Is He Wasting Your Time? (7 Clues He 100% Is!)
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In this video, dating coach Ryan Patrick identifies 7 subtle clues to the question "is he wasting your time" to confirm his true intentions with you.
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I had a four-year relationship with a guy who told me right off that he had fears about marriage due to his parents divorce. He was faithful to me, but of course, we didn't get married. I got into the relationship knowing about his fears. When someone tells you who they are, believe them.
True, but these days you have liars who lovebomb/bait and then devalue/switch. I'm so done
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My (ex) bf told me he never wants to marry again (he has been married before) and can't even see himself living with another person so domestic partnership isn't even an option. I broke it off that day. It hurts a lot but no point of a dead end relationship. I took what he said face value and have no desire to change his mind or whatsoever.
And if they don’t stand up for you when dating then they won’t in marriage
I don’t think I’ll ever date again
99 problems and a man should never be one of em. Keep your life drama free. Focus on your goals and dreams. Always remember to never expect anything. Life is short and always do what makes you happy. Never find happiness from anyone else. Build and make your own happiness because anything could happen tomorrow and tomorrow is definitely not promised. God bless you all beautiful people 🙏❤️
One of my biggest pet peeves what a guy does when he isnt interested anymore. He starts taking a long time to respond to your text and try to get you to stop talking to them.
My boyfriend does this to me. I send a text and get a reply a day later if I'm lucky
Yes! It's so annoying.
Oh yeah. Im getting this even after signaling (in a nice and positive way) that at least a good night message would be appropriate.
@@helensanderson7092 I hope you're out of that toxic relationship
It makes me not want to be interested at all in the dating period
You can track his phone and monitor his chat contact Troysam001 on Instagram
It’s a window shopping nightmare
He told me that he wasn’t ready for a relationship after using me for about a year. A month later he got married to a woman he met on a business trip to China. This ruined me.
That sounds like a psycho guy :(
I'm sure his new relationship is disfunctional as well.
I had the same sort of thing, married the next girl after me. There's not a lot you can do when the information you're being given isn't true in the first place.
It would hurt anyone. Prob hes ruining that woman's life. Even if painful i think you were lucky
I was with a guy. I thought we were together. He didn't want anyone to see us, he didn't want to engage me or move in together, but otherwise we were like in relationship. I left him when he started to use emotional abuse on me. 6 months from the last time I ever saw him, he was engaged to a new woman. I realized I had been just "not wife material" to him. I don't expect them to be happy either, once his tendencies to use emotional abuse surface in that relationship as well. But the emotional abuse and treating me like sh*t traumatized me.
My husband block me on Facebook! So on his last single minded trip being MIA for two months ... I divorced him!😂
@@vivianrobot2740 it’s not my job to change his player ways ... he should stay single ... I’m not into drama or games. He is who he is ... I was blind and believed a con man - stupid me! He lives his life in deception... and I choose to be happy!
@@judyvigil9185 you go gurll!!
Awesome! 😂🤣
You could track his phone and monitor his chat
Yooo!! You can burn down a forest with all that fire! It always feels good to take out the trash.
When a man tells you he’s “separated” but still lives and sleeps with his wife.........run the other way 😕
Lol that’s scummy
They are too cheap to divorce
And would rather be a scum bag to risk Losing it all
THIS ⬆️
Nah...no married men. No "seperated" men. They're STILL MARRIED! 🤦♀️ Get a clue folks ...God is NOT gonna send you somebody else's SPOUSE as a husband or wife for YOU.
I broke it off with a guy who said he loved me after I realized he just wanted me as some sort of collector toy to keep on his shelf and pull down and play with when he wanted to. When I tried to have us spend one weekend per month together (he lived over 4 hours away), he said no. I get that he was in Medical Residency and had a crazy life but when I found out he had plans with his family, with his friends and colleagues at work etc but wouldn't make them with me, I figured starting out at the bottom of the totem pole of a relationship wasn't a good place to start. Where would I end up? In the dirt probably. If I wasn't important enough to place even near the top of his priorities, then our relationship would never work...regardless of saying "but I love you" when I broke it off. You may love me, but certainly not enough to place me in the right position in your life. God bless~
Omg I’m starting to feel like I’m in the same boat. And we just decided to move forward as a couple and I understand he’s busy because of work but he has time for friends almost every weekend ever since we started dating
@@aismeritamartinez2446 His actions are telling you that his friends are more important than you. Time to confront him about that and if he balks, walk away. This is a potential future SPOUSE which is supposed to be THE most important relationship in your life other than God. If he doesn't reflect this, he isn't ready for marriage and thus ready for you. May God lead you to the truth about this and give you the courage to do the hard and right thing:+) God bless~
Sounds like you were dealing with Narc. Good thing you got away
Damn. I'm in the exact same boat. Except he only lives 45 minutes away. He's "busy with work" but just left for a 2 week vacation with his family for his birthday... this isn't the first second or THIRD time either. Of course that means I only have myself to blame for continuing to deal with it. Hopefully I can stick to my guns and keep him on Blocked 🚫
@@kellarenna Stick to your guns. He might wonder where you are after awhile. Mine did. And he would make time enough to get me back. But then the old pattern started up again. Find a man who places you where you SHOULD be i.e. a priority in his life, ABOVE friends and co workers and even family if necessary. You are both trying to figure out if you are spouse material and you don't treat the most important person (your spouse) like dirt before you even marry...that sets up a lifetime of misery. God bless~
First sign 🛑 you are watching this video...
Good one
When he acts single on social media and/or there is no picture of you on his profile.
Proud boyfriends show off their girlfriend at least after 2-3 months of being together.
One wouldn't walk beside me in public. Another never complimented me on anything...I didn't even know if he liked me.
I had a guy I dated back in the summer, and after our first date he was very wishy washy. He'd not text me for 2-3 days and then be really keen again. He even said that he changed jobs "partly for us" ... he got blocked after that
On dating apps when they ask for my personal information before we even see if there is any basic compatibility or agree to meet in person.
Ryan Patrick is the best Dating Coach ever!
He truly is!!!
@Keyawna Parks
@Ryan Patrick
Hands 🙌🏻 up and down he totally 💯 is!! 😷🤗🤗💙💗💖!!!
yes
Accurate
Correct !
Long distance, low texting ability after a little while, gave me a red flag it was over
I wish men were totally honest and not play games,hot and cold,wishy washy and play with your emotions and they know they are so they keep doing it.Until you annalize him, his words and his texts and figure him out.Then you can write him off as it's his loss.
he literally caught me having a crush on him in 2 months 😂 and he said he's not ready/don't want a relationship but it took me about 1year to process it .
still trying to move on
Hang in there, you'll get there soon! :)
Consistently changing plans last minute.
OMg..i've experienced the same thing. does he have any mental disorder ? sorry i ask so direct :/
one sign that definitely let me know that a guy wasnt serious was the fact that they kept changing their location on hinge. We had already gone on several dates and I know I shouldn't be checking up on his profile but whenever he went on a weekend trip, HE CHANGED HIS LOCATION. For hinge, you have to manually change it so it just let me know that I should drop him.
I go into dating app dates with the assumption we aren’t exclusive until you speak about it. This has saved so much heartbreak.
He was stringing you along.
Hey Sam, I think hinge tracks your phone location. So while you can change the location manually, the location also changes when you travel.
@@scarylouish I didn’t know this!! Thank you for letting me know!
One way was that he never wanted to introduce me to his daughter, even after we'd seen each other for several months. He also did not want me to meet his father. I realized it was because his father had met another woman he was seeing and thought that she was his girlfriend, meaning of course that I was the side chick. Adiosed out of there and have never regretted it.
My ex-husband is a honeymoon pro! Even when we were married he- about 4 or 5 other women that I eventually learned about. Right when he was done with them he was restarting the honeymoon phase with me- love bombing because I was about to find out his secrets. My sister is dating a guy who is king of excuses! And she backs up the excuses every time!
Best advice I ever got: when a person SHOWS you who they are, believe them! Time is your friend when dating, and sex is a blinder- it was for me as I wasted 13yrs with my ex due to ignoring warning signs that he really wasnt for me.
Dated someone after my Divorce that was a mama’s boy. Never being out on his own, had loser friends, afraid to stand up to his mom, constantly lied about the future & no ambition!
Let’s not forget insecure & controlling!
These men never become successful in life
Did we date the same guy? 😆
I used to date someone who still lived with his parents at 40 albeit in a small apartment at the end of their garden. She was constantly knocking on his door bringing food, treats, giving him jobs to do around the place. She wrapped him in cotton wool making him dependent on her. I ended it because mum was always right about everything. He would say mum does it like this or that. Yuck no thanks. Next!
I met a very nice guy , he was already in a 3 year relationship , but he told me he wanted to be with me , because he thought I was the right one for him and he left his girl by choice. For 2 years he told me this. Unfortunately he found someone else after I believed him and he went completely silent before he had a new girl and he told me nothing. He told me when he left his girl , that he didn't want a relationship with me right away he needed some time. But then a few months later he got a new girl. I wasted my time by believing him.🌸
Unfortunately, if you have to ask...he definitely is!
Sometimes we already know he cheated in the past and continues to do so now. The reason we women say nothing is we are buying our time so that we can gather all the evidence and drop the "Your Busted Buddy!" Bomb on his ass!!!!
He says he wants a dedicated Relationship and says he is serious. Texts a few times every day...but the texts are "miss you babe" and "How's your day?". The convo in person is even less. And in person he interrupts every other word I say with kissing me.
Red flag
If your # is stored in his phone as a guy's name, he doesn't want other women to see your calls/texts
The last pos I was dealing with wouldn't let me have his number or friend me on any of his multiple fb accounts, so freaking done
His sister got married and they hosted the reception at his house. When i asked him about the wedding he minimized it like it was just a small church thing and i only knew about the reception because of social media. Earlier that day he messaged me that "we were next", as in getting married. I told him time will tell that story. I confronted him about some of the challenges i had in the relationship and he broke it off because he "couldn't be what i needed from a partner and but we could still be friends and hang out and stuff" *rolls eyes* moved on!
Ryan - let me know what guys have done to lead you to believe there wasting your time
Me - breathing
Guy said he wanted to move on and be happy again but never made the effort while we were in a relationship and rarely spoke to me at all and couldn't get over his ex 😒
Yep, still melting when it comes😃-the "right now"- smile. Can't help it😉 Absolutely and always be friends first! -Genuine, sincere friends 👫❤
I was in a 8 year long distance rs I wasted almost a decade..he never came to me I always went to him no comittment..
I just need advice on why while I am getting to know a guy he doesn’t call me when I ask? They all use the excuse “not feeling well” or “o fell asleep” or “I was working” or the one pisses me off most “I am busy sorry” like really why is it so hard to get a guy to call me on the phone if they say they want long term relationship too 😡
I feel like my relationship ( if you want to call it that ) was all one sided. He said call me anytime,. Aren’t you supposed to be chased when you’re first getting to your relationship?
I've just gone through this Ryan, Just yesterday. God it hurts. Lesson learned x
Only one example needed to show they are wasting my time....
Breathing.
When a guy proposed but every time you want to talk about living together he changes the conversation 😑😒🤨🤔😑 ah NEXT
😆
@@christineallen3003 😂
Yes
I had this thing going on with a guy I met through a friend of ours. After a while it was really hard to have time with him alone because his friends where always around and he put no afford at all to spend time with me alone during the day so i also got realy close with his friends. then he told me he isn’t really comfortable with me being so close with his friends because of past relationships. and when i said i want a real relationship not just something in between he said he is not ready for it because he is still so traumatised from having cancer.(of course it’s very traumatising and nothing to joke around but seeing him making jokes about it made me skeptic but i thought it was his way of dealing with is) fast forward he simply started to like “fade” and while we were still having a thing going on i found out that he got himself someone new. i took revenge and had than a thing going with one of his best friends. than i was suddenly interesting again. looking back i feel so stupid :)
He introduced me to all of his best Friends. And about the two month mark his best friend of 20+ years had said to him hey it seems like you guys are in a relationship. He adamantly said no we are not. I knew right then and there it wasn’t gonna work at all.
Ryan, I don't understand why men are rude and attack you personally when you politely decline their advances on an online site. Can you explain this behavior as you said in a previous video that we should always politely decline if we're not interested?
The last dating website I went on he was adamant that I drive 60 miles at 3 o’clock in the morning to spend time with him in his apartment. I declined and he was very very rude after
I had a guy who put on his profile that he smokes and drinks often. I told him I was not interested because I'm not into that. He called me a princess, said some other choice words, and blocked me. I've been single most of the last 12 1/2 years. I've tried dating sites, matchmaking services, etc. I'm about to just give up.
I was cursed out and threatened for telling a guy no from an online site.
@@camstatik Of course,dear😁. He didn't get what he expected from you! He expected you to be a silly, "easy-going" woman.. I hope you blocked him for good☺✌.
If I have started a back and forth conversation with a man on a dating site, I will politely decline; however if I've just gotten a message from someone I'm not interested in, I simply don't engage with them. I find this helps to minimize the chance of getting a hateful comment, or the ones who want to try and talk you into driving 2 hrs each way, convince you they will stop smoking just for you, etc. So far, I haven't had anyone be rude to me, but I've only been online dating for about 3 months this go round (also tried it about ten years ago).
I haven't gotten through this whole video but.. I just wonna say, I remember commenting on one of your videos one time about a guy.. He now has a girlfriend and I'm happy for him, I'm even happy for myself! Because now I have a girlfriend! Me and him are just friends and nothing else now, I'm happy how u inspired me to do things what I have never thought deep Into, thank you, I will always and keep watching your videos- and uh I'm on my sisters' YT acc rn tbh but I'm the one that uses this one but yea- thanks alot!
How to accept that he is not serious for you and you have to leave?
Feeling really difficult to move from this kinda man🥺
He was over the top in the beginning calling and texting all day long. Posting all kinds of romantic memes on FB. By the end of the first date, he snoozed his bumble, by the second date, he deleted it. I remember telling a friend that I felt he was coming in way too fast and I felt a need to observe. Sure enough by the fourth month of dating he got super inconsistent and became a complete "f#(&boy"
Hi Ryan, could you do a video on how to move on and heal from these type of men x
RC Blakes can help with that
He helped me
See a Therapist.
OH MY GOSH YOU ARE THE ONLY DATING COACH WHO DOESN'T SUGAR COAT IT.....YOU SAVED ME
Slow fade... I was talking to someone online who came on strong and I thought we were really connecting. We couldn’t physically see each other because of COVID, but now I’m wondering if that was actually what he wanted. We had a three month texting/calling relationship which was great but I guess in his mind it ran it’s course. His texts were always nice, but became less and less frequent.
Something similar happened to me. Aug through to Nov. Then he went off the grid. No goodbye or im busy. Just silence. Now I'm thinking he's a seasoned honeymooner. It's a shame !as well as disappointing but....Next!!!
Same here Mary..but in 4 mnths..not a lot of texting..more has been on commenting on posts..liking them etc..no calls and always nice but questioning it now as a close female friend he has got heart on her Christmas message and have a gut feeling on it something is off..he seemed very keen posting love songs to me via tagging etc..my romantic emojis etc not reciprocated yet says he cares..Im backing off and taking it as..he cares just as a friend or not emotionally available..men disappoint so much in many ways..at nearly 50 and loss of a 28 Yr marriage I give up lol
@@nikliwells8305 help?
@@kimmonks116 My serial honeymooner suggested we exchange songs that we liked via Spotify. I think I received one...
Mine started w me commenting on his utube videos & after a couple of months he gave me his phone number and email. I emailed him a couple of times and sent links to him & one night called. It was mostly political things. But as i look back, i texted paragraphs & he texted short sentences, sometimes things that didnt make sense as a reponse. He wanted to know if my channel pic is really me & wanted me to change it. I bought a new 12qt pot & made soup but he didnt ask what kind. He wanted me to travel 2 states away to see him but wouldnt come to me. He didnt seem to remember personal things i told him, like how many kids i have &he never asked anything about me, He would be really nice, even affectionate one day & then blow me off the next day & never apologised for not texting sooner. He talked about moving to Texas for the same reason everybody is moving to Texas and told me to look for a ranch close to my son and grandbaby. 2 days ago he sent a pic of 2 crossbows & said "one for me and one for you," sweet huh? 4 hours later he called & said" there is no we, there is no us, long distance relationships dont work and that he hadn't even seen my ass yet. I told him that if our relationship depended on that then just know its as big ss a truck my calves are big as footballs riddled w varicose vein and my thighs were potmarked with cottage cheese and that i only had 1 boob. I cried the first day, kinda in shock, but today i know i got out of a toxic relationship before it went any further. I am a 60 yr old widow and was married to a narcissist so im not going to put up with this behavior.
Well there’s something wrong with me because there were a lot of feelings I was having and I had to literally turn off my feelings and can’t get those back after turning them off.
Nothing wrong with you. You can not control how you feel, just what you do about it. 👑
I’m the same way
That look on ur face Ryan!! I died 🤣🤣🤣🤣
These videos are sooo helpful to me. My dream is to be a Psychologist one day and I'm currently working hard toward that dream. When it's my friends or my family when it comes to advice I'm really good and I can tell when someone is crushing on someone. But when it's happening to me personally it's like I become completely blind to it all. I spose it's only natural though, it's easier looking from an outsiders perspective. These videos help me out! So thank you.
Well I been with my boyfriend 8 months well until Feb 13th I ended it I never his mom or his dad and I never went to his house not even once and when I asked he always had an excuse
I wish I nad done the same thing... I haven't met his mom for A year! Until SHE came for a visit. Now we are still together but I keep watching vids like that, never 100% sure if he loves me.
He would only text and flaked on first date. Kept texting good morning every morning but also saying he was busy when I asked to see him. Never taking it to the next level. Always giving hope that something would eventually happen. If not interested just say so and stop texting. Thanks Ryan.
I waited 8 months to meet a guy and he showed up without a shower. Most likely freshly layed. He didn't get any from me but the damage is done.
@@dw9658 also happened. He texted asking for a spontaneous date. Being stupid because I wanted to see him I agreed. I think he was expecting me to say no. He asked me where I wanted to go and what time. So I took charge of the date. Showed up late apparently after work not showered and unshaven. Even the waiter looked at me like are you serious. Was horrible.
@H. A. I hate the photo guys. Dude I don't know you??
@@shannonpreuss1350 I see no greater sign of disrespect especially when you have listened to his promises. Kept urself from other guys and he shows up dirty. Hell no!! Idk if it's better you got taken out and I didn't or not. Ugh
@@dw9658 my greatest lesson. I will never let a man treat me like that again.
Was told " I live with an ex friend" but she wants more...
Wow Rayan! You nailed it👌🏻 I wish I saw this video 2 months ago. You just talked about the exact scenario, I went through. Your videos are awesome and I started sharing them with my friends as well.
Hats off to you!
Is he wasting your time or is he just a Gemini
💯 never dating again a gemeni
lmaooooo
What!...Do tell....
What’s wrong with Gemini’s?
@@beyzayildiz5296 why
honestly, i broke it off in january and this video was impossibly validating. this was the "weird" feeling i couldn't quite place
Question please: I am simply unable to find a quality man and I am sick and tired of losers. How could I find quality men?
When a middle aged man tells you after 10 dates, calls, daily texting and so on that he was "emotionally lazy" and he has got "a protective blanket". Why he even started meeting me when clearly he was not emotionally available. Oh..and all the promises how we will do this or that but we never did. He even didn't tell me straight way that he got 5 children. I found out months later...Half-truths, keeping conversations superficial, vague behaviour, not returning my compliments, never mentioning how he felt or not about me, twice he said that he valued my friendship. Plus the regular excuses how busy he was. A month ago I texted him that i was tired of being strung along...never replied back. I tried to call him few times he picked the phone once only and told me he would call me back...never happened. Being chronically late and few times even did not bother to let me know. Then when I expressed my disappointment he said sorry and then he told me that if I was late he would not have made a fuss of it....
This post couldn't be more poignant. Thank you Ryan!
Direct male quote from this week ( context, I've been seeing him for almost a year. This is his response to me saying I feel like we're in a long distance relationship in the same city ) : "I don't honestly know how to fix that feeling with the boundaries we have and both of us working full-time job schedule. Plus, winter. Open for suggestions, though "
You know what. I’ve been watching these types of videos for a little while now and it’s made me realise I’m better off just being on my own. Men are soo manipulative and I just have the time or interest in trying to work them out anymore. I’m done! My life is good without one actually except o have to cut the grass myself but I manage fine. They usually expect something in return anyway. I genuinely just don’t like them anymore
I believe Dr Gabriel can help you and make your Ex,partner love you and care for you unconditionally with more love and dedication. He also helped me and now we're living happily💕
Whtzapp him,,.
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Well when you just meet a person tell them you just want friendship they fall in love then they want you I’d your social and personal stuff and it’s military all the time I’m just fed up
He told me he wanted to ship a 80 thousand Mercedes with 20,000 dollars in it. Do you think this Is a red flag? Lol. And he wasn’t really interested in sex. And he said he was 45. And he text me all day long for weeks . And said he wasn’t really attracted to my looks but my kind heart. What you think about this? Anyone. else had dealings with this guy?Another guy was from America and spoke English but when I asked for a video chat he only did a voice phone call and had a authentic Mexican accent. I ask to explain that one and he. said , “ I can’t explain t”. There are some shady characters out there. And I have run into a couple other imposters. Be very careful Lady’s. You really have to be a detective when it comes to Facebook.
Sounds like a scammer. There are a lot on dating websites. Make sure this is someone that you have actually seen and met in person.
My ex was talking to someone when he was with me and failed to communicate with me and got shady with me so when I found out I broke up with him
Everything was great , 2 months if dating ..talking almost everyday,texting throughout the day,all preachy, we were on the phone having a casual conversation, he said mom is calling he will call me back later aaaaaaand he went missing ... didn't respond to me and once he did all said was that's he's busy .. well you can only imagine how I felt ... And I guess I will never find out what happened,
I look at so many of your videos that a few days ago I had dreams about dating someone and you showed up lol 😅
That's funny but unfortunately for you, he is married.
@@resarm5007 Lol way to jump to conclusions, I said he showed up, but didn't say he was my date! Fortunately for me, the man I'm in a relationship with isn't married and we're well past the "dating" stage. 🙄
Thank you for speaking slowly and clearly in your videos! And thank you for not shouting or using "tough love" vernacular. I understand the sentiment when coaches employ "real talk" in their content, and I will admit, as a caring, forgiving woman who has been severely wronged by men, it IS sometimes helpful and necessary. SOMETIMES. You are the only "youtube caregiver" in the self-help-dating industry I've seen who expresses the hard truths we need to hear in a carefully nuanced way that helps a woman like me feel empowered instead of idiotic. Some women suffer from abuse/neglect for so long that they question whether they should feel empowered by learning that they've been hurt or ashamed that they've let it happen. I am in the middle and grateful for this gentle guidance especially since it is coming from you, a straight cis man. Straight cis men have been my foil and folly and I now understand my part in these relationships and I'm learning what to do in order to improve. It just makes this awful process so much easier for those of us who have been weakened by requiring their superiors' approval (however that may have manifested in the past) when the content is delivered gently and in a way that suggests the woman is not actually stupid but instead is hurt, is competent and is ready to get involved in the process of accepting, healing and changing (and IS capable and deserving of that change). I long for the day where I don't need approval from anybody except myself, but I'm still getting there. You're helping. THANKS!
I believe Dr Gabriel can help you and make your Ex,partner love you and care for you unconditionally with more love and dedication. He also helped me and now we're living happily💕
Whtzapp him,,
I had a man who lived in the same town as me abs kept making excuse after excuse to never hang out. 8 months “talking” when I would ask him to hang out he would ignore my message. I finally kicked him to the curb. I don’t have time time to waste.
I was listening and realized you’re describing me 😬
In terms of delaying milestones, I have found that those relationship milestones have been delayed just becos of corona. I am not able to see people as frequently and a majority of the dates have been virtual. Should we expect that those milestones should still follow the same path even though we've only seen each other a handful of times and the rest has been virtual?
Yes! Thank you! Kinda what my comment is about too (only didn't see yours until after I posted mine)...but ya.. wondering the same thing for the same reasons.
@@canonshooter2137 oh I just read your comment!! But yes I would like a video that caters to the times we live in now!!!
I had a hot and heavy relationship for over 4 years....that part was awesome... but it was the friendship part that wasn’t working. I ended it when I knew that I wasn’t a main priority for his future plans.
Lol I love the grey out scenes I wish you can make an entire video like that with the voice I’m always laughing 😂
Honestly this video makes me think its hard to find that someone. Uggghhh! Feelin desperate already. Hahha truth slaps.!
Same here
It's hard to find someone who is RIGHT for you, not impossible 😇.
I have a friend that told me he doesn't want to be in a relationship from the beginning but I continued to hang out with him. He says he's been jaded in the past with relationships. We proceed together as if we are in a relationship without the whole title. It's been 10 months going strong without the title. Neither of us are seeing other people. I'm not sure how long I will continue this way.
hi, are u still with this guy ?
He did at first, people even commented he looked happy, glad he's gone
I just love Ryan!!! listen and understand to everything he has to guide!! BTW Ryan, I sent u a wisio request too, I need your help :) Thanks again for being so accessible for guidance!!
These are great, but dating during the times of Covid, some of these guidelines can't apply. Like...we can't mix with our friends or family, we can't go out for dinner to a restaurant or movie. Yes, stay at home nights are more prevalent, but the dating "game" paradigm shifted. Its hard. Really really hard, figuring out what is actually going on with the relationship and how..thanks to Covid. Maybe you can reevalute the standard hints/clues and adjust for today's world?🤷♀️
I Feel like an idiot with your vidéo.. you are so perfectly right...I tried despite red flags and my gut...and now i cry !
I feel so stupid...gosh...it is ami my fault
Thank you so much
Wish you the best
From Paris with ❤
Never dating again
If you need to watch this video to see what the checklist says, then ding ding ding! You already know he is
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I (a woman) am dating a guy that I'm just not compatible with and do not consider a long term match, and *I* am showing literally every one of these red flags.
I started seeing a guy who told me he liked other guys. He said he wasn't gay. He said he would rather be with women. He also told me he was a swinger.
I am a bit unsure with a guy who I have been seeing for 3 months, known for 5.
I have spent alot of time with him, his kids, even met his Mom at his son's birthday.
He lives an hour away and everything is great when we are together, but the problem is we don't see eachother alot. He does all of the driving out to me which is awesome because I have an old car, but he is busy alot and I try to be understanding. He has made it to alot of my important events and enjoys them not just for me.
However there are days that go by without him texting me and weeks that go by without seeing him. He told me in the beginning how busy he gets during this season for work plus his 2 kids and their baseball practices.
I just wish he would call or text more and sometimes I wonder if he is wasting my time-until he calls again.
Don't hang around and wait for him to call! Keep yourself and put your focus on other people and places. If you were a priority he would move mountains to see you.
@Priscilla adams he stopped texting me Aug 15th. I have moved on.
Ryan, can you make a video on where to meet new guys? (I apologize in advance if you’ve already made a video like this) I need more options!!! And yes, I already tried online dating and I don’t want to do it again😭😭
Uh oh, mine has done all 7!!! No milestones, told me he wasn't ready, and it has been 1 1/2 years now! I did eventually meet his kids, some friends, spend time with his sisters, but his parents live 50 yards away. Oh, and I should mention he are middle-aged. He is pushing 50, and it's still whatever his parents want. When we met, he was going through a divorce, he contacted his solicitor because he wanted to keep me...so I waited. Then years pass, and he still didn't want to have anything of us on social media...no normal milestones. I buy and wrap his family's Christmas gifts, then am NOT invited to the party! I thought it was just how they are, then I heard they had a big party for his sister's 40th to meet her guy...then why not me? He was married 15 years, I know he can commit, and he says I am 'his favourite', but when we get close, he pushes me away. He says him having a love life is not a priority...his parents business is. I don't think he is unfaithful, I think he is emotionally immature.
Omg Ryan the community now is 200k 😊😳 Way to go!!! More power!
Ryan, if I said the things that men have done to confirm that they were wasting my time; I might as well begin my dating memoir. 😆 😆 😆 However I did meet someone this year that seemed very well put together in terms of education, career driven, sense of humor, family oriented, materialistic items and even looks but as time went by he would want to see me too much and I simply don't have the time and I limit my in person interact with people because of the 19. I say all that too say that, if that man wasn't wasting my time he wouldn't have had so much time on his hands to even want to see me that often. So when I would decline he would become agitated, major RED FLAG. It was a major turn off because I too live in Los Angeles, California and we are ALL restricted to our outside regiment so I am now back in Grad School because in order for me to find what I am looking for, I have to become that. I am a early childhood educator and my students and my children need me now my wants and needs can and will wait. Love your content Ryan Patrick. Happy Holidays to all.
If a guy is agitated because he decline - start limiting your time with him.
I got the Friends First message from you in this video.
Just had this happen. An old boyfriend got in touch with me out of the blue. I let my guard down opened my heart 1 month later through a text he said he didn't think it was going to work. Didnt want to see me just 1 day per week. He knew this when we started seeing it other again. Its a good thing he was not standing in front of me and did it through a text. Ugg, how stupid can I be
Thank you for all your advice. Though this guy I’m seeing is 50/50 on what you’ve been saying I’ve decided that it’s time to let go....
He would say things but no action, He never wanted to meet up (we did eventually) but he would blame the “pandemic “ say that he’s afraid of getting sick.
in my mind id say “but if id have sex with him hed be here in 5 mins” 🙄
we went on a hike and he asked about how in felt about kissing during a pandemic. So I took it as “oh hes interested in kissing me...” So I took my mask off , moved close to him , and he flinched at me... That was the worst feeling ive ever felt. I felt like I was a cockroach or vomit.
weve been masked off before so it wasnt the first time we saw face to face.
we were getting to know eachother and it lasted 6 months but I was so happy I never slept with him.
I’m so glad I subbed to you! Your awesome!
Started off good but 6 weeks in..I believe its called breadcrumbing, he just got distant ignored some texts but would still respond to others as if nothing wrong. semi agree to see me then I'd hear nothing. The end, I gave up trying which I guess is what he wanted. Got him off hook with actually saying it to my face..
They always waste my time
Troysam001 On IG can help
Why can’t we just ask them ? They always lie,
But I’m like dude I’m giving you an out just admit it lol
Making excuses to not hangout together .
EVERYTHING YOU SAID....happend to me with him long distance rs over 8 years.....he never came to me I always went to him etc
Why did you keep going if he was not coming to you?
I've known this guy for almost 14 yrs. I never connected with anyone like I did with him emotionally and physically.. I got over him while he was trying to date me. I didnt really give him a chance. Over the years he would get into relationships and would come back when they were over. I finally decided I wanted more and he said he didnt. Hes back in my life again. Why does he keep coming back....its annoying at this point
I just matched with a guy on an online dating site, and were talking almost everyday for a month (him almost always texting me first). We hadn't met in person because of Covid going around. And even though he was really wanting to meet in person he was very understanding and respectful to wait. He was interested on going on dates and hanging out. Then he kept steering the conversation into sexual topics, like what do I think about this, or do I like this. I didn't want to shut it down completely because I'm not opposed to it but it was way too early for me and we barely knew much about each other. At first he understood but kept steering conversations to sexual things and let him know again; not shutting it down but it was too early for me. He said he was looking for a relationship but with the above happening and him not being fully honest about why he wanted certain pictures hurt me and makes me think he doesn't want a relationship. Then he said because we aren't meeting up soon (because of Covid spiking) that we should probably stop talking. And that kind of took me by surprise....... Any ideas? I could use any kind of help! Haha :)
Ugh! I hated going through that. If they keep bringing it up after you mention it then they just only care about physical relationships and do not want a commitment . Honestly, guys like this don't respect you at all and are probably very self centered so you won't want a guy like that anyway. If he wanted a relationship with you then he would wait. Possibly found another chick that would meet with him sooner. :( Sorry this happened to you. I always hold on to guys like this for too long...not worth our time. Being physically there with someone may be a guys "love language" but this guy just sounds like he just wants physical.
Great video, Ryan! This is why I don't jump into bed with someone right away. I have to be able to trust him first. Have you done any videos on dating during quarantine? I don't see any single men when I go out AT ALL.
this topic is exactly my bf did
Stumbled across you LOVE LOVE LOVE your advice . Don’t have the money to join Wisio ! I’ll watch your videos
Unfortunately, the friends first thing really back-fired on me. He was my best friend in college, but a total commitment-phobe. I was too stupid to realize he wouldn't change.