I'm watching everything trying to learn. He left in October after affairs. I am an American living in Kenya . We have a young child. He has strong Covert behaviors and I was psychologically and emotionally abused for 13 years. (Co dependent) I'm quietly learning everything I can...Trying to decided if doing this in Kenya is better or back in the US . I don't have to leave Africa now...I just want the freedom to leave incase he turns on my daughter, too. I want to come home so badly. Thank you for your videos. They are giving me insights and confidence that I can do this. His folly is that he is arrogant and he thinks I am stupid...
Hope you are doing better. You have to check the laws but you have to live 180 days in my county in order to file and you still will have to provide proof of service
Hopefully the courts are awake about how many narcissist are out there lying about their mates. And how it’s has people fearing them and feeling defensive. I’ve watched my BFF. Live this for almost 30 years and see her feel even those of us that have stood by her will walk away. They live in a world of fear of being turned on. My sister in-law, wouldn’t ever be able to have anything written down or a book about this article. I’ve given her a audiobook book but he won’t let her have something that could let her raise above him.
Great timing for this ... Thursday I will be seeing my lawyers for the divorce process and ofcourse doing it quietly since my ex husband makes everything impossible for me to get away from him and make him do what’s best. To get my divorce and make everything work out through the law. 3 yrs of this nightmare since he cheated and of course I’m the victim and he is perfectly fine. 🙄 Thank you for you help Tracy 💕
Tracy this interview is FANTASTIC!!! Thank you so much for this and for the GREAT questions! Your interview comes at a PERFECT time for me as I interview a new attorney tomorrow. Thank you again!❤️
J S - thank you!! I really appreciate that it is perfect timing for you. Another trick I have in my book (I am writing now) is call every lawyer in your town and ask them rates and policies -they will take your information but even if you don’t hire them they cannot talk to your ex because it’s a conflict. I learned that trick and it worked. I have another video you should watch before tomorrow- I am on a phone so I can’t pull the url in at this point or all this is lost. Put it in the search a video with Susan Gutherie and Rebecca Zang. Susan was my first divorce lawyer and she and Rebecca have the number one divorcing podcast. If you put my name and one of theirs you will find the video they told us lots of legal secrets
Thank you so much this is a area most lawyers and Judges don t have knowledge about .I would love to see a video that shows us who we contact to make sure this is a area that judges and Lawyers are reaquired to know about .I feel viticms get revictized still again because of the lack of training our legal system has not recieved .
I am so grateful, thank you for bringing him in. I have been reading what people say, who claim they were abused by someone with npd traits. And one of the most common complaints by far, is false allegations. Narcissists in particular are people who will make convincing false allegations, because they themselves are good at talking in a way that can make what they say seem very real, as if what the narcissist is claiming may be true! So, I believe that courts do need to learn what this disorder looks like in day to day life. It is very important to protect children, because narcissists can be dangerous to children if they are higher on the npd scale, especially if they are covert or malignant. Also, to reduce unnecessary trauma for everyone else involved. And to reduce the likelihood of overly rewarding an abuser at the expense of the children and the victims. Prevent them from being as able to abuse the court system. Because many people with this disorder will manipulate to his or her own advantage. Beware of the most charming, liked person in the room, especially if they're making claims against the other parent that seem a little extreme. Thanks again for this info!
I’m going through a divorce with my narcissistic ex husband He’s making it impossible to coparent and continuing the nightmare of when we were married as I can’t go no contact with him
Nancy Suver I understand and I am sorry for your challenge They are never going to make it easy. Your job is to deal the best way you can but to also make sure you protect and educate your kids and empower them with the gift of boundaries and teach them empathy so they don’t turn narcissistic themselves.
Nancy Greydee Maybe you need a child advocate? Or someone to be the person to pick up and drop off the children? Maybe you can get the court to make it noted? God bless and good luck ❣️
If you want to learn more about divorcing a narcissist I have just released a free ebook on the topic. Download it here. narcissistabusesupport.com/divorcing-a-narcissist-what-do-i-need-to-know/
Depends on the court system but a good attorney will know the ins and outs of judges and local courts. Do interview them about that before hiring them.
The worse part about all of this, is the pain the kids go through, they are innocent and they pay a price for something they aren't responsible for. I am so angry at my wife for mistreating my little 6 years old daughter, she desmiss her abuse and justify her behavior. This people are evil. They're not worthy of being a.parent .
Oh I need him to come and help me I have been ran through the wringer with my narcissists ex husband and the judge has done me so terrible and I’m on my third attorney and no one will stand up for me in court the judge has done me so bad she has quit now and now we have a new judge. My ex was poisoning me they made me do a drug test when we have no kids involved and because I failed the test I have been threw under the bus but I was gave shit and he should have failed the test to find out they didn’t give him the same test. I had four hours to get out of my home my son from another person was in high school and they kicked us out of our home we lived in since he was three years old and only had four hours to get out. It ruined my sons senior year he wouldn’t even go to school. But it’s scared me but the pre nup we are using isn’t the one I signed. He got out of paying maintenance when the prenup said he had to but the judge threw it out and brought it back so many times it’s nuts but because of the drug test that we wasn’t gave the same one or he would have failed I got kicked out of my home I didn’t get maintenance and he paid the bills for 14 years then got away with kit Paying me a damn dime and I’m disabled living on disibility and it’s still going on it’s been over four years now and I keep getting shit on because of hear say. It’s been terrible I won’t even leave my house I’m so humiliated when he asked me for a divorce I was on my death bed I hadn’t drove in five years and they have done nothing but shit on me and rub me through the mud even causing me to lose my medication for my disease. It’s been a nightmare I wish I could find someone to help me like you all to help me through this it’s been so hard on me I have wanted to just give up so many times. I have lost all my friends and family because of his lies and abuse. He left me when my granny died and I was already depressed she was my favorite person and I didn’t want to go out no more and I was told to go out or he was divorcing me and he did just that out of no where came home and asked me doe a divorce I had no clue it was coming and everything he promised me he wouldn’t do he has done to me in this divorce it’s been a nightmare and it won’t end
Sorry as I tend to commment when hear certain things! But what about parental alienation. Which can very well moreso in these cases. Literally and non. But one can tell when something is not right as we know our kids for the most part. Where are. Continuing educating themselves amd then be advocates for us? Hmm that makea sense. Knows law and the life we and kids had to live. Just a suggestion. Hiw would that be started?
KD Unity I have a video with Dr. Amy Baker on parental alienation she is one of the worlds leading experts. Check it out if you need that piece and understanding. I think we both could have talked for hours but people complain when videos go too long 😄
And thank you.(both) Epidemic..yes a generational flux . 1% born that way? 6-7 years are make it break em age. Sadly. So codependant and still stuck between the 2. Finances. Not mine. Hmm. So what else to do. As I am sure many who have experienced this dont know what to do moreso who to trust. Like all issues. Created. It is to me a conquer by divide. Esp the fam. Which it deff can and does. Just give it time
These people are evil we need to stop minimizing the facts about these entities and not lay down and let these horrible people railroad us period.
I'm watching everything trying to learn. He left in October after affairs. I am an American living in Kenya . We have a young child. He has strong Covert behaviors and I was psychologically and emotionally abused for 13 years. (Co dependent) I'm quietly learning everything I can...Trying to decided if doing this in Kenya is better or back in the US . I don't have to leave Africa now...I just want the freedom to leave incase he turns on my daughter, too. I want to come home so badly. Thank you for your videos. They are giving me insights and confidence that I can do this. His folly is that he is arrogant and he thinks I am stupid...
Hope you are doing better. You have to check the laws but you have to live 180 days in my county in order to file and you still will have to provide proof of service
Hopefully the courts are awake about how many narcissist are out there lying about their mates. And how it’s has people fearing them and feeling defensive. I’ve watched my BFF. Live this for almost 30 years and see her feel even those of us that have stood by her will walk away. They live in a world of fear of being turned on. My sister in-law, wouldn’t ever be able to have anything written down or a book about this article. I’ve given her a audiobook book but he won’t let her have something that could let her raise above him.
Great timing for this ... Thursday I will be seeing my lawyers for the divorce process and ofcourse doing it quietly since my ex husband makes everything impossible for me to get away from him and make him do what’s best. To get my divorce and make everything work out through the law. 3 yrs of this nightmare since he cheated and of course I’m the victim and he is perfectly fine. 🙄
Thank you for you help Tracy 💕
Angie SalGar - good luck! Plan your escape
This man is literally talking about my ex, who I am having a custody hearings for due to unstable and abusive behavior.
Tracy this interview is FANTASTIC!!! Thank you so much for this and for the GREAT questions! Your interview comes at a PERFECT time for me as I interview a new attorney tomorrow. Thank you again!❤️
J S - thank you!! I really appreciate that it is perfect timing for you. Another trick I have in my book (I am writing now) is call every lawyer in your town and ask them rates and policies -they will take your information but even if you don’t hire them they cannot talk to your ex because it’s a conflict. I learned that trick and it worked. I have another video you should watch before tomorrow- I am on a phone so I can’t pull the url in at this point or all this is lost. Put it in the search a video with Susan Gutherie and Rebecca Zang. Susan was my first divorce lawyer and she and Rebecca have the number one divorcing podcast. If you put my name and one of theirs you will find the video they told us lots of legal secrets
OMG, you nailed it.
Thank you so much x
Thank you so much this is a area most lawyers and Judges don t have knowledge about .I would love to see a video that shows us who we contact to make sure this is a area that judges and Lawyers are reaquired to know about .I feel viticms get revictized still again because of the lack of training our legal system has not recieved .
What a great resource and interview Tracy!
Eclectic Alu thank you!! He is so smart❤️
Great interview. Thanks
Can We Talk With Moenique thank you
Thank you. Yes. It's his behavior
I am so grateful, thank you for bringing him in. I have been reading what people say, who claim they were abused by someone with npd traits. And one of the most common complaints by far, is false allegations. Narcissists in particular are people who will make convincing false allegations, because they themselves are good at talking in a way that can make what they say seem very real, as if what the narcissist is claiming may be true! So, I believe that courts do need to learn what this disorder looks like in day to day life. It is very important to protect children, because narcissists can be dangerous to children if they are higher on the npd scale, especially if they are covert or malignant. Also, to reduce unnecessary trauma for everyone else involved. And to reduce the likelihood of overly rewarding an abuser at the expense of the children and the victims. Prevent them from being as able to abuse the court system. Because many people with this disorder will manipulate to his or her own advantage. Beware of the most charming, liked person in the room, especially if they're making claims against the other parent that seem a little extreme. Thanks again for this info!
I’m going through a divorce with my narcissistic ex husband
He’s making it impossible to coparent and continuing the nightmare of when we were married as I can’t go no contact with him
Nancy Suver I understand and I am sorry for your challenge
They are never going to make it easy. Your job is to deal the best way you can but to also make sure you protect and educate your kids and empower them with the gift of boundaries and teach them empathy so they don’t turn narcissistic themselves.
Have you considered a coparenting app? Some courts order it so all communications are recorded there. Google coparenting apps and have a look.
Nancy Greydee Maybe you need a child advocate? Or someone to be the person to pick up and drop off the children? Maybe you can get the court to make it noted? God bless and good luck ❣️
If you want to learn more about divorcing a narcissist I have just released a free ebook on the topic. Download it here. narcissistabusesupport.com/divorcing-a-narcissist-what-do-i-need-to-know/
Is the Canadian System also up to date?
All courts Seem to punish rather help
KD Unity - the court system is rather difficult to navigate when it’s a high conflict divorce
Depends on the court system but a good attorney will know the ins and outs of judges and local courts. Do interview them about that before hiring them.
Please help me already file for divorce he still have be serve yet so he dony know yet ... how i can remove my heart of pain?
I am sorry Susana - if you sign up for coaching we can talk
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The worse part about all of this, is the pain the kids go through, they are innocent and they pay a price for something they aren't responsible for. I am so angry at my wife for mistreating my little 6 years old daughter, she desmiss her abuse and justify her behavior. This people are evil. They're not worthy of being a.parent .
I almost went to jail because of my fiance's ex boyfriend who is definitely a narcissist
Oh I need him to come and help me I have been ran through the wringer with my narcissists ex husband and the judge has done me so terrible and I’m on my third attorney and no one will stand up for me in court the judge has done me so bad she has quit now and now we have a new judge. My ex was poisoning me they made me do a drug test when we have no kids involved and because I failed the test I have been threw under the bus but I was gave shit and he should have failed the test to find out they didn’t give him the same test. I had four hours to get out of my home my son from another person was in high school and they kicked us out of our home we lived in since he was three years old and only had four hours to get out. It ruined my sons senior year he wouldn’t even go to school. But it’s scared me but the pre nup we are using isn’t the one I signed. He got out of paying maintenance when the prenup said he had to but the judge threw it out and brought it back so many times it’s nuts but because of the drug test that we wasn’t gave the same one or he would have failed I got kicked out of my home I didn’t get maintenance and he paid the bills for 14 years then got away with kit Paying me a damn dime and I’m disabled living on disibility and it’s still going on it’s been over four years now and I keep getting shit on because of hear say. It’s been terrible I won’t even leave my house I’m so humiliated when he asked me for a divorce I was on my death bed I hadn’t drove in five years and they have done nothing but shit on me and rub me through the mud even causing me to lose my medication for my disease. It’s been a nightmare I wish I could find someone to help me like you all to help me through this it’s been so hard on me I have wanted to just give up so many times. I have lost all my friends and family because of his lies and abuse. He left me when my granny died and I was already depressed she was my favorite person and I didn’t want to go out no more and I was told to go out or he was divorcing me and he did just that out of no where came home and asked me doe a divorce I had no clue it was coming and everything he promised me he wouldn’t do he has done to me in this divorce it’s been a nightmare and it won’t end
Sorry as I tend to commment when hear certain things!
But what about parental alienation. Which can very well moreso in these cases. Literally and non. But one can tell when something is not right as we know our kids for the most part. Where are. Continuing educating themselves amd then be advocates for us? Hmm that makea sense. Knows law and the life we and kids had to live. Just a suggestion. Hiw would that be started?
KD Unity I have a video with Dr. Amy Baker on parental alienation she is one of the worlds leading experts. Check it out if you need that piece and understanding. I think we both could have talked for hours but people complain when videos go too long 😄
And thank you.(both) Epidemic..yes a generational flux . 1% born that way? 6-7 years are make it break em age. Sadly. So codependant and still stuck between the 2. Finances. Not mine. Hmm. So what else to do. As I am sure many who have experienced this dont know what to do moreso who to trust.
Like all issues. Created. It is to me a conquer by divide. Esp the fam. Which it deff can and does. Just give it time
That mustache