Annoying Things ISFPs Say and Do
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- Опубліковано 9 лип 2024
- Annoying Things ISFPs Say and Do
ISFP Most Annoying Traits - we all have annoying traits. There are amazing gifts we have that we shouldn't try to change, and there are also some edges that need refined. In this series... we're focusing on the edges.... with a fun tongue-in-cheek title.
✨ "We are all works of art and artists working on ourselves." ✨
If you'd like to see a video where I point out the ISFP strengths: • So you think you're an...
I LOVE ISFPs!! So much I married one lol. I love exploring the emotional depths of Fi doms and I also love the quick wittedness of Se second, and the philosophical nature of Ni third.
0:00 About This Series
1:06 What we love about ISFPs
3:35 Function Overview
6:01 Fi Annoyances
11:24 Se Annoyances
17:26 Ni Annoyances
21:23 Te Annoyances
28:09 Growth Tracks
*I'm loosely putting out these videos in order from least viewed types to most viewed types on my channel. So it will probably be SJs, SPs, NJs, then NPs. So don't worry... all types will get their turn.
I'm an ISFP, and I can tell you that something that has really frustrated someone in my life who is probably an ENTJ is my apparent lack of caring. There was one time when I messed up on something I had promised to do for this person; and even though I was inwardly ashamed and anxious over my failure, my voice on the phone with them didn't convey that. The incorrect conclusion they drew was that I didn't care. I'm an emotional person, but I'm not an ESFP. I don't wear my heart on my sleeve.
Something else about me that has definitely annoyed people is bringing my personal convictions into a conversation. I have to be careful to not come off as holier than thou when I'm talking to someone about an important issue. It's not that I feel like I'm better than the person I'm talking to. It's that the strength of my convictions can make me seem like I think that I'm better/superior.
Something that has frustrated and probably confounded people who care about me is my lack of ambition and life planning. It's a struggle for me to engage my weak Te in order to improve my circumstances.
Great points, I definitely resonate with those!
Yes, ISFP are evil pieces of s💩.
OMG same
I'm an INFP and think I sometimes come off as holier than thou. Gotta work on that but how?
Same dude
As an ISFP, one thing about us is our ability to put ideas and memories away, but they still run like a background app. For instance, I'll see a math problem and already have it solved before I can consciously figure out how to solve it. I can't tell you how many times I've been interrogated by my math teacher because I couldn't explain how I got my answer. I tend to create one-size-fits-all templates in my head that help in various situations. Usually, my goal isn't so much about accomplishing a task, as it is about doing it more efficiently.
U sure ur an isfp? This sounds like a intutive thing.
@@charlee2470 It could be. I got let go from an electrician company because I was the only person who's ever gotten a perfect score on their math test and I didn't show my work on the test, I did it in my head.
@@dave23024 that doesnt make sense to be let go from a company because you got a perfect score. If u did well, they should have kept on giving you questions to do to see if u can get them all right. And then trust you can be a good electrician cuz u do it in ur head.
@@charlee2470 That's what happened, whether it makes sense or not. I said the same thing, and I've got some serious doubts about electricians from Riviera Electric in Colorado. I don't know if that's still their company name, but I wouldn't give them my business when they punish people for being intelligent. Besides, Colorado should tell you everything. Jealous, hateful people who can't stand to see others succeed. They let me go because they thought I cheated on the test. I probably forgot to say that part, but that's why. Twenty minutes of interrogation for how I got that score without showing my work. Classic third-grade teacher mindset.
@@charlee2470 not really. Its a mixture of Se and Ni
fi
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"their dominant function wants something, so they create a behavior that they THINK will get them what they want. but it's actually self defeating behavior and it gets them the opposite of what they want"
me in a nutshell
Isn't that true of everybody, to a certain extent? We all have blind spots.
Interesting
@@seeker4wisdom we do have blind spots, but different ones. Ex, if I want something, I'm able to put aside that desire, analize situation from a 3rd party perspective, figure out necessary steps and make a plan which I'll follow. I'm an INFJ, so my Fi isn't strong enough and it doesn't obscure my vision of the goal, I can pretty much set it aside.
@@user-ys2wu5xd3b Marsha Linehan would call that the "wise mind," being able to evaluate things from a place of logic and subjectivity, walking that middle path, and we all can learn to do that. We all can learn, with time, to be more balanced in our Fi/Te or Fe/Ti axis.
After graduating high school, and not going to college to follow my infj parent's advice, I've been in a constant fi-ni loop, and I'm recognizing it in so many areas of how I think in this particular emotional environment. i find myself daydreaming about what I want *Fi), but not having the guts to leave home (Te) and actually start my own life. Having an Ni dominant authoritarian figure has sort of squashed my bravery, so I'm paranoid and fearful of the future. i also am ALWAYS having (ironically well-said) arguments in my head about how I feel about things, but I don't think It's my place to voice them because I don't want to be disrespectful. I feel like my independence is looked down on, and I just need that one push to get out on my own. I have always had trouble with getting my ideas done, or working in them on my own. What I appreciated about school was the forced structure where it gave me windows to insert my own creativity. The funny thing is that I don't consider myself terribly creative on my own, and I'm always questioning the value of anything I create (I mostly am into fiber arts like crocheting and knitting, but I can draw really well too), I'm indecisive about everything, which is exhausting. Honestly, the more and more I watch these isfp videos, the more I think I'm at a really unhealthy stage of being an isfp. I just turned 19, and I still don't feel like I'm allowed to make my own decisions. It scares me, and I'm always thinking about this strange limbo place I'm in where I'm going to fuck up really bad in the future, so now I'm just dreading when that's inevitably going to happen. And I'm terrible at explaining myself verbally, so I've conditioned myself to avoid the conflict of certain discussions because I can never accurately express my issues in the socially acceptable time-frame that conversations run at. Like, I can't take an hour break to find the right words that might be possible if I were writing. And then I ramble (sort of like in this comment lmao), and I cry because I'm frustrated, which makes talking all the more difficult!
I think the mbti has made me and my infj parent frustrated with all the newly-defined flaws that we see in each other, instead of make us more open and understanding. I don't know, it's been a rough road. I might be depressed, I have no idea.
This deserves many replies. Thank you gor sharing your experiences and learning, your think aloud will help many :(:(😊❤
My mom is isfp. So the whole video I'm like yes!! Pause. yess!! Pause. Yess!!!. So accurate
Nice breakdown of the functions! I'm ISFP and relate to soooo much. However, while I am black and white sometimes, I do find myself being grey and not knowing what I think or feel with some issues, whether it's moral or philosophical or political. And the reason I think is that 1) either I'm not well-informed enough of the issue and someone has to fill me in on certain aspects which makes me see it in another perspective (which for me is quite "scary" at first, but also intriguing) or b) I don't care enough to make a strong either-or statement.
Also I am self righteous / virtuous sometimes , that's true. But I rarely make it a point verbally, that is shoving my beliefs down someones throat, I think that's more Te / Fe actually. I feel it strongly on the inside, but since Fi is so subjective, I know that it is every persons right to feel differently and therefore I don't want to impose myself on others "freedom".
Funnily enough I want to be able to speak my mind more, to practice running an argument and following it through. This probably falls into your conversation on avoiding in a conflict and becoming "mute". When people in my life have balanced out judging functions ( for example T&F in the middle of the stack) I find myself learning how to argue and see different sides quite well because they don't come off as intimidating or prejudiced, but more open minded and exploratory.
I'm an ISFP too and catch myself really enjoying these grey zones sometimes because they leave options open. When I for example analyze my job future and look into many different jobs it's so much fun - when I'm set on something it feels so limiting. Hope my English is good enough. :)
I feel so called out 😂 I really love the chemistry you guys have 😊
so excited to watch this! my family of origin is ISTP (dad) ISFP (mom) ENFP (adopted at 4 mos daughter) understanding personality types is a way to distinguish between "adoption story lines" for healing and identity development and "social learning story lines" and "nature v nurture assessment" im my own social and psychological experiment and I LOVE IT! makes hard times meaningful!
thank you so much for producing these :)
I'm apparently ISFP and have been on the journey trying to confirm it, but this video did it for me.
Reading the comments too got me wishing I had friends with the same type, but at the same time I have no friends at all and it's difficult to start that..
I'm 27 and I think that plays a part too because I've been feeling the growing happening to my mind and my personality has started to make sense now, but it's only my sister of all people that I can get into super deep conversations about feelings and the psychology of other people and stuff, but as of writing this I dunno what her type is XD
I actually had to take a second to make sure I remember her birthday too.. Oh God
I am an Infp, but idk why isfps attracted me towards them. I would love being with isfps
I feel with isfp is they ( I) believe in something without enough data so when se experience a lot that belief changes over time we start seeing reasons Te by our own experience without people influence of why that belief is no longer true.
listening to this hurts, but i learned a lot. like just Te deciding, and that the pure version of your Fi desires involves Te.
Another amazing video! I have a lot of experience with this type. Everything you both said was accurate and described in creative ways, contributing to my understanding of ISFPs. Thanks!
Yes, ISFP are indeed an evil personality type.
_Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality')_
I recommend researching 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!
The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till.
ISFP (and ESFP) are the most complicit, narcissitic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependants' (look up the definition).
SUMMARY:
Evil personality: ESFJ (ALL), ESTJ (cluster-b)
[Secretly] Evil and narcissit-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL).
☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict (and at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you. .
PS: ESFJ are Amber Heard behind the public mask.
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#Save_Soil
I‘m prepared to be called out a million times watching this 😂
Thanks guys for talking about us ISFPs, it‘s fun to see other peoples insights :)
Incredible for Fi. I’m totally like that. Arguing for years about a subject to change my mind … 🤣 black and white flipflopping.
Is it more a ISFP thing than a INFP thing ?
@@noemiem.6287 Nah. INFPs are like that, too.
I'm an INTJ/INFJ and I can't stand my ISFP roommate.She has these beliefs that some,I find unreasonable and irrational,and I live by Ni,want to be logical and it is so hard to communicate.
Personnaly I love isfps, I love their vibes
Aw thank you for voicing it out❤
I believe you are correct about that last comment. :) Good work guys.
the only time i felt a little roasted was when you said that youre sort of creating a philosophy of why you don't have to do so much, because..
genuinely Se sees other people and how theyre interacting with each other and space. Often times I see more "productive" people work themselves to the bone to get the "success" they want at the cost of their relationships and quality of physical health and mental health. Which I think Isfp and istp really care about like physical health. So the philosophy isn't like just a temporary excuse to get out of things- I think for me at least I genuinely don't think it's ethical for me to work myself to death or conform to what other people want me to do or spend my time how others see fit. I want to enjoy life and yea honestly live in the moment. I think everyone deserves that right and to some degree I think that has to do with how much society values people and contentment instead of like chasing material things and climbing a social ladder.
Being valued for who you are and not how much you have accomplished or can give and valuing others in the same respect I think is really important and almost like this unconditional love sort of mentality. Ironically with Se parent Isfp wants to give others the best experience they can. Just not being valued based off of monetary things I guess you know because it feels very shallow. Shallow and a little untrustworthy.
sometimes I see T types as like the monopoly guy. Or the Onceler ready to cut down all my trees like in the Lorax and do away with my (serenity) for the sake of boosting their own self prestige/ pretention and bragging rights/ and monetary gain. Although I might enjoy fancy things and a little bragging here and there - too much is just very off-putting to me and a little like 'hey this guy probably is only talking to you to get something out of you or make himself look smart.' ukno?
These are what annoy other people about us.. not how we "feel".. lol.. we are a sensitive group.. I could relate to some points and not so much to others. It could depress some but motivate others, like why not take steps to reach our goals!?!
i guess its a question of like
what are your goals exactly?@@LuLu-kz4pv
Isfp here too and I feel the exact same way!!! I‘m actually so baffled you basically said what I had been thinking about these past few weeks as im doing a big job search right now! Sending love :D ❤
This hit close to home BYEEE. Im pretty convinced Im an ISFP
Re: goals. I don't have a problem with goals as a whole; it's evident they're an important part of organizing anything and moving forward in a directed way. But I do have a problem with some of the western belief that surrounds goals culture; particularly the belief/insinuation that if you are struggling, it must be because you aren't planning/grinding effectively enough and need to adapt. When in reality, capitalist society purposefully traps people in poverty. It purposefully makes sure some people are unhoused to scare the working class. It is specifically designed to consolidate any and all power over land, resources, factories, etc., into the hands of a few people. Some people will work very hard and effectively, and still lose everything.
I bring this up not to criticize you; I haven't seen any indication you think this way. But I bring it up because it's something I see hinted at in some conversations about MBTI, especially when a more goal-oriented, future-planning type is talking about a more idealistic, improvisational type. The insinuation is that the idealistic, improvisational type needs to be reigned in and brought back to reality, and I don't think that's a complete picture of the situation; I think it's biased toward what the goal-oriented, future planning type believes life is about. I think a more accurate picture of the situation in the capitalist context is that the goal-oriented, future planning type needs to be less accepting of the status quo and the idealistic, improvisational type needs to be more directed in their opposition to it. They probably can complement each other in this way, where the one is an effective organizer of opposition and the other is effective at making sure things are not being derailed into an opportunist direction.
There is something else to this as well that I find curious, which is that the degree of stubbornness between those two polarities may get exaggerated in typing descriptions because of personal conflicts where people are feeling invalidated and ignored, and doubling down on their behavior as a result. So to get a bit more specific, you can imagine something like:
Planning type: You need to take care of this thing yesterday! It's very important!
Improvisational type: But it's not that important to me.
Planning type: It doesn't matter if it's important to you, you need to care about the consequences!
Improvisational type: I can deal with those consequences when they come.
Planning type: You aren't prepared for that!
Improvisational type: I don't need to be, I'm fine with improvising.
So the planning type is feeling like their obvious advice about handling what they see as the "realities of life" in a practical way is being ignored. And the improvisational type is feeling like their obvious capability with handling what they see as the "realities of life" as they come is being ignored. In reality, you can plan poorly and you can improvise poorly. There are no guarantees either way. But the planning type sees theirs as the best way for everybody (because they are projecting it outward) and the improvisational type sees theirs as the best way for them (because they are projecting it inward) resulting in this tension that is a "takes two to tango" conflict, but feels one-sided from the improviser's perspective because they are projecting inward and the other person is projecting outward. Neither is really being fair. The planner needs to be more understanding of differing ways of living life and the improviser needs to be more thoughtful about how their way of life impacts those around them, for better or worse, recognizing that just because they aren't projecting their way outward doesn't mean they aren't impacting other people's lives. Or something like that.
new subscriber .. I'm taking notes and drawing what I'm not able to write
They come across as apathetic and just going with their flow
If things get toxic with them they can start to compete with you on things and be envious.
I can definitely see that!
Ikr? They are an evil personality type.
_Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality')_
I recommend researching 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!
The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till.
ISFP (and ESFP) are the most complicit, narcissitic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependants' (look up the definition).
SUMMARY:
Evil personality: ESFJ (ALL), ESTJ (cluster-b)
[Secretly] Evil and narcissit-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL).
☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict (and at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you. 🙏🏾
PS: ESFJ are Amber Heard behind the public mask.
___________
#Save_Soil
VERY true. My mom is an INFP who behaves a lot like an ISFP. She's very peaceful/dreamy when left alone, but if you pick on her, WATCH OUT. She can drop some truth bombs that'll curl your toes.
Yikes. I definitely feel that. (Me ISFP) I dont consider myself to be a very „toxic“ person in general as I usually just live by „live and let live“. But some people and how they act around others, just bug me soooo bad and I cant help being judgemental. Usually I dont lash out though, unless they are actively being assholes to my loved ones.
I am an isfp, I have taken multiple tests over different time periods and it's always isfp, and the example you gave about middle ground for Fi, I feel is wrong (for me personally). I do have logical judgement and because I have a very empathetic side, I feel for every side of several issues. The abortion example you gave about middle ground for me is definitely different than what you said. I am for legal and safe abortion, but I also don't think it should be used as birth control. I feel like women's lives and their bodily autonomy is more important than that of a fetus, but abortion is still something that makes me sad while I still think it should be available to all women. Just my 2 cents lol.
I am intp and my wife of 10 yrs is an isfp. I fully agree with this video.
I'm probably stuck in a fi/ni loop lol
Some behavior could pass as autism as well , ( and it's a little part of population ,so could fit the description)
There is an spectrum , for example it's very difficult to do things you don't are interested, idk about sensory overload in isfp .
So when you get to ESTP will it be just annoying?
Is it weird im stuck between isfp and enfp? Im 16 and since a couple years back I've identified with the enfp. I think i couple be either in an isfp loop, or im an infp in denial because im biased and i dont like infps😭
this video made me realize that i'm in an Fi-Ni loop
My isfp mom is a natural leader. Narcissism helps with that lol.
She isn't a natural leader. 🤦🏽
ouch, my husband which i believe is isfp and i see a lot of him in what you’ve described in this video. i personally struggle with his optimism so much because when i start breaking it down it never makes sense and is not objective at all! same goes for budgets, plans that involve certain type of time limitations or careful scheduling etc. he has so much faith in himself and his decisions, when what i see is unjustified excitement. so we always end up arguing over him trying to make me take part in his plans which i know will fail so i refus, him calling me a naysayer and me being the judgmental “i told you so” self 😂
If you married an ISFP, you've made a huge error.
@@Human_01 what a ridiculous comment
You sound unsupportive.
You’re supposed to be supporting him and encouraging him not telling him he will fail
I am DYING…. Just took the test last night and I took it five times and got. ISFP each time. I am a Calvinist, I was vegan, and then randomly decide not to be….. this whole thing has me triggered😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂 that's hilarious
what you said about flip flopping is so true. I have been a democrat my whole life , wanted biden to win...Now i can't stand him and my views are more conservative . I never really cared about politics, now I love it and have very very strong convictions and i am fiercely loyal to trump
Not an ISFP, but you're definitely not alone there 😂 Lifelong Dem who is now team DeSantis
Its crazy seeing my memories from 2016 and now I’m for trump 😭
Alexis what type are you? Thanks 😁
She’s an INTJ
Im always isfp-a every time i take these tests
Im a ENFJ-T who likes a ISFP ❤
I love ENFJs. I am an ISFP and have always loved the ENFJs in my life. My nephew is super cool and me and him bond really well. My ENFJ coworkers are awesome, also out side of work I love them. Want to find me a single ENFJ someday
@@Sweet_Steve yea. The isfp I like is the only type I've been unable to fully read emotionally. Leaves him rather mysterious which I find attractive. Of course he has other qualities too I like. And he is always unpredictable which sometimes drives me crazy but I also enjoy. It's frustrating at times cause I can't fully read him. I can to a extent but he is good at hiding when he wants too. However I do sense he is holding back feelings for me out of fear. I recognize the signs cause I've been the same way in the past after being hurt one to many times. His actions speak more then his words, but I'd love to hear him say he likes me too at some point. I'm patient. ^_^
@@XxBrittany20xX That's awesome you have love and patience for him. It's hard to get ISFPs to move off their course sometimes, and do things they are not "planning" or really "feeling" like changing or doing. I would ask questions to him and see what his plans are, and what his feelings are on who he would want to be with. Maybe get him to think some on different possibilities, of say relationships. Food for thought is powerful for ISFPs to maybe see things differently.
Keep feeding him thoughts and questions, and see if he is really someone who does have any desire for someone like you or not.
I hope things workout between him and yourself.
-Steve
Also to add, when he feels safe enough and trusting enough of you.. or he gains enough confidence or.. less fear holding himself back.. he will open up to you.
Im projecting some, but I would strongly go with that approach
@@Sweet_Steve oh I've seen many things on his actions saying he likes me. Even from his close friends they say he acts differently around me then others.
Do u guys also look at your enneagram?
Oh nvm u mentioned it after lol
Do u know INTJ's bronze pair is ESFJ? Both will have all 8 cognitive functions as top 4 functions which balances the introvert and extrovert. It also good for growth like Ne child looks upto Ni hero etc.., And INTJ's pedagogue relationship is ESFP Which is more difficult to handle as romantic relationship.
Actually the INTJ’s pedagogue relationship is with the ENFP and ISTJ for the ESFP.
@@hamidousy5460In a pedagogue relationship, the judging function are the same but the level of functioning is different where the perception functions are complementary and function at the same level.
You ESFJ's are EFFIN SADISTS!!! THEY SHOULDN'T EXIST!!!!
Bieber is ESFP
Sounds like INFP big time🧐🧐🧐
They are two sides of the same coin, honestly. My mom is an INFP but acts SO MUCH like an ISFP.
Sis is an ISFP & I'm also INTJ
LET HIM TALK
i am isfp and i can say he is comfortable just listening to her and don't feel need to speak.
So good but you talk so fast, I’m missing lots of important words. Please slow down and speak clearly.
i felt this too. I just put the video speed to 0.9 and it's so much easier to comprehend things in my head lol
I couldn't tell who is the man and who is the female in this video. This lack of clear balance made me uneasy, good content though. You should find yourself someone with more masculine traits, I can tell the importance. You are looking for a leader and he is looking for a leader. He can't deliver what you're asking for. My comment might come off as offense and that's ok.
- ENTJ