👆👆big time. And anyone else who will listen, for that matter. They don’t love their children, they just love the benefits they can bring them. It’s all about the image they want to portray. They’re constantly playing a role in whatever storyline they concoct, in order to get the outcome they desire at that very moment. This can change from second to second, literally. Everything they say & do is just a lie, to further their own (messed up) agenda.
Every narcissist I've had in my life family husband boyfriends so-called friends have only wanted to bring me down & leave me out. They've wanted to make road kill of me. They don't realize I'm blessed & highly favored of The LORD!!!
Definition of caring is not the same for narcissists or normal people, narcissists care about what you can do for them like a toy, they don't care about who you are.
When people care about someone else, they dont hurt them. They don't manipulate or try to control them. They want to see the person happy and content, and when they are hurt or sad, they comfort them.
It’s sad to hear but maybe the best thing is to know that the narc is not able to care for you the way you deserve. You are free to be happy, free to live and find someone that will care for you the way you deserve ❤. Leave the narc and their games.
He’s one of the extremely rare people with this personality disorder who’s working on making himself better by going to therapy and finding supply in other ways. We’re his supply.
I had often told my narcissist that I wanted the old Lucky, back and he told the truth, which I didn't want to hear at the time, he said he doesn't exist anymore.
My fav. is when they try to keep you from moving on, YET they don't even want you 😂. They want to see you down and heartbroken without them and NEVER happy, healed, or with someone better.
@MentalHealness Totally. My ex came back to Hoover after a year of No Contact-JUST to tell me, "he can't give me what I want" and that, "we should stay friends". I never even SAID I wanted to be with him any longer- he just assumed I still "wanted" him, because he was that arrogant. I blocked him and got rid of all of my Social Media after that.
I think the action of caring is different for narcissistic people. If they do care about you, it's not the same as some of us see it. For example, when I care about someone, its caring for their well-being but some narcs may just care about the external attributes like how well your doing in comparison to them or their control over you.
You have a real loving soul, & a true full blown narcissist is a Master Pretender who DON'T love nor TRULY care about you. You are JUST a good shoe, a rake, a hairbrush, a garbage can, a machine (robot) that breaks down, & when you're tapped dry or raggedy from hard wear & tear, you're discarded like an orange or banana peel in a desert, to wither away.
It's true, Lee. They don't care about you! A couple of years ago I had the idiotic notion that one of my "friends" actually did care about me. He was always touching me, seemed interested in my life, was approachable, etc. All of that, of course, was completely phony -- he couldn't have cared less about me, and was just using me as fuel. (I'm the empath he so desperately wants to be.) He turned out to be the most toxic, belligerent narcissist I've ever met. I'm grateful he ended up discarding me. Hope you'll do more videos on this specific topic -- how a narcissist pretends to care about you, but there's ALWAYS an ulterior motive behind it.
It happened to me after 15 years they disconnected and stopped caring and did a final discard on their end but, overall it was me who had to let go and do the Final Discard.
Their behavior has nothing to do with you. Don't personalize it. You are an object to them. You are a resource they have objectified you like a piece of furniture. If it isn't you it will be someone else. They are amoeba s; they absorb and excrete , that's aii.
I hadn't seen my ex in over a year and he called me over from the park to see the cat. Long story, but I went over there to see the cat and when I was leaving he tried to get me to take him to the store. That's what he needed, a ride to the store that day. I did not take him and I haven't seen him since.
@@DanceChickaDee Yeah he's like 55 years old now, lives with his parents who are quite old, and I'm just wondering who's going to inherit him when they die. It's not going to be me and he'll never be able to live by himself. And the fact that I laid down without loser just kicks my butt now. Live and learn I suppose 🤷♀️
Zero help with my son leaving. (The Big one.) (Abuse instead of aid.) Zero help with job searches. Zero help when I had to sell my condo. (Maybe pick up a paint brush? You know....show up?) Generally zero help. That's my takeaway. I'm still foolishly searching for the big confessions, but whatever. No harm no foul. We're never going to talk again. How about being decent on your exit? You're a great actor, Lee. I hope he pays you enough.
It's all about what they want!!! She has no relationship with her adult children and grand kids her whole life is focused on me!!! She has no friends and doesn't see family!!! She needs help and still refuses to get help insisting there's nothing wrong with her!!! So holding someone prisoner is normal, stalking!!!! Wow I'm so so done!!!
My friend i thought was a friend, texted me at 3 in the morning to tell me that he doesn't care about me just because i told him what i was uncomfortable with, i was shocked and confused.smh
If they know you are attached to them and they meet someone new of course they will stay in contact with you to make sure you're sitting there waiting for them.
I had two narc cases where it was okay for them to have other people, bread crumb me and just treat me like my life don't matter but still get upset when I distance myself to get my life in order, find ONE friend to go to and just don't ask for their attention as much because they kept neglecting me anyway. Its like they don't want to be around you anymore, they wont improve things between us no matter what I try to do, heck they try push for worse but still act betrayed when I move on and I become the bad one either way 🙃
💯 I was dealing with a covert narc ( non domestic) they lost their job cos I raised concerns and went on to another like a new slate but lie how humanising they were 😂😂😂
Don't judge me for not being fully healed. We're all here watching videos because we are wondering about narcissists. So I'm just going to ask it. How can I sabotage the life of a narcissist and his marriage? I want to focus on my life and partly I am, but it''s just insane how it seems the narc's life is all about flowers, just marrying someone, cheat while no one finds out. It's insane
Remember if you succeed, you will be the best supply ever. They get to tell everybody you're completely obsessed, the new spouse will support them more, and you'll be judged by everybody. Instead, glow up so bright the right person comes along and can't not see your value.
Their marriage only looks this way on the outside. They narcissists wants you to believe that and He wants you to BE disturbed about it, because this IS good supply for him. On the inside his marriage is toxic like hell. Move on, glow up, being more Happy and successful than you have been with the narc IS the best Revenge. Don't waste Energy. He is Not worth it.
I broke up and he went on a vindictive aggressive vicious smear campaign etc.. but he is dug in like a tick to my family ...he refuses to leave the state and go to his family ...he said he won't leave because he wants to see what I'm doing ( he said I want him to leave so he can't see what I'm doing and with who) ..I told him he'll be really bored because I'm staying single for a long time and just working my job and on rebuilding my life !! He has parts of my family held with the manipulations and lies ( he isolated me for years from them) he is just dug in so I can not repair the relationships and to hurt me as much as possible constantly hanging out with my family posting pics etc... How do I get him to leave my family , leave the state go to his own family . ( he only moved here - I moved him here- to be with me )
Hi Lee I am recovering from abuse and would like to have a consultation with you soon. I have followed you for a while, and have come to the conclusion that i was involved with a narcissist. My question is, do they care about their children? My ex literally makes her 15 year old daughter stay in her room everyday just playing on her cell phone or tablet. She's not an active mother at all. Is this normal?
You speak about emotional discard and the fact that they can have the greatest quality of supply but they could totally KEEP COMING BACK to us: "the malcfuntioning toy" they´ve finally discarded phisically and emotionally? Weird people you narcs, no offense Lee!
Narcissists only care about what they can get from you.
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Absolutely unfortunately!
FACTS
My soon to be ex wife hung up in my face at 1 am because I told her I’m moving to Alaska and didn’t ask her to come 🤦🏾♀️, now it’s us we.
@@Bonniebella1111yep because they think you moving to better.
Their relationship with their kids speaks VOLUMES to me. That's the most evident and cant be overlooked or unseen.
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But they will lie about those relationships to their new supply.
👆👆big time. And anyone else who will listen, for that matter.
They don’t love their children, they just love the benefits they can bring them. It’s all about the image they want to portray. They’re constantly playing a role in whatever storyline they concoct, in order to get the outcome they desire at that very moment. This can change from second to second, literally. Everything they say & do is just a lie, to further their own (messed up) agenda.
Thank You!!! Like for real ! Thank You!
Yep
Like you keep the kids from them
Whole time they dgaf about them.
Every narcissist I've had in my life family husband boyfriends so-called friends have only wanted to bring me down & leave me out. They've wanted to make road kill of me. They don't realize I'm blessed & highly favored of The LORD!!!
They are Emotionally Unavailable and Damaged! Therefore they are incapable of loving & respecting their mate!
Words are powerful!
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You are SO RIGHT!
Gurrl!
Definition of caring is not the same for narcissists or normal people, narcissists care about what you can do for them like a toy, they don't care about who you are.
When people care about someone else, they dont hurt them. They don't manipulate or try to control them. They want to see the person happy and content, and when they are hurt or sad, they comfort them.
It’s a hard pill to swallow
They NEVER cared
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In the beginning, of a relationship, they do care about you!
It’s sad to hear but maybe the best thing is to know that the narc is not able to care for you the way you deserve.
You are free to be happy, free to live and find someone that will care for you the way you deserve ❤.
Leave the narc and their games.
🙏🏽
Yes you are our favorite self aware narcissist ❤ thank you for your efforts and thank you for educating us about the npd
Ok , but apparently, YOU care about us😅🤗
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❤❤
He’s one of the extremely rare people with this personality disorder who’s working on making himself better by going to therapy and finding supply in other ways. We’re his supply.
@LilinChildSL ooooo yea....he's getting supply thru our struggles but he's also helping us.
That's a win win for me!!
@@LilinChildSL His supply and he has the thing of making money from his problem, not entirely unselfish hey. But that’s what he keeps telling us!
I had often told my narcissist that I wanted the old Lucky, back and he told the truth, which I didn't want to hear at the time, he said he doesn't exist anymore.
My fav. is when they try to keep you from moving on, YET they don't even want you 😂.
They want to see you down and heartbroken without them and NEVER happy, healed, or with someone better.
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@MentalHealness Totally. My ex came back to Hoover after a year of No Contact-JUST to tell me, "he can't give me what I want" and that, "we should stay friends".
I never even SAID I wanted to be with him any longer- he just assumed I still "wanted" him, because he was that arrogant.
I blocked him and got rid of all of my Social Media after that.
I think the action of caring is different for narcissistic people. If they do care about you, it's not the same as some of us see it. For example, when I care about someone, its caring for their well-being but some narcs may just care about the external attributes like how well your doing in comparison to them or their control over you.
😫
You have a real loving soul, & a true full blown narcissist is a Master Pretender who DON'T love nor TRULY care about you. You are JUST a good shoe, a rake, a hairbrush, a garbage can, a machine (robot) that breaks down, & when you're tapped dry or raggedy from hard wear & tear, you're discarded like an orange or banana peel in a desert, to wither away.
It's true, Lee. They don't care about you! A couple of years ago I had the idiotic notion that one of my "friends" actually did care about me. He was always touching me, seemed interested in my life, was approachable, etc. All of that, of course, was completely phony -- he couldn't have cared less about me, and was just using me as fuel. (I'm the empath he so desperately wants to be.) He turned out to be the most toxic, belligerent narcissist I've ever met. I'm grateful he ended up discarding me. Hope you'll do more videos on this specific topic -- how a narcissist pretends to care about you, but there's ALWAYS an ulterior motive behind it.
It’s the same thing as a addiction,
“Chasing the Dragon”
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It happened to me after 15 years they disconnected and stopped caring and did a final discard on their end but, overall it was me who had to let go and do the Final Discard.
Me too thank God I was discarded.
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A narcissist will only care about you as long as you have a supply to offer. The minute you have nothing to offer, they will leave you for ☠️
The toy analogy is so helpful 🎉
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Mine said he won't do anything for his children because they didn't do anything for him. He ended up dying alone.
WOW
"I still care about people and whatnot" thats on par with "i'm sorry you feel that way"
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well they care, in their own narc way lol, its not like a non narcissist way to care, thats why it feels diffrently
@@JustMe-vs1kj oh yeah? Make a list of how you would treat someone you care about and then make a list of what they do...
@@mathews0618 what?
Telling them that you don't care about them especially if you mean it, is a powerful tooll
That is why you need to learn not care about them. Block you feelings and see them as small child’s
Ik he cared more at one point and now he cares less. Doesn’t make me less 🥰
Love your honesty..thankyou.❤
You’re welcome
The toy analogy ,, uggh this whole video was a kick in the gut. Truth
Their behavior has nothing to do with you. Don't personalize it. You are an object to them. You are a resource they have objectified you like a piece of furniture. If it isn't you it will be someone else. They are amoeba s; they absorb and excrete , that's aii.
The best way to internalize and synthesize all of thie far-reaching information on narcissistic abuse
I hadn't seen my ex in over a year and he called me over from the park to see the cat. Long story, but I went over there to see the cat and when I was leaving he tried to get me to take him to the store. That's what he needed, a ride to the store that day. I did not take him and I haven't seen him since.
🙄😭🤦🏽♀️ infuriating isn’t it
@@DanceChickaDee
Yeah he's like 55 years old now, lives with his parents who are quite old, and I'm just wondering who's going to inherit him when they die. It's not going to be me and he'll never be able to live by himself. And the fact that I laid down without loser just kicks my butt now. Live and learn I suppose 🤷♀️
@@juliecarson7364 Now you can smell the BS a mile away so no one can try to bamboozle you
STRAIGHT FACTS!!!
I try
Zero help with my son leaving. (The Big one.) (Abuse instead of aid.)
Zero help with job searches.
Zero help when I had to sell my condo. (Maybe pick up a paint brush? You know....show up?)
Generally zero help.
That's my takeaway.
I'm still foolishly searching for the big confessions, but whatever. No harm no foul. We're never going to talk again. How about being decent on your exit?
You're a great actor, Lee.
I hope he pays you enough.
Little Caesars Pizza should pay you lol
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For real 😂😂😂
Love little Caesars
😂😂😂😂
Oh well im not going cry about it lol
Stay strong
It does get easier! These videos really help😊
They really don’t.
It's all about what they want!!! She has no relationship with her adult children and grand kids her whole life is focused on me!!! She has no friends and doesn't see family!!! She needs help and still refuses to get help insisting there's nothing wrong with her!!! So holding someone prisoner is normal, stalking!!!! Wow I'm so so done!!!
My friend i thought was a friend, texted me at 3 in the morning to tell me that he doesn't care about me just because i told him what i was uncomfortable with, i was shocked and confused.smh
If they know you are attached to them and they meet someone new of course they will stay in contact with you to make sure you're sitting there waiting for them.
I had two narc cases where it was okay for them to have other people, bread crumb me and just treat me like my life don't matter but still get upset when I distance myself to get my life in order, find ONE friend to go to and just don't ask for their attention as much because they kept neglecting me anyway. Its like they don't want to be around you anymore, they wont improve things between us no matter what I try to do, heck they try push for worse but still act betrayed when I move on and I become the bad one either way 🙃
💯 I was dealing with a covert narc ( non domestic) they lost their job cos I raised concerns and went on to another like a new slate but lie how humanising they were 😂😂😂
Yes they have kids ,but let the mum take all responsibility.
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And blame the mom for keeping the kid away from them 🙄
Thanks man for your advice and honesty.
You helped heal me. Thank you
Good morning Lee 👋
Good morning!
Don't judge me for not being fully healed. We're all here watching videos because we are wondering about narcissists. So I'm just going to ask it. How can I sabotage the life of a narcissist and his marriage? I want to focus on my life and partly I am, but it''s just insane how it seems the narc's life is all about flowers, just marrying someone, cheat while no one finds out. It's insane
Remember if you succeed, you will be the best supply ever. They get to tell everybody you're completely obsessed, the new spouse will support them more, and you'll be judged by everybody.
Instead, glow up so bright the right person comes along and can't not see your value.
Their marriage only looks this way on the outside. They narcissists wants you to believe that and He wants you to BE disturbed about it, because this IS good supply for him. On the inside his marriage is toxic like hell. Move on, glow up, being more Happy and successful than you have been with the narc IS the best Revenge. Don't waste Energy. He is Not worth it.
I always felt like a sex toy to my ex husband.
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Morning Lee
Morning
Lee I ❤and hate the truth that you speak sometimes!
But thanks lil bro . 😊
I broke up and he went on a vindictive aggressive vicious smear campaign etc.. but he is dug in like a tick to my family ...he refuses to leave the state and go to his family ...he said he won't leave because he wants to see what I'm doing ( he said I want him to leave so he can't see what I'm doing and with who) ..I told him he'll be really bored because I'm staying single for a long time and just working my job and on rebuilding my life !! He has parts of my family held with the manipulations and lies ( he isolated me for years from them) he is just dug in so I can not repair the relationships and to hurt me as much as possible constantly hanging out with my family posting pics etc... How do I get him to leave my family , leave the state go to his own family . ( he only moved here - I moved him here- to be with me )
Thanks Lee 🙏
No problem 👍
Defientely . My father's wife either
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Why are some Narcs impatient?
They can’t focus for too long and are easily distracted
Good morning ☀️
Good morning!
Does any relationship go back to the beginning? I love the dating, courting stage. After marriage it seems to go downhill and taken for granted.
True
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They have their wifes as toys
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Hi Lee I am recovering from abuse and would like to have a consultation with you soon. I have followed you for a while, and have come to the conclusion that i was involved with a narcissist. My question is, do they care about their children? My ex literally makes her 15 year old daughter stay in her room everyday just playing on her cell phone or tablet. She's not an active mother at all. Is this normal?
Oh I’m sorry I didn’t mean to hurt you I’m checking on you only want people in your life to date them he’s so wrong I don’t want him near me
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You speak about emotional discard and the fact that they can have the greatest quality of supply but they could totally KEEP COMING BACK to us: "the malcfuntioning toy" they´ve finally discarded phisically and emotionally? Weird people you narcs, no offense Lee!
None taken
Do you not have nothing better to do serious question
No. Serious answer
@@MentalHealness😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
What would you rather him do?
Leeeeee!
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😊MN
heeey
When did you start wearing eye glasses?
Few years now lol
I wonder who my narc ex is pretending to luv 4 a place to live right now ....hmmm? Lol
Oh my lol
😂😂😂😂
lol