And constant advertising..... and mental manipulation the advertisements though we're advertised to atleast 1,200 times a day, adds, adds,adds by the road, in the store radio spotify Facebook instagram UA-cam tic tok alllll addddds!!! Ugh
I'm older Gen Z too. That's why I quit Tiktok and I'm starting to quit Instagram as well. Furthermore, you know how people of our Gen Z say they need to focus on mental health, and pushing mental health awareness? Well, my mental health felt SOOO much better once I got off of social media! I'm happier and I feel brighter, once I started to put less time into social media. That's why if I have kids, I will do my best to make sure they NEVER have to use social media.
@@thebestwitch7040 Thank you❤! Quitting social media is definitely worth it. Don't feel like you're missing out by using it less or quitting, because trust me, you're not ;)
I feel like the members of jubilee are themselves so drown the media culture that they only reach out for people through a screen Therefore they don't connect that much with people outside the vicious circle
@@emi_not_emmy i really loved your opinions and i think you spoke for a lot of ppl that went through the same things as you, including me. I hope you grow to love yourself and have a healthy relation ship with social media.
@@emi_not_emmy You are beautiful and you deserve all good things that come your way. I'm sorry you had to go through everything you went through with social media. I had a similar experience so I don't post either and I'm happy you went and shared your opinions and experiences. This will help a lot of people.
@@abbyhenderson9574 Thank you. I talk about my experiences, even if it hurts me, in hopes of helping others. I hope hearing a simillar story helped you feel less alone, if you've ever felt that way. ♡♡
Poor Emi was a victim of everything that’s wrong with social media: she’s thoughtful, well-spoken, very intelligent, and she’s a victim of brutal bullying because she doesn’t fit in this one idea of beauty. She’s going to do great things in spite of the monsters who were saying those awful stuff to her, I’m sure.
I absolutely agree with you, nowadays someone can be going through a hard time whether it may be a loss, discrimination, disability, etc, the majority of people on social media have no empathy whatsoever and treat them like a joke and it's not even funny. Social media is also damaging them and they can barely pay attention to anything in general.
@@emi_not_emmy I love the way you dress! You have a style that I'm trying to go for. Anyways people are really mean, that's not gonna change, I honestly empathise with your experience, but that, on my momma, does not define who you are. And it may be hard to accept that, but that does not define who you are I repeat, that does not define who you are. I would've enjoyed having you as a friend in highschool!
I believe that pinterest have some issues on there. I think the blame needs to go to users instead of social media, including other sites too. Ive seen some videos criticizing whitewashing. I agree that it's a problem coming from an asian male. But I'm more into emo fashion and rock culture.
Social media is extremely toxic. The internet used to be a fun and exciting way to escape from reality, now reality is the best new escape from the internet.
My word. Social media used to be my escape from reality. But social media has become SUPER and I mean SUPER toxic, that reality doesn’t seem like a bad place anymore.
That's so true. Like when social media was first a thing I used it to escape from my harsh teenage years with a single parent household. But now I even have to force myself to go outside for exercise or socializing. With Covid its even worse now, cause the situation forced me to be isolated longer. So I see where you coming from.
@@kaye5408 What do you not get about it? Philips literally said at the beggining: "Hi I'm Philips (plural), I am on the pro-side...". They're name is with an s at the end
As a teen who doesn’t use social media (except UA-cam) I’ve found that most ppl don’t care enough to judge you 😂 if you have a number I’ve found that they also don’t find it inconvenient to just text you. Literally no one cares in my case but everyone’s situation is different.
i can relate to this. i was having a conversation with a classmate once and told him i don't use social media because i felt like i never needed it. he kind of looked at me weird in disbelief and never talked to me again. i wouldn't doubt that i lost some friends over this because that same guy was friends with some of my other friends that didn't keep in touch me with even tho i tried but they didnt respond to me
@@mauve9266 yeah I totally understand that I guess it’s just my personal situation with trying to find roommates for college on Facebook/Instagram and stuff that’s it seems kind of required :/
@Edgar Gomez, I don't think it's his last name; it sounded to me like he was simply emphasizing that there is indeed the "s" at the end of his first name.
When she said “It’s really scary to see my friends disconnect with me and connect with these people they’ve never met” that hit me because a lot of the time I’ll be on FaceTime/ on the phone with friends and do this but never saw it this way and it’s scary how normalised this has become and a lot of things you realise you miss as a result.
I am not the type of person to facetime/videocall, and I've been calling a lot of my friends lately... most of them answer other calls, scroll through instagram, play games, etc when I'm on a call with them... and it's insane to me. They don't see a problem with it, not even just how it can be rude, but really how disgusting it is. I cannot believe that's normal. I cannot believe it. If they do those things and I ask them to and they won't stop, I refuse to call them. It's disappointing that's what most people do nowadays.
Same... I try to finish my schoolwork early so I can catch up with my friends if I go to see them they’ll be on there phones scrolling through insta or snapping random boys, and I kinda take that personally like they don’t wanna hang out w/ me or something, but honestly it’s there problem if they think snapping and scrolling is more important than our friendship... let it be that way then (they prolly don’t even need me anyway) but the thing is I feel like I couldn’t live without them but they could live without me.....
This is hard to watch it really is. The one girl Emi is pouring her heart out over her experiences about her dance class and the one guy responds by saying "yeah tumblr is pretty bad I guess". And then they literally roll their eyes and smirk when asked if kids under 13 shouldnt be allowed. There's a very key difference between the 2 groups here, I know which group I would want to be friends with I don't know about you guys.
I noticed that too when Alex and Alexa were the only 2 who didn't go sit. I did see them laugh when Emi was talking about her experience. I think that they out of everyone there had the most amount of followers, and because of that made them think in that way if it makes sense.
Y'all are assuming a lot tho. You don't know whether they were laughing about Emi or just talking about something else entirely, lets not make things negative out of nowhere.
Tiktok is extremely toxic. You'll often see hundreds of people cyberbullying a single person with the minority of people trying to correct them and it's sad :/
My heart breaks for Emi, if you're reading this you did not deserve that from those dance girls, I hope you know that you are soooo amazing and your story will definitely resonate with a lot of ppl.
@@lucid734 The fact that you decided to see an uplifting comment and use it as an opportunity to bash someone else says more about you than anyone else. That's pretty fucked up, especially after seeing what most of them have been trough with people on the internet. Anyway, that's about all the energy I have to expend on a troll like you but, Emi and Alex, if you see this, you are both dope af
I laughed out loud when the curly haired curl tried to relate to Emi. She will never, EVER have a similar experience because she’s considered objectively pretty. You can FEEL ugly, sure, everyone does. But that girl will never receive the same backlash as Emi for loving herself. Never.
I can not put into words how wrong this truly is. I tried and ended up on a rant I’m sure no one wants to listen to. I’ll just say I’m objectively pretty and have gotten much worse bc I am pretty but it’s not from the girls or women it’s the men. You become nothing more than an object that can never be perfect to them all the while they rape you and remind you of how close you were but not quite there. I’ve had a lifetime of backlash from so many different guys it makes my head spin. Everyone is so obsessed with perfection the uglier I try to look the easier my life gets and the less hate I receive. I’m sure what she has is hard I’m not downplaying that but your statement is ignorant
wow... i genuinely feel so horrible for Emi. she is such a sweetheart. i truly hope she knows how charismatic, and bright she is regardless of what others say.
100% and think About it, why do we post things on Snapchat? Are we really trying to show our friends what’s going on in our life or are we showing strangers that our life is fun and not boring
I’m not anti nor pro, I have social media to keep some memories and photos, also to keep in touch with long distant people. I don’t use it much for the reason I wanna keep in touch with reality and have time management
I think it’s because adults are trying to get something out of the conversation (as in be proven right and stuff) whilst these kids are actually trying to discuss the issues with social media
Killer D im sure there’s also some sort of agreement that they all make to be civil and have an actual discussion, rather than argue. this is what debates should be like, and im sure the argument mentality does come into play and you get into the “im right youre wrong stage” but i would assume the people filiming acted as moderators and also cut parts where they talked over each other
I'm glad social media exists, but don't let it take over your life. You don't NEED it. It's a great place to meet people, but you NEED moments with your own thoughts.
Right? I’ll look at my so-called “friends” from work hanging out and doing all of this fun stuff like going to concerts and whatnot, and I kept thinking that they could’ve invited me or something so I don’t feel alone. I’m tired of feeling like I’m on the outside of this clique.
Yeah, it's funny. The kids in this video talks a lot about how many friends they have on social media and all the conversations they have had..... Has anyone of these friends ever called them? Or come over to hang out at their place? Have they had these deep discussions in real life or is it just a bunch of emojis and links over direct messaging, followed by UwU that they call "discussions"?
@@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327 You deserve better. Dont be afraid to leave them. Its better to be alone than be in company of people who dont appreciate you
Emi’s story literally breaks my heart... kids are horrible but no one deserves to have to go through that especially at such a young age... when she said she didn’t realized how depressed and unhappy she was until she looked at the photo it broke my heart :((
I got it when I was 8 (I’m 14 now) and yeah I agree completely. It didn’t ruin me as a person because I had a equal balance of social media and real life stuff but a lot of the stuff online I was exposed to was horrible and made me feel horrible about myself
Im 15 i disagree with u, because i have a little sister who is (6) now, and she had social media since (3) and ik its too young but tbh there's lots of positive impact,, and YES she did learn a lot of things from social media, so do i, I had social media since i was (9) and it truly is a life changing, I've learn a LOTS of things from social media, and i know everyone have different experience on social media, Whether it's positive or negative, but for me it's more of an positive side.. And tbh i think kids over 8 should allowed to be on social media (not tiktok ofc) cuz i personally think tiktok is too much still
@@mollyelv I think most of the stuff I saw was happy like I mostly used to watch roblox UA-camrs and vines and stuff so it wasn’t anything too bad I would just see stuff I shouldn’t have
@@andreadalvarez6145 Lots of teens had a meltdown when Facebook, Instagram and Whatsapp went offline for a night over a week ago. This generation really is lost.
@@B_B463 Ngl, I didn't know about the shut down until after it was back up again 😂 I just wasn't on social media at the time but if I was when it happened, I would've just read a book. 🤷♂️
Lmao exactly as people grow older they won’t care to be in these online societies. There’s a shelf life on being an influencer unless you can recreate yourself
Here’s some help: 2:40: I spend more than three hours on social media daily 5:54: Social media makes you anti-social 9:54: I have been bullied on social media 13:00: Social media can cause young people to hurt themselves 15:46: Children under the age of 13 should not be allowed on social media 19:02: Social media has educated me more than my school has 22:46: Society would thrive more without social media
@@FelixBibian first don’t call them “it” they are a human being. they didn’t specify their pronouns that i saw, so i’d suggest just using “they/them”. again don’t call a person “it” especially since they talked about how people they know referred to them as that before and it hurt them.
@@alaaye5237 well, experience is definitely different for everyone. i tried to create a comfortable timeline for myself, found a lot of nice people and made new friends, i also never participate in drama or fan wars, and if something like that comes up i just unfollow or ignore. but i see what you mean :)
@@liamthomas3666 UA-cam is mainly composed of people viewing content and commenting on it. Most other social media is mainly composed of content creators that view each other’s content. There’s a huge difference in the dynamic it creates.
all the questions were like 1 inch from being the same question as the last. its just 'is social media bad. is it harmful. is it dangerous. is it time consuming. is it social. is it media' .. what else is there to discuss
@@naomi-art-stuff Your just stating broad terms though, "is it bad" is the whole basis on which this video has to follow because the video is "Social Media Good vs. Social Media Bad." You can go into Social Media companies taking your privacy, Sexual Predators on social media, the success it can bring to people trying to make a job of it. Theres a lot to talk about.
Naomi N. I think they should’ve covered how kids are exposed to so much at a young age. Instagram exposing a lot of sexual content. Tiktok I’ve seen so many young girls being bullied for having dark skin. Etc There’s so soo many surfaces they haven’t touched
There are so many studies that prove social media causes depression and anxiety, and it ruins our attention span. Yes it depends how you use it, but 99% of people use it in a way that makes their life worse in some aspect.
school does all of that stuff more than social media yet nobody talks about it. social media made me realize who i was and made me feel valid. you know what did the opposite? school.
@@luciadawnwater272 fr teachers be talking abt mental health and stuff but they NEVER bring up stuff abt school, the only thing they bring up (in relations to school) are bullies, everything else is “because of social media” like I wasn’t even on social media when I got a mental illness, people really can get anorexia from social media though
@@luciadawnwater272 i agree but I also agree with the comment above. I feel like in general we are getting very limited in life and its almost like everything is planned out since birth. Alot of ppl are so sure about their opinion etc. that (adults f.e ) are not willing to listen to younger ppls voices bcuz we r the one who are effected by the wrong systems. If its school, or social media. Both take so much time and space in our minds that ppl like u and me r feeling more and more depressed etc. 😔🥲 I want to change by starting to change my own mindset, lifestyle etc. But its 1.)not that easy cuz I live with my mum(I am just 16,I still go to school and 2.)motivation and consistency is the hardest part.
can you stop with the social media = mental illness narrative? yes it’s harmful but to directly list it as a cause is ridiculously invalidating to people with mental illness. it’s a different thing to have anxiety related to social media and to say it causes it
you never realize how much social media effects you until you get rid of it. i deleted tiktok and snapchat and felt like all this weight just left my shoulders
I've had periods where I'd go months never using it. My routine and feelings remained relatively the same. Not saying some people don't benefit from deletion, just that it doesn't effect everyone. To be fair I only use like 2ish social medias.
LITERALLY!! I got my phone taken for a few months and when I got it back I ended up deleting my TikTok account and instagram main. It was the best thing ever, I get so much more work done and I’m not constantly comparing myself to other girls nor seeing people who I don’t really care for posts. I believe it’s simply a waste of time
when emi brought up how people were performative during the blm movement and how the black squares were a product of that......... finally someone called it out
I definitely agree with you, but I do think that it was a way to show support for people who didn’t really know what else they could do. For example: I posted the black screen too (when I learned why people found it pretentious I deleted it), it was in the middle of the pandemic and the advice was to not travel unless absolutely necessary. Unfortunately all the BLM protests where in the big cities and I was far away from those. It was difficult for me because I really really wanted to do something for BLM but I just couldn’t. The black screen was a way that I showed my support. Nevertheless, I completely understand your point of view!
@@isisvda it’s the fact that people posted black squares and said “i hear you...” yet haven’t spoken, donated, petitioned, posted, etc. since then. at that point you did it as an aesthetic. not knowing what to do is too easy to say when the internet is always at your disposal, it’s about actually wanting to use those tools and change the narrative. also i do understand that people can do these things off social media and not have to post about it, and that’s totally okay. but again, there is no excuse to post a black square and not follow up with some sort of education/activism.
@@alw_9911 totally agree. I myself constantly advocates on social media and I took a bigger step when I went to a protest in my city. Anyone can post a black screen but that doesn’t mean your intentions are genuine,
AAAAAAHHHHH!!!! PAAAAAIIIINNNN!!!!!! I broke my hand yesterday because of the hate comments I get on my amazing videos. I was so angry that I punched a hole in my computer. Please don't comment anything mean on my wonderful videos, dear cam
Literally the definition of chronically online, their identity is built around tik Tok and their friends are online just awful this is where I see gen alpha heading the toxic positive ppl won't agree as Tik Tok does that to you
I think I'm missing something....there was the should kids under 13 have social media question...then there is this research information talk...I'm not sure how well a 6-12 will understand that..they don't get enough credit but they are also just cogs in the wheel...so who cares..defiantly not older people who are benefiting
"Before social media I just thought I was a masculine girl"- I don't know about this person's case but sometimes I feel like this is actually one of the most detrimental parts of social media. People thinking they must be trans because they don't fit stereotypes. Social media shouldn't be your source of information on such topics. If you think you might be trans you should go to a doctor and get diagnosed with gender dysphoria, not believe some random people on the internet.
I follow Alex and he's definitely a real trans guy but I agree on the overall point. Being trans has honestly become an internet trend and that's why we have so many detransitioners who end up dissing the community later. These days you don't need to see a doctor for evaluation before medically transitioning, and that's a problem. Even saying that you need Gender Dysphoria to be trans will get you cancelled these days. So people transition on a whim hoping that they'll be 'hip' and it will solve all their problems only to find out shortly later that they ruined their life. You don't even really get clout for it anymore because just about every kid claims to be trans or queer now. The whole mess of it all is just very sad. There's nothing wrong with being trans, but the glorification of it is toxic. It's a very difficult life to lead, even for those who do suffer from dysphoria and actually are transgender. Regret is a whole nother' layer for those who transitioned without dysphoria.
For a lot of gay and trans people the internet provides us with a lot of freedom and information that we don't normally get in the outside world due to the danger of homophobia. You can go to a random doctor, but you don't know if they are safe or not for you. But with social media we can share our experiences and help eachother find doctors that are accommodating. I truly believe the only reason that we have more resources today is because we found eachother through the internet and were able to form a community far beyond the gay bars.
It's the opposite for me, I used to think I was trans because of the Internet but I came to my senses and realized I'm actually just a masculine girl lol
Emi, Emma & Ella are so friggin well spoken and mature. Just like: "Yes, social media can be used for good but here are my concerns, which are both personal and societal."
life would be sm better without social media. the amount of times I've hung out with people and all they've done is spent hours scrolling on tiktok is so sad.
I was 4 when joined social media hahah 🥲 was wondering was I was depressed 😲🥲 am gonna try not to use social media since am now a social reject uhm uhm🥲🙃 (cries)
Can we talk about how teenagers can have a peaceful and deep conversation even if they don't agree with each other but adults start yelling and get angry and violent...?
I don't wanna say all adults but most adults. I feel like social media has given us a sense of community and understanding allowing some of us teens to mature more than most adults. But yeah it is crazy
the two people in the pro group (not phillips) were incredibly tone deaf toward a lot of the others experiences. emi, i know you may never read this, but you are absolutely wonderful. i hope you're doing well today
I love emi’s voice and energy. I feel like she’s just one of those people you can talk to for an hour straight and walk away from that conversation feeling good because you just vibed with her so much.
I totally agree, I can also sympathize with her suffering. PD: I was about to "remove" the "hair" on your profile pic but then my meditation reflex stopped me lmao. In a weird way you helped me realize my practice is working out. Thank you, Namaste.
Phillips looks like such an understanding kid. Like, when Emi was talking about how she was cyberbullied he was so focused on what she said, and was actively listening to her, with a concerned face. I am thankful that the country where i live this issue of blatanly harrasing someone is not prominent, and I am constantly shaken by these kind of videos. I tend to stop them and say things like "for real?" "how do people dare to do that?"-
I’m not anti social media but I do think it’s much easier to be pro social media when you’re conventionally attractive and have a large following of people who support you.
@@Cloudkiller01 I definitely didn’t say it was always the case, just that I think it makes it EASIER to view social media in a positive light. Also it may be personal option but I consider both Alexa and Phillips to be good looking.
@@Cloudkiller01 1 on the pro side!? Bruh, are you saying my boy Phillips is not conventionally attractive right now? You think American standards are the only ones that matter?
I’ve taken breaks from social media throughout my life and in times when I’m on break, I noticed I get red flags if I don’t have an insta account. People look at you like “Ew that’s weird” for just not having an account. But I’ll say this, 3 years SOBER off social media feels absolutely amazing.
I don't understand ppl who be like "how can u not have tik tok/insta" Like I've honestly grown out of those apps. Its crazy to me how they think its so hard to not use social media.
one of my classmate called me 'ABNORMAL' just bcz I am not on social media. That time I was struggling a lot with my mental health and anxiety. That word made me feel really bad about myself.
Alex seemed incapable of understanding that they have a unique experience and most people don’t have followings of people all waiting to reach out to help or talk to them.
emi, if you’re reading this, i’m so incredibly sorry for how u were treated by those dance girls. the way that they treated you was absolutely disgusting and unacceptable. i know i don’t know u, but i love you so much and i am sending you love and peace. you are so strong ❤️
children really shouldn't be on the internet. i was on the internet when i was a child and i saw so many things i shouldn't have. creepy strangers trying to get my information or sending me sexual messages or photos. posts ruining my body image. children just don't need that. and even young toddlers nowadays are GLUED to phones, it's really sad. they should be playing with toys and learning the alphabet and learning colors and animals and shapes, but instead their eyes are stuck to a cell phone. it's depressing honestly.
100% agree. even 13 is way too young even. those are kids. they don't know when to stop, when to block someone, if someone is a predator, what that person really looks like, it's just so dangerous. i don't even think kids should have phones unless it is for calling parents like just a cell phone. makes me really terrified for the future generation
I was also on the internet when I was younger but I’ve never experienced any of those things. The internet teaches a lot of things, such as English for example. I think that I’m very lucky to have a better experience on the internet than most people. I’m grateful
Honestly, I agree. As a 11 year old, I'm exposed to things that I'm too young to know about. Now, I have a more of an advanced brain due social media. Luckily, I don't get sexual or predatory messages like you did. Even kids in my class have Discord, Instagram, Snapchat, Tiktok, Facebook, and have the newest I-phones. Not to mention, wear clothes that aren't for their age. And are also completely different from years ago. Such as crop tops, extremely short shorts, scrunchies, and even makeup!! To remind you, these kids that I'm talking about are ages 10-14!!! We also know about aesthetics like cottagecore, vintage, vaporware, ect. In 5th grade, we were doing a project in which we had to present ourselves. It would be later showed to the whole grade at the last day of school. One girl in my class asked someone to put an aesthetic background for the project since she didn't know how to. I know this might sound hypocritical, but I hate children in our generation. I doubt we can change it which is the unfortunate part, sadly...
@@ravenpotter4004 But fortunately I know how to do all these things for my surprising age. This doesn't apply to everyone my age though, which is worrying.
@@parthpatel2630 If she's has a large following on several different platforms then I don't see why not. Influencers can earn A LOT. They just don't talk about it
Yeah. It’s a detriment to the social skills of a lot of ACTUAL teens. Online friendships and relationships don’t even come close to the real thing, even over FaceTime calls you aren’t developing crucial social skills in the way you normally would.
I have no platform. Yes i’m anti-social but I have been since before i was on social media. It depends on the person. I actually find it easier to communicate with people online. I wouldn’t communicate if I didn’t do it online first. Social media doesn’t forced u to be antisocial if anything it has helped me be more social. Who cares if it’s through a screen? It’s still a conversation and that’s a huge step for some people.
and it’s not being social to comment back to ppl i think the question should have been looked at with the perspective of how it effects social lives in the real world, where you have to talk and hang out. because social media has done nothing for me in that aspect, if anything it has made it more difficult to have social interactions because i do not have the comfort of being behind a screen
@@generationfutureproduction9233 but does it help you make friends in the real world? do you actually hang out with and do things that are productive for your social health with these people?
This is coming from a 16 year old teenage girl - I deleted all of my social media accounts, except UA-cam. I couldn't be happier and simply don't think that social media is necessary. I feel more confident since then...
i did it before and i felt so good but then my friends were like annoyed i wasn’t on it (it was only for a week) and like now if i do again i feel like they’ll just be annoyed but i’m honestly considering it
I quit Instagram when I was 17, best decision I could’ve done. Growing up without it added so much color, time and mental freedom so now I have joy in the simplest things in life.
Same!! I quit using Instagram when I was 15 and it's made my mental health much better I had much more free time to do my hobbies and not worry about likes or feel the need to post all the time qwq
ppl, primarily new gens, have horrible self-control and coping mechanisms so all that toxicity just gets spewed online like scorpion venom. ever heard of a journal?
@@emi_not_emmy i hope i wont sound counterproductive when i say this, but if you happen to have a goodreads account (its a forum where people read books and share reviews), you can add me there if you want! im @ines_is there ^-^
I still find it depressing to know these teens make more a month than I make a year all because I’m not photogenic and my personality isn’t profitable.
Other kids are making money from music because they sing better than most people. Some people make more money as scientists because they got the brains..... Just life hey, don't ponder about it much
I felt so sad when emi’s voice was almost trembling and she was like almost crying, i could relate with emma but felt really bad about how emi was treated and when she talked about the aquarium thing i really cried cause she really seemed like a victim of everything wrong with social media It’s more like influencers vs non influencer maybe bring someone who’s not at all in social media next time
Legit. Like I see ppl say it’s a tool like a bike or a hammer but I’m like uhh the last time my bike gave me notifications and had an algorithm to predict exactly what I wanted/needed was never 😂 ofc personal agency has to come in at some point and you can take steps to minimise the effect, there’s no denying the power these things can have over ppl
i have to disagree to be honest, i think there is always an element of self control but it gets more difficult the more you rationalize the addiction to yourself
that’s so true. i totally think kids even under the age of 15 should be on social media bc they still are figuring themselves out and that added pressure really destroys confidence. there should definitely be a class that teaches you how to use social media correctly
ADDICTION- ANYTHING that lets your mind control your behavior over your good judgement. Drinking, drugging, social media, gambling. All of it. ANYTHING IN EXCESS (plastic surgery the K clan). It’s all addiction and your mind is much more intelligent than to sell out to a whim.
I'm watching this as a member of Generation X and a mom. You're not alone kids. Even I, have been bullied on social media to the point that I went underground. I even had childhood bullies post a photo of me from second grade, which I inadvertently found and saw them making disparaging comments. People are just plain mean. I watched this because I have a teenage daughter on the spectrum. I have not allowed her to access social media and probably won't; given the discussions that I've heard here and my own experience.
I could never understand when seniors were saying the typical phrase "It's that phone." After months of lockdown, and glued to my phone, becoming slowly more miserable and depressed, I realized what they meant. Social media can be used in good ways, but the apps are designed to make us scroll, endlessly, and mindlessly, as we disconnect from the true outside world, slowly becoming dumber and sadder. I have since basically deleted all social media on my phone, and use youtube only for a little bit on my laptop every day. I truly see how evil, and mentally destructing social media and our phones are, whether you can see it or not.
@japanische agreed my phone literally is a computer. It’s so good for alarms, calculators, reminders, GPS, fast instant texting, communication, etc etc etc. I think especially as teenagers we abuse this power that generations ago would die for
@japanische same here I’m like the only one with no social media in my grade and in my friend group. Without Snapchat, it’s hard to communicate with everyone since it’s their primary texting platform. Nice pfp too
But it depends on how you use it. Food is designed to make you keep eating. Stuff is designed for you to buy. The world trys to get you addicted to everything.
@@billnye8760 really good point. Everything in this world was placed here, and we as humans chose how we use it. Things can be designed to intentionally grab us in, and make us craving for dopamine, but the strength we have inside us determine if we can use it for better
I agree with you. Buuut, it could be that such a person is afraid to meet new people to they stay alone even though they crave socialising. I see a lot of people being proud they're "introverted" and then complaining they have no friends. What's the truth?
@Cured fatty pork situation the only reason i said that was because the person had a profile which is a name of a member. i didn’t want to make anyone annoyed😔
There’s already been several psychology studies that have shown a ton of negative effects of social media including being more depressed anxious and even lonelier. The one pro was being able to connect with people but really we call and text the friends who actually care about us. People are mainly just trying to impress or seek approval from everyone else or people like to live vicariously through others
@@lumpystilskin5367 I get that, but it's SO easy to fall down that social media rabbit hole, especially for people like me who are already socially awkward and want to desparately connect with people. Social media is truly a double-edged sword, and people are finding out that it's cons outweigh it's benefits.
I wish they’d talked more about how perceived levels of attractiveness shape your social media experience. I’m sure Alexa works very hard on her page but she’s also conventionally attractive by society’s standards and that plays a part in following and the kinds of community that you get
Yes! Especially after TikTok was caught pushing conventionally attractive people in their algorithm. People who are conventionally attractive have it more easier than somebody who is not in social media
No, its the content too. There's alot of people who aren't good looking some don't even show their face. And create good content and have alot of followers. BUT if someone is attractive, and just dances, then ofcourse people will go with the attractive person because they want to SEE more of that attractive person. If 2 people did the same thing, just 1 is more attractive then the other, the attractive person will get selected.
@Pro Justice Covers What about people who don’t hate god but just don’t feel the need to worship him? It’s optional, no matter what anyone says. Good for you if it makes you happy, but not everyone wants what others want. It may ease your existential dread to believe in that, but some stronger-willed people live happy lives without needing a faith-based explanation for life.
“I’m afraid If I search for that validation, I’m not going to find it” ooof that hit hard. I think so many people feel this way. I just want to hug her and I hope she realizes she’s valid no matter what anyone else thinks! ❤️
god when emi was retelling her experience with the whole photo thing, i could tell how hard it just hit everyone and i most definitely was tearing up listening to that. as a fellow asian who's also overweight, i've definitely had some issues with finding friends and i've never really stuck in any of my friend groups. it just... never works out. everyone has a best friend but i don't because even if i was there first, i'm definitely not the one everybody remembers in the end.
That’s how I feel i don’t have a friend group like at all I’m trying not to think about how many friends I have but I’m trying to think about how can I be a friend to this person now and try to be selfless but I’m afraid of rejection but maybe I can learn from that too idk I knew someone like that and even when people where mean and rejected her she was still kind and even when it hurt her feelings and she was sad And I’m trying to keep God my confidence and to not care what others think but what truth says And to not be afraid.God doesn’t want us to be afraid but trust him. I think of these Bible verses: “ For the Lord shall be thy confidence, and shall keep thy foot from being taken.” Proverbs 3:26 KJV “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7 KJV U rlly just have to believe it and change ur way of thinking hope this helps 😊
I feel you ladies and I feel the same at times cos I can be an overthinker but as I get older I learn to trust in my own sauce, to get to know myself, to do things I enjoy doing even when I'm alone, to enjoy my own company, etc, and eventually you become more secure in who you are which is attractive to those around you. You'll find ppl like who you are naturally and they will be drawn to you. Hope you all find love, happiness and acceptance. ✌🏽❤
Hi everyone! Would love to know how you control your social media usage. Could use some tips!
Common one: time limit
First reply
Follow less people
I log out and delete it from my phone or deactivate until I’m ready.
I uninstalled Facebook and Instagram (never had Tiktok)... Only way in my opinion
The fact that she said "I post enough to not look like a loser" just showed how fucked up social media is, making you use it just to not be a loser
I know
literally, some people find it weird when you tell them you dont have any social media, it sucks
@@cerealgoesfirst you get used to it. And it makes you realize things.
@@martin7747 yeah i true, even though i use snap,tiktok but i’ve disactivated my insta haha
That says more about whatever it was lol
Social media is a double edged sword. It is an extremely powerful tool, can build or ruin you.
The absolute perfect analogy ! I wrote a paper about this earlier this semester for a gen Ed class.
or you can ruin others with it
Facts
I couldn't have said it better. Good analogy!
that's so true
Social media isn’t social anymore. It’s just content consumption.
And constant advertising..... and mental manipulation the advertisements though we're advertised to atleast 1,200 times a day, adds, adds,adds by the road, in the store radio spotify Facebook instagram UA-cam tic tok alllll addddds!!! Ugh
Never was
Sad..
And begging for attention or sympathy either directly or indirectly.
Preach
As an older member of Gen Z. Yes. Yes social media has harmed every single one of us whether we are aware of it’s effects or not.
I'm older Gen Z too. That's why I quit Tiktok and I'm starting to quit Instagram as well. Furthermore, you know how people of our Gen Z say they need to focus on mental health, and pushing mental health awareness? Well, my mental health felt SOOO much better once I got off of social media! I'm happier and I feel brighter, once I started to put less time into social media. That's why if I have kids, I will do my best to make sure they NEVER have to use social media.
@@ninibugg6203 I totally agree with you
@@ninibugg6203 I'm happy for you! I'm trying to use social media less.
@@thebestwitch7040 Thank you❤! Quitting social media is definitely worth it. Don't feel like you're missing out by using it less or quitting, because trust me, you're not ;)
@@ninibugg6203 Thank you so much for saying that! I think it's definitely something I needed to hear! :)
I'm surprised they didn't bring in someone who didn't have any social media at all. I feel like they missed a valuable perspective there.
Yeah I was thinking the same thing!!! It’s like someone being anti drugs but only uses crack every now and then! 🤷🏽♀️
i dont think beacuse if they didnt have any social media they couldnt make a comparison between these 2
@@alexapirnea5943 but they could tell if not being on social media did them anything bad or good
@ThatOne jublee will be the one to reach out 👁👅👁
I feel like the members of jubilee are themselves so drown the media culture that they only reach out for people through a screen
Therefore they don't connect that much with people outside the vicious circle
Emi is so pure, I hope she finds a way to love her self.
♡ :))
@@emi_not_emmy i really loved your opinions and i think you spoke for a lot of ppl that went through the same things as you, including me. I hope you grow to love yourself and have a healthy relation ship with social media.
@@emi_not_emmy You are beautiful and you deserve all good things that come your way. I'm sorry you had to go through everything you went through with social media. I had a similar experience so I don't post either and I'm happy you went and shared your opinions and experiences. This will help a lot of people.
@@yusuke8722 Thank you so much ♡!
@@abbyhenderson9574 Thank you. I talk about my experiences, even if it hurts me, in hopes of helping others. I hope hearing a simillar story helped you feel less alone, if you've ever felt that way. ♡♡
Poor Emi was a victim of everything that’s wrong with social media: she’s thoughtful, well-spoken, very intelligent, and she’s a victim of brutal bullying because she doesn’t fit in this one idea of beauty. She’s going to do great things in spite of the monsters who were saying those awful stuff to her, I’m sure.
I agree she is! I’m glad she’s grown so much!
I agree!!!
I love your comment. She seems like a great person and I hope she can truly learn to love herself for what she can accomplish
I love Emi so much, I hope they know people love them in the comments.
I agree, I just wanna hug her 😭
i will say that social media has ruined our empathy and attention span, whether we're aware of it or not.
I absolutely agree with you, nowadays someone can be going through a hard time whether it may be a loss, discrimination, disability, etc, the majority of people on social media have no empathy whatsoever and treat them like a joke and it's not even funny. Social media is also damaging them and they can barely pay attention to anything in general.
i got sad when emi talked about being called a monster and etc. nobody deserves to go through that. emi if you see this you’re beautiful
♡♡♡
@@emi_not_emmy Keep your head up, you seem to be a awesome Person to talk to!
Seconded. I'm so glad you participated in this and we got to hear your perspective. You are strong, and beautiful!!
@@emi_not_emmy you’re awesome!
@@emi_not_emmy I love the way you dress! You have a style that I'm trying to go for. Anyways people are really mean, that's not gonna change, I honestly empathise with your experience, but that, on my momma, does not define who you are. And it may be hard to accept that, but that does not define who you are I repeat, that does not define who you are. I would've enjoyed having you as a friend in highschool!
“I like to send memes to my grandma” bro. that’s adorable.
Lmao😂😂😂 ik bruh
He was so sweet!
@Smiles and the Twisted MD what does that mean?
I send gifs to my grandma 😂
FR OMG
what you get out of social media REALLY depends on how you use it.
hello Noah!
what do you mean by how you use it because a lot of like interactions and content especially on apps like tiktok is an algorithm
Nope
hope ur doing well, Noah :)
no
Pinterest is superior because it’s like social media without the social part
I love it
pinterest will forever be the best app
Yes!!
I believe that pinterest have some issues on there. I think the blame needs to go to users instead of social media, including other sites too. Ive seen some videos criticizing whitewashing. I agree that it's a problem coming from an asian male. But I'm more into emo fashion and rock culture.
I agree with that but it also depends on what your feed has.
Social media is extremely toxic. The internet used to be a fun and exciting way to escape from reality, now reality is the best new escape from the internet.
My word. Social media used to be my escape from reality. But social media has become SUPER and I mean SUPER toxic, that reality doesn’t seem like a bad place anymore.
exactly
@@noonebossesthegarnet2890 something these kids dont wanna understand
Clearly you've never been on 4chan
That's so true. Like when social media was first a thing I used it to escape from my harsh teenage years with a single parent household. But now I even have to force myself to go outside for exercise or socializing. With Covid its even worse now, cause the situation forced me to be isolated longer. So I see where you coming from.
Let's pay more attention to Phillip, he sends memes to his grandma.
It's Phillips (plural)
that’s absolutely so pure
Correction : *Phillips(plural)
@@kaye5408 because he literally says so at the start of his introduction 😐
@@kaye5408 What do you not get about it? Philips literally said at the beggining: "Hi I'm Philips (plural), I am on the pro-side...". They're name is with an s at the end
I hate how teens are expected to have social media. like if you don't have one, people think there is something wrong with you
As a teen who doesn’t use social media (except UA-cam) I’ve found that most ppl don’t care enough to judge you 😂 if you have a number I’ve found that they also don’t find it inconvenient to just text you. Literally no one cares in my case but everyone’s situation is different.
i can relate to this. i was having a conversation with a classmate once and told him i don't use social media because i felt like i never needed it. he kind of looked at me weird in disbelief and never talked to me again. i wouldn't doubt that i lost some friends over this because that same guy was friends with some of my other friends that didn't keep in touch me with even tho i tried but they didnt respond to me
@@mauve9266 yeah I totally understand that I guess it’s just my personal situation with trying to find roommates for college on Facebook/Instagram and stuff that’s it seems kind of required :/
Emma P. Oh Yh that would probably help 😂
yup, I kind of got rid of all of my reasons to not delete my insta account, but this one is the only one that's holding me back...
I’m surprised no one mentioned the mass amount of grooming on social media bc that ruined my life as a child
Seriously though.
im so sorry
Aww sorry
What happened?
@@crazymusicgrlcheesecake they might not want to talk about it since it could be a sensitive topic
“Hi I’m Phillips, plural” LMAOO i’ve never heard that before
Same 🤣
Swear to God my favorite part of the video 🤣
I loved that part 😂
@Edgar Gomez, I don't think it's his last name; it sounded to me like he was simply emphasizing that there is indeed the "s" at the end of his first name.
@Edgar Gomez It’s actually my first name! I have to mention it’s plural because they always forget the S, Phillips is my name haha
When she said “It’s really scary to see my friends disconnect with me and connect with these people they’ve never met”
that hit me because a lot of the time I’ll be on FaceTime/ on the phone with friends and do this but never saw it this way and it’s scary how normalised this has become and a lot of things you realise you miss as a result.
Me too with a close friend I have
I am not the type of person to facetime/videocall, and I've been calling a lot of my friends lately... most of them answer other calls, scroll through instagram, play games, etc when I'm on a call with them... and it's insane to me. They don't see a problem with it, not even just how it can be rude, but really how disgusting it is. I cannot believe that's normal. I cannot believe it. If they do those things and I ask them to and they won't stop, I refuse to call them. It's disappointing that's what most people do nowadays.
Omg Dara 😂😂
@@Anjolaoluwa 😛💜
Same... I try to finish my schoolwork early so I can catch up with my friends if I go to see them they’ll be on there phones scrolling through insta or snapping random boys, and I kinda take that personally like they don’t wanna hang out w/ me or something, but honestly it’s there problem if they think snapping and scrolling is more important than our friendship... let it be that way then (they prolly don’t even need me anyway) but the thing is I feel like I couldn’t live without them but they could live without me.....
Social media is honestly either the most toxic thing to ever exist or a nice and warm place. It's a mix of both
It's toxic all around cause it's material and shallow
@Sakis Papas and this is why it’s toxic lmfao you just proved the point😀👍🏼
@Sakis Papas Stop shaming people for having a preference as to what artists they listen too.
@Sakis Papas oh I just know you’re musty....
it’s more toxic than nice and warm
This is hard to watch it really is. The one girl Emi is pouring her heart out over her experiences about her dance class and the one guy responds by saying "yeah tumblr is pretty bad I guess". And then they literally roll their eyes and smirk when asked if kids under 13 shouldnt be allowed. There's a very key difference between the 2 groups here, I know which group I would want to be friends with I don't know about you guys.
I noticed that too when Alex and Alexa were the only 2 who didn't go sit. I did see them laugh when Emi was talking about her experience. I think that they out of everyone there had the most amount of followers, and because of that made them think in that way if it makes sense.
@@charlottejane5634 time stamp
@@togaabdelsalam3972 6:44 is where it starts
Y'all are assuming a lot tho. You don't know whether they were laughing about Emi or just talking about something else entirely, lets not make things negative out of nowhere.
i completely agree, the pro social media people made me so mad
Something that helped me a lot - Never take criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from.
This comment is underrated
I’ll keep that in mind
Love that...
This is so powerful. I'm so glad that I saw this comment
thank you!
They didn't even talk about how addictive social media is. And Tiktok is the worst it's the Heroin of Social Media
It’s yt for me lol
Yeah I agree Tiktok is very addictive and toxic
I’m glad I deleted tik tok. Too much racism
@@FloralDiamondx Same here
Tiktok is extremely toxic. You'll often see hundreds of people cyberbullying a single person with the minority of people trying to correct them and it's sad :/
My heart breaks for Emi, if you're reading this you did not deserve that from those dance girls, I hope you know that you are soooo amazing and your story will definitely resonate with a lot of ppl.
♡♡♡
But Alex is a clown you got to admit
@Me We I know just saying
@@lucid734 facts
@@lucid734 The fact that you decided to see an uplifting comment and use it as an opportunity to bash someone else says more about you than anyone else. That's pretty fucked up, especially after seeing what most of them have been trough with people on the internet. Anyway, that's about all the energy I have to expend on a troll like you but, Emi and Alex, if you see this, you are both dope af
I laughed out loud when the curly haired curl tried to relate to Emi. She will never, EVER have a similar experience because she’s considered objectively pretty. You can FEEL ugly, sure, everyone does. But that girl will never receive the same backlash as Emi for loving herself. Never.
Fr
For real.
I can not put into words how wrong this truly is. I tried and ended up on a rant I’m sure no one wants to listen to. I’ll just say I’m objectively pretty and have gotten much worse bc I am pretty but it’s not from the girls or women it’s the men. You become nothing more than an object that can never be perfect to them all the while they rape you and remind you of how close you were but not quite there. I’ve had a lifetime of backlash from so many different guys it makes my head spin. Everyone is so obsessed with perfection the uglier I try to look the easier my life gets and the less hate I receive. I’m sure what she has is hard I’m not downplaying that but your statement is ignorant
THIS
I feel like we shouldn’t dismiss it though, you are dismissing her feelings just because she’s objectively pretty.
wow... i genuinely feel so horrible for Emi. she is such a sweetheart. i truly hope she knows how charismatic, and bright she is regardless of what others say.
@Anthony Davis no, why would you think that?
@@emmanuellasmart222 he’s biologically a dude lmaooo
@@emmanuellasmart222 wait I thought were talking bout Alex nvm 💀
@@kalentino8395 not the casual transphobia :/
@@lucapntl how’s that being a transphobic I’m just stating a fact that he was born a man
Nowadays we care more about about strangers liking us than us liking ourselves...
100% and think About it, why do we post things on Snapchat? Are we really trying to show our friends what’s going on in our life or are we showing strangers that our life is fun and not boring
True dat
I’m not anti nor pro, I have social media to keep some memories and photos, also to keep in touch with long distant people. I don’t use it much for the reason I wanna keep in touch with reality and have time management
I mean you can choose to go a different path friend. Lifes better without social media imo
it has always been that way...its just now, its more accessible.
These kids have such an incredible ability to have a valid discussion and not be at each other's throats. Better than most adults.
I think it’s because adults are trying to get something out of the conversation (as in be proven right and stuff) whilst these kids are actually trying to discuss the issues with social media
Killer D im sure there’s also some sort of agreement that they all make to be civil and have an actual discussion, rather than argue. this is what debates should be like, and im sure the argument mentality does come into play and you get into the “im right youre wrong stage” but i would assume the people filiming acted as moderators and also cut parts where they talked over each other
ikr!! love it
And that’s on ✨fishbowls✨ at school
Dont underestimate children 🙃
I'm glad social media exists, but don't let it take over your life. You don't NEED it. It's a great place to meet people, but you NEED moments with your own thoughts.
No, going outside is where you meet people
Social media exists for popular pretty people, people like me are not welcomed
on it.
@@AliceDuckworth223 Not all social media prompts you to reveal your face, you can communicate and make friends who don't care about how you look.
No one needs any social media, it's not a necessity, no one needs to survive
Nothing made me feel more alone than "social" media.
Right? I’ll look at my so-called “friends” from work hanging out and doing all of this fun stuff like going to concerts and whatnot, and I kept thinking that they could’ve invited me or something so I don’t feel alone. I’m tired of feeling like I’m on the outside of this clique.
@@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327 We should form a team of unsociables ✌️
@@beansoup8728 Yeah. That actually sounds like an amazing book is totally read!
Yeah, it's funny. The kids in this video talks a lot about how many friends they have on social media and all the conversations they have had.....
Has anyone of these friends ever called them? Or come over to hang out at their place? Have they had these deep discussions in real life or is it just a bunch of emojis and links over direct messaging, followed by UwU that they call "discussions"?
@@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327 You deserve better. Dont be afraid to leave them. Its better to be alone than be in company of people who dont appreciate you
Emi’s story literally breaks my heart... kids are horrible but no one deserves to have to go through that especially at such a young age... when she said she didn’t realized how depressed and unhappy she was until she looked at the photo it broke my heart :((
Sad
which one is emi
nvm
Kids are horrible wtf
It truly showed me a completely different perspective... thank you for sharing your story, Emi. ♡
😔 When privacy isn't even part of the conversation, you know somethings wrong
Where is the content on your channel 🥺 Just subbed.
You already forfeited your privacy when you replied with a UA-cam account.
I think that is a topic that Emma touched on. I agree it should've been discussed more.
Kay Kay “vpn vanish and faux username and email with no # attached🤫
@@gabmaye Yeah. It was definitely broached.
As someone who got social media at 11, I agree that kids under the age of 13 or even 14 should not be allowed to have it.
I got it when I was 8 (I’m 14 now) and yeah I agree completely. It didn’t ruin me as a person because I had a equal balance of social media and real life stuff but a lot of the stuff online I was exposed to was horrible and made me feel horrible about myself
Im 15 i disagree with u, because i have a little sister who is (6) now, and she had social media since (3) and ik its too young but tbh there's lots of positive impact,, and YES she did learn a lot of things from social media, so do i, I had social media since i was (9) and it truly is a life changing, I've learn a LOTS of things from social media, and i know everyone have different experience on social media, Whether it's positive or negative, but for me it's more of an positive side..
And tbh i think kids over 8 should allowed to be on social media (not tiktok ofc) cuz i personally think tiktok is too much still
@@mollyelv I think most of the stuff I saw was happy like I mostly used to watch roblox UA-camrs and vines and stuff so it wasn’t anything too bad I would just see stuff I shouldn’t have
I would love to see a month where all social media randomly shuts down, and nobody knew it was coming
right
Wouldn’t that be nice, watch the minute it shuts down everyone freaks out.
@@andreadalvarez6145 Lots of teens had a meltdown when Facebook, Instagram and Whatsapp went offline for a night over a week ago. This generation really is lost.
@@B_B463 :(
@@B_B463 Ngl, I didn't know about the shut down until after it was back up again 😂 I just wasn't on social media at the time but if I was when it happened, I would've just read a book. 🤷♂️
Emis bullying story made me wanna cry 🥺 hope she’s around better people now
lol she must’ve been on leddit
Cor Leonis u mean reddit
Also hoping her "bullies" would have a growth mindset now.
I hope these kids realize no one cares about you as much as you think. Everyone is too focused on their own life and problems to really care
It really helps when you do realise that
I know that
Lmao exactly as people grow older they won’t care to be in these online societies. There’s a shelf life on being an influencer unless you can recreate yourself
Tell that to the twitter mobs. They seem to have the time to care about any, no matter how small.
@@jaimemootoo8731 And there's no recreating yourself when you've already sold your 18 year old body online
Here’s some help:
2:40: I spend more than three hours on social media daily
5:54: Social media makes you anti-social
9:54: I have been bullied on social media
13:00: Social media can cause young people to hurt themselves
15:46: Children under the age of 13 should not be allowed on social media
19:02: Social media has educated me more than my school has
22:46: Society would thrive more without social media
Ty
Emi is such an angel, I hope one day she realizes how much she is worth.
Agreed!! All I could think to myself is how much of a beautiful soul they have & how truly amazing they are.
Fact!
SHE?!? i thought it was a he
@@FelixBibian idek bro
@@FelixBibian first don’t call them “it” they are a human being. they didn’t specify their pronouns that i saw, so i’d suggest just using “they/them”. again don’t call a person “it” especially since they talked about how people they know referred to them as that before and it hurt them.
Emi has been traumatized and has self esteem issues because of it and I honestly hope one day she does begin to heal (not on social media).
@@bleachlicker1236 no, who’s that?
@@bleachlicker1236 who's that
@@bleachlicker1236 who's that
@@bleachlicker1236 who’s that
@@bleachlicker1236 who's that
There should be another part of this where they discuss twitter, cancel culture, privacy , and even the monetary benefits of social media
Can you go to my channel, my last video is about you;
@@fidemetveritatem6272
As someone who is also on stan Twitter, stan Twitter is one of the most toxic parts lmao 💀
@@alaaye5237 well, experience is definitely different for everyone. i tried to create a comfortable timeline for myself, found a lot of nice people and made new friends, i also never participate in drama or fan wars, and if something like that comes up i just unfollow or ignore. but i see what you mean :)
I my experience younger people aren't on Twitter.
@@fidemetveritatem6272 same it’s all about who you follow/engage with😀
DELETE SOCIAL MEDIA, IT'S AN ADDICTION AND A COMPLETE WASTE OF TIME
Bro is saying this while being on social media
@@liamthomas3666 UA-cam is hardly social media and you know it
@@zed3063 nope, UA-cam is social media. Could you please explain to me your reasoning for calling it “hardly social media”??
@@liamthomas3666 UA-cam is mainly composed of people viewing content and commenting on it. Most other social media is mainly composed of content creators that view each other’s content. There’s a huge difference in the dynamic it creates.
@@liamthomas3666 I would say shorts are like social media. UA-cam videos can be very educational.
This conversation needed to be longer. There's so many topics they didn't even touch. Fingers crossed for a part two!
all the questions were like 1 inch from being the same question as the last. its just 'is social media bad. is it harmful. is it dangerous. is it time consuming. is it social. is it media' .. what else is there to discuss
@@naomi-art-stuff Your just stating broad terms though, "is it bad" is the whole basis on which this video has to follow because the video is "Social Media Good vs. Social Media Bad." You can go into Social Media companies taking your privacy, Sexual Predators on social media, the success it can bring to people trying to make a job of it. Theres a lot to talk about.
Yes we NEED. A part two
Naomi N. I think they should’ve covered how kids are exposed to so much at a young age. Instagram exposing a lot of sexual content. Tiktok I’ve seen so many young girls being bullied for having dark skin. Etc
There’s so soo many surfaces they haven’t touched
My man sends memes to his grandma...respect
edit: my brain doesn’t grammar
Lmao😂
As I read this comments I hear him
That's precious
This comment will get 1k+ likes, don't forget me
That's a soldier right there
There are so many studies that prove social media causes depression and anxiety, and it ruins our attention span. Yes it depends how you use it, but 99% of people use it in a way that makes their life worse in some aspect.
school does all of that stuff more than social media yet nobody talks about it. social media made me realize who i was and made me feel valid. you know what did the opposite? school.
YES youre so right
@@luciadawnwater272 fr teachers be talking abt mental health and stuff but they NEVER bring up stuff abt school, the only thing they bring up (in relations to school) are bullies, everything else is “because of social media” like I wasn’t even on social media when I got a mental illness, people really can get anorexia from social media though
@@luciadawnwater272 i agree but I also agree with the comment above. I feel like in general we are getting very limited in life and its almost like everything is planned out since birth. Alot of ppl are so sure about their opinion etc. that (adults f.e ) are not willing to listen to younger ppls voices bcuz we r the one who are effected by the wrong systems. If its school, or social media. Both take so much time and space in our minds that ppl like u and me r feeling more and more depressed etc. 😔🥲
I want to change by starting to change my own mindset, lifestyle etc. But its 1.)not that easy cuz I live with my mum(I am just 16,I still go to school and 2.)motivation and consistency is the hardest part.
can you stop with the social media = mental illness narrative? yes it’s harmful but to directly list it as a cause is ridiculously invalidating to people with mental illness. it’s a different thing to have anxiety related to social media and to say it causes it
you never realize how much social media effects you until you get rid of it. i deleted tiktok and snapchat and felt like all this weight just left my shoulders
I've had periods where I'd go months never using it. My routine and feelings remained relatively the same. Not saying some people don't benefit from deletion, just that it doesn't effect everyone.
To be fair I only use like 2ish social medias.
LITERALLY!! I got my phone taken for a few months and when I got it back I ended up deleting my TikTok account and instagram main. It was the best thing ever, I get so much more work done and I’m not constantly comparing myself to other girls nor seeing people who I don’t really care for posts. I believe it’s simply a waste of time
when emi brought up how people were performative during the blm movement and how the black squares were a product of that......... finally someone called it out
I definitely agree with you, but I do think that it was a way to show support for people who didn’t really know what else they could do. For example: I posted the black screen too (when I learned why people found it pretentious I deleted it), it was in the middle of the pandemic and the advice was to not travel unless absolutely necessary. Unfortunately all the BLM protests where in the big cities and I was far away from those. It was difficult for me because I really really wanted to do something for BLM but I just couldn’t. The black screen was a way that I showed my support. Nevertheless, I completely understand your point of view!
@@isisvda it’s the fact that people posted black squares and said “i hear you...” yet haven’t spoken, donated, petitioned, posted, etc. since then. at that point you did it as an aesthetic. not knowing what to do is too easy to say when the internet is always at your disposal, it’s about actually wanting to use those tools and change the narrative. also i do understand that people can do these things off social media and not have to post about it, and that’s totally okay. but again, there is no excuse to post a black square and not follow up with some sort of education/activism.
@@alw_9911 totally agree. I myself constantly advocates on social media and I took a bigger step when I went to a protest in my city. Anyone can post a black screen but that doesn’t mean your intentions are genuine,
Definitely like I really hate performative activism but off topic ik but You’re really pretty.
@@00imz omg thank youuuuu
I actually feel so proud of Emi who has been through this but turned out so intelligent and wonderful. You go girl!
♡♡♡
I’m sorry but how does bullying make you less intelligent?
@@ameliaj8791 I mean technically I could hinder learning ability therefore making u less intelligent but it’s not like being bullied=dumb
@@emi_not_emmy we love you Emi ❤️
@Michael Jordan thank you for the insight
Phillips looks like he used social media very healthily keeping in touch with his family.
AAAAAAHHHHH!!!! PAAAAAIIIINNNN!!!!!!
I broke my hand yesterday because of the hate comments I get on my amazing videos. I was so angry that I punched a hole in my computer. Please don't comment anything mean on my wonderful videos, dear cam
That’s not vegan!
He is the epitome of middle ground. He isn't using it to be a jerk or superficial. He is just having fun and connect with his family and friends.
Awww Phillips here, you guys are so sweet, I love my family and social media is just a way for me to connect with them!
@@phlesio Okay larper. Beg away for those imaginary internet points.
Alex is a perfect example of someone raised on and brainwashed by social media. Literally crazy
Actually you're the one who's brainwashed
@@shokococonuthow is this person brainwashed?
Literally the definition of chronically online, their identity is built around tik Tok and their friends are online just awful this is where I see gen alpha heading the toxic positive ppl won't agree as Tik Tok does that to you
@@shokococonutWhat she say ??
did anyone else notice the teenagers having way more civil discussions than the adults on jubilee?😭
I think I'm missing something....there was the should kids under 13 have social media question...then there is this research information talk...I'm not sure how well a 6-12 will understand that..they don't get enough credit but they are also just cogs in the wheel...so who cares..defiantly not older people who are benefiting
Fr most people now and only some rare adults are knowledge and then u get the people like the girl who only look at the negative on media
@@cyclopz2410 tolerance communicates weak character.
Because teens are social rejects
@@queen2697 u know ur gonna become a teen or allready been a teen right ?
“When my friends disconnect with me & connect with people they don’t know” woah that’s real!
I don't think that problem has anything to do with social media. Itss either you or your friends.
@@billnye8760 I agree actually. I’m still pro social media tho lol
@@h222ley I don't think that's social medias fault entirely tho.q
@@billnye8760 oh yeah, i never said it was at all i was just saying in general
I wish they included someone who supported social media but didn’t t have a large following
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Yeah
Same
Right. Wouldn't that be more realistic?
"Before social media I just thought I was a masculine girl"- I don't know about this person's case but sometimes I feel like this is actually one of the most detrimental parts of social media. People thinking they must be trans because they don't fit stereotypes. Social media shouldn't be your source of information on such topics. If you think you might be trans you should go to a doctor and get diagnosed with gender dysphoria, not believe some random people on the internet.
I follow Alex and he's definitely a real trans guy but I agree on the overall point. Being trans has honestly become an internet trend and that's why we have so many detransitioners who end up dissing the community later. These days you don't need to see a doctor for evaluation before medically transitioning, and that's a problem. Even saying that you need Gender Dysphoria to be trans will get you cancelled these days. So people transition on a whim hoping that they'll be 'hip' and it will solve all their problems only to find out shortly later that they ruined their life. You don't even really get clout for it anymore because just about every kid claims to be trans or queer now. The whole mess of it all is just very sad. There's nothing wrong with being trans, but the glorification of it is toxic. It's a very difficult life to lead, even for those who do suffer from dysphoria and actually are transgender. Regret is a whole nother' layer for those who transitioned without dysphoria.
exactly! you really get it
For a lot of gay and trans people the internet provides us with a lot of freedom and information that we don't normally get in the outside world due to the danger of homophobia. You can go to a random doctor, but you don't know if they are safe or not for you. But with social media we can share our experiences and help eachother find doctors that are accommodating.
I truly believe the only reason that we have more resources today is because we found eachother through the internet and were able to form a community far beyond the gay bars.
It's the opposite for me, I used to think I was trans because of the Internet but I came to my senses and realized I'm actually just a masculine girl lol
gender dysphoria doesn't automatically mean that youre trans though
Emi, Emma & Ella are so friggin well spoken and mature. Just like: "Yes, social media can be used for good but here are my concerns, which are both personal and societal."
Sorry to ruin the nice vibe but 1.5k likes and only 1 comment. I never seen something like that before.
@@offperkz2454 whoa. I just noticed this. it's a glitch, right?
@@Megleighpd gotta be🤔
emi's story absolutely broke me :( she didn't deserve any of that :(
:)) ♡♡
@@emi_not_emmy please stay positive cz people will always hate beautiful and amazing people don't let them make you feel bad
Can you go to my channel, my last video is about you;
@@emi_not_emmy hey, you’re really smart and ily. also what are your pronouns? i wasn’t sure
@@niange5404 Thank you♡♡
life would be sm better without social media. the amount of times I've hung out with people and all they've done is spent hours scrolling on tiktok is so sad.
Exactly
Can we just appreciate Phillip? Wholesome, caring dude right there.
Phillips awesome he uses the internet right.
facts he was so wholesome and understanding
*Philips, plural
why did i immediately think of dr.phil...
@@homo-sapienovo740 LMAO!!
"I was 11 when I joined social media, I was litterally just a kid"
... you're 16, you still ARE very much a kid!
I was 4 when joined social media hahah 🥲 was wondering was I was depressed 😲🥲 am gonna try not to use social media since am now a social reject uhm uhm🥲🙃 (cries)
Exactly! Like...wtf? lol
And this has been Danique’s (accurate af) TEDtalk
Amateur I joined social media since i was 8
@@commenter518 you’re not hardcore until you’ve watched faces of death 2 for no reason. 😂
Can we talk about how teenagers can have a peaceful and deep conversation even if they don't agree with each other but adults start yelling and get angry and violent...?
Thats a broad generalization.
@@UM-ku8rk it is, but it is also a proven fact that people get more stubborn the older they get
I don't wanna say all adults but most adults. I feel like social media has given us a sense of community and understanding allowing some of us teens to mature more than most adults. But yeah it is crazy
@@jasminejohnson2458 exactly!
I disagree. As a teen I don’t think many of us can have proper conversations. I have a much easier time connecting with many adults
the two people in the pro group (not phillips) were incredibly tone deaf toward a lot of the others experiences.
emi, i know you may never read this, but you are absolutely wonderful. i hope you're doing well today
I love emi’s voice and energy. I feel like she’s just one of those people you can talk to for an hour straight and walk away from that conversation feeling good because you just vibed with her so much.
I thought he was gay no offence
@@tiger131panzerkampfwagenvi6 I mean it’s okay but she doesn’t really seem like a boy in my opinion
@@Skylakota The way he/she wears LGBT colour makes it all clear
@@tiger131panzerkampfwagenvi6 i think you got emi confused with the actual trans guy on the panel, alex. emi is the chubbier girl with short hair.
Emi is amazingly intelligent and I hate that we live in a world where her intellect is put down and useless aestethics are elevated.
Seconding this
he.
Emi is actually so beautiful,she seems like a kind soul.I wish someone would have hugged her,just seeing her sad made me feel so bad.
I totally agree, I can also sympathize with her suffering.
PD: I was about to "remove" the "hair" on your profile pic but then my meditation reflex stopped me lmao. In a weird way you helped me realize my practice is working out. Thank you, Namaste.
Same!
0:37 “I didn’t know I was trans until I was on TikTok”
I started giggling the moment she said that. lmao
Phillips looks like such an understanding kid. Like, when Emi was talking about how she was cyberbullied he was so focused on what she said, and was actively listening to her, with a concerned face. I am thankful that the country where i live this issue of blatanly harrasing someone is not prominent, and I am constantly shaken by these kind of videos. I tend to stop them and say things like "for real?" "how do people dare to do that?"-
B. GD HOW DARE YOU WRITE THIS COMMENT! THIS IS OUTRAGEOUS IM CALLING THE POLICE RIGHT NOW!
Am just wondering why there isn't that many replies
why is no one talking about the legendary named anti-socials trio?
Ella, Emma and Emi
...it doesn't get better than that, they win
The E-girls
myoui
that’s so ironic
AND alex and alexa like duuude
@Clips and Tributes samee I make videos too
The E’s
I’m not anti social media but I do think it’s much easier to be pro social media when you’re conventionally attractive and have a large following of people who support you.
They literally put 1 conventionally attractive person on the pro side and 2 on the anti side to show this isn’t necessarily the case.
@@Cloudkiller01 I definitely didn’t say it was always the case, just that I think it makes it EASIER to view social media in a positive light. Also it may be personal option but I consider both Alexa and Phillips to be good looking.
@@Cloudkiller01 1 on the pro side!? Bruh, are you saying my boy Phillips is not conventionally attractive right now? You think American standards are the only ones that matter?
I’ve taken breaks from social media throughout my life and in times when I’m on break, I noticed I get red flags if I don’t have an insta account. People look at you like “Ew that’s weird” for just not having an account. But I’ll say this, 3 years SOBER off social media feels absolutely amazing.
I don't understand ppl who be like "how can u not have tik tok/insta" Like I've honestly grown out of those apps. Its crazy to me how they think its so hard to not use social media.
Yup
one of my classmate called me 'ABNORMAL' just bcz I am not on social media. That time I was struggling a lot with my mental health and anxiety. That word made me feel really bad about myself.
@Kaden Peterson ;)
i find it rlly hard to get out of social media but I would nvr shame someone for not using it. In fact, I find it amazing and I wish I could just stop
lmao my sisters always say that I’m trying so hard “to be like other girls” just because I don’t have tik tok- like ion need it
I just wanna hug Emi and tell her everything's gonna be all right.
Same
Right. That dance team is just awful. I hope her parents are investing in her self esteem.
@@baabaampofo7735 that’s the correct pronoun?
@@el.c.8858 Omg sorry😩🤦🏾♀️herrr
Same
Emi’s elementary school story really broke my heart. I hope she’s able to reconcile with her past and look to the future🤞🏾❤️
Alex seemed incapable of understanding that they have a unique experience and most people don’t have followings of people all waiting to reach out to help or talk to them.
emi, if you’re reading this, i’m so incredibly sorry for how u were treated by those dance girls. the way that they treated you was absolutely disgusting and unacceptable. i know i don’t know u, but i love you so much and i am sending you love and peace. you are so strong ❤️
Thank you so much... You are so kind. I'm sending love right back at you
@@emi_not_emmy Sending all my love to you Emi! No one deserve to go through that❤️ I can see, just from the video, that you are a wonderful person ❤️
@@emi_not_emmy aww i’m so glad you got to see this!! i hope you are doing well!
children really shouldn't be on the internet. i was on the internet when i was a child and i saw so many things i shouldn't have. creepy strangers trying to get my information or sending me sexual messages or photos. posts ruining my body image. children just don't need that. and even young toddlers nowadays are GLUED to phones, it's really sad. they should be playing with toys and learning the alphabet and learning colors and animals and shapes, but instead their eyes are stuck to a cell phone. it's depressing honestly.
100% agree. even 13 is way too young even. those are kids. they don't know when to stop, when to block someone, if someone is a predator, what that person really looks like, it's just so dangerous. i don't even think kids should have phones unless it is for calling parents like just a cell phone. makes me really terrified for the future generation
I was also on the internet when I was younger but I’ve never experienced any of those things. The internet teaches a lot of things, such as English for example. I think that I’m very lucky to have a better experience on the internet than most people. I’m grateful
but to be fair, I was on the internet in its early days. Everything’s a lot more toxic and fragile now
Honestly, I agree. As a 11 year old, I'm exposed to things that I'm too young to know about. Now, I have a more of an advanced brain due social media. Luckily, I don't get sexual or predatory messages like you did. Even kids in my class have Discord, Instagram, Snapchat, Tiktok, Facebook, and have the newest I-phones. Not to mention, wear clothes that aren't for their age. And are also completely different from years ago. Such as crop tops, extremely short shorts, scrunchies, and even makeup!! To remind you, these kids that I'm talking about are ages 10-14!!! We also know about aesthetics like cottagecore, vintage, vaporware, ect. In 5th grade, we were doing a project in which we had to present ourselves. It would be later showed to the whole grade at the last day of school. One girl in my class asked someone to put an aesthetic background for the project since she didn't know how to. I know this might sound hypocritical, but I hate children in our generation. I doubt we can change it which is the unfortunate part, sadly...
@@ravenpotter4004 But fortunately I know how to do all these things for my surprising age. This doesn't apply to everyone my age though, which is worrying.
Is no one talking about how she said she makes 30-40 thousand a month
RIGHT. i was like .... maybe I should try on tiktok
Truly ! I had no sympathy for her views after she said that.
Ain’t no way she making 40k in a month with 300k followers
@@parthpatel2630 lol she makes money on UA-cam, Snapchat, Tiktok, Instagram.....I think she makes more than 40k
@@parthpatel2630 If she's has a large following on several different platforms then I don't see why not. Influencers can earn A LOT. They just don't talk about it
notice how the only ones who said that social media doesn’t make you anti social are the big creators with PLATFORMS 🤨
Yeah. It’s a detriment to the social skills of a lot of ACTUAL teens. Online friendships and relationships don’t even come close to the real thing, even over FaceTime calls you aren’t developing crucial social skills in the way you normally would.
I have no platform. Yes i’m anti-social but I have been since before i was on social media. It depends on the person. I actually find it easier to communicate with people online. I wouldn’t communicate if I didn’t do it online first. Social media doesn’t forced u to be antisocial if anything it has helped me be more social. Who cares if it’s through a screen? It’s still a conversation and that’s a huge step for some people.
Exactly like practically all the pro have platforms and loads of fans like... obvious they would like it they have fans.
and it’s not being social to comment back to ppl
i think the question should have been looked at with the perspective of how it effects social lives in the real world, where you have to talk and hang out.
because social media has done nothing for me in that aspect, if anything it has made it more difficult to have social interactions because i do not have the comfort of being behind a screen
@@generationfutureproduction9233 but does it help you make friends in the real world? do you actually hang out with and do things that are productive for your social health with these people?
This is coming from a 16 year old teenage girl - I deleted all of my social media accounts, except UA-cam. I couldn't be happier and simply don't think that social media is necessary. I feel more confident since then...
i did it before and i felt so good but then my friends were like annoyed i wasn’t on it (it was only for a week) and like now if i do again i feel like they’ll just be annoyed but i’m honestly considering it
I don't know if this would work for everyone though like if they had a bunch of friends to just lose them all could make someone sad
Did the same thing now I'm free and feel so much happier and more productive
I think that not having any social media when all of your friends have, would not have the same effect, it’s honestly sad
I had a friend with strict parents that didn’t let her have social media and everyone just pressured her into asking them to create one
I quit Instagram when I was 17, best decision I could’ve done. Growing up without it added so much color, time and mental freedom so now I have joy in the simplest things in life.
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Same!! I quit using Instagram when I was 15 and it's made my mental health much better I had much more free time to do my hobbies and not worry about likes or feel the need to post all the time qwq
me with tiktok, after i quit tiktok i actually began to form my own opinions, crazy right?
I deleted Twitter last October and my mental health improved instantly afterwards. That place made me so anxious for no reason and I was done with it
@@becca53444 same, except in place of twitter it was tiktok.
Even tumblr in the early 2010s was less toxic than tik tok and Instagram
And that says it all. Oh gosh it was terrifying and I was already on my mid/late teen years.
ppl, primarily new gens, have horrible self-control and coping mechanisms so all that toxicity just gets spewed online like scorpion venom. ever heard of a journal?
Shoutout to these teens for being more respectful than 90% of the adults on these episodes
That's Gen Z for you 😁
Teens are more respectful when debating than adults cuz we don't think we know it all 😂
throwback to erin the vegan
i wish i could hug emi and become her friend, we could be reading buddies
♡♡♡
Dude she responded this is your chance
Yeah she seemed really interesting, a lot more mature than most teens and very well spoken
Me too
@@emi_not_emmy i hope i wont sound counterproductive when i say this, but if you happen to have a goodreads account (its a forum where people read books and share reviews), you can add me there if you want! im @ines_is there ^-^
I still find it depressing to know these teens make more a month than I make a year all because I’m not photogenic and my personality isn’t profitable.
That’s just life
Other kids are making money from music because they sing better than most people. Some people make more money as scientists because they got the brains.....
Just life hey, don't ponder about it much
Most of them use filters and makeup and the personalities they present aren’t real. So there’s still time!
@@jawesz7420 you don't make money with science, you basically earn enough just to survive :/
And this comment is the reason why I think the whole social media content/influencer scene is toxic.
I felt so sad when emi’s voice was almost trembling and she was like almost crying, i could relate with emma but felt really bad about how emi was treated and when she talked about the aquarium thing i really cried cause she really seemed like a victim of everything wrong with social media
It’s more like influencers vs non influencer maybe bring someone who’s not at all in social media next time
Phillips felt the most genuine to me, he was not sided to one idea, just like most of us
I love an open-minded person who isn't stuck in their thoughts. Learn the facts and go from there lol
Also I don't think "just have self control" is necessarily realistic, these apps are built to have you addicted. All psychology yall
Legit. Like I see ppl say it’s a tool like a bike or a hammer but I’m like uhh the last time my bike gave me notifications and had an algorithm to predict exactly what I wanted/needed was never 😂 ofc personal agency has to come in at some point and you can take steps to minimise the effect, there’s no denying the power these things can have over ppl
i have to disagree to be honest, i think there is always an element of self control but it gets more difficult the more you rationalize the addiction to yourself
that’s so true. i totally think kids even under the age of 15 should be on social media bc they still are figuring themselves out and that added pressure really destroys confidence. there should definitely be a class that teaches you how to use social media correctly
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ADDICTION- ANYTHING that lets your mind control your behavior over your good judgement. Drinking, drugging, social media, gambling. All of it. ANYTHING IN EXCESS (plastic surgery the K clan). It’s all addiction and your mind is much more intelligent than to sell out to a whim.
started crying when Emi did, such a sweet soul that’s just too pure for this world.
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@@emi_not_emmy here for you any time! thank you for sharing your story.
@@halleraspberry Thank you so much.
I'm watching this as a member of Generation X and a mom. You're not alone kids. Even I, have been bullied on social media to the point that I went underground. I even had childhood bullies post a photo of me from second grade, which I inadvertently found and saw them making disparaging comments. People are just plain mean. I watched this because I have a teenage daughter on the spectrum. I have not allowed her to access social media and probably won't; given the discussions that I've heard here and my own experience.
I could never understand when seniors were saying the typical phrase "It's that phone." After months of lockdown, and glued to my phone, becoming slowly more miserable and depressed, I realized what they meant. Social media can be used in good ways, but the apps are designed to make us scroll, endlessly, and mindlessly, as we disconnect from the true outside world, slowly becoming dumber and sadder. I have since basically deleted all social media on my phone, and use youtube only for a little bit on my laptop every day. I truly see how evil, and mentally destructing social media and our phones are, whether you can see it or not.
@japanische agreed my phone literally is a computer. It’s so good for alarms, calculators, reminders, GPS, fast instant texting, communication, etc etc etc. I think especially as teenagers we abuse this power that generations ago would die for
@japanische same here I’m like the only one with no social media in my grade and in my friend group. Without Snapchat, it’s hard to communicate with everyone since it’s their primary texting platform. Nice pfp too
@japanische don’t worry I don’t use social media either other than watching UA-cam lol
But it depends on how you use it. Food is designed to make you keep eating. Stuff is designed for you to buy. The world trys to get you addicted to everything.
@@billnye8760 really good point. Everything in this world was placed here, and we as humans chose how we use it. Things can be designed to intentionally grab us in, and make us craving for dopamine, but the strength we have inside us determine if we can use it for better
“I’m scared that if I search for that validation, I won’t get it.”
Wow that’s the one.
I think what made her saying this hit home more was the overwhelming support for her in the comments.
There's nothing wrong with being shy, quiet, or thoughtful. Preferring small groups over larger groups doesn't mean anything is wrong with you.
ABSOLUTELY YES
If anything you are >
Yea like if humans beings where as interesting, keep it small and ypu will live better no worries
I agree with you. Buuut, it could be that such a person is afraid to meet new people to they stay alone even though they crave socialising. I see a lot of people being proud they're "introverted" and then complaining they have no friends. What's the truth?
@@multigreenman1238 that’s just personal
Social media shortens your attention span and promotes bad communication skills.
Anti social-media: I hate social media
Also them: *has more posts and followers than me*
Maybe we the ones that have it bad ig
right 😭 no hate to them but like what 😀
Yeah fr i havnt even posted on mine in over a year
I have like 2 posts. One of em archived like wtf. Do they even hate it☠️
Well it’s probably the fact that they had a larger following is why they realize how bad it is
The girl who makes 30k to 40k a month makes more than my parents make in a year
@Cured fatty pork situation i’m glad to know i made you laugh buddy 😀
@veeyu I honestly don’t know they both have jobs and work full time but I guess that’s how it is
combined?
@@radicalgames480 yes lol
@Cured fatty pork situation the only reason i said that was because the person had a profile which is a name of a member. i didn’t want to make anyone annoyed😔
There’s already been several psychology studies that have shown a ton of negative effects of social media including being more depressed anxious and even lonelier. The one pro was being able to connect with people but really we call and text the friends who actually care about us. People are mainly just trying to impress or seek approval from everyone else or people like to live vicariously through others
I think it depends on how people use social media.
And generally, how are people using it
Or just call your friends. Even texting is lame.
@@lumpystilskin5367 I get that, but it's SO easy to fall down that social media rabbit hole, especially for people like me who are already socially awkward and want to desparately connect with people. Social media is truly a double-edged sword, and people are finding out that it's cons outweigh it's benefits.
Do u have a reference for this tho? I would agree but I don't know if that's a fact
I 100% relate to emi, social media has made me think really negative about life and without it I find myself happier
I wish they’d talked more about how perceived levels of attractiveness shape your social media experience. I’m sure Alexa works very hard on her page but she’s also conventionally attractive by society’s standards and that plays a part in following and the kinds of community that you get
Yes! Especially after TikTok was caught pushing conventionally attractive people in their algorithm. People who are conventionally attractive have it more easier than somebody who is not in social media
exactly
great point
I agree 100%
No, its the content too. There's alot of people who aren't good looking some don't even show their face. And create good content and have alot of followers. BUT if someone is attractive, and just dances, then ofcourse people will go with the attractive person because they want to SEE more of that attractive person. If 2 people did the same thing, just 1 is more attractive then the other, the attractive person will get selected.
"i'm afraid that if i search for that validation that i won't get it" amen emi
@Pro Justice Covers amen!! Xx
@Pro Justice Covers most people hate God now a days
@Pro Justice Covers What about people who don’t hate god but just don’t feel the need to worship him? It’s optional, no matter what anyone says. Good for you if it makes you happy, but not everyone wants what others want. It may ease your existential dread to believe in that, but some stronger-willed people live happy lives without needing a faith-based explanation for life.
“I’m afraid If I search for that validation, I’m not going to find it” ooof that hit hard. I think so many people feel this way. I just want to hug her and I hope she realizes she’s valid no matter what anyone else thinks! ❤️
Can you go to my channel, my last video is about you;
@@sarahmariposa9475 stop spamming this
Emi is the realest one there. probably the only one I could see myself relating to in a meaningful way on the topic of social media
god when emi was retelling her experience with the whole photo thing, i could tell how hard it just hit everyone and i most definitely was tearing up listening to that. as a fellow asian who's also overweight, i've definitely had some issues with finding friends and i've never really stuck in any of my friend groups. it just... never works out. everyone has a best friend but i don't because even if i was there first, i'm definitely not the one everybody remembers in the end.
That’s how I feel i don’t have a friend group like at all
I’m trying not to think about how many friends I have but I’m trying to think about how can I be a friend to this person now and try to
be selfless but I’m afraid of rejection but maybe I can learn from that too idk I knew someone like that and even when people where mean and rejected her she was still kind and even when it hurt her feelings and she was sad
And I’m trying to keep God my confidence and to not care what others think but what truth says
And to not be afraid.God doesn’t want us to be afraid but trust him.
I think of these Bible verses:
“ For the Lord shall be thy confidence, and shall keep thy foot from being taken.”
Proverbs 3:26 KJV
“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”
2 Timothy 1:7 KJV
U rlly just have to believe it and change ur way of thinking hope this helps 😊
I feel you ladies and I feel the same at times cos I can be an overthinker but as I get older I learn to trust in my own sauce, to get to know myself, to do things I enjoy doing even when I'm alone, to enjoy my own company, etc, and eventually you become more secure in who you are which is attractive to those around you. You'll find ppl like who you are naturally and they will be drawn to you. Hope you all find love, happiness and acceptance. ✌🏽❤