Pregnant Ex-wife and Her Husband Treated Our Daughter Like a Maid and Refused to Stop. So I Told...
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- Опубліковано 10 тра 2024
- Pregnant Ex-wife and Her Husband Treated Our Daughter Like a Maid and Refused to Stop. So I Told Her She's Unfit to Be a Mother and Decided to File for Full Custody.
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So in the end she didn't even want her older child as a child, only as an indentured servant. Good riddance
She could have found a job while pregnant, worked until the baby came, and then quit that job/find a new one when baby was older. They literally had other ways to work things out. Sounds like to me they were too immature to be in a marriage.
I feel like people who choose to just drop important issues just for the sake of dropping it not because they are actually in the wrong are pseudo mature, like fuck this “I need to keep the family peace” if there is a issue talk about it until you meet a mutual understanding and if they are too immature to do that then that should be a red flag, same thing as people who think they are being mature by apologizing even when they are clearly not in the wrong because they think they are “putting there ego aside” when it’s just their self respect.
Also putting your child through a environment where you and your spouse is always fighting is not noble just because your together and that’s what matters
And it took him 5 years to figure that shit out
You can find jobs at 40 age also ....she doesn't want job
If he has enough money to support a family on single income, her job could pay for child carw
Now the new baby gets to spend 18 years being blamed for breaking the family because his/her older sister hated him/her and left mom in her time of need. Kid doesnt stand a chance RIP
She terminated her parental rights to avoid paying child support for the next two years. Because she is a stay at home wife they would use her husband's income to determine how much she would have to pay.
I'd agree mom knew what she was doing made a clean break didn't have to pay nothing at the end her husband made a good living anyways, reminds of me another story when the parnets got divorce
the mom made the daugter hate the dad for a year and him being a simp just to be nice went easy on the divorce so he paid all that support to her then when the daughter was of age she send her back then her mom saved all the money got remarried and went on a long vacation
This was a process by the 'mom', if you can call her that, for eliminating the last trace of her ex-husband from her life. Treat her daughter with said ex like nothing more than a glorified slave, de-humanize and all that rot to get her to not want to come back, basically cutting off all familial bonds. Now she has no family but the 'new' one with the asshole.
The mom would get her karma I wish op and her daughter the best may God bless them and be with them ❤
And even if she doesn't. She has lost her daughter. I don't think their relationship will be good again.
She's already stuck with a mysoginistic pig for a husband as a pregnant SAHM nearing her 40s with no work experience. If you ask me, that's already karma.
I can see Shane cheating on her in the near future, especially when she's busy with the baby and the house.
She is impregnated by trash. She can't possibly have a good life with him. THAT is her karma.
The mother is kind of already getting karma, she just hasn't realized it yet.
Think about it: she's a pregnant stay-at-home who never worked a day in her life, she's stuck with a terrible man who has no respect whatsoever for her, and she's about to repeat the same story she had with OP, of raising a child and never pursuing anything else in life... the same story she kept complaining about and blaming OP for. Only this time, the new husband won't take any s--t from her. I'm also willing to bet he'll cheat on her in the near future, especially when she gets busy with the childcare.
If that isn't karma, I don't know what is.
Sounds like she has a lot of misplaced resentment and refuses to take accountability for her actions. Though when it came to the daughter; this was one of two ways things would have gone. She's gonna be miserable until the end of time.
Bitter, miserable and hates her kids?
Sounds like peak single mom/cat lady material.
It won't be any better if Margo has a boy, because he's going to take full advantage of her lack of self-respect and make Margo wait on him hand and foot. Any son of Margo's won't do a damn thing because his mommy said he didn't have to.
Then it's going to come to blows with her new husband when the son gets into fights with him and Margo will be in a rock and a hard place. And Margo can't ask OP and especially not Jade for a damn thing.
And had Margo not terminated parental rights and instead fought for custody, she would be able to force jade to go to her house
@@jordanwardle11 she is 16 at that point, if she got forced then that would mean it would disregard law, in which it states that children who reach a certain age has a say in who they want to be with more. so the mother cannot force it
Seriously? This is slavery!
As a fellow housewife, I feel insulted. We actually put in work even when pregnant (could be as simple as just putting back things to its place so the house don't look messy) while Margo seems to just use it as a card. People should be more selective on what kind of housewife they should praise. The kind who just laying down at home while making her own daughter a housemaid sure ain't it
While I applaud OP for standing up for his daughter, I still say OP deserves a smack to the noggin for getting involved with this woman in the first place. Seriously, even before getting pregnant, the red flags were already there, and I definitely think that ex-wife has a major case of princess syndrome. The delusion that she could have been some big shot without OP or her daughter, the constant browbeating and blaming OP for everything, all these indicate she is way too immature to be in a relationship.
What's done is done, however, and OP, if you can afford it, I say you should move away from your ex. Even if she willingly signed away her parental rights, she sounds like someone who will try to spite you at every opportunity, so do not give her that chance. Prevention is a lot better than a cure against these immature types.
Also at 16 it will be very easy to win full custody in a case like that. At that age the court (atleast where im from) recognizes that a child can think somewhat for themselves and will take their testimony into consideration. And in a case like this where the child is doing the parents work...
Legally speaking it is 100% the parents job to provide meals for the child. As a parent you can set chores to create a sense of responsibility but you CANNOT make them a maid/servant. Most states will not allow that, and at 16 her voice in court matters
Yeah I'm not going to lie this is why you don't just have a one-night stand with anybody even though great on the poster for taking responsibility and all that but at the same time it might have gone a little different if he got to see exactly who his ex was before having the baby
It wasn't a one night thing though, they were already in a relationship.
Ever heard of lying? People can do that for years.
But they were together for over a year...
@@Significantpower Which only emphasizes the weaker argument to the stronger.
This story is crazy.
Whats even more crazy tho, is how lost and confused the parkour guy was at the end. God damn.
Yeah, that was painful to watch.
Cinderella at home
Well said. Given how that ?#*$ is going, OP's daughter Jade, or "Cinderella" would've been on her way to the foster care system, when social services removes her from her and the new husband, next, after aging out of the system, stayed with/marry a boy who's a Prince Charming, one moment, the next; a lothario/tyrant who treats her like a slave, and abuses her (emotionally/ mentally, verbally, and physically, to the point of putting her in the hospital), traps her, in order to keep her away from OP, and at times, threatens to un-alive her if he finds her at OP's house, then, with the help of cops and DV social workers fled to another state (because she's scared that her husband will take her baby away from her with the help of her mother and stepfather), and had to stay at a women's shelter until she finds an apartment.⚠️
You were working at a company and someone from that company was having an affair breaking up your relationship? You know most bosses won't tolerate that stuff. If I had that come across my desk I would have to offboard the dude. Also, what Margot said, about the husband not being helpful during her first pregnancy is alienation of affection. Also, OP think this woman that birthed his child had any respect for herself in the first place.
It probably won't do much, cheating is relatively common in businesses
@@jordanwardle11 Yeah but honestly think. You have two people that work at the same company they are a few desks away from each other. An the wife of one is with this dude cheating. Wouldn't go down well. It would create a tense work environment. Every company I have ever worked with had policies that outlined this stuff. I have seen it play out numerous times. I don't think there are many companies that would want to keep someone like this. It say's a lot about the character of the person. It can also be damaging to the company if it hit social media. There is a lot there people don't consider.
Man, poor Jade. Between her parents' marriage and Margo's relationship with her jackass new husband, she's probably never seen a successful/healthy relationship modeled in her life. I hope that doesn't end up affecting the relationships she makes in the future.
I had a late pregnancy and it does drain you of energy more than when you are in your 20s or 30s, but I didn't expect my older kids to do my work. I did ask for help in the kitchen as I suffered hugely from morning sickness all day and through the entire pregnancy. The step father is likely the real problem here. The ex seems to have a chronically low self esteem, that only improves when she blames other people for her lack of self worth through employment, etc. The ex mother in law doomed her daughter! Instead of setting her up with the awful new step father, she should have taken her back in at home and encouraged her to retrain and get a job that made her feel her worth. And again, the ex mother in law who rasied her daughter is also a probable source for the issues, so beware when daughter visits gran. But step daughter will also have a low self esteem if she is given to feel that the roll of household management is not one of worth, or that that is all she is worthy to do. Both are terribly wrong ways to think!
Yeah I didn't say anything because the ex wife is not a nice person but his comment about how she shouldn't be tired because it's only the first trimester was a little bonkers to me. My mom had three children and every single pregnancy was different and she said they got progressively worse with age. I think he thought her second pregnancy would be exactly the same as her first which is highly unlikely. They also say if you have pregnancies spaced out more than 10 years that actually raises the risk of the pregnancy.
@@BrightElk The way it was worded at the end makes me think the way her mother raised her (the ex wife and the grandmother here) was not very good. And the grandmother pushed the ex wife into a relationship with this man who comes off horribly misogynistic. I am very glad the dad took the daughter. I fear she would easily learn not to value herself. That the dad doesn't fully understand everything about pregnancy doesn't surprise me, he's only dealt with it once and she was much younger then. I think the ex wife has had an unfortunate time of it. She obviously had postpartum, was not healed properly emotionally, probably the affair was partly a result of that. I don't absolve her of all the blame, but I mean it when I warn about grandma on her side! I figure that she was not supportive, unhelpful, and likely a source of the low self esteem.
you’re a good dad, bro.
It was hard not to roll my eyes at op. He's SO dense. I felt so bad for Jade. Op set himself up to be the fall guy. She could have absolutely had a job through her pregnancy. She chose to give up her career without a plan after the baby was born. She sucks. I don't understand why op put up with Margo for five years. The only smart thing op did was take advantage of Margo's affair fog to come out of the divorce without losing a ton. Margo sounds like she married her perfect match in her second husband. Lol. Scumbags. Op needs to watch out with Jade. She sounds like someone with a soft spine that needs a lot more encouragement to advocate for herself instead of avoiding conflict.
Less than a minute in and i dont like op saying "unfortunately" its one thing to say that if you got a partner and they abused you for a few a few months and you left. That's an unfortunately. But as a parent, its not an unfortunately. Because without that "unfortunate" moment the child you love enough to post about being mistreated wouldnt exist
The stepdad can't clean and maintain the house? What a lazy POS. I work full time and still make the time to clean, cook, do house projects, yard work, hobbies, and take care of everyone. Dude's just looking for reasons to not do shit around the house. Shame on both of them
Honestly, i also have difficulties to maintain the house and keep it clean while working full time and having (maybe too many) hobbies. But that's one of the reasons i don't have children and in my 30s i never had the wish for any. I have enough difficulties to keep my own life together and just can't see how i were able to take responsibility for a human being that relies on me completely for years. That's fine though, cause my sister has 4 kids and she is a cleaning maniac just like my father.
Sounds like she can’t stand the thought of having to finally mature which she thought she’d have to do after she had a baby
How do these people know that he wasn't a good husband? Projection!
I love how at the end the player was really confused with the parkour
Is anyone surprised that a woman who would cheat on her husband with his co-worker would so easily give up her parental right’s. I’m not because she seems like the wife’s only priority has only ever been herself!
There are horrible people in this world and everyone should take people on a case by case basis. Some people really don’t deserve any empathy or energy from others.
Everything that happened is the EXs fault this is some serious narcissism
So... Does "calling a woman on her bullshit treatment of her daughter" make pregnant women instantly miscarry? Or melt like the wicked witch? I'm a cis male, so maybe I missed that tidbit 😂
Oh my God. Please stop. 😂😂😂
Nta thats child labour if she goes to jail for that just leave her to rot there and let her think about what shes done and get her self respect back.
Excuse me her name is margo 👏👏
Of course reddit blames the man for the marriage failing
I love it when Op's are stupid and ignore red flags XD
no
Too unrealistic
Calling the mum lazy isn't misogynistic lmao.
Nice name
Damn 11 minutes ago!?
Man imagine calling somebody misoginistic for saying that somebody is showing some skills and should make a career out of it even if it is a woman becoming a maid
Now the second part about being more useful than the mother, thats just a matter of observation. The story says that they wait for the daughter to do the cleaning, so in a way she would be more useful than her mother because the mother DONT do anything
Bro, saying that you only view your own stepdaughter as a glorified housemaid IS misogynistic, because it shows that he is thinking of women who should be his family as servants (or rather slaves, as she is forced to do it, and isn't even paid for it).
@@darklordsatan4383 he didnt say he viewed her that way he just stated that she has skills in the housemaid department and could make a career out of it
That was the statement the story said was misogynistic, so that was what i was referencing. You do make a valid point, and yes what you said would be, i agree
@@DragonSlayrr142the context matters and he was clearly saying it to mock her though. That and add that there was a clear power imbalance as he was her step dad and he knew she didn't like doing the work and he still made that comment.
Even if he didn't mean it as a put down for women specifically he definitely didn't say it to be nice. I grew up around a couple of guys who used "it's just a joke. I'm just kidding." As an excuse for years but eventually everyone got sick of them.
You can't just say whatever you want and then tag on "I'm just kidding"every time to get out of the consequences. You have to be considerate of the person being joked about and ready to apologize if it's not well received which didn't happen in this case.
Why do you never credit the source for these posts?
Pretty sure some are Ai generated
I almost feel bad for the ex wife....almost.
PPD can last SEVEN years! She had JUST finished school, spent all that money on loans most likely, ready to start her career, when SURPRISE! Pregnancy! Depending on the career path she had chosen not immediately going into the work force can spell death for your career. I feel like that's what happened here, and then on top of it, she clearly had PPD. I think she felt pressured into having the baby most likely as that was the vibes back then. And because of it her possible career died.
Idk I kinda resonate with the ex wife, because that's exactly how it happened with me and my husband. I had been in school for a trade(nail tech course) and right at the end I found out I was pregnant. I had started at a salon, but eventually had to stop as the baby was on my sciatic nerve so standing/sitting for prolonged amounts of time was impossible. The salon was also extremely bigoted in their views, and the pay was shyt, and it didn't make sense for me to stay getting paid 1$ over minimum wage...it would have just gone right to child care so I became a SAHM. Which do I miss doing nails? Sure. Would I trade that for watching my son grow up? Heck no! And I'm thankful that the trade I went into is one that I can easily get back into again, and having a baby didn't kill my career.
But everything after....the cheating, and then the being an ahole to her own daughter....that's not excusable, but I think the ex definitely has some deep rooted feelings regarding things and should definitely see a counselor
i hate it when parents say i put my child in therapy... let the child choose if it want therapy or not
Victims of abuse aren't always the first to realize they need therapy. That kid is definitely gonna need it either way.
The mother just simply decided she didn't want to parent jade anymore after she got a new baby. That's something u can't digest like it is a regular thing.
I hate it when family members say we sent our child to rehab... let the child choose whether they have a harmful addiction or not.
Same stupid logic.
@@dmsviola1 i don't rehab is a choice for drugs and other harmful substances
But for therapy for depressing/life changing events and mental conditions or situations that are hard to digest kids/adults can have a choice
1:28 wait, how did Margo went from being the girlfriend to the wife in the story if the op never said that he proposed to her and then marry her? Make that make sense
First
And adding nothing of value to the video
I think because he only ever lived with her OP failed to realise that it had nothing to do with her sacrificing anything, he just had the standard issue Anglo-world woman, 2020 edition.
This- apparently most people who call OP idiot didn't realize this relationship start at his early twenties. So that must be the case, both are inexperienced with relationship so OP easily missed those red flags.
@@JKGirl90s24 is young but it isn't that young. I feel like ten years from now people are gonna be saying that 30 is too young to marry. We can't just keep blaming age and inexperience on everything and pushing back starting our lives for fear of things going wrong. Stuff happens. OP did his best but you can't prevent every bad thing from happening.
@@BrightElk it's not purely the age actually, just the timeline suggest it's first serious relationship that involve living together and more.