mental struggles, our relationship, & moving regrets?? Q + A
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Oh Sarah baby, please don't stress over the house. In 20 years you won't have babies to cuddle but you'll still have a house to clean. Enjoy them and f the house, advice from a Granny x x❤
Print this out and frame it! From another Granny to you.
Totally agree from another granny. There will always be something to clean. Take your time and enjoy those babies. You won't get those first 5 years back. You got this !!!
Yes yes. Those little kids need your attention and and that housework will always be there. From PA granny
I think she pretty much does forget about the house😅
All Grannys are right...those babes grow so fast and once you go through menopause, you realize how much you miss your babies.. its different once their grown. No cuddles and bed bouncing.. you're still close and love them immensely, and so proud of the adults they have turned into. You'll find out...don't blink!!
Marriage is not 50/50 it is 100/100. In our marriage we decided never go to bed angry and without a kiss, and --eweee- only fight naked and holding hands. It was great when we were young. Been married 45 years- it is hard not to laugh. We pick our battles. Talk, talk, talk to each other. You guys are amazing.
You don't seem very👌.
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Absolutely true! Married 30 yrs here and talk, talk, talk it out. Holding hands, date each other always, don’t go to bed angry. Someone actually said at our wedding to fight naked! 😂 Three kids… do the math on the fights😉 My husband just said it at our son’s and daughter in law’s reception in his speech. Derek take it easy…my daughter had this surgery and is just back to work. Be careful with your body, after 30- it doesn’t bounce the same anymore!
U good?
Boy that is the truth after 30 you do not bounce back and as you get older it just keeps getting worse so take care of your body now!
Don’t be too hard on yourself Derek, ‘this too shall pass’. You guys are a great team, and you’re in it for the distance. Right now Sara has more of the load, but when you’re healed you can give her a good break, and over the course of your life together, you will be blessed to support each other many times. 😊❤
thank you so much for your kind words!! ❤️❤️
Even happy couples could use marriage counseling. Fighting fair. Learning clear communications. Compromise.
Every marriage can use tune ups. Take the time to make your marriage a priority.
AMEN🙏
There is nothing wrong with not showing public/viewers more persona or romantic side of relationship.
Thanks for keeping it real. 😊
Honestly couples therapy is so good. The biggest mistake people make is coming in too late, when things have been building up for a while.
Save yourselves some heart ache and put the time into your relationship. ❤
Guys, it is so good to hear from you again! I realize just how tough it has the last six weeks for you BOTH. Please keep in mind that six weeks from now, things will get progressively easier. Wow, moving into your own home, while one of you is convalescing from major surgery and trying to keep up with two little one’s! You guys inspire me. Hang tough and hopefully we can hear from you two again soon.
Each day will get easier and easier from here now derik!! Sara I understand girl, if I’m not organized then I don’t feel like my mental health is striving! When I moved I would take 2-4 boxes a day and at least get those organized but of course you set a goal that works for you!! Y’all will get through the other side of this and it will all be worth it ❤
Lack of sleep when your children are young is brutal. I think if Sarah could have 24 hours away from the house where she can have uninterrupted sleep, it would make all the difference in the world for her and them as a family.
That is absolutely correct.
She needs to get someone to take the kids, and she and Derrick need to sleep as long as they can.
yeah but she will be missing the kids and worried. Maybee two days...
They take more vacations in a year than I have had in 2 decades!!
@poorthing true. But she should take a day and sleep.
They have lots of help with the children ..they are very lucky
I have horrible anxiety attacks and panic attacks! You make so happy when you speak about your struggles! Sarah I want to say I am so sorry that you lost your big sister I lost 2 sons in a 9 year period and I just love how you express your feelings and love your babies extra special!! You guys and Tanner and Lauren's family are so inspiring and fun and upbeat! I also love Matt and Abby! Keep doing what you're doing and CONGRATULATIONS on the new house! I gotta finish by saying I am so in love with Sunny's hair and Jack's!
Sunny is developing so quickly.. She's a little firecracker 🧨. So cute. Jack and Sunny will be such good buddies when she's walking. You're actually putting your house together pretty quickly. I've seen others move in and it's taking forever for them to get it all done. It's always a work in progress when you own a home. At least you have one advantage, you don't have to remodel anything, unless you want to.
absolutely!! and NOO remodeling any time soon ahhah
You guys are doing great. No rush on Jack for school - you just moved, had a new baby - so much to explore that's new. Do the little holiday programs at the community centers where he meets kids and you meet moms, and then have mom groups where you all meet up with your kids once a week. It's also a great way to connect
Love your content through and through ❤️ Respect the fact that you don’t sugarcoat your life and the struggles you go through. Thanks for being awesome 🤩
I've missed you! So good to see you all! My hubby and I have been together since 1973, we married in 1979. One thing I can say throughout our marriage is this- "This too, shall pass!" We go through seasons, and when we are through that season, we think on it and talk through what worked and what didn't. We learned from each other. Take the social media break you need, family first! After so many years together, we get to look back and sometimes when we have a little bump in the road, (like when our youngest didn't sleep through the night for three years!) we look at one another and say "is it as bad as Kate not sleeping through the night for three years? And then we laugh because that was the worst, And we lived through it! Sarah, I'm praying Sonny begins to sleep through the night.🙏💕
thank you so much for all of your amazing advice!!! we appreciate you so much ❤️❤️❤️ and we truly cannot wait until Sunny is sleeping through the night hahah
I think that you are both amazing people great parents you both have great personalities
You guys your house is beautiful!!! WOW!!!
Derrik, you've been walking way more than you should have! I've been worried about your knees so much. Very glad you've actually been given the ok. Please take it very easy so you wont have to have another surgery. Always sending good thoughts for your family.
I think you both balance each other out so much. It’s such a beautiful blend which creates a great family dynamic. I love watching you guys and your adventures. And I love your new home ❤
I love how Sarah is putting things away during this it’s super relaxing!
Praying everything gets easier and better for you two very special
people.
Tbh, I was shocked by your honesty and vulnerability. You guys usually are, but these questions were very personal. Thank you for sharing daily, life struggles that many of us go through. It makes your family that much more relatable. Praying that you guys transition into a season of rest and reset to funner and better things. & Way to go, Sarah! Superwoman!
Be easy on yourselves! You have a lot going on! Say your prayers and ask for strength and grace.❤
Please know that as you both struggle through a period that there are subscribers that cheer you on. Fight for each other and fight to show each other in small ways that you are there for each other. When the struggle lifts and you have time to look back and see just what you did for each other, the love- when you are being heart to heart and looking into each others eyes--- you will feel the bond you truly want for each other and that love.
Love u guys❤ mentally I can related to Derik so much & as a sleep deprived mom who has to take care of the house by herself I can relate to Sarah, I’ve been watching u guys for 2 yrs & u have both seriously helped me so much😊 ur the best!
Y’all are so precious for keeping things so real and letting everyone know that we all struggle!! Much love to y’all! ❤
sometimes I wish it wasn't SO real 😂😂😂 but thank you!! we're glad it helps people stay realistic with life and parenthood ❤️❤️
@@DerikAndSarah
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Thanks for keeping it real. Everyone this is how life is. We struggle sometimes and we do it because we love eachother. We struggle and we move forward ❤
I love you guys so much! Derick looks like he’s making progress! Always praying for him and your family!
Looking back, I was so blessed that my child slept through the night at Sunnys age. For me, a set routine and calm down worked for me. Every child is different though ❤
I'm sure this has been mentioned, but you two have similar moral values and life goals. People think compalabilty comes from having similar hobbies, personal interests, and other arbitrary wants.
But, just because you like hiking, but your partner loves swimming, it doesn't make you incompatable.
You are your own person, even in a relationship. You don't give up your identity just because it doesn't readily mash with someone else.
As long as you have similar goals for life, i.e. marriage, kids, house. And, agree morally on how to achieve those goals, and a similar time line, then the fact you have the same favorite movie, food, or sports team is just a bonus.
Love your channel. You're too adorable. Real marriage Real family. Real LIFE. Stay strong you two. You've got this!
Nice to hear from you again and it's coming along well it's just you need to take it ONE DAY AT A TIME ! The kids are growing so fast. Thanks for sharing. Take care and enjoy your new home 🏡 😊 ☺️
Hi I just wanted to tell Derick, I totally understand, I had major lower back surgery 1 year ago. They had to lift 3 levels of my back…I never saw this coming. I was devastated….it took me a long time to recover and I couldn’t walk for many months…I would cry, I was so emotional. Then 6 months after they told me I had to have 2 of my cervical spine lifted….. I did’t even want to hear surgery but I did it…I am getting better now….but I totally understand the feeling of not being useful….because I keep my house very clean and it made me so sad that I couldn’t do it… you both are doing a great job…don’t ever give up….even when the going gets tough….proud of you both!!
Happy for this video, have been wondering how things have been going. I'm glad you're all surviving, things will get easier hang in there. Wow Sunny's hair is getting so long, very beautiful. Love hearing Jack talk he says the cutest things.
You Both are Amazing Parents to Jack and Sunny ❤ Sarah, my daughter did not sleep through the night until almost 2 years old , i was a single parent so I understand the exhaustion, plus i was working 10 + hours a day.... You and Derek are amazing parents and Derek will get better day by day on his healing and walking and be able to help out like you are used to... This too shall pass... ALWAYS REMEMBER TO KEEP YOUR COMMUNICATION OPEN AND LET THE OTHER ONE SPEAK WITHOUT INTERRUPTING THEM. THAT IS SO VERY IMPORTANT!!! AND VALIDATE YOUR HUSBAND/WIVES FEELINGS AND CONCERNS.... IN A MONTH FROM NOW THINGS WILL BE SO MUCH BETTER, TRUST ME ❤ LOVE AND BLESSINGS TO YOU ALL🙏♥️🙏♥️🙏
So happy to hear from y’all. Much love from Texas. Sunny and Jack Is growing like wild flowers 🌸
Social media is terrible. I stay off it as much as possible. When it comes to my relationship with my wife, we prioritize our relationship over the kids (yes, we still love them) but our relationship is what keeps the family together and we always make time for each other. So many couples forget this when kids are involved. You're a wife 1st, mother 2nd, this is how everyone in my family has done it and has always been successful.
I think broadcasting yourself, children and life online is a difficult and foolish thing to do.
I'm really happy to say this as well. My Mother told me this many, many years ago! I am 84 yrs old now but it stuck in my mind for all these years. It doesn't mean the children are neglected. It simply means your husband is most important in your relationships. You should hear the reactions I get if I say this! So many women say their kids come first, and many men feel very left out when this happens. They seem to feel the wife only "used" them to have babies then kind of forgot them. So sad.
@Nuna_Argo- I completely agree with your last sentence but showing their children on every social media platform’s have made them quite rich. Paid for that newly built home they’re moving into…
@@gianisoma - It wouldn’t be to my children or myself. Money is not worth exploiting your children to millions of perverted people ogling my children!
Agree! We are the same. If things are good between you and your spouse, it’ll trickle down. Same if things aren’t good. So if you put the effort into one another it makes everything else better.
Pleased to hear from you both.☺
Lots of love to you all and look after yourselves xxx
Hey guys,
My 12yo son and I are currently living in our car. It is not an ideal situation, one I NEVER could have imagined. Although I know it won't be forever, when you're in a hard moment, time seems to slow down.
So please know, that everything that we go through is not just for a season, but for a reason.
I know my son will one day look back at this time and remember all the good things that were born from this challenging time.
Just like Sara, Derik and the kids will look back on this time with fondness, laughter and gratitude.
May God continue to bless you and your family.
Much respect from Melbourne Australia 🙏 🌏 💙
Absolutely love you guys and how real you keep it with us viewers! Enjoy your new home!!🩷
I have 5 kids all boys had them all at a young age.and the first 3 were all close in ages.u will adapted and find the right way that works for u and your family.u 2 are such great people.u will make it work
You two are just so dear! Here’s to easier days, soon!
Though we miss you guys, many would agree it’s well deserved time away to regroup is more than welcomed. Just know it’s temporary 😊enjoy it love you all.
thank you so much for sticking with us!! ❤️❤️ means the world
Great to see you! Thankfully things are going to be getting back to normal
I had 4 children n I worked nites so my husband was home,I was tired beyond belief but I did it,Saturday was clean up day,music on loud n got it all done,couple of wines n early nite so you are no way the only ones doing it bit hard but so are 1000s of mums out there,some single parents too,get over yourselves
Mama ALL that stuff will STILL BE THERE when you're ready to do it 🥰🥰 it's part of being a mom❤
So much pressure please take time out when you can. Much love and prayers going your way!
Derick “you don’t understand” Sarah likes to be organized 😉Derick have fun at PT. So happy to hear from you guy-miss ya ❤❤❤❤😊
I’m so happy to see a new video I do enjoy seeing you guys . Everything takes time and with two toddlers it’s very difficult but it will all get done. God bless your family 😊😊😊
I think you both are awesome and your children are the cutest. Glad your doing better Derrick. Great job holding down the "Fort" Sarah. Stay safe and God Bless
I agree re thinking about not taking risks. You have to think on 3 other lives that are leaning on you to live. When you actually get old those aches and pains will come back to haunt you, and believe me aches and pains can make you very grumpy. Getting old is not fun for injuries sustained in your youth.
I’m positive that doing everything for everyone is exhausting on your body and mind, you’re body heals it’s self while you sleep. Maybe Sarah could use some downtime and some good sleep and just know we are here for you both and truly love the videos!!!
oh I could ALWAYSSS use some sleep 😂😂 thank you!!
Hang in there! Sleep deprivation can not be underestimated when it comes to mood, decision-making, accidents, etc.
Try to rest when you can and love your babies-sometimes you just have to take a 20 minute nap.
Good luck with everything-you will get things the way you like them!
One whole week break is your BEST ever idea.
A long Rehab for you Derek, take care, a painful time for you. Please don't take risky chances!
So much love to you all ❤️❤️❤️❤️
- New South Wales, Australia 🦘
Hang in there guys ... it may not feel it but from where I am you're amazing
idk why but i love random vlog styles like this
Sarah and Derik, I am sending you lots of love, healing, positivity and peace. Not my place to judge, criticize or make comments.
Loved seeing a video from you guys! 🤗🤍✨🌸
I wish there wasn’t such a stigma of admitting that that anyone have depression or anxiety, where people just take the easy way out. We have lost so many young adults who hide it. Love your episode ❤ we just lost a friend’s son at 22 😢💔let’s make it ok to speak up and I also suffer from depression and anxiety it can be isolating but I reach out to my family, friends and most of all my therapist.
we totally agree!! trying to help end the stigma ❤️❤️❤️ and we hope you are well!! sending love ❤️❤️
@@DerikAndSarah I've seen where nannies are able to work with a baby to get them sleeping all night. Live in nannies.
Are there sleep specialistsfor babies that could help? Good luck, I know that is very hard on you. I have trouble sleeping; sometimes all night. But I'm 73 and retired so I can nap or catch up when I need to. ❤
❤❤❤ I’m so glad you are taking a break.
Sarah, you are a mom, wife with moving into a new house. Women always pull thru when honey cant assist because of whatever. Women always step up to take care of the fam. God bless you sarah or being an amazing women and showing all women that we can take care of business when needed ❤
Yay I've been worried about you guys its nice getting an update
I love you all and pray for blessings and protection over you all ❤
You guys it's OK life gets stressed, you will get through this,lifes been fun ,will be again,stay strong, stay together in your decision making ,love is the way xx😊
Chicka Chicka Boom Boom ❤ Glad to see that's still a hit! I read that to my kids that are now 22&24!
Love 💕 the whole family get rest,stay strong and take a time out when u need it to stay on top❤❤❤
What I find works best for me and my partner is to just tell each other what percentage we are able to give when we get home. We are both postal workers so some days neither of us have much left but we do our very best. Some days you’re the windshield and some days your the bug, your partner has your back when you need it.
Your family so Beautiful, you are such awesome parents ❤️❤️
Hope things get better for y'all
Derick put a roll of paper towels near the sink. 1 paper towel, a little water and wipe the sink. 5 seconds and wow no more hair in the sink! And a smile on your wifes beautiful face❣❣ Little things mean so much💙🦋💙
Exactly! When they do these types of vids she has told the before. Sheesh…
I keep a small square cloth on my countertop, and I wipe off all the water spots 1-2 times a day. It keeps it looking super clean, and it gets up all the hair too. Once a week, I wipe it down with disinfectant (thyme oil spray) and switch out the cloth.
You're COMPLETELY normal!!! Many going through what you are going through. I live with my Ex Husband and help him after his mini stroke in 2021. I have to remind myself to take care of myself and poor health too. We're going to family therapy to better help one another and to help build better independence. We have spats but always make up. BFF'S since 1988. 😊 You're going to get through this.
Sarah - you are a champ. If I had gone through everything you guys have gone through in the last 3 months, I would have ran away from home screaming like a banshee.
You are an awesome couple.
Keeping it real as always.
I love your family, and I hope you always love you too! Remember if God leads you to it, he'll leads you through it. When angry, remember the moment you knew in your heart you were in love. Look through those eyes at eachother, hug and let go of anger. Anger and frustration are the devil pinching you. This advise from a woman married for 34 years, until death do us part. Mike passed on 7/28/2016. I loved him til his last breath. Sunny is the most strikingly beautiful baby I've seen since my baby girl was born and that age. God love you and hold onto eachother. No one said it'd be easy but you're DOING it! Yea YOU!
Derek! You Walked!!🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 Great job and hope youre not in pain too much anymore 🙏🦋🤝
My husband started shaving outside (he uses the truck mirror or a handheld salon mirror).
Better lighting outside, andddd it keeps the bathroom clean. Highly recommend!!
It seems there is such a difference in your lives now than in Hawaii. Maybe time to rethink the move and go to where you seemed much happier. Life is too short. You've a beautiful family. Be happy🎉❤
Sarah! I can relate to you so much! There are so many similarities btwn you and Derick and my husband and myself! My husband is exactly like Derick and I am so much like you!! Seeing the way you handle everything, how loving and how strong you are for your family truly inspires me! I also love the way you display such peace and composure through it all! That is something I am really working on. I love my husband so much and get so concerned when it comes to the physical adventures he embarks on! My husband is awesome at almost everything but I want him to be safe!! That’s my number one concern!! His safety! Very similar to you I want my husband to have a higher level of caution! Thanks for sharing life and inspiring other women to grow in strength and love for their family!❤❤❤
Absoutly beautiful ~ we believe in you and yous are going to be wonderful ! Love peace and blessings👍🏼❤️
Organisation AND a q&a! Loved it so chill
Sarah girl you need to take 5. You sound so stressed. It cannot be easy to have to look after everyone. You deserve a spa day or some you time❤
Sarah ...you are awesome and holding it together.
Glad your fam is ok! Thx 4 the update
You guys really inspire me, take care❤
Soak in every moment, relax, Im missing my kids being little. They grow up too fast & now mine r gone. Please know these r your best years, stress, insaneness & all. Trust me.
Glad you're getting better, Derik! And Sarah, you're the best, and honestly, I never really believed in true love that lasts forever starting so young, but you two make me think twice 💞! I love you all and omg, that was Stella! I feel like, the last time that I saw her she was a baby! When this started, I was like good thing y'all have The Lord firstly, and Tanner and Lo! Much love to you all! Prayers for your recovery!🙏🦵 and Sarah's sleep deprivation 🥱
Sarah u are such a really good mum and wife. 🎉❤
Sarah is so understanding and values her commitment to be queen of her house, what a blessing Derek.
Love her always, lift her up and spoil her more, she deserves it.
Loved to see more pranks between you two.
Settle in your new life as a beautiful family in the blessing that is yours. Your fans will still be your fans. We understand the break. Enjoy your family, it's what life is all about. Thank you for being a blessing and for sharing your life with us. You guys are awesome too.
Oh it can be frustrating trying to do everything with two little ones.I learned from my two and then the grands that they will only be young so long and they won,t need you any longer.Embrace every moment,they will remember that much more than a tidy house❤️
So happy to hear from you i thought something was wrong and i got very scared because you my fav youtuber
I think u guys made the right decision. better to be with family.
Be thankful you both don’t work outside of the house! Although I’m pretty sure after Covid and working from home and 2 babies that’s why my son and DIL couldn’t wait to go back to part time ea. in office work. They’re fortunate to have had 3 months paid paternity and maternity leave .Now they share 1/2 and 1/2 and a her mom helps! Be kind be patient and lean on each other for what you need.
We are celebrating our 45th anniversary on sept 23rd. You’re in the hard parts of your life. Make time for yourselves and each other.
Glad to hear you're settling in well and Derrick is on the mend. I don't think anyone would be surprised or offended to not see any content from you for a while. The amount of stress from a huge move with little ones, potty training, sleep training, unpacking, setting things up, regular daily chores and appointments... then add social media upkeep... that's a heck of a lot on one's plate. Take it easy, take a breather and take in all that you have to be thankful for. You deserve it. Hope next post we can see Derrick feeling better, and up and moving more... God knows Sarah could use the extra set of hands 😉, but most of all, I hope you can connect as a family in your own privacy and enjoy all these big changes together ❤
Jack and Sunny are so cute❤ Wish you all the best💞
Good to see your beautiful faces!! Sarah I am so with you, so glad you survived the first 6 weeks!! I don't have little ones to chase but still run for my kids when they need me! Lol! My husband had double hernia surgery 2weeks later his appendix burst!! They had to do emergency surgery! After he got home 2days later we had to rush him back to the hospital for another emergency and they put a drain tube in and heavy iv antibiotics!! 🥺 He went back to work Monday!! I just pray 🙏🙏🙏 this nightmare is over and we can get back to normal!! 😮😅🤪👍 Derek put some paper in the sink and spray and whipe after!! I lived with 3 hairy sons + my hubby and it drives me crazy 😧🤬🤯 Much love ❣️ I see a spa day in your future!!!
Missed you all so much!!! Where the heck you been?
It's good to see yall again, I've missed you both an the kids
Keep up the great work. Love you guys!
3 years ago I had knee surgery. Acl replacement and meniscus repair. Worst surgery ever. It took me forever to bend my knee, learn to walk again, or be able to get on the floor and back up. Take your time and heal. Also, Sarah needs a day to rest.
I was just looking for a new video from y’all (even though I have the notifier on, I still look. Lol). Six weeks seemed like six years, and the timing of the surgery was unfortunate but like Sarah said, it’s all up from here. Keep going to PT and doing the exercises. It’s been obvious in the videos since the surgery how tough this has been on all of you, but it sounds like the worst is behind you. The next 6 weeks won’t be as bad as the last. Derik, take it easy though. Can only imagine how tough it’s been to sit it out, but if you overdo it now, that’ll probably be in the same category as doing something foolish. What I’m hearing is that the biggest help for Sarah will be for you to help with the kids.
You two need a weekend away together, then Sarah needs a few days with her girlfriends.
Yep life gets real with multiple kids, relationships,moving etc.. it will make those perfect online people become humbled.. #SoundsLikeLifeToMe