"Almond Moms"and the Generational Trauma of Diet Culture

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  • @wendypeters6084
    @wendypeters6084 Рік тому +65

    As a 90's-raised anorexia survivor, thank you for making this. 💖 I'm gonna enjoy a guilt-free meal now 🍝🍷🍫 and do some gentle (instead of rough) exercise 🧘‍♀️

  • @tammy1308
    @tammy1308 7 місяців тому +7

    My mom was the opposite.
    Back in the 80’s she made us eat all our food before we could leave the table. She would say “people are starving in Africa. Think
    “We are the world” era and mentality. I would feel GUILTY if I wasted food. Till this day I struggle with not over eating and wasting. This message stuck with me and I struggle with my weight.

  • @divinelov3777
    @divinelov3777 Рік тому +100

    I had an “almond sister” she did this to me when I was 14. I don’t talk to her anymore

    • @RoseontheRun
      @RoseontheRun  Рік тому +10

      I'm sorry that happened to you. I feel like it can extend to many members of the family. Having boundaries even with family is really healthy!

    • @SarutaValentine
      @SarutaValentine Рік тому +2

      Good for you for going non-contact. It’s not easy but it’s healing. I’ve done the same with my mom. She’d much rather push me diet trends than listen to the pain she’s causing. You got this! 👍🏻

  • @SarutaValentine
    @SarutaValentine Рік тому +15

    I was born in the mid 90’s and self hatred I grew up with is heartbreaking. It was all the late 90’s early 2000’s trends that I hated myself for not fitting into. Thin eyebrows, flat stomach, thin legs, being able to fit into the tiniest clothes when they were a size too big for you because you were borderline starving. So glad people are talking more about this now. I do think you make an excellent point, it is crucial that we not only hold our parents accountable for their actions, but to also recognize that every person we know is a product of the world they live in and our parents are no exception

  • @zendayaislife280
    @zendayaislife280 Рік тому +50

    I have an almond mum. She currently put me on a 2 month no carb no dairy no sugar diet to lose weight and I go to the gym but on the verge of passing out sometimes because of the lack of energy I have. Nonetheless, I was anorexic and yet she doesn’t understand. Hopefully one day she’ll understand what she’s doing, even tho I have tried to tell her

    • @milayah
      @milayah Рік тому +1

      are you okay? did you survive the 2 month?

  • @greciadiez9372
    @greciadiez9372 Рік тому +29

    My sister do this to me, i would be fucking starving and she would say "you are not hungry, You are bored and anxious" fuck

    • @RoseontheRun
      @RoseontheRun  Рік тому +4

      Yeah It def isn't just moms. I feel like there can be like almond families, where every family member acts like that. I'm sorry that happens to you!

  • @SadhviJenn
    @SadhviJenn 10 місяців тому +2

    I’m definitely trying to rewire my brain. I don’t eat the first time i feel hungry like I’m supposed to.

  • @amberlee4536
    @amberlee4536 Рік тому +35

    I don't know, I think the one that said "wait for two minutes and see if you're still hungry" isn't always necessarily almondy. I'm neurodivergent. That was genuinely useful advice for self monitoring food.

  • @savvy76
    @savvy76 Рік тому +11

    I came into this vid thinking this would be some new anti-vegitarian/vegan term (just an assumption bc of the name) and came out realizing I had an almond mom lmao.
    Great video, wonderful quality of editing and a very informed, concise, empathetic script! Keep up the good work :)

    • @RoseontheRun
      @RoseontheRun  Рік тому +2

      Thank you so much🥰 I'm so happy you enjoyed it. I feel like you are def not alone, so many people have discovered they may have an almond mom.

  • @ds-fm6kj
    @ds-fm6kj 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for the beginning of this video! I had an almond father (which was more harmful to me since as a guy I internalised what he said and did more than my mothers advice when it comes to looks and health) and because people don't really talk about this I have always felt like I am insane and have just made it up

  • @adareadorou4965
    @adareadorou4965 Рік тому +18

    My mom used to tell me that my best friend, who as an 8/9-year-old used to be chubby like me, lost a lot of weight just by eating fruit every time she was hungry between meals instead of chocolate or cookies, and that I could try and do the same.

    • @elenacorsaro9510
      @elenacorsaro9510 Рік тому +9

      well thats actually healthy and wise!

    • @Antigone10
      @Antigone10 Рік тому +1

      ​@elenacorsaro9510 No joke, that's actually PhD level advice. Not some BS your mom got from Oprah or Dr Oz that doesn't make any sense if compared to the body of research.

    • @adareadorou4965
      @adareadorou4965 Рік тому +2

      @@elenacorsaro9510 I wasn't fat at that point. I was chubby bc I was 8. My mom didn't say it bc it was healthier, she did bc it would make lose weight. THAT was the problem

    • @adareadorou4965
      @adareadorou4965 Рік тому +2

      @@Antigone10 I wasn't fat when I was 8. I was a little chubby but not even close to overweight. I mom didn't make that kind of comments bc it was healthier, she did them focusing on losing weight. That was the problem.

    • @Antigone10
      @Antigone10 Рік тому

      @@adareadorou4965 Ya, no bueno. My girlfriend has a crazy weight loss goal that just isn't connected to actual health right now. I keep telling her the goal is to get her waist doubled less than her height and to add muscle. Whatever weight that ends up being doesn't matter. And if she has fat still at that weight, who cares? Her mother and siblings all acquired diabetes and died. We know exactly how to fix insulin resistance and muscle and visceral fat reduction will bullet proof her.

  • @mfmz6329
    @mfmz6329 Рік тому +11

    I think the root of this trauma not only has to do with parenting but the influencia that the disinformation and the campaigns that have been done in the media and the television. Supposedly now we have more information and we are more aware of this kind of issue, but i think we are still not very capable to manage this information. The thing is that diets and eating habits are something so personal and no one can have the absolute truth.

  • @463Rani
    @463Rani Рік тому +24

    I had a wannabe almond mom. She wasn’t fit or thin, tried to be. Looking back it was so hypocritical of her to treat us the way she did

  • @bogbrither
    @bogbrither Рік тому +14

    Almond butter with banana on the other hand, absolutely awesome

    • @DomiBlanche
      @DomiBlanche 4 місяці тому +1

      I prefer peanut butter on Granny Smith apple 🍏

  • @toomanyhungrycats0554
    @toomanyhungrycats0554 Рік тому +4

    My egg donor tried to be an almond mom. The thought a gluten free diet would cure my autism But quickly stopped when she got pushback from me

  • @SaintMichaelsdaughter
    @SaintMichaelsdaughter Рік тому +6

    This was my mom at one point. Happy we both got out of that toxic cycle

  • @danika9411
    @danika9411 Рік тому +5

    I had been told I'm not hungry, I'm thirsty. There were no snacks. We had very fixed meal times. But on weekends I often had only dinner. I started stealing food from the kitchen as a child and hide it in my room. I later started binge eating. My mother always was on some diet.

    • @RoseontheRun
      @RoseontheRun  Рік тому +1

      Ugh, I know how that feels. I wonder what the sneaking or stealing food to binge eating / ED pipeline looks like because it seems like there is some sort of connection there.

  • @Centralcoastqueenofswing1
    @Centralcoastqueenofswing1 Рік тому +6

    Almond moms are nothing new. My mom was the ORIGINAL almond mom. And....my dad was an almond dad! . I'm a boomer : child of the 60s and 70s. I grew up in a diabetic household. My mom was a juvenile diabetic and forced the rest of the family to eat the same thing diet. I was constantly being watched by my parents and weighed in a regular basis. During puberty, my mom used to cut my food back to keep me from gaining too much weight. My father used to hide our halloween candy the day after Halloween so we didnt have access to it. I never developed anorexia but I have bern pretty skinny at various times in my life. I'm a sweets and food hoarder. I have this secret relationship with it like I did as a child. I raised my daughter just the opposite letting her enjoy McDonald's and pizza and trick or treat candy. She's now grown and she's very careful about what she eats but not obsessed. Ughhhh it's a mess

  • @stephaniemccord8677
    @stephaniemccord8677 Рік тому +4

    My dad kind of did this and still does to this day. He is super pro protein and vegetables, whole grains only.

  • @Emmanuel_Mugniz
    @Emmanuel_Mugniz Рік тому +3

    It's really hard to grow up with an almond mom and actually my entire family especially my aunts were like that. When I was a kid I was filled with anxiety and I ate secretly if they discovered me I would have serious problems even today the weight comments are still hurtful nowadays I have a lovely couple who helped me with these "family issues" And I prefer to be overweight and happy to starve, anxious and depressed.

  • @Ryecookieisthemoment
    @Ryecookieisthemoment 8 місяців тому +1

    I have a mom who isn’t too fit or thin, but she insists I work out every day and all day. Even during the summer. She limits how much I eat and she never lets me have cheat days. There have been many days where I would think of starving myself to lose weight. It’s gotten bad as to where I would rather sleep than eat.

    • @sophiez6377
      @sophiez6377 6 місяців тому

      She might be trying to live her life through you, just know that you are a different person from her. Just bc she has an idea of health and skinniness doesn’t mean that has to be your idea of it. Take care of yourself and give yourself the (unconditional) love she might not be able to give you

  • @moonwalker.v
    @moonwalker.v Рік тому +2

    This is so important to be aware of!

  • @Mustaches4017
    @Mustaches4017 Рік тому +7

    Wow, this is crazy to hear. I feel like this doesn’t happen in my culture. I very much so happy type of family that did the exact opposite. They encouraged me to eat food all of the time as much as I could humanly possible. If I didn’t go to bed until one in the morning best believe my grandma was walking in asking me if I wanted a bowl of cereal at 11 PM. And all of the food they gave us was any food that we liked. Plus the Mexican staples.

    • @justthetruth3950
      @justthetruth3950 Рік тому +2

      It does happen, not trying to be rude here, but the fact that it didn't happen to you, doesn't mean it doesn't happen to others.
      I'm Mexican too, living in Mexico and I have an almond mom (my grandmothers, and aunts are also almond moms), and from talking to many of my friends about their experiences, a lot of them also had almond moms too.
      It's weird having a country that celebrates food so much that at the same time has such a weird relationship with diet culture. But yeah, it's a lot more common than you would think.

  • @elizafischer7229
    @elizafischer7229 9 місяців тому

    When I was in third grade in like 2005 or 2006, we learned about calorie counting. We played an online game called my pyramid blast off and I loved it back then. I randomly got nostalgic for that game so I found it and played it, and it really hit me how messed up it was that we had to learn that

  • @rowan0331
    @rowan0331 Рік тому +3

    My mom is 100% an almond mom, and I hate it so much 😭 I feel like I can't exactly be mad at her about it though, cause she suffered through an eating disorder when she was a teenager.
    Basically one small story I have is that one day I went to take literally a QUARTER of a cookie (a SMALL cookie, mind you) and she says, "Rowan! Put that down, you've had a lot of sugar today." I told her all I had for an after school snack was some greek yogurt and a slice of bread. She goes, "Yeah, bread?! Bread is nothing but flour and sugar. You can't be eating that as a snack." I told her, "Dang, if I can't eat BREAD what can I even eat?!" She says broccoli. Literally broccoli. That was her only answer- 😭😟

  • @theob6457
    @theob6457 Рік тому +1

    My mom loved to tell me I was “robust” and “liked to eat”.

  • @adriannarow
    @adriannarow Рік тому +2

    I really enjoyed your video! It was very informative!

  • @bloodmoon0205
    @bloodmoon0205 Рік тому +3

    I think you would be hard pressed to find an almond mom or an almond dad whose child didn't end up developing an eating disorder as an adult.

  • @imjustbeingdaizy
    @imjustbeingdaizy Рік тому +8

    My only question is where almond moms take their energy from to exercise constantly? Because when other people try doing so, they almost pass out and feel drained completely (which is pretty understandable here). That’s really something that bothers me 😅

    • @RoseontheRun
      @RoseontheRun  Рік тому +3

      Honestly, that's such a good question lol

    • @Elvenpath
      @Elvenpath Рік тому +3

      They have a very stabile blood sugar and blood pressure and they can stand the feeling of hunger. I am the same. I have a chronic bowel problems and occasionally I don't eat almost anything for 24 hours because I need to be able to work and I'm able to eat like half a banana for breakfast then eat the other half at afternoon break in order to not upset my stomach. I work as a teacher so I stand and walk a lot and occasionally I'm powered by plain water. For me that is not actually even hard. I feel hungry but I don't feel dizzy or tired or weak or anything and can function just fine even if the last actual food has been 6 pm the previous evening and it's already afternoon.

    • @aidenandoreo6667
      @aidenandoreo6667 Рік тому +1

      Same will power it takes athletes to push through another set. Kinda common in competitive sports to push past your limit, so I imagine it’s the same with almond moms and anorexics.

  • @May-qb3vx
    @May-qb3vx 7 місяців тому

    I think waiting a couple minutes before deciding you’re still hungry is a good one. It does take a minute for your hormones to tell you you’re full, especially when we inhale our food like we often do in the States.
    Also, I’ve heard this phrase directed towards parents who don’t let their kids have sodas or junk food which is totally valid. It’s not even always about their weight, but those foods are processed as hell and they’re highly palatable so kids and teens will eat way too much of that stuff and get no nutritional value. Eating unhealthy food is bad for everyone, so I struggle seeing the difference between an almond mom and a parent who wants to instill healthy eating habits in their kids

  • @DJABranton
    @DJABranton 3 місяці тому

    I had an apple mom. But my dad and his family did the body shaming. I’ve been dieting since I was 8.

  • @sarawilliamson5420
    @sarawilliamson5420 5 місяців тому

    Raised by almond parents and still fighting Anna in my 40s.

  • @MoradMm-dy2up
    @MoradMm-dy2up Рік тому +1

    My dad told me to drink half a cup apple Vinegar for lunch I don't know if he hates me or maybe he's right I can't decide if he is crazy or he is right and I'm just ungrateful for thinking I shouldn't drink half a cup of apple Vinegar for lunch my parents keep telling each other they should not buy food so I loose weight they say I can't control myself but the reason I can't lose weight and and that I'm fat is one I can't tell when I'm hungry and full because I always had to eat when and what my parents said and they are not me they tell me I'm not hungry when I'm starving they curse or hit me when I eat without them allowing me to and they force me to eat when I'm not hungry and they get angry when I eat and when I don't eat my lunch and breakfast is one egg and some cheese for 99 percent of days and I don't know I feel like it's not enough so at some point of the day I just start binge eating everything I can I don't know any better I lived this way for the past at least 10 years yes the dinner is most of the time something good but I can't just I don't know they say one egg and cheese is enough but I feel starving and then I start binge eating i don't know how to cook and even if I could when I come home after school I'm too hungry to cook something I feel like I'm starving and I have headaches I feel like crying and I feel like im gonna throw up it actually happens when I don't eat for long I don't know what I should do should I listen to them am I the problem or what

    • @natalias374
      @natalias374 Рік тому +1

      Try to talk to the teacher you trust and tell them about what you’re experiencing

    • @RoseontheRun
      @RoseontheRun  Рік тому

      Hi! I am so so sorry this is happening to you. I know it can be really difficult especially when you still live in your parents house. I don't know if you have an adult that you feel comfortable speaking to this about or a teacher/guidance counselor. Also if you feel like you need to talk to someone about your mental health regarding this situation please reach out to a confidential helpline (988lifeline.org/) or another helpline in your area. You are not alone.

  • @destinycurry5521
    @destinycurry5521 9 місяців тому

    I stopped e*tng in general in the 6th grade
    I would only have something maybe one or two days a week… it was so unconcerning to my family because I was overweight and I guess they thought it’d be good for me if I lost the weight.
    I did lose the weight. It was the start of my 12 year long ed

    • @Ryecookieisthemoment
      @Ryecookieisthemoment 8 місяців тому +1

      I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I can understand that food can hardly be considered necessary anymore.

  • @adrianocampisi
    @adrianocampisi Рік тому +8

    As a 21-year old non binary registered dietitian this is absolutely terrifying

    • @dovescry123
      @dovescry123 Рік тому

      A 21 year old identifying as non-binary sounds more terrifying

  • @v3nus1nfurs
    @v3nus1nfurs Рік тому +1

    I have an almond mother in law

  • @stacyjones5588
    @stacyjones5588 9 місяців тому

    I grew up with restrictive eating but it was because we were poor not striving to be skinny

  • @benjaminperez1149
    @benjaminperez1149 11 місяців тому

    Even Kaiser pushes almond milk.😂😂😂😂

  • @eevee-chan9607
    @eevee-chan9607 6 місяців тому

    My mom put me on a diet where i could only eat grapes and water for a week. I was 13. Then they were shocked at how i have an ED.😂

  • @DomiBlanche
    @DomiBlanche 4 місяці тому

    My parents were raised around/after WW2. The absolute opposite of almond moms. But not less harmful.

  • @michelerich1590
    @michelerich1590 5 місяців тому +1

    god stop. obesity is the killer, and it's rampant because of processed food and massive portions. at least 'almond moms' are TRYING to be health conscious. a small handful of almonds has like 160 calories, which is a good snack. we should absolutely not steer toward 'less restriction'...because most people would opt for junk food. sorry, but this is a misfire to me.

  • @SoVidushi
    @SoVidushi Рік тому

    Great video, also love your voice :)

  • @888H11
    @888H11 Рік тому

    I have a almond dad

  • @valeriefromoregon
    @valeriefromoregon 2 місяці тому

    You forgot the 1950’s . After the war people gained weight.

  • @probrickgamer
    @probrickgamer Рік тому +1

    What's wrong with eating almonds to stave off hunger so you don't spoil your dinner? Also what's wrong with eating intuitively instead of boredom eating?

    • @RoseontheRun
      @RoseontheRun  Рік тому +1

      Those aren't bad things on the surface, but I think the problem comes in when parents enforce strict rules upon their children based in diet culture. Almonds are great, I love almonds! But it is one thing to eat them when you want to it's another to feel pressure to eat them from external forces because of a fear of getting fat. A lot of "Almond" people shame others for normal eating habits, which is the core issue.

  • @Antigone10
    @Antigone10 Рік тому +2

    Jokes on you Atkins isnt a fad diet! High protein, low carb, moderate fat is literally THE MOST PRESCRIBED diet by doctors for bariatric surgery patients, lymphodema patients, lipodema, obese, blah blah blah. Because high protein, high fiber, moderate fat, with restricted carbs is literally the healthiest way to eat and fix host of issues. Carbs are energy, if you arent doing intense exercise you dont need them. Protein is king and builds everything in your body. Fat, there are certain fats we need to consume and cannot make. Fiber, should be considered a macro lol. Atkins closely mimics what we know to be the healthiest way to eat. (Im off to eat some donuts now cause I lifted weights for 2hrs and need glycogen before afternoon activity! Dont eat donuts if you arent doing something like sprinting or lifting weights. Derp.)

  • @Meta.Empress
    @Meta.Empress 5 місяців тому

    I hate almonds 😂

  • @MariaVitoria-tx2ly
    @MariaVitoria-tx2ly Рік тому +4

    As a person that only eats healthy food by my own choice bc I know it is the best and I like it, gennuinely have no cravings towards anything unhealthy, have no appetite/hunger and bc of that only eat during the 3 main meal with no desire to snack, I envy ppl with almond moms. I wish my mom was like this, I'd feel much more valited than I feel with my mom.

    • @MalloriaAnn
      @MalloriaAnn Рік тому +20

      You... you envy people ... who had, basically abusive parents? What. Are you okay? The fact that you said you "envy" people with an "almond mom" is extremely disturbing. This parental behavior is unsolicited, dangerous and even traumatic for people. You envy that why?
      Also... having 3 meals a day of "healthy food", not being hungry between meals etc is NOT even relevant in terms of having an almond mom so what do you mean? The entire motivation behind these rules and comments is an obsession with their own and their child's weight and appearance. If you genuinely were eating healthy because you "don't crave unhealthy food and dont get hungry between meals" then that would be something that is just by default... not something you had to work on or force yourself to do so it would have nothing to do with weight or appearance.
      The only way your comment would even be relevant to almond moms is if you were doing all of this BECAUSE of your obsession with appearance and weight... not because you don't have unhealthy cravings.
      And btw children who grew up with parents like this oftentimes end up with extremely unhealthy relationships with food or suffering from eating disorders... and it's extremely disrespectful for you to be like "ugh I envy you! I wish I had parents who gave me trauma and an ED". That's very ignorant. Would you say to a DV victim, "I genuinely like rough sex and aggressive behavior... I really envy that you had an abusive partner" ???
      Before you comment next time take a moment to better understand the topic so you are not "accidentally" making an extremely offensive comment, or if you actually understand the topic... take a moment to think how YOU would feel if someone took a horrible event or trauma from your past and told you they "envied" you for it. Because your comment was really rude.

    • @adams8830
      @adams8830 Рік тому +1

      It's posts like this that make me think people are just looking for reasons to hate their parents.

  • @dominiknewfolder2196
    @dominiknewfolder2196 Рік тому

    Good luck with "poor me" mentality. 😄
    (Most harmful thing for psychological health)
    Every parent do those things but not every child is stupid enough to listen strangers with "saviour" mentality.
    Run for your life 😄
    It's normal, get over it.
    You will catch yourself on doing the same thing 😄