For anyone suffering from these problems, just wanted to let you know it's possible to overcome them. It might be harder for some than others, but don't give up on yourself. I hope everyone is able to feel how absolutely freeing it feels to come through on the other end of trauma
It is possible, I had abandonment issues from my mom leaving.. But what helped me was loving my self and putting my faith in God Also be able to confront her for leaving and getting a better understanding of why she left.
You can have both parents present in every day of your life and still have abandonment issues. Parents that are together, non addictive and provide everything you need physically but not emotionally.
This is why I never get close to anyone. I was abandoned by my parents and abused both physically and emotionally by my grandparents and other family. I haven't been shown a lot of love in life and have been alone a majority of my life. It eats at me sometimes but I block it out. I had to overcome alcohol and drug addiction plus suicidal tendencies. All of that has taught me that I truly have myself and no one can stop me but me in progressing or finding happiness for myself.
I don't know if i would call it luck or destiny, but this is the exact problem that i'm conscious of right now, and i've been searching for solutions to my lack of trust towards others & difficulty opening myself up. this video came just in the right time. Thank you!
Yeah, watching this made me realize I more than likely have also experienced abandonment issues. My X separated from me years ago and I've had a hard time trusting people since then. She did some messed up stuff to me and its likely that those things are still affecting me.
I am currently struggling with mental health issuses of my own and I have access to therapy but its so hard to live in a house with someone I can't even talk to. This video has helped me realize that there is always a way to deal with issues in a healthy way without harming yourself or others. It is an everyday struggle but I know I can get through it.
Thank you for the video. My family in the states has passed on. My holidays and most other days are spent in solitude. I have a lovely family, though, in the Philippines waiting for me...when I am permitted to return there. If there is one thing that I realized, is that blood is not always thicker than water. Although nobody can replace blood, it is not about replacing, rather it is about continuing the love outside of that. I hope those in depression learn to strive again.
I know the exact feeling .. I’m just training myself to just deal with it and move on . My unfortunately happened throughout my whole life up until my mid late 20s and just understand why I’m like this in my late 30s so there changing me
Going through a very rough time transitioning out of depression. I am living with someone who is dealing with it and it’s rubbing off on me in terrible ways It’s screwing up my play with the ladies, it’s separating me from the people I love but mostly it’s just ruining my mood and productivity within being a MAN! I watch these videos because they guide me to make the right decisions but I am just trying to create a space to where I am happy all the time so I can do everything I need to succeed
As tough as this period may be for you, if you keep searching for answers and if you keep putting in the effort to solve the challenges that you are facing, you will one day look back with a smile. I share useful info that might help you on your quest on the Mastery Order channel. feel free to use these ideas on your quest and feel free to challenge them back or start a discussion if you need another opinion on your journey into manhood. I wish you strength and wisdom to become the kind of man you would look up to. Tough days are just character-building cays. All the best to you!
I’m pretty sure I have abandonment issues. Throughout my life so many of my friends have just left me. All of a sudden they just stop talking. I just feel broken. And now whenever I try to make a new friend in my head there’s a voice telling me that they hate me and they’re just gonna leave me. Also doesn’t help that I have EDS which means I’m in chronic pain all the time so I already feel broken and hate asking for help. In school everyone else seems to get stuff I I don’t understand so I just feels stupid. I know I need help. I know I need a therapist but my parents already do so much and I don’t want to bother them even though I know I probably should about this. My plan right now is to get help after I leave the house and go to college and then they won’t have to worry about it. Even though it’s years away I just hope that one day things will be better
Thais Gibbon and Attachment styles. If you look into her UA-cam HER VIDEOS HELP A LOT! And also take her quiz. Click on a video and under her video description she will have a link there. That's a good start for you. Good luck.
@@notme4141 listen Buddy I appreciate you wanna flex your Mitski Discography taste/knowledge but it’s my mental breakdown and I get to choose the music
This was useful, in my case I didn't have this fear, or at least it wasn't always that intense, my best friend nearly left my life because she got into a relationship and forgot she had a life out of his boyfriend, I was also in a relationship and at the time I got so insecure I had an argument with my partner, we solved it but recently this friend came back to my life to tell me that not only she broke up with her boyfriend once, she's coming back with him, and I haven't known about her since, I'm starting to realize maybe she's the one causing me this anxiety and I don't want to project this onto my partner anymore, it's unhealthy and bothersome for me.
After my mother abandoned me when i was 8, i cant even get near women. I can speak to them cordially but any time they get near or touch me i panic. I dont know what to do. Im almost 26 and im going to die alone because of this shit. Im afraid of getting close to anyone and because of that, I've never been in a relationship. I just want to be a father and husband. Thats all i want in life. everything else is meaningless to those two things in my eyes. Please pray for me.
I’m in love with a person with abandonment issues he’s unaware and it’s very difficult, I don’t want to give up on him because I love him. I want him to get help but he doesn’t think he has a problem. 😔
I have major abandoned issues as well as anger by the fact that at the age 18 weeks, someone could physically abuse a child, not feed a child & basically just forget about someone that is blood. I had to work thru a reading comprehension challenge, which made me feel stupid, I was held back in the 2nd grade. Kids always teased me as I was placed in a classroom that just me feel dumb. I always knew I was adopted but didn't know all of what occurred prior to being adopted. At the age of 18 years, my adopted parents gave me all my medical records, which I found out the most disgusting thing you could imagine reading about what your biological parents had done to you at that young age I found out at the age of 18 weeks I had been given to my adopted family with a broke leg and a dislocated arm. I never knew that fact of my past and I had broke down in tears as i would lock myself in my room, so nobody could see me crying.. That wasn't anything I was expecting to read about. I had heard stories around my biological parents and how they were 16 yrs old, had drug and alcohol problems. My biological mother and my biological father mother didn't get along, which is the reason for my abuse. My biological mother saw my grandma in me and was told that she didn't treat me right. I have a serious problem with a parent that doesn't respect the little lifeform as they brought me into this world, only to feel hate towards me, physically abuse me and can also just walk away from me. I know their intentions were good as they wanted a better life for me but I just wish that happened with them, not tossed out like trash, for someone else to repair the damage that was done to me. Even after 55 yrs, the pain has not completely disappeared, just pushed down until it was put in a box somewhere in mind. I never really felt apart of anything cause I never wanted to show any kind of vulnerability to anyone, only for it to get crushed again.
God is the cure to all abandonment, fears, and anxiety. If your mother, father, spouse etc… couldn’t be there He will be there! He is the Father of all Fathers! God will heal every part of you and cast away any mental illnesses that doesn’t define you. I prophecy because my Father is merciful and He saved me! Seek Him and He will answer! pray, I promise He hears you🤎
Hello, if some one have social anxiety and being introvert not able to cope up or stand up in conversation cz of over explanatitory conversation skill...and get drown away innmanipulation of others...what to do for it?
I have a 17 year old son who fits into this category I have been trying to get him into therapy He won't participate in therapy Would it be beneficial or harmful if I were to be direct with him about what is happening with him & why I.E., "Because your Dad & I betrayed & abandoned you when you were young you are experiencing this & XYZ will be the outcome unless you allow yourself to receive help & allow healing to take place" I believe that this is the beginning of the long term solution I appreciate your feedback Thank you
I'm not sure if this is abandonment issues but. Growing up father got deported to Mexico when I was a infant and died when I was 10. Later on my mother had many boyfriends 2 of them I looked up to as a father figure. But when they left it broke me alot. Even when my stepfather and mother got divorced. It makes dating harding because I'm afraid I'm gonna do something wrong and the person will leave me which has happened already
Hey!! I always leave the person whom i love the most only because of the fear of loosing them Or fear of they will reject me in future. And usually i cried every night by thinking about them after i left. What is it? 😞
any recommendations on how to get support for someone who is experiencing homelessness + these mental health issues. Are there any hotlines or support groups for free they can attend? They dont have any money or insurance and needs help coping and healing. Their case seems pretty severe being they were abandoned at a young adolescent age and are now almost 30 yo. Please help. I will research on my own as well but thought I would reach someone in the comments who can also provide insight. ty!
@@Kichidakatsumi They are going to smother you with too much attention and demand the same from you. Or they will become distant at the first sign of danger and leave you wondering if they still like you.
@@shiras202 I can also confirm that speaking from experience. Not as someone who was with someone with those issues, but as someone who has those issues themselves.
For anyone suffering from these problems, just wanted to let you know it's possible to overcome them. It might be harder for some than others, but don't give up on yourself. I hope everyone is able to feel how absolutely freeing it feels to come through on the other end of trauma
How did you do it ?
❤️
I'm. Pppp 🙏🙏😮
This is literally the question I’ve been asking my counselors for the past couple weeks.
It is possible, I had abandonment issues from my mom leaving..
But what helped me was loving my self and putting my faith in God
Also be able to confront her for leaving and getting a better understanding of why she left.
You can have both parents present in every day of your life and still have abandonment issues. Parents that are together, non addictive and provide everything you need physically but not emotionally.
I think so
This is what’s happening to me
Both of my parents died.
Yes, it happened to me…
"Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it."
If you are reading this you are amazing keep smiling💜
I would say it's more like 50/50
This is why I never get close to anyone. I was abandoned by my parents and abused both physically and emotionally by my grandparents and other family. I haven't been shown a lot of love in life and have been alone a majority of my life. It eats at me sometimes but I block it out. I had to overcome alcohol and drug addiction plus suicidal tendencies. All of that has taught me that I truly have myself and no one can stop me but me in progressing or finding happiness for myself.
Keep strong brother ✊
Stay strong, friend
Psalm 34:18
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted
and saves the crushed in spirit.
you never need anyone to suceed, i h8 humans
I don't know if i would call it luck or destiny, but this is the exact problem that i'm conscious of right now, and i've been searching for solutions to my lack of trust towards others & difficulty opening myself up. this video came just in the right time.
Thank you!
Yeah, watching this made me realize I more than likely have also experienced abandonment issues. My X separated from me years ago and I've had a hard time trusting people since then. She did some messed up stuff to me and its likely that those things are still affecting me.
I am currently struggling with mental health issuses of my own and I have access to therapy but its so hard to live in a house with someone I can't even talk to. This video has helped me realize that there is always a way to deal with issues in a healthy way without harming yourself or others. It is an everyday struggle but I know I can get through it.
Thank you for the video. My family in the states has passed on. My holidays and most other days are spent in solitude. I have a lovely family, though, in the Philippines waiting for me...when I am permitted to return there. If there is one thing that I realized, is that blood is not always thicker than water. Although nobody can replace blood, it is not about replacing, rather it is about continuing the love outside of that. I hope those in depression learn to strive again.
THANK YOU for the solutions. So many videos say they’ll help but they don’t, they just tell you signs and symptoms.
Only thing that sucks about therapy is it’s EXPENSIVE and it’s just a shame some people will never get the help they desperately need.
so true
I know the exact feeling .. I’m just training myself to just deal with it and move on . My unfortunately happened throughout my whole life up until my mid late 20s and just understand why I’m like this in my late 30s so there changing me
Going through a very rough time transitioning out of depression. I am living with someone who is dealing with it and it’s rubbing off on me in terrible ways
It’s screwing up my play with the ladies, it’s separating me from the people I love but mostly it’s just ruining my mood and productivity within being a MAN! I watch these videos because they guide me to make the right decisions but I am just trying to create a space to where I am happy all the time so I can do everything I need to succeed
As tough as this period may be for you, if you keep searching for answers and if you keep putting in the effort to solve the challenges that you are facing, you will one day look back with a smile. I share useful info that might help you on your quest on the Mastery Order channel. feel free to use these ideas on your quest and feel free to challenge them back or start a discussion if you need another opinion on your journey into manhood. I wish you strength and wisdom to become the kind of man you would look up to. Tough days are just character-building cays. All the best to you!
I’m pretty sure I have abandonment issues. Throughout my life so many of my friends have just left me. All of a sudden they just stop talking. I just feel broken. And now whenever I try to make a new friend in my head there’s a voice telling me that they hate me and they’re just gonna leave me. Also doesn’t help that I have EDS which means I’m in chronic pain all the time so I already feel broken and hate asking for help. In school everyone else seems to get stuff I I don’t understand so I just feels stupid. I know I need help. I know I need a therapist but my parents already do so much and I don’t want to bother them even though I know I probably should about this. My plan right now is to get help after I leave the house and go to college and then they won’t have to worry about it. Even though it’s years away I just hope that one day things will be better
Thais Gibbon and Attachment styles. If you look into her UA-cam HER VIDEOS HELP A LOT! And also take her quiz. Click on a video and under her video description she will have a link there. That's a good start for you. Good luck.
you mean "Lying on my bed looking up at the ceiling listening to Mitski's 'Nobody' on repeat" isn't a valid form of therapy for my abandonment issues?
it isnt, bad joke. nobody is worst mitskis song. class of 2013 solos
@@notme4141 listen Buddy I appreciate you wanna flex your Mitski Discography taste/knowledge but it’s my mental breakdown and I get to choose the music
Hahahaha that was funny
@@nickandrews2255 agree
Omg you are so meee
This was useful, in my case I didn't have this fear, or at least it wasn't always that intense, my best friend nearly left my life because she got into a relationship and forgot she had a life out of his boyfriend, I was also in a relationship and at the time I got so insecure I had an argument with my partner, we solved it but recently this friend came back to my life to tell me that not only she broke up with her boyfriend once, she's coming back with him, and I haven't known about her since, I'm starting to realize maybe she's the one causing me this anxiety and I don't want to project this onto my partner anymore, it's unhealthy and bothersome for me.
After my mother abandoned me when i was 8, i cant even get near women. I can speak to them cordially but any time they get near or touch me i panic. I dont know what to do. Im almost 26 and im going to die alone because of this shit. Im afraid of getting close to anyone and because of that, I've never been in a relationship. I just want to be a father and husband. Thats all i want in life. everything else is meaningless to those two things in my eyes. Please pray for me.
How are you now ?
Feel a little better listening to this video ❤️ thank you
These fears are ruining my life... I can't fully enjoy any friendship I have for fear it will end abruptly... I probably should try EMDR therapy
I’m in love with a person with abandonment issues he’s unaware and it’s very difficult, I don’t want to give up on him because I love him. I want him to get help but he doesn’t think he has a problem. 😔
Your work it's so needed! Please keep up the good work
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Cheers for the video man
I've come to realize as a man in this country I can't rely on anyone but myself to a certain extent and I'm fine with that.
Ty for this🖤
I have major abandoned issues as well as anger by the fact that at the age 18 weeks, someone could physically abuse a child, not feed a child & basically just forget about someone that is blood. I had to work thru a reading comprehension challenge, which made me feel stupid, I was held back in the 2nd grade. Kids always teased me as I was placed in a classroom that just me feel dumb.
I always knew I was adopted but didn't know all of what occurred prior to being adopted. At the age of 18 years, my adopted parents gave me all my medical records, which I found out the most disgusting thing you could imagine reading about what your biological parents had done to you at that young age I found out at the age of 18 weeks I had been given to my adopted family with a broke leg and a dislocated arm. I never knew that fact of my past and I had broke down in tears as i would lock myself in my room, so nobody could see me crying.. That wasn't anything I was expecting to read about. I had heard stories around my biological parents and how they were 16 yrs old, had drug and alcohol problems. My biological mother and my biological father mother didn't get along, which is the reason for my abuse. My biological mother saw my grandma in me and was told that she didn't treat me right. I have a serious problem with a parent that doesn't respect the little lifeform as they brought me into this world, only to feel hate towards me, physically abuse me and can also just walk away from me. I know their intentions were good as they wanted a better life for me but I just wish that happened with them, not tossed out like trash, for someone else to repair the damage that was done to me. Even after 55 yrs, the pain has not completely disappeared, just pushed down until it was put in a box somewhere in mind.
I never really felt apart of anything cause I never wanted to show any kind of vulnerability to anyone, only for it to get crushed again.
God is the cure to all abandonment, fears, and anxiety. If your mother, father, spouse etc… couldn’t be there He will be there! He is the Father of all Fathers! God will heal every part of you and cast away any mental illnesses that doesn’t define you. I prophecy because my Father is merciful and He saved me! Seek Him and He will answer! pray, I promise He hears you🤎
Amen 🙏🏽
Hello, if some one have social anxiety and being introvert not able to cope up or stand up in conversation cz of over explanatitory conversation skill...and get drown away innmanipulation of others...what to do for it?
The world is place of competition
@@erfanmohammed7065 how to tackel?
Your young positive not negitive thoughts find a positive thing turn it around good mentors and rolemodels your young
I have a 17 year old son who fits into this category
I have been trying to get him into therapy
He won't participate in therapy
Would it be beneficial or harmful if I were to be direct with him about what is happening with him & why
I.E., "Because your Dad & I betrayed & abandoned you when you were young you are experiencing this & XYZ will be the outcome unless you allow yourself to receive help & allow healing to take place" I believe that this is the beginning of the long term solution
I appreciate your feedback
Thank you
Ok that positive and straight forward your healef amen sister
Absolutely fantastic thanks so much its so inspiring for my novel and i suppose myself, thanks!
Abandonment issues suck
True. Makes me grateful there's a solution and recovery. Love, light and peace to you and all. Namaste. ❤🙏❤🙏
One thing you cant tell a person how another feels only you know
One you can aknowlege it be self aware of tool that can help your worthy to be loved you have to believe that self care
I'm not sure if this is abandonment issues but. Growing up father got deported to Mexico when I was a infant and died when I was 10. Later on my mother had many boyfriends 2 of them I looked up to as a father figure. But when they left it broke me alot. Even when my stepfather and mother got divorced. It makes dating harding because I'm afraid I'm gonna do something wrong and the person will leave me which has happened already
Seems like it
Thank you for this video
Hey!! I always leave the person whom i love the most only because of the fear of loosing them Or fear of they will reject me in future. And usually i cried every night by thinking about them after i left. What is it? 😞
i have abandoned issues my father had left me when i was younger i mean i have anxiety but
@Practicalpsychology Just want to let you know that your thumbnail is really awesome. It says so much... Also, thanks for sharing the information.
Only you can change you you cant change anyone else
Very interesting topic.
PS: excellent video. 😊💯
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I was abandoned by my stepmother on the street when I was 7 years old
Well if everyone wasn’t so narsassistic I wouldn’t have the issue
Neglected and abused...
very relatable!
Any sources for group therapy that someone may know about ? Help a brotha out thank you ❤️🙏🏼
I had it all
any recommendations on how to get support for someone who is experiencing homelessness + these mental health issues. Are there any hotlines or support groups for free they can attend? They dont have any money or insurance and needs help coping and healing. Their case seems pretty severe being they were abandoned at a young adolescent age and are now almost 30 yo. Please help. I will research on my own as well but thought I would reach someone in the comments who can also provide insight. ty!
Yes we all go threw crap daily enough yrouble in one day
You are one day its hard i had good teachers the problem thepist need theripist too
Thanks
I get that
I myselflived in a household knoone aknowlefged me like they didnt care compared to my siblings all the time
wow. Y just describde me in a 6min video. Nice
People can be selfish put a man before their own kid
All i can advice you to get a advocate for it thete are free councilers even if you csnt afford it now it will be ok
Im sure you could get a advocate
Im talking about me as a child not now
I wish I could rewire my brain
There is free advocates
Where have you been man?
Working on many projects :) Check out the channel "WhiteboardCrypto" to see one of them :D
I bonded with my tv
Sorry it grows to adulthood
First
Mujhe Amir Banna h
Don't ever date someone with unresolved abandonment issues, they are a nightmare to date.
Why?
@@Kichidakatsumi They are going to smother you with too much attention and demand the same from you. Or they will become distant at the first sign of danger and leave you wondering if they still like you.
@@livedeliciously interesting
@@livedeliciouslyunfortunetly i can only confirm that
@@shiras202 I can also confirm that speaking from experience. Not as someone who was with someone with those issues, but as someone who has those issues themselves.