i’m really glad you went to college and mentioned that “youtube doesn’t last forever”. some of these current you tubers forget that they won’t be super popular forever, and you have to have a back up plan. so proud of you!
@@jadeeast6728 true, I watched a video detailing the stories of young youtubers overwhelmed by their sudden wealth and spending it on "flexing" etc luxury goods, instead of investing in sound financial planning
@@blue-pj2bp A lot of people who suddenly come in to wealth eventually go broke, youtubers are not an exception. I just watched a video last week about this UA-camr who foreclosed on her mansion and has no savings...
My father always said that the point of a coin toss was not necessarily to make the decision, but like as you said, the moment you toss the coin, you know what you want the answer to be. Good luck in NY
it's really true I ended up having to teach myself that "the toss doesn't HAVE to be the rule and if it lands on the side I realize I didn't want it to, it's not bad/wrong of me to go against the toss" because the point is to figure out what I want, not what fate decided for me
I use this principle too. Though rather than a wise idiom from my father , I learnt it from phoebe in friends. She tells Rachel shes not actually pregnant after all, after a second test. Rachel then realises she kind of wanted to be and feels sad and phoebe tells her she lied - and now she knows how she feels and should keep the baby.
I've watched this video many times already and I realized it just makes me feel so motivated to do things that I want to do. Idk Ashley has this ability to make me rewatch her simple-vloggy videos again and again.
*non new yorkers:* the subway is such a beautiful experience where so many different people come together to travel regardless of class *new yorkers:* it smells like piss
her whole vibe screams ny. especially the home aesthetic. she turned her whole studio into a rustic “i’m paying $5000 for one room in brooklyn” moment and i love it. not to mention the very obvious eye for fashion which is insanely huge there. honestly i think this move will really up her content and most importantly her happiness!
I love that you’re not an ordinary youtuber in the way of using clickbait or other tricks to attract people to your video’s but you are pure and youself and you show your struggles an flaws and you actually make great content that viewers enjoy to watch and I think that’s the reason you are an inspiration to so many of us
I agree so much some other UA-camrs I wach as they grow they start to get more generic and try to have a likeable personality but so far I've been watching her for over a year and I have not seen that genericness in her. I love her so much!
I'm a native Angeleno, born and raised, lived in NYC for 11 years but moved back to L.A. 4 years ago. It's interesting to hear you say all this. Some of what you said is dead 100% true like fake nice, urban planning, and I just about DIED when you talked about traffic because it's SO TRUE. I live 8 min from work but it would take me 30-40 min after work because of traffic. A lot of what you're describing in terms of diets, personal appearance etc the "typical L.A. stereotype", I believe to be "entertainment" related. Most Angelenos in East L.A. or the San Gabriel Valley aren't worried about such shallow things. As far as race, I mean, you live in West L.A. / Central L.A. I don't see how you could feel so out of place considering these two parts of L.A. are the much wealthier areas made up largely by white and asians, especially if you went to UCLA. But I dont live in your shoes. L.A. isn't for everyone one but I'm glad you gave it a shot. Having live in NYC for over a decade, I still miss it very much and there's lots to love about it but I'm glad to be back in L.A.
@Margherita 8-10 minute drive translates to 3 miles distance at 4:45am when Im out the door to go to the gym before work (which is down the street from work. It takes much more than 15 minutes to walk 3 miles.
When i first read the title i was like “She’s moving to NewYork”. She seems like such a NewYork girl, especially with the fashion industry being a huge thing in NY. It’s a perfect fit for Ashley
lol she's too nice to be a new york girl. I'm sure she'll toughen up when she gets here but you definitely gotta have a tougher attitude to make it here
i’ve been watching you for a year now and you seem like an entirely different person. not in an “la changed her” way, but you seem like you are so much more confident and independent. i’m really proud of you. thank you too, because you have helped me get through life a lot. also i want to move to new york so badly. when i go there, i feel like i finally fit in and it feels cozy, but everyone disagrees with me on that point.
i have only gone to ny once and it was when i was little but i totally agree with you! like my parents say “You’d never want to move to New York, don’t do it” but you’re right it feels cozy
i live like a 2-3 hour drive away from nyc, and i love it too. one of my cousins live there too. i would say make sure you can afford it since it’s really expensive. but if everything’s thoroughly planned out, i say go for it.
"Most depressed I've ever felt, most self destructive..." Welcome to your early twenties where you get to break yourself down completely and rebuild yourself into hopefully someone stronger, better, faster.
Oh no, past that thankfully and entering my thirties now. Growing up, it always thought that only your teenage years will break you down like that, but those early 20s are rough.
@@lilyoh5780 feel the breakdown, envision who you want to realistically be or not be, make small goals to mold yourself, stand up, take a deep breath, start walking. You're going to be okay, and you're never fully alone.
I’m a native Angeleno and left California well Los Angeles 10 plus years ago. Moved to Seattle but now after 2020 I’m moving back home and can’t wait to come back home again. I love LA.
Nope. It sucks. My grandparents, parents, myself and kids all raised here in LA. I don't understand why people keep coming here and gentrifying neighborhoods, displacing POC and then complaining about it all while they're ruining our culture being all the exact things they complain about.
Girl when you talked about how comfortable you feel living in a big city surrounded by big buildings and people of all kinds and knowing that you don’t matter that much... i love that feeling but no one has ever understood me on that one since now hahah
Elin Winblad maybe that is what someone can get from my message but it’s not what I totally meant. I like that feeling but I like being successful in what i do, being hardworking and important for those who I know I matter to, but today’s society is simply to overwhelming for us as individuals. It is so easy to be stuck in this circle, which leads to social anxiety, depression, feeling of never being good enough. And based on that, yes, I think that feeling anonymous is great sometimes.
K Will i truly get your point because at the end of the day i think it’s all about experiences and personalities. I live in a small town in Italy, with backyards, neighbours i’ve been knowing since forever, I went to school with everyone who lives here i swear. It’s peaceful and people are nice and for a long time i was convinced that this was the reality of life. But then i started University and i moved to one of the biggest city of the country: that was a new discovery for me. I’ve been surrounded by people my whole life and that was the first time that i could be me without the fear of turning down someone’s expectations, and without having to explain my personal choices. When i wrote that comment my intent was not to denigrate any other life experience so don’t call me an insecure losers just because you love your life and i love mine.
The way Ashley talks about her experiences,her thoughts and idk how she describes life in general feels oddly comforting I can't even properly describe it. It just feels like storytelling,it feels like she voices struggles everyone faces and in a weird way reminds you of how small the world really is,like we really all just through the same shit at the end of the day and it's fine cause we're just so many. That sounds so cheesy but idek i just ~felt that~ you know
I'm a screenwriter that moved to Los Angeles. Currently completing grad school and sometimes I feel like I want to leave Los Angeles. I don't know. And that's okay. Life is filled with uncertainty and I want to enjoy the small things.
I want to become a filmmaker and actor, I wanted to move to LA to get started and make connections but the rent and taxes is scaryyyy 3k a month for a 1 bedroom ?!? Yikes
i’ve lived in brooklyn my entire life and one of the things i love most about this city is how easy it is to ground yourself. when i’m feeling anxious or just need to distract myself, i sit on the red steps at times square and people watch. its really cool to do this later in the night when there aren’t as many people, you really get to take in the beauty of times sq which is something that i forget a lot. and people watching, its usually tourists so you’re seeing their faces, how happy they are and how much fun they’re having. it makes me feel happy and hell i usually end up volunteering to take their pictures lmao. but you don’t have to go there, theres so many places everywhere around the city where you can just sit and take in whats around you. also, i live near the subway and late into the night when i can’t sleep, i close my eyes and listen for the sounds of the trains departing and arriving. it reminds me that i’m not alone, theres people awake right now coming home or leaving for work, and whatever i’m feeling isn’t bigger than me. i hope you find that here too. welcome to new york, baby! ♥️
Nice perspective! I went to New York last year and it was nice having activities to do everyday. Even if you don’t have something planned there’s already so much around you to just explore and go with the flow. I enjoyed that aspect of New York. I did feel a little drop of sadness that comes with the city..And it’s just that it’s so busy and you can tell others around you are hustling as well that you can almost feel like a character in a book that has “awaken”. It feels like others have been hustling along with their fast paced lives that they dont realize the “ system” that they’re in. It becomes almost monotone. I don’t think it’s something that you can’t deal with though. You can find some relieve by using these sources to go out with friends, go sightseeing somewhere, go walking and feel less lonely
i went to times sq not too long ago when i was visiting the us. i was there at night and now that you mention it, it makes me wonder if we might've passed by each other! slim chance but that kind of thing is what makes life wonderful to me XD
They are out there but you really have to filter through all the loads of crap that's out there and that can be quite a challenge. Wish you all the very best in 2020
Ashley, you probably won’t see this, but in case you do: I’ve been binge watching a lot of your videos recently because you put me in a better mood. I was trying to pin down the exact reason why, thinking it was your outfits or the vintage jazzy music or your pretty edits. And although all those things make me excited about fashion and music and artsy stuff, what really gets me is your attitude. I really aspire to be as independent and optimistic and brave as you are. You put effort into so many areas of your life and it pays off. Seeing that makes me wanna put in effort too. But you’re also relatable and make me feel like it’s okay if I’m not productive all the time. You also make me feel like I don’t need a guy to be happy and there are so many things in life that can make me happy. I’m sure lots of people agree with me and I just wanted you to know that you really are a role model to me and make me feel really happy and inspired when I watch your videos. (I don’t usually say things that cheesy that was hard haha)
Gurtoris you know how men walk around their homes with just their underwear on? Some women do that too but with big tshirts or just bralette and underwear, etc. to each their own
Claims looks aren't important. Only dates good looking white, black, Hispanic and mixed race guys that are taller than her and usually 6ft or taller. Watch faceandlms waw 1.1, 1.2, 1.3, 1.4 on UA-cam Has had threesomes and likely more based on what she said, yet most guys never get to experience that before they die let alone get those things on demand LET ALONE EVEN GET TO CONSISTENTLY get sex and love whereas for girls it's on demand. I am a BRITISH INDIAN MALE and have not got to have sex for 6 years now. 0 matches on Tinder in the 5 years I had it.
Edward Cullen okay dude?.... She’s hot which means that she’ll obviously attract hot guys. She can date whoever the heck she wants. You’re obviously very insecure.
That's pretty much just the not having kids part. Source - I'm old & currently living in my 4th country so far this life time. My goal is to live 10 years on each continent except Antarctica before I die.
Unless you homeschool like me :) we travel wherever whenever! Definitely not the same with kids though I love your encouragement in “idk you but I’m proud of you.” That warmed my heart... beautiful to see women supporting women!
I love that when she talks, she never forgets to include other cultures or think about other people’s perspective. And she is always grateful and humble 💕 that is why we keep following your journey
I feel like the little sibling who's talking to her older sister who's telling all her stories about her life and where she move's next, trying to give perspectives about cities and I'm just listening not knowing when I see her next
this video made me cry. I am from Mexico and I moved to another city in the same country to study. And I felt exactly the same. I think is part of the early twenties when you have to break down to become stronger. Hope you feel better in New York!
i love how open she is about everything even when she knows there will be people who hate on her for it and i love that energy because i’m surrounded by so many people who are so insecure it kind of takes over their lives.
It's late Sept of 2022 and I find myself on this channel again. The first time I watched this video, I was a sophmore in college, commuting from home. Fastforward to today when I'm looking up apartment hunting videos for a new job in LA. It's been a while since bestdressed posted a video and looking back, I realize how refreshingly honest and pure of a soul Ashley had. I don't think I understood the value of that until years later. I don't know if she'll ever be back, but I hope Ashley is happy wherever she is, be it as a owner of a clothing line or something else she found passion in. Much love! - your friendly neighborhood subscriber
Until two months ago, I lived in LA my entire life. Except for the fact that it’s wonderful to be able to see the variety of architecture in many of the older neighborhoods there. I think that your analysis is spot on.
as someone who’s born and raised in west LA and still lives here, everything about the video is true. the only caveat is people who grew up here are not superficial/flattering, they’re typically super nice and down to earth. guessing she mingled with a lot of people who were from out of state
YES!! we’ve been given this stereotype of being fake and “entitled” but i feel like thats due to the fact that a lot of people move to California to try to be famous and they’re the ones who are giving us the bad image
Thank you! This is something people who aren't born in L.A always get wrong. They think the natives are these superficial movie star wannabes when it's usually people who weren't born here who act that way and they give a really shitty image of L.A.
@@bryanarreguin8321 Interesting. I definitely feel the opposite. As a Kentuckian who moved out to LA, all natives felt superficial and selfish and all who weren't from LA felt more grounded and empathic. Non-native Angelino's felt like they were all around genuinely caring beings.
It broke my heart when Ashley said "I'm overrated, 2 million people should not care about me" because HONEY all 2 million of us love you to death and you're an amazing human being, please love yourself
the way she talks makes me feel like she was raised fckn right!! she's so mature and intellectual and it's RARE to see an adult have a realistic perspective towards society.
My first time watching your videos and Your being open and telling how you feel without remorse is great. In my 59 years of life your openness is refreshing
aesthetically dead lmfao im so analytical and mull over all small decisions but i also just last minute decided where i was going to college for the next 4-5 years and did not regret it at all sometimes you gotta go with your gut
@@snailmail4 I am an incel. I've been filming for 5 years and will produce viral videos soon. followed by the 5 years of video and audio recordings of my many conversations with girls. Watch the videos I wrote about on UA-cam. Instead of empathy and sympathy we receive comments like yours. I asked my doctor for assisted suicide because it's so painful to have to constantly be rejected by thousands of girls, and to not get any love and sex. It's a very serious global epidemic we men are facing. And I'm about to make people understand it. It's not what the media and popular beliefs would have you think.
i miss her each and everyday. but also happy that she looks happier now surrounded by lovely friends, hope you'll comeback to youtube soon ash, i miss youu
Great, honest information. People who want to move to LA need to hear your breakdown. You did an excellent job. Im a 63 year old man and I learned a lot from you. Thanks!
You really hit the nail on the head with the independence thing in LA. People there (and really America as a whole compared to other places) are so entrepreneurial and independent, it’s an admirable trait and an exciting energy to be around. But I too have found that when it’s taken to that extreme, people forget that community and being there to support others is just as important. If everyone wants to be exceptional it’s very isolating, everyone is just out there hustling without any time to be there for others. I had that spirit growing up, but eventually decided I’d rather give up my own crazy dreams and support others if it meant I got to live life alongside a strong community of people I care about.
Humans are naturally social and we need people either we like it or not. This is coming from a introvert with social anxiety. Independence isn't always fun.
ive been here since before 1M and im still feel like i can relate to you. youre one of the realest people in our social media age. everytime i watch ur vids i remember its ok to feel lost!! hope things go well for you! :)
Actually, that number is likely much higher, because, for various reasons, not everybody who watches her videos, end up subscribing to her account! I didn't at first.
@@sivvue Watch the videos I told you about. Google Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Learn about mental health and the many requirements (needs) to be happy. I'll be starting my channel soon. I've been filming my conversations with girls for 5 years having got tired of being blamed as to the reason why I don't get girls. I'm happy to video call on Skype with you to discuss this. It will be recorded and uploaded to my channel. I'll be starting soon. Viral videos first followed by the 5 years of vlogs, audio recordings, video recordings and videos/screenshots of messages. Some girls understand and are aware of the epidemic. Most aren't and like yourself are oppressive. I asked my doctor for assisted suicide because I'm constantly rejected over and over. You don't know how it feels to be rejected by pretty much every person you find attractive. No sex or love for 6 years. You cannot even begin to understand the trauma and pain. Which is why for 5 years I've been carefully documenting every day of my life. Watch the videos. Don't skip. Watch all of the waw series without being angry. Without bias. Every good person deserves to be happy. Sex, physical affection and love are NEEDS. NOT wants. Mental health is extremely important. A constant deprivation of love and sex, as with any extended deprivation of a need will lead to homicide or suicide. It's the end result. The journey to either of those isn't sudden. We've already seen homicide cases such as Elliot Rodger and the Toronto van incident. No one wants more deaths. If YOU were deprived of your needs, it wouldn't take long before you would break down too. You're human just like I am. Faceandlms explains very well how the majority of girls feel entitled to far better looking guys than themselves. Take a look at a video titled something like 'I feel entitled to an able bodied chad'. Chad = fuckboy. 'A related study at Columbia tried to estimate how much men of different ethnic groups would need to earn to become as desirable to a woman as a man of her own race. With all other factors normalized, an Asian man would have to earn an additional $247,000 to stand on equal footing with his white counterpart and $220,000 to match up with an African-American suitor. ' Why did you make an ASSUMPTION about my health? As for your 'maybe replying in UA-cam comments' etc ... I've approached between 8 to 10 thousand girls in Munich, Berlin, Spain and London. It cost me £15,000 on food, flights and accommodation to do that, approaching girls for up to 10 hours a day. Out of that many girls only 2 had sex with me. 30 to 40 made out with me and didn't want anything more. As a girl it's on demand for you. You get it when you want it with guys far more attractive than yourself. I've filmed girls telling me they know that's how it is. And some also have been filmed saying they know of this global epidemic men are facing and they agree they only want white men and sometimes the other races I've mentioned and always better looking than themselves. Met some very pretty very nice girls along the way and some very very horrible ones. Same for guys. Met some nice and some douchebags. Met far far more horrible girls than I did guys. Even met some racist ones. The reason I didn't get matches on tinder should be obvious. Looks. Made an account using an attractive white guy and had matches within a day. Made his bio horrible. Women hating. Still he got matches and unsolicited messages that were interested in him. I filmed it all. The face is the most important part of the body. It's what we look at first. Watch looks theory here on UA-cam. I don't reply for fun. I screenshot everything for my channel. Going without love and sex and constantly being rejected and having to see beautiful girls everywhere is mental torture. TORTURE. It's a strong word and I choose my words carefully.
Usually when it comes to people moving to LA, they tend to stay in the realm of people who are also outsiders but with the mentality of being the best out of everyone else, for example Hollywood, Silverlake, Beverly Hills etc. They don't bother to seek out genuine people born and raised here and immerse themselves in cultural areas where the true heart of LA lies. It's like they created their own world of vanity and destruction in our city that is now taking over via gentrification.
It’s interesting to see the perspective of someone from the East Coast. I think that on the West Coast, rather than seeing it as being “fake-nice”, we see it as being polite or friendly. It’s like how you said, we are pretty spread out here, so you are oftentimes unlikely to run into people again, and it’s more about having a casual interaction that is ultimately insignificant but positive. I can see how people who are not from the West Coast might see these interactions as shallow or fake, but it’s just kind of part of the culture of independence. I also think the “Mean Girls”-esque reference to the “fake-nice” people who talk behind your back is a projection of insecurity which I personally struggle with. Usually, people are self-centered and are not actually thinking about you or picking you apart. I think people here generally are pretty genuine and suffering from the same insecurities that we all are.
I've lived in LA for many years being single and not single. I totally loved living in LA. Like she said different neighborhoods and different circle of friends make a difference. I've lived mostly in K-town close to Wilshire and also downtown. Always only a few blocks from my office. Also I could always escape and go to anyone of my sisters 30 mins (I have 4) or back to my parents in 1.5 hours. She had a difficult time because she's at a time in her life where people struggle to find out who they are and what they want in life. I think she would've felt the same way to a certain level living somewhere else. I didn't realize LA was so superficial until I moved away. I've lived overseas for 8 years now. I wear makeup once or twice a week when I feel like it. Not everyday because I don't feel the pressure to compete to be prettier than the girl next to me. Thank God for my sisters because it was impossible to make girlfriends in LA. And I'm talking real friends! Not ones who threaten to break up with their bf because he was hanging out with me alone because she didn't want to come to a planned outing at the last minute and warned her bf that I'm promiscuous. I was single. My sex life was not a matter for her to judge. I was a good friend. Her boyfriend was a good guy. (Sorry for the rant). So her jealousy came from within and she was reflecting her insecurities because we gave her no reason. I have to say most of my friendship with girls never went pass surface level and I think it had mostly to do that the culture/society made us competitors and enemies at the start. This then comes to insecurity comment. Please everyone has insecurities. I don't agree that she is insecure or her opinion about LA stems from her insecurities. LA is fake as fuck. What she said about meeting people and the second question they ask you is "what do you do?" This is not only LA but very American. Really if you read between the lines "what do you do?" Translates to "how can you boost my societal standing/ financial situation/what clubs can you get me in." The only point where I have a different opinion from Ashley is that white blonde girls are the ideal there. LA is so mixed! Being a pretty Asian girl in LA got me into a lot of places. And yes I can call myself pretty without being conceited or full or myself. I had a lot of personal problems as a young adult on how to identify myself being a Vietnamese American. Because in the US you can only be one or the other or to Caucasian Americans I'm always the other. My biggest pet peeve was always being asked "where are you from?" And if I told people I'm from LA they would follow with "but no really... Where are you from?" And they literally won't stop until I say what they want to hear. Okay. I'm stopping myself from writing more. The end.
in my humble opinion people in u.s especially white race have very "fake nice" from stayed in n.c state for 3 months experience. They compliment every bit of you and make u believe they r trustworthy and geniune kind person minute u turn behind your back they would talk shit about u and make some groundless rumour abt u. I think they really don't prefer to be a honest bad guy over being 2 faced
me, from nyc: YEEEEEEEEEEE My favorite part about living here is honestly the feel that there’s so much opportunity out there to do so much more. It’s a bit of a spin off of how small NY can make you feel. It makes me feel small bc there’s so much more going on around me.
I just moved from New York City to Norfolk, Virginia, (which is still a city, but more spread out and there are houses) and this video made me miss seeing people on the street and being able to walk everywhere. Now I have to own a car and it makes me sad.
I'm born and raised in NYC and considered moving to LA since I work in TV/Film, and watching this omg I'm so grateful to be from here, think LA would still be a blast, but NYC is where it has my heart!! 🤗🗽💗
Skye L lmao. i mean i can’t stand london so i probably would’ve gone if she did a meet and greet and that would be the only reason but then again i fell the same about New York so whatever really. also i have this fear of the world finding out how shit england is. like when they go there on holidays they’re all like it’s lovely but you get bored of england fast and i don’t want the country to be exposed just yet.
No. I definitely hoped she'd come here. I'm such an introvert. But I'd totally travel into London to have coffee and talk random crap at an inappropriate hour.
As someone who has lived in NY my whole life and recently moved to SoCal, I can't express how seen this video has made me feel. Idk, maybe it's just homesickness or the pandemic, but I realized how much I wanted to live in NYC only after moving here. Nothing at all against the West coast or the people who live here but it's like you said, it's hard to put my finger on, but I just feel so much more in-tune with how people on the East coast interact.
I'm so proud of how far you've come I remember subscribing to you when you had 500k subscribers thinking "the heck, she's awesome why doesn't she have more subscribers" and lo and behold you're here with more than 2M subscribers, moving to NY. I'm so happy for you
The version of LA she describes is why I was always so averse to moving there, but when I got a really good job opportunity in LA I went for it anyway. I had an entirely different experience, but I mostly stuck to the Eastside, met a lot of people from different places and also met a lot of and ended up dating an LA native. Not to mention I'm in the medical field so it's a whole different vibe. I felt very welcomed and had a blast. I know that the LA she describes is out there and one a lot of people experience, but it really does depend who you meet. Wish you the best of luck on your move!
I think it's the equivalent of moving to NYC and living in Soho, Noho, Greenwich Village, Chelsea, UWS, or UES. That's where the snobby but still trend-oriented rich young people live. People living in other parts of the city are nothing like that (though much of the rest of Manhattan below central park is for well off but less trendy people).
The LA shes talking about is pretty much weho, Fairfax, la brea, and to a certain extent silverlake and echo park lol. Basically where all the transplants meet other transplants chasing dreams of stardom and complain about Angelenos being so "fake" but never hang out in places like east LA or the 626 or the valley or south bay etc etc.
@@giovannichao4154 can't agree more. I lived in downtown LA and now living in east side. West hollywood, silver lake and those places in the west are definitely more "fake" than any other places. but that's where people would like to choose to live if they just got to LA, especially for those dreamers in fashion or movie..
"Loneliest I have ever been" I lived there for 5 years so I can relate. Everything you say from the lack of desire to go out due to the hassle of driving, traffic and parking, to how people interact with each other is soooooo true.
@@hiphoploverjon9180 are you fr saying that people find bad urban planning and traffic annoying because...theyre weak? why are yall americans so aggresive
hey ashley!! I'm not sure if you'll read this but I just hope you know that there are so many people who support you(including me!) and love you for who you are. Being open on youtube and sharing yourself and your art to the world is not an easy thing to do and i really appreciate all you've done. there's really malicious commentary on you out there and i really hate to hear it because it's misogyny, internal or otherwise. I want you to know that there are many of us supporting you and love you, you've opened yourself to us and it helps us get through our own life situations as well. I'm sorry for rambling on but the backlash you're getting for you being you is insanely disrespectful and rude. i love you so much for being so strong. I'll keep supporting you no matter what! Keep fighting!!
i shed a tear when ashley said "i'm moving to new york, baby!" and i have no idea why. i think i'm just really happy that she's making a (not-so-easy) decision to live a better, happier life. it might also be the fact that i'm feeling stuck at this particular point in my life and wish i could do something similar to this. nevertheless, so excited for your journey, ashley!! lots of love from indonesia x
Michelle Lionard I cried so hard because in a way she’s living my dream and she just speaks to me on a level of what I want to be able to do when I grow up. And when I watch her videos I realize that I’m in 10th grade and I’m almost there and I just cry tears of joy for her and for me. Omg I literally cried the second she said that she already knew in her heart where she wanted to go because it was just so emotional for me omg.
Same to me girl! I'm also Indonesian and I feel like my purpose and where i want to live in a long run is not here in Surabaya. But the sad thing is, we as Indonesians have it pretty hard to apply for visa in the first world countries
And that’s why I live in riverside county in California. There are so many other cities in California other than Los Angeles and San Francisco. It’s more beautiful here too and somewhat more relaxed
I am from Vegas and I have lived in 6 states, one thing I can say about living in different cities in the US, in the future you will cherish your memories of California. You have perspective and a right to say why you don't like LA--because you made the leap! Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Life is an adventure and I am excited to hear about your new experiences. If they are positive, AWESOME! If they suck? You just make another decision. Carpe diem.
i’m really glad you went to college and mentioned that “youtube doesn’t last forever”. some of these current you tubers forget that they won’t be super popular forever, and you have to have a back up plan. so proud of you!
Gabrielle Tillmon a lot of young people don’t know much about that though, so i’d doubt it
@@jadeeast6728 true, I watched a video detailing the stories of young youtubers overwhelmed by their sudden wealth and spending it on "flexing" etc luxury goods, instead of investing in sound financial planning
@@blue-pj2bp A lot of people who suddenly come in to wealth eventually go broke, youtubers are not an exception. I just watched a video last week about this UA-camr who foreclosed on her mansion and has no savings...
@@Daisika sounds fun! good luck :)
@@Mac-dt3iz that sounds like a nightmare. but yeah it seems to be the case with lots of people who come into wealth suddenly eg lottery winners
You know what this means? We're getting whole new apartment hunt, apartment makeover, city tour. Yes!
Nivi Luwang my favorite types of videos!!! 😭😭
Somebody call The Sorry Girls.
Sarah K would be funnier if she still edited their videos
just what i'm waiting for lol
This girl speaks way too much for most guys to be remotely interested in her.
My father always said that the point of a coin toss was not necessarily to make the decision, but like as you said, the moment you toss the coin, you know what you want the answer to be. Good luck in NY
Brilliant.
I love that!
it's really true
I ended up having to teach myself that "the toss doesn't HAVE to be the rule and if it lands on the side I realize I didn't want it to, it's not bad/wrong of me to go against the toss" because the point is to figure out what I want, not what fate decided for me
So true !!
I use this principle too. Though rather than a wise idiom from my father , I learnt it from phoebe in friends. She tells Rachel shes not actually pregnant after all, after a second test. Rachel then realises she kind of wanted to be and feels sad and phoebe tells her she lied - and now she knows how she feels and should keep the baby.
I've watched this video many times already and I realized it just makes me feel so motivated to do things that I want to do. Idk Ashley has this ability to make me rewatch her simple-vloggy videos again and again.
i feel like we live vicariously thru her, but at the same time we're encouraged to go out and make our own lives and adventures
@@justkay233 exactly
Why does this feel like a season finale
bahaha i love this
EXACTLY what i was thinking about
I know haha
IKR like the end f season 1
Jamie X lmaooo best way to describe it.
i love how she indirectly spoiled where she was moving to by giving way more situations influencing her decision and the radiating enthusiasm
true! i knew she was picking NY right away
Damn I guessed London haha maybe bc that's where I wanna go!! Haha
Casey Mills yeah I swear she said she was moving to London!
me, a non American who has zero plans to move to america or london:
*watches the whole video EXTREMELY attentively*
Lol same
Same 😂 it’s like a documentary i love it
LOL! I was taking mental notes man
truuuue... I'm German✌🏻
I live in Greece lol
omg ashley moving to NY means lookbooks that my cold east coast ass can actually wear
Let's Celebrate!!!!
sameeee that my cold new york ass can actually wear
I’m quaking in Canadian
*laughs in new jersey*
Amen!!
Imagine the evolution of her lookbooks y’all once she moves!! We’re not ready !!!
cannot waitttt
So truuuuue. Finally outfits I'll be able to wear during winter 😍 *european enthousiasm*
I can’t wait for these actual winter looks
@@ViveSiham where in Europe do u come from -fellow european
Me sitting in India watching ashley complain about LA’s urban planning👀👄👀
🤣🤣🤣😂😂 This comment hit me harder than it should’ve have
Girl same 😂
Same here... I'm here with her now...
Me too. From LA and sitting in India. We Americans are never happy. Well I am.
@@nursekathy4480 Are you saying you are happier in India than you were in LA?
*non new yorkers:* the subway is such a beautiful experience where so many different people come together to travel regardless of class
*new yorkers:* it smells like piss
It does!
don’t forget the rats!! And the constant delays!!!!!
I was wondering how long until we get a vlog about how she's learned to avoid eye contact with the crazy guy on the subway lmfao
Same for London
When I visited New York a while back we took the subway and there was literal shit smeared all over one of the benches 😂
her whole vibe screams ny. especially the home aesthetic. she turned her whole studio into a rustic “i’m paying $5000 for one room in brooklyn” moment and i love it. not to mention the very obvious eye for fashion which is insanely huge there. honestly i think this move will really up her content and most importantly her happiness!
James Franko i mean it was just an exaggerated analogy but alright
I love that you’re not an ordinary youtuber in the way of using clickbait or other tricks to attract people to your video’s but you are pure and youself and you show your struggles an flaws and you actually make great content that viewers enjoy to watch and I think that’s the reason you are an inspiration to so many of us
Janna Elzinga but as soon as someone makes a joke she deletes it
I agree so much some other UA-camrs I wach as they grow they start to get more generic and try to have a likeable personality but so far I've been watching her for over a year and I have not seen that genericness in her. I love her so much!
I'm a native Angeleno, born and raised, lived in NYC for 11 years but moved back to L.A. 4 years ago. It's interesting to hear you say all this. Some of what you said is dead 100% true like fake nice, urban planning, and I just about DIED when you talked about traffic because it's SO TRUE. I live 8 min from work but it would take me 30-40 min after work because of traffic. A lot of what you're describing in terms of diets, personal appearance etc the "typical L.A. stereotype", I believe to be "entertainment" related. Most Angelenos in East L.A. or the San Gabriel Valley aren't worried about such shallow things. As far as race, I mean, you live in West L.A. / Central L.A. I don't see how you could feel so out of place considering these two parts of L.A. are the much wealthier areas made up largely by white and asians, especially if you went to UCLA. But I dont live in your shoes. L.A. isn't for everyone one but I'm glad you gave it a shot. Having live in NYC for over a decade, I still miss it very much and there's lots to love about it but I'm glad to be back in L.A.
@Margherita 8-10 minute drive translates to 3 miles distance at 4:45am when Im out the door to go to the gym before work (which is down the street from work. It takes much more than 15 minutes to walk 3 miles.
@Margherita I tried to bike my 8 mile commute (1 hr in a car in traffic) but it was ridiculously hard because of the inclines.
Not died. /
Nobody cares
Any tips for living in NY?
When i first read the title i was like “She’s moving to NewYork”. She seems like such a NewYork girl, especially with the fashion industry being a huge thing in NY. It’s a perfect fit for Ashley
Lunalivvy I live in ny. Everybody wears sweatpants and sweaters or something here.
@@uaenaonce8231 I mean it does depend on the neighborhood but you're right no one dresses nicely day to day
lol she's too nice to be a new york girl. I'm sure she'll toughen up when she gets here but you definitely gotta have a tougher attitude to make it here
Lunalivvy Me too
uaena*once I’m not saying everyone is fashionable in NY just that the fashion industry is huge there
i’ve been watching you for a year now and you seem like an entirely different person. not in an “la changed her” way, but you seem like you are so much more confident and independent. i’m really proud of you. thank you too, because you have helped me get through life a lot.
also i want to move to new york so badly. when i go there, i feel like i finally fit in and it feels cozy, but everyone disagrees with me on that point.
What do they disagree on?
-yushiio;; I agree so much LA has assisted ashley in her growth
Atypically Normal
I think that NYC is “cozy”
P. S I love your profile picture 💜
i have only gone to ny once and it was when i was little but i totally agree with you! like my parents say “You’d never want to move to New York, don’t do it” but you’re right it feels cozy
i live like a 2-3 hour drive away from nyc, and i love it too. one of my cousins live there too. i would say make sure you can afford it since it’s really expensive. but if everything’s thoroughly planned out, i say go for it.
ANOTHER APARTMENT VIDEO IS COMING UP I CAN FEEL IT AND IM SO EXCITED
yesssss!
I’ve lived in Southern California my entire life. LA isn’t cut out for everyone.
💯 as LA native born and raise , I can relate
Yeah. My sister lives there (prior to moving there she was born and raised in a small town in the Central Valley). She loves it there.
Its different to come from the place as opposed to come to the place
I live in Orange County most of my life. I have lived in LA and love it. ❤️
@rico yungboy 401 nope. Please don't come.
"Most depressed I've ever felt, most self destructive..." Welcome to your early twenties where you get to break yourself down completely and rebuild yourself into hopefully someone stronger, better, faster.
True
Oh no, past that thankfully and entering my thirties now. Growing up, it always thought that only your teenage years will break you down like that, but those early 20s are rough.
@Kim hoping for the best for you in all stages of life whichever one you may be in. :)
okay but why did I just start crying reading this comment?
@@lilyoh5780 feel the breakdown, envision who you want to realistically be or not be, make small goals to mold yourself, stand up, take a deep breath, start walking. You're going to be okay, and you're never fully alone.
"I cannot be likable to 2 million people" 😭😂 You're doing a great job!!
k
K
You are likeable to all of us!
K
She should come to Sweden to see public transport done right
can't believe i actually sat through 30 mins of someone talking and enjoyed every minute of it haha ily ashley im so so excited for you!!
s same
I always think about it hahaha
I’m a native Angeleno and left California well Los Angeles 10 plus years ago. Moved to Seattle but now after 2020 I’m moving back home and can’t wait to come back home again. I love LA.
Same I moved to texas lol
haha u must love the 47 percent taxes if ur making 400k+
Nope. It sucks. My grandparents, parents, myself and kids all raised here in LA. I don't understand why people keep coming here and gentrifying neighborhoods, displacing POC and then complaining about it all while they're ruining our culture being all the exact things they complain about.
Girl when you talked about how comfortable you feel living in a big city surrounded by big buildings and people of all kinds and knowing that you don’t matter that much... i love that feeling but no one has ever understood me on that one since now hahah
Endrikela Troci sounds like you’re describing how it feels to be anonymous
Sigh...your comment makes me miss living in new York 😢
Elin Winblad maybe that is what someone can get from my message but it’s not what I totally meant. I like that feeling but I like being successful in what i do, being hardworking and important for those who I know I matter to, but today’s society is simply to overwhelming for us as individuals. It is so easy to be stuck in this circle, which leads to social anxiety, depression, feeling of never being good enough. And based on that, yes, I think that feeling anonymous is great sometimes.
K Will i truly get your point because at the end of the day i think it’s all about experiences and personalities. I live in a small town in Italy, with backyards, neighbours i’ve been knowing since forever, I went to school with everyone who lives here i swear. It’s peaceful and people are nice and for a long time i was convinced that this was the reality of life. But then i started University and i moved to one of the biggest city of the country: that was a new discovery for me. I’ve been surrounded by people my whole life and that was the first time that i could be me without the fear of turning down someone’s expectations, and without having to explain my personal choices. When i wrote that comment my intent was not to denigrate any other life experience so don’t call me an insecure losers just because you love your life and i love mine.
The way Ashley talks about her experiences,her thoughts and idk how she describes life in general feels oddly comforting I can't even properly describe it. It just feels like storytelling,it feels like she voices struggles everyone faces and in a weird way reminds you of how small the world really is,like we really all just through the same shit at the end of the day and it's fine cause we're just so many. That sounds so cheesy but idek i just ~felt that~ you know
Ur comment? I felt that
When she said she’s gonna move in january, I thought Oh, that’s stil, a couple of months from now. Then I realized that’s next month...
Sofie Harweg yeah i thought the same
same!! She was like 'only a few weeks from now!' and I was like....holup?
lmaaaao same
Sameeeee
Next week almost. Lol
I'm a screenwriter that moved to Los Angeles. Currently completing grad school and sometimes I feel like I want to leave Los Angeles. I don't know. And that's okay. Life is filled with uncertainty and I want to enjoy the small things.
Hey, how's it going?!
I want to become a filmmaker and actor, I wanted to move to LA to get started and make connections but the rent and taxes is scaryyyy 3k a month for a 1 bedroom ?!? Yikes
i’ve lived in brooklyn my entire life and one of the things i love most about this city is how easy it is to ground yourself. when i’m feeling anxious or just need to distract myself, i sit on the red steps at times square and people watch. its really cool to do this later in the night when there aren’t as many people, you really get to take in the beauty of times sq which is something that i forget a lot. and people watching, its usually tourists so you’re seeing their faces, how happy they are and how much fun they’re having. it makes me feel happy and hell i usually end up volunteering to take their pictures lmao. but you don’t have to go there, theres so many places everywhere around the city where you can just sit and take in whats around you. also, i live near the subway and late into the night when i can’t sleep, i close my eyes and listen for the sounds of the trains departing and arriving. it reminds me that i’m not alone, theres people awake right now coming home or leaving for work, and whatever i’m feeling isn’t bigger than me. i hope you find that here too. welcome to new york, baby! ♥️
Lucy Xi me 2!
Nice perspective! I went to New York last year and it was nice having activities to do everyday. Even if you don’t have something planned there’s already so much around you to just explore and go with the flow. I enjoyed that aspect of New York. I did feel a little drop of sadness that comes with the city..And it’s just that it’s so busy and you can tell others around you are hustling as well that you can almost feel like a character in a book that has “awaken”. It feels like others have been hustling along with their fast paced lives that they dont realize the “ system” that they’re in. It becomes almost monotone. I don’t think it’s something that you can’t deal with though. You can find some relieve by using these sources to go out with friends, go sightseeing somewhere, go walking and feel less lonely
Jenn R I think you’re the first person I’ve ever seen calling Times Square beautiful 😂
i went to times sq not too long ago when i was visiting the us. i was there at night and now that you mention it, it makes me wonder if we might've passed by each other! slim chance but that kind of thing is what makes life wonderful to me XD
Your vibe is entirely NY. *Imagine* the amount of jackets you’ll be able to wear bc of the weather lol
Just as i was saying
I know right? already imagine ashley walking on the streets, rocking those jackets feeling like andy sachs lmao
facts
No
Bee Girl I get that. Trust me, I know New York. I’m just saying she can layer a lot of them and still look amazing
"I'd rather have someone be mean to me than fake nice." Girl, NYC is the place for you! :)
Ammy Geiger this is why I love England, if someone’s mean to you it’s cause your mean, they’re not really gonna fake much
!!!!!
I can confirm
This quote alone makes me want to leave LA.
Everyone is fake nice lol
Some newyorkers are mean... :(
2020 resolution: find pure and genuine people, like Ashley, to be friends with in this world
They are out there but you really have to filter through all the loads of crap that's out there and that can be quite a challenge. Wish you all the very best in 2020
RockstahRolln thank you!
love this resolution!
YES
for real !I love her vibe . I wanted to hate her so much because she's so pure but I can't i love her
Ashley, you probably won’t see this, but in case you do:
I’ve been binge watching a lot of your videos recently because you put me in a better mood. I was trying to pin down the exact reason why, thinking it was your outfits or the vintage jazzy music or your pretty edits. And although all those things make me excited about fashion and music and artsy stuff, what really gets me is your attitude. I really aspire to be as independent and optimistic and brave as you are. You put effort into so many areas of your life and it pays off. Seeing that makes me wanna put in effort too. But you’re also relatable and make me feel like it’s okay if I’m not productive all the time. You also make me feel like I don’t need a guy to be happy and there are so many things in life that can make me happy.
I’m sure lots of people agree with me and I just wanted you to know that you really are a role model to me and make me feel really happy and inspired when I watch your videos.
(I don’t usually say things that cheesy that was hard haha)
somehow this reminded me of a quote from murakami that “not matter how far you travel you can’t get away from yourself”
travel does illuminate a lot though. you just need to be self-aware of your insecurities and deep-seeded issues, and she seems like she does
wherever you go, there you are :)
Ah yes murakami ✨✨✨
I feel like Ashley’s style will undergo a significant change where ever she moves, like the city will change her style and her perspective
It definitely will! I moved from LA to Paris last year and my style was starting to become really influenced by french and parisian style
*a psychic has entered the chat*
Melissa Lynn it’s awesome to see how styles change with different environments
Rabia Pie haha I’m just so excited to see her grow and evolve like yesssss
Yeah she might actually need warm clothes now
"i'm so scared of you guys some times"
me: eating ice cream in front of my laptop and no pants on
Wtf ?
i am doing literally the exact same
@@haleighwilson3439 yesss girl
😂
Gurtoris you know how men walk around their homes with just their underwear on? Some women do that too but with big tshirts or just bralette and underwear, etc.
to each their own
I love you. I love how you said there's comfort in seeing how small and insignificant you are. There definitely is a great humbling comfort there.
when you said, “i don’t want to feel important”, i genuinely felt that
Same.
Claims looks aren't important. Only dates good looking white, black, Hispanic and mixed race guys that are taller than her and usually 6ft or taller.
Watch faceandlms waw 1.1, 1.2, 1.3, 1.4 on UA-cam
Has had threesomes and likely more based on what she said, yet most guys never get to experience that before they die let alone get those things on demand LET ALONE EVEN GET TO CONSISTENTLY get sex and love whereas for girls it's on demand.
I am a BRITISH INDIAN MALE and have not got to have sex for 6 years now.
0 matches on Tinder in the 5 years I had it.
Edward Cullen okay dude?.... She’s hot which means that she’ll obviously attract hot guys. She can date whoever the heck she wants. You’re obviously very insecure.
Edward Cullen I think the problem here isn’t look...
Edward Cullen stop replying this on every comment. women don’t owe you anything and obviously you’re the problem if no one has liked you in years
joe goldberg just moved into LA so, gud call
fjwjxjrjw I was about to comment she did a reverse joe goldberg
Don't worry "Joe" will find her no matter where she goes. And she will be swept away by him just like all the others.
🤣🤣🤣 I just started watching that show lol. Good laugh mate.
I hear he’s moving to the PNW for season three. That’s where I live. Can’t wait for joe to discover pour overs, Gortex and Bigfoot.
The two best Ashley metaphors:
Dating is like a deck of cards.
Life is like a train.
Iconic.
those are similes
I’ve been in l.a for 4 years and love it here. I think it’s also what kind of crowds you attract that makes the experience good or bad.
What is a good neighborhood?
Best thing about being young with no kids is you can go wherever you want whenever you want. Idk you but I’m proud of you.
That's pretty much just the not having kids part. Source - I'm old & currently living in my 4th country so far this life time. My goal is to live 10 years on each continent except Antarctica before I die.
wwaxwork Well take it how it resonates.
You also need to have money though. If you’re por you’re screwed lol
Unless you homeschool like me :) we travel wherever whenever! Definitely not the same with kids though
I love your encouragement in “idk you but I’m proud of you.” That warmed my heart... beautiful to see women supporting women!
26:33 so you're moving to NYC because you want to have a "slutty fun time" ....LOL am I the only one who caught that???????????????
I love that when she talks, she never forgets to include other cultures or think about other people’s perspective. And she is always grateful and humble 💕 that is why we keep following your journey
I want to hang out with her and I don't even know this chic!
I feel like the little sibling who's talking to her older sister who's telling all her stories about her life and where she move's next, trying to give perspectives about cities and I'm just listening not knowing when I see her next
I have little sisters and I really felt this. I got to spend Christmas with them yesterday! :)
this video made me cry.
I am from Mexico and I moved to another city in the same country to study. And I felt exactly the same. I think is part of the early twenties when you have to break down to become stronger. Hope you feel better in New York!
what part was what brought you tears?
i feel like the influencer side of LA's like a high school version of a city
eh not really
This is very true I thought of the same analogy
Sooo True , I've been in LA since 96. It is Fake as all Hell!
this is honestly so true everyone is fucking fake, born and raised in la, glad i moved too
Yes it's like a high school. A bad Public High School to be specific.
i couldn’t stop looking at her necklace just shimmering 🤩
i love how open she is about everything even when she knows there will be people who hate on her for it and i love that energy because i’m surrounded by so many people who are so insecure it kind of takes over their lives.
It's late Sept of 2022 and I find myself on this channel again. The first time I watched this video, I was a sophmore in college, commuting from home. Fastforward to today when I'm looking up apartment hunting videos for a new job in LA.
It's been a while since bestdressed posted a video and looking back, I realize how refreshingly honest and pure of a soul Ashley had. I don't think I understood the value of that until years later. I don't know if she'll ever be back, but I hope Ashley is happy wherever she is, be it as a owner of a clothing line or something else she found passion in.
Much love! - your friendly neighborhood subscriber
Ashley: "2 million people should not care about me"
Me: *gasps for air*
Shreeya Sangani insert *shocked Pikachu* meme 😂😂😂😂
exactly what I did
I would love a “How to make friends as an adult” video ☺️
We need it
same.. i think i need a course in it.. literally
blackmail. works good
because if u are an adult and still have no friends - casual solutions are not going to work
I think she spoke about this in a video after she and her boyfriend broke up
YES
i love how respectful and humble she was while simultaneously complaining about LA haha i love this woman :')
We stan a sweet badass QUEEN...
Ikr I live near LA and I wanted to get mad but couldn't lol
Until two months ago, I lived in LA my entire life. Except for the fact that it’s wonderful to be able to see the variety of architecture in many of the older neighborhoods there. I think that your analysis is spot on.
as someone who’s born and raised in west LA and still lives here, everything about the video is true. the only caveat is people who grew up here are not superficial/flattering, they’re typically super nice and down to earth. guessing she mingled with a lot of people who were from out of state
YES!! we’ve been given this stereotype of being fake and “entitled” but i feel like thats due to the fact that a lot of people move to California to try to be famous and they’re the ones who are giving us the bad image
Thank you! This is something people who aren't born in L.A always get wrong. They think the natives are these superficial movie star wannabes when it's usually people who weren't born here who act that way and they give a really shitty image of L.A.
bryan arreguin true I just be vibing
@@bryanarreguin8321 Interesting. I definitely feel the opposite. As a Kentuckian who moved out to LA, all natives felt superficial and selfish and all who weren't from LA felt more grounded and empathic. Non-native Angelino's felt like they were all around genuinely caring beings.
i totally feel this all us locals are just out here vibing with the good weather and beaches
It broke my heart when Ashley said "I'm overrated, 2 million people should not care about me" because HONEY all 2 million of us love you to death and you're an amazing human being, please love yourself
ikr i love her! idk why i havent been watching her videos!!✨💓
As soon as I read this she said it lol
@@zahravalizadeh7432 that happens to me all the time lolol
I mean if she's going to call an entire city of 4 million people overrated maybe she's telling the truth about herself.
*2.86 million people
the way she talks makes me feel like she was raised fckn right!! she's so mature and intellectual and it's RARE to see an adult have a realistic perspective towards society.
My first time watching your videos and Your being open and telling how you feel without remorse is great. In my 59 years of life your openness is refreshing
moving states is a big life-altering decision
ashley: *lets flip a coin and see where i go*
aesthetically dead lmfao im so analytical and mull over all small decisions but i also just last minute decided where i was going to college for the next 4-5 years and did not regret it at all
sometimes you gotta go with your gut
Edward Cullen whats ur point 💀
@@edwardcullen3251 shut up incel
@@wendyev310 watch the videos I wrote here on UA-cam
@@snailmail4 I am an incel. I've been filming for 5 years and will produce viral videos soon. followed by the 5 years of video and audio recordings of my many conversations with girls.
Watch the videos I wrote about on UA-cam.
Instead of empathy and sympathy we receive comments like yours. I asked my doctor for assisted suicide because it's so painful to have to constantly be rejected by thousands of girls, and to not get any love and sex.
It's a very serious global epidemic we men are facing. And I'm about to make people understand it. It's not what the media and popular beliefs would have you think.
"comforting feeling that i don't actually matter that much" a sentence that i never thought i'd hear... and i loved it tbh!!!
I found really interesting how the necklace with stars twinkled.
It’s because her head is moving so the necklace is moving too
Thanks, now I can’t stop looking at the necklace- 😅
Nyan Miku it’s in her description she always puts her outfits there and where to buy them
lubs ahri I couldn’t stop staring at that! 😂
I watched it like the whole time it’s so cute
i miss her each and everyday. but also happy that she looks happier now surrounded by lovely friends, hope you'll comeback to youtube soon ash, i miss youu
ashley saying "New York, baby!" reminds me of joey saying "London, baby!" in friends and i feel like that fits really well
ah hahaha
omg yess
Ashley there are literally a million things to watch on UA-cam so everyone who's here really genuinely likes you.
she’s the only person that can make me sit through a 30 minutes video entirely
Honestly!
Yes!
I know right! Me too.
True
@Briella Rayne it’s a 28:04 minute video.
Great, honest information. People who want to move to LA need to hear your breakdown. You did an excellent job. Im a 63 year old man and I learned a lot from you. Thanks!
When Ashley started tearing up talking about moving to ny I literally felt so freakin happy for her
I feel like I'm listening on 1.25 speed
superholly Yeah. And I think that she just did my exercise for the day.
Had to check to my settings to see if I had it on 1.25 speed too.
lol. : )
Holly!! Amiga
It’s 1.5 speed for me ...
You really hit the nail on the head with the independence thing in LA. People there (and really America as a whole compared to other places) are so entrepreneurial and independent, it’s an admirable trait and an exciting energy to be around. But I too have found that when it’s taken to that extreme, people forget that community and being there to support others is just as important. If everyone wants to be exceptional it’s very isolating, everyone is just out there hustling without any time to be there for others. I had that spirit growing up, but eventually decided I’d rather give up my own crazy dreams and support others if it meant I got to live life alongside a strong community of people I care about.
ua-cam.com/video/CbxmCHone-M/v-deo.html my full moon ritual for last full moon of the decade! Love a small youtuber !!
Humans are naturally social and we need people either we like it or not. This is coming from a introvert with social anxiety. Independence isn't always fun.
This video gave me chills, i live in LA and everything you mentioned is true. Many reasons why i also want to move out of LA
“KEEP OFF THE ROOF”
Ashley: that sign won’t stop me because i can’t read
WhAtSuP mA nAmES jArEd aNd I nEvEr f'InG LeArNeD hOw To ReAd
@@oopsieitskiki3784 what's up I'm Jared, I'm 19* and I never f'kn learned how to read
Sweet V. haha no she didn’t, it’s a meme from authur...dw said it ☺️
This is such a candid chat, It’s like fresh air to my smog ridden lungs.
Actually informative, contemplative and editing is on point as per usual.
Lana del Rey has said it "I moved to California but it's just a state of mind turns out everywhere you go you take yourself"
Ailin Behar damn that’s rly good advice
Yes ! No matter where you go there you are.
The Weeknd: “Cali was the mission, now a nigga leavin’...”
Vish also Abel “this place is never what it seems, this place will be the end of me, take me out of LA”
2023 and still rewatching Ashley's video
I love how educated and articulate she is. It’s honestly so refreshing to listen to her talk
ive been here since before 1M and im still feel like i can relate to you. youre one of the realest people in our social media age. everytime i watch ur vids i remember its ok to feel lost!! hope things go well for you! :)
me too! and i agree on everything you said! also, harryyyyy okay goodbye
“I cannot be likable to two million people”
Ashley: *is likable to two million people*
climbingeverett true!!!!
Actually, that number is likely much higher, because, for various reasons, not everybody who watches her videos, end up subscribing to her account! I didn't at first.
Yesss!!
@@sivvue Watch the videos I told you about. Google Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
Learn about mental health and the many requirements (needs) to be happy.
I'll be starting my channel soon. I've been filming my conversations with girls for 5 years having got tired of being blamed as to the reason why I don't get girls. I'm happy to video call on Skype with you to discuss this. It will be recorded and uploaded to my channel. I'll be starting soon.
Viral videos first followed by the 5 years of vlogs, audio recordings, video recordings and videos/screenshots of messages.
Some girls understand and are aware of the epidemic. Most aren't and like yourself are oppressive.
I asked my doctor for assisted suicide because I'm constantly rejected over and over. You don't know how it feels to be rejected by pretty much every person you find attractive.
No sex or love for 6 years. You cannot even begin to understand the trauma and pain.
Which is why for 5 years I've been carefully documenting every day of my life.
Watch the videos. Don't skip. Watch all of the waw series without being angry. Without bias. Every good person deserves to be happy. Sex, physical affection and love are NEEDS. NOT wants. Mental health is extremely important.
A constant deprivation of love and sex, as with any extended deprivation of a need will lead to homicide or suicide. It's the end result. The journey to either of those isn't sudden.
We've already seen homicide cases such as Elliot Rodger and the Toronto van incident. No one wants more deaths.
If YOU were deprived of your needs, it wouldn't take long before you would break down too. You're human just like I am.
Faceandlms explains very well how the majority of girls feel entitled to far better looking guys than themselves. Take a look at a video titled something like 'I feel entitled to an able bodied chad'.
Chad = fuckboy.
'A related study at Columbia tried to estimate how much men of different ethnic groups would need to earn to become as desirable to a woman as a man of her own race. With all other factors normalized, an Asian man would have to earn an additional $247,000 to stand on equal footing with his white counterpart and $220,000 to match up with an African-American suitor. '
Why did you make an ASSUMPTION about my health?
As for your 'maybe replying in UA-cam comments' etc ... I've approached between 8 to 10 thousand girls in Munich, Berlin, Spain and London. It cost me £15,000 on food, flights and accommodation to do that, approaching girls for up to 10 hours a day.
Out of that many girls only 2 had sex with me. 30 to 40 made out with me and didn't want anything more.
As a girl it's on demand for you. You get it when you want it with guys far more attractive than yourself.
I've filmed girls telling me they know that's how it is. And some also have been filmed saying they know of this global epidemic men are facing and they agree they only want white men and sometimes the other races I've mentioned and always better looking than themselves.
Met some very pretty very nice girls along the way and some very very horrible ones. Same for guys. Met some nice and some douchebags. Met far far more horrible girls than I did guys. Even met some racist ones.
The reason I didn't get matches on tinder should be obvious. Looks. Made an account using an attractive white guy and had matches within a day. Made his bio horrible. Women hating. Still he got matches and unsolicited messages that were interested in him. I filmed it all.
The face is the most important part of the body. It's what we look at first. Watch looks theory here on UA-cam.
I don't reply for fun. I screenshot everything for my channel.
Going without love and sex and constantly being rejected and having to see beautiful girls everywhere is mental torture. TORTURE. It's a strong word and I choose my words carefully.
thought the same thing
Usually when it comes to people moving to LA, they tend to stay in the realm of people who are also outsiders but with the mentality of being the best out of everyone else, for example Hollywood, Silverlake, Beverly Hills etc. They don't bother to seek out genuine people born and raised here and immerse themselves in cultural areas where the true heart of LA lies. It's like they created their own world of vanity and destruction in our city that is now taking over via gentrification.
This is literally what I’m trying to avoid when going. I just don’t Know where to go… which neighborhoods are actually genuine?
Not destruction. /
@@minismalls3096 The areas of LA that are genuine is the San Fernando Valley, Boyle Heights, and other places. /
Yes 🙌 💯 agree. As a LA native, and I have worked in those areas and seen this firsthand.
It’s interesting to see the perspective of someone from the East Coast. I think that on the West Coast, rather than seeing it as being “fake-nice”, we see it as being polite or friendly. It’s like how you said, we are pretty spread out here, so you are oftentimes unlikely to run into people again, and it’s more about having a casual interaction that is ultimately insignificant but positive. I can see how people who are not from the West Coast might see these interactions as shallow or fake, but it’s just kind of part of the culture of independence.
I also think the “Mean Girls”-esque reference to the “fake-nice” people who talk behind your back is a projection of insecurity which I personally struggle with. Usually, people are self-centered and are not actually thinking about you or picking you apart. I think people here generally are pretty genuine and suffering from the same insecurities that we all are.
jules12kelsey I agree 100%
i also completely agree
I've lived in LA for many years being single and not single. I totally loved living in LA. Like she said different neighborhoods and different circle of friends make a difference. I've lived mostly in K-town close to Wilshire and also downtown. Always only a few blocks from my office. Also I could always escape and go to anyone of my sisters 30 mins (I have 4) or back to my parents in 1.5 hours.
She had a difficult time because she's at a time in her life where people struggle to find out who they are and what they want in life. I think she would've felt the same way to a certain level living somewhere else.
I didn't realize LA was so superficial until I moved away. I've lived overseas for 8 years now. I wear makeup once or twice a week when I feel like it. Not everyday because I don't feel the pressure to compete to be prettier than the girl next to me. Thank God for my sisters because it was impossible to make girlfriends in LA. And I'm talking real friends! Not ones who threaten to break up with their bf because he was hanging out with me alone because she didn't want to come to a planned outing at the last minute and warned her bf that I'm promiscuous. I was single. My sex life was not a matter for her to judge. I was a good friend. Her boyfriend was a good guy. (Sorry for the rant). So her jealousy came from within and she was reflecting her insecurities because we gave her no reason. I have to say most of my friendship with girls never went pass surface level and I think it had mostly to do that the culture/society made us competitors and enemies at the start.
This then comes to insecurity comment. Please everyone has insecurities. I don't agree that she is insecure or her opinion about LA stems from her insecurities. LA is fake as fuck. What she said about meeting people and the second question they ask you is "what do you do?" This is not only LA but very American. Really if you read between the lines "what do you do?" Translates to "how can you boost my societal standing/ financial situation/what clubs can you get me in."
The only point where I have a different opinion from Ashley is that white blonde girls are the ideal there. LA is so mixed! Being a pretty Asian girl in LA got me into a lot of places. And yes I can call myself pretty without being conceited or full or myself.
I had a lot of personal problems as a young adult on how to identify myself being a Vietnamese American. Because in the US you can only be one or the other or to Caucasian Americans I'm always the other. My biggest pet peeve was always being asked "where are you from?" And if I told people I'm from LA they would follow with "but no really... Where are you from?" And they literally won't stop until I say what they want to hear.
Okay. I'm stopping myself from writing more. The end.
in my humble opinion people in u.s especially white race have very "fake nice" from stayed in n.c state for 3 months experience. They compliment every bit of you and make u believe they r trustworthy and geniune kind person minute u turn behind your back they would talk shit about u and make some groundless rumour abt u. I think they really don't prefer to be a honest bad guy over being 2 faced
me, from nyc: YEEEEEEEEEEE
My favorite part about living here is honestly the feel that there’s so much opportunity out there to do so much more. It’s a bit of a spin off of how small NY can make you feel. It makes me feel small bc there’s so much more going on around me.
Em Rose same!!!! I really am so excited to have another nycer!
im from brooklyn lets get it 💯
I just moved from New York City to Norfolk, Virginia, (which is still a city, but more spread out and there are houses) and this video made me miss seeing people on the street and being able to walk everywhere. Now I have to own a car and it makes me sad.
i don’t live in new york, but one of my best friends does, and i literally love it
Yooooo nyc is my dream, hopefully i can make it one day
Omg when she said “New York, baby” and got all excited and shy I literally started tearing up? Why was that so emotional?
I'm born and raised in NYC and considered moving to LA since I work in TV/Film, and watching this omg I'm so grateful to be from here, think LA would still be a blast, but NYC is where it has my heart!! 🤗🗽💗
Was I the only Brit trying to make her telepathically choose london
Yes
Skye L lmao. i mean i can’t stand london so i probably would’ve gone if she did a meet and greet and that would be the only reason but then again i fell the same about New York so whatever really. also i have this fear of the world finding out how shit england is. like when they go there on holidays they’re all like it’s lovely but you get bored of england fast and i don’t want the country to be exposed just yet.
BLAHbl AHblah I do like London but I’m afraid people will find out how bad the weather is
No. I definitely hoped she'd come here. I'm such an introvert. But I'd totally travel into London to have coffee and talk random crap at an inappropriate hour.
Skye L im in NY and still listened to NY part like I’ve never been here lol
2020 will be the year of ashley’s new room decors and bedroom walkthroughs.
I would die for a podcast at this point, but I’m so happy for Ashley and her new journey!
As someone who has lived in NY my whole life and recently moved to SoCal, I can't express how seen this video has made me feel. Idk, maybe it's just homesickness or the pandemic, but I realized how much I wanted to live in NYC only after moving here. Nothing at all against the West coast or the people who live here but it's like you said, it's hard to put my finger on, but I just feel so much more in-tune with how people on the East coast interact.
I'm so proud of how far you've come
I remember subscribing to you when you had 500k subscribers thinking "the heck, she's awesome why doesn't she have more subscribers" and lo and behold you're here with more than 2M subscribers, moving to NY.
I'm so happy for you
Chi-Chi armY
Hey you gave me a spoiler! But I could have guessed as she mentioned NY several times ;)
ik im annoying but....ARMYYY💜
ashley: spends 20 minutes comparing LA to NYC
also ashley: i havent told u where i'm moving yet uwu
I love how the sky turned blue when you said you’re moving to newyork. Im happy for you ashley :’)
💖💖💖💖
Isaochy 🤭🤭🤫
You are SO kind and thoughtful and genuine! I know it’s weird to talk to a bunch of strangers but you do it very well!
If Ashley had a podcast I would listen to it constantly
Yessss!!!
Love her voice
honestly she needs to start one rn
Ikr!!! Her voice is so calming and nice to listen to. I’ll play videos I’ve already watched😂
Was literally just thinking that
The version of LA she describes is why I was always so averse to moving there, but when I got a really good job opportunity in LA I went for it anyway. I had an entirely different experience, but I mostly stuck to the Eastside, met a lot of people from different places and also met a lot of and ended up dating an LA native. Not to mention I'm in the medical field so it's a whole different vibe. I felt very welcomed and had a blast. I know that the LA she describes is out there and one a lot of people experience, but it really does depend who you meet. Wish you the best of luck on your move!
I think it's the equivalent of moving to NYC and living in Soho, Noho, Greenwich Village, Chelsea, UWS, or UES. That's where the snobby but still trend-oriented rich young people live. People living in other parts of the city are nothing like that (though much of the rest of Manhattan below central park is for well off but less trendy people).
The LA shes talking about is pretty much weho, Fairfax, la brea, and to a certain extent silverlake and echo park lol. Basically where all the transplants meet other transplants chasing dreams of stardom and complain about Angelenos being so "fake" but never hang out in places like east LA or the 626 or the valley or south bay etc etc.
I swear all the wanna be stars move out here to the most bounce areas a and then complain.
Gio Chao and WeHo and Fairfax district I always found to be fun with fun loving people. It really does depend on the person.
@@giovannichao4154 can't agree more. I lived in downtown LA and now living in east side. West hollywood, silver lake and those places in the west are definitely more "fake" than any other places. but that's where people would like to choose to live if they just got to LA, especially for those dreamers in fashion or movie..
"Loneliest I have ever been" I lived there for 5 years so I can relate. Everything you say from the lack of desire to go out due to the hassle of driving, traffic and parking, to how people interact with each other is soooooo true.
You're just weak.
HipHopR&BLover Jon do you have nothing else to do other than lurk in this video’s comment section and look for comments criticizing LA?
CM No, but I keep coming back to this video because people keep responding to my comments...lol.
@@hiphoploverjon9180 are you fr saying that people find bad urban planning and traffic annoying because...theyre weak? why are yall americans so aggresive
Milda Yes because he's complaining about the smallest shit and traffic is only bad because people like him keep coming.
hey ashley!! I'm not sure if you'll read this but I just hope you know that there are so many people who support you(including me!) and love you for who you are. Being open on youtube and sharing yourself and your art to the world is not an easy thing to do and i really appreciate all you've done. there's really malicious commentary on you out there and i really hate to hear it because it's misogyny, internal or otherwise. I want you to know that there are many of us supporting you and love you, you've opened yourself to us and it helps us get through our own life situations as well. I'm sorry for rambling on but the backlash you're getting for you being you is insanely disrespectful and rude. i love you so much for being so strong. I'll keep supporting you no matter what! Keep fighting!!
i shed a tear when ashley said "i'm moving to new york, baby!" and i have no idea why. i think i'm just really happy that she's making a (not-so-easy) decision to live a better, happier life. it might also be the fact that i'm feeling stuck at this particular point in my life and wish i could do something similar to this. nevertheless, so excited for your journey, ashley!! lots of love from indonesia x
Michelle Lionard I cried so hard because in a way she’s living my dream and she just speaks to me on a level of what I want to be able to do when I grow up. And when I watch her videos I realize that I’m in 10th grade and I’m almost there and I just cry tears of joy for her and for me. Omg I literally cried the second she said that she already knew in her heart where she wanted to go because it was just so emotional for me omg.
Michelle Lionard i started crying too LOL
Im indonesian too.
ME TOO!
Especially since New York is my dream city to live in so I related to Ashley even more
Same to me girl! I'm also Indonesian and I feel like my purpose and where i want to live in a long run is not here in Surabaya. But the sad thing is, we as Indonesians have it pretty hard to apply for visa in the first world countries
I remember coming to this channel just wanting some outfit tips now I’m extremely attached-
Moral of the story: Ashley doesnt wanna matter that much
And that’s why I live in riverside county in California. There are so many other cities in California other than Los Angeles and San Francisco. It’s more beautiful here too and somewhat more relaxed
I love people who can speak fast yet fluently at the same time. Weirdly satisfying.
I’m struggling to keep up and I live in UK :(((
Lol
I even thought I had it on 1.5x speed !! ha
Yea! Im from finland and i understand everything :D
Yeah like Ben Shapiro. He is a very fast talker.
@@misein1 i watch a lot of his video too
“East coast” is in fact a personality trait
100% also west coast is a personality trait
Coast is a trait
@@floris.s_forest ur not wrong
@@ellirosenthal120 west coast isn't used as much as east coast
The east is a lot better than the west
Ashley: I'm moving to New York
Me: *pretends to be shocked*
Like that pikachu meme 😂
Same
China would be better
I am from Vegas and I have lived in 6 states, one thing I can say about living in different cities in the US, in the future you will cherish your memories of California. You have perspective and a right to say why you don't like LA--because you made the leap! Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Life is an adventure and I am excited to hear about your new experiences. If they are positive, AWESOME! If they suck? You just make another decision. Carpe diem.
Ashley: I’m thinking about designing my own clothing line
Me: SHUT UP AND take my MONEY
Leslie Lugo especially cause it’s probably gonna be sustainable!
same
literally me
yeah that's me
That reminds me of the give your fucking money vine lol