5 Failproof Systems for a Peaceful Fall! 🍂
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My son in law calls out a "toy jail". After a specific time, he would say, "jail break"! And the kids would laugh and come running. Then they would see again what they liked and didn't like. He is always making ordinary things a game... can make up a game on the spot. He's just a lot of fun!
I love watching and listening to you both. First let me say I'm 69 years old so I have no children at home and I was on a roll decluttering and organizing after I retired 4 years ago. (Also I'm not complaining or want anyone to feel sorry for me - far from it) My husband of 45 years has dementia and I am his full time care giver, I've been very fortunate to have had him and still have him in my life all these years. Just in the last 2 years he has gotten worse so I have fallen off my roll (LOL). When I watch you Diana and Dawn it gives me strength and a little push to get back on my roll little by little. So I want to thank you both for all you do for all ages. God Bless you both and your beautiful families. 💕
Bless you and your husband 🙏
When I was growing up, you never said the word boring around my mother. She would always be able to find you more chores to do!!!!!
❤❤❤❤❤
In hindsight (youngest is 13) I feel like toy rotation is oftentimes for mom because we have a hard time getting rid of the toys. Ask me how I know!! 😂
Yup! Truly, growing up, the word 'bored' was banned in our home. For the record, I had GREAT parents. We learned through them how to occupy our time with a large variety of 'tasks.' One being prayer! Even quiet time was an activity granting us time to slow down, contemplate life, watch the birds, etc. ♡
My mom, too! I became a voracious reader. :D
My son, who is 44, remembers going to Grandma and Grandpa's house to visit. They lived on a farm. Chris went to my mom and said, "I'm bored." She said "ok...go out and hoe in the garden for awhile." Chris did that. The next day, he said to my mom, I don't know what to do. But I'm NOT BORED!"
I just love how you close in prayer with such love and empathy. ❤ you and Dawn ooze the goodness and joy of the Lord!
Every time I think I need a new storage container I remember it's not a container problem it's an
inventory problem❤
Yes, indeed! ♡
Or in other words too many things!!
Alternative to rotating toys: When I was a kid, we had a 'Sunday Box' which held toys and games which only came out on Sunday, which helped to make Sunday feel a special day even when I was tiny.
My mom died 3 weeks ago. Everything is overwhelming and I've been reminded to give myself and others some grace. I'm adopting the small.... slow.... simple lifestyle.
(((Hugs)))
I’m so sorry about your Mum.
Also so sorry for the loss of your Mum. I lost mine 2 years ago. Sending you a big hug.
Sorry for your loss ❤
♡
Unrelated but wanted to compliment you both on how good your current hairstyles & colors look- very becoming of you both. Love when you two get together!
Hmmm...I teach 125 students, I probably see 100 per day on our rotating schedule, but this helps explain why I don't feel up to spending time with extra friends during the school year.
Diana, I love your prayers. Thank you for including them in your videos, they're beautiful. You always pray what's in my heart and mind but can't come up with the words to express what's there so thank you for giving my heart a voice.
I love watching each of you and your channels, but love watching you two together even more. You both compliment each other!! Even though my children are grown I share you with our younger mothers at church that are struggling with the daily grind of managing being a Godly woman,a wife, mother and work a full time job.
My kids are now adults and I so agree with Dawn about changing systems for the seasons. It's so important to constantly be re-evaluating. As far as asking the kids to pick up their things - if we expect the kids to help us with the dishwasher and the laundry and the bathroom tidying, then we need to be willing to help them with picking up toys and putting away clothes and getting their rooms tidy. It needs to be a two way street. Let's all pitch in together to be helpful and kind.
😂 it's like brain storming session. All the ideas. You are on a roll! 💡
The ‘time will tell bin’ has legit changed my life. I’m a ‘stacker’ by nature 😂 I’ve learned that ONE plastic filing box under my cabinet, out of sight for all important KEEP paperwork is also my jam. If it doesn’t get in my small time-will-tell bin (which is easy to hide when company is coming), and my KEEP box… it goes in the trash. Time tested…I no longer have ANY paperwork piles ANYWHERE in my home successfully for over TWO YEARS now. IT WORKS!!!! 🎉🎉🎉
I love that system! "Keep" 📥 &
"time will tell"📦📂 ⏳️
And throw
away! 🗑 🚮 🚛
So "goodbye" 👋🏻🙋♀️🙋🏼♀️ to "I can't decide!"🤔🙇♀️🙇🏼♀️ pile! 🌬🍙
I’ve found that if I take the Highway, I feel way more dysregulated. Now, If I can reasonably take another slower route, I do.
I used to have mail stacked on the counter until it reached about 6 inches high and I could hear it screaming at me. (You’re not using coupons, they’re going to expire, you have bills in here that are probably overdue). I finally have a system that ‘s worked for several years. Every day when the mail comes I go straight to my desk. Use a letter opener and immediately separate in piles. Recycle, shred, coupons and bills. The bills go in a bank bag in numerical order of due date on the outside of the bill, coupons in my coupon box and shred the shred pile and recycle in the recycle can. It only takes 5 minutes and I never have a pile of mail.
I do the same except I pay my bills and put them back in the mail same day.
What a great feeling of relief ! I also have mastered my mail monster and it’s the biggest source of relief of anxiety.
@@jeannieplett878 I should do that too!!
@@devinfarrelly3768 It sure is!! I wish I knew all this stuff when I was Dawn & Diana’s age.
Slow and simple. A perfect start to what can become a busy season.
My nine year old granddaughter just visited for four days. Her favourite activity was making things out of the kitchen roll and string. She is super imaginative and creative. And books from the library. ❤❤❤
I have 8 children. My chore chart is “ hey, I need you to do this today before you do anything else”! It works perfectly every time!!
I love small, slow, simple
One thing I was reminded of was, we can't pour from an empty glass!!! And when we recognize that, its not from things or people but spending time with our Heavenly Father! When we are filled with the things of Him then we can pour out to others! Its a daily habit that is setting us up for success, peace and balance!!!! Love you Diana and Dawn!!!
"80 - 90 % of the mail gets recycled" ... straight into the trash can before it ever comes into my house!
I went through a divorce in 2022. I was overwhelmed with the instant onboarding of all the responsibilities and tasks that were once shared between my spouse and I. I dubbed 2023 as my year of "no." I did nothing extra, and just held on tight and survived. No extra Christmas parties, no extra outings with coworkers or friends outside of my 5 friends and immediate family. No church trips. Etc. I just straight up told those who asked me "I'm sorry but I have to say no. I just cannot manage it right now." I did catch myself being bored sometimes in those 365 days, but I still didn't budge on the act of doing extra. I took note, though, on the things I looked back on and felt like I had been bumned to miss, and made sure to make room for them in my schedule this year. It did, however, make it much easier to say "no" again this year, to those busy activities that crept in years ago and had no business staying on my calendar.
My mind and energy levels have been much freer since unsubscribing to all those busy events!
My kids had way too much growing up, but 8pm was pickup time every night. Never argued with me, it was our routine. It worked for us. But now at 17 and 14, they don't want anything.
I used to think I was failing at chore charts because they would be great for a week or two and then I would try something else. But what I realized is that it’s not failing but it’s actually fun to change it up and do some things different. I do all sorts of incentives for chores and challenges to help learn habits. And I will sort of rotate them. Sometimes the kids will say “momma remember when we did the tickets for good behavior?” And I’ll do that one again for a week. But it’s so fun to do different things.
That’s so smart !!
I am loving the hundred, and fifty people saying. It makes so much sense. Both of you are helping so many women! ❤
Thank you for that precious prayer over us! What a blessing - I receive it in Jesus’ name!
My youngest daughter loves to cook, but Doesn’t like to clean up afterwards. When I told her that I was going to pack up the pots and pans when not washed, She started washing them!!! You’re both beautifully smart!!! 🥰
💯 agree that we’re not all called to volunteer in person at each stage of life. I wasn’t a school volunteer except an occasional chaperone - it’s not my gift, but I found ways that work for me to participate in community, sewing, baking, being a good neighbor, but mostly by focusing on being the best Mom, wife and friend. Zero guilt.
YES having a committed day and time for paperwork and mail if a game changer!!! My current mailing system is labeled zipper bags that are a little larger than legal paper. I have an incoming, shred, recycle, file, and 3 folder one. My three folder has that many pockets. The first one is to deal with this week. The second one is next week. The third one is for this month. When I open things, I sort to what makes sense in my brain and how much I can afford that week. If it's a pay mortgage week, electric will get paid next week. It's also helped me not feel so overwhelmed with every piece of paper that needs attention.
Our chore chart is a 5 minute tidy when asked (which is when I remember) and clean your room on Saturday!
We organize our kids allowance by spend, give and save too. We use those small coupon filing envelopes so it's all in one place. We even have them decide what they're saving for and put a sticky note in the save spot to remind them the reason they are saving. It has worked so well for us.
Both of you look lovely. Your current styles are very fresh and flattering.
How about getting kids to pick up toys… I used to tell my kids that they only have to pick up the things they want to keep. They were able to finish the thought process on their own. Once they saw me grabbing a bag and putting their stuff in the bag… They got busy in a hurry!
When a kid brings a new word home, ask "What does THAT mean?" I don't know that word! hahaha!
That sign would be Wonderful if everyone whom I am responsible would be home❣️
My children do after school or are the busiest at 3pm to 9 pm. I need to be more closely available to be my family's 🚕 taxi. My youngest gets out of Cheer practice at about 6pm daily. Then, start HW about 7pm. We both use the phone for spelling. We have Dyslexia.
If I am blessed to be cooking I a new recipe or need to recall an old recipe, "UA-cam" helps me. I have been fighting with dementia for 10 years. Have successfully slowed it down seriously ❣️❣️❣️
I created the “Turtle, Frog and Sloth” approach to decluttering and it has spilled into my life mindset… a turtle because it is slow and sometimes only makes progress when it sticks it neck out… a frog because it only goes forward… and a sloth to remind me to have unstructured sloth time… great video Diana and Dawn.
Decided this last year after having my twins we did ZERO extracurricular activities
Kids don't even miss it and they've gotten a lot more sleep not having to get up early to go in or stay out late for practices or such!
We'll introduce a couple family activities but no more all around here there unless they ABSOLUTELY love it.
I love this ! We limited activities and our kids are so much better for it. They’re grown and no one is sad that they didn’t have more sports ! We have great memories and traditions and the kids are close.
@devinfarrelly3768 that's nice to know I'm not 'ruining their lives ' lol I'm the oldest of 4 by 6&9yrs (twin sisters) and I remember my parents driving me all over the universe and I felt bad bc I seriously had something every single night and on weekends and they drug the littles out or only my dad would drive me missing family time.
I rarely spent time with my family. I also was a step child and I know they signed me up for stuff and did family things w/o me. Which also broke my heart I don't ever want my kiddos to feel that way either... like welp you were in cheer so we went out to dinner or took the littles to see a kid movie etc.
So building those family relationships has always been #1. And knowing me not driving them all over creation is ok and not going to ruin their lives lol
It does seem that the mail baskets should be moved closer to where it's normally dropped. Out of curiosity, what's Diana's clutterbug style? That might help with the mail too.
I am forever grateful to Dawn for teaching me how to manage papers .... mahalo
Truly, growing up, the word 'bored' was banned in our home. For the record, I had GREAT parents. We learned through them how to occupy our time with a large variety of 'tasks.' And, NOT muti-tasking! One being prayer! Even quiet time was an activity granting us time to slow down, contemplate life & watch the birds, etc. ♡
This is so good!! We stopped rotating toys because they just ended up creeping back into our home. Everything functions so much better with only a few toys!
Thank you both so much! Always encouraging!!!:)
I needed every word of this episode.
I’m at the toy spot at approximately eight minutes and what I will say is this is so true. I really didn’t rotate toys, but my daughter-in-law started that with her kids and the truth is she doesn’t do it anymore either. It’s too much work and the truth is they have too many things and she can’t deal with them and they’re too small to deal with them right now.
I rotate the educational toys and keep out building toys and pretend play toys all the time.
I love your prayers!! I need to let go of Markets. So much time and less money. I make blankets etc and it’s so much more enjoyable for me to teach people in class and online.
Bed making, start a load of wash set with a timer to go early am, put in dryer, empty dishwasher. Meal planning, mail management, out laundry all the way away. In between I reward myself. The feeling of having less to manage is so healthy.
You both look so exceptionally pretty today!! 🙋♀️🥰💕‼️
Install a landline. Turn off all cellphones from 4 on. Unless the kids are going out then home is a no cellphone zone
Ok 20 seconds in, and…. Your make-up!!!! Girls, your make-up looks amazing!!!! 🔥
thank you for the beautiful prayer
My great niece who is 6 years old today has covid. Please send prayers. Her name is Hope. ❤
Great video, as I declutter life is getting more simple. I crave slow and simple, thank you.
such a beautiful prayer. thank you so much.
Cute top Dawn! Love you both!
Love your shirt Diana!
Boy i needed to hear this today for myself! Have slipped in my declutteri g process lately
I so enjoyed this video! Lots of good ideas & laughter!
When my children were young the chore chart roster rotation was weekly .. when they got older it went to fortnightly and eventually monthly. This deterred anyone from doing a slack job for the nxt person. Less nagging from me.Whoever had the most dreaded job got to sit in the front seat. Saved arguments everytime we went out.
My daughter and her family have a digital Sabbath when they don’t do anything digital on Sunday. It seems to be working well for them.
I luv that! Digital Sabbath.
Poster idea for sure!
Love this video! ❤
I am pregnant and usually have pretty bad morning sickness, so a lot of things have fallen to the wayside. I am trying to give myself grace and remember it is a season and in planning for systems and revamping things once I come out of this funk, I am really trying to think about what has worked in the past vs. what hasn’t. I tend to try to do too much initially (happened with homeschool, trying to make tons of food from scratch, buying more groceries than is realistic, etc.) and then I get overwhelmed and can’t keep it up. Constantly reminding myself that simple is better.
One system that is really working for me is chores for my oldest (10). She gets an allowance that corresponds with her age, but she can also lose it. She has a “big” chore associated with each weekday (cleaning her room, giving the dog a bath, washing her clothes, etc.) and then we ask for help with other small things when needed. She is into the routine of her big chores that I don’t have to nag her anymore, and she just knows she has to do them each day before she can see her friend who lives down the street from us.
We have a large catch all bin for receipts bills etc by the mud room door. I go though it every few months. We also have a key cabinet with mail storage that my husband keeps unpaid bills in. I think it helps that is right by the door where mail comes in. Most things don’t make it to the kitchen!
I live near St Cloud and I miss listening to you two in the morning. I know it's been awhile. I'm glad I found your UA-cam videos! You are both so practical and encouraging.
Great tips
When my kids were a little older, if I had to pick something of theirs up they had to buy it back from me, either with money or doing something for me. Worked beautifully!
First of all, you both look so beautiful!!! Second, this is so well timed. I have been creating new systems, routines, meal planning, etc entering the school year and they've been working so well. I need to work on the chore chart and the mail system. Thanks for your help!
Love your videos together. And, you both look extra fabulous today (loving your hair Diana)!
Hi gals, can you do some videos on how to have good relationships with your spouse during the littles years? And how the stress of things negatively effects our martial relationships. We have been struggling over here and I want to do so much better encouraging him vs being stressed and critical.
LOVE the art
The Time Will Tell and the Sunday Basket were game changers for me. I’m still using them after 2-3 years. What I struggle with now is calendar (I use my iPhone AND a paper one, grrrr), tasks and notes. I keep a prayer journal separately so that’s good, I keep index cards for each person or group of people (A Praying Life by Paul E Miller) and that’s working so so. Planning using a hybrid is where I need help.
Just tell a bored kid that a smart kid will find something to do. It works!
Wow your sister looks exactly like the Scottish actress Ashley Jensen!
Love you ladies and the wisdom you bring.🥰 💜✝️
My son and his wife have such a difficult time trying to keep their house, clean and organized with eight children in the house and an age range from 21 to 6. So many different rules for different ages. There’s anything the two of you can give us some information on this type of situation would be so appreciated. I love you girls. Have a great day.🤗❤️
Im not religious but I love your prayer at the end.
I've stopped sorting my kids laundry. Have a small fear of red making white pink but so far all has been good! Just couldn't do it anymore.
So helpful. Thank you very much. ❤
Dawn, love your top. It's so cute❤ love you both
The magazine racks mounted to the wall have eliminated my paper clutter. I used to have stuff piled on the table. I have a few extra folders in the racks but it has made things so much neater and easier to maintain.
I would not think to look for mail in the pantry. 🤷🏻♀️
The thing that bugs me about air travel is the waiting, sometimes it's even slower than driving. Lol. My hubby had to drive to VA from TN and it was like 12 hours, his brother flew and there were multiple issues and waiting and I think it took him more than 12 hours to get there 😅
I had to not volunteer for anything else but choir because I just don’t have the energy I once did and I still have children in the home. I have felt bad, but will literally get sick if I overdo.
Where is your stripe top from?? It’s so pretty and I really enjoyed this video!
Would it be such a terrible thing if your daughter saw your no electronics sign and reminded you? When I inherited my step kids, they cussed…a lot. We talked about how there are words we don’t use because they make people feel bad. We made a deal with them that if they used those words we’d REMIND (not chastise) them and if we used them they could remind us. There isn’t much a small child enjoys more than correcting adults. We tried really hard to thank them for the reminders. It wasn’t easy if one of us had just hit our thumb with a hammer, but it worked almost over night for all of us. “You are right, thank you for the reminder.” Was so much better than trying to rationalize or make excuses for why we were cussing. In time the kids themselves expanded the words we don’t use, from just cuss words to any cruel words (after all they do make people feel bad). And “that’s one of the words we talked about” got shortened to “that’s one of those words”. As they got older you’d hear a disembodied voice from somewhere in the house yell, “that’s one of those words” and from another part of the house, “your right, thank you.” So if it isn’t truly an emergency, would it be so bad if your daughter reminded you and you put up your phone for an hour?
I remember when I was young and would say that something was boring or that I was bored, my mom would say, "Well, that's your fault...find something to do"... I remember us being very creative and finding things to do... We would entertain ourselves for hours (alone or with siblings or with friends) - we didn't have the distraction of cell phones...lol
Allowances should definitely be earned not just given freely
I respectfully disagree. I have seen too many cases of a parent asking a child to do a chore or maybe an extra chore and the child immediately comes back with, "how much are you gonna pay me?"
Nope, when my kids were young they got a portion of money just because they were part of our family but they also had the responsibility of doing chores for the same reason. That's how families work.
@@Anagrams458 my kids should be doing chores because they are a part of this household not always but they have no reason not to help out in some form
Best consequence we ever created as my boys were in Middle School & HS, if they got a zero on an assignment, they paid me a dollar! It worked quick. Also as my boys started to drive they had to contribute to their car insurance every month. Because they will have to pay car insurance their whole life. It was valuable for them to learn they had to earn/save at least $50 per month - or they didn’t drive.
I have not seen your videos in a long time 🎉
I have the same desk and i love it!😊
One reason I don't travel on planes anymore (been over 20 years), I hate the noise, don't like the speed, don't like being crammed in with a bunch of people. I go right around the speed limit too (sometimes slower), I don't care whos behind me they can pass if they want to. I've never been a fast person and prefer slower. My husband however that's the only speed he knows is fast, he's always leaving me behind but that's ok he will just have to wait until I get there. That's why a lot of times I just go off on my own and do my own thing because I do better on a slower pace.
Love your shirt, Diana!
You should sell the "you deserve a break" poster. :)
I love you two. Thank you!💜
Haha my 4 year old started saying “this is boring” and I now make it a rule that word isn’t allowed in this house because it’s rude the way he used it. It’s a habit I want to break right away. I grew up being told that boring people are bored. lol I know I was bored as a kid often because I didn’t have ideas on how to be creative, so giving my kids grace and possible ideas is a good start.
Jordan Page has good resources for when kids are “bored” (popsicle stick with a surprise chore)
Oh, that first part makes sense.. I have 3 close friends, almost like sisters.. Then outer friends and so on...makes sense to me!
As for filing ...urgh i hate it mail/ documents ...
Diana, I love your blouse you have on. Just curious, did you get it off of Amazon? If so, can you link it?
We did rotate every 3 months .. it worked great for us .. We did it for years. our room was small.