This actually hits home. I tried telling my father in '21 that I was transitioning from a male to a female. He basically told me you do you. Which basically was a very difficult pill to swallow. My mother on the other hand has been difficult to accept the change. Both of my parents including my step mother have been giving me mixed signals on how to accept this. My mom knows I'm happier with my life and happier with my partner who is a female just like myself. I wish that it was a lot easier for me to be able to have the talk with all of them as to why I came out as a female. Unfortunately trying to educate my parents about this decision isn't going to be possible. But thankfully my partner will help me to explain to my dad and step mom in October about why I did this.
@@Ally_Rayne6I am sorry, I don't agree with the fact, telling parents how to react or raise their children and it's not your place to do so, this is why this country is going down, this is my opinion. This subject, has caused such irreparable harm, with children being taught this subject.
@@mangopilar You don't have to be sorry. But like I get what you mean about the kids. Like I don't really mention I'm trans at all. I normally just say I'm a female. Also like for me, I didn't know what being trans meant until 2012... I knew I was feminine in '09.... I had to unfortunately wait until '20 to come out.
@@mangopilar no people having closed minds kinda like your statement here is what’s wrong with the country lol. At no point did they say they were trying to change how they felt, you added that. Why because it fit your agenda, they simply stated that they were trying to educate them on the subject matter to better make a choice. So maybe step outside of the box and open your mind a little bit and you might actually learn how to accept people.
Mad respect on this stance. I used to be a very homophobic person. Then I was introduced to a lesbian who became a very good friend of mine. In my friendship with her I saw how real and human her love for her partner was just as real and deep as my love for my wife. Gay people are just people too simple as that. They deserve the right to love and live the way anyone else does. Peace.
Sad. They lost out on having a relationship with an Uncle that could have shown them another perspective of things in life. My cousin was gay we all knew it as kids it was pretty evident But his mom tried to get his brother and i to bring him to strip joints to change him. We never did cause we knew that wasn’t gonna do anything. She eventually accepted it and his dad a little later did as well. I hope your family comes to their senses. It’s 2024 geez. Sorry David. They lost out for sure 👍 hope they reach out one day. Peace!
Condolences first off cuz losing family for any reason is hard. Hope you learned quickly that friends can be the family you get to choose and anyone who stands with you in dark times is family !
It's a big deal to your kid if you can be accepting and supportive. The alternative is disappointingly common. A 1-minute google search yields the following: 46 percent of homeless LGBT youths ran away because of family rejection of their sexual orientation or gender identity; 43 percent were forced out by parents, and 32 percent faced physical, emotional or sexual abuse at home.
As someone that is gay but ran away from home when I was 16, now I'm 35, I promised myself if I ever adopted I would not only accept my child with whoever they love but to support them, religion I feel cripples parent's ability to show support and love, also human's acceptance for others to be their true authentic selves as well, thank you Daym this was a great topic.
How come children who are gay feel they must tell their parents? Why can’t they just wait until they are an adult and then make whatever choices they want? Genuine question because I don’t understand.
@@Andrew54123 When you were a child, did your parents know that you were straight? Did you have a girlfriend before the age of 18? Did you have any sexy posters on the wall in your bedroom? Nude mags under your bed? When you're straight you don't have to hide. People assume you are straight most of the time. (this is called hetero-normativity) but if you're actually gay that means every time you don't correct people who assume you're straight, you're effectively lying to them. Lying to your family and closest friends. It's not at all easy to keep a secret like that, and why should you have to? Why can't people just not be bigots? Geniune question because I don't understand.
@Andrew54123 Ty for the question. I think for me it came down to me being my true self, there is ofcourse the skulking about in the shadows that sucks, feeling you need to hide in the the dark, at first it's not so bad, I could sort of keep it from my family, but I also went to.a school with my cousins so I'm hiding at school as well, so over time it becomes a heavy load, in contrast I would see straight couples who werw praised, to date was a joyous occasion and sure I knew at the time society in totality would not accept me, but the fact I had to hide at home, it becomes to much to bear, especially when we are told by our family continually that we can trust them, for us to come to them, so then we trust their words, we trust they are the light out of the darkness
Unfortunately, my son passed away when he was 6. However, prior to that, he always gravitated towards the things that would normally be associated with girls. He played with dolls. He loved My Little Pony shows. He'd wear princess dresses. He would wrap a blanket around his head and pretend it was his "long, beautiful hair". He would wear Disney princess slippers. When he was 4 or 5, he asked me if it was okay for a boy to marry another boy. I watched as he struggled with his identity when he was 5. I believe he began to notice that other boys didn't like to play with the same stuff he did. It wasn't until he found Harry Potter that I felt like he really started to break out of a funk that had lasted a number of months. Which is why I'll always be a Harry Potter fan despite JK Rowling's problematic (and vocal) beliefs. For me, the literature transcends her. My answer to my son, had he told me that he was gay, would have been "I'm not surprised". And nothing would have changed between the two of us. Your children need your support because, sometimes, it'll be the only support system they have.
@@shadylivesofyoutube7885 No. We have horses. I sent my kids out to play while I was finishing folding the laundry. Despite all of my kids being told to stay out of the paddock, he still went in and got kicked.
I had this conversation with my now 18 year old daughter when she was 16 she kept asking me if certain girls were pretty and she would tell me that girls were cute. Then I asked her if she was gay? And she said no she wasn’t. And I told her that if she was I would support it.
"Daddy I am gay. How do I respond to that?" Tell him that you don't care and will love them no matter what. Period. Much love to you for not treating them like my parents did me. Respect.
@@Dot_Executables I would tell him to take a good look in mirror and ask himself "Am I truly gay?" then if 100% agreed his is gay.... Then as a good father.. I'll give him the belt so hard until the devil leaves his body..... A good parent leads their children on gods path... Not a path filled with brainwashed thoughts and people
I found out my son was gay in 2017 when his mom passed away 😢. I told him I love him regardless of his sexuality and that all me and his mother want for him is to be successful in life. Now 7 years later my son is 22 years old and he left NC A&T State to join the Air Force and he’s doing great. And all I can say is thank you Jesus gay or straight I love the young man my son has become.
When I told my father I was gay, he supported me! He said, "As long as you are happy. I'm here for you." This was 35 years ago. My cousin, who was in the same room, stopped cutting up vegetables. She was shocked and not really talked to me for awhile. Her mother, my aunt, always asked me "When I'm going to fine a man and get married?" That stopped when I married my wife 10 years ago!
Been there done that. One of my kids recently came out as bi to my wife and I. I gave him a big hug and told him that this knowledge changes nothing in terms of my view and treatment of him. I was deeply honored that he trusted me enough to be that open with me. It’s all about that love and support as a parent. Respect for bringing this up.
Oh boy! Lol. There's a topic! Religion divides many families on this very topic sadly. My 15 yo daughter has started talking bout this topic. I'll love her whatever her decision. Shut her down. I'll never hear from her. Be a real father. Real Talk Daym! Thank you sir
@@johnwerner69I would never support the act itself but them as people. At a certain point thought you have to accept you most likely aren't going to spend eternity with eachother.
Religion is the problem right… Not that this “lifestyle” is spreading like wildfire in our schools though, and taught to our kids behind our back…. Would love my kid no matter what though… Daym the best!!!
A child brave enough to express this to their father is a sign that you’ve already shown them enough love to support them no matter what. “I love you no matter what, let’s get some lunch” - father of two here
If my son said that to me, he'd get something along the lines of "Thank you for sharing with me, I look forward to seeing you happy, that's all that matters to me!"
I be a terrible parent but my response would be like “ ok? It doesn’t matter you do you” Maybe kind of mean but its not anything to even have to confess about i feel like
Im sorry you are going through that, just know that u are not alone and it's ok to find or reach out to a community of friends who understand & listen to you and know god is with you always. As for your father bad karma will get him for his mistreatment of you and anyone else, don't worry about that live your life.
A parent's love is unconditional. If my son or daughter came to me with this I would respond with "that's great how did the two of you meet?" and run from there. They're still my kid and my love or feelings for them would not change.
Wonderful video. I am a father from the deep south. I have gone through the same thing. I agree with everything you've said. I even had a best friend in high school who came out later just like you did. He and his partner have been together for a year longer than my wife and I of 31 years. What scares me are the uneducated people that lash out, and I am always worried about my child. People have to figure out that love is love.. Again, it's a great video. Love you channel..
My love for my children isn't conditional. I will forever make them aware that I will love them regardless of who they love. I'm glad things seem to be changing for the positive but there are many kids who are cast aside for something so ridiculous. We have to raise our kids to be comfortable coming to us when they need us, regardless of the topic.
love is about being open and putting yourself out there, no matter whom you choose to fall in love with, gay or straight. doesn't matter, what matters is showing love, support, and acceptance towards others!
I’ve watched you since 2016 and have transitioned into a women. And having a parent or both of your parents being accepting to you and who you truly are is a huge blessing. I have many transgender friends that have their parents not accept who they truly are because they are closed minded people. And you saying this is such a breathe of fresh air and fathers and mothers like you are the real parents. Thank you for putting out this video, it means a lot to me as well as the entire LGTBQIA+ community
@@MrScoobymac wow daring aren’t we with these insults. Archeologists will dig up my bones and fine implants on my body and have different bone density so they will figure out I was trans. All they’re gonna find on your body is a sad lonely man.
@@MrScoobymac All the archeologists are gonna find are your body is a sad lonely man. What their gonna find on my body is a transgender women with her wife.
My brotha, this video is everything, you truly are an amazing father and teaching many how to always be introspective and grow emotionally❤️ love your videos brotha🙏
Great talk, our community bash the LGBTQ+ so much for non-sense and not being accepting of others choices. Great talk. I know some parents out there that need to watch this video
Thank you for this video Daym ❤ I'm a gay father of 2 children and let me tell you my journey was not easy, again thank you for this video because if you can open one person's eyes and they see that you can't tell people how to be, live or feel, much love to you Fam God bless ❤
@PhunkenHungry Why the laughing emojis, you are uneducated, I advise you educate yourself before pushing to mock or make fun, because while you patronize, and mock others will do the same to you
My daughter came out to me and you know I wasn’t as upset as I thought I was going to be. It’s ok to feel a different way about it but you have to love your kids and support them.
I love how you said “forever changing” because it’s true. If at a young age kids decide to identify a certain way and parents say “that’s not ok with me” what do you think they’re doing to their kids? They’re keeping them from growing and changing and becoming more of who they are and they’re teaching them at such a young age to not grow and change. Stay a certain way. But kids are literally made to spread their wings ❤
I had this conversation with my daughter when she was 16 yrs old. Love and support her with her decision to come out with her bisexuality. You love who you love as long as they treat and respect you.❤❤ This is a mother's perspective
When my best friend came out to me as bi, they actually said that they felt like they did something wrong because some of their family didn't accept them. I told them I didn't care, they were my family by choice and would always be so.
This would be my biggest fear as a father, not the title, but disciplining my child incorrectly to the point they are SCARED to come to me about stuff like I am with my dad!
The viewers comments below say it all! Glad you have the kahoonas to bring up this topic with your 1.7 million Subscribers. Keep up the great work Sir! I really enjoy your regular humor but glad to see your serious side too. Until next time Daym Drops.......
At the very beginning of this video, and irrespective of what your children say to you -- even if it hurts you -- you support them and continue to love them. Having children that are willing to even talk to you about it means that you have done something right up to that point... don't throw it off the rails when they decide to talk. They will be apprehensive about what they talk to you about forever from that point on. Be supportive...don't be hateful. Period.
I agree with you Brother! I'm 57 and my daughter Is 10 and just a few weeks ago my ex told me that my daughter recently came out to her as bi curious and she wanted my ex to let me know because she was sorta scared to tell me. It didn't change a thing between us, I love her like I always will and I support her too! I may not fully understand those feelings but they aren't my feelings to try and understand anyway. I let my daughter k now that I'm always there for her Unconditionally and will always love and support her no matter what!
My son came to me and asked if he could wear my dress. Thus the beginning of his cross dressing life style. He himself is bisexual. As I am. We know shop together in the ladies section. I love him so much, just want to protect him
I am not a dad, sadly my wife and I cannot have children. But regardless of what my children would be, coming out is an extremely brave decision and deserves to be respected. Love conquers all and the Parents love for a child should be absolute, for me having Gay, Bisexual and Trans friends I would welcome their sexuality the same as a straight child.
I'm a single dad of two, one of whom isn't my blood but she's mine. Any of them come out to me, the convo will literally take less than a minute because my reply will be, "Cool. Live your best life. Be a good human." I really couldn't care less. They're my kids. Nothing changes that. Nothing.
Much Respect.. This is the energy needed from fathers, My father felt the same when I presented with the same statement after failed hetero marriage.. He was my confidant and safe space in a world of Judgement.. hearing you say this brought tears.. Tell the girls they are blessed.. So many parents, are not only uneducated but worried about their peers, the church folk and "religion" , etc will say about them. Appreciate Ya..
I'm glad now that we're having these conversations more about sexuality because even as a millennial, these type of conversations were not that common even in the early 2000s when I was just in middle school. I wish people would be more acceptable of transgender and intersex individuals.
My 17 yr Old Daughter is Exactly what this Video is about. I love her with my EVERYTHING! I want her to be Happy more than I care if I can except If she is attracted to Girls. I do not Care. Like you said Big D Her happiness is all that matters and me being here to support that choice and help educate her on what she may or may not have to deal with in the world. I can say On a COMPLETETLY Hypocritical, My 12 Yr old son, I am not sure if I could be so open to that choice . I know its hypothetical and he seems to be in to girls and I dont know why its so much different in my eyes. I think it would be ok but it would hit me different for sure.
This was great and needed to be shared. I will share a couple of things. I'm in my 50s and remember walking to and from high school back in the 80s. I had a friend who was born male but would often dress more feminine. He asked if he could walk with me because he would be picked on by others because of his dress. I did not mind at all - I was a take not bs person back then too so that helped. I was not going to let them pick on him while I was around - period. I have also had this discussion with my daughter. Whatever she wanted to share, I'm was good with it. I may not like it but I respect that she would want to come to me with it and we can discuss it. I feel like that approach has definitely helped our relationship be what it is today as adults. Lastly I have a friend whose son came out a few years ago. He told my daughter first (I think before his parents definitely before his dad). He was afraid but as I told her and him, I will never treat him any different. His love life is his. It does not change who his character is and I knew his mother would feel the same. I wasn't sure about his dad as I didn't know him as well but knowing the mother I'm sure it would be fine. I try to live by what the bible says: Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.The second is this: Love your neighbor as yourself.There is no commandment greater than these.
Thanks for being you daym, and being accepting. This reminded me of a friend I think of often. He was not accepted, he was outcast, disowned. He left us at age 25 because he was never accepted, he was never comfortable in himself because he was told he was wrong, there was something wrong with him. As friends we accepted him, we loved him, but his family didn't. And now he is gone and it hits hard to think about.
My father was and still is a devout roman catholic. And believe me when i say he was as close to homophobic as anyone can get, to the point he wouldnt let me rent the movie MILK because it was about a gay congressman. So obviously when i came out at 30 he didnt exactly take it well, if it werent for my mother no doubt he would have told me to get out. For a while my father didnt talk to me or even look at me, it hurt but i understood because of how he was growing up. I will say though after a while he did come around and accept but from personal advice if you were raised around religion, time will be your friend. People cant spontaneously change after believing something completely different their whole life. My father as of now is my biggest supporter
I appreciate this video, As a man myself who has recently discovered that I have a preference for men I find myself in a turmoil cause I know my dad is an old school guy with old school values and doesn't support the gay life. I have the mindset that at the end of the day the only happiness that matters to me is mine but I still care because he's my dad, Maybe one day I'll say something to him but I carry heavy hesitation still. Daym I wasn't expecting you to have this talk but I'm glad you did. All I can say is when I finally do break that news to my old man I hope he's as understanding.
My son is gay. Me and my hubby said cool you have a boyfriend? He coming over for dinner? Would love to meet him? If no boyfriend awesome what do you want for dinner. It was not a big deal didn't care. I do care about if that person treats my son good.
As a parent you know your child, I knew my daughter was gay! I told my mom and she said “why you say that”, watch her! At the age of 16 she came out to me and I told her I knew I was just waiting on you to come out! I let my daughter know I don’t love her no different!! She’s mine and I’m gonna ride this with her💪🏾
don't bring religion to this because it's was dem who ruin it go to school what to you see po*** grapf books pride everywhere tampons in boys bathroom all this is demonic we never had this before Joe become president maybe muslim religion ruin it ?
@@LADETROITi stand whit jesus but I respect other but religion has nothing to whit this demonic has ruin religion the world we live right now is up side down ?
Thank you Daym, for all the wise words and wisdom you provide us. Truth be told I now have a baby girl, she is growing up so fast, though she's not a year yet I still live on edge as a father. Seeing the world and a lot of the hatred and disagreement I constantly fear for her future. With all the new laws looking to be put in place that effect the female kind, I fear. But knowing individuals in high respect making statements like this and speaking out of their own views to share what it is to be kind and accepting. It really can make a difference and gives me some comfort that there could be hope for my little girl in this world to be free to express herself how ever she comes up.
All we all want to be is seen as our true selves by others. For many in the lgbtqia+ community, they live unseen and that to me is heart wrenching that someone has to feel shamed into being unseen simply by the beliefs of others. This is why I celebrate anyone who decides to declare their truth and be seen. That is a level of courage to be admired.
"Daddy, right now I REALLY NEED to hear and feel that you LOVE me, cause I'm scared right now" That's what that statement really says. Love your Children 10000%
Hey 👋 Drops, can you more conversations like this? I mean, just in General about relationships & marriage would be amazing to hear from your view. I love this one you had. Great work my friend.
I have a niece that I love like a daughter, and she’s always talked to me about serious conversations like this and she admitted to me that she’s bi and I told her I love you and support with whoever you want to be with as long as they treat you right and that she was happy cause at the end of the day that’s all you want is for your kids to be happy or niece family member etc. doesn’t matter race, sex, etc. I’ll support my niece no matter what just like you support your kids no matter what, and I respect that
I clicked this video in support regardless if it was about you Daym yourself, your children, your friends, i've been supporting you for the longest, nothing is going to change that my guy
Hey Daym, I've been a fan of yours for years now. I appreciate that you are deciding to share your personal life with us. Your channel your choices after all. I just wanted to tell you that loving your children as they are is nothing short of amazing, given how many bigoted parents despise their children because of homosexuality, as they are blinded by their beliefs. I 100% support you and your family. Let the kid turn and face the changes of life and don't let some religious fool tell you otherwise. ❤
Not all conversations are “DIFFICULT” to have with our Child(ren) Give them a LOVING & SAFE SPACE to be able to come to you with any and everything.💯
This actually hits home. I tried telling my father in '21 that I was transitioning from a male to a female. He basically told me you do you. Which basically was a very difficult pill to swallow. My mother on the other hand has been difficult to accept the change. Both of my parents including my step mother have been giving me mixed signals on how to accept this. My mom knows I'm happier with my life and happier with my partner who is a female just like myself. I wish that it was a lot easier for me to be able to have the talk with all of them as to why I came out as a female. Unfortunately trying to educate my parents about this decision isn't going to be possible. But thankfully my partner will help me to explain to my dad and step mom in October about why I did this.
@@Ally_Rayne6I am sorry, I don't agree with the fact, telling parents how to react or raise their children and it's not your place to do so, this is why this country is going down, this is my opinion. This subject, has caused such irreparable harm, with children being taught this subject.
Looking damn good lately Daym, good video, Truth.
@@mangopilar You don't have to be sorry. But like I get what you mean about the kids. Like I don't really mention I'm trans at all. I normally just say I'm a female. Also like for me, I didn't know what being trans meant until 2012... I knew I was feminine in '09.... I had to unfortunately wait until '20 to come out.
@@mangopilar no people having closed minds kinda like your statement here is what’s wrong with the country lol. At no point did they say they were trying to change how they felt, you added that. Why because it fit your agenda, they simply stated that they were trying to educate them on the subject matter to better make a choice. So maybe step outside of the box and open your mind a little bit and you might actually learn how to accept people.
I had this with my daughter...Her Father and I will support her 100%
You can love somebody not support their sodomy.
it's not wrong to be gay, just different.
exactly there's nothing good that comes out of that life style. Although people have freedom of choice.
@@TheRogDawg05 it is wrong!!!.... God created male and female....
@@BlackMist123if it leads to happiness and being comfortable with themselves, wouldn't that be good?
Mad respect on this stance. I used to be a very homophobic person. Then I was introduced to a lesbian who became a very good friend of mine. In my friendship with her I saw how real and human her love for her partner was just as real and deep as my love for my wife. Gay people are just people too simple as that. They deserve the right to love and live the way anyone else does. Peace.
to all the lgbtq+ folks out there that had rough starts, thank you, this was healing.
You're a good man and a good dad.
👆🏽This.
What a great man.....love this channel. Its so real and endearing.
My whole family disowned me when they found out that I was gay I am now 52 never saw any of my nephew or nieces
Sad. They lost out on having a relationship with an Uncle that could have shown them another perspective of things in life. My cousin was gay we all knew it as kids it was pretty evident But his mom tried to get his brother and i to bring him to strip joints to change him. We never did cause we knew that wasn’t gonna do anything. She eventually accepted it and his dad a little later did as well. I hope your family comes to their senses. It’s 2024 geez. Sorry David. They lost out for sure 👍 hope they reach out one day. Peace!
Well sir I'll be your niece. I got a cool gay uncle
Thats good they wanted to keep the rest of the family straight
Condolences first off cuz losing family for any reason is hard. Hope you learned quickly that friends can be the family you get to choose and anyone who stands with you in dark times is family !
They're horrible people. Love is unconditional
You support them no matter what. Whether it's your son or daughter.
That’s all there is to it, really.
Nope, you teach them what the good Lord says. He didn’t make man to be with another man vice versa with women.
@@gbodyjosetouch grass
Love them but don't support the sodomy.
@@gbodyjose let us pray to whatever Lord you believe in that you'll never get to pass your poisonous beliefs to anyone
I would just say "ok cool". This isn't a big deal or even a deal at all. People are attracted to who they are attracted to.
Right!!!
It's a big deal to your kid if you can be accepting and supportive. The alternative is disappointingly common. A 1-minute google search yields the following: 46 percent of homeless LGBT youths ran away because of family rejection of their sexual orientation or gender identity; 43 percent were forced out by parents, and 32 percent faced physical, emotional or sexual abuse at home.
As someone that is gay but ran away from home when I was 16, now I'm 35, I promised myself if I ever adopted I would not only accept my child with whoever they love but to support them, religion I feel cripples parent's ability to show support and love, also human's acceptance for others to be their true authentic selves as well, thank you Daym this was a great topic.
How come children who are gay feel they must tell their parents? Why can’t they just wait until they are an adult and then make whatever choices they want? Genuine question because I don’t understand.
Sorry to hear about what you went through. I hope you're in a better place now and you've found love and acceptance in your new environment.
@@Andrew54123 When you were a child, did your parents know that you were straight? Did you have a girlfriend before the age of 18? Did you have any sexy posters on the wall in your bedroom? Nude mags under your bed?
When you're straight you don't have to hide. People assume you are straight most of the time. (this is called hetero-normativity) but if you're actually gay that means every time you don't correct people who assume you're straight, you're effectively lying to them. Lying to your family and closest friends.
It's not at all easy to keep a secret like that, and why should you have to? Why can't people just not be bigots? Geniune question because I don't understand.
Don't adopt
@Andrew54123 Ty for the question. I think for me it came down to me being my true self, there is ofcourse the skulking about in the shadows that sucks, feeling you need to hide in the the dark, at first it's not so bad, I could sort of keep it from my family, but I also went to.a school with my cousins so I'm hiding at school as well, so over time it becomes a heavy load, in contrast I would see straight couples who werw praised, to date was a joyous occasion and sure I knew at the time society in totality would not accept me, but the fact I had to hide at home, it becomes to much to bear, especially when we are told by our family continually that we can trust them, for us to come to them, so then we trust their words, we trust they are the light out of the darkness
THIS is a dad. THIS is a man. So much respect!!
Lovin these life talks, Daym. You're a good man and you're helping people by talking about this stuff.
Unfortunately, my son passed away when he was 6. However, prior to that, he always gravitated towards the things that would normally be associated with girls. He played with dolls. He loved My Little Pony shows. He'd wear princess dresses. He would wrap a blanket around his head and pretend it was his "long, beautiful hair". He would wear Disney princess slippers. When he was 4 or 5, he asked me if it was okay for a boy to marry another boy. I watched as he struggled with his identity when he was 5. I believe he began to notice that other boys didn't like to play with the same stuff he did. It wasn't until he found Harry Potter that I felt like he really started to break out of a funk that had lasted a number of months. Which is why I'll always be a Harry Potter fan despite JK Rowling's problematic (and vocal) beliefs. For me, the literature transcends her.
My answer to my son, had he told me that he was gay, would have been "I'm not surprised". And nothing would have changed between the two of us. Your children need your support because, sometimes, it'll be the only support system they have.
I'm so sorry for your loss. 😢praying for peace and comfort 🙏🏿 for you.
Sorry for the loss of such a young life. You can stop capping about everything else.
Sorry for your loss. Did your son's passing have anything to do with what he was going through regarding his identity?
@@shadylivesofyoutube7885 No. We have horses. I sent my kids out to play while I was finishing folding the laundry. Despite all of my kids being told to stay out of the paddock, he still went in and got kicked.
@@loualbino5536 🤡
Your daughters are so lucky to have a great dad like you Daym
I had this conversation with my now 18 year old daughter when she was 16 she kept asking me if certain girls were pretty and she would tell me that girls were cute. Then I asked her if she was gay? And she said no she wasn’t. And I told her that if she was I would support it.
You were already one of my favorite youtubers, this just reinforces that. Major respect
"Daddy I am gay. How do I respond to that?"
Tell him that you don't care and will love them no matter what. Period. Much love to you for not treating them like my parents did me. Respect.
@@Dot_Executables I would tell him to take a good look in mirror and ask himself "Am I truly gay?" then if 100% agreed his is gay.... Then as a good father.. I'll give him the belt so hard until the devil leaves his body..... A good parent leads their children on gods path... Not a path filled with brainwashed thoughts and people
not a dad at the moment. but i’m 100% agreeing with you daym.
“Daddy I’m a kid and I’m confused and need your guidance”
I love the food reviews but I also enjoy these more serious talks. Not a father myself but I appreciate what you have to say here, Daym.
I found out my son was gay in 2017 when his mom passed away 😢. I told him I love him regardless of his sexuality and that all me and his mother want for him is to be successful in life. Now 7 years later my son is 22 years old and he left NC A&T State to join the Air Force and he’s doing great. And all I can say is thank you Jesus gay or straight I love the young man my son has become.
Loving your children shouldn't even be a question! It should be a given! As parents, your love is what they need more than anything!!!
When I told my father I was gay, he supported me! He said, "As long as you are happy. I'm here for you." This was 35 years ago.
My cousin, who was in the same room, stopped cutting up vegetables. She was shocked and not really talked to me for awhile. Her mother, my aunt, always asked me "When I'm going to fine a man and get married?" That stopped when I married my wife 10 years ago!
Been there done that. One of my kids recently came out as bi to my wife and I. I gave him a big hug and told him that this knowledge changes nothing in terms of my view and treatment of him. I was deeply honored that he trusted me enough to be that open with me. It’s all about that love and support as a parent. Respect for bringing this up.
Would support my kid no matter what. Doesn't matter my child's sexual orientation.
Oh boy! Lol. There's a topic! Religion divides many families on this very topic sadly. My 15 yo daughter has started talking bout this topic. I'll love her whatever her decision. Shut her down. I'll never hear from her. Be a real father. Real Talk Daym! Thank you sir
I couldn’t even imagine not talking to my kid because they were gay
Religions are the last bastion of hatred.
@@johnwerner69I would never support the act itself but them as people. At a certain point thought you have to accept you most likely aren't going to spend eternity with eachother.
Religion is the problem right… Not that this “lifestyle” is spreading like wildfire in our schools though, and taught to our kids behind our back…. Would love my kid no matter what though… Daym the best!!!
A child brave enough to express this to their father is a sign that you’ve already shown them enough love to support them no matter what.
“I love you no matter what, let’s get some lunch”
- father of two here
If my son said that to me, he'd get something along the lines of "Thank you for sharing with me, I look forward to seeing you happy, that's all that matters to me!"
I be a terrible parent but my response would be like “ ok? It doesn’t matter you do you”
Maybe kind of mean but its not anything to even have to confess about i feel like
@@chandlerburse Google the word "heteronormativity". Learn something today
We already knew that
we? 🤨
It's all about unconditional love. Thank you for your transparency.
I'm disabled so my dad wants nothing to do with me
Im sorry you are going through that, just know that u are not alone and it's ok to find or reach out to a community of friends who understand & listen to you and know god is with you always. As for your father bad karma will get him for his mistreatment of you and anyone else, don't worry about that live your life.
@@bsinita_wokeone thank you
I know it’s a serious topic but without context the first 17 seconds seems like a fun daym drops intro 😂
A parent's love is unconditional. If my son or daughter came to me with this I would respond with "that's great how did the two of you meet?" and run from there. They're still my kid and my love or feelings for them would not change.
Wonderful video. I am a father from the deep south. I have gone through the same thing. I agree with everything you've said. I even had a best friend in high school who came out later just like you did. He and his partner have been together for a year longer than my wife and I of 31 years. What scares me are the uneducated people that lash out, and I am always worried about my child. People have to figure out that love is love.. Again, it's a great video. Love you channel..
My love for my children isn't conditional. I will forever make them aware that I will love them regardless of who they love. I'm glad things seem to be changing for the positive but there are many kids who are cast aside for something so ridiculous. We have to raise our kids to be comfortable coming to us when they need us, regardless of the topic.
My dad never accepted me or my partner, he died over a year and a half ago, never seeing me happy. I never got to say goodbye either
Im sorry
love is about being open and putting yourself out there, no matter whom you choose to fall in love with, gay or straight. doesn't matter, what matters is showing love, support, and acceptance towards others!
I’ve watched you since 2016 and have transitioned into a women. And having a parent or both of your parents being accepting to you and who you truly are is a huge blessing. I have many transgender friends that have their parents not accept who they truly are because they are closed minded people. And you saying this is such a breathe of fresh air and fathers and mothers like you are the real parents. Thank you for putting out this video, it means a lot to me as well as the entire LGTBQIA+ community
You got programmed.....when all there is left is a pile of bones you will always be a man🎉
@@MrScoobymac wow daring aren’t we with these insults. Archeologists will dig up my bones and fine implants on my body and have different bone density so they will figure out I was trans. All they’re gonna find on your body is a sad lonely man.
@@MrScoobymac All the archeologists are gonna find are your body is a sad lonely man. What their gonna find on my body is a transgender women with her wife.
As a man who lived closeted for years the best thing I've ever done is have the convo mom/dad I'm bi hard at first but amazing now.
I just want my daughter to be happy. Whoever she ends up falling in love with, so be it. As long as they treat my girl well, I'm good with anything.
My brotha, this video is everything, you truly are an amazing father and teaching many how to always be introspective and grow emotionally❤️ love your videos brotha🙏
I agree to support them no matter what if I agree with it or not. I believe You cant control who you are attracted to.
Great talk, our community bash the LGBTQ+ so much for non-sense and not being accepting of others choices. Great talk. I know some parents out there that need to watch this video
Thank you for this video Daym ❤ I'm a gay father of 2 children and let me tell you my journey was not easy, again thank you for this video because if you can open one person's eyes and they see that you can't tell people how to be, live or feel, much love to you Fam God bless ❤
As a pansexual woman who couldn’t come out to her dad thank you for being there for your daughters. It means so much more than you could ever know.
A Pan What 😂
@@PhunkenHungrygoogle is free
@PhunkenHungry Why the laughing emojis, you are uneducated, I advise you educate yourself before pushing to mock or make fun, because while you patronize, and mock others will do the same to you
@@MavethTheReaper😂😂😂 why so serious
That's not a thing
My daughter came out to me and you know I wasn’t as upset as I thought I was going to be. It’s ok to feel a different way about it but you have to love your kids and support them.
I love how you said “forever changing” because it’s true. If at a young age kids decide to identify a certain way and parents say “that’s not ok with me” what do you think they’re doing to their kids? They’re keeping them from growing and changing and becoming more of who they are and they’re teaching them at such a young age to not grow and change. Stay a certain way. But kids are literally made to spread their wings ❤
Possibly the greatest creator on YT, this man is in his true PRIME.
I had this conversation with my daughter when she was 16 yrs old. Love and support her with her decision to come out with her bisexuality. You love who you love as long as they treat and respect you.❤❤ This is a mother's perspective
When my best friend came out to me as bi, they actually said that they felt like they did something wrong because some of their family didn't accept them. I told them I didn't care, they were my family by choice and would always be so.
This would be my biggest fear as a father, not the title, but disciplining my child incorrectly to the point they are SCARED to come to me about stuff like I am with my dad!
The viewers comments below say it all! Glad you have the kahoonas to bring up this topic with your 1.7 million Subscribers. Keep up the great work Sir! I really enjoy your regular humor but glad to see your serious side too. Until next time Daym Drops.......
I heard those words, except it was Mom. I love my kiddos all the same.
It's a shame that so many people still have the polar opposite of this mindset. We would all be better off if more people shared your views.
At the very beginning of this video, and irrespective of what your children say to you -- even if it hurts you -- you support them and continue to love them. Having children that are willing to even talk to you about it means that you have done something right up to that point... don't throw it off the rails when they decide to talk. They will be apprehensive about what they talk to you about forever from that point on. Be supportive...don't be hateful. Period.
If either of my children say If they was gay or bi I'm going be like this as that person treat them right I'm cool with it
That's easy. " if you are happy, I'm happy."
I agree with you Brother! I'm 57 and my daughter Is 10 and just a few weeks ago my ex told me that my daughter recently came out to her as bi curious and she wanted my ex to let me know because she was sorta scared to tell me. It didn't change a thing between us, I love her like I always will and I support her too! I may not fully understand those feelings but they aren't my feelings to try and understand anyway. I let my daughter k now that I'm always there for her Unconditionally and will always love and support her no matter what!
My son came to me and asked if he could wear my dress. Thus the beginning of his cross dressing life style. He himself is bisexual. As I am. We know shop together in the ladies section. I love him so much, just want to protect him
I am not a dad, sadly my wife and I cannot have children. But regardless of what my children would be, coming out is an extremely brave decision and deserves to be respected. Love conquers all and the Parents love for a child should be absolute, for me having Gay, Bisexual and Trans friends I would welcome their sexuality the same as a straight child.
Thank you for your open honest conversation. Many people needed to hear this. I agreed with you.
I'm a single dad of two, one of whom isn't my blood but she's mine. Any of them come out to me, the convo will literally take less than a minute because my reply will be, "Cool. Live your best life. Be a good human." I really couldn't care less. They're my kids. Nothing changes that. Nothing.
Much Respect.. This is the energy needed from fathers, My father felt the same when I presented with the same statement after failed hetero marriage.. He was my confidant and safe space in a world of Judgement.. hearing you say this brought tears.. Tell the girls they are blessed.. So many parents, are not only uneducated but worried about their peers, the church folk and "religion" , etc will say about them. Appreciate Ya..
I'm glad now that we're having these conversations more about sexuality because even as a millennial, these type of conversations were not that common even in the early 2000s when I was just in middle school. I wish people would be more acceptable of transgender and intersex individuals.
Mmm I felt that . “It’s not for you to like it’s for them to love”
My 17 yr Old Daughter is Exactly what this Video is about. I love her with my EVERYTHING! I want her to be Happy more than I care if I can except If she is attracted to Girls. I do not Care. Like you said Big D Her happiness is all that matters and me being here to support that choice and help educate her on what she may or may not have to deal with in the world. I can say On a COMPLETETLY Hypocritical, My 12 Yr old son, I am not sure if I could be so open to that choice . I know its hypothetical and he seems to be in to girls and I dont know why its so much different in my eyes. I think it would be ok but it would hit me different for sure.
Great message, and I Hope you got their okay to share this personal information with the world (sorry if I missed it in the video),
This was great and needed to be shared. I will share a couple of things. I'm in my 50s and remember walking to and from high school back in the 80s. I had a friend who was born male but would often dress more feminine. He asked if he could walk with me because he would be picked on by others because of his dress. I did not mind at all - I was a take not bs person back then too so that helped. I was not going to let them pick on him while I was around - period. I have also had this discussion with my daughter. Whatever she wanted to share, I'm was good with it. I may not like it but I respect that she would want to come to me with it and we can discuss it. I feel like that approach has definitely helped our relationship be what it is today as adults. Lastly I have a friend whose son came out a few years ago. He told my daughter first (I think before his parents definitely before his dad). He was afraid but as I told her and him, I will never treat him any different. His love life is his. It does not change who his character is and I knew his mother would feel the same. I wasn't sure about his dad as I didn't know him as well but knowing the mother I'm sure it would be fine. I try to live by what the bible says: Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.The second is this: Love your neighbor as yourself.There is no commandment greater than these.
Thanks for being you daym, and being accepting. This reminded me of a friend I think of often. He was not accepted, he was outcast, disowned. He left us at age 25 because he was never accepted, he was never comfortable in himself because he was told he was wrong, there was something wrong with him. As friends we accepted him, we loved him, but his family didn't. And now he is gone and it hits hard to think about.
My father was and still is a devout roman catholic. And believe me when i say he was as close to homophobic as anyone can get, to the point he wouldnt let me rent the movie MILK because it was about a gay congressman. So obviously when i came out at 30 he didnt exactly take it well, if it werent for my mother no doubt he would have told me to get out. For a while my father didnt talk to me or even look at me, it hurt but i understood because of how he was growing up. I will say though after a while he did come around and accept but from personal advice if you were raised around religion, time will be your friend. People cant spontaneously change after believing something completely different their whole life. My father as of now is my biggest supporter
Daym Drops is one of the realest people on UA-cam . FOR YEARS
I appreciate this video, As a man myself who has recently discovered that I have a preference for men I find myself in a turmoil cause I know my dad is an old school guy with old school values and doesn't support the gay life. I have the mindset that at the end of the day the only happiness that matters to me is mine but I still care because he's my dad, Maybe one day I'll say something to him but I carry heavy hesitation still. Daym I wasn't expecting you to have this talk but I'm glad you did. All I can say is when I finally do break that news to my old man I hope he's as understanding.
These titles are getting more wild Daym😂
Yes, I appreciate these open mic conversations the most. Dont get me wrong, the food reviews are good too😉. Keep it transparent✊🏾.
My son is gay. Me and my hubby said cool you have a boyfriend? He coming over for dinner? Would love to meet him? If no boyfriend awesome what do you want for dinner. It was not a big deal didn't care. I do care about if that person treats my son good.
The devil is a liar
god i hope you had said “hi gay i’m dad”
As a parent you know your child, I knew my daughter was gay! I told my mom and she said “why you say that”, watch her! At the age of 16 she came out to me and I told her I knew I was just waiting on you to come out! I let my daughter know I don’t love her no different!! She’s mine and I’m gonna ride this with her💪🏾
Its religion that messes up our ability to love.
don't bring religion to this because it's was dem who ruin it go to school what to you see po*** grapf books pride everywhere tampons in boys bathroom all this is demonic we never had this before Joe become president maybe muslim religion ruin it ?
The question is, do you stand with God or are you on the worlds side
@@LADETROITi stand whit jesus but I respect other but religion has nothing to whit this demonic has ruin religion the world we live right now is up side down ?
@@LADETROITGod hates one thing: Religions.
@@jayce8001 exactly. God wants relationship not religion. Religion actually means to return to bondage
Thank you Daym, for all the wise words and wisdom you provide us.
Truth be told I now have a baby girl, she is growing up so fast, though she's not a year yet I still live on edge as a father. Seeing the world and a lot of the hatred and disagreement I constantly fear for her future. With all the new laws looking to be put in place that effect the female kind, I fear. But knowing individuals in high respect making statements like this and speaking out of their own views to share what it is to be kind and accepting. It really can make a difference and gives me some comfort that there could be hope for my little girl in this world to be free to express herself how ever she comes up.
All we all want to be is seen as our true selves by others. For many in the lgbtqia+ community, they live unseen and that to me is heart wrenching that someone has to feel shamed into being unseen simply by the beliefs of others. This is why I celebrate anyone who decides to declare their truth and be seen. That is a level of courage to be admired.
Oooowee yea this conversation will put u in a awkward moment but in any situation you have to love & support your children ✌🏾💯
I love this video because honestly i have seen so many parents not neglecting their kids just because their preferences
These are my favorite conversations.❤️
"Daddy, right now I REALLY NEED to hear and feel that you LOVE me, cause I'm scared right now" That's what that statement really says. Love your Children 10000%
Real love should be unconditional anyway💯
Facts
Preach Pastor Drops!! Love them where they’re at, period!❤
I love my daughter and son no matter what.
No matter what your children choosing life to be with you always support them no matter what the cost
Hey 👋 Drops, can you more conversations like this? I mean, just in General about relationships & marriage would be amazing to hear from your view. I love this one you had. Great work my friend.
Truly an ineffable moment. All you can do is love them and continue to be there for them in the crazy world.
Hey man, I’ve been a fan since the beginning! Much respect to you! You are a great dad!
@13:01 I AM YOUR FATHER missed opportunity for Star Wars voice. 😂
Daym brother you have given me more reason to love and support you
I have a niece that I love like a daughter, and she’s always talked to me about serious conversations like this and she admitted to me that she’s bi and I told her I love you and support with whoever you want to be with as long as they treat you right and that she was happy cause at the end of the day that’s all you want is for your kids to be happy or niece family member etc. doesn’t matter race, sex, etc. I’ll support my niece no matter what just like you support your kids no matter what, and I respect that
I clicked this video in support regardless if it was about you Daym yourself, your children, your friends, i've been supporting you for the longest, nothing is going to change that my guy
Support your children
Homophobic behavior is learned
And it can be unlearned
Bringing up them real conversations!!!
Daym Drops Wisdom!! I love that you are having these conversations!
My son came out to his mother & I when he was 15. Broke my heart but I won’t disown or turn my back on my child because of it.
Hey Daym, I've been a fan of yours for years now. I appreciate that you are deciding to share your personal life with us. Your channel your choices after all. I just wanted to tell you that loving your children as they are is nothing short of amazing, given how many bigoted parents despise their children because of homosexuality, as they are blinded by their beliefs. I 100% support you and your family. Let the kid turn and face the changes of life and don't let some religious fool tell you otherwise. ❤