9 Types of Questions to Draw Him Close and Build Love

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  • @Mat_Shaffer
    @Mat_Shaffer  Місяць тому

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  • @zellalaing5439
    @zellalaing5439 3 роки тому +63

    1) Open Question/ Feelings
    2) Playful Question/ Hyperthetical
    3) Story Question/ Expand
    4) Passion Question/ Excitement
    5) Family Questions
    6) Childhood Questions
    7) Competitive Question/ Challenge
    8) Vision Question/ Future
    9) Past Relationships/ Lessons
    Avoid
    1) Interview Question/ no agenda
    2) Fear Energy Questions

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +3

      Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

  • @moroccanluv8810
    @moroccanluv8810 4 роки тому +30

    Quality question ! Ask with energy , opened end question . Asking with why ,where and who ! playful questions . Story question connection to something watching or listening to . Ask passion question , like what has you excited right now . Question about his family ? Ask about his childhood ? Challenge him with fun . Ask him about his vision , what would you like to happen for years to come. Ask him about past relationships , when safe to know truth . You can make it a good thing. What did you learn from Your passed . And never ask in fear .

  • @sissel5369
    @sissel5369 Рік тому +5

    This is gold! I have a date in an hour, questions ready and I don’t feel as nervous as I usually would because I am not afraid of the outcome of this date, just happy to be getting a walk with a new person I can get to know 😊

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +1

      Happy to hear that Sissel🥰 Lovelots! 🙏❤

  • @MsDcyr
    @MsDcyr 4 роки тому +16

    Newly single after 9 years, and dating is so new to me, so I need advice badly. honestly, I never thought asking questions to build a connection as I am a bit shy. But this gives me some great ideas and I’m excited to try this. Thx for the support and confidence boost ! Dating is hard and I see so many struggle with it. So thank you 🙏 you will help many I’m sure .

    • @mannimafi1222
      @mannimafi1222 3 роки тому

      +:2:3:4:9:0:5:5:5:7:4:9:4:4 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here.

    • @mannimafi1222
      @mannimafi1222 3 роки тому

      Whstapp him

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +1

      You got this!

  • @BlazingPhoenix05
    @BlazingPhoenix05 4 роки тому +7

    Hey Mat! The lighting is doing wonders bringing out the color of your eyes!! And I agree that emotional connection is derived from wanting to get to know about him and his life and how he operates. Notice how he has his quirks and dislikes and likes. And find what all he is desiring for a successful life. A relationship isn't purely based on sex. Intimacy is much deeper than that. Humans ultimately crave authentic connection where you bond intellectually, emotionally, physically and mentally.

  • @wendyhavens
    @wendyhavens 4 роки тому +155

    Mat are you wearing colored contacts? Your eyes look like Caribbean water! Incredible!!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +115

      Wendy Havens aww thanks nope that’s just their color 🙏🙏😍😍😍😍

    • @jennyverano8417
      @jennyverano8417 4 роки тому +14

      @@Mat_Shaffer seriously? Wow

    • @Christie_OUR_TURN_2024
      @Christie_OUR_TURN_2024 4 роки тому +9

      Wendy Havens, I was just wondering the same thing.

    • @imabeachandsoyouare2794
      @imabeachandsoyouare2794 4 роки тому +16

      Ur eyes are mesmerising!

    • @cherylyeo5609
      @cherylyeo5609 4 роки тому +10

      Yes, I'm often mesmerised until I've to keep watching his videos over and over again... Hahaha

  • @yw6502
    @yw6502 4 роки тому +60

    Mat has the most beautiful eyes, I’ve ever seen 😳😍

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +4

      Knowledge Lover that’s so sweet thank you 🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @denissegoatcher-avila3113
    @denissegoatcher-avila3113 4 роки тому +15

    I love my Grampa's stories! 😍Never looked at them this way like he said, but it makes sense why storytelling builds one's power!

  • @Rubiastraify
    @Rubiastraify 3 роки тому +2

    I think the key with any of these questions is to weave them in organically into the conversation, and it means you really have to be an active listener - to not only hear what he's saying, but note if something makes him smile or if he starts talking excitedly, etc. These are great types of questions, and don't require a lot of "courage" on the part of us ladies to ask - it can be playful and warm!
    Mat - did you say you were a lawyer? Ahh...that makes a lot of sense. Because a lawyer knows how to pick up on nuances in what a witness is saying, and can lead them with the questions to "spill the beans", so to speak (if that is the intent). I've seen some lawyers in action, and their strategies to get the truth to come out are intriguing!
    Your smile and your eyes are so gorgeous they're almost illegal...🧲

    • @mannimafi1222
      @mannimafi1222 3 роки тому

      +:2:3:4:9:0:5:5:5:7:4:9:4:4 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here.

    • @mannimafi1222
      @mannimafi1222 3 роки тому

      Whstapp him

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 місяців тому

      Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 4 роки тому +19

    i don't understand how your voice is so pleasing..
    you don't have a microphone.
    😊🤷‍♀️😼🤔

  • @zensvlognotapro
    @zensvlognotapro 4 роки тому +6

    hi ! Mat !! omg! i always ask what your biggest fear ? what makes you happy and hows your ultimate dream?
    How are you now?
    I see those eyes again❣️🤗🙏

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому

      Be Enthusiastic Be Inspired great questions !!

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому +3

    I think he has already meltef without the talk/questions... God has made him..... Ty.😊😴

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому

      🤗

    • @bscnyc9948
      @bscnyc9948 4 роки тому

      how will one know his answers if he wouldn't say a thing...!??? you expect us to guess what he's thinking!??not fair...🙄🤔I for one disagree.

    • @bscnyc9948
      @bscnyc9948 4 роки тому

      conversation is still the best to getting to know each other.. 😢😳🤣👦👍🏿🐒🍌

    • @bscnyc9948
      @bscnyc9948 4 роки тому

      you sound like a fool tlking to urself..... nonsense 😳🙄🤔👍🏿

    • @bscnyc9948
      @bscnyc9948 4 роки тому

      thanks... adios!!

  • @suzieburnette1677
    @suzieburnette1677 3 роки тому +1

    I’m so lucky I can ask him anything and he’ll answer me with honesty...

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      Amazing! love hearing that! ❤❤❤

  • @tinishaavay7263
    @tinishaavay7263 4 роки тому +5

    You are a God send! 💫 Thank you for walking in your divine purpose.

  • @traceyhtaylor
    @traceyhtaylor 8 місяців тому

    I really appreciate how you summarize what you’ve discussed at the end of your videos. Thank you 😊

  • @meditativehypnosis7614
    @meditativehypnosis7614 4 роки тому +11

    I just love how positive these questions are! Thank you for all these great out-of-the-box ideas!

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому +3

    I am the conductor? That is nice....we can make a good music. I am excited for our album, hehehe.😊Ty looking forward to seeing you for a practice or sort of...😊

  • @paula-elizabeth
    @paula-elizabeth 4 роки тому +1

    Thank-you Mat - You explained that really well. 👍🏽 I’ve subscribed to your channel. Another question Carol Allen puts forward to ask a man you’ve been dating for a while is; “I really enjoy spending time with you - how do I get more of that?”! - I’d definitely appreciate being asked that question! You have lovely blue eyes by the way! 😃

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +1

      Thanks so much Paula-Elizabeth! 🙏❤️

    • @paula-elizabeth
      @paula-elizabeth 4 роки тому

      Mat Shaffer Awww, No problemo Mat. 👍🏽✨

  • @littlecat2222
    @littlecat2222 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much !! Wonderful and practical content ! ❤

  • @lindat1317
    @lindat1317 4 роки тому +10

    Hi, Mat! Been sending positive, healing light your way! 🌞

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +1

      Wonderful thank you my dear!!

  • @missadug
    @missadug Рік тому +4

    "Baby daddy audition" questions 🤣🤣🤣

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 4 роки тому +2

    Your knowledge has been unique so far
    on every one of your videos.
    THANK YOU Matt! 🥳
    keep it up!
    take care & stay dafe during these times
    in life.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому

      Thanks so much Wendi Watson! 🙏❤️

  • @zaria5785
    @zaria5785 4 роки тому +6

    The interview questions! Loool
    I have done this purposely only one time because I wanted a guy who was too clingy to be turned off. He couldn’t take no for an answer so I asked like 20 questions and after he answered those then I emailed him another 20 until he just gave up.

  • @maggiewanjiru2807
    @maggiewanjiru2807 4 роки тому +2

    Hey Mat, your video is so good. Thank you.
    Wish I have so much time with my man..he is incredibly playful, makes all sorts of jokes and he is a super story teller, music lover, dancer too, he loves art and I just love all of it. He is my world. I care

  • @Joannekrill
    @Joannekrill 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you for all you do to educate us. I just finished your Mastery of Connection course and am bummed I I need to wait to join the MOM course. You are a great teacher and will follow you and sign up for your MOM when I can! Take care of you! ❤️❤️

  • @raquelt5342
    @raquelt5342 4 роки тому +3

    Thanks for this, really love that you did a recap at the end, super helpful! 👌

  • @jennyverano8417
    @jennyverano8417 4 роки тому +35

    Are your eyes even real? 😍

  • @cn2746
    @cn2746 4 роки тому +3

    I've never heard of a zombie apocalypse but decided to ask of each man I am good friends with. Kapow!!! These very conservative professional men's eyes lit up and they talked for 10-15 min while I sat still and nodded. They didn't need my input. What fun!! Carol Arizona

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому +5

    But we become speechless when in person...ty.😊

  • @hoiliswu6070
    @hoiliswu6070 4 роки тому +5

    This is my favorite questions best the open telling i love it all possibilities really helpful you are very good best advice.

  • @lourdeskraetschmann5209
    @lourdeskraetschmann5209 4 роки тому

    Thats good Mat. I have someone we are already 4 years best of friends, don't know exactly our status. We are living in a distance but if we're seeing each other, we have got a lot of questions and they are all answered from both of us. Excited what will be the next😍👍. I'm your great followers. Thanks Mat.

  • @meerak4662
    @meerak4662 4 роки тому +7

    Hey Matt, these are great questions but when do i ask them? Since he is always to stressed and tired with work. Just can’t find the right moment. Thanks

    • @falsehoodbasher7240
      @falsehoodbasher7240 3 роки тому

      Well then don’t bother him lolol
      Give him praises & thank him ;)

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому +3

    But we will be able to talk and meet next year.pa....ty.anyway. God will make things possible. 😊

  • @YogiMDWanders
    @YogiMDWanders 4 роки тому +2

    This video makes me smile a lot. Idk if its because of the topic or of your great vibes(and ocean eyes).
    Maybe both ❤️

  • @sarabisue5167
    @sarabisue5167 4 роки тому +14

    Hi Mat! I'm in a committed relationship with a wonderful man but when I ask him meaningful questions he NEVER asks it back regardless of if it's deep or surface level. He tends to wait for things to uncover themselves, so he doesn't ask anything about me not even "what's wrong?" when I'm visibly upset. He does value my opinion and asks for my input often when making decisions. Question: It would feel good for him to ask about me too, is there any way to activate his curiosity and reciprocity?

    • @Aritul
      @Aritul 4 роки тому +4

      Oh, good question. I'd like to see the answer too.

    • @keepersjunk9900
      @keepersjunk9900 4 роки тому

      I am facing the same thing..
      Well.. the man I m dating(no doubt is a wonderful guy) spent his life studying and supporting his family. So he is a little inexperienced and often misses out any hint I give him.. I ask him meaningful questions, he answers them. But he doesn't replicate the questions .. rather he asks the wrong sort of questions..

    • @OctaviaWayne
      @OctaviaWayne 4 роки тому +1

      I’m curious because I’m a girl and I can be this way too (letting things uncover themselves lol) tell us how to reciprocate Matt!

    • @CrystalSicily
      @CrystalSicily 4 роки тому +1

      Sorry darling. If your feeling unloved or unsatisfied. If your not able to have a serious conversation. The relationship is not "serious"
      After 6 months. You should know exactly where the relationship is heading. Plans. Marriage. Living together. Buying a home. You know his family. He knows yours. 😉💕

  • @ruthcrawford3015
    @ruthcrawford3015 3 роки тому +2

    Another truly excellent Master Class!. Thank you Mat!

  • @TheSuziiiQ
    @TheSuziiiQ 4 роки тому +4

    Hi Matt. Thanks for this! I was wondering about what kind of questions can you ask when a man has told you that he is depressed?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +2

      Susána Ramjit how can I support you?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +2

      Susána Ramjit you want to make him feel supported and understood and not alone

    • @TheSuziiiQ
      @TheSuziiiQ 4 роки тому

      @@Mat_Shaffer and any suggestions on wording? I'm shooting in the dark here

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому +1

    But you have to make a call so we could really exchange words ...ok?
    What do you want me to say or do in our next meeting...when would that be, by the way. Ty.😊💏

  • @wyethhan7434
    @wyethhan7434 4 роки тому +4

    Oh my God.. I love listening and learning from you Sir. Thank you very much and now I'm so in love with you ,the way you help us women.. Please do more videos.. I seriously appreciate you Matt❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +1

      You are so welcome Wyeth Han! 🙏

  • @Madamemedusa1986
    @Madamemedusa1986 Рік тому +1

    All I have to do is smile at a man to make him melt cuz am the Goddess of Spring

  • @tasniah.6453
    @tasniah.6453 Рік тому

    Thank you! I will try these tips!

  • @keylalenihan4094
    @keylalenihan4094 4 роки тому

    Thanks for all your videos !!! Omg so amazing all the information you are sharing!

  • @Bianca-sw5id
    @Bianca-sw5id 2 роки тому

    Mat 🙂 , does your 🙂 mindset actually ever change from having been a former attorney 🙂 🥰 , you are still helping but you 🙂 are extremely specialised now and there is less paperwork 🙂-? You 🙂🥰 obviously love to share your 🙂 understanding of everything to help women even if it is something we know it is helpful to know how to use it correctly or not use it

  • @flowersflowers5070
    @flowersflowers5070 4 роки тому +1

    I was just about to ask rhe same thing when i looked down and saw your comment. I could go swimming in those Caribbean eyes.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 місяців тому

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

  • @kp5870
    @kp5870 4 роки тому +4

    And what if he doesn’t have much of an answer to some of these questions? Like they say “I don’t know...” 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @Amanda-ej4qz
      @Amanda-ej4qz 4 роки тому

      I agree that's a struggle with some men

    • @sweetiepie4328
      @sweetiepie4328 4 роки тому +3

      Then leave him

    • @kp5870
      @kp5870 4 роки тому

      yep, I did it a month ago. He turned out to be a narcissist.

  • @stephsux77
    @stephsux77 4 місяці тому

    Thank you

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 місяці тому

      Your comment is much appreciated! If you're thinking about dating again, our 'Are You Ready to Date Again?' quiz can help you figure out if you're ready. 🌸 mat-nlcmdzyq.scoreapp.com/

  • @erinf3552
    @erinf3552 Рік тому

    Just joined your course 💖

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      That's very sweet. Thank you🙏❤️✨

  • @SF-pm1ov
    @SF-pm1ov 4 роки тому +2

    Hey Mat! Caught you on Antia’s panel! Great talk! Also... ten days off coffee! Inspired by you!! 💪😁

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +2

      Boom!! Now it’s been almost 2 months and I feel so amazing 😍😍

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому +2

    It is time to rest.....Ty. so much for your efforts. Gnite.😴❤

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому

    Ty for your interest. 😊 i am interested of what story you want to share....

  • @kimgordon3695
    @kimgordon3695 4 роки тому +1

    Great contrasts throughout May💕

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +1

      Thanks so much Kim Gordon! 🙏❤️

  • @Username74-b8h
    @Username74-b8h 4 роки тому +2

    Fuck! This is why men become drawn to me when I have a conversation with them! because this is my type of talk! Anyway, I love you mat, but it's called FOOTBALL! It's played with feet okay ?
    Sorry I can't resist myself from this one 😂

  • @TheSentinel555
    @TheSentinel555 4 роки тому +1

    Finally! A GREAT video!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому

      Hannah Daniel Hedlund woohoo 🤗

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому

      Hannah Daniel Hedlund thanks!

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому

    Tell me, how are you these days.? Not really fearful of covid anymore compared to the past days? I am happy if you are. I could always pray again for you....ty. 😊

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 місяців тому

      Thank you for your kind words

  • @vanessamartinsdesouza1718
    @vanessamartinsdesouza1718 4 роки тому +3

    I couldn t hear you cause the colour of your eyes,initially...I love see the sea in your eyes.

  • @rebeccakennedy6752
    @rebeccakennedy6752 4 роки тому

    Excellent Questions!!! Thank You Matt!!

  • @Michelle-ke7me
    @Michelle-ke7me 4 роки тому +3

    Draw a woman closer,.... have beautiful, clear, soft eyes. 🤗🤗😁+😍

  • @elopez198725
    @elopez198725 4 роки тому +3

    I love Mat!!!! Such a hunk on all levels. Marry me? 😆

  • @karencloutier3236
    @karencloutier3236 5 місяців тому

    Sterling?! That’s hilarious!!! 😂 ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 місяців тому

      Thank you for your honest feedback. It’s important to hear different perspectives, and I appreciate you sharing yours.

  • @paigewyatt502
    @paigewyatt502 3 роки тому

    Hello, Mat! I was wondering what your opinion is on dating coworkers? I've been growing close to a man that I work with, and I have a feeling he might like me as well, but we work together, and so I'm not sure if pursuing a relationship with him is a good idea. What are your thoughts on this?

    • @mannimafi1222
      @mannimafi1222 3 роки тому

      +:2:3:4:9:0:5:5:5:7:4:9:4:4 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here.

    • @mannimafi1222
      @mannimafi1222 3 роки тому

      Whstapp him

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      Go for it! :)

  • @lexsie_solena
    @lexsie_solena 4 роки тому +13

    0:40 I thought I got a text message 😂😳

  • @michellefilby
    @michellefilby 4 роки тому +3

    If a guy was more interested in watchingTV than me I'd run away lol

  • @fantasya3970
    @fantasya3970 4 роки тому

    Hi Mat, I see your hair is back to normal :)) great video. I hit the bell notification but getting none, any idea why?

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому +1

    But i dint want him to melt only softened....ty.😊

  • @ngaihlian618
    @ngaihlian618 4 роки тому +1

    I ask aquation to him the book we read togather and he say he will give the answer so you wait he told me than it been one week take to answers me, i need to remind him or still wait for him to text me.we are distance. 🙊???

    • @momentsformoms9467
      @momentsformoms9467 4 роки тому +1

      You asked him about a book you read together? Maybe he doesn’t have an answer or forgot. I would just keep moving forward and let it go.

  • @sarahmsuya5416
    @sarahmsuya5416 4 роки тому

    Nice video.
    Can you cover more about open minded questions . It will be so good

  • @mesquitegirl2013
    @mesquitegirl2013 2 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @alexisgentry7851
    @alexisgentry7851 6 місяців тому

    Hey Mat, I gotta know your opinion about whether or not to let a man you take seriously about escorting occasionally even if it does not affect current relationship? Or do you think it could do more damaging? :(

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 місяців тому

      Be careful with your beliefs! They create your reality.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 місяців тому

      Be careful with your beliefs! They create your reality.

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому

    He is taken so its up to him ....ty.😊

  • @aishatwaha5967
    @aishatwaha5967 4 роки тому

    I think you're right

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому +1

    He has melted a long time ago...ty.😊Hola!

  • @MEJ48386
    @MEJ48386 4 роки тому +2

    Your eyes are gorgeous!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому

      Thanks so much MaryEllen Jenkinson! 🙏❤️

  • @LeslieWells
    @LeslieWells 4 роки тому

    Excellent... I'm hooked for more

  • @felicitygrace5113
    @felicitygrace5113 4 роки тому +1

    Where do you see yourself in 5 yrs is an interview questions!! 🤪

  • @carolinadocarmo3783
    @carolinadocarmo3783 3 роки тому

    Hi Matt! I’m trying g to find the video where you address the “will you” statements but cannot find it. Will you help me?

  • @marilynzviuya4714
    @marilynzviuya4714 11 місяців тому

    My gosh your eyes ❤

  • @ladylibra573
    @ladylibra573 4 роки тому

    I tried this and now he won't talk to me. He traded me for liars and someone older who loves drama. I want someone who only wants to be into me

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому

      Not all men are like that Lady Libra - I promise!

  • @imabeachandsoyouare2794
    @imabeachandsoyouare2794 4 роки тому

    Ur eyes are mesmerising!

  • @konfettibaby9676
    @konfettibaby9676 4 роки тому +1

    I really like the intro btw :)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +1

      Konfetti, Baby! Yay so glad!!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +1

      Konfetti, Baby! Appreciate it!

  • @debbieotero2355
    @debbieotero2355 3 роки тому

    Hi Matt, I need ur opinion bout something. I was goin to rent a room from a guy that I felt attracted to, due to his qualities I liked that he carried as a man. I told him, I have this attraction, & that I cld not rent this room from him cause things might get complicated. I did not want to effect my emotions. Now I'm thinking, I did the right thing & showed him my self worth & respect, but from a mans point of view, was I showing weakness, insecurities, & not being emotionally stable? Pls lmk!! Wld like to know if my decision can catch some attraction or did I just pull him away?

    • @mannimafi1222
      @mannimafi1222 3 роки тому

      +:2:3:4:9:0:5:5:5:7:4:9:4:4 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here.

    • @mannimafi1222
      @mannimafi1222 3 роки тому

      Whstapp him

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 місяців тому

      Don’t give up on love sister!

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому

    Its been built.... Ty.😊

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому

      You are so welcome Nimfa Bangay! 🙏

  • @itsaenn
    @itsaenn 4 роки тому

    Tysm ❤️❤️for this wonderful video 🥰🥰

  • @LD-qo7kf
    @LD-qo7kf 4 роки тому +2

    Gosh, I am terrible at forming Questions!!! More work yeah! Haha

  • @ferielabd9513
    @ferielabd9513 4 роки тому

    Hi,I hope you're doing well🙌

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +1

      🤗🤗❤️❤️🙏 I am!

  • @areejkhan5751
    @areejkhan5751 3 роки тому

    His eyes 😍

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому +1

    Ty.😊

  • @juanitaisenhart4862
    @juanitaisenhart4862 3 роки тому

    I am 70 years old and I have a man that's in his 40s we've not met but we sound serious to me it sounds serious what do you think it's a long distance relationship

    • @mannimafi1222
      @mannimafi1222 3 роки тому

      +:2:3:4:9:0:5:5:5:7:4:9:4:4 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here.

    • @mannimafi1222
      @mannimafi1222 3 роки тому

      Whstapp him

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 місяців тому

      Don’t give up on love sister!

  • @denissegoatcher-avila3113
    @denissegoatcher-avila3113 4 роки тому +5

    Women are from Venus, men are from Mars. Relationships are so much work! 😥

    • @Michelle-ke7me
      @Michelle-ke7me 4 роки тому +3

      Yes, we are different, however different can be fun. Life is work, we enjoy some days and figure out the hard days just like relationships.

  • @pamiewatkins7354
    @pamiewatkins7354 4 роки тому

    There are things and I'm not open to like vulnerability I think I need to study the word just sounds like someone could attack you if you're vulnerable are you be seen as weak like your boundaries a beat down and someone could see that you're hurt or something or then something's wrong and why you're not vulnerable keep up your guard not let it down and get surround systems with all these teaching tapes videos always in your mind so you can do things because you forget about how to do it cuz you're mine won't recall with UA-cam beautiful tapes or videos I mean maybe I don't see him as being vulnerable I keep keeps things to himself I don't know if he has his guard up also that we're Fighters sometimes all these old songs keep coming to me all day love songs anyhow I hope to be well and herbal and to share things about myself that I wouldn't share with anyone but him and knowing that he loves me that he would accept me that way is that vulnerability and then for him to be vulnerable put down all my years of frustration and saying that because him and his mother's relationship I found out that he really wanted to protect his mom and his sister you really keeps me up not on a pedestal but he holds me in high esteem I should trust in these things I've been closed up so long and afraid because of the past but let's move on from you

  • @AuriArun
    @AuriArun 2 роки тому

    Thank you... How does one deal with younger to you and not get that Sugar Daddy trigger..because for me that is at times feeling to avoid commitment

  • @MizAlexandria
    @MizAlexandria 4 роки тому

    Wow, your eyes are incredible. Its looks like the Exuma waters in the Bahamas.

    • @mannimafi1222
      @mannimafi1222 3 роки тому

      +:2:3:4:9:0:5:5:5:7:4:9:4:4 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here.

    • @mannimafi1222
      @mannimafi1222 3 роки тому

      Whstapp him

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      Aw thanks you’re making me blush ;)

  • @QuangNguyen-dw9je
    @QuangNguyen-dw9je 4 роки тому

    Hi Mat, seems like you really know what you're talking about. Do these questions apply for gay men too? I'm not the expert and not sure if you are in this specific area but thought I would ask your opinion

  • @Mat_Shaffer
    @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +11

    QUESTION OF THE DAY - What type of questions have you used to build intimacy with men in your life? Which do you want to use more of moving forward?

    • @miacarter8740
      @miacarter8740 4 роки тому +4

      I ask him what he would like to be acknowledged for, if there’s anything missing in our sex life, things we like about each other, and where he sees us. Also asking him if he’s been taking care of himself seems to provoke intimacy or at least tenderness in men generally :)

    • @maryanntexas52
      @maryanntexas52 4 роки тому +5

      “Tell me a favorite memory of growing up? “

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +1

      Love it!!!

    • @georgiaellen5538
      @georgiaellen5538 4 роки тому +5

      This seems a little trivial but I love to ask questions about their past fun experiences/memories. I’ve discovered that many guys don’t talk to their guy friends about every little aspect of their lives like myself and many girls I know do with our girl friends, and so they crave someone to listen. I ask with curiosity and express genuine interest, making comments and asking them to elaborate where necessary. I love seeing people get all animated and excited and what they emphasise really exposes their values. Btw I typed this answer while watching and it lines up with your ‘story telling questions’ tip!

    • @queenofswords1111
      @queenofswords1111 4 роки тому +1

      What's something you accomplished and are most proud of?

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому

    What I wonder would you say, do to me when we next meet? I have a feeling that this August , you will resurface because you want to see me....ty.😊

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 місяців тому

      Thanks for your comment!

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 роки тому

    Ty.

  • @jacquieO239
    @jacquieO239 3 роки тому

    Your eyes 🤩

  • @CaffeinatedTigress
    @CaffeinatedTigress Рік тому

    After 4 years from my husband's passing... when I think maybe I should put a toe in the water... I realize I just can't do it. I am not cut out for the dating scene. I think I have a better chance at finding a reputable necromancer at this point.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      Be careful with your beliefs! They create your reality!

  • @rosemarycalogero7017
    @rosemarycalogero7017 4 роки тому

    You are awesome ♥️💋

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому

      Thanks so much Rosemary Calogero! 🙏❤️

  • @bu4459
    @bu4459 4 роки тому +2

    Love your style, thanks for the content share, and you look like you are feeling better.
    Scrub that boston on the head , lil cutie.