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No really, I was getting offended for her mom…like girl she’s in the car waiting for you. I can’t wait until she has actual roommates and realizes how unappreciative of a comment that was.
As a minority, i never believed in mental health and illness until i dated a chick who had borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder. She was exactly like this chick. They really cant control alot of their impulses, cant hold a job, cant focus on studies, harmful to themselves and make everything extremely dramatic, shoplifted all the time…long story short, she cheated on me and i was so happy because it felt like the best way to break up with her. If i or anyone is happy on being cheated on, that should say alot. I hope she learns how to maintain
You just described my brother, sister and dad. I’m grateful for these comments because I never knew it could be a mental disorder or that other people know someone like this. I thought I was the only one and it has driven me crazy.
@@ShayraBaby being a selfish, narsasist who doesn't hold themselves accountable isn't a mental disorder. It's bad parenting, it's not being taught correctly when you were young.
Well technically she could be a psychologist however it would be a social worker type of position which takes less schooling in her favor. Why so harsh?
She doesn’t understand what she’s going after. She thinks she can be a psychiatrist with a masters. She’s thinking of being a therapist/SW. Psychiatry requires med school (she’s right on that), but doesn’t realize it’s a doctorate, and she’d go thru all the same training as an MD (the icky part she doesn’t want to do). I think she needs a career counselor who can accurately guide her thru the steps for each profession she’s considering so she can make an informed choice.
Trust me, spend enough time around people like this and you stop going "wow so many bad things have happened to you, i feel so bad for you" and you start saying "okay, wtf are you doing that is constantly putting you in shitty situations, this isnt normal"
Yeah, we can't decide how our brain is wired by default. But we can very much influence our decisions in life. It may be harder, but most of us KNOW when shit is a bad idea, and at that point it's up to us to make the right decision. Some folks are seemingly allergic to making the right life decisions, and those deserve no pity. I would much rather spend my goodwill on people that actually TRY to improve themself/ their life.
I’ve sent him a request. 27 already a multimillionaire and about to inherit another 8 figures and I have no idea what to do and it’s scary. Hopefully they accept because I’d fly out to him
@@chrisbato2093what do you mean you don’t know what to do? You’ve beaten capitalism, you can just invest in some good dividend stocks and live comfortably off of the disbursements for the rest of your life if you wanted to. The dividend payout could be between 100k and 400k per year on average from $10m investment. Beyond just being overly successful and it wouldn’t get views, I don’t think he could legally help you out anyway. He’s not a qualified financial advisor, so he cannot tell you what to do with your money. He gets away with these since creating budgets is not considered financial advice. Additionally, it would probably come across more like you’re gloating about it rather than actually coming on for help.
@@CentralTexasCarSpotter i mean he has to be careful when people start bringing up claimed trauma and mental illness because if he calls them on their bullshit it could cost him his entire business and cancel him for victim blaming. So even though he knows it complete bullshit, he can't outright call them out on that kind of stuff. I think he pushes as hard as he can on stuff like that.
She wants to be a: -doctor (if school isn’t hard or stressful) -psychiatrist as a backup plan because it requires less time to earn that degree (in her mind) -a detective (she would later learn the word forensics from Caleb) -an actress (I’m an actor and that made me do a spit take) -grocery store employee again (if they take her back after abandoning the job she was fired/quit/abandoned/got bad vibes from)
@@Irisbluered you’re right. Instead of going back and editing the post, I’ll correct myself in this comment. I meant to say doctor, then counselor not psychiatrist.
I dont know about you guys but I think she makes a lot of sense. Personally, my dream is to be a food vlogger but my backup is to be an award-winning theoretical physicist
You need to dream even bigger. See me, I want to become God, but if that doesn't pan out I wouldn't mind being a space pirate, or even astronaut at the very least.
I was thinking of opening my own McDonald’s, well that or competing in the Olympics. But if neither of those work I’ll just get a PhD in either physics or computer science
Right? I've always wanted to be a live touring musician with several super successful albums under my belt, but my backup is to be a nuclear physicist.
I really wish her mom would have been a part of this, a second perspective on all of the life circumstances at play in the episode would have probably been really eye opening and revealing
"I want my doctor career to be a fallback when I retire from acting" is one of the funniest, most delusional things I have heard on this channel. Thanks for the laugh Caleb!
Mom: pays for her school and phone bill, drives her to this interview, lets her live under her roof This girl: “She basically doesn’t give a shit about me”
She’s completely full of shit and Caleb gave her money which is all she needed to confirm what she thinks and tgat is that she can “act” and get any guy to give her money or stuff.
When she said she wanted to go to med school as a backup plan my jaw dropped. My wife is currently in medical school and let me tell you that kind of profession is NOT a backup plan.
Medical degree as a fall back is not unheard of. Dr. Randy Gregg played for Edmonton Oilers. After his professional hockey career he pursued medicine. I will admit it is a very rare exception.
Her attitude changed as soon as he said he would give her money if he knew she wouldn't stupidly spend it, she tried to sound responsible with money hoping he would give her some LMAO
@@xtruhsauceI'm predicting that Caleb is going to be hiring a therapist to screen his guests in the not too distant future. His current team have been underperforming in the quality control.
@@Draggonnyit gives him content and views. People stick around for episodes like this because it’s a little more entertaining, even though you’re so tempted to skip.
or people that blame all their problems on mental illness, I take everything with a grain of salt, people lie its the internet. People on this show never take responsibility for their actions.
@@jesuspacheco8301that's not really the purpose of the show though. Yes it gives his page more recognition but if I remember correctly, Caleb gets genuinely angry when people use his platform for clout
The fact that she kept saying "my parents dont care about me at all" all while they are letting her live rent free, paying her phone bill, giving her 200$ when she needs it, paying for college for her. It infuristes me, like im sure they might be emotional distant or something but they obviously care. It comes across super entitled and ignorant. Shes got an excuse for everything, takes no responsibility for anything and just expects things to happen for her.
All my (adult) friends whose parents completely enable and financially support them are very resentful of their parents. Many not speaking to their parents while they pay their bills and rent. I don’t think it’s a coincidence.
Especially frustrating to hear her say that psychiatry is easier to get into. Step #1 is getting into med school, which is a struggle requiring 3.8+ GPA, 1000’s of hours of volunteering and leadership, shadowing doctors, interviews etc. and THEN you apply for residency. The ‘easy’ way into psych is becoming a psychologist after 8 years of school. Not excel so well you not only get into med school, but get residency in a specialty.
"I dont really have any parental figures, like my parents dont really give a shit about me." I stay with my parents for free, they pay for my school because they want me to have an education, they pay for my phone so i can save money, they drive me to this interview so i can get my life on track financially. Yeah, they really dont care, do they?
It’s a kid mentality, if you don’t support them in what they think then you don’t love them at all. I can guarantee if we met her parents it wouldn’t be the pictures she’s painting. I know this is very late lol
Being around a habitual liar, she deludes herself so much to make herself the victim, that reality and what actual happens surprises her. She is a career liar. This is 1000% a learned behavior. She got fired from work for poor job performance and acting out when being escorted to the managers office. But to her, she was "fondled", no "groped", no "hand put on her shoulder", no escorted to the managers office. She is an immature child who's been given no responsibility with accountability in her life. Its everyone else's fault. She can't work because mental disabilities, her job won't schedule her because she acted out and threw a temper tantrum.
Bpd is very closely associated with sexual abuse as a child (various studies show 40-70%) I would bet she was molested as a kid and now completely overreacts to normal incidental touching. So this was probably nothing but to her it felt like more because of her history.
This is what bad parents do and then society, the media, etc justifies these actions for them. Everyone is programmed to have victim mentality now a days.
Could tell within the first 60 seconds that most of what she was says is a lie. I've met people like her who just every other word is a lie. I used to believe that people like her who lie all the time do so because they had a hard life in some way, but later realized it's usually because they actually haven't been through anything really difficult and just completely make things up for pity. She's one of those people, I almost guarantee she hasn't faced any real adversity other than what she puts herself through.
Her: "My parents don't care about me" Also Her: "My parents pay my school, phone, give me random $, drive me places, and give me a free place to live" Ungrateful child
I mean I’d be upset too if my parents raised me to be this ignorant of basic things. Both sides are at fault but now she’s an adult so it’s all on her going forward
@@jwelda1sounds like they’re trying their best. I don’t even see how her parents are at fault here. Sounds like they let her out when she wanted out, she failed multiple times, and they bailed her out multiple times because they don’t want to see their daughter homeless. She makes piss poor decisions. I do not remotely see how you can put this on her parents.
@biggmac2149 more like not holding her accountable and babying her. Like if they were authoritative when raising her and talking about finances and how to manage them, she might not be this ignorant.
I have been assaulted since childhood and I tell people not to put their hands on me. If she was trying to say they were SAing her she would have said that. Cry somewhere else. At least she’s medicated and doing therapy. You’re throwing a tantrum in the comments😂
@@elanorapowell6811shut up. This little compulsive liar was homeless for 1 night and suddenly she has PTSD so bad people can’t… touch her arm? Brush up against her? “Putting their hands on me” means being in a fight for 85% of people. And the other 15% may take it as innuendo for SA. But she means, minor touches on the arm or shoulders. She is intentionally misusing heavier terms in order to garner sympathy. That ruins it for people who DO actually go thru things and ARE actually physically assaulted or SAd. She didn’t go thru squat diddly
Only about 10 mins in and she's insufferable. Super cool to see Caleb calling out her lies and straight up not having her weird manipulative framing of everything.
It's important to have kids like her on the show so they dont turn into 50 yr olds w/ no retirement and mountains of debt. But I will say I wish Caleb was better about making sure she knew how dire things were and what she would need to have in a future.
I’m gonna bet that it’s not that her parents don’t “believe” in mental illness, but that they are sick of taking no responsibility for her life and blaming the mental illness.
I believe her. Not to generalise but ethnic minorities sometimes don’t believe in mental health problems, they think it’s just a myth/excuse. My parents have a hard time understanding it and believe God can just fix everything and that I don’t pray enough. They are so different from my white friends parents 😭😩
I'm MX/AM, both parents born in MX. My mom is extremely mentally unwell and neither parents have suggested her to go to therapy. My sister told my mom she needs therapy bc they had issues together and she would stop tlaking to her if she didn't go. They no longer talk. My mom had a doctor tell her, literally tell her she needs therapy, and my mom took it as the doctor calling her crazy.
It’s a very hit or miss. Im first gen and it took my parents a lot of adult conversations to fully understand how serious it can get. Finally got my mom to think about going to therapy but ever since then she’s been a lot more kind.
The whole grocery store thing is unbelievable. First she got fired because she called out harassement. Then she got fired because she was a bad worker. Then she didn't even know if she got fired. Then she "might have" actually quit because she hated the job anyways . Give me a break lol
I've worked a lot of service jobs and they have always been really good about harassment, especially sexual. They don't fuck around and got rid of those people. This was in the dirty south too.
It sounds to me like she was in trouble "come with me to the manager" then she got written up or something"I might have been a bad worker" and had a little tantrum and stormed out, to which her manager or whomever probably took as an abandonment of employment "i dont know if they fired me, i walked out"
“School is not as long as you think” to “I don’t know how long school is”, “I want to be a doctor as a fall back” to “My mom is making me go to school”… man this girl is just a walking contradiction
She later then said, i think it takes about 10 years. She is just saying things so she gets what she wants, or will paint her in the best light. She is either to stupid or just doesnt care about keeping her lies straight.
But you also have to think about how she already has mental issues with borderline AND bipolar, her family “doesn’t believe in metal health problems” (Maybe Hispanic bc I have experienced it I could be wrong) and she’s 22 years old which makes her a Gen Z which is makes sense with the live streaming. All her thoughts are very scattered. It’s like she trickles in truths. Maybe to be a people pleaser? Or maybe she doesn’t realize what she is doing is bad? She said she was a bad worker. And she didn’t realize walking out = quitting??? Yeah… no… I don’t think she’s grounded well…
I feel terrible for her parents. I have a sibling with the exact same behavior. It's so hard to see someone you care about destroy their life. Always lying. Always the victim. It truly is an illness, not a failure by her parents.
It’s crazy….my parents pay for school, medical insurance, rent, utilities, and she even got a ride there by her mom! But my parents are not supportive, that’s a crazy mindset.
My sister is exactly like this. She's undiagnosed. We just buried my grandma last weekend and my sister made the entire thing about herself. I am so glad I won't have to see her again until the next funeral. She's decided to take my brother under her wing and is currently ruining his life.
My brother, sister and dad are all also exactly like this and I feel so seen and understood in your comment. They are always the victim, they do the most to destroy their lives and they’re always LYING! And don’t you dare call them out on it because they get aggressive and violent that you don’t believe their blatant lies. Gaslighting like a MFFF. It’s exhausting and I never knew there were more people out there like that. I don’t feel alone in this anymore thanks to these comments. This episode did serve a purpose for me!
@@adjcsee4476that guy realized he was gonna be exploited for money and housing and food and wasn’t gonna get shit for it except living with a compulsive liar who can’t hold down a job, severely in debt, terrible family relationship (drama may be brought to your door) and goes on to frame you as the bad guy and as a creep. He probably thought he was moving along in a relationship with someone he had known for awhile and was friendly with, but then realized that wasn’t actually gonna happen, and nope out.
Caleb looking around to see if he was being pranked when she said, "I want to be a doctor to fall back on once I'm done with acting" is how all of us felt 🤣
Seriously though. I have a cousin that is insane and mooches off her family. She is always the victim. I am bipolar but thankfully I had help with my family and am doing ok and am independent. But it does make me nervous if my baby will be bipolar too and wont be able to handle it.
@@hermitabbymental illness is never an excuse, these people use it as a crutch. I have diagnosed ADHD, anxiety and OCD. Ain’t never see me being resentful towards my parents or even ask for a dollar. It’s like going to the gym. You either do it or you don’t.
Most kids don’t turn out this clueless. Make raising your kids your primary role and be ready to adapt to the situation as it develops. If you take this approach, there is a high probability you will raise successful children to become successful adults. Ignore them or give in to every request and this is what you get.
As someone with Borderline but who manages it .... this is CLASSIC exhibiting. What she says/does and the manipulation, this is my first instinct often and I have to monitor it by constantly policing myself. Oh my god this is so hard to watch.
You being able to identify that in her because you experience it for yourself just shows how much work you've put into your own growth and mental health! Proud of you!
I hope this makes you feel better not worse: most mature adults constantly edit themselves so as to manage relationships. You only get to be your true self with maximum 3 people. Even for people without the impulse to manipulate/lie. In fact i usually have to resist the impulse to tell the truth. Because it’s not kind, not useful.
Dude when she said "I passed my classes with As and Bs," I wanted Caleb to demand her report card. She's lied too much to be trusted with that at this point 😂
If you can't emotionally and mentally can't handle a situation where someone puts their hand on your shoulder to gently guide you in a direction, you aren't going to make it as a psychiatrist.
As a psychotherapist, this is a wonderful example of people struggling with BPD and bipolar. Everything is always someone else’s fault; bus driver, bus company, parents, “friends”, manipulating Caleb, bosses at work, workplaces in general, her psychiatrists, landlords … I hope she does stay on meds and get intensive therapy treatment so she can function as an adult in society and take accountability for her life. ❤❤ *edit; she needs intensive HELP before working as a therapist herself. Psychiatrists go to school for 10 years so they can interpret diagnosis based on the DSM. It’s not a tool people should be using lightly. If she’s reading this, i hope you spend as much time as you need getting a grasp on your on mental health before attempting to help others. ❤
My thoughts exactly... as a psychotherapist myself, I believe there's so much hope if she sticks to therapy and continues to examine what her role in all of these situations is. It will take her some time, but I'm sure she can function as an adult in society if she puts in the hard work. I have faith that she'll do well, especially given that she wants to find something that helps her, and wants to help others as well.
That's not a disease, its a mindset. I find it amazing as a gen Xer that NO ONE I knew when I was young had any such thing as "Bipolar" ... many people from when I was young still hang out and we were all reasonably successful. Sounds like a manufactured excuse for an entire generation. None of us needed meds or therapy to cope with life.
"my parents dont support me and are against me taking meds and going to therapy and dont believe in mental health" "my parents physically and monetarily support me and make sure i get to my doctors appointments and all my meds." WHAT
As a middle manager at a grocery store for about 15 years I can tell you I have dealt with tons of kids that act very similar to this girl. They have one bad day or problem then disappear and never come back or call. Pretty standard stuff more than likely they probably considered her walking off what's called job abandonment and then terminated her a week later. Don't know why it's so difficult to call and quit i guess it's just a maturity thing.
@@Jake38nine I don't deny that I get frustrated too and I'm pretty tolerant towards employees that have complaints or blowups within reason of course. The real issue lies in not calling or showing for work. That's one instance where I can't really have much wiggle room to keep employees on.
@@jessica33313 I've heard people tell me this before. The issue I see with that is these work habits of not showing or calling the shitty jobs sometimes carries over to the career jobs. I'm sure for some it doesn't but in my experience once someone becomes accustomed to doing something it's hard to stop and break their habits just my opinion of course.
@@coreyklima8929I think this would be especially true for someone with her diagnosis. If you look into the type of therapy she mentioned needing, it’s entirely based around mindfulness and handling big emotions. If she doesn’t manage that at a place that’s “just a job”, it’s going to be more and more difficult, even with a career. That’s probably less true for someone without her same diagnosis, but it’s still good practice to have difficult conversations calmly and professionally when the stakes are lower.
She reminds me of my ex with BPD who couldn't hold down a job. Helping people with this mindset is like trying to save someone frantically drowning and they pull you under with them.
You have to get away from people like this. I'd have her leave. I'm 13 min in and there is no job, no debt, no nothing but drama. She doesn't need to be anywhere anyone else. Padded room level of crazy. For OUR own good. Wow. At 14 min I'm freaking out like Caleb
I was about to comment this. Ex was very similar to this girl, and you think you want to help so much, but after being burned over and over, you give up and let them fail hard.
@@vitaminme4203for some people they have to feel the consequences before they’re ready to make a change. BPD can be treated and often resolves to remission with treatment, but like all psychological disorders the patient needs disciplined and concentrated efforts from both themselves and a therapist. A more accurate description of the above is “trying to save someone drowning who thinks they can swim”
25 minutes in, no financial audit of any kind... these people need to be vetted more, this is not a financial audit, she needs proper professional help
Agreed, it seems like she was a backup/ last resort as he said several other people cancelled due to the holiday (at least I hope that's what happened here)
As an American citizen I would not feel safe if this girl is my doctor, therapist, police officer, detective, etc. I hope she gets help and can grow into a person I would feel safe serving in these roles.
Not that deep, she was in a mental health crisis during the episode. I doubt that she can become s doctor unfortunately. She maybe unemployed for the rest of her life. Poor girl.
12 years ago, I was attending community college to get an Associates of Science. I wanted to be a dentist. I had a friend who was going to be a doctor. He told me I wasn't motivated or dedicated enough to become a dentist. It was a reality check I needed; I actually stopped going to college after completing my Associates. Some people just need to hear their delusions out loud. But some of them stay delusional forever.
Caleb have you ever thought of doing a few financial audits of people who have a higher Caleb Hammer Financial score? I think it may not be as “entertaining” but could also be beneficial to your viewers. Keep up the great work!
I could be one, but it would be a short episode, and no caleb yelling, I have really no debt, and good savings, and retirement, so I don't think I would make a good show
he has said: " yes" he dosent calculate scores ahead of time s its possible but he would not do anyone (as of now) with a perfect score or really high score because it would not be helpful to the average person. if you look at older episodes you can find scores that are higher than a 1 or 2.
I had an ex girlfriend, who would read something online and she would believe it just because it was the first thing she read instead of doing more research. She would also get corrected at work she wouldn’t like it and walk off, later she would claim she got fired. She would self diagnose her symptoms. I later found out she was all messed up from the drugs she was doing. This girl reminds me so much of her. She also claimed to be homeless but she was kicked out of her dads because she would have parties where her dad was getting kicked out so she was forced to moved with her mom, but she was “homeless”. All just lies to claim the victim.
What stood up to me was the contrast between how many times she mentioned "my parents handle this and that for me" vs. "I have no parental figure." It seems like she is really ungrateful and entitled. I guess she will need to learn to be independent the hard way.
I think the problem is the lack of emotional support and understanding from her parents. Her mother is at least controlling in terms of forcing her to study or be homeless fresh outta high school.
Honestly I don’t think she understands the concept of a parental figure. This whole conversation just felt like she answers the question by a standard phrase she heard somewhere, like a reflex rather than an actual discussion. Poor girl.
@@roimel7524everything this girl said was I'm a victim. How do u emotionally support someone that lies blames u an others all time an dont take therapy serious
@@ProseConsYTsame!! I used to watch episodes multiple times because they were interesting to listen to and now they’re getting hard to get through even once
I love how she’s wants to go to med school for psychiatry, but doesn’t realize that you have to go through med school, which involves learning about the entire body not just the brain. Psychiatrists are medical doctors because they can diagnose and give drugs.
And because the drugs "for the brain" interact with all systems in the body, with each other and with medications you are taking for other things. I have had many physical reactions to drugs "for the brain", side effects, interactions between drugs and more. Such a joy! (Not). These days I am weaning from a drug that got my cholesterol and triglycerides through the roof.
This woman said cough condritis. I am almost certain she meant costrocondritis… which happens when you vape and cough a lot. It’s inflammation of the ribs and the connective tissue.. Wait watched more. Albuterol is a bronchodilator, so does she have bronchitis ?? Whic… I can’t keep up with this story 😂😂
I might get flamed for this but quitting is not hard. I have addictive personality, anxiety, etc. and addiction and mental health issues runs in my family. I quit vaping once I actually decided to do it. She doesn’t want to get better, she doesn’t want to be healthy, she doesn’t want to quit. It’s not hard once you decided you’re worth it. She decides every time she buys a vape that she is NOT worth it and that is a sad place to be in life but I don’t feel sad for her. Only she can decide to value herself more and she isn’t.
@@daisybaby722yep. If you can hold off for 1 day of anxiety, some headaches, minor mood swings, the worst is over. And that is for the heaviest of nicotine addictions. I was on heroin for 4 years in my early 20s. That is 7-14 days of being unable to move off the bed, shitting your brains out, sweating buckets, shivering hard enough to feel like an earthquake, feeling so sore you could think you got run over. You can’t work while you’re detoxing. THAT is hard to quit but even then, if you have some self control, and just DO NOT BUY IT NO MATTER WHAT. Then quitting is easy. It’s behavioral. If you really want to quit, even quitting heroin is easy. But the problem is most people truly do not want to stop their addictions. The small dopamine hits are more worth it to them. People get complacent about their situation and just accept it.
@@daisybaby722same. Took a low point to finally quit cigarettes. You have to want to change and internalize the problem for it to work. Glad you were able to quit
It can also be a cultural thing. There’s some cultures that believe that talking about mental health issues is taboo. They’ll say things like “it’ll get better” and my favorite, “just pray”.
Let's be honest, it was probably a lie. Consistently she brought up her parents doing positive things for her. In 34 years my mom has never given me $300 "just because."
@@mjbankhead9063 Im Hispanic just like her. It’s likely not true and def not a cultural thing. Her parents are prob just tired of her constant fallback to mental health as an excuse.
Caleb is going to experience the “Kitchen Nightmares effect” where basically his content goes from trying to help people to basically showcasing the human condition because he realizes that people don’t change
This is dishonest. Ramsey did not change his format because of some revelation about the human condition. He did it because it made people watch and it made him and the production company a lot of money. If you watch the original UK run of kitchen nightmares, its a lot of people who just needed guidance from a mentor. Caleb, unfortunately, is doing the same. Increasingly his guests feature the mentally ill and those who are going to provoke a reaction of incredulity among his fans. It is becoming hard to watch, ans frankly feels exploitative. Like Jeremy Kyle.
This is textbook BPD. Chaotic personal and professional relationships, impulsivity, extreme sensitivity to perceived rejection, splitting/black and white thinking and exaggeration, inability to process nuance, and severely disordered identity. There is no purpose in doing an audit until she gets the help and tools she needs. Recovery is possible and is the only way forward.
@@jordanaultman8423 Long-term therapy is the most important, especially Dialectical behavioral therapy. Medication can be helpful for many of the common comorbidities. Also, research suggests BPD commonly improves dramatically with age, especially between 30-40.
I think Caleb empathized with her too much.. You could tell she loves being the victim. She has an excuse for everything its insane!!!! I would have walked away a long time ago instead of sitting there and listening to BS.😂 I'M STRESSED!!!
@@teachercaronthat was my reaction, I thought it was masters to be a psychologist but all the way through med school for psychiatrist. This episode definitely felt crazy
I am willing to bet Caleb was not ready to rationalize with someone with BPD. As a psych RN I speak with them everyday and it is taxing. Without understanding and a therapeutic mindset, you can easily get sucked into the trauma and adopt a caretaker role which only harms you both. The negative is that she is very pretty which will validate and reinforce her victim mentality and prevent her from changing. I feel for her and I hope that Caleb was able to decompress appropriately after this episode.
As a manager I've had a handful of employees like this over 20 years and they are all memorable. Do you see the little smile on her face that pops out? I know there is mental illness here, but there is a real joy in causing drama and screwing with people that is the most destructive part of having them in the workplace. Scary that you can have a kid and end up here.
It's called "Dupers Delight" From Google: Duper's delight” is often used to refer to involuntary microexpressions, or split second facial expressions that can't be controlled and are thought to “leak” the true feelings of the liar. "Dupers Delight: What Is the Duper's Delight? The duper's delight is an emotional boost, or thrill, that some people get when they successfully cheat or deceive another person or organization. The rush they enjoy can lead them to repeat their dishonesty, even when there's no reward other than the high itself."
I know someone with BPD and bipolar, who refuses to work on themselves or take accountability, and this episode was exactly what it’s like to try and have a conversation with them.
@@MatPandaZ lots of us work very very very hard to manage our triggers & heal our wounds. I am a loving person who makes mistakes, just like everyone else. Bpd is a disorder that stems from horrific childhood trauma & it makes me sad to see how stigmatized & misunderstood it is, & how often people avoid getting help or don’t have proper access to support. I’m very sorry to hear that your experience with people who suffer from this has been so unfortunate.
It would be a pretty funny episode if he was actually pranked. Like they get someone on like this or worse but then after a while it turns out the person actually is very good with finances and basically doing everything right.
I’m diagnosed with bipolar too and do at least somewhat understand her situation. Walking out of a job, the confusion of careers and life in general: all of that I get. It took me A. New meds, B. Sincere prayer, and C. Hard talk from my brother in law to get me on the right track. And Caleb is hopefully that talk she needed. Though I am bothered by her saying they’re not “parental figures” even though they do a lot for her, and the lies, I’m gonna guess that’s what borderline disorder does. Don’t know much about that disorder But if you’re reading this Aracely, keep a good relationship with your parents; for the love of God stop vaping; find the right meds, maybe even switch doctors, and go to church if that’s your thing. Comments are rude, but a lot of us do genuinely hope for the best for you
This is like a tutorial in spotting red flags. Trouble at home, no straight answers, stories changing depending on context, trying to gain sympathy, taking no responsibility for actions, etc. Guys, if you ever see this shit, literally run.
I have to agree though I came to the comments for the summary because at 8 minutes I had to stop watching. This lady is insufferable idk why she came here. I know it’s entertainment but I don’t feel like this is the audience.
I know they do screen people but the screening seems to be getting a little LAX lately and he did say at the start of the episode with the cancellations over the holiday they just said fuck it let's just go with this when I guess lol
I’m sorry but I do love the messy audits. Like, you have a great mix going on of people who want to improve their finances and then these just whacky gems that can’t help but crack me up. We are ultimately always watching for you and your knack for telling people the truth.
Caleb, you should start a series with getting different guest on the show with different degrees, different jobs in different fields, and learning their salaries, day in the life, and overall how they got there. I think that would be cool and could tie in to finance as well
Agreed that would be an awesome thing to show. Definitely ties in and ways to give people hope and show you the steps to follow to achieve those types of jobs.
I tried getting on the show, went through multiple emails and a survey but unfortunately didn’t make the cut, I’m 30, made 310k this passed year from my job and real estate, am in a decent place in life but not where I should be given what I make and I have a spending problem with no real budget, no emergency fund or anything like that, could really use the budgeting advice and outside look into my situation to take advantage of it, coming from nothing I had no one to really teach me good money ethics and got myself in the hole a few times, would love for him to see this and re-consider me!
Former therapist here.... it requires ~7 years of college and 2-3 years for licensing per state. You have to redo the licensing process for every state you want to practice in.
@@muscleandmath2910 that's not a stupid question! Tbh I'm not *entirely* sure, but I think you have to be getting your practicing hours physically in that state. COVID may have changed things and allowed people to do it remotely though.
@@muscleandmath2910current independently licensed therapist here lol its different between each state to each state, so kentucky to ohio process is different than michigan to california and so on. however, generally what i see if you’re currently in a therapy program is that you just have to fulfill the internship requirements for both state, in that state, to be eligible for that license in that state. for example if Ohio is 300 internship hours, and massachusetts is 600 hours, youll need to have 300 hours practiced in ohio and 600 practiced in Massachusetts to take licensure for that state and you can be licensed to practice in both. if you’re already a licensed therapist, you can look up the process per state to get your licensed transferred or to see the requirements to get additionally licensed in that state. its all confusing! 😅
@@Mokuujin good old talk therapy. Most people just call it chatting about life with friends. I’ve been in the Caleb side in so many of these conversations.
This is textbook B P D. It explains nearly everything that’s “happened” to her and why she frames it for us the way she did. It explains the grocery store fiasco, the weird non-bf she mentioned at the beginning (I bet there’s way more to the story she’s not telling us), the parents “not supporting” her yet paying for everything, the bf suicide
I don't think there's anymore to that non-bf story, she called asking to stay with him when she lost her stuff, he figured it was a quid-pro-quo and got them a motel room, when he found out she wasn't putting out, he left. Gotta remember she's been sugar daddy hopping around for who knows how long, so a lot of these potential boyfriends or male friends are just looking for a lay. But yeah, it does sound like the symptoms of BPD for sure. How does the bf suicide thing factor into it though? Just the trauma from that, or do you think she was lying?
@@MrSlowestD16 I think youre right on the weird bf. Though she’s not taking any responsibility for her role in that incident because like you said she’s been sugar daddy hopping. With the bf suicide, it’s just another example of an unstable relationship in her life. Dude must have been dealing with mental health issues as well.
Real story. She has great and supportive parents, they are just at wits end dealing with a daughter that takes no accountability for anything and blames everything on her “illness”. She doesn’t deserve to sit across from you Caleb.
She is very obviously ill. Don't be shitty and insinuate that her mental illnesses are made up just because you're not used to seeing something like this
Sounds like my most recent ex-girlfriend. Girl craps on her parents whenever it suits her. Her parents are actually salt of the earth folks and are also at their wits end, but don't have the courage to boot her out and force her to carve her own path in life. Her siblings refuse to talk to her even though 2 of them live under the same roof as her. The only time they would become social is when I was over.
I know someone who has this same mentality. It wasn’t a problem in high school but became apparent problem in college. She dropped out school, had many issues, manic attacks. I think she’s doing well now. These people have a mental problem that requires professional help.
For added context for anyone who cares, those with BPD have the same hurdle that narcissists have to overcome, and that is BECOMING AWARE. They get diagnosed, sure. but until they are AWARE of their behaviors, they're in a constantly cycle of manipulating others, self sabotaging, etc. She needs so much help. And there are not a lot of specialists that will treat people with BPD because they are really difficult to help.
The moment she said "I have borderline and bi-polar." I knew this was going to be difficult. Magical thinking is one of the things that happens with bi-polar.
Unfortunately yes, and she was lying alot and trying to manipulate. I have Borderline personality disorder and I use to be alot like that (except I was an undiagnosed teen when I was like that) she seriously needs more help when it comes to the mental health aspect of her life. Hopefully she'll find a medication and help that works for her.
Bipolar disorder is severly overdiagnosed these days, especially in people with personality disorders. I've seen a lot of patients with double diagnosis over my 4 years of psychiatry residency and to be honest I highly doubt any of them were actually bipolar. I'm not saying it's not possible to have both but majority are just having personality disorder and they cling to the idea of being bipolar to avoid taking responsibility for their actions.
She needs medical help. The lies are so pathological you can’t take a single thing she says as truth. I personally don’t think she’s competent enough to discuss her own financial circumstances. Very concerning.
My mom had Bipolar 1. I’m only halfway through, but she reminds me so much of my mom before she was correctly medicated (both her life experiences and her thought processes). I genuinely hope that she gets the right medications for her figured out soon (unlike my mom, who only got the right prescriptions after 20 years of manic and depressive swings).
I literally play this driving all day at work, so when I see the numbers on the screen I be lost. But I’m like 16k on credit debt and 35k car debt at 25 I be i still judging though 😂
I would love it if Caleb were able to incentivize the ppl that live with their parents to bring their parents with them onto the episode to call them out every time they fabricate information and excuses on the fly
Imagine your daughter admitting to being a sugar baby... a bad sugar baby that gets abandoned at hotels and displaying how mentally ill she is on a finance show...
Caleb! Big fan here, and I am sure you heard, but your guest here was just booked into Dallas County Jail today for assault on a family member. Not saying take it down, but something to be mindful of. Appreciate you and your videos.
She straight up said "give me money", in what universe would that ever work on Caleb? Getting her to be honest is like trying to squeeze blood from a rock.
Dealing with bipolar or manic people is terrifying and hard. They are perpetually the victim while victimizing everyone around them. I really hope she gets the help she needs.
That's completely untrue. Sounds like you just met a crappy person who happened to have bipolar. You're describing borderline personality disorder (basically a mild version of narcissism) which this girl also has.
I would love to see a more successful person who does well with their money. I’m getting miserable watching these episodes where people are just ABSOLUTELY clueless.
I was about to type that word for word….. but you put it well. Watching a train wreck once or twice is a freak show, but all the time is depressing. I would love the opportunity to learn from people who are successful
Unfortunately it doesn’t drive views. In reality no one cares about people who have their stuff together. Could be seen as borderline bragging depending on the person. People would rather see train wrecks. Makes for better content.
@ralph. I think it would drive views. People can see "Oh John does X, Y, and Z and is doing well in life. Maybe I can try to emulate some of their habits." While I don't think it should be someone making 300k/year, but having someone on who makes 40-70k/year and seeing how they manage their finances well would be interesting and a good contrast with the other videos. Granted, I don't think it would drive as many views, but I think the views would still be a decent number.
He’s interviewed those, they are in his list of videos. They have the least views. There are lots of other money UA-camrs that interview successful people. Try Ramit Seti (sp?) the I Will Teach You To Be Rich guy
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She was homeless for literally 5 seconds and now she is a victim for life.
lol forreal, she thinks getting on a greyhound is being homeless 😂
😂😂😂 one night in a hotel
I ran away when I was 12. I’ve faced homelessness.
(I came back for dinner I got hungry)
lol that’s something I never tell anybody
It’s so embarrassingggg and I don’t even like to think about it so I just pretend it never happened resllyb
@@kibbles12345Lol. I did this when I was 10. Life lessons that stick with you. 😂
She says she has no parental figures, but they’re paying for her whole life and her mom literally drove her there..
No really, I was getting offended for her mom…like girl she’s in the car waiting for you. I can’t wait until she has actual roommates and realizes how unappreciative of a comment that was.
As a minority, i never believed in mental health and illness until i dated a chick who had borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder. She was exactly like this chick. They really cant control alot of their impulses, cant hold a job, cant focus on studies, harmful to themselves and make everything extremely dramatic, shoplifted all the time…long story short, she cheated on me and i was so happy because it felt like the best way to break up with her. If i or anyone is happy on being cheated on, that should say alot. I hope she learns how to maintain
@@imMATTure My best friend has BPD. I understand.
@@imMATTurethat bro saved your life in you doing that decision.
@@imMATTure When you're happy they cheat, you know you dodged a bullet.
She's a compulsive liar. You can't help people like her because it's never their fault. No accountability.
Maybe she should look into being a politician
98% of all guests on this show lol
You just described my brother, sister and dad. I’m grateful for these comments because I never knew it could be a mental disorder or that other people know someone like this. I thought I was the only one and it has driven me crazy.
@@windycitywarrior71 98% are not able to hold themselves accountable. They use people, are lazy and selfish. These people deserve to be poor!
@@ShayraBaby being a selfish, narsasist who doesn't hold themselves accountable isn't a mental disorder. It's bad parenting, it's not being taught correctly when you were young.
She doesn't know the difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist. And the time it takes to become either one.
And shes supposedly junior year pre med.
I wonder what her MCAT scores are 😆
Well technically she could be a psychologist however it would be a social worker type of position which takes less schooling in her favor. Why so harsh?
@@YoungTooShabbylol because nobody becomes either as a fallback career.
@@Trentacus yeah trying to do both at the same time would be dumb but focusing on one is still doable
She’s the kind of person that within the first 10 minutes of meeting her, she’d trauma dump her life’s story without anyone asking.
She literally did exactly that on the episode
In half that time you begin to see the shit. Lol after about 4 minutes I was like okay things are not lining up here, something here is shitty.
Hit and quit it but please double up on this one.
Not even 10 mins in lol 3
As soon as she mentioned BPD and bipolar at the very start, I knew it was coming.
Thinking of her as a medical professional genuinely SCARES ME.
I don’t think you have to worry lol
Don't worry. Once things get difficult, she's going to bail med school.
Let the fact she votes sink in.
She doesn’t understand what she’s going after. She thinks she can be a psychiatrist with a masters. She’s thinking of being a therapist/SW. Psychiatry requires med school (she’s right on that), but doesn’t realize it’s a doctorate, and she’d go thru all the same training as an MD (the icky part she doesn’t want to do). I think she needs a career counselor who can accurately guide her thru the steps for each profession she’s considering so she can make an informed choice.
She won’t make it. Don’t worry.
If you're having a "freak out" from working in a grocery store you will never make it as a doctor/in healthcare.
She does not live in reality. Severe mental illness
As someone who just came off a healthcare shift where I got kicked slapped cussed out and spat at. I agree 😂
Thank you for saying that. Shes the LAST person to be in Healthcare, she doesn't even need to clean hospital rooms...
Im sure she struggles running a bath
For real… I just worked in the kitchen and I only lasted 2 years😂
Trust me, spend enough time around people like this and you stop going "wow so many bad things have happened to you, i feel so bad for you" and you start saying "okay, wtf are you doing that is constantly putting you in shitty situations, this isnt normal"
real
Yup, you realize that they are usually the problem and not the victim.
I can still fix her though…
As a health professional, this is a common theme for my clients with borderline personality disorder.
Yeah, we can't decide how our brain is wired by default.
But we can very much influence our decisions in life. It may be harder, but most of us KNOW when shit is a bad idea, and at that point it's up to us to make the right decision. Some folks are seemingly allergic to making the right life decisions, and those deserve no pity.
I would much rather spend my goodwill on people that actually TRY to improve themself/ their life.
I need a spiritual rinse where Caleb just audits someone who’s doing well and has everything under control as a reset after this.
I’ve sent him a request. 27 already a multimillionaire and about to inherit another 8 figures and I have no idea what to do and it’s scary. Hopefully they accept because I’d fly out to him
Go watch the money guy show. They're much more suited to your situation. @@chrisbato2093
@@chrisbato2093 let me hold a mil bro
@@chrisbato2093congrats dude. That’s insane
@@chrisbato2093what do you mean you don’t know what to do? You’ve beaten capitalism, you can just invest in some good dividend stocks and live comfortably off of the disbursements for the rest of your life if you wanted to. The dividend payout could be between 100k and 400k per year on average from $10m investment.
Beyond just being overly successful and it wouldn’t get views, I don’t think he could legally help you out anyway. He’s not a qualified financial advisor, so he cannot tell you what to do with your money. He gets away with these since creating budgets is not considered financial advice. Additionally, it would probably come across more like you’re gloating about it rather than actually coming on for help.
Caleb’s ability to cut thru the bullshit and stay on topic is honestly LEGENDARY
Dude- Caleb could have gone to jail talking to this nut. I woulda lost it Homer Simpson style
Nope he was just a pain on this one
Yup. It only took about 1/3 of the video to get to the financial stuff.
Gay dudes can do that to pretty women lol
@@CentralTexasCarSpotter i mean he has to be careful when people start bringing up claimed trauma and mental illness because if he calls them on their bullshit it could cost him his entire business and cancel him for victim blaming. So even though he knows it complete bullshit, he can't outright call them out on that kind of stuff. I think he pushes as hard as he can on stuff like that.
She wants to be a:
-doctor (if school isn’t hard or stressful)
-psychiatrist as a backup plan because it requires less time to earn that degree (in her mind)
-a detective (she would later learn the word forensics from Caleb)
-an actress (I’m an actor and that made me do a spit take)
-grocery store employee again (if they take her back after abandoning the job she was fired/quit/abandoned/got bad vibes from)
Ouch
A psychiatrist is a doctor. If she can’t be that, she wants to be a therapist. A lot of therapists are phds that can take longer than med school.
Don't forget streamer.
You must be a very successful actor.
@@Irisbluered you’re right. Instead of going back and editing the post, I’ll correct myself in this comment. I meant to say doctor, then counselor not psychiatrist.
I felt so bad for Caleb I actually didn't skip the commercials on this one
Good thing I pay for premium lol
@@MikeHightower1hopefully you can afford it, or Caleb will find you and get you figured out.
I dont know about you guys but I think she makes a lot of sense. Personally, my dream is to be a food vlogger but my backup is to be an award-winning theoretical physicist
You need to dream even bigger. See me, I want to become God, but if that doesn't pan out I wouldn't mind being a space pirate, or even astronaut at the very least.
I was thinking of opening my own McDonald’s, well that or competing in the Olympics. But if neither of those work I’ll just get a PhD in either physics or computer science
😂😂😂
Right? I've always wanted to be a live touring musician with several super successful albums under my belt, but my backup is to be a nuclear physicist.
my dream is to be a homeless guy but if that doesn't work my fallback is being an NBA player
As much as I enjoy watching these kind of audits, I want to see people who truly want to get their shit together
Most of those people probably knew what they need to do anyway...
He’s got a knack at finding the worst of the worst. He used to also but I think he believes it got boring.
Nah I’m here for the mess to feel better about myself 😂
People who truly want to get their shit together have their shit together and don’t need this show.
The crazy ones make me feel better lolol
I almost broke out in tears from laughter after Caleb asked if he is being pranked. This is too much.
I really wish her mom would have been a part of this, a second perspective on all of the life circumstances at play in the episode would have probably been really eye opening and revealing
BPD is caused by abuse in childhood. I don’t think her moms the victim everyone is trying to paint her as
"I want my doctor career to be a fallback when I retire from acting" is one of the funniest, most delusional things I have heard on this channel. Thanks for the laugh Caleb!
She must think she is going to be the next Ken Jeong!
That’s her BPD coming through.
Don’t forget the detective part too!
She's not getting any acting work without another 8k in dental work
Did you miss the crystal girl with the whole not wanting to partake in capitalism cuase that one was wildddd
Mom: pays for her school and phone bill, drives her to this interview, lets her live under her roof
This girl: “She basically doesn’t give a shit about me”
She’s completely full of shit and Caleb gave her money which is all she needed to confirm what she thinks and tgat is that she can “act” and get any guy to give her money or stuff.
Right? She's delusional.
@@c_marquez Gen Zooted
And that is the exact hallmark of Bpd.
@@asparrow9876Not even.
She openly admits she has a mental illness where this kind of problem is a hallmark symptom.
When she said she wanted to go to med school as a backup plan my jaw dropped. My wife is currently in medical school and let me tell you that kind of profession is NOT a backup plan.
After acting falls through 👀
Maybe unless you want to be an astronaut 😁
Medical degree as a fall back is not unheard of. Dr. Randy Gregg played for Edmonton Oilers. After his professional hockey career he pursued medicine. I will admit it is a very rare exception.
I’d imagine she’s lying
You can have several careers instead of sticking with one. I knew a professional engineer who went to nursing school.
Her attitude changed as soon as he said he would give her money if he knew she wouldn't stupidly spend it, she tried to sound responsible with money hoping he would give her some LMAO
She is a full blown sociopath
Some episodes are a bigger portrayal of mental illness than financial mismanagement. This is one of them.
A good amount of them they should require therapy or a mental evaluation before hand or something
@@xtruhsauceI'm predicting that Caleb is going to be hiring a therapist to screen his guests in the not too distant future. His current team have been underperforming in the quality control.
@@Draggonnyit gives him content and views. People stick around for episodes like this because it’s a little more entertaining, even though you’re so tempted to skip.
or people that blame all their problems on mental illness, I take everything with a grain of salt, people lie its the internet. People on this show never take responsibility for their actions.
@@jesuspacheco8301that's not really the purpose of the show though. Yes it gives his page more recognition but if I remember correctly, Caleb gets genuinely angry when people use his platform for clout
The fact that she kept saying "my parents dont care about me at all" all while they are letting her live rent free, paying her phone bill, giving her 200$ when she needs it, paying for college for her. It infuristes me, like im sure they might be emotional distant or something but they obviously care. It comes across super entitled and ignorant. Shes got an excuse for everything, takes no responsibility for anything and just expects things to happen for her.
I get the impression that her parents are exhausted by her bullshit and she interprets anything but wild support as neglect.
called a BPDemon for a reason
I would think that’s a characteristic of her illness (though I’m no expert)
She got a victim mentality
All my (adult) friends whose parents completely enable and financially support them are very resentful of their parents. Many not speaking to their parents while they pay their bills and rent. I don’t think it’s a coincidence.
“once i retire from acting I’m gonna fall back on being a doctor” SENT ME FLYING OUT OF MY CHAIR
Especially frustrating to hear her say that psychiatry is easier to get into. Step #1 is getting into med school, which is a struggle requiring 3.8+ GPA, 1000’s of hours of volunteering and leadership, shadowing doctors, interviews etc. and THEN you apply for residency. The ‘easy’ way into psych is becoming a psychologist after 8 years of school. Not excel so well you not only get into med school, but get residency in a specialty.
😂😂😂😂
Same!!!!!
😂😂😂😂😂
"I dont really have any parental figures, like my parents dont really give a shit about me." I stay with my parents for free, they pay for my school because they want me to have an education, they pay for my phone so i can save money, they drive me to this interview so i can get my life on track financially. Yeah, they really dont care, do they?
It’s a kid mentality, if you don’t support them in what they think then you don’t love them at all. I can guarantee if we met her parents it wouldn’t be the pictures she’s painting. I know this is very late lol
It’s a parent mentality. Clearly they did nothing toward teaching her to be responsible.
She sounds like a 6 year old discussing what she wants to be when she gets old: “I want to be a doctor, a police officer or an actress!”.
That’s what I was thinking. I wanted to he a detective when I was 10.
A football playing king in space!
real talk
@@MagnusvonYoshiSpongebob reference, nice.
she definitely has BPD lmao
Being around a habitual liar, she deludes herself so much to make herself the victim, that reality and what actual happens surprises her. She is a career liar. This is 1000% a learned behavior. She got fired from work for poor job performance and acting out when being escorted to the managers office. But to her, she was "fondled", no "groped", no "hand put on her shoulder", no escorted to the managers office. She is an immature child who's been given no responsibility with accountability in her life. Its everyone else's fault. She can't work because mental disabilities, her job won't schedule her because she acted out and threw a temper tantrum.
Bpd is very closely associated with sexual abuse as a child (various studies show 40-70%) I would bet she was molested as a kid and now completely overreacts to normal incidental touching. So this was probably nothing but to her it felt like more because of her history.
Spot on
This is what bad parents do and then society, the media, etc justifies these actions for them. Everyone is programmed to have victim mentality now a days.
Exactly
Could tell within the first 60 seconds that most of what she was says is a lie. I've met people like her who just every other word is a lie. I used to believe that people like her who lie all the time do so because they had a hard life in some way, but later realized it's usually because they actually haven't been through anything really difficult and just completely make things up for pity. She's one of those people, I almost guarantee she hasn't faced any real adversity other than what she puts herself through.
Her: "My parents don't care about me" Also Her: "My parents pay my school, phone, give me random $, drive me places, and give me a free place to live" Ungrateful child
less "ungrateful child" and more "cluster b personality disorder". She is not in touch with reality.
Lmao the math is not mathing
I mean I’d be upset too if my parents raised me to be this ignorant of basic things. Both sides are at fault but now she’s an adult so it’s all on her going forward
@@jwelda1sounds like they’re trying their best. I don’t even see how her parents are at fault here. Sounds like they let her out when she wanted out, she failed multiple times, and they bailed her out multiple times because they don’t want to see their daughter homeless. She makes piss poor decisions. I do not remotely see how you can put this on her parents.
@biggmac2149 more like not holding her accountable and babying her. Like if they were authoritative when raising her and talking about finances and how to manage them, she might not be this ignorant.
I hate how she keeps saying “putting their hands on me,” knowing damn well what that means colloquially.
Straight up offensive
I hateeeee shit like that. When people misuse terms. You know she knew what she was doing too
Yeah…She was referring to touch-aversion but framed it as ab’se. Shameful victim mentality
I have been assaulted since childhood and I tell people not to put their hands on me. If she was trying to say they were SAing her she would have said that. Cry somewhere else. At least she’s medicated and doing therapy. You’re throwing a tantrum in the comments😂
@@elanorapowell6811shut up.
This little compulsive liar was homeless for 1 night and suddenly she has PTSD so bad people can’t… touch her arm? Brush up against her? “Putting their hands on me” means being in a fight for 85% of people. And the other 15% may take it as innuendo for SA. But she means, minor touches on the arm or shoulders. She is intentionally misusing heavier terms in order to garner sympathy. That ruins it for people who DO actually go thru things and ARE actually physically assaulted or SAd.
She didn’t go thru squat diddly
Only about 10 mins in and she's insufferable. Super cool to see Caleb calling out her lies and straight up not having her weird manipulative framing of everything.
This 304 gets ran through by dudes in hotels and gets bailed out by parents or the same guys that hit that and pay her like a common tramp.
Does scream borderline
I don't think she is manipulative. I think she is just genuinely stupid.
@@sakurauchiha03I was gonna say lmfaoooooo sounds like stereotypical bpd
Im in 3 mins and nothing she said so far makes sense. Sounds like pathological lies I’m hearing but I’m no mental health professional
Caleb, please don't let children like this on the show. She has never once spent a single minute thinking about finances before coming on this show.
I thought it was very entertaining. I don't think it's bad to post episodes like this from time to time. It helps keep the show interesting.
She’s grown 22 is not considered a child
@@Dog_in_tree thats still not a child....its like making an excuse for that behavior. thats a grown woman who has no excuse.
@@Dog_in_treeshe’s not a child by defintion lol. This episode at the very least was entertaining
It's important to have kids like her on the show so they dont turn into 50 yr olds w/ no retirement and mountains of debt. But I will say I wish Caleb was better about making sure she knew how dire things were and what she would need to have in a future.
I’m gonna bet that it’s not that her parents don’t “believe” in mental illness, but that they are sick of taking no responsibility for her life and blaming the mental illness.
I believe her. Not to generalise but ethnic minorities sometimes don’t believe in mental health problems, they think it’s just a myth/excuse. My parents have a hard time understanding it and believe God can just fix everything and that I don’t pray enough. They are so different from my white friends parents 😭😩
It's Borderline though...
I'm MX/AM, both parents born in MX. My mom is extremely mentally unwell and neither parents have suggested her to go to therapy. My sister told my mom she needs therapy bc they had issues together and she would stop tlaking to her if she didn't go. They no longer talk. My mom had a doctor tell her, literally tell her she needs therapy, and my mom took it as the doctor calling her crazy.
It’s a very hit or miss. Im first gen and it took my parents a lot of adult conversations to fully understand how serious it can get. Finally got my mom to think about going to therapy but ever since then she’s been a lot more kind.
@@leahmcdermott4189 Except that her parents “forced” her to the hospital for care. She’s just a liar.
“Does that make sense?” No girl. No it doesn’t.
I came searching specifically for this comment because I had the SAME reaction!!
😂😂
The whole grocery store thing is unbelievable. First she got fired because she called out harassement. Then she got fired because she was a bad worker. Then she didn't even know if she got fired. Then she "might have" actually quit because she hated the job anyways
. Give me a break lol
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But she still went back to get her final check too
I've worked a lot of service jobs and they have always been really good about harassment, especially sexual. They don't fuck around and got rid of those people. This was in the dirty south too.
It sounds to me like she was in trouble "come with me to the manager" then she got written up or something"I might have been a bad worker" and had a little tantrum and stormed out, to which her manager or whomever probably took as an abandonment of employment "i dont know if they fired me, i walked out"
My thoughts exactly
“School is not as long as you think” to “I don’t know how long school is”, “I want to be a doctor as a fall back” to “My mom is making me go to school”… man this girl is just a walking contradiction
She later then said, i think it takes about 10 years. She is just saying things so she gets what she wants, or will paint her in the best light. She is either to stupid or just doesnt care about keeping her lies straight.
But you also have to think about how she already has mental issues with borderline AND bipolar, her family “doesn’t believe in metal health problems” (Maybe Hispanic bc I have experienced it I could be wrong) and she’s 22 years old which makes her a Gen Z which is makes sense with the live streaming.
All her thoughts are very scattered. It’s like she trickles in truths. Maybe to be a people pleaser? Or maybe she doesn’t realize what she is doing is bad? She said she was a bad worker. And she didn’t realize walking out = quitting??? Yeah… no… I don’t think she’s grounded well…
It's just a masters
1000%
She's making a lot of stuff up. Less than 1/4 of this interview is true.
I feel terrible for her parents. I have a sibling with the exact same behavior. It's so hard to see someone you care about destroy their life. Always lying. Always the victim. It truly is an illness, not a failure by her parents.
I really disliked how badly she talks about them but clearly they are extremely supportive of her both financially and emotionally
You know absolutely nothing
It’s crazy….my parents pay for school, medical insurance, rent, utilities, and she even got a ride there by her mom! But my parents are not supportive, that’s a crazy mindset.
My sister is exactly like this. She's undiagnosed. We just buried my grandma last weekend and my sister made the entire thing about herself. I am so glad I won't have to see her again until the next funeral. She's decided to take my brother under her wing and is currently ruining his life.
My brother, sister and dad are all also exactly like this and I feel so seen and understood in your comment. They are always the victim, they do the most to destroy their lives and they’re always LYING! And don’t you dare call them out on it because they get aggressive and violent that you don’t believe their blatant lies. Gaslighting like a MFFF. It’s exhausting and I never knew there were more people out there like that. I don’t feel alone in this anymore thanks to these comments. This episode did serve a purpose for me!
"They just abandoned me at a hotel"
Can't imagine why.
Being expected to do things because she is homeless, no job, “going to school.” And complaining she is the victim. I think that guy was the victim.
@@adjcsee4476Yes such a victim abandoning a woman because she won’t spread her legs…
@@adjcsee4476that guy realized he was gonna be exploited for money and housing and food and wasn’t gonna get shit for it except living with a compulsive liar who can’t hold down a job, severely in debt, terrible family relationship (drama may be brought to your door) and goes on to frame you as the bad guy and as a creep.
He probably thought he was moving along in a relationship with someone he had known for awhile and was friendly with, but then realized that wasn’t actually gonna happen, and nope out.
And all it cost him was a cheap hotel room to learn his mistake 😂
@@icet-oj5yc He bought her designer boots. She said that in the video.
I have a feeling she’s living a very nice life at home and she doesn’t realize what real life is like or how expensive and stressful med school is
Not a clue, she's pretty. Nuff said
@@zodglubby Being pretty doesn't make the difference. Plenty of pretty people are collected and have it together.
I actually DIED when she suddenly said she was going to be a detective
Caleb looking around to see if he was being pranked when she said, "I want to be a doctor to fall back on once I'm done with acting" is how all of us felt 🤣
I know, uti could hit “ pause” and go into the kitchen for a bit. He’s stuck there!
Bro then she fuckin says, but with my Bachelor I can be a Detective lmaooo. Caleb says what the fuck, what are you lol . So insane
I genuinely think she was having a psychotic episode during the shiw
@@fark69that’s making an excuse for her. She is just uneducated and ignorant lol
she sounds like a little girl "im gonna be an astronaut firefighter princess pop singer!" type shit
“Well I can’t drive” then how are you planning on getting to auditions, rehearsal, shoots or anything that has to do with acting or modeling
Didn't even think about that . Good point.
She is honestly my biggest fear with having kids. I know she’s young, but the lack of accountability is insane!!!
Seriously though. I have a cousin that is insane and mooches off her family. She is always the victim. I am bipolar but thankfully I had help with my family and am doing ok and am independent. But it does make me nervous if my baby will be bipolar too and wont be able to handle it.
@@hermitabbymental illness is never an excuse, these people use it as a crutch.
I have diagnosed ADHD, anxiety and OCD. Ain’t never see me being resentful towards my parents or even ask for a dollar.
It’s like going to the gym. You either do it or you don’t.
Her Parents may be supporting her, but they failed miserably. I wish you better luck.
Yeah, but lack of accountability stems from parents never saying "no" to their kids and not setting healthy boundaries.
Most kids don’t turn out this clueless. Make raising your kids your primary role and be ready to adapt to the situation as it develops. If you take this approach, there is a high probability you will raise successful children to become successful adults. Ignore them or give in to every request and this is what you get.
As someone with Borderline but who manages it .... this is CLASSIC exhibiting. What she says/does and the manipulation, this is my first instinct often and I have to monitor it by constantly policing myself. Oh my god this is so hard to watch.
Love that you are proactive about it!
You being able to identify that in her because you experience it for yourself just shows how much work you've put into your own growth and mental health! Proud of you!
can you explain what exhibit means here?
I hope this makes you feel better not worse: most mature adults constantly edit themselves so as to manage relationships. You only get to be your true self with maximum 3 people. Even for people without the impulse to manipulate/lie. In fact i usually have to resist the impulse to tell the truth. Because it’s not kind, not useful.
@@luxursunsetslike the rapper fooL
Dude when she said "I passed my classes with As and Bs," I wanted Caleb to demand her report card. She's lied too much to be trusted with that at this point 😂
She definitely not even C type student
Hell no she didn’t have a single grade that was an A😂
Her mental illnesses make it so she can’t study either
If you can't emotionally and mentally can't handle a situation where someone puts their hand on your shoulder to gently guide you in a direction, you aren't going to make it as a psychiatrist.
As a psychotherapist, this is a wonderful example of people struggling with BPD and bipolar. Everything is always someone else’s fault; bus driver, bus company, parents, “friends”, manipulating Caleb, bosses at work, workplaces in general, her psychiatrists, landlords … I hope she does stay on meds and get intensive therapy treatment so she can function as an adult in society and take accountability for her life. ❤❤
*edit; she needs intensive HELP before working as a therapist herself. Psychiatrists go to school for 10 years so they can interpret diagnosis based on the DSM. It’s not a tool people should be using lightly. If she’s reading this, i hope you spend as much time as you need getting a grasp on your on mental health before attempting to help others. ❤
I have a friend like this. "The unreliable narrator" we call him. He often omits the part where he was drunk.
When she said borderline as a diagnosis I was like, well the thumbnail makes total sense now.
Like you said, hopefully she can get the help she needs
unreliable narrator is a great way to describe folks with personality disorders@@Lazirus951
My thoughts exactly... as a psychotherapist myself, I believe there's so much hope if she sticks to therapy and continues to examine what her role in all of these situations is. It will take her some time, but I'm sure she can function as an adult in society if she puts in the hard work. I have faith that she'll do well, especially given that she wants to find something that helps her, and wants to help others as well.
That's not a disease, its a mindset. I find it amazing as a gen Xer that NO ONE I knew when I was young had any such thing as "Bipolar" ... many people from when I was young still hang out and we were all reasonably successful. Sounds like a manufactured excuse for an entire generation. None of us needed meds or therapy to cope with life.
This was so hard to get through. I had to come back 5 times just to finish the video. This was not a financial audit, this was a therapy session.
True! Why even do a budget when she has no freaking job! OMG WTF
@@lane1776 yes. I didn’t understand that. Plus she didn’t really have many bills/ expenses. Im questioning why she came on financial audit 🤔
@@mch8928 exposure... there is literally no other reason :/
@@mch8928for attention
I made it 20 minutes and turned it off. May try to finish but having dealt with it in real life, it gives me a headache.
"my parents dont support me and are against me taking meds and going to therapy and dont believe in mental health" "my parents physically and monetarily support me and make sure i get to my doctors appointments and all my meds."
WHAT
As a middle manager at a grocery store for about 15 years I can tell you I have dealt with tons of kids that act very similar to this girl. They have one bad day or problem then disappear and never come back or call. Pretty standard stuff more than likely they probably considered her walking off what's called job abandonment and then terminated her a week later. Don't know why it's so difficult to call and quit i guess it's just a maturity thing.
I’ve done that plenty of times with shitty retail positions. I don’t do that with “careers.”
Yeah in states where I managed hourly employees, if you don’t show up or contact for 3 days, it’s job abandonment. See ya 👋 lol this girl is just 🤯
@@Jake38nine I don't deny that I get frustrated too and I'm pretty tolerant towards employees that have complaints or blowups within reason of course. The real issue lies in not calling or showing for work. That's one instance where I can't really have much wiggle room to keep employees on.
@@jessica33313 I've heard people tell me this before. The issue I see with that is these work habits of not showing or calling the shitty jobs sometimes carries over to the career jobs. I'm sure for some it doesn't but in my experience once someone becomes accustomed to doing something it's hard to stop and break their habits just my opinion of course.
@@coreyklima8929I think this would be especially true for someone with her diagnosis. If you look into the type of therapy she mentioned needing, it’s entirely based around mindfulness and handling big emotions. If she doesn’t manage that at a place that’s “just a job”, it’s going to be more and more difficult, even with a career. That’s probably less true for someone without her same diagnosis, but it’s still good practice to have difficult conversations calmly and professionally when the stakes are lower.
She reminds me of my ex with BPD who couldn't hold down a job. Helping people with this mindset is like trying to save someone frantically drowning and they pull you under with them.
It’s an impossible situation for anyone involved with these types of people. Glad to hear you got out.
You have to get away from people like this. I'd have her leave. I'm 13 min in and there is no job, no debt, no nothing but drama. She doesn't need to be anywhere anyone else. Padded room level of crazy. For OUR own good. Wow. At 14 min I'm freaking out like Caleb
Woof absolutely
I was about to comment this. Ex was very similar to this girl, and you think you want to help so much, but after being burned over and over, you give up and let them fail hard.
@@vitaminme4203for some people they have to feel the consequences before they’re ready to make a change.
BPD can be treated and often resolves to remission with treatment, but like all psychological disorders the patient needs disciplined and concentrated efforts from both themselves and a therapist.
A more accurate description of the above is “trying to save someone drowning who thinks they can swim”
25 minutes in, no financial audit of any kind... these people need to be vetted more, this is not a financial audit, she needs proper professional help
PLEASE READ THIS COMMENT CALEB
Agreed! She’s all over the place
Agreed, it seems like she was a backup/ last resort as he said several other people cancelled due to the holiday (at least I hope that's what happened here)
I think he's purposely choosing people that he thinks will be more entertaining
He said many people canceled due to holidays
She just assumes that a therapist and a psychiatrist are on the same education track.
She's clueless.
she definitely thinks it’s the same thing too
She DID NOT just tell Caleb to give her money... 💀💀 Holy shit she's delusional
That was wild.
She admitted to being BPD
@@joelh5445is that people do?
She said a detective
I figured they got some amount for coming on the show.
To ARACELY:
Please do not be a doctor
Please do not have kids
Please say sorry to Caleb!
Kind regards,
Everyone
Man reading through the comments on this one I can tell this is going to be a rough one to get through lol
To fourthmoon4310
you have no right telling another person to not have children.
If you could go back in time, would you tell Klara Hitler to not have children?
Don’t think you need to tell her. She can’t become a doctor lol
@@wubbied4575nah I don’t want to exist in a world with more her
As an American citizen I would not feel safe if this girl is my doctor, therapist, police officer, detective, etc. I hope she gets help and can grow into a person I would feel safe serving in these roles.
Not that deep, she was in a mental health crisis during the episode. I doubt that she can become s doctor unfortunately. She maybe unemployed for the rest of her life. Poor girl.
To get through just a normal days work without going home early after causing a scene is a big achievement for people with bpd there unemployable
what does being an American citizen have to do with anything in this situation
@danna.mvp. I think it was a light hearted joke tbh. I sat with this comment snf the first half is a joke and the second half is a showing of concern
@@mohurst9063 Finally someone got it 😂
12 years ago, I was attending community college to get an Associates of Science. I wanted to be a dentist. I had a friend who was going to be a doctor. He told me I wasn't motivated or dedicated enough to become a dentist. It was a reality check I needed; I actually stopped going to college after completing my Associates. Some people just need to hear their delusions out loud. But some of them stay delusional forever.
I want to be an actor, and a doctor, and an astronaut, and a detective, and a firefighter, and a policeman, and a cowboy, and a superhero.
And a ballerina, and the bane of Caleb’s existence.
Being the president is my fallback plan
U forgot pilot 👩✈️
I'm 5☺️☺️ when I grow up...
Isn’t there a guy on the internet that is all of these?
Caleb have you ever thought of doing a few financial audits of people who have a higher Caleb Hammer Financial score? I think it may not be as “entertaining” but could also be beneficial to your viewers. Keep up the great work!
I would also thinking the same the other day 😅
I could be one, but it would be a short episode, and no caleb yelling, I have really no debt, and good savings, and retirement, so I don't think I would make a good show
He commented on that before. Basically he has limited bandwidth to do episodes and these are what more people are interested in... :/
he has said: " yes" he dosent calculate scores ahead of time s its possible but he would not do anyone (as of now) with a perfect score or really high score because it would not be helpful to the average person. if you look at older episodes you can find scores that are higher than a 1 or 2.
He has done them. They have the least views and help the least number of viewers.
They need to use this as a sample of what untreated BPD is like in college psychology classes
Yeah, it's quite sad. Her poor insight is just oozing off of her. I feel for her family.
I had an ex girlfriend, who would read something online and she would believe it just because it was the first thing she read instead of doing more research. She would also get corrected at work she wouldn’t like it and walk off, later she would claim she got fired. She would self diagnose her symptoms. I later found out she was all messed up from the drugs she was doing. This girl reminds me so much of her. She also claimed to be homeless but she was kicked out of her dads because she would have parties where her dad was getting kicked out so she was forced to moved with her mom, but she was “homeless”. All just lies to claim the victim.
What stood up to me was the contrast between how many times she mentioned "my parents handle this and that for me" vs. "I have no parental figure." It seems like she is really ungrateful and entitled. I guess she will need to learn to be independent the hard way.
I think the problem is the lack of emotional support and understanding from her parents. Her mother is at least controlling in terms of forcing her to study or be homeless fresh outta high school.
@@ramblingmillennial1560 Maybe they've been understanding for years and eventually came to the conclusion know their daughter is a entitled pos.
Honestly I don’t think she understands the concept of a parental figure. This whole conversation just felt like she answers the question by a standard phrase she heard somewhere, like a reflex rather than an actual discussion. Poor girl.
Parents can behave like parents but that doesn't mean that they are not toxic
@@roimel7524everything this girl said was I'm a victim. How do u emotionally support someone that lies blames u an others all time an dont take therapy serious
This channel is quickly going from financial audit to psychological breakdown.
And I hate it!!!!
@@ProseConsYTsame!! I used to watch episodes multiple times because they were interesting to listen to and now they’re getting hard to get through even once
It's the state of humanity in this world...
Personal finance is VERY closely related to the persons state of mind. It greatly affects their money habits
@@Kaygeedagee that’s a really good perspective to give!
I love how she’s wants to go to med school for psychiatry, but doesn’t realize that you have to go through med school, which involves learning about the entire body not just the brain. Psychiatrists are medical doctors because they can diagnose and give drugs.
And because the drugs "for the brain" interact with all systems in the body, with each other and with medications you are taking for other things. I have had many physical reactions to drugs "for the brain", side effects, interactions between drugs and more. Such a joy! (Not). These days I am weaning from a drug that got my cholesterol and triglycerides through the roof.
i think maybe alot of people dont know that though LOL
I wouldn't be suprised if she didnt know that there is a fundamental difference between a therapist and a psychiatrist.
This woman said cough condritis. I am almost certain she meant costrocondritis… which happens when you vape and cough a lot. It’s inflammation of the ribs and the connective tissue..
Wait watched more. Albuterol is a bronchodilator, so does she have bronchitis ?? Whic… I can’t keep up with this story 😂😂
possibily both, if she has bronchitis as well that would cause the coughing that would cause the inflammation
The worst part is that if she had one of them or both, she KEEPS VAPING!
I might get flamed for this but quitting is not hard. I have addictive personality, anxiety, etc. and addiction and mental health issues runs in my family. I quit vaping once I actually decided to do it. She doesn’t want to get better, she doesn’t want to be healthy, she doesn’t want to quit. It’s not hard once you decided you’re worth it. She decides every time she buys a vape that she is NOT worth it and that is a sad place to be in life but I don’t feel sad for her. Only she can decide to value herself more and she isn’t.
@@daisybaby722yep. If you can hold off for 1 day of anxiety, some headaches, minor mood swings, the worst is over. And that is for the heaviest of nicotine addictions.
I was on heroin for 4 years in my early 20s. That is 7-14 days of being unable to move off the bed, shitting your brains out, sweating buckets, shivering hard enough to feel like an earthquake, feeling so sore you could think you got run over. You can’t work while you’re detoxing. THAT is hard to quit but even then, if you have some self control, and just DO NOT BUY IT NO MATTER WHAT. Then quitting is easy. It’s behavioral. If you really want to quit, even quitting heroin is easy. But the problem is most people truly do not want to stop their addictions. The small dopamine hits are more worth it to them. People get complacent about their situation and just accept it.
@@daisybaby722same. Took a low point to finally quit cigarettes. You have to want to change and internalize the problem for it to work. Glad you were able to quit
Strange that her parents don't believe in mental health issues or medical treatments for them but are paying for her to be educated to do that.
I think she's having a psychotic episode during this show, thats why everything she says seems to not match up with the facts we have
It can also be a cultural thing. There’s some cultures that believe that talking about mental health issues is taboo. They’ll say things like “it’ll get better” and my favorite, “just pray”.
Physical ailments are real to these kinds of parents, depression and other mental health issues are fake.
Let's be honest, it was probably a lie. Consistently she brought up her parents doing positive things for her. In 34 years my mom has never given me $300 "just because."
@@mjbankhead9063 Im Hispanic just like her. It’s likely not true and def not a cultural thing. Her parents are prob just tired of her constant fallback to mental health as an excuse.
Caleb is going to experience the “Kitchen Nightmares effect” where basically his content goes from trying to help people to basically showcasing the human condition because he realizes that people don’t change
Yes thats why I wish he would have people who actually do good on.. show what they do how they do it etc..
War never changes just get high tech
I’m here for it
The only reason I’m here
This is dishonest. Ramsey did not change his format because of some revelation about the human condition. He did it because it made people watch and it made him and the production company a lot of money. If you watch the original UK run of kitchen nightmares, its a lot of people who just needed guidance from a mentor.
Caleb, unfortunately, is doing the same. Increasingly his guests feature the mentally ill and those who are going to provoke a reaction of incredulity among his fans. It is becoming hard to watch, ans frankly feels exploitative. Like Jeremy Kyle.
This is textbook BPD. Chaotic personal and professional relationships, impulsivity, extreme sensitivity to perceived rejection, splitting/black and white thinking and exaggeration, inability to process nuance, and severely disordered identity. There is no purpose in doing an audit until she gets the help and tools she needs. Recovery is possible and is the only way forward.
BPD is barely a real thing. Most people just need discipline and the drugs they’re given just fuck them up more
I am like her and not sure what to do because BPD can’t really be medicated.
@@jordanaultman8423 Long-term therapy is the most important, especially Dialectical behavioral therapy. Medication can be helpful for many of the common comorbidities. Also, research suggests BPD commonly improves dramatically with age, especially between 30-40.
@jordanaultman8423 therapy. *years* of therapy. I started in 2014, and in 2023, i finally no longer meet the criteria for BPD.
I think Caleb empathized with her too much.. You could tell she loves being the victim. She has an excuse for everything its insane!!!! I would have walked away a long time ago instead of sitting there and listening to BS.😂 I'M STRESSED!!!
'Does that make sense?' over and over... NO, no it doesn't!
'I just need to get a Masters degree' okay she is totally delusional.
I think she was confusing psychiatry with a psychology degree.
She’s like the little sister of the other person that was on financial audit, who called herself DeLulu
A favorite moment was when she added that she didn't want to get a bachelor's degree.
@@teachercaronthat was my reaction, I thought it was masters to be a psychologist but all the way through med school for psychiatrist. This episode definitely felt crazy
A master’s degree to be a detective no less. Like she would completely skip being a beat cop for several years 😂
This poor girl is legitimately insane. I hope she gets the help and support she needs
She is not insane, she just seems very misguided and ignorant. She may mean well, but has no idea how the adult world works
Insanity is a legal disposition. What she has is mental illness.
Her life is fucked forever
And she's not even pretty so she doesn't have that going for her either
She really needs help! 😢
The audacity for her to say “give me more money” when Caleb asked how he can help her.
I audibly gasped a little when she said it a second time
I am willing to bet Caleb was not ready to rationalize with someone with BPD. As a psych RN I speak with them everyday and it is taxing. Without understanding and a therapeutic mindset, you can easily get sucked into the trauma and adopt a caretaker role which only harms you both. The negative is that she is very pretty which will validate and reinforce her victim mentality and prevent her from changing. I feel for her and I hope that Caleb was able to decompress appropriately after this episode.
As a manager I've had a handful of employees like this over 20 years and they are all memorable. Do you see the little smile on her face that pops out? I know there is mental illness here, but there is a real joy in causing drama and screwing with people that is the most destructive part of having them in the workplace. Scary that you can have a kid and end up here.
It's called "Dupers Delight"
From Google: Duper's delight” is often used to refer to involuntary microexpressions, or split second facial expressions that can't be controlled and are thought to “leak” the true feelings of the liar.
"Dupers Delight: What Is the Duper's Delight? The duper's delight is an emotional boost, or thrill, that some people get when they successfully cheat or deceive another person or organization. The rush they enjoy can lead them to repeat their dishonesty, even when there's no reward other than the high itself."
Definitely, some people absolutely love the drama and chaos. Even though they may say they don’t, but it’s all they cause
Exactly. She seems to have a very selfish, malicious streak.
She's fucked in the head.
She’s not mentally ill. She is just a narcissist
I know someone with BPD and bipolar, who refuses to work on themselves or take accountability, and this episode was exactly what it’s like to try and have a conversation with them.
@@MatPandaZ lots of us work very very very hard to manage our triggers & heal our wounds. I am a loving person who makes mistakes, just like everyone else. Bpd is a disorder that stems from horrific childhood trauma & it makes me sad to see how stigmatized & misunderstood it is, & how often people avoid getting help or don’t have proper access to support. I’m very sorry to hear that your experience with people who suffer from this has been so unfortunate.
My thoughts exactly
Caleb thinking he’s getting pranked has me so dead ☠️ The only other thing she could’ve thrown in was that she survives on taquitos 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
It would be a pretty funny episode if he was actually pranked. Like they get someone on like this or worse but then after a while it turns out the person actually is very good with finances and basically doing everything right.
I’m diagnosed with bipolar too and do at least somewhat understand her situation. Walking out of a job, the confusion of careers and life in general: all of that I get. It took me A. New meds, B. Sincere prayer, and C. Hard talk from my brother in law to get me on the right track. And Caleb is hopefully that talk she needed.
Though I am bothered by her saying they’re not “parental figures” even though they do a lot for her, and the lies, I’m gonna guess that’s what borderline disorder does. Don’t know much about that disorder
But if you’re reading this Aracely, keep a good relationship with your parents; for the love of God stop vaping; find the right meds, maybe even switch doctors, and go to church if that’s your thing. Comments are rude, but a lot of us do genuinely hope for the best for you
What the frick are you doing on that side Caleb
Hahah
It’s driving me crazy lol
The OG side is back 👌
@@ResourcefulNomadyeah 😊 it’s the classic side, we just couldn’t do it in my house while we were looking for a permanent studio
Left side is back let’s gooooo
This is like a tutorial in spotting red flags. Trouble at home, no straight answers, stories changing depending on context, trying to gain sympathy, taking no responsibility for actions, etc. Guys, if you ever see this shit, literally run.
Yeah well, I know this might sound mean, but her boyfriend killed himself. I'd kinda call that a red flag 🤣🤣
Run, like that dude did when he took off from the hotel. Lol
Borderline and BPD are basically medically diagnosed red flag.
Dont forget trying to survive off the thirst of men. She tried to string along the "friend" and her twitch streamer follower sent her money/food...
BPD/Bipolar explains a lot.
These people need to be screened. Caleb isn’t a therapist it’s not his responsibility to provide therapy. Probably one of the worst episodes.
Yeah she had no money to manage!
I think they screen ppl tho 💀 this is so bad
This is how to get clicks. She was screened. You gotta remember this is for entertainment.
I have to agree though I came to the comments for the summary because at 8 minutes I had to stop watching. This lady is insufferable idk why she came here. I know it’s entertainment but I don’t feel like this is the audience.
I know they do screen people but the screening seems to be getting a little LAX lately and he did say at the start of the episode with the cancellations over the holiday they just said fuck it let's just go with this when I guess lol
"Well.. WElCoMe tO fINAnCiAl AuDiT 😜" If she was in therapy then I feel like they'd help her out with her compulsive lying.
She has bpd there compulsive liars it takes yearsss to fix that but clearly she doesn’t accept help
Honestly that line cracked me up 😂 say what you want about this girl but that joke landed
I’m sorry but I do love the messy audits. Like, you have a great mix going on of people who want to improve their finances and then these just whacky gems that can’t help but crack me up. We are ultimately always watching for you and your knack for telling people the truth.
But this girl needs help that is way beyond Caleb's expertise.
Caleb, you should start a series with getting different guest on the show with different degrees, different jobs in different fields, and learning their salaries, day in the life, and overall how they got there. I think that would be cool and could tie in to finance as well
Yeah, career advice and explaining the path it takes to get to certain salaries would be very helpful in the grand scheme of financial education
Agreed that would be an awesome thing to show. Definitely ties in and ways to give people hope and show you the steps to follow to achieve those types of jobs.
I tried getting on the show, went through multiple emails and a survey but unfortunately didn’t make the cut, I’m 30, made 310k this passed year from my job and real estate, am in a decent place in life but not where I should be given what I make and I have a spending problem with no real budget, no emergency fund or anything like that, could really use the budgeting advice and outside look into my situation to take advantage of it, coming from nothing I had no one to really teach me good money ethics and got myself in the hole a few times, would love for him to see this and re-consider me!
Yeah cause these audits of insane people are getting old…
@@ThatRedEvosounds like some professional advice could really help you and possibly save you money by being tax efficient etc.
Former therapist here.... it requires ~7 years of college and 2-3 years for licensing per state. You have to redo the licensing process for every state you want to practice in.
@@muscleandmath2910 that's not a stupid question! Tbh I'm not *entirely* sure, but I think you have to be getting your practicing hours physically in that state. COVID may have changed things and allowed people to do it remotely though.
She said she wants to be a psychiatrist though. This would be undergrad, med school, and residency. Minimum 12 years, I believe.
@@muscleandmath2910current independently licensed therapist here lol its different between each state to each state, so kentucky to ohio process is different than michigan to california and so on.
however, generally what i see if you’re currently in a therapy program is that you just have to fulfill the internship requirements for both state, in that state, to be eligible for that license in that state. for example if Ohio is 300 internship hours, and massachusetts is 600 hours, youll need to have 300 hours practiced in ohio and 600 practiced in Massachusetts to take licensure for that state and you can be licensed to practice in both.
if you’re already a licensed therapist, you can look up the process per state to get your licensed transferred or to see the requirements to get additionally licensed in that state.
its all confusing! 😅
Wouldn’t her status as being extremely unwell also disqualify her from being a mental health professional?
Thanks for the info. What made you stop being a therapist?
When she says "Welcome to financial audit" it actually makes sense in a way.
It was perfect. I thought it was scripted
Yeah she didn't come for a financial audit, she came to be on camera.
Duhhhhhhh
She's used Caleb as a therapist 😂
@@Mokuujin good old talk therapy. Most people just call it chatting about life with friends.
I’ve been in the Caleb side in so many of these conversations.
She came for a handout. She asked Caleb for money...
This is textbook B P D. It explains nearly everything that’s “happened” to her and why she frames it for us the way she did. It explains the grocery store fiasco, the weird non-bf she mentioned at the beginning (I bet there’s way more to the story she’s not telling us), the parents “not supporting” her yet paying for everything, the bf suicide
Yes!!
I knew someone just like her who told almost the same exact lies
Yes
I don't think there's anymore to that non-bf story, she called asking to stay with him when she lost her stuff, he figured it was a quid-pro-quo and got them a motel room, when he found out she wasn't putting out, he left. Gotta remember she's been sugar daddy hopping around for who knows how long, so a lot of these potential boyfriends or male friends are just looking for a lay.
But yeah, it does sound like the symptoms of BPD for sure. How does the bf suicide thing factor into it though? Just the trauma from that, or do you think she was lying?
@@MrSlowestD16 I think youre right on the weird bf. Though she’s not taking any responsibility for her role in that incident because like you said she’s been sugar daddy hopping.
With the bf suicide, it’s just another example of an unstable relationship in her life. Dude must have been dealing with mental health issues as well.
Real story. She has great and supportive parents, they are just at wits end dealing with a daughter that takes no accountability for anything and blames everything on her “illness”. She doesn’t deserve to sit across from you Caleb.
I've seen this play out. She will suck them dry financially and emotionally, until she suicides.
She is very obviously ill. Don't be shitty and insinuate that her mental illnesses are made up just because you're not used to seeing something like this
Sounds like my most recent ex-girlfriend. Girl craps on her parents whenever it suits her. Her parents are actually salt of the earth folks and are also at their wits end, but don't have the courage to boot her out and force her to carve her own path in life. Her siblings refuse to talk to her even though 2 of them live under the same roof as her. The only time they would become social is when I was over.
She should stop "study" and start working
I know someone who has this same mentality. It wasn’t a problem in high school but became apparent problem in college. She dropped out school, had many issues, manic attacks. I think she’s doing well now. These people have a mental problem that requires professional help.
For added context for anyone who cares, those with BPD have the same hurdle that narcissists have to overcome, and that is BECOMING AWARE. They get diagnosed, sure. but until they are AWARE of their behaviors, they're in a constantly cycle of manipulating others, self sabotaging, etc. She needs so much help. And there are not a lot of specialists that will treat people with BPD because they are really difficult to help.
yeah also the treatment that she mentioned (dialectical) is DBT and extremely expensive, her parents prob just won’t pay for it
The moment she said "I have borderline and bi-polar." I knew this was going to be difficult. Magical thinking is one of the things that happens with bi-polar.
Unfortunately yes, and she was lying alot and trying to manipulate. I have Borderline personality disorder and I use to be alot like that (except I was an undiagnosed teen when I was like that) she seriously needs more help when it comes to the mental health aspect of her life. Hopefully she'll find a medication and help that works for her.
And borderline is incredibly difficult /:
And the manipulation coming from BPD.
you don't even know how to spell bipolar brittney.
Bipolar disorder is severly overdiagnosed these days, especially in people with personality disorders. I've seen a lot of patients with double diagnosis over my 4 years of psychiatry residency and to be honest I highly doubt any of them were actually bipolar. I'm not saying it's not possible to have both but majority are just having personality disorder and they cling to the idea of being bipolar to avoid taking responsibility for their actions.
She needs medical help. The lies are so pathological you can’t take a single thing she says as truth.
I personally don’t think she’s competent enough to discuss her own financial circumstances. Very concerning.
Yeah she gives waste of space vibes
My mom had Bipolar 1. I’m only halfway through, but she reminds me so much of my mom before she was correctly medicated (both her life experiences and her thought processes). I genuinely hope that she gets the right medications for her figured out soon (unlike my mom, who only got the right prescriptions after 20 years of manic and depressive swings).
Same with the my mom. 30 years. Cycles every 3 weeks on the dot. Prayers for your mom. It’s awful to watch.
Financial Audits always make work easier to bear 😂
Thanks for being here, I’ll continue to be here every MWF!
Agreed, it's my go to on lunch breaks
i play these episodes on my drive to and from work and while i am working as background noise.
I literally play this driving all day at work, so when I see the numbers on the screen I be lost. But I’m like 16k on credit debt and 35k car debt at 25 I be i still judging though 😂
I watch them while crunching numbers at work! The best 😊
I would love it if Caleb were able to incentivize the ppl that live with their parents to bring their parents with them onto the episode to call them out every time they fabricate information and excuses on the fly
Kinda depressing the state of things that we need 20 year olds to bring there parents in with them like it’s school report night
@@henrypollock7987
The land of the free
Thanks Biden puppet masters
@@iaintdonknowit was the land of the free, now it's the land of the economic migrants who are making everyone in the country a low earning wage slave
@@iaintdonknowit is kinda brave I guess 😂
Imagine your daughter admitting to being a sugar baby... a bad sugar baby that gets abandoned at hotels and displaying how mentally ill she is on a finance show...
Caleb! Big fan here, and I am sure you heard, but your guest here was just booked into Dallas County Jail today for assault on a family member. Not saying take it down, but something to be mindful of. Appreciate you and your videos.
Is this real? Source?
@@lenadai5755yes it’s real. You can find her arrest record online
Source?!?!
You can Google it. Unfortunately I found it, very sad and I hope she gets the help she needs
@@Zyzy8917 I was able to find it. Omg.
She straight up said "give me money", in what universe would that ever work on Caleb? Getting her to be honest is like trying to squeeze blood from a rock.
he was just about to do it. he was almost gonna buy her the ticket
@@Jake38nine thats why i was so shocked when caleb said he was gonna buy it. luckily he didnt
I thought I had misheard her because I'm sleep deprived. Girl straight just came on this show for a handout, yikes.
Finally got to that point. Holy, did she straight out ask for Caleb to financially support her??!! Yikes!
As a mental health professional I appreciate you Caleb for showing how much not having appropriate care can affect individuals finances.
it definitely makes me feel better watching it lol
Hope you both get the appropriate support you need, sending you lots of love! ❤️❤️❤️
Dealing with bipolar or manic people is terrifying and hard. They are perpetually the victim while victimizing everyone around them. I really hope she gets the help she needs.
That's completely untrue. Sounds like you just met a crappy person who happened to have bipolar. You're describing borderline personality disorder (basically a mild version of narcissism) which this girl also has.
@@mikesanders8621nothing mild about it. It’s just a different set of traits and behaviors but there can be significant overlap.
I would love to see a more successful person who does well with their money. I’m getting miserable watching these episodes where people are just ABSOLUTELY clueless.
I was about to type that word for word….. but you put it well. Watching a train wreck once or twice is a freak show, but all the time is depressing. I would love the opportunity to learn from people who are successful
Unfortunately it doesn’t drive views. In reality no one cares about people who have their stuff together. Could be seen as borderline bragging depending on the person.
People would rather see train wrecks. Makes for better content.
@ralph. I think it would drive views. People can see "Oh John does X, Y, and Z and is doing well in life. Maybe I can try to emulate some of their habits." While I don't think it should be someone making 300k/year, but having someone on who makes 40-70k/year and seeing how they manage their finances well would be interesting and a good contrast with the other videos.
Granted, I don't think it would drive as many views, but I think the views would still be a decent number.
He’s interviewed those, they are in his list of videos. They have the least views. There are lots of other money UA-camrs that interview successful people. Try Ramit Seti (sp?) the I Will Teach You To Be Rich guy
Nah I’m here for the mess to be feel better about myself 😂