And this is why I’m mean. I can be the nicest person but I’m quick to let folks know I’m not the one! Respect is earned and my pretty doesn’t care how you feel if you can’t respect me
@nicoleraheem1195 Yes it's more so about someone feeling intimidated. If you are happy and bright or charismatic or high performing people will try to tear you apart or cut you down.
@@drnefarious2758 Yes I am in that. But looking at other post I can be optimistic look on the bright side maybe I get attack over that being ugly and happy some people think they are entitled to more happiness than you.
When you're beautiful women hate you because they can't be you & men hate you because they can't have you. Even "friends & family" do this. It's disgusting.
@@knowledgetree7134They couldn't care less if you're a good person. You can be the most loving & supportive toward these people & they will hate on you anyway including gossiping about you. They already can't stand that you're the most noticed in the room, you think they also want you to be fun or sweet or smart? No, they don't. They want to make you look bad.
It really does. Sometimes I try to make myself ugly and messy so people don’t think I’m trying to threaten the situation or whatever. But even then I’ve been made fun of for having too much of a confident walk even though I’m just walking normally. People are insane.
YEP! It’s either dim your light and be uncomfortable or be alone. If you can find a place where you can be yourself and be appreciated, you’ve lucked up!
This is soooo real. Especially if you're pretty and "nice". Because then you attract jealous people AND bullies who view you as an easy target because of your demeanor.
This is just my opinion. But the cruelest thing about this form of treatment is that it occurs in the workplace. They are affecting your ability to earn money and survive.
And whatever success you actually achieve, some will attribute your accomplishments to your looks, regardless of the work it took! Some people believe that you're treated better, when you look better. And that's not always true! There are some who live for the opportunity to "punish" in whatever way they can, from having a rude attitude, to backstabbing sabotage!
Yup, literally got written up for wearing a turtleneck, and then the next week, the supervisor started wearing her daughter’s clothes. We all know who submitted the complaint
Yes I used to have a male boss and he was easygoing, he just left me alone to do my job. Then he left and was replaced with this obese lady and she is extremely controlling towards women she feels threatened by, micromanaging, and just lords her power over them. The seething jealousy just oozes from her pores. She gossips, lies, and interrogates people. So many people have left because of her but somehow she gets to stay in that position.
@@Cookiedesigns254that’s the worst it’s so annoying I feel people are obsessed with me everywhere I go and I’m not even exaggerating like I see and feel people watch me all the time and I say to myself people are are obsessed with me and it’s not even like I like it because I don’t like being the center of attention but I always am it’s annoying but also I like to look cute so it’s like I’m not be looking like a bum but even when I look like a bum people pay attention so really I can’t win
I've been noticing that people don't look at my face when I am talking to them, but I can feel them starting when I'm not looking. Glad to know I'm not imagining this.
@@Poodle_Gunoh my God,😭😭😭😭😭😭😪that just made me hate being around people, Im naturally sarcastic and when people do that it truly breaks my heart shame💔
Exactly! Then they'll be like "well you have pretty privilege, what are you complaining about?" Uhhh how about ALL THIS UNWANTED, NEGATIVE ATTENTION?!??
They will never admit it and try very hard to conceal their hate. It’s painful to realize, but sometimes doing so can end up saving your life. Because they are quick to set you up in a situation that can be very harmful to you.
My supervisor had a BBL & boob job. She tried so hard to be the center of attention, and I was glad to let her have it. She would BLATANTLY exclude me from every professional situation possible with personal behaviors and I would just laugh. Her husband (my boss) couldn’t even have a conversation with me without her running into my office and interrupting… and the amount of shit she allowed to be done to me by her friends in the workplace was insane … and all I did was show up for work everyday. It was EXHAUSTING
I quit recently & one of the guys I work w/ slipped and said they had an argument in the GC & stuttered trying to explain it & I’m like I really idc + I knew about it already lol, he also told me that I was the only office “eye candy” and now that I’m leaving he got nothing to look at like whattttt ?? 😂😂
I swear it's hard being an attractive person, who is kind, non jealous (because I am constantly working on myself), and goal oriented. Hard to find good people in this world as good female friends....smh.
And don't be pretty, smart, and bold to speak your mind. I literally refuse to work 9-5s anymore because of the amount of haters I've had to deal with (women and males). Managers, bosses, etc. And the sexual harassment from the guys in workplaces. Also, I have come to the point in my journey where if any woman I meet is male-identified I cannot associate with her. If you're not a girl's girl and secure in yourself, we do not need to be associating whatsoever! I also love that more creators are speaking on this. It's like because we are pretty, we can't have problems or feelings because we have it "easy". Thank you for this channel and for making this a safe space 💗
Same!!!! A 9-5 put me in such mental despair it’s not even funny. Harassment from the men, then hatred, and awful negative jealous vibes from the women.
@@sarahw3055 and it sucks because they really try to play with your livelihood over a check! Gurl, I had a muscle spasm in my back that didn’t go away until I quit my last job. I promised myself I would never put myself through any of that again! I will find my own safe and peaceful way lol 😭🥹💕
I think your personality has something to do with it. The fact that you won’t associate with someone who is male-identified but could be nice person sounds like you are the issue.
@@Frugal637 why would I as a woman who doesn’t center males in her life, be around and try to form a bond with someone who does?? Explain to me how that works?
Trust me I was treated like this for real! That’s why I’m a homebody introvert and my friends are all older women in their 70s and 80s ! I no joke am friends with elderly women ! They are amazing and down to earth and kind ❤🙏🏽
It is sad to admit that I think part of the reason it is easier to befriend elder women is because they're no longer in the ring and can't get back in if they tried. Because to my experience the women in their 50s-60s are the meanest, most underhanded. I more or less deduced that it is because the men that they could be with are looking for distractions (thus at risk of these women losing "status" around other women their age and lifestyle). I'm glad you've found anyone to not be lonely actually.
@@eyesthrurosecoloredglasses i take care of veterans and their wives have truly become my friends 🧡 i dont have any women my age that i could ever trust because they have betrayed me and manipulated me or used me for their convenience! And also i have faith and i have a beautiful friendship with my Lord creator ! So for me that is all i need 🙏🙌🧡💯🫶
I’ve noticed that I do get intimidated by pretty women and I need to stop that! I just need to work on my insecurities so I can better myself. Great video
The expectation to be "nice" is nauseating. I tell my daughter "It's not good to be pretty and nice. I like a mean pretty woman, who has the potential for kindness. nice is phony." I also teach my daughter to WORK HARD. Another form of Abuse in the work place is by assuming you are where you are because you're pretty. They will never credit to your work. The right people will notice You don't have to use your looks, because people expect that. Your looks are an after thought. I can't handle it from men. Most people see it for what it is. HOWEVER, I can't stand it when it comes from women, and it's worse when it comes from a gay man.
There is truth to this. When I was in highschool I was in my awkward phase. Women would often scoff at me, looking at me from above so to speak, but it was never the pretty girls. Pretty ones were always nice to me. It was average girls who were mean, while guys mostly ignored me. Then when I got 18 I had this random glow up, just grew into myself and started to carry myself in a very feminine way. Men started to be supernice to me, pretty girls remained nice, but the average women became enraged with me. Still to this day everywhere I go they seem to look for ways to bring me down, hate on me and sabotage me. If I am in their space they will claw to get me out of there, even though Ive done nothing to them. Instead of working on themselves they will focus on destroying the competition.
Omg yes ! I’ve noticed that it’s usually the leveled down women who are the most triggered. usually the women who are focused on improving THEMSELVES don’t have time to compare themselves to me or worry about what I’m doing
@@ExoticalsUnited I agree! When youre happy with yourself you just dont care. Ofc some people just dont have that meaness in them, but a lot do! Its the sad reality that is not talked about a lot
The same thing happened to me except it happened earlier for me which made things soo much worse. Not only did I have girls my age who didn't like me but I had older girls mistreat me because their crushes liked me 🤦🏽♀️ and don't even get me started on the negative attention I received from males too.
The way a girl at my last job sabotaged me, and our boss took her side and not only promoted but protected her. Being one of the only black women in the office this caused an amount of trauma I’m still trying to recover from. When they say corporate was not made for us, this is what they mean. When you mind your own business and just try and work and other people’s insecurities are the reason they mess with your bag? Lord help, I hope he continues to expose those this year that do wrong.
one of the very reasons I quit corporate. Had a manager completely try to sabotage me getting a raise. Every corporate job I've had came with a package of haters. Never again!
My goodness, this has explained so much of my life. My beauty combined with my intellect and introversion has triggered people my whole life. Wow. Thanks so much for helping me feel less alone.
@@ExoticalsUnited Exactly! . . . and introverted (with the ability to socialize when needed) @mousepajamas8056 - this is so satisfying, I second the thanks and sentiment!
Yes!! I used to blame myself all the time because "I must've done something wrong for them to not like me" despite being introverted and unnoticeable as possible yet there was still an issue. But now i realize that's exactly why they didn't like me. I was so humble that even in trying to dim my lights to make others comfortable, I still outshined them no matter what 😂😭
i always call out my mom when she starts hating on some girl on tv or a video or picture for no reason, i remind her she doesn't even know who that girl is and she's calling her gross looking and stuff just cause the girl is confident
I remember some years ago I was telling a old friend about some of my family trauma and what I was going through and he literally said to me “ be careful opening up to people bc you’re very pretty and a lot of people may feel like your whining or complaining and not take you serious” Till this day I notice coworkers even my teachers in school do not try to help me if I need help, its like they think I have it easy already?
I faced so much bullying in this group in college that I tried to dull myself down. Stopped getting my hair/nails done, stopped speaking as much, but it didn’t matter. I’m glad I’m growing out of that now.
I’ve dulled myself down my whole life and I’m ready to break out of that now. I wanna take care of myself , be confident , & genuinely like how I look in the mirror idk how to lean into my femininity though
girl…. wearing messy buns everyday, baggy clothes, no makeup and erasing my whole personality.. i’ve done it all throughout highschool/college and it has become my personality now and i feel empty as fuck
@@j.a.g546 I was the same way. Leaning into your femininity starts with taking accountability & nurturing yourself in the areas you need. Just as you would nurture others, give that kind, friendly energy to yourself. Knowing when to slow down, to check your toxic feminine energy if you need to like gossiping, jealousy etc. Anything that triggers you, pay attention to it WITHIN YOURSELF and work on it. Don't project outward like other people, that's where they fumble their growth & a chance at genuine relationships. I used to watch a lot of black content creators and had to drop them just based on their rant mindsets, and you could tell they were bitter, angry, and not working on themselves internally..but the channel that helped me the most that I still watch today is "The Feminine Yoni" which is ran by "Real talk with Yanie." Her lifestyle channel "the feminine yoni" has really great tips, as well as her main channel, but you have to scroll through the social issues stuff, though she drops good gems in them from time to time. Just listen to her like a podcast on an video that resonates with you. TonyaTKO is also great, when she talks about lifestyle and doesn't focus on race or social issues, though I never heard her saying anything colorist, but there is a lot of emphasis on race sometimes but she has GREAT self help advice, and sometimes you have to dig through that info to find the gems. But that's why I like Yanie now, because she has decentered men and really focuses more on the WOMAN, and designing your life without male or "other" validation but your own. Watching her growth has been beautiful and inspiring too, and she just glows so much more now, compared to when she was trying to gain male & other people's approval. I also suggest "crappy childhood fairy" and "therapy in a nutshell", so you can unpack & understand your traumas and triggers as stuff starts to bubble up, and cope with them in healthy ways, to stay focused on making progress! I know so many more channels but I don't want to keep promoting people under someone else's channel. Just start there. Also read more self help books, so you can expand your critical thinking and keep your mind focused on solving your problems as they spring up. Don't use the information to pick yourself apart, but use it in a collaborative way like "how can I use this to improve my life?" And if it doesnt resonate with you, just let it go or put it in a journal somewhere, & don't take it to heart. But the access to that self help knowledge, will sow seeds and help you grow no matter what season you are in. Do the same with finding positive UA-cam channels because sometimes it's better having a coach or guide, versus constantly reading too. I also reccomend keeping a journal or video diary so you can track your progress in realtime, collect your & organize thoughts, as well as see how much you've grown as time passes by. Lean into your femininity by leaning into nurturing youself, naturally as a woman would, but youre just turning that energy inward, so it radiates out. I know I'm responding to an old comment but you got this! ❤ I hope you've made progress you're excited about so far! Blessings!
I'm at a new job in a hospital and when people foumd out I'm years old, they were shocked. Then women of all ages - including 20-somethings- try to bring you down. The women at work imagine I wear a ton of makeup. I was just wearing a tinted sunscreen. If I wear a lip gloss, they complain loud, "Oh, you're wearing lipstick. Are you trying to get a boyfriend at work?" Meanwhile, these girls are coming to work in their long nails and fake eyelashes which are forbidden in healthcare setting. If I'm wearing a new scrub, they say, "your scrubs are so cute. You're trying to catch men." Like the fact I'm older, yet still fit and my skin looks young, and single, and gets attention from men at work triggers them hard. And the men, who were nice to me in the beginning, act surly to me because I won't actually date them who are young enough to me my nephews, or because I'm simply talking to other men. But then if I actually dated any of them, I'm afraid how much it's gonna trigger everyone at work. I feel like I'm constantly being watched and judged. Leave me alone, I'm just trying to focus on my job when you losers are obsessed with me
I had this conversation this morning about the humiliation at the workplace. BW had seen me as "uppity" and try to bring me down with my attitude even though I'm mostly quiet and love you be in work mode. Thank you. This is the therapy I need 🎉🎉❤❤❤
Yes! Hopefully you can listen to these videos in your earphones to help your workday go by faster and remind you that you are NOT your job! You have a life and goals outside of the workplace !
I'm not perfect but can be pretty. I have been humiliated beyond words physically and mentally. I'm hurt and exhausted. I have never been a bully or prideful but still attacked. I feel sick at times.
Just got fired for this. I barely have female friends because of this and a lie off my family has backstabbed me because of this. Almost feels like a curse
I dress up 👗 am nice and soft spoken. Unfortunately it attracts meanies. I used to be more abrasive and clap back at people but today I have embraced the biblical concept of turning the other cheek and not doing evil for evil. I have been embracing a more meek disposition. I’ve found that God has been fighting my battles for me! 🙌🏽 I also found that said person will feel bad and come back and apologize to me in a round about way or even someone else will take up for me. I like this much better than arguing with crazy. Arguing is beneath me & I don’t have to engage in such low class activity
I have recently become more confident and I won’t allow the same kinds of behaviors I used to let slide. I started really standing up for myself with family members and I realized that once people have treated you disrespectfully for any length of time, it is more difficult to get them to start showing respect when it didn’t start at the beginning of the relationship. I think cutting off some of these people is gonna be the only option because they really lash out at you setting boundaries midway thru the relationship.
Exactly. It’s easier to completely cut someone off than to have to spend the rest of your life “training” them on how to treat you, letting them mess up over and over, etc .
Same! And they stare at me all the time. What is that supposed to do? Are you sizing me up or trying to piss me off and make me uncomfortable? Then got the nerve to call me ugly when y’all are doing all what y’all doing.
Studies show that people praise “uglier” people more aka pander to them. It’s the ugly duckling complex. People do it out of sympathy. If you are beautiful you have to go way up. You can’t be regular because you will just be stepped on. You have to fight and go all the way to the top where people will look like you or move like you. Beauty is also about magnetism and attraction based on habits, practices or beliefs that make you beautiful and rare. I.e. graceful soft black women- very magnetic because it’s sweet yet people pick on these type of women thinking they’re “weak”. They hate a peaceful woman that people want to be around. Beautiful people don’t have the luxury of being average they will be swallowed up by the darkness. You have to step out. I wish I learned this at a younger age.
Omg that’s SO true . You CANT be average if you’re pretty you HAVE to shoot for the top in order to stay safe ! Pretty girls are targeted in average everyday jobs, the hoods, etc.
@@ExoticalsUnited People judge and make assumptions about you so if you find yourself in unfavorable circumstances no one will help you. They will say “look at you….You’re pretty why can’t you help yourself.” This is why so much beauty black women end up doing weird stuff or settling for less than they are worth because the black community is hateful. Other communities in the west respect their beautiful daughters (in general). They are treasures to be elevated not down pressed. Girl I can go on about this. Do a part 2 to this video. Make a private video and have girls call in. Beautiful black girls ain’t safe in lower class areas in general.
Yes I was just reflecting on this regarding men. I have to go allllll the way to the top because they’ll eventually they go for a more economical version of myself. Shouldn’t be happening to someone like me, need a different demographic and that’s UP in every single way
I stopped wearing makeup and started being super friendly because I thought girls would be less threatened by me that way. Now I realize your appearance will always be a threat to them and they will always think of you as a potential homewrecker even if you have never done anything like that. What’s the point in being nice if they’re going to hate you regardless?
Yes! I did the same too and when it was time to get dolled up and put my makeup on they were shocked! Like couldn’t believe it and then pretty much gave me shit about it the whole time.
Lol I used to work at Walmart and I used to go with a beat face EVERYDAY. One of my coworkers came up to me and said why do you wear so much makeup everyday and I told her practice makes perfect lol. I just don’t see how me wearing makeup could bother someone so much!
Story of my life not to mention people just want to be friends with us just to only get close to us and if we going through something we try to vent to them but the whole time all they want is a lil information about you just to make a whole fake story line to tell others just to make you feel bad . Then next thing you know they’re not hanging around you anymore.
@@riechriech592Guess we all go through the same thing. I was once friends with a girl soon as I started talking to someone else she started to become jealous because I wasn’t talking to her. Some females are weird af .
Right they try to one up you and size you up to quietly compete. For me idc to make any friends at work they’re co workers far as I know. If you just do work with lil to no talk to keep focus they hate you even more.
I’ve definitely been excluded 🤦🏽♀️ I had a friend that I used to hangout with but every time I’d get in a serious relationship she would start acting funny and stop inviting me places. It started becoming really obvious that she was miserable that she wasn’t getting the types of guys I was getting. I used to tell her about all of the nice things they would do for me and her response was “ it must be nice” my last straw was when she stood me up at the club for my birthday and then she had the nerve to tell me a few months later that she went to the same club with someone else 🙄 and she would always make little slick comments over the years but it seems like she’s become bitter and has been lashing out so I had to end a 12 year relationship because I wasn’t about to let her bring me down with her.
I wish I would’ve known this back in high school. My friends had me thinking there was something wrong with me. I’m 23 now and realize what was going on but I remember how they would treat me just because I was the pretty girl in the friend group getting attention for boys/men I never asked for. I let a lot of backhanded compliments/jealousy slide for the sake of friendship. It took a while but I realized there’s nothing wrong with being naturally pretty, this is how I was born. If that offends you then that’s your problem not mine. I use to dress down when around them because if I dressed up I was “doing too much” now I wear whatever the fuck I want because I can. Sometimes It really is the people around you that give the most hate. Don’t get me started on the work environment😂
Literally in therapy because I thought I had been perceiving this on my own. Like Im sure some of the time it is me misreading interactions but THIS IS A REAL THING. super scary. especially if youre kind hearted ...but like she said, just ignore it. Its easier said than done but once you master staying present in the moment and not letting others trigger emotions that cloud your judgement you will be so POWERFUL.
I’m sorry that has happened to you and I pray that God, through Christ Jesus will protect you. Sadly when you receive this treatment from family it makes you wonder where is there a safe place? Mothers and daughters can have a relationship that is a beautiful one or one that can be disastrous. And it is more difficult when people don’t see the errors of their ways and try to resolve it.
I usually dull my makeup and outfits down so people don’t feel threatened, because I don’t want to deal with people acting passive aggressive. I really just need to do what I want and not care if others have an issue with it
I used to do this. I learned no matter if I toned myself down in hopes to not make them insecure but it does not work. You may as well be yourself bc they are gonna hate you regardless
I don’t wear makeup at all anymore. I got sick of the reactions from men. I did a little experiment while I was working as a barista, on some days I’d wear makeup and I’d get so many men harassing me and expecting me to be flirty and on the days I didn’t wear makeup they’d usually leave me alone. So no makeup for me anymore.
At my current job, we have to wear hair nets, no lashes, no jewelry, etc. Nothing (a food plant). It doesn't matter if I go in with old baggy clothes or tight pants and a semi cute shirt, I still get a lot of attention from the men. The insecure women just stare and watch me work while seething. I honestly don't give a shit. I only go to work to excute what's in the job description. Winning a popularity contest isn't one of my duties. "If you got beef, your problem, not mine." MJB
An ex friend of mine always needed constant reassurance, she would always need me to tell her She’s pretty or make her feel like she’s pretty and I didn’t then I guess I’m a bad friend. It was extremely emotionally draining and I couldn’t be confident or talk about my achievements in front of her causing she will always try to find a way to “humble me” or try “being real” with me. After a while I realized that she was a covert narcissist and I had to leave and later on found out that she been talking bout me to my friends saying that I use confidence as a mask to sexualize myself cause I wear crop tops and skirts. Luckily she got her karma and all of her friends Saw her true colors and left her. Ladies if you ever meet someone like this RUN it’s not worth it
I notice it and laugh because it must hurt to have that much discontent in your heart towards someone for something they can’t control. Get over it 🤷🏾♀️😵💫🤣
😭😭😭😭omg. I found my space. I TRIED verbalizing this to people around me and i feel like..... they take it wrong. Like "omg life sucks im pretty" No. Its deeper than what people who dont get it dont wanna hear.
I think it’s because the pretty girls who are hated Carry a light in them that the demonic demons that have attached themselves to her enemies hate. The light, your innocence on top of you being beautiful will make you the target of unimaginable hatred and attacks.
I agree. I know some pretty girls that everyone loves and they are nice people and I understand why. There is something called the hallow effect where people are seen as being smart or good because of their looks. So not all pretty girls experience being treated like crap.
Because the popular pretty women usually befriend and attract other beautiful women and have their own powerful group while the hated ones are in environments with more average and ugly looking people.
personally having high standards, intelligence and morals. im a people person but like my independence and solitude. im starting to move like a brand to protect my peace.
I have been bullied all my life from my mother and my half sister. It was so bad that I became a target to other girl bullies at school because I wouldn’t defend myself. All my life I thought I was ugly and that I this treatment was my reality. I took many years to heal my self esteem and I finally realized I am attractive and that’s why I was treated so bad. My half sister always believed I was better than her but I came into this world never believing that. Now I deal with my coworkers who try to beat me down. I’m good with the customers and now they don’t want me to talk to the customers. I’m always not doing “enough” for them. It’s annoying
I first experienced all of this with family. When someone complimented me, my mama would come from the other side of the room and go off on them for telling me I’m pretty or if they were praising something I did. She did it so often I used to feel ashamed to get complimented. Whenever I would talk about my accomplishments, she and my siblings used to yell over me to avoid listening to me and would say I was conceited but I knew I wasn’t. My own mama has tried to sabotage me in many ways. However, until your channel i didn’t make the correlation. I started realizing that many of her antics were eerily similar to jealous girls and even grown women, I’ve come across in the past. Even as a preteen she has always severely mistreated me. In my family I would constantly get the short end of the stick. When something between me and a sibling happened she would defend them and have more sympathy for them even if they started abs majority of the time they did. Though I didn’t understand sometimes I would feel it was jealousy but wasn’t sure… she was truly, though she never said it, it was implied, you’re pretty so get over it. She’s never told me I was pretty, but as I got older on days I looked decent she would literally call me ugly, but before doing so she would pout as if she was offended by my beauty. Since I’ve realized that family can act no differently than strangers I don’t feel comfortable around them.
Same... I never connected the dots until hearing that other ladies experience it too and I literally got a confession recently. It just makes you look at everything differently 😐
when people would compliment me, my mother would literally steal my compliment and say thank you and not even let me speak. She never called me pretty, never tried to help me with my beauty routines or show me how to take care of myself. I had to learn all that on my own. And then she would start coming to me asking me questions about certain routines. Always told me and others growing up "i think I'm better than other people" when I literally never showed that. It caused me to dim my light for so long to show I was "humble" and not conceited or arrogant. And the slick remarks from close friends or family members "hey lil ugly" like. Had a cousin literally try to tarnish my name saying I was stuck up and thought I was better than other people SMH, and this same cousin slept with an ex-bf behind my back and I still forgave her. Looking back I wish I would've stood up for myself but now idc. I show my light. And I haven't talked to my competitive jealous mother and hater relatives in years. TBH I want nothing to do with her or them. And I am at peace.
@@cojo.725 yep and don’t allow them to guilt trip you for not wanting to accept their poor treatment or even be around them. Continue to stand your ground.
I love this! A lot of people think just because someone is beautiful/more attractive their social life is really easy…but that’s never the case! Beautiful/attractive people ESPECIALLY if you’re kind, get treated the worse
It’s so weird. My own aunt who’s morbidly obese would always say “bones are for the dogs meat is for the men” I’m like lady you’ve been single for decades what are you talking about??? I’m literally still with my now husband when she’d project that sht onto me I was dating. Ugh I hate it. And I hate that I feel the need to lower myself and dumb myself down for others limitations
PLEASE READ 💜 I’ve been verbally tortured my entire life. THEY DONT KNOW I was a chunky teenager that suffered from depression, low self esteem, acne, anxiety and bullying. THEY DONT KNOW that when I put myself together current day, it’s still a challenge for me to get ready and face the world. I actually LEARNED to love myself (not arrogantly or egotistical). I suffer from lack of hair growth so I wear hair extensions, I have acne scars underneath my makeup foundation to cover it, and that I have a stomach pouch underneath flowy dresses. Women need to STOP judging and verbally abusing other women. They are the problem, not you. They are the ones with low self esteem (still as adults) with extremely low confidence and insecurity - they feel internally threatened and challenged by confident women that actually showcase love for themselves. The most beautiful women have been through the MOST pain: bad partners only dating them for their bodies or as an accessory to their ego, people pleasing toxic tendencies to heal from, being taken advantage of in relationships and workplace dynamics, and lastly, being mentally, emotionally and physically abused by society (jealous women, family members and male users). I hope this changes someone’s perspective.
The funny thing is I’ve always been modest even when folks call me the “pretty skinny girl”, but because I’m nice and kind and conventionally attractive I’ve faced micro aggressions most of my adulthood. It’s weird because I never really considered myself remotely attractive until I was in my mid 20s, so I was confused for a long time.
Same for me. I'm 44, have two adult aged sons, 5'4, 110 lbs, and I still have a youthful face. I can't win for shit when it comes other mothers and women my age with children. Their demeanor changes at the speed of light when they find out we're the same age. And don't let them have a mom bod and no offspring 😅😅😅
At work ! I just left a toxic workplace because of this behavior, they would hang out and leave me alone and were unnecessarily combative my first few weeks until they realized that I’m as nice as everyone says from my previous job (transferred offices) and it got back to me that they were talking about me, my friend/ old coworkers told me it must be jealousy or something because “everyone gets along w/ you” it got to a point where I was given their extra work by my female boss who constantly spends her days talking about men and how she doesn’t feel wanted. I still overextended myself bought lunch tried to be as nice as possible but the projection was still there.
Oh, I believe you 💯 I’ve dealt with jealousy, discrimination, harassment & one-sided competition from the same little mob of hyenas for 7 years in the workplace. It got so bad I had to quit last year because my mental health was declining rapidly as a result of accumulated abuse 💆🏽♀️ I could write a whole book about my experiences 🤦🏽♀️
I’m so glad I came across this channel. ❤I know someone who constantly points out any enhancement that I do, when they see me. Comments like ‘are your lashes real?’ ‘Wow do you have on color contacts?’ And the comments are usually made when men are around. It’s strange and sad. I just try to do me, best I can 🤦🏽♀️
I'm so happy I found this. I noticed this was happening to me but thought it was all in my head. I'm a model in NYC and the way they try to humiliate me when im with asian and white women...
This just hit the spot. I’ve recently experienced this in a workplace. It was my first day on the job which was very high paced. She piled me with so much information that I couldn’t grasp in a day and told me she doesn’t like repeating herself which was signing me up for failure. The micro aggressions and insults were insane. I left so traumatised. And sometimes it’s not just beauty alone that trigger people, but how you dress and take the extra steps to look good plus the confidence you carry yourself with. I have also experienced this in high school where a group of girls would immediately dislike me upon arrival at school because that meant I would now take away the attention from the guys.
I had this same problem while in the Marine Corps. Had a brown nosing coworker who did everything to make me look stupid in front of the higher ups. It backfired on them when they didn’t know I had already completed the tasks ahead of schedule
Yea, I’m tired of being the doormat! I’m tired of having to hide my body to make others feel better. Thank you for this! I’m 34 and I’ve been hiding my entire life
Its interesting because there are 2 very opposing sides to it. In some areas you get treated better than others, but where its a double edged sword, you face a lot of hatred and mistreatment by complete strangers and even your own "friends" and family
The work issue is legit real. Its disgusting how people can act. We all have insecurities but having an insecurity doesnt give you an excuse to treat others that have what you want like trash. I had to deal with a devil like this at work. Also, ladies BE CAREFUL of people quick to be in your life and pretend to be your friend. These types have one agenda, to bring you down and destroy you from the inside. Be careful and dont be quick to share your life or secrets.
I've always been a loner / introvert. People's opinions of me don't matter. I've been gorgeous all my life, and everything mentioned in this video is all true.
I used to work at the grocery store and it was hell lol if it weren’t so bad I wouldn’t have applied to art therapy grad school. I got in so blessing in disguise ❤️
It’s a mirror to others if they don’t take care of themselves…they may feel inadequate. There was this lady being so kind and talkative to couple ahead of me then when it was my turn she turned cold faced. I was friendly and vibing high, but she just made it clear she wasn’t friendly towards me. A few days ago a woman clearly glared at me as she walked by. Things like this happen when you attractive and it isn’t just sunshine and rainbows.
It’s almost like you’re blessing can be your curse if you’re not careful. Bc men who are insecure love to make you feel less then! It’s so sad. We should lift each other up
Wow you just summed up what happened to me last week. I got invited to a girl’s night by my husband’s work friend’s wife. She invited me to join her and her two friends to hang out. When I showed up, any attempt I made to be friendly and initiate a conversation, they would be so curt and short. Anything I shared would come to a full stop and they showed zero interest in getting to know me or keeping the conversation going. I was getting mean girled by 2 obese women… I was like, this must be a jealousy thing cause I’m doing nothing to deserve this mistreatment
I'm not mixed and I have experienced all of these things my entire life, from fake friends, so called family, and every job. I was literally being gangedstalked at one job by women and men. Smh It's so exhausting. Glad to see someone speaking out about this.
Yesss!! My coworkers are always doing this. They make sure i know im not in their circle. I have quit jobs over workplace bullying before and im considering it again after the evil ones all got promoted and they kept me at the bottom. They dont want to do any favors for me thats for sure. Ugh i needed this today thank you ❤️
every single thing you mentioned and more happened to me. I used to rent out a flat with 3 girls i studied with at uni. they consistently excluded me from everything, despite wanting me to be their friend when we were not in a group. I'd offer a day trip, they'd go alone. it was heartbreaking at the time, but now I see the truth. get yourself some pretty & smart friends instead.
Please talk about it! Because other channels always talk about how being beautiful makes you have a lot of friends, yes it can but also people can exclude you, especially at work.
I wouldn’t say I’m pretty enough to experience this all the time, but I absolutely have had this happen with certain women who were very insecure when I was feeling confident. The biggest issue I had was with my ex friend. When we’d go out in our early twenties. I was usually a bit more outgoing and I loved looking nice, and this friend would CONSTANTLY put me down and try to embarrass me in front of men. I think being attractive in any way (especially discipline being involved) threatens people. I’ve been the triggered one, and it’s miserable! There will ALWAYS be a prettier person, if not now then later. We may as well put effort into what we have, and love people for more than their looks.
OMG even on family, i have been raised with the narrative that i was dumb not intelligent enough to do law studies, rejected from female family members and so called friends... But i still believe that we can have true connections. Sometimes, i was seeing to myself that i should hide body and face to stop this circle lmao. Thanks for this channel !
Its better to be a mean pretty girl with a nice personality but pick your surroundings and enjoy your beauty because of God blessing and radiate that GLOW !!!....am now 65yrs been though it all because my inner soul is also beautiful and it made me straightforward with my appoach with people and treat them accordingly....but know youre in control....and life is also Beautiful ❤❤❤🙏
It’s so crazy.. I always thought something is wrong with me because after you mentioned a lot about my experience about being bullied, isolated and all through my whole life, I realize that, wow.. there’s always a reason that people hate because they are insecure and try to dim your light, so they always project it towards you. Especially I went through many patterns through all my ex bffs, I realize that, every time I’m around them, it’s always something with their negativity that they project on me. For example, my childhood ex bff would exclude me from a friend group and said, “you’re not in the club and you can’t join.” Even most times, I get weird looks from people because I knew she probably said something to people about me. Even she tries to humiliate me in public by mentioning a lot about my insecurities, embarrassing moments and all. Even the real and blunt people warn me about her and I didn’t listen until I realize that, I have to make a last straw to cut her off because I was constantly getting hurt by her and she won’t stop at all. There would be people out there that wish you the worst and wouldn’t be happy for you. Their pride and ego would kick hard so instead, they would dim your light and they feel good when you go through the bad. To all the pretty people out there, You are not alone. Nothing is wrong with you. Understand that, it’s them. Not you. You had a reason to be alone because, you set yourself boundaries from others that tried to harm you. You’re doing an amazing job for prioritizing yourself and discipline yourself on your beauty because not everyone can’t do that. You are a rare gem and never change that about yourself. There would be good people out there that, love and admire about you. Your beauty and elegance radiates and there’s always a reason why, a demon hates the beautiful radiating light. Stay strong my loves xoxo
😮💨 I noticed this so much in high school and in my early 20s…from frenimies and so-called family members, alike. I don’t even talk to those people anymore. Deactivated certain social media accounts, as well. The unnecessary hate is too triggering.
Wow! My daughter 17 is going through this I feel so bad for her she can’t even enjoy the high school experience no real friends just fakes that want to drain her energy use her for fashion advice and free hair styles and as soon as things don’t go there way it’s hell to pay.
Please asvise her to stay away from them i just turnt 28 and went through hell in my teens with ex friend's especially from 17-19 my reputation got messed up along the way aswell as of now im a loner as my experience with women friends has been horrible and alot of them used me for clout etc but never actually liked me your daughter has skills tell her to work hard and focus on building a business for herself if only I knew the things I knew about life today back than I would of definitely of stayed away from ex friends shes still very young and has time the right friends for her will come along
@riecheiech592 yes thank you, it’s funny you say your reputation got messed up because they tried there best to ruin hers alway trying to so called “hook her up” with the low life bums whenever she talked to someone decent they would find any dirt on them and had there ex girlfriends ready to fight her , telling boys she not pretty she’s a catfish, they say no it’s not we seen her in person , just so much so draining I really feel bad for my daughter can’t wait until high school is over. Sorry to vent but I’m so tired.
@@lawainapittman5178 I understand so it's okay and that's what those hating ass girls do they will always try to lower the pretty girls value or mess up her market as they know that men will naturally be interested in a pretty girl/woman and personality comes into play after the stuff I've heard about myself the past decade has been absolutely mind blowing I'm not saying I was 100% innocent in my earlier years but some of the rumors were disgusting a ex friend even started a rumor that I had H.i.v all in the name of jealousy and about them messing up your daughter's chance with decent guys is relatble Ive just gone through a simliar situation with a woman whos even 5years my senior talking rubish about me to a potential lovers friend about me she used to hook up with my potential lovers friend & is mad that he never took her seriously so try mess up my thing with hes friend I cussed her out and shes blocked me you need to tell your daughter to stay away from those girls because the hatred will only get worse as they get older believe me
LOL, I have naturally large breasts. I have always been that way. I have heard people (women) whispering and discussing whether they are real. Or people assume I have no brain and that I just get things because of my body. I think it is funny since I am hard-working and highly educated.
If you are not black it's super rare to be built like that. Very skinny with a fat butt/large breasts is like 1/5000 or so, the disbelief is warranted.
This video is necessary. I’m a 42 yr old Accountant. I’m trying to leave Corp America because of this. I’m tired of catty spiteful women in the workplace. 😤😔
This has happened since I was in Kindergarten. I suffered from depression as early as 5 yrs old. My mother and my sister were my biggest haters. I was the petite one but I always thought my little sister was gorgeous. I've never been high maintenance and I literally hated myself because I thought something was wrong with me. I'm 43 now with kids. I found my inner peace around 38. My kids are my happy place. I have 7. Each child has added confidence, and believe it or not higher self esteem and just a reason to live because I am challenged everyday. Without my kids I never would have known how great I am on the inside. I finally belong somewhere. Thank you so much for putting this video out.
When your beautiful, smart and introverted they want to crucify you.
Yes, I feel they actually want you dead. It’s sick.
Absolutely 👍
💯 sad but TRUE
And this is why I’m mean. I can be the nicest person but I’m quick to let folks know I’m not the one! Respect is earned and my pretty doesn’t care how you feel if you can’t respect me
100
I never associated it with being pretty but I always say, "When people feel intimidated by you, they will try to humble you."
Yes !
@nicoleraheem1195 Yes it's more so about someone feeling intimidated. If you are happy and bright or charismatic or high performing people will try to tear you apart or cut you down.
This is Deep!
Oh yes, they really do it to pretty womwn and girls.
@@drnefarious2758 Yes I am in that. But looking at other post I can be optimistic look on the bright side maybe I get attack over that being ugly and happy some people think they are entitled to more happiness than you.
When you're beautiful women hate you because they can't be you & men hate you because they can't have you. Even "friends & family" do this. It's disgusting.
right
@@knowledgetree7134They couldn't care less if you're a good person. You can be the most loving & supportive toward these people & they will hate on you anyway including gossiping about you. They already can't stand that you're the most noticed in the room, you think they also want you to be fun or sweet or smart? No, they don't. They want to make you look bad.
Well said even if you’re a good person
So true
@knowledgetree7134 this doesn't apply to pretty girls
Being pretty can bring so much loneliness.
It really does. Sometimes I try to make myself ugly and messy so people don’t think I’m trying to threaten the situation or whatever. But even then I’ve been made fun of for having too much of a confident walk even though I’m just walking normally. People are insane.
Yes!
@@vashtikelly6837 it’s not that we want to dim it’s just the attacks can be harsh.
Yep!
YEP! It’s either dim your light and be uncomfortable or be alone. If you can find a place where you can be yourself and be appreciated, you’ve lucked up!
This is soooo real. Especially if you're pretty and "nice". Because then you attract jealous people AND bullies who view you as an easy target because of your demeanor.
Omg yes !
Wow this is so true.
Literally,it just sucks 🥹
Exact tea !!!!
im nice to ppl unless they gie me a a reason not to and im quick to anger so ...
Many people have yet to mentally leave grade/middle school.
AMEN 🙌🏾 🙏🏾
You said it best!
Big facts!
Older women are worse.
Amen sister 😊❤
This is just my opinion. But the cruelest thing about this form of treatment is that it occurs in the workplace. They are affecting your ability to earn money and survive.
Right!
And whatever success you actually achieve, some will attribute your accomplishments to your looks, regardless of the work it took!
Some people believe that you're treated better, when you look better.
And that's not always true!
There are some who live for the opportunity to "punish" in whatever way they can, from having a rude attitude, to backstabbing sabotage!
Yup, literally got written up for wearing a turtleneck, and then the next week, the supervisor started wearing her daughter’s clothes. We all know who submitted the complaint
You have men that do this even more than women in the workplace, America is off the charts childish, petty, toxic, retarded, and gay.
so true just left my current job this week my dream career due to the bullying.
Being pretty will bring alot of oppressive behavior your way from others
Yes !
So true
True
Facts ❤
Yes I used to have a male boss and he was easygoing, he just left me alone to do my job. Then he left and was replaced with this obese lady and she is extremely controlling towards women she feels threatened by, micromanaging, and just lords her power over them. The seething jealousy just oozes from her pores. She gossips, lies, and interrogates people. So many people have left because of her but somehow she gets to stay in that position.
The worst thing is they constantly WATCH us. Like, if you have such an issue with me, leave me alone 😕.
Right! Can we just be cute in peace ?!
It’s because they’re secretly obsessed
@@Cookiedesigns254that’s the worst it’s so annoying I feel people are obsessed with me everywhere I go and I’m not even exaggerating like I see and feel people watch me all the time and I say to myself people are are obsessed with me and it’s not even like I like it because I don’t like being the center of attention but I always am it’s annoying but also I like to look cute so it’s like I’m not be looking like a bum but even when I look like a bum people pay attention so really I can’t win
Aint no winning with these social media freak weirdos. Only thing work for me is praying for Gods protection 🙏💯@@evianpree9619
Yes! 😂
It's literally insane how people can try to make YOU feel, when the whole time, they're really just jealous 😑😒
Exactly 😂 I be in my own world. I never came off as being that pretty. They will try 2 make you feel less all the time when it's them.
It’s a Jedi mind trick. 😉
@@asiacollege12 Exactly, the very first chance they get! Like, dang! 🤣🙄😑
@@wisdomdantecourt8179 😫😂😂
“I am a reflection of all of your insecurities” -Drake
*that is EXACTLY what it is.*
Literally
If a guy tells you what made me like you or I didn’t even think you would like me, he’s going to bring you down and play you.
yes omg!
My ex told me something like that smh! He said he’d thought I wouldn’t notice him bc he was so “quiet” and “to himself”.
And he was right, lol.
Same
Needs to be talked about , people bullying pretty girls. It’s not fair! They get so much hate.
Exactly!
I've been noticing that people don't look at my face when I am talking to them, but I can feel them starting when I'm not looking. Glad to know I'm not imagining this.
Omg yes !!!
Agreed!!
That stare is an energy exchange. 💕
Omg we all live the same lives
@@Poodle_Gunoh my God,😭😭😭😭😭😭😪that just made me hate being around people, Im naturally sarcastic and when people do that it truly breaks my heart shame💔
What frustrates me is because you can't call it out for what it is, because people will deny deny deny, that you end up looking crazy.
Exactly! Then they'll be like "well you have pretty privilege, what are you complaining about?" Uhhh how about ALL THIS UNWANTED, NEGATIVE ATTENTION?!??
That’s why many women are afraid to speak up because other people will humiliate them
They will never admit it and try very hard to conceal their hate. It’s painful to realize, but sometimes doing so can end up saving your life. Because they are quick to set you up in a situation that can be very harmful to you.
So so true 😢
My supervisor had a BBL & boob job. She tried so hard to be the center of attention, and I was glad to let her have it. She would BLATANTLY exclude me from every professional situation possible with personal behaviors and I would just laugh. Her husband (my boss) couldn’t even have a conversation with me without her running into my office and interrupting… and the amount of shit she allowed to be done to me by her friends in the workplace was insane … and all I did was show up for work everyday. It was EXHAUSTING
It’s the secret second group chat where all the bs goes down
Yes Omg !
I quit recently & one of the guys I work w/ slipped and said they had an argument in the GC & stuttered trying to explain it & I’m like I really idc + I knew about it already lol, he also told me that I was the only office “eye candy” and now that I’m leaving he got nothing to look at like whattttt ?? 😂😂
I swear it's hard being an attractive person, who is kind, non jealous (because I am constantly working on myself), and goal oriented. Hard to find good people in this world as good female friends....smh.
Girl!!!!!
True.
Do you girl. People gonna spend their time hating on you. Hang in there and continue letting your light shine
@@birdlover5 Thank you for that beautiful!
literally my struggle rn, i have no friends or girls that talk to me because they feel intimidated by me and don't want their bfs to know i exist
And don't be pretty, smart, and bold to speak your mind. I literally refuse to work 9-5s anymore because of the amount of haters I've had to deal with (women and males). Managers, bosses, etc. And the sexual harassment from the guys in workplaces. Also, I have come to the point in my journey where if any woman I meet is male-identified I cannot associate with her. If you're not a girl's girl and secure in yourself, we do not need to be associating whatsoever!
I also love that more creators are speaking on this. It's like because we are pretty, we can't have problems or feelings because we have it "easy". Thank you for this channel and for making this a safe space 💗
Same!!!! A 9-5 put me in such mental despair it’s not even funny. Harassment from the men, then hatred, and awful negative jealous vibes from the women.
THIS!!!
@@sarahw3055 and it sucks because they really try to play with your livelihood over a check! Gurl, I had a muscle spasm in my back that didn’t go away until I quit my last job. I promised myself I would never put myself through any of that again! I will find my own safe and peaceful way lol 😭🥹💕
I think your personality has something to do with it. The fact that you won’t associate with someone who is male-identified but could be nice person sounds like you are the issue.
@@Frugal637 why would I as a woman who doesn’t center males in her life, be around and try to form a bond with someone who does?? Explain to me how that works?
I kept on getting poor customer service and recently understood why. This is just sad
Right !
Same! They make you wait and test your patience. Taking your kindness for weakness
Literally had a female worker skip my entire $30 order in a train station cafe. I was seconds away from missing my ride 😑
Trust me I was treated like this for real! That’s why I’m a homebody introvert and my friends are all older women in their 70s and 80s ! I no joke am friends with elderly women ! They are amazing and down to earth and kind ❤🙏🏽
Oh, I believe it for the most part.
@@adriennerobinson4668 why don’t you believe this so ! Do you need me to upload my day to day to prove it cause I will 🙏🏽
It is sad to admit that I think part of the reason it is easier to befriend elder women is because they're no longer in the ring and can't get back in if they tried. Because to my experience the women in their 50s-60s are the meanest, most underhanded. I more or less deduced that it is because the men that they could be with are looking for distractions (thus at risk of these women losing "status" around other women their age and lifestyle). I'm glad you've found anyone to not be lonely actually.
@@eyesthrurosecoloredglasses i take care of veterans and their wives have truly become my friends 🧡 i dont have any women my age that i could ever trust because they have betrayed me and manipulated me or used me for their convenience! And also i have faith and i have a beautiful friendship with my Lord creator ! So for me that is all i need 🙏🙌🧡💯🫶
I’ve noticed that I do get intimidated by pretty women and I need to stop that! I just need to work on my insecurities so I can better myself. Great video
Yup! We’re all working on ourselves over here , so you’re not alone ! ❤️
Woooow! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Big step.
You being able to admit that is amazing. wish more people were like you
You’re beautiful and don’t let no one tell you otherwise. Be intimidated of you because you’re the pretty one hun.
❤❤❤
The expectation to be "nice" is nauseating.
I tell my daughter "It's not good to be pretty and nice. I like a mean pretty woman, who has the potential for kindness. nice is phony."
I also teach my daughter to WORK HARD.
Another form of Abuse in the work place is by assuming you are where you are because you're pretty.
They will never credit to your work. The right people will notice
You don't have to use your looks, because people expect that. Your looks are an after thought.
I can't handle it from men. Most people see it for what it is. HOWEVER, I can't stand it when it comes from women, and it's worse when it comes from a gay man.
There is truth to this. When I was in highschool I was in my awkward phase. Women would often scoff at me, looking at me from above so to speak, but it was never the pretty girls. Pretty ones were always nice to me. It was average girls who were mean, while guys mostly ignored me. Then when I got 18 I had this random glow up, just grew into myself and started to carry myself in a very feminine way. Men started to be supernice to me, pretty girls remained nice, but the average women became enraged with me. Still to this day everywhere I go they seem to look for ways to bring me down, hate on me and sabotage me. If I am in their space they will claw to get me out of there, even though Ive done nothing to them. Instead of working on themselves they will focus on destroying the competition.
Omg yes ! I’ve noticed that it’s usually the leveled down women who are the most triggered. usually the women who are focused on improving THEMSELVES don’t have time to compare themselves to me or worry about what I’m doing
@@ExoticalsUnited I agree! When youre happy with yourself you just dont care. Ofc some people just dont have that meaness in them, but a lot do! Its the sad reality that is not talked about a lot
YES average/ugly women r the most jealous haters 🐍 and the pretty women r usually nice
The same thing happened to me except it happened earlier for me which made things soo much worse. Not only did I have girls my age who didn't like me but I had older girls mistreat me because their crushes liked me 🤦🏽♀️ and don't even get me started on the negative attention I received from males too.
I’ve experienced the same and had this happen at work as a performer. Some girls ganged up on me because I was getting all the attention 😭
The way a girl at my last job sabotaged me, and our boss took her side and not only promoted but protected her. Being one of the only black women in the office this caused an amount of trauma I’m still trying to recover from. When they say corporate was not made for us, this is what they mean. When you mind your own business and just try and work and other people’s insecurities are the reason they mess with your bag? Lord help, I hope he continues to expose those this year that do wrong.
one of the very reasons I quit corporate. Had a manager completely try to sabotage me getting a raise. Every corporate job I've had came with a package of haters. Never again!
@@cojo.725 Every single damn one!but then what’s the alternative? Starting your own business?
Im in that same boat. 😑
I just left a job because of this. Hang in there, you'll be okay eventually.
I really thought I was trippin. I happy to see that I am not alone.
My goodness, this has explained so much of my life. My beauty combined with my intellect and introversion has triggered people my whole life. Wow. Thanks so much for helping me feel less alone.
Yes! How dare you be pretty and smart at the same time ! Lol
@@ExoticalsUnited Exactly! . . . and introverted (with the ability to socialize when needed) @mousepajamas8056 - this is so satisfying, I second the thanks and sentiment!
& then they’re like “oh how dare u say that? bc do you think your a god ? Like no I’m a human being who deserves respect
Yes!! I used to blame myself all the time because "I must've done something wrong for them to not like me" despite being introverted and unnoticeable as possible yet there was still an issue. But now i realize that's exactly why they didn't like me. I was so humble that even in trying to dim my lights to make others comfortable, I still outshined them no matter what 😂😭
Its so bizarre, I avoid going in public because I am very sensitive. People are so mean.
Same
If you only knew how mean they are on Tik Tok.
I wear glasses now. Keeps most of the haters away.
i always call out my mom when she starts hating on some girl on tv or a video or picture for no reason, i remind her she doesn't even know who that girl is and she's calling her gross looking and stuff just cause the girl is confident
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I remember some years ago I was telling a old friend about some of my family trauma and what I was going through and he literally said to me “ be careful opening up to people bc you’re very pretty and a lot of people may feel like your whining or complaining and not take you serious” Till this day I notice coworkers even my teachers in school do not try to help me if I need help, its like they think I have it easy already?
Unfortunately, yes. Lots of judgemental, undermining, manipulative Bitter Betties out there. Starting within the family often times.
I faced so much bullying in this group in college that I tried to dull myself down. Stopped getting my hair/nails done, stopped speaking as much, but it didn’t matter. I’m glad I’m growing out of that now.
I’ve dulled myself down my whole life and I’m ready to break out of that now. I wanna take care of myself , be confident , & genuinely like how I look in the mirror idk how to lean into my femininity though
girl…. wearing messy buns everyday, baggy clothes, no makeup and erasing my whole personality.. i’ve done it all throughout highschool/college and it has become my personality now and i feel empty as fuck
@@protected444time to build and reinvent yourself....sounds like the perfect time to start from ground zero.
@@j.a.g546 I was the same way. Leaning into your femininity starts with taking accountability & nurturing yourself in the areas you need. Just as you would nurture others, give that kind, friendly energy to yourself. Knowing when to slow down, to check your toxic feminine energy if you need to like gossiping, jealousy etc. Anything that triggers you, pay attention to it WITHIN YOURSELF and work on it. Don't project outward like other people, that's where they fumble their growth & a chance at genuine relationships.
I used to watch a lot of black content creators and had to drop them just based on their rant mindsets, and you could tell they were bitter, angry, and not working on themselves internally..but the channel that helped me the most that I still watch today is "The Feminine Yoni" which is ran by "Real talk with Yanie." Her lifestyle channel "the feminine yoni" has really great tips, as well as her main channel, but you have to scroll through the social issues stuff, though she drops good gems in them from time to time. Just listen to her like a podcast on an video that resonates with you. TonyaTKO is also great, when she talks about lifestyle and doesn't focus on race or social issues, though I never heard her saying anything colorist, but there is a lot of emphasis on race sometimes but she has GREAT self help advice, and sometimes you have to dig through that info to find the gems. But that's why I like Yanie now, because she has decentered men and really focuses more on the WOMAN, and designing your life without male or "other" validation but your own. Watching her growth has been beautiful and inspiring too, and she just glows so much more now, compared to when she was trying to gain male & other people's approval.
I also suggest "crappy childhood fairy" and "therapy in a nutshell", so you can unpack & understand your traumas and triggers as stuff starts to bubble up, and cope with them in healthy ways, to stay focused on making progress! I know so many more channels but I don't want to keep promoting people under someone else's channel. Just start there. Also read more self help books, so you can expand your critical thinking and keep your mind focused on solving your problems as they spring up. Don't use the information to pick yourself apart, but use it in a collaborative way like "how can I use this to improve my life?" And if it doesnt resonate with you, just let it go or put it in a journal somewhere, & don't take it to heart. But the access to that self help knowledge, will sow seeds and help you grow no matter what season you are in. Do the same with finding positive UA-cam channels because sometimes it's better having a coach or guide, versus constantly reading too. I also reccomend keeping a journal or video diary so you can track your progress in realtime, collect your & organize thoughts, as well as see how much you've grown as time passes by. Lean into your femininity by leaning into nurturing youself, naturally as a woman would, but youre just turning that energy inward, so it radiates out.
I know I'm responding to an old comment but you got this! ❤ I hope you've made progress you're excited about so far! Blessings!
I get this from men women young and old. I’m 40 years old. If you keep yourself up ladies it never ends. Stand up ladies and never fold.
I'm at a new job in a hospital and when people foumd out I'm years old, they were shocked. Then women of all ages - including 20-somethings- try to bring you down. The women at work imagine I wear a ton of makeup. I was just wearing a tinted sunscreen. If I wear a lip gloss, they complain loud, "Oh, you're wearing lipstick. Are you trying to get a boyfriend at work?" Meanwhile, these girls are coming to work in their long nails and fake eyelashes which are forbidden in healthcare setting. If I'm wearing a new scrub, they say, "your scrubs are so cute. You're trying to catch men."
Like the fact I'm older, yet still fit and my skin looks young, and single, and gets attention from men at work triggers them hard.
And the men, who were nice to me in the beginning, act surly to me because I won't actually date them who are young enough to me my nephews, or because I'm simply talking to other men. But then if I actually dated any of them, I'm afraid how much it's gonna trigger everyone at work. I feel like I'm constantly being watched and judged. Leave me alone, I'm just trying to focus on my job when you losers are obsessed with me
Finding secure people to date and for friendship is so important. I've met so many mean girls and jealous men in my journey.
Same.
Marilyn Monroe had to deal with this jealousy problem all her life and her afterlife too 😊😅
I had a woman tell me that it was too bad I wasn’t invited to a party. I laughed in her face! 🤣
😂😂😂
I had this conversation this morning about the humiliation at the workplace. BW had seen me as "uppity" and try to bring me down with my attitude even though I'm mostly quiet and love you be in work mode. Thank you. This is the therapy I need 🎉🎉❤❤❤
Yes! Hopefully you can listen to these videos in your earphones to help your workday go by faster and remind you that you are NOT your job! You have a life and goals outside of the workplace !
I'm not perfect but can be pretty. I have been humiliated beyond words physically and mentally. I'm hurt and exhausted. I have never been a bully or prideful but still attacked. I feel sick at times.
Just got fired for this. I barely have female friends because of this and a lie off my family has backstabbed me because of this. Almost feels like a curse
Omg you’re not alone ! I hope you join the patreon and discord to vent with us ! you are not delusional!
@@ExoticalsUnitedthank you so much 😢🙏🏿
I was fired a week ago because of a sabotaged job...🙄 female trainer? Yep...
Same.
I dress up 👗 am nice and soft spoken. Unfortunately it attracts meanies. I used to be more abrasive and clap back at people but today I have embraced the biblical concept of turning the other cheek and not doing evil for evil. I have been embracing a more meek disposition. I’ve found that God has been fighting my battles for me! 🙌🏽 I also found that said person will feel bad and come back and apologize to me in a round about way or even someone else will take up for me. I like this much better than arguing with crazy. Arguing is beneath me & I don’t have to engage in such low class activity
So true, it’s always the crustiest guys who try to drag down women out of jealousy and resentment for their own tackiness
What I've noticed, too.
I have recently become more confident and I won’t allow the same kinds of behaviors I used to let slide. I started really standing up for myself with family members and I realized that once people have treated you disrespectfully for any length of time, it is more difficult to get them to start showing respect when it didn’t start at the beginning of the relationship. I think cutting off some of these people is gonna be the only option because they really lash out at you setting boundaries midway thru the relationship.
Exactly. It’s easier to completely cut someone off than to have to spend the rest of your life “training” them on how to treat you, letting them mess up over and over, etc .
This happens to me every day.
Same!
Right 😂😂
I get either compliments from men or dark looks from women trying to humiliate me/ look for an imperfection in me
Same! And they stare at me all the time. What is that supposed to do? Are you sizing me up or trying to piss me off and make me uncomfortable? Then got the nerve to call me ugly when y’all are doing all what y’all doing.
Me too 😮
Also, they exclude you because if they were inclusive, the light / the attention would be only on you and that's unbearable for them.
Studies show that people praise “uglier” people more aka pander to them. It’s the ugly duckling complex. People do it out of sympathy.
If you are beautiful you have to go way up. You can’t be regular because you will just be stepped on. You have to fight and go all the way to the top where people will look like you or move like you.
Beauty is also about magnetism and attraction based on habits, practices or beliefs that make you beautiful and rare. I.e. graceful soft black women- very magnetic because it’s sweet yet people pick on these type of women thinking they’re “weak”. They hate a peaceful woman that people want to be around.
Beautiful people don’t have the luxury of being average they will be swallowed up by the darkness. You have to step out. I wish I learned this at a younger age.
Omg that’s SO true . You CANT be average if you’re pretty you HAVE to shoot for the top in order to stay safe ! Pretty girls are targeted in average everyday jobs, the hoods, etc.
@@ExoticalsUnited People judge and make assumptions about you so if you find yourself in unfavorable circumstances no one will help you. They will say “look at you….You’re pretty why can’t you help yourself.” This is why so much beauty black women end up doing weird stuff or settling for less than they are worth because the black community is hateful. Other communities in the west respect their beautiful daughters (in general). They are treasures to be elevated not down pressed. Girl I can go on about this. Do a part 2 to this video. Make a private video and have girls call in.
Beautiful black girls ain’t safe in lower class areas in general.
This is a hard pill that im learning to swallow these bitches gonna hate me even more!🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭
@@ExoticalsUnitedcrimes too 😢
Yes I was just reflecting on this regarding men. I have to go allllll the way to the top because they’ll eventually they go for a more economical version of myself. Shouldn’t be happening to someone like me, need a different demographic and that’s UP in every single way
I stopped wearing makeup and started being super friendly because I thought girls would be less threatened by me that way. Now I realize your appearance will always be a threat to them and they will always think of you as a potential homewrecker even if you have never done anything like that. What’s the point in being nice if they’re going to hate you regardless?
Yes! I did the same too and when it was time to get dolled up and put my makeup on they were shocked! Like couldn’t believe it and then pretty much gave me shit about it the whole time.
Lol I used to work at Walmart and I used to go with a beat face EVERYDAY. One of my coworkers came up to me and said why do you wear so much makeup everyday and I told her practice makes perfect lol. I just don’t see how me wearing makeup could bother someone so much!
Omgg this is so true! Whole time I don't want their man I want them LOL
@@itsjordierimajThat's ridiculous😯
Story of my life not to mention people just want to be friends with us just to only get close to us and if we going through something we try to vent to them but the whole time all they want is a lil information about you just to make a whole fake story line to tell others just to make you feel bad . Then next thing you know they’re not hanging around you anymore.
yes a lot of women want to get close to pretty girls so they can figure out how to sabatoge them socially.
OMG story of my life this is scary!
@@riechriech592Guess we all go through the same thing. I was once friends with a girl soon as I started talking to someone else she started to become jealous because I wasn’t talking to her. Some females are weird af .
Right they try to one up you and size you up to quietly compete. For me idc to make any friends at work they’re co workers far as I know. If you just do work with lil to no talk to keep focus they hate you even more.
@@patricerenee1717don't forget about the hate train/campaign they start. Lord have mercy on them. They know no better. 😅
I’ve definitely been excluded 🤦🏽♀️ I had a friend that I used to hangout with but every time I’d get in a serious relationship she would start acting funny and stop inviting me places. It started becoming really obvious that she was miserable that she wasn’t getting the types of guys I was getting. I used to tell her about all of the nice things they would do for me and her response was “ it must be nice” my last straw was when she stood me up at the club for my birthday and then she had the nerve to tell me a few months later that she went to the same club with someone else 🙄 and she would always make little slick comments over the years but it seems like she’s become bitter and has been lashing out so I had to end a 12 year relationship because I wasn’t about to let her bring me down with her.
I’m pretty and autistic. Life is hell and I feel excluded everywhere
Sameeee 😭
I feel.
I wish I would’ve known this back in high school. My friends had me thinking there was something wrong with me. I’m 23 now and realize what was going on but I remember how they would treat me just because I was the pretty girl in the friend group getting attention for boys/men I never asked for. I let a lot of backhanded compliments/jealousy slide for the sake of friendship. It took a while but I realized there’s nothing wrong with being naturally pretty, this is how I was born. If that offends you then that’s your problem not mine. I use to dress down when around them because if I dressed up I was “doing too much” now I wear whatever the fuck I want because I can. Sometimes It really is the people around you that give the most hate. Don’t get me started on the work environment😂
Literally in therapy because I thought I had been perceiving this on my own. Like Im sure some of the time it is me misreading interactions but THIS IS A REAL THING. super scary. especially if youre kind hearted ...but like she said, just ignore it. Its easier said than done but once you master staying present in the moment and not letting others trigger emotions that cloud your judgement you will be so POWERFUL.
Right. All of our experiences can’t just be made up. We can’t all be lying
The amount of times I’ve been harassed and even assaulted for being pretty, and by my own mom too
I’m sorry that has happened to you and I pray that God, through Christ Jesus will protect you. Sadly when you receive this treatment from family it makes you wonder where is there a safe place? Mothers and daughters can have a relationship that is a beautiful one or one that can be disastrous. And it is more difficult when people don’t see the errors of their ways and try to resolve it.
@@ijustwanttosay7417 thank you so much I really can’t wait to move out
I usually dull my makeup and outfits down so people don’t feel threatened, because I don’t want to deal with people acting passive aggressive. I really just need to do what I want and not care if others have an issue with it
I used to do this. I learned no matter if I toned myself down in hopes to not make them insecure but it does not work. You may as well be yourself bc they are gonna hate you regardless
I use to do this but I stopped dimming my lights
I don’t wear makeup at all anymore. I got sick of the reactions from men. I did a little experiment while I was working as a barista, on some days I’d wear makeup and I’d get so many men harassing me and expecting me to be flirty and on the days I didn’t wear makeup they’d usually leave me alone. So no makeup for me anymore.
@@EvaeAwakeyup!!! I notice a difference in treatment and attention when I'm dolled and dressed down.
At my current job, we have to wear hair nets, no lashes, no jewelry, etc. Nothing (a food plant). It doesn't matter if I go in with old baggy clothes or tight pants and a semi cute shirt, I still get a lot of attention from the men. The insecure women just stare and watch me work while seething. I honestly don't give a shit. I only go to work to excute what's in the job description. Winning a popularity contest isn't one of my duties. "If you got beef, your problem, not mine." MJB
Pretty, nice, and intelligent! Omg the formula for emotional abuse! People leave information out on purpose to exclude. This is so real!! 😮
An ex friend of mine always needed constant reassurance, she would always need me to tell her She’s pretty or make her feel like she’s pretty and I didn’t then I guess I’m a bad friend. It was extremely emotionally draining and I couldn’t be confident or talk about my achievements in front of her causing she will always try to find a way to “humble me” or try “being real” with me. After a while I realized that she was a covert narcissist and I had to leave and later on found out that she been talking bout me to my friends saying that I use confidence as a mask to sexualize myself cause I wear crop tops and skirts. Luckily she got her karma and all of her friends Saw her true colors and left her. Ladies if you ever meet someone like this RUN it’s not worth it
Wtf! wow I’m glad you got her out of your life !
I notice it and laugh because it must hurt to have that much discontent in your heart towards someone for something they can’t control. Get over it 🤷🏾♀️😵💫🤣
Right 😭😭😭
Yes love I agree too!
I love when they say it's because of my job that I'm slim after having kids. No, ma'am. I literally get it from my mama.
😭😭😭😭omg. I found my space. I TRIED verbalizing this to people around me and i feel like..... they take it wrong. Like "omg life sucks im pretty" No. Its deeper than what people who dont get it dont wanna hear.
It does and as an autistic it is beyond annoying
Why do some pretty girls get more friends, people want to be friends with them while some pretty girls are hated 😊
I think it’s because the pretty girls who are hated Carry a light in them that the demonic demons that have attached themselves to her enemies hate. The light, your innocence on top of you being beautiful will make you the target of unimaginable hatred and attacks.
@@camille3083aint that the truth!
I agree. I know some pretty girls that everyone loves and they are nice people and I understand why. There is something called the hallow effect where people are seen as being smart or good because of their looks. So not all pretty girls experience being treated like crap.
Because the popular pretty women usually befriend and attract other beautiful women and have their own powerful group while the hated ones are in environments with more average and ugly looking people.
personally having high standards, intelligence and morals. im a people person but like my independence and solitude. im starting to move like a brand to protect my peace.
I have been bullied all my life from my mother and my half sister. It was so bad that I became a target to other girl bullies at school because I wouldn’t defend myself. All my life I thought I was ugly and that I this treatment was my reality. I took many years to heal my self esteem and I finally realized I am attractive and that’s why I was treated so bad. My half sister always believed I was better than her but I came into this world never believing that. Now I deal with my coworkers who try to beat me down. I’m good with the customers and now they don’t want me to talk to the customers. I’m always not doing “enough” for them. It’s annoying
I first experienced all of this with family. When someone complimented me, my mama would come from the other side of the room and go off on them for telling me I’m pretty or if they were praising something I did. She did it so often I used to feel ashamed to get complimented. Whenever I would talk about my accomplishments, she and my siblings used to yell over me to avoid listening to me and would say I was conceited but I knew I wasn’t. My own mama has tried to sabotage me in many ways.
However, until your channel i didn’t make the correlation. I started realizing that many of her antics were eerily similar to jealous girls and even grown women, I’ve come across in the past. Even as a preteen she has always severely mistreated me. In my family I would constantly get the short end of the stick. When something between me and a sibling happened she would defend them and have more sympathy for them even if they started abs majority of the time they did. Though I didn’t understand sometimes I would feel it was jealousy but wasn’t sure… she was truly, though she never said it, it was implied, you’re pretty so get over it. She’s never told me I was pretty, but as I got older on days I looked decent she would literally call me ugly, but before doing so she would pout as if she was offended by my beauty.
Since I’ve realized that family can act no differently than strangers I don’t feel comfortable around them.
Same... I never connected the dots until hearing that other ladies experience it too and I literally got a confession recently. It just makes you look at everything differently 😐
@@lapeaches8006 especially if you’re still experiencing it. I just cannot look at them the same. They disgust me.
when people would compliment me, my mother would literally steal my compliment and say thank you and not even let me speak. She never called me pretty, never tried to help me with my beauty routines or show me how to take care of myself. I had to learn all that on my own. And then she would start coming to me asking me questions about certain routines. Always told me and others growing up "i think I'm better than other people" when I literally never showed that. It caused me to dim my light for so long to show I was "humble" and not conceited or arrogant.
And the slick remarks from close friends or family members "hey lil ugly" like. Had a cousin literally try to tarnish my name saying I was stuck up and thought I was better than other people SMH, and this same cousin slept with an ex-bf behind my back and I still forgave her.
Looking back I wish I would've stood up for myself but now idc. I show my light. And I haven't talked to my competitive jealous mother and hater relatives in years. TBH I want nothing to do with her or them. And I am at peace.
No offense to you, but your mom sound like a Narcissist.
@@cojo.725 yep and don’t allow them to guilt trip you for not wanting to accept their poor treatment or even be around them. Continue to stand your ground.
I love this! A lot of people think just because someone is beautiful/more attractive their social life is really easy…but that’s never the case! Beautiful/attractive people ESPECIALLY if you’re kind, get treated the worse
yup! its like constantly trying to prove like you're not stuck up or mean
It’s so weird. My own aunt who’s morbidly obese would always say “bones are for the dogs meat is for the men” I’m like lady you’ve been single for decades what are you talking about??? I’m literally still with my now husband when she’d project that sht onto me I was dating.
Ugh I hate it. And I hate that I feel the need to lower myself and dumb myself down for others limitations
You make the choice to lower yourself for the sake of other's comfort. The onus lies on you to change that.
PLEASE READ 💜
I’ve been verbally tortured my entire life.
THEY DONT KNOW I was a chunky teenager that suffered from depression, low self esteem, acne, anxiety and bullying.
THEY DONT KNOW that when I put myself together current day, it’s still a challenge for me to get ready and face the world. I actually LEARNED to love myself (not arrogantly or egotistical).
I suffer from lack of hair growth so I wear hair extensions, I have acne scars underneath my makeup foundation to cover it, and that I have a stomach pouch underneath flowy dresses.
Women need to STOP judging and verbally abusing other women. They are the problem, not you. They are the ones with low self esteem (still as adults) with extremely low confidence and insecurity - they feel internally threatened and challenged by confident women that actually showcase love for themselves.
The most beautiful women have been through the MOST pain: bad partners only dating them for their bodies or as an accessory to their ego, people pleasing toxic tendencies to heal from, being taken advantage of in relationships and workplace dynamics, and lastly, being mentally, emotionally and physically abused by society (jealous women, family members and male users).
I hope this changes someone’s perspective.
Needed this. I resonate with this entire message. 😢
So true. Definitely experienced a lot of this myself.
the stares i get if i wear anything showing my body it’s giving jealously
right!
Same. I'm in middle and most girls do wear cute dresses and stuff, but when I wear things I always get comments and stares, weird.
The funny thing is I’ve always been modest even when folks call me the “pretty skinny girl”, but because I’m nice and kind and conventionally attractive I’ve faced micro aggressions most of my adulthood. It’s weird because I never really considered myself remotely attractive until I was in my mid 20s, so I was confused for a long time.
Same for me. I'm 44, have two adult aged sons, 5'4, 110 lbs, and I still have a youthful face. I can't win for shit when it comes other mothers and women my age with children. Their demeanor changes at the speed of light when they find out we're the same age. And don't let them have a mom bod and no offspring 😅😅😅
At work ! I just left a toxic workplace because of this behavior, they would hang out and leave me alone and were unnecessarily combative my first few weeks until they realized that I’m as nice as everyone says from my previous job (transferred offices) and it got back to me that they were talking about me, my friend/ old coworkers told me it must be jealousy or something because “everyone gets along w/ you” it got to a point where I was given their extra work by my female boss who constantly spends her days talking about men and how she doesn’t feel wanted. I still overextended myself bought lunch tried to be as nice as possible but the projection was still there.
Oh, I believe you 💯
I’ve dealt with jealousy, discrimination, harassment & one-sided competition from the same little mob of hyenas for 7 years in the workplace. It got so bad I had to quit last year because my mental health was declining rapidly as a result of accumulated abuse 💆🏽♀️
I could write a whole book about my experiences 🤦🏽♀️
People could be jealous of you just being you
And some women just befriend you to try to get free game or figure you out and start absorbing your personality shit is so creepy
Why are people so weird? 😅
People get triggered because I seemingly look happy 😂
Yes girl! Being happy or the appearance of being happy is the most triggering. People get so jealous of that!
Do true same ❤
They try to humble you Unprovoked 🤚🏼
I’m so glad I came across this channel. ❤I know someone who constantly points out any enhancement that I do, when they see me. Comments like ‘are your lashes real?’ ‘Wow do you have on color contacts?’ And the comments are usually made when men are around. It’s strange and sad. I just try to do me, best I can 🤦🏽♀️
Omg yes! They’re trying to call you out and humble you on hopes that it will take away some of your pretty privilege
@@ExoticalsUnited oh wow very interesting 🙏🏽
I'm so happy I found this. I noticed this was happening to me but thought it was all in my head. I'm a model in NYC and the way they try to humiliate me when im with asian and white women...
I once had a 'friend' flat out tell me to not go to a party and stay home bc she worried a guy she liked would like me instead!
That’s horrible! I feel bad for both of you in that situation :/
This just hit the spot. I’ve recently experienced this in a workplace. It was my first day on the job which was very high paced. She piled me with so much information that I couldn’t grasp in a day and told me she doesn’t like repeating herself which was signing me up for failure. The micro aggressions and insults were insane. I left so traumatised. And sometimes it’s not just beauty alone that trigger people, but how you dress and take the extra steps to look good plus the confidence you carry yourself with. I have also experienced this in high school where a group of girls would immediately dislike me upon arrival at school because that meant I would now take away the attention from the guys.
I had this same problem while in the Marine Corps. Had a brown nosing coworker who did everything to make me look stupid in front of the higher ups. It backfired on them when they didn’t know I had already completed the tasks ahead of schedule
@@Taylor-ip4lf😂😂😂❤❤❤
@@Taylor-ip4lfthey never see it coming when you stay 5-10 steps ahead at all times. That's why I love remaining a mystery. Real g's move in silence.
Yea, I’m tired of being the doormat! I’m tired of having to hide my body to make others feel better. Thank you for this! I’m 34 and I’ve been hiding my entire life
Its interesting because there are 2 very opposing sides to it. In some areas you get treated better than others, but where its a double edged sword, you face a lot of hatred and mistreatment by complete strangers and even your own "friends" and family
Yup I’m gonna make a whole series on the social dynamics of pretty women
& I call it the Pretty Catch 22. It is a blessing & a curse at the same time. If you're not pretty you will never understand
The work issue is legit real. Its disgusting how people can act. We all have insecurities but having an insecurity doesnt give you an excuse to treat others that have what you want like trash. I had to deal with a devil like this at work. Also, ladies BE CAREFUL of people quick to be in your life and pretend to be your friend. These types have one agenda, to bring you down and destroy you from the inside. Be careful and dont be quick to share your life or secrets.
And this is why I'm considered as asshole at work. I'd rather be seen as that than as a pushover.
@@adriennerobinson4668 Yeep!
I've always been a loner / introvert. People's opinions of me don't matter. I've been gorgeous all my life, and everything mentioned in this video is all true.
I used to work at the grocery store and it was hell lol if it weren’t so bad I wouldn’t have applied to art therapy grad school. I got in so blessing in disguise ❤️
It’s a mirror to others if they don’t take care of themselves…they may feel inadequate.
There was this lady being so kind and talkative to couple ahead of me then when it was my turn she turned cold faced. I was friendly and vibing high, but she just made it clear she wasn’t friendly towards me.
A few days ago a woman clearly glared at me as she walked by. Things like this happen when you attractive and it isn’t just sunshine and rainbows.
It’s almost like you’re blessing can be your curse if you’re not careful. Bc men who are insecure love to make you feel less then! It’s so sad. We should lift each other up
Wow you just summed up what happened to me last week. I got invited to a girl’s night by my husband’s work friend’s wife. She invited me to join her and her two friends to hang out. When I showed up, any attempt I made to be friendly and initiate a conversation, they would be so curt and short. Anything I shared would come to a full stop and they showed zero interest in getting to know me or keeping the conversation going. I was getting mean girled by 2 obese women… I was like, this must be a jealousy thing cause I’m doing nothing to deserve this mistreatment
I’m not biracial but I get treated this way all the time. And it comes from other women sadly
Awww sorry about that hope you better xx
@@missandry2669 thank you sis❤️❤️
I thought this was a biracial channel, but wasn't for sure.
@@adriennerobinson4668 I think it is primarily but alot of her content, I resonate with as well
Have you guys seen that jubilee video where a group of women rate among them selves who’s the prettiest and they put the prettiest girl last place
Omg no I haven’t seen that
Wow!
Yep. That's typically how it rolls. Women do that to deflect attention from the prettiest one to the ugliest one.
I'm not mixed and I have
experienced all of these things my entire life, from fake friends, so called family, and every job. I was literally being gangedstalked at one job by women and men. Smh It's so exhausting. Glad to see someone speaking out about this.
Yesss!! My coworkers are always doing this. They make sure i know im not in their circle.
I have quit jobs over workplace bullying before and im considering it again after the evil ones all got promoted and they kept me at the bottom.
They dont want to do any favors for me thats for sure.
Ugh i needed this today thank you ❤️
every single thing you mentioned and more happened to me. I used to rent out a flat with 3 girls i studied with at uni. they consistently excluded me from everything, despite wanting me to be their friend when we were not in a group. I'd offer a day trip, they'd go alone. it was heartbreaking at the time, but now I see the truth. get yourself some pretty & smart friends instead.
Please talk about it! Because other channels always talk about how being beautiful makes you have a lot of friends, yes it can but also people can exclude you, especially at work.
I’m a guy that’s considered good-looking and I can relate to everything you’re saying.
I wouldn’t say I’m pretty enough to experience this all the time, but I absolutely have had this happen with certain women who were very insecure when I was feeling confident. The biggest issue I had was with my ex friend. When we’d go out in our early twenties. I was usually a bit more outgoing and I loved looking nice, and this friend would CONSTANTLY put me down and try to embarrass me in front of men. I think being attractive in any way (especially discipline being involved) threatens people. I’ve been the triggered one, and it’s miserable! There will ALWAYS be a prettier person, if not now then later. We may as well put effort into what we have, and love people for more than their looks.
OMG even on family, i have been raised with the narrative that i was dumb not intelligent enough to do law studies, rejected from female family members and so called friends... But i still believe that we can have true connections. Sometimes, i was seeing to myself that i should hide body and face to stop this circle lmao. Thanks for this channel !
Its better to be a mean pretty girl with a nice personality but pick your surroundings and enjoy your beauty because of God blessing and radiate that GLOW !!!....am now 65yrs been though it all because my inner soul is also beautiful and it made me straightforward with my appoach with people and treat them accordingly....but know youre in control....and life is also Beautiful ❤❤❤🙏
Work sabotage 🤦🏾♀️ I felt this in my bones.
It’s so crazy.. I always thought something is wrong with me because after you mentioned a lot about my experience about being bullied, isolated and all through my whole life, I realize that, wow.. there’s always a reason that people hate because they are insecure and try to dim your light, so they always project it towards you. Especially I went through many patterns through all my ex bffs, I realize that, every time I’m around them, it’s always something with their negativity that they project on me. For example, my childhood ex bff would exclude me from a friend group and said, “you’re not in the club and you can’t join.” Even most times, I get weird looks from people because I knew she probably said something to people about me. Even she tries to humiliate me in public by mentioning a lot about my insecurities, embarrassing moments and all. Even the real and blunt people warn me about her and I didn’t listen until I realize that, I have to make a last straw to cut her off because I was constantly getting hurt by her and she won’t stop at all. There would be people out there that wish you the worst and wouldn’t be happy for you. Their pride and ego would kick hard so instead, they would dim your light and they feel good when you go through the bad.
To all the pretty people out there,
You are not alone. Nothing is wrong with you. Understand that, it’s them. Not you.
You had a reason to be alone because, you set yourself boundaries from others that tried to harm you. You’re doing an amazing job for prioritizing yourself and discipline yourself on your beauty because not everyone can’t do that. You are a rare gem and never change that about yourself. There would be good people out there that, love and admire about you. Your beauty and elegance radiates and there’s always a reason why, a demon hates the beautiful radiating light. Stay strong my loves xoxo
😮💨 I noticed this so much in high school and in my early 20s…from frenimies and so-called family members, alike. I don’t even talk to those people anymore. Deactivated certain social media accounts, as well. The unnecessary hate is too triggering.
Wow! My daughter 17 is going through this I feel so bad for her she can’t even enjoy the high school experience no real friends just fakes that want to drain her energy use her for fashion advice and free hair styles and as soon as things don’t go there way it’s hell to pay.
Please asvise her to stay away from them i just turnt 28 and went through hell in my teens with ex friend's especially from 17-19 my reputation got messed up along the way aswell as of now im a loner as my experience with women friends has been horrible and alot of them used me for clout etc but never actually liked me your daughter has skills tell her to work hard and focus on building a business for herself if only I knew the things I knew about life today back than I would of definitely of stayed away from ex friends shes still very young and has time the right friends for her will come along
@riecheiech592 yes thank you, it’s funny you say your reputation got messed up because they tried there best to ruin hers alway trying to so called “hook her up” with the low life bums whenever she talked to someone decent they would find any dirt on them and had there ex girlfriends ready to fight her , telling boys she not pretty she’s a catfish, they say no it’s not we seen her in person , just so much so draining I really feel bad for my daughter can’t wait until high school is over. Sorry to vent but I’m so tired.
@@lawainapittman5178 I understand so it's okay and that's what those hating ass girls do they will always try to lower the pretty girls value or mess up her market as they know that men will naturally be interested in a pretty girl/woman and personality comes into play after the stuff I've heard about myself the past decade has been absolutely mind blowing I'm not saying I was 100% innocent in my earlier years but some of the rumors were disgusting a ex friend even started a rumor that I had H.i.v all in the name of jealousy and about them messing up your daughter's chance with decent guys is relatble Ive just gone through a simliar situation with a woman whos even 5years my senior talking rubish about me to a potential lovers friend about me she used to hook up with my potential lovers friend & is mad that he never took her seriously so try mess up my thing with hes friend I cussed her out and shes blocked me you need to tell your daughter to stay away from those girls because the hatred will only get worse as they get older believe me
Like what happens with the girls that naturally have a big butt?? People think they have a BBL... or larger breasts...
LMAO that’s me I naturally have a skinny BBL shape 😂 exactly. What if your body is natural? Now you just have to endure bullying? Lol
LOL, I have naturally large breasts. I have always been that way. I have heard people (women) whispering and discussing whether they are real. Or people assume I have no brain and that I just get things because of my body. I think it is funny since I am hard-working and highly educated.
I'm tired of hiding it. We are damned if we do and damned if we don't.
If you are not black it's super rare to be built like that. Very skinny with a fat butt/large breasts is like 1/5000 or so, the disbelief is warranted.
I’ve been getting accused of stuffing my bra since middle school. Lately it’s been “you got your body done”
This video is necessary. I’m a 42 yr old Accountant. I’m trying to leave Corp America because of this. I’m tired of catty spiteful women in the workplace. 😤😔
Good luck, sis ❤❤❤
This has happened since I was in Kindergarten. I suffered from depression as early as 5 yrs old. My mother and my sister were my biggest haters. I was the petite one but I always thought my little sister was gorgeous. I've never been high maintenance and I literally hated myself because I thought something was wrong with me. I'm 43 now with kids. I found my inner peace around 38. My kids are my happy place. I have 7. Each child has added confidence, and believe it or not higher self esteem and just a reason to live because I am challenged everyday. Without my kids I never would have known how great I am on the inside. I finally belong somewhere. Thank you so much for putting this video out.
A woman’s first bully is her sister and mother. Heartbreaking
It’s depressing. I don’t have many friends because of these exact reasons lol
Pay that person dust. 👏
Well said! Couldn’t have said it better and this is very true. Cant let them dim your light keep shining!