Married woman, here. I have been married for many years to a man that I love. In all these years I have NEVER gone out without him. No "girls night outs". NEVER! He doesn't go out without me either. People who love and respect each other don't do this. They don't go to singles hang-outs like bars or clubs without the one they love. The people who DO go out alone or with friends to those places are either single (great, no problem) or they are looking for something else because they are unsatisfied with their relationship. If I go to a bar or club with female friends, I will get hit on. I will get men approaching me and asking for my phone number. Is my husband supposed to sit home alone, like a stooge, while this is going on? He's not stupid and neither am I. We don't make ourselves look "available" to the opposite sex. NEVER! When you are committed and you want to preserve your relationship, you don't leave anything up to chance. You don't cause your mate to feel insecure and wonder about what is going on. If something makes them jealous and you say "oh, you are so controlling and insecure", you are a piece of garbage and you don't deserve to be in a relationship with a loyal person. Cut the crap. Either you are one hundred per cent committed to someone you love and you show it, or you do the honest thing and let them go and be with someone who actually respects them. Don't waste someone's time and insult their intelligence with your petty mind games.
I commend you for your loyalty to your man. Just got out of a relationship with a female that always went out to a bar, not coming home and acting as if this is normal. We also have a child together and it was always my fault... Thanks for listening
@@kevinwilson6270 I'm glad you are out of that relationship. Good on you! You deserve much better and by god, you will find it, now that you are free. As for her, she is a piece of trash and she was trying to manipulate you by telling you it was all your fault. It wasn't. It was her fault for being a scum-bag and trying to break down the mind and heart of her child's father. There are good women out there who would NEVER treat you that way. Best of luck to you and your child.
The OP doesn't know that his GF has broken up with him mentally and emotionally. She have checked out of the relationship and is seeking out another guy before she ends the relationship in person. Giving her no out, hiding her phone, girls night out are activities of single person. All these are redflags. OP should end the relationship.
Whenever I start a new relationship, I tell my girl from the very first day that I will not tolerate any disrespect of any kind. If a girl is not happy and satisfied mentally, emotionally and physically with me and needs validation from other men, then the relationship is over.
Some betas are blind to it or otherwise don't care, keep making excuses because they're desperate and know it's hard for them to find a woman Guys with options do NOT put up with it, and even if you don't have options, monk mode is more attractive to self respecting men.
because she's a coward. she's doing these things so that she doesn't have to be the guilty one that breaks up with him first. females are extremely cowardly with breakups. when they do this, never ever leave them. make them be the one to do it so that they have to live with the guilt.
She gave him the chance to check her by being open about “guys talking to her” when she went out. Girls that want to cheat would have kept their mouths shut and made up a story like going to a book club or Tupperware party. She told him because she wanted him to tell her no or leave so she’d have respect for him. the story shows it got worse as she lost confidence
I've been through this. She's already cheating on him or has another guy ready. Breakup is imminent. These kind of women will do this and force you to become jealous (which is natural) and then breakup with you saying you became jealous and controlling, making you look like the bad guy.
Boom. Ive had this too. An ex kept talking about this other guy she worked with.... endlessly. When i showed jealously she used it against me, making me out to be an idiot for bringing it up. When the inevitable split happened, who did she start seeing immediately? Girls like this can be sly fuckers. 15 years on and shes fat and ugly. Lucky escape
Bc they are the bad one or not the truthful one and it makes zero sense to just do this. Break up be honest be accountable and move on. Why is that so hard for people? They are scared to hurt someone ? Easy don’t bother dating. Simply. Sheesh people are legit low dating IQ
All women know how to make the guy look like the bad guy. They just say - he is an abuser when your not around. They know your going to say I don't see it.
Dude, if you're in a serious relationship, you simply do not let your girl speak and flirt with other men. You tell her that shit simply isn't happening or there is the front door leading out to the street. This isn't hard.
If a girl is really into you she voluntarily stop talking to other men. If you have to command it of her then you've already lost. She is not that into you.
Jose actually most guys are simps and won’t command anything out of her. They just let the girl walk all over them. If she realizes you have standards and are willing to enforce them that sets you apart from all the simps out there. So once she realizes that a lot of times she will fall in line.
Just broke up with my girl because she started doing things so I would break up with her for! Now she does claim the victim that I broke up with her.. why did I? She was talking to other guys..one in particular and I told her she needs to stop or I won't put up with it. That made her do it more. So I told her we are done. I loved this woman and it's very hard for me emotionally now but after being part of the red pill community and hearing videos like these helps keep me strong. Thank you for helping us guys out here!
Great work mate, you dealt with that like a boss. If she had any class she would either stop doing it or at least have the balls to break up with you first. So sounds like you dodged a bullet.
My friend, I could say that SOMETIMES this is a major SHIT TEST. Sometimes and JUST SOMETIMES she will talk to another guys to test your reaction, but in the practical world sometimes these shit happens like the stage before a cheating, so the line between one thing or another it's extremely thin and delicate. You need extremely high social intelligence to spot on what's really happening. Remember that a blind spot we have as men is that we're still being shit tested in the relationship. I say this because a girl dumped me 2 weeks ago because I was not happy with the idea that she was "very social"; I think that was going to be an inferno for me; I was not ok and she dumped me. That means that was not a shit test, that was a very big one alarm.
Probably still is her best option and she’ll regret it. Just because a woman believes there may be better for her, that doesn’t mean it’s true. We always assume it’s the dudes fault
Let her go with her friends. Especially early on. She will show you her true colors. First sign of her not being faithful, out the door. 9 hours, 9 days, 9 years. Doesn't matter. Frame and boundaries.
Yeah never try control her behaviour. Trying to control it will only tell her what she needs to keep a secret. If you want to see who someone is, watch them when they think they arent being watched
@@fml5910 them boys had their head screwed on right. Howd they go about it though? Like private investigator or just making sure they had a friend at places where they knew their girl was?
I knew a guy who was married 10 years to a beautiful woman and had 3 children. He finally got a divorce when he found out he didn’t know who the fathers are.
@Pappy56 - Unfortunately, this sort of story is more common than most men realise. Rich had a show a few months ago which covered the high statistics of women who have cuckolded their husbands, given birth to other men's kids, and then foisted these kids onto their husbands. It's more common than you think!
literally how my 3 year relationship ended up when i was 22, she was 19. I was bluepilled, she started to hide her phone, going out without me, getting less and less intimate this is classic
Oh yup sounds like my story lol now that I'm red pill it's so hard to even see chicks who have anything to offer at my age of 24. Just grinding through college
Never date a party girl. If she's having "girls night out" don't date her because the chances of her cheating are 100 percent. She can go out to her friends house or something innocent like that but the bars/club scene, no way. This guy is being cheated on left and right. No girl who is serious about the relationship she's in is giving out her number to guys and texting them. This guy committed almost a decade of his life to this girl so I can see why his judgement is clouded but he needs to use his brain to see things for what they are.
I dated a girl for 3 years fell absolutely in love with her. She started texting a "friend" that she ended up banging a week after she broke up with me. No remorse.
this is true as in they have the options, but if your women is loyal she wont talk to another man outside of work or business. Ive had men hit up my fiance over text from work and she would just pass me the phone so i could mess with them. always know where she is at all times, it works better in a strong religion like islam, you cannot go to many places without a man.
@@jackmemphis777 for context she actually has no idea what they are saying since she doesn't understand english. I just choose to mess with them since they are actually very predatory.
Women that engage that type of life, I believe is because they can’t fill the part of their self that connect with A person, that one special person capable of share love and life. I tend to believe that those women care for success in their jobs and are very masculine. I don’t believe that the reason is attention but the lack of a real and unique connection with one man. They’re hollow, party too much, full of excuses and usually get married after 40 with low level men.
Yeah, every girl I dated always pushed me to end the relationship in the end. So they could complain to their mothers how insensitive that was from me...
This is one of the ultimate shows of disrespect. I believe adults have the freedom to choose what they do with their life, however, if someone’s in a healthy, committed relationship and they start behaving like this it’s one of the most critical red flags there is. There’s only two ways you can handle this: Establish firm boundaries to ensure this doesn’t happen again, or, walk away with your head held high. This behaviour never leads to a positive outcome if you leave unaddressed so the most you can do is take back the frame and then go from there.
If I were in this situation I would read it as the relationship is already over. She’s lost interest, he can try and man up and save things, by changing his behaviours, doing the work etc, but if he did, he would then realise he doesn’t want her anyway. She is disrespectful, a waste of space as far as a relationship goes. 9 years is a long time, and this is where his problem lies. Without that emotional attachment he would see it clearly and let go
Facts. You have to walk away with your self respect in tact. It's nothing you can say to her that she won't spin as you being insecure or it being not a big deal. And if you say nothing the behavior only gets more and more emboldened. She stops trying to hide it altogether and even posts it on her social media.
Exactly this happened with my ex wife. She'd pick up these "just a friend" guys from Instagram, Snapchat, work, school, friend circle. Then when I'd bring how disrespectful it was, I was called paranoid, insecure, toxic for not trusting her, and hypocritical because according to her she always had guy friends and I never had a problem with it.
Hit the nail on the head! She realized she wasted her youth with who she “loved” as a teen, now has the feeling she’s been missing out, doesn’t see him as she once did, and wants to jump aboard the CC… this man is going to get CRUSHED if he already hasn’t.. buddy you lost her a loooonngg time ago, just let it go.
I was dating a much younger woman and we were separated by distance; several thousand miles actually. She was brilliant and gorgeous, doing a double major in university. I was who I am; a very unusual man, polymath, entrepreneur, fighter, artist etc. At a certain point I stated that the 5 thousand miles of distance was going to have to go away, or the relationship would fail because she was starting to spend time with classmates at bars, including one dude who kept saying, "I SWEAR that I'm not interested in you in way other than as a friend!" To which I replied that sure as hell, the day was going to come when that same guy would say that he'd fallen for her "despite his best efforts." Sure enough, that is EXACTLY what happened not two weeks later. I was building an 8-figure tourism company in Costa Rica at the time, and made it very simple; either she switched to the university's distance learning program, got on a plane and finished her degrees while living with me in paradise, or say goodbye. Suffice it to say, iit's a dozen years later and we have companies in multiple countries and industries. And we're doing GREAT! :)
@@Redhotlugnut Nope, but I also don't need any more women. The one that I have is smart, hot, AND hard working! I hit the trifecta so to speak. Neither of us are peerfect, but we both know what we've got, and we both take care to do our best by each other every day. For contrast a million years ago I was in a terrible marriage, my then wife had suffered bad trauma and I didn't know how to help her, she wouldn't go to therapy for instance. She was always miserable and complaining, whereas my (then young and idealistic,) philosophy was that eating hotdogs and beans from a can under a bridge should be fun if you're doing it with the right person. My philosophy now is to sieze every day, know who you are and what you'll tolerate vs what you won't. One of my rules is to use rituals to make sure that we never become complacent ie. I cook for us every night, and we eat by candle light.... literally every single night. Make your rules about what you'll tollerate in your life, then live by them even if it means that you're alone for a bit until you have your stuff together. It's not about changing other people, it's more about who you'll give the gift of your precious and very limited time to.
@@williamwillner9277 Congrats on finding a unicorn. I've found one too and I'm very happy after 3 years of endless dating. I'm from Canada but live in Uganda now. So many hot women here it's nuts but very few meet my high standards. My gf now is well on track to becoming Mrs RHLN and we have a bunch of kids!
@@Redhotlugnut nice! I actually grew up as a missionary kid in Central Africa including Kenya, Zaire, (DRC,) and trips to Tanzania, Rwanda, Burundi and yes, Uganda too! I was nearly killed 5 times in one year, but the experience helped me to be my own person once we returned to Canada, (I have dual citizenship, Canada and the USA.) Would be happy to stay in touch! :)
That's right she'll push him to dump her then say "I didn't even do anything he was just a jealous man emotionally unstable just because I wanted to have friends"
For sure the modern women wants to come up clean always irrespective of wt she has done behind those doors and cry victim that she was dumped by the guy. Reality is the guy was strangulated till the edge untill he had his red pill and got rid of her promiscuous ass and even knowing that he will be blamed he just dnt give a dime..
For women, most relationships will last 2 years, before she says to herself, "he isn't going to marry me, so I had better get out now, because I want to be married, have children, and he is not moving forward." So if you are caught off guard by a break-up of your girl, why don't you ask her if she "thought" you would be married by now. Her answer will either show she was hopeful to spend her life with you, (but gave up by year 3) or just stringing you along until something better came around. Women can't/won't wait for long - her value goes down with time, and she knows it.
You expect guys to empathise with this 😂 you lot can’t even understand how heavily biased marriage laws are against men and in favour for women in the west. If a woman ends a relationship after two years because she has no ring, then the guy was completely correct to never give her so. Serious LTRs don’t have to be marriages, only difference is that there’s a ring or two involved and then the woman gets half the man’s assets/finances and immediate custody of the children after divorce 😂😂 what a joke. And you comment as if to say that it’s more understandable for the girl to end the relationship rather than they guy not marrying 😂 what shite.
@@alexs7028 take what you will from the comment, it was meant as a different perspective on why women leave what a man thought was a "great thing". Seems to be a few guys who call in wondering why she left despite his love for her. It's all about timing for a woman. You disagree, as is your right. You see one side, I'm presenting the other. What if she wasn't a gold digger, and gave up thinking it would never move forward. Asking the simple question harms no one. So why do women need it to be legal? For her protection- because she stops her momentum forward, & as years pass, becomes less desirable. As for marriage assets/finances - there are prenuptial agreements. Men are fools if they don't get one. But don't fault a woman for protecting herself. Both parties must do what they must. It is not a weakness on either side to compromise for the betterment of the other. Especially if children are involved.
You are spot on, and guys are so effing clueless about this. She did not not spend all this time for him for nothing, obviously she fell in love, and wasn't willing to throw it away when it got difficult, and in 9 years they have surely got into arguments and difficult times. However, you can't just sit around and wait forever, and I was in a 6 year relationship (that started when I was 19), which ended because he was delaying moving in together and was flimsy on marriage, an I'm really not about to force someone to do it. At one point I just gave up, told him that I need a definitive answer by the end of the year, which he didn't take seriously, which obviously made me resent him and lose all these feelings.
@@jk4351 Then LEAVE. She needs to LEAVE. And if she’s the type of woman playing games she’ll NEVER get married in this day and age. The men she’s gonna want probably won’t want her. Men worth having are very experienced with women and hyper cognizant of monkey branchers. And the men who aren’t won’t be wanted by women like her until her late 30s. And by then those dudes are jaded and irritable.
@@justin-credible From an outsider's perspective, yes se obviously needs to leave. What you guys are failing to realize is that she's not staying because she is a heartless, manipulative, calculated bitch, it's because she still has feelings and it's difficult to end something that was so serious and lasted so long, and there is still some hope that things will work out. These are complete strangers here, and we know only his side of the story. She might be hiding her phone because she is actually discussing him and their relationship with her friends for all we know. From my experience, my ex knew exactly what I wanted, but just decided to ignore it.
It's not easy for the average guy to walk away from a 9 year relationship. He thought she would support him and be his life partner. He doesn't want to believe that she has betrayed him and will kick him in the nuts
I used to have the “I don’t want to be controlling so yes you can go out with your girlfriends and stay at a BnB with them” mentality and it’s burned both my marriages 🤣. Hard lesson learned
Every person in a relationship needs time with friends. And nothing wrong with them going out with friends. But if they are giving out their numbers and social media? And she is trying to hide contacting them? This is a no no, for anyone who is in a relationship
Time out with friends is hitting up Buffalo Wild Wings in a semi sexy blouse and jeans or going to a bar to play pool. Going to a club where you can’t hear the person next to you in heels and pencil dress is what they are referring to.
Yeap, you can go with your friends for a hike, a picnic, a museum, restaurants, cafes, parks, play cards, board game, ride a bike, and hundreds of other things. If you need to go to noisy and stinky places like clubs and bars you're not into "time with friends"
@@alexhish2187 you can go to a club and have fun with your friends, guys and girls, especially if you want to see your favorite dj or artist or whatever and your SO can't or don't want to go for whatever reason. It's your mentality & insecurity to think that clubs are only for hooking up
I bought your book on Amazon, love it. I feel like finally someone else on the planet actually agree's with me. I've been told my whole life that I'm misogynistic, blah blah blah, fueled by feminist man-haters. Love your channel and your content. I'll continue chasing excellence and dodging bullets. Thanks again.
Can't turn a stray into a housecat. you can fool yourself into believing your stray is a housecat though, but if it ain't chipped, and it ain't spayed, it ain't truly yours.
@@IntegraDIY It's all fun and games until it s**ts out a litter of some next tomcat's spawn on your carpet, hisses and pisses at you because the grass in your lawn wasn't mowed to perfection for it's fragile azz to turd on, and it runs off and demands the government penalize you for having accomodated it, and lump you with the bill for feeding and maintaining tom-spawn. Trust man, its such a simple life rule: If you don't have unconditionally respected authority in the eyes of the law of the land, to be responsible, and accountable for it, (in turn allowing you to chip and spay it), there is no justifiable or rational reason to assume any risk of responsibility, or accountability. I've got 3 kids by 3 different mothers, that I know of. I don't pay, I don't see them. I do not adopt strays. No reason I shouldn't anonymously seed them and return them to the street. 80% of marital narcissistic discards are initiated by the wmn, adn most single m's are by choice, whether they say so or not, because they are definitively stray. If I were to adopt a 'housecat' I'd stary by heading to a country where masculine and paternal authority is respected by law, without exception (owner's authority), and then I'd vet the S* out of it and it's current/previous owners to make sure it definitively is a housecat, has been chipped, and is ready for adoption. If you can't chip and spay, it's definitively stray. It really is that simple. Has it spent it's entire life in the house, and been trained by a respected paternal and masculine authority? No? Then you know exactly where it's been and exactly what it is. (It's been on the street, and is not a true housecat). If it ain't spayed it's nature dictates its behaviour, based on environment, regardless of training. (and you can certainly determine what its mother is too). Pet it. let it 'sit on your lap' and when you're done shoo it out the door and past the electric fence, lest your lawn end up a pile of kitty-litter. I know I'm going all out here, but it's something the red pill community especially appears to have chronic trouble with. (where PUAs and Black pillers are able to move beyond the inceassant red-pill mope and cope). Tomcats, doormats, and strays. Choose your character!
Women are naturally ruthless Men have to become ruthless We are programed although we are stronger physically She’s built with strong manipulation language
I am only a few minutes into this and I can already state with confidence that this guy's relationship is already over. All that is left is the breaking up.
9:30 Back in college (late '90s), I was on again, off again with a girl and we were in that not-quite-on place when she joined a "Sweetheart's" group - an auxiliary to a fraternity, but not its own sorority. I remember tell one of my closest friends, "I'll be mad if I find out something happens with her and one of the frat boys." He replied, immediately, and bluntly, "Just be mad now!", for it was already a foregone conclusion what would happen. He was right, and I knew it (and it, indeed did come to pass). It took me a while longer to walk away from her permanently, but, you are correct, sometimes the harsh words are the most sobering and appropriate!
I would have taken a picture of myself with her phone and text this guy” I am her soon to be ex boyfriend. She’s all yours”. And walked out already. Men: We have to do better!
Women are always looking to jump up to another level and many men are also trying to do the same thing. The key is finding someone who is happy with what they have, not what they don't have. These days, women and many men are constantly looking at someone else's life on FB or IG and thinking "I want that!" and its not even about being happy, but about making other people envious or jealous of you.
Work to get yourself in the best position to be single (pack up memories and unnecessary things, get in shape, secure finances before the split) and take advantage of what's left before leaving the relationship.
my last gf would be talking to other dudes at work and on social media inappropriately. I told her it was disrespectful and that she shouldn't do it. She said she understood and she'd handle it, yet I kept on catching her having a good ole time with dudes in some conversation that would cease when I walked up and the guy wouldn't talk to me or be brief and serious. I eventually dumped her after she started displaying all the flags of cheating, dressing different ,hair different, makeup different, all of sudden wanted to tone her butt by doing squats lol. I'm too keen on that stuff I've already lived thru it more than once. she thought I'd chase her and I haven't seen or talked to her since been over 6mos. she belongs to the streets as far as I'm concerned .
I've had way too many instances of a woman blowing up my phone with "good morning", "how was your lunch?", "what did you eat" etc. text and phone calls for me to believe that women continue to talk to other dudes even in relationships. When a woman is dealing with you she deals with YOU. I know this is Rich's favorite line but I think he just had bad experiences with women and is a bit black pilled on this subject. And if a girl is really into you and you are not just a placeholder she will decide for herself not to go to the club or to Vegas, you will not have to dictate that to her.
The only thing missing from this equation is, the majority of women need guidance and seek that from their group , which normally gives them terrible advice. And they dont seem to come up with a solution themselves. Very low accountability and self entitlement
@@Andy-Andeee I cannot disagree that a woman is as good as her friend group. I would advise that you stay away from women who have bad friends, if a woman lacks the intelligence to distinguish between bad and good friends then she is not worth you time. Men too are a sum of their friends though to be fair. Very few people can resist peer pressures but it's each person's responsibility to at least choose the right peers.
A very similar thing started happening to me a few months ago. My now ex has this friend who I think might have an open relationship with her husband; either way she spends so many nights out to bars without him and she's planning a girls trip to Vegas or Cancun and my gf at the time was invited and was thinking of going. The moment I heard that I knew it was over.
How many times have we seen this? Woman does sketchy shit involving other guys. Husband or bf notices it and asks "wtf?" Woman completely dismisses his concern, plays dumb, or flips out. Then, dumps bf because "he's too controlling and insecure. He should trust me enough to let me fuck other dudes because if you dont trust someone you shouldnt be with them.
She doesn't get to have the security of a relationship with all the benefits while she shops for a new dude to monkey branch to. She's having the exciting part of dating with no risk of being on her own.
TBF guys like this are gaslighted by society into believing they're the bad ones in the relationship for even questioning stuff like this. He's probably thinking in his head "I'm going to get called insecure, they're going to call me jealous and controlling." Women are masters at this type of manipulation. I'd wager most of his friends associate with her and would side with her immediately in this gynocentric society. So let's be a little easier on him and not call him stupid. His behaviour is db, but he's been manipulated to his entire life.
When you see this happening don't say anything to her, wait till she is gone and get all your important stuff and get it to a safe spot so she can not get it. If you have a joint account, clear it out. Cancel all credit cards you have together or she has that is in your name. Then dump her.
His girlfriend has checked out and she's laying the not subtle hints that he should too. I was in a 4 year relationship that started going in a likewise direction, she started going out more without me and hanging out with other women, distancing herself from me. I will say that when you're on the inside of the situation (I iterate on it being the first time it happens), it's hard to see it for what it is. But when it's THIS bad and obvious, it's time to get out before she goes to take you for all you're worth. And if at any point in any future relationship your girlfriend is starting to spend less time with you and more time with ANYONE else (unless it's along the lines of sick/dying relatives/close friends), it's time to just let it go. The longer it goes on, the more damage she can do.
I love that ending: "Should I ask her"....seriously??? He already DID ask her about it, she told him, and now he wants to believe its "OK" ??? Poor fellah :(
Been a listener and sub for a good minute. One thing: thanks for keeping it real and I’m glad you did because if you wouldn’t have kept it 100 on this one, I’d be gone. Keep up the great job for the manosphere.
I guarantee the guy in this relationship is not making the money she thought he would make. So she’s looking for a better deal. Not that he’s in the wrong, she is in the wrong. He just needs to ditch her.
She's basically telling him to his damn face that she's already looking for his replacement or that she's going to cheat on him, if she isn't already. There were way too many damn red flags in the last nine years, and he didn't notice any one of them. Dude needs to just take the L and realize that she doesn't want to be with anymore. She's about to enter her 304 phase because she's having nine years worth of FOMO and she's about to let it all out by getting her back blown out.
Women use the "you are insecure, you are controlling" card every time is convenient for them, it's so funny how they manipulate, a decent woman that really wants to be with you wouldn't meet anybody else, would respect you, period!
If someone wants to do something why stop them? You can’t control other people (and you shouldn’t) Trying to control someone is like trying to make them a slave and you’re their owner The only person you should care about controlling is your own self and your actions So in a scenario where someone wants to do something the you let them do freely what they want, but then you let them know there’s always consequences to actions…. You simply leave and bounce
"Should I ask her about it?" No need to. She's told you in a million ways she's looking. Leave her now and never put up with this sort of bs from a woman again. There's no coming back from this in your current relationship. Once you've allowed this to go on, you're done. It's over.
I remember when the song by Leslie Gore came out about 1962 called "You don't own me" That song had a huge impact on girls attitudes-it kinda started there and then in my recollection. It gave girls bad attitudes, I still deplore that awful song. ua-cam.com/video/cTpvirQ-hPA/v-deo.html
If she's remained with him for 9 years, he must be a good guy. But, the grass is always greener, her girlfriends are telling her. So she'll end up dumping her man of 9 years in order to 'see how the other half is living' and in the end, she will realize she fucked up, should have kept what she had. Then in a few years of being 'pumped and dumped', she'll be asking, "Where have all the good men gone?" Well you HAD a good man, sister, but YOU thought you deserved MORE. Enjoy your cats.
Is a simple thing guys if you have a woman don’t deal with that shit, if she wants to go out with her friends and girls night and shit like that you’re not important to her, just dump her and find another one that’s it
He should just tell her he's lost interest in her before she does that to him .. I've done this and they're always shocked .. but the reality is it's over .. be a man and end it
I've been married for years, and I don't have single girlfriends. I don't have girls' trips. I don't have nights out without my husband. It's weird to me for a woman to want to do that and nothing nefarious going on...
To the minority of women out there that are genuinely good and wholesome please become more vocal in the media and public spaces. As they only listen to men when its already too late. Your the only ones that can prevent it early as mothers sisters and friends.
@@HandsOfSweed that is a good point. What I did,was I Left a note on the front door (take a picture) stating"come tomorrow morning at 9am sharp, I have to go somewhere all day at 9:30 to come pick your stuff up" and make sure you have a cop there so she can't accuse you of hurting her and/or steal her stuff. Been there,done that..
After a 2 year "simped" engagement to an untrusting woman, I now have the attitude that I could care less about any woman. Fast forward to my current girlfriend .(she sought me out-I wasn't looking) . My attitude with her is if you're here -you're here, you leave tomorrow......oh well. I wasn't looking for a GF anyways. ha,ha When you don't care, they are interested!
If a girl wants to go out, let her go out, then if she's hiding her phone and texting other dudes..Time for you to also go out...out of her life, out to go do your own thing..ALONE. don't get angry just leave..millions of girls out there. Minority mindset🤦♀️🤷♂️🤦
Nobody can control another, so all this talk about "DO NOT ALLOW" is futile. Its really simple guys, if your girl has the deposition to go out without you and chat with guys, then LEAVE HER ASAP. Nothing to discuss, just let her go and move on.
Actually, these things must be established and talked about before the relationship even starts. That way there's no confusion about what one can or can't do, and the tone has been set. "If A, then B." "If you do XYZ, then there's the door."
They’ll just lie about what they’re doing (I’ve been there). I agree with the OP, if they’re doing this, just exit the relationship. Stuff like this does not need to be discussed, let her be how she wants in the relationship, if you find it disrespectful, then leave. No conversation, no feelings, no rules... if she doesn’t inherently have the respectful behavior in a relationship you expect, then just end it.
@user26 If you have to establish those kinda rules it makes it sound like you’re dealing with a kid….. thats the kinda convo you would have with them With an adult woman if you also have to have that kinda talk with her is she even worth it to start any thing meaningful with?
Wives do this too every often. My ex wife did shes an ex for a reason. My mother older sister has done this but they didn't market themselves, only exception.
It sounds like they, he missed the window to lock it down. Why are they "dating" for 9 years? They are still playing by high school rules and neither has matured. No mentoring from Males in his life? No mother or father figure?
It's funny when they call them out they call us insecure and jealous lmao. No it's called respect. Exactly like Rich said. Giving out numbers you're marketing yourself. A girl does that to me again. I'll just find someone else. We can replace them just as much as they us.
The issue is that as a guy, if you've been programmed early on by mainstream media and the female narrative, while having little to no experience with women, then this behavior of the girlfriend comes as terribly confusing. It's a war between the false beliefs and the common sense/intuition. That's why experience for a man is necessary. The disenchantment requires a lot of pain.
After my divorce 20yrs ago, I read many counseling books in my search to understand what was going on with me in my relationship with a woman.. anyway, I read that when you go out together say to a party and she starts talking to other guys socially (which happens) and this bothers you, don't hover around her as the pathetic boyfriend/husband. You need to start conversations with other woman. Pick the 'hottest' one of the group. See what happens then, how your GF responds. Bet you she'll come standing next to you. Play them at their own game. Just be better as it. Action .. reaction. Otherwise you'll become the pussy.
This was great. I am in a text thread with some buddies i grew up with and who all live in different states now and one dude sends us these things from reddit about once a week, they are hysterical. Honestly its mostly common sense type stuff they are asking questions about. Btw you know this dude probably paid for her to go to Vegas.
Going out to bars is a hookup culture, allowing it is basically allowing your girl to sleep around. If ya wanna go dance and have fun with your girls, do it at home with your friends, throw a party with your girlfriends at home. And i bet now some girls will say something along the lines of: "But it's not the same as going out" And you'd be completely right, it's not, because you don't have random guys at home watching you and validating your beauty like there would be at a bar or a nightclub. And if you need that from anyone but your man, then there is problems in your relationship and your priorities are not him.
My best friend married a bartender... she cheated with her step brother one night and the marriage was over in 3 months. 😆 Now he has to pay her alimony and child support for the next 18 years.
Married woman, here. I have been married for many years to a man that I love. In all these years I have NEVER gone out without him. No "girls night outs". NEVER! He doesn't go out without me either. People who love and respect each other don't do this. They don't go to singles hang-outs like bars or clubs without the one they love. The people who DO go out alone or with friends to those places are either single (great, no problem) or they are looking for something else because they are unsatisfied with their relationship. If I go to a bar or club with female friends, I will get hit on. I will get men approaching me and asking for my phone number. Is my husband supposed to sit home alone, like a stooge, while this is going on? He's not stupid and neither am I. We don't make ourselves look "available" to the opposite sex. NEVER! When you are committed and you want to preserve your relationship, you don't leave anything up to chance. You don't cause your mate to feel insecure and wonder about what is going on. If something makes them jealous and you say "oh, you are so controlling and insecure", you are a piece of garbage and you don't deserve to be in a relationship with a loyal person. Cut the crap. Either you are one hundred per cent committed to someone you love and you show it, or you do the honest thing and let them go and be with someone who actually respects them. Don't waste someone's time and insult their intelligence with your petty mind games.
I commend you for your loyalty to your man. Just got out of a relationship with a female that always went out to a bar, not coming home and acting as if this is normal. We also have a child together and it was always my fault... Thanks for listening
@@kevinwilson6270 it's always your fault, controlling, possessive etc.... glad you're out of that hell
@@kevinwilson6270 I'm glad you are out of that relationship. Good on you! You deserve much better and by god, you will find it, now that you are free. As for her, she is a piece of trash and she was trying to manipulate you by telling you it was all your fault. It wasn't. It was her fault for being a scum-bag and trying to break down the mind and heart of her child's father. There are good women out there who would NEVER treat you that way. Best of luck to you and your child.
Finally a woman who tells the truth,
Very well said!
The OP doesn't know that his GF has broken up with him mentally and emotionally. She have checked out of the relationship and is seeking out another guy before she ends the relationship in person. Giving her no out, hiding her phone, girls night out are activities of single person. All these are redflags. OP should end the relationship.
Whenever I start a new relationship, I tell my girl from the very first day that I will not tolerate any disrespect of any kind.
If a girl is not happy and satisfied mentally, emotionally and physically with me and needs validation from other men, then the relationship is over.
True, they break up with you 6 months prior without letting you know. That is why they "move on so quick", it's their nature.
@@jolteon43 so basically if you don't satisfy her she leaves..
Hypergamy
Some betas are blind to it or otherwise don't care, keep making excuses because they're desperate and know it's hard for them to find a woman
Guys with options do NOT put up with it, and even if you don't have options, monk mode is more attractive to self respecting men.
She's giving this dude the chance to dump her before she crushes his soul even more. Dude, have some self respect and get out!
because she's a coward. she's doing these things so that she doesn't have to be the guilty one that breaks up with him first. females are extremely cowardly with breakups. when they do this, never ever leave them. make them be the one to do it so that they have to live with the guilt.
Very hard for a bluepill/pliable man to accomplish. But not wrong.
Facts.
nice observation 👍🔥
She gave him the chance to check her by being open about “guys talking to her” when she went out. Girls that want to cheat would have kept their mouths shut and made up a story like going to a book club or Tupperware party. She told him because she wanted him to tell her no or leave so she’d have respect for him. the story shows it got worse as she lost confidence
I've been through this. She's already cheating on him or has another guy ready. Breakup is imminent. These kind of women will do this and force you to become jealous (which is natural) and then breakup with you saying you became jealous and controlling, making you look like the bad guy.
Boom. Ive had this too. An ex kept talking about this other guy she worked with.... endlessly. When i showed jealously she used it against me, making me out to be an idiot for bringing it up. When the inevitable split happened, who did she start seeing immediately?
Girls like this can be sly fuckers. 15 years on and shes fat and ugly. Lucky escape
Bc they are the bad one or not the truthful one and it makes zero sense to just do this. Break up be honest be accountable and move on. Why is that so hard for people? They are scared to hurt someone ? Easy don’t bother dating. Simply. Sheesh people are legit low dating IQ
@@johnhathaway735 they just cant own up to the truth. Its deceitful behaviour. Ive learnt to trust my gut now
@@dannywholuv agree when it feels wrong run. Haha
All women know how to make the guy look like the bad guy. They just say - he is an abuser when your not around. They know your going to say I don't see it.
You can do one of two things with women. Either love them, or understand them. And once you understand them; you cannot love them.
Never try to understand women. Women understand women and they hate them. Al Bundy
Oh, I fucking LOVE this... permission to spread this holy word?
I remember seeing this somewhere on a forum years ago. Can’t claim any credit for it; so share at will my friend.
@@shannonbellamy7099 it has been. Many times 🤣
That is a Coach Greg Adams quote and is very accurate. #freeagentlifestyle
Dude, if you're in a serious relationship, you simply do not let your girl speak and flirt with other men. You tell her that shit simply isn't happening or there is the front door leading out to the street. This isn't hard.
If a girl is really into you she voluntarily stop talking to other men. If you have to command it of her then you've already lost. She is not that into you.
@@josetheman239 Exactly
@@josetheman239 Boundaries do need to be set and made clear first. After that you don't repeat them. She needs to know what you expect.
@@josetheman239 yeah bro I’ve seen a few of your comments and you’re very correct.
Jose actually most guys are simps and won’t command anything out of her. They just let the girl walk all over them.
If she realizes you have standards and are willing to enforce them that sets you apart from all the simps out there. So once she realizes that a lot of times she will fall in line.
Just broke up with my girl because she started doing things so I would break up with her for! Now she does claim the victim that I broke up with her.. why did I? She was talking to other guys..one in particular and I told her she needs to stop or I won't put up with it. That made her do it more. So I told her we are done. I loved this woman and it's very hard for me emotionally now but after being part of the red pill community and hearing videos like these helps keep me strong. Thank you for helping us guys out here!
Don’t turn back
Stay strong brother another better one will be along!!!
Great work mate, you dealt with that like a boss. If she had any class she would either stop doing it or at least have the balls to break up with you first. So sounds like you dodged a bullet.
good job brother. the right choice isn"t always the easy one
My friend, I could say that SOMETIMES this is a major SHIT TEST. Sometimes and JUST SOMETIMES she will talk to another guys to test your reaction, but in the practical world sometimes these shit happens like the stage before a cheating, so the line between one thing or another it's extremely thin and delicate. You need extremely high social intelligence to spot on what's really happening.
Remember that a blind spot we have as men is that we're still being shit tested in the relationship.
I say this because a girl dumped me 2 weeks ago because I was not happy with the idea that she was "very social"; I think that was going to be an inferno for me; I was not ok and she dumped me. That means that was not a shit test, that was a very big one alarm.
9 years ago, he was her best option. Now, she’s shopping, and turning him into the plow horse…while she’s getting plowed.
🤣🤣🤣
Probably still is her best option and she’ll regret it. Just because a woman believes there may be better for her, that doesn’t mean it’s true. We always assume it’s the dudes fault
Let her go with her friends. Especially early on. She will show you her true colors. First sign of her not being faithful, out the door. 9 hours, 9 days, 9 years. Doesn't matter. Frame and boundaries.
Sho u right
Yeah never try control her behaviour. Trying to control it will only tell her what she needs to keep a secret. If you want to see who someone is, watch them when they think they arent being watched
@@fml5910 them boys had their head screwed on right. Howd they go about it though? Like private investigator or just making sure they had a friend at places where they knew their girl was?
You're definitely right!!
I knew a guy who was married 10 years to a beautiful woman and had 3 children. He finally got a divorce when he found out he didn’t know who the fathers are.
@Derp Derp cool response bro
@Derp Derp
10 years worth of time and energy he won't get back. That's terrifying.
@Pappy56 - Unfortunately, this sort of story is more common than most men realise. Rich had a show a few months ago which covered the high statistics of women who have cuckolded their husbands, given birth to other men's kids, and then foisted these kids onto their husbands. It's more common than you think!
@@skmotorcycles8123 I 100% fully support that.
literally how my 3 year relationship ended up when i was 22, she was 19. I was bluepilled, she started to hide her phone, going out without me, getting less and less intimate this is classic
Oh yup sounds like my story lol now that I'm red pill it's so hard to even see chicks who have anything to offer at my age of 24. Just grinding through college
dodged a bullet there
Definitely someone else in the picture at this point.
You two are too young to be in a long-term relationship. She has a whole life still ahead of her .
She found out the mad, insane attractiveness of being at TOP peak age. Sorry.
Yours is coming, too. 😉
Never date a party girl. If she's having "girls night out" don't date her because the chances of her cheating are 100 percent. She can go out to her friends house or something innocent like that but the bars/club scene, no way. This guy is being cheated on left and right. No girl who is serious about the relationship she's in is giving out her number to guys and texting them. This guy committed almost a decade of his life to this girl so I can see why his judgement is clouded but he needs to use his brain to see things for what they are.
I dated a girl for 3 years fell absolutely in love with her. She started texting a "friend" that she ended up banging a week after she broke up with me. No remorse.
"Women are not single, they always talk to someone" thanks for this wakeup call. I think my issue is over trusting and illusions I had before.
Unless she is ugly and unattractive, in that case what are you doing dude!
this is true as in they have the options, but if your women is loyal she wont talk to another man outside of work or business. Ive had men hit up my fiance over text from work and she would just pass me the phone so i could mess with them. always know where she is at all times, it works better in a strong religion like islam, you cannot go to many places without a man.
@@zerodev6691 wow thats cool, her literally passing the phone to you to mess with them is a serious sign of commitment and loyalty
@@jackmemphis777 for context she actually has no idea what they are saying since she doesn't understand english. I just choose to mess with them since they are actually very predatory.
Every girl who hangs out with guys while in a relationship should ask themselves 1 question
How would you feel if your mom was doing that to your dad?
a lot of them don't have a dad so...
@@impudentdomain and then a bunch of the ones who do would be like "woohoo! Go mom!" lol
Women that engage that type of life, I believe is because they can’t fill the part of their self that connect with A person, that one special person capable of share love and life. I tend to believe that those women care for success in their jobs and are very masculine. I don’t believe that the reason is attention but the lack of a real and unique connection with one man. They’re hollow, party too much, full of excuses and usually get married after 40 with low level men.
Their answer will change to whatever is convenient for themselves.
The answer will be different if they already old, still single and have a son who's in the same situation. That's when they will say is wrong.
Yeah, every girl I dated always pushed me to end the relationship in the end. So they could complain to their mothers how insensitive that was from me...
As a woman it because the mom and dad will always be on the picture and families stay away if she not accountable for her actions
Yes another form of female manipulation.
How did you contribute to breakup dude?
This is one of the ultimate shows of disrespect. I believe adults have the freedom to choose what they do with their life, however, if someone’s in a healthy, committed relationship and they start behaving like this it’s one of the most critical red flags there is. There’s only two ways you can handle this: Establish firm boundaries to ensure this doesn’t happen again, or, walk away with your head held high. This behaviour never leads to a positive outcome if you leave unaddressed so the most you can do is take back the frame and then go from there.
the thing that i learn the most of rp content is to have boundaries, if you don't respect yourself and your integrity, what do u have left?
If I were in this situation I would read it as the relationship is already over. She’s lost interest, he can try and man up and save things, by changing his behaviours, doing the work etc, but if he did, he would then realise he doesn’t want her anyway. She is disrespectful, a waste of space as far as a relationship goes. 9 years is a long time, and this is where his problem lies. Without that emotional attachment he would see it clearly and let go
Facts. You have to walk away with your self respect in tact. It's nothing you can say to her that she won't spin as you being insecure or it being not a big deal. And if you say nothing the behavior only gets more and more emboldened. She stops trying to hide it altogether and even posts it on her social media.
Exactly this happened with my ex wife. She'd pick up these "just a friend" guys from Instagram, Snapchat, work, school, friend circle. Then when I'd bring how disrespectful it was, I was called paranoid, insecure, toxic for not trusting her, and hypocritical because according to her she always had guy friends and I never had a problem with it.
Hit the nail on the head! She realized she wasted her youth with who she “loved” as a teen, now has the feeling she’s been missing out, doesn’t see him as she once did, and wants to jump aboard the CC… this man is going to get CRUSHED if he already hasn’t.. buddy you lost her a loooonngg time ago, just let it go.
I was dating a much younger woman and we were separated by distance; several thousand miles actually. She was brilliant and gorgeous, doing a double major in university. I was who I am; a very unusual man, polymath, entrepreneur, fighter, artist etc. At a certain point I stated that the 5 thousand miles of distance was going to have to go away, or the relationship would fail because she was starting to spend time with classmates at bars, including one dude who kept saying, "I SWEAR that I'm not interested in you in way other than as a friend!" To which I replied that sure as hell, the day was going to come when that same guy would say that he'd fallen for her "despite his best efforts." Sure enough, that is EXACTLY what happened not two weeks later. I was building an 8-figure tourism company in Costa Rica at the time, and made it very simple; either she switched to the university's distance learning program, got on a plane and finished her degrees while living with me in paradise, or say goodbye.
Suffice it to say, iit's a dozen years later and we have companies in multiple countries and industries. And we're doing GREAT! :)
And I'm going to bet you don't have any problems getting attractive girls to hang out with and date. If you're the prize, women will find you.
@@Redhotlugnut Nope, but I also don't need any more women. The one that I have is smart, hot, AND hard working! I hit the trifecta so to speak. Neither of us are peerfect, but we both know what we've got, and we both take care to do our best by each other every day. For contrast a million years ago I was in a terrible marriage, my then wife had suffered bad trauma and I didn't know how to help her, she wouldn't go to therapy for instance. She was always miserable and complaining, whereas my (then young and idealistic,) philosophy was that eating hotdogs and beans from a can under a bridge should be fun if you're doing it with the right person. My philosophy now is to sieze every day, know who you are and what you'll tolerate vs what you won't. One of my rules is to use rituals to make sure that we never become complacent ie. I cook for us every night, and we eat by candle light.... literally every single night.
Make your rules about what you'll tollerate in your life, then live by them even if it means that you're alone for a bit until you have your stuff together. It's not about changing other people, it's more about who you'll give the gift of your precious and very limited time to.
@@williamwillner9277 Congrats on finding a unicorn. I've found one too and I'm very happy after 3 years of endless dating. I'm from Canada but live in Uganda now. So many hot women here it's nuts but very few meet my high standards. My gf now is well on track to becoming Mrs RHLN and we have a bunch of kids!
@@Redhotlugnut nice! I actually grew up as a missionary kid in Central Africa including Kenya, Zaire, (DRC,) and trips to Tanzania, Rwanda, Burundi and yes, Uganda too! I was nearly killed 5 times in one year, but the experience helped me to be my own person once we returned to Canada, (I have dual citizenship, Canada and the USA.) Would be happy to stay in touch! :)
@@williamwillner9277 Sure, what's your travel company called?
That's right she'll push him to dump her then say "I didn't even do anything he was just a jealous man emotionally unstable just because I wanted to have friends"
She's begging him to end the relationship so she isn't the one. She's worried about the one looking bad for leaving a 9 year relationship.
For sure the modern women wants to come up clean always irrespective of wt she has done behind those doors and cry victim that she was dumped by the guy. Reality is the guy was strangulated till the edge untill he had his red pill and got rid of her promiscuous ass and even knowing that he will be blamed he just dnt give a dime..
For women, most relationships will last 2 years, before she says to herself, "he isn't going to marry me, so I had better get out now, because I want to be married, have children, and he is not moving forward." So if you are caught off guard by a break-up of your girl, why don't you ask her if she "thought" you would be married by now. Her answer will either show she was hopeful to spend her life with you, (but gave up by year 3) or just stringing you along until something better came around. Women can't/won't wait for long - her value goes down with time, and she knows it.
You expect guys to empathise with this 😂 you lot can’t even understand how heavily biased marriage laws are against men and in favour for women in the west. If a woman ends a relationship after two years because she has no ring, then the guy was completely correct to never give her so. Serious LTRs don’t have to be marriages, only difference is that there’s a ring or two involved and then the woman gets half the man’s assets/finances and immediate custody of the children after divorce 😂😂 what a joke. And you comment as if to say that it’s more understandable for the girl to end the relationship rather than they guy not marrying 😂 what shite.
@@alexs7028 take what you will from the comment, it was meant as a different perspective on why women leave what a man thought was a "great thing". Seems to be a few guys who call in wondering why she left despite his love for her. It's all about timing for a woman. You disagree, as is your right. You see one side, I'm presenting the other.
What if she wasn't a gold digger, and gave up thinking it would never move forward. Asking the simple question harms no one. So why do women need it to be legal? For her protection- because she stops her momentum forward, & as years pass, becomes less desirable. As for marriage assets/finances - there are prenuptial agreements. Men are fools if they don't get one.
But don't fault a woman for protecting herself. Both parties must do what they must. It is not a weakness on either side to compromise for the betterment of the other. Especially if children are involved.
You are spot on, and guys are so effing clueless about this. She did not not spend all this time for him for nothing, obviously she fell in love, and wasn't willing to throw it away when it got difficult, and in 9 years they have surely got into arguments and difficult times. However, you can't just sit around and wait forever, and I was in a 6 year relationship (that started when I was 19), which ended because he was delaying moving in together and was flimsy on marriage, an I'm really not about to force someone to do it. At one point I just gave up, told him that I need a definitive answer by the end of the year, which he didn't take seriously, which obviously made me resent him and lose all these feelings.
@@jk4351 Then LEAVE. She needs to LEAVE. And if she’s the type of woman playing games she’ll NEVER get married in this day and age. The men she’s gonna want probably won’t want her. Men worth having are very experienced with women and hyper cognizant of monkey branchers. And the men who aren’t won’t be wanted by women like her until her late 30s. And by then those dudes are jaded and irritable.
@@justin-credible From an outsider's perspective, yes se obviously needs to leave. What you guys are failing to realize is that she's not staying because she is a heartless, manipulative, calculated bitch, it's because she still has feelings and it's difficult to end something that was so serious and lasted so long, and there is still some hope that things will work out. These are complete strangers here, and we know only his side of the story. She might be hiding her phone because she is actually discussing him and their relationship with her friends for all we know. From my experience, my ex knew exactly what I wanted, but just decided to ignore it.
It's not easy for the average guy to walk away from a 9 year relationship. He thought she would support him and be his life partner. He doesn't want to believe that she has betrayed him and will kick him in the nuts
Its tough. You've invested 9 years of your life.. 9 years
Disrespect can never be tolerated
I used to have the “I don’t want to be controlling so yes you can go out with your girlfriends and stay at a BnB with them” mentality and it’s burned both my marriages 🤣. Hard lesson learned
They were burned as soon as you married those women. People like them seek out people like you.
Every person in a relationship needs time with friends. And nothing wrong with them going out with friends. But if they are giving out their numbers and social media? And she is trying to hide contacting them? This is a no no, for anyone who is in a relationship
Time out with friends is hitting up Buffalo Wild Wings in a semi sexy blouse and jeans or going to a bar to play pool. Going to a club where you can’t hear the person next to you in heels and pencil dress is what they are referring to.
See a girl going out without her man is a red flag.
Yeap, you can go with your friends for a hike, a picnic, a museum, restaurants, cafes, parks, play cards, board game, ride a bike, and hundreds of other things. If you need to go to noisy and stinky places like clubs and bars you're not into "time with friends"
You are obviously on the wrong channel my friend do you not listen to a word that's spread across the whole of the red pill community
@@alexhish2187 you can go to a club and have fun with your friends, guys and girls, especially if you want to see your favorite dj or artist or whatever and your SO can't or don't want to go for whatever reason. It's your mentality & insecurity to think that clubs are only for hooking up
And they say women are the romantic/emotional ones. No one is more pragmatic than a woman in a relationship.
I bought your book on Amazon, love it. I feel like finally someone else on the planet actually agree's with me. I've been told my whole life that I'm misogynistic, blah blah blah, fueled by feminist man-haters. Love your channel and your content. I'll continue chasing excellence and dodging bullets. Thanks again.
Can't turn a stray into a housecat. you can fool yourself into believing your stray is a housecat though, but if it ain't chipped, and it ain't spayed, it ain't truly yours.
You can’t deny house cats do stray. It’s all fun in the beginning until she wants something bigger pipping her down
@@IntegraDIY It's all fun and games until it s**ts out a litter of some next tomcat's spawn on your carpet, hisses and pisses at you because the grass in your lawn wasn't mowed to perfection for it's fragile azz to turd on, and it runs off and demands the government penalize you for having accomodated it, and lump you with the bill for feeding and maintaining tom-spawn.
Trust man, its such a simple life rule:
If you don't have unconditionally respected authority in the eyes of the law of the land, to be responsible, and accountable for it, (in turn allowing you to chip and spay it), there is no justifiable or rational reason to assume any risk of responsibility, or accountability.
I've got 3 kids by 3 different mothers, that I know of. I don't pay, I don't see them.
I do not adopt strays. No reason I shouldn't anonymously seed them and return them to the street. 80% of marital narcissistic discards are initiated by the wmn, adn most single m's are by choice, whether they say so or not, because they are definitively stray.
If I were to adopt a 'housecat' I'd stary by heading to a country where masculine and paternal authority is respected by law, without exception (owner's authority), and then I'd vet the S* out of it and it's current/previous owners to make sure it definitively is a housecat, has been chipped, and is ready for adoption.
If you can't chip and spay, it's definitively stray. It really is that simple.
Has it spent it's entire life in the house, and been trained by a respected paternal and masculine authority?
No?
Then you know exactly where it's been and exactly what it is. (It's been on the street, and is not a true housecat). If it ain't spayed it's nature dictates its behaviour, based on environment, regardless of training. (and you can certainly determine what its mother is too).
Pet it. let it 'sit on your lap' and when you're done shoo it out the door and past the electric fence, lest your lawn end up a pile of kitty-litter.
I know I'm going all out here, but it's something the red pill community especially appears to have chronic trouble with. (where PUAs and Black pillers are able to move beyond the inceassant red-pill mope and cope).
Tomcats, doormats, and strays.
Choose your character!
The man who said "she is goading you into breaking up" was very correct in his assessment. Women do that-they are cowardly and manipulative that way.
Women are naturally ruthless
Men have to become ruthless
We are programed although we are stronger physically
She’s built with strong manipulation language
So his GF has been going out and meeting guys and giving her number to them yet he STILL can’t put two and two together? Wtf
I am only a few minutes into this and I can already state with confidence that this guy's relationship is already over. All that is left is the breaking up.
This guy “50 shades of green” is hilarious!! I love it
His examples are hilarious 😂 but fact does not have feelings..
8:05 “women are never single, there always talking to somebody” 😊
9:30 Back in college (late '90s), I was on again, off again with a girl and we were in that not-quite-on place when she joined a "Sweetheart's" group - an auxiliary to a fraternity, but not its own sorority. I remember tell one of my closest friends, "I'll be mad if I find out something happens with her and one of the frat boys." He replied, immediately, and bluntly, "Just be mad now!", for it was already a foregone conclusion what would happen. He was right, and I knew it (and it, indeed did come to pass). It took me a while longer to walk away from her permanently, but, you are correct, sometimes the harsh words are the most sobering and appropriate!
I would have taken a picture of myself with her phone and text this guy” I am her soon to be ex boyfriend. She’s all yours”. And walked out already. Men: We have to do better!
Women are always looking to jump up to another level and many men are also trying to do the same thing. The key is finding someone who is happy with what they have, not what they don't have. These days, women and many men are constantly looking at someone else's life on FB or IG and thinking "I want that!" and its not even about being happy, but about making other people envious or jealous of you.
Spot on…DAMN!
Work to get yourself in the best position to be single (pack up memories and unnecessary things, get in shape, secure finances before the split) and take advantage of what's left before leaving the relationship.
my last gf would be talking to other dudes at work and on social media inappropriately. I told her it was disrespectful and that she shouldn't do it. She said she understood and she'd handle it, yet I kept on catching her having a good ole time with dudes in some conversation that would cease when I walked up and the guy wouldn't talk to me or be brief and serious. I eventually dumped her after she started displaying all the flags of cheating, dressing different ,hair different, makeup different, all of sudden wanted to tone her butt by doing squats lol. I'm too keen on that stuff I've already lived thru it more than once. she thought I'd chase her and I haven't seen or talked to her since been over 6mos. she belongs to the streets as far as I'm concerned .
All romantic relationships are a form of hypnosis
Very true
@@kzumazuml like that howlin wolfe song "I had my fun"
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@@kzumazuml I'm content and moreover glad to be woman free because once you get satiated you are satiated "I had my fun"
I've had way too many instances of a woman blowing up my phone with "good morning", "how was your lunch?", "what did you eat" etc. text and phone calls for me to believe that women continue to talk to other dudes even in relationships. When a woman is dealing with you she deals with YOU. I know this is Rich's favorite line but I think he just had bad experiences with women and is a bit black pilled on this subject. And if a girl is really into you and you are not just a placeholder she will decide for herself not to go to the club or to Vegas, you will not have to dictate that to her.
I agree if she's into you. You wouldn't need to dictate that to your woman.
The only thing missing from this equation is, the majority of women need guidance and seek that from their group , which normally gives them terrible advice. And they dont seem to come up with a solution themselves.
Very low accountability and self entitlement
@@Andy-Andeee I cannot disagree that a woman is as good as her friend group. I would advise that you stay away from women who have bad friends, if a woman lacks the intelligence to distinguish between bad and good friends then she is not worth you time. Men too are a sum of their friends though to be fair. Very few people can resist peer pressures but it's each person's responsibility to at least choose the right peers.
A very similar thing started happening to me a few months ago. My now ex has this friend who I think might have an open relationship with her husband; either way she spends so many nights out to bars without him and she's planning a girls trip to Vegas or Cancun and my gf at the time was invited and was thinking of going. The moment I heard that I knew it was over.
How many times have we seen this?
Woman does sketchy shit involving other guys. Husband or bf notices it and asks "wtf?" Woman completely dismisses his concern, plays dumb, or flips out. Then, dumps bf because "he's too controlling and insecure. He should trust me enough to let me fuck other dudes because if you dont trust someone you shouldnt be with them.
This is one of Rich's classics on any level. Fabulous video, and dead on accurate....Thanks Rich.
She doesn't get to have the security of a relationship with all the benefits while she shops for a new dude to monkey branch to. She's having the exciting part of dating with no risk of being on her own.
TBF guys like this are gaslighted by society into believing they're the bad ones in the relationship for even questioning stuff like this. He's probably thinking in his head "I'm going to get called insecure, they're going to call me jealous and controlling." Women are masters at this type of manipulation.
I'd wager most of his friends associate with her and would side with her immediately in this gynocentric society.
So let's be a little easier on him and not call him stupid. His behaviour is db, but he's been manipulated to his entire life.
Exactly. Such men are more worried about morals when the girl is least concerned.
He IS insecure and controlling
When you see this happening don't say anything to her, wait till she is gone and get all your important stuff and get it to a safe spot so she can not get it. If you have a joint account, clear it out. Cancel all credit cards you have together or she has that is in your name. Then dump her.
His girlfriend has checked out and she's laying the not subtle hints that he should too. I was in a 4 year relationship that started going in a likewise direction, she started going out more without me and hanging out with other women, distancing herself from me. I will say that when you're on the inside of the situation (I iterate on it being the first time it happens), it's hard to see it for what it is. But when it's THIS bad and obvious, it's time to get out before she goes to take you for all you're worth. And if at any point in any future relationship your girlfriend is starting to spend less time with you and more time with ANYONE else (unless it's along the lines of sick/dying relatives/close friends), it's time to just let it go. The longer it goes on, the more damage she can do.
Why she still your gf? That’s my take…
she aint. she's just pretending to be until she seals the deal with the new guy and jumps ship
" not allowed" -control freak
I love that ending: "Should I ask her"....seriously??? He already DID ask her about it, she told him, and now he wants to believe its "OK" ??? Poor fellah :(
Been a listener and sub for a good minute. One thing: thanks for keeping it real and I’m glad you did because if you wouldn’t have kept it 100 on this one, I’d be gone. Keep up the great job for the manosphere.
I guarantee the guy in this relationship is not making the money she thought he would make. So she’s looking for a better deal.
Not that he’s in the wrong, she is in the wrong. He just needs to ditch her.
All modern relationships are heading the same way as the titanic!!
She's basically telling him to his damn face that she's already looking for his replacement or that she's going to cheat on him, if she isn't already.
There were way too many damn red flags in the last nine years, and he didn't notice any one of them. Dude needs to just take the L and realize that she doesn't want to be with anymore. She's about to enter her 304 phase because she's having nine years worth of FOMO and she's about to let it all out by getting her back blown out.
Fomo?
He is in denial. You can't save it. Abandon ship. Abort. It was a good run...take away the lesson of what you can learn from it.
Women use the "you are insecure, you are controlling" card every time is convenient for them, it's so funny how they manipulate, a decent woman that really wants to be with you wouldn't meet anybody else, would respect you, period!
If someone wants to do something why stop them? You can’t control other people (and you shouldn’t)
Trying to control someone is like trying to make them a slave and you’re their owner
The only person you should care about controlling is your own self and your actions
So in a scenario where someone wants to do something the you let them do freely what they want, but then you let them know there’s always consequences to actions…. You simply leave and bounce
"Should I ask her about it?" No need to. She's told you in a million ways she's looking. Leave her now and never put up with this sort of bs from a woman again. There's no coming back from this in your current relationship. Once you've allowed this to go on, you're done. It's over.
Yep it’s all bad in Vegas
If that chick hasn't cheated on the guy already, it's only a matter of time - a very short matter of time - before she does. Run, son
Next thing is the open relationship
I’m sure if he tells her she can’t do that , she’ll say then you can’t go out with your friends
I remember when the song by Leslie Gore came out about 1962 called "You don't own me" That song had a huge impact on girls attitudes-it kinda started there and then in my recollection. It gave girls bad attitudes, I still deplore that awful song. ua-cam.com/video/cTpvirQ-hPA/v-deo.html
Of course she should tell him that .
No guys nights, no Vegas trips
@@TruthPoliceLegend
Good song for women.
Men should comprehend what it means
If she's remained with him for 9 years, he must be a good guy. But, the grass is always greener, her girlfriends are telling her. So she'll end up dumping her man of 9 years in order to 'see how the other half is living' and in the end, she will realize she fucked up, should have kept what she had. Then in a few years of being 'pumped and dumped', she'll be asking, "Where have all the good men gone?" Well you HAD a good man, sister, but YOU thought you deserved MORE. Enjoy your cats.
Is a simple thing guys if you have a woman don’t deal with that shit, if she wants to go out with her friends and girls night and shit like that you’re not important to her, just dump her and find another one that’s it
Real shit. This knowledge when you are willingness to learn, help you to better manuver in this crazy world and make your life better overall.
This show is right on. 💯
That laugh after 2 minutes from Rich even made me chuckle it's like do you want her to bring them home and you watch her doing it aswell?
It’s over. It’s time to move on
He should just tell her he's lost interest in her before she does that to him .. I've done this and they're always shocked .. but the reality is it's over .. be a man and end it
I've been married for years, and I don't have single girlfriends. I don't have girls' trips. I don't have nights out without my husband. It's weird to me for a woman to want to do that and nothing nefarious going on...
You’re a fkn legend Rich ✅💪🏽💪🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽
There’s no way this is a real email. It’s too over the top and ridiculous.
Some guys just deserve what they get
I was told I was stupid all through the school system but this is beyond mental. See the forest from the trees.
Together for nine years, but not married. That in and of itself is a red flag
To the minority of women out there that are genuinely good and wholesome please become more vocal in the media and public spaces. As they only listen to men when its already too late. Your the only ones that can prevent it early as mothers sisters and friends.
“You don't get two turds on your bed by accident”. Rolling...
this quote made my morning
Next time she goes out,change the locks on your door and turn your phone off
You forgot the part where you put all her belongings outside first though. Don't forget that detail, as it's fairly important lol
@@HandsOfSweed that is a good point. What I did,was I Left a note on the front door (take a picture) stating"come tomorrow morning at 9am sharp, I have to go somewhere all day at 9:30 to come pick your stuff up" and make sure you have a cop there so she can't accuse you of hurting her and/or steal her stuff. Been there,done that..
After a 2 year "simped" engagement to an untrusting woman, I now have the attitude that I could care less about any woman. Fast forward to my current girlfriend .(she sought me out-I wasn't looking) . My attitude with her is if you're here -you're here, you leave tomorrow......oh well. I wasn't looking for a GF anyways. ha,ha When you don't care, they are interested!
She’s single and he’s in a relationship lol. She already cheating.
If a girl wants to go out, let her go out, then if she's hiding her phone and texting other dudes..Time for you to also go out...out of her life, out to go do your own thing..ALONE. don't get angry just leave..millions of girls out there. Minority mindset🤦♀️🤷♂️🤦
Nobody can control another, so all this talk about "DO NOT ALLOW" is futile. Its really simple guys, if your girl has the deposition to go out without you and chat with guys, then LEAVE HER ASAP. Nothing to discuss, just let her go and move on.
Actually, these things must be established and talked about before the relationship even starts. That way there's no confusion about what one can or can't do, and the tone has been set. "If A, then B." "If you do XYZ, then there's the door."
You warn twice... Third time you leave.
They’ll just lie about what they’re doing (I’ve been there). I agree with the OP, if they’re doing this, just exit the relationship.
Stuff like this does not need to be discussed, let her be how she wants in the relationship, if you find it disrespectful, then leave. No conversation, no feelings, no rules... if she doesn’t inherently have the respectful behavior in a relationship you expect, then just end it.
@user26
If you have to establish those kinda rules it makes it sound like you’re dealing with a kid….. thats the kinda convo you would have with them
With an adult woman if you also have to have that kinda talk with her is she even worth it to start any thing meaningful with?
Wives do this too every often. My ex wife did shes an ex for a reason.
My mother older sister has done this but they didn't market themselves, only exception.
It sounds like they, he missed the window to lock it down. Why are they "dating" for 9 years?
They are still playing by high school rules and neither has matured. No mentoring from Males in his life? No mother or father figure?
This guy will feel so much better the moment he leaves . Run and don’t look back !!
It's funny when they call them out they call us insecure and jealous lmao. No it's called respect. Exactly like Rich said. Giving out numbers you're marketing yourself. A girl does that to me again. I'll just find someone else. We can replace them just as much as they us.
Dang "Not allowed to go out!" 🤯
The issue is that as a guy, if you've been programmed early on by mainstream media and the female narrative, while having little to no experience with women, then this behavior of the girlfriend comes as terribly confusing. It's a war between the false beliefs and the common sense/intuition. That's why experience for a man is necessary. The disenchantment requires a lot of pain.
After my divorce 20yrs ago, I read many counseling books in my search to understand what was going on with me in my relationship with a woman.. anyway, I read that when you go out together say to a party and she starts talking to other guys socially (which happens) and this bothers you, don't hover around her as the pathetic boyfriend/husband. You need to start conversations with other woman. Pick the 'hottest' one of the group. See what happens then, how your GF responds. Bet you she'll come standing next to you. Play them at their own game. Just be better as it. Action .. reaction. Otherwise you'll become the pussy.
This was great. I am in a text thread with some buddies i grew up with and who all live in different states now and one dude sends us these things from reddit about once a week, they are hysterical. Honestly its mostly common sense type stuff they are asking questions about. Btw you know this dude probably paid for her to go to Vegas.
Going out to bars is a hookup culture, allowing it is basically allowing your girl to sleep around.
If ya wanna go dance and have fun with your girls, do it at home with your friends, throw a party with your girlfriends at home.
And i bet now some girls will say something along the lines of: "But it's not the same as going out"
And you'd be completely right, it's not, because you don't have random guys at home watching you and validating your beauty like there would be at a bar or a nightclub.
And if you need that from anyone but your man, then there is problems in your relationship and your priorities are not him.
My best friend married a bartender... she cheated with her step brother one night and the marriage was over in 3 months. 😆 Now he has to pay her alimony and child support for the next 18 years.
Happy Star Wars day everybody. And May the 4th be with you all.
9 years put a ring on it and marry her or let go. To long with out a true commitment.
soooo glad I'm a single men.
I wouldn't change the peaceful life I live.
As a middle Eastern Muslim man I can definitely give these dorks some advice and not get called mysogynist.
Sounds like Kevin from sales made an impression on her at the Vegas Sphere U2 show.