These bizarre vanishings bug me so so badly. I just don't understand how, in this day in age, disappearing without a trace can actually occur. I hope they find Steven one day soon.
The thing is, as bad as it sounds we should be able to dissappear without a trace, so on the other side if we can't, that means we are 100% being watched at all times and that infringes on people's rights. I know it's crap for cases like this, but for the millions, even billions of other people we have to be able to get away if need be.
Leah, this is really such a strange case, I guess the ones where there is video and evidence are even more bizarre. I almost always think they must be there somewhere. Recently there was a pedestrian car crash in LA and they couldn't find the person the car hit well the city parks dept. was cleaning the median and there she was thrown in a bush dead a few months later decomposed in the LA heat. Now she is a Jane Doe and whats worse is they have her listed as like 14-26 and she had Geometry notes with her, but no one is reported missing? She is Hispanic/White it says so all I can think it that she has illegal alien family members or something. So sad, and I guess the Police didn't look in the Bushes hard enough.
Like Lars Mittank, Maura Murray, the guy that went into the bar and never came out, and the handsome red headed guy in california… yea they bug me too lol
When you mentioned his car was abandoned in an upscale neighborhood. My 1st thought was that he never left that neighborhood once he got out of his car.
The original PI who volunteered to help Steven's family for free, also believes Steven met with foul play and never made it out of the neighborhood alive.
If his issue was alcohol, drugs, gambling, etc, he would have cashed that check from his grandmother. If he was going to Vegas for fun or doing something he normally wouldn't do, again he would used the money from his mom and grandmother.
Not necessarily. He wanted to keep up appearances with his family because they were so into his personal business, so I could see him getting involved with the wrong people to make a quick buck. He seemed very naive.
Damn I really hope that some day, when someone reports a young person missing, the police would stop for a second to actually listen. So many cases where they just shrug "it's a young person, they are propably just off drinking and partying somewhere", even when the family members REPEATEDLY insist that they are not into drinking and parties at all. How about even a minor checking of the case before making an assumption based on stereotypes?
I totally agree with you. They always assume the missing is or has been just lying to everyone and they’re secretly doing things like that. Sometimes kids and parents/ families actually have honest close relationships. They need to be less biased then they are.
I agree completely, but I also wonder where that mentality comes from? Of all missing persons reports, how many end with the person being found “drinking and off being young” ? What % would justify this mentality? I have no idea.
It’s weird you left this comment because I just went to check out your channel thinking oh awesome somebody who knows how important research is & admires Stephanie! only to see a bunch of shorts fishing for views. Disheartening to see the true crime community these days 🤨
I was to knowing she usually comes up on Thursdays and I was like damn that’s far it would be great if one slipped out and Bam 💥 got the notification!!! Yasssss 👏
Edit: (thank you everyone for your kind messages I am completely better now it turns out I had copper poisoning)Everything he's done sounds like me when I'm suicidal. I can interact completely normal and downplay my symptoms so much. I once had 2 doctor appointments during an acute dissociative event and they didn't notice anything even though I was out of my mind. Customer service and corporate training run deep. Mental illness is more complex than people think.
I agree that some people can totally act normal around family even if they are going through mental issues. I was able to hide an eating disorder for 4 years from my friends and family. I know it’s not the same thing but I always felt like I was good at hiding my issues and struggles.
@@brena2628 I’m sorry you dealt with that. I feel a bit better though with you saying that you were able to hide it from family because I had no idea about my daughter’s ED. Like how can I miss that? So it’s not just me. I hope you’re better now.
From one complete stranger on the internet, in two completely different parts of the world, I hope you are in a better place, Kelsey. 🙏🏼 And I agree… unfortunately hiding mental illnesses is probably far common than people think. I go through episodes of self harm, and I’ve been able to hide it from my family. They have no idea. It’s scary to know that we really have no idea what the people we love struggle with.
@@Mama_Bear524 HI Teresa. Thank you!! I definitely feel better now!! It was actually a book I read in high school that made me realize that I was harming myself and I could potentially end up in the hospital. It’ scared me and I asked for help. I’m sorry you daughter is going through the same thing, it is very easy to hide sadly. I’m also a very private and secretive person I would say so that’s why I was able to hide it for so long. Just let her know that there is help if she needs it and she can get better ❤️🩹
Being “upbeat and optimistic” is actually one of the things that could indicate suicidal thinking. It sounds like he was really struggling to keep his life together but he was just floundering while putting on a happy face. This story makes me so sad because I really feel he most likely committed suicide.
They called me happy go lucky when I was a kid. I tried to commit suicide at 8. I tried to hang myself with a hanger. I was very very overweight. I kept trying until I was in my 20’s. People always called me the happiest person they ever met or the most optimistic person they ever met. I wasn’t happy go lucky just when I was suicidal. I was always playing happy. I only stopped trying to commit suicide after I had my first kid. I’ve never been able to stay thin. I could get thin in very unhealthy ways, now I just can’t lose weight. Even in unhealthy ways. Even on the weird opioid they give you if you can’t lose weight otherwise. Being fat is not easy. It literally feels like carrying weights on you everywhere you go. I’m medically obese but I run with my kids, play with them, go on bike rides, and we’re really active. I just can’t lose weight. I was eating 1300 calories per day (I am only 4’11 so I think that’s normal) for a year and exercising 3-5 times per week. My laundry room is down a flight of stairs and I have a family of 6 so 18 loads per week (exaggeration). But being fat is miserable. Always. And I can make my kids think I’m the happiest person in the world with all the activities we do.
@@junelledembroski9183 I’m so sorry you’ve felt this way. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot and I admire that you keep pushing through. I hope you’ve had or are planning to have some therapy to talk about your feelings. I was trying to say, just because someone appears happy doesn’t mean they aren’t suicidal although, yes, a lot of people get MORE happy right before committing suicide. Sometimes depression looks like nothing much at all that’s why it’s important to understand how your loved ones are truly feeling or to recognize they’re really struggling even when they don’t show it. Sometimes you still can’t see it and I think this young mans family didn’t see how much he was really just barely treading water to just exist and it got too hard to go on for him.
@@junelledembroski9183 I am truly sorry for how your life has been for you...I still struggle with a little depression at times but no longer suicidal and haven't been for 4 years now...I started martial arts in 2015 it has been nothing but a life changing experience for me...I mention it just in case it helps you...there is like 5 overweight classmates that have inspired me with their perseverance and one in particular who is diagnosed with MS and is obese and doesn't give up the fight. Never give up Junelle..keep pushing forward and fight for you just because!
So, so stoked that she's doing this case! Also, I'm going to sound like an obsessive fan-girl, but the emerald green behind her flame red waves makes Stephanie look like a Gaelic priestess.
@Cedar Lay Agreed! She's physically beautiful, but when a person is that lovely, kind, and smart underneath that lovely exterior... well that's just something else, and is so rare. I'm going to stop now because I sound creepy af, lol, but you get the point.
I just may be SM’s oldest fan, because I’ve yet to find a comment on any of her videos re her red hair “clashing” with her green glasses, blouses, etc. I grew up being told by the media in all of its forms, as well as actual people, that red-haired women must *never* wear anything green!!! (I disagree . . . )
My bf applied for over 200 jobs.he hardly even ever got a reply it can be so disheartening,maybe Steven made choices that he wouldn’t usually make ie work wise,maybe got cat fished but in a work way??this is so sad 😞 feel so 💔for his family.💖🇬🇧
It's so fucking demoralizing to want to be self sufficient but not find work, especially with people calling assistance during a recession a "handout". Anybody can hit hard times, and it doesn't take much too bring somebody into poverty; this is why we need a solid social safety net
@@k3upikachu agreed!!it’s soul destroying!!he was like what’s even the point ??!!we started our own business in the end ,we are not rich at all and work hard but obviously there is no sick pay etc so your completely right 👏👏👏💖🇬🇧
@@joeakaprolifik7735hell yeah! Sometimes you just gotta take things into your own hands. I know it's really hard to run a business, but I'm sure you're both way happier spending your time building something that will be your own :)
@@k3upikachu yeah defo ,ty,and we have managed not to murder each other aswell,lol 😂 luckily we picked cleaning so we’re able to work through most of lockdown,did we pay our over draft off with our coin jar ?🤔maybe but at least we got through it safe,hope u and your family did aswell 🙏💖🇬🇧
Hey, this is totally possible. 😞 Poor guy was trying so hard to do pretty much anything to get a legal job. It just makes me sad because most of us have been there.
My husband just took my boys to the pool so im going to sit here in my AC watch a Stephanie Harlowe video and eat some butterfinger ice cream...umm paradise...am i right!?!?! Lol
This case seems potentially weird, but I also want to point out that Steven's behavior completely falls in line with someone who his ambivalently suicidal, in my opinion, based on my own experience of walking around in that state. It seems likely to me that when he went to his ex girlfriend's place, he was considering ending it, and wanted to see her one last time-- hence the bizarre lies about where he was heading and why he was there. It's also pretty easy for someone to be swayed out of this into doing something for someone else in this state, because you're not really determined to kill yourself, you're more... spiraling weakly in that direction, so if you get a call from a friend asking you to do them a favor, you'd probably agree because it's a stronger pull than your urge towards suicide. That being said, I'm curious to see what further weirdness surrounds this case.
Listening I really thought someone should have offered him a job. People were trying to give him money to help, but it felt like he didn't want handouts and it probably made him feel like he was a burden to people or that he was a failure. They were well-intentioned, of course, but I think he really needed something that would make him feel valuable. Like someone really needed him somewhere. It's so unfortunate that hindsight is 20/20, because people clearly cared and were worried for him.
I’d also like to add, having been in that state of mind too, that I would leap at the chance to do a favor for friends and family so it would give me a chance to do something nice for them before I “left”. I knew if I ended my life, I’d be leaving behind a lot of pain, and I wanted to do something/anything to show them I loved them and leave something of a good memory. Acts of service are my love language. I’d still make plans with family and friends, even though I didn’t want to be here anymore because it was my way of showing them I did love them and I did want to have plans to look forward to with them, even in the event that I did take that way out. In hindsight, that makes no sense; my intentions wouldn’t translate that way and only cause more confusion, but when you’re in that mindset, nothing makes sense because you’re in so much internal turmoil and just want it to stop.
I haven't even watched it yet but I just want you to know I've been PRAYING since you released the susan powell series, that you'd cover steven.I actually just sorta freaked out when I saw you posted this. Thank you thank you thank you sooo much.
this is one of those cases that could go both ways. someone could’ve really taken advantage of him and done something horrible or he willingly left due to the pressure of family, religion and financial issues. there’s evidence of both sides 🤔 ahhhh so much to think about and wonder 🤯
Seems like it could be a bit of both. He might have wanted to get away for a bit due to pressure of family, religion, and money issues but then someone took advantage of him and did something bad. :shrug: There is just so much we don't know
I think he probably was trying to get away a little. Especially with him trying to visit an old girlfriend. He might have been reminiscing on a time when he was happier/ life was simpler. But I don't think he would have left for good because of what we heard about his religion, family ties, and Christmas gift purchases. So I agree with BelieveNDreams7 that it could have been a combination of both.
His Mother having access to his bank account, his landlord calling his Dad about unpaid rent. My goodness, this man was 30. What unnecessary pressure on him with his parents knowing his personal business and finances. I feel for him.
Lack of proper/healthy boundaries isn't at ALL uncommon in heavily religious families, & even moreso in religions with *extremely*, seemingly arbitrarily specific restrictions...i.e. not drinking caffeine. 🤷🏻♀️ (In my opinion. Don't come for me. 😁)
@@marchi.fleming I was literally going to comment pretty much the same thing. It seems pretty common in these types of religions to be so heavily enmeshed in everyone else’s business.
I am so glad you are covering this story. There are two missing persons cases that have haunted me for years and they are Steven Koecher's and Maddie Scott's. I just cannot fathom how people can just vanish like this, and for some reason, these two people have always stayed on my mind.
My son’s 19th bday is Thursday and he got a new phone and was looking for a new case. He’s excited because he’s pretty picky about his cases and he told me to tell you “Thank you for the Casetify link and Hi!” Lol 😂
I think about that last phone call as well. I just feel this case could have been open and shut if the detectives would have just done their job from the beginning
This is purely speculation, but something about Steven’s situation really strikes a chord with my past. I don’t know anything about this case except from this video but, as someone who left a very religious family and deconverted, I can’t help but wonder if the stress of not living up to the expectations placed on him from his family and religion caused a breaking point for Steven to leave that all behind. Since I deconverted, I have changed my name, become financially independent, erased myself from social media, moved across the country, and cut myself off from most of the people in my past. There are so many resources online on how to leave religions/cults with caring people who would go lengths to protect people fleeing these situations. Again, I can only speak from my experience, but if my religious family knew that I had any doubts about my faith, they would think I was having a mental breakdown and do everything in their power to stop me. Perhaps, Steven knew the only way he could move on, would be to make it seem like he just disappeared.
My thoughts are in this direction too. I wrote a comment above saying that I see enmeshment in the relationship between parents and Steven. Also, all that driving, it indicates to me that he wants to get away. Even if it wasn't supposed to be permanent. He wanted to create distance. He wanted his own identity and to be his own man. I'm also wondering, if he's not touching the money in his bank account then maybe he was working with/spending cash. It's pretty untraceable and mom can't see what he's doing with it. It's a boundary issue for the mother to have access to her 30 year old son's bank account. And that was likely not the only boundary issue between them. Also, interesting about your experience. I am pretty much no contact with family myself. Not a religious situation but it's weird how an abusive, manipulative family situation can be so cult like. Glad you got yourself safe.
This was what my brain kind of put together too honestly. I could absolutely see him maybe even leaving his car behind as he goes to meet up with someone that can put more distance between them and help him scrub his identity. Also the job applications, maybe he had copied all of them and left them behind along with some gifts for his family once the family inevitably found the car, so they knew how hard he'd been trying to please them and a good bye gift, possibly? I dunno, maybe I'm reaching there. But I can really see him trying to escape the Mormon faith and there may have been boundary issues, maybe it made him feel like there wasn't any other choice than disappear. Maybe he actually told the truth and he actually was heading to Sacramento, but not conventionally.
My thoughts exactly. I went to school with a girl from an extreme offshoot of the Plymouth Brethren & it truly was like a cult. She actually thought theyd let her go to Uni. That was never going to happen. The women married at 16 & had a baby every year until worn out . The men had several 'wives' each & they lived in a crumbling house in the middle of nowhere .
Whenever you put out a part 1 video, it’s always an internal battle for me as to whether I should watch it immediately or wait until I can binge all parts at once. I always end up watching immediately, and being impatient for the next one. 💙💙
Stephanie! Have you heard about the 5 year old little girl currently missing in Tennessee? Her name is Summer Wells, she's been missing since June 15th. 😔💔 They're still searching for her but I have a terrible feeling about what may have happened to this blue eyed little angel.👼 Hoping for the best! 🤞🤞
I hope you had an awesome, relaxing, recharging mental health day! I'm so happy more people are taking days for their mental health and actually talk about taking them. Hugs to you!
“Mentally sick”. I know what you’re saying. This term needs to be normalized. We all need the odd day to just have no responsibilities (or very few). Hope you’re feeling better
This case is really interesting to me as I am a former Mormon and currently live in St. George, Utah. Thank you for sharing this case, I've never hear of this. Also Utah is known for its suicidal rates. Definitely interesting to think about. As someone who grew up Mormon I can attest, there are a lot of standards to live up to. It can be hard to deal with.
Not to take away from the case, but I have to point out you're giving off "Hallmark Christmas Movie Lead" vibes with this look for some reason, and trust me, as a self-proclaimed Hallmark aficionado this is high praise coming from me lol. Also I love your hair ❤
@@donroy7435 Right? Also Hallmark has a whole set of murder mystery movies and Stephanie would fit right in, true crime enthusiast turned small-town coffee-making detective 🤣
Thought, maybe there was someone advertising Jobs on Craigslist and he went to their home in that suburb and they did something to him. An easy way to lure people into your home
Today is our 16th wedding anniversary and we have had to sadly drive 7 hours across Ireland to say goodbye to our best friend who is transitioning to the other side due to cancer. She is only 50 so I really need this stability and what I call relaxing content. Thank you always Stephanie ❤️🇮🇪🇮🇪🇮🇪
@@andreacollins3204 I hope she travels on ok ,and pain free ,her spirit will live on ,I can still feel my grandad,I’m nearly 40 ,we had same birthday,so when u need her I’m sure your friend will be near,(sorry if this sounds weird ,I’m not trying to offend you )🇬🇧😞💖
This case sounds insane. I can’t see this man doing anything purposefully that he knew would bother his family, like hurting himself, running away, etc. I think that the landlord is shady for wanting Steven’s roommate out because of carpet damage due to flooding, but then saying he was cool with Steven for not paying the rent for months. Not to mention that he lied about that. He just seems really sus.
I think he took a sketchy job because it paid well. A courier job would explain his odd travel patterns. And one of these sketchy acquaintances killed him.
@Cuddly Cooper yes, I could see that, since he wouldn't actually be using, maybe he didn't even know what he was delivering. That recession made a lot of us have to take shitty jobs and end up in shitty situations, and a lot of us didn't make it out. I'm lucky that I did.
I know he was supposedly a devote Mormon, but what if he wanted to live differently. It is unusual that he was single at his age as a mormon...just a thought
These cases where someone just vanishes into thin air are so strange. I can’t help but wonder if he was in some kind of relationship he didn’t want people to know about, maybe he had a second cellphone he used to contact whoever that might have been.
Right. Imagine seeing the person who vanished on YOUR security camera, or passing them on the street not realizing at that point you might’ve been the last to see them!
I bought a used car and found the previous owner's second phone hidden by the jack. He was on the downlow, didn't want his wife to find it. Lots of pics on the phone, I could see why his... skills were in demand, LOL
@@MrTaxiRobImagine how many sleepless nights the guy had wondering if/when you would find the phone! I would have sold the phone back to him. If he refused, sell it to his wife But that’s me 😈
First time posting on Patreon....Been watching you for so long, & just get immersed in your story telling. Just wanted to say Thank you for all the hard work & love your pour into your channels. You are truly a beautiful human & it's shows👍 💜 Much respect & love from Philadelphia
This is the case that made me fall head first into true crime. Made me realize how fast someone can disappear. I printed out articles, did google map searches. I told my husband I am going to find him! I have to! I still feel so sad about his disappearance and hope to find answers one day.
I see a lot of parallels with my own experience when I was severely depressed. Doing much much better now. I still remember though how I would feel like my life was crumbling around me, but then I would get a blip of what I call a “change my life” moment. These were not a manic episodes, but I’d feel like I had a eureka moment and like I’d figured out how I could be happy while still taking care of myself. “I’m going to be a photographer!” “I’m going to be a content creator!” “I’m going to (insert spur of the moment fixation).” For a few weeks I’d be pretty excited and determined that I was gonna do this and everything was going to change for the better, but then when I realized “what the f am I doing???” I would just crash back into hopelessness. I almost wonder if the flyer plans showed he was having a “change my life” moment-but then when he was in this random neighborhood he fell out of that go-getter state of mind and realized “what the f am I doing here???” I also used to have similar boundary issues with my mother. Granted, I’ve been the custodian of my own passport since college, so I wonder if they had even more severe boundary issues that contributed to his potential feelings of shame and inadequacy.
Stephanie .. I’m So glad you’re shining light to Steven’s case! This is one of those unresolved cases that drives me nuts … especially because there’s footage of him right before disappearing into thin air. I can’t understand why his case hasn’t received much attention as other disappearances but can’t wait to hear your take on it!
Never jumped on a video so quickly! LOVE Stephanie’s story telling skills and the level of detail she goes into when researching a case. @Stephanie can we please have more 4-parter + videos like Bonnie and Clyde, HH Holmes, Andrew Cunanan, Typhoid Mary, Natalie Wood…?! They are my faves xx
I can’t stop singing in my head the song Steven sung at the beginning of the video. Beautiful voice 🌟 I haven’t even watched the rest of the video yet, but I had to say about the song!
I just watched the last segment of Bonnie and Clyde and I was once again impressed by your great storytelling ability! It was fascinating! I'm just beginning this episode of your Stephen Kocher show. Your hair looks wonderful!
As someone who lives in Las Vegas, I asked myself the same thing...why am I here. I dont drink, I dont gamble, I refuse to drive near the Strip. What an unorthodoxal confirmation to get the hell out of here. BTW your hair looks GORGEOUS
Oh wow, Stephanie, you're covering Steven Koecher's case!!! I am so glad. Steven is someone who really sticks with me, and I often think of him and wonder what happened to him. I'm looking forward to your coverage and thoughts 🥰👍.
My life is a little chaotic right now and seeing a new Stephanie video is just what I needed!!! I’m going to sit down and take a little time to relax and watch some true crime with my girl, Stephanie!!!
Aarin Stoner's work is remarkable! Please support his channel so that he can devote even more work on it. He's also going deep into Missy Beavers' case. I'd love for his channel to blow up. I have no association to him other than admiration. Thanks, Stephanie, for covering this case, as well. The landlord's wife planted numerous diversionary posts at WebSleths pointing away from her husband and towards the other roommate at the home, so he/she are my #1 suspects. What she had to say ended up being full of lies, so the landlord/his wife seem like obvious suspects.
When I grow up, I want to be as thorough of a researcher as you, making true crime content. You're my favorite true crime content creator and I just love how detailed you present every case, the way you so lovingly paint the picture of every victim. You're awesome Stephanie!
I woke up this morning saying I need stephanie and coffee in my life today....my girl never let's me down... looking flawless today btw😍 cant wait for part two, and the next crime weekly upload! Sending love from murray Kentucky
It has been a terrible day and I just laid down in bed to just shut myself off from the world and I saw you uploaded and this was the first smile and sense of peace I have had today….Tysm steph❤️❤️
i left the room in the middle of you talking about the sponsor (don't have a phone that they make cases for) and when I came back after getting water and snacks you were still talking about it. Not complaining, get that bread Stephanie! I don't usually watch unsolved cases but yours I always watch because your videos are so good I don't want to miss out
I JUST watched the Disappeared episode on this case. They never covered the DiMaggios at all, so I'm interested to hear this new information. I always figured it had to be someone in the neighborhood. I thought maybe he had an interview for a job and it turned out to be a scam or something like that.
I watched your videos years ago while I was in high school! I’ve stayed subscribed and haven’t watched. I’ve had a baby and a wonderful relationship, now I’m back and watching everything I’ve missed! Stephanie you’re a gem!! Absolutely amazing, your attention to detail and care for these cases hasn’t changed a bit!
Haven't watched Stephanie for so long. Life is like that. Not a lot of UA-cam lately, but I always wondered about this case and now I have time to listen to this thorough and lovely person again.
I’m wondering if he was gay. He was Mormon. He was 30. He seemed to be struggling with something. Then he moved pretty far away from his family and couldn’t get a job. He started feeling like he was a failure. He wasn’t married (important in the Mormon church) and couldn’t get a job. He was driving around contemplating his life. He was struggling emotionally. Then he decided nothing was going to get better and committed suicide. I’m not convinced the family would know if he was suicidal. I’ve known people who were suicidal and or committed suicide. Families don’t want to accept this reality.
I honestly feel like Stephen left on his own. And he's still out there. The pressure in families and churches like that is immense. I have a perpetual bachelor uncle who was raised Mormon. And he is so deep in the closet that a formerly happy and sweet man has become twisted with bitterness and self hatred. Im not saying that's Stephen, but if he deviated in any way from what was expected of him, it could be a reason he would want to leave. I hope he is okay and someday he comes home.
I was just about to comment that maybe he liked men and was conflicted because of his religion and family,but I do think he was cat fished in some way 😞💔
But wouldn't you think that he may have to rebelled in some way by drinking alcohol/coffe/smoking/going partying/trying to search for a woman with different values.. prior to ever disappearing? I'm not saying his family would have seen that side of him, but his roomate (with whom he was friendly but not friends) could have seen it and he didn't, or friends of him/neighbours
@@whatever0502 Rebellion seems like more of a cliche teenager thing to do. If he did choose to leave, doesn’t mean his values would drastically change. Feeling like you don’t fit in somewhere doesn’t mean you like the extreme opposite of how you were raised.
That theory doesn't make sense. He was willing to drive the 2 hours back for the Church meeting to help that guy (sorry I can't recall his name). There's just nothing that would lead to thoughts that he wanted to take off due religious reasons. He seemed happy in his faith and Church, and his family. His issues were financial and related to work. I wouldn't be surprised if he was following a lead for a job and met foul play.
i am almost 32 and i am still single... never found anyone to really connect with and i am not interested in random relationships or hookups. idk sometimes i feel like something is wrong with me but i guess it just takes me longer to find someone. i feel like there is this pressure to find someone in your 20s,and start a family by 30 the latest. although a lot of people start a family at 35-40 actually, so lets see lol
Love you Steph , can we talk about your hair HELLO !! thank you for your such high quality well planned and researched case work ! these victims are really seen and heard from your story telling ❤️
I watched Arrin Stoner's coverage of this case too... I was wondering if it was possible that Steven was taking the fliers for the window cleaning company to affluent areas that they didn't cover in hopes of securing a same day job and keeping the money rather than involve the company? People in my area do things like this to make some quick money...It also makes me wonder if he was naive enough to do a d**g runs for someone without knowing what he was transporting... with all the strange travel, it could make sense.
My dad knew him. He had gone to a movie with him the night before his disappearance was reported. He said that nothing seemed off and he still is baffled about what happened to him to this day.
I watched an interesting show on HBO Max about prescription drug abuse running rampant in the mormon community- to the point where overdoses killed more people than car accidents in one state & had drug dealers 1 block away from the LDS church. The dealers & areas are super sketchy and it makes me worried for him. On the flipside, if i was apart of such a strict religion- id run like the damn wind. So i hope hes safe and happy
This case always gets me since I currently live in Henderson NV (Vegas area) so I recognize a ton of the street names and locations, and I've driven by a lot of the places that he was described as having visited in those final days before his disappearance. It's so mysterious! But I'm so happy you're covering this, Stephanie, as I know you're going to have a lot of information I've never heard about this case. Excited for part 2!
I haven't watched your channel in a few months and I was prepped to sing "she's like a sickness in my brain" while you make coffee 🤣 did not expect the bookshelf animation whatsoever
I love your positive attitude and how you want to help families! It is important we work together and try to get answers for these families. All of these cases are just so sad! That’s why I teach my kids about being aware and also being there for them when they are going through issues because I never want to be a parent in one of these situations. I also wanted to say that I love how you are so thorough with your research and when you do these stories you are including us too. Thanks so much for everything you do and all of your hard work! ❤️🥰💕
Stephanie, I have never left a public comment on UA-cam but I have to say you have a great gift of story telling and narrating, you captivate the audience and you don’t let go. Your style is unique, Wish you many successes! PS - Could you do one on the Menéndez brothers?
wow thank you so much for sharing his music. That was very beautiful and I feel like a lot of people dont put that much effort into looking into the people are versus how spoopy their stories are. Thank you stephanie for doing that for him and sharing that with us.
It makes me sad that Steven felt like he had to pursue a certain life path that clearly wasn't easy for him. He had so many talents and a beautiful voice. He could have done something totally different and maybe still not married by 30, but been happier I think.
@Cuddly Cooper that makes me so sad! He was so talented and even if he wanted to stick to Christian or religious music I think he could have done so much!
Great video as always, Steph. I promise to not research it on my own until I see what you say, I will be anticipating the next part🖤 And I really hope a larger platform latches onto Pravin's story, you've done so much to help💖
These bizarre vanishings bug me so so badly. I just don't understand how, in this day in age, disappearing without a trace can actually occur. I hope they find Steven one day soon.
The thing is, as bad as it sounds we should be able to dissappear without a trace, so on the other side if we can't, that means we are 100% being watched at all times and that infringes on people's rights. I know it's crap for cases like this, but for the millions, even billions of other people we have to be able to get away if need be.
Leah, this is really such a strange case, I guess the ones where there is video and evidence are even more bizarre. I almost always think they must be there somewhere. Recently there was a pedestrian car crash in LA and they couldn't find the person the car hit well the city parks dept. was cleaning the median and there she was thrown in a bush dead a few months later decomposed in the LA heat. Now she is a Jane Doe and whats worse is they have her listed as like 14-26 and she had Geometry notes with her, but no one is reported missing? She is Hispanic/White it says so all I can think it that she has illegal alien family members or something. So sad, and I guess the Police didn't look in the Bushes hard enough.
These mysterious cases are more interesting than the non-mysterious murders and other crimes. Those are just sordid.
Like Lars Mittank, Maura Murray, the guy that went into the bar and never came out, and the handsome red headed guy in california… yea they bug me too lol
@@christiegroves That is so sad!
When you mentioned his car was abandoned in an upscale neighborhood. My 1st thought was that he never left that neighborhood once he got out of his car.
My thought too. Well-to-do neighborhoods aren't immune from residents with very dark vices or occupations.
They are, however, seemingly immune from real investigation. Money will buy you the entire justice system.
The original PI who volunteered to help Steven's family for free, also believes Steven met with foul play and never made it out of the neighborhood alive.
If his issue was alcohol, drugs, gambling, etc, he would have cashed that check from his grandmother. If he was going to Vegas for fun or doing something he normally wouldn't do, again he would used the money from his mom and grandmother.
Great point!
Exactly!!
YES!! especially 100% if he had an addiction. Pride means nothing to an addiction
Not necessarily. He wanted to keep up appearances with his family because they were so into his personal business, so I could see him getting involved with the wrong people to make a quick buck. He seemed very naive.
Damn I really hope that some day, when someone reports a young person missing, the police would stop for a second to actually listen. So many cases where they just shrug "it's a young person, they are propably just off drinking and partying somewhere", even when the family members REPEATEDLY insist that they are not into drinking and parties at all. How about even a minor checking of the case before making an assumption based on stereotypes?
Over 18 "legally an adult" rules though...Not saying I disagree, just being devil's advocate I suppose.
I totally agree with you. They always assume the missing is or has been just lying to everyone and they’re secretly doing things like that. Sometimes kids and parents/ families actually have honest close relationships. They need to be less biased then they are.
I agree completely, but I also wonder where that mentality comes from? Of all missing persons reports, how many end with the person being found “drinking and off being young” ? What % would justify this mentality? I have no idea.
The police don't care about keeping people safe that's why
@@AsheaO them just not caring
Stephanie, your depth of research, attention to detail AND presentation of the story is absolute goals.
Thank you!!
Steven Koecher actually moved to Vegas and then became a magician. For real.
@@flightofthebumblebee9529 proof?
It’s weird you left this comment because I just went to check out your channel thinking oh awesome somebody who knows how important research is & admires Stephanie! only to see a bunch of shorts fishing for views. Disheartening to see the true crime community these days 🤨
@@heather_doestruecrime I see quite a few hour long + videos on her page...?
i want a tumbler that says “in my opinion, allegedly, dont come for me”
Me tooo
Or a bumper sticker
A HOODY
Yes a sweatshirt or hoodie!
Yep!!
i was seriously just thinking to myself “i’d love a stephanie harlowe video right now” 😭🙌🏼
I was to knowing she usually comes up on Thursdays and I was like damn that’s far it would be great if one slipped out and Bam 💥 got the notification!!! Yasssss 👏
Same!
Me too. She can tell a story
I'm always thinking that 😊
Yess literally read my mind 😭❤️🙏🏼
Stephanie, please look into the Summer Wells case. She is a 5yr old currently missing from Tennessee. There are some super shady folks in her life
Apparently her aunt has been missing since 2009
I second this, also from that neck of the woods and I check on the case every day hoping she is found!
Such a sad case 😔
As soon as I heard the alleged story of what happened I knew someone did something to her
I would like the know the circumstances of her aunts case
Edit: (thank you everyone for your kind messages I am completely better now it turns out I had copper poisoning)Everything he's done sounds like me when I'm suicidal. I can interact completely normal and downplay my symptoms so much. I once had 2 doctor appointments during an acute dissociative event and they didn't notice anything even though I was out of my mind. Customer service and corporate training run deep. Mental illness is more complex than people think.
I agree that some people can totally act normal around family even if they are going through mental issues. I was able to hide an eating disorder for 4 years from my friends and family. I know it’s not the same thing but I always felt like I was good at hiding my issues and struggles.
@@brena2628 I’m sorry you dealt with that. I feel a bit better though with you saying that you were able to hide it from family because I had no idea about my daughter’s ED. Like how can I miss that? So it’s not just me.
I hope you’re better now.
I hope you’re doing well. I’m so sorry you have these moments. You deserve to be here. Stay well.
From one complete stranger on the internet, in two completely different parts of the world, I hope you are in a better place, Kelsey. 🙏🏼
And I agree… unfortunately hiding mental illnesses is probably far common than people think.
I go through episodes of self harm, and I’ve been able to hide it from my family. They have no idea.
It’s scary to know that we really have no idea what the people we love struggle with.
@@Mama_Bear524 HI Teresa. Thank you!! I definitely feel better now!! It was actually a book I read in high school that made me realize that I was harming myself and I could potentially end up in the hospital. It’ scared me and I asked for help. I’m sorry you daughter is going through the same thing, it is very easy to hide sadly. I’m also a very private and secretive person I would say so that’s why I was able to hide it for so long. Just let her know that there is help if she needs it and she can get better ❤️🩹
His singing is so beautiful. Thank you for including this.
Being “upbeat and optimistic” is actually one of the things that could indicate suicidal thinking. It sounds like he was really struggling to keep his life together but he was just floundering while putting on a happy face. This story makes me so sad because I really feel he most likely committed suicide.
They called me happy go lucky when I was a kid. I tried to commit suicide at 8. I tried to hang myself with a hanger. I was very very overweight. I kept trying until I was in my 20’s. People always called me the happiest person they ever met or the most optimistic person they ever met. I wasn’t happy go lucky just when I was suicidal. I was always playing happy. I only stopped trying to commit suicide after I had my first kid. I’ve never been able to stay thin. I could get thin in very unhealthy ways, now I just can’t lose weight. Even in unhealthy ways. Even on the weird opioid they give you if you can’t lose weight otherwise. Being fat is not easy. It literally feels like carrying weights on you everywhere you go. I’m medically obese but I run with my kids, play with them, go on bike rides, and we’re really active. I just can’t lose weight. I was eating 1300 calories per day (I am only 4’11 so I think that’s normal) for a year and exercising 3-5 times per week. My laundry room is down a flight of stairs and I have a family of 6 so 18 loads per week (exaggeration). But being fat is miserable. Always. And I can make my kids think I’m the happiest person in the world with all the activities we do.
@@junelledembroski9183 I’m so sorry you’ve felt this way. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot and I admire that you keep pushing through. I hope you’ve had or are planning to have some therapy to talk about your feelings. I was trying to say, just because someone appears happy doesn’t mean they aren’t suicidal although, yes, a lot of people get MORE happy right before committing suicide. Sometimes depression looks like nothing much at all that’s why it’s important to understand how your loved ones are truly feeling or to recognize they’re really struggling even when they don’t show it. Sometimes you still can’t see it and I think this young mans family didn’t see how much he was really just barely treading water to just exist and it got too hard to go on for him.
@@junelledembroski9183 I am truly sorry for how your life has been for you...I still struggle with a little depression at times but no longer suicidal and haven't been for 4 years now...I started martial arts in 2015 it has been nothing but a life changing experience for me...I mention it just in case it helps you...there is like 5 overweight classmates that have inspired me with their perseverance and one in particular who is diagnosed with MS and is obese and doesn't give up the fight. Never give up Junelle..keep pushing forward and fight for you just because!
@@bmwvillan Thank you so much. ❤️
Yeah. I wonder if he was just at peace because he had a plan and had made a decision.
So, so stoked that she's doing this case! Also, I'm going to sound like an obsessive fan-girl, but the emerald green behind her flame red waves makes Stephanie look like a Gaelic priestess.
I'm right there with you, sounding like a fan girl 😂 she looks out of this world!
@Cedar Lay Agreed! She's physically beautiful, but when a person is that lovely, kind, and smart underneath that lovely exterior... well that's just something else, and is so rare.
I'm going to stop now because I sound creepy af, lol, but you get the point.
@Cedar Lay Hah, thanks for helping me feel less creepy, lol, or at least not so alone in my creepiness! 😳🤭😂
It’s definitely her color
I just may be SM’s oldest fan, because I’ve yet to find a comment on any of her videos re her red hair “clashing” with her green glasses, blouses, etc. I grew up being told by the media in all of its forms, as well as actual people, that red-haired women must *never* wear anything green!!! (I disagree . . . )
Stephanie, how you don't already have 1M+ subscribers is beyond me. You are thorough, articulate, funny, thought-provoking, and entertaining!
My bf applied for over 200 jobs.he hardly even ever got a reply it can be so disheartening,maybe Steven made choices that he wouldn’t usually make ie work wise,maybe got cat fished but in a work way??this is so sad 😞 feel so 💔for his family.💖🇬🇧
It's so fucking demoralizing to want to be self sufficient but not find work, especially with people calling assistance during a recession a "handout". Anybody can hit hard times, and it doesn't take much too bring somebody into poverty; this is why we need a solid social safety net
@@k3upikachu agreed!!it’s soul destroying!!he was like what’s even the point ??!!we started our own business in the end ,we are not rich at all and work hard but obviously there is no sick pay etc so your completely right 👏👏👏💖🇬🇧
@@joeakaprolifik7735hell yeah! Sometimes you just gotta take things into your own hands. I know it's really hard to run a business, but I'm sure you're both way happier spending your time building something that will be your own :)
@@k3upikachu yeah defo ,ty,and we have managed not to murder each other aswell,lol 😂 luckily we picked cleaning so we’re able to work through most of lockdown,did we pay our over draft off with our coin jar ?🤔maybe but at least we got through it safe,hope u and your family did aswell 🙏💖🇬🇧
Hey, this is totally possible. 😞 Poor guy was trying so hard to do pretty much anything to get a legal job. It just makes me sad because most of us have been there.
Me: Ugh, it’s Monday. I don’t want to do housework.
UA-cam: *Stephanie posted a new video*
Me: Yayyyy time to do housework!
same here! lol🙌
It's now coming up to 8 pm here in London,England. Been putting off doing housework all day now decided to do it tomorrow
Ditto 😂
Literally same!
I totally forgot it was Mondayyy lol
My husband just took my boys to the pool so im going to sit here in my AC watch a Stephanie Harlowe video and eat some butterfinger ice cream...umm paradise...am i right!?!?! Lol
OMG I'm totally getting that later
Yassss
This case seems potentially weird, but I also want to point out that Steven's behavior completely falls in line with someone who his ambivalently suicidal, in my opinion, based on my own experience of walking around in that state. It seems likely to me that when he went to his ex girlfriend's place, he was considering ending it, and wanted to see her one last time-- hence the bizarre lies about where he was heading and why he was there.
It's also pretty easy for someone to be swayed out of this into doing something for someone else in this state, because you're not really determined to kill yourself, you're more... spiraling weakly in that direction, so if you get a call from a friend asking you to do them a favor, you'd probably agree because it's a stronger pull than your urge towards suicide.
That being said, I'm curious to see what further weirdness surrounds this case.
Listening I really thought someone should have offered him a job. People were trying to give him money to help, but it felt like he didn't want handouts and it probably made him feel like he was a burden to people or that he was a failure. They were well-intentioned, of course, but I think he really needed something that would make him feel valuable. Like someone really needed him somewhere.
It's so unfortunate that hindsight is 20/20, because people clearly cared and were worried for him.
E we
I think the big mystery though is where on earth is he? If he did commit suicide, why has he never been found?
So very sorry to hear about your son. He sounds like an amazing young man. My heart goes out to you and I wish you love and peace.
I’d also like to add, having been in that state of mind too, that I would leap at the chance to do a favor for friends and family so it would give me a chance to do something nice for them before I “left”. I knew if I ended my life, I’d be leaving behind a lot of pain, and I wanted to do something/anything to show them I loved them and leave something of a good memory. Acts of service are my love language. I’d still make plans with family and friends, even though I didn’t want to be here anymore because it was my way of showing them I did love them and I did want to have plans to look forward to with them, even in the event that I did take that way out. In hindsight, that makes no sense; my intentions wouldn’t translate that way and only cause more confusion, but when you’re in that mindset, nothing makes sense because you’re in so much internal turmoil and just want it to stop.
I haven't even watched it yet but I just want you to know I've been PRAYING since you released the susan powell series, that you'd cover steven.I actually just sorta freaked out when I saw you posted this. Thank you thank you thank you sooo much.
I'm so glad! This case is wild!
Me: avoids folding the mountain of laundry
Steph: POSTS NEW CONTENT
Me: leaves bedroom to "fold laundry" AKA listen to the new content, unbothered. 🤣
Stephanie gets me through all my house chores too 😂😂
Amen 🙏 girl say it louder!!!! Your so awesome Stephanie working so hard ♥️
@@sarahsweeney7048 Definitely me 😊😊
Me.
Yep! I was putting dishes and laundry off, but I decided to get to it as soon as I saw the video 😂 makes doing chores bearable
this is one of those cases that could go both ways. someone could’ve really taken advantage of him and done something horrible or he willingly left due to the pressure of family, religion and financial issues. there’s evidence of both sides 🤔 ahhhh so much to think about and wonder 🤯
Seems like it could be a bit of both. He might have wanted to get away for a bit due to pressure of family, religion, and money issues but then someone took advantage of him and did something bad. :shrug: There is just so much we don't know
I think he probably was trying to get away a little. Especially with him trying to visit an old girlfriend. He might have been reminiscing on a time when he was happier/ life was simpler. But I don't think he would have left for good because of what we heard about his religion, family ties, and Christmas gift purchases. So I agree with BelieveNDreams7 that it could have been a combination of both.
Suicide IMO.
When i see "part 1" in a video I get excited cause I know i'm in for HOURS of content. Thank you for all the research you do each week Stephanie!
Same, I actively look for those ones!
His Mother having access to his bank account, his landlord calling his Dad about unpaid rent. My goodness, this man was 30. What unnecessary pressure on him with his parents knowing his personal business and finances. I feel for him.
Lack of proper/healthy boundaries isn't at ALL uncommon in heavily religious families, & even moreso in religions with *extremely*, seemingly arbitrarily specific restrictions...i.e. not drinking caffeine. 🤷🏻♀️
(In my opinion. Don't come for me. 😁)
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@@marchi.fleming I was literally going to comment pretty much the same thing. It seems pretty common in these types of religions to be so heavily enmeshed in everyone else’s business.
My landlord calls my parents when I don’t pay rent on time. And it stresses me tf out. Bc they have no business with my bills or rent.
I think the parents cared about him and were trying to help
I am so glad you are covering this story. There are two missing persons cases that have haunted me for years and they are Steven Koecher's and Maddie Scott's. I just cannot fathom how people can just vanish like this, and for some reason, these two people have always stayed on my mind.
Those are two cases I stay with as well. Maddie Scott’s remains were finally found thankfully. Prayerfully Steven is next ❤️
@@SallyMars Yes, I was so thankful when I saw that they found Maddie. Now I'm praying they find who did this to her.
My son’s 19th bday is Thursday and he got a new phone and was looking for a new case. He’s excited because he’s pretty picky about his cases and he told me to tell you “Thank you for the Casetify link and Hi!” Lol 😂
This is a weird one. Once again, your attention to detail & story telling skills rock. You're the best!
Ikr!? 😊 She truly is!
Awww thank you so much, love! It gets wilder!
Why does the comment say 1 day ago and the video say it’s uploaded 4 hours ago? I’m so confused
@@matcha.clouds videos are released earlier for her Patreons😊
@@matcha.clouds because I'm a Patreon, you get early access to videos.. 😊
Ive been thinking so much about Pravine! Im really hoping and praying his family finds justice❤
I think about that last phone call that he made so often.
Same, his story really stuck with me
I think about that last phone call as well. I just feel this case could have been open and shut if the detectives would have just done their job from the beginning
This is purely speculation, but something about Steven’s situation really strikes a chord with my past. I don’t know anything about this case except from this video but, as someone who left a very religious family and deconverted, I can’t help but wonder if the stress of not living up to the expectations placed on him from his family and religion caused a breaking point for Steven to leave that all behind. Since I deconverted, I have changed my name, become financially independent, erased myself from social media, moved across the country, and cut myself off from most of the people in my past. There are so many resources online on how to leave religions/cults with caring people who would go lengths to protect people fleeing these situations. Again, I can only speak from my experience, but if my religious family knew that I had any doubts about my faith, they would think I was having a mental breakdown and do everything in their power to stop me. Perhaps, Steven knew the only way he could move on, would be to make it seem like he just disappeared.
My thoughts are in this direction too. I wrote a comment above saying that I see enmeshment in the relationship between parents and Steven. Also, all that driving, it indicates to me that he wants to get away. Even if it wasn't supposed to be permanent. He wanted to create distance. He wanted his own identity and to be his own man. I'm also wondering, if he's not touching the money in his bank account then maybe he was working with/spending cash. It's pretty untraceable and mom can't see what he's doing with it. It's a boundary issue for the mother to have access to her 30 year old son's bank account. And that was likely not the only boundary issue between them.
Also, interesting about your experience. I am pretty much no contact with family myself. Not a religious situation but it's weird how an abusive, manipulative family situation can be so cult like. Glad you got yourself safe.
I've always wondered if this was the case for him as well.
This was what my brain kind of put together too honestly. I could absolutely see him maybe even leaving his car behind as he goes to meet up with someone that can put more distance between them and help him scrub his identity. Also the job applications, maybe he had copied all of them and left them behind along with some gifts for his family once the family inevitably found the car, so they knew how hard he'd been trying to please them and a good bye gift, possibly? I dunno, maybe I'm reaching there. But I can really see him trying to escape the Mormon faith and there may have been boundary issues, maybe it made him feel like there wasn't any other choice than disappear. Maybe he actually told the truth and he actually was heading to Sacramento, but not conventionally.
I do have some friends who escaped extreme religious situations and this could be a thing,
My thoughts exactly. I went to school with a girl from an extreme offshoot of the Plymouth Brethren & it truly was like a cult. She actually thought theyd let her go to Uni. That was never going to happen. The women married at 16 & had a baby every year until worn out . The men had several 'wives' each & they lived in a crumbling house in the middle of nowhere .
Whenever you put out a part 1 video, it’s always an internal battle for me as to whether I should watch it immediately or wait until I can binge all parts at once. I always end up watching immediately, and being impatient for the next one. 💙💙
Stephanie! Have you heard about the 5 year old little girl currently missing in Tennessee? Her name is Summer Wells, she's been missing since June 15th. 😔💔 They're still searching for her but I have a terrible feeling about what may have happened to this blue eyed little angel.👼 Hoping for the best! 🤞🤞
Her aunt is also a missing person, makes the case even more sad.
Yes this case is so sad, I personally have a bad feeling the mom seems very off, I think the parents know what happened
The fact that they shaved her head to " keep her from getting lice AGAIN " troubles me so much.
Parents are Deffo involved
@@shellyseats5630 Neglect 100%
taking a day from work because i’m feeling mentally sick and this is the savior of my day thank you mrs.harlow
Aww hun feel better soon,💖🇬🇧
I had to do that a few months ago to prevent a full breakdown and it truly helped. I hope you feel better ❤️
Mental health days are important feel better :-) ❤
I hope you had an awesome, relaxing, recharging mental health day! I'm so happy more people are taking days for their mental health and actually talk about taking them. Hugs to you!
“Mentally sick”. I know what you’re saying. This term needs to be normalized. We all need the odd day to just have no responsibilities (or very few). Hope you’re feeling better
Sidenote - I cannot wait for Harloween!
Same!
Same here
Yaaas!!!💜🎃💜
Can you believe it's almost July? That's scary enough in itself! 😱
Same. It’s going to be so good.
This case is really interesting to me as I am a former Mormon and currently live in St. George, Utah. Thank you for sharing this case, I've never hear of this. Also Utah is known for its suicidal rates. Definitely interesting to think about. As someone who grew up Mormon I can attest, there are a lot of standards to live up to. It can be hard to deal with.
I currently live 1.5 miles away from byu football stadium...... I absolutely understand what you are saying
Mormonism is a cult. Look it up.
Not to take away from the case, but I have to point out you're giving off "Hallmark Christmas Movie Lead" vibes with this look for some reason, and trust me, as a self-proclaimed Hallmark aficionado this is high praise coming from me lol. Also I love your hair ❤
Lol I love this 😂
😂😂😂 thank you!
She does look like she just inherited a cookie factory in a small picturesque town….
@@donroy7435 Right? Also Hallmark has a whole set of murder mystery movies and Stephanie would fit right in, true crime enthusiast turned small-town coffee-making detective 🤣
Yes very Christmas for summer but if ur comfy and be warm who cares🥰🥰🥰
Arrin Stoner is a powerhouse. So glad you mentioned him and gave him credit. Ppl should definitely go check him out.
Thought, maybe there was someone advertising Jobs on Craigslist and he went to their home in that suburb and they did something to him. An easy way to lure people into your home
It’s heart breaking to think about the possibilities. I hope they do find out what happened even if only body recovery so the family can have peace.
Today is our 16th wedding anniversary and we have had to sadly drive 7 hours across Ireland to say goodbye to our best friend who is transitioning to the other side due to cancer. She is only 50 so I really need this stability and what I call relaxing content. Thank you always Stephanie ❤️🇮🇪🇮🇪🇮🇪
Oh no..I'm so so sorry. Sending you lots of hugs/love
Aww I’m so sorry Angela and hubby,sending you lots of love ❤️ from 🇬🇧😞
@@princesskristan thanks look it’s life and at least we got to drive up before she passed over. ❤️
@@joeakaprolifik7735 thank you so much. She is a very beautiful soul and it’s very sad
@@andreacollins3204 I hope she travels on ok ,and pain free ,her spirit will live on ,I can still feel my grandad,I’m nearly 40 ,we had same birthday,so when u need her I’m sure your friend will be near,(sorry if this sounds weird ,I’m not trying to offend you )🇬🇧😞💖
This case sounds insane. I can’t see this man doing anything purposefully that he knew would bother his family, like hurting himself, running away, etc. I think that the landlord is shady for wanting Steven’s roommate out because of carpet damage due to flooding, but then saying he was cool with Steven for not paying the rent for months. Not to mention that he lied about that. He just seems really sus.
interesting point
I think he took a sketchy job because it paid well. A courier job would explain his odd travel patterns. And one of these sketchy acquaintances killed him.
right. or prostitution
@Cuddly Cooper yes, I could see that, since he wouldn't actually be using, maybe he didn't even know what he was delivering. That recession made a lot of us have to take shitty jobs and end up in shitty situations, and a lot of us didn't make it out. I'm lucky that I did.
I know he was supposedly a devote Mormon, but what if he wanted to live differently. It is unusual that he was single at his age as a mormon...just a thought
These cases where someone just vanishes into thin air are so strange. I can’t help but wonder if he was in some kind of relationship he didn’t want people to know about, maybe he had a second cellphone he used to contact whoever that might have been.
Right. Imagine seeing the person who vanished on YOUR security camera, or passing them on the street not realizing at that point you might’ve been the last to see them!
I bought a used car and found the previous owner's second phone hidden by the jack. He was on the downlow, didn't want his wife to find it. Lots of pics on the phone, I could see why his... skills were in demand, LOL
@@MrTaxiRobImagine how many sleepless nights the guy had wondering if/when you would find the phone! I would have sold the phone back to him. If he refused, sell it to his wife
But that’s me 😈
First time posting on Patreon....Been watching you for so long, & just get immersed in your story telling. Just wanted to say Thank you for all the hard work & love your pour into your channels. You are truly a beautiful human & it's shows👍 💜 Much respect & love from Philadelphia
Love you!!!
I'm so happy to support her Patreon because she puts so much work into her videos and she really is making a difference in a lot of these cases :)
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This is my first time seeing one of your videos and I can already tell you I’m about to binge watch you all night
Welcome!!!!
This is the case that made me fall head first into true crime. Made me realize how fast someone can disappear. I printed out articles, did google map searches. I told my husband I am going to find him! I have to! I still feel so sad about his disappearance and hope to find answers one day.
I see a lot of parallels with my own experience when I was severely depressed. Doing much much better now. I still remember though how I would feel like my life was crumbling around me, but then I would get a blip of what I call a “change my life” moment. These were not a manic episodes, but I’d feel like I had a eureka moment and like I’d figured out how I could be happy while still taking care of myself.
“I’m going to be a photographer!”
“I’m going to be a content creator!”
“I’m going to (insert spur of the moment fixation).”
For a few weeks I’d be pretty excited and determined that I was gonna do this and everything was going to change for the better, but then when I realized “what the f am I doing???” I would just crash back into hopelessness. I almost wonder if the flyer plans showed he was having a “change my life” moment-but then when he was in this random neighborhood he fell out of that go-getter state of mind and realized “what the f am I doing here???”
I also used to have similar boundary issues with my mother. Granted, I’ve been the custodian of my own passport since college, so I wonder if they had even more severe boundary issues that contributed to his potential feelings of shame and inadequacy.
Stephanie .. I’m So glad you’re shining light to Steven’s case! This is one of those unresolved cases that drives me nuts … especially because there’s footage of him right before disappearing into thin air. I can’t understand why his case hasn’t received much attention as other disappearances but can’t wait to hear your take on it!
Never jumped on a video so quickly! LOVE Stephanie’s story telling skills and the level of detail she goes into when researching a case.
@Stephanie can we please have more 4-parter + videos like Bonnie and Clyde, HH Holmes, Andrew Cunanan, Typhoid Mary, Natalie Wood…?! They are my faves xx
This a such a strange case. Usually I have a good idea of what I think happened, but im completely lost on this one!!! Come on part 2❤❤
I can’t stop singing in my head the song Steven sung at the beginning of the video. Beautiful voice 🌟
I haven’t even watched the rest of the video yet, but I had to say about the song!
I just watched the last segment of Bonnie and Clyde and I was once again impressed by your great storytelling ability! It was fascinating!
I'm just beginning this episode of your Stephen Kocher show. Your hair looks wonderful!
SH you can't believe how many hours of enjoyment you bring me. TY.
As someone who lives in Las Vegas, I asked myself the same thing...why am I here. I dont drink, I dont gamble, I refuse to drive near the Strip. What an unorthodoxal confirmation to get the hell out of here.
BTW your hair looks GORGEOUS
Find myself relating to him in the first 5 minutes. I was also born in 1979 in Texas and our family also had a dalmatian for a pet. ❤
Oh wow, Stephanie, you're covering Steven Koecher's case!!! I am so glad. Steven is someone who really sticks with me, and I often think of him and wonder what happened to him. I'm looking forward to your coverage and thoughts 🥰👍.
My life is a little chaotic right now and seeing a new Stephanie video is just what I needed!!! I’m going to sit down and take a little time to relax and watch some true crime with my girl, Stephanie!!!
I’m excited you’re covering this case! Yes, Arrin Stoner’s coverage of this case is wonderful!
Fancy seeing you here lmao 🤣
Go into his comments and tell him I'm trying to get in touch with him!
@@StephanieHarlowe That's the least I could do for you, you spoil us so much💞💞
@@StephanieHarlowe I let him know he said ok
There’s nothing as haunting as hearing the voice of this man singing his own song.
his song is gorgeous :(
Right? He has a great voice
He has a beautiful voice with meaningful lyrics
Aarin Stoner's work is remarkable! Please support his channel so that he can devote even more work on it. He's also going deep into Missy Beavers' case. I'd love for his channel to blow up. I have no association to him other than admiration. Thanks, Stephanie, for covering this case, as well. The landlord's wife planted numerous diversionary posts at WebSleths pointing away from her husband and towards the other roommate at the home, so he/she are my #1 suspects. What she had to say ended up being full of lies, so the landlord/his wife seem like obvious suspects.
On the edge of my seat waiting for part two!!!
When I grow up, I want to be as thorough of a researcher as you, making true crime content.
You're my favorite true crime content creator and I just love how detailed you present every case, the way you so lovingly paint the picture of every victim.
You're awesome Stephanie!
I woke up this morning saying I need stephanie and coffee in my life today....my girl never let's me down... looking flawless today btw😍 cant wait for part two, and the next crime weekly upload! Sending love from murray Kentucky
It has been a terrible day and I just laid down in bed to just shut myself off from the world and I saw you uploaded and this was the first smile and sense of peace I have had today….Tysm steph❤️❤️
I hope tomo is a better day for you 🌟
My highlight of my week... Starting it with Stephanie harlowe.
Thank you for all your research and for sharing it with us!
We love you!
i left the room in the middle of you talking about the sponsor (don't have a phone that they make cases for) and when I came back after getting water and snacks you were still talking about it.
Not complaining, get that bread Stephanie!
I don't usually watch unsolved cases but yours I always watch because your videos are so good I don't want to miss out
I JUST watched the Disappeared episode on this case. They never covered the DiMaggios at all, so I'm interested to hear this new information. I always figured it had to be someone in the neighborhood. I thought maybe he had an interview for a job and it turned out to be a scam or something like that.
I watched your videos years ago while I was in high school! I’ve stayed subscribed and haven’t watched. I’ve had a baby and a wonderful relationship, now I’m back and watching everything I’ve missed! Stephanie you’re a gem!! Absolutely amazing, your attention to detail and care for these cases hasn’t changed a bit!
I really appreciate that you are so good at shouting out other creators :)
Yea! Arrin Stoner shout out!! He has the best content, truly amazing research and work.
Husband's watching the Euros (bloody football), then Stephenie posts and gives me something to watch too ❤️
Finally someone who understands my pain 😭🥴🤣
Footy widow here too! Stephanie to the rescue 💚
@@kellygreen1981 @Olivia Parker looks like we've found our people 😍 true crime football widows
Oh I'm so very grateful my husband doesn't follow sports 🙏
Same here. He ALWAYS watches sports!
Haven't watched Stephanie for so long. Life is like that. Not a lot of UA-cam lately, but I always wondered about this case and now I have time to listen to this thorough and lovely person again.
I’m wondering if he was gay. He was Mormon. He was 30. He seemed to be struggling with something. Then he moved pretty far away from his family and couldn’t get a job. He started feeling like he was a failure. He wasn’t married (important in the Mormon church) and couldn’t get a job. He was driving around contemplating his life. He was struggling emotionally. Then he decided nothing was going to get better and committed suicide.
I’m not convinced the family would know if he was suicidal. I’ve known people who were suicidal and or committed suicide. Families don’t want to accept this reality.
I honestly feel like Stephen left on his own. And he's still out there. The pressure in families and churches like that is immense. I have a perpetual bachelor uncle who was raised Mormon. And he is so deep in the closet that a formerly happy and sweet man has become twisted with bitterness and self hatred. Im not saying that's Stephen, but if he deviated in any way from what was expected of him, it could be a reason he would want to leave. I hope he is okay and someday he comes home.
I was just about to comment that maybe he liked men and was conflicted because of his religion and family,but I do think he was cat fished in some way 😞💔
But wouldn't you think that he may have to rebelled in some way by drinking alcohol/coffe/smoking/going partying/trying to search for a woman with different values.. prior to ever disappearing?
I'm not saying his family would have seen that side of him, but his roomate (with whom he was friendly but not friends) could have seen it and he didn't, or friends of him/neighbours
@@whatever0502 Rebellion seems like more of a cliche teenager thing to do. If he did choose to leave, doesn’t mean his values would drastically change. Feeling like you don’t fit in somewhere doesn’t mean you like the extreme opposite of how you were raised.
@@whatever0502 I did wonder that aswell,this case truly has me perplexed atm,I’m trying not to google to see the outcome.😞🇬🇧
That theory doesn't make sense. He was willing to drive the 2 hours back for the Church meeting to help that guy (sorry I can't recall his name). There's just nothing that would lead to thoughts that he wanted to take off due religious reasons. He seemed happy in his faith and Church, and his family. His issues were financial and related to work. I wouldn't be surprised if he was following a lead for a job and met foul play.
So incredibly happy to see this case covered. You are an angel Stephanie, we appreciate you and how thorough you are 💕💕💕
Kozkesh!
It seems to me that Steven was applying to a private job in that street or neighbourhood, and met foul play. If only police had done more sooner.
That's exactly what I was thinking!
i am almost 32 and i am still single... never found anyone to really connect with and i am not interested in random relationships or hookups. idk sometimes i feel like something is wrong with me but i guess it just takes me longer to find someone. i feel like there is this pressure to find someone in your 20s,and start a family by 30 the latest. although a lot of people start a family at 35-40 actually, so lets see lol
Ooh! A series. Very exciting.
Also, I just ordered a bunch of your merch. I love the new items. Can't wait for them to come in the mail!
Looove your videos so much!! And how in depth they are ❤❤
Stephanie: "...but I get lost everywhere, so that doesn't mean anything..."
Me too, Stephanie, me too!! ❤
Love you Steph , can we talk about your hair HELLO !! thank you for your such high quality well planned and researched case work ! these victims are really seen and heard from your story telling ❤️
I watched Arrin Stoner's coverage of this case too... I was wondering if it was possible that Steven was taking the fliers for the window cleaning company to affluent areas that they didn't cover in hopes of securing a same day job and keeping the money rather than involve the company? People in my area do things like this to make some quick money...It also makes me wonder if he was naive enough to do a d**g runs for someone without knowing what he was transporting... with all the strange travel, it could make sense.
Sun city anthem sounds like a fallout boy song.
That glasses color looks so good, it makes your hair color look amazing too
My dad knew him. He had gone to a movie with him the night before his disappearance was reported. He said that nothing seemed off and he still is baffled about what happened to him to this day.
"that means you're addicted you should get some help" lol I'll remember this next time I have an urge to go shopping lol thanks Stephanie!
That was so funny! Lol. 👍🏻
Stephanie, have we ever asked about your hair color products, because I want to be a sassy redhead again and your color ALWAYS looks so vibrant!
I watched an interesting show on HBO Max about prescription drug abuse running rampant in the mormon community- to the point where overdoses killed more people than car accidents in one state & had drug dealers 1 block away from the LDS church. The dealers & areas are super sketchy and it makes me worried for him. On the flipside, if i was apart of such a strict religion- id run like the damn wind. So i hope hes safe and happy
You are so cute Stephanie- love Aiden’s addition too. I’m glad you gave a shout out to Aaron Stoner- he’s amazing!
If you wanted to go missing you wouldn’t tell people you’re the guy who went missing. That doesn’t make sense to me
right?!
This case always gets me since I currently live in Henderson NV (Vegas area) so I recognize a ton of the street names and locations, and I've driven by a lot of the places that he was described as having visited in those final days before his disappearance. It's so mysterious! But I'm so happy you're covering this, Stephanie, as I know you're going to have a lot of information I've never heard about this case. Excited for part 2!
I haven't watched your channel in a few months and I was prepped to sing "she's like a sickness in my brain" while you make coffee 🤣 did not expect the bookshelf animation whatsoever
Oh thank you Stephanie...I needed a break from the Summer Moon case out of Tennessee...I can't wait until part 2.
I love your positive attitude and how you want to help families! It is important we work together and try to get answers for these families. All
of these cases are just so sad! That’s why I teach my kids about being aware and also being there for them when they are going through issues because I never want to be a parent in one of these situations. I also wanted to say that I love how you are so thorough with your research and when you do these stories you are including us too. Thanks so much for everything you do and all of your hard work! ❤️🥰💕
I love Mondays because of you. Love your storytelling. Thank you for sharing.
I get SO excited when I see "Part 1" 🥳🥳 That just made my monday!!
What a treat for my day off of work! Thanks for all you do!
Stephanie, I have never left a public comment on UA-cam but I have to say you have a great gift of story telling and narrating, you captivate the audience and you don’t let go. Your style is unique,
Wish you many successes!
PS - Could you do one on the Menéndez brothers?
Thank you so much!
wow thank you so much for sharing his music. That was very beautiful and I feel like a lot of people dont put that much effort into looking into the people are versus how spoopy their stories are. Thank you stephanie for doing that for him and sharing that with us.
It makes me sad that Steven felt like he had to pursue a certain life path that clearly wasn't easy for him. He had so many talents and a beautiful voice. He could have done something totally different and maybe still not married by 30, but been happier I think.
As a single 37/f, I feel this.
@Cuddly Cooper that makes me so sad! He was so talented and even if he wanted to stick to Christian or religious music I think he could have done so much!
Great video as always, Steph. I promise to not research it on my own until I see what you say, I will be anticipating the next part🖤 And I really hope a larger platform latches onto Pravin's story, you've done so much to help💖
16 minutes and no dislikes is kind of unheard of. Does like.... Everyone love Stephanie? The data says yes. Period. Periodt? What do the kids say?
I never know... for some reason my version of UA-cam never shows any dislike on any video... but people will comment there are dislikes sooo idk
Not everyone