Love all of this, Andrea. Every single thing you talked about is so real and so true…and exactly how I feel most days as well. Something you said about dreams and how our dreams change as we evolve and grow up. Thank you so much for those wise words. I never thought of it that way…and the last couple years have started to feel like all my dreams are passing me by…but really, I have new dreams now. Your videos are always my comfort and cozy safe place…and I can’t thank you enough for sharing. 🧡 Amber
Hey Andrea. I have been going through a bit of a tough time lately, but catching up with your latest videos have been helping me a great deal. So just wanted to send a big THANK YOU & HUGS ❤
Your issues sound very similar to my initial perimenapause symptoms. I'm about 6 years older, but those symptoms started at around 44 and before there were changes in my cycle. A good gyno is the best thing! I hope you find answers. Love your favourite things. I absolutely love being in my 40s and cant wait for my 50s. Live is just getting better and better 😊❤
That's why I'm concerned. My cycle hasn't changed but my brain fog and my anxiety are getting worse even though I'm actually on a good sleep schedule, getting daily exercise, eating well, etc. I will keep you all updated as I get new doctors and hopefully more information. :) I love that you're enjoying your 40s. That's how I want to feel over the next several years. And when I get to 50 I want to be excited and not anxious.
Wise decision to find a new doctor. I'm 59 now (and quite happy with it!), but I went through menopause early. Sudden, severe symptoms started when I was still 41, brain fog being a big one. About 5 months later, I was done. My doctors refused to believe me, but hormonal tests proved I was completely post-menopausal at just past 42. So yes, it's definitely possible that's what's happening with your body. Also, I love the Great British Baking Show, too! 🍰🍩🍪🎂 It's a nice, cozy way to relax, along with snuggling up with a good book. 📚 Btw, I enjoy your long, rambly vlogs. ☺️☁️🌬️⛅🌬️🌤️🌞 ~ Kim
It was such a horrible appointment. I need a new doctor for sure. My brain fog and my anxiety have gotten really bad, worse than ever. But other things are totally normal, especially my cycle. But I worry that the brain fog and anxiety are the first symptoms of bigger things changing and I don't want to just ignore them like my current doctor seems to. The Great British Baking Show makes me so happy, it really is the ultimate cozy watch. And thank you so much Kim, I'm thrilled that you enjoy the long rambly vlogs. :)
Right there with you! I recently turned 41 and I've come to realize that 39/40 were some of my best years in recent memory (not least because I started noveling again for the first time in literally decades the year I turned 40). BUT...in recent months I've felt quite a bit different and I feel like it's perimenopause. I'm trying to recapture the magic of the past years while also navigating this new physical and mental state and will be on the hunt for a new doctor to help me through it. Life in my 40s, indeed!
I feel you on the hunt for a new doctor, that's where I'm at too. I'm pretty sure I'm dealing with perimenopause, and already I don't like it lol. We're not alone and we'll get through this. Thanks for watching!
Hello 👋🏾 From a fellow Andrea, who is also 43, AND is super close to her mom. Thank you for this video!!! I totally felt seen!! AND thank you for your vulnerability. Your videos have been a joy to watch!! So happy I stumbled upon your channel!! Happy Monday 😊🌻💗
Hello fellow Andrea! I love how much we have in common lol. :) I'm so glad the video resonated. You are not alone. Thank you for this comment, it helps me feel less alone as well. :)
Right there with you on not caring as much what people think about me as I get older. It's so freeing. I'm so tired of doctors who act like this! I had gained weight at my last check-up, and my doctor got a tone in her voice and said, "so what happened?" followed by, "what are you going to do about it?"
It's so freeing! And talking about people who's opinions I don't care about, sounds like both of our doctors are on that list. I can't believe yours said that. Mine basically implied the same thing. I gained a few pounds (always happens in the summer since I'm not as active and not hiking) but still, it could also just be normal fluctuation. Instead she had the gall to recommend that I exercise for 30 minutes 5 days a week without even asking what I'm currently doing. I wanted to snap back "I walk 40 minutes a day 6-7 days a week" but I don't think it would have made a difference.
@@AndreaJSeverson I really need to find a new doctor. The place I've always gone is a revolving door so the good ones leave just as you're developing a relationship. Switching and moving to a new place is such a hassle, though. I hope we both find ourselves new ones who know how to listen and be kind.
Hi! I am currently at the tail end of my 20's (I turn 30 in April) and I have to say that the last few years of my 20's brought about SO much change and growth. I am confident in who I am. I know what I deserve, and I won't accept anything less. I finally realized just how finite time is and made the leap to start pursuing my dream of being a published author and posting regularly on UA-cam. I am going into this next decade of my life with a clear mind, and a hopeful heart! Thank you for sharing life in your 40's! I have been loving these glimpses into your thoughts surrounding age and all of the things that come with it (good and bad)! Also, congrats on your upcoming release! So happy for you! :)
I'm so glad you're realizing all these things before turning 30. It took me way too long to learn some of these things. I'm so excited to see how your channel grows over the coming year! And thank you! I'm so excited for this book launch. :)
☁️ 🌧️ I’m 42 and I can honestly say I’m liking it a lot and the older I get the more I can say anything I want and not feel guilty, such as my feelings, thoughts, opinions etc. I’ve become wiser, I don’t take nonsense from anyone, I don’t want negativity around me, I’m more to myself. I’m learning how to take care of me more, I’m just enjoying it, I was nervous when I hit 40 but now I’m loving it (lol minus the gray hairs lol 😂) but I’m learning how to embrace them. #40sladies ❤
☁Thank you so much for this video, Andrea! It couldn't have come at a better time :) As you know, I'm 43 (soon to be 44 in December, yay) so I needed this ego boost as I'll admit, getting older is scary and life hasn't been doing me any favours recently. But this vlog made me laugh, made me cry, made me think, made me grateful, and made me realise that life in my 40s is a privilege and a blessing. When I was in my 20s and 30s, life was all about QUANTITY: More friends, more followers, more likes, more handbags, more, more, more. An insatiable desire to fill every nook and cranny with material things, people, and experiences. I'm guessing it's because you have more life expectancy in your 20s and 30s. Furthermore, I was SO obsessed with finding my soulmate, everything I did was because of that goal and I was chronic about it that everything else took a back seat (I'm totally exposing myself here but whatever). Now, in my 40s, life is all about QUALITY: Less is more and the simpler things in life are treasured. I have less friends but I'm way happier. I have less things but I'm more fulfilled. I spend my days walking my 4 month old niece around showing her the (white) butterflies, hummingbirds, and birds outside my window - it's great! Once my 6 year old nephew comes home from school and I finish my remote work we play Legos, Hot Wheels, or Avengers action figures; other days we draw or paint. It's the best thing in the world. Is it the way I thought my life would be? No, I thought I'd be doing this stuff with my husband and my own kids but that's not how it turned out and that's okay. I can still have those things but it won't be as I imagined when I was dreaming about them as a teenager or in my 20s and 30s. I also don't let things bother me like they used to. My sister just had her 38th birthday last week Friday (October 19th) and she fusses over little things and I told her, "Wait until you turn 40, you won't care about any of this!"
I'm so glad you enjoyed the vlog! I really wanted to share something that was more positive about being in our 40s. There really are so many things to enjoy about getting older. It's not all bad lol. :)
The amount of anger I felt when you said your doctor shut you down about perimenopause when we LITERALLY can start anytime from mid-30s on up. I was 38 when mine started! I'm 42 now and the amount of brain fog and possibly undiagnosed ADHD it's kicked up is madness. It's like my whole life is falling apart (and I can't take HRT due to being a blood clot risk so I'm trying to manage with supplements and lifestyle changes). I bet you anything it's perimenopause for you. I'm glad you're looking for a new doctor.
I was so shocked in the appointment. Her immediate dismissal just made me shut down completely. I just wanted to get out of there. When I got my test results back I realized she didn't even test any of my hormones. Right now anxiety and brain fog are the main symptoms that are getting significantly worse, everything else seems normal still. But I'm still now suspicious that it's the onset of perimenopause so I want to find a doctor who's willing to actually listen to me. And thank you for this comment. Hearing that you were angry hearing about her reaction makes me feel validated in my own anger and frustration.
I'm so glad you know what you deserve. Was there was a specific moment when that clarity hit for you? I'm not in my forties quite yet, but I definitely feel a stronger sense of what I want rather than what I'm "supposed to" want than I did when I was in my twenties and earlier thirties. There are so many things people equate with "success" that are not as fulfilling as they promise to be.
The clarity of knowing what I deserved totally hit after the end of my last relationship. I was blindsided by it and when looking through the wreckage of it I saw all the missed red flags in the little ways I was mistreated. Now I know what I deserve and want and I won't accept anything less, even if it means I'm single forever. The clarity in all of that has led to a better understanding of what I want overall and how I want to live my life. Gradually giving up on doing what I'm "supposed to" has been a huge part of that.
Hmmm, ... Totally Agree 100% re : ''find a New Doctor'' !!! : ) Glad to hear your thoughts / New 'take' on your approaches etc : ) Exciting !! Happppy 4U ! HAGD / ''clouds'' : ) End of video Contestant [cute-silly-light lol]
I am who I am. By our 40s and 50s we're not exactly going to change to be what other people want. So they can either accept it or move on to someone else lol.
I love you talking about the weather! Must be the British in me lol!
Can I just get my British citizenship already? I can talk about the weather ALL day!
Love all of this, Andrea. Every single thing you talked about is so real and so true…and exactly how I feel most days as well. Something you said about dreams and how our dreams change as we evolve and grow up. Thank you so much for those wise words. I never thought of it that way…and the last couple years have started to feel like all my dreams are passing me by…but really, I have new dreams now. Your videos are always my comfort and cozy safe place…and I can’t thank you enough for sharing.
🧡 Amber
I'm so glad you enjoyed it! We're allowed to grieve the dreams that have passed by and dream new dreams that are a better fit in our life now.
Hey Andrea. I have been going through a bit of a tough time lately, but catching up with your latest videos have been helping me a great deal. So just wanted to send a big THANK YOU & HUGS ❤
I'm sorry you're struggling, I hope things get easier for you soon. But I'm so glad my videos have helped you. :)
Your issues sound very similar to my initial perimenapause symptoms. I'm about 6 years older, but those symptoms started at around 44 and before there were changes in my cycle. A good gyno is the best thing! I hope you find answers. Love your favourite things. I absolutely love being in my 40s and cant wait for my 50s. Live is just getting better and better 😊❤
That's why I'm concerned. My cycle hasn't changed but my brain fog and my anxiety are getting worse even though I'm actually on a good sleep schedule, getting daily exercise, eating well, etc. I will keep you all updated as I get new doctors and hopefully more information. :) I love that you're enjoying your 40s. That's how I want to feel over the next several years. And when I get to 50 I want to be excited and not anxious.
Wise decision to find a new doctor. I'm 59 now (and quite happy with it!), but I went through menopause early.
Sudden, severe symptoms started when I was still 41, brain fog being a big one. About 5 months later, I was done. My doctors refused to believe me, but hormonal tests proved I was completely post-menopausal at just past 42. So yes, it's definitely possible that's what's happening with your body.
Also, I love the Great British Baking Show, too! 🍰🍩🍪🎂 It's a nice, cozy way to relax, along with snuggling up with a good book. 📚
Btw, I enjoy your long, rambly vlogs.
☺️☁️🌬️⛅🌬️🌤️🌞 ~ Kim
It was such a horrible appointment. I need a new doctor for sure. My brain fog and my anxiety have gotten really bad, worse than ever. But other things are totally normal, especially my cycle. But I worry that the brain fog and anxiety are the first symptoms of bigger things changing and I don't want to just ignore them like my current doctor seems to. The Great British Baking Show makes me so happy, it really is the ultimate cozy watch. And thank you so much Kim, I'm thrilled that you enjoy the long rambly vlogs. :)
The sound of the wind going through the trees was fantastic! You looked so happy!!! I hope colder temperatures show up more consistently for you.
We're finally getting there with cooler temperatures. Today was lovely and we have some nice days coming up as well. :)
Right there with you! I recently turned 41 and I've come to realize that 39/40 were some of my best years in recent memory (not least because I started noveling again for the first time in literally decades the year I turned 40). BUT...in recent months I've felt quite a bit different and I feel like it's perimenopause. I'm trying to recapture the magic of the past years while also navigating this new physical and mental state and will be on the hunt for a new doctor to help me through it. Life in my 40s, indeed!
I feel you on the hunt for a new doctor, that's where I'm at too. I'm pretty sure I'm dealing with perimenopause, and already I don't like it lol. We're not alone and we'll get through this. Thanks for watching!
Hello 👋🏾 From a fellow Andrea, who is also 43, AND is super close to her mom. Thank you for this video!!! I totally felt seen!! AND thank you for your vulnerability. Your videos have been a joy to watch!! So happy I stumbled upon your channel!! Happy Monday 😊🌻💗
Hello fellow Andrea! I love how much we have in common lol. :) I'm so glad the video resonated. You are not alone. Thank you for this comment, it helps me feel less alone as well. :)
Right there with you on not caring as much what people think about me as I get older. It's so freeing. I'm so tired of doctors who act like this! I had gained weight at my last check-up, and my doctor got a tone in her voice and said, "so what happened?" followed by, "what are you going to do about it?"
It's so freeing! And talking about people who's opinions I don't care about, sounds like both of our doctors are on that list. I can't believe yours said that. Mine basically implied the same thing. I gained a few pounds (always happens in the summer since I'm not as active and not hiking) but still, it could also just be normal fluctuation. Instead she had the gall to recommend that I exercise for 30 minutes 5 days a week without even asking what I'm currently doing. I wanted to snap back "I walk 40 minutes a day 6-7 days a week" but I don't think it would have made a difference.
@@AndreaJSeverson I really need to find a new doctor. The place I've always gone is a revolving door so the good ones leave just as you're developing a relationship. Switching and moving to a new place is such a hassle, though. I hope we both find ourselves new ones who know how to listen and be kind.
Hi! I am currently at the tail end of my 20's (I turn 30 in April) and I have to say that the last few years of my 20's brought about SO much change and growth. I am confident in who I am. I know what I deserve, and I won't accept anything less. I finally realized just how finite time is and made the leap to start pursuing my dream of being a published author and posting regularly on UA-cam. I am going into this next decade of my life with a clear mind, and a hopeful heart! Thank you for sharing life in your 40's! I have been loving these glimpses into your thoughts surrounding age and all of the things that come with it (good and bad)! Also, congrats on your upcoming release! So happy for you! :)
I'm so glad you're realizing all these things before turning 30. It took me way too long to learn some of these things. I'm so excited to see how your channel grows over the coming year! And thank you! I'm so excited for this book launch. :)
☁️☁️😶🌫️ I’m 40 and will be 41 in April. My husband and I are in a great place with being older and jobs and family that I’m really enjoying.
I love that you and your husband are in a great place with things. That's the ultimate goal. :)
☁️☁️☁️ as you know I’m 24 (.5 lol) and I feel like I know myself well, but have come to love the constant evolution too and embrace all the learning!
I really didn't think about it as much when I was your age, so good for you for learning these things already.
☁️ 🌧️ I’m 42 and I can honestly say I’m liking it a lot and the older I get the more I can say anything I want and not feel guilty, such as my feelings, thoughts, opinions etc. I’ve become wiser, I don’t take nonsense from anyone, I don’t want negativity around me, I’m more to myself. I’m learning how to take care of me more, I’m just enjoying it, I was nervous when I hit 40 but now I’m loving it (lol minus the gray hairs lol 😂) but I’m learning how to embrace them. #40sladies ❤
There are so many things to enjoy about getting older. I'm really trying to focus on those things. :) Thanks for watching Michelle!
I also appreciate the little things more so you carry on as you are
Thank you so much Philippa!
Lots of people like you just for being you so keep going to be yourself
Thank you so much. :) That's so kind of you to say.
☁Thank you so much for this video, Andrea! It couldn't have come at a better time :) As you know, I'm 43 (soon to be 44 in December, yay) so I needed this ego boost as I'll admit, getting older is scary and life hasn't been doing me any favours recently. But this vlog made me laugh, made me cry, made me think, made me grateful, and made me realise that life in my 40s is a privilege and a blessing.
When I was in my 20s and 30s, life was all about QUANTITY: More friends, more followers, more likes, more handbags, more, more, more. An insatiable desire to fill every nook and cranny with material things, people, and experiences. I'm guessing it's because you have more life expectancy in your 20s and 30s. Furthermore, I was SO obsessed with finding my soulmate, everything I did was because of that goal and I was chronic about it that everything else took a back seat (I'm totally exposing myself here but whatever).
Now, in my 40s, life is all about QUALITY: Less is more and the simpler things in life are treasured. I have less friends but I'm way happier. I have less things but I'm more fulfilled. I spend my days walking my 4 month old niece around showing her the (white) butterflies, hummingbirds, and birds outside my window - it's great! Once my 6 year old nephew comes home from school and I finish my remote work we play Legos, Hot Wheels, or Avengers action figures; other days we draw or paint. It's the best thing in the world.
Is it the way I thought my life would be? No, I thought I'd be doing this stuff with my husband and my own kids but that's not how it turned out and that's okay. I can still have those things but it won't be as I imagined when I was dreaming about them as a teenager or in my 20s and 30s. I also don't let things bother me like they used to. My sister just had her 38th birthday last week Friday (October 19th) and she fusses over little things and I told her, "Wait until you turn 40, you won't care about any of this!"
I'm so glad you enjoyed the vlog! I really wanted to share something that was more positive about being in our 40s. There really are so many things to enjoy about getting older. It's not all bad lol. :)
The amount of anger I felt when you said your doctor shut you down about perimenopause when we LITERALLY can start anytime from mid-30s on up. I was 38 when mine started! I'm 42 now and the amount of brain fog and possibly undiagnosed ADHD it's kicked up is madness. It's like my whole life is falling apart (and I can't take HRT due to being a blood clot risk so I'm trying to manage with supplements and lifestyle changes). I bet you anything it's perimenopause for you. I'm glad you're looking for a new doctor.
I was so shocked in the appointment. Her immediate dismissal just made me shut down completely. I just wanted to get out of there. When I got my test results back I realized she didn't even test any of my hormones. Right now anxiety and brain fog are the main symptoms that are getting significantly worse, everything else seems normal still. But I'm still now suspicious that it's the onset of perimenopause so I want to find a doctor who's willing to actually listen to me. And thank you for this comment. Hearing that you were angry hearing about her reaction makes me feel validated in my own anger and frustration.
I'm so glad you know what you deserve. Was there was a specific moment when that clarity hit for you?
I'm not in my forties quite yet, but I definitely feel a stronger sense of what I want rather than what I'm "supposed to" want than I did when I was in my twenties and earlier thirties. There are so many things people equate with "success" that are not as fulfilling as they promise to be.
The clarity of knowing what I deserved totally hit after the end of my last relationship. I was blindsided by it and when looking through the wreckage of it I saw all the missed red flags in the little ways I was mistreated. Now I know what I deserve and want and I won't accept anything less, even if it means I'm single forever. The clarity in all of that has led to a better understanding of what I want overall and how I want to live my life. Gradually giving up on doing what I'm "supposed to" has been a huge part of that.
Hmmm, ... Totally Agree 100% re : ''find a New Doctor'' !!! : )
Glad to hear your thoughts / New 'take' on your approaches etc : ) Exciting !!
Happppy 4U ! HAGD / ''clouds'' : ) End of video Contestant [cute-silly-light lol]
Thanks for watching Cindy! :)
☁️ I like being able to do and say whatever the eff I want because I’m no longer trying to impress anyone 😉
It's so refreshing to not worry about trying to impress everyone lol!
I am in my 50's, and I would say that I am in the stage of not caring what people think of me.
I am who I am. By our 40s and 50s we're not exactly going to change to be what other people want. So they can either accept it or move on to someone else lol.
☁️💨☁️⛅️🌁🌪️🌧️🌩️🌨️
Thanks for watching!