An Interview with my Alcoholic Uncle | a short film by Arthur Cauty
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- Опубліковано 30 лис 2016
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A shortened cut of my interview with my uncle John, who agreed to speak with me candidly about his alcohol problem. Taken from my feature-length documentary A Royal Hangover which tackles the themes of addiction & alcohol culture in Britain, starring recovering alcohol & drug addict, actor, activist, author, radio host and comedian Russell Brand. He was in his early 60's when we filmed this.
A very difficult shoot. And probably an even more uncomfortable watch…
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I drank whiskey for 8 years straight. Morning to night. From the age of 28 to 36 years old. I never missed a day. This video impacted me so deeply. (this man looks just like my father who smacked his head in the bathroom while in a drunken stooper and died in my arms). Seeing how this man had let his son down and gave up on life assisted me in my decision to stop drinking and be a better father. I have been sober for one year now. To those who are battling alcoholism I say this...be strong and think about the future. As hard as it may be. Do it for yourself and your loved ones
Wow that's great well done an keep going.
when i was 16 my father drunkenly hit his head on the bathtub died a few days later its been 2 years later and i've turned to weed to feel better
That's just awesome!
@@sethdoeslegalmeth3162 I had to let the herb go too. I felt like I started over compensating with how much I was smoking. And the fact that it is so damn expensive now. But I totally understand.
Keep coming back it works if you work it
Alcohol and cigarettes addiction actually destroyed my life. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Amen God bless people. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health.
Hey! Yes Dr.benfungi
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
Yes he's Dr.benfungi.Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have really helped him. mah dudes have safe trips all.
I would like to know from those who have solved PTSD and anxiety, if they have solved it definitively and how to understand what quantity of psilocybin to take and when, for how long. And can you really heal without having an addiction?
Thanks to everyone for helping me understand, I want to understand if it's
something that can help me solve the problem (I have c-ptsd)
I'm just over 8 years sober now, it can be done, and there is a better life after alcohol.
6 years of sobriety lying on the couch the next thing I knew I was heading to the store for a 12 pack and no force in the world was stopping me.I was of course only going to have four beers sober up and have four the next day. Result.
3 hospitalizations in two months once with a 4 point 0 blood alcohol content two detox treatments hallucinations unable to walk had to take a wheelchair and have assistance for the bathroom. Fainted in the TV room. A big iron worker caught me and saved me from cracking my head open. Got out of detox couldn't sleep one night and was proud of myself for not running to alcohol for insomnia. A minute later I was out the door and bought a 12 pack 6 30am. A customer commented- now there's a breakfast of champions - I wasn't proud to hear that. Went home slammed about 8 beers. For some reason I threw all of it up and then threw the rest away which probably prevented me from another hospitalizations. I felt the devil that morning and realized then that over treatment AA etc the most important thing is you just have to hate the evil shit and know that it is a terrible sin before God. October 13 2023 will be one year sober
Never lose hope folks
Hate that poison shit with all the power you can muster
Best wishes to you. You can do it, you can get free. I know you can.
@@johnking7772
Still sober
Thank you for your concern and support
God Bless you.
I've been sober 18 yrs, prayers.
Bearded pecker.
If you’re still out there somewhere congratulations man
Congrats! Hope you are still doing well!
Im on five years in August. Blessings to you!!!
@Larry Schroeder Shut up, idiot.
that cough alone will kill him...
Yeah it's nasty.
Manuela Darazsdi emphysema or COPD.
OH FUCK HERE WE GO WITH THE RIGHTEOUS BULLSHIT - you do realise Alcoholism is a disease right.
It's not a fucking disease it's choice simple as that like smoking.
Umm yes it is.
My uncle passed away from alcoholism. He had to have triple bypass surgery and was told if he drank again he would die… even that didn’t stop him he started drinking again. That’s how powerful alcohol addiction is. Even in the face of death he didn’t or couldn’t stop 😔😔😔
When you're stuck in a biochemical rut, getting to "normal" is a daily struggle. Sorry for saying this, but I sincerely wish certain oils and combustibles would be legalized as a form of harm reduction therapy for more serious, more debilitating addictions. Don't care if you agree with me, members of my family have been slaves to the bottle.
My step dad, who was the only dad I knew, just passed in May. He would have been 59 in June 3, but his body gad been failing for some time. Dialysis every other day and he still drank. My cousin, who was more of a brother to me, drank himself dead at the age of 47 last August. He'd let me sleep in his bed and he'd sleep on the couch if I ever needed somewhere to stay. No one else in my family was or is like that in my family. Any time of day or night I could count on him. My Aunt died 5 years ago and my cousin turned from alcoholic to a raging alcoholic. We didn't speak much in those 5 years because of his drinking, but I tried to warn him and he'd just say; "I can't quit. I'm an alcoholic." He wouldn't budge. Same as my dad. I am alone most every day and rarely talk to people so I wanted to share. If it's inappropriate I can delete this post.
you can tlk to me if you like
Alcoholism is often referred to a a family disease I’m sure you can see why. Contact your local AA they’ll point you in the right direction. Your not alone thinking you’ll be alright!✌️
Thank you and God Bless You for sharing.
Inspiration thanks
Did you ever try going to meetings of al-anon, they are 12 step meetings for family or friends of alcoholics, yes alcoholism is a family disease. These meetings might just help you pal.
I'm two weeks sober. Hopefully it sticks this time.
Best of luck to you.
mynamesjudge congrats dude!
mynamesjudge
I quit drinking and smoking cold turkey. 4 years later, and still on the right track of being 100% sober.
If I can do it, then you can too! :)
Keep us updated bro hope it goes well for you, stick at it you can do it! much love
God bless you, I'm a severe alcoholic, and can't stop. I sometimes just pray for it to kill me!!
Man, I'm lucky I've been able to cut the hell out of my drinking. From about 18 to 40, I drunk heavily for about 20 years. I have a long line of alcoholics in the family. The cool thing is I only drunk once last year, and twice so far this one. The shit was ruining my life. Depression, anxiety, anger, just a fucking horrible cycle. Alcohol is brilliant for helping you run away from some tough shit in your life, but it all comes back snarling. If you have a chance think about what you enjoyed before drinking. Find the kid you lost amongst it all, try and find the sparks you don't need alcohol for and grow. Love to you all. You can do it.
SMC01ful thanks for this. I'm drinking a lot and Im 33. Lost both mum and dad in less than 2 years even my job due to drinking. I'm a mess.
SMC01ful Jesus, it's like I could have written this. I'm still wrapped up in a cycle, but being unemployed and broke certainly is preventing me from drinking. A lot of alcohol abuse on both sides of my family. It cost me a marriage. I'm so depressed I can't see straight or get out of bed some days. I'm definitely much more conscious of the problem more than I ever have been before. God bless you.
SMC01ful thank you for sharing the part about doing what you loved before drinking took over really hits the feels. My parents/grandparents are addicts. Runs in the family I guess.
SMC01ful that’s really powerful advice. Thank you for sharing that. Wow
That’s really good
I’m clean and sober for 586 days, I finally feel better. I hope this man can. What a great painting of him. He has something to live for
Just happened to see your post and wanted to say,, you can do it!!
I’ve been sober for 12 years and I continue to watch things like this to remind me how horrible my life was. I really pray he gets sober before he passes for his sons sake if nothing else. One day at a time sweet Jesus 🙏
I've been in his shoes. Had my last drink in August of 2009. Thank God!
So that is what happened to his shoes! Just joking, keep up and good luck to you!
what size does he wear
@Salim Al-Jabry lmaoo
2 years late but congrats man! Glad to hear you're doing good :)
@@SB-hs4yn Thank you for the kind words, God Bless You.
By the Grace of God it will be 11 years without the drink on August 29th.
I saw the video thumbnail and was certain this was Charles Manson until I pressed play
jcardigan355 More like burned out version of Alfred Tennyson...
jcardigan355 tommy Chong more like
jcardigan355 no swastika.
I thought the same thing!
True
I am amazed how much punishment the human body can tolerate.
Exactly, and can recover from aswell.
So am I. I am 32 years old, I drank for over a decade, I am a recovering alcoholic. I am now left with peripheral neuropathy down my left side...liver and kidney and pancreas damage and problems, just to name a few. I am 179 days clean from the liquor. My medications are alot and more than anything, I have lost my son, and now he is grown, I am only a horror story. Blessings to you all. Peace and love. We do recover. One day at a time, learning to forgive yourself is the hardest. I will keep trying.x
@@lilnikki2025 Wow, I think every day that is added to sobriety makes it easier. Waking up and not feeling ill is one bonus. Plus, you get your life back. Bless you in your recovery.
@@lilnikki2025 how is your son grown already?
@@jacobtorres6098 What a stupid and insensitive question
This guy is my future if I dont stop...
Hope youre doing well! It's so worth it in the end.
You got it homie
Bro me too. How are we gonna fix this?
Armando Sturzenegger I drink at least half a liter of 100 proof whiskey a night. If you’re only drinking a few shots per night you can quit easy. I recommend you stop now before you get like me and can’t function without it. Save yourself my friend. Please
I understand.., completely!!!
Feel so damn sorry for that kid.
You me and 165 others
He is clearly an alcoholic not just a functioning alcoholic. it's front up pure severe alcoholism this man is just so depressed about everything then drinks booze to counteract depression and makes his severe depression into extreme depression? This man is proberly depressed from just the simple fact of relying on booze and drinking to excess and not wanting to live this way. If that was me strict warning parental advisory do not attempt this. I'm not condoning suggesting advising or making people consider or racinalize or decide this type of thinking because this his isn't in an ideal sense but if that was me I woul have straight up killed myself with a block gun at point blank range. Please don't attempt if you're struggling like this get the professional help you deserve need and require Im saying stuff like this and think like that partly because I'm depressed too so my thinking process and thought ps ain't exactly racinal.
why? he just had a blessing knowing what depression does
@Prick, Scumbag College it would help you. It'll give you a first hand experience of the dangers of alcohol.
Reading all the comments it’s so important to point out that alcoholism is a disease. It’s not something anyone wants to have, it’s not by choice, it’s not something that you can just quit having.
Addiction is a full blow pandemic and it has been for hundreds of years. Covid pales in comparison if you look at the number of deaths alcohol and drug addiction causes every year.
We as a society need to wake up and let these people get the help they need on the same terms as any person with a potential fatal disease.
There is help to be had for these people but the stigma is killing them.
What killed me is when he said everything is working. Like no it’s not. You can’t get around, you can’t support your family, you are feeling like shit. The level of denial is crazy. It’s so pitiful to watch. Major courage for sharing though!
this....
Sounds like the smoking is doing about as much damage as the drinking.
Not to his state of mind, that's why he is really like this, a mindset.
He's just depressed as fuck
I was an alcoholic in the military. I can't explain this, it sounds crazy, but alcohol became my close friend. I found comfort in alcohol. I would get off work and immediately start drinking jack Daniel's and it was like I was hanging out with my friend. I knew it was wrong, but I just couldn't stop. Alcohol is insidious and slowly takes over your life.
we store our memories and associations with drugs and alcohol in the same places we store human relationships. Addiction is insidious indeed.
@@liam2427 I’ve never heard it explained in that way…..such a horrible horrible thing :-( watching someone lull themselves slowly. I have been clean for almost 11 years and what finally changed me was being in a relationship with another addict. Switching seats and being on the other side of it. Nasty nasty nasty. Gut wrenching. Telling everyone to be quiet everytime he went to the bathroom. Hearing the lighter, knowing what he was doing and being scared.
When I quit it felt like losing a best friend. It slowly gets easier then you realize they’re not your friend
@@Jumpingjackflash123Great analogy
Marines drank the most my sponsor was a former marine
amazing he still has his wife
TheRealHarsjan He probably isn't an aggressive drunk like a lot of alcoholics so that helps.
TheRealHarsjan yer toss that bit#h back over the boarder 🤣🤣🤣🤣
gotohell gotohell this is England.
TheRealHarsjan my mom stayed with my drunk dad til she died. I don't know why but she loved him immensely. Dad's dying from liver failure, colon cancer, ammonia on the brain and a plethora of other health problems.
Yea some people care.
He looks like a wizard. Sad way to end a life.
"Yes, more nuance is uneeded"...ok. "Wizards don't die. Read a history book" you believe wizards are immortal? How old are you? 5?
Um, yeah wizards existed throughout history and still exist today. Some are immortal and it can be proven by carbon dating bone fragments and stuff like that. And no, im not "5", I'm 20. Good evening to you.
Max Werner your a moron
Wizards don't die man...
Chris Campbell whey its that guy
its not the alcohol, its the underlying problems. My dad is an alcoholic and been all his life, and he talks about it the same way as this man, "I don't know" "its alright". People like that suffered something in their early lives that can not be undone. Unable to connect emotionally and communicate their feelings
Trauma in childhood is common.Often suppressing anger and rage feelings towards insensitive parents who have their own issues from their childhood.
so are you living with a partner??????????? had a child out of wedlock? Use Jesus Christ"s name as a cussword? still think you are a better person than your dad? pppffftttt
@@BLUE-cs6zv
I was hoping to find that comment and I did. bless you
Not always trauma, some people are genetically predisposed to addiction.
@@samjones4451 this summs me up perfectly
The amount of pain this man has GOT to be in, it's just heartbreaking. Not to mention the guilt.
This guy is quite healthy by Scottish standards.
Duncan MacOckiner Com'on, it can't THAT bad over there!
Duffy Sullivan eh. Depends on how good er' liver is. Or how Traditional lol
Scotts here , we love the drink
Pivate User I was a drinker. Not terrible, but always had a beer or 3 after work. Then I got the idea to quit for one week. Thought, if I could not stop drinking for a week, I had a problem. Week went by and I felt so much better I decided to continue for 1 more week. After that week I realized that alcohol was a liability, not an asset. I felt so much better, and was able to get so much more done. This was 20 years ago. I really do not miss drinking at all. At family gatherings, maybe twice a year, I will have 1/2 glass of wine with dinner. Even that is getting to be too much. I can feel uncomfortable in my stomach and even get a slight headache just from drinking that little amount.
that is rubbish,take a look at the epidemic in russia.
Alcohol is poison.
Cigol Zëlev it literally is, people think it's a figure of speech...
most things are poison if you take too much.
Especially wood alcohol.
It's not poison, drinking alcohol is wood alcohol or ethanol made from fermentation of sugars from fruits, grains, plants, and herbs. It's a blood thinner and kills of bacteria first and foremost. The alcohol for human consumption is ethanol and it's distilled, unlike isopropyl, methanol, butane, propane which have many uses. Many types of alcohols are found in living beings and are created naturally as lipids in organic and living beings.
Tasty, tasty poison.
I was completely out of my mind for 25yrs due to alcoholism and it's a miracle i survived.
Towards the end i had lost half my body weight and smelt like i was rotting, which i was. I lived on bread, white whine and valium.
The unbelievable loneliness and misery i felt was indescribable but it was that vast suffering that made me decide to approach life from a different angle and that meant putting the bottle down.
Getting sober was one of the most traumatic and profound things i've eve done. When i wake up each morning and hear the birds and see the light flowing through my window i often become overwhelmed with gratitude for life.
That gratitude sustains me.
Looking at this man is exactly the face I saw when I was 21... Meaning that if I didn't quit drinking I would look like him so that's the last drink I had ........when I was 21... That was 40 years ago.
wow 💯
that cough is gut wrenching to hear. i haven't smoked in 5 years and i started sounding like that at 30. It scared me so bad i quit immediately and it sucked try to stay away from them cigs.
me too
He sounds like he has fluid in his lungs.. Sounds horrid. Good on ya for quitting. I quit cigs 6 months ago, was two packs a day at the heaviest. Can't lie, I still have dreams where I smoke cigarrettes and would like to spark up sometimes but it's not worth a slow poisoning of the respiratory system.
Algiz how would cigs put fluid in his lungs? I don't smoke cigs so I'm pretty clueless
Noobly234 theyl be absolutley full of flem and tar and muck
Noobly234 the smoke destroys the system your lung has of keeping the fluid from building up.
So many people have been in this exact spot. A lot of respect for the 20 something year olds who got sober after living like this. It’s a deep dark hole not a lot of people actually escape.
That’s me
I'm 26 and the way I live isn't too far off from this man.
Smoking and drinking is even more dangerous
His son's painting of his dad says it all,he still loves and looks up to him...alcohol is evil,this guy is no doubt a good person underneath it all but he is missing out on such precious things
Heartbreaking. I watched my little brother go down like this. He was ten years younger than me, he was 41. He served 22 years in the Royal Marine Commandos, including 3 tours of Afghanistan, and I think that impacted him in a big way and turned him massively onto the alcohol.
He used to be this, excitable, funny, loveable bundle of energy, then he came back from Afghanistan and hit the aclochol and it was like he just morphed into this entirely different human. Unpredictable, aggressive, spiteful and nasty. As much as I loved that kid, I've got to be honest, that's what he became like.
I'm not naive, I know what Royal Marines are trained to do, but the rate at which I watched my lovely little brother deteriorate? It hurts me a year on from his death (he killed himself 2 week a year ago today). He got absolutely hammered one night, went down to his garage and hung himself. Alcohol killed him, he may have been the abuser but that accessible, cheap, readily available thing stripped my brother, and for that reason I fucking hate alcohol
Hey mate I am so sorry to hear about your brother, I am a former bootneck, I have been down the path of alcohol. I quit nearly a year ago and don’t miss it at all. I wish you the best in your future.
Sad to Hear that lad rip for a royal
So many vets from that war are ending themselves, on both sides of the pond
Booze has also sucked the life out of my younger brother. He’s a functioning alcoholic, but i just feel he’s weak as he won’t address his addictions …
So so sorry for your loss. Alcohol is very addictive substance and ruins lives. I hope you are ok. You are not alone. X
He was handsome as a younger man. His wife and his son are the ones suffering the most.
Annette Ruiz yes it's always the family who suffers the most, to a certain degree alcoholics are oblivious to the damage they are causing and can be quite selfish.
Richard Bryant addicts are definitely selfish. it a a shame that the love from their family isn't enough to become sober.
Annette Ruiz, yes I agree
The saddest part is that most do know how damaging their behavior is to the family. They are never oblivious to it. They thrive off of any attention and will use family as a boon to get sober and then as an excuse as to why they can't stay sober. Addiction fucks with your brain in terrible ways.
Annette Betancourt ... Unfortunately, everyone suffers!
Those pictures of him as a young man seem to be from the 80's or 90's. Based on that, this man is nowhere as old as he looks.
You're right. I think he was in his mid 60's when I filmed this
Is he still alive?
Yeah he's hanging in there!
I just prayed for full healing and deliverance for him. In Jesus name. Amen.
High Number that's so sad...
After 7 years of heavy drinking every day I'm 2 years sober now. It was really really hard at the begining (need to eat diazepam because of withdrawal), but life is so much better now. I don't miss those misery days at all. Life is beautiful without alcohol.
Any words of advice? I'm one day sober, been a daily drinker for about 7 years aswell, people dont realize at some point you aren't even drinking because you enjoy it, its just the withdrawls are so damn terrible :(
You got this Joe
i am a chronic alcoholic,ive been sober 10 years but i know ill always be an alcoholic..its like a cancer..when it comes back it comes back strong and kills you,one drink is all it takes.
I’ve been sober for 23 years of alcohol and substance. But I’m still an alcoholic and a drug addict You aren’t alone in that because I am the same way if I took a pain pill that’s all it would take same with drinking.
Congratulations on being sober it’s the best
11 yrs sober as i write this, stayed in the bottle for 23 yrs. 8yrs in prison, probably saved my life. This poor guy looks as if he has just accepted his fate. Ive burried lots of friends around this disease.
Just hit 9 years, but lately I have felt the pull, even though my sister died 3 years ago, even though a best friend died 4 years ago, and even though my 28yr old son wrecked his car badly drunk and has 1 year sober in 4 days. I have 9 years of sobriety and it's so strong that it's trying to call me after all I seen. That's why I'm here.
This short clip was very powerful for me….
I used to be very addicted to alcohol ,about 20 years ago and I remember the horror of waking up with cuts and bruises and only vaguely remembering how they happened.
I noted your uncle doesn't go out any more , I was getting beaten up a lot and people eventually didn't want to know me but the alcohol cushions you from all the horror .
I still have drinking episodes and more often than not I'm embarrassed by my behaviour
when drunk . I live in the UK where its not uncommon to be robbed while drunk because you don't put up any resistance.
Alcohol is dangerous ,much more dangerous than we ever admit.
I'm nearly three years sober and my mind tells me it wasn't that bad and this brings it all back. The hopelessness ....the disease of alcoholism is truly horrible.
Me too, sober for 2 years and beginning to forget what a shit place I was in and that I could handle a couple of beers.
Back to the rooms for me I think.
Good luck to everyone
It’s not a disease. It’s a coping strategy that chokes the life out of those who engage it…
I’m over years sober from alcohol. Congratulations too
If Patrick did that painting at 03:04, he's very talented.
djdjd dmn patrick is the son
I was for a long time........
I'm only 10 months sober and things have turned around in my life and I pray that they stay that way. God help him
Well done 👍
10 months sober is really impressive! Good job!
This is some serious stuff, I'm in recovery myself and I shouldn't be alive. Alcoholism is real, thanks for the video.
Alcohol is the fuckin worst! This reminds me too much of my late father, died at 58. The stories are all a bit different but all end up the same. RIP dad.......
Ryan Mckay Shit my dad drinks all the time and is 63.
k hate to say it, his days are numbered. Hopefully he realizes he's still got family and kicks that nasty shit. Stay on him it could save his life.
Ryan Mckay I think it's safe to say it's gotten too far at this point, when I was younger I used to make sure he didn't drink so much, even my mother used to hide the alcohol but he'd always go out and buy some cheap wine. Worst thing is that I'm only 15, and although he's got 3 daughters that have graduated from university I'm afraid I'm going to be the only one where he won't be there I guess. I'm just thankful I'm the only one going to be living in the house with my mom if he ever dies soon, at least she won't have to feed another 3 mouths since they're all doing their own thing now.
I have to admit it's definitely a concern, but most the time he's just a grumpy cunt now so I don't even associate myself with him anymore even though we're under the same roof. I'm just sick and tired of having to pick up after his shit and wake him up every night from his drunken slumber so he can get to bed. He said he loved me, but that was 5 years ago and all he's ever concerned about now is money, even though he blows it all on his drinking.
k sorry to hear that
Lost my Dad when he was 54. He had severe copd and alcoholism. I miss him everyday.
I'm 10 years sober this month. Watching videos of this man and others makes me thankful to God for my sobriety and to have gotten out of that hellish lifestyle.
The body is amazing at healing if you quit drinking and smoking. You may give yourself more time with your family. God speed
Your absolutely right!! Fasting also heals
Maybe he doesn't want time with his family!☹☹
@@susanbickersteth2526 actually your body and esp your liver is really good at healing you just have to provide the right environment for healing.
It definitely recovers fast he just has to stop and it will happen quickly.
God recovery
Very well made. A short film but full of meaning.
thank you!
Arthur Cauty has he tried to seek help or attend as meetings?
Many of us have tried to help, including doctors, but he doesn't accept (or maybe even believe) that alcohol is the problem. There is no shortage of people who want to help, he just isn't willing to accept it.
cthehollowman see what you mean mate defiantly relate to that. it's the "yets"
This is scary as this is the road I'm going down unless I fix up!
Good luck mate, stay strong. You'll get content again without the booze I believe in you
Jon A It's definitely a wake up call.
Drink boooooze
Unfortunately, in his age and condition, it might do more harm if he quit drinking at this point
Child of an alcoholic mother here. Glad to see you exposed some truth about the struggles of an alcoholic.
it was really sad when they asked about his son' opinion on his drinking
Yes it was sad. I got the impression that his son simply respects his dad too much to bring up such a contentious issue.
@Cait L. the addiction itself is a mental illness.
Watching this was like talking to my father in the last year of his life, the denial, the minimisation of subsequent injuries (such as the facial injury of the man in this video). My father died of septic shock as a result of alcoholism. To anybody out there with a close relative plagued by alcoholism, please try and help them see what they're doing before it's too late.
I had a friend who died an alcoholic at 52. He looked about 75 when he died.
I personally got gripped by it years ago. But really healthy now. Gym, martial arts etc. The desire needs to be strong though. Alcohol is a shocking drug. I used to love the irresponsibility it gave me. Was always a good get out clause.
I wish him luck
Caleb Huskey alright alright 🙄
This is about how bad my Dad is. He weighs 103 lbs, has Emphysema and still smoking, he barely eats and just sits in his chair all day drinking and watching TV. I don’t understand how this happens to people. My family is going to try an intervention specialist, hoping he’ll agree to detox and rehab. It’s heartbreaking for all involved. 😔
So sorry to hear that. Sending love.
Arthur Cauty
Thank you 🙏🏻
I'm sorry, I wish you and your family the best.
Joshua - Thanks. Unfortunately my Dad passed away about a month ago. 😢
@@CPeetG May he rest in peace 😞 I'm so sorry to read that, I lost My father to terminal prostate cancer a year ago, so I can understand the pain and the despair of not being able to do anything, I'm just a complete stranger, but from the bottom of My heart l wish you all strength and I send you all a virtual hug, stay strong.
My 65 year old father is a year sober after 50 years of drinking and drugging that snowballed into a severe problem. Since he's been sober he gained a healthy amount of weight and he's no longer jaundiced and grey in complexion. He's my Hero again and he's inspired me to adress my problem with alcohol.
i've never spoken to john, but he seems like a good guy, i feel sorry for him that he has let the drinking damage him so much
The real question is why this man thinks life is intolerable without being intoxicated. I know what it is to be drunk and what it is to be sober. The problem is that sober hurts so much that I'd rather drink into numbness and indifference, but then drunkenness makes all the reasons you drank in the first place so much worse if and when you do sober up. So you keep drinking so as to avoid life itself, and the shame that's made so much worse after. It's easy to pass judgement upon people you don't know or care about.
The world is unbearable if you are vulnerable and emotional.World is a nasty place full of dirt..And if you are not badass enough it will beat you and keep you on your knees.Its a total chaos and war.So people like me(alcoholics) does not want to hurt nobody so they drink..Drinking makes you numb and you can tolerate this world.Not every clever men drink but the drinkers are mostly deep sensitive too much thinkers..
@@kaankeser6662 Amen brother.....couldn't have said it better. I was sober for 22 years - rehab, AA, psycho therapy....the whole thing. There were some really good years in that time span. Got my shit together, got a college degree in Rehabilitation, started checking out Buddhism and myticism ....ended up working as a counselor in rehabs when my depression (life long) began to rise up. I was a good little boy and took my ever increasing doses of psych meds. The last 13 years I worked as a prison counselor. That experience broke me.....It was brutalizing...physically, spiritually, psychologically. My last year working in the prison I started drinking again. Just said "fuck it....I can't do this anymore...I want out." Constantly witnessing the horror that humans inflict on each other and themselves.....I could no longer see the point of my career .....it was easier to just drink....However, I have a wife and daughter and my drinking began to harm them. I have wrestled my demons down to the point that once a month I buy 2 -3 bottles of liquor get quietly smashed for 2-3 days and stop for the rest of the month....but I'm so closed off to the rest of the world. I hope that both you & Andy A. are still kicking around....not often I interact with people who understand..........peace.....tg
@@shugalluful I feel you, my mother is a chronic alcoholic and the pain this inflicts on me is so unbearably torturous - I often feel like I am drifting, floating. The mind is a battle field, its completely out of my control and accepting she will die soon from the abuse after spending 25 years isolating and drunk is leaving me with a heavy burden, it sucks that I feel her misery, its as though she bore me to feel her agony and she took the easy route out, so it feels - I just can't handle the pressure of living in society with this heavy weight on my shoulders. the parallels of love and hate are too close to describe or fathom to even understand my own emotions, Im starting a degree in a month and I hope to fully immerse myself into something of usefulness as a way to escape the dark dread of becoming an alcoholic myself, giving up on the world and its suffering. wish me luck ...
"I'm probably in alcoholic" - omg when I was addicted to alcohol I could not see that I was an alcoholic - alcoholism hijacked my brain
Being a smoker and watching this, hearing him breathe made it so hard for me to breathe. Oh my gosh. I felt so short of breath watching/hearing him.
give it up, c'mon
Same... we have to stop !!!
Try the Electronic way, it's less harming. It's Not easy. Start the Day with a cigarette, then switch over. After some days/Weeks you will be able to quit the morning cigarette Later (half a year or so), if you are able, reduce nicotine.. Many people made It like this
It's not hard to stop pussy I'm trying to stop alcohol and bozos
In a lot of cases e cigs can cause a worse addiction than cigs. Party due to the amount of nicotiene and the way the nicotiene hits your body. Cigs will do you in a the best thing you can do is search for help. I struggle with my problems for a couple of years and still am having a hard time. I found someone going through the same thing and it helped me out. My prayers go out to you stay strong.
20 days sober today.
Rachel Tison keep it up thats awesome
R u still sober?
How's life?
Not anymore
The fuck is wrong with you, white blue haired sjw bitches like you can never handle living in the greatest country in the world and it's stupid to be frank.
He's killing himself.. that's no way to live. It's so sad
Heartbreaking to hear an intelligent, feeling man in so much pain he has to drink just to operate. God bless
Props to you for uploading this, can't really get more personal and depressing than slowly losing family. Really gets you thinking about what it would be like to fall down that alcoholic hole
The cigarettes are killing him just as fast, it seems...
Fuck me he still alive now and think how many cigs he been through and he still going. I would carry on smoking if I were him he ain't got shit to loose and he ain't dead from the cigs so why stop now?
Chinpoko yea like i dont see why people hate on somebody who still smokes with lung cancer i mean they already gonna die from it nothing to lose
Well it's about quality of life I think. Besides, cancer doesn't always equal certain death.
lack of movement too. no o2 being circulated- cause of cancer, not the tobacco
I remember watching this when it was first broadcast and feeling so sorry for that. Clearly a very intelligent and articulate guy, which makes the situation he’s in even more terrifying. I’d love to know more about his life’s story and how he got to this point, I’m assuming he’s had a very interesting life. There’s probably a huge amount of depth and sadness in his story which shows just how evil addiction can be.
My father was a heavy drinker, or whatever you would like to call it. Sad as hell when the drinking causes more damage than the imaginary demons being anesthetized.
Alcohol is a posion
sola dosis facit venenum
more true words have never been spoken.
cooked food is poison too, it is the downfall of mankind.
evrything that is cooked is destroyed, sterilised, no other creature on earth feed from the fire, thats not food its poison, even if you are used to it. this guy surely would not have become alchololic if he could have enjoyed life to the fullest like raw vegans experience it, no need to "escape" then.
affects every cell
I have an alcoholic uncle too. He just went to jail for aggravated assault after wrecking a 4-wheeler into a neighbor's house... all of which was seen by his grandson who was screaming and crying as they took him away in handcuffs :( FAMILY disease is right.
Jane Doh Nopers. Your Uncle had a history of deeper issues than the bottle.
Roy Vice I bet you 5 US bucks I'm right.
uppercut grandma betcha 20 I could find a line of alcoholics in her family history.
bee pot The initial wager was that booze abusr is a byproduct of a larger/deeper scale problem. That would just be a contributing factor.
I can feel his pain ....lost my grandfather and uncle to alcohol... and if I don't stop I'm going to see em soon. It's a horrible vicious disease. Good short film thanks for sharing.
I hope you have gotten help since this post. It is horrible and I never thought I would be one myself. Please know it is possible and go to rehab, AA, whatever can help. I knew I had a problem and I still couldn’t get help on my own. It eventually becomes a habit and something when you do stop aside from potential withdraw symptoms it’s tough to have to readjust to life feeling and dealing with things. Good luck and I hope you have gotten help and if you need any advice I am here.
beautiful documentary.. you're really capturing that raw essence of pain ..thank you.🖤
bless his heart
I grew up in a home living with 3 generations of alcoholics. I'm 56 and haven't forgotten it either. Luckily my parents quit drinking. I feel very very bad for his son. But it's his father love him anyway and forgive him. Thank you so much for sharing your Uncle with us. I think his couch might get to him before the sciroccos does. God Bless
So sad that people hurt their Family's so bad. I know this 1st hand, I've jumped on an airplane & drove many times to go save my Dad's life. The pain is unimaginable if you haven't lived with this.
R.I.P Daddy... I love you.
These folks are always so good looking back in the day
Shame.
Handsome guy with a great voice.
I don't drink anymore. I realised it wasn't making me happy, so I just stopped.
Never missed it.
Craig VR same. It doesn’t make me happier or alleviate suffering. It just numbs me. No thanks.
Amazing short film. Keep up the amazing work and best wishes for your uncle.
Thanks Josh
Thank you for sharing this. Great interview. Great video. And I'm sorry about your uncle. I hope he finds happiness with health.
Thank you
Your family is in my prayers! My father had the same problem, but when he broke a bone he got pain meds. That mixture took him just over 6 years ago now. I truly hope his family can stay strong and solid as they watch him do this. I pray that they never wonder if they just weren't enough for him to live for. It's a heart breaker for sure.
I went almost two months and then I relapsed badly this week and then had a manic episode, glad it happened because now I truly never want that to happen again, I'm 27 and I'm officially never touching the stuff again!!
@Armando Sturzenegger I have relapsed a few times but nothing major, I don't drink anywhere near as much as I used too, working full time again finally defo helps you moderate your intake.
So just curious did you actually quit or???
@@chrisnichols9187 probably relapsed
@@chrisnichols9187@chrisnichols9187 I did quit thankfully, although after I posted this I did struggle with relapse for the next 3 years but I am here now back on this video to remind myself of where I was, I am currently 10 months sober today.
@@chrisnichols9187@chrisnichols9187 I did quit thankfully, although after I posted this I did struggle with relapse for the next 3 years but I am here now back on this video to remind myself of where I was, I am currently 10 months sober today.
So sad. Reminds me of my grandpa. It's bad enough when someone already has alcohol problems, but then they experience immense grief and it puts them over the edge. I think friends and family need to take a more active role when they know someone with alcohol and drug problems, they need to help them find ways of dealing with whatever they are going through. Like Brand says, too many people are abandoned when they need help most. Prison and abandonment isn't the answer. Of course, the addict needs to actually want help, you can't always save someone. But at least try..
michygeorg completely relate to this #odaat
michygeorg no
Lemon Turd Yes...
addiction has much more to do with the persons lifestyle rather the the drugs dependence.
One can be as one says " a functioning alcoholic"
But as soon as shit hits the fan and that person cant access alcohol or said drug , is usually where problems start,.
If heroin addicts had a unlimited supply of heroin AND items they desired, they would:
1. die from overdose at some time.
2. be perfectly fine and continue a proper lifestyle.
It's when they don't get the drugs where problems start to happen with almost every drug other then alcohol and depressents.
Methadone is a good example of this, they get their daily drink and continue on with their lives.
Of course this varies wildly per person and mental illness/crippling depression is also a leading factor to most addictions.
Functioning individuals dependent on alcohol and other drugs is a very real thing lol, if you think they don't exist your either ignorant or you've seen alcohol do some bad shit to your family or something.
Although obviously they are a rare site to see as out of the thousands of alcoholics I have met, only a select few were completely "super functioning alcoholics".
maybe the term" alcoholic" is more widespread to you thinking of the ones that drink a handle of vodka(60 ouncer/pounder) etc everyday, obviously there no way of being a functioning alcoholic drinking those numbers, but for that guy that drinks fine wine everyday(only at nights, mind you and only one drinking session per day) but he is still "dependent" on the substance or otherwise he may have seizures, etc...
That's just fact if you drink everyday even lets say a mickey a day, it's smarter to continue drinking untill you have found a outpatient rehab or some facility of some kind that will administer benzodiazapenes on site as qiuting drinking as an alcoholic on your own is one of the most dangerous things you can do for your body...(I wouldn't call this anywhere near "no return").
"Addicts are a waste of skin"
sigh* you are a fucking idiot IF you classify that statement whole, so what about that poor 46 year old woman who was on a opiod and was never told about their addictive effects, to only be TOLD BY THE GOVERNMENT, that she should go on "methadone".(a even worse substance ten times more powerful then oxycodone and ten times more difficult in every regard to get off of)
Just don't say addicts are a waste of skin...
You establish the persons usability as a human being, then go from there...
If what's his face wan'ts to drink everyday as long as he doesn't interfere with others, works his good dues as a citizen of his/her country and puts in his/her few cents as a human being,
Then what's it to you to say "they are a waste of skin" fuck, they could be alcoholics and have done MORE THEN YOURSELF for society actually making you the "waste of skin" if that situation were afold.
If Martin Luther Kj became an alcoholic after all his speeches, hes still has done a lot.
It's about your contribution, not you, your habits or even the destructive behaviour you may have caused but the good you did in the long run.
Of course, like I said, these people are a rare site but to say all addicts are a waste of skin is much to broad of a statement.
Thank you for making this. Alcoholism has taken many members of my family.
Its like watching an interview with my dad from 5 years ago. He was able to get better, hopefully your uncle has or will do.
Great Short film, touching to heart to see the toxic and hurt within the person and the family. Of course, now it being 2019, this film was taken years ago. Yet no lack of attention to the details and the great production of the film. Outstanding.
But for the grace of God that would be me. That or incredible luck. 10 years sober. Demon alcohol had me bad! There is a solution though ☺️
Im sorry but where's gods grace for this man? Give yourself some credit Jeff.
Not sure how I feel on this. To me you got to want to
You a friend of Bill’s? How are you doing? What do you do if you accept that there’s a solution that works for some people, but your brain misfires sometimes, making you incapable of grasping that solution?
I'm 29 and almost 5 months sober. Never touching the stuff again. Thank you for sharing.
Congrats. All the best!
This made me so sad. Thank u for sharing, this might really help some people see the outcome of drinking so much. God be with him.
This reminds me of my grandpa. Shut him self away from the world just so he could slowly kill himself with drinking instead of living his life at retirement age. Sad when this happens to anyone but you got to remember nobody forces you to drink. Its all self inflicting. Thank you for posting this. More people need to be educated on long term alcohol use bc it wont be shown on television. Too many companies make big money off of drinkers. Governments included.
*If only alcohol commercials showed things like this, people would know the truth about alcohol*
I totally Agree 100
Everybody knows the truth about alcohol, nobody just wants to admit it.
Captcha Neon The fuck are you talking about? You mean the truth of alcoholism? Most people who drink can handle it and don't end up like this guy.
too much tax to lose.
I mean, it's not like everyone halfway intelligent knows that already...
My Dad(an alcoholic)died alone at 80...on the floor of his apartment,we never thought he would live that long...I feel your pain.
This is a very powerful yet sensitively composed portrait of how alcoholism destroys not just the alcoholic but all those around him. I could especially feel and identify with the pain of his son and I do hope he gets the support he will need in the future.
I was clean 3 months until my marriage fell apart. I picked the bottle back up and have been on a binder for nearly a year. How I've managed to hold down a job is amazing. How there are friends out there that still love me is amazing. It keeps me awake at night with the question of how a beverage/substance can be this powerful. This simple beverage has made me feel more alone than anything. I constantly feel anxious, and feel like a deserve nothing short but the worst hell. I hate it so much, yet I'm on my 7th drink. Here's hoping I find solace soon.
Gotta keep trying, never give up. Try everything because different things work for different people. There's no one solution. Anyone telling you that is part of a cult.
Every year I'm sober, Makes me hate alcohol even more , nothing good comes out of it. 9 years, Thank You Jesus...
This reduced me to tears. I lost my mum back in July 2018 due to alcohol addiction. She was only 51 years old...
Just wish she took the help that was given.
Anyone who sees this and is struggling or hurting, I can definitely assure you that you are not alone and are loved. Please speak out.
It’s interesting that some people say that « drinking isn’t the cause », « depression is ». When I stopped drinking, 95% of my depression went away. No meds were effective, as long I was still drinking.
Those people are delusional, they are equivalent to uplifting Pinterest quotes.
The sound is done so well, it Made me connect and gave me more empathy. Good extra layer.
Going on 3 days sober, no one told me with my first drink drink I would become a drunk.
do it man, stay sober, it is way easier than most think, ha, just drink water, when you are thirsty.....
Look into kratom. It got me off the bottle and prescription pills. It's the best thing to make you feel back to your normal self like this never happened.
@@ronvalley1973
Sorry Mr.
Alcohol is Not about quenching a thirst. It' goes way Deeper then that.
@@gingerbee6719 i am sure it does. i have seen about 7 friends die from alcohol, i know......way deeper...........!
@@ronvalley1973
Sad... I have had my personal struggles with it, therefore I try not to judge others.... Sorry for your losses. 😕
I knew your uncle when he lived in Victoria Park in Plymouth and we went to Jura with Jimmy and Carey to help build the Wicker Man! John built geodesic domes and rocks in the garden from paper mache!! Sending love and best wishes John x
I am 14 months sober now and happy. Hope you have a good day, a good weekend and I wish all of you, nothing but the best. Good luck, I mean it.😀☮️☮️
This is so depressing! I lost my grandfather to the drink. He was so brilliant and I miss him so.
This is probably the saddest example of a human being I have ever come across. There is something so profoundly sad about this clip and the state he is in. Im an alcoholic and know what it’s like. But to see the end of the road of this dreadful disease being personified in human form through this man is heart breaking and terrifying. If I don’t keep my spiritual programme together, I could very well end up like John.
I see people like this regularly around where I Iive. You can only help them so much before they turn on you and start playing head games and the victim card. Eventually you just avoid them because they tend to become abusive.
Hi my uncle was an alcoholic for 10 years and I've grown up with it, go back to 3 months ago and my mother went to check on him and unfortunately he was found dead on the chair. I saw him every Tuesday to watch a movie with him and I think this was the most upsetting death I have ever experienced and as a 14 year old girl it is not something someone should go through
Such a sad state of affairs. I feel for him.......that could easily be me. Thank God I got a grip on my drinking before it completely consumed me. I wish this man peace and strength. 💕