Don't Take Anything Personally
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- Why do we feel offended by the words of others, and how can we become immune to insult and criticism?
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Never let others define you, even if it's your own loved ones. Believe in yourself even when no one else does.
Most "loved ones" are living for their own happiness too ...like we are ...so them making us happy is something that should not be expected easily . When they don't see any selfish gains from us ..their real faces come out and they don't care about our feelings or act like they care. You can say that you're so giving and did everything for everyone ,but while doing that minimise your expectations (keep that in your mind ,that people are living for their own happiness and not yours . And they may be thankful for what u do in that moment ..but in 2-3 days they'll forget about u and start living for themselves again. A flock of birds doesn't wants to sit on a tree that stops bearing the fruits . Just like a Pervert finds happiness in a prostitute .its like a business of what we're getting from others in return . The worldly people can only "show" love (while they may not have any feeling of love toward u within) . A saint or God shows Love + think about your welfare selflessly . Worldly people could care less about your "Welfare" .
I speak and no one listens, no one believes, no one supports. I know my truth, I'm on my own. Hurts when bad people get away with all the damaging shit they do, when that's not enough for them they damage my reputation for speaking up. It's not a fair system.
@@Lady-pu8es then they are just jealous and insecure and have bitter hearts ..seems like they feel better About themselves by putting others down .its not about u .feel pity for them. Those type of people are scared to look at their true face in the mirror .
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ALWAYS!
Years ago I realized that other people's opinions of me are none of my business.
Well said! That's helps me. 😁
Me too ...Isn't this a great '"out" from major stress that people try to lay on you ! I love it lolol .People will try to buy you with the dirt they dig up.. all from the past ..Be grateful you can ignore the past dirt too .
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elsquibs: Only as long as you are strong with good social network. if not, one is very vulnerable to what others think of one. because it becomes acts, and they can destroy you for no real reason, by their prejudiced quick assumptions.
Well phrased.
Too many people are cruel and mean. I have learned to keep silent and ignore.
Often the best response is no response.
@@AwakenInsight Just passively-automatically? I agree if there is no time and energy, but otherwise I don't contribute to healing the world by egoistic rejection of the other. But if I do inner work as well, or have done it prior, I may be of help to them, at least afterwards when they are by themselves in solitude. An unaware one is only left bewildered, lost by the silent treatment, and doesn't develop.
Ppl too often believe that abusive others are aware of what they are doing, and able to control and stop themselves by themselves, without any help, guidance and support. But:They have the same human functions and basic needs as everyone else. And who has never trolled, even if never to the same extent? In the worst cases only a phrase of address to their I, a reprimand, a correction,a signpost may be safe for the speaker..
More developed/practised ppl could really help if they engaged in teaching the abuser why one keeps silent towards him, and tell about it from the place of strength and stability, how the abuse destroys the world and others, and that abuse won't give them good energy and power which they want. The true self hidden in the abuse longs for help and love. They can be so lost and sick that they won't find the way unless others have mercy with them. Shunning and rejecting, ignoring and hardening is understandable, but not the best, highest approach. Although the ones who are prone to inner work and development might eventually start looking inwards, and think about why they get no response, narcissistic supply. One can encounter and communicate WITH self-protection and empathy (inner neutrality).
It is a self-sacrifice of time and energy of course and has to be a free choice. Maybe I ask too much from us. I just think about how much better I myself for one could have fared if others had cared for, helped and mirrored me in my lostness and unawareness.
Trauma-therapy is given people who are out of it, who are in a good daily life situation. Oh, where are the gem souls willing to encounter one in the stages before solution-stage? Is it Christ only, or maybe being led by one's genius fate to the few helpers/healers by God's grace? He certainly has confidence in our spiritual point of growth.
Yeah ... a lot of toxic people around unfortunately.
sometimes we make mistakes too.
@@Medietos while i do agree with you, its generally a bad situation to do so. if someone insults you or attacks you, do you think that person is in the state of mind where they even accept your opinion? most of the time they don't even accept any kind of help. also are you in the right state of mind in that situation, or are you biased, in form of your own, offended morals? if you're not, you have my respect. but for myself, it seems to help the most to ignore these people, as i doubt i could have a normal conversation with them in that situation.
Actually you’d never care what others think about you if you really knew how rarely they do.
WOW! That’s a GREAT eye-opener! Thank you. 🙏🏼
Wow. So true. 👏
Hmm... but to know 'how rarely they do' (or don't) would still mean we cared to (want to) know.
But I guess caring can do no harm if it makes all parties involved content.
Fact! Every person have he's values hierarchy (eat fuck career status etc) YOU in this system has so LOW value really, everywhere in every human.
Absolutely
"Someone, who is mean or cruel, is someone who is unhappy, hurting, self-critical..."
Yep and that's the only way we as a people can grow is by talking about things and having feelings about them. So stay in a state of suspended animation and excepting things you must train your children to except so they to can have the rich life experience that carried you to that conclusion. See all Buddha and religion did was teach you how to be cool with abusive leadership Buddha dad was king on earth by Jesus time they put bad abusive leadership in the sky so you won't think of king or his kids. So now the world walked away from religion as in God's dead of kill the Buddha and go past him. And all this spiritual speak is a form of apologetics for something that got burnt in to our genetics over abusive controll for almost 2000 years and we ither stop spiritual speak grow up run from religion grow up put the fetish thumb sucking blanket with your crying mother and Jesus to soak up there tears of sorrows of humanity and it's ignorance in antiquity and fix all the problems they have made. Or walk on in to the machine with your kids hand in hand don't look at the homeless people the sad people the suicide I'm sure it won't happen to anyone you know.
@@frankjbird2918 I do see psychology and spirituality as mutually exclusive, yet they do overlap. And I do see how organized religion has hijacked spirituality too. I think 'spirituality' exists as opposed to religion 'created.'
@@dinaibrahim4022 it no longer mater's how anyone feels they see it without the correct in put data what ever your sum equation to balance your reality is it will always need new input data to continue. You are unwilling to give up your blanket you just admitted it and that makes your opinion like that of a baby. My input data isn't up for debate in any way. Your thought process of apologetics leads one place and one place only in the future. I will tell you you people that have thought like you for about 5000 years you will kill us all you will kill the earth the water our children's mortal body's you will kill because you think your opinion lacking in facts based on history and current events and future trends your opinion will lead to the death of billions of human children alone not to count all there parents. But I grow tired of telling you all how your history books is full of you you saying what you just sead only for me to put you in your place for you to rage like a ape in a cage of your own mind and start killing your loved ones with god and satin on ither shoulder arguing about the spiritual holy ghost rotting your own brain. And you did it all so you could have friends to slap you on the back on your day off worship to say that's our boy. Haha. I don't do it for you I was doing it for me but I don't care keep arguing with your God's and your loved ones. About your lack of knowledge of your surroundings. I'm out. I told my mom to send my ashes to my ex wife cuz no man this smart should have ever had to live life not knowing his own child. She seas nothing. So again what did mother spiritual say as she held your sorrows so tight at night?
not in all cases.
@@eduardochavacano Correct. When that person is a narciscist, they dont feel anything.
"We value the opinions of others more than we value ourselves "
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@@shanabanana9948 yeeaah i knoow maan thisss weeedd is fucking gooooooooood
Care about people's approval
And you would be their prisoner.
~Lao Tzu
Thank you for radiating such amazing energy♥️
Your channel is amazing bro honeslty
I agree.
Yes i agree completely
I agree also..wise words!
Yes only found this channel few minutes ago . Will be watching much much more.
I went back an listen to ALL of them, they are perfect for keeping my life on track spiritually!! We are all going in that direction, heading back home into our hearts where we become authentic and real,
Be kind Humans!
That’s so right.The person who says negative things to you is normally unhappy and is jealous of your happy life.
I have seen this with a person who had money, good looks, and almost everything she wanted; but I don't think she had peace which is sad
No... A person who is hurting within themselves, has no care what you have or dont have.. They simply need company in their misery and are inviting you to join them.. Not because they are jealous.. But because they are lonely..
I like this! My mom always said "CONSIDER THE SOURCE." She told me no to care too much about what mean people said to me when I was a kid.
What a great and simple pointing that is, to 'consider the source.' If I may, I think I will begin to teach that very same concept to my children if ever they seem to need it. Thanks!
Good job your MUM gave you this advice !!! Bravo 👍
@@kristaconsciousness1464 She'd have to remind me "those kids have their own problems, but you've done so much to be proud of, don't take their word for it." Yeah, simple but effective
A very nice way of putting it
Wow ! Thanks for sharing that ! :)
I don't cry often but today I did. People dislike me and talk behind my back. It has been going on for years and I am tired. Thank you wise man❤
I always knew that amazing praise and compliments can be just as dangerous as insults. Best to stay in the middle and know who you are.
I am glad I found your channel. I had a rough childhood that led to negative emotions about myself and others but I am in my early 20's and I do not want to blame anyone, I am tired of having a victim mentality, it is not working and never will. I have been shedding and transforming negative self-thoughts and patterns to positive. This has been a journey for the past year and I am growing and understanding myself(thoughts) most importantly. Cannot change others but we can change the way we look at things as cliche as that sounds it is absolutely true.
Check out Marcus Aurelius for stoicism. Teal Swan for spiritual guidance or Sadguru. Stay on your path don’t fall back into the victim role but never beat yourself up be your own best friend.
very good.Blessings to you.
Same here with rough childhood X I like what he says about others opinions are not important good or bad! So true as its the opinion you have of self that matters plus you can't define yourself by others projections xxxxxx 🙏💚☯️ much love and healing joy to all xxxx
Im so proud of you🌻🌻🌻
I’m 47 I had a rough few days with mental anxiety, this was brought on by a rejection from someone after my bad treatment of them. I’ve known it a long time that I’ve had self confidence issues. I have realised that I need to change things now as things are not getting better. This stems from negative treatment from my childhood and teenage years. I struggle with relationships. If you are young act now seek help if needed and get over it as best as possible or it can ruin your life.
Getting insulted by a teacher is the worst
i love the “it’s not that negative opinions don’t matter- it’s that all opinions don’t truly matter” mentality. it’s not pessimistic, but peacefully nihilistic. it rlly is amazing
This is so true. Especially when anyone with a computer can comment on you without knowing you in the slightest. Even if they know of something you did which you are ashamed of, they will use it to keep you small. They do this because they live in fear. Fear that you might be something greater than they are.
it only hurts if they are your friends and an element of betrayal exist.
A somewhat developed soul with gift for the super-sensible, wide psychology, language, intuition and communication can actually get more from a comment by an unknown than one should think. We often convey more than we know.
this is the best ego lesson ever. I never understand why being offended was an ego problem, because I've always thought ego was directly linked to over-the-top narcisistic excess of self-esteem.
but now I see that ego can also acts in the way we feel personally offended by an insult towards our image. thank you.
There is a fine line in not taking it personally and standing up for yourself and speaking your mind. I guess intuition is used to determine when to hold your tongue.
Who needs a therapist? All I need is this man's words.. namaste.. i pray love washes over everyone in this universe.
2020 has been the year of awakening for me. This resonated with me so strongly because looking back my feelings would get hurt and I’d be so bothered because I myself didn’t know who I was. I cared too damn much and I am so so grateful I don’t anymore. Beautiful beautiful video💕
Capricaan Abdou: You know whoyou are now,already? Look young.Great
Many years ago, there were people in my life that were allowed to use, and control me. The day the decision was made to leave those people behind, regardless of whether they were family or friends, was one of the best decisions I've ever made. It was like getting clean from chemical dependancy after decades of suffering. All of those people around that were so-called friends were nothing more than those that wanted something from me that I was not able to give. Loneliness is difficult on this journey, and there are times of dispair, but listening to someone else who has experienced this too, is heat warming. Thank you. Shalom
Thank you i really needed this after dealing with toxic people everyday, its hard for me because i was raised to fight when people talk to you like that
Byron Katie says all fights belong on paper.when you feel this way do a judge your neighbour's worksheet
Same. I am subjected to angry, pissed off, crabby people at my job on a daily basis. I personally wouldn't care that much (as I am good at remaining calm and not taking things personal), but sometimes it affects my energy and my adrenaline starts going and it leaves me with aches and pains later. I wish there was a way to block this energy.
So just avoid people and you will find bliss.
I find taking people in small doses to be sufficient. But sometimes it is hard to keep the balance.
After many years of testing that theory, I now practice it at all times, it’s working out quite well, I’m much happier.
😂 pretty much.
Lol no
Yep
This is good useful wisdom that I will implement when I feel hurt by somebody else. A wise Buddhist once told me that a petty Tormentor can be your greatest teacher if you develop the Inner Strength to rise above how they are trying to make you feel and see that person for who they really are. There is a real power in letting go of things that do not serve you. Thank you for spreading wisdom!
It's hard to not take things perso ally when your being attacked by many for no reason !!
So true!
I think he means to not internalize it as you’re doing.
Someone being jealous of you or wanting to control you and because they can’t they lash out at you is not your issue.
Yes, you may no longer trust them or engage with them the same way but their behavior is not a reflection of yours.
People do things for many reasons that have nothing to do with you.
Suzie Q Thanks for that!! It does drain you a bit when on a daily basis but I will overcome ❤👌🧚♀️💪
You only feel pain because someone else's pain spilled unto you.
I agree. I learnt along the way it meant I had to be stronger, to firstly not let it affect me & secondly to know that if I know deep in my heart who I am, between me & my Higher Self (or God), then people could call me anything they want. I had a group of people (I still don't even know who they were) that for a long time, had cued in to my insecurities & were using them against me. After many years,I realised, it was life pointing out my fears so I could overcome them. Even for a while, they were telling people I was a dangerous person. I looked deep within & realised it was because I didn't trust myself. When I worked on that, they no longer could. Even if they did, & prior would treat me like I was a dangerous person, I was able to either shrug it off & walk away not giving a s*** or confront them by saying, what have I done to you? Why are you treating me this way? & they would back down.
I tell you, it all starts & ends with the Self. Whatever happens on the outside, first deal with fixing the inner first .
people have bullied me all my life, after so many years, I now realise blaming them was useless, I had to become strong & they no longer will. There was a guy who was always picked on, he started to take karate classes, soon after, people stopped picking on him.
Maybe I learnt it too late, but better late than never.
I must admit I clicked on this thinking it might be cheesy and pretentious. It wasn't - very well delivered. Plus, you gotta love the staring contest with the camera at the end. Awesome!
I've shamed myself so much over the years that it's hard for others to shame me. I'm learning to be Teflon man, so far so good.
Thanks 👍
It is important to recognize the image someone else is portraying of you and not to identify with that persona. Thank you for clarifying this for us. The peace and clarity of your talking make the message so easy to take in.
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I fully agree to the content of this very good lecture. We should not care about our ego or what other people think or talk about us. Only when we are authentic and accept ourselves as we are we cannot be offended by others. Whenever anybody shouts at me or is mean to me, I would always ask him politely: what’s wrong with you? do you have any problem? Have you had a bad day? Can I help you? Unfortunately there are many people in our modern society who are unhappy and they try to get rid of their negative feelings by aggressing others. But it’s them who have the real problems. Never forget this when somebody talks badly about you.
As for me, I am deeply hurting and I have anger and sadness... All the more reason for me NOT to hurt others and not to be rude to them! I was a victim of bullying, too. That taught me to stand up for others when they were being bullied.
You are a man with a heart of gold.
I absolutely love this channel. You're the real deal: an authentic source. I find myself coming back to your videos time and time again. There's much to learn from you. I'm looking forward to more videos to come. Keep em comin!
Thank you, Chase. I'm glad you're getting so much value from these videos. I'm happy to share and will continue to do so. Always remember that the greatest lessons come from life, and your greatest source of wisdom is within you. May you continue to learn and grow and awaken.
@@AwakenInsight :Althogh they do harm me, i e my chances of living and thriving and having the necessary basis for Earthly life, materially and socially. I get not just insulted, but threatened and afeared , since they have power over me and I depend upon their honesty, fairness, goodwill and mercy, and what they think, believe, feel, say, do and write about me leads to consequences what others then think, feel,do and say to and about me. When severely exposed, diseased, vulnerable, sleepless, lost, I am sure you would take it personally too if you were unexpectedly, unwarned and unrightly taken your home, good name, legal rights and money. This is an exceptional situation and i don't expect it to fit in your good talk. But my need of spirit- nerve-supporting soul-feeling- help to factually orientate and structure it correctly, in order to draw my conclusions, be able to think enough to set goals/intentions/will, form a realistic and feasible plan of action, and act balanced and powerfully enough to not risk further deadly stress and fatal abuse is dire and acute. If you understand and get any good idea at all towards my solution and rescue, I should be so grateful, relieved and glad
If yes maybe, please just Ask questions you may need in order to form a picture, advice and decision. If you can, will and do engage enough to find some useful advice or other help, You can get money or services/practical help from me.
Alternatively I also need, in order to be able to help myself,:
1.to get away from my refuge a little, come to someone warm and grounded with a room, a bed, a table,,a stove and maybe phone and PC, to get some day/night-rhythm sleep, daylight movement, eat my 3 meals a day, and get a rest from problems for ½ week undisturbed, inner work and meditation/mindfulness.
2. Learn to stop over-thinking, Meditation,
3. idiot-proof guiding lesson to use Zoom and Skype,3.. Can do and give many things and jobs in return if wanted.)
It has a lot to do with what sort of mood you are in. If feeling relaxed and chilled so much easier to deal with. But if stressed out then everything seems bigger and harder to take.
You are making the very point which underline that it is indeed our inner states( often asleep, or we are not conscious of it) the actual reason for us to take things personally. It's not to say we become doormat in case of further escalting arguments. (One shouldn't let this happen). It's actually to recognise our emotional scars we covering up while trying to be strong and argue back etc... We face those inner "cuts" coming from our past( often childhood or even prebirth) so we stand still from within, and we can now act the most adequately as opposed to emotional reactions that could make things worst.
So true.
That's why it's best to ghost as much as humanly possible. I was socially distancing long before the bug.
I think "ghosting " could be temporarily useful if one feels overwhelmed in a challenging situation. But, the key he is giving here is when he says :"you might also look within you to understand why you take it personally". This step, to me, is the difference between keeping our emotions inside like when we want to practice steps such as compassion etc, which eventually will lead to burnout when we face challenging situations over and over, no matter how much we are trying to be compassionate, understanding, wise, etc..., and becoming naturally and genuinely unphased in such situations because we have faced our own emotions and unconscious beliefs that were the reasons for taking words personally. Avoiding people in order to avoid conflicts and our inner emotions won't stop life to find a way to teach us what we need to learn.( Next it could be my neighbor that will make noise at night and police doesn't come). A colleague whom was often being really unfair and demanding with his Teaching Assistants, once had the same behaviour with me. I stood and faced him with momentarily self-confidence, but inside I was closed to burst and thought that was over. Next situations he " pressed" buttons that literally mirrored something from my passed and shattered my confidence. It was really mean. But I remembered to face my emotions ( TIPI technic is a great tool, free tutorials on UA-cam), which led me to feel hatred for the 1st time in my life, both towards somebody and myself!! What came up from that was the releasing of that past situations. I could now face even those emotions ( from escalated unfairness) without running away, or ignoring. I also felt a deep feeling of being thankful towards him for that attitude that I now consider a present, for real!
When you have a strong sense of self and you are not living for validation. When you realize that so many cope by projecting. When you leave others opinions where they belong you are free. Freedom is beautiful.
I’m critical of others, as I have very high standards. Happiness is not my goal. Sometimes I’m happy, sometimes not - it’s fleeting. My standards for my self and others never changes it’s the most certain thing in my life and gives my life great meaning.
So often harsh criticism says so much more about the critic than about their target. I find this a helpful perspective.
Bullies aren't always deeply unhappy. A lot of the time they bully for the fun of it or simply because they can
That seems to make sense
I had a group of students years ago that stated it was their job to remove the smile off of anyone's face...10 yo girls said this...😐
Nuns at the Catholic school were always bullying us kids!
True. Some are sadistic and revel in it.
His ending conclusion is very very good, I have listened to it several times. So much wisdom , that advice can shape one's life in such a way where it points to inner harmony and peace. It is how the "i dont' care" should be, not the way it is said by most people when instead they do care very much yet say that expression. It shouldn't even be about caring much. When someone criticizes you, look at what he is really saying, maybe points out room for improvement. In the same time, when someone is just mocking you low key, just know that inside him he feels the need to do it for various reasons, in order to feel better. By reacting calm as if you show him without words that you know why he does it, you will break through that person.
Every unloving behaviour is a call for Love 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 ...and the one who is being hurtful is usually unaware that they are, in fact, Calling out for Love 🙏🏼
Just goes to show. ..blending in..he actually stands out and shines so bright.
I would love to just sit next to him in his presence 💚
Everytime i listen to your posts, i always gain something. Even repeating the posts, a year on, i find an answer, a message to me that is relevant in my life atm.
Your posts and listening to Louise Hay, you have no idea how much you have helped me, and i have transformed. I love and accept myself now.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with such simplicity and ease. Its is truly appreciated 💗
Your messages are so profound. You are 'God-sent'. Thanks to you from the bottom of my heart.
I can confirm that what we don’t like in others is how WE ARE OURSELVES but don’t see it or can’t see it and we project it onto others who we think has that THING. we called it IF YOU SPOT IT YOU GOT IT. So when they give you a poor opinion in REALITY THEY JUST TOLD YOU HOW THEY ARE. They just announced to the world the way they see THEMSELVES.
Why be upset over somebody who tells you their flaws. ??? Plus. He’s allowed his opinions. They don’t need to match your opinions.
You know what I do when people are talking shit about me.
I LET THEM.
NOTHING. Absolutely nothing outside of me has any power whatsoever to dictate to me how I feel about myself. I’ve suffered enough. I don’t have the luxury to allow anyone to add ANY unpleasantness to my life. I let those guys talk bc talk bad about me bc they were right about it. Which is usually the case. But we all have our opinions and are free to express them. They all have equal weight. You can think me an ass and I disagree. You can say anything you want and I don’t have to care. It’s MY JOB to hate myself not theirs. Just who do they think they are. It’s My job to hate my quirks and imperfections and my fat. Now let’s talk about the reality of YOU incessantly ABUSING and beating the F out of an innocent child of Creation Itself. That’s Emotional Abuse and Psychologically Manipulating. But we are going to get through you today and reach that part of you that pretends things away that are the CAUSE of your Eternal sadness and that everpresent shadow of grief that is blending in with your consciousness so you feel there’s no way out of something you didn’t know you were in
Hey look. I can explain it to them but I can’t understand it for them OK?? I mean some times you just need to see that only YOUR opinion matters to you. Not everyone needs you to like them. Not everyone is going to like you. SOME PEOPLE WILL BE WRONG ABOUT WHY THEY DON’T LIKE YOU.
IT DOES NOT MEAN ANYTHING. YOUR THE CHOOSER OF WHAT STORY YOUR TELLING YOURSELF ABOUT REALITY.
A UNIVERSAL TRUTH IS EVERYTHING YOU SEE IS COMPLETELY NEUTRAL AND MEANINGLESS IN REALITY.
Then you come along and was unaware that hey. ITS ME WHO chooses the meaning of everything I see. It’s me who assigns the Value and meaning of everything I see. That anger is coming out of Them. That’s their anger. I Didn’t ever have anything to do w how they feel. I give no meaning to their opinions about themselves.
Now. Choose how you’d like to feel right now. Me, I’m going to aim for mild giddiness. Relaxed. Ok 👍 I’m done. I’m feeling better. And I just cannot allow anyone to add their unpleasantness to myself anymore. Let them do them I’m not falling for all that drama. I’m sorry I’m just not going to engage with you right now. I’m just not having it. If it ain’t here it ain’t here. So good luck 👍🍀 bye La la la me. My life matters to me and I’m not allowing you to hurt me any more. Words hurt bc of what they symbolize. Me I’m crying bc my mom and dad betrayed me. Even ghosted my birthday for the 1st time. My neice texted me was all my birthday was. My narcissist father emoji with a cake 🎂 the next day happy bday
He’s the one that my Every bday he’d sing in a computer monotone one note same note one note. Happy bda to you
Loud. Funny haha. Hurts. Now. Forgiveness isn’t an enigma anymore. It’s simply realizing that people in their Right Minds just don’t do those kinds of things. Right mind is simply not wanting to hurt people. He liked hurting me. And blame me for it. Well. It got me here. So it worked. HahHha. Maybe we really try to help eachother out. In heaven I’m choosing my parents and my dads PROMISED ME. He promised me that he would Wake me Up so help me God IF IT TAKES ME THE REST OF MY LIFE I WILL TRY TO WAKE YOU UP TO YOUR AUTHENTIC REAL SELF. My dad says I’m worthless I must investigate this.
He found wrong in all I did until I got better than perfect. And he couldn’t find anything wrong. He honed me to a T I’m proud of my work. It’s exceptionally good. And I know puffed up things get popped and still spoke with truth. My dad finally finding nothing wrong says IS THIS ALL YOU GOT DONE??? A narcissist can’t EVER accept ANYTHING YOU DO to be good enough. I forgive him he’s not in his right mind. Think back when you did something bad or wrong and you felt really bad inside and apologized. Or not. Just ONE ☝️ THING GOT IT? Would you do that now today? No of course not. Back then. Were you in your right mind? No so forgive yourself man. We are divine unique Beings of light and love and you cannot keep thinking less of yourself if your ever going to be of benefit to others. You don’t condone anything about your actions. They were terrible and wrong. But it’s you we care about you one crime gets one punishment. Then you leave it behind because a sane mind asks does this help me to be happy and shine which is your natural state and your love and happiness can bless a whole room of people and inspire them to think YEAH MAN THATS HOW ID LIKE TO FEEL. IF ONLY FOR TEN SECONDS IT WOULD BE A REPRIEVE FROM THIS SUFFERING. Make it a practice to look for and address the Light in others when you interact with them.
One of "The 4 Agreements"
That book is amazing!
The most important of the 4!
Yes, but he s giving an extra key when he says :"you might also look within you to understand why you take it personally". This step, to me, is the difference between keeping our emotions inside like when we want to practice steps such as "the 4 Agreements", which eventually will lead to burnout when we face challenging situations over and over, no matter how much we are trying to be compassionate, understanding, wise, etc..., and becoming naturally and genuinely unphased in such situations because we have faced our own emotions and unconscious beliefs that were the reasons for taking words personally. A colleague whom was often being really unfair and demanding with his Teaching Assistants, once had the same behaviour with me. And as I stood and faced him with momentarily self-confidence, he " pressed" buttons that literally mirrored something from my passed and shattered my confidence. It was really mean. But I remembered to face my emotions ( TIPI technic is a great tool, free tutorials on UA-cam), which led me to feel hatred for the 1st time in my life, both towards somebody and myself!! What came up from that was the release of that past situations, the fact that I could now face even unfairness without running away, or ignoring, and feeling thankful towards him for that attitude that I now consider a present, for real!
Needed this wonderful, true and very soul-changing topic reminder. Thank you so much 🌱✨☀️
Another thing most do not consider is that the "mean" person is not a victim themselves, but a psychopath, sociopath, or a narcissist. These people are extremely deceptive and extremely dangerous. This is another topic to consider covering as many people do not know how to properly deal with them.
Best video 😍😍
I want to have more friends like him or date a guy like him.
saaaaame! I was thinking how attractive he is because of his wisdom and self-awareness. He also seems genuinely kind.
Honestly we all do
@@BlackNella Yes, the personality and self-awareness. So rare!
@@devlevine2782 You all handful of people among millions.
@@BlackNella exactly, very attractive man
Something that has helped me tremendously with this is "It takes a victim to make a victim." This is something they learned at one point because they felt they needed to. Looked in the mirror.
Another good thing to remember is that however people try to define you is not about you. It's about them and their need to feel like they have a part of the world (you) figured out in some form or fashion because it makes them feel safer. It's nothing personal either way.
It took me up until this year to realize this. And it’s just so clear and I really do want to let go of the struggle of taking things personally and letting peoples comments / actions ruin my day so readily
EVERYTHING about this is just BEAUTIFUL.
Thank you ✨🙏🏾✨
Truer words were never spoken. I used to be a depressed and very negatvive person myself. But last week I started analyzing myself. My behavior towards others and myself, and It sunk in almost immediately (during metitation). I was a horrible and ungrateful human being. I knew then I really needed to change. Right after my 'awakening' a lot special and amzing things started happening to me all of the sudden. Like really, really, really amazing things. And I notice how people treat me now. So much more genuine than before, and I do believe that's because I treat them nicer. Plus I'm 100% happy for the first time since a very long time. I still don't know what happened to me exactly. It all went so fast and it came almost out of nowhere. Last tuesday I was still depressed, wallowing in self pity and the next day, after some soul searching I was happy. Loving life again, enjoying every little thing. I know I'm not there yet. There's always room for improvement, but it was kind of a great start... I think...
Anyway, your youtuby content is really inspirational! I absolutely love it! Have a lovely day, everyone.
The handsome God...💚💚. We love you. 💚💚💚.
I just found you tonight and love your content. Thank you for it and stay blessed.
"Its not who you really are "
"Then who are you really, what is the actual self that your referring to?"
@@MrFunMonk I agree with most of that, although the whole "i am nothing " thing doesn't really jive to well me, I lean more towards the I am a son of God belief of reality which would mean that I am something.
@@MrFunMonk what do you mean by " i am nothing " curious to see your clarification and interpretation of that phrase in itself. What is this nothing that "i am" ?...Are we not all inherently something as human beings existing?.... i feel like the mantra and idea of "i am nothing", is like trying to take the personality out of the person and I think that is where we start to lose our sense of self and perhaps lose the meaning of life in becoming a self. 🤔
Trying to portray some if my own thoughts, feelings, and experience here not sure how good it got across.
I love listening to this channel. Such a beautiful & Light energy. Normally, I can't focus long but can easily listen here. Thank you 🙏🏾
not taking it personally makes it less painful but if it threatens your job,then that's a whole different matter
Very well-said and clear. Thank you for sharing your energy and insight!
Don't take any notice of others opinions and don't let your ego rule you.watch out the ego really wants to be in charge. Great video, thanks.
‘Assuming a desperate need for power over others is often only weakness disguised as strength’
I’m listening to you again, THANK YOU FOR EXPLAINING ME TO MY OWN SUFFERING. From now on I will not allow any comments passed on to me, such as -criticism, false accusations, insults - by those who hurt my feelings to enter my image that they have created of me and the image I believed who I am. I have indeed succumbed to their way of thinking of me. Now I will erase all memories of bad comments that have been bottling in my mind since childhood. It’s been a difficult long journey so far. Yet, your explanation begins to sink in. Thank you.
To undermine another's suffering is the greatest offense.
Swami ji your voice is so relaxing & your message is simple to get absorbed by even the most agitated minds.Thanks
Thank you for adding to my journey of taking my power back through the awareness of this option. Your energy and background scenery are pleasing and I appreciate you and your work. Much love to you.
I love your positivity. Your energy is amazing.
Awsome!
So true! I once asked my physician do we ever stop learning, his reply, Not if we are lucky!!! Great content! Thank you!!
That WAS,so,so powerful. That's ME!Oh my heavens, THANKYOU, THANKYOU sincerely. That's like a Ton of bricks lifted off my back.😦
I’ve always said it.. if you empower the bully, make him/her feel great about themselves.. they will stop bullying
No, what you described Is called capitulation, sometimes is better to get away from those toxic people, shut them off, disconnect. If that is not possible, fight back. Never give in to their nasty behaviour,because you will be enabling them.
Awakened you are....so refreshing
Ugh you are just so self aware and aware of others feelings ...... U ARE SO AWESOME!
Thankyou for this wonderful teaching🌻
I needed to be reminded of this... As I get older I find my old anger rising... Gracias
A very deep from the heart 🙏. I am a very sensitive person. I feel every thing very strongly. But at the same time it does not take much to be happy too. Very small things make me happy. W like simple life simple food . But the way the society works is they judge you according to your possessions. Money marriage kids house pets cars. The more the merrier. A person who won’t have this is useless to the society. Even job interviews include some these questions. And when you don’t have them you feel less. And that’s where the problem begins......
If a person has a go at you it often means you remind them of someone who treated them poorly, like a parent , boss, teacher, etc . They could not say anything at the time but they are reminded of that person who impacts their life years later
This guy is very inspiring and gives me hope to finally hear another person speak and teach the same things that I have thought for a long time and has made me feel like a outsider too. So THANK YOU! For giving me the feeling of not being alone and misunderstood.
U need more subs man this content is so valuable. This really helps with my social anxiety problems and helps me loosen up more with other people. I really appreciate you.
I have the same problem. Having insecurity, thinking that i’m just a wallflower, uninteresting, boring; and being too concerned about what other people think of me. I forget to just enjoy myself and the company of other people.
Very valuable your content. A deep thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Last time, i tried hard to make things happen. Now, i let i happen. Whether it happen or not, i have decided to be happy no matter who is in my life or not. Ever since i focused on doing things that make me happy, i don't really bother about other people's behaviour. I am happy doing what i like . In the process, i have learnt to counter give in the same way i was treated.
Your heart is harmonicly connected with your brain. Wish every person could experience this state and stay in it ...
I am so glad I have found this channel. Words can't explain my deep appreciation. This has really helped me.
Loved this! Ironically I just read a really negative youtube comment on my channel. I laughed it off and thought it wasn't personal. Then this popped up! Too good! Thanks ♥ and much love!
Wonderful. Love and light to you brother.
Wow, the second half, the imagery of a 'drawing' of yourself and someone altering that drawing.... Important stuff.
It is hard to practice but truly Being offended is a choice...
I do take things too personally . That's just how I'am !! I'm a very sensitive person.
Verrrry valuable videos
Wow i'm so enlightened. Wtf, i just want to hug everyone that bullied me in school.
this post may be 4 yrs old but it is so fresh. thankyou💚
Very useful in present day generation.
People can be selfish and not even realize how they are effecting others.
Very freeing and healing
I really needed this reminder today. Thank you ❤️☀️ bless
Your worth and respect do not come from other people, ever! Your worth and respect come from how you respond. It is easy to be kind, when they are kind. But can YOU be kind, when they are not?
You hold the keys to your power. If you feel anything other than peace, your keys are being held by someone or something else.
Many blessings to you. Our journey is the purpose of life, not necessarily where we are trying to arrive.
I let my shadow take all the blame and also do all the quarreling for me.
Yo I was j u s t feeling disrespected about unnecessary criticism I received, this message came in perfect timing
2nd agreement of The Four Agreements so true and great book
Very articulate explain8ng
I was raised by an enabling co-depend and a narcissist. It's hard to trust my judgement when it comes to what people say.
Trust your gut. Does it feel good, warm or cold and tight. Even an uncomfortable osservation comunicated with love can feel seen and helpful, an osservation without love is a critic, judgment and talks of the other. Don't know if I am clear? Does it make sense to you?
@@christinepetzholtz9019 It actually does and most recently I've found regardless of weather I can trust my judgement of the external my internal steers me where I need to be. Hey thanks for the observant comment, hope your well. :)
@@peehandshihtzu Thanks for the good wishes. Getting better on the path of trusting my own truth...and happy that it seems the same for you.
@@christinepetzholtz9019 Yes, I mean I know my path is a bit of a rocky one but it doesn't have to be that way getting there. I'm glad as well for the both of us, Thank You. :)
Peehard Shitzu: Yes. Maybe look at Richard Grannon's free video work here,or someone else to our liking? He explains things like no other I know, and tells it as it is, and understands procrastination and resistance to change. AND has gone through it himself.
About others' comments,I don't want to miss out on any useful information on or mirroring of myself about blind spots I ought to consider. And I often can't in the moment discern whether what they say is in fact useful or subjective, unfounded, irrelevant, misconceived or abusive.Most people haven't got to know me and didn't check their facts about me /situation before commenting.That is so stressful and tiring. So I hide isolate to not die from energy-loss in an impossible situation.