This story is super personal and definitely not an easy one to share but I feel like it's important to help other women become more aware. Please be kind! I was nervous to share this one. Sending love.
I'd have reported that doctor. Unacceptable. I work in the animal medical field (vet tech) and we were taught to never fight the client and to be patient and understanding with both the client (owner) and the patient (animal). This 70 something year old quack sounds like she's stuck in the past and needs to retire. Not all old doctors are like that, but she is fitting a stereotype.
Anna Taymond When I was young I used to try to rip the syringe out of my skin and when the doc screamed at me I got scared so in some situations it’s “good” for them to scream
She did talk about diarrhea, so maybe that’s the gross part she was talking about? But I agree! We need to be able to talk about these things like any health issues!
For anyone considering getting an IUD, make sure you request anesthesia or a pharmaceutical grade pain medication (such as an opioid) as many women have reported the procedure to be excruciatingly painful. Requesting a prescription for Cytotec is also advised as it helps the cervix dilate (the IUD procedure involves dilating the cervix which can be very painful) Some doctors recommend getting the IUD whilst on your period to reduce the pain as your cervix is already dilated during your menstrual cycle. Lastly, it's also highly recommended to only see a doctor that uses the new Carevix clamp (which uses gentle suction to stabilize the cervix) instead of the traditional tenaculum clamp which has sharp prongs that stab into your cervix, which is not only painful but can cause permanent nerve damage. Some women have even reported losing sensation in their clitoris after getting the IUD procedure. This is because the nerves in the cervix and the nerves in the clitoris are located on the same map.
Who else came from doctor mama jones video ? For those you haven’t watched it I suggest watching it. She gives accurate information from reacting to this video .
A L, That’s how I found Molly ... How did I not know her ?!?? This is my 1st video watching, but I’ve already subscribed & will be binge watching her videos now 🥰.
im so glad i watched mama jones video before i watched this! im getting one placed and alot of her information was misleading and scary. Thank god mama jones debunked it!! the problem is her doctor not necessarily IUD.
rando maybe more misleading was a better word. She sort of spoke on how her experience is common and made it sound like the procedure needs to be done under anesthesia because other countries do it. The reason for most of her negative experience was her doctor. she seemed like she was giving more facts on things instead of just telling her story and bad experience and that’s just how I took it. But I 110% disagree with the statement on doctors. All the male doctors I’ve had have men way more rough than females. And if you watch mama jones video she explains you’re more likely to have a negative encounter with a woman simply because there are just more women in the industry. But I guess agree to disagree because everyone has their own opinions and lived experiences.
Tina yeah I totally agree I just didn’t wanna her attacked 😂😂 it’s better to do your research before giving those alarming “facts” even if she’s from Canada she should of done her research cause this is gonna scare everyone . And I agree it was mostly her doctor who was an ass .
rando going under anasthesia is way more risky i do empathize with her her doctor was an asshole. There’s no fighting that. But the risk of going under anesthesia for something that’s done in two minutes is not worth the risks that come along with going under. Laughing gas or something to numb, yes sure. But that doesn’t change her tone in the video speaks on her experience like it is a fact in general for everyone which was my issue with it. If I didn’t originally watch the DOCTORS video before this I would’ve been way more terrified than necessary for the procedure
So grateful for this video and for her having the courage to speak about a topic like this. We need more dialogue like this as women for women. Much appreciation ❤ I at one point, really wanted to get an IUD fitted. Specifically the copper IUD, as i wanted no added hormones. I'd been on the combined pill (Yasmin brand) 7 years and came off it because of all the awful side effects that I just couldn't take anymore. And also more importantly, because it was upping my risk of breast cancer the longer I stayed on it (I also have family history of breast cancer hence increasing my risk- The GP was informed at the beginning that I have breast cancer in my family). In the 7 years of being on the pill, not once did a GP physically see me or even complete a telephone review with me. They simply asked if i could send them a blood pressure reading by text once every 6 months. Which i did, because I cared about my health. But for all they knew i could have just been making it up just because I didn't have time to check it at a pharmacy and needed the next pill prescription asap. Not once was I told this would increase my chances of breast cancer after 5 years. It made me gain 4 stone and not once was I told to be mindful of my weight and risk of blood clots. I had to educate myself. The standard and duty of care was so abysmally poor, considering the UK is one of the richest countries in the world. Since coming off the pill, I have been 'myself' for the first time after 7 years of crippling depression that I had never even attributed to the pill. I just couldn't understand what the cause was at the time and only realised it when I came off the pill. It was the pill. It was the cause of 7 years of misery and hardship and very dark places. I'm more relaxed now. Calmer. Happier. Patient. Human. And my libido has returned, though it took 4 months to return to how it was. It told me alot about what this pill is doing to our bodies. At that point when I was weighing up/considering the copper IUD, it was because I didn't really want to rely on condoms and tracking my cycle as I was terrified at even the concept of accidentally conceiving. But, that's what I ended up opting for and have stuck with and have been absolutely fine. I track my 28 day cycle on my app, and on ovulation days or even days anywhere near ovulation days, I will use a condom (which somehow feels weird when you're married, but whatever). The only time I would risk it without a condom is either right after my period has finished or just before it starts. Wow ladies... when I told the GP I had made the informed decision to come off the pill (that I had given months of deep thought and learning to it) and would be opting for the natural route of being hormone free, tracking my cycle, and using condoms on fertile days...I was LITERALLY almost forced into considering an IUD. Like the pressure was unreal. It was relentless. "You should strongly consider the IUD" etc etc. Despite me saying multiple times I had already made my choice and decision. I had more calls and even invites for physical appointments to discuss the IUD, compared to 0 reviews/check-ups whilst being on the pill for SEVEN YEARS. I was like, just... NO! I have made an informed choice about what I think is best for my body. Please respect that and take me seriously. Like, accept it. It is my body and you have no right to pressure me into this. Only when I got firm and had to advocate for myself did they back off. It made me think, I wonder how many women have been talked into getting an IUD fitted when they weren't really sure. What about those women who aren't able to advocate for themselves for multiple reasons? Are they sat now with IUD's inside them that they didn't really want? It made me question the entire medical model when it comes to women's health and how we just aren't taken seriously in comparison to men. It angered me and frustrated me. Here we are in 2024 still fighting battles that our mother's and grandmother's had to fight. I realised, we haven't progressed at all in the arena of women's health. It was disappointing. It was physically seeing what my dearest friend endured, when the option of the copper IUD completely went out of the window for me. The option of any kind of IUD in fact. I was there with her for both the insertion and the removal (removal took place 3 days later) and I saw it all. At the appointment for the insertion/fitting, I had never heard a scream from a woman I know to that effect. It was blood curdling. It literally shook me to the bone. She fainted there and then on the table and was just totally out of it- clammy and pale. I was petrified and thought something had majorly gone wrong. Yet to my utter bewilderment, the doctor and nurse were so casual about it. It's almost like they were used to it. Like this was something they see all the time. Meanwhile, I was just frozen. It was literally like a little tap on her cheek and: "Your all done now! You've been such a brave girl!" (She's a 35 year old woman- just for the record). My friend came round and began sobbing hysterically and saying it doesn't feel right and I'm in so much pain. She was actually traumatised. They said (so dismissively): "Oh don't worry, it's just a bit of mild cramping and that will pass in a few hours. You may have some light spotting, but that's completely normal sweetheart". They handed her two measley paracetamol. I was stunned. Just stunned. I couldn't believe what had just unfolded and the sheer minimisation of it. The patronising and infantalising response. She sobbed all the way home saying she felt like she was in labour, just as she was with her first child. She asked me and said was it just her or was that whole encounter just surreal. She said they told her it was a simple and painless procedure. That it may be slightly uncomfortable. But totally manageable. She yelped every time a cramp came. It was akin to driving a woman in labour to a hospital. That night she rang me to say she was contracting severely every 5 mins and it was coming in intense waves and she was bleeding clots. Like soaking through sanitary towels. I said, this cannot be normal. This torture went on for another day. She was vomiting as a result of the pain at this stage. She could not do anything but lay in the foetal position in bed with a hot water bottle rocking back and forth. She even took some codeine painkillers- it didn't even touch the pain. The 3rd day in the morning, her husband found her collapsed on the bathroom floor, clammy, sweating, and bleeding from her vagina. He raced her to Emergency (because he was told an ambulance was an 11 hour wait due to it "just being cramps from just having a coil fitted". She had it removed upon arrival after a 3 hour wait on the hard plastic waiting room chairs. The male doctor that removed it said he was astounded- They had put the wrong size coil in her first of all. And second of all it wasn't fitted correctly. He said the first rational thing I had heard since her whole saga began: "MORE WORK NEEDS TO BE DONE ON THIS ISSUE...THIS IS AN EXTREMELY PAINFUL PROCEDURE FOR MANY WOMEN. THE CERVIX IS A PARTICULARLY DELICATE AND SENSITIVE TISSUE, AND THERE IS SIMPLY NO ADEQUATE PAIN RELIEF BEING OFFERED TO WOMEN UNDERGOING THIS PROCEDURE. NEITHER ARE WOMEN FULLY INFORMED ABOUT WHAT CAN COMMONLY OCCUR (I.e. this!)". I was put off for life. So now for me it's just track the cycle, condom on fertile days, and unprotected sex just before or after period only. It's working great and I'm not being flushed with synthetic hormones nor do I have a peice of copper causing me unimaginable pain. Note to add, my other friend had the copper IUD fitted also (she wanted no hormones) and bled for 80% of the month (so she couldn't have sex anyway- which was the whole point) and then she would get her period which was horrendous agony that at one point she ended up in hospital because the pain was so severe. She said she literally bled 80% of the time every month for 6 months straight and then had it removed. Both insertion and removal she said were two of the most horrendous instances of pain she had ever experienced and referred to it as quote 'controlled medical torture'. I hope that this little story/experience helps someone ❤
I appreciate people like you that are so open about things that are a little more “TMI” because there’s so little information for young girls out there 💖
I would love to share TMI with you. I've only tried birth control once when I was 16, it changed the color and consistency of my period. So I stopped taking the pill and I never tried any other oral contraceptives either. I know my body very well, I actually can feel when I ovulate. So based on that information and using condoms for my only form of contraceptives... and I have never been pregnant. I am 39 years old. I much prefer the natural approach when it comes to everything with my health.
This helps me so much because you are correct in that they don't have information for girls out there and im having trouble figuring out what all this means
Sara Bales I think by telling her story Molly is telling people that if you choose to get an IUD that it’s important to do your research, make sure you are comfortable with your doctor, and to speak up when you know something is wrong. You may never have any issues but also you need to be comfortable speaking up if something seems off, you know your body better then anyone so don’t let a doctor shut you down when you think something is wrong. Also she’s trying to normalize talking about the human body, and that it’s okay to ask questions.
I honestly believe that if men were the ones that had periods there would be so much more funding into research and reducing side effects from birth control. Just a sad truth.
@@kimmyymmik It isn't that ridiculous though, because medicine was created out of sexism and bias, and there still is a lot of sexism and bias there today. I have endometriosis, and on average, it takes 10 years for a woman to be taken seriously by a doctor and have a laparoscopy for a diagnosis. Despite 1-in-10 women having endometriosis. This is because the most common symptom, is heavy bleeding and/or extremely painful periods. The amount of times women have been told "it's your period it's supposed to hurt" and "everyone bleeds a different amount" is atrocious. And guess what? There's no cure for endometriosis, even though it creates lesions, scar tissue, cysts, and blockages in your abdomen. Those cysts can become cancerous, and you're at a higher risk of ovarian, cervical, and uterine cancer. Why do you think for years women having heart attacks were dismissed? Because the symptoms of a heart attack were only recorded in male patients for decades, and female bodies experience heart attacks differently. A lot of men report the chest pain and the numb arm, but women usually experience intense nausea and shortness of breath or dizziness. Because men on average don't have those symptoms, they were never recorded as a symptom of a heart attack for decades. Women were having heart attacks and being turned away or dying. There is ample amounts of sexism in medicine, and it isn't very hard to find the reports and studies done on it.
Many many medications were only tested on men. Thalidomide, which was prescribed to pregnant women for pregnancy nausea, was never tested on pregnant women. It was only after women, who were prescribed it , began to have babies with deformed limbs that it was pulled. It is still prescribed for a certain blood disorder, but the patient has to provide proof that they are using 2 forms of birth control and it’s so expensive, my dad had to get a grant to help pay for it. He turned out to have a side effect of it, a rash from head to toe. It was only in the last couple decades, that cardiologists realized that women can present with different symptoms than men when having heart attacks. Used to be that more women died from heart attacks than men simply because the doctors weren’t recognizing the signs of heart attacks in women, because women don’t always have the same symptoms as men I’ll get off my soapbox now
When my grandma had her heart attacks, each time, she said she really didn’t have much pain. She just felt like an elephant was sitting on her chest, and she couldn’t breathe. When my dad had his, he had the classic symptoms, pain in chest radiating to his back and down his arm
@@adriennemarcus8085 ? what ? @Elizabeth Widener never said anything about being tiny...she was talking about how women rock. or are you are referring to a stereotype that all women are small.... ?? If so.... that is one horribly misguided steryotype
Lauren Jarvis Regan Hollingsworth That’s how I found Molly ... How did I not know her ?!?? This is my 1st video watching, but I’ve already subscribed & will be binge watching her videos now 🥰.
Same! Also he is like 70, which for some reason helps me to feel not-so-awkward about him being male.. I har a woman before and HOLY SHIT, she did not give a F*** about weather or not she was hurting me during a smear, exam or otherwise.. Geez!
Wow interesting. In my experience it doesn't have much to do with the gender, more so their personality and level of empathy. I had good and bad experiences with both genders.
Just to balance out the comment section for people who are now scared: Don’t forget the fact there are many many people out there who have a wonderful experience with their IUDs. Those people just tend to not comment because they didn’t have problems. I for myself had a mild cramp for half a day, that’s it (no prior delivery).
For anyone considering getting an IUD, make sure you request anesthesia or a pharmaceutical grade pain medication (such as an opioid) as many women have reported the procedure to be excruciatingly painful. Requesting a prescription for Cytotec is also advised as it helps the cervix dilate (the IUD procedure involves dilating the cervix which can be very painful) Some doctors recommend getting the IUD whilst on your period to reduce the pain as your cervix is already dilated during your menstrual cycle. Lastly, it's also highly recommended to only see a doctor that uses the new Carevix clamp (which uses gentle suction to stabilize the cervix) instead of the traditional tenaculum clamp which has sharp prongs that stab into your cervix, which is not only painful but can cause permanent nerve damage. Some women have even reported losing sensation in their clitoris after getting the IUD procedure. This is because the nerves in the cervix and the nerves in the clitoris are located on the same map.
This is also a PSA to ladies to be PICKY about your gynecologist. Everyone deserves a compassionate, informed, and supportive doctor caring for their reproductive health!! edit: i meant if you are in a place of privilege to advocate for yourself. I realize a devastating amount of people may not have a voice, choice, or proper resources.
Sadly not all countries or states allow for choosing gynecologist as you desire. Even if so you can't know beforehand how your body reacts to certain medication or procedures.
Thanks for sharing your experience, Molly! I love your videos and have been subbed to you for a while. I’m planning to making a response to talk about Protein S deficiency, IUDs, and ways we can make some of this better. Hope that’s ok, please let me know if there’s anything particular you’d like me to address!
I thought of you the whole time I was watching this. I can't wait to hear what an OBGYN has to say about all of this. I'm personally curious why IUDs and condoms are safe. Maybe the non-hormonal IUD, but it sounds like she was using an IUD with hormones?
classic copper iud is the way to go. there can be complications as with any insertion but it's far less frequent than the new ones and it's hormone free. copper kills sperm.
Address the other genetic disorders that are contraindicated with estrogen-containing birth control options! I really feel we should be screening women for these before subjecting them to birth control. I'm an ER nurse and had a 22 year old patient with a massive saddle PE. She was on birth control and later found to have Factor V Leiden. If they can do genetic screenings on babies, we can come up with an easy way to screen women. Would also love if you'd address anxiety and depression that can be caused by birth control. When I was a teen, I started birth control to deal with awful periods, having no idea it would send me into a spiral of depression. I didn't know it was caused by the birth control until I switched and my life improved 10-fold.
When I first got the nexplanon birth control inserted in my arm I had my period for 3 months straight. I became anemic and got it taken out. Then I got an iud inserted and have a really light and short period! Everyone is different and should find what works for them
getting my nexplanon is the best that happend to me! no more periods and i'm not a wreck because of hormones (other girls might have pms for a few days, i had three days of my entire cycle where i was "normal". On my third implant right now. i'm happy you found something that worked for you :)
I had to have my IUD removed and Nexplanon put in and it was the best decision I’ve ever made. So true that every person has to find what works best for them!
This sounds exactly like my experience with the nexplanon. But I was bleeding for much longer almost had to have a transfusion and on top of all of that going on no one here will remove my nexplanon until my full 3 years on it expires. So instead of doing something about it my gyno put me on a crazy amount of birth control pills for 2 months to as he said regulate my body. It was 8 pills every day for 7 days then 7 pills for 7 days and so on and so forth until I got down to 1 pill once daily for 7 days then I was done. God i was a HOT MESS!!!! and I still have periods that are very unregulated and very frequent but not as bad as before. Now it's like spotting for 8 or so days out of the blue or spotting for 1 day and nothing for like 3 weeks i just cant wait until I can get this removed!!!!!
My best friend bled for a solid year because despite her insurance covering the insertion of the nexplanon, they wouldn’t cover the removal. She had growths all around the site and horrible moods swings. All of her friends her perfectly fine experiences with it though. I go in to get one in a couple months. Fingers crossed I’ll have a good experience.
I feel like there’s not enough of ‘TMI’ videos out there especially for young girls and things like this is normal so if anything thanks for talking about it
Props to Molly, she is an amazing person sharing her stories. Honestly when you think about it you have to be pretty brave to tell a story such as this. So, 👏 props to you! :)
I'm so glad you shared this. I also had a very traumatic experience getting my IUD in. These stories need to be shared because women's reproductive health is so neglected in North America. You described the pain very well. Why don't we have a more compassionate approach to this? I believe there are so many women afraid of getting this procedure done because of the pain. This procedure should not be so feared and painful.
Because society lacks empathy for women. Anesthesia is given for every other surgical procedure, EXCEPT gynecological procedures. Women are screaming and crying in pain during these procedures and no one cares. The is blatant misogyny in the healthcare industry needs to END.
Yep - been there too! I have Crohns disease, and that is most definitely a thing! My friend referred to it as vomiting out my a**.... lol. Funny... but NOT funny when it's you dealing with it. I'm so sorry you had to go through that, Molly! It's horrible. Thanks so much for sharing your story! Hugs and love! 💛💛💛
@@suvimaru Have you checked out the LowFODMAP diet? It is specifically for ppl with IBS. I recommend the Monash University webpage and the Queen of LowFODMAP, #suzanneperazzini
Thank you for "un-TMI-ing" the most TMI subjects out there. I named you as the most inspiring person in my life for my school project! You are amazing! P.S. My dad is a urogynecologist. I hear stories like this every day!
Girls are girls, we can’t control theses things molly, so please don’t ever be scared to tell us these things because we will always love you no matter what happens.
It takes a lot of courage and strength for you to come out and tell us your deep personal story's. You inspire me and as well as so many others. I love you! Keep being you!
Girl! I'm so happy you shared your story, while it was ultra triggering, I finally feel ready to get mine out. I have a tilted uterus and didn't know that until right before she inserted mine. I also was not given any painkillers or anything. I was nervous and couldn't eat. 5 nurses were in the room and the pain was unbearable. I begged for them to stop and they said "were almost done" and they finished. When I got up, blood streamed down my legs and I nearly passed out. Idk why I thought I would be able to do that alone, but after they wheeled me to a ventilated space, my dad dad was able to pick me up. It was probably the most painful thing I've ever experienced if I'm being honest. I too have a multitude of pain and symptoms but have adapted because I've been terrified of removal. I'm glad you got yours out and are doing better.
You did the right thing going to the ER. Infections need to be treated in a timely manner or else they can get dangerous. Don’t let anyone tell your otherwise. I enjoyed listening to your story. Thanks for putting it out there.
It always makes me dad when I hear of those who have bad doctors but continue to see them. I had a doctor 20-something yrs ago tell me repeatedly over a 2-year span that I was a teenager and it was normal to feel tired all the time. By the time I finally saw a new doctor after moving away for college, I was sleeping 14-16 hrs per day. He quickly diagnosed a TOXIC thyroid as my TSH levels were off the charts. He said it had been going bad for a few years to be the size it was. Yeah, not normal teenager stuff! I learned an important lesson: The doctor is there for me and if I am uncomfortable with anything said or done (or not done), if I'm certain something is wrong and they don't take me seriously, I can fire my doctor and choose a different one! I have only had 2 doctors in my life that I've refused to see ever again. The one that nearly killed me by not trying to find out why I wasn't feeling well, and one that had a severe attitude problem (who I also filled a formal complaint against with his clinic's director because it was that bad). I refuse to feel bad about this because they are there for me, not themselves. As my primary care doctor has said when we disagree on treatments, I know my body better than anyone.
Sadly this is the reality for a lot of people. Especially in places like Canada or the UK where there's "free" healthcare. You don't get to decide who you see, the government does. There's someone in a group I'm in on Facebook who is in the UK and she can't switch doctors even though she has an eating disorder and her therapist is doing nothing to help her with it and her GP just put a warning on her file so that other doctors won't take her seriously after she went to her GP. Because her healthcare is free, she doesn't have the right to choose to leave those doctors who are mistreating her.
As someone training to work in the medical field I’m so upset at how they treated you. Every person is different and I’m so sorry you had to go through that
I'm a CNA, and in nursing school. It makes me so so upset that her "doctors" treated her that way. No one should be yelled at for doing what they think is best for them!
Fyi to anyone that's tiny like Molly and myself(4'11" 110lbs)you can request a pediatric speculum for exams. If they can't supply this I highly recommend going to a different place.
There are several speculum lengths and widths. If you have a thin and deep vaginal canal you can also get a special one for this! So crazy that people don’t know this!
ALL doctors should be *kind and compassionate!* I mean they deal with people that have medical issues that most of them don't know anything about and therefore have to put *all their trust* in a doctor which can be horrifying!
Well, I think they should be great judges of human character. For some patients, compassion works, some on the other hand need harsh remarks or humour to get distracted from what they are feeling. I guess it's real art of understanding patients' needs.
@The Lovely Mel Chan I unterstand where you're coming from but in my opinion compassion is a part of their job. They don't need to have long conversations with their patients about their private life but they have to inform them about what they are about to do and do that in a calm and understanding way. It's not acceptable to be harsh or rude or even to yell at a patient and I think that's not too much to ask.
Just a PSA IUDs are not supposed to do that. Like this is terrible and a horror story for sure but the IUD itself is not horrific. It sounds like it was placed incorrectly and was digging into your uterine wall which it's totally not supposed to do! Probably the most convincing evidence is that you got an infection. The gyno who did it did a terrible job😔 Just don't want this to discourage anyone from looking into it because it is an amazing birth control for many many women! Just need a good Dr to discuss which one is best for your body and a Dr that is competent in placing/removing them.
Yeah this happened to me and when I went back to the doctor after the emergency removal for follow up as I have had chronic pelvic pain ever since (years ago) they claimed they never even placed it in me in the first place!
Exactly! This was a singular negative experience by someone and it is not the norm. It was likely a result of poor medical care from the OBGYN she had at the time.
Honestly, I always get the best care from ER doctors. They see so much and deal with so many different kinds of people that they tend to be far more compassionate and skilled. I had a collapsed lung last year and the ER doctor that inserted my chest tube was fantastic. Getting it taken out was far worse than having it put in.
The coincidence of seeing this video uploaded the day before I am about to go into my doctor. I have been wanting to get it out for a long time and this video really helped my anxiety around going in. I have been told in the past to continue my birth control method for "6 more months" and "don't give up yet". At the end of the day, we have our bodies and they are ours to make the right choices. I have had my IUD for 3.5 years and I have experienced a slow, but drastic increase in side effects and I can't take it anymore. Thank you Molly for putting your story out in the world.
Amanda O stay strong! I had to threaten to remove the arm implant because my doctor put me through the same crap and that’s the only way she’d take me seriously. Good luck!
It’s best to remember everyone’s body reacts differently! I have had an iud for years and I really love it. You should talk to your doctor to see what’s the right fit for you!
*My IUD experience points:* *Insertion in Ireland:* I was given cervical softener tablets to insert a few hrs before. A pack of Ponstan (anti inflammatory to take 30 min before) [I also took castor oil to soften my cervix] I went to the office and it was just done in minutes. *Notes* *I have not had a baby yet, but I got Kyleena which is a bit smaller than Mirena, but lasts 5 years too. [from the Mirena Company] *For me it was basically painless. [I suffer pretty sever chronic pain anyway] *I did it while in work (I'm a nanny, my mam minded the kid in the waiting room when I was in the office). *I went right back to work. *It was so painless for me that I thought she forgot to put it in 😂. *I bled for 28 days straight, but light. *Two years in:* °My flow did get lighter in general °My periods are still irregular. °I have never felt them, except on day 2 when I tried to cycle 😂 °I did have a Pelvic Inflammatory Disease scare 8 months in, which they thought was the coil. BUT it didn't end up being PID and was just my chronic illness acting up 😂😂. *Hope that helps*
I too am a nanny and almost had my sister keep the kid while I had it done 😂 happened to get scheduled on a day I was off so I could nap in my bed tho for the slight cramping and I am thankful for that 🙌
I hate you just a tad for it being so easy for you. I literally couldn’t move I was in so much pain. It went away but my cramps suck. Like woop woop good job A+ for you but I’m envious. I’m never doing that again without drugs. I too have the kyleena
Hi Beth, thanks for your comment. I'm getting the Kyleena next month in Ireland too, nice to have some positive experiences! Hope it goes well for me too. A shame Molly had such a bad experience. Xx
@@saras.2790 Absolutely, I just wanted to share the other side for balance because I know its scary when you hear horror stories. But I also think it's important to know both sides. I'm glad to hear yours went well! x
i was never really interested into the whole iud method, it made me squeamish. but i’m glad that you shared your experience, this can really help other women who were considering this method of birth control. i didn’t think this was tmi, i enjoyed hearing your side of the story!
I’m 12 years old and I have unregulated periods. I whent to the doctor and she gave me options my mom said this one was the best one. She set up an appointment for tomorrow morning. I’m so nervous. Please tell me how bad it hurts. ( I’ve also never had a Pap smear, used a tampon, or had a speculum in side my vagina). I’m scared!!!!! ( also I have a male gynecologist) so that’s even better. 😓
@@keiratemplin6109 awe honey are you just having an examination ? Remember just to be nice and relaxed and breathe. Nothing to be nervous about at all. I have never had an IDU as I really have read more bad than good but everyone's bodys are different and tell your gynecologist you're nervous. He will totally understand sweetie.
@@keiratemplin6109 I don't have an IUD I'm in Australia and they're not really popular. Speak to your gynecologist and say your nervous and you're worried and I'm sure you will be fine honey. Make sure you relax and breathe and if you feel uncomfortable at anytime just tell him and ask him to stop, if you're in pain or hurting ask him to stop but I'm sure you will be fine sweetie. Goodluck. And tell your mum you're scared, it's your body and the pill helped my periods sooooo much. So maybe talk to your gynecologist about what he think's would be best aswell.
Alyssa Fortson always do what feels right for you, and speak up about your concerns about anything. A good doctor will listen to you, switch doctors if necessary. Just because you’re 15 doesn’t mean you don’t know your body. Sorry, just some grandma advice 😉
It's always good to hear stories about female bodies. Ditto what's said below. Also look for good resources. Sexplanations is a great UA-cam channel and scarleteen.com is a website of sex positive education curated specifically for teens. Don't know where you live. But in the U.S., we have to do what we can to stick together. And remember Molly's story, but also remember that there are tons of people on IUDs who love them. You have to do what's right for your body. (Also IUDs protect against pregnancy but NOT STIs)
Okay, so I didn’t actually know your channel existed until Mama Doctor Jones reacted to this video. Thank you for sharing this story. I also have an IUD, but I’ve had it since around July 2016. Mine is copper, and while I’ve had side effects, it’s been mostly positive, and almost identical to what I’ve had beforehand, except that my period pains have been WAAAYYY less painful.
I’ve had 2 iuds. My first went crooked after 2.5 years. I got it replaced. The second is in right now but the strings have disappeared so now I have to get an ultrasound to find it. I’m scared. I hope they can grab it somehow. I love my iud. I love not having a period. I’d get another iud but I don’t think they’ll give me another so I guess my husbands getting snipped if I can’t get another. Yikes.
Junglebloods omg!! That sounds terrifying!! Hopefully they find the strings! I got mine about a year ago. I have the copper IUD. I don’t do hormones, bc my seizure meds make birth control hormones almost ineffective..so it’s almost pointless. The iud is basically my only option for safe birth control. Although, I’m pretty sure that I had a miscarriage recently with mine. 😔
The videos you label as "TMI" usually end up being some of my favs. It's refreshing to see such real content, especially when it relates to women's health. Keep on shining!
I had a horrible IUD experience as well... and the amount of ridiculously horrifying doctors I've seen who has treated me like scum is appalling. I'm happy you had that good experience at the ER.
Misogyny is so rampant in society that women even have to battle misogyny in the healthcare industry... from the people who are supposed to care about you.
it sucks but there's literally nothing they can do about the pain. Anything in that area will be sensitive! I agree, some physicians can definitely be more compassionate but as a med student who's in her last year, all the gynecological procedures are pretty much painful to an extent and physicians are legally not allowed to prescribe pain pills or general anesthesia for a lot of them. They're trying to get you to relax cause that actually will decrease the pain but there's nothing they can do to avoid the pain completely. Just some thoughts so you can see the other side and realize we never want to intentionally cause our patients pain!
@@domenical.2261 For sure! But a lot of those are older generation docs and definitely not ALL of them are like that, especially at my program. I think it's unfair to say they are all like that. But definitely agree there are physicians who could stand to be more empathetic.
That’s what happens when you have chronic issues and or unsolvable issues where you get thrown around from doctor to doctor. It’s sucks and I have personally experienced this. I had one gynecologist get upset and angry that my husband was asking questions. He was literally asking things we’ve talk about about in case I forgot. What a psycho. I’ve had so many bad experiences I now get ready to have a bad experience, especially if it’s a woman, I’ve noticed generally speaking I’ve gotten worse care under the women doctors care. They just have this nasty attitude.
I ❤️ your openness about "taboo" things!! We need to normalize talking about our healthcare! Thank you for this video, I'm sure it's going to help a lot of people ❤️❤️❤️
I love how your hair is three different shades of fuchsia/purple. It’s a good change from the pink! I cannot wait to see what you do for fall and winter. Maybe even darker purple?
My mom had an IUD and got a bad uterine infection and Gynecologist removed it said the infection had ascended the string. This was 30 years ago in the uk. No painkillers, no muscle relaxant. I had only discomfort. However I agree that some muscle relaxants can give diarrhoea. I took them for a bad back, briefly. Awful ! So sorry you had this awful experience.
as a guy i would say IF i was a gynecologist i would be 400% extra nice cause clearly a lady would feel even just a little be more stressed cause im a guy
@@MarisaRose1 im very sorry that happen im a nice guy normally but IF i was a gynecologist i would never stop talking just keep saying what im doing when im doing it and if they are ok
I had very similar experiences with my Mirena! I dealt with doctors telling me I was crazy for 3 years before I finally had it removed and switched to the Nexplanon arm implant. All the symptoms stopped and I’m so glad I switched!!!
I hate how some doctors don’t listen to you, I’ve had two lots of implant birth control and both ones caused me to have migraines, feeling hungry all the time which would then make me gain weight and I would bleed for 4 weeks (like heavy) then stop for 2 weeks then bleed for another 4 weeks and so on. When I went to get it taken out they acted like I was exaggerating everything and that it wasn’t as bad as I was making out. They also told me the implant doesn’t make you gain weight but loads of people online said they’ve gained weight because of it. I’m so glad you got it taken out and you’re feeling a lot better now xx
I think it is very brave of you to talk about this experience. I am in my late 40's and like you, I find male doctors are much more gentle. It is necessary for us to have dealing with doctors in that way, the last thing we need is "better than you" or judgmental doctors taking care of us.
I actually think that the reason why male OB/GYN 's are more compassionate and kind is because they realize that they don't know what it feels like so they try to make it as easy and comfortable for their patients.
Agreed. I had a woman gyno once thinking it would be more comfortable but she was a nightmare. My current gyno is a guy and I havent had an issue since.
My gyno is a guy now. I had women most of my life that kinda sucked. I needed to see a specialist and the most highly recommended and qualified was a guy and he is amazing. The first time I saw him he realized how bad everything was and scheduled me for surgery 2 weeks later! He is a blessing in my life!
Totally agree! My current obgyn is a woman and she told me on my first visit that she stays as open as possible because she knows that no woman is the same as her. I wish more female doctors were like her.
Wish this was posted a few months ago. I have had 3 kids and decided to get an IUD. It went through my uterus and I had to have it surgically removed 😱 people need to hear these stories. Thanks for sharing yours!
I relate to this story from both a physician and a patient perspective. When I was in medical school, I got a Jaydess IUD in Canada (smaller than the Mirena, also progesterone, lasts 3 years vs 5). I didn't want my family physician to insert it because once during a pap that was unusually painful she held me down and told me to stop moving despite me asking her to stop. I asked for a gyne referral. The gyne I saw was equally bad if not worse. She prescribed intravaginal Misoprostol to "ripen" the cervix. In retrospect, having read the literature and talked to literally any gyne in my med school, I should have objected, ESPECIALLY since this gyne did NOT examine me before prescribing it so clearly this was something she did with every nulliparous patient < concerning. At the appointment, my boyfriend (also in medicine) was with me, and I was nervous - at this point in my training, I hadn't put in an IUD and didn't know what to expect - which for most patients is brief pain followed by some mild discomfort after it is done. This is where it got bad. I don't recall all the details. I remember pain, contractions, extremely nauseated, becoming vasovagal, sweating, lightheaded. She had no bedside manner to top it off. She left the room to get something WHILE the TENACULUM was on (a clamp that goes on the cervix to help position it for IUD insertion - I suggest NOT googling it). The tenaculum hung off the edge of the bed still attached. She eventually put the IUD in and promptly left the room. I was left on the table - which was still raised far off the ground. I didn't know what to do... look for a bucket to throw up? scream for help? yell in pain? not roll off the bed passing out? I writhed in pain while having continuous contractions. I had to stumble over, holding my belly with one hand and the wall with the other, to the bathroom at the other end of the clinic because I was about to lose control of my bowels. Luckily I made it. My boyfriend helped me stumble out of the clinic. I had uterine contractions for days, spacing out gradually. I don't know how long I bled for, but I spotted for over 6 months. I got terrible cramping for months, then only with my period - which I still got and it was more heavy and very very painful. The emotional trauma from the insertion was re-triggered by the cramps for close to a year. It sucked. Eventually, I accepted the cramping. I didn't get it removed because I was scared and because it was great contraception and I paid for it. Good news, when I did get it removed it wasn't a big deal. I have had it out for months now, but now have the side effects of normal periods/hormones and no backup contraception - I have always used the pill or IUD AND condoms. I am likely going to get another IUD, definitely NO misoprostol, and I think I will need to advocate for myself more (harder said than done with the power dynamic, even being a doctor myself - when you're the patient all goes out the window) and ensure that the doctor I go to is at least decent.
This is not TMI at all. It's super important info for every woman out there. Sharing like you just did, can save the next woman or at least make us all more aware. The fact that some topics are not talked about or considered "TMI" is dangarous especially when it comes to our health. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING IT OK FOR ALL OF US TO TALK ABOUT IT!!! Very important video. Also, we should definatly listen to our bodies a lot more.
It's because your cervix is relaxed...due to the fact your child came through it. If you can reach your cervix you'll be able to see that it isn't completely closed anymore
@@lindseyboggs2720 was it right after having a baby? I can see that being pretty sensitive. I'm sorry the insertion hurt I hope that it's worked well for you
You should go watch Mama Doctor Jones. She is a ob/gyn. She reviewed this video and had a lot of information for your story! It was very good things to know from a good gynecologist.
Younger woman don't have a lot of information about iud's and the risk thank you so much for sharing some people might be grosses out but this is something all woman go through
I'm thinking... Did the IUD "activate" PCOS or do you just have ovarian cysts not linked to PCOS? BTW Molly, over the weekend we had an election in my country and a blind person was elected for our kind of senate for the first time. I think that's kind of cool. That's obviously not relevant to this video but I wanted to share that with you 🙂
Arwa Vasaiwala I turned the captions on to see what you were saying, I do see some wrong words but in this video it does kind of put the summary out. But nice comment! Definitely should be something done about that
Molly has said before that she doesn't have the ability to caption all her videos professionally, but that she would try and have at least some of them captioned. So since you're requesting this one, maybe she will make this video a priority? Also I know there's an option to let the community caption it for you, but I'm not sure how that works :/
My sister-in-law had a similar experience with the mirana IUD and we were extremely worried. She refused to go to the doctor no matter how bad her symptoms were til one night she turned grey and was seizing out on us, she had a 104 fever; we called an ambulance. She was septic from the infection in her uterus that had now went into her bloodstream and was in a coma. They removed the IUD and put her on multiple iv antibiotics. For days we was not sure if she would recover. It took a week for her to wake up. We wasn't sure if her temp had been too high too long and had caused damage to the brain. But now if you look at her you would never know it happened. 18 years and 3 kids later she has made a full recovery and has no residual effects from the IUD.
I love your TMI stories! I would like u to do a video about your experience with sex? (With all the respect) being blind and experiencing it for the first time and if it was scary? I’m curious
@@hoofdstadmeisje I think it 100% depends on the sexual situation. I've been in some that are scary enough being able to see the person, I can't imagine not being able to see in certain situations.
My husband was actually an iud baby! My mother in law got pregnant, they took the iud out and he survived! She carried to term, had a healthy pregnancy and he is healthy to this day. I’m so thankful ❤️❤️❤️ thank you for sharing your story molly! Such a crazy and scary experience. I’m so sorry 😭
I just wanted to share my experience with an IUD. I know Molly said that everyone has different experiences, but the bad stories tend to stick out more than the positive. I have the non-hormonal Paraguard IUD, which is the one that is copper and lasts 10-12 years. I've had it for...4-5 years now? While insertion did hurt a lot, it only lasted 15 seconds. My period was heavier for six months, then returned to normal now. I definitely talk about my IUD all the time and recommend them!!! I honestly forget it's there. I'm more than happy to answer any questions people might have about them. ^-^
can definitely confirm that people over exagerate and misunderstand the side effects of IUD. For me that 15 sec pain is okay if you have 5 years of worry free contraception. people are just too much with the pain smh.
Same here. I've had lilletta (generic mirena) for 2 years now. It works awesome for me I havent had any side effects. I havent lost my period completely but it has become a lot lighter and shorter.
Yay to hormone free IUD! I've got mine booked in to be inserted for next month. Did you have any pain killers or local anaesthetic before hand? I have the option for local anaesthetic if I opt for it at an extra cost and to take paracetamol or ibuprofen before hand (will take the pain killers). Just to prepare myself and make it as comfortable as possible. Any advice?
Thank you for sharing. Love the unfilteredness. I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. Glad you had that compassionate ER Dr. I had a strong feeling to get mine removed today and i couldnt believe the hoops i had to go through just to get it out and be taken seriously. The first hospital refused me, at the ER and womens clinic because all the OB's were "in surgery" went to a different hospital because I'm a stubborn vet nurse, and had to plead my case then finally got it out. I started getting diagnosed with mental health disorders around the time i got it placed, everything is starting to make sense. I also realized that i felt the weight of the IUD the entire time. We just get "used to it" we need to advocate for ourselves and speak more on this. I realize some people may be triggered thinking nothing is wrong or could go wrong because they feel "fine" but maybe you just got used to it. Thanks for sharing!!
I had an IUD for almost 8 years and it was the best set-it and forget-it thing I’ve ever done 😂 my husband and I lived happily without the worry of contraception, only recently was it removed *painlessly*
This sounds so similar to my story as well.. in May 2018 I was also diagnosed with a bloodclut disease, which also led me to have to get an IUD. My gynaecoligist (a lovely man) only used local anesthethec "inside", and the pain of getting it done was INSANE. I couldn't walk. I also bled for a month-ish. Then for the next 4 months I had so much pain on the left side of my pelvis, like period cramps but only on one side. Went to an emergency gynaecologist (female) and she said I was being dramatic, that I should give it time. After another month of the pain I went back to my regular gynaecologist and he said "Well, if it hurts too much, lets just take it out." Thank god that I didn't have cystes or anything, they sound superscary.. Thank you for sharing your story Molly!
This story is super personal and definitely not an easy one to share but I feel like it's important to help other women become more aware. Please be kind! I was nervous to share this one. Sending love.
2nd luv u molly 💖💖💖💖😀😀🐝🐝🐝🐝😀😀😀
Please don’t be ashamed to talk about periods, it’s natural and NOTHING to be scared of. We are all humans. ❤️
Luv you Molly ❤️❤️
U don't ever have to be nervous to talk about anything to us💗💗
I'm on my period right now laying on my bed with a heating pad sooo thanks
I can’t think of a single situation where it is ok for a doctor to scream at a patient.
Domenica Lupera it’s beyond me why any doctor would think yelling at someone is a good decision.
I'd have reported that doctor. Unacceptable. I work in the animal medical field (vet tech) and we were taught to never fight the client and to be patient and understanding with both the client (owner) and the patient (animal). This 70 something year old quack sounds like she's stuck in the past and needs to retire. Not all old doctors are like that, but she is fitting a stereotype.
If their patient is almost deaf
Anna Taymond
When I was young I used to try to rip the syringe out of my skin and when the doc screamed at me I got scared so in some situations it’s “good” for them to scream
Theyyy sure dooo!!!!!!
There’s nothing gross about female sexual health. Thank you for sharing your experience with IUD’s.
Barb Murphy My thoughts exactly! We need to stop calling it gross, because it absolutely is not :)
Exactly my thoughts!! Thank you. There shouldn't be such a stigma over normal bodily functions.
She did talk about diarrhea, so maybe that’s the gross part she was talking about? But I agree! We need to be able to talk about these things like any health issues!
It's not gross Because periods are natral and it is just life
For anyone considering getting an IUD, make sure you request anesthesia or a pharmaceutical grade pain medication (such as an opioid) as many women have reported the procedure to be excruciatingly painful.
Requesting a prescription for Cytotec is also advised as it helps the cervix dilate (the IUD procedure involves dilating the cervix which can be very painful) Some doctors recommend getting the IUD whilst on your period to reduce the pain as your cervix is already dilated during your menstrual cycle.
Lastly, it's also highly recommended to only see a doctor that uses the new Carevix clamp (which uses gentle suction to stabilize the cervix) instead of the traditional tenaculum clamp which has sharp prongs that stab into your cervix, which is not only painful but can cause permanent nerve damage. Some women have even reported losing sensation in their clitoris after getting the IUD procedure. This is because the nerves in the cervix and the nerves in the clitoris are located on the same map.
Who else came from doctor mama jones video ? For those you haven’t watched it I suggest watching it. She gives accurate information from reacting to this video .
A L, That’s how I found Molly ... How did I not know her ?!?? This is my 1st video watching, but I’ve already subscribed & will be binge watching her videos now 🥰.
im so glad i watched mama jones video before i watched this! im getting one placed and alot of her information was misleading and scary. Thank god mama jones debunked it!! the problem is her doctor not necessarily IUD.
rando maybe more misleading was a better word. She sort of spoke on how her experience is common and made it sound like the procedure needs to be done under anesthesia because other countries do it. The reason for most of her negative experience was her doctor. she seemed like she was giving more facts on things instead of just telling her story and bad experience and that’s just how I took it. But I 110% disagree with the statement on doctors. All the male doctors I’ve had have men way more rough than females. And if you watch mama jones video she explains you’re more likely to have a negative encounter with a woman simply because there are just more women in the industry. But I guess agree to disagree because everyone has their own opinions and lived experiences.
Tina yeah I totally agree I just didn’t wanna her attacked 😂😂 it’s better to do your research before giving those alarming “facts” even if she’s from Canada she should of done her research cause this is gonna scare everyone . And I agree it was mostly her doctor who was an ass .
rando going under anasthesia is way more risky i do empathize with her her doctor was an asshole. There’s no fighting that. But the risk of going under anesthesia for something that’s done in two minutes is not worth the risks that come along with going under. Laughing gas or something to numb, yes sure. But that doesn’t change her tone in the video speaks on her experience like it is a fact in general for everyone which was my issue with it. If I didn’t originally watch the DOCTORS video before this I would’ve been way more terrified than necessary for the procedure
Dont worry Molly, nothing is too TMI anymore it happens to all of us girls no worries we will always love you!
Thanks for the like Molly!❤
HOLY LOOK AT THE LIKES
So grateful for this video and for her having the courage to speak about a topic like this. We need more dialogue like this as women for women. Much appreciation ❤
I at one point, really wanted to get an IUD fitted. Specifically the copper IUD, as i wanted no added hormones. I'd been on the combined pill (Yasmin brand) 7 years and came off it because of all the awful side effects that I just couldn't take anymore. And also more importantly, because it was upping my risk of breast cancer the longer I stayed on it (I also have family history of breast cancer hence increasing my risk- The GP was informed at the beginning that I have breast cancer in my family). In the 7 years of being on the pill, not once did a GP physically see me or even complete a telephone review with me. They simply asked if i could send them a blood pressure reading by text once every 6 months. Which i did, because I cared about my health. But for all they knew i could have just been making it up just because I didn't have time to check it at a pharmacy and needed the next pill prescription asap. Not once was I told this would increase my chances of breast cancer after 5 years. It made me gain 4 stone and not once was I told to be mindful of my weight and risk of blood clots. I had to educate myself. The standard and duty of care was so abysmally poor, considering the UK is one of the richest countries in the world.
Since coming off the pill, I have been 'myself' for the first time after 7 years of crippling depression that I had never even attributed to the pill. I just couldn't understand what the cause was at the time and only realised it when I came off the pill. It was the pill. It was the cause of 7 years of misery and hardship and very dark places. I'm more relaxed now. Calmer. Happier. Patient. Human. And my libido has returned, though it took 4 months to return to how it was. It told me alot about what this pill is doing to our bodies.
At that point when I was weighing up/considering the copper IUD, it was because I didn't really want to rely on condoms and tracking my cycle as I was terrified at even the concept of accidentally conceiving. But, that's what I ended up opting for and have stuck with and have been absolutely fine. I track my 28 day cycle on my app, and on ovulation days or even days anywhere near ovulation days, I will use a condom (which somehow feels weird when you're married, but whatever). The only time I would risk it without a condom is either right after my period has finished or just before it starts.
Wow ladies... when I told the GP I had made the informed decision to come off the pill (that I had given months of deep thought and learning to it) and would be opting for the natural route of being hormone free, tracking my cycle, and using condoms on fertile days...I was LITERALLY almost forced into considering an IUD. Like the pressure was unreal. It was relentless. "You should strongly consider the IUD" etc etc. Despite me saying multiple times I had already made my choice and decision. I had more calls and even invites for physical appointments to discuss the IUD, compared to 0 reviews/check-ups whilst being on the pill for SEVEN YEARS. I was like, just... NO! I have made an informed choice about what I think is best for my body. Please respect that and take me seriously. Like, accept it. It is my body and you have no right to pressure me into this. Only when I got firm and had to advocate for myself did they back off. It made me think, I wonder how many women have been talked into getting an IUD fitted when they weren't really sure. What about those women who aren't able to advocate for themselves for multiple reasons? Are they sat now with IUD's inside them that they didn't really want? It made me question the entire medical model when it comes to women's health and how we just aren't taken seriously in comparison to men. It angered me and frustrated me. Here we are in 2024 still fighting battles that our mother's and grandmother's had to fight. I realised, we haven't progressed at all in the arena of women's health. It was disappointing.
It was physically seeing what my dearest friend endured, when the option of the copper IUD completely went out of the window for me. The option of any kind of IUD in fact. I was there with her for both the insertion and the removal (removal took place 3 days later) and I saw it all. At the appointment for the insertion/fitting, I had never heard a scream from a woman I know to that effect. It was blood curdling. It literally shook me to the bone. She fainted there and then on the table and was just totally out of it- clammy and pale. I was petrified and thought something had majorly gone wrong. Yet to my utter bewilderment, the doctor and nurse were so casual about it. It's almost like they were used to it. Like this was something they see all the time. Meanwhile, I was just frozen. It was literally like a little tap on her cheek and: "Your all done now! You've been such a brave girl!" (She's a 35 year old woman- just for the record). My friend came round and began sobbing hysterically and saying it doesn't feel right and I'm in so much pain. She was actually traumatised. They said (so dismissively): "Oh don't worry, it's just a bit of mild cramping and that will pass in a few hours. You may have some light spotting, but that's completely normal sweetheart". They handed her two measley paracetamol. I was stunned. Just stunned. I couldn't believe what had just unfolded and the sheer minimisation of it. The patronising and infantalising response. She sobbed all the way home saying she felt like she was in labour, just as she was with her first child. She asked me and said was it just her or was that whole encounter just surreal. She said they told her it was a simple and painless procedure. That it may be slightly uncomfortable. But totally manageable. She yelped every time a cramp came. It was akin to driving a woman in labour to a hospital.
That night she rang me to say she was contracting severely every 5 mins and it was coming in intense waves and she was bleeding clots. Like soaking through sanitary towels. I said, this cannot be normal. This torture went on for another day. She was vomiting as a result of the pain at this stage. She could not do anything but lay in the foetal position in bed with a hot water bottle rocking back and forth. She even took some codeine painkillers- it didn't even touch the pain. The 3rd day in the morning, her husband found her collapsed on the bathroom floor, clammy, sweating, and bleeding from her vagina. He raced her to Emergency (because he was told an ambulance was an 11 hour wait due to it "just being cramps from just having a coil fitted". She had it removed upon arrival after a 3 hour wait on the hard plastic waiting room chairs. The male doctor that removed it said he was astounded- They had put the wrong size coil in her first of all. And second of all it wasn't fitted correctly. He said the first rational thing I had heard since her whole saga began: "MORE WORK NEEDS TO BE DONE ON THIS ISSUE...THIS IS AN EXTREMELY PAINFUL PROCEDURE FOR MANY WOMEN. THE CERVIX IS A PARTICULARLY DELICATE AND SENSITIVE TISSUE, AND THERE IS SIMPLY NO ADEQUATE PAIN RELIEF BEING OFFERED TO WOMEN UNDERGOING THIS PROCEDURE. NEITHER ARE WOMEN FULLY INFORMED ABOUT WHAT CAN COMMONLY OCCUR (I.e. this!)".
I was put off for life. So now for me it's just track the cycle, condom on fertile days, and unprotected sex just before or after period only. It's working great and I'm not being flushed with synthetic hormones nor do I have a peice of copper causing me unimaginable pain.
Note to add, my other friend had the copper IUD fitted also (she wanted no hormones) and bled for 80% of the month (so she couldn't have sex anyway- which was the whole point) and then she would get her period which was horrendous agony that at one point she ended up in hospital because the pain was so severe. She said she literally bled 80% of the time every month for 6 months straight and then had it removed. Both insertion and removal she said were two of the most horrendous instances of pain she had ever experienced and referred to it as quote 'controlled medical torture'.
I hope that this little story/experience helps someone ❤
I appreciate people like you that are so open about things that are a little more “TMI” because there’s so little information for young girls out there 💖
Thank you so much! It was difficult to decide to post this but I hope it helps other women!
So many young girls out there do not get appropriate education. Bless you Molly for sharing.
I would love to share TMI with you. I've only tried birth control once when I was 16, it changed the color and consistency of my period. So I stopped taking the pill and I never tried any other oral contraceptives either. I know my body very well, I actually can feel when I ovulate. So based on that information and using condoms for my only form of contraceptives... and I have never been pregnant. I am 39 years old. I much prefer the natural approach when it comes to everything with my health.
This helps me so much because you are correct in that they don't have information for girls out there and im having trouble figuring out what all this means
Sara Bales I think by telling her story Molly is telling people that if you choose to get an IUD that it’s important to do your research, make sure you are comfortable with your doctor, and to speak up when you know something is wrong. You may never have any issues but also you need to be comfortable speaking up if something seems off, you know your body better then anyone so don’t let a doctor shut you down when you think something is wrong.
Also she’s trying to normalize talking about the human body, and that it’s okay to ask questions.
Totally off topic, but I love how your lipstick matches your hair PERFECTLY 😍
Same!
I Kknow, was going to say the same. And that top. OMG, she's so pretty and put together in this video!
Yes I noticed the same was the first thing I was gonna say in the comments !! Ty
omg yes
Same here!!!
I honestly believe that if men were the ones that had periods there would be so much more funding into research and reducing side effects from birth control. Just a sad truth.
They would also make it obligatory to stay home and relax I bet.
This is not even the truth it’s your opinion and it’s a ridiculous one lol
@@kimmyymmik It isn't that ridiculous though, because medicine was created out of sexism and bias, and there still is a lot of sexism and bias there today. I have endometriosis, and on average, it takes 10 years for a woman to be taken seriously by a doctor and have a laparoscopy for a diagnosis. Despite 1-in-10 women having endometriosis. This is because the most common symptom, is heavy bleeding and/or extremely painful periods. The amount of times women have been told "it's your period it's supposed to hurt" and "everyone bleeds a different amount" is atrocious. And guess what? There's no cure for endometriosis, even though it creates lesions, scar tissue, cysts, and blockages in your abdomen. Those cysts can become cancerous, and you're at a higher risk of ovarian, cervical, and uterine cancer.
Why do you think for years women having heart attacks were dismissed? Because the symptoms of a heart attack were only recorded in male patients for decades, and female bodies experience heart attacks differently. A lot of men report the chest pain and the numb arm, but women usually experience intense nausea and shortness of breath or dizziness. Because men on average don't have those symptoms, they were never recorded as a symptom of a heart attack for decades. Women were having heart attacks and being turned away or dying. There is ample amounts of sexism in medicine, and it isn't very hard to find the reports and studies done on it.
Many many medications were only tested on men. Thalidomide, which was prescribed to pregnant women for pregnancy nausea, was never tested on pregnant women. It was only after women, who were prescribed it , began to have babies with deformed limbs that it was pulled. It is still prescribed for a certain blood disorder, but the patient has to provide proof that they are using 2 forms of birth control and it’s so expensive, my dad had to get a grant to help pay for it. He turned out to have a side effect of it, a rash from head to toe.
It was only in the last couple decades, that cardiologists realized that women can present with different symptoms than men when having heart attacks. Used to be that more women died from heart attacks than men simply because the doctors weren’t recognizing the signs of heart attacks in women, because women don’t always have the same symptoms as men I’ll get off my soapbox now
When my grandma had her heart attacks, each time, she said she really didn’t have much pain. She just felt like an elephant was sitting on her chest, and she couldn’t breathe. When my dad had his, he had the classic symptoms, pain in chest radiating to his back and down his arm
The only thing I am bothered by is that the video is 29:59 minutes and not 30
hahahah so sorry! I'll talk to my editor about this issue immediately. hahah
😂😂
mine is 29:58 lol
😂😂😂 Its ok
i find it satisfying tbh
The stuff that women go through...& STILL are killing it daily...We are incredible. 💜
couldn't agree more
Can you stop bragging about being tiny
Adrienne Marcus What the heck are you talking about??
@@adriennemarcus8085 ? what ? @Elizabeth Widener never said anything about being tiny...she was talking about how women rock. or are you are referring to a stereotype that all women are small.... ?? If so.... that is one horribly misguided steryotype
There is NEVER too much information about women's health. Thank you Molly for speaking openly.
If men had to go through this do you honestly think they would ever shut up about it?
@@annaswanson5903
Mama Doctor Jones reacted to this video. You should watch!!
Lauren Jarvis For sure! Informative and sends out a message to Molly that not not all, if not the majority of female Gynaecologists are compassionate.
Yes! I hope Molly watches it!
Yes would recommend Molly :)
It's so good!
Lauren Jarvis Regan Hollingsworth That’s how I found Molly ... How did I not know her ?!?? This is my 1st video watching, but I’ve already subscribed & will be binge watching her videos now 🥰.
I’m loving the open, tmi, and cussing molly. Yes queen!!
I agree, feels more real. Not that cussing makes someone real lol but I hope you know what I mean
Marisa Rose yes!!! More like us 😂
@@itssammybabyyy exactly 😂
same
@@MarisaRose1 hi can we be friends
My male gyno is the best and most gentle person ever.
Same! Also he is like 70, which for some reason helps me to feel not-so-awkward about him being male.. I har a woman before and HOLY SHIT, she did not give a F*** about weather or not she was hurting me during a smear, exam or otherwise.. Geez!
Wow I’m defo going to consider going to a male gynaecologist in the future!
Males have been the ONLY Gyno I’ve had that didn’t put me in pain. Sadly you would think women know the feeling and would understand but nope.
Wow interesting. In my experience it doesn't have much to do with the gender, more so their personality and level of empathy. I had good and bad experiences with both genders.
The men I've had have been far kinder and gentler than the women.
Totally off topic but your coin necklace lays almost perfectly in the middle of your shirt X and I love it.
Christina Nicholas I know! I was going to mention that. So perfect!
Yep only at the beginning. After that it passes behind the strigs and I was looking at it the whole time 😂😂
Christina Nicholas I was thinking the same thing the whole time I watched! 😂
I thought it was part of the shirt for a solid 5 minutes
I noticed that too! It's really satisfying for some reason....
Just to balance out the comment section for people who are now scared: Don’t forget the fact there are many many people out there who have a wonderful experience with their IUDs. Those people just tend to not comment because they didn’t have problems. I for myself had a mild cramp for half a day, that’s it (no prior delivery).
Agreed! I'm on my second IUD and have loved having one for over 6 years.
For anyone considering getting an IUD, make sure you request anesthesia or a pharmaceutical grade pain medication (such as an opioid) as many women have reported the procedure to be excruciatingly painful.
Requesting a prescription for Cytotec is also advised as it helps the cervix dilate (the IUD procedure involves dilating the cervix which can be very painful) Some doctors recommend getting the IUD whilst on your period to reduce the pain as your cervix is already dilated during your menstrual cycle.
Lastly, it's also highly recommended to only see a doctor that uses the new Carevix clamp (which uses gentle suction to stabilize the cervix) instead of the traditional tenaculum clamp which has sharp prongs that stab into your cervix, which is not only painful but can cause permanent nerve damage. Some women have even reported losing sensation in their clitoris after getting the IUD procedure. This is because the nerves in the cervix and the nerves in the clitoris are located on the same map.
When she said sorry about that it’s the construction I thought it was gallop
This is also a PSA to ladies to be PICKY about your gynecologist. Everyone deserves a compassionate, informed, and supportive doctor caring for their reproductive health!!
edit: i meant if you are in a place of privilege to advocate for yourself. I realize a devastating amount of people may not have a voice, choice, or proper resources.
Sadly not all countries or states allow for choosing gynecologist as you desire. Even if so you can't know beforehand how your body reacts to certain medication or procedures.
Preach!
or any doctor at all, to be honest
Especially if it’s “free” healthcare
Its hard in the small city i live in, we have like two different offices and only one accepts my insurance:/
I love how honest you are so you are educating young girls or girls in general. Thank you ❤️
That male ER doctor sounds like my female gyno, compassionate and supportive. I hope you have found a better obgyn doctor.
Am I the only one who forgets that molly is blind?
Hailey Sears nope!
You do forget at time's
I do all the time. She does things I rely so heavily on sight for so naturally. It’s kind of awesome actually.
I tend to forget until she says something about being blind. Then I'm like oh right. Lol.
I guess sometime we can take things for granted. Molly is striving in this world.
Thanks for sharing your experience, Molly! I love your videos and have been subbed to you for a while. I’m planning to making a response to talk about Protein S deficiency, IUDs, and ways we can make some of this better. Hope that’s ok, please let me know if there’s anything particular you’d like me to address!
Mama Doctor Jones this is awesome!!
I thought of you the whole time I was watching this. I can't wait to hear what an OBGYN has to say about all of this.
I'm personally curious why IUDs and condoms are safe. Maybe the non-hormonal IUD, but it sounds like she was using an IUD with hormones?
classic copper iud is the way to go. there can be complications as with any insertion but it's far less frequent than the new ones and it's hormone free. copper kills sperm.
Address the other genetic disorders that are contraindicated with estrogen-containing birth control options! I really feel we should be screening women for these before subjecting them to birth control. I'm an ER nurse and had a 22 year old patient with a massive saddle PE. She was on birth control and later found to have Factor V Leiden. If they can do genetic screenings on babies, we can come up with an easy way to screen women. Would also love if you'd address anxiety and depression that can be caused by birth control. When I was a teen, I started birth control to deal with awful periods, having no idea it would send me into a spiral of depression. I didn't know it was caused by the birth control until I switched and my life improved 10-fold.
Personal experiences with male/female gynos?
When I first got the nexplanon birth control inserted in my arm I had my period for 3 months straight. I became anemic and got it taken out. Then I got an iud inserted and have a really light and short period! Everyone is different and should find what works for them
getting my nexplanon is the best that happend to me! no more periods and i'm not a wreck because of hormones (other girls might have pms for a few days, i had three days of my entire cycle where i was "normal". On my third implant right now. i'm happy you found something that worked for you :)
I had to have my IUD removed and Nexplanon put in and it was the best decision I’ve ever made. So true that every person has to find what works best for them!
Shalyn I got the nexplanon and I ended up getting pregnant a few months after getting it.
This sounds exactly like my experience with the nexplanon. But I was bleeding for much longer almost had to have a transfusion and on top of all of that going on no one here will remove my nexplanon until my full 3 years on it expires. So instead of doing something about it my gyno put me on a crazy amount of birth control pills for 2 months to as he said regulate my body. It was 8 pills every day for 7 days then 7 pills for 7 days and so on and so forth until I got down to 1 pill once daily for 7 days then I was done. God i was a HOT MESS!!!! and I still have periods that are very unregulated and very frequent but not as bad as before. Now it's like spotting for 8 or so days out of the blue or spotting for 1 day and nothing for like 3 weeks i just cant wait until I can get this removed!!!!!
My best friend bled for a solid year because despite her insurance covering the insertion of the nexplanon, they wouldn’t cover the removal. She had growths all around the site and horrible moods swings. All of her friends her perfectly fine experiences with it though. I go in to get one in a couple months. Fingers crossed I’ll have a good experience.
This story makes my ladies parts hurt just thinking about it
I feel like there’s not enough of ‘TMI’ videos out there especially for young girls and things like this is normal so if anything thanks for talking about it
Props to Molly, she is an amazing person sharing her stories. Honestly when you think about it you have to be pretty brave to tell a story such as this. So, 👏 props to you! :)
Molly can u do a Super TMI series since u said that u were in real life?!
Jen Klen yesssss
I'm so glad you shared this. I also had a very traumatic experience getting my IUD in. These stories need to be shared because women's reproductive health is so neglected in North America. You described the pain very well. Why don't we have a more compassionate approach to this? I believe there are so many women afraid of getting this procedure done because of the pain. This procedure should not be so feared and painful.
Because society lacks empathy for women. Anesthesia is given for every other surgical procedure, EXCEPT gynecological procedures. Women are screaming and crying in pain during these procedures and no one cares. The is blatant misogyny in the healthcare industry needs to END.
"peeing out of my booty" LOL I've been there
Yep - been there too! I have Crohns disease, and that is most definitely a thing! My friend referred to it as vomiting out my a**.... lol. Funny... but NOT funny when it's you dealing with it. I'm so sorry you had to go through that, Molly! It's horrible. Thanks so much for sharing your story!
Hugs and love! 💛💛💛
ash lol same
Been there, I have IBS and I’m lactose intolerant and have multiple food allergies and sensitivities that make it flare up 😬😬😬😬
@@suvimaru Have you checked out the LowFODMAP diet? It is specifically for ppl with IBS. I recommend the Monash University webpage and the Queen of LowFODMAP, #suzanneperazzini
Shala Carter I haven’t but I’ll look into it! Thank you!
Thank you for "un-TMI-ing" the most TMI subjects out there. I named you as the most inspiring person in my life for my school project! You are amazing!
P.S. My dad is a urogynecologist. I hear stories like this every day!
Girls are girls, we can’t control theses things molly, so please don’t ever be scared to tell us these things because we will always love you no matter what happens.
There are some non binary people dealing with these issues too.
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It takes a lot of courage and strength for you to come out and tell us your deep personal story's. You inspire me and as well as so many others. I love you! Keep being you!
I really like these videos. It feels like I'm having a conversation with a new friend at a sleepover. Thank you for sharing this story Molly!
“All of me matches. All of me is tiny.” Honey, me too
I'm overweight but everything else about me is small too.
She's an inch taller than me and I'm also very tiny obviously lol
Same! It’s a huge problem in my relationship too
Totally unrelated but you have such a pretty profile image ✨
Yep, same! Including my mouth, not the shit that comes out of it, just the size 😂
I know this is unrelated, but I love that elephant tattoo so much
It goes with her hair and clothes so much😊
yesss, same
Me too! So adorable!!!
Girl! I'm so happy you shared your story, while it was ultra triggering, I finally feel ready to get mine out. I have a tilted uterus and didn't know that until right before she inserted mine. I also was not given any painkillers or anything. I was nervous and couldn't eat. 5 nurses were in the room and the pain was unbearable. I begged for them to stop and they said "were almost done" and they finished. When I got up, blood streamed down my legs and I nearly passed out. Idk why I thought I would be able to do that alone, but after they wheeled me to a ventilated space, my dad dad was able to pick me up. It was probably the most painful thing I've ever experienced if I'm being honest. I too have a multitude of pain and symptoms but have adapted because I've been terrified of removal. I'm glad you got yours out and are doing better.
You did the right thing going to the ER. Infections need to be treated in a timely manner or else they can get dangerous. Don’t let anyone tell your otherwise. I enjoyed listening to your story. Thanks for putting it out there.
Every time Molly posts, no matter what, CLICK!!
Makiki ! Yasss girl!!!
You know she’s Canadian when she says “sorry” like that
... like what? 😂 I am also Canadian.
@@annamaezingmeow "Sowwwrrryyy" sommit like that kinda sound haha, I'm British and noticed it straight away!
@@annamaezingmeow sounds like "soary"
I laughed when I heard her say sorry because it reminded me she is Canadian (I'm Australian so pick it up quickly)
I'm american and I heard it and laughed too 😂😂
It always makes me dad when I hear of those who have bad doctors but continue to see them.
I had a doctor 20-something yrs ago tell me repeatedly over a 2-year span that I was a teenager and it was normal to feel tired all the time. By the time I finally saw a new doctor after moving away for college, I was sleeping 14-16 hrs per day. He quickly diagnosed a TOXIC thyroid as my TSH levels were off the charts. He said it had been going bad for a few years to be the size it was. Yeah, not normal teenager stuff!
I learned an important lesson: The doctor is there for me and if I am uncomfortable with anything said or done (or not done), if I'm certain something is wrong and they don't take me seriously, I can fire my doctor and choose a different one!
I have only had 2 doctors in my life that I've refused to see ever again. The one that nearly killed me by not trying to find out why I wasn't feeling well, and one that had a severe attitude problem (who I also filled a formal complaint against with his clinic's director because it was that bad). I refuse to feel bad about this because they are there for me, not themselves. As my primary care doctor has said when we disagree on treatments, I know my body better than anyone.
Sadly this is the reality for a lot of people. Especially in places like Canada or the UK where there's "free" healthcare. You don't get to decide who you see, the government does. There's someone in a group I'm in on Facebook who is in the UK and she can't switch doctors even though she has an eating disorder and her therapist is doing nothing to help her with it and her GP just put a warning on her file so that other doctors won't take her seriously after she went to her GP. Because her healthcare is free, she doesn't have the right to choose to leave those doctors who are mistreating her.
As someone training to work in the medical field I’m so upset at how they treated you. Every person is different and I’m so sorry you had to go through that
I'm a CNA, and in nursing school. It makes me so so upset that her "doctors" treated her that way. No one should be yelled at for doing what they think is best for them!
What a IUD?
@@destinyd1944 No kidding. People like that shouldn't work in medicine.
@@usamarafieck1715 An insertable form of birth control
Fyi to anyone that's tiny like Molly and myself(4'11" 110lbs)you can request a pediatric speculum for exams. If they can't supply this I highly recommend going to a different place.
Im 4'10 and im 105lbs
There are several speculum lengths and widths. If you have a thin and deep vaginal canal you can also get a special one for this! So crazy that people don’t know this!
Celestial Chaos Custom Soaps even the pediatric one is excruciating for me.
I'm not tiny, but I do have horrible pelvic pain, and that has been a blessing to be able to have them use that instead. It hurts so, so much less.
ALL doctors should be *kind and compassionate!* I mean they deal with people that have medical issues that most of them don't know anything about and therefore have to put *all their trust* in a doctor which can be horrifying!
Well, I think they should be great judges of human character. For some patients, compassion works, some on the other hand need harsh remarks or humour to get distracted from what they are feeling. I guess it's real art of understanding patients' needs.
@The Lovely Mel Chan I unterstand where you're coming from but in my opinion compassion is a part of their job.
They don't need to have long conversations with their patients about their private life but they have to inform them about what they are about to do and do that in a calm and understanding way. It's not acceptable to be harsh or rude or even to yell at a patient and I think that's not too much to ask.
Just a PSA IUDs are not supposed to do that. Like this is terrible and a horror story for sure but the IUD itself is not horrific. It sounds like it was placed incorrectly and was digging into your uterine wall which it's totally not supposed to do! Probably the most convincing evidence is that you got an infection. The gyno who did it did a terrible job😔 Just don't want this to discourage anyone from looking into it because it is an amazing birth control for many many women! Just need a good Dr to discuss which one is best for your body and a Dr that is competent in placing/removing them.
Yeah this happened to me and when I went back to the doctor after the emergency removal for follow up as I have had chronic pelvic pain ever since (years ago) they claimed they never even placed it in me in the first place!
Exactly! This was a singular negative experience by someone and it is not the norm. It was likely a result of poor medical care from the OBGYN she had at the time.
That ER gynecologist probably has dealt with a lot of trauma patients which could help with the compassion level and doctor/patient consent.
Honestly, I always get the best care from ER doctors. They see so much and deal with so many different kinds of people that they tend to be far more compassionate and skilled. I had a collapsed lung last year and the ER doctor that inserted my chest tube was fantastic. Getting it taken out was far worse than having it put in.
The coincidence of seeing this video uploaded the day before I am about to go into my doctor. I have been wanting to get it out for a long time and this video really helped my anxiety around going in. I have been told in the past to continue my birth control method for "6 more months" and "don't give up yet". At the end of the day, we have our bodies and they are ours to make the right choices. I have had my IUD for 3.5 years and I have experienced a slow, but drastic increase in side effects and I can't take it anymore. Thank you Molly for putting your story out in the world.
I hope the removal goes well, and that your side effects go away!
I hope you'll do well
Amanda O stay strong! I had to threaten to remove the arm implant because my doctor put me through the same crap and that’s the only way she’d take me seriously. Good luck!
“I was peeing out of my booty” omfg😂😂😂 I know it’s a serious story but she’s so funny.
Sometimes these are the only words to describe this type of diarrhea 🤣
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As a child my dad called it flaming butt pee...
The end message about not letting doctors make you feel like your being dramatic and all that was something i really needed today ❤
It’s best to remember everyone’s body reacts differently! I have had an iud for years and I really love it. You should talk to your doctor to see what’s the right fit for you!
Amandeez absolutely. I've had mine for 5.5 years now - had it replaced at the five year mark with no issues. I love it so much!
You know that is very true... but I think it’s sad the risk we women take... it isn’t fair to ourself
*My IUD experience points:*
*Insertion in Ireland:*
I was given cervical softener tablets to insert a few hrs before.
A pack of Ponstan (anti inflammatory to take 30 min before)
[I also took castor oil to soften my cervix]
I went to the office and it was just done in minutes.
*Notes*
*I have not had a baby yet, but I got Kyleena which is a bit smaller than Mirena, but lasts 5 years too. [from the Mirena Company]
*For me it was basically painless. [I suffer pretty sever chronic pain anyway]
*I did it while in work (I'm a nanny, my mam minded the kid in the waiting room when I was in the office).
*I went right back to work.
*It was so painless for me that I thought she forgot to put it in 😂.
*I bled for 28 days straight, but light.
*Two years in:*
°My flow did get lighter in general
°My periods are still irregular.
°I have never felt them, except on day 2 when I tried to cycle 😂
°I did have a Pelvic Inflammatory Disease scare 8 months in, which they thought was the coil. BUT it didn't end up being PID and was just my chronic illness acting up 😂😂.
*Hope that helps*
Beth Freeman I had pretty much the same experience with Kyleena! Everyone should keep in mind that Molly’s situation will not happen to everyone!
I too am a nanny and almost had my sister keep the kid while I had it done 😂 happened to get scheduled on a day I was off so I could nap in my bed tho for the slight cramping and I am thankful for that 🙌
I hate you just a tad for it being so easy for you. I literally couldn’t move I was in so much pain. It went away but my cramps suck. Like woop woop good job A+ for you but I’m envious. I’m never doing that again without drugs.
I too have the kyleena
Hi Beth, thanks for your comment. I'm getting the Kyleena next month in Ireland too, nice to have some positive experiences! Hope it goes well for me too. A shame Molly had such a bad experience. Xx
@@saras.2790 Absolutely, I just wanted to share the other side for balance because I know its scary when you hear horror stories.
But I also think it's important to know both sides.
I'm glad to hear yours went well! x
I’m very fortunate that my body reacted well to the IUD. I love it.
i was never really interested into the whole iud method, it made me squeamish. but i’m glad that you shared your experience, this can really help other women who were considering this method of birth control. i didn’t think this was tmi, i enjoyed hearing your side of the story!
Molly, it’s called bedside manner. Your doctor had none! Definitely not appropriate!
So happy you are doing better. ❤️
Not TMI and you are helping young women. I love my male dr and gynecologist
I’m 12 years old and I have unregulated periods. I whent to the doctor and she gave me options my mom said this one was the best one. She set up an appointment for tomorrow morning. I’m so nervous. Please tell me how bad it hurts. ( I’ve also never had a Pap smear, used a tampon, or had a speculum in side my vagina). I’m scared!!!!! ( also I have a male gynecologist) so that’s even better. 😓
@@keiratemplin6109 awe honey are you just having an examination ? Remember just to be nice and relaxed and breathe. Nothing to be nervous about at all. I have never had an IDU as I really have read more bad than good but everyone's bodys are different and tell your gynecologist you're nervous. He will totally understand sweetie.
Bree Phoenix I’m getting iud and an exam
@@keiratemplin6109 I don't have an IUD I'm in Australia and they're not really popular. Speak to your gynecologist and say your nervous and you're worried and I'm sure you will be fine honey. Make sure you relax and breathe and if you feel uncomfortable at anytime just tell him and ask him to stop, if you're in pain or hurting ask him to stop but I'm sure you will be fine sweetie. Goodluck. And tell your mum you're scared, it's your body and the pill helped my periods sooooo much. So maybe talk to your gynecologist about what he think's would be best aswell.
Thank you for sharing this. I am 15 so it is good to hear honest stories about female bodies. ❤
Alyssa Fortson always do what feels right for you, and speak up about your concerns about anything. A good doctor will listen to you, switch doctors if necessary. Just because you’re 15 doesn’t mean you don’t know your body. Sorry, just some grandma advice 😉
It's always good to hear stories about female bodies. Ditto what's said below. Also look for good resources. Sexplanations is a great UA-cam channel and scarleteen.com is a website of sex positive education curated specifically for teens. Don't know where you live. But in the U.S., we have to do what we can to stick together. And remember Molly's story, but also remember that there are tons of people on IUDs who love them. You have to do what's right for your body. (Also IUDs protect against pregnancy but NOT STIs)
Okay, so I didn’t actually know your channel existed until Mama Doctor Jones reacted to this video. Thank you for sharing this story. I also have an IUD, but I’ve had it since around July 2016. Mine is copper, and while I’ve had side effects, it’s been mostly positive, and almost identical to what I’ve had beforehand, except that my period pains have been WAAAYYY less painful.
All you ladies who have an IUD, and watching this nervously, I’m right here with ya! 😂😂
Diamond Heart i just got mine 😰😰😰😰😰
I’ve had 2 iuds. My first went crooked after 2.5 years. I got it replaced. The second is in right now but the strings have disappeared so now I have to get an ultrasound to find it. I’m scared. I hope they can grab it somehow. I love my iud. I love not having a period. I’d get another iud but I don’t think they’ll give me another so I guess my husbands getting snipped if I can’t get another. Yikes.
Never been on any type of birth control!
Junglebloods omg!! That sounds terrifying!! Hopefully they find the strings! I got mine about a year ago. I have the copper IUD. I don’t do hormones, bc my seizure meds make birth control hormones almost ineffective..so it’s almost pointless. The iud is basically my only option for safe birth control. Although, I’m pretty sure that I had a miscarriage recently with mine. 😔
Olivia Topp not all experiences are bad, I’ve had mine for almost a year now, and I’ve had two periods a month..since getting it. 😩
The videos you label as "TMI" usually end up being some of my favs. It's refreshing to see such real content, especially when it relates to women's health. Keep on shining!
I love your elephant tattoo, it's so adorable and I'm glad you didnt have it removed!
I had a horrible IUD experience as well... and the amount of ridiculously horrifying doctors I've seen who has treated me like scum is appalling. I'm happy you had that good experience at the ER.
Misogyny is so rampant in society that women even have to battle misogyny in the healthcare industry... from the people who are supposed to care about you.
I love this video! Women really need to be more open about this kinda “taboo” stuff! Love ya❤️💋
The worst thing ever is having an OB/GYN tell you to relax and calm down when they're causing you awful pain.
it sucks but there's literally nothing they can do about the pain. Anything in that area will be sensitive! I agree, some physicians can definitely be more compassionate but as a med student who's in her last year, all the gynecological procedures are pretty much painful to an extent and physicians are legally not allowed to prescribe pain pills or general anesthesia for a lot of them. They're trying to get you to relax cause that actually will decrease the pain but there's nothing they can do to avoid the pain completely. Just some thoughts so you can see the other side and realize we never want to intentionally cause our patients pain!
@@domenical.2261 For sure! But a lot of those are older generation docs and definitely not ALL of them are like that, especially at my program. I think it's unfair to say they are all like that. But definitely agree there are physicians who could stand to be more empathetic.
Thank you for sharing this story! It's really important to normalize female health, and we SHOULD be talking about stuff like this!
Molly, report your doctor to the CPSO college of physicians and surgeons of Ontario
iraqidolphin1 sure probably dead by now 😂
That's not nice
Molly that’s so awful, I can’t believe how unprofessional and cruel some of the medical professionals you’ve dealt with
jadie-May dredd or should we say medical unprofessionals? 😂😤
That’s what happens when you have chronic issues and or unsolvable issues where you get thrown around from doctor to doctor. It’s sucks and I have personally experienced this.
I had one gynecologist get upset and angry that my husband was asking questions. He was literally asking things we’ve talk about about in case I forgot. What a psycho. I’ve had so many bad experiences I now get ready to have a bad experience, especially if it’s a woman, I’ve noticed generally speaking I’ve gotten worse care under the women doctors care. They just have this nasty attitude.
I ❤️ your openness about "taboo" things!! We need to normalize talking about our healthcare! Thank you for this video, I'm sure it's going to help a lot of people ❤️❤️❤️
I love how your hair is three different shades of fuchsia/purple. It’s a good change from the pink! I cannot wait to see what you do for fall and winter. Maybe even darker purple?
Dark blue 😍
I'm obsessed with your hair and lipstick! Such a perfect match and you look so cute!
Thanks for sharing these topics with us, love you Molly xx
My mom had an IUD and got a bad uterine infection and Gynecologist removed it said the infection had ascended the string. This was 30 years ago in the uk. No painkillers, no muscle relaxant. I had only discomfort.
However I agree that some muscle relaxants can give diarrhoea. I took them for a bad back, briefly. Awful !
So sorry you had this awful experience.
Yes Molly! We need these kind of videos, and you do a great job telling the stories! Thank you!
as a guy i would say IF i was a gynecologist i would be 400% extra nice cause clearly a lady would feel even just a little be more stressed cause im a guy
🙌 The guy that was my OB when I was pregnant with my daughter was a d*ck. Would've really appreciated if he had thought like you!
@@MarisaRose1 im very sorry that happen im a nice guy normally but IF i was a gynecologist i would never stop talking just keep saying what im doing when im doing it and if they are ok
I had very similar experiences with my Mirena! I dealt with doctors telling me I was crazy for 3 years before I finally had it removed and switched to the Nexplanon arm implant. All the symptoms stopped and I’m so glad I switched!!!
I hate how some doctors don’t listen to you, I’ve had two lots of implant birth control and both ones caused me to have migraines, feeling hungry all the time which would then make me gain weight and I would bleed for 4 weeks (like heavy) then stop for 2 weeks then bleed for another 4 weeks and so on. When I went to get it taken out they acted like I was exaggerating everything and that it wasn’t as bad as I was making out. They also told me the implant doesn’t make you gain weight but loads of people online said they’ve gained weight because of it. I’m so glad you got it taken out and you’re feeling a lot better now xx
I think it is very brave of you to talk about this experience. I am in my late 40's and like you, I find male doctors are much more gentle. It is necessary for us to have dealing with doctors in that way, the last thing we need is "better than you" or judgmental doctors taking care of us.
Yes! My favorite gynecologist was a gay male. He was so careful and didn't get mad when I had a panic attack and severe pains from the instruments.
I actually think that the reason why male OB/GYN 's are more compassionate and kind is because they realize that they don't know what it feels like so they try to make it as easy and comfortable for their patients.
Bentley White agreed.
Agreed. I had a woman gyno once thinking it would be more comfortable but she was a nightmare. My current gyno is a guy and I havent had an issue since.
Love male gynos
My gyno is a guy now. I had women most of my life that kinda sucked. I needed to see a specialist and the most highly recommended and qualified was a guy and he is amazing. The first time I saw him he realized how bad everything was and scheduled me for surgery 2 weeks later! He is a blessing in my life!
Totally agree! My current obgyn is a woman and she told me on my first visit that she stays as open as possible because she knows that no woman is the same as her. I wish more female doctors were like her.
Wish this was posted a few months ago. I have had 3 kids and decided to get an IUD. It went through my uterus and I had to have it surgically removed 😱 people need to hear these stories. Thanks for sharing yours!
Kayla Willis birth control in general is scary. I was on the pill a few years. When I got off of it it took 2 years for my period to be normal again.
I relate to this story from both a physician and a patient perspective. When I was in medical school, I got a Jaydess IUD in Canada (smaller than the Mirena, also progesterone, lasts 3 years vs 5). I didn't want my family physician to insert it because once during a pap that was unusually painful she held me down and told me to stop moving despite me asking her to stop. I asked for a gyne referral. The gyne I saw was equally bad if not worse. She prescribed intravaginal Misoprostol to "ripen" the cervix. In retrospect, having read the literature and talked to literally any gyne in my med school, I should have objected, ESPECIALLY since this gyne did NOT examine me before prescribing it so clearly this was something she did with every nulliparous patient < concerning. At the appointment, my boyfriend (also in medicine) was with me, and I was nervous - at this point in my training, I hadn't put in an IUD and didn't know what to expect - which for most patients is brief pain followed by some mild discomfort after it is done.
This is where it got bad. I don't recall all the details. I remember pain, contractions, extremely nauseated, becoming vasovagal, sweating, lightheaded. She had no bedside manner to top it off. She left the room to get something WHILE the TENACULUM was on (a clamp that goes on the cervix to help position it for IUD insertion - I suggest NOT googling it). The tenaculum hung off the edge of the bed still attached. She eventually put the IUD in and promptly left the room. I was left on the table - which was still raised far off the ground. I didn't know what to do... look for a bucket to throw up? scream for help? yell in pain? not roll off the bed passing out? I writhed in pain while having continuous contractions. I had to stumble over, holding my belly with one hand and the wall with the other, to the bathroom at the other end of the clinic because I was about to lose control of my bowels. Luckily I made it. My boyfriend helped me stumble out of the clinic. I had uterine contractions for days, spacing out gradually. I don't know how long I bled for, but I spotted for over 6 months. I got terrible cramping for months, then only with my period - which I still got and it was more heavy and very very painful. The emotional trauma from the insertion was re-triggered by the cramps for close to a year. It sucked. Eventually, I accepted the cramping. I didn't get it removed because I was scared and because it was great contraception and I paid for it. Good news, when I did get it removed it wasn't a big deal. I have had it out for months now, but now have the side effects of normal periods/hormones and no backup contraception - I have always used the pill or IUD AND condoms. I am likely going to get another IUD, definitely NO misoprostol, and I think I will need to advocate for myself more (harder said than done with the power dynamic, even being a doctor myself - when you're the patient all goes out the window) and ensure that the doctor I go to is at least decent.
This is not TMI at all. It's super important info for every woman out there. Sharing like you just did, can save the next woman or at least make us all more aware. The fact that some topics are not talked about or considered "TMI" is dangarous especially when it comes to our health.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING IT OK FOR ALL OF US TO TALK ABOUT IT!!! Very important video.
Also, we should definatly listen to our bodies a lot more.
My 2 iud insertion experiences:
1. Before having a baby-very painful insertion.
2. After having a baby- Didn’t feel a thing.
Yep I got mine after apparently my uterus is dead inside -Stephanie
It's because your cervix is relaxed...due to the fact your child came through it. If you can reach your cervix you'll be able to see that it isn't completely closed anymore
Ahhh that makes sense why she said no Baby even came through there.
My daughter did crown but was stuck.
A little o.O but fine- Stephanie
I got my first iud after having a baby and it hurt quite a bit.
@@lindseyboggs2720 was it right after having a baby? I can see that being pretty sensitive. I'm sorry the insertion hurt I hope that it's worked well for you
Thank you for sharing this, as a woman with PCOS this stuff needs to be talked about more and not shamed!
You should go watch Mama Doctor Jones. She is a ob/gyn. She reviewed this video and had a lot of information for your story! It was very good things to know from a good gynecologist.
Your honesty and experience is so important to share
"She was a crackpot." LOL
Younger woman don't have a lot of information about iud's and the risk thank you so much for sharing some people might be grosses out but this is something all woman go through
I would call this video REAL not tmi. Thank u for sharing this, and other aspects of your life with us Molly. 💜
I'm thinking... Did the IUD "activate" PCOS or do you just have ovarian cysts not linked to PCOS?
BTW Molly, over the weekend we had an election in my country and a blind person was elected for our kind of senate for the first time. I think that's kind of cool. That's obviously not relevant to this video but I wanted to share that with you 🙂
Omg so cool! What country??
@@ava8510 the Faroe Islands 🇫🇴 🙂 a deaf person was almost elected too.
Hi, I don't think she has PCOS, because she has regular Ovulation. That is very unlikely, most women with it have Fertility issues.
@@denia1594 I have PCOS and regular cycles (and fertility issues) so... 🤷
Considering her problems with periods in the past, that's my guess too, that she already had it and it just went undiagnosed by her doctors.
Hi Molly, This was "Not" TMI! Kudos to you for "sharing" your terrible "IUD" Story! So, glad you found another Doctor!
Blessings from Oklahoma,
Piper
Please put subtitles in ur videos
I am def so I can not know what u are saying the audio subtitles are not accurate
Arwa Vasaiwala I turned the captions on to see what you were saying, I do see some wrong words but in this video it does kind of put the summary out. But nice comment! Definitely should be something done about that
I personally found this videos subtitles pretty good, but at some points I had to do a bit of lip reading to understand what she was saying😊
Arwa Vasaiwala same. 🤟
+ Molly haven’t you done videos with Deaf people? Why is this not accessible?
Molly has said before that she doesn't have the ability to caption all her videos professionally, but that she would try and have at least some of them captioned. So since you're requesting this one, maybe she will make this video a priority?
Also I know there's an option to let the community caption it for you, but I'm not sure how that works :/
My sister-in-law had a similar experience with the mirana IUD and we were extremely worried. She refused to go to the doctor no matter how bad her symptoms were til one night she turned grey and was seizing out on us, she had a 104 fever; we called an ambulance. She was septic from the infection in her uterus that had now went into her bloodstream and was in a coma. They removed the IUD and put her on multiple iv antibiotics. For days we was not sure if she would recover. It took a week for her to wake up. We wasn't sure if her temp had been too high too long and had caused damage to the brain. But now if you look at her you would never know it happened. 18 years and 3 kids later she has made a full recovery and has no residual effects from the IUD.
I love your TMI stories! I would like u to do a video about your experience with sex? (With all the respect) being blind and experiencing it for the first time and if it was scary? I’m curious
Danitza Z OMG I never thought about that! I agree with you
Girl no 😂
Omg I never thought of that either. 😱
Why would that be different or more scary for Molly than for anybody else.
@@hoofdstadmeisje I think it 100% depends on the sexual situation. I've been in some that are scary enough being able to see the person, I can't imagine not being able to see in certain situations.
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My husband was actually an iud baby! My mother in law got pregnant, they took the iud out and he survived! She carried to term, had a healthy pregnancy and he is healthy to this day. I’m so thankful ❤️❤️❤️ thank you for sharing your story molly! Such a crazy and scary experience. I’m so sorry 😭
I have PCOS , i can completely relate to what you went through and hearing these stories give me a little hope that I’M not alone ❤️❤️
Also my mom has retinitis pigmentosa and so do some of my aunts and uncles. It's so awesome to see blind role models!
Listening to this I almost passed out
I feel so sorry for you 😰
I just wanted to share my experience with an IUD. I know Molly said that everyone has different experiences, but the bad stories tend to stick out more than the positive. I have the non-hormonal Paraguard IUD, which is the one that is copper and lasts 10-12 years. I've had it for...4-5 years now? While insertion did hurt a lot, it only lasted 15 seconds. My period was heavier for six months, then returned to normal now. I definitely talk about my IUD all the time and recommend them!!! I honestly forget it's there. I'm more than happy to answer any questions people might have about them. ^-^
Sierra S 🙄 yay you lived
can definitely confirm that people over exagerate and misunderstand the side effects of IUD. For me that 15 sec pain is okay if you have 5 years of worry free contraception. people are just too much with the pain smh.
Same here. I've had lilletta (generic mirena) for 2 years now. It works awesome for me I havent had any side effects. I havent lost my period completely but it has become a lot lighter and shorter.
Same here 😉
Yay to hormone free IUD! I've got mine booked in to be inserted for next month. Did you have any pain killers or local anaesthetic before hand? I have the option for local anaesthetic if I opt for it at an extra cost and to take paracetamol or ibuprofen before hand (will take the pain killers). Just to prepare myself and make it as comfortable as possible. Any advice?
Thank you for sharing. Love the unfilteredness. I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. Glad you had that compassionate ER Dr. I had a strong feeling to get mine removed today and i couldnt believe the hoops i had to go through just to get it out and be taken seriously. The first hospital refused me, at the ER and womens clinic because all the OB's were "in surgery" went to a different hospital because I'm a stubborn vet nurse, and had to plead my case then finally got it out. I started getting diagnosed with mental health disorders around the time i got it placed, everything is starting to make sense. I also realized that i felt the weight of the IUD the entire time. We just get "used to it" we need to advocate for ourselves and speak more on this. I realize some people may be triggered thinking nothing is wrong or could go wrong because they feel "fine" but maybe you just got used to it. Thanks for sharing!!
i hope you registered a complaint against that family doctor.
meurtri exactly! If that had happened to me, I would have contacted the State Licensure Board! This doctor’s behavior was so inappropriate!
I just read Molly’s little description section under the video and it’s so cute 🥺😭
I had an IUD for almost 8 years and it was the best set-it and forget-it thing I’ve ever done 😂 my husband and I lived happily without the worry of contraception, only recently was it removed *painlessly*
This sounds so similar to my story as well.. in May 2018 I was also diagnosed with a bloodclut disease, which also led me to have to get an IUD. My gynaecoligist (a lovely man) only used local anesthethec "inside", and the pain of getting it done was INSANE. I couldn't walk. I also bled for a month-ish. Then for the next 4 months I had so much pain on the left side of my pelvis, like period cramps but only on one side. Went to an emergency gynaecologist (female) and she said I was being dramatic, that I should give it time. After another month of the pain I went back to my regular gynaecologist and he said "Well, if it hurts too much, lets just take it out." Thank god that I didn't have cystes or anything, they sound superscary.. Thank you for sharing your story Molly!