I learned about 6 weeks ago being a sigma, watched 250 videos of sigma, archetypes and psychology searching for the truth being a REAL sigma. Yes, I am. But I also see a relative big difference to the sigma everywhere on UA-cam. The sigma should be creative, I am not. I do not have any creative or relative hobbies. This is something I learned from myself before learning being a sigma. AND there was no "pain" in my childhood. But I've seen early being different from others. Maybe the non-creative non-relative things do create another type of sigma, the definite or concrete sigma. What I found out, is, that the zeta male could become a sigma. There are some parallels I saw in this video.
I am 60, and even today I still get called weird. My response “ I am so relieved, for a moment I thought you were going to call me normal, then I would have been really offended” Yep I totally relate to all these points, especially the education system.
@danjsilve Ditto! 62 here, and the only thing government schools ever taught me was that I wanted NO part of the type of life I was being groomed for by them. It also made me think long and hard about liberty (The draft was still on then), autonomy, economics, and social norms....in my elementary school days. I opted out mentally at about 13...and formnally dropped out the day I turned 16, and have never looked back. I actually get embarrassed any time anything I do seems to coincide with "normality" or what is popular- but thankfully, such rarely happens. Who the hell would ever want to "be like ev eryone else" or "a part of the crowd"?! We just want to be ourselves..and have been blessed to see through the conditioning and propaganda which snags most people.
Education system is like Swiss cheese to me... My teachers loved how I always poked the wholes in what they thought us and many felt I was too smart for my own good. [Chuckles] I tell my son all the time... Question everything even what I say and you'll be better off than most!
@@peterryan4199 the education system is for the system. we sigmas are nonconformant, against the system. system means being dependent. sigmas want to be independent, being free. this is something i take with me very deep inside me. so it is not practical for me being a boss, because a boss is also dependent from the system. i found my independence in bitcoin, not working, having no wife, no childs, no pets, no plants. i can go wherever i want whenever i want. i do not have to ask anybody.
necessitates a common frame of reference. None of us had that. For me, I was into advance mathematics when I was a kid. How many my age -- or even a bit older -- could I do math with? I would have to find someone from the university who wanted to spend time with a young kid. May have been a possibility if the adults around me -- parents and teachers -- pursued that for me, but they didn't have a clue themselves. And so, I became self-reliant. And all of us here have similar stories. Maybe there is a sub-reddit or Discord server we can join -- Sigma Males Lives.
I had "Will not go along with what others think, say and do, and punishment has little effect", "is disobedient in thought", and "consistent bad behaviour of reading obsessively, especially to check for himself whatever is told to him. At a loss for how to stop this.".
@darrynreid4500 I can totally relate. Didn't find out I was a Sigma Child until 74 years old. Saw a 3 year old great nephew for the first time this past summer. His personality was classic Sigma. I explained this to his Dad.
I am a lone Wolf and a sigma male. I have one friend that I actively talk to. I live by myself. I do everything by myself and I prefer to keep it that way. I am more alive alone than I am or ever would be in a crowd. Being in a crowd is hell!! Being around people for me is hell!!!
The sigma learns to stand on his own two feet relying on no one- you learn quickly that people can and will let you down so you become the strong self sufficient person you need to be. No one owes you in this life so you must blaze your own trail!
@@jesse75Alphas place themselves in these positions you mentioned because of their shear drive and wanting to be top dog. Sigma like myself couldn't care less. I do what I need/want to do regardless of position of others /position of alphas.
I am 77 and always wondered why I never quite"fitted in". I have watched quite a few of your video's and have been shocked to find that I am not alone. I now realise that I am an archetypal sigma male. I hit 100% of your criteria. Life has been very difficult at times. I wish I knew this when I was in my teens.
Yes, Chuck, there are many of us; but due to our natural selves, we usually find our most comfort in our individual dens, as is appropriate for wolves. I'm now in my mid-80s and quite comfortable with my thoughts and mindful pursuits via the internet. In addition, I'm fascinated with the myriad of personalities and the resultant manifestations of each as related to social (and cultural) interaction. Those whom I'd thought to be the same or similar can be significantly different in surprising ways. Locating the hidden historical detail causing such a difference can be exhausting, so is usually not pursued. But knowledge of that small tidbit of difference is the big key to avoiding dead end choices. Continue on your journey; there's no longer an alternate pathway now. Carry on. Oh, one other thought: when I was 3, I remember concluding that people were insane, or at least crazy or moronic. Then, about 5 years later when I was in the 3rd grade in school, my Dad had a "report card" conversation with me, telling me he expected future report cards to replace Ds and Fs with As and Bs. Puzzled, I asked him how I would do that, because I had no idea as to what I was supposed to do to please his expectations. I guess he was unprepared for such a simple request but struggled to give me some suggestions on "paying attention" to what the teacher was teaching us. Well, report card after report card I began to improve slightly with each report card. I knew he was disappointed with my progress, but by the second or third "fourth-grade report card," I was able to show a few "A" grades, which encouraged my Dad's pride and relief. I think he might have thought I was a dunce with no hopes for a successful future. The result was I was learning to be someone I really was not. I was becoming a phony to my self. Fast forward to an unwanted divorce in my mid-30s, I retreated back into my Sigma male self, where I have secretly remained for decades, despite several co-habitational relationships with various female types. I learned much with each one. Anyway, there's much more to my "education" from my 40s on but involves too much explanation. So, like you, I wish I had been in better situations from the start. Instead, I had many pathways and roads to travel to experience all life has. Good Luck to you.
Yep, Chuck and Xavier! I'm 62 and only learned in the last year or two that there is a name for people like us. I've always thoroughly embraced and enjoyed who I am, and my lonerism, etc. -but I had thought that it was pretty much uniquely me- that I was an anomaly. Interesting to now learn that there is a small percentage of others like us, and that "they" have recognized our breed. Now, when people say "You don't quite seem like an alpha...but you're certainly not a beta.." we can inform them that we are sigmas. Formerly, I just used to say that I'm unique. Now it seems, I'm not so much unique, but instead part of a very small subset.
I'm 63 and feel like I've finally discovered/confirmed that indeed, I am from another planet and there are others who've landed as well. So stunned there's a name for what I am.
It is less about detaching from others' expectations, and more about being true to oneself. Not conforming doesn't mean ignoring others expectations, it is more like "that won't work for me" and "I'll find my own way".
@borndeafin1ear Well said! Only, I might add that there are forces which seek to manipulate the foibles of human nature to make it seem normal to abide by the expectations of others, and abnormal not to- and schools and the media are amplifying such. I suspect that there might be more of us sigmas around if it were not for these forces actively seeking to repress such traits (and there would also be a lot fewer confused/depressed people around too). It's like a giant coin sorting machine: The dimes have a space and the quarters have a space...but when a silver dollar (sigma) comes along, it tries to cram him into the smaller spaces...and the only way he can truly remain a sigma if he takes the initiative to break free of that machine.
@descendancedenoefilsdadam1028 Borndeafin1ear is 100% correct. I believe what he is saying is that we do not rebel, but we are seen as rebellious because we are outside of the bounds of what constitutes normality for the average person- and not because we consciously choose to be outside those bounds, but rather because we embrace our own individuality and DO consciously choose not to embrace the path that "society" has mapped-out for us, but instead are perfectly comfortable to go our own way while not needing the affirmation or validation of anyone else.
The over thinking and need for discovery was always a concern my mother had! She always said to me “ your overthinking is going to be the death of you”! 3:03
This video describes me perfectly! Earlier in my adult life as a mechanic: One of my bosses criticized me for working too slow. He said I was thinking too much. What???? He wants me to stop thinking???? No way!!!! The other mechanics were doing crappy jobs by taking shortcuts, and were thus getting paid more even though they had far higher customer returns for re-repairs than I had! I got tired of that B.S. and chose another line of work.
Same for me, except in the phone company. I wasn’t slow, but I made sure everything was right when I finished a job- thorough. But all it did for me was I would get everyone else’s repeater job to fix because “oh they are on another job.” Boss wanted the job fixed, and knew the other person screwed it up the first time, they will screw it up again so he would give it to me to fix properly. Pretty annoying.
@@lawrencehammersley4945 I once considered it, but the cost would be immense. We are not simply talking about a double garage here. I was a semi-truck mechanic, therefore the garages would have to be much larger and in a commercial zone. Thousands upon thousands of dollars of special tools would have to be purchased and waste products stored for eventual recycling, and so forth. You as a customer may be paying $100+ per hour for labor costs at your shop; but the mechanic only gets one fifth to one third of that. The shop keeps the rest. It would take many years to save up enough money for a down payment for such a shop. It was just not worth it to me.
@@rumblehat4357 Exactly!!! Of course the boss pretends to want the job done correctly; but really he just wants the vehicle out the door and the payment in his hands. The pay incentive is for speedy repairs that hopefully won't come back. Shops usually pay by the job, therefore; the more half-assed jobs get done: the higher the mechanics paycheck will be!
People who know me (Relatives and such) always found it odd that someone with my IQ has mostly chosen to pursue manual labor type endeavors. If questioned, I inform them such is the case because I like to be to do things that allow me to think my thoughts, rather than have to abandon them to give priority to something that I am only doing to create income. Bad enough I have to give my presence...but I'm not giving my mind for such a meager thing as mere money. Not to mention, that I don't want to be involved in the politics of higher-level endeavors, nor the networking or social interactions which are required. My first occupation was as a clam digger when I was a teen. Being out all alone on the quiet still bay all day was pure bliss!
You dead on. I stood alone trying to fit in but never could. Did my own thing as long as I didn't hurt or put out anyone. Made my own money, spent it on my toys for myself . Graduated with 2 cars, a motorcycle, and 2 parts cars. Parent had one car. I'm 58 next week and still living my own life. A good happy life. Hang in there dudes. It o my gets better overall.
This is quite astonishing to me because I agree with every single point. A lot happened in my childhood and I was very different to the hundreds of other pupils in my school. The teachers of that era were un-prepared for the likes of me and didn't know what to do. I left school at fourteen and started to learn many things. During my working life, many bosses said that I know too much. Many were afraid of me and about what I knew about them, however, some were visibly disturbed by the psychometric test results and panicked.
To the teachers, I was just a bad kid. Because back then nobody looked at what was going on at home. We were on our own. Just trying to survive another day, at such a young age, is something no kid should have to endure.
I learned don't reveal to people what you see and know about them. We may not realize it but it can be very intrusive. Besides it puts people in denial and.on the defense to be read like Hannibal did Clarice. Keep it to yourself, use your high powered perception for personal use.
Thanks for this comment. I recognize myself in some points of the videos… However, your comment is really precise and from your life experience. It’s funny to see how people like others who perform in the way… But when one person performs “too much” in different areas. Some people can feel threatened, and they think this person is dangerous… In the way, that’s stimulating, it pushes this person to learn even more and become better.
If This Is So True About Yourselves, Get Me Talking & Prove Me Wrong Where Nobody Else Can…. Not A Single Person!!!! 💯 Your Literally More Of A Delta Than A Sigma, It Just Sounds Cool As The “Manufactured” Personality Type Thats Only Come Around In Recent Years Because It Was My Kind That Basically Became Extinct When The Alpha’s Doubled Up & Took Control. “Bravo’s” Not Sigma’s & Definitely Not Delta’s!!!! 💯 Bravo’s Would Slap The Alpha’s Around Till The Alpha’s Dont Come Back…. Essentially Proving They Were No Alpha Either, Because Alpha’s Are Just As Fake & Pretentious As Sigma’s Are In Todays Age. As I Said, You “Want” To Be A Sigma Because It Sounds Cool 💯👍🏻
That is so true. I acted like a beta for much of my life, but it wasn't until I retreated from the would to rediscover my true self that I came into my own. And now I am happy again for the first time in over 17 years
Even as a kid i never fitted in and growing up in a poisonous family made things a lot worse which in a way made life far easier as i done what i wanted and how i wanted. As for schools,they're simply indoctoronation camps for the masses.I only went for something i enjoyed and then jumped the fence and spent the rest of the day doing my own thing.
I have better grades than like 95% of my classmates which is unusual but I agree to some things about curiosity, self reliance and fitting in, I just do my own thing at school and I try not to be disturbed when I don’t want to, sometimes I make jokes with classmates but that’s all, I will never “belong” to their or any other group, I have one friend who I talk to almost every day and other than that not so much connections, still I don’t consider myself as a “true sigma” I’m only 17 and I am still maturing
@@agsicodpslahavwshxausudusi7327 Your Not Like Other People Here “Pretending” To Be Sigma, Thing Is…. I’m Not A Sigma & What I See Is That All These Pretenders Are Trying To Preach To Be Something Like Me, Whilst Having No Affection In The World Thinking It’s The Right Way To Live Life Being Full On Alone. When It’s Not Otherwise Your Never Gonna Have A Family Of Your Own. These Sigma’s Pretend To Be Humble But Preach That They Are Something Better Than Alpha’s Even Tho They Never Directly Oppose Them, They Just Sit There & Let Alpha’s Play 💯 Not Me, I Hit Them Head On, I Show Affection Because Ultimately Someday I Would Like To Have Kids Of My Own & You Cant Be A Lone Wolf If You Want That. Same Time That Not A Single Person In These Comments Know Alone Like I Do!!!! 💯 Full On Fckn Pretenders…. I Respect Your Comment 💯👍🏻
I’m A Bravo, Bravo Became Near On Extinct 20-40 Years Ago Due To The Alpha’s Doubling Up, Sucking The Beta’s In Who Would Just Be Scared Of The Alpha, Whilst The Rest Pretend To Be Sigma’s Today Not Even Knowing What A Sigma Was 5 Years Ago…….. It Pisses Me Off Tbh 💯
I strongly doubt that you didn't care. And in your younger years, you also did not know what the words "lone wolf" and "toxic company" even meant or implied. You're using these words to create a romanticized version of your childhood memories because you want to hide the hurt and the pain that you must have experienced if you're an actual Sigma male (or an MBTI INFJ/INTJ or one of the Carl Jungian archetypes, if you want to dive into actual scientific psychology).
I am a Sigma female I was called weird then and am called wierd now. I have learned not to care . Schooling , well they said I was too intellegent for school. I learned more from my Sigma father . He taught me about nature , about being my natural self and to be a rebel to the end . These rules I have followed
I was called weird because I don't try to impress everyone, or I don't use drugs etc. You really need to into consideration who is calling you weird. Even people that aren't weird are actually just good at hiding it and worse, they lie about their likes and their true selves. They live in a prison.
@@galexymitzelplik9560None Of You See That Your All Just Pretentious & Hiding From Your True Selves…….. Cant Be A Lone Wolf Your Whole Life Otherwise You Will Never Have Kids & You Will Die Alone Too!!!! 💯👍🏻
My psychiatrist refers to me as a lone wolf. I will not delve into my upbringing but I am always a protector of the weak not requiring gratitude for my actions.
Sigmas are born into their character. The perceived oddities that surrounded me as a youngster only made me stronger and more in tune to who I was as I grew older. Now, decades later, my successes are a result of the character I didn't succeed with the pecking order of kid society. Didn't matter. Patience and growth in the classroom....school and life (education never ends) turned out exceedingly well for me. And I'm not done yet.
This is exactly myself I was a single child and grew up very fast . I was always seeking education and learning the wonders of the world , socially, emotionally and physically. Processing in learning and applying logic reasoning. I was never a doormat for no one. I was also a rebel growing up in the 70s
O yeah, most women and some men are so "it's all about my feeeeeelings" If we make them feel uncomfortable or hurt their feeeeeelings , we are branded as haters, bigots, intolerant, etc.
@@Rumination_Vertex this is true. I had that weakness for most of my life. Building standards and boundaries has helped protect me. Makes me much stronger with a brighter future.
Hey bud, I didn't know sigma ever existed. It fits 90% of what I am. My parents were very Christian and I asked questions in Sunday school... they hate the 'why" . I saw the hipcrosity for what it was. It really sucked to be 12. I'm 56 now. And almost everything described, balance, honesty, trust. Those are golden. I started as a coms person in the Canada military at 17, when I got out I then did CNC sheet metal, got bored and started to train as a machinist . I always had problems with insecure people around me, I just didn't understand what was so hard with a+b=c that they couldn't get. Lots of back stabbing. Jealousy, lies to make themselves feel better, I'm just trying to do my job. Every thing I've done was by the book, by company charter, by union rules and WCB standards. My production is averaging 130%. It's no wonder I actually am the way I am. Thank you for these videos. Take care.
True Christians should never fear asking 'why.' God does not get offended when we ask Him 'why.' If your parents and church fellows got offended and tried to shut you up, they were wrong and out of order. They owe you an answer (which can be found in the Holy Bible). Maybe they were too ignorant of the Scriptures to answer and did not like being exposed as ignorant.
My school reports often said something like, Glen is clearly intelligent but his mind wanders and he often doesn't pay attention in class. Yep, I was always a dreamer. Still am. But I've made my dreams come true. Started travelling from an early age, learned several foreign languages and now live debt free in one of the best places in the world. I turned my creativity and interests into a very lucrative import business. Sure, I've had two marriages and five kids but now live alone in my own place. Kids are mostly grown up and I love 'em all to bits. But being single and financially secure makes me very happy.
Mine said didn't give others a chance and answers up too much. In other words he needs to play dumb so the class favorites can shine. For this I was given bad citizenship grades and slapped and abused by my narcissistic bitch of a mother despite my straight As in grade school. F em.
Alright I'll give it up. This was a much different video than all the rest, well done. Watching this reminded me of the universal desire for all kids around the world to rise up above whatever challenges they're currently facing. God bless.
Personally I was born a non-conformist individual/outsider and only learned about "Sigma's" when I was older, like in my 50's older; I just learned to accept how I was overtime before I knew.
My childhood was a broken, dysfunctional, chaotic mess. With substance abuse, physical abuse, and mental torture. And I find that many fellow Sigma’s have suffered similar circumstances. However once a Sigma pulls his life together, there’s no stopping him. Sigmas are actually more compassionate than most people feel they are. And for me it’s a result of that memory of being powerless as a child. We know what it is to be invisible. And no one should ever be made to feel that way.
I'm a Sigma INFJ and that was like a walk down memory lane and nailed my youth perfectly. I'm impressed and as I mentioned being a INFJ that's not easy or so they say.... being this is only the 2nd comment I've ever felt I should do on you tube they might be right. (Having notice that you respond to comments as I write this, I most likely wont see it but in advance let me respond, your most welcome and thankyou.)😁
Thank you for sharing such relevant information for people like me; it was indeed a very, very difficult childhood but it was a blessing in disguise. As I struggled through my younger years, everything now......is EASY and all makes sense. Keep up the great work in helping other young Sigmas know that they are not alone and one day, they will understand who and what they are and that there is a greater purpose for them.
From childhood's hours I have not been as others were, I have not seen as others saw; I could not bring my passion from a common spring; from the same source I have not taken my sorrows; I could not awaken my heart to joy at the same tone, and all I loved; I loved alone. "Alone" - Green Carnation
Another that fits exactly right. I did well in school, but did not like the rigidity and became self-taught for the rest of my life. My parents were non-functional due to alcohol and mental issues, so I had to raise myself on my own. And knew from the beginning I valued different things in life than most, thus always being underestimated. Things sorted themselves out in my 30s and 40s as I began to understand how the rest of the world worked and acclimated to it, but it was rough going until mid 30s. Whereas many people get off to a great start as children and never look back. However, life has a way of evening things out. People who were born with a full head of steam typically trail off in midlife, whereas those who had it rough at the beginning of life find themselves favorable circumstances of their independent making near its end.
I was always judged as a kid and teen because I was such an outcast and a loner. People always accused me of being "queer" because I didn't have a girlfriend 2:09 and shunned sports. Having studied Sigma males, I now understand a lot about myself. The description given in these videos is me 100%!
We were definitely born...My grandmother said I talked in sentences before I walked. It frightened her when I first did it. I was a kid with endless questions ❓❓ So my grandparents (they raised me) got me "The Amazing Book of Facts" vol 1,2,3 They were the size and thickness of phone books. Read it all, page by page. It satisfied me until the last page and the hunger for knowledge continues..... Other than that is the females, they love my looks but I'm happiest alone.
I can relate to that experience. As a baby, my mom would park me in my push-chair next to the radio: the music would keep me fascinated, and therefore occupied, all day. I could sing most verses of 'Itchycoo Park' (I was born 1968) while other kids had just learnt to say, "Mamma".
I inhaled those too, 1 AND 2, if I remember correctly. Maybe just going through a dictionary also to learn new words and there meanings. How about the Information Please Almanac? Man did you ever stir up old things I haven't thought of in years. Thanks.
I'm a sigma. Grew up very poor in a solid middle-class area. I had a GREAT childhood! Being a natural loner, and not caring what others think, I embraced my uniqueness! What might have been traumatic for a beta, was perfect for me! It was a chance to hone my sigma traits- to be self-reliant; to stand alone; to not do what everyone else was doing, etc. I never needed to "find myself", as I never lost myself. While I believe that sigmas are largely born this way, I do believe that one's upbringing/environment does play some role in it too- and in my case, my childhood circumstances and environment were just PERFECT, and allowed me to really embrace my natural traits and practice them. I thank God that we never had the money, and that I was never pushed into organized/group activities, or encouraged to "be like everyone else" as THAT would be a hard path for a born sigma. O-K, I actually had a few friends between the ages of 9 and 11...but they were just entertainment....I was just as happy or more so when they weren't around. Damn, I loved my childhood! (Great times in the late 60's/early 70's).
This video was 100% dead on accurate. I was born a sigma, and received much punishment, and ridiculed because of how I was natured. I grew up in a time when corporal punishment was the standard. I received a many whelp, because I would not conform to societal norms.
Number 3 strongly resonates with me . Born 6 weeks premature led to several problems. Even as a child, I was very impatient , easily frustrated and had a terrible temper. Things that came easily to others were always a struggle for me. But life became a great teacher. I learned very early that life isn't always fair and it doesn't care about your feelings. I became very aware that if I was going to go anywhere in life, I was gonna have to get there on my own because most people, sooner or later will disappoint you. I have very few friends and don't pursue relationships with others anymore. Because at the end of the day, it's almost never worth the effort. I'm retired now after 2 different successful careers and am not worried about anyone letting me down. Because there is no anyone. There's just me. And I'll NEVER let me disappoint me
My mom raised me alone we had it hard i was bullied in school my mom overworked herself im glad we have it better now but i will never forget what happend in the past and i will learn from it
the 1st time my vietnam vet stepfather knocked me the fuck out, i was 10yrs old .. i woke up being carried home draped over his shoulder like a piece of meat.. this pattern continued along with him doing the same to my mother.. during this time , my mother birthed 2 children, my brother and sister.. 10yrs younger than me i decided i wasnt going to allow my siblings to suffer as i did, so around 16yrs old, i SHOWED HIM EVERY LESSON I LEARNED FROM HIM.. he always said he would make me a strong man if it killed him.. be careful what u wish for
You hit the making / experiences of a child fighting to survive causing to make a sigma male on the nail’s head. I’m 61 now. Sometimes you got work backwards to know how huh? Ha ha…
Wow. This is so spot-on. How do you come by this understanding? You are describing my childhood perfectly. Hyper curiosity, not fitting in, I became a voracious reader, and could never find books advance enough for my voracious appetite. They don´t normally point university-level books to a single-digit kid. My parents worried that I did not spend enough time outside playing with other kids, and even took me to a psychologist once about it, who had no clue about what I really was. I spent most of my time reading books, doing experiments, playing around with mathematics, learning physics...! None of my peers could keep up with me, not even a little. When I finally understood calculus when I was 13, that was a game changer for me. NONE of my peers could approach calculus, not even the smart ones. I told the high school I enrolled in as a freshman that I wanted to take AP calculus, and they told me I had to wait for my senior year!!!! I had to sift through boring math courses that I had already accomplished in my single digits!!!!!! And by the time I was a senior, the AP calculus had disappeared, and the calculus being taught was really pre-calculus!!!! Again, the stuff I did when I was 11 or 12!!!! Yes, I learned early on that I had to be self-reliant, because the school institutions were doing me no justice. In my algebra class I had used calculus to simply solve a slope problem that was much harder to do the way the teacher was teaching it. She didn't like that I used calculus, but why would I want to use the more long-winded way she was pushing? This is just the tip of the iceberg here. I could easily write a book about this. Thanks for this episode.
There is the lose factor,as we have deaths of a parent[s],early on,and that trauma affects us from our formative years! Facing your own mortality,is a wake-up call,and you make every day count,as it could be your last! That part makes you,an adult overnight, and with all the responsibilities that go with it,plus having made a promise to your father/mother on their deathbed,you keep same,irregardless of any circumstances that come up! Lone Wolf,Wierdo,Non-Conformist,are the least problems of growing up,the biggest,is being true to self,and knowing self[WISDOM],that is paramount! Thank you for the insights,and information! Thank you 😇 😊!!
@@jeffreysnethen9586 Then you can add,deaths of best friends,and school/dorm mates,compounding the grief,as when the anniversaries come along,it still hits,and those chunks out your life are ever present! December and January are the roughest months in my calendar,as then those deaths accumulated! You have survived and thrived,and that in spite of those impediments! Welcome to the Club,and may God keep blessing your every day,that in one way or another gives more than takes,from yourself! Each of us,has done more than we realize,and we have that living philosophy,in which we immerse ourselves! Thank you,and keep on trucking! Thank you 😇 😊!
@@jeffreysnethen9586 it doesn’t matter how old you are when that much loss hits you. I was 35. It’s been 16 years. I’m better but it never goes away. It just waits in the darkness to ambush you.
@@i-..--..--..-i6985 it's TRUE I was 20 didn't know how to heal from it,lost my wife to cancer 3 years ago it brought me right back in that time frame, spent 13 months alone then 2 years grief therapy learned many things about myself if if I didn't want to.
I've lost count of how many times I've heard someone say that they have tattoos, piercings, unusual looking clothes or other such things and they'll say it's to show their individuality. I have none of those accessories and yet my individuality still shows through!
My parents, my family, treated me like shit growing up. I also had neglected health problems. My parents neglected to get me the medical help i needed. I don't talk to any of them anymore.
Very interesting. The one thing that kinda goes against this is my parents were the best. A lot of everything else struck true. Especially the need for specialized education for my learning. I was always told that I was smart but I'd stuff homework into my desk in grade school. This was especially true growing up in the 70s to mid 80s in small, rural town USA. Also, I was made fun of for certain things which pushed me down but there were other times that I became leader of certain groups.... interesting!
When I met my husband, I little less than 30 years ago, I was mesmerized by this massively self-confident, quiet human being who seemed built to face just about anything. Going to meet his family a little later, I assumed they would be all over him, and how marvelous he was. To my huge surprise- and, I must admit, quite an amount of anger- they all belittled, doubted, overlooked him constantly, silencing him when he had sth to say. And explained to me how glorious his elder brother actually was. I tried to have them see the wondrous qualities of their yougest son too- all in vain. Later, driving back , I asked him "How can you even stand this? They won't give you a right to fill your own space!" He answered that I cared about him and that was all that mattered. And here we are, 30 years later, him still largely misunderstood and under-estimated by his kins despite a beautiful carreer and beautiful, loving kids of his own. Should I add that he is a really, really good looking man, far more handsome than his brother, but never really taken in as such by his own family. He doesn't mind and loves them all the same.
Was adopted at 3 days, adopted mother died when i was 7, dad remarried and then life really turned to hell for the next 9 years part of it was the fact that step mom didnt know how to react to boys and had my dad beat my ass toll i was big enough to defend myself. I was always on my own and could only count on myself. Same thing in the military i was an outcast wasnt part of the buddy buddy group, did my own thing, had my own civilian friends, was a supervisor as an E4 did my job was easy. Now thirteen years later after getting out im retired could go back to work if i wanted to but dont need too. I do my own thing still just who i am and thats it. Now have all those women in highschool that are now divorced with kids hitting me up and i could care less bceause to women its all about money lol. Just doing me and thats that.
This resonates with me in many respects. As far as education goes, I discovered early that most of my teachers were not just lacking, but too lazy to learn themselves. That was what drove me to self study, which paid off for me.
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I'm left handed as well. My earliest memories of school were the teacher taking the pencil out of my left hand and telling me to use my right hand, but it went back into my left hand. I'm not bad on the pool table though when I get stuck and need to do a right handed shot. It always works and puts off the other player because they can't do it.
Your comment resonates with me. My parents were shocked to see me write with my left then switch to my right. Later on people who catch me doing this are shocked. This in turn has caused some to call me weird.
Was born in the late 40’s never felt that I fit in and that hasn’t changed I hate crowds. Child hood was rough really set in my ways I listen more than talk, I always did as I wanted, but if someone screwed over me once I was through with that person was very successful in my work, have a photography memory. Never tried to please anyone and realized early in life not everyone likes every one. Never tried to please anyone, but took care of my family. Have had a rough57 years with my wife. Once I left home I was instantly on my own never looked back
I agree 👍 100% with this video 📹. Touched some old feelings and interesting flashbacks. But I still don't consider myself a sigma male. I'm do, however, believe that I'm Transforming into one. That's if I can maintain this momentum to develop and evolve in my life.
You described my life with precision. I am 75 now and still an outsider. I have learned I neither like nor trust people and prefer to be by myself even though I am married with 29 grandchildren and 5 great grandchildren. I tolerate people at best.
As a child i had to grow up very quickly. Mums an alcholic and dad was a biker. I learned very quickly to learn to not fully trust anyone and quickly spot the snakes
I'm 63 and I agree with all points and observations of this video. I was married to a narcissist for forty odd yrs it was a struggle, the thought of my kids having to endure that negative personality made me stay, my sigma qualities gave me strength now they have grown up and left home I was finally able walk away from a destructive toxic relationship and take my power back. Now I am finally able to be my authentic Sigma self. This video and others like it makes me feel valued and validated and so to all the other lone wolves out there I will see you on the trails less often traveled.
What shapes a person is how victimized they feel, and what they feel victimized by. Some people feel victimized by trust, love, acceptance, and abuse. While others feel victimized by righteousness, discipline, responsibility, restraint, etc. Some people live for fun, recklessness, consumerism, attention, recognition, pride, their image. While others live for selfless acts and try to live for meaning. In my experience… When you’re living your first five years of life… If violence is something you’re subjected to… If abuse is something you’re subjected to… And the very people who brought you into this world are the very people you can’t trust or confide in…. You learn to be independent early on. You separate yourself and you question everything for dear life to create an independent mind set. From that point on… Because you weren’t coddled, because you weren’t held, because you weren’t encouraged, because you were scape goated, because emotional support was rare to come by… You are immediately separated and you will never understand those who were nurtured… Those who were nurtured will never understand you… You will always be that person who was reclusive who over analyzed and tried to make sense of it all… While they will always be the people who engaged and ran with it without a second guess…. They never questioned, they never learned, they never developed…. All they did was believe what ever they were told and carried the torch…. There was no demand in their life to seek… There was no demand in their life to survive…. There was no demand in their life to press on and fight to stay alive. There was no demand in their life to become independent enough to take care of themselves. All they do is obey, take orders, and believe what they were told about everything. They consume, destroy, take, compete, fight, develop dysfunctional relationships, they develop toxic coping mechanisms, and toxic self preservation. Because… They live for fun, pride, image, comfort, lust, and consumption. They value their self worth based on what they have, what they can do, and how much they have to show off…. While those lone wolfs like me… Develop a sense of sight that isn’t based on going with the flow and believing what the vast majority assumes is true. We begin to see the holes and the induced preferred oversights in the programming. The social programming. The political influences and the effects these influences have on everybody’s lives. The fear that gets spread around forcing people to chose sides… Dividing people against themselves and everybody else. We see things from beyond right and left… We see victims who seek comfort and revenge…. In far more ways than one. We see people who make beasts out of themselves to get rid of the pain of being a Man. We see people fighting for power, for control, for dominion. Like a pile of people fighting to the death for a throne that doesn’t even exist. By watching everything from the outside in…. We never had the luxury of being surrounded by so much comfort and emotional support…. We had our asses handed to us on a daily basis…. Forced to question why??? Were the ones who didn’t fit in. Were the ones who didn’t have that luxury to find much solace in this world. We refused to conform… We refused to simply obey… We refused to go with the flow… We refused to depend on everybody else’s understanding to tell us who we are. We questioned everything… And we found what we sought for. We felt victimized by common fools… In the wake of their stupidity. We felt victimized by endless cycles of trauma and abuse. We felt victimized by a world so cold and sought the understanding necessary to escape. We found comfort in function… We found comfort in problem solving…. We found comfort in fixing things… We found comfort in quiet places… We found comfort in trustworthy people…. And we felt victimized by all the rest…. The fools of this world chased comfort and better feelings… We chased clarity and that long forgotten solace that was taken from us at the age of 3 years old. We seek only to correct the beginning of our lives… By doing everything ourselves… To be the fathers our father couldn’t be…. By being the husbands our father couldn’t be… By providing what he couldn’t provide…. So that the next child in line can be held and nurtured in the way we were not. We seek only to compel the world around us to be functional and trust worthy. Because the beginning of our lives were filled with pain and agony. Trauma set us apart from everyone else from the very beginning…. We could only trust God… Who else could we have turned to… When it all started with less than nothing… People you knew you couldn’t trust…. Because they valued pleasure, comfort, pride, their image, their ego, and beyond… Over responsibility. Because they brought us into this world to make them proud, happy, feeling important, to raise someone into society that could make them feel accomplished…. Rather than raising children to be independent and understanding enough to go out into the world as civilized human beings…. In my experience… It’s the child in a dysfunctional family and upbringing who refused to crumble…. No matter what… The one who needed it… Who did everything and more to make it.
One thing I noticed about myself is that I don't have the ability to yell during arguments. There are many reasons for it: 1. I was silent for too long and my jaw grew stiff... 2. It takes too much energy to make an outburst. 3. Because I was silent most of my life, I never exercised fast speech. 4. I think and listen to the other's arguments before speaking, which usually becomes overwhelming because they move onto the next topic before I could fully analyze what they said prior. This has led me to understand that inperson conversation is my weakness and that I excel at writing more. There have been times when someone would come at me out of nowhere; yelling and swearing 🤬, and all I could do is stand there silently and awkwardly... Wondering what I did or said to set them off... Meh, 😂 it was bound to happen.
I had my rules and values, i refused to compromise them. I felt being alone was better than being around people who would demand i compromised them. I still feel that way. Im very comfortable in solitude
Love your videos and thanks for posting them! Found this video very interesting and amazed by it! I experienced most from my younger years in public schools, especially with doing my own research, after questioning teachers, that didn’t have answers or being self reliant.. I wasn’t actually a lone wolf back then but instead I had kids that was rough around the edges wanting to be friends with me or some that wanted to be friends with me, to just take care of other kids that was bullying them! That wasn’t my style to be a bully, instead I was enjoying ,confronting these bullies on there behalf but I knew and felt different from every other kids, I didn’t fear what they feared or even cared about being popular but I did become popular and got Reputation of Not to be mess with.. But I chose most of the Time to be lone wolf 🐺 I could go on and on about this lol but the bottom line to this, I believe Sigma males are born not made
Point numbers 3 & 4 are most intriguing ones for me personally. When I was 16 years old and had just entered the 11th grade, my Dad got a job many miles away but, because he was an alcoholic, my mother felt the need to move up with him not only to watch the money, but also amid concerns he may have been unfaithful to her. So, they took their chances and left me alone in their house. From a comparatively early age, I had to learn the ropes of bachelorhood and become self-reliant. I had to cook and clean for myself and do my own laundry. At school, whenever I told any of my teachers about my domestic situation, they were broadsided. My situation may have also caused me friction with some of my peers, because of my refusal to cave into their sudden pressure of trying to force me to host a potentially, out-of-control house party. In hindsight, one could ask if I got a sense of independence at too young an age because now, 40 years later, I remain a bachelor.
Same here. Many wise insights and experiences I can deeply relate to. Grew up with mean and narcissistic parents. Have always stood alone in life. Had to do everything myself. This has left a deep impression on me. I think the Sigma personality is something innate, but it can also be something you are shaped into due to circumstances. Perhaps a combination of the two is more plausible. But I went through pain and darkness alone, hence I walk through life alone. The few times I can let something into my private life is someone with a deep soul and reasonably sophisticated disposition. I can't stand ordinary people or anyone who reminds me of my past. I cut ties immediately.
I don't know whether I'm a Sigma and I'm sure this was a generic video but you described my personality, habits and thought process to a frightening degree.
This video is spot on. I’m curious though, how is it that the common thread happens to be so similar for Sigmas? Is there a pre-destination element involved? Certain special, strong warrior like spirits being sent to earth and given harder lives and challenges to keep it fair compared to others? When I was about three I started working. My father built us a log cabin with an axe. My twin and I were put on the logs to start scraping the bark. We had no running water or power. Years later around 7 I started walking around the neighborhood with a toolbox asking people if they had any plumbing repairs needed to be fixed. At 16 I started painting cars for teachers and fellow students to earn money during the months of my sports. At 20 started a construction company and worked hard, retiring at only 40. Now at nearly 46 I work every day helping elderly in my community and spend a lot of time on my schooner and ranch. I almost have anxiety disorders from to much noise and require a lot of quiet time after visiting with certain people that I know beforehand to be draining. Sigmas may be susceptible to emotional over load and over stimulation. Driving on the road with my wife I would have paid attention to all the cars speeds, location, behaviors, watching to see why they moved to a different lane and guessing if they will turn on a blinker to exit. All while my wife is oblivious to everything and sits happy and content. Don’t get me started on lines behind me at the bank or if a car is following close on a 2 lane road.
Much of this analysis resonates, especially the family dynamics and differentness as a child. Broken home, narcissistic mother who abandoned me at less than a year old, but then took me back at three years old only to psychologically abuse me until I finally walked out at 14. Supportive father but issues with his next wives. Ran away altogether at 19 to become independent. Unstable relationships due to trust issues. Intelligent, motivated and successful but have been cheated and taken advantage of many times.
While this is generic, a lot of this holds true. However, there is a different dynamic where the Sigma male isn't the black sheep of the family. Let me explain. I had a sister who was a narcissist and my parent's spoiled her rotten. She got everything she wanted, while anything I wanted I was told, "You'll have to figure out how to get it yourself." She was the black sheep because she was always getting into trouble because my parents would always bail her out. She even served 6 months in prison for child endangerment. While if I did anything wrong, I know my parents wouldn't be there to help me, so I was a model teenager. As for Teachers, I hated English class and after graduating HS, I came to start calling it "conformity class" I wrote an opinion paper and was given a poor grade, even though my grammar was impeccable. When I confronted the teacher about it, and asked "why the poor grade", I was told my arguments weren't convincing. When I pointed out that it was an opinion paper, I was told, "Yeah, well your opinions are wrong."
The more of these I watch the more I understand about why I am so different from most everyone else. At first I thought it was just an interesting coincidence, but after a bunch of these videos I realize it’s simply who I am. Quite honestly it’s my greatest strength.
that's me to a 'T' had an overbearing father and my thoughts and habits drove him nuts that I didn't have conformity. He thought I was less intelligent. I did things my own way, Never had many friends, super self-reliant, family was a toxic environment where I got made fun of considerably
Very good, now add to that growing up as an only child with a single mother in the early 60's. I had a front door key at the age of 8. But it m 67 now, and I wouldn't go back and change a thing. It made me who I am today. Retired, broke, ,living off grid, and Happy. Take care
This is so true. We are born introverts but morph in the Sigma type as we learn more about ourselves and everything around us. Im 44yo now but when i was little i absolutely lived school as i loved learning. Then i had this one teacher in 2nd grade that failed me simply because she lerceived me as shy and needed to be held back. I had straight A's & B's with 1 C. I remember it well like it was just a few years ago. I was so updet over that one C. That absolutely killed my motivation for school and just did the bare minimum from that point on till i graduated. But i still am always learning new things though.
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"Mas bale solo que mal acompañado" old Mexican saying
I learned about 6 weeks ago being a sigma, watched 250 videos of sigma, archetypes and psychology searching for the truth being a REAL sigma. Yes, I am. But I also see a relative big difference to the sigma everywhere on UA-cam. The sigma should be creative, I am not. I do not have any creative or relative hobbies. This is something I learned from myself before learning being a sigma. AND there was no "pain" in my childhood. But I've seen early being different from others. Maybe the non-creative non-relative things do create another type of sigma, the definite or concrete sigma. What I found out, is, that the zeta male could become a sigma. There are some parallels I saw in this video.
Yes, but very understated.
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I am 60, and even today I still get called weird. My response “ I am so relieved, for a moment I thought you were going to call me normal, then I would have been really offended” Yep I totally relate to all these points, especially the education system.
@danjsilve Ditto! 62 here, and the only thing government schools ever taught me was that I wanted NO part of the type of life I was being groomed for by them. It also made me think long and hard about liberty (The draft was still on then), autonomy, economics, and social norms....in my elementary school days. I opted out mentally at about 13...and formnally dropped out the day I turned 16, and have never looked back. I actually get embarrassed any time anything I do seems to coincide with "normality" or what is popular- but thankfully, such rarely happens. Who the hell would ever want to "be like ev eryone else" or "a part of the crowd"?! We just want to be ourselves..and have been blessed to see through the conditioning and propaganda which snags most people.
Education system is like Swiss cheese to me... My teachers loved how I always poked the wholes in what they thought us and many felt I was too smart for my own good. [Chuckles] I tell my son all the time... Question everything even what I say and you'll be better off than most!
I love being considered weird because I don’t want to be, “normal”
@@peterryan4199 the education system is for the system. we sigmas are nonconformant, against the system. system means being dependent. sigmas want to be independent, being free. this is something i take with me very deep inside me. so it is not practical for me being a boss, because a boss is also dependent from the system. i found my independence in bitcoin, not working, having no wife, no childs, no pets, no plants. i can go wherever i want whenever i want. i do not have to ask anybody.
I am 70 and that is still true
Elementary School Report Card always gave me a low grade for "Doesn't Play Well With Others." No shit.
Same lol
necessitates a common frame of reference. None of us had that. For me, I was into advance mathematics when I was a kid. How many my age -- or even a bit older -- could I do math with? I would have to find someone from the university who wanted to spend time with a young kid. May have been a possibility if the adults around me -- parents and teachers -- pursued that for me, but they didn't have a clue themselves. And so, I became self-reliant. And all of us here have similar stories.
Maybe there is a sub-reddit or Discord server we can join -- Sigma Males Lives.
My file had a warning. "Do not engage in power struggles."
I had "Will not go along with what others think, say and do, and punishment has little effect", "is disobedient in thought", and "consistent bad behaviour of reading obsessively, especially to check for himself whatever is told to him. At a loss for how to stop this.".
@darrynreid4500 I can totally relate. Didn't find out I was a Sigma Child until 74 years old. Saw a 3 year old great nephew for the first time this past summer. His personality was classic Sigma. I explained this to his Dad.
I am a lone Wolf and a sigma male. I have one friend that I actively talk to. I live by myself. I do everything by myself and I prefer to keep it that way. I am more alive alone than I am or ever would be in a crowd. Being in a crowd is hell!! Being around people for me is hell!!!
I am the female version of you
No, if you were you wouldn’t be on here bragging about it. You’re just an antisocial and lonely beta.
you are so fucking corny
I have become this way as I get older
Sig's are born , I don't think most of us survived the forging part. If you are reading this, be thankful, you are already great
The sigma learns to stand on his own two feet relying on no one- you learn quickly that people can and will let you down so you become the strong self sufficient person you need to be. No one owes you in this life so you must blaze your own trail!
Lived it every day!!!!!!!!!!!
Not entirely. We place alpha's in positions to control what we don't want to control without them knowing.
have you ever shit yourself
@@danielking2576 not only let you down conspire to cause the trouble against you
@@jesse75Alphas place themselves in these positions you mentioned because of their shear drive and wanting to be top dog. Sigma like myself couldn't care less. I do what I need/want to do regardless of position of others /position of alphas.
"Hard times create strong men"....
Reality
Good quote but it has a darker side. Hard times create hard men hard men create soft times and soft times create soft men So the cycle continues.
Do strong times create hard men? Lol
@@thomassargent6684 some... Most it crushes. Especially now.
my only hope for the future
I am 77 and always wondered why I never quite"fitted in". I have watched quite a few of your video's and have been shocked to find that I am not alone. I now realise that I am an archetypal sigma male. I hit 100% of your criteria. Life has been very difficult at times. I wish I knew this when I was in my teens.
Yes, Chuck, there are many of us; but due to our natural selves, we usually find our most comfort in our individual dens, as is appropriate for wolves. I'm now in my mid-80s and quite comfortable with my thoughts and mindful pursuits via the internet.
In addition, I'm fascinated with the myriad of personalities and the resultant manifestations of each as related to social (and cultural) interaction. Those whom I'd thought to be the same or similar can be significantly different in surprising ways. Locating the hidden historical detail causing such a difference can be exhausting, so is usually not pursued. But knowledge of that small tidbit of difference is the big key to avoiding dead end choices.
Continue on your journey; there's no longer an alternate pathway now. Carry on.
Oh, one other thought: when I was 3, I remember concluding that people were insane, or at least crazy or moronic. Then, about 5 years later when I was in the 3rd grade in school, my Dad had a "report card" conversation with me, telling me he expected future report cards to replace Ds and Fs with As and Bs. Puzzled, I asked him how I would do that, because I had no idea as to what I was supposed to do to please his expectations.
I guess he was unprepared for such a simple request but struggled to give me some suggestions on "paying attention" to what the teacher was teaching us. Well, report card after report card I began to improve slightly with each report card. I knew he was disappointed with my progress, but by the second or third "fourth-grade report card," I was able to show a few "A" grades, which encouraged my Dad's pride and relief. I think he might have thought I was a dunce with no hopes for a successful future.
The result was I was learning to be someone I really was not. I was becoming a phony to my self.
Fast forward to an unwanted divorce in my mid-30s, I retreated back into my Sigma male self, where I have secretly remained for decades, despite several co-habitational relationships with various female types. I learned much with each one.
Anyway, there's much more to my "education" from my 40s on but involves too much explanation.
So, like you, I wish I had been in better situations from the start. Instead, I had many pathways and roads to travel to experience all life has.
Good Luck to you.
Yep, Chuck and Xavier! I'm 62 and only learned in the last year or two that there is a name for people like us. I've always thoroughly embraced and enjoyed who I am, and my lonerism, etc. -but I had thought that it was pretty much uniquely me- that I was an anomaly. Interesting to now learn that there is a small percentage of others like us, and that "they" have recognized our breed. Now, when people say "You don't quite seem like an alpha...but you're certainly not a beta.." we can inform them that we are sigmas. Formerly, I just used to say that I'm unique. Now it seems, I'm not so much unique, but instead part of a very small subset.
Me too
This is sad 😂
I'm 63 and feel like I've finally discovered/confirmed that indeed, I am from another planet and there are others who've landed as well. So stunned there's a name for what I am.
It is less about detaching from others' expectations, and more about being true to oneself. Not conforming doesn't mean ignoring others expectations, it is more like "that won't work for me" and "I'll find my own way".
True.
Exactly.
@borndeafin1ear Well said! Only, I might add that there are forces which seek to manipulate the foibles of human nature to make it seem normal to abide by the expectations of others, and abnormal not to- and schools and the media are amplifying such. I suspect that there might be more of us sigmas around if it were not for these forces actively seeking to repress such traits (and there would also be a lot fewer confused/depressed people around too).
It's like a giant coin sorting machine: The dimes have a space and the quarters have a space...but when a silver dollar (sigma) comes along, it tries to cram him into the smaller spaces...and the only way he can truly remain a sigma if he takes the initiative to break free of that machine.
Very true.
@descendancedenoefilsdadam1028 Borndeafin1ear is 100% correct. I believe what he is saying is that we do not rebel, but we are seen as rebellious because we are outside of the bounds of what constitutes normality for the average person- and not because we consciously choose to be outside those bounds, but rather because we embrace our own individuality and DO consciously choose not to embrace the path that "society" has mapped-out for us, but instead are perfectly comfortable to go our own way while not needing the affirmation or validation of anyone else.
The over thinking and need for discovery was always a concern my mother had! She always said to me “ your overthinking is going to be the death of you”! 3:03
I'm sitting on that train right next to you, bro!
This video describes me perfectly! Earlier in my adult life as a mechanic: One of my bosses criticized me for working too slow. He said I was thinking too much. What???? He wants me to stop thinking???? No way!!!! The other mechanics were doing crappy jobs by taking shortcuts, and were thus getting paid more even though they had far higher customer returns for re-repairs than I had! I got tired of that B.S. and chose another line of work.
Could you not buy your own business, since you have all this knowledge?
Same for me, except in the phone company. I wasn’t slow, but I made sure everything was right when I finished a job- thorough. But all it did for me was I would get everyone else’s repeater job to fix because “oh they are on another job.” Boss wanted the job fixed, and knew the other person screwed it up the first time, they will screw it up again so he would give it to me to fix properly. Pretty annoying.
@@lawrencehammersley4945 I once considered it, but the cost would be immense.
We are not simply talking about a double garage here. I was a semi-truck mechanic, therefore the garages would have to be much larger and in a commercial zone. Thousands upon thousands of dollars of special tools would have to be purchased and waste products stored for eventual recycling, and so forth.
You as a customer may be paying $100+ per hour for labor costs at your shop; but the mechanic only gets one fifth to one third of that. The shop keeps the rest. It would take many years to save up enough money for a down payment for such a shop. It was just not worth it to me.
@@rumblehat4357 Exactly!!! Of course the boss pretends to want the job done correctly; but really he just wants the vehicle out the door and the payment in his hands. The pay incentive is for speedy repairs that hopefully won't come back.
Shops usually pay by the job, therefore; the more half-assed jobs get done: the higher the mechanics paycheck will be!
People who know me (Relatives and such) always found it odd that someone with my IQ has mostly chosen to pursue manual labor type endeavors. If questioned, I inform them such is the case because I like to be to do things that allow me to think my thoughts, rather than have to abandon them to give priority to something that I am only doing to create income. Bad enough I have to give my presence...but I'm not giving my mind for such a meager thing as mere money. Not to mention, that I don't want to be involved in the politics of higher-level endeavors, nor the networking or social interactions which are required. My first occupation was as a clam digger when I was a teen. Being out all alone on the quiet still bay all day was pure bliss!
You dead on. I stood alone trying to fit in but never could. Did my own thing as long as I didn't hurt or put out anyone. Made my own money, spent it on my toys for myself . Graduated with 2 cars, a motorcycle, and 2 parts cars. Parent had one car. I'm 58 next week and still living my own life. A good happy life. Hang in there dudes. It o my gets better overall.
This is quite astonishing to me because I agree with every single point. A lot happened in my childhood and I was very different to the hundreds of other pupils in my school. The teachers of that era were un-prepared for the likes of me and didn't know what to do. I left school at fourteen and started to learn many things. During my working life, many bosses said that I know too much. Many were afraid of me and about what I knew about them, however, some were visibly disturbed by the psychometric test results and panicked.
To the teachers, I was just a bad kid. Because back then nobody looked at what was going on at home. We were on our own. Just trying to survive another day, at such a young age, is something no kid should have to endure.
I learned don't reveal to people what you see and know about them. We may not realize it but it can be very intrusive. Besides it puts people in denial and.on the defense to be read like Hannibal did Clarice. Keep it to yourself, use your high powered perception for personal use.
@@robertclark9 Yeah, me too!
Thanks for this comment. I recognize myself in some points of the videos… However, your comment is really precise and from your life experience.
It’s funny to see how people like others who perform in the way… But when one person performs “too much” in different areas. Some people can feel threatened, and they think this person is dangerous… In the way, that’s stimulating, it pushes this person to learn even more and become better.
If This Is So True About Yourselves, Get Me Talking & Prove Me Wrong Where Nobody Else Can…. Not A Single Person!!!! 💯 Your Literally More Of A Delta Than A Sigma, It Just Sounds Cool As The “Manufactured” Personality Type Thats Only Come Around In Recent Years Because It Was My Kind That Basically Became Extinct When The Alpha’s Doubled Up & Took Control. “Bravo’s” Not Sigma’s & Definitely Not Delta’s!!!! 💯 Bravo’s Would Slap The Alpha’s Around Till The Alpha’s Dont Come Back…. Essentially Proving They Were No Alpha Either, Because Alpha’s Are Just As Fake & Pretentious As Sigma’s Are In Todays Age. As I Said, You “Want” To Be A Sigma Because It Sounds Cool 💯👍🏻
I believe we are born Sigma but we need to mature into our Sigma role.
That is so true. I acted like a beta for much of my life, but it wasn't until I retreated from the would to rediscover my true self that I came into my own. And now I am happy again for the first time in over 17 years
And what a weird journey it has been so far.
I agree
@@jesseschlough4648yeh I could say the same about myself. There is no going back now.
That's it.
Wow. This is me in a nutshell. I've always relied on myself even when I was young. I was always a loner and I am to this day.
Even as a kid i never fitted in and growing up in a poisonous family made things a lot worse which in a way made life far easier as i done what i wanted and how i wanted.
As for schools,they're simply indoctoronation camps for the masses.I only went for something i enjoyed and then jumped the fence and spent the rest of the day doing my own thing.
I have better grades than like 95% of my classmates which is unusual but I agree to some things about curiosity, self reliance and fitting in, I just do my own thing at school and I try not to be disturbed when I don’t want to, sometimes I make jokes with classmates but that’s all, I will never “belong” to their or any other group, I have one friend who I talk to almost every day and other than that not so much connections, still I don’t consider myself as a “true sigma” I’m only 17 and I am still maturing
@@agsicodpslahavwshxausudusi7327I Like You!!!! 💯
@@agsicodpslahavwshxausudusi7327
Your Not Like Other People Here “Pretending” To Be Sigma, Thing Is…. I’m Not A Sigma & What I See Is That All These Pretenders Are Trying To Preach To Be Something Like Me, Whilst Having No Affection In The World Thinking It’s The Right Way To Live Life Being Full On Alone. When It’s Not Otherwise Your Never Gonna Have A Family Of Your Own. These Sigma’s Pretend To Be Humble But Preach That They Are Something Better Than Alpha’s Even Tho They Never Directly Oppose Them, They Just Sit There & Let Alpha’s Play 💯 Not Me, I Hit Them Head On, I Show Affection Because Ultimately Someday I Would Like To Have Kids Of My Own & You Cant Be A Lone Wolf If You Want That. Same Time That Not A Single Person In These Comments Know Alone Like I Do!!!! 💯 Full On Fckn Pretenders…. I Respect Your Comment 💯👍🏻
I’m A Bravo, Bravo Became Near On Extinct 20-40 Years Ago Due To The Alpha’s Doubling Up, Sucking The Beta’s In Who Would Just Be Scared Of The Alpha, Whilst The Rest Pretend To Be Sigma’s Today Not Even Knowing What A Sigma Was 5 Years Ago…….. It Pisses Me Off Tbh 💯
@@FuschinoTBM041 ????
I was called weird because I was A Lone wolf 🐺but I didn't care it's better to be alone than A Toxic Company ❤
I strongly doubt that you didn't care. And in your younger years, you also did not know what the words "lone wolf" and "toxic company" even meant or implied. You're using these words to create a romanticized version of your childhood memories because you want to hide the hurt and the pain that you must have experienced if you're an actual Sigma male (or an MBTI INFJ/INTJ or one of the Carl Jungian archetypes, if you want to dive into actual scientific psychology).
I am a Sigma female I was called weird then and am called wierd now. I have learned not to care . Schooling , well they said I was too intellegent for school. I learned more from my Sigma father . He taught me about nature , about being my natural self and to be a rebel to the end . These rules I have followed
I was called weird because I don't try to impress everyone, or I don't use drugs etc. You really need to into consideration who is calling you weird. Even people that aren't weird are actually just good at hiding it and worse, they lie about their likes and their true selves. They live in a prison.
None Of You Know Alone Like Myself, You Sigma’s Are A Mockery Of My Kind. 💯
@@galexymitzelplik9560None Of You See That Your All Just Pretentious & Hiding From Your True Selves…….. Cant Be A Lone Wolf Your Whole Life Otherwise You Will Never Have Kids & You Will Die Alone Too!!!! 💯👍🏻
My psychiatrist refers to me as a lone wolf. I will not delve into my upbringing but I am always a protector of the weak not requiring gratitude for my actions.
Sigmas are born into their character. The perceived oddities that surrounded me as a youngster only made me stronger and more in tune to who I was as I grew older. Now, decades later, my successes are a result of the character I didn't succeed with the pecking order of kid society. Didn't matter. Patience and growth in the classroom....school and life (education never ends) turned out exceedingly well for me. And I'm not done yet.
You Sound Like A Bravo, Not A Sigma 💯👍🏻
Nobody Even Knew What A Sigma Was 5 Years Ago 💯😂👍🏻
This is exactly myself I was a single child and grew up very fast . I was always seeking education and learning the wonders of the world , socially, emotionally and physically. Processing in learning and applying logic reasoning. I was never a doormat for no one. I was also a rebel growing up in the 70s
Betrayed by friends, disowned by mother, manipulated by a second mother, abandoned by a father.
Adopted by God 🗿
And the rest of us that do understand you.
Great reply.
Oh well... I suppose the imaginary Father will have to do.
Ermm what the ohio
Amen
How they come to be that be simple
Men bound by logic
Women bound by feeling
Sigma bound by power of will
Well put.
I see myself a lot like Spock. Logic is far better than play.
O yeah, most women and some men are so "it's all about my feeeeeelings"
If we make them feel uncomfortable or hurt their feeeeeelings , we are branded as haters, bigots, intolerant, etc.
Someone asked recently what im most proud of? Finding my true self. Brings peace there are others like me.
Raised by a narcissist parent and surrounded by toxic family,I'm blessed to have become a Sigma Empath😊
Not a thing. You have a high iq and trauma. That's it. Sigma not a thing. Empath not a thing. You are special you don't need labels to make it so
Nearly the same for me. I wonder if there’s a correlation.
@KrummyProductions some become psychos,narcissist, sociopath,but becoming a sigma empath I truly owe it to God😅
Same but the I learned the hard way that the empathic tendencies are a weakness if you're not careful.
@@Rumination_Vertex this is true. I had that weakness for most of my life. Building standards and boundaries has helped protect me. Makes me much stronger with a brighter future.
Hey bud, I didn't know sigma ever existed. It fits 90% of what I am. My parents were very Christian and I asked questions in Sunday school... they hate the 'why" . I saw the hipcrosity for what it was. It really sucked to be 12. I'm 56 now. And almost everything described, balance, honesty, trust. Those are golden. I started as a coms person in the Canada military at 17, when I got out I then did CNC sheet metal, got bored and started to train as a machinist . I always had problems with insecure people around me, I just didn't understand what was so hard with a+b=c that they couldn't get. Lots of back stabbing. Jealousy, lies to make themselves feel better, I'm just trying to do my job. Every thing I've done was by the book, by company charter, by union rules and WCB standards. My production is averaging 130%. It's no wonder I actually am the way I am. Thank you for these videos. Take care.
True Christians should never fear asking 'why.'
God does not get offended when we ask Him 'why.'
If your parents and church fellows got offended and tried to shut you up, they were wrong and out of order. They owe you an answer (which can be found in the Holy Bible).
Maybe they were too ignorant of the Scriptures to answer and did not like being exposed as ignorant.
My school reports often said something like, Glen is clearly intelligent but his mind wanders and he often doesn't pay attention in class. Yep, I was always a dreamer. Still am. But I've made my dreams come true. Started travelling from an early age, learned several foreign languages and now live debt free in one of the best places in the world. I turned my creativity and interests into a very lucrative import business. Sure, I've had two marriages and five kids but now live alone in my own place. Kids are mostly grown up and I love 'em all to bits. But being single and financially secure makes me very happy.
Mine said didn't give others a chance and answers up too much. In other words he needs to play dumb so the class favorites can shine. For this I was given bad citizenship grades and slapped and abused by my narcissistic bitch of a mother despite my straight As in grade school. F em.
I dont think so
Being a Sigma INFJ, I've never understood the world around me...things that are obvious to me are a total mystery to others.
Alright I'll give it up. This was a much different video than all the rest, well done. Watching this reminded me of the universal desire for all kids around the world to rise up above whatever challenges they're currently facing. God bless.
Personally I was born a non-conformist individual/outsider and only learned about "Sigma's" when I was older, like in my 50's older; I just learned to accept how I was overtime before I knew.
My childhood was a broken, dysfunctional, chaotic mess. With substance abuse, physical abuse, and mental torture. And I find that many fellow Sigma’s have suffered similar circumstances. However once a Sigma pulls his life together, there’s no stopping him. Sigmas are actually more compassionate than most people feel they are. And for me it’s a result of that memory of being powerless as a child. We know what it is to be invisible. And no one should ever be made to feel that way.
robert
You're spot on, bro!
I'm a Sigma INFJ and that was like a walk down memory lane and nailed my youth perfectly. I'm impressed and as I mentioned being a INFJ that's not easy or so they say.... being this is only the 2nd comment I've ever felt I should do on you tube they might be right. (Having notice that you respond to comments as I write this, I most likely wont see it but in advance let me respond, your most welcome and thankyou.)😁
Thank you for sharing such relevant information for people like me; it was indeed a very, very difficult childhood but it was a blessing in disguise. As I struggled through my younger years, everything now......is EASY and all makes sense. Keep up the great work in helping other young Sigmas know that they are not alone and one day, they will understand who and what they are and that there is a greater purpose for them.
Nailed it !
From childhood's hours I have not been as others were, I have not seen as others saw;
I could not bring my passion from a common spring; from the same source I have not taken my sorrows;
I could not awaken my heart to joy at the same tone, and all I loved; I loved alone.
"Alone" - Green Carnation
Another that fits exactly right. I did well in school, but did not like the rigidity and became self-taught for the rest of my life. My parents were non-functional due to alcohol and mental issues, so I had to raise myself on my own. And knew from the beginning I valued different things in life than most, thus always being underestimated. Things sorted themselves out in my 30s and 40s as I began to understand how the rest of the world worked and acclimated to it, but it was rough going until mid 30s. Whereas many people get off to a great start as children and never look back. However, life has a way of evening things out. People who were born with a full head of steam typically trail off in midlife, whereas those who had it rough at the beginning of life find themselves favorable circumstances of their independent making near its end.
If you ain’t an opened minded, you will hate a someone with a sigma personality with no REASONS.
I was always judged as a kid and teen because I was such an outcast and a loner. People always accused me of being "queer" because I didn't have a girlfriend 2:09 and shunned sports. Having studied Sigma males, I now understand a lot about myself. The description given in these videos is me 100%!
We were definitely born...My grandmother said I talked in sentences before I walked. It frightened her when I first did it.
I was a kid with endless questions ❓❓ So my grandparents (they raised me) got me "The Amazing Book of Facts" vol 1,2,3 They were the size and thickness of phone books. Read it all, page by page. It satisfied me until the last page and the hunger for knowledge continues.....
Other than that is the females, they love my looks but I'm happiest alone.
I can relate to that experience. As a baby, my mom would park me in my push-chair next to the radio: the music would keep me fascinated, and therefore occupied, all day. I could sing most verses of 'Itchycoo Park' (I was born 1968) while other kids had just learnt to say, "Mamma".
Mine was The Book of Lists
I inhaled those too, 1 AND 2, if I remember correctly. Maybe just going through a dictionary also to learn new words and there meanings. How about the Information Please Almanac? Man did you ever stir up old things I haven't thought of in years. Thanks.
I'm a sigma. Grew up very poor in a solid middle-class area. I had a GREAT childhood! Being a natural loner, and not caring what others think, I embraced my uniqueness! What might have been traumatic for a beta, was perfect for me! It was a chance to hone my sigma traits- to be self-reliant; to stand alone; to not do what everyone else was doing, etc. I never needed to "find myself", as I never lost myself. While I believe that sigmas are largely born this way, I do believe that one's upbringing/environment does play some role in it too- and in my case, my childhood circumstances and environment were just PERFECT, and allowed me to really embrace my natural traits and practice them. I thank God that we never had the money, and that I was never pushed into organized/group activities, or encouraged to "be like everyone else" as THAT would be a hard path for a born sigma. O-K, I actually had a few friends between the ages of 9 and 11...but they were just entertainment....I was just as happy or more so when they weren't around. Damn, I loved my childhood! (Great times in the late 60's/early 70's).
This video was 100% dead on accurate. I was born a sigma, and received much punishment, and ridiculed because of how I was natured. I grew up in a time when corporal punishment was the standard. I received a many whelp, because I would not conform to societal norms.
Number 3 strongly resonates with me . Born 6 weeks premature led to several problems. Even as a child, I was very impatient , easily frustrated and had a terrible temper. Things that came easily to others were always a struggle for me. But life became a great teacher. I learned very early that life isn't always fair and it doesn't care about your feelings. I became very aware that if I was going to go anywhere in life, I was gonna have to get there on my own because most people, sooner or later will disappoint you. I have very few friends and don't pursue relationships with others anymore. Because at the end of the day, it's almost never worth the effort. I'm retired now after 2 different successful careers and am not worried about anyone letting me down. Because there is no anyone. There's just me. And I'll NEVER let me disappoint me
My mom raised me alone we had it hard i was bullied in school my mom overworked herself im glad we have it better now but i will never forget what happend in the past and i will learn from it
the 1st time my vietnam vet stepfather knocked me the fuck out, i was 10yrs old .. i woke up being carried home draped over his shoulder like a piece of meat.. this pattern continued along with him doing the same to my mother.. during this time , my mother birthed 2 children, my brother and sister.. 10yrs younger than me i decided i wasnt going to allow my siblings to suffer as i did, so around 16yrs old, i SHOWED HIM EVERY LESSON I LEARNED FROM HIM.. he always said he would make me a strong man if it killed him.. be careful what u wish for
Growingup, Pisces, and a young Sigma Male, is a story that'll never be complete. And so, I am still writing it at 47 years old.
You hit the making / experiences of a child fighting to survive causing to make a sigma male on the nail’s head. I’m 61 now. Sometimes you got work backwards to know how huh? Ha ha…
Wow. This is so spot-on. How do you come by this understanding? You are describing my childhood perfectly. Hyper curiosity, not fitting in, I became a voracious reader, and could never find books advance enough for my voracious appetite. They don´t normally point university-level books to a single-digit kid. My parents worried that I did not spend enough time outside playing with other kids, and even took me to a psychologist once about it, who had no clue about what I really was. I spent most of my time reading books, doing experiments, playing around with mathematics, learning physics...!
None of my peers could keep up with me, not even a little. When I finally understood calculus when I was 13, that was a game changer for me. NONE of my peers could approach calculus, not even the smart ones. I told the high school I enrolled in as a freshman that I wanted to take AP calculus, and they told me I had to wait for my senior year!!!! I had to sift through boring math courses that I had already accomplished in my single digits!!!!!! And by the time I was a senior, the AP calculus had disappeared, and the calculus being taught was really pre-calculus!!!! Again, the stuff I did when I was 11 or 12!!!!
Yes, I learned early on that I had to be self-reliant, because the school institutions were doing me no justice. In my algebra class I had used calculus to simply solve a slope problem that was much harder to do the way the teacher was teaching it. She didn't like that I used calculus, but why would I want to use the more long-winded way she was pushing?
This is just the tip of the iceberg here. I could easily write a book about this. Thanks for this episode.
i aint reading allat
There is the lose factor,as we have deaths of a parent[s],early on,and that trauma affects us from our formative years! Facing your own mortality,is a wake-up call,and you make every day count,as it could be your last! That part makes you,an adult overnight, and with all the responsibilities that go with it,plus having made a promise to your father/mother on their deathbed,you keep same,irregardless of any circumstances that come up! Lone Wolf,Wierdo,Non-Conformist,are the least problems of growing up,the biggest,is being true to self,and knowing self[WISDOM],that is paramount! Thank you for the insights,and information! Thank you 😇 😊!!
6 deaths of friends and family in a 9 month time frame while very young does things to you forever.
@@jeffreysnethen9586 Then you can add,deaths of best friends,and school/dorm mates,compounding the grief,as when the anniversaries come along,it still hits,and those chunks out your life are ever present! December and January are the roughest months in my calendar,as then those deaths accumulated! You have survived and thrived,and that in spite of those impediments! Welcome to the Club,and may God keep blessing your every day,that in one way or another gives more than takes,from yourself! Each of us,has done more than we realize,and we have that living philosophy,in which we immerse ourselves! Thank you,and keep on trucking! Thank you 😇 😊!
@@jeffreysnethen9586 it doesn’t matter how old you are when that much loss hits you. I was 35. It’s been 16 years. I’m better but it never goes away. It just waits in the darkness to ambush you.
@@i-..--..--..-i6985 it's TRUE I was 20 didn't know how to heal from it,lost my wife to cancer 3 years ago it brought me right back in that time frame, spent 13 months alone then 2 years grief therapy learned many things about myself if if I didn't want to.
I've lost count of how many times I've heard someone say that they have tattoos, piercings, unusual looking clothes or other such things and they'll say it's to show their individuality. I have none of those accessories and yet my individuality still shows through!
I stayed in trouble as a yourh because I questioned everything even god
My parents, my family, treated me like shit growing up. I also had neglected health problems. My parents neglected to get me the medical help i needed. I don't talk to any of them anymore.
English sigma male teacher here: was messed up as a kid, I encourage free thinking even if it conflicts with someone's faith.
I didn't have a great childhood. I'm a great writer. Why is there th!s connection.
Quite remarkable. Describes me to a T. Top to bottom. Good job. Other than astrological readings, have not heard such an accurate descriptive post
Very interesting. The one thing that kinda goes against this is my parents were the best. A lot of everything else struck true. Especially the need for specialized education for my learning. I was always told that I was smart but I'd stuff homework into my desk in grade school. This was especially true growing up in the 70s to mid 80s in small, rural town USA. Also, I was made fun of for certain things which pushed me down but there were other times that I became leader of certain groups.... interesting!
When I met my husband, I little less than 30 years ago, I was mesmerized by this massively self-confident, quiet human being who seemed built to face just about anything. Going to meet his family a little later, I assumed they would be all over him, and how marvelous he was. To my huge surprise- and, I must admit, quite an amount of anger- they all belittled, doubted, overlooked him constantly, silencing him when he had sth to say. And explained to me how glorious his elder brother actually was. I tried to have them see the wondrous qualities of their yougest son too- all in vain.
Later, driving back , I asked him "How can you even stand this? They won't give you a right to fill your own space!" He answered that I cared about him and that was all that mattered.
And here we are, 30 years later, him still largely misunderstood and under-estimated by his kins despite a beautiful carreer and beautiful, loving kids of his own.
Should I add that he is a really, really good looking man, far more handsome than his brother, but never really taken in as such by his own family.
He doesn't mind and loves them all the same.
Was adopted at 3 days, adopted mother died when i was 7, dad remarried and then life really turned to hell for the next 9 years part of it was the fact that step mom didnt know how to react to boys and had my dad beat my ass toll i was big enough to defend myself. I was always on my own and could only count on myself. Same thing in the military i was an outcast wasnt part of the buddy buddy group, did my own thing, had my own civilian friends, was a supervisor as an E4 did my job was easy. Now thirteen years later after getting out im retired could go back to work if i wanted to but dont need too. I do my own thing still just who i am and thats it. Now have all those women in highschool that are now divorced with kids hitting me up and i could care less bceause to women its all about money lol. Just doing me and thats that.
Very good. Fits in perfectly
It was exactly how it was growing up
This resonates with me in many respects. As far as education goes, I discovered early that most of my teachers were not just lacking, but too lazy to learn themselves. That was what drove me to self study, which paid off for me.
Very helpful content. 🙏
They aren't born. They are made through hardships
That could be part of it.
True
I agree!!
7/7
Excellent Wirk
it’s so impressive when another person is able to provide a mirror like perspective allowing one to
Better understand oneself and therefore be at
Greater peace within oneself. For the right person these types of video
May actually be
“Quite Freeing”
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I'm left handed as well. My earliest memories of school were the teacher taking the pencil out of my left hand and telling me to use my right hand, but it went back into my left hand. I'm not bad on the pool table though when I get stuck and need to do a right handed shot. It always works and puts off the other player because they can't do it.
Your comment resonates with me. My parents were shocked to see me write with my left then switch to my right. Later on people who catch me doing this are shocked. This in turn has caused some to call me weird.
@@thenomadicham5329 if you’ve never been called weird or an Ahole you are not a Sigma. We’re gifted but not the most tactful beings.😂
Cannot tell you how many times this happened to me during my time in school. Never understood why teachers had such a problem with being left handed.
Was born in the late 40’s never felt that I fit in and that hasn’t changed I hate crowds. Child hood was rough really set in my ways I listen more than talk, I always did as I wanted, but if someone screwed over me once I was through with that person was very successful in my work, have a photography memory. Never tried to please anyone and realized early in life not everyone likes every one. Never tried to please anyone, but took care of my family. Have had a rough57 years with my wife. Once I left home I was instantly on my own never looked back
I agree 👍 100% with this video 📹. Touched some old feelings and interesting flashbacks. But I still don't consider myself a sigma male. I'm do, however, believe that I'm Transforming into one. That's if I can maintain this momentum to develop and evolve in my life.
very interesting! thank you
Thank God for my early struggles. Now everything is easier!
You described my life with precision. I am 75 now and still an outsider. I have learned I neither like nor trust people and prefer to be by myself even though I am married with 29 grandchildren and 5 great grandchildren. I tolerate people at best.
I was always a loner; even the black sheep in the family!
As a child i had to grow up very quickly. Mums an alcholic and dad was a biker. I learned very quickly to learn to not fully trust anyone and quickly spot the snakes
I swear its a100% true
I'm 63 and I agree with all points and observations of this video. I was married to a narcissist for forty odd yrs it was a struggle, the thought of my kids having to endure that negative personality made me stay, my sigma qualities gave me strength now they have grown up and left home I was finally able walk away from a destructive toxic relationship and take my power back. Now I am finally able to be my authentic Sigma self. This video and others like it makes me feel valued and validated and so to all the other lone wolves out there I will see you on the trails less often traveled.
Truelly
It's just amazing how you are always correct about my personality 🤯
Solipsism
The more I follow this channel, the more I believe in that possibility. WTF is going on?!
What shapes a person is how victimized they feel, and what they feel victimized by.
Some people feel victimized by trust, love, acceptance, and abuse.
While others feel victimized by righteousness, discipline, responsibility, restraint, etc.
Some people live for fun, recklessness, consumerism, attention, recognition, pride, their image.
While others live for selfless acts and try to live for meaning.
In my experience…
When you’re living your first five years of life…
If violence is something you’re subjected to…
If abuse is something you’re subjected to…
And the very people who brought you into this world are the very people you can’t trust or confide in….
You learn to be independent early on.
You separate yourself and you question everything for dear life to create an independent mind set.
From that point on…
Because you weren’t coddled, because you weren’t held, because you weren’t encouraged, because you were scape goated, because emotional support was rare to come by…
You are immediately separated and you will never understand those who were nurtured…
Those who were nurtured will never understand you…
You will always be that person who was reclusive who over analyzed and tried to make sense of it all…
While they will always be the people who engaged and ran with it without a second guess….
They never questioned, they never learned, they never developed….
All they did was believe what ever they were told and carried the torch….
There was no demand in their life to seek…
There was no demand in their life to survive….
There was no demand in their life to press on and fight to stay alive.
There was no demand in their life to become independent enough to take care of themselves.
All they do is obey, take orders, and believe what they were told about everything.
They consume, destroy, take, compete, fight, develop dysfunctional relationships, they develop toxic coping mechanisms, and toxic self preservation.
Because…
They live for fun, pride, image, comfort, lust, and consumption.
They value their self worth based on what they have, what they can do, and how much they have to show off….
While those lone wolfs like me…
Develop a sense of sight that isn’t based on going with the flow and believing what the vast majority assumes is true.
We begin to see the holes and the induced preferred oversights in the programming.
The social programming.
The political influences and the effects these influences have on everybody’s lives.
The fear that gets spread around forcing people to chose sides…
Dividing people against themselves and everybody else.
We see things from beyond right and left…
We see victims who seek comfort and revenge….
In far more ways than one.
We see people who make beasts out of themselves to get rid of the pain of being a Man.
We see people fighting for power, for control, for dominion.
Like a pile of people fighting to the death for a throne that doesn’t even exist.
By watching everything from the outside in….
We never had the luxury of being surrounded by so much comfort and emotional support….
We had our asses handed to us on a daily basis….
Forced to question why???
Were the ones who didn’t fit in.
Were the ones who didn’t have that luxury to find much solace in this world.
We refused to conform…
We refused to simply obey…
We refused to go with the flow…
We refused to depend on everybody else’s understanding to tell us who we are.
We questioned everything…
And we found what we sought for.
We felt victimized by common fools…
In the wake of their stupidity.
We felt victimized by endless cycles of trauma and abuse.
We felt victimized by a world so cold and sought the understanding necessary to escape.
We found comfort in function…
We found comfort in problem solving….
We found comfort in fixing things…
We found comfort in quiet places…
We found comfort in trustworthy people….
And we felt victimized by all the rest….
The fools of this world chased comfort and better feelings…
We chased clarity and that long forgotten solace that was taken from us at the age of 3 years old.
We seek only to correct the beginning of our lives…
By doing everything ourselves…
To be the fathers our father couldn’t be….
By being the husbands our father couldn’t be…
By providing what he couldn’t provide….
So that the next child in line can be held and nurtured in the way we were not.
We seek only to compel the world around us to be functional and trust worthy.
Because the beginning of our lives were filled with pain and agony.
Trauma set us apart from everyone else from the very beginning….
We could only trust God…
Who else could we have turned to…
When it all started with less than nothing…
People you knew you couldn’t trust….
Because they valued pleasure, comfort, pride, their image, their ego, and beyond…
Over responsibility.
Because they brought us into this world to make them proud, happy, feeling important, to raise someone into society that could make them feel accomplished….
Rather than raising children to be independent and understanding enough to go out into the world as civilized human beings….
In my experience…
It’s the child in a dysfunctional family and upbringing who refused to crumble….
No matter what…
The one who needed it…
Who did everything and more to make it.
One thing I noticed about myself is that I don't have the ability to yell during arguments. There are many reasons for it:
1. I was silent for too long and my jaw grew stiff...
2. It takes too much energy to make an outburst.
3. Because I was silent most of my life, I never exercised fast speech.
4. I think and listen to the other's arguments before speaking, which usually becomes overwhelming because they move onto the next topic before I could fully analyze what they said prior.
This has led me to understand that inperson conversation is my weakness and that I excel at writing more.
There have been times when someone would come at me out of nowhere; yelling and swearing 🤬, and all I could do is stand there silently and awkwardly... Wondering what I did or said to set them off...
Meh, 😂 it was bound to happen.
I had my rules and values, i refused to compromise them. I felt being alone was better than being around people who would demand i compromised them. I still feel that way. Im very comfortable in solitude
Love your videos and thanks for posting them! Found this video very interesting and amazed by it! I experienced most from my younger years in public schools, especially with doing my own research, after questioning teachers, that didn’t have answers or being self reliant.. I wasn’t actually a lone wolf back then but instead I had kids that was rough around the edges wanting to be friends with me or some that wanted to be friends with me, to just take care of other kids that was bullying them! That wasn’t my style to be a bully, instead I was enjoying ,confronting these bullies on there behalf but I knew and felt different from every other kids, I didn’t fear what they feared or even cared about being popular but I did become popular and got Reputation of Not to be mess with.. But I chose most of the Time to be lone wolf 🐺 I could go on and on about this lol but the bottom line to this, I believe Sigma males are born not made
Annoyed by fairytale experts saying "Perhaps we need to adapt a new style of learning to include the unknown".
You really have a grasp, I can tell.
Almost gone through every aspects of topic mentioned in this video.
I am amazed how these Sigma personality info videos relate to me. Amazing. I thought I was an anomality. Thanks.
Point numbers 3 & 4 are most intriguing ones for me personally. When I was 16 years old and had just entered the 11th grade, my Dad got a job many miles away but, because he was an alcoholic, my mother felt the need to move up with him not only to watch the money, but also amid concerns he may have been unfaithful to her.
So, they took their chances and left me alone in their house. From a comparatively early age, I had to learn the ropes of bachelorhood and become self-reliant. I had to cook and clean for myself and do my own laundry. At school, whenever I told any of my teachers about my domestic situation, they were broadsided. My situation may have also caused me friction with some of my peers, because of my refusal to cave into their sudden pressure of trying to force me to host a potentially, out-of-control house party.
In hindsight, one could ask if I got a sense of independence at too young an age because now, 40 years later, I remain a bachelor.
You nailed it.
Same here. Many wise insights and experiences I can deeply relate to. Grew up with mean and narcissistic parents. Have always stood alone in life. Had to do everything myself. This has left a deep impression on me. I think the Sigma personality is something innate, but it can also be something you are shaped into due to circumstances. Perhaps a combination of the two is more plausible. But I went through pain and darkness alone, hence I walk through life alone. The few times I can let something into my private life is someone with a deep soul and reasonably sophisticated disposition. I can't stand ordinary people or anyone who reminds me of my past. I cut ties immediately.
I don't know whether I'm a Sigma and I'm sure this was a generic video but you described my personality, habits and thought process to a frightening degree.
This video is spot on. I’m curious though, how is it that the common thread happens to be so similar for Sigmas? Is there a pre-destination element involved? Certain special, strong warrior like spirits being sent to earth and given harder lives and challenges to keep it fair compared to others? When I was about three I started working. My father built us a log cabin with an axe. My twin and I were put on the logs to start scraping the bark. We had no running water or power. Years later around 7 I started walking around the neighborhood with a toolbox asking people if they had any plumbing repairs needed to be fixed. At 16 I started painting cars for teachers and fellow students to earn money during the months of my sports. At 20 started a construction company and worked hard, retiring at only 40. Now at nearly 46 I work every day helping elderly in my community and spend a lot of time on my schooner and ranch. I almost have anxiety disorders from to much noise and require a lot of quiet time after visiting with certain people that I know beforehand to be draining. Sigmas may be susceptible to emotional over load and over stimulation. Driving on the road with my wife I would have paid attention to all the cars speeds, location, behaviors, watching to see why they moved to a different lane and guessing if they will turn on a blinker to exit. All while my wife is oblivious to everything and sits happy and content. Don’t get me started on lines behind me at the bank or if a car is following close on a 2 lane road.
Yup. All of this discourse is me. An additional element was a very traumatic childhood starting when I was still a crib baby. I call that my Karma.
Much of this analysis resonates, especially the family dynamics and differentness as a child. Broken home, narcissistic mother who abandoned me at less than a year old, but then took me back at three years old only to psychologically abuse me until I finally walked out at 14. Supportive father but issues with his next wives. Ran away altogether at 19 to become independent. Unstable relationships due to trust issues. Intelligent, motivated and successful but have been cheated and taken advantage of many times.
This is spot on accurate, speaking as a Sigma male now 75 years of age.
While this is generic, a lot of this holds true. However, there is a different dynamic where the Sigma male isn't the black sheep of the family. Let me explain. I had a sister who was a narcissist and my parent's spoiled her rotten. She got everything she wanted, while anything I wanted I was told, "You'll have to figure out how to get it yourself."
She was the black sheep because she was always getting into trouble because my parents would always bail her out. She even served 6 months in prison for child endangerment. While if I did anything wrong, I know my parents wouldn't be there to help me, so I was a model teenager.
As for Teachers, I hated English class and after graduating HS, I came to start calling it "conformity class" I wrote an opinion paper and was given a poor grade, even though my grammar was impeccable. When I confronted the teacher about it, and asked "why the poor grade", I was told my arguments weren't convincing. When I pointed out that it was an opinion paper, I was told, "Yeah, well your opinions are wrong."
I totally agree! I've always been different and have had that pointed out to me many times over the years.
The more of these I watch the more I understand about why I am so different from most everyone else. At first I thought it was just an interesting coincidence, but after a bunch of these videos I realize it’s simply who I am. Quite honestly it’s my greatest strength.
Thank you very much..am agreeing with you..
that's me to a 'T' had an overbearing father and my thoughts and habits drove him nuts that I didn't have conformity. He thought I was less intelligent. I did things my own way, Never had many friends, super self-reliant, family was a toxic environment where I got made fun of considerably
Very good, now add to that growing up as an only child with a single mother in the early 60's. I had a front door key at the age of 8. But it m 67 now, and I wouldn't go back and change a thing. It made me who I am today. Retired, broke, ,living off grid, and Happy. Take care
You're 100 percent spot on thanks
This is so true. We are born introverts but morph in the Sigma type as we learn more about ourselves and everything around us. Im 44yo now but when i was little i absolutely lived school as i loved learning. Then i had this one teacher in 2nd grade that failed me simply because she lerceived me as shy and needed to be held back. I had straight A's & B's with 1 C. I remember it well like it was just a few years ago. I was so updet over that one C. That absolutely killed my motivation for school and just did the bare minimum from that point on till i graduated. But i still am always learning new things though.
These descriptions are spot on.
Very nice 😊
This video is bang on.
So true. It was very difficult growing up this way. And even harder when you have mild OCD.