How do I download books please help I need to read 📚 especially about this I need to build my life with a God fearing partner so I guess these podcast will help me and these books too
Guys your marriage is purely beautiful...Honestly some of us grew up witnessing the most broke and traumatic of marriages & seeing you guys gives us hope for ourselves somehow. Love ya'll!
Truly . Even with our parents we never really saw healthy marriage life . Their journey is beautiful and this is why I'm hopeful that I could possibly have a healthy and beautiful marriage life. 🥺❤️
"I already knew your sister and I share the same birthday" 🤣. Women literally go into the relationship already knowing the guy's whole history and biography
Agree with what Mpoomy said, that we don’t have to go through some experiences to learn the hard way. Just heed other’s experiences. The hurt that comes with learning the hard way can be quite traumatic. Also agree with what Brendan said about being quick to forgive. Holding onto anger is not worth it and can prove to be dangerous. Lovely, informative and timely discourse ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Missed our faves!!!!! Thank you for this. My therapist said to me recently that I need to learn to love myself so much that I want and get to accept the best. If I want the best for myself, I will not overlook the red flags, I won’t sacrifice getting the best just bc it’s not available to me (in the present). Still a tough pill to swallow but I believe that we need to do more self love and nurturing to our gardens so that we get to a point where we are like “ahh no, this isn’t good enough for me. I want more, I need more and I deserve more”
Also, I think it's important for us to highlight that this happens in friendships as well. Majority of the red flags on the list, I have experienced with a closest friend and it can break you so much you'd end up not seeing yourself good enough for relationships aswell. Yho I actually wish I could tell the whole story hey. But yeah, life is connected. Allowing mistreatment in friendships easily opens room for you to allow it in relationships as well, at work, everywhere. We should not only be careful of red flags in romantic relationships, but in every kind of relationship. I love you Mpoomy and Brenden. Some of my best days are from conversating with you. 🙏🏽✨
Love bombing is also a huge red flag that we don't notice. If someone is flooding you with compliments and just moving too quickly . When someone is digging into your past in just weeks of hooking up or they are just head over heels even before they know your Surname 👀 it may seem honest and cute but sometimes it's just a person trying to be your go to person so you feel like you don't need anyone else. You end up isolated and then when they mistreat you, you have no one to confide in because this person was just constantly wanting to spend time with you because you so "incredible" when in actual fact they just luring you in to get you to a point where by they can manipulate you and get you to ultimately depend on them for emotional stability
I get Branden's point...Just leaving because of a red flag can have you having a hard time going forward in terms of relationships because you left because of just that...This goes now to communication...It is important to talk to thr person about that thing that you don't like so much that when you leave you know you definitely were not in the right place...Then moving forward regardless of the other good they had knowing that that one thing that was super important to you...That would give you security for instance in a relationship wa not met...Communication really is important...Ego must be put aside...So that when you leave someone you know for sure it wasn't for you
Mpoomy is right. Its like when a person comes to you with third degree burns and says look, please; don't play with fire its really harmful. Then you decide to say well, I get you but i want to experience it myself.Only a fool learns from his mistakes, a wise person learns from the mistakes of others ~Otto Von Bismarck~ I loved the part where Brenden Praise was talking about listing down your needs so that both of you won't have to seek for external validation. So powerful and wise.
I love how this conversation went about. I was also a snooper just like Mpoomy, well currently recovering from that but funny enough , that trait has saved me from a lot of things and bad decisions.
If this was a church sermon I would really say The Holy Spirit was talking to me. However I feel this podcast really speaks to what I am currently going through...Thanks Mpoomy and Brenden for allowing God to use you... ❣❣
It's the "kumele kuhlatywe inkomo kugidwe" when someone apologises. I was watching Get Over it by Pastor Robert Madu at Ekevation where he was talking about how offenses will happen but it'syour response and reaction to them that matter, being offended is a response.This was a really informative yet chilled conversation
Personally, ghosting is a defense mechanism. It's toxic, in the context of a relationship, but it's hard to relinquish ones peace for confrontation. Especially when communication styles clash.
It's hilarious how Mpoomy truly believed that she wasn't a red flag till she realized that she is a low-key full-on stalker lmao...then she laughed herself silly. 🤣🤣🤣 I love these two's content man!
Ohhhh my Father God I laugh until I couldn't anymore. Not sure If it's you guys or the excitement that we finally had the notification. Thank you so much yazi Branden just touch something so deep apologizing and forgiving not sure if January babies struggle with bot apologizing and forgiving. I think we really need deliverance. Syabonga kwaLedwaba may God continue to Bless you and yours.💫💫💫💞💞💞
I listened to this on Spotify but I'm here on UA-cam to listen for the third time. This was such a wholesome episode, especially after waiting for weeks for a new one 🥺🥺🥺
I love how you guys are with each other. How much you guys laugh, I just love it man. Its giving healthy relationship, comfortable in each others space and a solid friendship. Its really beautiful to watch. 🥰👌🏾...yoh that last part sent me. 😅😂🤣.."..like ngigide?" kodwa uyaxolisa, wow Mpumi. 🤣
It always fascinates me how in these modern times people hardly take responsibility for their relationships falling apart. Its always pointing fingers at the next party instead of reflecting and self correcting to become a better human being.
Brenden’s laugh is hilarious 😅 This was so good. Knowing yourself is so important hey, the young ones are so fortunate to have such platforms to learn from and avoid unnecessary heartbreaks.
Not identify toxicity is a problem. that stems from childhood trauma the way we were raised as much as we can talk about it remains a problem in dating and because many ppl have opinions about it ,it becomes hard for the suffers to still act... But anyway thank you for your input🧡🧡and experiences💕💕🌎
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you so much for this video 🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋 Another red flag is a partner who refuses to watch couple channels on UA-cam 😂🥲🤭 I know its silly but I genuinely have learnt so much about dating/ love journey from UA-cam channels ❤️🥳
Eish.. I’m soo guilty of ghosting 💀I literally fall off the face of the earth and cannot be found. It’s so bad but it’s mostly a coping mechanism, usually driven by fear.
Hi there, when Mpoomy is talking about her high school situationship I can relate so much. 🤣🤣🤣. She was me and I was her. On FB he had someone else's name in 'the relationship with' category; when confronted he tried to be intellectual about it. In the few months that we were " together" half of the time I was ghosted.
the ceremony part for apologizing I can relate 😭😂, cause angikwazi ukungcenga iskhathi eside cause now its like an emotional blackmail aiibo xolela have peace and move on
Wow this was so good! What both of you said about needs and what Brenden said towards the end about “being aware”👌🏾 I see therapy is doing wonders for you guys😅❤️
I feel Mpoomy when she says that, she questioned why she stayed in a relationship when it was clear that the guy was not into me like I was into him. But I am grateful for that experience, it was learning curve for me!!!
Thank you guys especially for sharing the tweet "so often, we sacrifice what we want the most for what we want now" Hope these words will show up whenever i'll be tempted to do so.
Mpoomy is so me when it comes to snooping . I will snoop and I just need to know everything. I'm detective funny thing is my friends will tell me it's not right but soon as a meet someone they'd be asking me to go detective on that person. I personally need to know what I'm getting myself into. By the way we share a birthday Mpooms ☺️
Awww❤....you guys are the sweetest couple I have ever come across @Charlene Deve,thank you so much for introducing me to these 2 ..my life has never been the same.Continue to inspire and touch lives.Sending my love all the way from Zimbabwe ❣
I had a power imbalance with my previous partnership. It was toxic. He was 2 years older then me but I had to minimize who I am because he felt he was better then me
Wish this information was available to us as we got married young...it would have been better if we would have been having such discussions...great topic ...hope people learn from this especially the young people
I am so entertained you guys😆😍. Listen, your conversations always awakens something in me to wanna be a better partner to my husband. Thanks Mpoomy and Brenden.
Brendan’s sense of humour is out of this world 😂😂, this was a very informative episode though. We do ignore red flags a lot just to be with that specific someone and we also have our own red flags and I think we should all acknowledge and work on ourselves. In the end I think the statement still stands “when someone shows you why they are , believe them”. And we should all work on ourselves for the person we one day are meant to be with🤍
“Ghosting is like an art form in the world of relationship. It’s like magic, you disappear and show up again”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
now you see me...now you don't🤣🤣🤣
Hey lolst we were ghosted kablungu kanjani 😂😂
Exactly 😂😂😂
This part finished me! 😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Brenden its not even you .
“Yet, you married him!” By Phindile Yende. A book that covers most of the red flags in a relationship that women tend to overlook! Very informative
Hey sis
Don’t you perhaps have an ebook?
How do I download books please help I need to read 📚 especially about this I need to build my life with a God fearing partner so I guess these podcast will help me and these books too
Guys your marriage is purely beautiful...Honestly some of us grew up witnessing the most broke and traumatic of marriages & seeing you guys gives us hope for ourselves somehow. Love ya'll!
*broken
🤍🤎
Dude! I agree.
so true 👍
Truly . Even with our parents we never really saw healthy marriage life . Their journey is beautiful and this is why I'm hopeful that I could possibly have a healthy and beautiful marriage life. 🥺❤️
“Do we choose consistency or do we choose our peace and our family”, I know you said that in passing but it’s actually so powerful!
"I already knew your sister and I share the same birthday" 🤣. Women literally go into the relationship already knowing the guy's whole history and biography
"Don't sacrifice what you want most for what you want not" 🖤
Another red flag is someone who has a history of abuse, and I mean like physical abuse its most likely to happen in your relationship with them
Only if they didn't heal.😊
When someone shows you who they are believe them . "True That"
You pick you partner according to their patterns. I like that
yes indeed!
Agree with what Mpoomy said, that we don’t have to go through some experiences to learn the hard way. Just heed other’s experiences. The hurt that comes with learning the hard way can be quite traumatic. Also agree with what Brendan said about being quick to forgive. Holding onto anger is not worth it and can prove to be dangerous.
Lovely, informative and timely discourse ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
I agree with Mpoomy at the end. Some experiences are not necessary. We can do without honestly.
I just love how they are laughing throughout, so wholesome 😍❤️. The humor makes the topic less painful 😭😂❤️.
Missed our faves!!!!! Thank you for this.
My therapist said to me recently that I need to learn to love myself so much that I want and get to accept the best. If I want the best for myself, I will not overlook the red flags, I won’t sacrifice getting the best just bc it’s not available to me (in the present).
Still a tough pill to swallow but I believe that we need to do more self love and nurturing to our gardens so that we get to a point where we are like “ahh no, this isn’t good enough for me. I want more, I need more and I deserve more”
Thank you for sharing this Mmapula ❤️
Thank you for sharing this Mmapula ❤️
Also, I think it's important for us to highlight that this happens in friendships as well. Majority of the red flags on the list, I have experienced with a closest friend and it can break you so much you'd end up not seeing yourself good enough for relationships aswell. Yho I actually wish I could tell the whole story hey.
But yeah, life is connected. Allowing mistreatment in friendships easily opens room for you to allow it in relationships as well, at work, everywhere. We should not only be careful of red flags in romantic relationships, but in every kind of relationship.
I love you Mpoomy and Brenden. Some of my best days are from conversating with you. 🙏🏽✨
Even family my love. We should stop making excuses for red flags.
@@phiwokuhlemthembu8972 You not alone hence I said even family can be toxic sometimes, they come to you when they need favours
Love bombing is also a huge red flag that we don't notice. If someone is flooding you with compliments and just moving too quickly . When someone is digging into your past in just weeks of hooking up or they are just head over heels even before they know your Surname 👀 it may seem honest and cute but sometimes it's just a person trying to be your go to person so you feel like you don't need anyone else. You end up isolated and then when they mistreat you, you have no one to confide in because this person was just constantly wanting to spend time with you because you so "incredible" when in actual fact they just luring you in to get you to a point where by they can manipulate you and get you to ultimately depend on them for emotional stability
Narcissist Tendencies❗❗❗
Yoooo I have a friend who is going through that....eysh....it's sad she's already ingaged and it's only 3 months into the relationship
@@katlehomsimanga332 Hectic!
I cut anyone who does this off! it scares me so much!😩
Nailed it!
"When someone shows you who they are believe them."
Thank you Mrs Mom and Brenden Praise 💞 #Lovejourney #NotificationGang
"A relationship cannot workout if your partners needs are unmet" 🙌🏾.
I get Branden's point...Just leaving because of a red flag can have you having a hard time going forward in terms of relationships because you left because of just that...This goes now to communication...It is important to talk to thr person about that thing that you don't like so much that when you leave you know you definitely were not in the right place...Then moving forward regardless of the other good they had knowing that that one thing that was super important to you...That would give you security for instance in a relationship wa not met...Communication really is important...Ego must be put aside...So that when you leave someone you know for sure it wasn't for you
Feels like I waited for this notification forever 🥺 Lots of love from 🇰🇪
same😭. been waiting🥺. thank you!
Same!!!! 😍😭
SAME!!!!!
🇰🇪🇰🇪 ayeeeee
Mpoomy is right. Its like when a person comes to you with third degree burns and says look, please; don't play with fire its really harmful. Then you decide to say well, I get you but i want to experience it myself.Only a fool learns from his mistakes, a wise person learns from the mistakes of others ~Otto Von Bismarck~
I loved the part where Brenden Praise was talking about listing down your needs so that both of you won't have to seek for external validation. So powerful and wise.
I love how this conversation went about. I was also a snooper just like Mpoomy, well currently recovering from that but funny enough , that trait has saved me from a lot of things and bad decisions.
Me too hey… we live and learn🤗
Is it a red flag though😂😂😂😂
If this was a church sermon I would really say The Holy Spirit was talking to me. However I feel this podcast really speaks to what I am currently going through...Thanks Mpoomy and Brenden for allowing God to use you... ❣❣
It's the "kumele kuhlatywe inkomo kugidwe" when someone apologises. I was watching Get Over it by Pastor Robert Madu at Ekevation where he was talking about how offenses will happen but it'syour response and reaction to them that matter, being offended is a response.This was a really informative yet chilled conversation
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️❤️❤️
Personally, ghosting is a defense mechanism. It's toxic, in the context of a relationship, but it's hard to relinquish ones peace for confrontation. Especially when communication styles clash.
The disagreement is also in sync 🤣🤣🤣🤣. That's very authentic guys. Disagreement is healthy!
lol agreed! very
I love how you both tackle serious topics in a fun way, literally laughing my way though. This is so beautiful!
Just like our fire is gone, so are we😂😂🔥. Siyabonga for this segment.
😂😂😂
Y’all Are The Definition Of A Genuine Authentic Marriage Blessings ❤
It's hilarious how Mpoomy truly believed that she wasn't a red flag till she realized that she is a low-key full-on stalker lmao...then she laughed herself silly. 🤣🤣🤣 I love these two's content man!
Ohhhh my Father God I laugh until I couldn't anymore. Not sure If it's you guys or the excitement that we finally had the notification. Thank you so much yazi Branden just touch something so deep apologizing and forgiving not sure if January babies struggle with bot apologizing and forgiving. I think we really need deliverance. Syabonga kwaLedwaba may God continue to Bless you and yours.💫💫💫💞💞💞
I listened to this on Spotify but I'm here on UA-cam to listen for the third time. This was such a wholesome episode, especially after waiting for weeks for a new one 🥺🥺🥺
I love how you guys are with each other. How much you guys laugh, I just love it man. Its giving healthy relationship, comfortable in each others space and a solid friendship. Its really beautiful to watch. 🥰👌🏾...yoh that last part sent me. 😅😂🤣.."..like ngigide?" kodwa uyaxolisa, wow Mpumi. 🤣
I love how he praises her❤️
Is the authenticity of this channel that make me present with every video. Thank you soo much for being selfless in sharing your life with us.
It's so good to know that good marriages still exists and may God bless you 💖 😊
Another red flag is failing to listen to what your partner says and always wanting thing's to go your way.
Choosing to avoid communication is also one of the things I used to do in my past relationships. I know exactly what Brenden is talking about. ☹️
Thoroughly enjoyed this podcast. I love the way you were tackling such important issues yet being so light as well. Beautiful 💖
Today I was very intentional about watching the ads. Thank you for a great discussion in a very light manner. I enjoyed it very much.
Y'all are honestly a breath of fresh air! We love to see it!
Here, here! So happy to see y’all back.
I'm soooo happy to see you guys!! Really missed these
So excited for all the great stuff happening in your lives💫. May God continue to bless you individually and as a family 🙏🏾 🤎
It always fascinates me how in these modern times people hardly take responsibility for their relationships falling apart. Its always pointing fingers at the next party instead of reflecting and self correcting to become a better human being.
Learnt a lot.. my favorite part was when both of you started laughing about Mr Brendan's dad being an over sharer..that was sweet! I love laughter😁
Brenden’s laugh is hilarious 😅
This was so good. Knowing yourself is so important hey, the young ones are so fortunate to have such platforms to learn from and avoid unnecessary heartbreaks.
I loved this! Laughed my way through these gems! Great episode.
Thank you❤️
I don’t even have to think twice about watching my faves❤️ so happy to see you again.
First time catching a live, so happy to be here❤️❤️❤️
ahhh so happy to have you!!
Not identify toxicity is a problem. that stems from childhood trauma the way we were raised as much as we can talk about it remains a problem in dating and because many ppl have opinions about it ,it becomes hard for the suffers to still act...
But anyway thank you for your input🧡🧡and experiences💕💕🌎
“Honestish” yhoo Brenden 😂😂😂
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you so much for this video 🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋 Another red flag is a partner who refuses to watch couple channels on UA-cam 😂🥲🤭 I know its silly but I genuinely have learnt so much about dating/ love journey from UA-cam channels ❤️🥳
I appreciate you guys, even though I'd like to see you on regular 😌 I understand how life is and its always a banger when you return ❤ much love😘
Thank you so much for the wonderful content. Also I really appreciate the great quality of your content.
Thank you 😊 I
We have been waiting for the notifications 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻 it’s good to be here 📍sila. We miss you guys 😘😍
"Do not sacrifice what you want now for what you want most"👌💫
Love this. An emphasis on always ensuring that everything that you get yourself into, aligns with who you are. You guys are amazing ❤️
the quality/grading of your videos, unmatched man, every time.
Brandon in color?? Pastel yes, but it’s still color. We love to see it 😂 love the episode as always!
Eish.. I’m soo guilty of ghosting 💀I literally fall off the face of the earth and cannot be found. It’s so bad but it’s mostly a coping mechanism, usually driven by fear.
Arg I've missed you guys mehn, always lighthearted yet much needed conversations ❤☺
💯💯❤️❤️Been looking forward for a sit down
we back at it!
The therapy I needed 😭
I just love how you laugh throughout your conversation.
The minute you said phineas and ferb i bursted into laughter. Whatchu doin 🤣 queen of snooping
I’m a joke to him😂😂
"Ghosting is magic"
Brendan come on😂😂
Hi there, when Mpoomy is talking about her high school situationship I can relate so much. 🤣🤣🤣. She was me and I was her. On FB he had someone else's name in 'the relationship with' category; when confronted he tried to be intellectual about it.
In the few months that we were " together" half of the time I was ghosted.
One thing about you guys are so content, from relationship red flags to how it should be 😍 thank you for sharing part of yourselves with us
Yaaay, I saw on insta and jumped cant wait to indulge
the ceremony part for apologizing I can relate 😭😂, cause angikwazi ukungcenga iskhathi eside cause now its like an emotional blackmail aiibo xolela have peace and move on
Wow this was so good! What both of you said about needs and what Brenden said towards the end about “being aware”👌🏾 I see therapy is doing wonders for you guys😅❤️
Ag you two are just a whole package, thank you so much for what you do guys.
Thank you mpoomy, always inspiring ❤❤
Glad you enjoyed ❤️❤️❤️
I feel Mpoomy when she says that, she questioned why she stayed in a relationship when it was clear that the guy was not into me like I was into him. But I am grateful for that experience, it was learning curve for me!!!
I agree with Mpoomy with setting firm boundaries and making sure your partner respects your boundaries
I love it more when you guys are relaxed,laughing and making jokes 😍😍😍❤️❤️
Notification gang we are here 💃💃❤️
Here for the gems ❤️🖤💕
I always like the videos before watching 😅
Thank you guys especially for sharing the tweet "so often, we sacrifice what we want the most for what we want now" Hope these words will show up whenever i'll be tempted to do so.
Mpoomy is so me when it comes to snooping . I will snoop and I just need to know everything. I'm detective funny thing is my friends will tell me it's not right but soon as a meet someone they'd be asking me to go detective on that person. I personally need to know what I'm getting myself into. By the way we share a birthday Mpooms ☺️
😂😂😂♥️a good laugh and great content. Thank you🙏🏽
The fact that you matched with the coffee cups😊
I love the topics you always bring up and love you guys❤️🥰 this is so educative 👌🔥🇿🇲
so glad its helpful
The true definition of your partner should be your bestfriend. This warms my heart ❤
Awww❤....you guys are the sweetest couple I have ever come across @Charlene Deve,thank you so much for introducing me to these 2 ..my life has never been the same.Continue to inspire and touch lives.Sending my love all the way from Zimbabwe ❣
I really love this so much, there is so much truth here and I absolutely love it!
I had a power imbalance with my previous partnership. It was toxic. He was 2 years older then me but I had to minimize who I am because he felt he was better then me
i am so glad you left
Ayyy🤸♀️💃💃💃and they back am so excited.. Thank u guys for such a long time I love u so much continue to bless us and may God bless u💜💜♥️
Ghosting is kinda Magic in a relationship 😂🤦♀️🤦♀️😂😂😂😂you guys are power maan.. its always nice watching and listening to you guys ❤❤
Wish this information was available to us as we got married young...it would have been better if we would have been having such discussions...great topic ...hope people learn from this especially the young people
Mpoomy is so cute 😍 gosh your laugh 😃
🥰😂
I really like how Brenden praises you Mpoomi 🥰...
"just like our fire is gone, so are we!"😹❤️ I love you guys so much thank you for yet another amazing and informative video🔥💞
Where are gents ,I feel like our women are the only ones watching. I hope we get to have more gents tuning in
6 months Brenden noooo 😂😂😂😂 that's ghosting on another level... Anyway better late than never... Binging on your podcast ❤️
🙌🏽🙌🏽 Thank you for this❤❤❤ eyyy Our Love Journey bandla🥺🥹
I am so entertained you guys😆😍. Listen, your conversations always awakens something in me to wanna be a better partner to my husband. Thanks Mpoomy and Brenden.
Brendan’s sense of humour is out of this world 😂😂, this was a very informative episode though. We do ignore red flags a lot just to be with that specific someone and we also have our own red flags and I think we should all acknowledge and work on ourselves. In the end I think the statement still stands “when someone shows you why they are , believe them”. And we should all work on ourselves for the person we one day are meant to be with🤍
Man!!! I soooooooo needed this!
Very important conversation, ❤️❤️