Narcissist put you in so much of self doubt that it really need equal amount of time you spend with them to get out of this. Najwa Zebian thankyou for such, you are incredible.
You scare me trully😢😢🤯😱 Hope you'r wrong or it means for me that I never be Well.... I grew up with a very toxic father and had abusive friends ( women as much 😢) and only 3 long time relationships, all Narcs and I all my life was marked by it.... It feels like a Curse... Like in Matrix every one could become an agent, I had the same feeling, people become narcist.... Or the leaders can't support me ( hate at first sight 😢 ). Now I know my problems and I hope to be able to cure enough for a chance to have energy to moove, learn, practice art, have a few real friends and a big dog. Because I'm so far from it. I feel tired most of the time, I go out twice a week for food and maybe I meet some One, but it cust a lot more energy....Rest of the time I'm in my room with the cat 😺 try to moove and stretch, but most of the time I calm my self, watch videos like this One, write, feel my emotions, cry, meditate with EMDR AUDIO, witch I had good results, especialy more energy and able to do some thing. I have to moove out from the flatsharing with my ex who is a Covert Narc I was with during 8 years and as flatsharing since 2020.... And my energy Level is too low too moove out. I do the best no contact I can, it is easy, I don't want to see and hear him 🤮. The first step was boudaries he pushed me to put, big tantrum I was like an outside watcher and He was Ridiculous. Since if he makes a tantrum I become a Wall (his terme) Amazing how he doesn't like it. No the worst he Scream and leave the flat. I protect my money and watch for weakness in order to put the boundaris I NEED TO PUT for feel less fear. Since I act with my new power He does respect me and didn't Shout at me for neer two month, AMAZING. I'M still scared but not in front of him 🤔 but in Between 😬..... I trust the process and I have juste to watch the FACTS. Dr. Ramani explained that she doesn't try to change the impression, that her work would be missliked, every time she show her work for the first time. That for her she doesn't feel the nececity to put that much energy and accept that this belong to her personnality.
The memory of the loving trustworthy person . The way they keep you is by confusing you, that makes you question yourself . “ That person they were at the beginning never existed “ ! That’s spot on and very difficult to accept as you don’t know what is real in this world and how to live in this world . Thank you ❣️
She is the first person that truly captures the truth of what to do to heal and provides the harsh truth without sugarcoating anything ❤I really appreciate this video. This has helped so much in healing from a past traumatic relationship
thank you so much for this najwa. Ive never been so lost and confused after a breakup with narcissist. He said my empathy is a weakness, im too sensitive and many other things that makes me hates myself. And even after breakup i felt guilty.
“1. Is this what peace feels like, or just the absence of them being angry? 2. Is it just that I did everything right today so they have no reason to be upset with me? 3. Is this what true belonging feels like?” Floored me. I used to think I had such peace when we were happy. But it was like clinging to a raft between storms, exhausted and relieved. It never lasted long.
She's on point about narcissism. That's exactly what it feels. A big FUCK YOU to my ex. Go get therapy instead of hurting people to the core. They tell us to "work on ourselves" when they're the ones with a deep disorder. They're THAT delusional. She's right on that we were discerning correctly and that they gaslight you and confuse the hell out of you to the point you start doubting your discernment. If someone tells me I'm being sensitive ever again, I'll seriously punch them. That's how angry these abusers make you after you understand all these things she explains in the video. You feel duped, manipulated, used. How would that not make you angry as you heal. We are the ones who end up in therapy instead of the perpetrator. Edit: I believe my ex really wanted to see me hurt. He tried to hurt me in the past by making up a cheating story just to spite me and I didn't see it for what it was because of the manipulation. You're so deep in the fog, believing that who they are is what they presented at first. Then when someone looked his way for the first time, he cheated and rubbed it in. That to me, is spiteful. I rightfully called him selfish. So I was right about almost everything from the start... Ugh. I wish I never met him! It's such a disgrace that this disorder exists.
I had no memorys, without feeling amnesic, but there was a thick fog that fade away with the informations I get from you and than with the ones I gett from the insights.... In 6 month my inner life changed more than in years ❤
The "Closure Part* Najwa stated is Incredible TRUTH. You 2 are mutually connected throughout this video~ professional yet keeping light hearted. Who is gentleman interviewing?
Thank you so much ❤❤❤ I feel impowered I may be broken but the pain motivated me to Overcome Fears I would not have without the fear of living with that pain and let it take, suck life out of me. But without knowing what I discover Here and within that marvelous Community I realy feel I belong to. I listen to so much empathic, giving, intelligent people and think about the millions of folowers of videos like this, like me AND IT GIVES ME HOPE FOR HUMANITY IT HAS TO STOP!! Even if they good for business and improvement. I don't like the way we improved and we don't need to be that improved for the outside and loose the knowledge of Our Inner world. Even if I struggeled to understand mentaly I let my Radar guide me because I was lost Between what I was seeing, feeling and hearing didn't match. Those videos gives sense to my life and why I could not get it 😮
I don't understand narcissism by any means to be honest. I've tried to figure out if I'm a narcissist and if I've dated a narcissist... All I know is I'm trying to better myself at this point and that's it.
The wisdom of this young woman! Thank you for the interviews you have been doing. Seems like something only a young cheated on woman would watch but I’m a 45 year old male coming out of a 22 year relationship and this gives me a whole different way of looking at the failure of it. I do see my side in it and am constantly stuck there. What I could’ve done different. A lot I know, but to deserve what I got. No definitely not. Can’t say this stops that but gave me another way to look at it.
I closed my eyes and thought back to Feb. We sat in the bed, both 3 feet apart, headphones in. I would reach over to say good night and he just kept playing on his phone games. It feels cold, empty and unpeaceful. Powerful stuff.
@@wisdomdantecourt8179 it sure didn't! I slept ON his chest. We separated in May. I sleep well, eat well and have peace. A big empty bed, but peace. lol
Lol...sir, would you not leave a relationship if it was one sided on your part and YOU felt unwanted, disrespected, ignored, insulted, or worse by your partner's measurable behavior over a long period of time?
Najwa you’re are very helpful! Such advices that most part of the time we don’t realise. Your advices and every interviews I have watched help me a lots. And continue to do so👍🌸
What to do when, some body who broke you came into your life to rebuild the trust with you with your consent. In the process the set their boundaries and you trying to know what's happening with them constantly through out the day?
My UKR wife made life plans looking each other in the eyes for hours. We made flights to to meet in Denver from different departing cities….. She abandoned me and flew to India to meet another man!!! Unreal … story only got worst and worst. It’s so EVIL
Do you consider any scenario ever understandable/justified to cheat?. Imagine you are in a bad and toxic relationship, your esteem is low, you are stuck and you find it hopeless to leave. You see an opportunity to take care of yourself. Is it black an white, right or wrong? Or do certain scenario's maybe allow you to be rightfully thinking of your intimacy needs, yourself? I think certain people can get stronger if they after so many years of neglecting themselves and being neglected to start thinking again of themselves. Is it morally right? Maybe not 100%, is it then morally wrong? I don't think so. Should we shame those who just want to try to make back a step towards personal care and freedom? This statement is not in defense of serial or opportunistic cheaters but i guess for those who are surpressed, abused, controlled,... by mild or heavy malignant or just ignorant people. "Just leave then" is just sometimes easier said then done...
Cheating is not only with someone else but cheating emotionally, taking for granted and investing emotionally psychologically one sided.
Narcissist put you in so much of self doubt that it really need equal amount of time you spend with them to get out of this. Najwa Zebian thankyou for such, you are incredible.
Well-said 👏 she truly is 🤗
So true, ....
You scare me trully😢😢🤯😱
Hope you'r wrong or it means for me that I never be Well.... I grew up with a very toxic father and had abusive friends ( women as much 😢) and only 3 long time relationships, all Narcs and I all my life was marked by it.... It feels like a Curse... Like in Matrix every one could become an agent, I had the same feeling, people become narcist.... Or the leaders can't support me ( hate at first sight 😢 ).
Now I know my problems and I hope to be able to cure enough for a chance to have energy to moove, learn, practice art, have a few real friends and a big dog.
Because I'm so far from it. I feel tired most of the time, I go out twice a week for food and maybe I meet some One, but it cust a lot more energy....Rest of the time I'm in my room with the cat 😺 try to moove and stretch, but most of the time I calm my self, watch videos like this One, write, feel my emotions, cry, meditate with EMDR AUDIO, witch I had good results, especialy more energy and able to do some thing.
I have to moove out from the flatsharing with my ex who is a Covert Narc I was with during 8 years and as flatsharing since 2020.... And my energy Level is too low too moove out.
I do the best no contact I can, it is easy, I don't want to see and hear him 🤮.
The first step was boudaries he pushed me to put, big tantrum I was like an outside watcher and He was Ridiculous. Since if he makes a tantrum I become a Wall (his terme) Amazing how he doesn't like it. No the worst he Scream and leave the flat. I protect my money and watch for weakness in order to put the boundaris I NEED TO PUT for feel less fear.
Since I act with my new power He does respect me and didn't Shout at me for neer two month, AMAZING.
I'M still scared but not in front of him 🤔 but in Between 😬.....
I trust the process and I have juste to watch the FACTS.
Dr. Ramani explained that she doesn't try to change the impression, that her work would be missliked, every time she show her work for the first time. That for her she doesn't feel the nececity to put that much energy and accept that this belong to her personnality.
I have my answer🎉
I don't need to Cure completely and I have donne a big work on me, I see it waching videos, ohh I'm not like that enymore 🎉❤❤❤
The memory of the loving trustworthy person . The way they keep you is by confusing you, that makes you question yourself . “ That person they were at the beginning never existed “ ! That’s spot on and very difficult to accept as you don’t know what is real in this world and how to live in this world . Thank you ❣️
Here right now… 3 years
Cant help but to watch this and feel validated in so many ways, you're a true gem to the world. Thank you for your poignant insights
I just got out of a abusive relationship with a narcissist…. Thank you i really needed to hear this.
She is the first person that truly captures the truth of what to do to heal and provides the harsh truth without sugarcoating anything ❤I really appreciate this video. This has helped so much in healing from a past traumatic relationship
So glad to hear that 🥹 and I agree Najwa is amazing
thank you so much for this najwa. Ive never been so lost and confused after a breakup with narcissist. He said my empathy is a weakness, im too sensitive and many other things that makes me hates myself. And even after breakup i felt guilty.
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Stay the course. No contact. You will heal. Trust me i did. I know how hard it is. Empathy is your gift. Share it with people that value it and you❤
“1. Is this what peace feels like, or just the absence of them being angry?
2. Is it just that I did everything right today so they have no reason to be upset with me?
3. Is this what true belonging feels like?”
Floored me. I used to think I had such peace when we were happy. But it was like clinging to a raft between storms, exhausted and relieved. It never lasted long.
Thank you for summarizing some of the points, and thank you for sharing. We hope the episode was informative/healing 🫶🏻✨
Not me crying. Najwa saving my whole life these days. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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She's on point about narcissism. That's exactly what it feels. A big FUCK YOU to my ex. Go get therapy instead of hurting people to the core. They tell us to "work on ourselves" when they're the ones with a deep disorder. They're THAT delusional. She's right on that we were discerning correctly and that they gaslight you and confuse the hell out of you to the point you start doubting your discernment. If someone tells me I'm being sensitive ever again, I'll seriously punch them. That's how angry these abusers make you after you understand all these things she explains in the video. You feel duped, manipulated, used. How would that not make you angry as you heal. We are the ones who end up in therapy instead of the perpetrator.
Edit: I believe my ex really wanted to see me hurt. He tried to hurt me in the past by making up a cheating story just to spite me and I didn't see it for what it was because of the manipulation. You're so deep in the fog, believing that who they are is what they presented at first. Then when someone looked his way for the first time, he cheated and rubbed it in. That to me, is spiteful. I rightfully called him selfish. So I was right about almost everything from the start... Ugh. I wish I never met him! It's such a disgrace that this disorder exists.
God Bless you. going through a difficult time in life. What you've said, gives me so much clarity... to move on.
The cultural conditioning is like water to a fish. Bless you for your work and this conversation!
What a beautiful way of putting this 👏
I had no memorys, without feeling amnesic, but there was a thick fog that fade away with the informations I get from you and than with the ones I gett from the insights.... In 6 month my inner life changed more than in years ❤
Just 22k views?
I litreally googled for this interview, thank you miss Najwa and yalla lets talk for this video!!
The "Closure Part* Najwa stated is Incredible TRUTH. You 2 are mutually connected throughout this video~ professional yet keeping light hearted. Who is gentleman interviewing?
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@@yallaletstalk What is your name? I Commend you as being so gentleman like as you interview!
Thank you so much ❤❤❤
I feel impowered
I may be broken but the pain motivated me to Overcome Fears I would not have without the fear of living with that pain and let it take, suck life out of me.
But without knowing what I discover Here and within that marvelous Community I realy feel I belong to.
I listen to so much empathic, giving, intelligent people and think about the millions of folowers of videos like this, like me AND IT GIVES ME HOPE FOR HUMANITY
IT HAS TO STOP!! Even if they good for business and improvement. I don't like the way we improved and we don't need to be that improved for the outside and loose the knowledge of Our Inner world.
Even if I struggeled to understand mentaly I let my Radar guide me because I was lost Between what I was seeing, feeling and hearing didn't match.
Those videos gives sense to my life and why I could not get it 😮
Thank you so much for sharing 🙏
I don't understand narcissism by any means to be honest.
I've tried to figure out if I'm a narcissist and if I've dated a narcissist...
All I know is I'm trying to better myself at this point and that's it.
❤Najwa~Thanks for your Lovely, Gentle, Inner Wisdom of Truth. Looking forward to reading your books WELCOME HOME, TRUST YOUR( my) SELF & Letting GO🎉
Najwa is truly incredible 🤗
@@yallaletstalk Amen Sir
The wisdom of this young woman! Thank you for the interviews you have been doing. Seems like something only a young cheated on woman would watch but I’m a 45 year old male coming out of a 22 year relationship and this gives me a whole different way of looking at the failure of it. I do see my side in it and am constantly stuck there. What I could’ve done different. A lot I know, but to deserve what I got. No definitely not. Can’t say this stops that but gave me another way to look at it.
I closed my eyes and thought back to Feb. We sat in the bed, both 3 feet apart, headphones in. I would reach over to say good night and he just kept playing on his phone games. It feels cold, empty and unpeaceful. Powerful stuff.
....and of course, it didn't start out that way. That's what is so effed up! Love-bomb be dammed!
@@wisdomdantecourt8179 it sure didn't! I slept ON his chest. We separated in May. I sleep well, eat well and have peace. A big empty bed, but peace. lol
Whew, what a great episode! It spoke to me in so many ways 🙌🏾
their ammo is CONFUSION PREACH
@@SagAqua8 what does that even mean? 😅
@@SagAqua8 oh yes! I read it differently haha. Absolutely facts 💯
Every second of this video hurt 💔
Sending you lots of love ❤️
Hello 🎉
First time here , love what I see and hear ❤
Push the notification and folow you, be aware 😂😂
Yeah no thanks. A strong woman will leave automatically if she feels unwanted❤❤❤
Lol...sir, would you not leave a relationship if it was one sided on your part and YOU felt unwanted, disrespected, ignored, insulted, or worse by your partner's measurable behavior over a long period of time?
Not her reading my current situation in the first 2 minutes 😅
Najwa you’re are very helpful! Such advices that most part of the time we don’t realise. Your advices and every interviews I have watched help me a lots. And continue to do so👍🌸
Had Narcissists in my life in teen years
Eww didn't even realise I was abused
Thank you 🙏
I feel this, it is so familiar.....
What to do when, some body who broke you came into your life to rebuild the trust with you with your consent. In the process the set their boundaries and you trying to know what's happening with them constantly through out the day?
I'm 53 and had narcs from the begining of my life... Does I Radical have to Accept that I never be over it?
🎉I Delight when you have US...☆ASK OUR-SELF Questions. I do this thru journaling to God🎉
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My UKR wife made life plans looking each other in the eyes for hours. We made flights to to meet in Denver from different departing cities….. She abandoned me and flew to India to meet another man!!! Unreal … story only got worst and worst. It’s so EVIL
Thank you
Do you consider any scenario ever understandable/justified to cheat?. Imagine you are in a bad and toxic relationship, your esteem is low, you are stuck and you find it hopeless to leave. You see an opportunity to take care of yourself. Is it black an white, right or wrong? Or do certain scenario's maybe allow you to be rightfully thinking of your intimacy needs, yourself? I think certain people can get stronger if they after so many years of neglecting themselves and being neglected to start thinking again of themselves. Is it morally right? Maybe not 100%, is it then morally wrong? I don't think so. Should we shame those who just want to try to make back a step towards personal care and freedom? This statement is not in defense of serial or opportunistic cheaters but i guess for those who are surpressed, abused, controlled,... by mild or heavy malignant or just ignorant people. "Just leave then" is just sometimes easier said then done...
❤ this
we all know what the penalty for cheating is
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