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It comes down to this, I have always been worthy and awesome, my family was just to dysfunctional to see it, because they had their own problems. I now see all of those heartbreaking experiences as lessons that have brought me here. "Here" is the happiest and most successful I have ever felt/ been in my life. Thank you Alex and David for sharing your wisdom, without it I would still be a squealing piglet wallowing in the mud occasionally getting up to jump on the carousel! Now I celebrate and enjoy the green lights and stop at the red ones to see what they are really about. I am so full joy.
I absolutely love this video it has described what I went through as a child and how its impacted me in adulthood. My life has always been about over performing & proving my worth. Nothing I do is ever good enough. Life lesson - I can't change what happened but I can change my perceptions.
I can totally relate to your comment and I appreciate you sharing the lesson at the end...... “but I can change my perceptions.” This ending point helps point towards a new beginning. Peace~
I am in awe. This series teaching today has opened my eyes. I am 57. My mom is 93. I grew up in a dysfunctional home but i replayed my moms negative words that were spoken to me constantly. A case in point was in 4th grade( 8yrs old) my male teacher was very violent with me daily. He would pull out his thick paddle daily and just for fun paddle me and would ask the popular boys how many whacks i should get. He would bully me at lunch everyday. I would go home with welts on my bottom and beg my mom to make him stop. It got so bad i didnt want to go to school. My mom finally had a meeting with said teacher in which she conveyed that the teacher lied and said it was all my fault and my mom believed him. Even though i was a wall flower and never did anything wrong. Years down the road and several relationships later i realized i was drawn to abusive relationships. All i can say is thank you for these series. Is it wrong to want my grand kids to hear your messages? (Ages 7-14) the 14yr old was physically and sexually abused at age 2. Do you have a series for kids?
I feel so blessed finding this channel. Every single video is clear, practical, and made with love. Truly life changing, thank you for your time and beautiful teachings!
Hi Val, We're deeply touched by your kind words and thrilled to hear that you find our channel and videos beneficial. Knowing that you believe our content is clear, practical, and made with love truly warms our hearts. It's our joy and purpose to share teachings that can positively influence your journey. Thank you for your blessing and for being a part of our community. We're here to support you and look forward to continuing to share our journey with you. Kind Regards, David
Hi Rin... thanks for your kind feedback - we're glad you enjoyed the video! And, yes we'll definitely add that mediation to our video 'to do list' 😀 Alex + David x
This is so profound and life altering! I listen to this over and over again and I am changing my life because of this life lesson! Thank you so much David and Alex!
I am new to your channel, this so far the second video i have watched and i can truly say i can resonate with everything you say. I have been raised in a very dysfunctional family. I grew up not knowing my self. I did not even know that i have a "self." I was so confused and unhappy. I did not know what my feelings are and i didn't know how to handle them. I grew up pleasing and attending the needs of my mother, my family, relatives, and other people in order to gain love, affection, validation and recognition. I felt so drained and empty. I was so hungry and thirsty for love that i look for it outside my family only to end up marrying someone who is just like my mother or even worse. I married a man who does not love me and abuse me emotionally, psychologically and physically. I felt so lost. I was deeply in pain. I am glad that through channels like this it helped me know the truth. After decades, after 36years, long years of being so unaware, i finally understand what happened to me. And it goes back in my dark, painful, scary childhood experiences. Now i am starting to heal and recover myself which i find so difficult but nevertheless, i am very willing to help the inner child in me to break free and let go. My heartfelt thank you for all that you do to uplift humankind. From the place and family i grew up with, i never thought that good people exist. Now i believe that there are good people out there in this world we live in. Thank you for helping me and others see the light.♥️
I really enjoy these videos. They really do help. Putting words to what I experience gives me perspective. I generally view my issues as minor but occasionally they pack a wallop and I break down and can’t stop crying or function for a few days. All 12 years of school were difficult. I dreaded school. Begged to stay home, pretended to be sick. I was bullied both by students and teachers. I was also bullied by some of my aunts, cousins, and paternal grandmother. No so much actively but by ignoring and avoiding me. Leaving me out. I wanted a best friend but I would have settled for peace. All I got was dismissal. My parents were very understanding but I don’t think the knew what to do. When I recall mistakes I’ve made, really just small mistakes that I was humiliated for, I physically wince and my self talk sometimes is horrible. Sometimes it will actually come out-loud like I can’t help it. I will actually say out-loud “I hate myself”. It’s not all the time but it’s like you describe, a carousel. I think I was coping but then my worst nightmare happened. I moved cross country to North Dakota for a work assignment. One of my co-workers was very nice and we talked a lot. One night we were having a drink and I told her about a past mistake. I regretted telling her but I didn’t feel bad about it because it thought we were bonding and becoming friends. Things got busy and a few months later she sat me down and told me she was avoiding me and explained why. She told me that I shouldn’t tell people personal things like that, and a few other things that don’t deserve repeating. I was shocked and devastated! I’m a crier so I was upset but she was so cold. I understand now that my past mistake triggered her. She’s had some really bad things happen to her, which ironically she told me all about before I shared my bit. I asked her what I could do and she said there was nothing I could do and that she needed time. What I told her got around to some other co workers too. I don’t mind sharing my mistakes but I do want the opportunity to defend myself. Gossip doesn’t allow for that generally. Anyway 3 years later I still work with her. I used to try to be nice and act like everything was ok but now I’m exhausted and I hate her and I’ve just given up. I avoid her at all costs because when I would try to greet her she wouldn’t even look at me and I would get hurt and disappointed so I just avoid the situation. I know all of this must be stemming from my childhood. I’m ok with her decision to cut me out because she’s not really a nice person anyway. I’m really worried about looking like the bad guy if people notice I avoid her. Ive developed a very large fibroid from the stress. I feel I’ve made some progress lately mainly through meditation. I’m just not sure where to start. I just want the pain to stop and to be able to go on without all this bothering me. I sometimes can do this but then I have to see her at work and anger and hatred come up. I’m just not sure where to start! Thank you for all the information and I’m determined to work on this and I would appreciate anything you could share with me.
Hi MC, Thanks for your share I enjoyed reading it. As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. You have raised many issues that would be impossible to address through the comment section of UA-cam. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our UA-cam channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David
David and Alex this video is absolutely amazing. My traumatic childhood affects my adulthood now.Im understanding how I have to nurture my inner child , I'm not finding it easy..I won't give up on her.Thanks to you both for these videos..Always greatful for the support. Oh and you were fabulous yesterday David xx
Yes!... you can take control of your inner-world right now and this will help you address any challenging or unfamiliar external situations with greater ease and flow. :-)
I am currently going through some very much needed self-reflection and your videos randomly came up in my recommended feed not too long ago. I have been binge watching ever since. So, so many things from my childhood/past have now suddenly become very clear to me. It is as if I closed and then opened my eyes again and everything looked differently (everything made sense)! I am thankful you’ve been sent my way! Thank you for producing such valuable content.
Just watched this video. What can I say, I can say, what you have done, David & Alex,I don’t know where to start, I thank you from the bottom of my heart! These videos, I know I say it a lot, but it’s true, I am where I am now, because of you! Since I have got back off holiday, I have some family issues ongoing, which are causing me some red light feelings. My awareness is, those red lights, some are from the present time and situations I’ve been put in, and some I know are from past experiences. I am soo proud of myself, for the fact, that I can support my family as well as myself whilst going through difficult times. Because family issues aren’t going to be resolved for some time. I know this time last year, I would not have been able to be as strong as I am today!! David & Alex, you truly are awesome! Thank you again 💜☯️🙏🏼
Hi @tomWil245, Thank you for your kind words! We're overjoyed to hear that our content has had such a positive impact on your life. Remember, your journey to understanding and resolving issues is a testament to your strength and commitment to your Shen spirit. Keep embracing your path with courage and love. Kind Regards, David
Thank you David and Alex for the gifts you both have given me this holiday season... I thank God for you tube...NOW because your videos came... I put a note on my dresser that says heal your past....I've look at it every night for at least a yr, then your videos came up. As of Dec 12, 2019 when the red light stuff starts, I say to my (in David's) voice..." Stop it, stop it...I laugh in my head and the negative thoughts go away. I drop my shoulder and lastly I take deep breaths and focus on my Shein...(I know I spelled it wrong) . When I wake up 3am- 5am I use this time to heal my inner child. I still work out, but this is more important. Blessings... I thank you from the bottom of my heart 💓. 🙂
Hi KalpanaMD Thanks for the question. As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. I would suggest you do the Golden Thread Process as we demonstrate in many of our videos to discover the reason for you crying over the video. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our UA-cam channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David
Its because the unfairness usually continues into adulthood and beyond.. they are typically not one time events .. its years of bad treatment . Much love to all those working through these things. Living with all that anger and rage .. we end up making mistakes in life . Which further ingrains the story .. its why its important to get out of such families and heal
Hi @thetruth3325, Thank you for sharing your insights. It's true that prolonged unfairness and mistreatment can deeply affect us. Recognizing this and seeking to resolve these issues is a powerful step towards changing our narrative. Much love and strength to everyone working through these challenges. Remember, you have the power to create a new, positive story for yourself. Kind Regards, David P.S. Join our community for additional support: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/
Thanks for watching and commenting Ronda. We appreciate your support and are glad you are finding the videos helpful - we love making them! :) Alex + David x
Thank you so much for sharing these insights and gifts with us. I love this video. Wu Wei Wisdom, In order to Forgive, not just accept, but find a way I could be deserving of forgiveness, I had to lower the bar from the unrealistic high standards I'd held myself & the world too. Then I could see or better accept all things. Universe knew I was looking for help with forgiving, and now you've given me a map to follow I didn't have before. I'm following you and hanging on every word. My life depends on it. Thank you again.
Perfect timing for this video. My morning meditation brought me to the IC saying my mother didn't love me the right way. I always wished I had a different mother. So I asked IC how would you like to have been loved? She didn't know . Just not that way. Oh so you didn't like the way the package was wrapped? Because she does love you. That's it! It wasn't good enough. Maybe it wasn't. That's ok today . We agreed the adult Michelle has the kind of love IC wants. So the video raised raises the question of not blaming others for past hurts. I find it's more of protectioning myself from being hurt then and now. So IC needs to learn it's ok to be open with boundaries? Also, How to really understand I am the maker of my own pain? It's so hard to believe I can control my pain and emotions. David believes we can and I want to be pain free so I want to believe him. Will I ever get to a place where the past hurts are healed and I can just deal with the present life? You both are doing a great service for the universe! I am so grateful to have been lead to this teaching it's the only one that is making a true difference in my life. Michelle
Thanks for your comments, it sounds as though you are doing some important work here on your Life Lessons.
I enjoyed reading your experiences, I would suggest you ask that part of your mind we are labelling the Inner Child who she thinks creates the Red Light Feelings?
Because, once she accepts that SHE/YOU are the creator of ALL of your Red Light Feelings and are NOT the victim of them, there will be NO need to protect yourself from what YOU choose to create or not create. David
@@WuWeiWisdom David thanks for your response, and suggestions! I believe this is key to my emotional imbalance. Looking forward to a Wu Wei Way of life of emotional well being! Today I finally heard my emotions can be a guide to be interpreted . A way to measure my spiritual balance. I hope this teaching sticks this time. Thanks so much for all you do!
What happened with me was I lost all my confidence after my bad childhood . And I never gained it back. Reinforcements kept coming from my parents that I am not good enough and made matters worse. I have now started focusing on my good qualities and this has helped me a lot.
Hi Vidya, Thank you for your comments, we are pleased that our videos are helping on your spiritual journey. "No confidence" is an emotion that we label a Red-light feeling. Remember you are the creator of your feelings NOT the victim of them! You are amazing to have come through that challenging childhood and parental poor emotional education. Well Done! :-) It's now your responsibility to re-parent yourself and keep focused on those good qualities you have in abundance. Now you have the knowledge and emotional education I have NO doubt that you will return to your authentic balance and harmony and will be able to live your life in Wu Wei Wisdom. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ David
Thank you David for the wonderful reply. I am now trying to bring up my daughter in the way I wanted to be brought up as a child. Hope I am doing a good job. And also I am already subscribed.
Love the way you allow that part of self(inner child) to be integrated. So important for me to acknowledge that first, and then can move on to allowing adult self to be the parent I would like to have had ( instead of continuing old parents tapes internally!) Lovely integration.. I used to think I had to ‘get rid’ of that inner part of me, I judged it and saw it as a defect to be removed. It’s so much kinder to love that part instead and then hopefully she’ll settle down more in time ! 🙆♀️🥰
Hi Lilas, Thanks for your kind feedback, we're pleased to hear that our approach resonates with you! We have produced several other videos on the Inner Child that you may also enjoy: • The Inner Child Explained: How to Love, Guide + Heal Your Inner Child ➜ ua-cam.com/video/BM0lmfBlE2E/v-deo.html • Reparenting Your Inner Child (Part 1) ➜ ua-cam.com/video/SndWtblVf2U/v-deo.html • Reparenting Your Inner Child (Part 2) ➜ ua-cam.com/video/BYUxAQYpsKg/v-deo.html • Inner Child Healing for Love Addiction, Codependency & Codependent Relationships ➜ ua-cam.com/video/J1olSZ1wyz0/v-deo.html • Let Go Of The Past & Heal Your Inner Child ➜ ua-cam.com/video/jxmMKS9qyCs/v-deo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x
How do you let it go? I want to absolutely. I dont even remember what happened at all, I didnt know there was any problem, I just knew it was dysfunctional. I didnt even think it affected me, but clearly my subconscious mind knows what happened? I didnt even know what the inner child was until recently and I am 55 years old. I dont think I am a victim at all, I have never thought that. But I have have physical symptoms that started 29 years ago after my son was born. I am being told that it is the child (the ID-subconscious mind) that is getting in the way of me being well. Is this true? I can see how I was searching for love and validation my whole life became a people pleaser and goodist. How do I get my stubborn inner child to let it go? I sure want to. I want to be well, very tired of unwellness. She really just wants to cry, I dont know if she is angry anymore. She was angry and triggered a lot over my whole life, but not so much anymore now that I am aware.
Thank you for your question, I think you have answered your own question.
Instead of asking: "How do I let go?" the question should be "Why am I holding on?"
Then you go on to explain that part of your mind we are labelling the Inner Child is stubbornly holding on. At the moment that part of your mind is in control! And she does NOT want to let go.
You will have to do the work and find the Life Lessons why she is still looking for external validation and love. Our Inner Child Reparenting videos may help you with this: PART 1 - ua-cam.com/video/SndWtblVf2U/v-deo.html PART 2 - ua-cam.com/video/BYUxAQYpsKg/v-deo.html If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our UA-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ ua-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ David
I just watched the therapy room video on your Facebook page. Beautiful! A work of art. Also just to see and smell and experience the peace and history in that room....it would heal the soul. It heals my soul just to watch the video!!
I do agree with alot of your videos. You both present so differently but it's like a balance. I find David sometimes gets a little hyped up when sharing ...then Alex comes back calmly. Wu wei😋 Thank you both for your work!🌻
Thank you very much for this enlightening video. I understand that our inner child may lead us to have demands and expectations towards others that are not fair for them and are just a product of our inner child's need for reassurance. But how can we distinguish these "illegitimate" demands and expectations from those that are natural to have in a relationship? How do we know if what we want/ask is an expression of our true self, values and desires for our life and is therefore something we should "stick to" or if it is a product of our inner child and is therefore something we should let go? I understand the conceptual difference between the two, but I am not able to make the distinction in practice, in my life. I am constantly doubting myself, asking "Is it ok for me to feel/ask this or is this just my inner child talking?". How can I know?
David, people have come through it with the end result as messed up head, messed up believe system, distorted view about themselves and life in general. Many don’t even know about it. It is like asking fish what water is? The one who find the connection of the life situation and the childhood are set on a life mission to undo parents work.
You are right. Once a person understands and can accept that the red light feelings are in indicator of an internal imbalance and something they have control of then they can choose to begin looking deeper. As you say, many people are taught that the feelings have nothing to do with them (and so this absolves them of self-responsibility). The deeper work is a personal journey or mission - but it is worth it and it is the greatest act of self-love you can give yourself! Alex + David x
My inner child is broken 💔 and I am inwardly hiding inside by overeating, neglecting myself. It is as if I used food to medicate, to force down my emotions, to hide from being hurt again, afraid if I am small, I'll be abused and I eat to keep from seeing what happened to me.
Relax and enjoy your life....sounds like this is not deep wisdom. But surprise!!! Very, very deep wisdom. Life is sacred. Life is short. The holy biome is penetrated with grace and beauty. So wake up from the bad memories. Enjoy the light. Thank you, David and Alex.
Many thanks for this very instructive vidéo ; it is also very pleasant & lively to listen to you both - in spite of the difficult subject. Would you know the way to work with fibromyalgia - chronic pains related to childhood traumas ? All the best,
I’ve spent the last five years ruminating. It’s quite maddening especially when it sneaks up on me. I just remind myself that I’m 1 in 7.6 billion or so much people. How I feel doesn’t really matter.
Hi AlphaDog Elite3 Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. We would be pleased to answer any questions the video has raised for you.
It is just heart breaking that any child has to endure dysfunction and abuse. I am done letting my family have any more power over me for one more minute.
Dear Alex and David, thanks again for this life lesson. A lightbulb just went off...or is it: on? I think I just found the core belief. Will talk to you soon about it!
Thank you for this video. I commented then deleted it but Ill try again...I am unsure what my authentic beliefs are, are they the ones I grew up with, family values, opinions, expectations or the ones I have learned recently. Some newer beliefs are that its better to have an income doing what you love creatively than a mundane job working for a manager. Most of my ex facebook friends had their own businesses and I felt I had to. I really would like to be self employed with singing, painting or acting jobs yet I dont feel as inspired when I dont work but if I did work Id have no time or energy for the things I love. Money or time? Is working slavery or is that a choice that I have believed in cause someone said that. I also want to trust that if I work, my inner child wont go crazy, I want to be authentic, balanced, support myself and feel supported. i do feel that I focus on the past. A previous manager told me off for laughing when the rest of my table of workers were laughing too, I was talked to, not them, why? Things like that keep blocking me from wanting to share my authenticity with others even if I get paid for it cause they dont accept my laughter, my authenticity, my joy. i know its a 'its not fair' moment but they are blocking me from trusting the general public, humans, people that can shoot and bring you down if they feel like it. I'm scared of working, i'm scared of the potential negativity of other people, I'm scared of people not accepting my authenticity.
Hi Kate, Thank you for writing, I enjoyed reading your comments. I would ask you to concentrate on the last sentence. "I'm scared of people not accepting my authenticity". I think that this would be a great place to start the Golden Thread Process. We cover many of these teaching in our videos, such as: "What other people think about you is none of your business!". "Scared" is a Red Light Feeling and you are the creator of your feelings NOT the victim! Do YOU accept YOUR authenticity?? So, there is quite a lot of work to get stuck into through the Wu Wei teachings. David
I don’t understand the part about not letting it happen again. Perhaps it is my inner child feeling defensive, but I didn’t ask for or cause the situation in the first place, so there is something about “not letting” it happen again that doesn’t sit well with me. I understand where the woman asking the question is coming from. Letting things go is not as easy as setting down a physical weight. There is no switch I can flip. I don’t understand how this works. I don’t see that there is anything divine about me, but I will keep looking. Thanks for your videos.
Hi, I personally have learnt a great deal from many of your videos. One of my children married a young lady who has three children already. I believe that she has many issues with her childhood. is it wrong of me to send her some of the videos, or is she going to feel condemned that I’m judging her? Due to the fact I am witnessing her destroy own children through her negative childhood and she arguing with my son when he tries to correct all 5 children? I would appreciate your advice. Hilda
Hi Hilda, Thank you for your kind comments we are pleased that our videos are helping on your spiritual journey. As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. I would suggest instead of sending videos to her, why not talk to her about them and get her point of view? Something like "I've stumbled across these people on UA-cam who have different ideas about emotions and childhood experiences and wondering what you think about what they are saying?" That could start a good conversation between you both on these important subjects. David
Wow if this ain't my life I don't know what is.... Being in a cult from the age of 12 on into my late 20s, a cult that actually taught that you had to be perfect ..... No wonder I'm the way I am.... I get it now, now to undo all that whew!
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Why is trauma not discussed? I appreciate what you say...but you also make it sound so easy to just.....LET GO! People with trauma sooooo wish for that...but it's soooo not that simple....we don't choose it ...its in the body, its feels automatic, awful, painful, lonely, shameful etc & all the other grief that comes with Trauma ..
Hello PP, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. We have done several videos on trauma you may find interesting. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Can we really say goodbye to the thought 'its my fault' that easily ? and the feeling it generates? i believe we are trying to let go of painful bad experiences... that are contained within the belief. and that can take some time. this approach is very 'cognitive' and 'heady' -reducing people's problems down to a simple thought we can change...when our experience is more than that. is deeper than that. the grief and other emotions that hold these beliefs in place needs to be dealt with. the person needs to feel the awful sense of injustice that is real before letting it go. if that's even possible. intigration is a better word maybe. Part of the problem is that the story was never heard. and needs to be heard...by a compassionate therapist... and the person does not need be told- to drop it and move on. it will fall away in its own time. And just maybe that old soldier needed someone to listen to him- more than get an accupunture treatment. Perhaps he was looking for some connection and compassion in life- rather than someone who judges him as looking for positive attention. there's nothing wrong with looking for attention. cheers.
Hi Peter, change the beliefs and the thoughts and feelings change too. Yes, this can involve 'processing' (finding the life lesson, reaching acceptance etc.), as a mature adult, past experiences and then guiding your Inner Child through this too. The process we advocate and teach (Golden Thread Process) does focus attention on the thoughts and beliefs rather than the feelings for the reasons we set out in our last video: ua-cam.com/video/9XuoL9pQSR8/v-deo.html
My brother tries to work on his past life traumas now because he believed some healer that told him, he was traumatized in his past lives...THAT for me is os OBSESSION with ego-self ! He is a spoiled brat, that never had severe problems in his life - except abnormal self pity mabye ;_). These healers and therapists really make a living off of the ego-self, which is making up bullshit in its imagination all day long.
Hi 19Marc79, Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. I am unsure how our video relates to your views of your bother and what someone else has told him about "past lives". But, thank you for writing. David
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Immensely.
🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻♥️ absolutely! 👍🏻
It comes down to this, I have always been worthy and awesome, my family was just to dysfunctional to see it, because they had their own problems. I now see all of those heartbreaking experiences as lessons that have brought me here. "Here" is the happiest and most successful I have ever felt/ been in my life.
Thank you Alex and David for sharing your wisdom, without it I would still be a squealing piglet wallowing in the mud occasionally getting up to jump on the carousel! Now I celebrate and enjoy the green lights and stop at the red ones to see what they are really about. I am so full joy.
Amen! Thank you for sharing your beautiful awakening, Stephanie. You are divine! :)
Alex + David x
I absolutely love this video it has described what I went through as a child and how its impacted me in adulthood. My life has always been about over performing & proving my worth. Nothing I do is ever good enough. Life lesson - I can't change what happened but I can change my perceptions.
Great personal insight Bibian. Thank you for sharing! Alex + David x
I can totally relate to your comment and I appreciate you sharing the lesson at the end...... “but I can change my perceptions.”
This ending point helps point towards a new beginning.
Peace~
I am in awe. This series teaching today has opened my eyes. I am 57. My mom is 93. I grew up in a dysfunctional home but i replayed my moms negative words that were spoken to me constantly. A case in point was in 4th grade( 8yrs old) my male teacher was very violent with me daily. He would pull out his thick paddle daily and just for fun paddle me and would ask the popular boys how many whacks i should get. He would bully me at lunch everyday. I would go home with welts on my bottom and beg my mom to make him stop. It got so bad i didnt want to go to school. My mom finally had a meeting with said teacher in which she conveyed that the teacher lied and said it was all my fault and my mom believed him. Even though i was a wall flower and never did anything wrong. Years down the road and several relationships later i realized i was drawn to abusive relationships. All i can say is thank you for these series. Is it wrong to want my grand kids to hear your messages? (Ages 7-14) the 14yr old was physically and sexually abused at age 2. Do you have a series for kids?
I feel so blessed finding this channel. Every single video is clear, practical, and made with love. Truly life changing, thank you for your time and beautiful teachings!
Hi Val,
We're deeply touched by your kind words and thrilled to hear that you find our channel and videos beneficial. Knowing that you believe our content is clear, practical, and made with love truly warms our hearts. It's our joy and purpose to share teachings that can positively influence your journey.
Thank you for your blessing and for being a part of our community. We're here to support you and look forward to continuing to share our journey with you.
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I love this video so much. I think a guided meditation on starting your life now and letting go of the past would be extremely helpful.
Hi Rin... thanks for your kind feedback - we're glad you enjoyed the video! And, yes we'll definitely add that mediation to our video 'to do list' 😀 Alex + David x
Acceptance rather than forgiveness. Yes!
Very powerful!
This is absolutely one of your BEST videos! I’ll be listening to this over & over. 🙌🏼 thank you!
This is so profound and life altering! I listen to this over and over again and I am changing my life because of this life lesson! Thank you so much David and Alex!
Thank you Debbie x
I am new to your channel, this so far the second video i have watched and i can truly say i can resonate with everything you say. I have been raised in a very dysfunctional family. I grew up not knowing my self. I did not even know that i have a "self." I was so confused and unhappy. I did not know what my feelings are and i didn't know how to handle them. I grew up pleasing and attending the needs of my mother, my family, relatives, and other people in order to gain love, affection, validation and recognition. I felt so drained and empty. I was so hungry and thirsty for love that i look for it outside my family only to end up marrying someone who is just like my mother or even worse. I married a man who does not love me and abuse me emotionally, psychologically and physically. I felt so lost. I was deeply in pain.
I am glad that through channels like this it helped me know the truth. After decades, after 36years, long years of being so unaware, i finally understand what happened to me. And it goes back in my dark, painful, scary childhood experiences.
Now i am starting to heal and recover myself which i find so difficult but nevertheless, i am very willing to help the inner child in me to break free and let go.
My heartfelt thank you for all that you do to uplift humankind. From the place and family i grew up with, i never thought that good people exist. Now i believe that there are good people out there in this world we live in. Thank you for helping me and others see the light.♥️
What a wonderful retelling of your experience and your life lessons. I learned much from you. Thanks.
I really enjoy these videos. They really do help. Putting words to what I experience gives me perspective. I generally view my issues as minor but occasionally they pack a wallop and I break down and can’t stop crying or function for a few days. All 12 years of school were difficult. I dreaded school. Begged to stay home, pretended to be sick. I was bullied both by students and teachers. I was also bullied by some of my aunts, cousins, and paternal grandmother. No so much actively but by ignoring and avoiding me. Leaving me out. I wanted a best friend but I would have settled for peace. All I got was dismissal. My parents were very understanding but I don’t think the knew what to do. When I recall mistakes I’ve made, really just small mistakes that I was humiliated for, I physically wince and my self talk sometimes is horrible. Sometimes it will actually come out-loud like I can’t help it. I will actually say out-loud “I hate myself”. It’s not all the time but it’s like you describe, a carousel. I think I was coping but then my worst nightmare happened. I moved cross country to North Dakota for a work assignment. One of my co-workers was very nice and we talked a lot. One night we were having a drink and I told her about a past mistake. I regretted telling her but I didn’t feel bad about it because it thought we were bonding and becoming friends. Things got busy and a few months later she sat me down and told me she was avoiding me and explained why. She told me that I shouldn’t tell people personal things like that, and a few other things that don’t deserve repeating. I was shocked and devastated! I’m a crier so I was upset but she was so cold. I understand now that my past mistake triggered her. She’s had some really bad things happen to her, which ironically she told me all about before I shared my bit. I asked her what I could do and she said there was nothing I could do and that she needed time. What I told her got around to some other co workers too. I don’t mind sharing my mistakes but I do want the opportunity to defend myself. Gossip doesn’t allow for that generally. Anyway 3 years later I still work with her. I used to try to be nice and act like everything was ok but now I’m exhausted and I hate her and I’ve just given up. I avoid her at all costs because when I would try to greet her she wouldn’t even look at me and I would get hurt and disappointed so I just avoid the situation. I know all of this must be stemming from my childhood. I’m ok with her decision to cut me out because she’s not really a nice person anyway. I’m really worried about looking like the bad guy if people notice I avoid her. Ive developed a very large fibroid from the stress. I feel I’ve made some progress lately mainly through meditation. I’m just not sure where to start. I just want the pain to stop and to be able to go on without all this bothering me. I sometimes can do this but then I have to see her at work and anger and hatred come up. I’m just not sure where to start! Thank you for all the information and I’m determined to work on this and I would appreciate anything you could share with me.
Hi MC,
Thanks for your share I enjoyed reading it.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
You have raised many issues that would be impossible to address through the comment section of UA-cam.
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David
David and Alex this video is absolutely amazing. My traumatic childhood affects my adulthood now.Im understanding how I have to nurture my inner child , I'm not finding it easy..I won't give up on her.Thanks to you both for these videos..Always greatful for the support. Oh and you were fabulous yesterday David xx
Keep on keeping on - you're worth it Denise :) x
i couldnt control what was happening in the past, but i can control what is happening now, fantastic wisdom guys
Yes!... you can take control of your inner-world right now and this will help you address any challenging or unfamiliar external situations with greater ease and flow. :-)
I am currently going through some very much needed self-reflection and your videos randomly came up in my recommended feed not too long ago. I have been binge watching ever since. So, so many things from my childhood/past have now suddenly become very clear to me. It is as if I closed and then opened my eyes again and everything looked differently (everything made sense)! I am thankful you’ve been sent my way! Thank you for producing such valuable content.
Just watched this video. What can I say, I can say, what you have done, David & Alex,I don’t know where to start, I thank you from the bottom of my heart!
These videos, I know I say it a lot, but it’s true, I am where I am now, because of you!
Since I have got back off holiday, I have some family issues ongoing, which are causing me some red light feelings. My awareness is, those red lights, some are from the present time and situations I’ve been put in, and some I know are from past experiences.
I am soo proud of myself, for the fact, that I can support my family as well as myself whilst going through difficult times. Because family issues aren’t going to be resolved for some time.
I know this time last year, I would not have been able to be as strong as I am today!!
David & Alex, you truly are awesome! Thank you again 💜☯️🙏🏼
Thanks Liz - we appreciate your support! Alex + David x
Genius - you have changed my life. thanks!
Hi @tomWil245,
Thank you for your kind words! We're overjoyed to hear that our content has had such a positive impact on your life. Remember, your journey to understanding and resolving issues is a testament to your strength and commitment to your Shen spirit. Keep embracing your path with courage and love.
Kind Regards,
David
Thank you David and Alex for the gifts you both have given me this holiday season... I thank God for you tube...NOW because your videos came... I put a note on my dresser that says heal your past....I've look at it every night for at least a yr, then your videos came up. As of Dec 12, 2019 when the red light stuff starts, I say to my (in David's) voice..." Stop it, stop it...I laugh in my head and the negative thoughts go away. I drop my shoulder and lastly I take deep breaths and focus on my Shein...(I know I spelled it wrong) . When I wake up 3am- 5am I use this time to heal my inner child. I still work out, but this is more important. Blessings... I thank you from the bottom of my heart 💓. 🙂
Thank you for sharing and for your support Maureen! x
Why am I crying listening to this video??
Hi KalpanaMD
Thanks for the question.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
I would suggest you do the Golden Thread Process as we demonstrate in many of our videos to discover the reason for you crying over the video.
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Its because the unfairness usually continues into adulthood and beyond.. they are typically not one time events .. its years of bad treatment . Much love to all those working through these things. Living with all that anger and rage .. we end up making mistakes in life . Which further ingrains the story .. its why its important to get out of such families and heal
Hi @thetruth3325,
Thank you for sharing your insights. It's true that prolonged unfairness and mistreatment can deeply affect us. Recognizing this and seeking to resolve these issues is a powerful step towards changing our narrative.
Much love and strength to everyone working through these challenges. Remember, you have the power to create a new, positive story for yourself.
Kind Regards,
David
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Excellent analysis...both makes total sense and also it works!! Liberating!
Thank you Barbara. We appreciate your support and considered input :) Alex + David x
Happy good Sunday morning to Wu Wei Wisdom
Happy Sunday to you too!
Thank you for your support 🙏
Alex + David x
Good people. Thank you.
Thank you for this message❤️🙏
I am always positively impacted by your video teachings. Thank you so much for providing this wonderful healing resource!
Thanks for watching and commenting Ronda.
We appreciate your support and are glad you are finding the videos helpful - we love making them! :)
Alex + David x
Thank you guys so much, seriously.
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge!! Your video's are such an eyeopener. Hope to attend your workshops one day
Thanks for your support - we really appreciate and we're glad you enjoyed the video! Alex + David x
Awesome! I especially liked that you shared things from your own lives.
Thank you Hakan! x
Thank you so much for sharing these insights and gifts with us. I love this video. Wu Wei Wisdom, In order to Forgive, not just accept, but find a way I could be deserving of forgiveness, I had to lower the bar from the unrealistic high standards I'd held myself & the world too. Then I could see or better accept all things. Universe knew I was looking for help with forgiving, and now you've given me a map to follow I didn't have before. I'm following you and hanging on every word. My life depends on it. Thank you again.
Thanks for sharing your personal insights Mysti.... you are awesome! x
Perfect timing for this video. My morning meditation brought me to the IC saying my mother didn't love me the right way. I always wished I had a different mother. So I asked IC how would you like to have been loved? She didn't know . Just not that way. Oh so you didn't like the way the package was wrapped? Because she does love you. That's it! It wasn't good enough. Maybe it wasn't. That's ok today . We agreed the adult Michelle has the kind of love IC wants.
So the video raised raises the question of not blaming others for past hurts. I find it's more of protectioning myself from being hurt
then and now. So IC needs to learn it's ok to be open with boundaries? Also,
How to really understand I am the maker of my own pain? It's so hard to believe I can control my pain and emotions.
David believes we can and I want to be pain free so I want to believe him. Will I ever get to a place where the past hurts are healed and I can just deal with the present life?
You both are doing a great service for the universe! I am so grateful to have been lead to this teaching it's the only one that is making a true difference in my life.
Michelle
Hi Michelle,
Thanks for your comments, it sounds as though you are doing some important work here on your Life Lessons.
I enjoyed reading your experiences, I would suggest you ask that part of your mind we are labelling the Inner Child who she thinks creates the Red Light Feelings?
Because, once she accepts that SHE/YOU are the creator of ALL of your Red Light Feelings and are NOT the victim of them, there will be NO need to protect yourself from what YOU choose to create or not create.
David
@@WuWeiWisdom David thanks for your response, and suggestions! I believe this is key to my emotional imbalance. Looking forward to a Wu Wei Way of life of emotional well being!
Today I finally heard my emotions can be a guide to be interpreted . A way to measure my spiritual balance. I hope this teaching sticks this time.
Thanks so much for all you do!
What happened with me was I lost all my confidence after my bad childhood . And I never gained it back. Reinforcements kept coming from my parents that I am not good enough and made matters worse. I have now started focusing on my good qualities and this has helped me a lot.
Hi Vidya,
Thank you for your comments, we are pleased that our videos are helping on your spiritual journey.
"No confidence" is an emotion that we label a Red-light feeling. Remember you are the creator of your feelings NOT the victim of them!
You are amazing to have come through that challenging childhood and parental poor emotional education.
Well Done! :-)
It's now your responsibility to re-parent yourself and keep focused on those good qualities you have in abundance.
Now you have the knowledge and emotional education I have NO doubt that you will return to your authentic balance and harmony and will be able to live your life in Wu Wei Wisdom.
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Thank you David for the wonderful reply. I am now trying to bring up my daughter in the way I wanted to be brought up as a child. Hope I am doing a good job.
And also I am already subscribed.
Love the way you allow that part of self(inner child) to be integrated. So important for me to acknowledge that first, and then can move on to allowing adult self to be the parent I would like to have had ( instead of continuing old parents tapes internally!)
Lovely integration.. I used to think I had to ‘get rid’ of that inner part of me, I judged it and saw it as a defect to be removed. It’s so much kinder to love that part instead and then hopefully she’ll settle down more in time ! 🙆♀️🥰
So I thank you both so much for your clarity and teachings 💓
Hi Lilas,
Thanks for your kind feedback, we're pleased to hear that our approach resonates with you!
We have produced several other videos on the Inner Child that you may also enjoy:
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• Reparenting Your Inner Child (Part 2) ➜ ua-cam.com/video/BYUxAQYpsKg/v-deo.html
• Inner Child Healing for Love Addiction, Codependency & Codependent Relationships ➜ ua-cam.com/video/J1olSZ1wyz0/v-deo.html
• Let Go Of The Past & Heal Your Inner Child ➜ ua-cam.com/video/jxmMKS9qyCs/v-deo.html
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How do you let it go? I want to absolutely. I dont even remember what happened at all, I didnt know there was any problem, I just knew it was dysfunctional. I didnt even think it affected me, but clearly my subconscious mind knows what happened? I didnt even know what the inner child was until recently and I am 55 years old. I dont think I am a victim at all, I have never thought that. But I have have physical symptoms that started 29 years ago after my son was born. I am being told that it is the child (the ID-subconscious mind) that is getting in the way of me being well. Is this true? I can see how I was searching for love and validation my whole life became a people pleaser and goodist. How do I get my stubborn inner child to let it go? I sure want to. I want to be well, very tired of unwellness. She really just wants to cry, I dont know if she is angry anymore. She was angry and triggered a lot over my whole life, but not so much anymore now that I am aware.
Hi Dana,
Thank you for your question, I think you have answered your own question.
Instead of asking: "How do I let go?" the question should be "Why am I holding on?"
Then you go on to explain that part of your mind we are labelling the Inner Child is stubbornly holding on. At the moment that part of your mind is in control! And she does NOT want to let go.
You will have to do the work and find the Life Lessons why she is still looking for external validation and love.
Our Inner Child Reparenting videos may help you with this: PART 1 - ua-cam.com/video/SndWtblVf2U/v-deo.html PART 2 - ua-cam.com/video/BYUxAQYpsKg/v-deo.html
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I just watched the therapy room video on your Facebook page. Beautiful! A work of art. Also just to see and smell and experience the peace and history in that room....it would heal the soul. It heals my soul just to watch the video!!
Thank you, Barbara - we love it too... it is a little healing oasis infused with Taoist love and designed by Alex :) x
Another great video
Thanks Raven 💜
Thank you guys. I think I expected once I'd done the ic work once, that was it, but now I see the process needs to be repeated. Blessings ❤❤❤
Thank you Dee! x
I do agree with alot of your videos.
You both present so differently but it's like a balance. I find David sometimes gets a little hyped up when sharing ...then Alex comes back calmly. Wu wei😋 Thank you both for your work!🌻
Thank you very much for this enlightening video. I understand that our inner child may lead us to have demands and expectations towards others that are not fair for them and are just a product of our inner child's need for reassurance. But how can we distinguish these "illegitimate" demands and expectations from those that are natural to have in a relationship? How do we know if what we want/ask is an expression of our true self, values and desires for our life and is therefore something we should "stick to" or if it is a product of our inner child and is therefore something we should let go? I understand the conceptual difference between the two, but I am not able to make the distinction in practice, in my life. I am constantly doubting myself, asking "Is it ok for me to feel/ask this or is this just my inner child talking?". How can I know?
David, people have come through it with the end result as messed up head, messed up believe system, distorted view about themselves and life in general. Many don’t even know about it. It is like asking fish what water is? The one who find the connection of the life situation and the childhood are set on a life mission to undo parents work.
You are right. Once a person understands and can accept that the red light feelings are in indicator of an internal imbalance and something they have control of then they can choose to begin looking deeper. As you say, many people are taught that the feelings have nothing to do with them (and so this absolves them of self-responsibility). The deeper work is a personal journey or mission - but it is worth it and it is the greatest act of self-love you can give yourself! Alex + David x
One of the best helpful content on youtube..You both are doing incredible work..Thank you
Wow, thank you! Kind regards, David.
My inner child is broken 💔 and I am inwardly hiding inside by overeating, neglecting myself. It is as if I used food to medicate, to force down my emotions, to hide from being hurt again, afraid if I am small, I'll be abused and I eat to keep from seeing what happened to me.
🙏🏻🙏🏻Thank U both
Relax and enjoy your life....sounds like this is not deep wisdom. But surprise!!! Very, very deep wisdom. Life is sacred. Life is short. The holy biome is penetrated with grace and beauty. So wake up from the bad memories. Enjoy the light. Thank you, David and Alex.
The truth IS simple and accessible... only the out of balance mind searches for complexity and confusion where there is none. Alex + David x
You explained my sister 100%! Thank you so much for helping me understand these manipulating people!
Thanks for watching Jason. We're glad the video helped you! Alex + David x
Thank you again!
Yes!!, such insight & great explain ing.. 😼
Thank you Wendi! x
Many thanks for this very instructive vidéo ; it is also very pleasant & lively to listen to you both - in spite of the difficult subject. Would you know the way to work with fibromyalgia - chronic pains related to childhood traumas ? All the best,
Thanks for your kind feedback Nadavic - we appreciate your support! x
Wow, what a question. Where do you start? Well done guys, great advice for us all, and you talk with such empathy you an example to us all.
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Thank you guys. Greetings from California. Listening to this as I roast in the sauna.
Hi from a wet but beautifully green morning in Derbyshire, England!
We hope you enjoy the video :)
Alex + David x
I’ve spent the last five years ruminating. It’s quite maddening especially when it sneaks up on me. I just remind myself that I’m 1 in 7.6 billion or so much people. How I feel doesn’t really matter.
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It is just heart breaking that any child has to endure dysfunction and abuse. I am done letting my family have any more power over me for one more minute.
Dear Alex and David, thanks again for this life lesson. A lightbulb just went off...or is it: on? I think I just found the core belief. Will talk to you soon about it!
Yes! Well done Ellie :) We're glad the video resonated with you ~ Alex + David x
Thank you for this video. I commented then deleted it but Ill try again...I am unsure what my authentic beliefs are, are they the ones I grew up with, family values, opinions, expectations or the ones I have learned recently. Some newer beliefs are that its better to have an income doing what you love creatively than a mundane job working for a manager. Most of my ex facebook friends had their own businesses and I felt I had to. I really would like to be self employed with singing, painting or acting jobs yet I dont feel as inspired when I dont work but if I did work Id have no time or energy for the things I love. Money or time? Is working slavery or is that a choice that I have believed in cause someone said that. I also want to trust that if I work, my inner child wont go crazy, I want to be authentic, balanced, support myself and feel supported. i do feel that I focus on the past. A previous manager told me off for laughing when the rest of my table of workers were laughing too, I was talked to, not them, why? Things like that keep blocking me from wanting to share my authenticity with others even if I get paid for it cause they dont accept my laughter, my authenticity, my joy. i know its a 'its not fair' moment but they are blocking me from trusting the general public, humans, people that can shoot and bring you down if they feel like it. I'm scared of working, i'm scared of the potential negativity of other people, I'm scared of people not accepting my authenticity.
Hi Kate,
Thank you for writing, I enjoyed reading your comments. I would ask you to concentrate on the last sentence. "I'm scared of people not accepting my authenticity".
I think that this would be a great place to start the Golden Thread Process. We cover many of these teaching in our videos, such as: "What other people think about you is none of your business!".
"Scared" is a Red Light Feeling and you are the creator of your feelings NOT the victim!
Do YOU accept YOUR authenticity??
So, there is quite a lot of work to get stuck into through the Wu Wei teachings.
David
@@WuWeiWisdom Thank you David, the journey begins 🙌🙏
@@katewright2445Wright exciting times... enjoy the process :)
I don’t understand the part about not letting it happen again. Perhaps it is my inner child feeling defensive, but I didn’t ask for or cause the situation in the first place, so there is something about “not letting” it happen again that doesn’t sit well with me. I understand where the woman asking the question is coming from. Letting things go is not as easy as setting down a physical weight. There is no switch I can flip. I don’t understand how this works. I don’t see that there is anything divine about me, but I will keep looking. Thanks for your videos.
Hi,
I personally have learnt a great deal from many of your videos. One of my children married a young lady who has three children already. I believe that she has many issues with her childhood. is it wrong of me to send her some of the videos, or is she going to feel condemned that I’m judging her? Due to the fact I am witnessing her destroy own children through her negative childhood and she arguing with my son when he tries to correct all 5 children? I would appreciate your advice. Hilda
Hi Hilda,
Thank you for your kind comments we are pleased that our videos are helping on your spiritual journey.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
I would suggest instead of sending videos to her, why not talk to her about them and get her point of view?
Something like "I've stumbled across these people on UA-cam who have different ideas about emotions and childhood experiences and wondering what you think about what they are saying?"
That could start a good conversation between you both on these important subjects.
David
Wow if this ain't my life I don't know what is.... Being in a cult from the age of 12 on into my late 20s, a cult that actually taught that you had to be perfect ..... No wonder I'm the way I am.... I get it now, now to undo all that whew!
Hello, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
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Why is trauma not discussed? I appreciate what you say...but you also make it sound so easy to just.....LET GO!
People with trauma sooooo wish for that...but it's soooo not that simple....we don't choose it ...its in the body, its feels automatic, awful, painful, lonely, shameful etc & all the other grief that comes with Trauma ..
Hello PP, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. We have done several videos on trauma you may find interesting. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Can we really say goodbye to the thought 'its my fault' that easily ? and the feeling it generates? i believe we are trying to let go of painful bad experiences... that are contained within the belief. and that can take some time. this approach is very 'cognitive' and 'heady' -reducing people's problems down to a simple thought we can change...when our experience is more than that. is deeper than that. the grief and other emotions that hold these beliefs in place needs to be dealt with. the person needs to feel the awful sense of injustice that is real before letting it go. if that's even possible. intigration is a better word maybe. Part of the problem is that the story was never heard. and needs to be heard...by a compassionate therapist... and the person does not need be told- to drop it and move on. it will fall away in its own time. And just maybe that old soldier needed someone to listen to him- more than get an accupunture treatment. Perhaps he was looking for some connection and compassion in life- rather than someone who judges him as looking for positive attention. there's nothing wrong with looking for attention. cheers.
Hi Peter, change the beliefs and the thoughts and feelings change too. Yes, this can involve 'processing' (finding the life lesson, reaching acceptance etc.), as a mature adult, past experiences and then guiding your Inner Child through this too. The process we advocate and teach (Golden Thread Process) does focus attention on the thoughts and beliefs rather than the feelings for the reasons we set out in our last video: ua-cam.com/video/9XuoL9pQSR8/v-deo.html
My brother tries to work on his past life traumas now because he believed some healer that told him, he was traumatized in his past lives...THAT for me is os OBSESSION with ego-self ! He is a spoiled brat, that never had severe problems in his life - except abnormal self pity mabye ;_). These healers and therapists really make a living off of the ego-self, which is making up bullshit in its imagination all day long.
Hi 19Marc79,
Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support.
I am unsure how our video relates to your views of your bother and what someone else has told him about "past lives".
But, thank you for writing.
David