The last question summed up a lot. Im someone who grew up in a household where it was said that my parents are together just cause of me and my brother and it made me hate myself even more. I would have better left with my mother than my father abusing her. Saying this, as I'm almost an adult now, I understand the importance of marriage but I also understand the importance of divorce too. Sometimes distance makes things tolerable. Maybe the parents coparenting the child without staying together can be a lot better than stucked in a toxic marriage. And to each and every problem of life, there needs to be personal values and morals which comes from a faith, I believe, or else it's random cultural and psychologically things someone puts together along the line. Thus it shows the importance of practicing our faith and learning more about Allah's words and how our prophet (pbuh) dealt with situations. I've been watching this channel for more than a year now and I've never commented before but this video made me comment about a bunch of things. May Allah swt reward you guys for the efforts you're putting into spread islam and islamic knowledge+ values. Jazakallahu khairan 🌷
@@xiaocassy9724 Good people see good in others. I'm just a human who have sins and flaws, I can say I'm trying to do good for the sake of Allah or else I'm bad according to lot of people too. You're so kind to say that!!
I didn't know, I need this rn. I just started a relationship like 3 days ago, reunited with old friend, and then yea, we talked, discussed, and found something in each other. We decided to get serious, marriage. And I'm still learning how to understand myself better, improving before get married. Both of us needs more time to developing ourselves, to be good. And for that, I trust him. We will see if this can work out. Cause I still don't know the future. All I can do are praying and improving for a better future. Thank you for this video, it opened my eyes.
This Man is just mashallah 🥰 and well gifted 😊we need knowledgeable people like you in our society 😢Thank you Brother . May Allah bless you and your family ❤keep sharing your knowledge with us ❤
This is incredible stuff on one of the most important issues, marriage!! Make this viral. Everyone should watch this before getting married. Really helpful. For married couples as well. Lots of thanks from Kashmir❤
Don't Skip Do This ❤ Prophet Mohammad (ﷺ) Said Whoever fasts the month of Ramadan and then follows it with six days of fasting in the month of Shawwal, it will be as if he had fasted for a year.” Sahih Muslim, 1164) or (2745) How to fast in Shawwal 1 You can fasted immediately after Eid it's fine. 2 You can fasted them separately still fine. 3 You can fasted them on Monday, Thursday .( Also it's sunnah) 4 You can fast them anytime in Shawwal. Also Copy & share with others
I think videos like this focus on a very important topic but I think they miss the most important point. Tawheed and belief in Allah first. Love is nothing if it is not for Allah. So a husband grows to love a wife because of his love for Allah and a wife grows to love her husband because of her love for Allah, likewise with other relations and aspects in life. Any other perspectives might be 100% beneficial in this life and possibly to live happily but the benefit and happiness stops in this life if it is not done for Allah. Many many people got married because of love and many reasons but forgot to marry for the sake of Allah.
you think that people who get married 'for the sake of Allah' have a good healthy marriage just because their intention is (seemingly) 'for Allah'? boy aren't you wrong lol the best way is to balance both 🤷 trust me, you can find manyyyyyy marriages that start with 'for the sake of Allah' but it's an ugly marriage. most of them (based on my observation) do not get a divorce because they think it's wrong to do so because their intention is 'for the sake of Allah'🤷 and they suffer in a marriage that's intent for Allah. and they create the next troubled generation 🤷 which more likely are gonna do alll the things that are totally opposite of what their parents are doing. and they definitely gonna view God not in a good way and they will have a hard time to associate love/healthy marriage with God 🤷
@@sarahnovella4971i think what the brother meant by "the sake of Allah" means marrying someone because their Deen and character is pleasing to them, and that they want to raise righteous kids, rather than merely marrying for the sake of keeping oneself chaste. Because marriage is not an obligation, unless one fears zina for himself. So loving for the sake of Allah is marrying someone who reminds you of Allah, and with whom you both can grow closer to Allah and closer to each other as well.
Me and my soon ex- husband to be and I have been talking about our ongoing divorce. This video is a gem to all singles out there, so solve the problem during engagement period before marrying someone. I would say that in this video, 100% of my marriage issues are mentioned.
As a woman, this video is so real. This man knows very well what makes the marriage work even from the woman's side. If you want your wife to love you, you need to show her your love first. Like a mirror or in Al-Baqarah: a garment for you as you are for them. No red pills. Just Islamic, rational, emotional and realistic at the same time at the same time. Not married but I have seen marriages and notices the patterns like the man said.
What you said are very true including the last one which leads to a never ending or repetitive cycle until the children stop it either by not choosing to live by the same pattern of parents or by not getting married. It’s lucky to get a chance and live a different life while raised in a toxic and abusive environment. It’s more probable that the children from abusive homes will suffer in life. It’s painful that the children go through the abuse from parents and then suffer in life as well later on.
My brothers and sisters, build yourself up, work on yourself, increase your knowledge and actions, if you were alone, stranded in a forest, who would you be?
Wow this is such a good video, very thoughtful about all situations by not even taking anyone’s side, very logic and helpful, since my marriage already ended few years ago, by now I figured it slowly that it wasn’t a healthy marriage from the day one to begin with, and when i noticed my poor children suffering with our daily dramas and struggles then ending it was the only way, I’ll definitely recommend this video to my ppl specially to my kids and I’ll also keep in mind how to behave as a mother and mother in-low with my kids. Thank you guys, your videos are always very helpful 🫴🏼💐 May Allah swt reward you all with good health in your life and happiness of this and the next world
This is marriage therapy in a nutshell!! An outstanding reminder for all married people to check themselves and how to truly live a happy married life, and the best advice for single people looking to get married!! I will forward this to my younger brother inshallah and take on it as a reminder for my self for self improvement inshallah!! Jazakum Allah Kul Khair!
If a woman keeps bringing up a past event, its because the underlying sentiment in the action has come up again packaged in a different form. Its not about the event itself, but the underlying sentiment expressed showing how you view your wife, whether that be done conciously or unconciously.
Subhana Aallah..I slept through much of the video but I still managed to catch the last few parts which talks about the most important issue that is feared. Divorce. When all is said and done if you choose a righteous person hopefully you won’t have any regrets. In shaa Allah.
Masyaa allah! The explanations are so succinct and accurate! Justice is so important in marriage, and the rules of engagement as well. At the end, we want to please Allah and uphold Justice.
Alhumdulillah I have husband like this❤ I m blessed❤ Alhumdulillah ❤he is very mature ❤Mashallah❤he knows how to handle emotions❤I m very rich ❤Alhumdulillah❤Every man can buy u a house can give u a expensive gift but none can give u a security himself❤.Alhumdulillah❤ i m not worthy But Allah blessed me with him out of his merci❤
There is a misconception that women never forget the past. But in reality this a human trait not only in women Men don't forget too, they keep everything hidden until there is a dispute...tried it, lived it.
Way back then, I always heard this word from my parents': "We're married when we're 24". To this day, the scale of success around here is at what age you're getting married, the earlier the better. Like, it's a race against time and if I can't get married at the designated age, then I'll be considered a failure to both community and family. But, day after day and upon looking towards how I mostly react to something with anger during that age, I feel like it's a sign that told me I'm not emotionally stable yet
be sure to have heard frim the brother, where he said "low-quality marriage" is what destroys, and not a "low-quantity marriage" alhamdulillah for islam
Assalamualaikum. This video and the previous one helped me a lot. I noticed the subtitle is only English though. I wondered if it is possible to translate to other languages as well? For example there's Towards Eternity Indonesia 🇮🇩 but not many videos are translated including this one.
may Allah bless u, Brother Ahmet may Allah bless him , such a great example for proper Muslim Husband, I know him in person and I learn from his behaviour more then I learn from a lot of scholars words! when u meet him u'll know
This was the absoluteelly wis3s things I heard of relationships so far. Wish all men realised what the man realised. Could you plzz make a video with same content for men who only speaks arabic??
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This 20 minute video has more knowledge than a 3 hour podcast. jazakAllah ❤
Married is truly a test of human character especially for the leader.
Watching from India occupied Kashmir. ❤❤❤
Stay Alive,dear brother. Love from Bengal 🇧🇩
A love from Manipur Muslim❤
It is part of india
You are our brother
@@zebra2752 we are one together .. if divided by imaginary line of mapping.. Free Plaestine ..Free Humanity ❤️
I would ove to show this video to my daughter when she is of age for Nikah! very well articulated. Keep this video forever
The last question summed up a lot. Im someone who grew up in a household where it was said that my parents are together just cause of me and my brother and it made me hate myself even more. I would have better left with my mother than my father abusing her.
Saying this, as I'm almost an adult now, I understand the importance of marriage but I also understand the importance of divorce too. Sometimes distance makes things tolerable. Maybe the parents coparenting the child without staying together can be a lot better than stucked in a toxic marriage.
And to each and every problem of life, there needs to be personal values and morals which comes from a faith, I believe, or else it's random cultural and psychologically things someone puts together along the line. Thus it shows the importance of practicing our faith and learning more about Allah's words and how our prophet (pbuh) dealt with situations. I've been watching this channel for more than a year now and I've never commented before but this video made me comment about a bunch of things. May Allah swt reward you guys for the efforts you're putting into spread islam and islamic knowledge+ values. Jazakallahu khairan 🌷
You are a good person. To see a miracle just look in the mirror as you will see someone good despite all that has happened.
@@xiaocassy9724 Good people see good in others. I'm just a human who have sins and flaws, I can say I'm trying to do good for the sake of Allah or else I'm bad according to lot of people too.
You're so kind to say that!!
MashAllah!
Let's keep this halal and speak to her baba, if you want to proceed.
Agree 💯
May Allah bless our brothers and sisters of ummah with Jannah ❤
Aameen summa Aameen ❤
They know how and what to give to our generation for betterment.... ❤
I didn't know, I need this rn.
I just started a relationship like 3 days ago, reunited with old friend, and then yea, we talked, discussed, and found something in each other. We decided to get serious, marriage.
And I'm still learning how to understand myself better, improving before get married. Both of us needs more time to developing ourselves, to be good.
And for that, I trust him. We will see if this can work out. Cause I still don't know the future.
All I can do are praying and improving for a better future.
Thank you for this video, it opened my eyes.
Brother Ahmed is not only a Sheikh but also best counseling in marriage!
Jazakallahu khairan 🤝
Can you tell me more detail about him?
Pray for me, especially for nikah 😢
May Allah SWT provide you righteous wife
Jazakallah khair ❤
آمين @@mdarshad9458
Thanks!
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Jazak Allah Khair for such useful information
This Man is just mashallah 🥰 and well gifted 😊we need knowledgeable people like you in our society 😢Thank you Brother . May Allah bless you and your family ❤keep sharing your knowledge with us ❤
This is incredible stuff on one of the most important issues, marriage!!
Make this viral. Everyone should watch this before getting married. Really helpful.
For married couples as well.
Lots of thanks from Kashmir❤
Very realistic and Islamic approach to a topic many of us face in life but know absolutely nothing about.
Don't Skip Do This ❤
Prophet Mohammad (ﷺ) Said
Whoever fasts the month of Ramadan and then follows it with six days of fasting in the month of Shawwal, it will be as if he had fasted for a year.”
Sahih Muslim, 1164) or (2745)
How to fast in Shawwal
1 You can fasted immediately after Eid it's fine.
2 You can fasted them separately still fine.
3 You can fasted them on Monday, Thursday .( Also it's sunnah)
4 You can fast them anytime in Shawwal.
Also Copy & share with others
I'm really lucky to hear this advice before marriage
I think videos like this focus on a very important topic but I think they miss the most important point. Tawheed and belief in Allah first. Love is nothing if it is not for Allah. So a husband grows to love a wife because of his love for Allah and a wife grows to love her husband because of her love for Allah, likewise with other relations and aspects in life. Any other perspectives might be 100% beneficial in this life and possibly to live happily but the benefit and happiness stops in this life if it is not done for Allah. Many many people got married because of love and many reasons but forgot to marry for the sake of Allah.
Both the spouses may be religious but still not suitable for each other. It’s one of the factor but not the whole reason.
you think that people who get married 'for the sake of Allah' have a good healthy marriage just because their intention is (seemingly) 'for Allah'? boy aren't you wrong lol
the best way is to balance both 🤷
trust me, you can find manyyyyyy marriages that start with 'for the sake of Allah' but it's an ugly marriage. most of them (based on my observation) do not get a divorce because they think it's wrong to do so because their intention is 'for the sake of Allah'🤷 and they suffer in a marriage that's intent for Allah. and they create the next troubled generation 🤷 which more likely are gonna do alll the things that are totally opposite of what their parents are doing. and they definitely gonna view God not in a good way and they will have a hard time to associate love/healthy marriage with God 🤷
@@sarahnovella4971i think what the brother meant by "the sake of Allah" means marrying someone because their Deen and character is pleasing to them, and that they want to raise righteous kids, rather than merely marrying for the sake of keeping oneself chaste. Because marriage is not an obligation, unless one fears zina for himself. So loving for the sake of Allah is marrying someone who reminds you of Allah, and with whom you both can grow closer to Allah and closer to each other as well.
@@sarahnovella4971Actually you didn't understand
In 25 minutes you gave concrete answers to a lot of problem which would need a 6 months couple therapy, great video !
Yeah ❤
Me and my soon ex- husband to be and I have been talking about our ongoing divorce. This video is a gem to all singles out there, so solve the problem during engagement period before marrying someone. I would say that in this video, 100% of my marriage issues are mentioned.
As a woman, this video is so real. This man knows very well what makes the marriage work even from the woman's side. If you want your wife to love you, you need to show her your love first. Like a mirror or in Al-Baqarah: a garment for you as you are for them. No red pills. Just Islamic, rational, emotional and realistic at the same time at the same time. Not married but I have seen marriages and notices the patterns like the man said.
What you said are very true including the last one which leads to a never ending or repetitive cycle until the children stop it either by not choosing to live by the same pattern of parents or by not getting married. It’s lucky to get a chance and live a different life while raised in a toxic and abusive environment. It’s more probable that the children from abusive homes will suffer in life.
It’s painful that the children go through the abuse from parents and then suffer in life as well later on.
Thank you. May Allah reward you
This is very important advice
Watching you from Somalia🇸🇴
My brothers and sisters, build yourself up, work on yourself, increase your knowledge and actions, if you were alone, stranded in a forest, who would you be?
I totally agree with brother's point that love is the fruit of healthy relationship and for the healthy relationship trust and respect are compulsory.
Wow this is such a good video, very thoughtful about all situations by not even taking anyone’s side, very logic and helpful, since my marriage already ended few years ago, by now I figured it slowly that it wasn’t a healthy marriage from the day one to begin with, and when i noticed my poor children suffering with our daily dramas and struggles then ending it was the only way, I’ll definitely recommend this video to my ppl specially to my kids and I’ll also keep in mind how to behave as a mother and mother in-low with my kids.
Thank you guys, your videos are always very helpful 🫴🏼💐
May Allah swt reward you all with good health in your life and happiness of this and the next world
MashaAllah this brother talks only wisdom . BaarakAllahu
This is marriage therapy in a nutshell!! An outstanding reminder for all married people to check themselves and how to truly live a happy married life, and the best advice for single people looking to get married!! I will forward this to my younger brother inshallah and take on it as a reminder for my self for self improvement inshallah!! Jazakum Allah Kul Khair!
Very useful video from a 22 years old man 😍Jazaum allah khir
Very fruitful video for unmarried and married people equally.❤
very knowledgable and wise speaker 👏🏻
Yeah brother
Brilliant video ....that has changed my mind set totally
Everyone should watch this before getting married 💍
His wife is so lucky ma sha Allah
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Masha'Allah Tabarakallah. Very good explanation
As an engineering enthusiast, i really loved the atomic bomb and nuclear energy analogy
It fits perfectly
Literally every single question was perfectly answered ☺️
An amazing video. Masha Allah, Allah bless this brother
May Allah bless you all in both dunyas,thank you very much
If a woman keeps bringing up a past event, its because the underlying sentiment in the action has come up again packaged in a different form. Its not about the event itself, but the underlying sentiment expressed showing how you view your wife, whether that be done conciously or unconciously.
Make this video viral!
Everyone should watch this before getting married💍
Beautiful wisdom shared, every person should watch this before marrying.
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Subhana Aallah..I slept through much of the video but I still managed to catch the last few parts which talks about the most important issue that is feared. Divorce. When all is said and done if you choose a righteous person hopefully you won’t have any regrets. In shaa Allah.
Masyaa allah! The explanations are so succinct and accurate! Justice is so important in marriage, and the rules of engagement as well. At the end, we want to please Allah and uphold Justice.
Such beneficial advices,Allahumma barik brother.
Alhumdulillah I have husband like this❤ I m blessed❤ Alhumdulillah ❤he is very mature ❤Mashallah❤he knows how to handle emotions❤I m very rich ❤Alhumdulillah❤Every man can buy u a house can give u a expensive gift but none can give u a security himself❤.Alhumdulillah❤ i m not worthy But Allah blessed me with him out of his merci❤
Thank you very much for your efforts and guidance.
Good advices mashaAllah 👍
MasyaAllah..
Jazakumullah khairan katsira ❤
I like this channel very well ❤❤❤
I also like brother ❤
I agree with you 100% after 28 years of marriage
MashaAllah. Learned a lot of things. It was a very important topic. May Allah accept your efforts.
Practically informative. Thanks
Great video and very good clarified answers and you're giving clarifying examples as well 😃😃great job
There is a misconception that women never forget the past. But in reality this a human trait not only in women
Men don't forget too, they keep everything hidden until there is a dispute...tried it, lived it.
Way back then, I always heard this word from my parents': "We're married when we're 24". To this day, the scale of success around here is at what age you're getting married, the earlier the better. Like, it's a race against time and if I can't get married at the designated age, then I'll be considered a failure to both community and family. But, day after day and upon looking towards how I mostly react to something with anger during that age, I feel like it's a sign that told me I'm not emotionally stable yet
May Allah bless you with a heart that can tolerate
JazakAllahu khair..
💜From India
Be patient is the key that will solve all problems, at least thats working for me
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Very insightful and useful wisdom for a happy marriage.
Truly good and insightful advice. Insha Allah those preparing for marriage should listen and benefit.
Thank you for this. Really insightful. May Allah bless you.
Love this channel
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Brother your such content is stoping me from being married 😅😅😅😅just for fun 😂
well said.❤❤❤
Rabbana hablana min azwajina wadzuriyyatinna qurrata a'yun waj al na lil muttaqin na imama.
good work brother thank you ❤
So much love for this video
Ilm+Hikmah
Allhumma barik.
Wonderful content ..very beneficial ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You guys should call Nauman khan on stage
Saving this vdo i will see before going to marry ❤
Mashallah, Jajakallaho Khair
Masha Allah you are very knowledgeable
100%
make duaa for me that Allah will send me a good husband who is sensitive and not neglecting
LOVE From Bangladesh brother.
جزاكم الله خير ❤
be sure to have heard frim the brother, where he said "low-quality marriage" is what destroys, and not a "low-quantity marriage" alhamdulillah for islam
🎉This video is GOLD 👑 for the couples who are about to marry 8:23
Very nice analogy ❤❤
Assalamualaikum. This video and the previous one helped me a lot. I noticed the subtitle is only English though. I wondered if it is possible to translate to other languages as well?
For example there's Towards Eternity Indonesia 🇮🇩 but not many videos are translated including this one.
Please upload that on Urdu channel also so more people can get knowledge and save their marriage life.
They should try
@@Islamiceditzbd they have urdu channel but they didn't just upload there.
Ooo
No matter what you do she will always bring up anything that you did that hurt her even the smallest incidents.
Beautiful advice ❤❤
I haven't watched it but I guarantee you After watching I would still say "JUST DON'T GET MARRIED "😊😊
Seems like a never ending war...💥💥💥💥💣
صلو على سيدنا محمد صل الله عليه وسلم
I DON'T HAVE WIFE!
MAY ALLAH GIVE ME GOOD WIFE🤲🤲🤲🤲
Allahuma Ameeen
But are searching though
may Allah bless u, Brother Ahmet may Allah bless him , such a great example for proper Muslim Husband, I know him in person and I learn from his behaviour more then I learn from a lot of scholars words!
when u meet him u'll know
Jzk khair, please do VoiceOver in Urdu if possible we really need it, may Allah accept your efforts :)
Marriage is risky but at the same time not marrying can also be full of regrets 😅
Alhamdulilah great advice
This was the absoluteelly wis3s things I heard of relationships so far. Wish all men realised what the man realised. Could you plzz make a video with same content for men who only speaks arabic??
Great job 👍
A big love from Manipur Muslim India❤❤
Masha Allah, this was a beneficial video. I have a personal question, Is it advised to get engaged before marriage?
Watching From Kolkata
I am that "harmed" child, if only we can turn back time I would prefer a divorced, happy parents.
Hope every body get perfect partner ❤💫
Need duas for pious spouse🤲
I would love to marry this brother or someone who is like him.... He knows well about the real deal....
May Allah give you what is best for you. Ameen
@@Idowu_Balogun ameen