Thank you so much for having us on your show again! And for being our partners in spreading AOE Healing on the internet. Hope y'all enjoy this episode as much as we enjoyed recording it 💚
Appreciate your “motivation” to motivate- but your bedside manner is really lacking in compassion and authenticity- Your PR marketing people need to help you look and sound less rehearsed- your motivation seems to be about “convincing”, or “head games” - too controlling- and doesn’t seem you’re listening to Mel’s answers to your questions- you had what you wanted to say rehearsed, planned regardless of her answers- just saying “I’m hearing that…I feel like you’re …”: All leading questions that ironically are 100% in control of outcome- Dr.K’s Desired outcome of this interview for him self, his agenda … You tend to skip over actually explaining how to get “un-stuck” - By the way, awareness being the absolute firs stop to any personal growth is not new by any means. Last constructive criticism- Dr.K uses too many “buzzwords” and psychological? tactics perhaps? Frankly, this is a bit boring and recycled, very much already and vastly understood by many who are interested in they’re overall well being- it’s not “weird” or “new” - you’re simply saying or shall I say “selling” it to be. Too much marketing too little content.
Dr K is my favorite UA-cam therapist! Disabled veteran with CPTSD. Although I am not a gamer, genx 😂, I have taken a lot from his podcast. Thank you Dr K and Mel for coming together and giving me a motivational Monday 💕
My takeaways: -Focus on action not outcome because when the mind is focused on action, the outcomes naturally improve; success is doing the thing. -Be aware of when your mind is monitoring inner conflict instead of deciding to take action and being present with the action. -Practice detachment: divorce yourself from the outcomes of your actions.
Thank you for sharing your takeaways, I just finished watching this and trying to take notes during it, and my brain is both blown away and melted. As in I know that was one of the most profound things I have heard in a very long time but I also didn’t really know what was the first thing I should focus on? If you know what I mean? I have written your takeaways in my notebook and they will be a great starting place one my melted brain comes back into shape! 😂
@@nataliemarshall7158 I'm so happy you found them helpful! I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes it's difficult to prioritize when there are so many actions we can take.
This episode is magic. I have been mentally stuck..... working on my business plan. Every day. It has been my goal every day for months. And I have beaten myself up so many of those days for making zero progress. ... I will focus on the action. Not the end product. Thank you so much thank you.
One of the best episodes ever. I learned so much from Dr. K about why trying to increase one's motivation is not the answer-- it's awareness, action, and detachment! And the revelation about competing motivations really blew me away and choked me up, too. Makes so much sense. Thanks, Mel, for bringing Dr. K. What a gem he is! And he's right, you ARE a great synthesizer. One of your many gifts . . xxx
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
Y’all just blew my mind! My 2 favorite podcasters coming together on the topic that I struggle with the most! Feel like I won the lottery today. Seriously, there was an epic shift in my heart and brain while watching this episode. I took 3 pages of notes and plan to watch a few more times. Thank you 🙏 Thank you 🙏 Thank you 🙏
I just wanted to express my gratitude for this amazing episode! I am in a season of my life, a very dark winter, where I feel like I have been stuck and to hear Dr. K’s take on what stuck really means has opened my eyes and inspired me greatly. Thank you Mel Robbins for doing this podcast. I am so grateful for your show!
When I feel unmotivated or tired or not wanting to do something I MAKE time regardless of how I'm feeling, to listen to happy pump up music UNTIL it changes my mood. It really does work for ME ❤
Don’t get scammed by this comment! They just trying to make you buy a book no one is buying. I learned that apparently it’s a selling technique to post a comment, buy likes for it and make it seem like it’s legit. Notice the ratio of comments to likes on this and other comments on this video
@@LoveisLove-479 Yes,it was kinda obvious from the phrasing of the sentence and the way the comment was trying out to get an emotional rise out of the reader!........but thanks for mentioning this...!...
Dr K - thank you!! this is life changing. live in the moment - be present in the action - detach from the outcome - focus on the action itself - simple and sound advice. thank you so much - i get it.
Something I wish they would speak more on- is the real time thought process of wanting to eat healthy and wanting to eat unhealthy. What I essentially get from all these types of podcasts and videos is that you just have to override those cognitions. Which maybe that’s just the way it is. People watch these videos (myself included) in hopes of finding a secret that they haven’t leanred yet and they just keep searching. When in reality it seems like the real answer is, you don’t want it bad enough to override the other thing you want. To play video games instead of workout, to scroll on your phone instead of studying for your class, etc. I think what I’m searching for is the answer on how to not want both things and just want the healthier option.
I hope I'm not sounding too harsh, but I compel you to take another listen, pause and think about what Dr. K is actually saying. You're falling into the trap he talks about, i.e. thinking about goals rather than actions. Notice you're asking "how do I make it always so", instead of asking "what little and concrete thing can I do right now"? Regarding your question about thoughts and desires in the moment, you got it unfortunately wrong. Again, I'm just paraphrasing the video above, listen to it carefully and it's better expressed there. You can't just beat the thoughts/desires down and conquer them, because they return with a vengance if and when you fail your goal. What you need to do is to be aware of them. Sit a moment with them. Understand where they're coming from. So here's a few things I picked up from this and other videos: - Give time for yourself and your thoughts, make clear for yourself what actually makes you feel satisfied and complete. Understand what you're missing. - Make small immediately actionable plans to better your situation. - Be very aware of your feelings and thoughts, sit with them and see where they're coming from. - If you need to do something that sucks, admit that it sucks and imagine how it feels to do it. This prepares your brain and doing the hard thing is easier. - Focus on the actions, not the goals. Good luck on your journey!
I’ve always hated running and think that I’m so bad at it. I’m miserable everytime I run and it feels like my whole body is screaming at me to stop. One day I learned that everyone feels this way. That avid runners and competitive runners also feel pretty miserable when they run. The difference is they learn to ignore that part of their brain telling them to stop. It’s still there they just push through. I’ve recently realized that I’m addicted to comfort. But in order to accomplish things I have to push through discomfort and all the things I’m afraid of to get what I want. And that everyone who is successful has to push through their discomfort too. So I tell myself now that I have to get comfortable being uncomfortable. And that being uncomfortable is going to be a regular part of my life now.
Focus on today, not everyday. Mentally prepare for the difficulty. The laziness , the tiredness. The craves. " It's gonna suck, but it's what I'm doing".
I don't know if anyone will see this comment. I am single, unmotivated to even find a date, gaining weight, grieving for my pet, feeling not acknowledged at work , body shaming myself. And all I was still demorivated to take any action about any of it May be as Dr. K said, I was trying to fix all my life right now. Rather I need to think I can't control the outcome, so let's figure our the conflict in me and acknowledge. May be that will push me to take action. I am beating myself up for things that have happened to me .
I’m sorry you’re having such a tough time - my sister is a pet bereavement therapist (MSW) - losing a pet can be so devastating and you might consider a group or individual therapist to work with.
You oversimplified it to the point of uselessness. Every person hears at sine point “stop thinking about what you want and JUST DO IT”. Guess how effective it is?
The recognition of this makes me feel nuts laughing and crying at the same time because I just realized that it's me who stuck myself into misery not society or money or time or any other bla bla bla
Yay! Two of my favorite people in one place. I found you, Mel, first. And then Dr. K. a short while after, and you've both been very helpful in improving my life. Thank you both so much for what you do. I follow you both, and have gotten to interact with Dr. K on YT in the comments. Or at least somebody on his team. Keep doing what you do.
mainstream stuff about self-improvement are so overrated.The best investment you can make is in yourself. Books are the ultimate learning tool. Reading Bruce Thornwood's Unveiling your hidden potential helped me build discipline and separate my mindset from 90% of other people
Thank you both!! Wow! All I can say is WOW ! As I was listening to this podcast I was looking around at all of the unfinished projects I started and it always amazes me when something is shared that makes you look at a situation from the other side! I got so much out of this.. thank you so much! Sharing this with my wife as we speak..
Mel..this is one of your top 5 podcasts so far for me. You bring so much value to the world with your guests; this one was one of my favorites. Thank you.
Thats ultimate thing is written in Geeta given by Krishna in Mahabharata when you are conflicted about outcome in life and your brain is scared just meditate and remove that outcome thought from your mind. Its easier said than done but its all practice that yogis have been doing since centuries in Eastern Part of world. Just separate yourself from outcome and continue to do your Karma thats what life is all about. Just no matter what your mind feels or you feel or what your outside world is just do your Karma and everything will fall into place at right time. And you are what your karma is Hinduism speaks only about this core of our life and our time in Earth. No matter how you feel in the morning dont chase that dopamine hit of feeling good and sleeping in because you are already motivated to sleep because you brain feels good doing it. Dont chase that feel good or your wants because that will control your life. Instead you decide what you want and with time your brain will adapt to that level of want and your karma multiplies. You keep going that positive cycle as you do your karma every day. So infact there is nothing impossible its just that we have not earned enough karma to get that thing for now. This is the most basic principle of hinduism and sanatan dharma as it was known in ancient world its many aspects have been lost from the world because we are in kaliyuga now and things are different we chase more greed, and more of that feel goodness dopamine and not enough karma. It is supposed to be that way in this age people will forget god and chase more and more of that feel goodness and their karma will decrease but we all have that internal drive to continue so basic principle of life is to just continue doing what you have imagined in your head i want say want because you might not want it then you will be confused i dont want this why i am doing this. You might not want it but continue doing your karma without thinking about outcome then one day when your karma is reached then you will get it and you be flushed with happiness that will be much more than those little hits of dopamine you got every single day to delay your karma.
Thank you for pausing and summarizing the concepts with examples. This interview was truly eye opening. Sometimes people who talk about willpower and motivation sound so arrogant, this one was far from that . 👏
Thank you for this insightful video! I really appreciate the focus on taking action rather than obsessing over goals. It’s refreshing to be reminded that consistent action, regardless of how we feel, is what truly drives progress. Your approach has given me a new perspective on motivation-much appreciated!❤
As a Christian, I was surprised to be so moved and consoled by this video because I was only expecting it to be just an educational video. Thank you Dr. K for encouraging me to move forward with my life❤️ as someone who is struggling to graduate college after going back to school in their 30’s, it gave me hope because someone so intelligent like you also struggled but made it to the end. I also couldn’t push myself to work on my resume for weeks now so this video was spot on for me. and I laughed because I was thinking about ordering In-n-out today and Mel mentioned about the cheeseburger 😂 and I was moved by what Mel said as she got choked up at the end
Its like you got to find your inspiration then your motivation arises from nothing. You will always struggle but always try to find someone and fall in love and find your love and inspiration that tou want to nail it down thats the journey
When I was a kid, I used to think that my body was a robot, and that there was a little version of me inside my brain controlling everything, whether I wanted to do it or not!
I'm blown away. There is so much to process right now. I feel relieved. Thank you so much! Eye-opening for sure. Great conversation, great minds. So much respect for you two. Gracias 🇦🇷
I love your podcast, I learn something new everytime I listen to one of them. But this in special is my favorite. The Dr K said something different and unique! I never learned or listen about that topic and it's a blessing! He is so wise and this podcast helps a lot to understand the brain and figure out better our life! Thank you so much Dr K and Mel!
This blows the manifestation theory right out of the water 😂 No predicting!! The way I gave up alcohol and cigarettes was constantly saying NO to my brain… Brain gives up asking eventually (I’m 23 years abstinence) But I can’t understand my brain paralysis to motivation 😂😅
Wow this just blow my mind 🤯... Thank you Mel for bringing Dr K... Dr. K. You're my key to my puzzle... it so happen when you were asking Mel does question so I ask myself the same question. I remember this professor that said to us it does matter how many time you fail but what it's important how you get up. Thank you❤
Yes, it is true. If I hadn't experienced it myself, I would say it's all a lie. But I made withdrawals a few days ago and this is something I find difficult and impossible with other brokers.
You were getting choked up Dr. K gets choked up. I’m choked up every episode. I watch of your podcast… Mel, I’ve been watching your podcast since the beginning of 2024 used the tools you provided in your workbooks and listen to the podcast every morning when I walk my dogs… you and your guest speakers have really helped me move forward in so many aspects of my life and inspire me to draw closer to my true self and so from the bottom of my heart I thank you for all the love and effort you put in to this world, reaching people like me God bless you always XOXO Jenn L.
This was truly so helpful!! Going to listen again and again because I’m so totally over exhausted “ trying” to be motivated when I can’t even lift my legs to get up the hill to get to new housing apt for seniors! Wow!! Thank You 🙏 Thank You Mel and Dr. K! 😅❤
😢 feeling like it? I will wait forever to "feel" like it. It's so illusive and not within my control. I can't control emotions, but I can take action that will likely cause a certain emotion. Motivational interviewing 😊
I am 62 and on medical leave. I am receiving insurance through my work. I had a mental breakdown about 5 months ago. I wish I could go back and do my job but I am not able. I spend my days desperate for motivation. I am able to do only rudimentary things like caring for my two dogs. I get very nervous every time I leave the house. When I broke down I was taken to a mental ward where I spent about 7 weeks. I feel crazy and uncomfortable most of the time. Sometimes I think I belong back in the hospital. Am I burnt out forever? It's hard to maintain my home. I find my cluttering overwhelming. I am sad and never laugh. I keep thinking if I were energetic and hard working that I would be cured. But I can't activate myself
Wishing you the best. The more you clear the clutter the better you will feel. Use the motto "5 minutes matters" when feeling overwhelmed. Some really good UA-cam videos re this subject are Minimal Mom, Cass from Clutterbug and Dana White. Those are good starting points. Many of us are not motivated (especially to do housework 😊). Stay strong, 5 minutes only, it works!!!! This time next year you will be in a better place.
Mel this was my favorite episode I’ve ever seen ❤Dr. K is so real, raw and relatable that I couldn’t help but say “yes” out loud during this entire podcast! I loved it and I need to love myself more and give myself a friggin break and recognize how much I’ve grown and become an amazing 48 year old kickass woman! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!! ❤️ 🥳🥳🥳
Having just listened to a lot of Allan Watts I think those monks were already teaching him something from the very start by turning him away. Essentially getting him to live his best life.
Whoa. I feel like I will need to revisit this over and over to take notes just to make sure ive properly comprehended this. What a magnetic and impactful discussion
A great episode and I loved how Mel put it all together and asked the right questions to get simple answers throughout and mostly at the right end. You gave us all something. To think about and implement. Good Job!
"You cannot control outside circumstances, but you can control if you beat yourself up vs building yourself up." - I like that quote. I would add a caveat here that..... if you don't have any/enough personal support and/or you're in situations where you must handle other people's situations, BE KIND TO YOURSELF because these are major setbacks and you cannot compare yourself to others that have the PRIVILEGE nothing tying them back, or even have additional support. You might be burnt out.
Hi Mel, I love you, and your podcast. You are so knowledge, about so many things. I think everybody gets unmotivated at times, it's part of being human. Life is not easy,so people sometimes have a hard time to get things rolling, and it's OK. You have time to get on top of things, when you feel better about your life.❤
I wonder if this video works for The Pusher..... I'm choking being pushed by a pusher that wants me to be like the pusher. (I don't want to belike the pusher. I want to be myself). Thank you Mel and thank you Dr. K. I'm a fan of both of you. THANK YOU! I was fan-girling when I saw Mel's IG vid about this podcast! Cause I admire both of you!!!
This was a great podcast. But I’m really looking for someone to give me the answer. I have been out of the workforce for several years now. And because my partner suddenly left me and I cannot afford the bills. I have to get a job immediately! I have two huge things that are keeping me “stuck“. For the past couple years, I have turned into an owl. I am up all night and I sleep during the day. I wake up late afternoon. I loved the schedule because I could still exercise. Go to the grocery store get all the things done that I needed to do with without having to be in or be around people. This all stems from trauma. Also, I’m missing a front tooth from the relationship. I just got out of. All of these things are keeping me trapped in fear and not able to make that first step and get the résumé out Doesn’t change in the next couple weeks. I might have to commit suicide. I don’t have any more money for rent or bills. It’s so scary.
Here's the jist. 1. You will never feel like getting your life together and getting a job to fix your life. You want these things, but your brain's feelings are obviously stronger because it's keeping you stuck. 2. You have to force yourself to do these things in order for your future self to be happier. 3. It is in us as humans to stay in comfort until it doesn't become comfortable anymore. Which seems like you are getting very close to that point, so give yourself a break, you are trying to learn how to control your mind and body that's evolved in amazing ways to ''protect'' you. You need to understand that motivation is not going to come, ANYONE in your position wouldn't be motivated to pull their life together. But Motivation will come after you send that resume, and it's important not to beat yourself up during this process because after you send in the resume, you need to congratulate yourself for doing that so it positively reinforces in your brain. Life is a war against yourself, and getting yourself to do the things you do not feel like doing. In the video Dr.K explains to Mel that although it will suck initially, your brain will learn, and your brain will understand that OH- All of these things I've been putting off because of fear, discomfort, etc, is an illusion, and it's not as bad and dreadful as your brain painted it out to be. These fears that you have are not just going to magically go away before you can send off that resume. You have been out of work for YEARS, and it seems like you have not been around people much. The only way that you are going to get through this is forcing yourself, and then the motivation will come, and then the fear will wear off because you're giving your brain feedback, and building discipline and overcoming your fears. You don't run from your fears, you face then and learn how to navigate them. They also went over that you need to sit over and let your brain process things, why do you keep putting off the resume? Obviously it's fear, but dig deeper, what is it? And do this with everything, from your fear of being around people, to why you don't feel like waking up in the morning. Here's my personal advice on you being a night owl. I used to be the exact same way until I realized how the human body works. Learn about the circadian rhythm and learn about how to control that. You can start by immediately waking up at your desired time in the AM, and exposing your eyes at to the sunlight(Don't look directly in the sun) I recommend watching Dr.Hubersmans video on this topic. It saved me from being a night owl
@@vlorggy I really appreciate your comment and agree 100%. I listened to this whole podcast and a couple others of hers on how to get unstuck and tackling the things that you fear the most. Also very aware of this cycles and Dr. Herman‘s podcast. That to me is the HUGEST issue is getting up and being functional and trying to force my brain to be online when it typically is in rest mode. I tried it again today. I forced myself to stay awake for over 24 hours so that I could go to bed before midnight last night and wake up this morning and tackle at least a few things on my list that I needed to get done in order to get back into the workforce. I mean I HAVE to be On a schedule now that my body isn’t used to in order to get hired and stay employed. Forced my body to get out of bed sit in the parking lot of my apartment complex like a zombie and drink coffee. All day long I felt like I was drunk. I felt awful and I looked terrible. My eyes were swollen as if I hadn’t slept at all. I was totally out of it. It’s like my body is against me. Exercise and staying outside in the daylight as much as possible, begin to train my brain to be up and awake during daytime and be asleep at night time. But my body was just working against me all day. Normally, I wake up and I drink water throughout the day and go for a run and I couldn’t do any of these things today. Everything was off. Couldn’t run too tired and it’s so hot and humid out in Florida my body isn’t used to it. Just kept drinking coffee but no amount of coffee worked. Now that the sun has set this is the time that I usually wake up. I’m feeling like I’ve been up for two days already even though I slept last night. I guess I will force myself to do some exercise and eat much earlier than usual. And pray that sleep will come and I can try again tomorrow hoping that the inflammation will subside and that fasting will do the trick. Something’s got to give because there’s no money for rent next month unless I get a job soon. 🔜 I did manage to send my resume off but that fear of getting a call for an interview and not being awake and alert in the morning is constant. 😳
It’s natural that, having been abused, part of you is telling you to rest and stay safe=inside. Thank that protective part of yourself. You may also want to see any action you do take NO MATTER HOW TINY as a brave empowering triumph over someone who wanted you to be powerless. (I have a little book where I write down my ta-das. Some days it’s for tiny tiny things. Even bought tiny gold stars.) Make your planned action so tiny…eg, put one sock on…and then celebrate. Google “Tiny Habits”❤
Please go to a church and speak to someone. If you are a man, life as a man is full of tribulations ups and downs. However Suicide is not the answer, you are simply saying to all your ancestors that fought and survived many heart wrenching battles for you to be here, that it was meaningless. Inquire more about your grandparents lives from your relatives. Find Jesus, because he really is the way out and I know you can become great. You just have to find someone who loves and believes in you. So start by attending the church. Then go to the gym or train at home. You will figure out the job issue. Never ever ever take your life. You are this close to a breakthrough but if you do so, you ll never find out. My thoughts go out to you
Actually, I find some feelings of pleasure from working out. Pain indicates you aren’t doing the exercise properly. Find an activity that moves your body that gives you at least a little pleasure. For instance, enjoy the sights as you go biking. Take out your earbuds and enjoy the sounds of nature while you are walking. And so forth.
It's a wonderful podcast, I watched this episode twice, and I think I will watch it more, and take a break to deeply think about myself, and what do I really want. Thank you Mel , thank you Dr. K. Really really thank you!
❤❤ absolutely love this fellow!! My daughter introduced me to his channel when she shared his thoughts on Gifted Children are special needs to a point....
Thanks Mel and Dr.K, i learnt so much from this and every is so relevant to whats happening in my life. Gosh, Mel, 1 hour isnt enough, hope Dr.K will come back soon. I really enjoyed this discussion between you both. Love from Sg ❤❤❤
This is such a new concept, being present now. I have always looked at the goal or desired end result. As in Stephen Covey's book, The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People, one of the habits is Begin with the End in Mind. This will be a hard habit to break. I guess it will take a lot of practice!
damn, i just finished watching a dr k stream VOD, went to homepage to find something else to watch and there's more dr k content??!? well, i cant complain 😅
Okay - Dr. K- studying the brain scientifically is absolutely critical, obviously - And, whose to say that needs to be directly to motivation or not-it may give someone motivation to know what part of the brain it’s comes from- We are human after all
This is fascinating! Love this podcast! Learned so much today Thank you! I am thinking of the list of people to share this and I will be watching this video over again
Mel this episode helped me so much! Thank you for sharing and thank you for using a lot of examples in the interview so it's easier to understand a lot of concepts that sometimes are not that easy to understand. Thank you and I've been barely watching on loop or your videos haha ❤
Thank you so much for having us on your show again! And for being our partners in spreading AOE Healing on the internet. Hope y'all enjoy this episode as much as we enjoyed recording it 💚
Dr. K please start writing books FOR KIDS on these mind truths!! Would love to start building these truths in my kids
Just realized that beating myself up is within my control. I just thought it was my autopilot
@@alyssawelch3845 Thanks for your suggestion! For now, you can access mental health resources for all ages here: www.healthygamer.gg/products-services
Like Mel, I became emotional when I heard Dr. K’s last message. It hit a nerve. Thank you Mel and Dr. K
Appreciate your “motivation” to motivate- but your bedside manner is really lacking in compassion and authenticity- Your PR marketing people need to help you look and sound less rehearsed- your motivation seems to be about “convincing”, or “head games” - too controlling- and doesn’t seem you’re listening to Mel’s answers to your questions- you had what you wanted to say rehearsed, planned regardless of her answers- just saying “I’m hearing that…I feel like you’re …”: All leading questions that ironically are 100% in control of outcome- Dr.K’s Desired outcome of this interview for him self, his agenda … You tend to skip over actually explaining how to get “un-stuck” - By the way, awareness being the absolute firs stop to any personal growth is not new by any means. Last constructive criticism- Dr.K uses too many “buzzwords” and psychological? tactics perhaps? Frankly, this is a bit boring and recycled, very much already and vastly understood by many who are interested in they’re overall well being- it’s not “weird” or “new” - you’re simply saying or shall I say “selling” it to be. Too much marketing too little content.
Dr K is my favorite UA-cam therapist! Disabled veteran with CPTSD. Although I am not a gamer, genx 😂, I have taken a lot from his podcast. Thank you Dr K and Mel for coming together and giving me a motivational Monday 💕
Do you watch his channel? Would highly recommend it!
@@arshaddahlandefinitely recommend it. This man changed my life.
It’s amazing how you’ve turned your experience into a podcast at 56!
Truly shows that it’s never too late to start something new.
Sometimes we use to thing we are not young enough or it's too late to archieve what we want and the point is we always should believe in ourself
Stunning episode
My takeaways:
-Focus on action not outcome because when the mind is focused on action, the outcomes naturally improve; success is doing the thing.
-Be aware of when your mind is monitoring inner conflict instead of deciding to take action and being present with the action.
-Practice detachment: divorce yourself from the outcomes of your actions.
Thank you for sharing your takeaways, I just finished watching this and trying to take notes during it, and my brain is both blown away and melted. As in I know that was one of the most profound things I have heard in a very long time but I also didn’t really know what was the first thing I should focus on? If you know what I mean?
I have written your takeaways in my notebook and they will be a great starting place one my melted brain comes back into shape! 😂
@@nataliemarshall7158 I'm so happy you found them helpful! I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes it's difficult to prioritize when there are so many actions we can take.
Thank you for this!
@@nataliemarshall7158I did the same. It was a lot of info to take in. These takeaways are perfect!
@@sylviescopazzo2445 you're welcome! 😁
This episode is magic. I have been mentally stuck..... working on my business plan. Every day. It has been my goal every day for months. And I have beaten myself up so many of those days for making zero progress. ... I will focus on the action. Not the end product. Thank you so much thank you.
One of the best episodes ever. I learned so much from Dr. K about why trying to increase one's motivation is not the answer-- it's awareness, action, and detachment! And the revelation about competing motivations really blew me away and choked me up, too. Makes so much sense. Thanks, Mel, for bringing Dr. K. What a gem he is! And he's right, you ARE a great synthesizer. One of your many gifts . . xxx
Perfect synapsis!❤
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You wont regret it
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Y’all just blew my mind! My 2 favorite podcasters coming together on the topic that I struggle with the most! Feel like I won the lottery today. Seriously, there was an epic shift in my heart and brain while watching this episode. I took 3 pages of notes and plan to watch a few more times. Thank you 🙏 Thank you 🙏 Thank you 🙏
Exactly 💯!!
I just wanted to express my gratitude for this amazing episode! I am in a season of my life, a very dark winter, where I feel like I have been stuck and to hear Dr. K’s take on what stuck really means has opened my eyes and inspired me greatly. Thank you Mel Robbins for doing this podcast. I am so grateful for your show!
When I feel unmotivated or tired or not wanting to do something I MAKE time regardless of how I'm feeling, to listen to happy pump up music UNTIL it changes my mood. It really does work for ME ❤
For me its just putting the phone down and meditating in a dark room for 15 minutes. Works wonders and i feel better afterwards
Raise your hand if you have several Pump Up playlists, complete with fun names like “Hype Woman”?
Dopamine woo
The fact that nobody talks about the book whispers of manifestation on borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
Don’t get scammed by this comment! They just trying to make you buy a book no one is buying. I learned that apparently it’s a selling technique to post a comment, buy likes for it and make it seem like it’s legit.
Notice the ratio of comments to likes on this and other comments on this video
@@LoveisLove-479 Yes,it was kinda obvious from the phrasing of the sentence and the way the comment was trying out to get an emotional rise out of the reader!........but thanks for mentioning this...!...
Instead of one day at a time, it’s one action at a time…
My mother used to say that we don’t have to want to.😊
"Your shortcomings are manufactured" Beautiful and empowering! Thanks to you both
Dr K - thank you!! this is life changing. live in the moment - be present in the action - detach from the outcome - focus on the action itself - simple and sound advice. thank you so much - i get it.
Something I wish they would speak more on- is the real time thought process of wanting to eat healthy and wanting to eat unhealthy. What I essentially get from all these types of podcasts and videos is that you just have to override those cognitions. Which maybe that’s just the way it is. People watch these videos (myself included) in hopes of finding a secret that they haven’t leanred yet and they just keep searching. When in reality it seems like the real answer is, you don’t want it bad enough to override the other thing you want. To play video games instead of workout, to scroll on your phone instead of studying for your class, etc. I think what I’m searching for is the answer on how to not want both things and just want the healthier option.
I hope I'm not sounding too harsh, but I compel you to take another listen, pause and think about what Dr. K is actually saying. You're falling into the trap he talks about, i.e. thinking about goals rather than actions. Notice you're asking "how do I make it always so", instead of asking "what little and concrete thing can I do right now"?
Regarding your question about thoughts and desires in the moment, you got it unfortunately wrong. Again, I'm just paraphrasing the video above, listen to it carefully and it's better expressed there. You can't just beat the thoughts/desires down and conquer them, because they return with a vengance if and when you fail your goal. What you need to do is to be aware of them. Sit a moment with them. Understand where they're coming from.
So here's a few things I picked up from this and other videos:
- Give time for yourself and your thoughts, make clear for yourself what actually makes you feel satisfied and complete. Understand what you're missing.
- Make small immediately actionable plans to better your situation.
- Be very aware of your feelings and thoughts, sit with them and see where they're coming from.
- If you need to do something that sucks, admit that it sucks and imagine how it feels to do it. This prepares your brain and doing the hard thing is easier.
- Focus on the actions, not the goals.
Good luck on your journey!
I loafing down in self loathing and defeat, and this podcast just pulled me out of it. Thank you so much Mel and Dr K!
I’ve always hated running and think that I’m so bad at it. I’m miserable everytime I run and it feels like my whole body is screaming at me to stop. One day I learned that everyone feels this way. That avid runners and competitive runners also feel pretty miserable when they run. The difference is they learn to ignore that part of their brain telling them to stop. It’s still there they just push through. I’ve recently realized that I’m addicted to comfort. But in order to accomplish things I have to push through discomfort and all the things I’m afraid of to get what I want. And that everyone who is successful has to push through their discomfort too. So I tell myself now that I have to get comfortable being uncomfortable. And that being uncomfortable is going to be a regular part of my life now.
Dr K really helps us to understand our thoughts and actions on why we procrastinate. Very useful and honest podcast. Thank you.
Focus on today, not everyday. Mentally prepare for the difficulty. The laziness , the tiredness. The craves. " It's gonna suck, but it's what I'm doing".
I don't know if anyone will see this comment. I am single, unmotivated to even find a date, gaining weight, grieving for my pet, feeling not acknowledged at work , body shaming myself. And all I was still demorivated to take any action about any of it May be as Dr. K said, I was trying to fix all my life right now. Rather I need to think I can't control the outcome, so let's figure our the conflict in me and acknowledge. May be that will push me to take action. I am beating myself up for things that have happened to me .
I’m sorry you’re having such a tough time - my sister is a pet bereavement therapist (MSW) - losing a pet can be so devastating and you might consider a group or individual therapist to work with.
These two are the collab I always wished for.
Dr K is talking Gita. Thank you Dr K we study what to do in Gita ( focus on work [karm] not result [faal]) but nobody explain how
It basically boils down to what I told my sons growing up - 'it's got to be done'; there wasn't any decision as to whether it felt good or not.
You oversimplified it to the point of uselessness. Every person hears at sine point “stop thinking about what you want and JUST DO IT”. Guess how effective it is?
Just saying this doesn't get us to do the thing! If it did, this podcast wouldntve been created
Technology has changed everything in modern times.
The recognition of this makes me feel nuts laughing and crying at the same time because I just realized that it's me who stuck myself into misery not society or money or time or any other bla bla bla
I think this is the best podcast I have ever heard.
Agree 100% ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
“Anticipate the negative thought so you can prepare for it”this is so true I do this all the time ! It definitely lessens the blow
Yay! Two of my favorite people in one place. I found you, Mel, first. And then Dr. K. a short while after, and you've both been very helpful in improving my life. Thank you both so much for what you do. I follow you both, and have gotten to interact with Dr. K on YT in the comments. Or at least somebody on his team. Keep doing what you do.
What I love about your podcasts is that you ask questions that I would when I don't "get it".
mainstream stuff about self-improvement are so overrated.The best investment you can make is in yourself. Books are the ultimate learning tool. Reading Bruce Thornwood's Unveiling your hidden potential helped me build discipline and separate my mindset from 90% of other people
One of my favorite episodes so far. Heard in a Tony Robbins talk once: People will do more to avoid pain than to achieve pleasure.
This was THE most meaningful conversation that I have ever experienced. Dr K is brilliant! Mel thank you! I will watch it plenty more times !
I’ve listened twice and I still don’t get it. I will keep listening but I hope I get it soon.
Dr. K is awesome and has been one of my favorite podcasters. You two are a great team.
Thank you both!! Wow! All I can say is WOW ! As I was listening to this podcast I was looking around at all of the unfinished projects I started and it always amazes me when something is shared that makes you look at a situation from the other side! I got so much out of this.. thank you so much! Sharing this with my wife as we speak..
Mel..this is one of your top 5 podcasts so far for me. You bring so much value to the world with your guests; this one was one of my favorites. Thank you.
I think 🤔 I’m sabotaging my future by avoiding the past pain and hurt
Me too!
Me too 😢 Not anymore ❤️🩹
I can relate
Look into therapy in a nutshell.. She has helpful videos.
We allow our brain to dictate what we do in life that’s absurd. Our brain is here to serve us🔥🔥🔥🔥
Loved it. Gotta bring him back on please. With even more situation-examples. You worked well together ❤
Thats ultimate thing is written in Geeta given by Krishna in Mahabharata when you are conflicted about outcome in life and your brain is scared just meditate and remove that outcome thought from your mind. Its easier said than done but its all practice that yogis have been doing since centuries in Eastern Part of world. Just separate yourself from outcome and continue to do your Karma thats what life is all about. Just no matter what your mind feels or you feel or what your outside world is just do your Karma and everything will fall into place at right time. And you are what your karma is Hinduism speaks only about this core of our life and our time in Earth. No matter how you feel in the morning dont chase that dopamine hit of feeling good and sleeping in because you are already motivated to sleep because you brain feels good doing it. Dont chase that feel good or your wants because that will control your life. Instead you decide what you want and with time your brain will adapt to that level of want and your karma multiplies. You keep going that positive cycle as you do your karma every day. So infact there is nothing impossible its just that we have not earned enough karma to get that thing for now. This is the most basic principle of hinduism and sanatan dharma as it was known in ancient world its many aspects have been lost from the world because we are in kaliyuga now and things are different we chase more greed, and more of that feel goodness dopamine and not enough karma. It is supposed to be that way in this age people will forget god and chase more and more of that feel goodness and their karma will decrease but we all have that internal drive to continue so basic principle of life is to just continue doing what you have imagined in your head i want say want because you might not want it then you will be confused i dont want this why i am doing this. You might not want it but continue doing your karma without thinking about outcome then one day when your karma is reached then you will get it and you be flushed with happiness that will be much more than those little hits of dopamine you got every single day to delay your karma.
Thank you for pausing and summarizing the concepts with examples. This interview was truly eye opening. Sometimes people who talk about willpower and motivation sound so arrogant, this one was far from that . 👏
Thank you for this insightful video! I really appreciate the focus on taking action rather than obsessing over goals. It’s refreshing to be reminded that consistent action, regardless of how we feel, is what truly drives progress. Your approach has given me a new perspective on motivation-much appreciated!❤
Best quote of episode- “Boy, those monks really know how to just drop a bomb on you, don’t they.” Love you Mel! - Caroline
As a Christian, I was surprised to be so moved and consoled by this video because I was only expecting it to be just an educational video. Thank you Dr. K for encouraging me to move forward with my life❤️ as someone who is struggling to graduate college after going back to school in their 30’s, it gave me hope because someone so intelligent like you also struggled but made it to the end. I also couldn’t push myself to work on my resume for weeks now so this video was spot on for me. and I laughed because I was thinking about ordering In-n-out today and Mel mentioned about the cheeseburger 😂 and I was moved by what Mel said as she got choked up at the end
Its like you got to find your inspiration then your motivation arises from nothing. You will always struggle but always try to find someone and fall in love and find your love and inspiration that tou want to nail it down thats the journey
When I was a kid, I used to think that my body was a robot, and that there was a little version of me inside my brain controlling everything, whether I wanted to do it or not!
I'm blown away. There is so much to process right now. I feel relieved. Thank you so much! Eye-opening for sure. Great conversation, great minds. So much respect for you two. Gracias 🇦🇷
❤Dr K is the best. Thank you for having him on this podcast!! I learned so much from Dr K for the past couple months and it is so life changing 🎉
I love your podcast, I learn something new everytime I listen to one of them.
But this in special is my favorite. The Dr K said something different and unique! I never learned or listen about that topic and it's a blessing! He is so wise and this podcast helps a lot to understand the brain and figure out better our life! Thank you so much Dr K and Mel!
This blows the manifestation theory right out of the water 😂
No predicting!!
The way I gave up alcohol and cigarettes was constantly saying NO to my brain…
Brain gives up asking eventually (I’m 23 years abstinence)
But I can’t understand my brain paralysis to motivation 😂😅
Congratulations!!
Absolutely. So.much garbage on motivation and false manifestation is ruining all of us . Only influencers are making money out of it.
Wow this just blow my mind 🤯... Thank you Mel for bringing Dr K...
Dr. K. You're my key to my puzzle... it so happen when you were asking Mel does question so I ask myself the same question.
I remember this professor that said to us it does matter how many time you fail but what it's important how you get up. Thank you❤
Making money is an action. Keeping money is behavior, but "growing money is wisdom".
How?
It's the work of Steve Luke, I invested in his company
Same here, i invested $1000 and after a week, i received $7500. That really helped us a lot to pay up our bills.
Wow is this really true? i've seen a lot of recommendation about Steve Luke
Yes, it is true. If I hadn't experienced it myself, I would say it's all a lie. But I made withdrawals a few days ago and this is something I find difficult and impossible with other brokers.
You were getting choked up Dr. K gets choked up. I’m choked up every episode. I watch of your podcast… Mel, I’ve been watching your podcast since the beginning of 2024 used the tools you provided in your workbooks and listen to the podcast every morning when I walk my dogs… you and your guest speakers have really helped me move forward in so many aspects of my life and inspire me to draw closer to my true self and so from the bottom of my heart I thank you for all the love and effort you put in to this world, reaching people like me God bless you always XOXO Jenn L.
We’re allowing society to tell us what happiness is and then sell us a product 🔥🎯
This was truly so helpful!! Going to listen again and again because I’m so totally over exhausted “ trying” to be motivated when I can’t even lift my legs to get up the hill to get to new housing apt for seniors!
Wow!! Thank You 🙏 Thank You Mel and Dr. K! 😅❤
😢 feeling like it? I will wait forever to "feel" like it. It's so illusive and not within my control. I can't control emotions, but I can take action that will likely cause a certain emotion. Motivational interviewing 😊
“What’s better for you to be in country lol of your wants or your wants to be in control of you”🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
tears of compassion at the end well done Mel
Excellent video, and thank you both very much for having this talk! It's something I work hard every day to remember and put into focus!
I am 62 and on medical leave. I am receiving insurance through my work. I had a mental breakdown about 5 months ago. I wish I could go back and do my job but I am not able. I spend my days desperate for motivation. I am able to do only rudimentary things like caring for my two dogs. I get very nervous every time I leave the house. When I broke down I was taken to a mental ward where I spent about 7 weeks. I feel crazy and uncomfortable most of the time. Sometimes I think I belong back in the hospital. Am I burnt out forever? It's hard to maintain my home. I find my cluttering overwhelming. I am sad and never laugh. I keep thinking if I were energetic and hard working that I would be cured. But I can't activate myself
Wishing you the best. The more you clear the clutter the better you will feel. Use the motto "5 minutes matters" when feeling overwhelmed. Some really good UA-cam videos re this subject are Minimal Mom, Cass from Clutterbug and Dana White. Those are good starting points. Many of us are not motivated (especially to do housework 😊). Stay strong, 5 minutes only, it works!!!! This time next year you will be in a better place.
Mel this was my favorite episode I’ve ever seen ❤Dr. K is so real, raw and relatable that I couldn’t help but say “yes” out loud during this entire podcast! I loved it and I need to love myself more and give myself a friggin break and recognize how much I’ve grown and become an amazing 48 year old kickass woman! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!! ❤️ 🥳🥳🥳
Streaming mental health on Twitch is insane I love that idea
Thank you very very very much.
That was the answer for the matters I’m struggling with for decades!
Having just listened to a lot of Allan Watts I think those monks were already teaching him something from the very start by turning him away. Essentially getting him to live his best life.
🍁🍁🍁I SURE WISH THIS TEACHING WAS TAUGHT IN SCHOOL TO THE TEENAGERS BEFORE THEY BEGIN THEIR ADULT YEARS…VERY HELPFUL INFO GOING FORWARD…👍
Whoa. I feel like I will need to revisit this over and over to take notes just to make sure ive properly comprehended this. What a magnetic and impactful discussion
Love Dr. K 💕
Teachings of the Gita distilled in simple language. 😇🙏🏽
I cannot get the main idea. So hard so deep to understand😢
A great episode and I loved how Mel put it all together and asked the right questions to get simple answers throughout and mostly at the right end. You gave us all something. To think about and implement. Good Job!
"You cannot control outside circumstances, but you can control if you beat yourself up vs building yourself up." - I like that quote. I would add a caveat here that..... if you don't have any/enough personal support and/or you're in situations where you must handle other people's situations, BE KIND TO YOURSELF because these are major setbacks and you cannot compare yourself to others that have the PRIVILEGE nothing tying them back, or even have additional support. You might be burnt out.
Hi Mel, I love you, and your podcast. You are so knowledge, about so many things. I think everybody gets unmotivated at times, it's part of being human. Life is not easy,so people sometimes have a hard time to get things rolling, and it's OK. You have time to get on top of things, when you feel better about your life.❤
I wonder if this video works for The Pusher..... I'm choking being pushed by a pusher that wants me to be like the pusher. (I don't want to belike the pusher. I want to be myself). Thank you Mel and thank you Dr. K. I'm a fan of both of you. THANK YOU! I was fan-girling when I saw Mel's IG vid about this podcast! Cause I admire both of you!!!
Thank you both so much for this amazing podcast!!!! ❤
This is a great helpful video for me. I wish Mel doesn't intrude him so much with her comments that aren't related
This was a great podcast. But I’m really looking for someone to give me the answer. I have been out of the workforce for several years now. And because my partner suddenly left me and I cannot afford the bills. I have to get a job immediately! I have two huge things that are keeping me “stuck“. For the past couple years, I have turned into an owl. I am up all night and I sleep during the day. I wake up late afternoon. I loved the schedule because I could still exercise. Go to the grocery store get all the things done that I needed to do with without having to be in or be around people. This all stems from trauma. Also, I’m missing a front tooth from the relationship. I just got out of. All of these things are keeping me trapped in fear and not able to make that first step and get the résumé out Doesn’t change in the next couple weeks. I might have to commit suicide. I don’t have any more money for rent or bills. It’s so scary.
Here's the jist.
1. You will never feel like getting your life together and getting a job to fix your life. You want these things, but your brain's feelings are obviously stronger because it's keeping you stuck.
2. You have to force yourself to do these things in order for your future self to be happier.
3. It is in us as humans to stay in comfort until it doesn't become comfortable anymore. Which seems like you are getting very close to that point, so give yourself a break, you are trying to learn how to control your mind and body that's evolved in amazing ways to ''protect'' you.
You need to understand that motivation is not going to come, ANYONE in your position wouldn't be motivated to pull their life together. But Motivation will come after you send that resume, and it's important not to beat yourself up during this process because after you send in the resume, you need to congratulate yourself for doing that so it positively reinforces in your brain. Life is a war against yourself, and getting yourself to do the things you do not feel like doing. In the video Dr.K explains to Mel that although it will suck initially, your brain will learn, and your brain will understand that OH- All of these things I've been putting off because of fear, discomfort, etc, is an illusion, and it's not as bad and dreadful as your brain painted it out to be.
These fears that you have are not just going to magically go away before you can send off that resume. You have been out of work for YEARS, and it seems like you have not been around people much. The only way that you are going to get through this is forcing yourself, and then the motivation will come, and then the fear will wear off because you're giving your brain feedback, and building discipline and overcoming your fears. You don't run from your fears, you face then and learn how to navigate them. They also went over that you need to sit over and let your brain process things, why do you keep putting off the resume? Obviously it's fear, but dig deeper, what is it? And do this with everything, from your fear of being around people, to why you don't feel like waking up in the morning.
Here's my personal advice on you being a night owl. I used to be the exact same way until I realized how the human body works. Learn about the circadian rhythm and learn about how to control that. You can start by immediately waking up at your desired time in the AM, and exposing your eyes at to the sunlight(Don't look directly in the sun) I recommend watching Dr.Hubersmans video on this topic. It saved me from being a night owl
@@vlorggy I really appreciate your comment and agree 100%. I listened to this whole podcast and a couple others of hers on how to get unstuck and tackling the things that you fear the most. Also very aware of this cycles and Dr. Herman‘s podcast. That to me is the HUGEST issue is getting up and being functional and trying to force my brain to be online when it typically is in rest mode. I tried it again today. I forced myself to stay awake for over 24 hours so that I could go to bed before midnight last night and wake up this morning and tackle at least a few things on my list that I needed to get done in order to get back into the workforce. I mean I HAVE to be On a schedule now that my body isn’t used to in order to get hired and stay employed. Forced my body to get out of bed sit in the parking lot of my apartment complex like a zombie and drink coffee. All day long I felt like I was drunk. I felt awful and I looked terrible. My eyes were swollen as if I hadn’t slept at all. I was totally out of it. It’s like my body is against me. Exercise and staying outside in the daylight as much as possible, begin to train my brain to be up and awake during daytime and be asleep at night time. But my body was just working against me all day. Normally, I wake up and I drink water throughout the day and go for a run and I couldn’t do any of these things today. Everything was off. Couldn’t run too tired and it’s so hot and humid out in Florida my body isn’t used to it. Just kept drinking coffee but no amount of coffee worked. Now that the sun has set this is the time that I usually wake up. I’m feeling like I’ve been up for two days already even though I slept last night. I guess I will force myself to do some exercise and eat much earlier than usual. And pray that sleep will come and I can try again tomorrow hoping that the inflammation will subside and that fasting will do the trick. Something’s got to give because there’s no money for rent next month unless I get a job soon. 🔜 I did manage to send my resume off but that fear of getting a call for an interview and not being awake and alert in the morning is constant. 😳
It’s natural that, having been abused, part of you is telling you to rest and stay safe=inside. Thank that protective part of yourself.
You may also want to see any action you do take NO MATTER HOW TINY as a brave empowering triumph over someone who wanted you to be powerless. (I have a little book where I write down my ta-das. Some days it’s for tiny tiny things. Even bought tiny gold stars.) Make your planned action so tiny…eg, put one sock on…and then celebrate. Google “Tiny Habits”❤
@@rrg2248 that’s a very lovely and healing way to approach life by appreciating the little things you have achieved. Thank you. 😊
Please go to a church and speak to someone. If you are a man, life as a man is full of tribulations ups and downs. However Suicide is not the answer, you are simply saying to all your ancestors that fought and survived many heart wrenching battles for you to be here, that it was meaningless. Inquire more about your grandparents lives from your relatives. Find Jesus, because he really is the way out and I know you can become great. You just have to find someone who loves and believes in you. So start by attending the church. Then go to the gym or train at home. You will figure out the job issue. Never ever ever take your life. You are this close to a breakthrough but if you do so, you ll never find out.
My thoughts go out to you
Actually, I find some feelings of pleasure from working out. Pain indicates you aren’t doing the exercise properly. Find an activity that moves your body that gives you at least a little pleasure. For instance, enjoy the sights as you go biking. Take out your earbuds and enjoy the sounds of nature while you are walking. And so forth.
I felt like those last few minutes Dr. K was speaking directly to me. Thank you so much for this episode. Wow!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart to both of you.
It's a wonderful podcast, I watched this episode twice, and I think I will watch it more, and take a break to deeply think about myself, and what do I really want. Thank you Mel , thank you Dr. K. Really really thank you!
❤❤ absolutely love this fellow!! My daughter introduced me to his channel when she shared his thoughts on Gifted Children are special needs to a point....
Best discussion on motivation, ever!
Thanks Mel and Dr.K, i learnt so much from this and every is so relevant to whats happening in my life. Gosh, Mel, 1 hour isnt enough, hope Dr.K will come back soon. I really enjoyed this discussion between you both. Love from Sg ❤❤❤
Mel thank you for having Dr. K. i found Dr. K from your podcast.❤🎉
Really loved this episode!
Big thank you🌹
This is such a new concept, being present now. I have always looked at the goal or desired end result. As in Stephen Covey's book, The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People, one of the habits is Begin with the End in Mind. This will be a hard habit to break. I guess it will take a lot of practice!
Read his book. So good. This man is doing an invaluable service for this and future generations.
damn, i just finished watching a dr k stream VOD, went to homepage to find something else to watch and there's more dr k content??!?
well, i cant complain 😅
Okay - Dr. K- studying the brain scientifically is absolutely critical, obviously - And, whose to say that needs to be directly to motivation or not-it may give someone motivation to know what part of the brain it’s comes from- We are human after all
The only thing that holds us back is the weight in our mind 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
This is fascinating! Love this podcast!
Learned so much today
Thank you!
I am thinking of the list of people to share this and I will be watching this video over again
step one takes the pressure off. That's what came to my mind right away.
this is amazing and the perfect message for me, right moment. Thank you so much !!
Greetings from Colombia. The Venezuelan immigrant writer 🇻🇪
This episode Mel was excellent. Thank you ❤🎉
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! What beautiful human beings you both are. ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
Wow! What an enlightening, inspiring conversation. Thank you Mel and Dr. K.
Mel this episode helped me so much! Thank you for sharing and thank you for using a lot of examples in the interview so it's easier to understand a lot of concepts that sometimes are not that easy to understand. Thank you and I've been barely watching on loop or your videos haha ❤
Dr K and Mel Robbins - my two must watches!
This was amazing. I’m not stuck I’m wavering and conflicted. I shouldn’t focus on the outcome. Just doing it
Best interview ever! Dr K, you are brilliant! Amd Mel, thank you for caring about us enough to do what you do. I love you both ❤