10 Ways To Be A Better Dad
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- Unless you have children, you have no idea what it's like to ride this crazy roller coaster we call FATHERHOOD - all the ups and downs, joy and excitement, pain and sorrow, and sleepless nights.
But, if you're anything like me, you want your children to HAVE more, DO more, and BE more.
I don't have it all figured out and I'm learning along the way like you are but here are 10 steps to becoming a better father.
They've worked for me. I hope they work for you!
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Just found out a couple hours ago I’m going to be a dad. Found this inspiring. Thanks
Santana 805 What’s it like to be a father now?
Don't be like My father I beg you
Santana 805 oh Congrats....
Daddy
How's it going? Single dad much? Lol
Taylor Made turned out it wasn’t mine.
Great stuff mate.. Im a newly father of a 10 week yr old boy...big hello from Sydney Australia..
Bless u brother thank u for promoting father hood
I told my daughter "you are enough" and told my son "you are lovely". Break molds, all molds.
This made me smile - such a nice positive message which as a Dad myself I wish Id thought about when mine were little
I'm a girl but all you said are available for girls too. And they are really good and open mindding advices that we have to keep in mind.
Proud dad of 1 2nd 1 on the way i need this and God
great video thank you for posting this
Damn appreciate it man
Respect to all single dads , I’m one ,
I wish I had a Great Spiritual Christian dad
Stan Break yikes
My hats off to you. as one father to another.
Right here brothaa respecttt
You better not sock your son in your face. I sure with I had a good father.
My oldest is 4 and a half. I was abusing weed and spent most of the days locked in my room. I decided to be a better father and currently have goals and plans to take my kids and myself to a on a journey full of success. Keep me in your prayers.
I’m praying for you, brother. May the journey be filled with blessings, joy, and love. May it exceed your dreams and expectations for you and your children!
Same here bro I’m learning to lay off the weed and looking on google more for more activities in the city for my step kids and my one child on the way . I’ll pray for you brother because I can use one too
Dude same for me you got this
Im struggling the same way
Praying you get through your hardships and become the man/father you’re destined to be.
Im 18 and I found out the other day that I'm goin to be a dad and i want to be the best father I could possibly be
Going to this UA-cam video was one of the best things you could do. I'm glad you care don't stop man
You can do it!!!
You are too young
+Captain Jack Pugh to late now eh?
K̸I̴D̸D̴O̴ Maybe not to late to get an abortion?
Edit: I apologize if my comment offended you. You may think abortion is wrong, I don’t. Differing opinions exist, it’s not my job to change my own opinion if you don’t like it.
Wish I had seen this 12 years ago. My girl is turning 15 in a few days and I feel like I’ve failed in a lot of these areas. Thanks for posting.
15 is still not too late if you wanna improve as a father.
It’s not to late. My little girl is 5 and I feel like I mess up a lot. But I’m trying
It's never too late. Don't be afraid to show that weakness and admit to her what you feel. It's okay to apologize to your children.
My father left before I was 2 and I grew up without him. It took him until I was nearly 25 years old to admit he regretted it and at the same time that I was dealing with the question "Why didn't he want me?", he was dealing with the grief of knowing that he screwed up and lost his chance to have me in his life while I was still young.
Had he contacted me and explained things to me, or even told me in person the very few times that we did talk in person, he would have saved me a lot of pain. I grew up thinking I was a mistake. That does a lot of damage to a little boy. Think back to the question he gave in the video.
TL;DR? Talk to your daughter. Let down the Dad guard, let the mask slip. Tell her you feel like you could have done better in some areas and tell her you're sorry if there's anything that you didn't get right.
Ask her questions. Find out where she's at mentally so you two can get on the same page and build a stronger relationship.
It's never too late.
My dad waited over 20 years. All he needed to do was talk to me instead of pretending nothing happened.
Brother I would be willing to bet she would say the complete opposite..
I’m 28 and would still like for my father to come back, it’s obviously not too late. Showing up is half the battle
That is one of the most beautiful/manly/ well groomed beard I have ever seen.
Haha, appreciate that!
Peter Pan truth!
gr8 beard
Yeah but the voice dont match, unless he goes gym and is super buff, but good content. Subbed
That's exactly what I was going to say!!!
I don’t have a kid but thanks for the cheat codes to parenthood
Powaup cheat codes patched lmao parenthood evolves with technology.. and will continue too..
There are some who didn't grow up with Fathers and now we're here trying to learn how to be one. Good job to all of you who are in that position, and ALL Fathers who are in their kids lives
Yes I’m one brother.. I’m learning as I’m growing with them. (My sons)
Exactly brother, we want our kids to find their own genius.
The wife and I spent all our time with our kids, our family circle is super tight, our kids ain’t going anywhere away from us, and it’s guaranteed they will take care of us and not throw us away into a lonely rest home.
Time flys so start spending your time with them now!
Be in their life and don’t let the USA system screw you into thinking you have to work and keep up with Jones.
Live cheap and simple so you don’t end up enslaved and miserable.
Rich folks EAT YOUR HEART OUT!
I’m 20 years old and just found out I’m going to be a father. I want to be the best father I can possibly be. God give me wisdom! Give me patience! Help me be a great role model for my kid.
How is it going?
Best advice I was ever given as a dad was from a pastor friend of mine. He said to me "I told my children early on that I have Plenty of friends. But only two children. We can be friends, but I will always be your father. Dont forget that."
In other words...I'm your dad...not your friend. In doing that his kids wound up with something better. An authority figure who was their best friend.
I, as a son, got scared when the thought of me losing my father and becoming one came through my mind. Do you know why? Because I want to be a father, like him and I am worried because I don't think I am able to. Anything that can help me just be the man a family needs?
Mihnea Chirita if you doubt yourself, you will fail. If you are willing to learn go for it. Forgive and learn. Love and discipline.
That's just part of the game my man. I have 2 kids and another due in March. I remember being scared to death before my first was born that I wasn't good enough to raise a child. I know I'm not half the dad that my father was to me (at least that's how it feels). I think that just comes from seeing your dad as your biggest hero starting from your earliest memories. You'll have your good days and bad days... you just do the best you can and things tend to work out.
Mobbin Williams great words!
Although I'm not a father yet, I intend to be one, one day. Still, I'm having a wonderful opportunity of working with young kids (ages 6 - 8) and that has been giving me a good insight of what being a father might be like. And for that reason I ran into pretty much the same tips pointed out on this great video.
Good luck dude. The world needs great dads!!!
I’m 38 years old and I want to be a dad so bad, and until I saw this video today, I was worried that I won’t have what it takes to be a good father. I feel more confident now that I still have a chance to be a good parent.
All it takes is the courage to try.
I was 38 when it became a father. Those thoughts flooded my mind. Once my son was born, I decided I’d be the best father I could. That’s what counts is effort.
There is no one good. Not even one. The best thing you can do is focus on the TRUTH of this world and be an example for not only your kid, but any "kid" you cross paths with in this life. Becoming a parent for the sake of becoming a parent before understanding how and why we were created will only bring strife.
I'm not a father yet, I'm single as of now.
I'm watching this to give my child/ren a better life than previously mine. My dad wasn't desirable but I'm greatful that he did his best, so I'll become better.
The best I give you all!
Being a dad is awesome....tough at times but awesome best thing I could ever experience.
No doubt. Nothing better.
the worst felling in the world is your daughter not loving you because of you..
B. Henny Be patient you'll be alright!!
21 years old here, have a 3 year old turning 4 the end of this month, what a rollercoaster! I was down for some time thinking im a bad dad if i dont teach her enough, but watching this, im really not, and you shouldnt either, theres just always room to be a better dad and thank you for this video💪🏼
Please don't be angry at them
If you're worrying about being a better dad, then you're already a better dad than most.
Excellent list, I appreciate all 10, I’d like to add that to be a good dad we have to remember what it was like being a kid. Empathy helps us to practice patience, communication and further increases the effectiveness of those teaching moments.
Love the energy... I get judged for these morals daily. My two boys are a riot, but are respectful outside of our home. Great video!
Dude that’s awesome stuff but sometimes I just want peace & quiet. How TF can I get that?
MGTOW=peace+quiet
The magic hour; before the wife and kids are awake in the morning. Yes it involves waking up at 5 or 6 o clock but no one ever said it would be easy
I have the opposite issue with my dad who watches tv full blast 24/7 and bitches constantly
I can hear it through a box fan and ear plugs. My job makes it worse
It’s his house, and he needs help so I don’t really want to leave him on his own
I just have no idea how to talk to him about it.
The one thing I’ve learned after being a father of a boy and a girl for 22 years… listen more than talk when it comes to your kids. If they want your help they will come looking for it. I have always tried to push wisdom and experience onto my children and as helpful as it may be, it also makes your kids not want to be around you so much. No one wants to be preached to all the time. I should have just listened more and spoke only when necessary. I know they love and appreciate me, but I think they see me as this constant mentor rather than a fun dad who they feel comfortable opening up to.
I'm listening... I have 2 and recently lost a baby... Open to any more you have
I had a friend, who's a x15 grandfather now.
He recalls one of his daughters asking her mum a question, mum says "Ask your father".
Daughter replied "I don't want to know THAT much about it"
That stuck with me.
@@joecentral-o9984 My mum had a gift of not preaching to us. I later realized that if she saw a problem, she would gently approach us and tell us a very relevant story from her life. No lessons, no judgement, just a story.
Sometimes we learned, sometimes we didn't, but I think, me, being a *very* stubborn kid, it was the best approach.
Seeing this now thanks man double 👍 s
Thank you for this amazing advice as this is me right now. Wait…until a few minutes ago. Lessons learned.
Thanks for this video. My previous step dad was a narcissistic abuser for 9 years, and I'm atm talking to a woman who has a daughter, so I'm watching this so I can be a good dad ❤
Give your children law (expectations, consequences) and gospel (grace and love when they fail). That is how God grows us up into full humanity.
I honestly am astonished and dumbfounded as to how you have not had more views. Don't get me wrong, it is still a substantial amount of people that have watched this and potentially have changed or improved their life as a result. However, taking a step back and watching what the world deems as important (as an example, I typed in, "how to be a better father". Yet when I got to, "how to be a b" the very first suggestion was....."bad bitch". Seriously?!?!?!
But I digress. Man, I don't know your name, but I thank you for putting up this video. My son is 6 years old, and for the past 2 years I have vigorously been searching within myself to be the best father I can be. It is nice to see other father's searching and figuring out ways to create a better world for their children. Especially with the direction this world that we are presenting to them is heading.
If you happen to read this, I currently have only watched 2 of your videos. Yet I want to say, keep making more videos! This world needs more enlightened people such as yourself. I have been saying for the past year that I want to make videos. However, I lack the appearance, courage, and the ability to construct verbal thoughts well enough to do so.
Keep at it bro, I hope all is going well for you and your family!
Thank you for the great video. I'm not a Father yet, but, when the time does come, I want to be the best Father that I can be. Thank you for the great points.
+Paul Brosnan Thanks! As long as you keep trying (even when it gets tough), you'll be great!
Growing up it was just me and my mom for the most part never a dad. I’m going to be the best dad I never had.
You nailed it BROTHER!! Great advice
I can see your mouth is moving, but for some reason, I´m not processing anything, your beard is screaming at me!! lol
Why,...Then just listen with your're ear's.
Close ur eyes and listen
Been a father for the last 4 years... I'm still learning and im so glad I found this video, im subscribed and ready to learn even more. Self growth and rebuilding and this helps me so much.
are you single father ??
@@tusher903 no I'm with my wife. Just moved to a new state with no family or friends.
I’m actually a single mama trying to be a better single father for my son. I know it doesn’t make much sense, but I have to try for him.
That is commendable how you are trying to do double duties. It makes sense that you want to give your children the best childhood possible. Remember that just bc most kids are being raised by a mom and a dad that doesn't always make for a successful upbringing. Give your child a chance to genuinely know you and they will love you all the more. Good luck on your journey. Judging by the fact you took time to watch this video I have no doubt you are a wonderful mother.
Absolutely not. Be the mom only. Women who try to be dads are feminism failures. You are clueless about men stay that way in regards to parenting. He will resent you for it. I did.
Thanks for the awesome advice bro, my daughter will be here in 4 weeks time and im nervous and anxious as hell...but this lifted my spirits ✊🙏
I love this. I am a proud dad of 3 amazing kids. Being a dad is easy to do badly and hard to do well. It takes lots of comprises but ones that are worth the reward. For all the dads and dads to be, I wish you love and patience.
I find winter time with young kids is the hardest on me... I've got 3 under 5 years, and it's a lot more difficult, I feel trapped inside, torn between helping keep the house clean and playing with my kids. Usually we just play, so the house is a mess. Finding ways to de compress is harder too. When the weather's nice we spend all day outside, which when I'm outside I find my stress levels are easily managed. Now as I write this all 3 of my kids have Croup, my wife and I have colds, we're getting no sleep and stuck inside for the holidays... it's rough!!
Being a dad "badly" is a misnomer. You are a dad, and your children will Revere you if you stay close to the truth.
It's as simple as that.
I will buy whatever beard grooming products this guy sells...
thanks bro for your video,im a father of one four yr old boy it seems like it never gets easier but I don't know where id be without him they grow tooooo fast peace everyone.
I’m a professional in my 40s accomplished lots in the business/personal world but the one thing I’m most proud of is coaching my sons soccer team and winning the championship we had such a great time I also highly suggest doing it if you can’t be the head coach just go and help out I’m telling you the kids are so happy when they see dads taking part in what they enjoy doing
my dad always beat me with belt since im 4 years old until now(im 14 now)😢.....i've never feel the love of a dad...sometimes i wish that i was born without a dad😔...i really hate my dad.....i feel giving up of having a dad...im so lonely... i have no one to confess my feeling..i wish i could NEVER BORN....
I hope life is better for you now
Very good Sir. My wife showed me your video. May God Bless u keep the good work going
i wanna be a good father. I'm not expecting a kid but I do wanna be prepared so I ain't a shit dad like mine was.
I see a lot of fathers-to-be in the comments that have long been fathers. I wonder how they're doing? I myself have 2 girls and 2 boys; ages 9, 7, 5, and 6 months. I think it's important to reflect on your parenting and adjust as necessary. I'm glad I got most of these covered but there's always room for improvement! Fatherhood is truly the best.
That also includes no child abuse!
My dad did that to me till last year until last year when my mum broke up with him
Cody Shi no shit lol
@@dean8642 Not all agree that spanking is child abuse, it actually still needs to be said in the west.
I got 2 kids and I’m still learning everyday thanks for the tips.
I love this! Best UA-cam video I’ve ever seen
Thanks for this video, I'm a dad and I needed this. Thank you.
downloaded this (thanks to youtube premium) and watching it whenever i need it. thank you for the encouragement
Great video , I have a one month old baby boy and want him to reach his full potential
+Loso224 Excellent, congrats!
Yup thats wats up im a father of 2 at 21 years old my girlfriend is 19 we have alot to learn and my kids are makeing me a man but somtimes i need edvice like this thank you
julio martinez /\ u did it when sje was still a minor?
(Not attacking but curious)
Damn 2 kids
Find it so fascinating this video was in my UA-cam feed minutes after a long conversation with my 9 year old son about life, adversity, and love. Fatherhood has been the most challenging event in my life yet also the most transformative. It has strengthened me in ways I couldn't have imagined before. To all the struggling dads, may God give you the strength you need to keep moving forward. If you're religious, pray for strength to find the way forward and not the way out.
My son is going to be 2 soon. And I’m constantly trying to improve as a father. I was raised by only my mother. And unfortunately my son is going to be raised by his dad only.. But I’m determined to raise him to be a respectable, honorable man.
I love this. Thank you.
But I truly believe the number one best thing a dad can do for his children is for them to know and see how much he loves their mother 📖
My wife left me at the demands of her narcissistic controlling mother and our son is paying the price. But he will always know that his dad loves his mom.
I hate seeing dads and moms on their phones at the playground. Undivided attention.
Those types of parents were not ready for kids .
This restores my hope. Thank you for this video. And thanks to those here seeking this advice.
I’m only 14 and I was watching food videos and that translated to me watching how to be a good dad video 😂😂
Toby Ballin Games xD
Everyone should watch this at least three times.
Idk Ik my dad really loves me but he’s been through a lot
It’s tuff for him to be more of a dad than a friend and I can see that
Well said! Becoming a father also makes you a better man in general! I used to teach kids at school when I was younger, now that I’m a father myself I know I would be much more patient and caring towards other children as well, I would definitely be a better teacher...
Man if only stuff like this was out more back in early 2000s late 90s my family wouldnt be such a mess
Thanks for the quick tips. All meat no veggie.
*Why wouldn't anyone not want to become a good dad* ?
Excellent points, I want to be the best dad i can be someday.💪🏾💪🏾
Good points if your not separated from your son, however only having a few hours a week with him the dynamics are different.
Thank you so much.. You probably won't read this or understand the impact your list will help me become a better father, but ultimately, help my children become self sufficient adults.. But I really appreciate your video and I aspire to be as great as a parent as you seem to be. Thank you so much and god bless.
Keep in conversation with other dads, don't be afraid to ask questions or for help. We're all in this together!
today my son is 3 years 1 day old. osito I love you so much we will be together again soon I love you! Nobody can come between us.
I found out I was going to be a Dad in the middle of a tattoo appointment. I just remember a felling of both shock and happiness. My son is due in 2 months. I'm 22 years old and even though my son came as a suprise, I can't wait to be the best dad I can be for my boy.
Ging Freecss is typing....
Love Your vid bro. I only have my kids on the weekends. So it's hard when their mom goes against what I think. I say the same thing. I'm a dad first. But she is a friend first. We've, their mother, have had arguments about this. Everything I try to teach apparently on a whiteboard and gets wiped away
My father never in decades told me that son you are good enough.
Your dad's a piece of shit then. I was also the same. Fuck the baby boomers
so me either. but i want to do it for my kids. get over it, if thats the worst you had than your lucky. give to your kids what you didn't have. i'm watching this because i don't care what i've been through, thats done, i just want to make sure that i don't do the same to my kids.
ps, i'm not a single dad.
1. Recognize Difference 2. Eliminate our distraction and spend quality time for child 3. Answer them and let them they are enough 4. Need to look for teaching moments, it is not about discipline. It is the job of father to be a coach 5. Okay to be silly at times with our kids 6. Okay to be nosey- Know what are they being taught, get engaged, get involved 7. Consider getting involved in their extra curricular activities 8. Be the Dad first- It is dad first and be the friend later 9. Get them involved with you- Take them to your shop, to your race be engaged with them 10. Teach your kids the value of hard work, they don't deserve anything by default but they have to work towards it
Just graduated high school and gonna be a dad in about 7 months. Excited and scared, just hope I can be a good dad and give them a happy life. I know I’m no longer just me and I know I am now part of this kid. I love you Dexter or Anastasia. Can’t wait to hold your hand and hug you and go on vacations and bring you to school and be there when you fall down. I’m always gonna love you dex or Ana. More than you will ever know
Father of two, 8 year old with split household and a 1 year old. Hardest thing in the world is not being able to be there physically all the time with my 8 year old while her mom is not there mentally but has custody. Breaks my heart having to fight a parent who just wants my money and not what’s best for her.
I’m glad to be a proud father.
Epic video!!!!💪💪💪
7 months to go still
I’d go with that 2015 for $25k all day. I love that gen Tundra. Love the new gen but $70k-$80k is too much.
Thanks for the video.... One piece of feedback about the visual aspect from a 'photog'. The crop on your head is a tad to tight and the defocus (depth of field) of the back round is a tad to blurry. It makes for a slightly disorienting image. Not trying to be rude, but i think that feedback will make your next videos nicer/easier to look at. Lighting is great though.
Hell yeah! First video and I’m hooked! Hell yeah! However, easier said than done. Suffering from depression/ptsd. How do you, “get in the mood” or engage when life is raging? Love the red beard btw. Red heads are life 🤙
If anything goes well, I will be a father in 2024 for the first time. I’m scared shitless to be honest. Me and my gf are ready for it, but I’m still scared as I’ve never been. Excited, but scared.
There's no book on how to be a great father, but I find there are good points to take what works for you and your family nd adjust and learn and understand good points and understand not only other people in your family but knowing yourself as well. Love life lessons, interesting and great to see how little advice can change how you feel and how you deal and make other happy along with your own happiness.
I’m becoming one ☝️
Thanks for the tips, Tormund!
The advertisement I got before this video was of a woman telling me about this flexible menstrual cup...m WTF???
Step one read the bible. Step two make Jesus Christ your Lord and savior. Step three live a sanctified life and watch God grow you as a man and you will be a better everything.
I know on the internet opinions are cheap, but the best and brightest kids I have ever met are the children who were never baby talked! And explain answers to children so they keep asking questions. I will be honest with my daughter and tell her I don’t know an answer but that I will help her find it. She is so incredibly smart and I just want her to have a wonderful life! Hope this helps someone!!
I'm trying so hard to be a better father. I love him so much. I didn't have a great dad but but I have an amazing mother. I sadly learned from him. I'm just disappointed I waited 6 years to try with my son.
Great advice. I would add to teach your children what you weren't or lacked. Showing affection and emotion in our family was looked upon as being soft. Now that I have children I realize that's not true and that its good to show emotions and affection to our children. This teaches my son and daughter that these are qualities of a man I want to be someday or I want to marry someday.
Man I love you . I actually watched this video with mu kiddo , excellent conversation afterwards.
Many thanks may i curse you with Superior Health and Triumphant Joy . Blessings to you and your loved family .
I'm a terrible dad I provide for my children my whole house is toys but I suck I've gained 100lbs in 7 months I'm fat and lazy AF addicted to my phone I neglect my old lady and my son but not my daughter I love them both to death but I've lost my patience my wrist is broken I can't do much but what I can do with my son I don't do he's every where and every where and does what he wants I need help plz hmu.
Everyday I grow worse and worse to the point I'm gonna lose my kids and family because I'm such a pos.
I accidently got a girl pregnant but if I didn't I'd be dead life is amazing for me I love my family but yet I still don't do what I need to.
The important thing he forgot. Teach your children to serve the lord and be different. All of this means absolutely nothing if they die and go to hell being unsaved. Raise them to know Jesus Christ. Pray for them every day
So what do we do with the feeling of “I screwed up” and daughter is 17? I don’t feel I have the same relationship with her as I do my 9 year old. I kinda learned on the first. Regrets.
I have 3 kids
Thanks for the video
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Tbh I smoke alot and I'm 20 I've been smoking since I was 11 and I've always been a heavy smoker. Im already coughing up black stuff from my lungs and. I've been a dad for a week now and ive never been more scared to die. I Wana quit but Ganja has been my supplier for dopamine I can't supply it naturaly anymore. I don't seem to have any emotions with out it should I keep doing it will it influence my baby girl in a bad way...? I have tons of family members that smoke Tobacco just the same..
You should stop smoking. I'm sorry nobody has responded until now. Get therapy if you can, address your lack of dopamine. Quit though, for your health, be there for your kids as long as you can
Excellent video! I am a new father and really appreciate this information. My son turns 9 months next week!