An Interview with my Alcoholic Uncle | PART 2 | 10 Years Later...
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- Опубліковано 6 січ 2024
- Filmed ten years after the original, this is part two of my interview with my estranged uncle John, a man who has been hopelessly in the throes of alcohol addiction for much of his adult life. What has changed for him over the decade since we last met?
If you've already watched the first film, you'll likely notice some differences in the way John looks and sounds. He is much more softly spoken, and has a tendency to slur his words at times. If you have trouble understanding him, just turn on captions.
My hopes are that other drug and alcohol addicts, people in recovery, and the loved ones of addicts will find something of use here, whether that be understanding, hope or fortitude.
If you haven't seen the original interview, watch it here: • An Interview with my A...
A film by Arthur Cauty
Produced by Simon Cauty
Cinematography & Editing - Arthur Cauty
B-Cam & Still Photography - Katie Simmons
Music - Moby
Super 8 Film Footage - Tony White
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His wife is the one that deserves the most praise, living with an alcoholic is a horrible way to live.
Good lord, I'm surprised he's still alive. Well done on getting sober!
This guy has lived in my head since seeing the first film. I can’t believe he’s alive. I’m glad he’s okay
Sounds like you need to get a life.
Damn! I’m showing this to my brother . He’s in same condition as your uncle was. If this guy can do it then maybe he can too, your uncles going to save a lot of lives, Just by saving 😊himself. Thank you for this video.
Best of luck to your bro 🙏
Holy fuck this guys a legend. He looks so much better. Good for him.
Hard to believe that this is the same guy. He looks younger, even if he's older. And his eyes are so full of life. Wish him and his Family nothing but the best. Keep sober, man 👍🏻
And he's not suffering 3 major alcohol-induced injuries every month like before.
It’s strange, I randomly thought about your documentary and John in particular today, and now I see this. I am so happy to see he’s quit the alcohol and is still alive. He looks so much better
“just another chapter” i love that
Saw the first part, and I feared for the worst. Hearing that John got sober truly brightens my day. He always seemed like a remarkable human being. I would love to know more about who he was, before alcohol became a problem.
Earth is hard.
You said it yourself, "Heaven and Hell."
Some people don't know why they came here and they just get lost.
He looks much better. What a turnaround
He’s absolutely correct. It can be done. Had my last drink October 31, 1987. I am now 62 years old…praise be to God
My God look at this man! And his art work is incredible! Sobriety is possible!
Oh my god! I cannot believe what i'm seeing! This is incredible!
His first video years ago stuck with me for such a long time. I was sure he only had a couple of months to live.
Now he seems to be thriving, even if he is smoking like a chimney 😂
surprising he's still alive to be honest! Great film
Thanks Gareth!
How beautiful his last comments "It can be done, and I am still standing. Over and out" Super vlog will have a great impact on many peoples, and we all can learn from this video. Thanks, you for sharing with us. Never too late to change.
Four days sober after drinking heavily for six or seven years.. Finding it so hard not to pick up a drink, but watching this is giving me the mental strength I need right now. Congratulations on getting clean.
Hey wondered how your getting after the first 4 days? I always seem to drop the ball at about day 3/4 myself and I've been a heavy drinker 7/8 years myself so yeah just hoping you've stuck to it
Are you still sober?
How's it going?
@neil_down_south well truthfully I'm not sober but I've cut down massively which is at least a step in the right direction
He is a very interesting and philosophical kind of a person. Glad he is ok and keeps doing what he loves.
This is great. I just rewatched the first one after a few years, then this pops up. 8 years sober myself, good for you sir!
Just watched part one, I'm amazed he's still alive
Absolutely brilliant to see his recovery, what a turn around. I have been waiting to see an update. Thank You!
thanks for watching!
I watched your original interview so many times. So great to see your Uncle John living a better life. Art is critical in our society, so happy to see him expressing emotions in a healthy way.
Oh my god.. I'm so glad he's still alive. He's doing much better for himself. Good for him. Bless this man's soul.
After finding my best friend dead due to his alcohol addiction ...I ironically became a alcoholic . We were freinds for many years after both beating a long addiction to heroin...I have been clean 18 years....but finding him dead screwed me up so much I started drinking( I did not drink before) I still have the odd drink but want to quit completely, Its the king demon of all drugs ...I know this as I was addicted to heroin and other drugs for 12 long years .. Bravo to this lovely dude. The thing with booze is you drink to be happier but it takes your happiness away .
Only just watched part 1 yesterday and this pops up today! Incredible.
Very happily surprised hes alive.
Wow that's incredible he looks so well.. I'm still struggling with alcoholism 😢
❤️
Me too I'm 14 days sober and it's extremely tough
@@dg9015 👏👏👏❤️!
it is too late for you my dear 😞
18 days now.
I saw the original documentary not two days ago. Imagine my surprise about this update coming out right now.
When I clicked on it I definitely wasn't expecting what I ended up seeing: I assumed that there is no way back for someone in the state of your uncle, and I am glad have be proven wrong!
Thanks for watching. Yes, I think he's surprised us all.
My main takeaway from this video is that - it's so obvious that it isn't in America. If this man lived in America, he'd have ended up in the streets due to a totally indifferent and inadequate healthcare system.
It says in the video that Librium was prescribed, and that one day, he decided to take it, i.e., he took personal responsibility. Don't blame the healthcare system for his predicament. The only thing inadequate and indifferent is the government running a healthcare system.
I really like your uncle. I find him fascinating. Thank you for the film. Great work!
I am glad this man has stopped drinking BUT JFC the selfishness and narcissism. What does this man give back to society? What damage has he inflicted on his loved ones and especially his child? In all the comments down below I see no mention of his wife nor does he mention her and her obvious grace, love and patience. The woman is a saint and he gives her no credit at all, he would not exist or have a home without her devotion. He seems to take her for granted.
Well done. I watched the first doco about 5 or so years ago just after I'd left my alcoholic ex (who looked almost identical, if not worse at the time), and I never forgot it. I'm so glad for his recovery, but I think I really love his attitude to his journey. Some people walk around wearing their recovery/sobriety as some kind of sanctimonious medal to promote, rather than taking it for the personal lesson and struggle that it is. Kudos 🙏
Thank you. I find his attitude to it pretty interesting. I get that some people may find counting the days helpful, but to him the idea of it just doesn't make sense. I guess what works for one person, may not necessarily work for another. But hopefully there's a positive message here for all.
I've seen many docs of this type, frustrated too at the lack of follow-ups this is superb - what happened to the folks filmed in the "Drinking for England" episode from the late 90s?
When ' IT ' finally clicks there is no difference between 1 day sober or 50 years sober. Heard so many ex-addicts talk about ' IT ' and ' IT ' cannot be explained.
Amazing to see after the first documentary that he’s still alive and way more cogent than before. I’d love to see a follow up to a Royal Hangover - especially in the light of COVID and the effect it had on people’s drinking. Hope he stays well!
Alcohol is probably easier to give up than smoking. Both are addictive substances and both are terrible afflictions. Your uncle looks much better, despite the stroke. BTW: Spotted Everton Water Tower.
Good spot. You sure know your water towers.
Can’t believe how much younger he looks than 10 years ago!
Im 2 weeks sober today and still struggling
Beautiful artwork and plants ! He is gifted.
The real life Aqualung, sad story powerful message. Thanks for the post.
Damn, hes still alive? The human body is amazing.
Please tell your Uncle he is inspirational. Thank him for making this choice because it inspires me to battle my own struggles with a few forms of addiction.
Thank you for filming this, and to your uncle for his candor. Interesting that he posited trauma as a possible cause of why he drank. It was likely the main cause of my drinking. A characteristic developed, that looked like selfishness, to navigate this ongoing trauma. Which in retrospect, after many years divorced from drinking, I realize was self-preservation. Alcohol is a nasty drug. Nicotine was harder to quit. The Benefits of not drinking were easier to see.
I really like uncle's paintings. I also like your video and how It was assembled. Thank you
That selfishness/self preservation preceded my drinking to excess . 99.7% Of the time to excess. The drinking was done to Make my selfishness disappear. It didn't work.
I felt like I needed to clear up my previous comment. Thank you again for doing this Mr. Cauty and Mr. Cauty.
He is amazing! Highly evolved and I love his art!
Wow he survived!
He must have a sting mind and character to beat the booze,inspiring story!
Just watched the first documentary there, I came on to see if John was ok, im SO glad he's still alive and looking brilliant. God bless 🙌 ❤
Well done my man! I've just past 7 years sober and I get the I'm not in recovery quote as I feel the same. To me that was another life, its strange how people see things differently. Again well done man!
this is great to see!
Omggg I’m so happy for you, you go gurlll, slay queen 🎉
Thanks for posting. I'm happy to see your uncle. He is an inspiration to me.
Omg i never expected that.
Congrats!
this man is an inspiration. no matter what he says, he helped me
I watched the first video years ago, and just came across this one now. Fascinating and talented chap. Good to see him doing well
I appreciate your uncle sharing his story and his trust in you to tell it through your film. My father has gone on a similar journey and I recently released a documentary of his story. It is very similar and I can relate to your journey making these films.
This is very well done, thank you for sharing his life.
It's great to see your uncle sober!!! Fantastic! 👍 He's an inspiration to others including myself, I'm struggling so bad, i may not beat the bottle, the clock is running out of time snd I'm not young anymore.
I am a much younger man, but also struggling with alcohol for about a decade now.
I saw the original short interview with him probably 5 years ago, and it stuck with me deeply. I started trying to stop then, to varying amounts of fleeting success.
I’m struggling badly again and I just watched it after searching specifically for it once more, wondered if you’d posted any updates.
It feels like a sign that this was literally just posted 3 days ago. Well done to your uncle.
Sorry to hear this. I hope you find the strength to stop and get to a healthier / happier place 🙏
i remember watching the first one, i repeated it a bunch of times. this one is amazing too, im glad to see he's still kicking and doing artwork.
dont wait 10 years to do the next one. like, try again in a year.
Interesting to see the younger photos of him. So vibrant and full of life. It's amazing how things in a person's life change and therefore how they choose to live going forward...
Wonderful his journey is wonderful
Good to see he's still alive!
That’s the power of getting sober
Wow he looks so much better! Remarkable.
Seeing him walk made me feel happy
Great man
Beautiful film
Great story teller he is
That was powerful.
0:38 quite the contrary my friend. Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. There will never be a "was".
I'm very proud of your uncle!
you can tell he looks better in his face. great stuff well done that man. takes real strength
Wonderful to see up DATE, what a cool guy , I thought he was to die soon.
Well done congratulations
watced the origanal a number of times and would get the odd update, whata wonder full video to see him again and doing so well, all the best to you all
thank you 🙏
Bless him! I could tell there was something unique and wonderful about him underneath the drunken exterior.
Wow he looks so much better ❤
Love.
Very nice
Well done John ❤God bless you 🙏🏼‼️♥️👍🏼💌
Im elated for the recovery . but for a man aged 42 years its sure taken its toll on him
Mate, great filmmaking. Truly appreciated.
What is the name of the painting of the man passed out, high on opium? I know that painting.... I just forget who created it.
A Eunuch's Dream by Jean Lecomte du Nouÿ
@@acauty THankyou!!
He's starting to look like the handsome younger guy he used to be!!
Best wishes. You do you.
Second comment: With all due respect, he says he doesn't see it as an achievement, he says it was another chapter that he's read and understood.... meanwhile, he says he doesn't know why he started drinking in the first place, and doesn't want to know. As an alcoholic myself, I feel it's best that one does know where their problems stem from. Part of reprogramming oneself.
SAYING THAT, he seems to have it together for the most part at this point. Just a thought, here. Love from B.C.
That could well be! I guess it comes down to whatever works for the individual. I'm sure each person is going to be different 🙏
@@acauty Yeah, exactly. Everyone's expression and journey's different.
His eyes look like the lights are on and somebody is home now
“It can be done”
6:00 was deep. I am withdrawaling from opioids and know exactly what he means. Heaven and Hell simultaneously.
You are doing some good interesting art. The librium was a good idea, if only doctors were more willing to prescrbe librium. I came off alcohol with librium but relapsed and finished up in a wheelchair - then came off with reduction (supervised rehab). Been ok for 6yrs, but like you, I can't be bothered with the outside world much, alcohol is an expensive way, in many ways, of escaping the crap. Good to see you are well.
Good on him stopping, I'm on my 125th day since I stopped. My 14 year's heavily drinking was a foolish act..
Best of luck to him in his sobriety 👍
How old is this man? I did it the same way. Quit Heroin and so on, i quit nicotin, too.
The hardest is to quit alcohol. I´m 55 years now and sober since 2007. Everybody can do it.
Good for you! John is 73...
@@acauty Thank you for the answer. I wish you both a long and healthy life.
Cleaning up that house would give this guy a purpose.
Dude, not sure if you will see this comment, but please try getting your uncle to use Nicotine pouches (not the tobacco stuff). Buy in bulk online (10x 20x tubs) its like £2.50 each....
That stuff stopped me smoking and other family members. Lower the dose down and its SO much easier to stop. Not advertising NRT products, just telling you a story from my own life that's all.
My actual uncle has stage 4 from this crap... which scared me to death as he is more of a brother to me.
I am glad your uncle stopped the booze... horrible stuff.
Keep strong!
Would individual pieces of John's Artwork be avaliable for a Private Collector?
interesting story
Well done for getting sober, that’s really great work. Needs to face up to the next step. 😉 🚬
I wish my dad could have been more like Uncle John! I also wish a friend could have too! Two stories like so one passed on my birthday when I was a day away via plane and the other I don't know where John is but when I told him if he let a 26 year old with a trust fund die via alcohol while John spent that money on alcohol etc... John would be dead to me! The young man died in John's apartment at 26 and John did nothing! I was out of town and begged for him to get help for him and he promised me he would but didn't 😥 John is dead to me and most likely is gone. Some things I couldn't forgive and never have forgotten. As far as my sperm donor, I did cry a little at the Pillbox on the North Shore a day before I flew home to the Gulf Of Mexico, my home, my Paradise, amongst the hell!🔥 Happy for you John and agree if you give it a date you give it meaning, it doesn't deserve meaning! Thank You for sharing!!! I'll share with ones close to my ❤ and hope they are more like Uncle John!✌️📸
rip bro so sad x
Sm*kes one after the other....This will unfortunately take him away very soon
Is there anyway we can contact uncle john?
Dang he looks better
I wish I could love this! But I’ll settle and like it 😉