Process feedback with a strainer, not a sponge | Shanita Williams | TEDxAmoskeagMillyard
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- Опубліковано 3 жов 2018
- Learning and development leader Dr. Shanita Williams explores what happens when feedback is continuously absorbed like a sponge. She asks us to consider a more selective, and perhaps far more productive, way to process the feedback we receive and, ultimately decide to keep. At the core of all her work, Dr. Shanita Williams is most concerned about the human experience and how to help others live life without limits.
Shanita has extensive experience and has been creating learning experiences that increase knowledge, change behavior, and drive employee growth and development at all organizational levels for over a decade.
Knowing the daily challenges mothers face when trying to balance work, school, and family, Shanita conducted researched called, “She Made It,” where she explored the lived experiences of working mothers as students. The research revealed powerful stories of triumph and resilience, which became the inspiration to create a platform to explore these experiences more formally. In 2016, she became the CEO and Founder of Momploydent Inc., a non-profit organization committed to helping working mothers excel academically.
www.momploydent.com This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Thank you Shanita! I'm currently watching this through a course at SNHU. But I needed this for my everyday life all kinds of pasta stuck in the strainer... lol This year has helped me so much returning to school has been a struggle. Thank you for helping me look at the professor's feedback with new eyes.
Let that pasta go Joy lol! So glad you found this helpful!
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I'm currently taking the same course! I hope things worked out fabulously for you. Have a blessed day
this was so good and insightful. i am def. doing the sponge mentality and have to work toward the strainer way.
A great lesson, thank you! It is so easy to get caught up in our own insecurities; sometimes feedback can help dispel some of those self-doubts, and sometimes it can give us food for thought to improve ourselves and ways of thinking.
Thank you I'm going to use the strainer mentality it's sooo much better
Thank you Shanita I now feel better about feedback because now I can use the information to access the situation without thinking I'm judge.
This was so helpful. My boss really enjoys giving public feedback because he views it as a way to put the employee on the spot for an honest response to him. This will help me to feel less anxious when being critiqued openly among my peers. Thank you!
Thank you, Shanita! This is exactly what I needed to hear. I feel like it lifted a thousand pounds off my shoulders & truly helped me internalize my current struggle w feedback 🙏🏽
The feedback struggle is real! I am so glad that you found this helpful. It is my hope that it continues to add value to all of your feedback experiences 🙏🏾
Very powerful message!
Hi, Shanita, This was very inspiring, and confirming for me, especially about the sponge and strainer, I choose to believe I am a strainer.
Very Very good. I never took into the concept of strainer vs sponge mentality. How enlightening?
If we take the feedback with an emotional act then we never can process it! only with reason/logic and a constructive view we can change. Not taking feedback personally, we can move forward.
Well said Mihai!
Really enjoyed this video.... Thank you for sharing.
I find your analogy very interesting. i have another one I use, related to my work as a therapist: " I am a teflon pan, nothing sticks" ;)
Thanks for this talk ,i will try to practice how to process a feedback and let it go
Thank you Shanita this was very eye opening, and real. I needed to hear this because I often hold on to things that's not good for me. Now I have a way of straining out the negative feedback and keep what's best for me.
Wonderful video Shanita
Great talk SHANITA!!! Loved this lecture! Hope to see more from you! This is a really great topic and method of coping !
I thank you for your helpful advice. I usually say thank for your feedback when I receive them from surrounding people. However, my mind react to feedback negatively and I used to sit in a room lonely and look down myself. Thanks for your strategy that it is good to let feedbacks go. Receive feedback--> Learn from it --> Discard.
Thank you for taking the time to listen to my talk. Feedback can easily send us into a negativity spiral that can leave us feeling bad about ourselves. When we take control of the feedback experience, we are able to to learn from the feedback but not dwell on the feedback. I am so glad to hear you feel like you have a strategy that that can help you in that quest! Best of luck to you!
Normally I don't care for TED talks, but i actually liked this!
I wish I’d heard this 15 years ago.
Great video Shanita! I personally struggle with letting feedback go especially when it is tied with a first impression. I’m going to take this and apply it. Thank you!
Anyone else here from SNHU?
I'm doing the computer science class. This is something i gotta watch for it I guess.
I am
I am learning political science
I am also doing computer science at SNHU. How’s it going for you so far?
@@crusty711 Great, I've been coding for 4+ years so 4.0 GPA all the way XD, English is hard tho.
yes, me
I have listened to you talk about feedback and every time I listen to you I learn something new. Thank you for showing us how to deal with feed back. How we must really watch our face because it can be sent a different message. Thanks again for your talk. I really enjoyed it.
Thank you for watching!
Shanita I have been guilty of looking one way and being positive. Your speech has helped me. Thank you.
So glad it helped!
So love your talk Shanita!
Rev. Dr. Stephanie Rutt Thank you!
Wow! This was awesome! I've never thought of applying the "strainer mentality" when receiving feedback. I think that would help me not be so hesitant to move forward and instead excited about it because I have new tools to improve! Thank you! Hope she does one on giving feedback in the future.
Nichelle S. I am so glad you found this helpful! I am creating an online course that will teach you practical steps to work through. Stay tuned!
Very inspiring! I love this talk and her!!💕
You are much too kind! So glad you enjoy my talk!
This was soooo good!
A very nice talk indeed, loved the perspective of the sponge and the strainer.
Thank you!
This makes alot of sense too me but I've never been good at accepting feedback
You’re not alone Marion!
Thanks shanitawilliams5824
Very interesting take
Great speaker!
Thank you for your kind words Keta
From watching this video about the sponge and strainer mentality when it comes to processing feedback, I see now that I was using the sponge method. This method has led me to be overwhelmed and stressed. I have the feedback from my schooling at SNHU, just starting a new job, new relationship and an old relationship that I have to entertain because of my daughter. Feedback is everywhere. I will from now on use the strainer method, examine, process and discard. Thank you Shanita!
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