So many know-it-all comments. They have no idea what they're talking about. Clutter is often not a hoarding issue nor from laziness or lack of organization skills lol. Stress, depression, anxiety, other mood disorders, CPTSD, ADD/ADHD, autism, etc, cause so much mental chaos and overload it's next to impossible to tackle long-term clutter build up. It becomes a vicious cycle with clutter further overwhelming and defeating one's efforts.
I guarantee most folks with ADD or ADHD also have poor diets. It all starts with what we put in our bodies. Drs are so quick to just prescribe pills which only mask the problem.
Each time I have helped someone do this, despite creating a home for everything and using organizing systems in each dresser/closet/cabinet, within a week it was back to the original state. Dishes, trash, food, clothes on the floor, etc all over the place. Their internal chaos manifested in their external environment. We have to parent ourselves, If our parent didn't teach us to develop self control and discipline, we must teach ourselves. Maintaining a tidy space requires a change in daily habits and a radical mindshift. Self care is a sign that you believe you deserve to live in orderly space.
Yes, this! You can clear out their homes, but as long as they don't address the issues why this happens and bring changes to their lives and routines, this will keep happening. I know, because I was one of them, until I decided to change it.
Exactly, I helped a neighbor clean their home bc a case worker was coming. It was 10x worse than this. They had roaches everywhere in the fridge and sink just crawling around. I came over about a week later and was soo disappointed with what i saw knowing that I put in an entire day to clean their home. Ugh :/ Not all our homes are going to be perfectly clean and organized. I know mine isn’t and I have chronic pain & It’s one thing when it’s “lived in” another when it’s just filled with trash. They gotta change their bad habits or nothing will ever change.
My mom never taught me to clean. At all. Either she would clean my room or she would have our maid do it. She taught me to keep everything I didn’t want in boxes in storage and would get mad if I didn’t want something anymore. As an adult, I literally look at my borderline messy room and feel overwhelmed, not knowing how to tackle it. I get the dishes and garbage out, wash the laundry, put things where they belong, but then I get stuck. I get to a phase with a bunch of random stuff that doesn’t have a space, or I don’t know if I should keep, like a slightly damaged printed photograph or random sewing supplies from my late grandma or an organizer I don’t currently have a use for or especially delicate craft projects I am actively working on/in the middle of. Once those items are all that is left, I get stressed out and don’t know what to do other than “hide” them by putting them in a drawer or box they don’t really belong in or leaving them on the floor by my bed. My point is, as silly as it seems, some people really do have a lack of skills and know-how to do basic tasks that most school age children can do independently. Hoarding, mental illness, and physical disabilities is not necessarily evident from a messy room alone. As someone who desperately wants a clean room and is actively trying, it’s still hard for me
Same, my sis and I share a room, (my apartment only has 1 bedroom) and she completely trashes it. yea, she’s still a kid, yes she has some mental problems, but she doesn’t help at all. With anything. all thanks to my mom.. i try teaching her but my moms like “im the parent and i tell her what to do not you!” It’s so annoying. and srry about ur mom, it’s very wrong of her not to teach you that.
My mom didn’t teach us how to clean either, but I’m not sure if she ever learned how either. She said her house was clean growing up, but when I was 3 my great grandmother died and My grandmother became a hoarder. I don’t remember what our house was like before I was six and my mom started working full time in addition to participating in many activities, but our house was usually messy. She did the dishes almost every night, but we didn’t clean the house unless company was coming. When I was the last kid left at home, we moved to a different state and larger home. It was nice and we had get togethers frequently, until my grandparents passed away. My mom started cleaning out my grandmothers house and filled my parents home. I’ve learned to keep the house clean, from different people over the years, except for my bedroom. However, I haven’t given up and I hope you don’t either. UA-cam has helped immensely. ❤
1. Clear Out - focus one room at a time. Clear out everything that does Not belong in that room, take out trash, and move to other room to deal with later so its clear to see! 2. Categorise - This allows you to see everything you own helping to prep you for next step. 3. Cut Out - Easily declutter and make decisions. 4. Contain - Assess all items and storage and give necessary items a home. 5. ...and RELAX! 💪😁
Within 3-1/2 years, I moved to 5 states: TX AL FL CA LA. I just gave my notice this week. I only keep my favorites, and I get rid of everything that can replaced for less than $20 or within 20 Minutes at Amazon. If I have 2 of anything, I get rid of the larger items, bec I only keep what fits in my 12 large Totes: 1 Art supplies 2 Bathroom/Laundry 3 Blankets, Pillows 4 Cat food litter toy 5 Clothes Fall, Winter, 6 & Spring, Summer 7 Cooking, Appliances 8 Dine, Place Settings 9 Docs, Books, Pics 10 Office/Study 11 Pantry 12 Work Tools
I cleaned my room for the first time in forever. Yes I’m messy. There is often and underlying cause. Mine is depression. Wellbutrin has helped me tackle my messes.
You are such an Angel. A lot of times people struggle with this and people blame them. A lot of time they have disabilities and can’t clean or they have mental issues or other reasons. And you don’t make them feel bad! We need more cleaning channels like you.
This video almost brought me to tears. After having had a baby and now she’s currently a 2 year old. I crave organization. Before having a kids I was so organized. I even had my clothes color coded organized. Now it’s just like whatever I am done! 😢
I totally understand. I was so organized before I had my children. They are so precious to me but they both have special needs. I’m so tired and overwhelmed and things are in chaos. I feel your pain. You are not alone. ❤
I'm not a parent, so I can't directly relate, but I can relate to struggling with clutter. (I'm also a Christin, hi name twin!) I've been watching a decluttering channel by a woman - her name is Robyn - who is both a wife and a mother and it's been helping me. If you'd like to check out her channel, it's called "Minimalist Home" (they're not extreme minimalists, rather they apply some minimalist techniques to keep their home clutter-free/less cluttered). That channel, along with other UA-camrs/videos, is helping me sort through all of my childhood stuff and clutter in my bedroom before I eventually move onto decluttering my college stuff. I hope this helps! 🧡
It is hard with kids. I watch some decluttering channels on here that are helpful to me as background noise motivation when I am cleaning etc. Minimal mom, Clutterbug. Some random others. This is just a phase. Just try to spend time with your baby and don't waste time managing things in your home that isn't going to matter in years from now. Set aside like 5 minutes and do what you can. In this day and time we have TOO MUCH stuff and too much to manage. Praying for you.
The outside is just a reflection of the inside. I use to be a bit more punctual and definitely more organized b4 having my babies. Not the best but better at keeping things tidy longer and showing up for things on time. When we become parents, that’s when our balancing skills are tested to the max lol. And when one thing is out of whack, it’s easy to lay something down and say “I’ll get it later”. Then when the clutter forms, you feel like you’ll never get it done, it’s too much, you may feel like a failure and eventually what’s the use! Hang in there mama. Seek help if you need to or just take baby steps. Just like how you taught your little one how to walk. Take baby steps. Do one percent better tomorrow than you did today and it’ll add up over time. May I suggest the book called “Atomic Habits” by James Clear: it could really help us moms out! It really opened my eyes after the first read. I’m going to read it again to stay sharp. It’s also on UA-cam if you’d prefer the Audio. Good job Mama!
A big issue of mine is the moving things to appropriate rooms part. And to lay everything in front of myself to make decisions. My space is so small that there’s literally nowhere for me to move anything but outside. And even then, a lot of items don’t fit out the front door such as huge pieces of furniture that I hate. It is very hard for me to move in my own apartment, and would be even if it was completely empty because the square feet are so miniscule.
When my boys were little, all 4 shared one room! It always was trashed. ☹️ Untill one day G❤️D inspired me! I turned on some music, grabbed a bunch of plastic grocery bags; told the boys to put all SHOES in one set of bags, CLOTHES-clean or dirty- in another, BOOKS/papers/pens pencils -etc in another, TOYS in another. That was it. In 15 minutes the room cleared! Then we were able to clean in peace. Later on we sat quietly and sorted through everything in peace. WE CONTROLLED IT ALL, thank G🔥D we were not controlled by it!!!! Have fun!!!
I used a different method. I told my daughter I will leave and when I get back anything that is on the floor or not put away I will put in the trash. And I did with a big black trashbag. All it took is once 😊
Thank you so much for this, I am on my own cleaning journey and getting very overwhelmed with the spaces I need to clean. So much of the content online around decluttering shows instagram perfect households that are just organising a single cupboard that's already 10,000x more functional than my spaces before they even start with their privileged minimalist decluttering. This video really helped me to remind myself that it's okay to just box up my "relocate" tubs, put them in the room they belong and deal with it another day, stay focused on the area we're actually working on. It's hard not to worry about "what if I finish organising the bedroom, and then when I go to organise the lounge room I find boxes of things that belong in the bedroom, and I have to organise the bedroom all over again! I'm exhausted, I give up". Reminding myself that my house is a living space and it will grow and change and need maintenance along with me, and it's one day at a time.
My issue is a bad back and knees. Most of the cleaning requires stopping, bending, or getting on my knees. Like to clean the bathtub or under my bed. Or as in mopping floors and base boards . No money to pay someone, can’t do it on my own….no fam or friend to help. What do I do?
I'm currently trying my own mess. I think I basically follow your 4 steps (even though this is the first time I see them), but I do step 1 and 2 simultaneously. How do you manage to find the trash and what belongs in different rooms in the mess? Also, I do step 2 several times, each time into more detailed categories. Like this: First time, very large categories, such as "textil", "papers, books, stationary", "tools and paint", "cleaning equipment" etc. The next steps is to sort every category into more detailed categories. e.i. "textil" into 'blankets, bed pillows, bedspreads etc.', 'towels, bedsheets etc.', 'curtains, rugs etc.', 'coats', 'every day clothes', 'winter clothes', 'summer- and occasion clothes', 'clothes I already know I don't want to keep' (ok, starting step 3 there...), 'socks and tights' and so on. Then I keep sorting each category into more detailed categories, until I can get a grip of what I have, so I can move on and make decisions about what and how much of it I need to keep 'easy to reach', what is worth keeping in storage space (suitcases, not in season, extra stuff (for example socks and pencils, that I know I will get use for, once I've worn out the current ones), donate and trow away. The reasons I can't do all the categoriezing in one go is: 1. I don't have enough (physical) space for the number of piles it would take. and 2. I can only remember a certain number of piles, so if I try to sort into too many categories at once, I'll lose to much time asking myself "Where did I put all ... , again?". Even if I've tried naming all the categories and marking their piles with sheets of paper or post-it notes, it's still much slower reading all the signes to find the right pile, then keeping it down two a number I can remember. For me, this is quite a time consuming process. But definitely worth while!
That's what would help me, too - is to label piles with paper labeled appropriate categories...❤ Good luck to us all - I am a terrible procrastinator, the past couple of years.. shame on me...
Have any of you watched the no mess decluttering method? It’s life changing without the piles. Dana K White created it but ClutterBug and Minimal Mom both made good videos on it.
As much as we want it all dealt with in one go, we have to remember it takes months or years to get in that state, and its going to take time and repeated passes to get it all done, if we are doing it ourselves. I've also had to accept there's only so many decisions I can make in one day. There are a few things I've regretted getting rid of, although I still would rather have done this. But the natural limits space and time has its uses. I've been decluttering for 18 months and sometimes I look around and feel like I haven't made a dent. But if all the stuff I'd decluttered so far was piled up in the front yard I'd be shocked. Just to clarify its not all my stuff. Both parental households, a business, several children and hubby is a collector have passed through this property.
Working in retail led to me getting a clothing hoard in my room. That associate discount + cute clothes= disaster. I’m categorizing my hoard with keep, giveaway and sell. A lot of my clothes have still have tags so I’m hoping they’ll sell online.🤞
Having asthma and allergies is not fun but thankfully it forces me to keep my room clean otherwise I get sick. It takes maturity and self discipline to take keep a home clean and healthy
People who are neurodivergent, or have mental or physical health issues are not immature nor lack discipline. Not everyone has the same operating system. It just makes individuals different, not better than or less than, just different.
try this and let me know if it helps. Take photos along the way. I’m going to start today. Visual may give us the needed push when we see what we got done so far.
love this video bc everyone of the decluttering videos is somewhat useful with tactics but not helpful in the sense of emotional stress and physical strength to complete the job alone with other daily tasks
So i have bpd i love collecting or buying new stuff, and multiples of these things, creating mess, clutter and bad feng shui. Slowly getting through it all, its fun at times and other times jarring when theres too much mess and items. Thanks for this!
In the process of tidying up, I've keep a box of "perfectly good things" I have no need for ( -> no space for ). Sometimes, when there has been a friend over to my messy place, I've told them about it and asked them to see if there is anything they want there. It's been a nice way for me to get rid of "perfectly good things" (that I'd be much happier to "find a new home for", than just throw away). And, with a bit of luck, my friends can save the time and money it would have taken them to go shopping for whatever they managed to find. If, in the end, I can find space for it, I might keep a "guest goodiebag" box for declouthered stuff. (If I can manage to declutter that box from the stuff no one has needed in enough time. And know what be worth putting there and not. Maybe some can pull it off nicely?)
I am in a small motorhome. I never take food or drinks into my bedroom. I never leave crumbs or dirty dishes out as it will attract ants or other bugs. I have a certain place for everything and it must go back in that place. Shelves, hooks or cubbies for all the miscellaneous stuff. A few things left out and it looks a total mess but only takes a few minutes to clean up. Changing the bed is the hardest job. Purging whenever I deep clean, those items go into a small donate bin. I am ocd and can only stand stuff out of place for a short time.
Sometimes, it's about not being an effect decisive decision maker. That's me, with one room, where I have tools, books, art supplies... in boxes, mostly, but I am now more tired of it than ever - finally.
I always wonder exactly how long it takes when there are videos like this that are sped up. I'm one person dealing with the items of at least three people, and I have limited time and energy. It looks like this room took probably a week that was with help!
Absolutely! They make it look so easy. We all work have stresses and both sap energy. I’m dining my bedroom and on the third day. It’s looking better. I have a very busy life and can’t work every day bc I have setbacks from covid
While typing, I realized, Maybe if we photographed the beginning, middle, we’d be more motivated to continue till the end. I’m very visual and need to SEE progress, that’s my answer. I get lost without seeing the finish line.
I’m just writing this down in a: 3 lined ringlet blue book, thank you so much for your viedeo that specializes of Chronic Decluttering; I really appreciate your video; I subscribed to your Chanel; again thank you for the video, I hope that I get to the decluttering slowly but surely
This is very hard - but, perhaps we can start with using small chunks of time, too, not just different categories...❤ - Different categories + using small chunks of time = Getting tbings done! Glad this came up - it made me think more clearly about this.
Also light incense or spray air freshener, and once cleared stuff, don't bring it back, take it out of the room! Haha 😄. I find it hard to get rid of things, but last week I took bags to the charity shop, it was a relief to get rid of old clothes n bric brac! UK 🇬🇧 lol 🇬🇧 😆 🤣
I know it might not be my place to say this but.... those Walls need a new color, it would change the feeling of the room so much. Maybe some wallpaper, it screams to me
I am a professional organizer too I can organize a whole mansion so if you need any hall help just say something in my comments in my videos thank you❤❤❤
This totally me my home is spotless but I just keep shopping and shopping and I own a five bedroom home one person living in the home and I own all closets and Never nothing to wear
I so need your help, war with cancer, but feel like my house is closing in on me , got my husband to take down somethings , helps me alot, I need help with lots of things, the south is calling you , near Casino
Being able to have a closet with shelves and storage under my daybed makes it easier to keep track of what i have. Labeling the boxes is very important so only those items go to where they belong. And you avoid duplicates.
Awesome making a short term move I. 2 Days but I will be returning for a full move in a couple of months. Most areas are under control but I have TONS of clothes to decide what to do with. This is so encouraging.
I have 4-5 25 quart size plastic bins with opaque lids they are for my clothes. They fit under my daybed. One for socks, & undergarments. One for t-shirts and long-sleeved tees, another for jeans, one for skirts and nicer matched tops. It's perfect so I don't end up with too many clothing items. All are folded and stored dust free. My closet holds shelves for craft materials in shoe boxes and a large 5 drawer dresser to hold fabric and completed projects quilt tops, etc. it works good, unless things get disorganized. 🎉
How would you know if it’s chronic clutter like someone for instance with add or a hoarding disorder ? How can one discern one from the other ! I have a family member who likes to collect certain things that lives with me and I take care of daily . This person has always collected papers , if all kinds . And other things . Person had a bedroom that is so messy . But they’re capable of cleaning , vacumimg ect . So could it also be Laziness in our case ?
1) clear out
2) catrgorise
3) cut out
4) contain
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You’re the besr
True. But. Easier said than done. If someone has a undiagnosed mental disorder they are sometimes unable to keep organised They hoard stuff 🤔🙄
OH WOW, THIS MADE ME TEAR UP THIS WAS SO INSPIRINGLY BEAUTIFUL!!!! "GREAT JOB GUYS" I REALLY LOVE WATCHING THESE LIFE-CHANGING AMAZING STORIES.
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As a Veteran. I love and respect this greatly!
So simple and I needed this today...I just moved and have too much with no space
Divide and conquer. It worked for Julius Caesar too.
It stresses 😮 good job video motivational thank you ❤
I can't help but feel all the clutter has just moved to another room!!
Thank you
I used to clean my whole house in 3 hours about 50 years ago. I divide my work area in fractions because of my health and I am a caregiver.
Wow!!! I need you😢
I wish you could help me.
I used this audio in a video my room is soo clean👹
What city or state do you live or work in
So many know-it-all comments. They have no idea what they're talking about. Clutter is often not a hoarding issue nor from laziness or lack of organization skills lol. Stress, depression, anxiety, other mood disorders, CPTSD, ADD/ADHD, autism, etc, cause so much mental chaos and overload it's next to impossible to tackle long-term clutter build up. It becomes a vicious cycle with clutter further overwhelming and defeating one's efforts.
Spot on!!!🌈❤👍
Yes u r right😢
People don't seem to understand this, idk if they just don't believe in science and logic?
Yup
Nailed it
I guarantee most folks with ADD or ADHD also have poor diets. It all starts with what we put in our bodies. Drs are so quick to just prescribe pills which only mask the problem.
Thank you
Each time I have helped someone do this, despite creating a home for everything and using organizing systems in each dresser/closet/cabinet, within a week it was back to the original state.
Dishes, trash, food, clothes on the floor, etc all over the place.
Their internal chaos manifested in their external environment.
We have to parent ourselves, If our parent didn't teach us to develop self control and discipline, we must teach ourselves.
Maintaining a tidy space requires a change in daily habits and a radical mindshift.
Self care is a sign that you believe you deserve to live in orderly space.
Definitely a mental or emotional issue. Maybe needs to be addressed 🤔🤔Hopefully the client can keep the room that tidy 🤞🤞
Yes, this. Hardly ever is it "oh, I'm just untidy and don't know how to do it!" and way more often are there deeper psychological reasons.
Yes, this! You can clear out their homes, but as long as they don't address the issues why this happens and bring changes to their lives and routines, this will keep happening. I know, because I was one of them, until I decided to change it.
Exactly, I helped a neighbor clean their home bc a case worker was coming. It was 10x worse than this. They had roaches everywhere in the fridge and sink just crawling around. I came over about a week later and was soo disappointed with what i saw knowing that I put in an entire day to clean their home. Ugh :/ Not all our homes are going to be perfectly clean and organized. I know mine isn’t and I have chronic pain & It’s one thing when it’s “lived in” another when it’s just filled with trash. They gotta change their bad habits or nothing will ever change.
Sounds like a hoarding disorder to me .
My mom never taught me to clean. At all. Either she would clean my room or she would have our maid do it. She taught me to keep everything I didn’t want in boxes in storage and would get mad if I didn’t want something anymore. As an adult, I literally look at my borderline messy room and feel overwhelmed, not knowing how to tackle it. I get the dishes and garbage out, wash the laundry, put things where they belong, but then I get stuck.
I get to a phase with a bunch of random stuff that doesn’t have a space, or I don’t know if I should keep, like a slightly damaged printed photograph or random sewing supplies from my late grandma or an organizer I don’t currently have a use for or especially delicate craft projects I am actively working on/in the middle of. Once those items are all that is left, I get stressed out and don’t know what to do other than “hide” them by putting them in a drawer or box they don’t really belong in or leaving them on the floor by my bed.
My point is, as silly as it seems, some people really do have a lack of skills and know-how to do basic tasks that most school age children can do independently. Hoarding, mental illness, and physical disabilities is not necessarily evident from a messy room alone. As someone who desperately wants a clean room and is actively trying, it’s still hard for me
Same, my sis and I share a room, (my apartment only has 1 bedroom) and she completely trashes it. yea, she’s still a kid, yes she has some mental problems, but she doesn’t help at all. With anything. all thanks to my mom.. i try teaching her but my moms like “im the parent and i tell her what to do not you!” It’s so annoying. and srry about ur mom, it’s very wrong of her not to teach you that.
Meeeee tooo
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My mom didn’t teach us how to clean either, but I’m not sure if she ever learned how either.
She said her house was clean growing up, but when I was 3 my great grandmother died and My grandmother became a hoarder. I don’t remember what our house was like before I was six and my mom started working full time in addition to participating in many activities, but our house was usually messy. She did the dishes almost every night, but we didn’t clean the house unless company was coming.
When I was the last kid left at home, we moved to a different state and larger home. It was nice and we had get togethers frequently, until my grandparents passed away. My mom started cleaning out my grandmothers house and filled my parents home. I’ve learned to keep the house clean, from different people over the years, except for my bedroom.
However, I haven’t given up and I hope you don’t either. UA-cam has helped immensely. ❤
Her voice immediately calmed me.
100% true!
That helps.💜
1. Clear Out - focus one room at a time. Clear out everything that does Not belong in that room, take out trash, and move to other room to deal with later so its clear to see!
2. Categorise - This allows you to see everything you own helping to prep you for next step.
3. Cut Out - Easily declutter and make decisions.
4. Contain - Assess all items and storage and give necessary items a home.
5. ...and RELAX! 💪😁
STEP 5 I LIKE 😄
Within 3-1/2 years, I moved to 5 states: TX AL FL CA LA. I just gave my notice this week. I only keep my favorites, and I get rid of everything that can replaced for less than $20 or within 20 Minutes at Amazon.
If I have 2 of anything, I get rid of the larger items, bec I only keep what fits in my 12 large Totes:
1 Art supplies
2 Bathroom/Laundry
3 Blankets, Pillows
4 Cat food litter toy
5 Clothes Fall, Winter,
6 & Spring, Summer
7 Cooking, Appliances
8 Dine, Place Settings
9 Docs, Books, Pics
10 Office/Study
11 Pantry
12 Work Tools
The struggle is real😢
I’m decluttering my bed room and I’m so overwhelmed 😢😢😢
I cleaned my room for the first time in forever. Yes I’m messy. There is often and underlying cause. Mine is depression. Wellbutrin has helped me tackle my messes.
I feel this so much!
Same here. I feel this so much
Mines bpd so I understand fully!!!
Sounds like from an undercover Pharma rep…
You are such an Angel. A lot of times people struggle with this and people blame them. A lot of time they have disabilities and can’t clean or they have mental issues or other reasons. And you don’t make them feel bad! We need more cleaning channels like you.
This video almost brought me to tears. After having had a baby and now she’s currently a 2 year old. I crave organization. Before having a kids I was so organized. I even had my clothes color coded organized. Now it’s just like whatever I am done! 😢
I totally understand. I was so organized before I had my children. They are so precious to me but they both have special needs. I’m so tired and overwhelmed and things are in chaos. I feel your pain. You are not alone. ❤
I'm not a parent, so I can't directly relate, but I can relate to struggling with clutter. (I'm also a Christin, hi name twin!) I've been watching a decluttering channel by a woman - her name is Robyn - who is both a wife and a mother and it's been helping me. If you'd like to check out her channel, it's called "Minimalist Home" (they're not extreme minimalists, rather they apply some minimalist techniques to keep their home clutter-free/less cluttered). That channel, along with other UA-camrs/videos, is helping me sort through all of my childhood stuff and clutter in my bedroom before I eventually move onto decluttering my college stuff. I hope this helps! 🧡
It is hard with kids. I watch some decluttering channels on here that are helpful to me as background noise motivation when I am cleaning etc. Minimal mom, Clutterbug. Some random others. This is just a phase. Just try to spend time with your baby and don't waste time managing things in your home that isn't going to matter in years from now. Set aside like 5 minutes and do what you can. In this day and time we have TOO MUCH stuff and too much to manage. Praying for you.
The outside is just a reflection of the inside. I use to be a bit more punctual and definitely more organized b4 having my babies. Not the best but better at keeping things tidy longer and showing up for things on time.
When we become parents, that’s when our balancing skills are tested to the max lol. And when one thing is out of whack, it’s easy to lay something down and say “I’ll get it later”. Then when the clutter forms, you feel like you’ll never get it done, it’s too much, you may feel like a failure and eventually what’s the use! Hang in there mama. Seek help if you need to or just take baby steps. Just like how you taught your little one how to walk. Take baby steps. Do one percent better tomorrow than you did today and it’ll add up over time.
May I suggest the book called “Atomic Habits” by James Clear: it could really help us moms out! It really opened my eyes after the first read. I’m going to read it again to stay sharp. It’s also on UA-cam if you’d prefer the Audio. Good job Mama!
Depression
I'm glad that the guitars were able to stay!
Hey better, ah! Weh! You must be preaching the gossiple or moving on up! I was fine with getting a decent sleep with no hacking
I’m not. Makes the room look junky. Visual clutter as soon as you glance into the room.😢
😢life is hard.. procrastinating...main issue. Just do it!!!! U will have peace and space...and feel much better. Wishing all luck❤it's so hard.
A big issue of mine is the moving things to appropriate rooms part. And to lay everything in front of myself to make decisions. My space is so small that there’s literally nowhere for me to move anything but outside. And even then, a lot of items don’t fit out the front door such as huge pieces of furniture that I hate. It is very hard for me to move in my own apartment, and would be even if it was completely empty because the square feet are so miniscule.
Skip to step 3 and start cutting out.
Ignore the furniture.. Start donating and throwing.. Every *loved and *needed item deserves a nice little home and so do you. x
get rid of the furniture that you hate... how did it get in there if it doesn't fit out the front door? that will give you room to work
When my boys were little, all 4 shared one room! It always was trashed. ☹️
Untill one day G❤️D inspired me! I turned on some music, grabbed a bunch of plastic grocery bags; told the boys to put all SHOES in one set of bags, CLOTHES-clean or dirty- in another, BOOKS/papers/pens pencils -etc in another, TOYS in another.
That was it. In 15 minutes the room cleared!
Then we were able to clean in peace.
Later on we sat quietly and sorted through everything in peace. WE CONTROLLED IT ALL, thank G🔥D we were not controlled by it!!!!
Have fun!!!
I used a different method. I told my daughter I will leave and when I get back anything that is on the floor or not put away I will put in the trash. And I did with a big black trashbag. All it took is once 😊
@@gabrieledean8225omg that would traumatize me, my dad would always threat me to do exactly that…
@@gabrieledean8225my sister-in-law has that same story of her childhood! Anything not picked up goes in the black trash bag!
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Thank you so much for this, I am on my own cleaning journey and getting very overwhelmed with the spaces I need to clean. So much of the content online around decluttering shows instagram perfect households that are just organising a single cupboard that's already 10,000x more functional than my spaces before they even start with their privileged minimalist decluttering.
This video really helped me to remind myself that it's okay to just box up my "relocate" tubs, put them in the room they belong and deal with it another day, stay focused on the area we're actually working on.
It's hard not to worry about "what if I finish organising the bedroom, and then when I go to organise the lounge room I find boxes of things that belong in the bedroom, and I have to organise the bedroom all over again! I'm exhausted, I give up". Reminding myself that my house is a living space and it will grow and change and need maintenance along with me, and it's one day at a time.
My issue is a bad back and knees. Most of the cleaning requires stopping, bending, or getting on my knees. Like to clean the bathtub or under my bed. Or as in mopping floors and base boards . No money to pay someone, can’t do it on my own….no fam or friend to help. What do I do?
I'm currently trying my own mess. I think I basically follow your 4 steps (even though this is the first time I see them), but I do step 1 and 2 simultaneously. How do you manage to find the trash and what belongs in different rooms in the mess?
Also,
I do step 2 several times, each time into more detailed categories. Like this:
First time, very large categories, such as "textil", "papers, books, stationary", "tools and paint", "cleaning equipment" etc.
The next steps is to sort every category into more detailed categories. e.i. "textil" into 'blankets, bed pillows, bedspreads etc.', 'towels, bedsheets etc.', 'curtains, rugs etc.', 'coats',
'every day clothes', 'winter clothes', 'summer- and occasion clothes', 'clothes I already know I don't want to keep' (ok, starting step 3 there...), 'socks and tights' and so on.
Then I keep sorting each category into more detailed categories, until I can get a grip of what I have, so I can move on and make decisions about what and how much of it I need to keep 'easy to reach', what is worth keeping in storage space (suitcases, not in season, extra stuff (for example socks and pencils, that I know I will get use for, once I've worn out the current ones), donate and trow away.
The reasons I can't do all the categoriezing in one go is:
1. I don't have enough (physical) space for the number of piles it would take. and
2. I can only remember a certain number of piles, so if I try to sort into too many categories at once, I'll lose to much time asking myself "Where did I put all ... , again?". Even if I've tried naming all the categories and marking their piles with sheets of paper or post-it notes, it's still much slower reading all the signes to find the right pile, then keeping it down two a number I can remember.
For me, this is quite a time consuming process. But definitely worth while!
Thank you for sharing this information with us!!!
That's what would help me, too - is to label piles with paper labeled appropriate categories...❤
Good luck to us all - I am a terrible procrastinator, the past couple of years.. shame on me...
Have any of you watched the no mess decluttering method? It’s life changing without the piles. Dana K White created it but ClutterBug and Minimal Mom both made good videos on it.
As much as we want it all dealt with in one go, we have to remember it takes months or years to get in that state, and its going to take time and repeated passes to get it all done, if we are doing it ourselves.
I've also had to accept there's only so many decisions I can make in one day. There are a few things I've regretted getting rid of, although I still would rather have done this. But the natural limits space and time has its uses.
I've been decluttering for 18 months and sometimes I look around and feel like I haven't made a dent. But if all the stuff I'd decluttered so far was piled up in the front yard I'd be shocked.
Just to clarify its not all my stuff. Both parental households, a business, several children and hubby is a collector have passed through this property.
Categorize 👇
How do you convince them that there are some things that they don't need to keep? Like unnecessary paper work? Or something they've never used?
Be ready for an avalanche when you open those closest doors.
Yep 😫
The guitars were organized all the time....maybe never used, tho.
Working in retail led to me getting a clothing hoard in my room. That associate discount + cute clothes= disaster. I’m categorizing my hoard with keep, giveaway and sell. A lot of my clothes have still have tags so I’m hoping they’ll sell online.🤞
Having asthma and allergies is not fun but thankfully it forces me to keep my room clean otherwise I get sick.
It takes maturity and self discipline to take keep a home clean and healthy
People who are neurodivergent, or have mental or physical health issues are not immature nor lack discipline.
Not everyone has the same operating system. It just makes individuals different, not better than or less than, just different.
I can't declutter like this. This over whelms me to the max as I have a hard enough time as it is.
try this and let me know if it helps. Take photos along the way. I’m going to start today. Visual may give us the needed push when we see what we got done so far.
Thank you for this video....I need help right now.... extremely!
love this video bc everyone of the decluttering videos is somewhat useful with tactics but not helpful in the sense of emotional stress and physical strength to complete the job alone with other daily tasks
You are incredible!! Thank you for all that you’re doing for others !!❤❤❤
My room is too cluttered after my mom's death
Same
Not that easy- but I need this! Thanks! 🇺🇸🌸
Excellent starting point/tip to take everything that doesn't belong in the bedroom out to be dealt with later.
loved your alliteration for Clearing and Cleaning up Chronic Clutter ! Great 4-C steps !!
I love this I will use it thank you. Donated one bag allready today.
So i have bpd i love collecting or buying new stuff, and multiples of these things, creating mess, clutter and bad feng shui.
Slowly getting through it all, its fun at times and other times jarring when theres too much mess and items.
Thanks for this!
Omg I wish you were in PA 😅 I can’t stand the mess in my apt with 3 kids 2 bedrooms
How does this address long lasting results? Yes, it looks good now, but what tools do the person have to keep it up?
Thanks. Quick to the point and helpful.
I am a warrior.
In the process of tidying up, I've keep a box of "perfectly good things" I have no need for ( -> no space for ). Sometimes, when there has been a friend over to my messy place, I've told them about it and asked them to see if there is anything they want there. It's been a nice way for me to get rid of "perfectly good things" (that I'd be much happier to "find a new home for", than just throw away). And, with a bit of luck, my friends can save the time and money it would have taken them to go shopping for whatever they managed to find.
If, in the end, I can find space for it, I might keep a "guest goodiebag" box for declouthered stuff.
(If I can manage to declutter that box from the stuff no one has needed in enough time. And know what be worth putting there and not. Maybe some can pull it off nicely?)
I am in a small motorhome. I never take food or drinks into my bedroom. I never leave crumbs or dirty dishes out as it will attract ants or other bugs. I have a certain place for everything and it must go back in that place. Shelves, hooks or cubbies for all the miscellaneous stuff. A few things left out and it looks a total mess but only takes a few minutes to clean up. Changing the bed is the hardest job. Purging whenever I deep clean, those items go into a small donate bin. I am ocd and can only stand stuff out of place for a short time.
Sometimes, it's about not being an effect decisive decision maker. That's me, with one room, where I have tools, books, art supplies... in boxes, mostly, but I am now more tired of it than ever - finally.
OH WOW, THIS MADE ME TEAR UP THIS WAS SO INSPIRINGLY BEAUTIFUL!!!! "GREAT JOB GUYS" I REALLY LOVE WATCHING THESE LIFE-CHANGING AMAZING STORIES.
I always wonder exactly how long it takes when there are videos like this that are sped up. I'm one person dealing with the items of at least three people, and I have limited time and energy. It looks like this room took probably a week that was with help!
Absolutely! They make it look so easy. We all work have stresses and both sap energy. I’m dining my bedroom and on the third day. It’s looking better. I have a very busy life and can’t work every day bc I have setbacks from covid
While typing, I realized, Maybe if we photographed the beginning, middle, we’d be more motivated to continue till the end.
I’m very visual and need to SEE progress, that’s my answer. I get lost without seeing the finish line.
if you think a week...think a solid work week...9-5 w overtime because that is a lot stuff.
That's how u get it done.every things has a place in the home.put it where it go.
I would've resigned after seeing this place 😂
Wow your work changes lives and gives hope, where sometimes it is deemed "impossible". I've beem really considering becoming a P.O. in the future.
I do all this for myself. If you assign a location for your products then it helps you realize how much shit you really have.
Girllllllll I would have started CRYING if I had to clean that 😮😫... Fantastic job
Could they put a shelf above their hanging clothes in the closet?😊
I’m just writing this down in a: 3 lined ringlet blue book, thank you so much for your viedeo that specializes of Chronic Decluttering; I really appreciate your video; I subscribed to your Chanel; again thank you for the video, I hope that I get to the decluttering slowly but surely
i can't sleep with this kind kind of room 😅... even if how busy i am, i make sure to take time to organize to calm my mind..clutter is a no no at home
That sounds like moving the same item 3 times before actually doing something useful… thanks but no thanks
That's amazing. Great job ladies ❤🎉
What’s your advice on dealing with clutter when there is no space available to move things from room to another?
This is very hard - but, perhaps we can start with using small chunks of time, too, not just different categories...❤ -
Different categories + using small chunks of time = Getting tbings done!
Glad this came up - it made me think more clearly about this.
Wow! How many days did it take you to do this?
Also light incense or spray air freshener, and once cleared stuff, don't bring it back, take it out of the room! Haha 😄. I find it hard to get rid of things, but last week I took bags to the charity shop, it was a relief to get rid of old clothes n bric brac! UK 🇬🇧 lol 🇬🇧 😆 🤣
I know it might not be my place to say this but.... those Walls need a new color, it would change the feeling of the room so much. Maybe some wallpaper, it screams to me
I am a professional organizer too I can organize a whole mansion so if you need any hall help just say something in my comments in my videos thank you❤❤❤
This totally me my home is spotless but I just keep shopping and shopping and I own a five bedroom home one person living in the home and I own all closets and Never nothing to wear
Love this, thanks!!!
Intuu saan noqonayay xagaad kumaqnayd
I so need your help, war with cancer, but feel like my house is closing in on me , got my husband to take down somethings , helps me alot, I need help with lots of things, the south is calling you , near Casino
You need a professional to show u how to declutter??🤔😂
Being able to have a closet with shelves and storage under my daybed makes it easier to keep track of what i have. Labeling the boxes is very important so only those items go to where they belong. And you avoid duplicates.
I would die in that room from dysregulation
What if there is no space anywhere else in the home to move the cleared out items to???!!
My first thought when I saw this room "You can sure tell what is important to this client. It's all hanging orderly and nicely on the wall!!"
What about a studio apartment which is one room?
Loved seeing the end result
I love this video and would like to see more like this.
consider making sure each home has a working fire exringuisher & working smoke detectors 😊
Lovely
I do exactly the same way
So much storage ❤❤❤I wish
Living in one room, I totally get you.
Awesome making a short term move I. 2 Days but I will be returning for a full move in a couple of months. Most areas are under control but I have TONS of clothes to decide what to do with. This is so encouraging.
I have 4-5 25 quart size plastic bins with opaque lids they are for my clothes. They fit under my daybed. One for socks, & undergarments. One for t-shirts and long-sleeved tees, another for jeans, one for skirts and nicer matched tops. It's perfect so I don't end up with too many clothing items. All are folded and stored dust free. My closet holds shelves for craft materials in shoe boxes and a large 5 drawer dresser to hold fabric and completed projects quilt tops, etc. it works good, unless things get disorganized. 🎉
HOWED SHE GET INSIDE MY ROOM!?!?
THANK YOU!❤
Thank you for being nice
Hats off to your Hardworking 😮😊
CUT OUT ❤ I like that method
How would you know if it’s chronic clutter like someone for instance with add or a hoarding disorder ? How can one discern one from the other ! I have a family member who likes to collect certain things that lives with me and I take care of daily . This person has always collected papers , if all kinds . And other things . Person had a bedroom that is so messy . But they’re capable of cleaning , vacumimg ect . So could it also be Laziness in our case ?
From years of experience I can say work with your family member nicely. Offer to help them clean and organize the space regularly. My best wishes.
My friend is king of cluttering never never able to declutter anything
Wow 😳 please come to my house
I would like to do this 🎉
I needed this video thank you
Love the way you use those 4 core methods!!! Thank you.
I LOVE organizing other peoples stuff… but I hate organizing my stuff 🥲
Wow
The person has a taste in music. The guitars were so neatly organised 😂
Thanks this is really helpful
THANK YOU SO MUCH! I had to listen to it on loop but i think this is going to work!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is my room literally. Everything is disorganized except for my electric guitars 😭