REACTING TO CURLY HAIR TIKTOKS WHAT IS HAPPENING??
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- Опубліковано 29 сер 2024
- We are back to reacting to curly hair tiktoks! Headed back to curly hair tiktoks and as someone who has 4C hair, it's always fun watching other women's curly hair routines!
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thank you for this! i'm a half korean, half polynesian teenage girl who was born and raised in korea and i have been self conscious of my big curly polynesian hair my whole life. i flat ironed my hair every single day and damaged it so badly, and it wasn't until i stumbled upon your videos that i started really embracing my hair and loving it and i felt so inspired by beautiful black women like you and the community you built to become more comfortable in my brown skin, even if our experiences are a little bit different from each others 🙌🏼💜
Oh my gosh, hi! I'm half Chinese and half Tokelaun and this wanted to make me cry. It's so nice seeing another Asian-Pasifika girl go through what I am going through. Atua is watching out for us💕
@@th1nd0lls20 wow, really? i'm rarotongan. this is my first time ever coming across another half brown kid so this is super exciting for me. exactly, Atua created everyone with our own beautiful and unique shapes and sizes and we need to love what He has given and blessed us with. i'm still learning how to do that and it might take me a long time, but it's all part of the process. Āmene. 🙏🏼
Oh wow, I bet your hair is beautiful and full!! 🥰😍
This is beautiful! This is exactly why she created this channel!
I love this for you ladies!!
I'm Egyptian and my hair is curly (3b-3c), and the sad thign is I would say 75% of Egyptians have curly/kinky hair, and yet I grew up with straight hair being the beauty standard, my mom used to take me to the salon and get relaxers put in my hair and I had it blow-dried/flat-ironed all the time. She had no idea how to actually take care of my curls, even though she has even CURLIER hair, but she was shamed even more for having it in her era. WE'RE ALL STRUGGLING, but I swear Chizi I love your channel and have loved it for years for the love you give your hair and everyone's hair no matter what texture they have
But yeah I hated my hair so much as a kid, people used to tell me it looked like the end of a broom :(
Wow!!! Never thought anyone would relax 3b hair 🤯. I'm learning so much in this thread!!!
I’m Egyptian too and my mother has 4a-4b hair, she’d take my 3b-3c haired little sister to straighten her hair in the salon frequently…. It’s uncanny how reminiscent your experience with curly hair is of my sister’s :( I’ve curly hair too, not as curly as my sister’s, but i still have to deal with the suffocating self hatred and disgust towards my hair that i KNOW is invalid because i truly find curly hair beautiful- it’s just the weight of the words i grew up hearing about curly hair. And what’s even sadder is the fact that almost all Egyptians have curly hair by nature- unless their genes have been diluted- yet they’ve been raised to hate their hair and chase away from it
My boyfriend is Egyptian and he insists I don’t have curly hair bc it isn’t like his (I’m white, mix of Italian and other things). His is more 4c. I have 3a-3b and it’s definitely not straight. His mom straightens hers so I don’t know her natural texture but everyone’s is different.
I’m sorry you didn’t have a good experience with your hair, I hope you can learn to love it and style it however suits you best!
@@delivia3474 its awful ive been there, trust me, but if they ever say anything tell them thats the hair god gave you, they can't question or criticize you then, that's what I always did! They can't argue with the fact that we are beautiful just how we are born, they legit get jealous when we're comfortable with our natural features. I'm rooting for you and your curls
I’ve got type 3b/c hair and was told I had “bad hair” as a kid. My family is Arab and my mother (and her mother) have wavy hair so they didn’t know what to do with it. For years, they would comb and brush out my hair till frizzy then put it in a bun or a single braid. In high school, I started to relax my hair. I only stopped years later when my hair got so damaged that it was falling out left and right. And then started the long journey of trying to love my hair and learn how to best care for it-all while still hearing how “bad” my hair is. No matter what, we live in a world that will not hesitate to point out all the ways we are not good enough. The standard of beauty is utterly unattainable and yet we still kill ourselves trying.
As a black woman with 4b/c hair, I've always been told I have bad hair and the only thing good about it, was how thick it was. I had relaxed hair for 10 yrs and went natural at 21 yo. I had that planned some I was 12 to go back natural. Now when my family members even utter a word about my hair being "bad", I tell them don't touch it. They get super offended when I tell them that! The relaxer thin their hair and now....... They went natural as well!! Embrace your curls, it's a self love journey for sure. It's hard to love yourself when your family is teaching you to dislike a part of yourself. Not a strong foundation at all. But they're human as well.
I feel like you're talking about me 😭
Your hair is gorgeous, please if you can invest in going to a curly hair stylist who can help you learn how to take care of your hair and learn to love it .ignore the haters
Iranian here and I have the same problem, most people in my country have wavy or curly hair, yet the pin straight hair the beauty standard here and women use regularly flat Irons or keratin treatments to achive that look ,I am not against it but the way that society look down on natrualy curly hair calling it names like crow nest, sheep headed ect, is truely disgusting! I have seen young girls at age of 3 forced into getting a keratin treatment and the hair stylist constantly shaming their natrual texture ! I have started my curly journey almost 2 years ago and the amount of time that I heard from people that Why I dont just get a relaxer is crazy ! We should stop shaming curly and coily hair in the world
@@meggieqin8496 same! I’m Iranian as well and on my dad side, everybody has thick, curly/kinky hair. And nobody ever believes me when I tell them. And it’s true what you say about the girls getting keratin hair straightening from his early as four. My mom‘s second cousin, her mother would shave her head all the time because her hair was too thick/curly.
"You are your own standard of beauty" 👏👏👏
Periodt
Love that
The beauty standard for white and black people is so different it's crazy! Like we live in 2 different places but we're all in the same place. It's wild
It can be different and that is OK. Issue comes in when one group pushes their standard onto the other! This MUST stop.
Money or rather lots of it is in the 'fair skinned' industry and we grow up seeing ONLY this on tele, magazines, shops, movies, catwalks. We.can. say NO. and we MUST.
@@lks2144 calm down man
@@queerlibtardhippie9357 why??
@@lks2144 let's be specific or no healing can be done... the white standard is what makes it weird. White people made the standard white not anyone else.
@@queerlibtardhippie9357 do you want them to calm down because you are part of the problem? The only people that tone police are the people who benefit the most. Like a man telling a women to stop being angry about feminism. Baby i need *YOU* to calm down mmmkay?
I remember peeking over at curly girl UA-cam a few weeks ago, randomly. And the struggle is real over in type 3 land. Their wash day routine for their curls blew my mind!!! I thought they just get out of the shower and they had perfect bouncy curls. NOPE! Even the 3a, 2C gals take a bit of time. It make me feel like we are all part of one big spiral sisterhood 😁.
Spiral sisterhood I love that😁💕
Absolutely!!🥰
I like how u put it “spiral sisterhood”. In my country we don’t make a distinction between curly and coily (probably because we the majority is white) so it’s like either straight, wavy or curly (so if ur hair has coils it’s still curly but if you want to make a distinction u just add an adverb “really curly” ). That’s why to me even though each group have their own struggles, I know there are some that are common. And it’s fascinating to me, how ppl hasn’t realized that sooner. That being said, I used to think too that some of them woke up like that and nope LOL and some of them used to think the same thing about ppl with coils hahahahhahahahha
By the way, and not related to the topic, the lack of distinction in my native language makes me think that if I were an “influencer” I would get in trouble for saying I have curly hair when probably it is not (I mean I have some curls cuz I have different hair textures, but my hair it’s mostly coily)
It takes lots of time to whash and style and yet its full of frizzs😫
really? i'm 3b/ 3a and only wash and put some leave in and that's it, those girls might be making all that extra stuff for youtube money lol but i guess you can have the same hair type and different experiences... thank god i don't have to do shit to my hair cause with how lazy i am i would not be able to cope with any effort
You moved me to tears. My hair has negatively affected my self image until THIS YEAR, and I’m 41.
👏😮 Wow....
I’m so sorry you’ve gone through that😟. I’m sure you’re absolutely beautiful!😍😍
The world has done a horrible thing to women by making them always compare their individual beauty to each other. So sad...
Growing up i thought i had 4c hair. Now i realise my hair isn't even close and there's a sense of not feeling welcome when you are somewhere in the middle like me (3b/3c/4a/4b). Not curl and not coily. Everyone has a different struggle Chiz. Well said.
Even in the curly circle its mainly type 2 as seen in this video.
So true
YES!! this its been a real struggle
Your so right, we all have our own struggles. It's true.
Suggestion to look more to the "natural hair" community rather than "curly hair" community.
If those are all type 2 then my curly hair is type 1... type 2 are very loose curls, almost waves while type 1 is straight and type 3 are actual ringlets
Im white with curly hair. Was never taught how to upkeep it and feel good about it. I have 2 biracial girls and I do everything in my power to get them to love their hair. I bought a mannequin head the same day I found out the first was a girl and figured out how to do black hair (still always learning) I would love to see you dive in to more depth in curly hair. I've already learned alot from some of your previous videos that I apply to my babies hair🥰
I love that for your girls. ❤❤
@@michelle_ajema we love watching you!!
That's awesome
Wish more people would take the time to learn when they know they are producing mixed kids and their kids could come out with virtually any hair type (depending on the mix of course) it’s so important to be able to properly care for your children. It was always weird to me how some women would have children with a black man and then have kids and not know what to do like you had 9 months to research 😭.
All in all I really appreciate your comment and I’m glad your girls have a mother go is willing and desires to learn so that you can manage their hair regardless of the texture that’s soo important and I know they will appreciate you for that as they grow up ! 😇
I am pretty much shocked myself. We all got our "Loving Our Hair" problems but I didn't realize it was that bad of a struggle for them. Truth is, ain't nobody gon' love our hair like we do🌺. #SELFLOVE
I grew up with both of my parents having completely flat hair! All my life my mother would complain about how ugly and freezy my hair was. My poor mother thought that getting my hair permanently straightened since the age of 10 was the best thing to get my hair to stop being freezy. In my 20’s I found out it was “freezy” it was just curly 😂😂 and since she brushed it like it was straight hair well it looked awful. (She apologizes to this day for her “ignorance” lol)
@@ximenadiaazz4631 Hunnnnnyyyyy at least you can embrace it now & your mom apologizes like cracra. After a certain age, I've realized that as kids we were blind to a lot of things when it comes to our hair & it was our parents that took care of it. Imagine we were even made fun of by other kids because of the type & length of our hair. Thank God we know now & can guide our mini us when they get here✨.
Also when you have straight hair it is boring and flat and needs to be brushed several times a day because it tangles easily and immediately looks like a mess and you dont want that because if you have straight hair you better have silky smooth straight hair like from a magazine (this is why so many straight haired girls actually straighten their hair, because naturally straight isn't actually straight enough) or you have to curl and wave it, because the most desired kind of straight is actually wavy.
It makes sense. Why miss out on a whole chunk of money if you can just go ahead and tell straighted haired people they shouldn't have straight hair and curly haired people they shouldn't have curls to sell them both products to change their hair. Bonus for telling straight haired people their hair is the wrong kind of straight and curly haired people theirs is the woring kind of curly because then you can sell double the products.
And for some extra juice money make it so that there are the wrong kinds of hair colors too so people think they have the ugly shade of brown hair instead of the pretty one and color it!
As a type 3 latina, I want to say thank you. I was also just telling my lovely type 4 friend a few days ago how much the curly girl community has hijacked the natural hair community to the point that I don’t even watch their videos anymore. I learn so much more about how to treat my own hair from type 4 sisters. I’m tired of the sponsored videos offering discounts. I don’t wanna go to a curly hair salon and pay more money just because I need a trim! I don’t need a consultant to tell me how I can treat my curls like they teach all their other clients bc there is no one and tried formula for us all! Type 4 hair community taught me that. Texture don’t matter to me anymore, I now prioritize health above all. Thank you for teaching me self-love 😌
This video is so relatable and validating, growing up my mom would brush out my curls and I hated it, I was so confused why my hair was so poofy compared to everyone. Even now if my hair isn’t as curly as it could be, it’s discouraging bc after years of work it still isn’t as curly as some other girls. Now Ofc thanks to people with similar curl patterns it helped develop more self love towards my hair
We all need to realize alot of the standards of beauty are highjacked by trends. I was a teen in the 80's when we all wanted poodle perms & the standard was as curly as possible.
Yes my high school bestie had the most magnificent ramen-hair made of perms.
Yeah beauty trends are truly ridiculous
poodle perms?! it does explain all the pics my aunts have...
The self hate in curly haired people comes from racism and colonialism too. We in the latinx countries and communities were also told our hair was bad generation after generation. And people didn't know how to care for curly hair texture except for flat ironing it.
i had my hair straightened at the age of 11/12 I’m 22 now and every time I say I want to grow my curly hair again my family thinks I’m crazy bc they say I have “bad hair”
If that's you in the pfp... I have to say... GORGEOUS MANE *chef's kiss*
@@andressaoliveira7755 That's crazy. Rock ur natural mane gurl. The internet is your best friend in that matter. Take a bit from everybody
I know a lot of white girls with curly hair who struggle with it and it has nothing to do with racism at all, I'm talking Irish-level white girls.
@@dawnhunter2558 Well I was talking about OUR experience and where it comes from which is racism and colonialism.
One of my patients told me she also got made fun of at school until she started straightening her hair. And how she always wished she could go swimming but knew her hair would revert & it’d take too much effort to re-straighten it…I understood her completely but had no idea that Caucasian women felt the same way as me.
To be honest, most of the white people with curly hair in my school had giant uncontrollable frizzy manes. To the point where they’d start straightening it. Yes they would get bullied for it. I feel sad for those people now as I’m older, they probably had no knowledge on what to do with it, or how to manage it. Most white people have straight hair so there isn’t much community support there. I did have a friend with curly hair and she used to get to school 2 hours early to straighten her hair. It takes so long
I'm a pale-skinned straight-haired girl, so I'm aware I cannot relate to the struggles of 4c/curly haired gals, but I can get behind all the energy and support for y'all!
thank you :)
Thank you❤
"You are your own standard of beauty" is going to be what I tell my daughter now. That is brilliant. Thank you so much
Yes! Make sure she knows that her beauty is unique and is a standard in itself. We are all beautiful and lucky to have the faces and bodies we were born with 🙏🏻 i hope she never goes through any self doubt or hatred
As a white/hispanic plus-size girl with 2a/2b waves and frizz galore my whole life until now, I wanted to say that your videos coming across my feed were what made me become interested in the hair that I hated growing up. Your confidence and your desire for women to invest time and love in themselves is tremendously inspiring, whether you’re talking about clothes, 4c hair, or peeking in on the curly girls. Love to see it 🙌
Dudeee same, honestly. I’m white/ hispanic as well and I would say my hair is the same texture, waves or loose curls, really thick and it tangles almost immediately. I was wondering how you take care of it? I still struggle with it a bit
@@luciliascarcass it took a long time to find a happy medium, but I’ve kind of settled on a wash every 3-ish days with the Cantu shea butter shampoo/conditioner, with a cheap sulfate shampoo in there 1-2 times a month because I get buildup at the roots now and again. While my hair is damp I do 2 pumps of Argan oil and run it through kind of the bottom half of my hair, especially on the ends cause they can get dry/frizzy/tangled pretty quickly. I don’t really use a hold product just cause I hate blow drying and I have yet to find a gel or a mousse or a cream that doesn’t take 87.3 years to dry in my hair - it’s super thick, super dense, and holds on to water like nobody’s business so too much product makes things kinda mushy real quick for me.
Idk if that helps at all, but my hair has been a lot smoother and more chill since I started this kind of ‘less is more’ approach. I’d love to hear if you have anything you try too!
@@theoriginalnik Thank you so much!!
I love how the deeper she gets into prayer the more the accent comes out.
I'm white Romanian with completely straight hair, I just love watching Chizi's videos to get educated about the different hair types. It also opened my eyes a lot about so many important things related to the black community. I cried and laughed with Chizi, so thank you for these videos.
Same, I started following "natural hair" videos as a straight-haired white person and they blew my mind, such an education. Watching Chizi get her mind blown by what she would consider easy-street problems cracked me up.
I have 2c/3a hair and these kind of tik tok videos honestly makes me feel bad about my hair. But you just can’t compare your hair to others. So thank you for saying that everybody is beautiful in their own way, i totally agree❤️
@spirals 73 Same!
@spirals 73 me too girl 😭 istg some days I wanna chop it all off
PREACH IT SISTER! I’m Nigerian & Lebanese with type 3 hair. That only matters when I’m thinking about how haircare like potentially how heavy a product to use etc. I may choose braids, cornrows, or twists. Some days I brush out my curls, other days I leave it defined. I think we need to throw away the phrase “frizzy hair”. Cos it’s too relative. When I brush out my hair it’s not frizzy, it’s fuller, and it’s beautiful. While I’ve loved people staring at me less because of how I choose to wear my hair, I’m tired of all the rules people keep imposing on themselves and therefore on me. It’s only hair ooo as long as it’s not so dirty that I have insects living in there I’ll wear it how I choose.
I grew up with both of my parents having completely flat hair! All my life my mother would complain about how ugly and frizzy my hair was. My poor mother thought that getting my hair permanently straightened since the age of 10 was the best thing to get my hair to stop being freezy. In my 20’s I found out it was “frizzy” it was just curly 😂😂 and since she brushed it like it was straight hair well it looked awful. (She apologizes to this day for her “ignorance” lol)
I'm white and Swedish with fairly straight hair with just a little bit of wave to it, and I remember reading a lot of eye opening posts on Tumblr during my teens about how every movie where the (white) heroine goes through a "transformation" scene they go from curly to straightened hair (biggest example that comes to mind rn is Princess Diaries) and how that was hailed as more beautiful by media and made a lot of kids grow up to hate their curls. Only time I ever saw curls in media in a positive light when I grew up was if it was perfectly smooth curls on a blue eyed blond little girl basically.
I have 4a hair and I follow mostly black women with type 4 hair as well so this is very interesting. Women with the loose curls don’t pop up on my timeline. 😂
Yes! I’m a 26 year old white girl with the slightest of waves and growing up I always straightened my hair because I thought that’s what was pretty. Now I embrace my waves my hair is so much healthier! Thanks for the video.
“You are your own standard of beauty” ohh that hit ♥️
I have type 3 curls, a mix of 3a/3b and some days my whole head of hair can be more 3b looking and some days it can be more 3a looking, but as a mixed race latina I had to teach myself to style and love my curls because the older generation instilled in most of our heads that our hair being done means "straightening it. I went on a curly hair journey in my early 20's (i'm 28 now) bc I destroyed my curls and regretted it. I followed more curly hair girls and pages of curly hair products and got rid of people who made hair content that had straight hair. I had to change my own algorithm on my feed and I did the same thing on UA-cam, that helped me not only learn about curly hair but I got more inspired and it helped me love my curly hair more! 💜
I've got a 4B hair and I thought all my young life that curly hair girls have no problems with their hair. But now I've to take care of my niece's hair who got type 3 hair... I'm just 🤐
I think there are some differences based on age. I’m in my mid 40s, had curly hair when I little that went straight until puberty. I gradually started getting waves and then curls back. When I was growing up the Natural Hair movement was in swing (my mom used to be a beautician and got hair magazines with spreads about it), perms were all the rage & curly/textured hair was fashionable.
I was happy when my waves & then curls started coming back. I’ve had both, I prefer waves - curls.
I meet very few women my age who hate their hair but am currently working with a wavy who has straightened her hair for decades.
It’s more common to find this among millennials & the oldest members of Gen Z. They grew up when stick straight was all the rage.
My hair can range from a mix of 2C/3A to 3B. It depends on the health of my hair, products, the seasons… A lot of time porosity (high), density (medium high) and texture (coarse) are more important factors to me than curl type at times. I can get a wealth of knowledge from women with every curl type imaginable if we share some of the same properties.
Honestly, as a biracial girl with 3b/3c curls I am happy to see someone else's perspective on the self-hatred especially centered around hair. Love your videos and your content and thank you for being so kind.
Love this braid look on you. Stunning 💚🖤❤️
Honestly I’ve noticed almost everyone has some form of self hate and especially in regards to their hair.
People with straight hair “It’s so thin, straight, and flat and holds no curl”
People with wavy hair “I hate how it flips and sticks out”
People with curly hair “I hate how frizzy it is and I don’t know how to style it”
People with coily hair “It’s nappy”
And definitely noticed similarities when it comes to skin tones as well. Whyte people complain about being pale and non whyte people complain about being dark. We as a society definitely need to work on some self love and stop with the comparisons. EVERYBODY!
It's not the same thing with dark skin /color or kinky hair because WHITE SUPREMACY.
zakiya yes, but also no… it’s different where i live but the people found most attractive aren’t white. there’s like zero racism. it’s really great! and super accepting. we also have one of the highest percentages of LGBTQ+ people. overall it’s great only downside is all of it will have probably burned once by 2030
@@imawakemymindisalive13 and where is that?
@@SincerelySage I’d rather not disclose my city but I live in a very leftist very gay town in california. It’s awesome.
Yes, like people risk their health to get tanned for example just as other people risk it to get bleached, i think right now the beauty standard is being mixed with light brown skin, I dont live in the US, but i dont think white people are privileged when it comes to beauty standard, maybe in regards of other things such as politics, etc
I luv that prayer. “Lord help us LOVE OUR HAIR THE WAY IT IS!”💆🏾♀️🥰
What Chizi said at the end is exactly what I was thinking!!! Though the insecurities that those with waves and loose curls face is VALID it also shows how BAD discrimination/texuturism is for 4C girls/guys and non-binary people. Overall eurocentric beauty standards are the problem and it will continue to be the problem unless we actively do something about it and we're trying btw we just need to continue and improve
I absolutely love this video and your love that shows about how you want us all to be confident❤️
I’m biracial and I’m a 3c with hints of 4a. I grew up with the beauty standard that straight hair was best, and relaxers were all the rage in the 2000’s (not knocking my relaxed sisters). But it wasn’t until the 2010’s when I transitioned and people started to see my curly hair and they would make comments about how I had “good” hair. I always knew the “beauty standard” for type 3 women is that we were compared to women with straight hair. But I never knew that women with type 4 hair were constantly compared to us.
THANK the Lord we are now in a place where we can all come together and stop letting the world pin us against each other. ALL of us have stunning hair. God doesn’t make mistakes❤️🙌🏽
I am a black type 4 coily-kinky haired woman, and I first learned of all the hate/self-hate the type2-3 curly hair community faces when I read the by Lorraine Massey in high school. I had no idea things were that bad for people in other races who had curly hair. Beauty standards are whack guys. Just compare you to yourself. You're unique and lovely just how you are, and you'll grow in loveliness as you grow!
As a white girlie with curly hair I grew up with so many movies where the white girl with frizzy/curly/big hair would straighten her hair and then be called "beautiful" 😔. Like the princess diaries was one of my favorite movies but made me hella insecure.
1. i feel so seen, im so glad you did this video. 2. Chizi being genuinely surprised to discover that whiter women with looser curls also compare themselves to an unattainable standard was honestly eye opening...like of course we do! 2b. side note lots of whiter curlies will be the sole curly haired person in their family so their mom will genuinely brush her curl out every morning and send her to school in full Hagrid mode. it is part of the curly girl/guys journey. im not saying feel sorry for the poor white girls or anything but we all have our struggles
Yes!! This video is so validating
Not Hargrid 😩🤭😭
@@elohoregbordi I died at Hagrid 😭
YES, I spent my childhood looking like Hagrid then I started straightening chemically and only 5 years ago learned how to properly style my natural hair
I have 2a and i have A LOT of frizz and people always asked me why i didnt brush it, anyways and when i brush it was frizzier so.. i always wanted curls like it made more sense to me to have frizz if you have curls, i feel like people dont talk about wavy hair enough
This is something I knew already but this reinforced it, beauty can never really be achieved so to say. Like you said we want curly hair, they want straight, we as black people treat lighter skinned people better than we do dark skinned people (that's on colourism) and the Caucasians want tanner skin, Asians go for more pale/lighter skin,and (colourism is very prominent). The truth is you will never fit the societal beauty standards and so just accept yourself as you are. You can never be happy with yourself while trying to please others
^^^^^THIS!!! Yes, I FRIED myself in the tanning bed for 10 years because I just HAD to have a good tan. The spray on tans never did right on my skin & made my feet & hands blotchy. I still think brown skin looks better. I don't have as much confidence now by far. I'm still a melanin lover🤗
@@peytonweb building up confidence is not something that will happen over night hun, the first thing you need to do is mentally accept yourself, and stop listening to what people have to say, it will take a lot of self talk and convincing but slowly it will happen. I'm still not where I'd like to be in that regard but if you compare me now to 10 year old me, you'd see the improvement. You'll get there don't worry
@@peytonweb just to jump in with the whole confidence topic. It definitely takes time, what I like to think about is I am the generic makeup of my parents. No matter what I want to look like I'm still going to be a mix of them. My hair is still going to grow out 4b/4c no matter if I straighten or loosen the Curl with a texturizer. Like when I first went natural my mom hated it, and still likes to nitpick. But I shut her down real quick with, "I got my hair from you." My skin will eventually go back to how it usually is because that's the color it is supposed to be. So you just have to embrace what you were born with and rock it the best way you know how 😊😊 (unless it's like a surgery, etc. Lol 😅)
Gosh thanks! I have very pale skin and spend my childhood being called the corpse or the witch because of it. Wear fake orange tan for yeaaaars before I accepted myself as I was. 😢 same for my redhead curly hair best friend who spend her whole life dyimg it black and flattening it when It s the most gorgeous lion mane ever
Seeing this video honestly makes me thankful for the type 4 hair community because I might have been down from watching videos like this constantly if it was my hair type & the funny thing is it took me a while to really appreciate my hair & I hope that these ladies can start loving their hair more and raise their kids to do the same ❤️ sending love to all my natural hair girls
I am a very pale woman with extremely curly hair. Sometimes I straighten it because I've learned that pale women should have straight hair. What a bullshit. Thank you for your positive charisma and your wonderful personality. I love your videos and somehow you too! Greetings from Germany.
As a half jamaican/half scottish kid with multiple textures in my hair, i went through years of straightening(damaging) my hair before finally starting to learn how to care for and appreciate my curls. UA-camrs like you have been been so helpful.❤
‘You have to realise that you.. what YOU look like- THAT is your standard of beauty.’ Love that Chizi👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💙!!! God does NOT make mistakessss
thank you for acknowledging what us biracial kids go through. I'm white and black but my black side of my family always said rude comments abt my hair to my mom for leaving my hair natural when I was younger so then of course my mom listened to the multiple black people telling her that I needed a relaxer. After years of relaxers and straightening, my hair was so dead that I didn't even know that years from then I would be walking around with a curly-coily afro. But I now as a teenager still struggle to fit into the natural hair community because I have 3C hair that's afro textured. I don't fit in with the curly hair community because of my afro texture and coils but I don't fully fit into the type 4 community because of some of my curls. It's hard navigating having an afro and styling my hair in ways that are typical for type 4 hair but also not wanting to intrude on a community because texturism does exist I don't want to take up space that doesn't belong to me.
I sympathize with them BUT there is a hair type hierarchy(unfortunately) and curly hair was and very much STILL IS a beauty standard. I'm seeing too many women in the comment section equate their problems to the problems of women with kinky hair and I don't like that. There are similarities in our problems but they are not equal at all. Non black women with wavy hair aren't getting kicked out of school or not being allowed to participate in sports competitions.
^^^Exactly.
Yes!
Exactly. They aren’t being told that their hair is unpresentable or nappy. They can fit in a lot easier than type 4s can
@@8ThatUp2 I know it’s absurd but my 2c hair growing up was constantly called nappy
I was thinking the SAME thing
This just goes to show that we all have our struggles! We just have to remember and KNOW that no matter what, you are beautiful, you ARE your own standard! No 👏🏿one👏🏿 else 👏🏿should 👏🏿be 👏🏿your 👏🏿standard👏🏿. Thanks @Chizi for this video 😘😘😘
So true. I knew this girl who had beautiful curly hair...perfect ringlets. Like it was people would pay for it as a wig, but she ABSOLUTELY HATED IT. And straighten it constantly. She actually carried a straighten with her every where she went. I hope us coilies can help our fellow curlies 🙏🏾❤
Same, had an Indian friend with GORGEOUS one-inch width fat perfect ringlets and she would straighten them. My straight hair can't even hold a curl and she was blessed with a full head of perfect ones and she straightens them, a shame.
I’m glad you said it! The natural hair community got hijacked by the curly hair community for sure! ‘Curly hair consultants’ be charging an arm and a leg for tips sistas have BEEEEEEN recommending on YT for decades now!
Thank you for this! Thank you for your prayers! You brought me to tears! Growing up only receiving compliments when my hair is straightened, being told my curly/wavy hair is unprofessional, loved ones saying “the ridiculous thing she’s done with her hair” when I wore my natural texture out & proud….thank you for taking this pain to the Lord and releasing my shackles 🙏🏻
I am sending you all my love girl! Your natural hair and your curls are beautiful. Wear it with pride and confidence!
You are the ray of positivity we all need.
I feel we something get so absorbed by our own problems that we fail to see that we're all struggling. Maybe not in the same way but everyone has struggled with self acceptance and self love in some way. So as a 4c girl, it's eye opening to see that even people with different hair textures also go through the same struggle of figure how to best take care of their hair. And in a nutshell, that's really just what we're all trying to do; to figure how to best take care of ourselves and how to love ourselves. So when Chizi said you're your own beauty standard, I felt that! Because it's the "universal", "socially accepted" beauty standard that are the source of this self hate, that's really hurting our confidence. So let's follow in Chizi's lead and sent love and positivity to those still struggling and try to change the narrative when it comes to beauty standards and self image.
My hair are not even curly, I’m somewhere between 2B and 2C wavy. But growing up in Asia where every girl has shiny straight hair it made me self conscious for my hair and flat iron it every half year until recent year I start to embrace it. It gives me volume in my hair that straight hair doesn’t have and I even got my first ever curly perm (around 3A) this year. Love it
I'm white with 3A curls, and there's almost no good documentation that's readily available. I had the curliest hair in school (I live in Maine, so very few POC unfortunately) and I deadass got asked if I curled my hair every day. Honestly, I ended up getting inspired by black women rocking their curls and kinks to really try to learn about and take care of my own. Positivity from channels like yours, even if they don't target my demographic personally, can be so inspiring. Keep spreading your message; what you say is both true and important, and more people need to hear it.
Wdym "very few poc unfortunately"… 🤦🏻♂️
@@user-pm5nr8zy7m she means bc there's few poc, the ignorance is magnified when it comes to hair
Thank you so much for this. I have always said that, no matter your complexion or your texture, everyone has struggles. It would be wonderful if women (and just people in general) would just respect and support one another in love.
My mother had completely different hair texture from her daughters. She was not interested in messing with hair. Much time and discomfort (pain) was involved in controlling our hair and later pressing it as we got older. None of us has much curl even as babies. Even today with the popularity of hair “typing” I have no idea which category my natural hair would fall into.
Between impossible beauty standards, false images in media, and lack of interest in putting in a lot of work caring for our hair can be a burden. It is no wonder that the hair care product industry is so large. As with weight loss, if any of the “miracle products” we see in magazines and online really could be THE ANSWER for everybody the industry would be dead. I so appreciate you for taking us along on your hair journey. You have saved me literally thousands of dollars.
Oh my gosh I love you lol I'm not Christian but that prayer just warmed my whole heart and made me giggle at the same time lol you have such genuine care for ppl and it's awesome!
Thank you Chizi!!! Thanks so much for opening up to the curly hair community bc I love ur 4c hair vids but I’m like a 3b-4a girl and I can’t really relate to some of the struggles that queens with coily hair may have, so thanks for making another iconic power move. Lots of love!
I'm shocked but also not surprised! As always Chizi, keep these videos coming!😭😭🤣🤣
Seein someone looking into the curly community with so much love feels soso nice to watch, this video is like a big hug
The curly hair journey really is wild, i grew up getting my hair absolutely shredded when my mom brushed it because of how wild it was, turns out I *didn't* have bushy frizzy straight hair like we thought. I hated my hair but now that I know I just need to treat it differently I love it very much. Now I just need to figure out how to take care of curly hair via frantic google searches and convince my mom that no, I really shouldn't wash my hair every day.
I love how you are so positive. It is appreciated.
I am white with curly hair and I definitely struggled with my hair growing up. I always wanted to relax it, straighten it, blowdry it, just to make it look as sleek and shiny as the other girls at school. It wasn't until I learned to stop fighting my hair that it started getting healthier and my curls and waves look better than ever. I've even had people say to my face that straight hair is prettier/better than curly hair. Well they're wrong, the curly hair club is the best club 💪🏼💪🏼
the self love that this woman preaches just makes me feel better instantly
Thank you for your content. I have naturally curly hair, and I didn’t know a lot about my own hair until I was a grown adult. My mom did her best, but I wasn’t confident in my curls for a long time. As an adult, I discovered that I hadn’t been caring for my hair correctly ever. Then, I married my husband, and we had two beautiful, biracial daughters. It makes me so sad to hear stories about, ‘My white mom didn’t know how to do anything with my hair,’ and I never want my daughters to feel that way. The community surrounding natural hair has forever impacted my life, and it is my hope that my daughters always feel nothing but love and confidence surrounding their hair.
She is correct the beauty standard for people with curly hair is straight hair my hair is like 3a with some looser and tighter ones but I still get “ when are you gonna straighten your hair” or the “ You look better with straight hair” even from my friends with type 4 hair. When I straighten my hair people describe me like a goddess but with curly hair I get “ it’s cool” or “your hair is really frizzy”
I’ve been saying for years that the natural hair movement has been hijacked ☹️ back in ‘10 there were mainly type 4 girls I would watch under “curly/natural” hair. Fast forward to ‘15 now everyone is slathering buckets of Eco-styler in their hair to achieve this wet type 3 hair. Even the biggest accounts for natural hair have become those of looser textures.
Shea Moisture even switched it up and started catering to looser textures. Honestly, I’m glad we’re ALL learning to love our hair. Still, if you’re type 3C is “unmanageable or 3/10” what is type 4???
Good video!
the natural hair movement shouldn’t be limited to only type 4. everyone should be embracing their natural hair
@@imawakemymindisalive13 this is giving real “All Lives Matter” and tone deafness 🥴
@@imawakemymindisalive13 the movement was created because ppl with type 4 hair were so discriminated against and now the face of the movement are looser curled ppl. you can embrace your curls but y'all are erasing us
@@imawakemymindisalive13 girl please respectfully stfu the whole point of why the natural hair community was created was for BLACK people to start embracing their own hair mostly type 4 hair THAT WAS AND STILL IS THE WHOLE POINT You want everyone to "embrace" their hair go create a movement of ur own and stop leeching off stuff we do like damn
@@BigNauj exactly 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Growing up in Western Europe, the beauty standard was straight hair, anything curly was mostly non-professional, no matter your skin color.
So straightening you hair in the morning or, for us african people, relaxing our hair, was the standard. People with curly hair were called "sheep head", anyone on tv that had curly hair back in th day, the moment they became successfull, they did perm it somehow. All the movies, the girl was ugly when she had curls, and cute when it was straight.
When the natural hair movement came, it did benefit all type of curls here, and finally they started having product for curly hair, because before, all the product were for straight hair, even though the majority of the population had curly hair, it also finally became normal to have a job and curly hair and stuff.
So I'm not surprised, almost everybody hated their curls, 'till the natural hair movement and till they discovered how to take care of it.
I'm a curly hair girl and I watch your videos for the positivity "love your hair" vibe you have. I finally love my hair and have learned to embrace the curl instead of hiding it, and I'm almost 50. I have a young daughter and have made sure she loves her curls and knows how to care for her them. I don't understand why we women are so hard on ourselves and each other. Much love your way and positive vibes
I’ve never been this early 😭🤣🤣🤣 U.K. folks who else is here
Big up london
Scotland!
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can we talk how white woman are now the represantaitim (face) for curly while thet watch blk woman yb for tips recreate videos from 10-5 yrs and get more view
Exactly
Curly girl here...& it WAS a struggle growing up, but NOT any more!!! My Dad actually used to blow-dry my hair straight in the early 90's lol. I just take advantage of my curly, wavy, or straightened hair now. Depends on the day/week & if its humid in NC. 🤷♀️
Thank you. I am a very fair skinned non mixed black girl and have had too many issues from both sides. Took many years too embrace my natural hair. I typically wear it curly but at times straighten it but love it either way. I think we need to embrace everyone and their differences and I love how you do this with your channel.
I wish Chizi could see this comment and give her reaction to the Briana Monique commentary? I just love Chizi's opinions so much...I saw it on I am Eloho's UA-cam channel. She reviewed Briana Monique's video on how Briana said she's so blessed not to have 4C hair, and its such food for thought how some of us still have so much growth to do as people every single day when it comes to saying things...
I don’t really understand the amount of shock. 🤣🤣 my little sister has curly hair (we have different moms so she’s mixed) it’s long and silky to the touch but very curly . I realized while doing her hair one day that I’m so grateful for having my 4b/4c hair texture because believe it or not it’s actually much easier to manage than hers. It’s sooo hard to detangle curly hair. It’s so beautiful but just much hard to maintain in my opinion
I'm always in awe when i see type 4 people detangle their hair so easily
I have 3c and it's to my waist and it is a nightmare to detangle and my ass is so tender headed i put it off for longer and longer until i have huge knots and makes it worse.
This video is saving my night (in Angola are 23:37 rn)
I’m feeling kinda down and I don’t even know why cuz something really great happened today.
This video is at least taking my mind out of it
Aww hope you feel better and your day is blessed and fruitful 🥺🥰
It's 22:36 in Ghana.
And I hope you get better.
Low key I really relate to the last video you reacted to, because that's exactly what I do on wash days. I have wavy hair that goes straightish after a few days. Some days when I get little to no definition on wash day I have to remind myself that I should be happy that my hair can go easily in either direction. I don't love the frizzy look for my hair but I think it can be beautiful on girls with tighter coils, so there is no judgement here. We all have our work to do and our own hurdles to cross, this is just a good reminder.
My thyroid destroyed my curls and I miss it so much. I wish I still had it. My mother had straight hair and then after menopause she ended up with fizzy salt and pepper hair. I always want to accent her curls. But dad makes her pull it all up.. so sad. I absolutely love all curls, it's what makes beauty. Textures, bends, twists, waves and curly. I hate how straight my hair went!
I don’t rate my curls but I do name them to monitor their behavior 😭
"You Are Your Own Standard of Beauty" - Chizi Duru, 2021&Forever
#TheMessage
P.S - Imma need this on a t-shirt, thanks 😊
Ya it is quite baffling sometimes..I have type 3c-4b hair & my friend has type 2 long wavy hair. When we vocalize our struggles with our hair to each other, we be having the SAME issues! I have come across some other type 2 girlies & they tell me they wish they had my hair because I don’t have to do my hair every day (that part kind of surprised me because I thought they would be able to do the same).
- there was another time last week I went to my doctor and she was taking my temperature and she randomly said “your hair is always beautiful”. And I was surprise (I legit woke up n all , threw clothes on, n left. KNOWING I looked terrible) I was like “what!? Rlly? I haven’t touched my hair in 3 days”. And she said she wish her type 4 hair could do the same. So..their are struggles for everyone curly gal lol trust
I have 3c 4a hair and I was winging it from a young age. The black side fetishized my curls and the Puerto Rican side said it was “too poofy” and unattractive. Now I feel like a baddieee and you couldn’t pay me to wear straight hair, my curls literally make me feel so unique and powerful!!!
Curls are elite. I love em
"you are your own standard of beauty" I needed this today. thank you
Just over here waiting for the "people who wish they had curly hair" video lol! Great content - I have learned a ton.
We definitely need to say a prayer - AMEN to your prayer Chizi
Lmao it ain't our fault we have bad hair
That first girl was GORGEOUS! She needs to understand that.
this was so wholesome because you were so empathetic lol 💕 the curly hair “community” online is sooooo toxic. the expectation is having perfectly uniform frizz free curls that are shiny but also have volume and stay the same for 4+ days. i have wavy hair myself and never went through all that much insecurity around my hair so i didn’t start learning about my texture until a little over a year ago when all i wanted was to enhance my waves and repair some of the damage i had caused to it. from the jump i really didn’t like a lot of the curly/wavy community because i recognized how toxic and perfectionistic it is, it really only celebrates one type of curl and super thick hair which is just not realistic. also, people have lives and jobs and responsibilities so it’s super unrealistic and super privileged to be like “i wear my hair down for 4 days straight and my curls don’t budge at all and my wash day routine takes multiple hours” and THAT’S the standard that everyone compares themself against. no thanks!
OMG - everything about your reactions are exactly how I was when I started watching black hair videos - new world; unlocked. Also - hearing you say "I have so much work to do" was the most hilarious ever. I cackled.
I am my own standard of beauty, PERIODT!
When I saw 6:13, I my heart broke when she looked like she hated it. I just want to say this, and I hope it reaches out to a curly girl.
Your hair is diverse, you can wear it defined,and not defined and it will still be beautiful. The hair the lady had in the time stamp is still a look. Thats how we in the type 4 community learned to love our hair. Making beautiful styles off of it, whether it has defined curls, or brushed out, blown out, afro, no matter the state, we make it look good.
Thats why I'm saying this. No matter the state your hair is in, defined or not, its still beautiful. When you realise this, your path to loving your hair is beginning and your journey will be easier.
I’m Costa Rican, Jamaican, and white. I’m white passing… I was always told my hair was ugly and frizzy and I was “unprofessional” bc I “never combed it out”… I did it just made my hair extra frizzy and made it just look like frizz. Within the last two years, I’ve learned more about my family and genes (I stupidly thought my grandfather n moms was just super dark skinned Spanish lmao we actually Jamaican and Costa Rican) and slowly learned how to take care of my hair. I love it now. I love my curls. I love the frizz I sometimes have. I love that I can wash my hair once every two weeks and it stays almost oil free. I am beautiful and I always will be. My hair doesn’t define me but it definitely adds to my beauty regardless of how it’s styled. It’s been hard to unlearn al the self hate that had been instilled upon me since a child. Some of my youngest memories are of having my hair in box braids and the kids at school pulling on them thinking they (mainly white school) were part of a wig.
Thank you so much for this video. I have curly hair (3B) and sometimes I don’t really like it because it looks to “big” or it can get frizzy but you really made me fall in love with my curls especially as a black young woman so thank you for that!! God bless you so much!🤍
the way i have pin straight hair and i’m just watching to enjoy and learn. been all up in this channel omg thank you educating !
As someone who has curly hair it is hard to accept my curls because of the “beauty standards” and everything else but I am learning to accept my natural curls. I have more looser curls and my hair has a fine texture to it.
I have been searching far and wide for someone like you.you love all skin and all hair.you are amazing.
I wish I could figure my curls out, I felt like the girl in that third clip where her parents didn't know what to do with it so I'm just trying to learn as an adult 😩
Trial and error sis.. Lol, we in the same boat!! At some point I thought I figured it out-then the seasons changed and I had to find a regimen that worked for my crown DURING THAT SEASON. In conclusion, your hair is an infant (needs constant love and attention and sometimes you don't know why its fussing haha)
as a biracial person… yeah we are going through it 🙁
I felt that prayer in my spirit Chizi! Enough is enough o!
I made the experience that all curly hair, regardless of your skin color was seen for a long time as unkempt, bad hair etc. There are still companies that insist you keep your hair in a bun or similar if you have curls because otherwise it doesn't look professional enough...
I’m mixed and I’m always reaching out to my light skinned/ white friends with curly hair. I’m always telling them about moisturizers and leave in oils and conditioner. Wash day ruitines.
didn’t know i had curly hair until two years ago, and i was completely blown away. everything clicked when i was doing my hair like how my family did it but it just didn’t look like theirs!! was always a puff ball, brushed out frizz and sighed every morning. started working at ulta and went to a salon other than supercuts, and my mind was blown when she looked at me and said i’ve basically been lied to my whole life and i need to start taking care of my curls. been in love ever since and my coworkers always gas me up when i walk in and my hair is getting better and better with the right products and techniques.
Wow- whatever you look like is your standard of beauty! You! I LOVE THIS. THANKS HUNNY