TELLING MY PARENTS AND MY BROTHER IM PREGNANT!!!
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- Опубліковано 21 вер 2018
- This video was filmed before announcing it to youtube.
In this video, I share with you all how i told my parents(mom and dad) and my brother im pregnant. Im sure my mom thought it was a pregnancy prank lol but of course it wasnt.
Please share you stories on how you told your parents and sibling, Did they believe you, were they disappointed or did they already know before you told them?
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Most ppl wouldn’t have posted their parents’ reaction if it was not positive. I commend you for being honest.
Yes! I have a whole new respect for her. This was so real.
I totally agree!
Me too I commend her immensely because telling Caribbean parents a big secret like this yo it's not easy.
I’m glad you posted this. Not everyone has a glamorous reveal. This is real life
drislandgirl that’s exactly what I was thinking watching.. so pure
Took the words outta my mouth! It was so authentic - whether or not the parents / family were happy, you spoke her truth. I honestly feel that most of these type of vids on YT are edited or don't reveal how people reeeeally felt!
When I told my parents siblings, my parents weren't happy either. They wanted me to wait to have kids, but it happened so they've accepted the pregnancy now🙂. I'm 13 weeks now and my boyfriend and I are still doing good together. I wish you the best of luck as well! (I'm 23 years old)
Yes real life
I never wanted to disappoint my Dad growing up. I planned to wait until marriage to have kids. As a child never seen myself having kids. Lost my virginity to the wrong guy at 19. Things with him didn't last. I lost myself in that relationship. In the mist of my broken heart I met my now husband. We go involved so quickly that I became pregnant early in the relationship. Breaking the news to my dad was hard. He picked me up from work that night and i broke it to him that i was pregnant. Only he knew bc he finished my sentence. 😒 Fast forward 7 months later I lost my baby by stillbirth. Just 1 month after being proposed to. The death of our child together brought us closer. We knew we had to make things right with God first. We married 8 months later. 1 day after our wedding we found out we were expecting another. Now 8 years and 4 kids later we have a beautiful family and an amazing story to tell. ✨
May God to continue to bless you!!!
Look at God! Blessings to you! Wow! You are soooo strong
Bless you and your family.
Caribbean mothers man. One day they upset with you and they not talking to you. The next day they want to know everything and help you and take over your life
Lol
Do you have a camera in my house...🙄 lol
😂😂😂 Not just Carribean mothers....but those old skool African American mothers...mine to be exact😭😂😂😂 She's the takeover queen...and my sisters all follow her lead like bees😂 This is why I live miiiiiles away
Lol a lot of moms I guess.
@@NaturallyKoilyKuteness78 lol
I did it the “right” way and I ended up getting a divorce. After my last marriage I vowed to never live to the standards of others again. Years later I found my new husband but I got pregnant while we were engaged. Now we’re 6 years in and expecting our second child together. I grew up in a strict Trinidadian household so I’m sure I understand what you went through. Congrats on the baby and much blessings to you guys 💕
Im 28 and still single cant get pregnant when you cant get a date.
PurpleReign 413 I come from an extremely strict st.lucian family and I can understand u. sadly I had a miscarriage this year and my family still didn't go lightly on me
SAme for me I got married and was a virgin to a well known evangelist in my church and it resulted in a divorce that I filed because he was let’s just say not that “nice” and he told me straight he was not going to change so do you boo
I'm 38 and still a virgin, which I'm totally glad to be. However, I cannot have children as I had a hysterectomy 11 years ago. So, whenever marriage happens, we cannot have kids. Hopefully, he'll be okay with that.
Sorry to hear that! Did you want children?
You will find someone who will be okay with it 😊
I did want children. I have godchildren. One of them is seriously my twin (hair, personality, and all). But I want to be healthy and alive. I had severe endometriosis and a large fibroid in my uterus. My last cycle before the surgery lasted for over 9 months straight. It never stopped... So, my uterus and cervix were removed. The BRIGHT SIDE is NO MORE PERIODS.
@@ShaniqueBuntyn he won't really have a choice...😂😂
Lol
I hope I can make this story quick. I was 18 graduated high school and was working. I was just home in the Virgin Islands for a year before I planned to return to college in Miami when I found out I was pregnant. My mom was livid when she found out. She was so upset she told my dad and he was upset for maybe two seconds. But my mom told me I had ruined my life and she was so disappointed. She didn’t speak to me for six months of my pregnancy which was so hard for me. Fast forward I’m six months pregnant and one day she calls me at work and asked what I would like for dinner. After that it was royal treatment from there on. She actually used to lotion my feet once I got too big to bend. After he was born one night we spent the night away from the house when he was about four months old. When we got back I came home to her in bed cuddled up with his pillow how she missed him so much. Fast forward 25 years that is still her favorite grand child I have my masters degree and I am a successful manager at my job. Still not married and don’t ever plan to be. Who knew!
Wow I loved this story!!❤️
awwwww
Di DaBossChic
I think Caribbean mom's don't know how to express some feeling so they act it out. Although my mom was ignoring me through my pregnancy, she came to the hospital and annoyed me until she witness my twins daughters' birth. But she always made my breakfast and was upset when I didn't finish all my food. If only they would let it all out quickly and get over it. God is in control of things.
Lol! I’m from St. Croix. Caribbean parents are something else 😂
I am pregnant now. No thoughts on marriage. I'm not sure that I want to be married at all. My first pregnancy,I had a stillborn, but my mom was excited. My dad, not so much. He went off on me because I wasn't married and after my son died, he said "well I guess you can get back to your goals". That crushed me so he doesn't know that I am pregnant now. I'll tell him when the baby actually comes. My mom is SUPER excited because she took my loss almost as hard as I did.
Vanessa Sorry for your loss. May you have all the emotional support you need at this time.
@@Bkrunz thank you! I'm nearing the end and I have a lot more support this time than I did before 😊
Peace and much healing to you always
I’m also pregnant again after my first being stillborn, it’s a hard thing to go through. Sending so many blessings and so much positivity your way 💗
❤️❤️
Your bro didn’t even care😂😂 men are something else
Lol seriously.. he said he’s known for months
@@ShaniqueBuntyn LOL
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I'm married and pregnant, my mom was very excited. However I'm sure she would have killed me if I got pregnant before marriage 😂 Caribbean parents do not play lol
I definitely want to be married first and have a solid foundation first before children. You are doing well for yourself so far amd you guys are getting married so all is well. Everything in it's time 💕
NoOrdinaryGirl
Same for me!
Me too without that commitment I couldn't dream of having children.
Like marriage makes any difference
True.
E Wynn A Christ centered God ordained marriage makes ALL the difference.
I got married first found out a month before our 1 year wedding anniversary. Now we are about to celebrate our 3rd anniversary and I have a 13 month old son and I'm almost 15 weeks with our second.
I got married then had kids. Unfortunately I lost my first baby (miscarriage) but God blessed me with another. Congrats to you again☺. I pray you have a smooth rest of your pregnancy
Caribbean parents. I’m 9 weeks and I haven’t told anyone except husband of course. Waiting for the first trimester to be over. We’ve been married for 13 yrs though. We always get “when are you gonna have kids” question. I knew I wanted to be married before I had a baby though. Guess it’s the Christian mentality even though I don’t attend church regularly. TFS!
Latoya Williams congratulations!! I’m so happy for y’all! May you have a blissful pregnancy and delivery! My hubby and I are going on only two years and I am beyond tired of answering that question. I’m planning on waiting until I am least three months along to tell my family when I’m expecting (God Willing)
Waiting until marriage is the way God wants us to do it, but all children are blessings.
I agree.
Deanna Williamson truth 👌
Deanna Williamson Your White god isn’t real .
Deanna Williamson - That's just religious nonsense. Plenty of people waited until marriage, but now they're divorced and raising kids as a single parent. So that's not exactly a foolproof plan. Religion is merely a tool used to control the masses, and boy does it work. Not to mention claiming that it's what "god" wants is extremely vague because different people believe in different gods, yet every group is certain theirs is the only real one. Just a bunch of folks blindly believing what they've been taught instead of using independent thinking.
@@Kindred04 it's amazing how anti religion activists are able to convert ANYTHING to a religious debate
I have 3 boys, I wanted to get married, but he didn’t want to get married, I had kids by the wrong person! I got abuse and mental abuse, I life was a living hell, my kids father left his kids, so sad! I met someone after all these years and he loves me and kids and we are getting married in December of this year! Thank you for sharing my whole family was not happy at all, I was so young when I got pregnant etc! I never had a father
Wow thank you for sharing that! I’m glad you met the right person!
Lovely Dove Congratulations and best wishes to you all ❤️
I believe in going by the book and didn’t want to disappoint anyone in my family. So now i am at the Marriage stage....eventually we will get into starting the family stage.
I got married.. Then children but then divorced. I was the best single parent because I was happy. Live your life..
Amen to that, sis!
Lucile Vinson I really like your comment because people tend to be so closed minded and strict on marriage, House, then baby.. but people change as life progresses and not everyone can handle the pressure of change. And marriage isn’t always a guaranteed success. As young women yes it’s always a goal to do things the “right” way but life isn’t a fairytale. You just never know when another persons emotions, opinion, view of life is involved. We can only HOPE and PRAY that we’re making the right choices... you know ...
Yes ma'am. Gotta live life sometimes that's not how life pans out. Everyone kept trying to get me to marry the father of my boys because it was God's way but I didn't bother doing that because I knew he wasn't who I was supposed to be with. Things kept being revealed to me in dreams. I ended up listening to those things and was right.We ended up separating a year after we had our second child. Almost 7 years later I met who was meant to be in my life and don't regret not marrying their father because it would've been a waste of time and a front just to make everyone happy. That was something I wasn't willing to do.
I am in my twenties. I have a job no children yet. I want to get married first and then have my first children.
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Smart girl ♥️
Agree with you 100%
Your words are rather refreshing. I hope you have much success and joy on your path.
I did it both ways... my oldest daughter was planned but I was not married. And that was a terrible situation for me, financially and emotionally. Because her dad was not dad or husband material. I think deep down I knew that, but felt like I was getting old (27 at the time 🙄) and we had been together 10 years already. THE WORST!! Children need both parents actively involved in EVERY way. So I vowed to NOT have more kids without being in a Healthy marriage first. I met my now husband and we waited till marriage to do EVERYTHING! We had 2 more children together and this has been THE BEST situation, totally different. But ppl should do what they feel is best for them. All My family was happy with all pregnancies though. Cause I was well established early in life. Congrats to you and Good Luck!!!
Babies are blessings and it shouldn't matter what order they enter our lives (e.g. before or after marriage). You are in love, you are happy, you have a new house and a new car... you are doing very well. You're right, you have definitely accomplished a lot! Very inspirational. Keep doing you and congrats! xx
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Responding to this particular comment. Not a true statement. Look at statistics, the condition of our society, family and children. It does matter and it needs to be after marriage.
Rhonda L - You act as if marriage is some kind of 100% guarantee. Sadly, people get divorced all the time. Waiting until marriage doesn't automatically mean that the couple and their kids are going to magically live happily ever after. So many of the responses here seem to be from people who are either brainwashed by religion, or self righteous people claiming to know what's right for everyone and pretending to be morally superior. I don't even have kids, but I find all if this righteous indignation to be incredibly annoying.
@@Kindred04 well nothing is fool proof. A lot of people become high school or college drop outs- does that mean we shouldn't get an education? No. It is healthier when a child grows up with a mother and father who are married and in a healthy, happy relationship. However, it's not the end of the world to get pregnant out of wedlock. It's just preferable to wait until marriage
I just found out I was pregnant last week and I told my family and certain people said they already knew and some said they had the “fish dream”
HAHA!!! Your brother just killed the fun lol he was so calm😂
Ugh I know! Lol
I love your transparency! So happy for you and D! I was 27 and unmarried when I had my son. His father and I married less than 2 years later. Life happens 🤷🏾♀️ lol. As long as you wake up another day to live it, you're winning!!!
At this age, almost 32. I want to get married but if it doesn’t happen I wouldn’t be sad about it.......I definitely definitely want to be a mother whether I’m married or not.
SerenelyDee me too darling, am 33
Tell you two what?marriage comes sweeties.to some earlier.to others later.the bottom line is to pray to get a happy partner for a happy marriage.forget about age.tell you what,age is just a number and you are as old as you think you are.
I wasnt married. My mom isn't really religious, I was 22, lived on my own, paid all my own Bill's, had a decent job & my mom still stopped talking to me for a whole week after I told her 😂. Then she came around & was super grandma. Enjoy your blessing
My folks are African, so for me I already know my mum would flip if I wasn't married first.
Sheesh, she started warning me about pregnancies from 6yrs old 🙄😂 and no boys. Put the fear of God in me I tell ya
Marriage doesn't guarantee anything, some people are married and are miserable, as long as you are happy so be it
Exactly
And what about "divorce"😒 honestly they act like once you're married all gets sooo well.
I completely agree! My parents have been together for 30+ yrs with 3 now grown children and they never walked down the aisle.
My fiancé and i have 1 (20 months old) and 1 (31 weeks gestational) on the way and we’ve been together going on 5 yrs. I’m hoping to accomplish those yrs and extreme overall happiness.
It doesnt, but neither does college. It doesn't mean you shouldn't do it though.
@@ilovecinnamonrolls8532 It's not about guaranteeing anything. 🙄🤦🏾♀️Marriage is about commitment. It's a covenant you make with another person. This generation and society is the mooooost jacked up. (To put it plainly). And we wonder why?? There is no respect for family or marriage anymore and the poor results are obvious. And yet ppl still don't get it. Sad...
My oldest sister and I had planned to take my mom out dinner to tell her my sister was pregnant, this was my sister's 3rd baby, but because my mom was a minister we were scared to tell her... So we go to the house to pick up our mom and she gets in the car and was like Tina is pregnant and I'm glad I get a free meal 😂😂😂!! We were so scared, but my mom reassured us that everyone makes mistakes and that it's not a big deal!! We had our whole speech ready and everything!!!
LOL
@@ShaniqueBuntyn I never hid anything else lolol
Danielle Lol, that was funny, but mama’s always usually just know.
"Everyone makes mistakes" I hate when people say that. No pregnancy, planned or unplanned should be deemed as such. Might have been bad timing for the parents but it's never bad timing for god. We all have a purpose here on earth
Tina is pregnant and I'm glad I get a free meal😂🤣😂🤣 I was scared to tell my mom as well. I told her over the phone and it did NOT go well at all! She didnt speak to me for months since I refused to terminate my pregnancy.She asked me why I wanted to ruin my life like this.That was 14years ago my Son is her favorite person ever
Discovered pregnancy in April. Found out I’m carrying twins 👶🏾👶🏾🙏🏾 at first doctor’s appointment in May!! Engaged in June. 💍 Revealed pregnancy, twins, & engagement on Father’s Day to fam. Brother, like yours, said he knew. Mom thought her grandma shirt meant we were planning for two & didn’t get it. 🤦🏾♀️ Immediately followed that up with a gender reveal. 👚👕 After the shock wore off, everyone was thrilled. I’m 30+. We all would have preferred to honor God’s order, but are grateful for the lesson & blessingS. Seven months now & pray nothing but favor & health for you, D, & baby. It’s been INSPIRING to see you handle this so well. I know I wouldn’t have been as strong in my 20s. ♥️
I’m not Caribbean, but my family is strict. I was in my last year of college, and my boyfriend since high school was in the navy when I got pregnant with our son. My mother was not happy at all, and reacted the way that your mom did. My father, wasn’t as harsh as my mom. Family kept pushing for marriage because I was pregnant, but I didn’t want to. I finished college, and we kept dating until our son was four years old. We got married on our own terms, when we felt that we were ready. Two more children and thirteen years later, we’re still happily married. My parents love the kids to pieces. I didn’t plan for it to go that way, but I have no regrets. God forgives, and that’s all that matters to me. Congrats!💗
Things may not have happened the way some may have hoped; however, you’re having your child with the love of your life. I say congratulations on your bundle of joy.
Well said. Thanks!
JourneyTo WaistLength you are most welcome! 💕
There is no right or wrong way to live your life! I was always told that it doesn’t matter what order you do things in, just as long as you get it done! My current husband and I purchased a home together, got married, and now we have two beautiful girls! Congrats again! #TeamGirl 💞
Yes yes! 😊
JourneyTo WaistLength Honestly, having kids before marriage is really a touchy subject. Everyone and their grandma is going to have an opinion. Some opinions will be good and some will be bad. The best advice that I can give you is that what God has for you is for you and that has nothing to do with anyone else. Of course I don’t know you personally, but I have been following you for a long time and it seems to me like you got your s#%# together! More than most! So do you hunni and LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!! 🙌🏾
I was married 5 months and found out we were pregnant with our first. We decided to stop our birth control methods and the next month we were pregnant. Both sets of our parents were very excited and our children are the first grands for our parents. Our first son was born two days before my daddy's birthday and our second son was born three days before my husband's dad's birthday.
I'm newly married and trying to conceive. Married, single, or dating a baby is a blessing. Congrats!
This was veeerrry similar to my story, she had nooo words the rest of the night, my dad was like ehh great...the next daayyy it was "GOOD MORNING BABY MAMA" 😐..now she doesnt even greet me 1st before rubbing my belly & wants to buy everything. Same with the whole marriage thing as well, I just told her that is something not off the table, but not in the immediate future. Im not getting married because Im pregnant, that's like a cop out to me. Its our lives...not our parents 🤷🏼♀️
Lol that’s hilarious. I already know. Everyone will just want to see the baby and not even say hi to me
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Parents want the Best for us
Being 37, no kids and single your perspective on things change. It’s hard to find someone to have a relationship with you and wants to have a life and family with you. So to find someone that loves you, wants a family and can start a family. I see it as a blessing. Not everyone is lucky to have that. It would be ideal to be married first, but it’s still a blessing nonetheless. I will be honest, I was shocked when I found out you were pregnant, but I’m so happy for your blessing. I wish nothing but the best for you and your family.
Honestly the only right way and time to have kids, in my opinion, is when you are financially stable enough to have them.
I got married and was married for 3 years when I got pregnant. A year later, he cheated and we ended up getting divorced. Ultimately, did it the “right” way but things still went left. You just never know. Do what’s best for you, not others.
I think most parents who get upset are more concerned about the security of your future because having children is not easy but it's because they love you. I'm glad they came around quickly.
Lol I'm only 17 and plan on waiting til marriage 😍 congrats to you sis💯 babies are a blessing 💯
Whether getting married first before children for religious reasons, practical reasons or just for appearances, most of these same people who like to preach this were having sex before marriage too. The only difference is that some didn’t get pregnant and or maybe had abortions. In other words, they didn’t get caught. So they “appeared” to have done things the “right” way. So who cares about those who are “disappointed.” In the end, everyone sins so why go around judging someone because they sin differently than you?
While there are some who did things the “right” way and are happy and doing well there are also many couples who did things the “right” way and are miserable and or divorced. As soon as they find out they’re pregnant they speed up the process and get married just so they can proudly say they did it “right.” Smh. Everything looks good on paper, everything looks perfect on the outside but deep down they’re hurting.
Like everyone else, you made a choice and these are the consequences. You decide how it goes from here on. You either beat yourself up and be miserable or make the best out of the situation as much as you can.
Get married when you are ready on your own terms. Don’t let anyone especially this ignorant and misguided society influence your decisions. There’s no one size fits all, there’s no universal “right” way for everyone. It is your life, your truth and this is between you and the Creator. No one else!
All the best to you and your little family.
Congratulations on your engagement and bundle of a blessing, bella!! Everyone's journey is different and uniquely ours. Enjoy this part of your journey, as much as you can. I'm so happy your mom came around and is already in "Spoil My Grandbaby" Grandma mode! 🤗❤
Glad to hear ur parents are supportive and I pray you have a healthy and happy pregnancy. Thanks for sharing this experience with us!
Be encouraged love, you and your bundle of joy are Blessed!! Take care of yourself surround yourself with people who are supportive of you. Never let the thoughts or opinions of others change your view of yourself. You are about to be mom and a wife, let these things be your primary focus. You are a grown woman preparing for your next chapter in life. Sometimes people don't realize how short life is, to let this moment be considered anything less than what it is, a Blessing😚😚 congrats on your new house, engagement and bundle of joy💞💞💞
My mother taught us that if someone isn’t sleeping with you or paying your bills then their opinion is IRRELEVANT . We live in very different times and we don’t HAVE to follow anyone’s beliefs but our own . Period .
I’m glad you told your family about your pregnancy 🤰. They love you and want what’s best for you. They’ll always have your back.
I appreciate your transparency when it comes to this topic. I’m married & I do not have kids (yet) but I know that my mom would have been upset with me ONLY BECAUSE she got pregnant out of wedlock and she is not with my “dad”.. she has always wanted me to break the family curse. I commend you for this video! 👏🏾❤️
I'm so glad you showed a realistic reaction of someone with conservative parents. I'm also really enjoying the comments. Thanks for sharing and Congrats
Thanks for sharing this with us. It’s personal but you shared it with us. I agree with you everyone has different opinions about life. You accomplished a lot especially in your twenties. ♥️ I come from a Caribbean household and my fiancé is American so we definitely come from different background beliefs.
I love how your parents are helping you get everything done before your baby comes. God bless them.
Oh wow, I’m not sure what to say that you are so strong. I’m so happy your expecting! I’ve been following you since 2012. Thank you for being so honest ❤️❤️
Im Guyanese and my parents ate very strict. Babies before marriage was Taboo and considered the highest level of disrespect to my parents. Funny enough both my parents and my husband's parents are not married. But they believe that they worked hard and provided us with a good life so we won't make the same mistakes the uh did. My husband and i have beem together since we were 19 (got married at 27) and we both agreed that we wouldn't hurt or disrespect our parents by getting pregnant. Now we are married and our parents are begging us for grandkids and even said they wish we would have given them grandchildren years ago🤣🤣. Everybody's situation is different. That baby will brighten your parents lives.
My parents are Jamaican and they were very angry for a long time. But they are inseparable now, I moved miles away and they only call to talk to him lol. I was in a different place in life from you though. I was single, young, and living in their house. Plus they couldn't stand the guy I was dating.
I got pregnant before marriage and my parents reacted the exact same way as yours. They were mad for a day and ended up being more excited then I was. Now they have my son sooooo spoiled. I don’t think it matters when you have a baby as long as your financial and emotionally stable
Sister’s and brother’s know when their siblings are pregnant, it’s just a feeling you get. Can’t explain it. I knew each time my sister was pregnant with her kids. But even still I showed excitement because babies are a blessing!!
My parents took it better than I thought they would have when I told them I was pregnant but they just would have prefer that i was married.
Awwww sweet darling..I wish they all would have reacted in a more positive way at least for you....you are going to have a FIRST BABYYYY....They should go crazy with happiness...a blessing is knocking on the doors of their lives....anyhow I am damn happy for you 😊and I always pray for you and baby...love you sweetie 😊
Congrats! I will be initially happy and excited for you! 💖 Peace, happiness, blessings, and much love.
CONGRATS. You have come so far this is AMAZING🌟💙❤💙🌟I'M happy for you ,You about to be a MOMMY🌟🌟❤yay
I was raised to marry then have kids. So, that was my plan. I have one son (he is in his 3rd year of college). I was nervous to tell my grandmother (she was a strict Pentecostal pastor) when I was pregnant. She just told me how proud she was of me and how great of a mom I was going to be. I believe she was disappointed but felt that I had a good head on my shoulder and nobody and nothing is perfect. Love rules!!
My Mom Is Jamaican and SUPER SUPERSTITIOUS..... She Said She Had A Dream About A Fish. But Everytime She Would Ask If I’m Pregnant I Would Just Laugh & Carry On About My Day ...(Never Denied) One Day Mail Came Home With Some Information On It & She Was Like You Coulda Told Me.
Lol those fish dreams! I think my aunt had one before I announced I was pregnant
My mum's the same...she said she saw a big fat blue fish in her dream and asked my brother if his gf was pregnant.... Turned out that she actually was lololol...she found out the day before...
lol
Yes!!! The fish dream !!
I dreamt about fish before I found out I was pregnant lol and my mom kept telling me she was dreaming about fish, I laughed it off then when I found out I was already 6 weeks pregnant
Your brother’s reaction actually made me smile. Lol, I feel like He’s so perceptive and he loves you too 😊
I’m so thankful to see real life reactions , i know my parents would react to same too. Because they have a order of how things should be done, but life happens and babies are a blessing.. congratulations once again your family is what most people wish for😘
I've been waiting for this!! The first thing I wondered about was your family's reaction. My dad's side of the family is Caribbean and oohhhhh mylanta they are EXTREMELY old school and traditional. You wait till marriage, and you better NOT shack up. It's like someone in the family died the way they react to non tradition 😂😂🤣🤣I'm happy the fam came around though!! You have a good man and he's gonna make a great dad and hubby!! That baby belongs to them now. Bwahahaha!! Blessings to your family girlie!!
Typical Vincentian/Caribbean mom reaction lol
Lol
So true
Same
Congrats!! I'm glad everyone came around!!❤❤ Many Blessings!
I’m happy your parents came around, having them support you is great. I want to be married first before I have kids, my parents are strict too about being married first. All the best, wishing u a successful pregnancy, birth and marriage
With my first daughter my parents reaction was expected 🤷🏾♀️ I was 17 still in high school so of course they had every right be to upset and I know that lol as I got older I noticed that a good 80% of the older people as far as family friends and church members had children out of wedlock 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ but are the FIRST to judge smh don't get me wrong being married is amazing but let's be real being married then having children doesn't change much if you have children before marriage ... the "right" way is of course what God wants from us but things happen you just ask for forgiveness and move on with your life ... I did 🤷🏾♀️😘 ... I now have 3 beautiful girls, married, 2 degrees, 2 businesses, hubby has an amazing job, we're getting ready to purchase our first home we're good ❤️ ... children are a blessing regardless if you're married or not.
If you were 17 then surely they shouldn't blame you as you were still legally a child? I understand that in your parents' religion, having kids while not married to the child's biological father is a sin, but teenagers cannot be held as responsible as adults. Even the law treats kids differently even with serious crimes.
It's a Caribbean thing my mother reacted the same way..I didn't get married until two Babies later and on my second baby she said to me are you going to have all your babies out of wedlock..Lol
Lol Lawd..
My parents had the same reaction and my sisters were like your brother lol. No one was really visibly ecstatic until a little after I told everyone. But they’re completely in love now! Sooo happy for you and D, can’t wait for you guys!❤️
I didn't get married first. And my dad told me long time ago don't go rushing to get married. So it was never something i even wanted. But i have a son now he is 3 yrs old and i now feel ready to take that leap of faith. I have been with my guy for 6 yrs and we are ready now.
Caribbean, African, Brazilian, or women of any Black genes are amazing, aren't we?? We are the true foundation of family be it single, married or trying to make a relationship work somewhere in between. We deal with SO MUCH drama-- give yourselves a pat on the back for God made us strong & flexible with Life!! Congrats to you--it all works out in the end. Amen!!
Married last year no kids yet but we want them. We actually waited till we got married to have sex. We weren’t virgins but wanted to do it the God way. Trust me not a long engagement only 6 months.
Thank you for being honest and recording what goes on in real life to those who do not experience the happy overly excited reaction from others. Island parents are really hard and the like to follow the rules and make sure their children make their life's better then what they have had. I waited 5 months to tell my parents. I showed my mom the ultra sound first because I was trying to find words to tell her but I was soooooo scared to say anything. She was so disappointed and gave me the lecture about how I was suppose to finish college then get married then have kids. I was so depressed after because I felt I let her down. She told my dad who took it easier then I thought. in fact, he was happy and rubbed my stomach and all. The way I see it, if you are financially able to support you and your baby and you are happy, then that's worth it all. Being married does not always guarantee happiness or an ever lasting marriage.
Love the transparency of this video, it was so real, raw, and honest. I'm glad that despite the reactions, everyone has come to support you and be excited for your upcoming baby.
For me & my reveal to my mom, I was young getting pregnant at 15... So my mom obviously was angry amd gave me the silent treatment for the first 6 months of my pregnancy. I was in no hurry to get married. After getting engaged to someone else at 18, I became pregnant again (not intentionally... (Tried all methods besides celibacy to prevent) but I wanted to be married before my sons birth. My mom was not as angry, but still mad aince I hadn't gotten married before getting pregnant that 2end time. However, plans got pushed back. Never got married, went through decades of heartbreak and now have no intention of getting married or being with anyone... Just focused on raising my now 17 & 14 yr old kids.
I dont think there is a right or wrong way. I have been watching your channel for a while and from what I can tell, you are extremely responsible, have a good head on your shoulders. I'm sure if you didn't think you would be marrying D, you wouldn't get pregnant by him. Parents want what's beat for their children, so I understand why they were upset. They know how they raised you so that's probably why they got over it so quickly. I personally think that however God decides to give me a child, that's the way it was supposed to happen.
I believe that as well! It was suppose to happen this way or it wouldn’t of happened.
@@ShaniqueBuntyn Exactly! Good Luck to you ❤❤
My mom had a dream that I was pregnant before I told her. & I got married after the baby
Lol I believe in dreams
That’s so cute that your brother noticed. I was the one who told my sister that she was pregnant. She would get so mad but as her sibling I could just look at her and tell.
Awe, real life 😩. At first My mom was not happy when I told her. I didn’t tell her anything until I couldn’t hide my belly any longer lol 🤦🏾♀️. I waited for my mom and stepdad to get in bed and almost fall asleep, and then I told her I was pregnant. Ran out the room so fast lol. She came to my room the following morning, asking if I came to her room to tell her I was pregnant...
She finally came around my second trimester. She awkwardly rubbed my belly and started asking me questions about the baby. The rest is history!! We’re besties 👯
Yes, We did it backwards. We moved in our first place together. ( although my mom didn’t want me to leave lol )
I am a mother of two amazing boys, age 5 and 2. Married to my lovely husband, the boys father 😊.
Congratulations, Best wishes guys!
Your parents love you and want the best for you. Especially if they are serious about their faith they won't celebrate fornication and want their grandchild born in the covenant of marriage. I still believe that God's way is the best by far for you and your baby. Not only is God good all the time, but His ways are right all the time.
AMEN! I totally agree. God way is the only right way.
Some will not celebrate what the act was. However, their love for those kids will erase any harsh things that they say in their heated moments
Agreed!! 😃
Amen to that.well said
Amen! Agree!
We are all Gods children, regardless if we are born in marriage or out, he will enable it to happen either way to bring us here, that’s why all children are a blessing because there sent here by God regardless ❤️❤️❤️
Children are a blessing from God ...no matter if they come through marriage or unmarried. Glad your family came around and you have support that will be important once the 👶🏾 baby is here. Congrats and cannot wait to see your bundle of joy and wedding! Xoxo
I was raised to be married & then have kids. I am currently 33 weeks pregnant at 19, My mom was very upset but now she is sooo excited. She keeps saying “I can’t wait until OUR baby gets here” 🤦🏾♀️
Omg the thumbnail 😬 But im sure one year from now your family will laugh about their reactions as they cuddle your new baby!😊
When the little comes and she holds he or she for the first time ALL of that will be forgotten. She's going to spoil that baby rotten
@@iambabygirlfranklin3117 😂 Right!
Tora G Exactly
I got married less than a year after college. My husband and I didn't want children. After 5 years of marriage, we had our son who is now 3. I personally never wanted to be a "baby momma" and my mom especially was a strict, Caribbean, Christian woman. She had a few children before marriage with my dad at a very young age, but I think our parents want us to do as I say not as I do. So I would expect a West Indian woman to prefer for their child to be married first. Either way, congrats and blessings to you and your family.
awwwwww 😍 congratulations on your bundle of joy
I got pregnant before marriage (and not really in a rush to be) and my mother acted pretty much the same why. Now I’m currently pregnant with baby #2 and still am not married and she’s excited. Thanks for sharing even though it wasn’t the “ideal” reactions. Congrats to you guys!
I'm married with no kids.... overall there is definitely NO wrong or right way to live Your life..... Congratulations Again!!!
I waited until I was almost 3 months before I told my mom. Idk why as a grown ass woman I was scared to tell her lol. She was very excited. My dad said he already knew
Lol it’s funny how so many of us can relate!
I appreciate your honesty. My mother was the same way when I told her that I was pregnant, but remained upset for at least a month in a half, almost two months! My dad was ok with it because I am very accomplished, was 30 years old, was in a solid relationship, and understood that things don't go as planned, as we all know. I wanted to be married before having kids as well, but everything happens in God's timing. After my mom got over her frustrations she was all hands on deck! It was crazy to see her transformation as well. Now, I am married, my son is two years old, and you could never tell that she wasn't excited about our pregnancy because our son is "her baby!" Everything works the way it is supposed to in the end. Thank you for sharing your story, much appreciated!
Appreciate your transparency & showing the real.
I want to get married first before having children. I'm not religious or anything it's just that having children is a huge commitment. I grew up without a father and I don't want my child to experience what I did. My boyfriend has been hinting at getting engaged after we graduate college which is next year. I'm having extreme baby fever that I'm trying to control lol I don't want to have any kids until we've been married for at least 2 or 3 years though but who knows.
I got married then 3 kids later, the funny thing about my situation is it took me awhile to tell my mom about the 3 one because I did know what she would say even though married with 2 kids already lol
Lol hilarious
I was married when I got pregnant, but my Caribbean mom reacted just like yours bc she was upset that I didn’t complete my goals and dreams first. I believe in being married first however I don’t believe in getting married because a person is pregnant. I also believe that children are blessing so enjoy your blessing!
Yes, I already knew my cousin was pregnant and she wasn’t even showing. I just already knew before she even told me...
typical caribbean parents .. my mom was way cooler than i thought she would. i told my sister and ask her to tell my mom , she is older than i am. my brother on the other hand never really liked the idea and didnt talk to me for a while.
It's all going to get better eventually!❤❤🍼
Congratulations ❤
You have such a sweet spirit! You’re going to be such an amazing mom! I can already tell.
My family on the other hand are rushing me to have kids, no one ever mentions marriage lol. I’m 26. I personally would like to be married first, but if I’m not married to my child’s father first I wouldn’t stress it. Especially if I know we’ll end up getting married anyway 🤷🏾♀️😊
I Always Know When People Are Pregnant.. I Can Just Tell I Can See The Glow Idk How To Explain It 😂 I Can Just Tell... When I Was In The 2nd Grade My Teacher Was Pregnant & I Just Knew It & I Asked Her & She Was Lol I Can Just Tell