Thank you for this video. I graduated from Tuskegee University in May, and now I’m back at home figuring it out. It’s actually killing me because I thrived in college. I was built for those high stress moments, but being back at home without a job is forcing me to slow down. In short this video describes what I am feeling perfectly!
I’m so glad It could be helpful ! So many graduates suffer in silence or may not be able to put a name to what they’re feeling so i had hoped that this would reach those ppl
I'm one of those people who graduated and got a job right away but I'm still often unhappy. College was such a privilege..eating whenever I wanted, choosing my own schedule, meeting amazing new ppl, so many opportunities to take inside and outside of your comfort zone. The independence. It was amazing. I do have a nice job now but I miss all of that so so much. College had a goal to work toward. Many jobs don't. The same thing day after day.
Ha... I was super ambitious I was applying for jobs / going on interviews during my last 2 weeks of school & I managed to get job offers for jobs that were directly in my field! I even accepted one and started work on Jan 14.... 3 weeks in I really was overwhelmed and didn’t really like the job, I feel like I rushed into it just to prove to myself & my family. I was so stressed everyday and mind you the job was full time w/ benefits.. I recently quit last week cuz I couldn’t handle it, I had no desire or joy doing the job. So now I’m sitting at home unmotivated, barely applying for jobs due to my experience, sleeping & eating fast food all day 😭 I hate this sluggish feeling but I have nowhere to go 🙄 I graduated this past December
Honestly I feel like there’s so much pressure on us to just do SOMETHING that we either just end up doing anything or we end up with nothing. I’m hoping you’re situation gets better love! You’re not alone
Graduating with a Masters during a pandemic is the probably the most horrible experience I’ve ever witness. It’s not a culture shock because I’ve been in post-graduate depression before but this hits different. I pray that everyone is safe and realize everything that you ask will come in time. Blessings to all 🖤🖤🖤
I'm 7 months post-grad and still trying to find a stable job in my field due to my lack of work experience. I've applied everywhere, went on dozens of interviews, had my resume and interview skills reviewed by professionals, stressed every connect I had and it seems no one can help. The few odd jobs I did come across were extremely stressful, toxic and had me working insane hours (literally day to night every day) for not nearly enough money. Its like at every avenue I'm being ignored or exploited. It can be embarrassing when friends find jobs so easily. Definitely has destroyed my mood many times. I have been doing community service in my spare time. Overall I'm disappointed in how things are going but still hanging on to hope.
SAME honestly I have a job now but literally I don’t need a degree to do my job and it almost feels like I got a degree for nothing bc no one will hire me. Thank you for sharing your story with me I felt so alone for so long before making this video.
I feel the exact same. I sleep alllll day and I never leave home! My friends from college are still in town but I live 30min from everyone so it’s hella hard linking up. I’m also scared to apply for full time jobs bc I don’t want to get something I hate....but I need to get a job so I can save for graduate school next fall. It have a part time one in my field but I never feel as “accomplished “ as my friends who have full time jobs in whatever. I totally hear you
All my friends live in different states lol it’s sooo hard even being around ppl smh it’s crazy bc our whole lives we spend time in school but i don’t feel like we’re really fully prepared for life post graduation and it’s scary thinking you’ll spend life being unhappy and unsure !
Id recommend thinking about it before doubling down. Some times people just go to graduate school because its the next "step" but many times it back fires and they end up digging a bigger hole. Working a regular full time job sucks but its best to generate some income and invest in your own business/ passion.
I just graduated high school 19 hours ago And it already seems I’m sinking into this emotion, torment of empty Confusion. I’m going to community college first just so I won’t pressure myself to death . It should be the happiest transition of my life but it feels like very low point. Thank you for posting this video though , not many people talk about this enough , and it sure is nice to not be alone.
I'm 5 months post-grad with a Health Studies degree. I put off job searching for a couple months so that I could take a small break & take care of my mom after her surgery. My thought was that once I started applying, I would get calls for hella interviews... but then I started searching. Most jobs either required so many years of experience that I know I'm not going to get a chance (I apply anyway), or sounds so difficult that I'm scared to apply or they only required a HS diploma. The pride in me won't let me apply for jobs that only require a HS diploma because I feel I didn't go to college for no reason. I've been feeling lost, sad, & hopeless...doing the same thing everyday.. face breaking out lol... just sad. At this point I don't even know what I want to do anymore. It also doesn't help when family/friends ask if you've gotten a job yet... it just feels embarrassing for some reason. My first interview I've gotten since I graduated was last week and yesterday I learned that they chose to give the position to someone already within the company. But according to the manager I would've been his first choice otherwise and I shouldn't hesitate to apply to future positions 🙄. Needless to say I cried & I'm just over it😩 but I know I got to keep faith
Thank you for sharing! I know exactly what you mean about it being embarrassing, recently while I was at my mall job (it was all I could get even tho I have a degree) someone I went to high school with who’s doing much better than me came in and literally said to my face “you’re still here?” That literally crushed my soul and I hate when ppl ask what I’m doing cuz it’s embarrassing to say I work in the mall regardless of my position. I’m hoping you hear good news soon tho !!! I definitely plan on making an update video soon would you mind if I shared your story ?
@@Briakiii Wow! I can imagine how that made you feel. That is so rude to just say to somebody especially when you don't know their circumstance. Those kind of questions make you feel like you're slacking off. It especially hits when you see people around our age or younger on social media living it up and you wonder what you did wrong. Sadly, it seems like getting a career is based on who you know instead of your education nowadays. And thank you! I hope the same for you! And I don't mind you sharing it! This topic is rarely discussed but is so important
Thanks Chanele for sharing. This hits right home for me and i'm feeling much better just knowing that I'm not alone. Recently i've been feeling demotivated and lazy and it sucks not having a set schedule and jobless. Take care hun xoxo
@@xFailageYou're welcome. I'm glad my post helped you to feel better. I definitely know what you mean. Knowing that other people are having the same experience is consoling in a way. You take care too
I know this video is old but I totally felt this whooolleee video. Especially the part about comparing myself to people on social media with our post grad journey and the whole friendship things was super relatable. I also felt you on the part where you felt like you lost a sense of community. Being really connected to my school and the community at my school is something that Im really going to miss. Thanks for sharing!
this is exactly how I've been feeling. Thank you for talking about this. I have a job but all of my friends are spread out and I feel really lonely. It's very difficult.
In my case, post-graduation depression was tied to high school graduation instead of college graduation. I’ve heard high school is an awful time for a lot of people, but it was pleasant for me, in spite of the fact that I wasn’t popular and wasn’t one of the high-achievers. Growing up, I enjoyed writing, and lots of people told me I was a good writer, so I figured I’d become a writer. Problem was, none of my friends were writers too, and instead of supporting my idea to become a writer, my parents gave me a long list of reasons why I shouldn’t be a writer. My motivation plummeted, and I didn’t really have any alternate plans. I took some courses at a community college while I tried to come up with a new plan, but all I managed to do was begin long-term relationships with anxiety and depression. I was unemployed for 3 years after I finished with community college...I didn’t graduate. I spent another 3 years doing volunteer work to make my resume look better, to get out of the house, and to give myself structure with a regular routine. My parents sent me to a therapist after they learned that I just wanted to go to sleep and never wake up again, and my therapist managed to coax me into getting a paying job. It’s been 5 years...I’m still a pizza delivery guy, and apart from one year when I moved out into an apartment, I still live with my parents. I still don’t really know what to do with my life, I just live a life of quiet desperation, as I watch my friends and former classmates achieve things I only dream of.
Same here i just graduated high school in june of 2021 unlike most comments ive seen im not depressed about what life will be like or what career choice to make im more upset that my life my i guess you can say my teen life is practically over most of my friends have work or go to college im also in college myself so i keep myself busy but it just miss those times when we would all come out of school at the same time and just hang out or go do something anything ! Especially the football games on Fridays so much people so much energy i just loved the vibe but now its “cant make it i got work or cant go with you i got class” i know it probably sounds silly but i miss just being a kid that carefree life when you have nothing but time on your hands
@@Snowalchemist677 I know exactly what you mean. Almost all of my friends from grade school moved away, and I only get to hang out with the one who didn’t on my days off or after work. I would give just about anything to be a kid again, even though I know I’d have less freedom.
Part of growing up is realizing that for the most part people don't get to do jobs they love. That's why going to college does not provide a sense of what it means to be an adult.
Thank you so much for this video! I've been crying for weeks and been struggling with all of these post graduation. Just wondering if things have gotten better for you or if you have learned any tips that help?
Things have gotten a little better but tbh I’m not even close to where i want to be. My best advice is firstly don’t compare your journey to anyone else’s i do It all the time and i always feel like shit afterwards. Next just take some time to identify everything that’s making you sad like really pinpoint where the stress is coming from and that’ll make it so so much easier to take the next steps to better your situation. And finally just cry honestly sometimes you just have to cry and get It all out your system, i really hope that helped !
I am having post graduation depression, my son will be graduating six grade and I am feeling so sad maybe because his is the youngest and now he will be more dependent and that is killing me😭😭😭
I'm so grateful that you made this video. Im going through this exact thing and it's really easy to not feel like you're not doing enough or that you need to measure up to everyone's expectations of you. People also don't realize how discouraging it is for someone to ask, "So are you working yet?" Or, "so what's next?" For me, I feel like writing is my true purpose and there isn't a specific path to take. Writers come from all walks of life, so here I am, trying to write and continue to pay my bills during a pandemic. Im all over the place and idk what to do about it
Well, today's my high school graduation day, and I can't even celebrate it normally... When I graduated from secondary school I had Post-Graduation Depression. And today it has repeated
Really love this video! I graduated May 2017 and that summer was the toughest!! Applied left and right to everything, I was picky in the beginning and then I started applying everywhere at all locations bc I was just that desperate. Luckily I was still living at home and my father would give me like $30 every week but I don’t even know how tf I managed to make that last a whole week and live my best young life! I got a part time that October and worked that for over a year, but recently got let go soooo I’m living off of stipends I get from my internships 😭😭 The only thing that keeps me going is knowing that this isn’t my end destination and that I’m 23 and got a whole life to live and everyone that’s made it in life started with humble beginnings and I guess this is ours!
Girl, you said “ I’ll walk my dog and stuff but other than that, you won’t catch me outside” oh my goodness the same! 😭 I have a job but it’s a job that I don’t really like and I’m scared to leave and I think it’s mainly because I’m scared I’ll get rejected from every job that I want to apply for. I feel like a lost puppy. KEEP DOING WHAT YOU’RE DOING RN, and thanks for sharing. I hope you’re doing a lot better!
This video was so helpful. Since i graduated i felt so pathetic and unmotivated, and you said out loud everything i've been feeling. This helped me so much. Thank god I deleted all my social media before i graduated it would be so much worse having to see that too. If you are dealing with this or regular depression just know that you are perfect and your worth is not depending on your work place or where you live. We can do this and it will get better. I 1000% believe in you!
I’m so glad that it helped! And thank you for the encouraging words! You’ve got this as well you have great things coming for you I still feel bad sometimes but I just keep pushing and hoping for something better 🤍
I’m a definitely relating to you right. When you said you feel like you’re just here that’s EXACTLY how I’m feeling. I just graduated in December has well. I don’t have a job yet either. It also seems like now I’m overly qualified for a basic job. Nothings been coming through. Idk if your religious or not but I believe that God hasn’t brought us this far to leave us.
I pray all the time about my situation and ask for a job that will bring happiness to my life. Sometimes it’s really hard to stay positive honestly but you’re not alone !
I appreciate this video so much. I just graduated from Tuskegee. We didn't get to have our formal graduation because of the pandemic so it's just been weird for me. This video helped lift my spirit especially when you talked about the social media thing. GURRRRLLLLL we naturally compare ourselves. It's hard. I'm so proud of you for sharing this and your personal experiences. I'm going to come back to this whenever I need it most. Many blessings sis
Really glad I came across this video....everything you talked about I’m feeling! I just graduated from the University of Oklahoma 3 months ago and had the BEST 5 years of my life.....now it’s just weird because I don’t see how things can get better than that and it sucks that I had to graduate and move on from such a wonderful place....I’m currently living at home (only 40 minutes away from the university that holds my amazing memories and wonderful friends) working at a hospital, and applying for med school but I still feel veryyyy stagnant and alone even though I talk to my friends all the time. Idk why I feel like this because I’m only 22 and I’ve only been in the “adult world” a few months but I just can’t seem to find the same happiness I had while at school.....and I feel like I can’t talk to my friends about it because I’ve always been the most positive and uplifting friend and I don’t want them to think differently even though deep down I know they would never.... just wish I could go back in time and live the college life again :\
I know what you mean, my college experience wasn’t amazing but i feel like It was better than where i am rn. I feel stuck rn and just this ongoing sense of not doing enough and i don’t feel fulfilled but it’ll get better!! I’m happy you could vent some in my comment section 😊
This video helped me a lot, I feel the exact same and for a long time, I thought I was ''crazy'' because none was talking about it. I'm a 6 months old post-graduate from University of Barcelona (Spain), so you can imagine how wonderful was to live there. I feel guilty every single day. Guilty for not having a job. Guilty for not knowing where I want to go or what I want to achieve. I used to compare myself a lot with my college friends and I felt like a failure. Knowing that lots of people feel like this, helped me a lot in terms of understanding myself. I actually wrote down the 5 signs to remind myself this is a phase and I will get trough it :) Watching your video was like a conversation with a close friend, thank you for cheering people up!
Thank you so much for this video . Being crying for 2 weeks . Just graduated in December and it’s so hard finding something . I really appreciate this video !!!!
Thank you for this. I graduated this past May, and have felt depressed, but couldn't quite put my finger on the type. I knew I was sad not being able to find a job, etc.
Post graduation depression is so common but no one talks about it or addresses it and I think that makes people feel even more isolated in their feelings but you’re not alone and I know you’ll get through it!
Omg! The point you made is something that resonates with me so much! It's not that college was a magical experience but you were part of a community! I never knew how to express that! Everyone always says to me "oh you used to complain so much about uni, why do you keep saying you miss it now" and you nailed it. Thank you! You understand me so much 😭♥️
THANK YOU! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for sharing this article and for sharing your personal experience with PGD in real-time in 2018. I resonate with a lot (most) of what you shared. I went back to school in my late 20s and graduated in my early 30s. I thought I had a grip on what to expect for myself post-graduation because I'd already been in the " real" world. Once I stepped back into the "real" world I didn't realize what I was feeling because I've never experienced it before, PGD. Graduating during a pandemic does not help either! I am not one who suffers from mental health illness but I am very familiar with the signs of depression and anxiety because I have friends and a family member who are clinically diagnosed. It took me some time to realize that I am in fact experiencing PGD. You said one of the signs is "You are desperate for a support system." GIRL, YES! I am unapologetically desperate for a support system outside of my family. In school, I didn't realize I needed the support I was getting until I got it! Now that I don't have it, I feel how I felt prior to going back to school. You said this "There was another side of me that came out and my friends in school appreciated that about me." and "If they don't like anything about you that's not your friend." that's exactly how I feel and I hate that response when you are trying to express yourself. On a lighter note, I am trying to take this time between finding a job and figuring out what I want to do as a positive but some days are harder than others.
I was so depressed after graduation in May . And I thought It was gonna be a full 360 when I got a job offer 14 hours away from home. However after I started the job and moved my entire life I felt depressed starting this job because I felt like I wasn’t making enough like my former classmates and I felt like it wasn’t a job that pleases me or it didn’t feel like something I enjoyed doing
Okay i know im late but you truly spoke to my soul sis!! I felt each word tbh. I graduated with an engineering degree and its been over six months.. at first i would literally apply everyday and be so excited but overtime i felt hopeless.. i know my passion is not engineering but i wanna work in it to please and make my family proud. I find myself comparing too much to the point where i lost all hope in life.. im hoping it gets better for me and yall.💜💜
I'm going through the same situation right now I just finished with my Bachelors extremely hard job searching since Christmas & New years right around the corner I can relate to this video so much you truly made my day knowing I'm not alone and we all have our own struggles after college
I’ve been going through this for a while I graduated in 2017 and after graduating I suffered depression 2017 had been a struggling year depressing And it’s still hard Adult life is a struggle I felt alone and had nobody during those times like people who use to say hi to you stop saying hi you they stop talking to you and stuff like that and it’s sad
After graduation I stopped walking near house because I was afra, d that neighbours or friends of friends or any members of family will ask me: how is ur life, what you doing, where u work... Only people who had this situation will understand. I felt BIG SHAME, crazy because finding quickly job was difficult for me. I know some people are brave and they not have problems like that, but for shy people it s really big thing. I started avoid my one best friend because it was also shame to tell her about my situation. I closed myself for some months and it was worst time in my life. Thank you for this video, help a lot 😍😍💖💖💖💖💖💖
Great vlog. Honestly, I had no idea there were segregated schools any more, but I'm Australian... so. I'd not heard of PGD, but it makes total sense it would exist. Hopefully you'll get to where you want to be, in a job you enjoy. Never compare yourself to people online, some people curate their social selves, so you're only going to see super positive stuff anyway.
i feeel :( just graduated from college a few months ago. i was at a university for 4 years out of state and had a great time, was always busy, and an amazing community. i just moved back almost 2 weeks ago and its been really hard. i stay in bed til about 2pm everyday, have very little to no motivation, only have a handful of friends back home, and i live with my parents. I just really miss my community and I've definitely been a rut and in such an "idk" mood. i'm not sure what to do and how to make it a more positive experience. I'm also unable to find a job at the moment, its a long story. so i feel like im just so stuck in this situation and I'm not sure how to get out of it.. I really do appreciate this video though, thank you
Honestly I can’t tell you how to make it positive I literally felt soooo defeated I cried so many times I felt literally worthless. But one thing I can say is keep keep pushing no matter how many rejections I got I just kept applying and claiming that I’d get a job !
Hey, I’m going thru it now. I literally just figured out what I was going thru. I could never fully explain how I was feeling. I’ve never felt like this ever before but now that I know I’m going to try to work on myself 💯💯 good looking out for this vid 🤟🏾
I agree so much with you! I think I'm going though the same thing but I am actually employed. It doesn't solve everything but is definitely good to make money.
Really happy I found this video! Just graduated 2 weeks ago, living in the middle of nowhere and desperately trying to find a job so I don't have to stay here lol
It has been five months since graduation and I have no job and have debt coming. I am at the point where I need to get a part time job to get money. Alot of what you said in your video is so relatable, especially the motivation bit. Thank you for posting this, I hope it gets better for you 👍
hey i know this video is a bit old but i feel this right now... like i worked so much during my program but then now, the lack of work feels.... weird. it's really hard to get through with...
i needed this girl and i can definitely relate! i graduated this year (may 2023) and i’m just happy to know that i’m not the only one that’s experiencing this feeling. thanks for sharing🫶🏽
Thank you for this video. I graduated from Tuskegee University in May, and now I’m back at home figuring it out. It’s actually killing me because I thrived in college. I was built for those high stress moments, but being back at home without a job is forcing me to slow down. In short this video describes what I am feeling perfectly!
I’m so glad It could be helpful ! So many graduates suffer in silence or may not be able to put a name to what they’re feeling so i had hoped that this would reach those ppl
Wow! I just graduated from Tuskegee in May and I’m struggling with all these things precisely! I’m just in a rut and don’t know what to do!
I'm one of those people who graduated and got a job right away but I'm still often unhappy. College was such a privilege..eating whenever I wanted, choosing my own schedule, meeting amazing new ppl, so many opportunities to take inside and outside of your comfort zone. The independence. It was amazing. I do have a nice job now but I miss all of that so so much. College had a goal to work toward. Many jobs don't. The same thing day after day.
Ha... I was super ambitious I was applying for jobs / going on interviews during my last 2 weeks of school & I managed to get job offers for jobs that were directly in my field! I even accepted one and started work on Jan 14.... 3 weeks in I really was overwhelmed and didn’t really like the job, I feel like I rushed into it just to prove to myself & my family. I was so stressed everyday and mind you the job was full time w/ benefits.. I recently quit last week cuz I couldn’t handle it, I had no desire or joy doing the job. So now I’m sitting at home unmotivated, barely applying for jobs due to my experience, sleeping & eating fast food all day 😭 I hate this sluggish feeling but I have nowhere to go 🙄 I graduated this past December
Honestly I feel like there’s so much pressure on us to just do SOMETHING that we either just end up doing anything or we end up with nothing. I’m hoping you’re situation gets better love! You’re not alone
Graduating with a Masters during a pandemic is the probably the most horrible experience I’ve ever witness. It’s not a culture shock because I’ve been in post-graduate depression before but this hits different. I pray that everyone is safe and realize everything that you ask will come in time. Blessings to all 🖤🖤🖤
I'm 7 months post-grad and still trying to find a stable job in my field due to my lack of work experience. I've applied everywhere, went on dozens of interviews, had my resume and interview skills reviewed by professionals, stressed every connect I had and it seems no one can help. The few odd jobs I did come across were extremely stressful, toxic and had me working insane hours (literally day to night every day) for not nearly enough money. Its like at every avenue I'm being ignored or exploited. It can be embarrassing when friends find jobs so easily. Definitely has destroyed my mood many times. I have been doing community service in my spare time. Overall I'm disappointed in how things are going but still hanging on to hope.
SAME honestly I have a job now but literally I don’t need a degree to do my job and it almost feels like I got a degree for nothing bc no one will hire me. Thank you for sharing your story with me I felt so alone for so long before making this video.
I feel the exact same. I sleep alllll day and I never leave home! My friends from college are still in town but I live 30min from everyone so it’s hella hard linking up. I’m also scared to apply for full time jobs bc I don’t want to get something I hate....but I need to get a job so I can save for graduate school next fall. It have a part time one in my field but I never feel as “accomplished “ as my friends who have full time jobs in whatever. I totally hear you
All my friends live in different states lol it’s sooo hard even being around ppl smh it’s crazy bc our whole lives we spend time in school but i don’t feel like we’re really fully prepared for life post graduation and it’s scary thinking you’ll spend life being unhappy and unsure !
Id recommend thinking about it before doubling down. Some times people just go to graduate school because its the next "step" but many times it back fires and they end up digging a bigger hole. Working a regular full time job sucks but its best to generate some income and invest in your own business/ passion.
I just graduated high school 19 hours ago And it already seems I’m sinking into this emotion, torment of empty Confusion. I’m going to community college first just so I won’t pressure myself to death . It should be the happiest transition of my life but it feels like very low point. Thank you for posting this video though , not many people talk about this enough , and it sure is nice to not be alone.
I'm 5 months post-grad with a Health Studies degree. I put off job searching for a couple months so that I could take a small break & take care of my mom after her surgery. My thought was that once I started applying, I would get calls for hella interviews... but then I started searching. Most jobs either required so many years of experience that I know I'm not going to get a chance (I apply anyway), or sounds so difficult that I'm scared to apply or they only required a HS diploma. The pride in me won't let me apply for jobs that only require a HS diploma because I feel I didn't go to college for no reason. I've been feeling lost, sad, & hopeless...doing the same thing everyday.. face breaking out lol... just sad. At this point I don't even know what I want to do anymore. It also doesn't help when family/friends ask if you've gotten a job yet... it just feels embarrassing for some reason. My first interview I've gotten since I graduated was last week and yesterday I learned that they chose to give the position to someone already within the company. But according to the manager I would've been his first choice otherwise and I shouldn't hesitate to apply to future positions 🙄. Needless to say I cried & I'm just over it😩 but I know I got to keep faith
Thank you for sharing! I know exactly what you mean about it being embarrassing, recently while I was at my mall job (it was all I could get even tho I have a degree) someone I went to high school with who’s doing much better than me came in and literally said to my face “you’re still here?” That literally crushed my soul and I hate when ppl ask what I’m doing cuz it’s embarrassing to say I work in the mall regardless of my position. I’m hoping you hear good news soon tho !!! I definitely plan on making an update video soon would you mind if I shared your story ?
@@Briakiii Wow! I can imagine how that made you feel. That is so rude to just say to somebody especially when you don't know their circumstance. Those kind of questions make you feel like you're slacking off. It especially hits when you see people around our age or younger on social media living it up and you wonder what you did wrong. Sadly, it seems like getting a career is based on who you know instead of your education nowadays. And thank you! I hope the same for you! And I don't mind you sharing it! This topic is rarely discussed but is so important
Thanks Chanele for sharing. This hits right home for me and i'm feeling much better just knowing that I'm not alone. Recently i've been feeling demotivated and lazy and it sucks not having a set schedule and jobless. Take care hun xoxo
@@xFailageYou're welcome. I'm glad my post helped you to feel better. I definitely know what you mean. Knowing that other people are having the same experience is consoling in a way. You take care too
Literally graduated a month ago & I’m going through this so hard lol.
I know this video is old but I totally felt this whooolleee video. Especially the part about comparing myself to people on social media with our post grad journey and the whole friendship things was super relatable. I also felt you on the part where you felt like you lost a sense of community. Being really connected to my school and the community at my school is something that Im really going to miss. Thanks for sharing!
this is exactly how I've been feeling. Thank you for talking about this. I have a job but all of my friends are spread out and I feel really lonely. It's very difficult.
In my case, post-graduation depression was tied to high school graduation instead of college graduation. I’ve heard high school is an awful time for a lot of people, but it was pleasant for me, in spite of the fact that I wasn’t popular and wasn’t one of the high-achievers.
Growing up, I enjoyed writing, and lots of people told me I was a good writer, so I figured I’d become a writer. Problem was, none of my friends were writers too, and instead of supporting my idea to become a writer, my parents gave me a long list of reasons why I shouldn’t be a writer. My motivation plummeted, and I didn’t really have any alternate plans. I took some courses at a community college while I tried to come up with a new plan, but all I managed to do was begin long-term relationships with anxiety and depression.
I was unemployed for 3 years after I finished with community college...I didn’t graduate. I spent another 3 years doing volunteer work to make my resume look better, to get out of the house, and to give myself structure with a regular routine. My parents sent me to a therapist after they learned that I just wanted to go to sleep and never wake up again, and my therapist managed to coax me into getting a paying job. It’s been 5 years...I’m still a pizza delivery guy, and apart from one year when I moved out into an apartment, I still live with my parents.
I still don’t really know what to do with my life, I just live a life of quiet desperation, as I watch my friends and former classmates achieve things I only dream of.
Same here i just graduated high school in june of 2021 unlike most comments ive seen im not depressed about what life will be like or what career choice to make im more upset that my life my i guess you can say my teen life is practically over most of my friends have work or go to college im also in college myself so i keep myself busy but it just miss those times when we would all come out of school at the same time and just hang out or go do something anything ! Especially the football games on Fridays so much people so much energy i just loved the vibe but now its “cant make it i got work or cant go with you i got class” i know it probably sounds silly but i miss just being a kid that carefree life when you have nothing but time on your hands
@@Snowalchemist677 I know exactly what you mean. Almost all of my friends from grade school moved away, and I only get to hang out with the one who didn’t on my days off or after work. I would give just about anything to be a kid again, even though I know I’d have less freedom.
Part of growing up is realizing that for the most part people don't get to do jobs they love. That's why going to college does not provide a sense of what it means to be an adult.
Thank you so much for this video! I've been crying for weeks and been struggling with all of these post graduation. Just wondering if things have gotten better for you or if you have learned any tips that help?
Things have gotten a little better but tbh I’m not even close to where i want to be. My best advice is firstly don’t compare your journey to anyone else’s i do It all the time and i always feel like shit afterwards. Next just take some time to identify everything that’s making you sad like really pinpoint where the stress is coming from and that’ll make it so so much easier to take the next steps to better your situation. And finally just cry honestly sometimes you just have to cry and get It all out your system, i really hope that helped !
I am having post graduation depression, my son will be graduating six grade and I am feeling so sad maybe because his is the youngest and now he will be more dependent and that is killing me😭😭😭
I'm so grateful that you made this video. Im going through this exact thing and it's really easy to not feel like you're not doing enough or that you need to measure up to everyone's expectations of you. People also don't realize how discouraging it is for someone to ask, "So are you working yet?" Or, "so what's next?" For me, I feel like writing is my true purpose and there isn't a specific path to take. Writers come from all walks of life, so here I am, trying to write and continue to pay my bills during a pandemic. Im all over the place and idk what to do about it
Well, today's my high school graduation day, and I can't even celebrate it normally... When I graduated from secondary school I had Post-Graduation Depression. And today it has repeated
Yes, same for me. I didn't have a normal celebration so It just feels empty. It was like "Okay, you finished your tests. Bye forever."
Really love this video! I graduated May 2017 and that summer was the toughest!! Applied left and right to everything, I was picky in the beginning and then I started applying everywhere at all locations bc I was just that desperate. Luckily I was still living at home and my father would give me like $30 every week but I don’t even know how tf I managed to make that last a whole week and live my best young life! I got a part time that October and worked that for over a year, but recently got let go soooo I’m living off of stipends I get from my internships 😭😭 The only thing that keeps me going is knowing that this isn’t my end destination and that I’m 23 and got a whole life to live and everyone that’s made it in life started with humble beginnings and I guess this is ours!
You have such a positive outlook !! I got sooooo discouraged some days I just feel like this is it for me!
Girl, you said “ I’ll walk my dog and stuff but other than that, you won’t catch me outside” oh my goodness the same! 😭 I have a job but it’s a job that I don’t really like and I’m scared to leave and I think it’s mainly because I’m scared I’ll get rejected from every job that I want to apply for. I feel like a lost puppy. KEEP DOING WHAT YOU’RE DOING RN, and thanks for sharing. I hope you’re doing a lot better!
Thank you 😊! Ppl always say it’s easier to get another job when you have one so go for It!!
This video was so helpful. Since i graduated i felt so pathetic and unmotivated, and you said out loud everything i've been feeling. This helped me so much. Thank god I deleted all my social media before i graduated it would be so much worse having to see that too.
If you are dealing with this or regular depression just know that you are perfect and your worth is not depending on your work place or where you live. We can do this and it will get better. I 1000% believe in you!
I’m so glad that it helped! And thank you for the encouraging words! You’ve got this as well you have great things coming for you I still feel bad sometimes but I just keep pushing and hoping for something better 🤍
I’m a definitely relating to you right. When you said you feel like you’re just here that’s EXACTLY how I’m feeling. I just graduated in December has well. I don’t have a job yet either. It also seems like now I’m overly qualified for a basic job. Nothings been coming through. Idk if your religious or not but I believe that God hasn’t brought us this far to leave us.
I pray all the time about my situation and ask for a job that will bring happiness to my life. Sometimes it’s really hard to stay positive honestly but you’re not alone !
This video helped me so much love! Thank you for being so relatable and sharing your experience :) Post grad depression is real!
I appreciate this video so much. I just graduated from Tuskegee. We didn't get to have our formal graduation because of the pandemic so it's just been weird for me. This video helped lift my spirit especially when you talked about the social media thing. GURRRRLLLLL we naturally compare ourselves. It's hard. I'm so proud of you for sharing this and your personal experiences. I'm going to come back to this whenever I need it most. Many blessings sis
Really glad I came across this video....everything you talked about I’m feeling! I just graduated from the University of Oklahoma 3 months ago and had the BEST 5 years of my life.....now it’s just weird because I don’t see how things can get better than that and it sucks that I had to graduate and move on from such a wonderful place....I’m currently living at home (only 40 minutes away from the university that holds my amazing memories and wonderful friends) working at a hospital, and applying for med school but I still feel veryyyy stagnant and alone even though I talk to my friends all the time. Idk why I feel like this because I’m only 22 and I’ve only been in the “adult world” a few months but I just can’t seem to find the same happiness I had while at school.....and I feel like I can’t talk to my friends about it because I’ve always been the most positive and uplifting friend and I don’t want them to think differently even though deep down I know they would never.... just wish I could go back in time and live the college life again :\
I know what you mean, my college experience wasn’t amazing but i feel like It was better than where i am rn. I feel stuck rn and just this ongoing sense of not doing enough and i don’t feel fulfilled but it’ll get better!! I’m happy you could vent some in my comment section 😊
This video helped me a lot, I feel the exact same and for a long time, I thought I was ''crazy'' because none was talking about it. I'm a 6 months old post-graduate from University of Barcelona (Spain), so you can imagine how wonderful was to live there. I feel guilty every single day. Guilty for not having a job. Guilty for not knowing where I want to go or what I want to achieve. I used to compare myself a lot with my college friends and I felt like a failure. Knowing that lots of people feel like this, helped me a lot in terms of understanding myself. I actually wrote down the 5 signs to remind myself this is a phase and I will get trough it :) Watching your video was like a conversation with a close friend, thank you for cheering people up!
Thank you so much for this video . Being crying for 2 weeks . Just graduated in December and it’s so hard finding something . I really appreciate this video !!!!
I’m glad It could help ! I’ve been out a year and I’m still having problems smh
Thank you for this. I graduated this past May, and have felt depressed, but couldn't quite put my finger on the type. I knew I was sad not being able to find a job, etc.
Post graduation depression is so common but no one talks about it or addresses it and I think that makes people feel even more isolated in their feelings but you’re not alone and I know you’ll get through it!
@@Briakiii Thank you so much!
I truly appreciate this video. I am currently going through this at the present moment. I appreciate your encouraging words.
I’m glad it could help! It’s a few years removed and I still have horrible days. I hope that you reach your goals tho, don’t give up!
Omg! The point you made is something that resonates with me so much! It's not that college was a magical experience but you were part of a community! I never knew how to express that! Everyone always says to me "oh you used to complain so much about uni, why do you keep saying you miss it now" and you nailed it. Thank you! You understand me so much 😭♥️
Yes you're not the only one going through it. Thanks for this video.
THANK YOU! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for sharing this article and for sharing your personal experience with PGD in real-time in 2018. I resonate with a lot (most) of what you shared. I went back to school in my late 20s and graduated in my early 30s. I thought I had a grip on what to expect for myself post-graduation because I'd already been in the " real" world. Once I stepped back into the "real" world I didn't realize what I was feeling because I've never experienced it before, PGD. Graduating during a pandemic does not help either! I am not one who suffers from mental health illness but I am very familiar with the signs of depression and anxiety because I have friends and a family member who are clinically diagnosed. It took me some time to realize that I am in fact experiencing PGD. You said one of the signs is "You are desperate for a support system." GIRL, YES! I am unapologetically desperate for a support system outside of my family. In school, I didn't realize I needed the support I was getting until I got it! Now that I don't have it, I feel how I felt prior to going back to school. You said this "There was another side of me that came out and my friends in school appreciated that about me." and "If they don't like anything about you that's not your friend." that's exactly how I feel and I hate that response when you are trying to express yourself. On a lighter note, I am trying to take this time between finding a job and figuring out what I want to do as a positive but some days are harder than others.
I was so depressed after graduation in May . And I thought It was gonna be a full 360 when I got a job offer 14 hours away from home. However after I started the job and moved my entire life I felt depressed starting this job because I felt like I wasn’t making enough like my former classmates and I felt like it wasn’t a job that pleases me or it didn’t feel like something I enjoyed doing
I literally know exactly what you mean! I feel the same way about my job now it’s scary to move all that way and still feel like it’s not enough
Okay i know im late but you truly spoke to my soul sis!! I felt each word tbh. I graduated with an engineering degree and its been over six months.. at first i would literally apply everyday and be so excited but overtime i felt hopeless.. i know my passion is not engineering but i wanna work in it to please and make my family proud. I find myself comparing too much to the point where i lost all hope in life.. im hoping it gets better for me and yall.💜💜
I’m praying for you! I hope you get your dream job and find happiness! It’s honestly hard after college
@@Briakiii yeah it is, being patient is the key though.
That’s a fact! It definitely gets hard remaining patient and hopeful tho I’ve had my bad days for sure
@@Briakiii at this point im leaving it all to god, he is the best planner.
Thank you for this video. I really needed to hear from you and others in the comments that I'm not going through this alone.
I'm going through the same situation right now I just finished with my Bachelors extremely hard job searching since Christmas & New years right around the corner I can relate to this video so much you truly made my day knowing I'm not alone and we all have our own struggles after college
I’ve been going through this for a while I graduated in 2017 and after graduating I suffered depression 2017 had been a struggling year depressing And it’s still hard Adult life is a struggle I felt alone and had nobody during those times like people who use to say hi to you stop saying hi you they stop talking to you and stuff like that and it’s sad
I graduated from college five years ago and still struggle with PGD ☹️
After graduation I stopped walking near house because I was afra, d that neighbours or friends of friends or any members of family will ask me: how is ur life, what you doing, where u work... Only people who had this situation will understand. I felt BIG SHAME, crazy because finding quickly job was difficult for me. I know some people are brave and they not have problems like that, but for shy people it s really big thing. I started avoid my one best friend because it was also shame to tell her about my situation. I closed myself for some months and it was worst time in my life. Thank you for this video, help a lot 😍😍💖💖💖💖💖💖
Great vlog. Honestly, I had no idea there were segregated schools any more, but I'm Australian... so. I'd not heard of PGD, but it makes total sense it would exist. Hopefully you'll get to where you want to be, in a job you enjoy. Never compare yourself to people online, some people curate their social selves, so you're only going to see super positive stuff anyway.
Thank you for watching! And yes I’m working on not comparing myself it’s hard tho i must admit !
i feeel :( just graduated from college a few months ago. i was at a university for 4 years out of state and had a great time, was always busy, and an amazing community. i just moved back almost 2 weeks ago and its been really hard. i stay in bed til about 2pm everyday, have very little to no motivation, only have a handful of friends back home, and i live with my parents. I just really miss my community and I've definitely been a rut and in such an "idk" mood. i'm not sure what to do and how to make it a more positive experience.
I'm also unable to find a job at the moment, its a long story. so i feel like im just so stuck in this situation and I'm not sure how to get out of it..
I really do appreciate this video though, thank you
Honestly I can’t tell you how to make it positive I literally felt soooo defeated I cried so many times I felt literally worthless. But one thing I can say is keep keep pushing no matter how many rejections I got I just kept applying and claiming that I’d get a job !
This video was too real. I needed it thanks
I’m glad It helped !
Hey, I’m going thru it now. I literally just figured out what I was going thru. I could never fully explain how I was feeling. I’ve never felt like this ever before but now that I know I’m going to try to work on myself 💯💯 good looking out for this vid 🤟🏾
I agree so much with you! I think I'm going though the same thing but I am actually employed. It doesn't solve everything but is definitely good to make money.
I have a job now and I still feel unhappy. Of course it’s a lot to it but I’m glad you could find some relatability in my video!
Can we get an update on this please??? I am a recent may graduate. Going THROUGHHHHHH it
What would you want in the update ? Like an update on my situation post graduation?
I graduated from high school on May 19, 2018.
Congrats !!
Thank you for this well needed video!!
Really happy I found this video! Just graduated 2 weeks ago, living in the middle of nowhere and desperately trying to find a job so I don't have to stay here lol
It has been five months since graduation and I have no job and have debt coming. I am at the point where I need to get a part time job to get money. Alot of what you said in your video is so relatable, especially the motivation bit. Thank you for posting this, I hope it gets better for you 👍
Thank you ! I also hope that things get better for you, I’m still working on bettering my situation. I just pray it gets easier at some point
hey i know this video is a bit old but i feel this right now... like i worked so much during my program but then now, the lack of work feels.... weird. it's really hard to get through with...
I graduate in high school 3 weeks ago and I’m already feeling lost and confused.
You’ve got this tho! I still have days where idk wtf I’m doing but I keep pressing forward
Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for this
Symptom: #1 You owe a crap load of money
Keeping it REAL
Its called depression of reality.
i needed this girl and i can definitely relate! i graduated this year (may 2023) and i’m just happy to know that i’m not the only one that’s experiencing this feeling. thanks for sharing🫶🏽