This really resonates with my current crazy situation. Had my first born first year of medical school. Took 5 days off and was right back in the class room. Horrible decision! I feel like I completely missed out on my son growing up for the sake of not falling behind and graduating with my class. I am Currently pregnant with baby #2, due on Christmas, and will be taking a whole year off prior to graduating and starting residency. I am really looking forward to being home more and putting aside all these silly timelines and goals. Medicine can wait and residency needs to adapt to the changing times. We no longer live in the 1950's
Oh my goodness, 5 days?! I am glad you feel empowered to take more time off with your second. How are the Logistics for taking a year off? Do you match first and then agree to start a year later? Or apply next cycle? I had a friend take 6 months after your second born before PEDS residency and she just started later.
I’m currently 16 weeks pregnant (my first!) and a first year med student. I plan to take a leave of absence next semester! Realizing I want to spend time enjoying my pregnancy and being with baby when he/she is delivered!! Thank you for this video! Made me feel confident in my choice. I was so stressed out this semester and can’t imagine stressing my baby further if I continue next semester. Glad my medical school is mostly flexible with taking some time off 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Smarter people are not having kids. We are in a broken world. Putting kids in a irreparable world where they will 100% suffer climate change instead of adopting is selfish and disgusting. Most moms are no realist they just want a cute baby to post pictures on fb of and get praises while complaining about work and their broken love life. Also, I know people in their 20s who have kids and feel like their life is over, no energy no time for anything but making money. It depends on people.
I cannot thank you enough for making this video. As a 24 year old just now starting on my premed journey, the timeline of when to start a family is one that I constantly think about and talk about at great length with my partner. We both feel more ready than we’ve ever been before (both mentally and financially)but there literally is no “perfect time “ that I can think of unless I wait until I become an attending( literally 12+ years from now) Loool. I’ve been doing my research and the common consensus seems to be - do it if you feel ready and the rest will work itself out. I cannot think of anything more terrifying haha. Any advice from anyone reading this would be helpful ❤️ thanks
Yasmin and Jenny. this a small information for both of you. When you guys dealing with the health insurance ask them if the a clause called hold harmless clause. That mean the patient will not pay and doesn't have any responsible for any service the doctor did. If the insurance doesn't cover the service in the insurance. At all insaurcne doesn't have that clause within the contact, also the no balane billing. You guys check that clause. I am reading this information from a health book called understanding health insurance
sis go for it. rather have a preteen by the end of the journey than starting your dream family lol. put faith in allah and everything will work out. I am a new mom studying for step and its very hard but very doable.
I am on your boat.. 27 and getting ready to start a family while doing interviews. I think you know when you feel ready, and like Jenny said, there’s never a true right time… and medicine will always be there. Best of luck to you!!
This was a great video. Thank you for using your platform to talk about the challenges of motherhood and medicine. I felt the same feelings while in med school with an infant. Sad I couldn’t be with him and stressed while struggling with school. I wish I was able to savor those moments.
Thank you for this video, your advice is something I needed to hear so much today. 33 & feeling the pressure to finish school & thank you for sharing your beautiful story.
I’d like to recommend a book. I’m donating one to an inpatient mental facility nearby because I think it is one of those books that can actually reach people “Reasons to Stay Alive” by Matt Haig. He also has some talks and interviews here on youtube and other places. I hope the recommendation helps someone.
Hello Doctor Le! So lovely to see your family and boys all grown up so quickly! Great inspiration that you can try to have a balanced life and make time for reading books!
@@drjennale I don’t know how you managed to study and become a Doctor in residence whilst having a family. Plus going through all the morning sickness /nausea! How did you cope with all that?
I had constant nausea with London’s pregnancy. I took B6 vitamins and it helped. Taking your prenatal vitamins 3 months before conception is also shown to help with morning sickness. I think during that time I was just go go go go go. Didn’t really let me self stop and stress about all the things I had to do 😅 making up for it now
Great content in this video that I remind myself of all the time! My goal was to apply for medical school this coming spring, but after having my first child, I had to take a step back and analyze my priorities. Like Jenny said, medicine will always be there waiting for me. But my little one will only by small for such a short time😭 it sometimes bothers me that I won’t start medical school for a few years yet, but having the opportunity to stay at home, raise my child, and watch him grow far outweighs that concern which in reality is very small and is only because we’ve been pressured into thinking that we have to meet goals on a certain timeline.
Thank you for this video! It really put my mind at ease. Finding the “perfect time” to start a family has been something I’ve been contemplating with and for the longest made me question if I should really pursue medicine despite it being my passion. However, I feel more confident to just things one day at a time and figure it out as I go. At the end of the day, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. So I’m more confident taking time off in med school or residency if it ever comes to that point. Thank you for the insight! 😊
Smarter people are not having kids. We are in a broken world. Putting kids in a irreparable world where they will 100% suffer climate change instead of adopting is selfish and disgusting. Most moms are no realist they just want a cute baby to post pictures on fb of and get praises while complaining about work and their broken love life. Also, I know people in their 20s who have kids and feel like their life is over, no energy no time for anything but making money. It depends on people.
I just want to say whoever knows you personally, is so blessed! Your aura is so peaceful and welcoming. I can’t imagine being your friend or your patient! Much love from FL Oh and thank you for this, really needed to hear it.
Jenny! Can you do a review of Tempo. Planning to get a home gym machine, either Tempo or Tonal. Unfortunately, there's not much on YT on these. Want a reliable review.
Also, can I suggest something? I think you put too much pressure and blame on yourself for not spending a certain amount of time with your kids. We're constantly judged by non health care people that we're terrible parents. I think we're doing the best we can. I'm sure your kids will be proud of you when they grow up. Please don't let that negative energy get to you.
Still working on mom guilt and figuring out what expectations are my own … it’s hard. I saw some good reviews on tempo but happy to make one! I was actually debating on both too. The big thing for me was that Tonal had to be bolted to your wall. Has to be in a specific place and will be hard to move. But!! It likely has higher weights/resistance if you wanted to lift heavy. I personally love free weights with tempo. The classes and coaches with tempo are amazing. Very science based programming structure. Ultimately, either are great as long as you’re consistent.
It’s all about the soup base! They already have the pre-packages in the Asian store. Throw that in your instapot with your choice of protein, charred onion and ginger and that’s it! A lot easier with the instapot.
I bought Tempo before they broke it down to packages. I use the barbell a lot in the exercises and the barbell rack. Even though the matching sets are all very esthetically pleasing, I think just getting the starter set and then buying a barbell and heavier weight plates separately would be cheaper.
If you have a library card, you can also use an app like Libby and listen to audiobooks for free. You just have to wait several weeks if a book is popular. I’ve been good. I would like to think I’m getting better, physically and mentally, every day 🥰
I think we tend to focus too much on the end goal - “become a doctor,” “be financially stable,” “retire!” - when we should be focusing on the journey. Things not magically change when you become a doctor. Try to also focus on the things that bring you joy now.
I am deciding if going to work and leave baby in daycare, or wait to having a second child. And then go to work and try to get I to residency. I feel that I wold love to use my medocal knowledge and be around adults, but also want to spent time with my baby. My husband works, so baby would need to be in daycare, he is the primary income. Watching your video made me realize that time with them will not be back
I’m 23 in year 1. And I’ve pretty much decided I’ll live life alone. As much as I would like to be a parent. I wanna be a surgeon and eventually trauma surgeon. Aka many many days/nights in the hospital. No kid deserves a part time parent and that’s all I can give as a surgeon.
I’m part of a Dr. Mom breastfeeding support group and there are many bad ass female physicians who are also surgeons. Some people truly don’t want children and I think that’s great. I just hate that our systems forces us to believe that we need to choose between career and family.
@@drjennale Thanks for your response Jenny. I definitely agree about hating that we feel like we have to chose. My mom says it's a phase and eventually I'll feel I can do both but it's definitely scary. I often think about when I'm 50 and my biological clock expires that I'll regret not having children. I will say though, watching you and a lot of other UA-cam Dr.Moms do it, does give me some hope.
@@tailorforeman7082 I follow a trauma surgeon on social media (Dr qali) that has like 6 kids (almost all during her training) and she’s badass! As long as their is a strong support system in place it’s doable. Training eventually ends.
Watching this during nap time as I’m on Leave between M1 and M2 with my little one. The thing that stands out the most is the guilt. This godforsaken process requires so much of us that there’s literally guilt at any stage no matter how things go. Baby gets to spend the first several months with me, gets used to being with mom 24/7, and then is suddenly going to be dumped at day care one day. Is going to be old enough to remember residency and the terrible hours. I wonder all the time how people manage. Being expected to continue straight through is inhumane but even with a break I imagine it’s going to be difficult.
It is going to be difficult. This is really a systemic issue. If it makes anything better, I have spoken to many people who have both parents as physicians - and they have said that they always felt loved and supported. It’s the quality of time you spend rather than the quantity.
Smarter people are not having kids. We are in a broken world. Putting kids in a irreparable world where they will 100% suffer climate change instead of adopting is selfish and disgusting. Most moms are no realist they just want a cute baby to post pictures on fb of and get praises while complaining about work and their broken love life. Also, I know people in their 20s who have kids and feel like their life is over, no energy no time for anything but making money. It depends on people.
This really resonates with my current crazy situation. Had my first born first year of medical school. Took 5 days off and was right back in the class room. Horrible decision! I feel like I completely missed out on my son growing up for the sake of not falling behind and graduating with my class. I am Currently pregnant with baby #2, due on Christmas, and will be taking a whole year off prior to graduating and starting residency. I am really looking forward to being home more and putting aside all these silly timelines and goals. Medicine can wait and residency needs to adapt to the changing times. We no longer live in the 1950's
Oh my goodness, 5 days?! I am glad you feel empowered to take more time off with your second.
How are the Logistics for taking a year off? Do you match first and then agree to start a year later? Or apply next cycle? I had a friend take 6 months after your second born before PEDS residency and she just started later.
I’m currently 16 weeks pregnant (my first!) and a first year med student. I plan to take a leave of absence next semester! Realizing I want to spend time enjoying my pregnancy and being with baby when he/she is delivered!! Thank you for this video! Made me feel confident in my choice. I was so stressed out this semester and can’t imagine stressing my baby further if I continue next semester. Glad my medical school is mostly flexible with taking some time off 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I am so happy for you!! Glad you’re taking the time ❤️
Smarter people are not having kids. We are in a broken world. Putting kids in a irreparable world where they will 100% suffer climate change instead of adopting is selfish and disgusting. Most moms are no realist they just want a cute baby to post pictures on fb of and get praises while complaining about work and their broken love life. Also, I know people in their 20s who have kids and feel like their life is over, no energy no time for anything but making money. It depends on people.
I cannot thank you enough for making this video. As a 24 year old just now starting on my premed journey, the timeline of when to start a family is one that I constantly think about and talk about at great length with my partner. We both feel more ready than we’ve ever been before (both mentally and financially)but there literally is no “perfect time “ that I can think of unless I wait until I become an attending( literally 12+ years from now) Loool. I’ve been doing my research and the common consensus seems to be - do it if you feel ready and the rest will work itself out. I cannot think of anything more terrifying haha. Any advice from anyone reading this would be helpful ❤️ thanks
The best things in life are often also the scariest. You got this 💪🏽
Yasmin and Jenny. this a small information for both of you. When you guys dealing with the health insurance ask them if the a clause called hold harmless clause. That mean the patient will not pay and doesn't have any responsible for any service the doctor did. If the insurance doesn't cover the service in the insurance. At all insaurcne doesn't have that clause within the contact, also the no balane billing. You guys check that clause. I am reading this information from a health book called understanding health insurance
sis go for it. rather have a preteen by the end of the journey than starting your dream family lol. put faith in allah and everything will work out. I am a new mom studying for step and its very hard but very doable.
I am on your boat.. 27 and getting ready to start a family while doing interviews. I think you know when you feel ready, and like Jenny said, there’s never a true right time… and medicine will always be there. Best of luck to you!!
Honestly, why am I crying? This video especially the end was everything I needed to hear right now. Thank you Jenny
Thanks for being here Sarah ❤️
This was a great video. Thank you for using your platform to talk about the challenges of motherhood and medicine. I felt the same feelings while in med school with an infant. Sad I couldn’t be with him and stressed while struggling with school. I wish I was able to savor those moments.
Thank you for this video, your advice is something I needed to hear so much today. 33 & feeling the pressure to finish school & thank you for sharing your beautiful story.
Happy that the day in the life vlogs are back 🥰
Yes! Finally replaced the broken camera so get ready for a lot more vlogs! 😬
I’d like to recommend a book. I’m donating one to an inpatient mental facility nearby because I think it is one of those books that can actually reach people “Reasons to Stay Alive” by Matt Haig. He also has some talks and interviews here on youtube and other places. I hope the recommendation helps someone.
Ohhhhh! I’ll put that on my list. Thank you for the recommendation!
Hello Doctor Le! So lovely to see your family and boys all grown up so quickly! Great inspiration that you can try to have a balanced life and make time for reading books!
They are!! I don’t even feel like I can’t use the 👶🏻 emoji for London anymore because he’s so big now 😭
@@drjennale I don’t know how you managed to study and become a Doctor in residence whilst having a family. Plus going through all the morning sickness /nausea! How did you cope with all that?
I had constant nausea with London’s pregnancy. I took B6 vitamins and it helped. Taking your prenatal vitamins 3 months before conception is also shown to help with morning sickness.
I think during that time I was just go go go go go. Didn’t really let me self stop and stress about all the things I had to do 😅 making up for it now
Love this! Had my first baby intern year. Resonates with me so much. There is never a perfect time
Great content in this video that I remind myself of all the time! My goal was to apply for medical school this coming spring, but after having my first child, I had to take a step back and analyze my priorities. Like Jenny said, medicine will always be there waiting for me. But my little one will only by small for such a short time😭 it sometimes bothers me that I won’t start medical school for a few years yet, but having the opportunity to stay at home, raise my child, and watch him grow far outweighs that concern which in reality is very small and is only because we’ve been pressured into thinking that we have to meet goals on a certain timeline.
Yes! Being a mom and life experience also makes you a better doctor. Congratulations on your little one 👶🏻❤️
Thank you for this video! It really put my mind at ease. Finding the “perfect time” to start a family has been something I’ve been contemplating with and for the longest made me question if I should really pursue medicine despite it being my passion. However, I feel more confident to just things one day at a time and figure it out as I go. At the end of the day, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. So I’m more confident taking time off in med school or residency if it ever comes to that point. Thank you for the insight! 😊
Smarter people are not having kids. We are in a broken world. Putting kids in a irreparable world where they will 100% suffer climate change instead of adopting is selfish and disgusting. Most moms are no realist they just want a cute baby to post pictures on fb of and get praises while complaining about work and their broken love life. Also, I know people in their 20s who have kids and feel like their life is over, no energy no time for anything but making money. It depends on people.
I just want to say whoever knows you personally, is so blessed! Your aura is so peaceful and welcoming. I can’t imagine being your friend or your patient! Much love from FL
Oh and thank you for this, really needed to hear it.
I am so grateful for everyone here ❤️
Jenny! Can you do a review of Tempo. Planning to get a home gym machine, either Tempo or Tonal. Unfortunately, there's not much on YT on these. Want a reliable review.
Also, can I suggest something? I think you put too much pressure and blame on yourself for not spending a certain amount of time with your kids. We're constantly judged by non health care people that we're terrible parents. I think we're doing the best we can. I'm sure your kids will be proud of you when they grow up. Please don't let that negative energy get to you.
Still working on mom guilt and figuring out what expectations are my own … it’s hard.
I saw some good reviews on tempo but happy to make one! I was actually debating on both too. The big thing for me was that Tonal had to be bolted to your wall. Has to be in a specific place and will be hard to move. But!! It likely has higher weights/resistance if you wanted to lift heavy. I personally love free weights with tempo. The classes and coaches with tempo are amazing. Very science based programming structure. Ultimately, either are great as long as you’re consistent.
Would love a recipe video for that pho!
It’s all about the soup base! They already have the pre-packages in the Asian store. Throw that in your instapot with your choice of protein, charred onion and ginger and that’s it! A lot easier with the instapot.
@@drjennale can u show us which pre packaged stuff to buy? your pho looks amazing!
I bought Tempo before they broke it down to packages. I use the barbell a lot in the exercises and the barbell rack. Even though the matching sets are all very esthetically pleasing, I think just getting the starter set and then buying a barbell and heavier weight plates separately would be cheaper.
Time is something that I can't get back
So making the most of every moment 💪🏽👩🏻⚕️
I really like this video 🤗
Yay! 🥰
@@drjennale I think I am gonna buy Waking the tiger.
How are you doing? Recently got the booster dose too
If you have a library card, you can also use an app like Libby and listen to audiobooks for free. You just have to wait several weeks if a book is popular.
I’ve been good. I would like to think I’m getting better, physically and mentally, every day 🥰
@@drjennale Thanks for your suggestion!
I really hope I will be happier when I become a doctor. Meanwhile.. 🥴🤯
I think we tend to focus too much on the end goal - “become a doctor,” “be financially stable,” “retire!” - when we should be focusing on the journey. Things not magically change when you become a doctor. Try to also focus on the things that bring you joy now.
The boy's at the end were so cute 🤣, but it can be frustrating when they don't eat what they're suppose to!
They have gotten so picky! Especially Wyatt 😑
I am deciding if going to work and leave baby in daycare, or wait to having a second child. And then go to work and try to get I to residency. I feel that I wold love to use my medocal knowledge and be around adults, but also want to spent time with my baby.
My husband works, so baby would need to be in daycare, he is the primary income.
Watching your video made me realize that time with them will not be back
We need a pho recipe. Your soup looks yummy.
I’m 23 in year 1. And I’ve pretty much decided I’ll live life alone. As much as I would like to be a parent. I wanna be a surgeon and eventually trauma surgeon. Aka many many days/nights in the hospital. No kid deserves a part time parent and that’s all I can give as a surgeon.
I’m part of a Dr. Mom breastfeeding support group and there are many bad ass female physicians who are also surgeons. Some people truly don’t want children and I think that’s great. I just hate that our systems forces us to believe that we need to choose between career and family.
@@drjennale Thanks for your response Jenny. I definitely agree about hating that we feel like we have to chose. My mom says it's a phase and eventually I'll feel I can do both but it's definitely scary. I often think about when I'm 50 and my biological clock expires that I'll regret not having children. I will say though, watching you and a lot of other UA-cam Dr.Moms do it, does give me some hope.
@@tailorforeman7082 I follow a trauma surgeon on social media (Dr qali) that has like 6 kids (almost all during her training) and she’s badass! As long as their is a strong support system in place it’s doable. Training eventually ends.
Did I hear that right?? The fact that maternity leave can be unpaid is disheartening :(
It’s true. The US is the only industrialized nation that doesn’t have paid parental leave … zero 😭
Watching this during nap time as I’m on Leave between M1 and M2 with my little one.
The thing that stands out the most is the guilt. This godforsaken process requires so much of us that there’s literally guilt at any stage no matter how things go. Baby gets to spend the first several months with me, gets used to being with mom 24/7, and then is suddenly going to be dumped at day care one day. Is going to be old enough to remember residency and the terrible hours.
I wonder all the time how people manage. Being expected to continue straight through is inhumane but even with a break I imagine it’s going to be difficult.
It is going to be difficult. This is really a systemic issue. If it makes anything better, I have spoken to many people who have both parents as physicians - and they have said that they always felt loved and supported. It’s the quality of time you spend rather than the quantity.
@@drjennale I needed that ♥️
Smarter people are not having kids. We are in a broken world. Putting kids in a irreparable world where they will 100% suffer climate change instead of adopting is selfish and disgusting. Most moms are no realist they just want a cute baby to post pictures on fb of and get praises while complaining about work and their broken love life. Also, I know people in their 20s who have kids and feel like their life is over, no energy no time for anything but making money. It depends on people.