Let People Dislike You - Don't Worry What Others Think
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- How should we deal with people who don't like us... who don't accept and approve of us... who judge and criticize us?
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“You don’t even like everyone, how can you expect everyone to like you”
Deep
True😂😂😂
It sounds so simple. I used to not like people for the dumbest reasons. So I don't know why I get so confused and stressed when I don't know why someone doesn't like me 😂
True words
@@justcallmeteacup4711 its ok to not like someone, and for any reason and even for no reason. We all have preferences. Go ahead and judge people, cuz they're also judging you...
"care about peoples approval and you will be their prisoner." Lao Tzu, I thank you and you too..
@David Saddy perhaps blacklisted for some is whitelisted for others. I looked it up. Listen to Lao Tzu.
+Respect
🤙 Love the quote!
Wauw nice, I'm reading a book right now about (among others) him :)
I do prefer to be alone more now that I’m older because I am enjoying my own company more with time
"What others think of me is none of my business..." - RuPaul
Actually that quote belongs to Mark Twain .
@@verovale5029 and who knows if that even true. HE could have heard it somewhere else. Fall out of your own ass buddy.
Unless they’re paying your bills, pay them bitches no mind.
If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?
That quote does not come from Ru Paul. I get the impression that Ru cares VERY much what others Think about her/him, otherwise why does s/he go to all the trouble of dress-ups and runway shows? S/He cares very much about appearances and image but then pretends to a kind of "drag Oprah" teaching people that appearances aren't important and that we should just all love one another. S/he lives in a huge gawky mansion yet tells us that appearances (and gender) aren't important.
“Be yourself. People don't have to like you, and you don't have to care.”
💯
Nice one men
Love
As my friend would say ‘you can be the juiciest, ripest peach in the bowl and there’ll always be someone who doesn’t like peaches ! ‘
I need to learn this!!!! Thankyou🙏💚🦪
So sweet 🙂 bless you x
So true
That's a good one!
Only 50 percent like me, i hope ha ha ha
"It's better to be hated for who you are, than liked for who you're not" - Prince EA
There are people who dislike without any reason. They dislike your existence.
💯🤩🤩
Agreed!
I love that man
While that statement is true, Prince EA is a scam.
*"Don't hold on to someone who's leaving, otherwise you won't meet the one who's coming" - Carl Jung*
Both how do we practically let go?
"Let go." Many might say. But how do we do that, how do we cultivate letting go?
BANG!!! 👍🏾
Nice.
They are people in our which we cannot let go
@@whatsyourgoal5245 saddly yes but we must let go
Deeply unhappy people will always look for and find reasons to bring others down. They are often jealous and can't stand to see others happier.
FACTS
For the longest time i was one of them...
@@KorrV913 Same, glad we both can see it, its the first step to elevating away from it. A very good book that has helped me a lot is the lost art of compassion, and listening to stoic quotes on youtube. We'll get there and then pass it on to the next generations. God bless you and me
i have someone like that i work with depressed and bitter any sign of happiness or attention not given to them they instantly feel the need to put a negative spin on it so fucking annoying and childish only good things can happen to them and no one else they have to be the center of attention worst part is its a grown man fucking damn drama queen 😒
I'm jealous of others, because feeling lonely every day literally hurts, what's to be expected?
Can you blame unhappy people for doing so? Sure, blame is usually put upon actions. But why they act said way is quite understandable in my opinion.
I know you were just writing a statement. I guess neutral. No connotation.
But the question remains.
"Have the courage to be disliked." ~Bruce Lee
Wow, when it's someone that you, really, respect says that : ) ...Means, from now on , I'll be wearing dislike from others as a badge of honour !
Damn I'm so glad Bruce Lee invented that concept and not lots of others before him, certainly not Diogenes.
@@MunchinOnDew Agreed, Diogenes doesn't do it for me,either, regards extreme asceticism, etc.....
But I applaud, to the, hilt ! his uncompromising zeal for exposing vice. Most in particular that of the, "Big wigs " of his time.
His mission to put money out of circulation was, absolutely, on point.
With three quarters of humanity ,still, to this day, "In chains " suffering starvation, homelessness, etc, due to the money system. Someone's gotta make a stand, Damn it !
This is what I need now. Thank u so much.
Please all and you will please none
I've been socially distancing for 30 years.
@Deb DeRose hahaha Yeah 🤪👳♂️👍
Ditto
Well said. Me too.
here goes the 30th like for this one
Me too
I am very low on the likeability scale. As a child that was very painful, but as an adult I have come to appreciate my small but loyal circle of friends.
Just out of curiosity, why do you think that about yourself?
I’m curious about that too ☝️
Actually, i get what you mean. The world kind of lets you know if you are considered likeable, over time. Part of it is consistency. People don't like it when they start off liking you but then you show a different side another day that's a bit more judgemental or irritable. Also, a lot if it is unspoken vibes and body language that maybe doesn't suit people. I've accepted that I'm ok in short conversations but I just don't have "long haul" likeability that puts people totally at ease. I've been married forever so at least my wife likes me. Lol !
We love you. 💚💚. We are Gods and standing barefooted in nature relieves stress and heals all diseases. We love you.💚💚💚.
@@GUITARTIME2024 This is v interesting. I know what you mean about consistency. I suffer from depression and migraines so I'm not the most consistent person and it's true how it affects friendships. I don't find people v tolerant or understanding of depression and I suppose from their viewpoint they probably think why spend time with someone who isn't lifting them up all the time. When I meet a lot of people it's like they just don't want to be friends, I think I'm just not upbeat or as energetic as they like or something, and in turn I often find them too loud, confident and positive in a way I find hard to relate to. On the other hand I've noticed some people seem to instantly like and respect me no matter what and they're the best people to have in my life because they tolerate variability in my mood and availability and they see my strengths over my weaknesses.
"Most people who don't like you are really struggling to like themselves"
"Do Not Waste Your Words On People Who Deserve Your Silence. Because The Most Powerful Thing You Can Say To A Person Is Nothing"
You deserve a grammy nomination for this comment indeed yes sir
@@mr-junebugg74 Hey thanks very much for your honesty. Indeed I try my best to be constructive yet consistent in my approach to things.
Omg so true and they’re left with the feeling of why are they not responding
YES ! silence is an answer.
@@mr-junebugg74 indeed!
My moto has ALWAYS been: "The fewer people that like me, the fewer "favors" will be asked of me."
That's actually smart and true. Lmao
💯💯💕
I would rather be alone than be used .
🏝
True
now thats a revelation
"If you care about what other people think you always be their prisoner."
This advice is easiest to follow when two circumstances are not prevalent:
1) Being surrounded by toxic coworkers for half of your day, most of your life.
2) Not having the emotional and psychological tools to accept yourself, independent of others.
Is there no chance to change your job and start clean? I'm genuinely curious as I am about to get into this adult world and I just wonder, is it at some point impossible to change your job?
Also, I think about the tools, that it's mainly being consistent. Like, training every day. Maybe, make it a goal to write something beautiful about yourself everyday at all costs and some days, youll have to do something out of your comfort in order to write something new. At least that is what I do, when I feel like nothing and it gradually helps, when you start seeking beautiful things in yourself.
@@user-ud7pt9bo8w I change jobs any time I feel ready for change or if the negativity becomes too much. It's really up to you
Number 2) : master finding and using these tools and you will become powerful
I mean I have the first one but just school
You have to give it all you’ve got in your responsibility to accept, care for, and advocate for yourself. Then you have capacity to give to others, from your position of strength.
"Most people who dislike you are struggling with liking themselves" very true.
I came to the realization on acid that a lot of the people I dislike are just a more honest version of myself that I’m denying. Not all of them but a decent chunk
Very true.
Preach
Very true.
Or they just don't like you cause you say something that annoys them a lot. Oh well, we aren't all meant for each other right? Just like a song that someone hates, there's not reason to change or to make them like that song. It's just your taste. Personality is the same way.
I have been accused of being anti-social, I just feel better when I'm not around people.
You know what they say, "You can't please everybody, so please , Yourself !
Surely by somebody who didn’t actually understand what antisocial behavior is also. I feel ya.
Same here
I used to own a shirt that said "I'm not anti-social, I'm anti-stupid." XD Fuck the haters bro.
me too
If someone doesn't like me, I stay away from from them. Just in case they try to hurt me, in any way.
It’s smart, you never know what people are capable of. There are bad people out there and you can’t expect justice these days. Keep away from problematic people if you can.
I’m tired of people hurting me, using me, hating me when I go out of my way to be respectful, honest and honorable. I’ve taken a different path, become aggressive and run them over. Or they’ll run you over, without justice. Justice needs to be served, for your heart to be in peace. I don’t care what anyone says, JUSTICE is the key
“Stop trying to be liked by everyone , you dont even like everyone.” -the truth
No it's not
Him: "And anyone who doesn't appreciate that..."
Me: Fuck em'
Him: "That's their loss."
Me: Oh, right.
We could be great friends you and me🔥🙌😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@emmanuelzimba5465 right😂 you can tell he’s a cool dude just off the comment
Lol
😹💯
Lol I was thinking the same
You sound like an old friend that always has something kind to tell me.
If you’ve got self love you’ll naturally attract the people that are meant to be in your life.
Life seems better being alone, when no one likes you .
But when someone does likes you , they give you hope which is soon broken when that person just abandons you to your own demons and the hatred of others .
You have to get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable.
YES, this is so true. It is so uncomfortable here....unless I am out in the woods alone.
Well said, brother.
It helped me to not resist the feeling of uncomfortability, rather I give it space
@@Viv8ldi I still don't like the feeling, but it means something different to me now.
@@Godisfirst21 Are you familliar with "the work" of Byron Katie, it might help you letting go. There is even a free helpline you can call
The more you love yourself, the less you'll care what others think
true
Exactly
True
maybe nah, i think you meant obsession/toxic/selfish type of loving self. but if you mean that then yeah
@greg acosta no its not
"To hell with such people who dislike you, you are not here to entertain everyone" - Me
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Thank you! I have encountered so many negative people it's mind-blowing!
Thank you so much🥹
... LMAO, that ain't you..... That's your ego 🤣😂
False
Him: not everybody is gonna like you
Me: *attacked*
🤣😂
Hahahah 😅
The older I get,the more I realise that I really don’t need that many friends in my life
Bingo. As time passes, adversity arises, and people make choices the amount of friends recede. I have one good friend and that's perfect for me. Limiting exposure in a shell game world is a good option.
In this age most people don't seem to know what true friendship is.I feel myself lucky to have had enough friends to count on one hand. This doesn't mean that I don't
have many people that i enjoy and have a good time with. There is a difference between the two though. The best to you from a lucky old girl
i realised that only friends we have are our parents. maybe its different for you guys
Friends Are Just People Who Haven’t Fucked You Over Yet.
@@Atarikid67 THIS.
“When you give up needing to have other people’s opinion you find your own freedom.” This is a very important message, especially for the younger generation!
Ty!
Took me a long time to figure that out. Even now, as an old man, I catch myself being irritated that someone I've been very nice to just seems to dislike me for no apparent reason. I catch myself, then chuckle, and remember, who cares, what does it matter, they are on they're own path and it's they're problem, not mine.
Yes this young generation is consumed by public image
@@kingdavid6729 And they are gonna have a hard time doing that now, while wearing a mask. I'm very sad for this younger generation, my son included, the future is looking grim for them, not to be a Debbie downer here, sorry.
@@TheBlackSheepDiaries We are living in troubling times indeed.
I am autistic and I want to thank you very much for making this video
It is uplifting my soul and you are a good person.
you dont have to introduce yourself as Autistic..just be you and write a comment
How about you just say hi. And not the definition of a lack of capability
@@jessicavalley9211
I didn’t even say anything insulting at all
@@thisgame2
I didn’t say anything insulting at all
@@jessicavalley9211
Oh ok 👍
Do not waste your time trying to convince people who are against you to be for you.
Ignore, block, and walk away. Do not chase after people that dislike you remember that you don't need to be liked by everyone. It's impossible to please everyone, and trying to do so can be exhausting and unfulfilling
That itself sounds like a waste of time
Usually if someone doesn't like you, it's because they envy you... so it's like a compliment in a weird way.
True
I feel better now
Jealousy yess that's usually what it is Most of the time
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I think “usually” is overestimating how often it’s envy. There are plenty of valid reasons not to like tons of people that don’t come anywhere close to envy. “Sometimes” would be more appropriate
I believe people that seek approval outside of themselves only become miserable because that is not loving yourself. Thank you.
Yeah i can tell it is really abad way to live a life like that,
The worst way to live your life.
@jon dough Why are they copying and mimicking others? To seek approval...we are saying the same thing.💖
The irony is that all the comments here start to seek aproval.and mimic the previous one 😅😅
@@claudiocruzat7667 by commenting in agreement? The definition of seeking approval. If you need others to agree with you; you are approval seeking. You are saying that you cannot feel good about yourself or, your views, without the approval of others. But when you are doing so, you are acting as though there is only one right way and one wrong way to do anything.
My husband is 20 years older than me - we have been married for 19 years and have a 15 year old son. As a family we have always had problems making friends or being accepted by all sorts of groups, neighbors, churches, teachers, doctor’s offices, etc. - our son has also problems making friends. I am the first target when we go to any gathering other than those with close family. People are usually suspicious and judgmental of me. It is all very sad and I came to a point of becoming convinced having friends was not for us and that I had to accept us being singled out because we chose to marry each other. My husband by the way was divorced long before he ever met me and our son is his only son. Being ‘ disliked’ or ‘unlikable’ is a constant in my life…
Wow! I know it’s been a year but, It’s the other way around with me. They befriend my husband and hate me. We have a 12 year old. Our only child as well.
Together 21 years.
as a youtuber i get hated on a lot, being called a scammer even if im not scamming. Having people say my channel is bad, and MANY more things against me. Thank you for this video, it really made me feel better.
"When everyone dislikes a man, beware of him. When everyone likes a man, beware of him."---Confucius
The middle ground constitutes the mediocre, the fence sitter and what some have described as sheep. Power lies on the extremities, the edges. Whether it is argued to be good or evil. It is ripe to be loved or hated by those who don't live on those boundaries. Either edge is alien to those who embrace the mundane.
@@amicklich6729 Your a prisoner of word's Lol. Just a joke
@@amicklich6729 I think you’re glamorizing extremism in the pursuit of power - thousands of years of history has definitely taught us that’s the path to happiness and enlightenment!
@@amicklich6729 What? Have you ever studied Buddhism? The Middle Path means something COMPLETELY different than that which you're attempting to describe. Who wants to fight all the time? Obviously YOU DO. Must be exhausting....
None of y’all got the message and it’s very clear. But ^ he’s got it... Be consciously aware always
That's it! " Most ppl who do not like you, do not like themselves".
They have negative vibrations..
Agreed. They are projecting their own self loathing onto you.
I wouldn't count on that nonsense. It's likely just some more self-deception. Most likely is that the disliked person is just another unpleasant swine.
Sometimes, we can be unlikable. Happens.
pretty much
Beware of people who are toxic or narcissists because they are the ones who will never be pleased unless they do their own journey of self-growth. You need to recognise indeed when directed criticism is valid or invalid. If invalid it’s important to assertively stand up for yourself and cut out this person from your life if they keep on subjecting you to negativity for the sake of bringing you down instead of helping you grow and improve as a human being in a positive direction.
The late John Hurt said "In life, it's not necessary to be liked by everyone. And its liberating"
i reached this point about 5 years ago , stopped being ego driven, stopped critisisng myself and just thought of myself as a decent human being , i stopped reacting to peoples emotional stuff and their projection ...and they hate it , it drives them mad.
Yes, because they think you’re messing with their minds and it makes the REALLY insecure ones angry because they feel threatened by you.
@@Job.Well.Done_01 wow. i thought i twas something like that. thats nuts.
Same here with me...
It takes lot of guts to stick to be ourselves.
I can definitely relate with you bro.
God Bless...
Peace..!
This ties in with learning how to not taking things so personally....
Sky sky thx for this. Just got reminded this in al anon last night and I needed to hear it!
I appreciate the message, thank you
I love u Melanie💛
I definitely struggle with being insecure and easily effected knowing people dislike me. I try to just lay low and not interact but I still feel exhausted, even, resentful with the fact that I have no interest being in their world yet they find everything I do or don't do to be offensive and fuels their distrust and distaste towards me. When I do try to let it go... the insecure feelings come rushing back as soon as I have to cross paths with them again. Then I'm stuck ruminating over the interaction for another 2 weeks where again I just want to lash out and give them more reasons to dislike me. Nevertheless, I appreciated youtube recommending your video. I needed another reminder from a calm soul with some sage advice. Thanks for that.
i feel exactly the same
Haha, tell me about it. That sounds like my family!
@Juliet such a sweet comment , I appreciate this a lot ❤️
Can relate totally with this...
Don't hide yourself at the expense of others.
Being yourself and not caring who likes or dislikes you actually earns you more respect than somebody who tries to please everybody
Yeah but by that point you dont want to care about getting respect or not anymore
@bert smith That is good I think. But what I mean is whenever I try to not care what people think of me and I end up getting respect for that, I start to do care about what people think of me again cause I notice the positive effects of people respecting me and don't want to lose that I guess. It's like a cyclus sort of.
That's what they envy about you, because they have been faking it till they made it, pretending to be more than what they really are for someone to really like them. It's an attention thing. Then they see you not caring and being yourself they want to be like that as well.
Like all things it’s a balance. And it’s silly to view it so black and white.
I agree with this. The only problem is that when people do not like you, they may become physical or sabotage you. I don't mind if someone does not like me but usually, they will do things to hurt you. If you do not like someone, just leave them alone.
I agree too. Happened to me on my last job. I accepted a job where most employees were bitter, and insecure. I was physically threatened, more than once, and sexually harassed. HR is never on our side. My boss said I provoked people to want to hurt me, and I had to learn to deal with different personalities. My boss then retaliated against me, limiting my responsibilities, and gaslighting me under micromanaging. I eventually quit almost 2 years later, and was able to file for unemployment due to a hostile work environment. I needed a job, and desperately tried to make my situation better at work. Wasn't worth my mental health.
This has been my experience too. Going through it just now, even after walking away years ago.
@@sashadiaz7737 Yea, I have been at jobs where people became physical with me. I am sorry you had to go through that. :(
@@milkandspice1074 Thank you for your kindness and support. :)
@@milkandspice1074 I'm sorry you went through this too. I am glad we have this channel as a platform, where we can share, heal, and learn from one another.
"I will only listen to people who truly love me, anyone else don't matter "
If you’re watching this , this isn’t a coincidence . We’re the chosen ones 💪🏻
Most Underrated and Powerful comment here
Chosen for what?
Life happens wherever you are, whether you make it or not.
Tell them witiko spirit is hungry
I never refer to myself as a chosen one. That's putting ourselves on a pedestal.
Let’s not get carried away.
It’s not possible to please everyone... so, the best self service you could do is be true to yourself.
Yep. As Rick (Ricky) Nelson sang in his song Garden Party, "You Can't Please Everyone So You've Got To Please Yourself."
100%
When people hate you for no reason, they have underlying issues,not you. It's usually jealousy.
amen
They hate you for a reason, they do have issues, and it's usually because they are jealous of you. I had to make sense of your comment.
I had to learn to never call them out on it. This is a self-serving egotistical way to get back at them and it usually makes them lash out causing more problems
@@daniellee1722 Yeah if you call them out on it they will just gaslight you.
@@JohnDoe-sx2zk Absolutely. The guy in this video is right. Let it go. It's hard but it's better to get over an initial wrongdoing than 2, 5, or 20
"Letting go of the need to control". That is something I really need. I reckon the desire to be liked by everyone and the inability to allow people to disapprove of you, is an ego thing and a control thing. I think the best advise I received from this is to "let go of the need to control". I hope I can come to a state where I'm at peace with being disliked and just live and let live. Thank u
"They can say whatever they want and it only affects them" - so much freedom in that. ❤
"A friend to everyone is a friend to no-one."
A friend to all is a friend to none, chase two girls lose the one
@@markusbain63 I can read but can't understand 😂
@@gayaquinn7177 Translation: yada, yada, yada Jesus Christ yada, yada, yada. 😂
@@gr8dvdനിനക്കു വട്ടാണ് എന്നു മനസിലായി 😂
That's not true
I accept the many people who have disliked me and I accept and admit that I didn't like them either.
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I accept others just the way they are. No judgement. Just wish this would be the norm for everyone's character.
@@chrisb5084 yeah, what is it with humans trying to push their point of view on others?
@@octaviawhite2705 Everyone has their own point of view....that's human nature....but what's good for one person won't necessarily be good for another. Hear them out...but believe in what is best for you without condemning them.
@@octaviawhite2705 They want "power". However I think you can only truly find it within yourself. 💖🌟
I searched up "it's okay for people to dislike you" because I found out that two of my coworkers at my new job seem to have a negative look of me. I found out through another coworker, and friend, that they talked bad about me behind my back and it hurt. ruined my whole day. I'm on my way to work again and i needed to hear these words, I can go back in with peace in my mind
I hope you’ve left that employment now? Life’s too short to remain unhappy and living in the stress hormone, creates disease in your body. I really hope you’ve moved on, or they’ve left, so that you don’t have to experience that anymore.
I've learned from experience that when you're your true self (and the more that people dislike you as a result), it only empowers you and makes you far stronger in your resolve and determination as an individual! This is where true dignity and self-respect come from!
True. A narcissist needs a punching bag and if you're it, you are finished. Unless you work on retrieving your self-esteem from the gutter and just walk away you will be dying by inches for the rest of your life. All this applies to people who have not lost their basic humanity. It doesn't work for narcissists and psychos.
@@rajashreechadha6I can definitely attest to this insightful comment and I've nearly lost my life a few times over the years due to highly narcissistic, or worse, individuals!
I'm gradually picking up the pieces though from dealing with those types of people since I was a child. I'm doing my best to avoid them, or to have very little contact, which isn't easy with family members. 🙁
When people don't like me, I know I'm doing something right.
Yes❤
@Myself L So, what he is saying is wrong
If you never have disagreements with people, and have a habit of complying with others, you find it difficult to stand up for something you believe in, or know to be correct. So when you stop caring and letting people take advantage of you, they will be upset and dislike you, but you will be free.
@@sashadiaz7737 I'm one of those rarest of women, I never cared what ppl thought of me. It has helped me a lot in life. I just do what I want to do.
That is a dangerous axiom.
Ive been seeing this kind of message all around ..i guess the universe is really reminding me. It's time.
Same 🤝, its our time.
Yes! 💖💗
Time that it’s the end right
There is only now. Hope for a tomorrow fight for today's ✌ of mind
That would be an algorithm.
Exactly, look how some evil people hurt Michael Jackson when he was alive ,he was kind,lovely,maybe a little childish but innocent ,he had such a pure and beautiful soul he was a nice person the media disrespected him and treated him badly.we didnt deserve him ,i know he is dead but i can't understand why people are evil.i love u Michael❤❤❤❤❤rest in peace 💖💖💖
I loved Michael Jackson too...I thought he was very gentle person...
because ur soul is beautiful too,thank u❤
@@juliebryant3968 and ya he really was a great person.
I really never thought about it, but what really makes me feel bad is trying to understand why they don’t like me, or even resentment for not being accepted... it’s like an offense, and I didn’t think they had the right. But what you said, is so liberating... it makes me feel peaceful. I will have to hear your words times and times again because the older way of thinking is to deep, but your words really help to know how to deal with it. 💜
I feel your pain I am so sorry. I wish there were something I could say to make you feel better. There isn't. People are cruel for no reason whatsoever the only thing you can do is distance yourself as much as possible. Sadly thats the only answer I have. The amount of good people out there is almost non-existent, I am truly sorry just be careful
It takes a lot of energy, time and mind space to get everyone to like you and you get so little in return for that huge investment.....its not a good return when you add it all up....invest in yourself to get more out of the day.👍 Be good to yourself everyone.😊
Nice words
Seeing value in yourself then you feel valued and approved. But keep on improving little by little. Not everyone likes us, just like we don’t like everyone. Not a big deal.
"I don't know the key to success but I know the key to failure is to please everybody." -- Bill Cosby
Living in a society full of negativity, stuff like this is as precious as a diamond!
@greg acosta and feminism, political correctness and a bunch of other stupid bullshit!
i like this human. this human makes me smile.
" what you think of me can't hurt me, what I think of you can kill me"
-some old timer
I wasn't put in this world to be liked or please everyone, so I stay by myself most times and it is PEACEFUL!
Same here. I am happiest when alone. ☮ Peace
Same here. Peaceful when alone. No contact=No conflict. Have found that most people even the likers are usually "users" in some way.
A good book, a cup of tea and I'm fine. Peace
Absolutely - too much noise out there.
Love being alone.
When I was in my early 20s I was talking to a man who kept frowning at me. i finally said, "You don't like me, do you?" and he said "So what?" those two little words really changed my need for approval. I remember laughing and thinking, yeah, so what?
Patricia Music That man was lucky,.........in some parts of the world, you very well could die for giving someone the frowny-face.
You may feel bad that people don't like you, but you also get out of helping them move. Totally worth it.
Being kind is good but I learned that I am whole and love myself to not care what they say. Keep smiling and do not consume other people's evil energy
When people dislike you (and your not out hurting others intentionally) That's a reflection upon them...not you.
My Grandfather once told me, "When someone criticizes you, they are looking in a mirror."
aww i really like it 👌🏻
I love it 💓
Interesting
I wrote that one down. :)
THAT is gold :)
The ways in which someone judges, dislikes, criticizes or is harsh with you is the same way they judge themselves.
the people who don't like you always think bad or have negative assumptions about you, no matter what you do. There is freedom in that feeling.
When in doubt throw them out. This applies to spoiled fruit and nuts and people.
...don’t forget about fish and sketchy leftovers.
This is dope.
Yes
Some people *are* nuts.
@@somedudeinatunnel3102 "some"? ..... I find MOST people are nuts.
One of my favorite sayings at work is "Don't let anybody steal your happiness." People can only make you sad if you let them.
People will work REALLY hard to make
you unhappy if they hate or envy you. The workplace is a miserable part of this world and brings all kinds of illness. You can be better at ignoring your sadness but underneath it all - the sadness will persist. The key is to not care AT ALL about personal relations at work. God speed.
thanks for the reminder. Recently a lot of our neighbourhood community is hating on us for not letting any bulldozers scratch off soil from the dirt road. Our land is cut in half because of a man-made road. We just bought this land. If the bulldozer keeps doing the same routine of scratching off soil from the sides of the road, the slope in both sides will start crumbling and there would be massive soil erosion. The locals don't understand this. They have very little education about environmental protection and soil erosion. They think that we are stopping their "progress". They also want a new cemented road leading to nearby protected mountains. Mountains that have already even been deforested. Nobody cares about the trees, they want the profit. If the roads keep on being built, more trucks and more investors will come. More business people, who will take over the mountains will build hotels and pollute the area. The locals don't know this. They don't think about the consequences. So we're the only ones that are trying hard to stop this and they hate us for it. I wish they would understand. Even if you try to explain to them about this, they will not listen. They will only listen to the government because they believe so much as the government is saying, even though the govt. itself is doing little to protect the environment.
Let them hate me. I can die knowing I tried my best in protecting the mountains, the birds, the trees, the little bacteria, mushrooms and fungi, and every little living thing in our area.
thank you, I needed this. my whole life I've been constantly trying to be someone I'm not and please the people around me but recently I decided to stop doing that because it is very exhausting. it is also the one thing that broke my self esteem the most. I do things for my own happiness now and I feel like I am one step closer to fully loving myself. if they don't like that then I feel sorry for them.
When other people's disliking of you actually leads you to discovering your true self :)
i like that !
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"That's their loss" is the key phrase to this entire video. I offer what I've got, if you don't like it, OK, keep looking.
Yes!
No what we should say it’s I offer this to myself if you want it you can join
As an Asian, I feel this wisdom is deeply missing in my culture. We care so much about what people think of us. And in our culture, we pay so much attention to other people.
Honestly can say that I trust this mans genuineness in his voice. Also can honestly say that he is so right. I used to want everyones approval & to be liked by everyone….in high school….but then I realized eventually years later….most people’s approval isn’t worth having for a variety of reasons. I just stick close to those that I love that love me. & unfortunately there are horrible people in this world…so why would I want their approval?
Yeah you see a lot of trite youtube videos with people who only half understand what they are saying. It's a relief to find a guy that looks like he's lived it and come out the other end
You can' please some of them, but not all of them, and not all of the time will be pleased with you all of the time.. Accept it, or you're stuck with the resistance lol:)
When someone is angry, unpleasant or negative to you, instead of feeling angry or upset by the actions of others, l feel a sense of their loss and compassion because they are suffering in their own life.
We all have the power of being present in understanding and compassion towards all of life and even people who are different from us and are not friendly. Bless them and release them. Stay tuned into your life and this moment of being alive and being free of outside distractions. Relax and enjoy your life and be your best friend.
Thank you 💗💗💜🙏🙏🙏💜💗💗
Parry. Very well said & so true.
Awesome.
TQ.
💯💯💯💯 powerful message
Just yesterday I heard someone saying...(sometimes rejection is God's protection)💕
Always felt that
good way to think about it
Claire can I use this please. I know Jesus
@@ashleysilk5104you can use whatever you like to glorify our Lord💕
Well how about this. God's protection for your direction
"You can please 10% of people 100% of the time, or you can please 100% of people 10% of the time. But you'll never please 100% of people 100% of the time" -quote from my dad-
It's hard to walk away from a conversation if the one who hates you follows you around seeking to destroy you.
As a people pleaser I find it very difficult to let go. I constantly find that my energy goes into defending myself or continuing to help others that are just abusing me.
This lesson is something that I'm learning takes courage to embrace. It's time.
Hi Vanessa, have you considered being codependent? Perhaps you were surrounded my narcassists growing up, and your brain was programmed on conditional love or approval. Meaning you are made to feel your worth is only based on what you can do for others. I'm also a healing people pleaser. Check out Lisa A. Romano on UA-cam.
@@sashadiaz7737 thank you for sharing it has helped a lot
@@SaraiPrayer Absolutely! Please know you are worthy of respect, love and kindness from others. 🙂
Highly recommend checking out Lisa Romano, Dr. Les Carter, and Dr. Ramani Durvasula
On one of my DMT breakthroughs there was a lady who told me "You have to live life like a Christmas light. Some people don't like Christmas lights but Christmas light don't care, Christmas light's gonna keep shining bright and happy as can be!"
That's a weird as machine elf you was talking to.
This dude is a Real Rockstar seriously thank you man we find freedom when we give them the freedom to think whatever they want
You cannot control other people's jealousy and insecurities. They are the unhappy ones.
"You could walk on water, and trust me, MFers would say you're walking on water because you can't swim." -- David Goggins
Haters gonna hate. Just keep doing you.
This cracked me up, thanks for sharing
"I killed Lem!" - Walton Goggins
Hell yea
nice comment and pfp :)
You literally have a blue lives matter flag as your profile pic 🤮
When people don't like me I find it quite liberating. I don't have to waste time trying to please them at all I simply live my life the best way I know how and eliminate their
negative presence Works amazing🤭
I wish this sort of wisdom could be taught at schools. It would be so helpful for young people throughout their life journey. Sadly alot of this kind of wisdom only comes to us so much later though never too late. Peace.
No wisdom.
For people who do not like you - Silence is golden
You don't have an obligation to justify
Some are addicted to blame and rage. Makes them feel alive.
This isn’t a video you watch once. You have to play this every week at least
I've listened to it 5 x now and made notes. :)
Y’all got issues. It’s pretty simple
@@spikeycoda We can do whatever we want, however we want 🤷♂️
@@spikeycoda Too funny... some of us are just forgetful. Watering the plants is pretty simple too and yet only fake ones survive here ;-)
yep! it helps solidify the concepts in ur mind, like an affirmation
I've told people for decades now...if given the choice between being liked or respected respect wins hands down. I don't need you to like me. I really don't care if you do. But if you respect me long enough, you may end up liking me, but if you never respect me you liking me isn't real. So its a no brainer to me.
..."letting go of the need to control what others think." Powerful.
Great talk. When family such as siblings reject you that is a harder pill to swallow. At least my cat still likes me ;-)
Ditto 😁👍🏻.
My parents
Nullius .. After both my parents passed (10 years apart) .. I thought that my extended family of aunts, uncles and cousins might fill the gap?? No chance at all .. forgotten about, left out, judged, criticised for being a Christian, ignored. It got to the stage when I DECIDED to walk away like the strong person I am. I was tired of 'making things work' or being the only one who wanted to catch up! I'm done I'm not going to flog a dead horse when nobody cares enough to include me, think of me or to even text or call! I have Jesus Christ, my cats and young adult children and I am very content with that!! A strong person walks away when they've had enough and realises that the other people don't value the connection as much as you did.
I hear you. I'm experiencing something similar. But, the same rules apply, even for family. The more I let go and just let it be what it is (and stop trying to win their love and approval) the freer I feel. It really is a magical thing.
Hi! Just want to say cats are usually very fussy & particular about who they love. So you are doing something very right there. Also, there is a really good reason the saying 'Friends are the family we choose for ourselves' exists. Family do sometimes drift in & out if they are battling their own demons though & most times it's actually not about you or anything you've done. Stay strong & look after your beautiful moggy. With love from 💚 Herts💚 UK
You don't like me? Cool bro, peace out!
Right! Been saying that for 39 years. I learned that lesson thanks to the Marine Corps.
What if that person is your boss at work?
@@JohnDoe-sx2zk You don't have to be friends with your boss you know? same as co-workers. To me they are just people i work with, nothing more. I don't care at all if my boss or coworkers like me or not or vice versa.
Love how you say, peace out instead of fuck off
@@JohnDoe-sx2zk Just concern yourself with the standard of your work and your personal level of self worth.
Oftentimes it can be a blessing not to be liked by certain people, as "nasty types" only like other "nasty types " . Use this situation as an ideal opportunity to calmly bolster your inner status above that of gross herd mentality.
“You can’t be everybody’s cup of tea. Nobody’s everybody’s favourite so you might as well just make it how you please” 🎵 - Kacey Musgraves
Nope
I've got the best advice in my life once: "What others think about you it's not your business"... And that puts everything in place. It makes sense if you think deep about it. There is no person in the world who could understand another person fully. So the best way to overcome those problems is by working with inner self and by having compassion to others in the space we live in.
If someone bullys and harasses me and all my friends, it is our fucking business