Build Confidence with Women by Owning your Masculinity - Third Stage Men | Becoming FEARLESS
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2015
- If you don't feel confident or have the success you want with women, it's probably because you're not truly owning your masculinity - which includes being vulnerable.
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FEARLESS founder, Brian Begin, explains that most men today have some degree of "nice guy" syndrome - what "Way of the Superior Man" author, David Deida, calls "second stage" masculinity. They're not being authentic with people (women especially) and they're afraid of tension because they don't have good self-esteem and are seeking external validation throughout their daily life, even moment-to-moment. A guy who doesn't believe in himself enough to be authentic and confident with women and socially in general is unattractive to women for a multitude of reasons (See "Related Videos" section for more on nice guy syndrome.), so they often get Friend Zoned.
The guy is so "nice" and women often want to keep him around (especially if he provides for her, takes care of her, and/or is there for her emotionally) but there's no authentic man there for her to get attracted to - so if you're a "nice guy" enjoy the Friend Zone and/or unfulfilling relationships in perpetuity...until you decide it's time to drop the bullshit and get real.
The reason "bad boys" are often attractive to women than "nice guys" is because they are owning their masculinity, sexuality, and reality. They aren't desperate for validation, know that if one women doesn't like them, another one right around the corner or across the bar will. They'll be aggressive, lead, and they aren't afraid to piss women-or anyone-off. Because if you really boil it down to the core, bad boys love themselves a lot more than "nice guys" - that's what confidence really is, and confidence is always sexy to women. Bad Boys reflect what Deida calls "first stage" masculinity. Because they are very masculine, unapologetic, and penetrating with their energy...but they also aren't great with vulnerability or being in deep concert with other's feelingsand emotions around them. They're "first stage" because they often do unconsciously and/or uncaringly steamroll and disregard others.
"Nice guys," while having taken steps back in their masculinity, have developed their feminine, their depth of feeling, and ability to relate emotionally and consciously pick up on what's going on for others emotionally. These skills, again, are often developed and used from a place of validation-seeking...but once second-stage "nice guys" start stepping into tension, breaking their need for validation, and owning their natural masculinity, they move towards becoming a very confident hybrid who's extremely attractive to women: Third Stage Men.
Stepping into tension consistently and learning to love that, fear, and being uncomfortable is a huge piece of that puzzle, and as Begin talks about in the video, it's really the key to becoming a better man and succeeding in life overall...making you a better man, making you more confident and attractive to women.
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I'm usually skeptical of dating coaches as they're usually soooo far off the mark it's hilarious but this talk was totally spot on!!
I give you a virtual high five!!
i love how this video is so short but goes over every point necessary. Love this!!!
Zareef Tashfique agreed !!
Wow. You described an emotional journey, of learning to feel more and stay present in that emotion - with such a display of EQ. You pretty much prove your own point.
Goddamnit Brian! I can’t believe how amazing this information is. Seriously, your knowledge and understanding of the body and it’s relation to emotional tension and holding patterns is unreal. As well as your understanding of human nature at its core. I can’t thank you enough for this awesome content and the work you do my friend. You will be seeing me at one of your events, you can count on it.
Thank you
Thank you for the kind words! Glad you’re finding the videos so valuable. Can’t wait to meet you
thank you
Just WOW
Stress isn't outside of us. It is only how we react to something that makes us feel stress. I never knew this until I was far along in presence work. Or I should say I never felt it. When you actually feel the power you have to control and conquer anything that arises within it is eye-opening. It takes much work and is easy to fall back into ego reaction, which is when your unconscious.
This was great info, spot on!
Glad it connected for you!
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I need boundaries
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Surely people who don't love themselves are the ones who need love the most?
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thanks for braking down deida. the editing job is horrendous. hope that your newer videos are more refined
is that freaking Aqua Carpatica????
It sounds really great, no kidding. And sure you might get a date but you must provide her so e money too.
No, you really don't
So, why the type of work seems to matter ?
Trying to be self confident is a very bad thing and I would like to explain why that is. The self confident type of woman thinks she is better then others, they
boost their own ego so high and not caring who they hurt in this process, These type of people will reject others on dating profiles because they see flaws in
there profile or what they sent in a message. That is being way too hard on a person when all they are trying to do is get to know the other person and they
will ignore a person without giving a person a chance which is considered cold hearted when the other person is being kind to the other person. Someone wanting to have this self confident thing is considered to have pride or to even be self conceited. Pride is in the bible and this is not a good thing to have. I would like to mention
some various different bible quotes here. A righteous man departs from evil, but a fool rages in his confidence. Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall. For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to
the humble.” For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, It is not good to eat much
honey, nor is it glorious to seek one's own glory. “Scoffer” is the name of the arrogant, haughty man who acts with arrogant pride. Haughty eyes and a proud heart, the lamp of the wicked, are sin. Pride is defined as the pleasure or satisfaction gained from achievements, qualities, or possessions. Pride makes a person feel proud. Being proud of his abilities creates an image of the person as supreme in comparison to others. The person is engrossed in him self and pays less attention to others. They also reject any advices from others, thinking that they are better than them. A proud person and the self confident type person rarely acknowledge their flaws and often will blame others.
Nothing wrong with a healthy level of confidence but not narcissism. Yeah, a lot of people actually think it's good in a person when they think they are awesome, never ever apologise for anything and never admit they are wrong even when they are which is stupid. Never follow society's honor code, it will only make you miserable deep down because it's actually a dishonorable honor code.
Everyone gets where they are in life as a result of blind chance, whether they are willing to admit that or not. So I have a kind of neutral opinion of myself, I'm not better or worse than anyone. I just do what I do and commit myself to things that are actually honorable in a person, such as empathy, wisdom and kindness.
Well said Chad!
Horrible editing. Awesome talk.
He's a tuskless narwhal.. naturally the women flock!