When you don’t heal, those same problems/pain you have, will show up in your next relationship. Rebound marriages end in divorce 😂 take time to actually HEAL❤️
My ex married his rebound, their marriage is over. She looked like me, she went along with the plans we had set up for our relationship while being together. Our break up was so sad on so many levels. And he did rub his marriage in my face. Now they have broken up. So there you go.. if they try to replace you, but keep the dreams you had together and transfer that onto another person, it is a rebound.
Going through the same. She is from the same country as him, but has my build and my facial features! I walked away after giving him a second chance because he was attached to his phone however there are no photos of them together or their wedding. We broke up January this year.. I am loving my me time and not having to deal with a man child 😂
@@allthingsjana7870 strange ha? I know. I believe they say that too hurt us, and that way make us work hard for the relationship, at the same time as they can sit back and relax with all the control.
I have the same story, they got married 10 days ago, he’s been cheating on me with her since October 2022. End of November he has left me with two little kids from him. And got married after 6 months with her. She has the same type of look as me and everything what he has planned with me for our future, he is now making these plans to come true with her.
This happened to me a couple yrs ago, he actually left me for the girl he got engaged to and never told me. I found out through Facebook, heartbreaking. Guess what happened? They broke up, never got married. And never take someone back who would do that to you! Great video, all truth!
My ex did get married but 2lmonths prior to him getting married he had called me and asked me out to IHOP he also would call me for emotional support we we talk on the phone for almost a hr now I was married to him for 25yrs we separated in July but from July to October we still remain seeing eachother although we lived apart in October I seen him with his now wife he never mentioned he was seeing her to me I always was at his house and never knew clearly he was playing me I was his place holder until he completely baged her long story short dude was a skilled liar and master manipulator I didn't see it coming he made belive we was gonna reconcile but you live and you learn when I look back I wish I would've seen the red flags I wished I never answered my phone
My ex married the woman he cheated on me with now he’s saying he made a mistake and wants me back but my heart says I love him but my head says run so I’m following my head.
@IamCoachCourt That's something that will stay wit you forever. This happened over 20 yrs ago. I never forgot how bad she looked. I love your videos..👍
I feel like giving up…. He’s marrying her this month. I’m so embarrassed. We were together for many years but he never proposed. He proposed to her very quickly. Downplayed our relationship to her to the point I second guessed US TOO. I’m totally heartbroken.. and this happened 2 yrs ago. He kept running back and I let him rip off that band aid. Now he’s really following it though, she’s got money, her body done, educated, popular ,, has many friends. Totally opposite of ME. They now have businesses together. I feel like he got people looking at me like well why didn’t he marry u? what was wrong with u? I’m so hurt. So heartbroken. So embarrassed. Betrayed.. don’t feel good enough .. he said some very harsh things to me. Ghosted me.. gas lighted… kept coming back.. now he’s marrying her. Allowed her to disrespect… God told me to to be still. And I did. But why do I feel like God is on their side and I’m being punished… I don’t bother them. And they finally stopped bothering/ bullying me. But now I’m like he really found his true love I guess. All those years wasted.. we have a 21 year old whose picking out a tux tomorrow for their wedding… he’s taken us through an emotional rollercoaster. Nothings the same… how can God allow them to be happy. Life is not fair .
I know exactly how you feel, I was married for 10 yrs. He checked out at yr 6. Married the woman he cheated on me with. I feel like God keeps blessing their union. It has been 3 yrs now. I am still by myself struggling. Life is not fair. What happen to Karma.
Wow This happened to me . I left my ex because he didn’t change after 7 years and we were engaged but didn’t have his priorities straight. He then dated some girl within the same year of us breaking up he got engaged 🤣 🤡 engaged to two women in the same year . That’s desperate af
I'm in the middle of it right now. Started January 9th of this year. My ex and I have been together for 8 years, and we have a 2 and half year old daughter together. My ex tells me that a guy she knew from middle school (21 years ago) reached out to her dad through Facebook. He was asking about her dad about her, etc. Apparently, he is in rehab and is reaching out to people from his past. She contacts him, and then it begins. Long story short and a lot of conversations and incidents since, yesterday she told me that they are getting married. My mind is melting. This bum in rehab is married with two kids. So in 6 weeks, two families have been destroyed. Doesn't make sense.
My ex got engaged to his rebound just months after breaking up with me (he monkey branched from me to her). Within a year of being married his best friend (who had been the best man at their wedding) told me they'd already cheated on each other and 9 years later they were divorced.
@@chantehowe7798 Because he's a snake. Anyway, I know the guy very well and doubt he'd make something like that up. He's just an indiscreet gossip. I never liked him and always knew he couldn't be trusted but my ex thought he was genuine. However, all it took was a disagreement over money (they went into business together) for him to stab my ex in the back. I had warned my ex about this "friend". Anyway, I heard the same story from another source as well (someone who knew the woman he cheated on his wife with). I knew the story was true because she revealed details that only an intimate partner would know. When I look back, I feel my ex ended up doing me a favor because it means I managed to get away from that toxic mess.
My ex moved in with her new man after a month and they were engaged four months later. She still emails/texts she loves me. When they do this stuff it’s their true colors and it’s gross. Be thankful you dodged a bullet if this happens to you.
My boyfriend also got engaged to another woman a few months after our breakup and they got married in less than a year after the breakup, and he called me during his honeymoon
He's already talking about marriage after 3 months. Yet he knew I wanted to get married after 4 years and he had a family with me. That man and woman both got karma. Especially when she knew about me. Not only that he told me that he hates marriage. He is confused.
This is exactly what happened to me-my ex was a DA (which I realized after he broke up abruptly and was so emotionally shutdown, he couldn’t have a real conversation). Two months later, he jumped into another relationship, one month after that his oldest son was killed in a motorcycle accident, and four months later he got engaged to the rebound. He has so many things he hasn’t processed or healed from, starting with his divorce before me. I was shocked that he got engaged so fast, but it seems that he’s just running from his pain and distracting himself and trying to convince everyone that he’s doing great. Reality will hit, because all of his baggage and issues are still there! There’s no way this isn’t a rebound-he hasn’t done any work on anything. Sigh.
Oh my you have saved me tonight ! I'm in a similar situation. My ex who I left in end of January and who came back to me after asking for a second chance is now engaged! 4 months after we ended! He was already a divorcee when I met him 😂😂😂😂😂 Well basically he blocked me on Instagram because he opened his story 😂 he then made his profile private, but not his Facebook and from there I found he is married... However no pictures of them together or a wedding yet... He knows I react to things and his narcissistic self probably can't take it I left his ass. However she is from a different country... Honestly I just actually feel free. ❤
@@allthingsjana7870, ugh, so hard. I’m glad you’re handling it well-it’s been pretty traumatic for me. I just found out that they’ve been living together (and very likely legally married) since December. At this point, nothing can shock me, but it’s still really hard, even though I know I’m much better off. That marriage will either end or be distant and toxic. He hasn’t done any work to heal or take responsibility, and he’s still running from everything.
@@beckymusgrove4784 I understand how hard it is. I feel exactly the same. Yes it's like my ex. I left february and he is now married apparently. He is the exact same jumps from one person to the next and love bombs. He is so is also a major avoidant. I think he sees the new woman as somebody that will just put up and shut up. Who will not question a thing. She won't understand the culture here and is most likely still living with her parents. Hopefully she is making a fool of him and after a green card. I believe too it won't last. I also don't know if he was married all along or if she is somebody new. Nothing surprises me either. It's horrible I know. I am going to work with barely any sleep and not eating well. I know it's for the best and I'm lucky to be out so soon, but it really diminishes your hope. Not easy. I feel quite angry at times. I was healing well and then I saw that on social media he has posted that he is married and to whom. He never ever would post anything about me even though I met his family, but that was over a video call. He also met mine. I was the one that left and I'm sure he is using his marriage as a weapon. He will only lose by being so foolish.
@@allthingsjana7870 wow, that’s so hard. It’s been longer for me, but I really gave him the benefit of the doubt early on, and each new revelation has been something new I needed to process and grieve. The new woman has a very demanding job (surgeon) and not much family (both parents have passed away), so I think he believes this relationship will benefit him but require little of him. Sh makes a ton of money and owns a house. He’s a pilot and is gone half of the month, so they’ll probably hardly see each other. Sounds like a really great relationship. I don’t think it will be what he thinks it will be-reality will hit and he’s going to have to deal with all of his unresolved pain at some point. Unfortunately, the decisions he’s making will have long-term repercussions for himself and others, including his kids. Not sure how this new woman isn’t questioning all of this, but maybe she’s running from things as well or was just blinded because he did everything so fast. It does get better, but I still have really hard days and times where I get caught in my thoughts. The lack of closure when we broke up, coupled with how quickly he moved on, is hard to grasp. We need to remind ourselves that it’s not a reflection of us, but of them and their emotional immaturity and cowardice to face themselves and take responsibility. Oh, and his daughter has stayed in touch with me and tells me she misses me-she knows her dad is acting crazy.
@@beckymusgrove4784 oh my this all sounds too familiar . Yes I got no closure either.. They never want to resolve anything. Yes I'm the same , I also get caught in my thoughts too and it can take me to a dark place. I'm not going to look at social media again until I'm ready. Yes mine is living in lala land thinking he can bring his new wife over and that it will be smooth sailing. He will miss his freedom. It will be interesting to see because he made jokes that he will put me in the spare room when I'm pregnant because he doesn't want his sleep disrupted for work. How is he gonna cope with this girl having to rely on him until she gets a job. There's no way he will want her not to be working. She will probably be working non stop and they will not get much time to spend together. He really is an idiot. Wow your ex's daughter can see through her father. That's amazing. It's a shame she misses you and it's lovely that she keeps in contact with you. I have a feeling on the way to work I saw my ex and he stared now and again. I gave him a little wave. One of those sarcastic ones. I'm not really sure if it was him. This is horrible, but it will pass and we can get through it. It really knocks you, but will they really last with their new supply? That's all they are.
My Ex Wife of 22 years filed for divorce for being disconnected and unhappy in the marriage. At the end she would scream and yell at me over various things that had happened in the past that she held onto. No matter how many times I would ask her to "talk to me", "lets work things through", "lets go to couples counseling" she didn't want to. I'm not without blame and did my share of mistakes over the years. A couple of things that I noticed over the years was that she never showed any type of emotion towards me even though I would ask for it, She had a hard time asking for help, She was also incapable to apologize or recognize when she was at fault though she did show some empathy from time to time. Through the good and the bad I held on and weathered the storm, she decided to leave our home in Sept 2021 and moved into her moms. We still communicated and did things with the kids but I left things as is and did not try to push her decision and things stayed like that up until Dec 2022 were I started to notice that she was more distant and would not be at her moms when I dropped of the kids I would text her and she always said, Ill be there in 5 mins, after many occurrences like this I called her out on it. I knew her Ex boyfriend from H.S. was still in the area and looked him up and wouldn't you know he was also divorced. I mentioned it to her only to be met with "don't concern your self with my personal life" though at this point we were still legally married. In April our divorce became final and she completely blocked (text/phone calls/social media). I could not understand since we both were suppose to co-parent our teenage kids... The next part gutted me.. she hid this from me and told both of our kids not to say anything... but the kids told me anyway... against her better judgement she got remarried to her Ex H.S. boyfriend 3 months later, bought a house and is now living there with his 3 kids and our 2 kids.... I dont even know where to begin when I think about her decision to do this... it makes absolutely no sense. She Monkey Branched/ Rebounded into this relationship, did not deal with ANY of our traumatic events from our 22 year marriage and what's worse she didnt even care about how this was going to impact our kids...... I dont get it... the fact that she remarried her ex.. was a slap on my face honestly.. and it looks like this looser was orbiting us for the last 22 years. So while shes out there playing house with 5 kids and this dude Im left here picking up the pieces and wonder what the heck did I just go through in the last 22 years. What signs did I not see with her Narcissistic traits... learning to detach and learn to heal from this trauma bond I have with her... All these years I always noticed that I was only happy when she was around.. and felt sad when she wasn't.... like getting a high from a substance. Im at a loss for words honestly that she had the audacity to shove this in our kids faces... Now a days people use marriage like a sales receipt and really means nothing... Im trying to work on myself and begin the healing journey... there is no way in heck I would ever think about jumping into another relationship let alone MARRY!!! someone??!?!?!?!?!
Brother. I read your post and it hurt my soul. The description of what you went through is beyond heartbreaking. I hope you get some answers one day because you deserve them.
I wonder why when women mentally check out of the relationship, men do not pick up on the obvious signs. When men check out, women typically know and can feel it. We are analyzing his change of behavior the minute it starts with our girlfriends.
@@IamCoachCourt That's true. I would assume men that are anxious type could probably pick up on the signs as well but I've never dated an anxious man and come to think of it I don't know any. I guess anxious never attracts other anxious individuals.
I can say I didn't pick up as I was focused on my job, as we were planning to move back to our hometown. I was promised relocation + promotion. It forced me to work long hours + doing extra training after work. I also had to work in toxic environment and it shifted me to person I wasn't before. To that moment I was always there. Supporting her, and always felt when something was wrong, even when she was saying otherwise. She also took some extra hours which insisted not to take. Then she balemed me at the end saying :"You didn't notice how much I work and what bad shape I am in." I literally told her not to take this extra job. I know my flaws and mistakes. I said sorry, and never badmouthed her. She is now telling crap about me and my family. She was the one to monkey branch with another dude. She is now engaged to. Worst thing is that there is nothing I can do. Her sister said why I didn't try to fight. She literally took her stuff and moved with this dude to another country, but told me she is moving back to her sisters. Her sis also said that I never messaged her which is lie. I did messaged, but she rarely replied and even if she was cold and minimalistic. So how can you fight when someone is moving to another country and is not contacting you at all?
I picked it up…I mean not like my ex wife was quiet about it. Issue was for me it was a bias when it came to the relationship as nothing I felt matter as much as what she felt. Also tried to get us into joint and individual counseling, got myself a mentor and she made excuses to not connect with hers. Reason ultimately was because she wasn’t committed truly to the marriage as we vowed. I think people should just not get married if they going to leave off feelings. Love is a choice….not a feeling
My baby’s dad starting talking to a “ friend” soon after I gave birth. This person was introduced to him by other people for baby sitting purposes. But they continued a friendship. Back in August he left me for her and now they are engaged. It’s not as February. He couldn’t commit to me but he committed to her and quickly.
This has happened to me a few times, my first ex we were high school sweethearts and dated for 6 years and she left me for that dude and married him and he’s cheated on her a couple times. Now my recent ex we dated for 6 years also and left me for the dude she’s now gonna marry lol I just have laugh sometimes. I have the worst luck when it comes to relationships, I’m cursed 😂
My ex asked for cool off. While in a hotel, he met a woman after 3 days then he just suddenly married the woman within the week. He broke up with me after being with this woman.
This same exact situation happened to me. My girlfriend of 16yrs broke up with me, told me to move out of the house that I helped purchase and furnish as well as did the maintenance and repairs on. She started talking to an instacart shopper who is 4 years older than her and a little over 10urs years older than me. We broke up 4/25 she married the guy 6/16. Major rebound marriage. She blamed me for all our issues in the relationship, never worked on herself by getting therapy while am working on myself and getting therapy and making better money. Everyone has told me it won’t last and I can tell it won’t the way she acted towards me and how the guy is. It’s going to be her loss.
it’s such a joke that his rebound looks identical to me. my whole family was weirded out when they saw his new girl lol. same height and hair length.. everything. even if he found my clone he still takes the L because she will never be me. she does not have my wisdom that I gained through life experience, she does not have my talents, she does not have my humour or wits. he can spend the rest of his life loving a wannabe, that’s embarrassing for him.
This is the worst thing that can happen to anyone . That too if ur own frnd is marriying ur ex that is even more horibble thing that can happen. My ex married our mutual common friend. Yes she is friend of mine too. It was the worst day seeing my ex kepping sindhoor on her head. Purely rebound relationship are selfish thing. We broke up for sepeartion pain. She used that pain and married my ex😢
My ex and I have been together off and on for 6 years. I really found out that she married her high school first/ and rebound. In March. Of this year. We still have contacting need advice. There seems to be some feeling still there. I'm currently working on me.. Thanks for your videos Sir. (Growth/Healing).
But honestly, we were more in a situationship for 8 years and when he ended it he told me he wasn’t feeling it and immediately started sleeping with her. They’re married two years later. Got married a few months ago. I just think he wasn’t in love with me and just saw me as a friend and I wasn’t paying attention because I was in love with him and hoped it would work out. It’s painful but I’m not sure she’s a rebound.
I was in a long distance relationship with someone. We already made plans of getting married. But things fell apart and I lost trust on him. So, I decided to broke up with him. But he chased me for months after that... I gave him a chance it lasted only a few weeks because he usually dissappear for days. So, I decided to break up with him again. And a month later I found out that his with someone else! They got engaged and got even married yesterday. I thought I was over him already. But until now, I can't move on... i feel so betrayed. I feel that he betrayed me but still his having his happy ending by marrying that girl? Seriously! I'm so down right now...I just want to cry!
i can feel your pain. It hurts so much. had a relationship with him for over four years, he just couldnt marry me. but he made all these plans. he tried to get me back, but couldnt commit to engagement. then he even met up with me, told me he still saw a future with me, but had already this new girlfriend. now, they are engaged. he was with me for over four years. i was with him when we were very young, didnt have much money, helped him with his education and career challenges. one and a half years in with the new girlfriend, he proposed to her. i dont want to be bitter. but i am heartbroken even though, i knew i couldnt build a relationship on that behaviour. sorry btw for my broken english, it is not my native language. But in case you believe, I will try to find peace in Gods plan for situations like this. there is a place of love, where there could be bitterness. I hope that God (and maybe life, if you don't believe in God) has something good in store for you, for him and will resolve things beautifully.
My ex met this girl 6 months ago at work his brother hired her because he hates me and right after she finished with her boyfriend he left me and went after her , totally rebound and she is pregnant so. Sad and im heartbroken
My ex just got engaged to the rebound four months after our breakup. We dated for 2 years. Makes ya wonder if there was an overlap. We had back and forth a lot during that last bit of our relationship. We’re both 22, which maybe sheds light on this situation more but she is with someone who is the exact opposite of me. I’m from utah, a very religious state and I’m not very religious. She’s now dating a super religious guy. She told me when we dated that she could never date someone like that… do you think that she’s subconsciously trying to find someone not like me? The relationship was one sided a lot, she was more into me than I into her and I’m not a very emotional guy. She really loved me. I feel like I dropped the ball.
@@IamCoachCourt yeah I think you’re spot on. I think I didn’t show up because I had small doubts the entire relationship that I let grow inside of me while not telling her, and it blocked me from fully opening up I suppose. Can’t expect her to wait forever. Live and learn I guess… really hurts though Also side note, crazy how you could tell she was an anxious attacher. I think I knew her pretty dang well and I won’t dive into our whole background but that makes a lot of sense. you think soulmates are real and if we mess up with that one person we’ll never feel the same again?
@@parkerkunz5687 I don’t dive in to soulmate stuff too much, but yeah. I’ve been talking about Attachment theory daily for the past four years lol. Like shooting a jumpshot at this point
We were together for two years and last week she dumped me. The same day she changed her status to in a relationship with someone else in another state. Now after the weekend they announced they are getting married. I’m losing my mind. She is not acting like herself. I am leaving her alone and letting her have it if that’s what she really wants. But it’s killing me.
Update. They are still together. She is reaching out saying she misses me. We have hooked up a few times and yet she is still adamant they are getting married and she says that God will take me out of her head the day they get married. How delusional
Me and him were on and off for about 2 years. He kept coming back. One day he starts acting cold, the next day and for no apparent reason he is not talking to me anymore, 3 days later he is married to his ex. It has been 1 month. He hasn't said a word to me. I learned about attachment styles, started watching all these videos here and discovered he was text book DA, had a funny feeling, did some investigating and found out about his new martial status.
Mine was 18 years married , and we divorced but I thought he was trying to reconcile , so we were still doing things if you know what I mean . He’s a pastor and I found out while watching him preach on UA-cam , he’s married with a baby in the way .. top that one . We been divorced 4 months
My ex of 17 yrs left one day and never came back after a year being separated I married a friend of 26 yrs needless to say both marriages have ended in divorce…. Now trying to heal from this whole mess.
My ex and have been broken up 3 months and informed me today he is getting married..we was together 12 years...he is 70 and I'm 64....I think he is afraid of being alone
My ex of 2 years left me for someone else 4 months ago. Flash forward to now they are engaged. I know I came up short in the relationship, and ultimately feel like I met the right girl and the wrong time in my life. Nevertheless it feels like I got punched in the gut. Feeling entirely hopeless
Mine was diagnosed BPD/Depression. We were together 1.5 years. She dumped me and said because I told her after her job asked her to work an extra day that maybe she should. I didnt know me saying that to her hurt her because she perceived it as me not wanting to spend time with her. I was blown away at her reasoning. She replaced me the next day. We were going to get married on her 50th bday. Anyway she kept triangulating with this new guy. Constantly calling me and texting me. I couldn't take it anymore. So I told her I was talking to a new girl, I just wanted to be left alone because I was very hurt and confused. 2 weeks later she married the new guy on her bday. I never reached out. She just sent me a email last month to meet up...I didnt reply.
@@IamCoachCourt thank you...they were together only 2 months before her Bday. She sold her house and got married. The day before she broke up with me she was saying how happy she was. Her emotions would just flip like a switch.
My ex is doing this right now. We were together for 7 years and I wasn’t ready to propose. When I finally was ready she left me for a friend of hers. They are together for a year now and I expect they will be engaged by the end of New Years. We still talk and hangout. Sometimes I’ll get a kiss but she won’t come back to me even though I want to marry her.
@Vincentr .... you deserve everything that happened to you. How do you wait for 7 years before you get ready to propose ? Your ex got a guy who knows what he wants ... and he proposed to her. I hope you are not wasting your time waiting for her to break up with her new guy and come back to you 😄😄 Like how much time does one need to get ready to propose ?
Exactly i dont feel bad now he wants sympathy from the internet no ppl and women shouldnt wait for a man if i was his ex id go no contact cus now u tryna stop ke from moving on @annengei2885
My ex(married for 23 years, together for 27 years).went into a two year relationship 4 months after we divorced. Left him for another guy. She's been with him for about 9 months. He asked her to marry him after 4 months but she declined. He told her they could take it slow. Last year she came to my place and spent the night twice and said she still loved me after calling me and asking me to meet her at a bar. She has not been single since the divorce.
Was with him for 5 years, 1.5years after no contact i found out he was married shocked at how fast he moved on when he took his time in very other relationship. We talked wedding, moving in and baby. We broke up sp he could focus on his career he said he wanted 3 years to focus.
It's been a year my ex married his rebound and has a baby . he cheated on me twice n he left me for another girl, but now he's happy n I'm dying in pain. Someone please come kill me .
I know it is so tough but stay strong. You are not alone. The guy that was in my life ended things with me to start dating someone as her divorce was finalized. He didn't want kids but became a stepdad to her two and now they are having one. I am crushed by it. Life goes on though.
I have a a ex-girlfriend told me she fell out of love with me she claims she got married and she said she unhappy in her married and she said she want to be back with me what but then when she blocks the number but then she said she's divorce that person cuz she said she not happy she want to be back with me but I never heard from her in a long time she had reached out to me and I don't hear from so what should😊 can you please help me I am Leo man and she a Gemini woman older woman she 53. And 35 and we've been together for 3 and we broke up because of her family and other people being her ear can you please help me because I feel like she playing with my
She blames me for everything and married the rebound...but is it a rebound when she checked out long before and i left her because she didnt want to be in a relationship? She moved on quickly and married in less than 10 months. In her mind she is getting what she wanted and i was the one at fault. So...how can someone like that learn? Life is giving her all she wanted...she was my victim in her mind...she doesnt need to learn anything...
If ex has a few girl after our breakup, and the third one only know her/him for a month and living overseas, want to get married with her/him, ex is always a straight man, now he wants to marry a transgender. That doesn’t make sense to me. Is this still a rebound ? It’s only been a year, but he had 2 rebounds before this one, there’re no gaps for all of them.
My ex married someone else after we broke up, she have the same name as me and have all the things I was working on it but didn’t have it, and he do all the things I wished he did to me. Post about her everywhere in Social Media. I’m broken and don’t know what to do honestly…
My airdropped me to a week before Christmas at three months later he married the rebound. He also I have not posted any type of marriage pictures or any type of thing on Facebook and I notice he have taken her off of Facebook whatever reason I don’t know but he also do come over to my page you gave me hearts on my pictures in my stories so if he is Happily married Then why is he coming over looking at my pictures I thought when it grows in duck you they don’t wanna have nothing to do with you very puzzling but I have got on and try to better myself I have gotten no contact from the beginning until now
Is it a rebound if my ex is getting married to someone that was his friend while we were in a relationship? Our relationship had a lot of back and forth bc of external people (family) due to religious issues. And we ended everything last year in September 2022, I was in rebounds while going through therapy but not sure what he was truly doing. He did say he was going through therapy and I found out that he’s getting married in Dec 2023 with a girl who was his friend.
My ex dumped me after monkey branching. She was talking day and night to the other guy for 5 months and I feel that once she was sure about this guy being with her for emotional support she broke up with me. The guy also has been having issues with his relationship so both found a common bond to connect and discuss future together as both had partners who weren't good enough for them and romance was missing. What would your opinion be in such a scenario coach as for me I consider that she cheated emotionally and morally even if not physically asshe was secretive about theis guy and many things which I came to know later. Right after a week of our breakup they came together as a couple. I have moved out and am trying to heal myself.
Hi coach, can a third relationship post breakup also be considered a rebound? This is a serious question, please answer. My ex of 12 years relationship moved in with a guy just 2 months into our breakup, left him, came back to rekindle, left out of nowhere from 'we aresoulmates' to 'don't contact me please'. After the failed reconciliation she was with another man three weeks later, left him and now is with a third man within a time frame of 16 months into the original breakup with me. Is this last man she has publicly shared a profile picture with and seems to be serious with, still considered a third rebound? Thank you! She is 31.
Btw, I am not sure if she is healing by going to therapy or not - my feeling says she doesn't go to therapy but I could likely be wrong. Can you please answer my question?
My question to coach court Ive been in a 8 year in relationship my ex girlfriend was having an affair with a man ,she left him and came back to me few months after broke again and went with the same man last winter came back and promised it will not happen again, 3 months ago she went with him again she told me that she lost feeling , I have been in no contact ever since .does she really made her mind to be with him for good ?
Hello I was with my ex for 6 yrs we broke up 6 months later she got engaged now we’ve seeing each other and sleeping together but she’s still talking about getting married… I’m confused advice plz
Good day coach.. My ex girlfriend I think is on a rebound but LDR cuz. It's been 1 month today since our breakup. I'm a little bit confused. My ex always post trying to make me jealous by posting how happy they are. We've been together for more than a year. All means of communication never cut off and I decided for not talking to her 3 weeks a go.. My ex New boyfriend post my pic of me on his wall and started saying bad things about me. Why they doing that, of course I pretend and act like I don't care but its hurting me a lot..
Don’t put yourself on the bench live your life. I wasted 5 years for one person and almost another 5 years for another person waiting for someone to improve. Especially if you are not even talking to each other.
@@lancebaxter3819 very well said I learned something new I'm still married and it has almost been 2 years smear campaign new boyfriend the whole nine I see right through it it's hilarious
My ex and i were in casual relationship but at the end we both ended up getting connected emotionally. Then we spent last two months great.. on june 1 st i got to know that I'm pregnant and we both got scared. We both are from different religion and he is from orthodox family and my parents are semi as in both traditional as well as with modern thoughts. On june 2 nd we got it aborted. I was going highs and lows emotionally. He promised me he will stay till with me till i come out of this. What happened next is he broke up with me immediately after aborting baby. Two weeks later he met girl his family chose. On july 31st i got to know that he got engaged last week and in the month of August he is getting married. Is this a rebound? Is this a good choice? I was in no contact with him for 1 month.
My ex got engaged after fours mths i was with her 5yrs she married him with in the yr ...this is her 2nd married his too..all this took 1 and half from start to finish.....nice huh
Same thing happened to me - Month after me and kid moved out he was into someone else - told Me he’s getting married , then did a pre engagement thing -but men are such creeps
They got engaged free 5 weeks. They split up 6 years ago, they were engaged then. He has decided to undergo counselling to try and fix thing s with her. Crack on I say
If a woman left a relationship of 2 years with another woman 6 months ago she still talks about her ex but broke up with her . Is it a bad opportunity to restart something despite her hurting still but she been sexing different people though
@@IamCoachCourt hm ok thanks so much for getting back to me. We’ve always had chemistry but never acted on it until now. Mayb I’ll take a step back to friendship and give it some more time. It’s clear she’s still hurting and building
So my ex of seven years and who is living with her new Bf for a year now is still in a rebound? He has two kids too and not divorced yet. They are talking marriage
My wife of of 10 years filed for divorce in July ask for nothing not even the kids are divorce is finalized October 25th October 31st she remarried some loser 10 years older than her who lives with his mom
This is the truth! We try, and we try and eventually reach a point where we stop trying. When we reach that point, the clues are there. We go cold. We dont want to spend time with you. We dont want to be intimate with you and everything you do will piss us off. You might as well not be there. We're just going with it until we have a firm exit plan. And no, that doesn't always involve someone new. But to us, we're no longer mentally in the relationship. We just haven't told you yet. This is why you often think when we're talking to someone new, we're monkey branching or cheating or rebounding or whatever else. To us, it doesnt feel like it. It's just a new relationship. Some of us have the decency to end things before we go there, but the feeling is the same. Sometimes it takes meeting someone new who makes us smile again to provide the catalyst to actually give up what doesn't.
it's still a rebound though, because you haven't taken time to heal by yourself. People who end a relationship and get into another will continue to make the same mistakes.
@@jayc342009 exactly! And you're only kidding yourself if you think anything would be different, while you haven't changed. Nothing will be different, you're just dragging your baggage around and making it worst for yourself by not healing.
When you don’t heal, those same problems/pain you have, will show up in your next relationship. Rebound marriages end in divorce 😂 take time to actually HEAL❤️
Im waiting for someone to teach me the technique how to heal.
This is necessarily true though 🤔
True
How are you that sure?
I doubt everything my ex is married to her rebound happily.she started her new relationship 1 month after we broke up
People are fkn sick. They get married because they’re afraid to be alone period
But they're posting their happy times in soical media as if they made the correct choice by leaving us.
My ex married his rebound, their marriage is over. She looked like me, she went along with the plans we had set up for our relationship while being together. Our break up was so sad on so many levels. And he did rub his marriage in my face. Now they have broken up. So there you go.. if they try to replace you, but keep the dreams you had together and transfer that onto another person, it is a rebound.
Going through the same. She is from the same country as him, but has my build and my facial features!
I walked away after giving him a second chance because he was attached to his phone however there are no photos of them together or their wedding. We broke up January this year..
I am loving my me time and not having to deal with a man child 😂
@@allthingsjana7870 strange ha? I know. I believe they say that too hurt us, and that way make us work hard for the relationship, at the same time as they can sit back and relax with all the control.
@@strawberryjam5844 it's not gonna work. We are too awake. New supply can put up with him
I have the same story, they got married 10 days ago, he’s been cheating on me with her since October 2022. End of November he has left me with two little kids from him. And got married after 6 months with her. She has the same type of look as me and everything what he has planned with me for our future, he is now making these plans to come true with her.
@@Assel-oh9kt I feel for you. Still the only way forward is to heal and let go of the pain.
This happened to me a couple yrs ago, he actually left me for the girl he got engaged to and never told me. I found out through Facebook, heartbreaking. Guess what happened? They broke up, never got married. And never take someone back who would do that to you! Great video, all truth!
Me too. He never told me and then never married. Did he eventually reach out to you?
@@EMBEEMusic23 Yes, 2 yrs later, asking to see me again, like nothing ever happened. I ignored him, that situation never warrants a second chance.
My ex did get married but 2lmonths prior to him getting married he had called me and asked me out to IHOP he also would call me for emotional support we we talk on the phone for almost a hr now I was married to him for 25yrs we separated in July but from July to October we still remain seeing eachother although we lived apart in October I seen him with his now wife he never mentioned he was seeing her to me I always was at his house and never knew clearly he was playing me I was his place holder until he completely baged her long story short dude was a skilled liar and master manipulator I didn't see it coming he made belive we was gonna reconcile but you live and you learn when I look back I wish I would've seen the red flags I wished I never answered my phone
My ex married the woman he cheated on me with now he’s saying he made a mistake and wants me back but my heart says I love him but my head says run so I’m following my head.
@@takingbackmypower9859 the grass was not greener on the other side he found out!! That's when you do your evil laugh lol he got what he deserved
The SADDEST wedding i went to was my best friends niece married a rebound while still in love with her ex. I never saw a Bride so sad!
Wow
@IamCoachCourt That's something that will stay wit you forever. This happened over 20 yrs ago. I never forgot how bad she looked. I love your videos..👍
@@jannlewandowski5540 thank you so much for contributing
Did it last?
I feel like giving up…. He’s marrying her this month. I’m so embarrassed. We were together for many years but he never proposed. He proposed to her very quickly. Downplayed our relationship to her to the point I second guessed US TOO. I’m totally heartbroken.. and this happened 2 yrs ago. He kept running back and I let him rip off that band aid. Now he’s really following it though, she’s got money, her body done, educated, popular ,, has many friends. Totally opposite of ME. They now have businesses together. I feel like he got people looking at me like well why didn’t he marry u? what was wrong with u? I’m so hurt. So heartbroken. So embarrassed. Betrayed.. don’t feel good enough .. he said some very harsh things to me. Ghosted me.. gas lighted… kept coming back.. now he’s marrying her. Allowed her to disrespect… God told me to to be still. And I did. But why do I feel like God is on their side and I’m being punished… I don’t bother them. And they finally stopped bothering/ bullying me. But now I’m like he really found his true love I guess. All those years wasted.. we have a 21 year old whose picking out a tux tomorrow for their wedding… he’s taken us through an emotional rollercoaster. Nothings the same… how can God allow them to be happy. Life is not fair .
Let’s try and get you some support from the community. His actions doesn’t define you!
I know exactly how you feel, I was married for 10 yrs. He checked out at yr 6. Married the woman he cheated on me with. I feel like God keeps blessing their union. It has been 3 yrs now. I am still by myself struggling. Life is not fair. What happen to Karma.
@@quatrell29 it will happen stay strong
Trust and believe she not happy once a bastard always a bastard
Give it time.
Wow This happened to me . I left my ex because he didn’t change after 7 years and we were engaged but didn’t have his priorities straight. He then dated some girl within the same year of us breaking up he got engaged 🤣 🤡 engaged to two women in the same year . That’s desperate af
NARCISSIST keep running and you will fall into the arms of your prince
my biggest fear came true, my ex of 6 years got engaged a year after we broke up. I don't even know how to feel, I'm so numb to this pain.
Any update ?
I'm in the middle of it right now. Started January 9th of this year. My ex and I have been together for 8 years, and we have a 2 and half year old daughter together. My ex tells me that a guy she knew from middle school (21 years ago) reached out to her dad through Facebook. He was asking about her dad about her, etc. Apparently, he is in rehab and is reaching out to people from his past. She contacts him, and then it begins. Long story short and a lot of conversations and incidents since, yesterday she told me that they are getting married. My mind is melting. This bum in rehab is married with two kids. So in 6 weeks, two families have been destroyed. Doesn't make sense.
Emotions aren't usually logical
@@IamCoachCourt you ain't lying coach.
My ex got engaged to his rebound just months after breaking up with me (he monkey branched from me to her). Within a year of being married his best friend (who had been the best man at their wedding) told me they'd already cheated on each other and 9 years later they were divorced.
Why did his best friend tell you that
@@chantehowe7798 Because he's a snake. Anyway, I know the guy very well and doubt he'd make something like that up. He's just an indiscreet gossip. I never liked him and always knew he couldn't be trusted but my ex thought he was genuine. However, all it took was a disagreement over money (they went into business together) for him to stab my ex in the back. I had warned my ex about this "friend". Anyway, I heard the same story from another source as well (someone who knew the woman he cheated on his wife with). I knew the story was true because she revealed details that only an intimate partner would know. When I look back, I feel my ex ended up doing me a favor because it means I managed to get away from that toxic mess.
Hope ur healinv @@anta3612
My ex moved in with her new man after a month and they were engaged four months later. She still emails/texts she loves me.
When they do this stuff it’s their true colors and it’s gross. Be thankful you dodged a bullet if this happens to you.
same thing is happening to me
My boyfriend also got engaged to another woman a few months after our breakup and they got married in less than a year after the breakup, and he called me during his honeymoon
My ex is engaged to his rebound they were a couple for 2 months and now engaged it's too fast and quick
Any update pls? same situation😢
He's already talking about marriage after 3 months. Yet he knew I wanted to get married after 4 years and he had a family with me. That man and woman both got karma. Especially when she knew about me. Not only that he told me that he hates marriage. He is confused.
This is exactly what happened to me-my ex was a DA (which I realized after he broke up abruptly and was so emotionally shutdown, he couldn’t have a real conversation). Two months later, he jumped into another relationship, one month after that his oldest son was killed in a motorcycle accident, and four months later he got engaged to the rebound. He has so many things he hasn’t processed or healed from, starting with his divorce before me. I was shocked that he got engaged so fast, but it seems that he’s just running from his pain and distracting himself and trying to convince everyone that he’s doing great. Reality will hit, because all of his baggage and issues are still there! There’s no way this isn’t a rebound-he hasn’t done any work on anything. Sigh.
Oh my you have saved me tonight ! I'm in a similar situation. My ex who I left in end of January and who came back to me after asking for a second chance is now engaged! 4 months after we ended! He was already a divorcee when I met him 😂😂😂😂😂
Well basically he blocked me on Instagram because he opened his story 😂 he then made his profile private, but not his Facebook and from there I found he is married...
However no pictures of them together or a wedding yet...
He knows I react to things and his narcissistic self probably can't take it I left his ass. However she is from a different country...
Honestly I just actually feel free.
❤
@@allthingsjana7870, ugh, so hard. I’m glad you’re handling it well-it’s been pretty traumatic for me. I just found out that they’ve been living together (and very likely legally married) since December. At this point, nothing can shock me, but it’s still really hard, even though I know I’m much better off. That marriage will either end or be distant and toxic. He hasn’t done any work to heal or take responsibility, and he’s still running from everything.
@@beckymusgrove4784 I understand how hard it is. I feel exactly the same. Yes it's like my ex. I left february and he is now married apparently. He is the exact same jumps from one person to the next and love bombs. He is so is also a major avoidant. I think he sees the new woman as somebody that will just put up and shut up. Who will not question a thing. She won't understand the culture here and is most likely still living with her parents. Hopefully she is making a fool of him and after a green card. I believe too it won't last. I also don't know if he was married all along or if she is somebody new. Nothing surprises me either. It's horrible I know. I am going to work with barely any sleep and not eating well. I know it's for the best and I'm lucky to be out so soon, but it really diminishes your hope. Not easy. I feel quite angry at times. I was healing well and then I saw that on social media he has posted that he is married and to whom. He never ever would post anything about me even though I met his family, but that was over a video call. He also met mine. I was the one that left and I'm sure he is using his marriage as a weapon. He will only lose by being so foolish.
@@allthingsjana7870 wow, that’s so hard. It’s been longer for me, but I really gave him the benefit of the doubt early on, and each new revelation has been something new I needed to process and grieve. The new woman has a very demanding job (surgeon) and not much family (both parents have passed away), so I think he believes this relationship will benefit him but require little of him. Sh makes a ton of money and owns a house. He’s a pilot and is gone half of the month, so they’ll probably hardly see each other. Sounds like a really great relationship. I don’t think it will be what he thinks it will be-reality will hit and he’s going to have to deal with all of his unresolved pain at some point. Unfortunately, the decisions he’s making will have long-term repercussions for himself and others, including his kids. Not sure how this new woman isn’t questioning all of this, but maybe she’s running from things as well or was just blinded because he did everything so fast.
It does get better, but I still have really hard days and times where I get caught in my thoughts. The lack of closure when we broke up, coupled with how quickly he moved on, is hard to grasp. We need to remind ourselves that it’s not a reflection of us, but of them and their emotional immaturity and cowardice to face themselves and take responsibility. Oh, and his daughter has stayed in touch with me and tells me she misses me-she knows her dad is acting crazy.
@@beckymusgrove4784 oh my this all sounds too familiar . Yes I got no closure either.. They never want to resolve anything. Yes I'm the same , I also get caught in my thoughts too and it can take me to a dark place. I'm not going to look at social media again until I'm ready. Yes mine is living in lala land thinking he can bring his new wife over and that it will be smooth sailing. He will miss his freedom. It will be interesting to see because he made jokes that he will put me in the spare room when I'm pregnant because he doesn't want his sleep disrupted for work. How is he gonna cope with this girl having to rely on him until she gets a job. There's no way he will want her not to be working. She will probably be working non stop and they will not get much time to spend together.
He really is an idiot.
Wow your ex's daughter can see through her father. That's amazing. It's a shame she misses you and it's lovely that she keeps in contact with you.
I have a feeling on the way to work I saw my ex and he stared now and again.
I gave him a little wave. One of those sarcastic ones. I'm not really sure if it was him.
This is horrible, but it will pass and we can get through it.
It really knocks you, but will they really last with their new supply? That's all they are.
My Ex Wife of 22 years filed for divorce for being disconnected and unhappy in the marriage. At the end she would scream and yell at me over various things that had happened in the past that she held onto. No matter how many times I would ask her to "talk to me", "lets work things through", "lets go to couples counseling" she didn't want to. I'm not without blame and did my share of mistakes over the years. A couple of things that I noticed over the years was that she never showed any type of emotion towards me even though I would ask for it, She had a hard time asking for help, She was also incapable to apologize or recognize when she was at fault though she did show some empathy from time to time. Through the good and the bad I held on and weathered the storm, she decided to leave our home in Sept 2021 and moved into her moms. We still communicated and did things with the kids but I left things as is and did not try to push her decision and things stayed like that up until Dec 2022 were I started to notice that she was more distant and would not be at her moms when I dropped of the kids I would text her and she always said, Ill be there in 5 mins, after many occurrences like this I called her out on it. I knew her Ex boyfriend from H.S. was still in the area and looked him up and wouldn't you know he was also divorced. I mentioned it to her only to be met with "don't concern your self with my personal life" though at this point we were still legally married. In April our divorce became final and she completely blocked (text/phone calls/social media). I could not understand since we both were suppose to co-parent our teenage kids... The next part gutted me.. she hid this from me and told both of our kids not to say anything... but the kids told me anyway... against her better judgement she got remarried to her Ex H.S. boyfriend 3 months later, bought a house and is now living there with his 3 kids and our 2 kids.... I dont even know where to begin when I think about her decision to do this... it makes absolutely no sense. She Monkey Branched/ Rebounded into this relationship, did not deal with ANY of our traumatic events from our 22 year marriage and what's worse she didnt even care about how this was going to impact our kids...... I dont get it... the fact that she remarried her ex.. was a slap on my face honestly.. and it looks like this looser was orbiting us for the last 22 years. So while shes out there playing house with 5 kids and this dude Im left here picking up the pieces and wonder what the heck did I just go through in the last 22 years. What signs did I not see with her Narcissistic traits... learning to detach and learn to heal from this trauma bond I have with her... All these years I always noticed that I was only happy when she was around.. and felt sad when she wasn't.... like getting a high from a substance. Im at a loss for words honestly that she had the audacity to shove this in our kids faces... Now a days people use marriage like a sales receipt and really means nothing... Im trying to work on myself and begin the healing journey... there is no way in heck I would ever think about jumping into another relationship let alone MARRY!!! someone??!?!?!?!?!
Brother. I read your post and it hurt my soul.
The description of what you went through is beyond heartbreaking.
I hope you get some answers one day because you deserve them.
I wonder why when women mentally check out of the relationship, men do not pick up on the obvious signs. When men check out, women typically know and can feel it. We are analyzing his change of behavior the minute it starts with our girlfriends.
Women are natural nurtures, you pick up on nuances from your men to your children.
@@IamCoachCourt That's true. I would assume men that are anxious type could probably pick up on the signs as well but I've never dated an anxious man and come to think of it I don't know any. I guess anxious never attracts other anxious individuals.
Women usually have higher emotional intelligence and are more sensitive to mood changes
I can say I didn't pick up as I was focused on my job, as we were planning to move back to our hometown. I was promised relocation + promotion. It forced me to work long hours + doing extra training after work.
I also had to work in toxic environment and it shifted me to person I wasn't before.
To that moment I was always there. Supporting her, and always felt when something was wrong, even when she was saying otherwise.
She also took some extra hours which insisted not to take. Then she balemed me at the end saying :"You didn't notice how much I work and what bad shape I am in." I literally told her not to take this extra job.
I know my flaws and mistakes. I said sorry, and never badmouthed her. She is now telling crap about me and my family. She was the one to monkey branch with another dude. She is now engaged to.
Worst thing is that there is nothing I can do.
Her sister said why I didn't try to fight.
She literally took her stuff and moved with this dude to another country, but told me she is moving back to her sisters.
Her sis also said that I never messaged her which is lie. I did messaged, but she rarely replied and even if she was cold and minimalistic.
So how can you fight when someone is moving to another country and is not contacting you at all?
I picked it up…I mean not like my ex wife was quiet about it. Issue was for me it was a bias when it came to the relationship as nothing I felt matter as much as what she felt. Also tried to get us into joint and individual counseling, got myself a mentor and she made excuses to not connect with hers. Reason ultimately was because she wasn’t committed truly to the marriage as we vowed. I think people should just not get married if they going to leave off feelings. Love is a choice….not a feeling
My baby’s dad starting talking to a “ friend” soon after I gave birth. This person was introduced to him by other people for baby sitting purposes. But they continued a friendship. Back in August he left me for her and now they are engaged. It’s not as February. He couldn’t commit to me but he committed to her and quickly.
Prayers for healing ❤️🩹
@@IamCoachCourt thank you
@@IamCoachCourt I forgot to mention she is 23 and he 42🤦🏽♀️
My ex is about to marry someone else, he knew her from childhood, it's happening so fast. I am so sad about it.😞
Facts. Women will check out mentally WELL before the actual breakup happened.
We need more men knowing this!
Leave them before they leave you. oop🤣🖐
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BBB!!! Y'all KOLD!!! I check y'all out all the time. I'm more partial to your former videos. Keep up the great work.
I think men do this just as much too
This has happened to me a few times, my first ex we were high school sweethearts and dated for 6 years and she left me for that dude and married him and he’s cheated on her a couple times. Now my recent ex we dated for 6 years also and left me for the dude she’s now gonna marry lol I just have laugh sometimes. I have the worst luck when it comes to relationships, I’m cursed 😂
My ex asked for cool off. While in a hotel, he met a woman after 3 days then he just suddenly married the woman within the week. He broke up with me after being with this woman.
This same exact situation happened to me. My girlfriend of 16yrs broke up with me, told me to move out of the house that I helped purchase and furnish as well as did the maintenance and repairs on. She started talking to an instacart shopper who is 4 years older than her and a little over 10urs years older than me. We broke up 4/25 she married the guy 6/16. Major rebound marriage. She blamed me for all our issues in the relationship, never worked on herself by getting therapy while am working on myself and getting therapy and making better money. Everyone has told me it won’t last and I can tell it won’t the way she acted towards me and how the guy is. It’s going to be her loss.
16 years and you never married her? 🤔
@@hellohelena8876that part... Sir 😢
@hellohelena8876 right 😂
it’s such a joke that his rebound looks identical to me. my whole family was weirded out when they saw his new girl lol. same height and hair length.. everything.
even if he found my clone he still takes the L because she will never be me. she does not have my wisdom that I gained through life experience, she does not have my talents, she does not have my humour or wits.
he can spend the rest of his life loving a wannabe, that’s embarrassing for him.
This is the worst thing that can happen to anyone . That too if ur own frnd is marriying ur ex that is even more horibble thing that can happen. My ex married our mutual common friend. Yes she is friend of mine too. It was the worst day seeing my ex kepping sindhoor on her head. Purely rebound relationship are selfish thing. We broke up for sepeartion pain. She used that pain and married my ex😢
My ex and I have been together off and on for 6 years. I really found out that she married her high school first/ and rebound. In March. Of this year.
We still have contacting need advice.
There seems to be some feeling still there.
I'm currently working on me..
Thanks for your videos Sir. (Growth/Healing).
But honestly, we were more in a situationship for 8 years and when he ended it he told me he wasn’t feeling it and immediately started sleeping with her. They’re married two years later. Got married a few months ago. I just think he wasn’t in love with me and just saw me as a friend and I wasn’t paying attention because I was in love with him and hoped it would work out. It’s painful but I’m not sure she’s a rebound.
Or maybe u are the rebound and she's his soulmate.. Truth hurts sometimes... That's what happened to me too..
So my ex rebounded a month after us they got in a relationship pretty much straight away now they are engaged 6 months later 😂😬
I was in a long distance relationship with someone. We already made plans of getting married. But things fell apart and I lost trust on him. So, I decided to broke up with him. But he chased me for months after that... I gave him a chance it lasted only a few weeks because he usually dissappear for days. So, I decided to break up with him again. And a month later I found out that his with someone else! They got engaged and got even married yesterday. I thought I was over him already. But until now, I can't move on... i feel so betrayed. I feel that he betrayed me but still his having his happy ending by marrying that girl? Seriously! I'm so down right now...I just want to cry!
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i can feel your pain. It hurts so much.
had a relationship with him for over four years, he just couldnt marry me. but he made all these plans. he tried to get me back, but couldnt commit to engagement. then he even met up with me, told me he still saw a future with me, but had already this new girlfriend.
now, they are engaged. he was with me for over four years. i was with him when we were very young, didnt have much money, helped him with his education and career challenges. one and a half years in with the new girlfriend, he proposed to her. i dont want to be bitter. but i am heartbroken even though, i knew i couldnt build a relationship on that behaviour.
sorry btw for my broken english, it is not my native language. But in case you believe, I will try to find peace in Gods plan for situations like this. there is a place of love, where there could be bitterness. I hope that God (and maybe life, if you don't believe in God) has something good in store for you, for him and will resolve things beautifully.
My ex met this girl 6 months ago at work his brother hired her because he hates me and right after she finished with her boyfriend he left me and went after her , totally rebound and she is pregnant so. Sad and im heartbroken
My ex just got engaged to the rebound four months after our breakup. We dated for 2 years. Makes ya wonder if there was an overlap. We had back and forth a lot during that last bit of our relationship. We’re both 22, which maybe sheds light on this situation more but she is with someone who is the exact opposite of me. I’m from utah, a very religious state and I’m not very religious. She’s now dating a super religious guy. She told me when we dated that she could never date someone like that… do you think that she’s subconsciously trying to find someone not like me? The relationship was one sided a lot, she was more into me than I into her and I’m not a very emotional guy. She really loved me. I feel like I dropped the ball.
Think she must have been an anxious attacher and you weren’t showing up for her?
@@IamCoachCourt yeah I think you’re spot on. I think I didn’t show up because I had small doubts the entire relationship that I let grow inside of me while not telling her, and it blocked me from fully opening up I suppose. Can’t expect her to wait forever. Live and learn I guess… really hurts though
Also side note, crazy how you could tell she was an anxious attacher. I think I knew her pretty dang well and I won’t dive into our whole background but that makes a lot of sense. you think soulmates are real and if we mess up with that one person we’ll never feel the same again?
@@parkerkunz5687 I don’t dive in to soulmate stuff too much, but yeah. I’ve been talking about Attachment theory daily for the past four years lol. Like shooting a jumpshot at this point
We were together for two years and last week she dumped me. The same day she changed her status to in a relationship with someone else in another state. Now after the weekend they announced they are getting married. I’m losing my mind. She is not acting like herself. I am leaving her alone and letting her have it if that’s what she really wants. But it’s killing me.
Update. They are still together. She is reaching out saying she misses me. We have hooked up a few times and yet she is still adamant they are getting married and she says that God will take me out of her head the day they get married. How delusional
Me and him were on and off for about 2 years. He kept coming back. One day he starts acting cold, the next day and for no apparent reason he is not talking to me anymore, 3 days later he is married to his ex. It has been 1 month. He hasn't said a word to me.
I learned about attachment styles, started watching all these videos here and discovered he was text book DA, had a funny feeling, did some investigating and found out about his new martial status.
Mine was 18 years married , and we divorced but I thought he was trying to reconcile , so we were still doing things if you know what I mean . He’s a pastor and I found out while watching him preach on UA-cam , he’s married with a baby in the way .. top that one . We been divorced 4 months
My ex of 17 yrs left one day and never came back after a year being separated I married a friend of 26 yrs needless to say both marriages have ended in divorce…. Now trying to heal from this whole mess.
My ex and have been broken up 3 months and informed me today he is getting married..we was together 12 years...he is 70 and I'm 64....I think he is afraid of being alone
My ex of 2 years left me for someone else 4 months ago. Flash forward to now they are engaged. I know I came up short in the relationship, and ultimately feel like I met the right girl and the wrong time in my life. Nevertheless it feels like I got punched in the gut. Feeling entirely hopeless
Any update?
Update?
Wanna hear they failed hahahah
Mine was diagnosed BPD/Depression. We were together 1.5 years. She dumped me and said because I told her after her job asked her to work an extra day that maybe she should.
I didnt know me saying that to her hurt her because she perceived it as me not wanting to spend time with her.
I was blown away at her reasoning. She replaced me the next day.
We were going to get married on her 50th bday. Anyway she kept triangulating with this new guy. Constantly calling me and texting me. I couldn't take it anymore. So I told her I was talking to a new girl, I just wanted to be left alone because I was very hurt and confused.
2 weeks later she married the new guy on her bday.
I never reached out.
She just sent me a email last month to meet up...I didnt reply.
Stay strong 💪🏾
@@IamCoachCourt thank you...they were together only 2 months before her Bday. She sold her house and got married. The day before she broke up with me she was saying how happy she was.
Her emotions would just flip like a switch.
@@danielhohrath2579 sounds BPD
Damn that's jacked up. Stay the course Brother. In my opinion Extreme Indefinite No Contact will benefit you greatly. 🙏
You dodged a bullet mate. She sounds absolutely bat shit crazy. No sane person would do that.
My ex is doing this right now. We were together for 7 years and I wasn’t ready to propose. When I finally was ready she left me for a friend of hers. They are together for a year now and I expect they will be engaged by the end of New Years. We still talk and hangout. Sometimes I’ll get a kiss but she won’t come back to me even though I want to marry her.
You making the breakup and her decision easier for her by hanging out
@@IamCoachCourt I understand. Her bf is still trying to get divorced and has
Two kids. We get along great
Still but I will stop seeing her. Thank you
Why did you wait that long to propose? Were y'all teenagers?
@Vincentr .... you deserve everything that happened to you. How do you wait for 7 years before you get ready to propose ?
Your ex got a guy who knows what he wants ... and he proposed to her.
I hope you are not wasting your time waiting for her to break up with her new guy and come back to you 😄😄
Like how much time does one need to get ready to propose ?
Exactly i dont feel bad now he wants sympathy from the internet no ppl and women shouldnt wait for a man if i was his ex id go no contact cus now u tryna stop ke from moving on @annengei2885
My ex(married for 23 years, together for 27 years).went into a two year relationship 4 months after we divorced. Left him for another guy. She's been with him for about 9 months. He asked her to marry him after 4 months but she declined. He told her they could take it slow. Last year she came to my place and spent the night twice and said she still loved me after calling me and asking me to meet her at a bar. She has not been single since the divorce.
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Was with him for 5 years, 1.5years after no contact i found out he was married shocked at how fast he moved on when he took his time in very other relationship. We talked wedding, moving in and baby. We broke up sp he could focus on his career he said he wanted 3 years to focus.
It's been a year my ex married his rebound and has a baby . he cheated on me twice n he left me for another girl, but now he's happy n I'm dying in pain. Someone please come kill me .
I know it is so tough but stay strong. You are not alone. The guy that was in my life ended things with me to start dating someone as her divorce was finalized. He didn't want kids but became a stepdad to her two and now they are having one. I am crushed by it. Life goes on though.
@Zakariya Muhd he's married and has a girl child
I have a a ex-girlfriend told me she fell out of love with me she claims she got married and she said she unhappy in her married and she said she want to be back with me what but then when she blocks the number but then she said she's divorce that person cuz she said she not happy she want to be back with me but I never heard from her in a long time she had reached out to me and I don't hear from so what should😊 can you please help me I am Leo man and she a Gemini woman older woman she 53. And 35 and we've been together for 3 and we broke up because of her family and other people being her ear can you please help me because I feel like she playing with my
She blames me for everything and married the rebound...but is it a rebound when she checked out long before and i left her because she didnt want to be in a relationship? She moved on quickly and married in less than 10 months. In her mind she is getting what she wanted and i was the one at fault. So...how can someone like that learn? Life is giving her all she wanted...she was my victim in her mind...she doesnt need to learn anything...
If ex has a few girl after our breakup, and the third one only know her/him for a month and living overseas, want to get married with her/him, ex is always a straight man, now he wants to marry a transgender. That doesn’t make sense to me. Is this still a rebound ? It’s only been a year, but he had 2 rebounds before this one, there’re no gaps for all of them.
My ex married someone else after we broke up, she have the same name as me and have all the things I was working on it but didn’t have it, and he do all the things I wished he did to me. Post about her everywhere in Social Media. I’m broken and don’t know what to do honestly…
My airdropped me to a week before Christmas at three months later he married the rebound. He also I have not posted any type of marriage pictures or any type of thing on Facebook and I notice he have taken her off of Facebook whatever reason I don’t know but he also do come over to my page you gave me hearts on my pictures in my stories so if he is Happily married Then why is he coming over looking at my pictures I thought when it grows in duck you they don’t wanna have nothing to do with you very puzzling but I have got on and try to better myself I have gotten no contact from the beginning until now
Similar experience here
Is it a rebound if my ex is getting married to someone that was his friend while we were in a relationship? Our relationship had a lot of back and forth bc of external people (family) due to religious issues. And we ended everything last year in September 2022, I was in rebounds while going through therapy but not sure what he was truly doing. He did say he was going through therapy and I found out that he’s getting married in Dec 2023 with a girl who was his friend.
Answering tonight
My ex dumped me after monkey branching. She was talking day and night to the other guy for 5 months and I feel that once she was sure about this guy being with her for emotional support she broke up with me.
The guy also has been having issues with his relationship so both found a common bond to connect and discuss future together as both had partners who weren't good enough for them and romance was missing.
What would your opinion be in such a scenario coach as for me I consider that she cheated emotionally and morally even if not physically asshe was secretive about theis guy and many things which I came to know later. Right after a week of our breakup they came together as a couple. I have moved out and am trying to heal myself.
Definitely a monkey branch
COURT!!!! YOU'RE KOLD!!! THE KOLDEST!!!
Man. Appreciate that Clayton
Hi coach, can a third relationship post breakup also be considered a rebound? This is a serious question, please answer.
My ex of 12 years relationship moved in with a guy just 2 months into our breakup, left him, came back to rekindle, left out of nowhere from 'we aresoulmates' to 'don't contact me please'.
After the failed reconciliation she was with another man three weeks later, left him and now is with a third man within a time frame of 16 months into the original breakup with me.
Is this last man she has publicly shared a profile picture with and seems to be serious with, still considered a third rebound?
Thank you!
She is 31.
Btw, I am not sure if she is healing by going to therapy or not - my feeling says she doesn't go to therapy but I could likely be wrong.
Can you please answer my question?
My question to coach court
Ive been in a 8 year in relationship my ex girlfriend was having an affair with a man ,she left him and came back to me few months after broke again and went with the same man last winter came back and promised it will not happen again, 3 months ago she went with him again she told me that she lost feeling ,
I have been in no contact ever since .does she really made her mind to be with him for good ?
My ex of 16 years did with a month of leaving me without telling me a thing they are toguether 8 months and 4 months after the marriage he cheated
We were together for 7 years 2 children and he got engaged after 3 weeks
Is it still a rebound if he was talking to her while we were together?
If not monkey branching
Hello I was with my ex for 6 yrs we broke up 6 months later she got engaged now we’ve seeing each other and sleeping together but she’s still talking about getting married… I’m confused advice plz
Good day coach.. My ex girlfriend I think is on a rebound but LDR cuz. It's been 1 month today since our breakup. I'm a little bit confused. My ex always post trying to make me jealous by posting how happy they are. We've been together for more than a year. All means of communication never cut off and I decided for not talking to her 3 weeks a go.. My ex New boyfriend post my pic of me on his wall and started saying bad things about me. Why they doing that, of course I pretend and act like I don't care but its hurting me a lot..
Don’t put yourself on the bench live your life. I wasted 5 years for one person and almost another 5 years for another person waiting for someone to improve. Especially if you are not even talking to each other.
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They're just marrying them even if they married you to appear normal
It's a validation, fear of being alone thing.
See, SEE! Someone loves me, I'm not a PoS, I'm lovable and I'm not alone!
It's weak.
@@lancebaxter3819 very well said I learned something new I'm still married and it has almost been 2 years smear campaign new boyfriend the whole nine I see right through it it's hilarious
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My ex and i were in casual relationship but at the end we both ended up getting connected emotionally. Then we spent last two months great.. on june 1 st i got to know that I'm pregnant and we both got scared. We both are from different religion and he is from orthodox family and my parents are semi as in both traditional as well as with modern thoughts.
On june 2 nd we got it aborted. I was going highs and lows emotionally. He promised me he will stay till with me till i come out of this.
What happened next is he broke up with me immediately after aborting baby.
Two weeks later he met girl his family chose. On july 31st i got to know that he got engaged last week and in the month of August he is getting married.
Is this a rebound? Is this a good choice?
I was in no contact with him for 1 month.
My ex got engaged after fours mths i was with her 5yrs she married him with in the yr ...this is her 2nd married his too..all this took 1 and half from start to finish.....nice huh
Same thing happened to me -
Month after me and kid moved out he was into someone else - told
Me he’s getting married , then did a pre engagement thing -but men are such creeps
Bruh 😂 my ex got into a rebound before we even broke up… a month after I’m almost certain they’re engaged… sad
They got engaged free 5 weeks. They split up 6 years ago, they were engaged then. He has decided to undergo counselling to try and fix thing s with her. Crack on I say
24 years of marriage and my ex got married 6 weeks later. Top that. 😂
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If a woman left a relationship of 2 years with another woman 6 months ago she still talks about her ex but broke up with her . Is it a bad opportunity to restart something despite her hurting still but she been sexing different people though
She’s not in a good place mentally. You should move with caution
@@IamCoachCourt hm ok thanks so much for getting back to me. We’ve always had chemistry but never acted on it until now. Mayb I’ll take a step back to friendship and give it some more time. It’s clear she’s still hurting and building
So my ex of seven years and who is living with her new Bf for a year now is still in a rebound? He has two kids too and not divorced yet. They are talking marriage
Still a rebound
Thanks coach
She left me for her ex because I didn't level up but her ex is married I laughed like really
I’ve heard a lot of Doozies in my life
She is a divorced for only 3 month and my ex for a year and they got married
Is it still a rebound if she got pregnant?? Ex got prego 4 months after our split.
Yep
You said I know women pretty well, bro nobody can ever possibly know women😂😂
But I do brother!
It happened to me💔
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My wife of of 10 years filed for divorce in July ask for nothing not even the kids are divorce is finalized October 25th October 31st she remarried some loser 10 years older than her who lives with his mom
This is the truth! We try, and we try and eventually reach a point where we stop trying. When we reach that point, the clues are there. We go cold. We dont want to spend time with you. We dont want to be intimate with you and everything you do will piss us off. You might as well not be there. We're just going with it until we have a firm exit plan. And no, that doesn't always involve someone new. But to us, we're no longer mentally in the relationship. We just haven't told you yet.
This is why you often think when we're talking to someone new, we're monkey branching or cheating or rebounding or whatever else. To us, it doesnt feel like it. It's just a new relationship. Some of us have the decency to end things before we go there, but the feeling is the same.
Sometimes it takes meeting someone new who makes us smile again to provide the catalyst to actually give up what doesn't.
it's still a rebound though, because you haven't taken time to heal by yourself. People who end a relationship and get into another will continue to make the same mistakes.
@@jayc342009
Preach!
@@jayc342009 exactly! And you're only kidding yourself if you think anything would be different, while you haven't changed. Nothing will be different, you're just dragging your baggage around and making it worst for yourself by not healing.
@@jayc342009 💯 PREACH
@@aladyknight1314 NAILED IT 💯
My ex of 14 years cheated on me and left me for a known meth head. 4 months later she married him. And now he has her on meth too
You are a man of knowledge 🙏
Is it a rebound lol maybe they were just the placeholder until the dream man or woman came along 🙆🏽♀️
😂
I discovered that I was the rebound 😂
americans and their intros........fark!
@@rustyhands8179 wait that’s an American thing?!