than having to build a resentment, make a revenge plan , etc. lol . Your gonna be ok, your way more stronger than you think you are.
@@twiznizzlenore7822and Elijah Castello.... If your response to the infraction will weigh heavily on the status of your employment, your livelihood, and therefore the climate of your day to day? You keep it hid as much as humanly possible, and plan for an exit!
@@allkindsamusicchick ooh beautifully said , you hit the nail right on the head , I love it 👏 👏 thank you 🙏
one of my best quotes is" don't let opinions dictate the facts" like if i lost money (fact) i shouldn't react by being angry just because my body is telling me now is the time to get angry (opinion)
This is amazing. I’ve been wanting to work on having better control over my emotions
Tbh anyone who tells me 'read more books', i think that person is genuinely trying to help.
Excellent video. Content is dead-accurate and valuable advice. My only concern is that people may not take this advice as seriously as they should. All the research I've done has pointed to all these valid points. I hope people heed this advice. Nice summary.
Thank you for this amazing upload. Great work.
really good job on this one! much appreciated! keep them comin
Great video. These are key points of Stoicism. It is shameful that such information is not taught in education. Some people develop this way but most do not, as social media is proof of.
Your video was really worth watching, thank you so much. A big thank you to you. ❤️❤️❤️
I’m 24 I feel like I’m learning stuff I should be learning in my 60’s lol. None the less I feel more prepared.
This was excellent, thank you for posting.
I noticed once I was stressing and getting growly with a bitchy tone when i was rushing to go out, and i thought for a moment, and realised it wasn't an obstacle making me late that was making me anxious, it was how my brain jumped to being late, then having a reputation of unreliable, thus missing opportunities and down the rabbit hole went until i felt my entire life was falling apart with everything i've worked for. But because I stepped back, I realised all that is silly paranoia from subconscious intelligence (all happened in about 2 seconds, from healthy pressure to 'aargh!', when in reality i just needed to load the washing machine before i left. My life wasn't falling apart at all. It still gets me sometimes, but i'm getting better and talking myself through it. As far as i can tell, you have to basically parent yourself. To push yourself beyond fear and excuses, yet be loving to yourself without judgement. excuse the 'i's, typing one-handed..
9:19 That does exactly the opposite of solving the problem of anxiety.
I have no goals that I want, I don't have anything that I want actually. There is no direction in which to point my life.
For someone like me, someone who will never have a girlfriend, someone who will never have a good job and be successful. Thinking about the future only brings the realization that the only thing to come is more, and more suffering.
I wish I had never born, this life is the true hell
The world does not owe us understanding- Kevin Samuels
@@ameliasbaby3782 I do think I understand it. I just don't have anything to do in it and no reason to stay in
Agreed except for the point about "It'll give you a sense of urgency." I've found, at 63 years of age and confronting mortality many times, letting go of any sense of urgency to do anything has been the greatest benefit. Urgency comes from the perpetual feeling that one must be productive. There is no reason to think that the life well led is completing a list of goals; the insistent to accomplish something. I find it better to operate as if there is no time, no goals, and to realize accomplishment is not actually fulfilling (i.e. doing is different than accomplishment. Doing is a process, accomplishment is a set endpoint of a process. The process is rewarding when it has no anticipated endpoint.). That's what I learned from facing mortality: quit watching the clock, and as Charles Bukowski admonished us, stop trying.
Wonderful insight and advice. Thanks for sharing!
I'm saving this video
Thanks SO much. I didnt realize I was missing these things.
Thank you for the video it is very helpful 🙏❤️
thank you for the wisewords Mr Greene
There is a big difference between emotional intelligence and emotional control.
You might be aware of all the little things, yet doesn't mean that you are certainly going to control your inner emotions.and how you react to the situation.
Thank you very much, I'll try
I can sort of hold it inside without breaking through but not for long and it gets stuck and I feel like baloon that is ready to blow up trying to hold it back. Doesn'tsimply disappear.
If I continue to do it that way I'm afraid I'll end up with a locked heart but I have no idea how to step back without locking it up
thank you greatly for the empowering ideas and thoughts. I thought they were especially pertinent to the times and on the nose at pointing out the weakness of our generation! :)
I’m dealing with numbness, or like no emotions at all. I feel like it helped me recover from a bad situation where I was always acting off emotions and feelings but now I feel like I’m stuck in a position and that this is actually hindering my progress. Is there a video about what to do if you lost emotions?
Woow ! Such great video man, inspirarional.
Essential tool for everyone. Tq
*Your mind and your emotions are two different states if being.* 🎊
Harness the beast and ride the primal nature to victory
The 6 basic emotions are: sadness, anger, happiness, suprise, disgust and fear... Depression is a disorder that involves high levels of sadness and internalisation but also anger and irritability... So, depression is not an emotion but a pattern of emotional responses and regulations
This is really good , great job 👏
What is that beautiful background music?
THIS WAS FCKING BRILLIANT!😡😡😡😲😟
Brilliant! Thankyou. Bravo, bra.
When I was a child. I had to learn to focus my fear. Because we were haunted. Yes, I know, it’s crazy. But we did have ghosts in our home tormenting me because I was so young.
Proof?
Negative evil energy is real and palpable, who did you piss off on the other side at age 3? 😒
@@ameliasbaby3782 it could have been someone who lived in the house tampering in the occult?
@@labornurse it was a joke Madam unless he as Damien at 3
@@ameliasbaby3782 😆lol
I loved it thank you sir for sharing such a knowledge
Thanks for sharing..stay blessed
Thank Yiu!